Bonus #184 - Peyton Ruddy [PATREON PREVIEW]

Patreon preview. Unlock full episode at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld Peyton Ruddy joins the pod to discuss his Hawaiian shirt phase, writing beach bum songs as a young man in the Chicago suburbs, the night he drank 16 beers really fast, messing around during COVID, always being a bench player in high school football, and much more. Peyton and Stav help callers including a guy whose busted coworker keeps sending him unsolicited nudes, and a guy who's convinced his girlfriend is lying about her MSG allergy because he's been cooking with it the whole time they've been together. See Peyton Ruddy live and follow him on social media: https://punchup.live/peytonruddy https://www.instagram.com/peytonruddycomedy/ https://www.youtube.com/@peytonruddy https://www.tiktok.com/@peytonruddycomedy https://x.com/ruddypeyton https://www.facebook.com/peytonruddycomedy/ ☎️ Want to be a part of the show? Call 904-800-STAV and leave a voicemail to get advice! 🎟️ See Stavvy live on the Dreamboat Tour 🛥️💕!!! https://stavvy.biz/ for tickets ‼️ Bonus episodes every week! Unlock exclusive, Patreon-only episodes at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld

Speaker names marked ? are inferred from speaking time and the show’s known hosts — they are not voice-verified.

• 0:00Speaker 00

  Hey Stavi, eldest and beautiful guests. Um, I got a bit of a workplace predicament here. Went to a work shindig about a week ago. A girl sat next to me that works in a different location. I don't necessarily interact with her every day. We're shooting the shit, just kind of as friends. I'm cracking jokes, making her laugh. And um, yeah, I, I don't think anything of it. She's not particularly my type or really attractive at all. Uh, so anyway, that ends, I go home and I wake up too. Nothing, uh, but a couple nudes from her and a very drunk text message. That was sort of romantic. Uh, I just don't reply for better or for worse. I just thought, well, she's probably gonna be embarrassed enough.

• 0:45Speaker 00

  The next, I mean, this morning, I'm just gonna let sleeping dogs live. So about a day later, I get a message from her saying, hey, why didn't you reply? That really hurt my feelings. My self-confidence is already at an all-time low and you're kind of hurting it by not, you know, uh, acknowledging me and I, I said, look, you know, um. You're beautiful, nice and all that. I just want to keep our, uh, relationship, uh, you know, professional.

• 1:13Stavros Halkias?

  Look, I can't lose my job at the container store, you fucking bitch. This feeds my family. Keep going.

• 1:19Speaker 00

  You mean all that about me? And I said, yes. So what do I wake up to the next two mornings in a row? More nudes and other drunk messages that I can barely make out.

• 1:31Stavros Halkias?

  You gotta marry this chick.

• 1:32Speaker 00

  She obviously has a barely unhealthy relationship with alcohol.

• 1:38Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, no shit.

• 1:39Speaker 00

  And this is just kind of a weird predicament because.

• 1:41Stavros Halkias?

  Basement low self, like self-esteem.

• 1:45Speaker 00

  I want it to stop, but, uh, I, I can't block her. I, I need her number for work, for stuff in the workplace. Our phones are how we do everything. HR is kind of, I mean, this might be my old school machismo attitude, but I think it's weird for a guy to go to complain about a girl doing this HR.

• 2:05Stavros Halkias?

  It kinda is, but you're good, that's a good point. You actually are just purely getting sexually harassed. And we're like, you'd be a pussy if you reported that.

• 2:13Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 2:14Stavros Halkias?

  But imagine like a girl goes in, this guy won't stop sending me his cock. We'd be like, go to the police.

• 2:19Speaker 02

  Yeah, yeah, yeah, a hundred percent.

• 2:21Stavros Halkias?

  That's a good point. Maybe we're being misogynists by not saying, report this, this, you know, frumpy woman with low self-esteem.

• 2:28Speaker 02

  I gotta, I gotta see the nudes.

• 2:30Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, we do gotta need to see the nudes to really know.

• 2:32Speaker 02

  Guy might be a little, you know, vanilla. He might be, it might have been a cleavage shot.

• 2:37Stavros Halkias?

  Mm-hmm.

• 2:38Speaker 02

  And he might've been like, whoa.

• 2:39Stavros Halkias?

  Right, right, right, right.

• 2:41Speaker 02

  Or this could be, you know, spread eagle.

• 2:43Stavros Halkias?

  Right.

• 2:44Speaker 02

  Crazy nude.

• 2:45Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, that is true. I mean, how, what kind of nudes are these? But also he said, look, the answer here is that he just doesn't, she's not hot at all. He said attractive at all. Oh yeah, go ahead. Sorry, I'll just.

• 2:56Speaker 00

  A girl doing this HR, not to mention she works in the HR department. Um, yeah, I mean, there's clearly, I think some mental health stuff going on here. I, like I said, I want it to stop and maybe the call is just to ignore it and pretend it never happened. That might, who knows? That might even get me in trouble later if she goes off the deep end. I, I don't know. Um, what do you, what do you think? Stop and guess and everyone else? Um, think I should ignore it, HR, talk to her about it, or just hope it runs its cycle on its own? She's not, I mean, I know it's weird for a guy to be complaining about this, but she's not particularly attractive. She doesn't really look good with her clothes off.

• 3:38Speaker 00

  And also, again, it's just unprofessional. So anyway, thanks.

• 3:42Stavros Halkias?

  It's not about it being unprofessional. Shut the fuck up. This is what pisses me off. You don't care that it's unprofessional.

• 3:48Speaker 02

  No, no, he doesn't.

• 3:49Stavros Halkias?

  Stop again. Where are your attorneys? Of course, we're gonna, this is your defense, of course. Clearly our legal strategy is you're gonna hide behind the fact that it's unprofessional. Duh. But we all know what's pissing you off is that a busted bitch from the office wants to fuck you.

• 4:07Speaker 02

  It ain't the hot hoe you want.

• 4:08Stavros Halkias?

  Girl from the office shows you her tits, you're not, there's no problem here. So stop hiding behind fucking profi- You know, the, under the guise of professionalism, but I would, in terms of advice.

• 4:23Stavros Halkias?

  Look, she's out of her mind, clearly. The fact that somebody would like, she works in HR too, that's so fucking funny. Whatever bullshit company you're at right now.

• 4:34Stavros Halkias?

  My advice would be probably, well, look, to make sure you don't get in trouble, you document every one of these. Like you, you have a file where you fucking screenshot all these texts. And you, where you fucked up was you, you can't ignore when she sends you this stuff because you need to, because to not get in trouble, you need to be on the record of saying, hey, you know, although personally, in a vacuum, I am flattered that you are showing, you know, that you, that you are showing, you know, so these forms of effect, you know, while it's flattering to get this kind of attention, I, I really, I'm really, I'm trying to draw this boundary that you're not respecting. I want to keep our relationship professional.

• 5:18Stavros Halkias?

  If you're on the record as saying that, I think that's, then you, then if this comes out and she tries to flip it in any way, you can be like, I'll be honest, I didn't want to do, I didn't want to cause problems. And you could also throw in, well, she was in HR, I was scared she'd use her position of power against me, you know, like you have an out, as long as you on these text messages are documented as saying, please do not do this. Um, I do not want to have to, you know, escalate this. I hope we can just kind of solve this amongst ourselves. I value you as a colleague, but please stop sending me this type of message.

• 5:52Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 5:53Stavros Halkias?

  You have to say some shit like that.

• 5:54Speaker 02

  Cause right now, it just looks like you're just playing it cool.

• 5:57Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, you might just not, you might just be being rude to the ugly chick you're fucking right now.

• 6:02Speaker 02

  It also sounds like, I don't want to point any fingers. There's a chance he might've cranked his hog to one of these.

• 6:10Speaker 02

  And is really regretting it.

• 6:12Stavros Halkias?

  Ooh, once you've cranked hog, you're more, you have no upper hand anymore. Once you've cranked hog to a nude, you're, you're a guilty party to the, to the dance.

• 6:21Speaker 02

  I have a feeling he might've done that.

• 6:22Stavros Halkias?

  It's possible. He at least held his cock in his hand and, and gave it a whirl.

• 6:28Speaker 02

  He smushed it into the mattress while getting the thing and he was like.

• 6:32Stavros Halkias?

  No, probably not. It sounds like he's really not attracted to this woman.

• 6:35Speaker 02

  I gotta see what she looks like.

• 6:37Stavros Halkias?

  I know, I know. Do you have something, you were picking up the mic, you have anything here?

• 6:41Speaker 03

  Fuck, what was I gonna say? God damn it.

• 6:43Stavros Halkias?

  Doesn't matter, who gives a fuck?

• 6:44Speaker 02

  I think this is, I, maybe also consult with other people in your office, has she done this to anybody else?

• 6:51Stavros Halkias?

  Hmm.

• 6:51Speaker 02

  Because she seems like she drinks a lot, she's just sending unsolicited nudes. I guarantee you there's someone else in the office who's like, oh, the, yeah, I totally, I gotta.

• 7:00Stavros Halkias?

  No, because, no, because no one's ever been nice to her. This guy said he was basically showed, this story is like, he has shown basic humanity to a woman he does not find attractive.

• 7:10Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 7:11Stavros Halkias?

  Usually, this does not happen with the genders this way. It's usually the exact opposite, where like, and I remember it too, when I was a loser that no girl would talk to, if one girl was just like, hey, how was your weekend? I'd be like, she loves me, that's my wife. And I would think about this woman, this girl, when I was in high school or whatever, for eight weeks. Or so, you know what I mean? Like, I would just be, I would be like, and I would be like, okay, she's being weird. Like, if she didn't, you know what I mean? It's like, and I would, I was such a coward.

• 7:39Speaker 02

  Yeah, you're like, something happened?

• 7:41Stavros Halkias?

  Like, I'm sorry, did I do something wrong?

• 7:43Speaker 02

  What's the issue?

• 7:43Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, yeah, she was just being polite or whatever. So, usually, this is what happens. A, a hot girl just asks somebody a follow-up question, and they decide that's their, that they are in love with them.

• 7:55Speaker 02

  Right.

• 7:56Stavros Halkias?

  It, it is rare, but at the same time, fem cells exist too, right? It's not just, it's just male incels, there's female incels, there's fem cells. This woman probably doesn't get any attention. You were nice to her, maybe even gave her a generic compliment, and that's all it takes for her to fucking be, get ready to go? That's not your problem. You, I, I agree, if you cannot be a, I say in general, the rule is, if you cannot be a snitch, if you can avoid being a snitch, avoid being a snitch.

• 8:24Speaker 02

  Right.

• 8:25Stavros Halkias?

  Don't get the cops involved unless you have to. I don't know that you have to, because a girl with low self-esteem keeps sending your, her nudes, because. You're not threatened by them. They're just a nuisance. If you did feel like actually threatened or, you know, violated, okay, fine. You can, but you clearly don't. And we can interrogate why that is. Maybe it is like misogyny making you not scared. That's fine, but you're not. So as long as it's not personally, you know, you're not, you don't feel the need to escalate it. Don't escalate it. Try and handle it. Hope it goes away, but also make it so that out of context, if these messages were ever leaked, you completely look like you're not asking for them.

• 9:06Stavros Halkias?

  And that she has, she has crossed the boundary multiple times, only to protect yourself is what I would say.

• 9:12Speaker 02

  Yeah, I agree with that. It's pretty, pretty basic answer there.

• 9:16Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah.

• 9:17Speaker 02

  Like it's, yeah, it's right in front of you.

• 9:19Stavros Halkias?

  But sometimes, you know, these guys gotta think, he's also feeling himself. He like, on some level, you like it.

• 9:25Speaker 02

  There's a power thing.

• 9:26Stavros Halkias?

  There is, that feels good. It's like, oh, oh, I bet I'm gonna get some drunk nudes of some flapjack tits. And then they don't come. The first time they don't come, you will be a little sad. You'll be a little sad.

• 9:39Speaker 02

  This is a great point to make.

• 9:40Stavros Halkias?

  You'll be a little sad.

• 9:40Speaker 02

  Cause I would be devastated.

• 9:42Stavros Halkias?

  I, even if I don't wanna fuck the person, if they stop wanting to fuck me, that would hurt my feelings.

• 9:46Speaker 02

  It would hurt my feelings too.

• 9:47Stavros Halkias?

  That's just how it works. Even though it's completely irrational, that's how that works.

• 9:50Speaker 02

  For sure.