Hard Conversations with Your Kids: Drugs, Alcohol & Speaking Their Language

Tobie kicks things off by sharing her love-hate relationship with the NFL season, while Tony reveals what he enjoys most about football season. Then, they dive into the importance of having tough conversations with your kids about drugs, alcohol, and how to protect themselves and others when situations take a dangerous turn. Tobie opens up about how her family’s history of addiction has shaped her approach to parenting, while Tony shares insight into a powerful conversation he recently had with their daughter. To lighten things up, they close out the episode by putting each other’s Gen Z slang knowledge to the test and reminiscing about the phrases and slang they grew up using. See omnystudio.com/listener https://omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• 2:22Speaker 02

  Can you use three of these words in a sentence that I just gave you?

• 2:25Speaker 04

  Okay, which ones?

• 2:26Speaker 02

  Any of them. Riz, delulu, aura, cooked, glazing, mid, chopped, clocked it.

• 2:30Speaker 04

  In a sentence?

• 2:33Speaker 04

  I'm not good at this. I went to the store, met a girl with some lore.

• 2:40Speaker 02

  Honey, you don't have to rhyme.

• 2:42Speaker 04

  Oh, we don't have to rhyme?

• 2:43Speaker 02

  No, Shakespeare, you don't have to rhyme. Go ahead. I went to the store with a girl with some lore. No, start over. Start over for the lore.

• 2:52Speaker 04

  It's all rock. It's a good thing I was able to clock it. No, I'm trying to rhyme.

• 2:57Speaker 02

  You don't have to rhyme. Just use three words in a sentence.

• 3:04Speaker 02

  All right, everybody, welcome back to No Safe Words with October and Tony Gonzalez. The football season is upon us.

• 3:11Speaker 04

  Yes, it is. Exciting.

• 3:13Speaker 02

  I know. You having fun so far?

• 3:14Speaker 04

  Oh, yeah. Yeah, it's fun. Thursday Night Football on Prime.

• 3:17Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 3:17Speaker 04

  It's on.

• 3:18Speaker 02

  I actually, I'm, I'm, I'm, I get excited for the football season.

• 3:21Speaker 04

  Yeah, right.

• 3:22Speaker 02

  No, I do. I think it's like, kind of.

• 3:25Speaker 04

  So high I went there?

• 3:27Speaker 02

  Well, you're saying that because I get mad that on the weekends you spend the weekends on the couch and say you're at work.

• 3:32Speaker 04

  You don't care about football, though. It's not even.

• 3:35Speaker 02

  I don't care about football, but I care about, I care about what this means for our relationship. Like, I, I think it's good for us that, you know, you go to work.

• 3:42Speaker 04

  Oh, from that standpoint.

• 3:44Speaker 02

  Yeah, but like.

• 3:44Speaker 04

  Because I'm leaving. Oh, he's out the house. Let's go.

• 3:47Speaker 02

  One night away. Every lover needs a holiday, yes. But I also, it does get on my nerves that you do spend the weekends on the couch in front of the TV and order takeout and enjoy life and talk with your friends and, and then when I like.

• 4:01Speaker 04

  And, no, wait, wait, wait, and?

• 4:04Speaker 02

  Pay the bills.

• 4:04Speaker 04

  Working.

• 4:05Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 4:05Speaker 04

  Working. Thank you.

• 4:06Speaker 02

  I respect it. I just, it just does get on my nerves a little bit sometimes when you're like, I'm working right now and you're like in your sweats on the couch, like.

• 4:14Speaker 04

  Taking notes, watching TV.

• 4:15Speaker 02

  Up your elbows and like, you know, takeout food and, and, you know.

• 4:20Speaker 04

  Watching the games. That's what I do.

• 4:22Speaker 02

  Yes, and it's weird.

• 4:24Speaker 04

  Why is that weird?

• 4:25Speaker 02

  Because who else can say that they're like working when they're like enjoying everything about their life at that moment?

• 4:30Speaker 04

  I think anybody out there who says, I love my job. Anybody that says, I would do my job for free or whatever.

• 4:36Speaker 02

  That's true. You are lucky to have this job.

• 4:39Speaker 04

  Yeah, I feel very lucky, very fortunate.

• 4:40Speaker 02

  But it does get on my nerves when like you're down there and I have stuff to get done around the house or like I need you for something and you're like, I can't, I'm at work. And I'm like, you're at work? You're, you're sitting there watching football. Can't you just like boop, hit pause? Come, come up, help me with the thing? Nope. You have to watch it live.

• 4:55Speaker 04

  Live sports, that's the reason why live sports is king in this country. Go ahead, what's, is there a question here?

• 5:01Speaker 02

  That's your only response? That's your only response to that?

• 5:03Speaker 04

  Is, uh, yeah. What else do you want me to say? I gotta watch the games. That's what I got, I gotta talk about it.

• 5:08Speaker 02

  Yeah, but how much of it is actually work?

• 5:10Speaker 04

  All of it.

• 5:11Speaker 02

  All of it?

• 5:11Speaker 04

  All of it. I don't think I would be as glued to the television if I didn't have the job that I do. I don't, I don't think so. I would watch football.

• 5:19Speaker 02

  Are you being honest with yourself?

• 5:20Speaker 04

  Absolutely. I, I am into it, into it, because I have to be.

• 5:24Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 5:24Speaker 04

  I, and, and there's, there's guys out there probably listening right now going, well, I, I do that anyway, whatever. They, they love the NFL. They watch both, both windows of games. Then they watch Sunday Night Football, and then they gotta watch it again on Monday night. And they watch our show on Thursday Night Football.

• 5:37Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 5:38Speaker 04

  I don't think I would be that devoted if I didn't do what I do. I would definitely watch the NFL.

• 5:43Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 5:44Speaker 04

  I play fantasy football. I've, I've watched the Chiefs. I'd watch the Falcons for sure every week. Uh, and then the other games I'd watch, you know, I'd pick and choose.

• 5:52Speaker 02

  Well.

• 5:53Speaker 04

  It gets hard down there, honey, watching those games all day. You don't know what I'd go through.

• 5:57Speaker 02

  Poppycock. Get out of here. It's not hard. Come on.

• 6:02Speaker 04

  Poppycock's not hard.

• 6:03Speaker 02

  Very funny. Okay.

• 6:04Speaker 04

  Relax.

• 6:05Speaker 02

  Relax. No, but.

• 6:07Speaker 04

  It does, it does. It gets a little tedious at times down there.

• 6:09Speaker 02

  No, it doesn't.

• 6:10Speaker 04

  I don't want to sit in the basement all day, having a beer, watching the games. You think I like doing that all day?

• 6:16Speaker 02

  You're ridiculous. Stop it. Stop it. But it does, it is good for our relationship when that, when the football season starts because you go away to the games for like one night. And it's nice to like be able to like, you know.

• 6:29Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 6:30Speaker 02

  Do my own thing.

• 6:31Speaker 04

  Yeah, like, so I, I guess I'll be spinning this into every lover needs a holiday?

• 6:36Speaker 02

  Look, well, it's true. I think the, the football season I'm always grateful for and I'm kind of excited about, A, because I get to watch you on TV and.

• 6:42Speaker 04

  Sure.

• 6:43Speaker 02

  Get to see you thrive and do great. And then I also get, you know, one day a week I get a little.

• 6:47Speaker 04

  Two days.

• 6:48Speaker 02

  I get to sprawl out in bed like a wild animal, you know?

• 6:51Speaker 04

  Yeah, yeah, you get to, no, actually, I think that's opposite of, of anybody out there who has a spouse that travels for work or something like that.

• 6:59Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 6:59Speaker 04

  When they leave, you don't just realize, I think you go into full.

• 7:03Speaker 02

  I do.

• 7:04Speaker 04

  Responsible mold of like, okay, I gotta drop the kids off. I gotta get breakfast. I gotta do this. Like, it's only, because it's on you now. There's no splitting the responsibilities anymore.

• 7:12Speaker 02

  Yeah, but it's like in.

• 7:14Speaker 04

  And you enjoy that, I think, right? Or no?

• 7:16Speaker 02

  I, I mean.

• 7:17Speaker 04

  I mean.

• 7:18Speaker 02

  I think you wish I enjoyed it more than I do. It's like the cooking thing. Like, you wish I like loved cooking more than I actually do, but I do it because I have to.

• 7:25Speaker 04

  I think every husband out there would love if their wife loved cooking.

• 7:32Speaker 02

  Yeah, and I would also love if you loved cooking.

• 7:34Speaker 04

  Okay, touche.

• 7:35Speaker 02

  But that's, you know.

• 7:36Speaker 04

  Touche.

• 7:37Speaker 02

  We don't all get what we wish for. Yeah, so I don't know. I, I enjoy football season. I've been enjoying it so far.

• 7:43Speaker 04

  Yeah, it's been a good season so far, too.

• 7:45Speaker 02

  What's, what's been the best part so far?

• 7:47Speaker 04

  Do you care?

• 7:48Speaker 02

  Yeah, I want to know.

• 7:48Speaker 04

  I guess maybe the people out there care.

• 7:49Speaker 02

  Yeah, the people care. Look, do I care?

• 7:53Speaker 02

  Maybe, maybe not. Very, very little.

• 7:54Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 7:55Speaker 02

  But maybe our listeners care. What's been your favorite part since, you know? You're shocked that I'm asking you these questions because I would never ask these questions. But for our listeners' sake, like, what has been your favorite part so far this season?

• 8:05Speaker 04

  Favorite part? Uh, it's always, the NFL is such a good product.

• 8:11Speaker 04

  And obviously for me personally, being back on the road with the, the greatest people in the world.

• 8:17Speaker 02

  That's so cute.

• 8:18Speaker 04

  To work with. Uh, that's, that's fun. Just doing what we do, the live television, talking about football, something I did for a living. And then now I get to do this. Like, this is, it's with people you, you love being around with and love talking to and hanging out with on camera and off camera. It's a, it's, it's a great, it's, yeah, it's great to be back. But as far as what's happened on the field this year, uh, there's, I mean, it's, like I said, NFL is just a great product. It's always just, just good to watch offenses, defenses, the mind games, the strategies. This is why NFL is king. It's the number one sport in America by far. It's not even, it's not even close. The ratings and the, the participation from fans with fantasy football and everything.

• 8:58Speaker 02

  The betting?

• 8:58Speaker 04

  It's a betting, like everything, all that. It's, it's such a, it's such a big deal. It's, it's a lot of fun.

• 9:03Speaker 02

  It's a lot of fun.

• 9:03Speaker 04

  Mm-hmm.

• 9:04Speaker 02

  America's pastime.

• 9:05Speaker 04

  America's pastime.

• 9:06Speaker 02

  Crazy.

• 9:06Speaker 04

  Sunday. It's like a religious holiday.

• 9:09Speaker 02

  It really is. Bizarre. But I mean, I'm grateful for it. So I don't know if you've been watching the news and keeping up on all that since you've been very busy working and watching football.

• 9:20Speaker 04

  Sure.

• 9:20Speaker 02

  But I know I've talked to you a little bit about what's going on in the news and I've been like very, very, I don't know, triggered by it, I guess I could say.

• 9:27Speaker 04

  Okay.

• 9:28Speaker 02

  You know, you remember the actress Hayden Panettiere, who passed away of an overdose recently, maybe like a month, like a couple of months ago or so?

• 9:36Speaker 04

  I'm sorry to hear that, but I don't know who you're talking about.

• 9:38Speaker 02

  She was an actress. She was young. She was mom. She's sad. And then another, Cindy Crawford and Randy Gerber's son just passed away.

• 9:45Speaker 04

  I know that one story. I know that story.

• 9:46Speaker 02

  Of, I think, all the fentanyl-induced.

• 9:48Speaker 04

  Very sad. 27 years old, model boy.

• 9:51Speaker 02

  Yes, gorgeous.

• 9:52Speaker 04

  Tough.

• 9:53Speaker 02

  Struggle. Um, and then, um, these kids at Ole Miss.

• 9:58Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 9:58Speaker 02

  You know, from this kratom product that was, you know, had, was laced with something that wasn't right. Just so many deaths of young people from these overdoses lately. It feels like it's been like an exorbitant amount like all at once. And people die every day of these things, right? But like, it's been in the news so much right now that I feel like. Obviously, for obvious reasons, because I've lost a sister to an overdose, fentanyl overdose. It brings up a lot like of PTSD for me.

• 10:27Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 10:27Speaker 02

  And I feel like when I see these things happen or hear about these things happen.

• 10:33Speaker 02

  It takes me back to that moment of like finding out like what happened to her and all of that and and I just could not shake it. I could not shake it specifically for the

• 10:44Speaker 02

  you know the Randy Gerber and the new Crawford, their son, you know, Presley, it just it it hit me so hard for them because I just felt so deeply for them.

• 10:52Speaker 04

  Yeah, yeah, and coming from your situation, like you said, with your sister and also your mother too, dying of a heroin overdose. Like you come from a family of of addiction.

• 11:01Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 11:02Speaker 04

  And of course, nobody wants to do, wants to be addicted and and then to see it in in death, it's it's a sad thing, especially for you.

• 11:10Speaker 02

  It's an awful thing and it scares the shit out of me when I read about all these things happening and all of this out there because I don't. I mean, obviously, kids kids were dying of drugs and all that stuff when we were growing up, but this fentanyl thing is just and then the legal kratom that you can literally stop at a freaking gas station and get as an eighteen year old kid or you know, is is unbelievable to me. It's basically like become, it's an opioid, right? It's like legal heroin to a certain degree. It's unbelievable that this stuff is sold to us legally.

• 11:42Speaker 04

  I know, it's crazy. I I've tried that stuff too.

• 11:44Speaker 02

  The kratom stuff?

• 11:45Speaker 04

  Yeah, yeah, I didn't, I didn't know exactly what it is. I was like, oh, okay, it's like alcohol or whatever. I mean, you buy it, it's legal.

• 11:51Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 11:51Speaker 04

  And it's, I'm not even gonna name the names of it.

• 11:54Speaker 02

  No.

• 11:55Speaker 04

  But, yeah, I bought one of those little things at the at the gas station.

• 11:58Speaker 02

  But like one of these, one of these kids, you know, the Ole Miss kids go and buy something from a friend or get something from a friend and they're they're dead, three of them, just separately. It scares the shit out of me with our kids growing up and the ages that our kids are right now, going away to college or being away at school, it's just at any point in time, it's just if they were to try anything from anywhere.

• 12:17Speaker 04

  Yeah. Well, that's where I think it's smart, us as parents and anybody out there who has kids, it's it's communication. I think that's a theme of this show, is making sure that you sit down and you have those conversations. And you talk about the consequences. And you talk about, okay, who you're gonna hang out with, the people you're around, who might bring, wanna wanna wanna say, hey, let's do this, let's try this. Uh, you have to raise street smart kids. This is the this is the streets now, when they're out there at colleges. Like, they're away from you now and they're on their own, or shoot, even if you have kids in the house. I mean, this could be down in eighth grade now, sixth, seventh grade.

• 12:56Speaker 02

  Yep.

• 12:57Speaker 04

  You gotta be so careful, so you gotta educate your kids right away. Right away, you gotta have those open conversations, even if you think you don't even suspect it. Um, I know I've been having these conversations with our daughter uh lately, you know, that tragic situation that happened at Cornell.

• 13:15Speaker 02

  Oh, God.

• 13:16Speaker 04

  Um, and she's gonna be in college next year

• 13:21Speaker 04

  by herself, away from us, far away, probably. We don't know exactly which college she's gonna, but she's gonna be far away.

• 13:26Speaker 02

  Right.

• 13:26Speaker 04

  And so we had a a great conversation, an honest conversation about that situation.

• 13:34Speaker 02

  You did?

• 13:35Speaker 04

  Yeah, and

• 13:36Speaker 02

  This is the first I'm hearing of it.

• 13:37Speaker 04

  I know, I didn't even tell you, I didn't even tell you, but yeah, we were in the car driving home after, I think, her volleyball game or whatever it was, but yeah, and I went, I went, and basically, I'm asking questions, like, I wanna know what you think before I even input. I think that's a good way to approach it. Uh, and she would, and I'd be open, be honest about it. What do you think of that? What do you think of that situation?

• 13:56Speaker 02

  I know, it's just sad that we we have to have these conversations with our daughters because there's men out there like this.

• 14:01Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 14:01Speaker 02

  That's terrifying. And raising good sons and sons that would never even think of doing something like that, and then, and then even if they wouldn't, and then even if they wouldn't have the fucking balls to put an end to it, to to have some you know what I mean, to stand up for somebody when they're put, when they see something like that happening.

• 14:21Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 14:21Speaker 02

  That in and of itself, but for our daughter who's going away next year, that is terrifying.

• 14:28Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 14:29Speaker 02

  And and truly like, oh, God, it's it's, yeah, it's the conversation that you need to have with your your kids. I think having an open ended conversation. And no matter how many conversations, it doesn't matter whether you're rich, you're poor, you go to Cornell, you live down the street, street and go to community college, like you are not exempt from having an experience like this. You don't, everybody from every walk of life can get a bad pill and and overdose on fentanyl, can can get into a horrible situation where they're taken advantage of or or God forbid, you know, sexually taken advantage of, but it it is not, it does not discriminate any walk of life.

• 15:07Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 15:07Speaker 02

  Anybody can have these experiences and it's just up to us as parents to do our very best to have these open, very uncomfortable sometimes conversations with our kids. And to let them know that no matter what, you can always call us, you can always ask us, you know, like in the heat of the moment, like, what should I do? You know, it should never, you should never feel like you can't call us or like there's some sort of judgment or or stigma to call your parents for help.

• 15:33Speaker 04

  I know, I wish, that's something I wish more kids would do. But we were also kids too, in second situations, you're like, okay, am I really thinking I'm gonna call my my mom or my dad, but

• 15:45Speaker 02

  I know, but imagine if one of those kids would have called one parent or been like, hey, this is going on, what should I do?

• 15:50Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 15:51Speaker 02

  What, you just needed one out of all those kids there that night. Anyway, that situation is so

• 15:56Speaker 04

  Tough one.

• 15:56Speaker 02

  Diabolical and sick, but it just, it just has me thinking of the conversations we should have, you know?

• 16:03Speaker 04

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• 20:27Speaker 02

  Conversations. Do you think it's important that we share stories about ourselves with our kids or maybe scenarios that we've been in, or do you think that that's like maybe taking it too far?

• 20:37Speaker 04

  Oh, stuff that you've done in the in the past, like?

• 20:40Speaker 02

  Maybe choices you made that weren't right, great, like, do you, when do you share that with with your kids?

• 20:45Speaker 04

  Um, I think whenever you think they're mature enough to handle it.

• 20:49Speaker 02

  Mm hmm.

• 20:49Speaker 04

  So that's a judgment call on your part, just where you think your kid is at? Um.

• 20:55Speaker 02

  I mean, I am a scare tactic mom. I will send my kids. I am, I am a scare tactic mom.

• 21:01Speaker 04

  Yeah, you'll go hard.

• 21:02Speaker 02

  I will go so hard and send them every article of every kid that ever OD's or anybody ever dies from a drunk driver. Like, I am that person that sends them everything.

• 21:11Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 21:11Speaker 02

  Because my deepest fears, obviously, something happened to my kids, but I just want them to be aware.

• 21:16Speaker 04

  And you've seen it. And like, it goes back to, you've seen the shit up close and personal, so it's like, hey.

• 21:20Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 21:20Speaker 04

  Here you go.

• 21:21Speaker 02

  I just, yeah, and I, I just don't want them to ever think or trust anything anybody ever gives them. Ever leave their drink around, you know, and then go back to it. Ever, you just can't trust any situation or anyone, and it's unfortunate, but.

• 21:35Speaker 04

  Yeah, but I, but getting back to the question, I think, uh, you, I think you have to tell stories. Yeah. Stories is how you usually get the point home easier. When you're just speaking statistics to somebody. Uh, I don't care what age they are, like, after a while, you're like, alright, boring. Like, tell me a story. Tell me, like, driving home, especially with something personal that you've been through, that you've been through. May, be a little vulnerable with them. And like, hey, this is why I'm scared. Like, I think for you, and, and you've done it before. It's like, hey, I, I have come home and I have seen my mother with a needle in her arm. You know, I have, my sister bought the wrong pill and OD'd. So, and died. So, this is, this is, uh, I think the conversation you, I think you have to tell that story.

• 22:18Speaker 04

  Or, I was at a situation one time when I was in college, we were out there drinking and this happened, and this guy tried to do this, yada, yada, yada, or whatever it is. And I said, no, like, you need to be able to be strong, and you have a voice and you have power.

• 22:29Speaker 02

  That's right.

• 22:30Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 22:30Speaker 02

  Yeah, I, I, so I do think it's important we share the stories as they come up, or as the kids mature, to share our own personal stories, to an extent. You know, maybe choices you wish you would have made, or, or things that you're glad you did, because, you know, something horrible would have happened. Like, I had a friend, growing up, that basically got alcohol poisoning at a party. And was passed out in the room, and, you know, I, there were some guys going back there and stuff like that, and I was just like, she, I can't leave her alone. Like, I, I knew that instinctively, thank God, because I'm, you know, I grew up very quickly, as, because I was raised by a bunch of drug addicts and had to really be able to, you know, understand what a safe situation was, what an unsafe situation was, and sort of clock everything.

• 23:12Speaker 02

  So, when I saw that, I just went in and late we, I laid with her, made sure she was on her side. I didn't leave her side all night. Like, I, I just made sure she was good. And, you know, not a lot of people have my background, or where with all, it's, kids are young. I happen to be very old for my, for my age, and thank God. Because who knows what would have happened to her? If she was just laying, she was a beautiful girl, laying in the room all night, passed out, because she was so sick from being drunk and drinking too much. Who knows what would have happened? I just think of scenarios like that.

• 23:38Speaker 04

  Good stories to tell, too. It's a great story, I think, to tell, your, your daughter and your son.

• 23:42Speaker 02

  And then, obviously, they know that I've lost my mom, my sister, all of that, so I, I hope that those things will keep them from making poor choices. But again, who knows? And it's terrifying out there. Terrifying.

• 23:55Speaker 04

  Well, it's, okay, well, I'm gonna ask you a question off of that, though. What do you think, uh, giving them kits to test drugs? Is that saying, like, giving permission?

• 24:05Speaker 02

  Great question.

• 24:06Speaker 04

  Or is that?

• 24:08Speaker 02

  I think it's the same as giving condoms to kids. You're not telling them to go have sex with a million people. You're just saying that if you make the choice to do that, here is protection for you. Like, if you're, if you go and make a choice, which a lot of kids do, to try something, you know, with a friend somewhere at some point, you have the ability to find out whether or not this is going to kill you.

• 24:30Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 24:31Speaker 02

  Why not? Why not have that?

• 24:34Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 24:34Speaker 02

  You know, like, if these kids go to a concert, or they're going to a music festival, and they think that they're like, they're feeling curious, they might want to do something, I'm like, take that. I prefer you not do anything. I prefer you not do drugs, obviously, but I'm not an idiot. And if that even crosses your mind, take this with you.

• 24:51Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 24:52Speaker 02

  Don't die. And if you see a friend who's going to try, take it with you anyway, in case you have a friend that might want to do something like that, and be like, hey, stop.

• 24:58Speaker 04

  And Narcan, too. I think a lot of kids are taking the Narcan out with them.

• 25:01Speaker 02

  You should have Narcan on you.

• 25:02Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 25:03Speaker 02

  We have Narcan at the house.

• 25:04Speaker 04

  We've given our kids the.

• 25:05Speaker 02

  I have Narcan at the house, because I'm like, if you guys go to a party, put this in your purse, because what if somebody needs it?

• 25:10Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 25:10Speaker 02

  What if some kid passes out and is seizuresing there? You could save his freaking life.

• 25:14Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 25:14Speaker 02

  Like, these are just things that I'm thinking our kids can do to help somebody else even, not necessarily themselves, so I don't think you can over equip your kids with these things.

• 25:24Speaker 04

  Yeah, and I think, eh, well, that's something there, too. They can help other kids.

• 25:27Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 25:27Speaker 04

  Even if it's not for themselves. Yeah, well, I think that's good for parents, like, let's all get on the same page.

• 25:32Speaker 02

  All get on the same page.

• 25:33Speaker 04

  Like, give it to your kids, too, just in case. You just never know. I think if we're all in this together.

• 25:36Speaker 02

  Right.

• 25:37Speaker 04

  We have that feeling, like, we're helping each other, too.

• 25:39Speaker 02

  What do you think about college campuses educating kids and giving them those options? Do you think that they should do that more?

• 25:46Speaker 04

  College campuses?

• 25:47Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 25:48Speaker 04

  It's, eh, nah, I don't, I, I, the, the actual college camp, like, the actual college administration, probably not. But I think other outside, I would, if I was at college, I would let other outside organizations come in there and, and set up shop on campus, and back, yeah, well. Because I, I think, that's slippery slope.

• 26:05Speaker 02

  Yeah, but don't you think they should offer those things at music festivals? They should offer them thing.

• 26:09Speaker 04

  I think they do sometime.

• 26:10Speaker 02

  Anywhere where you know kids are probably going to be.

• 26:13Speaker 04

  They do.

• 26:13Speaker 02

  High or something, you should offer safe.

• 26:16Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 26:17Speaker 02

  Drug kits or something.

• 26:18Speaker 04

  I think they do.

• 26:18Speaker 02

  Because that's terrifying.

• 26:19Speaker 04

  I think they do. They, uh, and, and, and I think every frat.

• 26:23Speaker 02

  Every frat.

• 26:24Speaker 04

  On standby, uh, right there, as far as Narcan and, and, and, and all that stuff, testing.

• 26:29Speaker 02

  Right.

• 26:30Speaker 04

  Um, the frat itself, police, like, police yourself.

• 26:33Speaker 02

  Yeah. I mean, these kids are like, you know, it's, it's Lord of the Flies, like they said, at these colleges. They, they're finally out on their own, they have no fricking frontal cortex.

• 26:42Speaker 04

  We've all been there.

• 26:43Speaker 02

  Just so immature, and it's.

• 26:44Speaker 04

  Immature.

• 26:46Speaker 02

  They can get drunk.

• 26:47Speaker 04

  Don't, don't know anything, especially the boys.

• 26:49Speaker 02

  Absolutely.

• 26:50Speaker 04

  You're not, you're not fully developed yet.

• 26:52Speaker 02

  But talking to our kids is hard, you know? Half the time, you feel like they're not listening at all. You're like.

• 26:56Speaker 04

  I know.

• 26:56Speaker 02

  Eh, if anything I'm saying getting through to your brain.

• 26:59Speaker 04

  But it is. It is. Uh, we have our twenty-five-year-old.

• 27:03Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 27:03Speaker 04

  And I was just having a good conversation with him the other day, and he was, because I was talking about our other son, who's sixteen. And he's like, trust me, daddy, he's, he's listening. I know, just like when I was younger, like, I know it didn't sound like I was listening, but, but I, I was hearing you.

• 27:17Speaker 02

  Right.

• 27:17Speaker 04

  You know, I don't, you know, he's just not, they're not gonna give you the satisfaction of, of letting you know that you're getting through. But, and maybe you're not getting through at that moment, but they're hearing it, and they'll pocket, pocket it away for when they get older.

• 27:31Speaker 02

  Well, speaking of talking to our kids, do you understand half of what comes out of our sixteen-year-old son's mouth?

• 27:37Speaker 04

  No, no, like the.

• 27:38Speaker 02

  No, the lingo?

• 27:39Speaker 04

  The lingo, the word, the riz, and the.

• 27:41Speaker 02

  The riz is like.

• 27:42Speaker 04

  And the chopped.

• 27:43Speaker 02

  That's so old. Well, chopped is funny, actually, like chopped. Chop, tell everybody what that means, honey.

• 27:47Speaker 04

  It means, uh, it means somebody's not good-looking, right?

• 27:52Speaker 02

  They're chopped.

• 27:52Speaker 04

  They're chopped.

• 27:53Speaker 02

  Okay.

• 27:54Speaker 04

  Or their style's not cool.

• 27:54Speaker 02

  What do you think about, um, me giving you a little quiz to see if you, if you understand any of the words that our son uses, specifically him?

• 28:01Speaker 04

  Yeah, yeah, let's do this.

• 28:02Speaker 02

  He likes to be on the cusp of, like, the new verbiage of slang that these teens are using. Um, I'm gonna quiz you and see if you know what these words mean.

• 28:11Speaker 04

  Mm-hmm.

• 28:11Speaker 02

  Okay, you ready?

• 28:12Speaker 04

  Yeah, let's do it.

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• 32:37Speaker 02

  Obviously, this is one everybody knows. What does riz mean?

• 32:40Speaker 04

  No, riz means like you're throwing game. That's back in the name, spitting game. That's what we said back in the nineties. Spitting game.

• 32:47Speaker 02

  Okay. It means charm, charisma, game. Yes.

• 32:50Speaker 04

  Charmed, charisma, no, spitting game.

• 32:52Speaker 02

  Okay, do you know what the word?

• 32:53Speaker 04

  Mouthpiece.

• 32:55Speaker 02

  Mouthpiece?

• 32:56Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 32:56Speaker 02

  Well, that's new to me. Okay. Uh, oh, delulu. Do you know what that word means?

• 33:01Speaker 04

  Crazy, right?

• 33:02Speaker 02

  Yeah, delusional.

• 33:02Speaker 04

  Delusional?

• 33:03Speaker 02

  Yeah, that's sort of self-explanatory. What does aura mean?

• 33:10Speaker 04

  Aura, like, like your energy, right? Your vibe?

• 33:14Speaker 02

  Yeah, that's good. Yeah, like, you know, I like her aura.

• 33:18Speaker 04

  I like her vibe.

• 33:19Speaker 02

  Yeah, like, yeah, it's very hippie, very cool. Okay, what does the word cooked mean?

• 33:23Speaker 04

  Uh, done.

• 33:25Speaker 02

  Done, cooked.

• 33:26Speaker 04

  Yeah, it's cooked. It's, uh, yeah, it's over.

• 33:28Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 33:29Speaker 04

  It's finished, like conversation, the conversation's cooked? Would you say that?

• 33:32Speaker 02

  No, honey, no, no.

• 33:34Speaker 04

  Conversation's cooked?

• 33:35Speaker 02

  Nope.

• 33:35Speaker 04

  Nope?

• 33:36Speaker 02

  That's incorrect.

• 33:36Speaker 04

  Um, how would you use it? Give me an example.

• 33:39Speaker 02

  A sentence?

• 33:39Speaker 04

  Use it in a sentence.

• 33:40Speaker 02

  Oh, my gosh, he's in so much trouble. He's cooked.

• 33:43Speaker 04

  Oh.

• 33:45Speaker 04

  He's cooked, okay. In trouble, that's...

• 33:47Speaker 02

  Like you're...

• 33:47Speaker 04

  Not finished.

• 33:48Speaker 02

  Yeah, you're kind of in trouble.

• 33:50Speaker 04

  You're in trouble. That's what it means. Cooked.

• 33:52Speaker 02

  But it really means you're in trouble to the teenage...

• 33:56Speaker 04

  Okay.

• 33:56Speaker 02

  People.

• 33:56Speaker 04

  We're in sports. That's like, oh, man, he got cooked on that one.

• 34:00Speaker 02

  Or it could mean something good, like, he's cooking. Like, oh, you're gonna cook. So it's either really bad or it's really good. It's very confusing.

• 34:07Speaker 04

  Oh, the context.

• 34:09Speaker 02

  Context is key.

• 34:10Speaker 04

  You're on context, okay. He's cooking right now? Yeah.

• 34:12Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 34:12Speaker 04

  Okay.

• 34:13Speaker 02

  He's cooking, or you're cooked, like, you're, you're in so much trouble.

• 34:17Speaker 04

  He's heating up. He's cooking.

• 34:22Speaker 04

  Right?

• 34:23Speaker 02

  Sure.

• 34:23Speaker 04

  For the game, like analogy?

• 34:24Speaker 02

  Sure. Okay, I don't know. I don't know about that. All right, glazing.

• 34:28Speaker 04

  Let me know what that means.

• 34:29Speaker 02

  Oh, because River uses it so much.

• 34:30Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 34:31Speaker 02

  Oh, you're glazing here, you're glazing. River always says we're glazing his sister.

• 34:35Speaker 04

  Yeah, glazing, uh, anything that's, that...

• 34:37Speaker 02

  You can't compliment anybody, otherwise you're glazing.

• 34:39Speaker 04

  Yeah, glazing them, yeah. It's just, it's, it's complimenting. It's telling somebody how good they are.

• 34:44Speaker 02

  Overly complimenting, supposedly.

• 34:45Speaker 04

  Yeah. Oh, it's a negative, it's a negative term, though. Quick glazing, right? Like, you don't want to glaze.

• 34:49Speaker 02

  Yeah, hyping someone up way too much.

• 34:51Speaker 04

  Glaze.

• 34:52Speaker 02

  Yeah, exactly.

• 34:52Speaker 04

  That's so cool. I like that, though. Quick glazing.

• 34:55Speaker 02

  You like that one?

• 34:56Speaker 04

  Glaze.

• 34:56Speaker 02

  All right, mid.

• 34:58Speaker 04

  Uh, average.

• 34:59Speaker 02

  Yeah, mediocre. Yeah, exactly. Chopped, we already discussed, means ugly. Clockt it. You know what clockt it means?

• 35:07Speaker 04

  Uh, finished?

• 35:09Speaker 02

  Nope.

• 35:09Speaker 04

  Nope.

• 35:11Speaker 02

  No.

• 35:11Speaker 04

  Finished.

• 35:12Speaker 02

  No. Try again.

• 35:14Speaker 04

  Like we got off the clock.

• 35:15Speaker 02

  Nope.

• 35:16Speaker 04

  Nope. Uh, clockt it. Oh, um... Yeah, that, that, by the way, that's an old word.

• 35:21Speaker 02

  Like clockt it. Nope.

• 35:24Speaker 04

  Clock means...

• 35:25Speaker 02

  Like clock it. Clockt it.

• 35:28Speaker 04

  No, clockt it means like you noticed something.

• 35:31Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 35:31Speaker 04

  Yeah, you noticed it.

• 35:32Speaker 02

  Come on now.

• 35:33Speaker 04

  That's old, though. We had that back in the nineties. That was Belle Biv de Beau.

• 35:38Speaker 02

  What?

• 35:39Speaker 04

  Yeah, Poison, the song Poison.

• 35:41Speaker 02

  Okay, when did they use clockt it in that song? I can't recall.

• 35:44Speaker 04

  I was out on the Ave, clocking the hose. I mean, I don't know, that might get cut from the show, but actually, keep it in the show.

• 35:50Speaker 02

  That was lyric?

• 35:51Speaker 04

  Yeah, I was clocking the hose.

• 35:53Speaker 02

  Okay.

• 35:54Speaker 04

  I never used that.

• 35:55Speaker 02

  No, no. Okay, well, good to know.

• 35:57Speaker 04

  That's what, that, you don't remember that?

• 35:58Speaker 02

  Good to know that was an old, that's an old term. Okay, do you know what the term lore means?

• 36:06Speaker 04

  Lore.

• 36:08Speaker 04

  Like, as in folklore, as in lore of, um...

• 36:13Speaker 02

  My god, you're ready to go to Jeopardy. Very good.

• 36:15Speaker 04

  I think that's pretty easy.

• 36:16Speaker 02

  Lore means someone's backstory, like, ooh, she has good lore. Like, I have some serious lore. We talked about the drug addiction, all the stuff in my life that I've been through. I've got, like, a lot of lore.

• 36:26Speaker 04

  Okay.

• 36:26Speaker 02

  Which people are apparently into.

• 36:28Speaker 04

  Lore?

• 36:29Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 36:30Speaker 04

  I'm trying to compare, because all this stuff is like, it's all recycled.

• 36:34Speaker 02

  Well, yeah.

• 36:34Speaker 04

  And I'm wondering, how did we say she had lore, or he had lore, back in the day?

• 36:41Speaker 04

  Or now? How would I say that now? The lore? They got a good backstory?

• 36:44Speaker 02

  It's the backstory. It's like, oh, she has some lore. Like Kelsey, who we've had on the podcast, her whole story, she's got lore. She has, like, a lot of backstory. It's a great, it's a great term. I love it so much. Can you, can you use three of these words in a sentence that I just gave you?

• 37:00Speaker 04

  Which ones?

• 37:01Speaker 02

  Can you use any of them? Riz, delulu, aura, cooked, glazing, mid, chopped, clockt it?

• 37:06Speaker 04

  In a sentence? Uh... I'm not good at this. I went to the store.

• 37:17Speaker 04

  Met...

• 37:20Speaker 04

  A girl with some lore.

• 37:21Speaker 02

  Honey, you don't have to rhyme.

• 37:24Speaker 04

  Oh, we don't have to rhyme?

• 37:24Speaker 02

  No, Shakespeare, you don't have to rhyme. Go ahead. I went to the store with a girl with some lore. No, start over, start over.

• 37:33Speaker 04

  It's all rock. It's a good thing I was able to clock it.

• 37:37Speaker 02

  Nope.

• 37:38Speaker 04

  I'm trying to rhyme.

• 37:39Speaker 02

  You don't have to rhyme. Just use three words in a sentence.

• 37:43Speaker 04

  Oh, um, uh...

• 37:47Speaker 04

  This, a friend of mine has mad lore. And every time he... Goes out... Girls approach him... Because he's got mad riz. And because of this...

• 38:10Speaker 04

  He, uh, what's the last word? What's one of them?

• 38:12Speaker 02

  Can be chopped, mid, glazing, cooked.

• 38:15Speaker 04

  Uh...

• 38:18Speaker 04

  But he did it to me, he, he, never mind. It's not making sense.

• 38:22Speaker 02

  It really wasn't.

• 38:23Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 38:24Speaker 02

  That was more like a paragraph.

• 38:25Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 38:27Speaker 02

  My friend's a little delulu because he has so much riz, but I told him he's cooked. He's got nothing. Hey, clock it, clock it.

• 38:34Speaker 04

  Oh! It doesn't stop!

• 38:37Speaker 02

  Honey, I could do this all day. Okay.

• 38:39Speaker 04

  All right, I'm sorry. I apologize. I wasn't very good at that.

• 38:41Speaker 02

  That was awful.

• 38:42Speaker 04

  I'm sorry.

• 38:42Speaker 02

  No offense, you have so many talents. That's just, that wasn't it. Okay, I'm gonna ask you a couple of questions.

• 38:48Speaker 04

  Okay.

• 38:48Speaker 02

  What is your lore? Do you think you have a lot of lore?

• 38:51Speaker 04

  I think everybody's got lore. Everybody's got lore.

• 38:53Speaker 02

  No, that's not true. I know some, I have met some boring ass people. And I actually find it very hard to be friends with people that don't have lore.

• 39:00Speaker 04

  I think you're not asking enough questions.

• 39:01Speaker 02

  Deep lore.

• 39:02Speaker 04

  I think everybody's got lore. I really do. Everybody listening out there, you have lore. You, because everybody's got a story. Life is hard. Life is hard for everybody.

• 39:11Speaker 02

  You're right.

• 39:12Speaker 04

  So it's just about storytelling. It's about how do they, how do they, how do they position their lore? Like, some people don't know how to tell their lore.

• 39:18Speaker 02

  That's true. That's maybe what it is.

• 39:20Speaker 04

  They have a boring way of telling it.

• 39:23Speaker 04

  You, you're good at that.

• 39:24Speaker 02

  Be a better storyteller.

• 39:25Speaker 04

  Be a better, that's, there it is. I think that's life. That's a key to, to life, is being able to tell a story.

• 39:31Speaker 02

  Okay.

• 39:31Speaker 04

  That's, it's everything.

• 39:33Speaker 02

  Gather around the fire, so I can tell you about my lore.

• 39:36Speaker 04

  Yeah, I tell you lore. You said you, you, yeah, because of people's, they don't know how to tell their story.

• 39:42Speaker 02

  Or maybe they don't feel comfortable. I think there's a lot of people out there that hide their lore.

• 39:47Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 39:47Speaker 02

  And don't feel comfortable sharing it, because maybe it's like just a little bit too vulnerable for them. Which, I think is such a, I don't know, everybody loses that way. I feel like when you share your lore, and when you share your backstory with somebody, it's like... I don't know, it's so cool. I feel like it's like battle wounds, and makes you seem so much more like... Layered and complicated and cool, like, so I encourage the lore sharing, guys. I really do.

• 40:11Speaker 04

  I think, and I think you should work on your story, like, how to tell it in a good way, like...

• 40:15Speaker 02

  We're down with the lore.

• 40:16Speaker 04

  Yeah, let's, uh, I want to hear it. I want to, yeah, make up some shit. Like, I don't know, put some salt and pepper on that thing, too, like, I know you do.

• 40:28Speaker 04

  It's fun.

• 40:28Speaker 02

  Honey, salt and pepper is one thing. A blatant lie is another.

• 40:33Speaker 04

  Yeah, we don't want that.

• 40:34Speaker 02

  We don't want lies. We just want, we just want you to add a little, you know.

• 40:37Speaker 04

  Yeah, exaggeration.

• 40:38Speaker 02

  Exaggeration.

• 40:39Speaker 04

  Yeah, it makes a better story.

• 40:40Speaker 02

  Who has better aura, you or me?

• 40:42Speaker 04

  Aura?

• 40:43Speaker 02

  Energy.

• 40:44Speaker 04

  Uh, you, definitely.

• 40:48Speaker 02

  Well, I thank you for that, but I think we both have, I think aura is different for everyone. You can't really compare aura.

• 40:53Speaker 04

  You can't? Why not?

• 40:54Speaker 02

  I don't know. It's like, aura is aura. It's like you're...

• 40:57Speaker 04

  There are people that you, that walk into a room and you're like, okay, they don't have good, they don't have good aura. Like, they have a negative...

• 41:03Speaker 02

  Aura.

• 41:04Speaker 04

  Good, come, something's not right with them. You can feel it. You can just feel it.

• 41:08Speaker 02

  That's so true.

• 41:09Speaker 04

  Don't you, don't you think so? Like, they're just angry, they're, they're sad, or they're whatever.

• 41:14Speaker 02

  Or do you ever, like, meet somebody with aura?

• 41:15Speaker 04

  Too much energy.

• 41:16Speaker 02

  Yes, with aura that's like so, uh, like, like crazy, like all over, chaotic?

• 41:22Speaker 04

  Yeah, chaotic aura.

• 41:23Speaker 02

  Chaotic aura.

• 41:24Speaker 04

  Like, they're just, the energy is...

• 41:26Speaker 02

  Of all the kind of people with different kinds of aura, what is your least favorite kind of aura?

• 41:31Speaker 04

  Uh, I think the, the...

• 41:35Speaker 04

  I'm okay with people being sad. Uh, I don't like people that that are pissed off. Angry, anger uh kinda kinda triggers me. Cause of my family upbringing, cause of my lore. Uh, certain things. I think that and then the one that is the most annoying that I like, like it more itish. I'm learning all these new terms. Uh, is uh, thank you, is um, is um, that that too much energy. Like the the pick me type interview or like trying too hard. Like trying to, I need to, I need to impress like you're you're doing too much. Like this.

• 42:12Speaker 02

  Doing too much.

• 42:12Speaker 04

  That's another, wait, we, that's another one.

• 42:14Speaker 02

  Oh, you're doing too much.

• 42:15Speaker 04

  Doing too much.

• 42:16Speaker 02

  The kids say that a lot.

• 42:17Speaker 04

  Is that, is that old though? That was like three years ago, but still.

• 42:21Speaker 02

  Yeah, I didn't like that one.

• 42:22Speaker 04

  I fucking, I fucking love that one.

• 42:24Speaker 02

  You do?

• 42:24Speaker 04

  Oh, you're doing too much. It's fine, I never use it, but.

• 42:28Speaker 02

  The bruh needs to go though. I'm so tired of being called bruh.

• 42:32Speaker 04

  Every mother out there, I'm sure.

• 42:39Speaker 04

  That's what our six year, I was like, if you say bruh to your mother one more time, dude.

• 42:43Speaker 02

  I know.

• 42:43Speaker 04

  Stop it.

• 42:44Speaker 02

  It's horrible. It's awful. Do you think that there's any slang from like the nineties or eighties that we should bring back?

• 42:52Speaker 04

  I I still try to speak a little bit from the, from the nineties.

• 42:55Speaker 02

  What do you still use?

• 42:57Speaker 04

  Uh, dog, like what's up, dog?

• 43:00Speaker 02

  You do use.

• 43:00Speaker 04

  Dog.

• 43:01Speaker 02

  Dog.

• 43:02Speaker 04

  Yeah, I like that term.

• 43:03Speaker 02

  Call people your dog.

• 43:04Speaker 04

  That's my dog right there.

• 43:07Speaker 02

  Unbelievable.

• 43:09Speaker 04

  Dog, um, uh, what, yeah, you have one from the early nineties, uh, did uh?

• 43:15Speaker 02

  I like psych, I wish you could bring that back.

• 43:16Speaker 04

  Yeah, that was a good one.

• 43:18Speaker 02

  Psych?

• 43:19Speaker 04

  Psych.

• 43:21Speaker 04

  Another one with like chopped was good, but busted was another one.

• 43:24Speaker 02

  Busted was good.

• 43:26Speaker 04

  Look busted.

• 43:28Speaker 02

  Toe up from the flow up.

• 43:34Speaker 02

  That was a good one.

• 43:35Speaker 04

  Yeah, uh.

• 43:36Speaker 02

  What else was good from the nineties?

• 43:38Speaker 04

  Fly.

• 43:39Speaker 02

  Fly?

• 43:40Speaker 04

  Yeah, yeah.

• 43:40Speaker 02

  Dope?

• 43:41Speaker 04

  Yeah, she's kinda fly.

• 43:42Speaker 02

  Right.

• 43:43Speaker 04

  I think you kinda fly.

• 43:45Speaker 02

  That's cool.

• 43:46Speaker 04

  Uh, dope, yeah. Man, that was dope.

• 43:49Speaker 02

  What about bitchin' from the eighties? That was cool.

• 43:51Speaker 04

  Bitchin'. Not a word I use, not too much.

• 43:53Speaker 02

  My, my parents used it, so it was like definitely before us.

• 43:56Speaker 04

  Stoked.

• 43:57Speaker 02

  Stoked.

• 43:57Speaker 04

  Radical. That's like eighties now, stoked, radical.

• 44:01Speaker 02

  Well, we used dude.

• 44:02Speaker 04

  That was, I'm from Honey to Beach, so everything I used, cause it was every.

• 44:05Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 44:06Speaker 04

  Representation out there.

• 44:08Speaker 02

  Mostly white.

• 44:09Speaker 04

  Mostly white, but I mean.

• 44:11Speaker 02

  Yeah. But dude was used in place of bruh growing up.

• 44:15Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 44:15Speaker 02

  Everybody used dude. It was like dude, dude, dude.

• 44:18Speaker 04

  I feel like that word is making a big comeback.

• 44:20Speaker 02

  Dude?

• 44:21Speaker 04

  Dude.

• 44:22Speaker 02

  Really?

• 44:23Speaker 04

  Monks, maybe comedians that I watch, like Shane Gillis.

• 44:26Speaker 02

  Okay.

• 44:26Speaker 04

  He's like, dude, dude, dude.

• 44:28Speaker 02

  It's bruh, bruh, bruh, bruh. It's weird how everything comes back and forth.

• 44:34Speaker 04

  Yeah, but the ninety, yeah, yeah.

• 44:36Speaker 02

  What about talk to the hand, cause the face don't give a damn?

• 44:39Speaker 04

  I never heard that one. I've heard talk to the hand, but.

• 44:41Speaker 02

  Talk to the hand, cause the face don't give a damn. Well, most people just stopped it right there, like talk to the hand, but.

• 44:46Speaker 04

  No.

• 44:46Speaker 02

  I took it further.

• 44:47Speaker 04

  I like that, how you rhymed it. But we did it, like talk to the hand, cause the, cause the face don't wanna hear you.

• 44:53Speaker 02

  Oh, well, if that doesn't rhyme.

• 44:56Speaker 04

  That's what I said. I li- I liked it that you rhymed it. We didn't rhyme it.

• 44:59Speaker 02

  I mean, we use some very non-PC words growing up, a lot.

• 45:03Speaker 04

  Yeah, you, yeah, you can't use those words.

• 45:05Speaker 02

  Sometimes I look back at those eighties and nineties movies, I'm like, damn, like we just, it was like so not okay.

• 45:14Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 45:14Speaker 02

  But geez.

• 45:16Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 45:16Speaker 02

  Just letting it rip back then.

• 45:18Speaker 04

  Different, different day. Uh, and glad, glad, glad is not that bad anymore. A lot of bullies.

• 45:24Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 45:25Speaker 04

  Back in the day, like physical bullies. Now, it's been replaced by online bullies, but uh.

• 45:29Speaker 02

  Oh, bullies will never cease to exist. Bullies have to exist. It's like.

• 45:33Speaker 04

  Bullies are good, sometimes bullies are good though.

• 45:35Speaker 02

  Bullies are what fuel the fire of success. So like, bullies don't realize, like, they're like the worker bees of the hive. You know what I mean? Like, they think that they're like pulling everything, but they're really just keeping everyone alive.

• 45:48Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 45:48Speaker 02

  Keeping everyone afloat by giving everyone just a little bit of a chip to like push them forward.

• 45:52Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 45:53Speaker 02

  You're like, thank you for saying.

• 45:54Speaker 04

  Everybody plays that role too. So anybody out there thinking, don't get self-righteous either. You've, you've played the bully before.

• 46:00Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 46:00Speaker 04

  You've played the bully and you've played the bullied. Everybody takes, takes a turn.

• 46:04Speaker 02

  Did you ever bully anybody in high school?

• 46:06Speaker 04

  Probably.

• 46:06Speaker 02

  In high school?

• 46:07Speaker 04

  In high school, yeah.

• 46:08Speaker 02

  Not in high school, probably elementary school.

• 46:09Speaker 04

  Probably like on the, on the football field or, or, yeah, yeah, you, yeah. I, I think everybody does.

• 46:15Speaker 02

  I only bullied my siblings.

• 46:17Speaker 04

  Yeah, you bullied somebody lower than you, quote unquote.

• 46:20Speaker 02

  Yeah, my sisters.

• 46:24Speaker 02

  What are you gonna do? What are you gonna do? Yeah.

• 46:26Speaker 04

  Remember wedgies? How about that?

• 46:28Speaker 02

  Oh.

• 46:30Speaker 04

  Yeah, the wedgies were big.

• 46:31Speaker 02

  Do you remember swirlies? Stick somebody's head down the toilet and flush it?

• 46:35Speaker 04

  Never done that, that's a bully.

• 46:36Speaker 02

  I mean, I've never done that, but it's like.

• 46:38Speaker 04

  I thought a swirly was when you lick your finger and you put it in somebody's ear.

• 46:40Speaker 02

  Oh, what am I thinking?

• 46:41Speaker 04

  I didn't play that too. If somebody did that to me.

• 46:43Speaker 02

  That's called a wet willy.

• 46:44Speaker 04

  Wet willy. What, I call it a fully?

• 46:46Speaker 02

  Swirly.

• 46:47Speaker 04

  A swirly. A fully. It's a fully.

• 46:50Speaker 02

  No.

• 46:51Speaker 04

  A swirly.

• 46:51Speaker 02

  Not a thing.

• 46:52Speaker 04

  No, no, yeah. Uh, yeah, you can't do that stuff, that's all.

• 46:55Speaker 02

  No.

• 46:56Speaker 04

  But the wedgie, that was big. Nobody does it anymore.

• 46:58Speaker 02

  Remember when he used to pants people?

• 47:00Speaker 04

  You're pantsing?

• 47:00Speaker 02

  Like, how inappropriate is that? Just to walk up to somebody and pull their pants down?

• 47:05Speaker 04

  Uh, we did it all the time in high school.

• 47:07Speaker 02

  Weird.

• 47:08Speaker 04

  Yeah. To, to the bros, to, to the guys, like it was like at practice or something like that.

• 47:13Speaker 02

  Just pants you?

• 47:14Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 47:14Speaker 02

  I'm gonna start pantsing my girlfriends, but like not in public, just like.

• 47:18Speaker 04

  Don't pants, no, you don't, you can't pants girls.

• 47:20Speaker 02

  Why? It's funny.

• 47:20Speaker 04

  Is it?

• 47:21Speaker 02

  Not if like we're out in public, obviously that's so inappropriate, but like if we're just like at, at the house, like just randomly, just to like see what happens, see like kind of like a look of shock.

• 47:29Speaker 04

  Uh, I don't know. I don't know why, I just like, I wouldn't, like if, if my son came home and said he got pants, I'd be like, ha, like pointing at him and laugh.

• 47:37Speaker 02

  Right.

• 47:38Speaker 04

  Like, they got you. But if my girl came home and said she got pants, I'd be like, what the, what the hell?

• 47:42Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 47:42Speaker 04

  Like, who did that?

• 47:43Speaker 02

  Well, in a public situation, that's horrifically violating, but like at a, you know, if it's just you and your girlfriends, that'd be kinda funny, just.

• 47:50Speaker 04

  Okay, well, maybe you're with your girlfriends.

• 47:52Speaker 02

  Maybe not.

• 47:52Speaker 04

  I don't know, if there's boys around.

• 47:53Speaker 02

  No, no, no, no, no, yeah. It would have to be like a very specific situation, but it'd be funny.

• 47:58Speaker 04

  Any other nineties slang that uh, that you did all the time?

• 48:03Speaker 04

  My man, my man. That was another one.

• 48:06Speaker 02

  No, no one said that.

• 48:08Speaker 04

  Yeah, they did.

• 48:09Speaker 02

  Back in like the seventies?

• 48:13Speaker 04

  No, said that, did we? Yeah, we said, yeah, my, my man.

• 48:17Speaker 02

  Slim me some skin. You jive turkey? No, that's old seventies, you weirdo. My man. No, you're, you're, you're in a different era.

• 48:27Speaker 04

  You better know it. I like that one. That was a good one. You better know it.

• 48:33Speaker 02

  All right, this is getting real slow. What are we doing here?

• 48:35Speaker 04

  Okay, all right. You know, that's right. How about that one?

• 48:38Speaker 02

  You know, that's right.

• 48:39Speaker 04

  You know, that's right.

• 48:40Speaker 02

  I know that's right. Anyway, this has been very fun, honey. Thanks for hanging out with me.

• 48:42Speaker 04

  Is that it? That we, we done?

• 48:44Speaker 02

  I think we, I think we covered all of the words that anybody's ever gonna need to know if they have teenagers.

• 48:48Speaker 04

  You better know it.

• 48:49Speaker 02

  We just upped you guys' cool game, whoever's listening. We just upped your cool game a little bit. Your kids are gonna be like, oh wow, how do you know that word? I'm gonna be like, well, I listen to No Safe Words.

• 48:58Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 48:58Speaker 02

  You know, we, we got educated today.

• 49:00Speaker 04

  Righteous?

• 49:01Speaker 02

  Righteous!

• 49:02Speaker 04

  Righteous. I never use that word, but.

• 49:03Speaker 02

  That's an old school word.

• 49:04Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 49:05Speaker 02

  But we should bring some of these back. I think our kids would literally die if they heard us try to bring some of these words back, like by, they'd die of embarrassment, but. Why not? Let's see what happens.

• 49:13Speaker 04

  Uh huh.

• 49:14Speaker 02

  We're gonna try it, let you guys know how it goes. And uh, we'll see you next time on No Safe Words.

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