Pod Insights My Therapist Ghosted Me MTGM EXTRA! "Don't judge me." About this episode Vogue has something to tell Joanne which may cause a small amount of jealousy... Let's see how that goes. Plus, eye bags, a negroni and some melatonin.
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Transcript 0:02 Speaker 00 This is a Global Player original podcast.
0:10 Speaker 01 Hello and welcome to My Therapist Ghosts of Me with me, Vogue Williams and
0:14 Speaker 02 Joanne McNally.
0:20 Speaker 02 Vogue, why at this barbaric time in the morning have you got a full face of makeup? Why are you showing me and show up?
0:27 Speaker 01 Well, thank you so much for asking it, Joanne, because that gives me the opportunity to tell people that we're recording a new flexi programme and that's why I have makeup on.
0:35 Speaker 03 She's absolutely done.
0:36 Speaker 02 Since what time have you been flexing since? It's 9am.
0:41 Speaker 01 Do you know what, I haven't, I think that you forget that like I looked at my phone last night at half ten and I was like, and like I turned my lights off immediately. So I wake up at about quarter to seven because I'm frightened by the time I've gone to bed. I've had a full nearly eight hours sleep. I'm okay.
0:57 Speaker 02 Well, I had last night, I'm in a hotel in Dublin, I'm back for some bits and I had a very delicious Negroni and a melatonin that I got off the shelf in America last night. Well, well, well, to say I slept. Jesus. But I was having, and I know we're not allowed to talk about dreams because they're so boring, they're so boring, but I just have to, because I feel like my inside, I dreamt all night that I was being chased by a tarantula.
1:27 Speaker 01 Oh, I would not like that.
1:29 Speaker 02 And I was trying to hit, it was going in the walls and it was lump, I could see it's like, it's like its out body outline on the walls and I was trying, it was horrible. What's that about, Jo? What's that about?
1:40 Speaker 01 Yeah, Jo, what is it?
1:42 Speaker 02 Is it the melatonin or the Negroni, Jo? Which is, because which one am I, because I'm not going to lose either of them, I'm just going to keep going. But I'd just like to know which one's causing the problems.
1:50 Speaker 03 All I can do is crop up to be boring and offer the advice, which is that medically, you're not supposed to take melatonin and alcohol. That's not a good thing. Don't do that.
1:59 Speaker 02 Sorry, Jo, do you actually know that or are you just saying that?
2:02 Speaker 03 I just Googled it.
2:02 Speaker 01 Joanne.
2:03 Speaker 03 NHS says don't do it.
2:05 Speaker 02 They're always saying shit like that.
2:07 Speaker 01 They tell you not to do anything. Joanne McNally.
2:09 Speaker 02 It's the system. They just don't want you to have a good time. It's the man. It's a conspiracy theory. It's the lizard people. It's Scientology. It's all that.
2:16 Speaker 01 I'm not, I'm not getting into dreams either, but I feel like you should know this because I had a sex dream about one of your good friends.
2:23 Speaker 02 Oh, okay, can I guess?
2:26 Speaker 02 Man or woman?
2:27 Speaker 01 Man.
2:29 Speaker 02 Gay or straight?
2:30 Speaker 01 Gay.
2:30 Speaker 02 Garode. Garode.
2:32 Speaker 01 No.
2:32 Speaker 02 Brendan.
2:33 Speaker 01 Brendan.
2:34 Speaker 02 Yeah, he's looking great at the moment. He's looking great, Brendan. Brendan Courtney's looking great. She's looking great.
2:41 Speaker 01 I haven't even told him about it. I think it was when he mentioned the Speedos or something and then that night, all of a sudden, I'm in a bath with Brendan.
2:48 Speaker 02 The Speedos?
2:50 Speaker 01 You were talking about his little tight little things that he was swimming in or something like that, which I wouldn't usually be attracted to, but obviously that day I was because I went to bed that night and found myself in a bath with Brendan.
3:03 Speaker 02 Yeah, he'd be delighted to hear that now. He's going, he's having a glow up. I actually said to him last night, I was like, you look amazing at the moment. What's going on? He's like, I don't know what it is. He's just got an energy about him.
3:12 Speaker 01 Uh, I think when you're happy, it kind of, it kind of comes from within, shines out in your face.
3:18 Speaker 02 Yeah, that's true. That is actually, that is actually true.
3:22 Speaker 01 It is.
3:22 Speaker 02 Do I look happy at the moment at nine AM with no makeup on? How happy do I look?
3:26 Speaker 01 Do you know what I will say? You look a lot better than me with no makeup on because you don't have the black eyes. You do.
3:32 Speaker 02 We've discussed this before. I think the black under eye is a little bit sexy. If you don't watch yourself, I'll be dreaming about you and me in the bath. You better keep that under eye concealer on.
3:43 Speaker 01 That's why I got up at seven this morning to put the makeup on. I was like, I better not be turning her on. We're trying to work, we're trying to work here.
3:49 Speaker 02 Trying to work. Can't, I can't be aroused this early in the morning. I like that kind of heroin-y, cheeky under eye thing. I really do.
3:57 Speaker 01 I'm glad, I'm glad.
3:58 Speaker 02 Especially as you age, your under eyes are the real danger zone. See my under eyes there?
4:03 Speaker 01 You don't have any under eyes, yeah.
4:05 Speaker 02 Do you know why? Because I was in with Dr. Ewan again. I have more, I have more fish sperm in my face than, than an aquarium come brothel. If, if there was, if there was, if in some other planet, there's fish, it's run by fish and there's a brothel. In one of their fishy towns. I have more fish semen in my face than that fish sperm.
4:26 Speaker 01 You are starting to smell like fish as well.
4:29 Speaker 02 There's no need for that folk. There's no need to go into that.
4:32 Speaker 01 Was she eating tuna or was she back with Dr Hughman? I don't know.
4:36 Speaker 02 There's no need to accuse a woman of smelling like fish. It's below you. It's below you.
4:40 Speaker 01 Ah, come on. That's not below me. Come on.
4:43 Speaker 02 Sorry, you're right. It's your right. It's not below you.
4:44 Speaker 01 I know we talk about our faces and stuff, but I, I came back to Dublin. I went straight in to see Katrina at the Institute of Dermatology and I'm like, Spencer, wait till you see me. Now, when I get home, wait till you see me. I'm gonna look great. You're gonna die. You're gonna die. I got my brows done as well. I'm literally waltzing home thinking I'm gonna... Yeah, I did, yeah.
5:03 Speaker 02 Your brows are great. Yeah, but it takes, when you get a bit, when you get the kind of tweak ones, it does take, you don't look fresh straight away usually. It can take a little day. Like, for example, the fish sperm kind of gathers in like, what, for, for, for all intents and purposes, tiny testicles under the skin. And then you have to kind of roll it out a little bit. Cause I said to you, I'm putting, cause there's different layers and because my body breaks down stuff quicker for some reason. I don't know why. Yeah, I know. I know. Some people, some people you could put a little juice in their face. It'll last for ages. None of the people, it just doesn't last as long for some reason. I don't know why. I guess it's just because I'm so sporty now. I'm just kind of burning through it because I'm in fitness.
5:40 Speaker 01 It's because you're betting then all the time. Exactly.
5:42 Speaker 02 Yeah. Cause I'm in fitness. I would have had that flexi app fucking, just want, just get me involved.
5:48 Speaker 01 Well, I've tried to get you involved and then I'm like, Joanne, where is your band? And now I'm trying to get Joanne, she's actually into it. Last night I was like, do you want to start, we'll train together once a week, really heavy weights. We'll do really heavy weights once a, do you remember that?
6:01 Speaker 02 I don't. I actually don't. I, the uni still was, I had to get the ground, you had to kick it in at that point. What did I commit to?
6:06 Speaker 01 You were really excited about it. I've, I've already, I've already looked into prices.
6:11 Speaker 02 That sounds like you are.
6:12 Speaker 01 For our new trainer.
6:14 Speaker 02 Really? Are we gonna do it? I'd love to do that.
6:16 Speaker 01 Yeah, we're gonna do it. It's a gym in Victoria. He's a really good trainer and we're gonna go once a week and it's gonna be our bonding session.
6:22 Speaker 02 I'd love that. Our work day out. When I get dementia, you know what the scary thing is? No one will even notice. I'll be left to live alone independently throughout the whole thing. Cause no one will notice. Cause I have the worst memory. It's weird. I've had like a sieve.
6:37 Speaker 01 Yeah, but it's because you had a Negroni last night. When I had a drink and I read my book, I told you that I forgot about like six pages of the book and I read them again. I was like, oh.
6:46 Speaker 02 Ah, yeah. You have like, sometimes I have to reread cause I'm like, do you want, you're not focusing? You have to reread, look at the words. That's sometimes I'll underline things to kind of really try and get the cogs clicking. Cause I'm like, come on now, focus. Well, and once I get, once I get this ADHD diagnosis, everything is gonna change. Okay? For you as well, to you, you're not even gonna know me.
7:09 Speaker 01 I don't think you have ADD.
7:12 Speaker 02 T D D D D. Well, your man, that, well, Dr. Obi, my new best friend, emailed me again last night going, are you gonna finish that paperwork or?
7:20 Speaker 01 I think it's, I think it's less ADD, it's more campi-arest. It's CBA. You've got CBA.
7:27 Speaker 02 That's a very eighties mother approach to neurodiversity folk.
7:34 Speaker 01 I don't think you have it.
7:35 Speaker 02 I don't, I don't appreciate your pull up your socks attitude. Okay? I'm here for the Ritalin. So if you can keep your opinions to yourself.
7:42 Speaker 01 Adderall.
7:43 Speaker 02 Yeah, yeah, yeah. Exactly. That's the one. That's the one. I'm telling you, once I get that, once I get that Adderall.
7:47 Speaker 01 You won't be able to sleep.
7:49 Speaker 02 I've got the Melaton and the Negronis for that. It's gonna be, it's gonna be quite the rollercoaster. I hope I don't go full Roseanne Barr on all this stuff and lose my mind and start tweeting loads of mad shit.
7:57 Speaker 01 I think that's actually, I think that's the road you're exactly about to go down. If there was a road called go insane and start tweeting mad shit, that's where you're, you've just turned right onto that road.
8:06 Speaker 02 Between the hours of 1am and 5am, I'm actually a raving racist. And then I wake up just like a normal person again. Jo, you need to keep it, you need to keep an eye on my Twitter thread. You wouldn't know, I don't know what this concoction's gonna do. By the way, I'm joking. I'm not on anything at the moment.
8:26 Speaker 01 So.
8:26 Speaker 02 Which is probably more of a concern.
8:28 Speaker 01 Look at the sincerity in her eyes. Okay, I'm not on, we know.
8:32 Speaker 02 You know, you know yourself now, people will be like, John, you can't be, that's really irresponsible to be promoting. Cause they think that anything you say, and this is your promoting, it's like, I'm actually not technically promoting it. I'm just saying it's something that is going to be in my life, fingers crossed, if I fill out the fucking paperwork.
8:50 Speaker 01 John, I've got, I've got some news that's going to inspire jealousy within you.
8:56 Speaker 02 Oh no.
8:59 Speaker 02 Russell Tovey's straight and you banged him.
9:01 Speaker 01 No.
9:03 Speaker 02 Okay, well then, then we're safe.
9:05 Speaker 01 I'd much prefer your man from Bridgerton. Makes me sad. I'm not gonna get my hands on him.
9:10 Speaker 02 Lovely.
9:12 Speaker 01 Okay. I realised the other day that I am silver tier in Aer Lingus, which means I now have access to the lounge.
9:27 Speaker 02 Those pricks.
9:29 Speaker 01 I paid my way, I bought enough flights and I stored my points unlike somebody I know.
9:34 Speaker 02 I store points when I think about it, but like, I got so many flights around the States and I didn't store any of those points.
9:42 Speaker 01 You could store them. You'd be, you'd be platinum, you wouldn't even be cold, you'd be platinum.
9:47 Speaker 02 I'd be in the White House at this point if I flew, I did so many American flights, internal, domestic.
9:52 Speaker 01 I couldn't believe my luck. My mom told me about it. I actually didn't even realise. And in I waltzed and then I got in there and I was like, shit, I actually need to make a phone call, a private one. So I had to leave again, but I was in there. I didn't get anything, but like, I know it's there now.
10:05 Speaker 02 Sorry, let the, let the record show. Let the record show, I have been in the airport, the Aer Lingus lounge.
10:13 Speaker 01 I'll get, I'll get you in. Let's fly together. I'll get you in.
10:17 Speaker 02 I was a guest of somebody else. And then another time I tried to pay my way in, but I was flying with another airline. They're like, that's not how it works, baby. You have to be flying with Aer Lingus. No, you can pay in, but you have to be flying with Aer Lingus.
10:31 Speaker 01 No bother to me. I'm gonna go to the airport at 6am tomorrow. My flight's not till two.
10:36 Speaker 02 Tell you've like go live from there will you? Let us know what happens.
10:40 Speaker 01 I was only in and out. Yes, I didn't even get, I didn't even get a free Coke here or anything. I just went in and I had to go straight back out.
10:45 Speaker 02 I just assume it's like Aer Lingus pilots kind of massaging feet and kind of you're getting loads of very hands on, not in a sexy way, just in a very service way. And then loads of free booze, loads of free food.
10:57 Speaker 01 There's free booze.
10:58 Speaker 02 Irish food like coddle and what?
11:01 Speaker 01 There's free booze. I got some of those spicy rice crackers because that's all I had time to grab. But there's free food and there's a full bar.
11:07 Speaker 02 This is fucking, hold on, fuck, I'm sorry. I have been in lounges, okay? I, I fly, I'm a frequent flyer.
11:18 Speaker 01 A frequent flyer who is not, who is not a silver member.
11:22 Speaker 02 Come here, do you know what? Can I use your card or whatever?
11:28 Speaker 01 No, I'm the other one. I'm Vogue, I'm Vogue.
11:30 Speaker 02 Yeah, they don't, no one tells the, no one knows the difference between the two of us. Anyway.
11:34 Speaker 01 I'll see if Amber has one. You'll definitely get away with hers.
11:37 Speaker 02 Yeah, they'll be like, oh, it's one of them, it's one of them in drag. I don't know which one of them is. Just let them in, let her in. We never know, we're too embarrassed to ask. Do you know what? Well, can I, okay, so Vogue, will you, you're in with Aer Lingus.
11:50 Speaker 01 I'm, I'm not. I had to pay for that from all the flights that I've taken. I'm not in with them. I don't get anything.
11:55 Speaker 02 I do now. I do now with my silver tier. Right. Crackers, would you believe? Look at you. What a baller.
12:02 Speaker 01 I.
12:03 Speaker 02 For your Aer Lingus rice crackers. Well, hello. So much doing, okay?
12:06 Speaker 01 Did you ever hear Tiago Caine's joke about when she flew business once and she was like, I changed my walk. As soon as I walked into the Aer Lingus lounge, I was like, head high, nose in the air.
12:20 Speaker 02 Yeah, she's stressing for the job she wants.
12:24 Speaker 02 So funny, I know. Listen, Vogue, next time you're in, grab us a couple of those crackers, will you? And I'll get them off you next time in London.
12:32 Speaker 01 Of course I will.
12:32 Speaker 02 Let's make the most of this place. Let's make them bring in a bag. Bring in like a little sports bag.
12:36 Speaker 01 They might have those small. I know they have shortbread too, little mini shortbread crackers. They'd look great. If you have a friend staying, you could put them beside their bed as a bedtime treat.
12:45 Speaker 02 Perfect, yeah.
12:46 Speaker 01 What are they called? A party favour? No, a bedtime favour.
12:48 Speaker 02 A bedtime treat.
12:49 Speaker 01 Turn down.
12:51 Speaker 03 Bedtime favour.
12:54 Speaker 01 A bedtime favour is something slightly different.
12:59 Speaker 02 I'd like to turn down a bedtime favour if that's okay. If I'm the one doing it. If I'm receiving a bedtime favour, I would turn it up.
13:06 Speaker 01 Well, when Brendan's ever staying, will you let me know? I'll come over and give him a bedtime favour.
13:11 Speaker 02 He'd be thrilled.
13:13 Speaker 01 I haven't told him that. He's gonna hear it for the first time on this pod. I was like, it's too weird.
13:17 Speaker 02 He's gay, but he says himself, he's like, I'm very drawn to attractive women. He said it himself. I was like, yeah, I think that's why gay men love straight, pretty women. It's a collaborative. We love the male energy without any strings, do you know?
13:32 Speaker 01 Yeah, that's true.
13:33 Speaker 02 Because you know me, Vogue, any man I'm friends with, it's a slippery slope for them. Remember?
13:38 Speaker 01 I absolutely agree with you. I'd say beware, Joe. Beware. That's why Joe doesn't like to be in studio with you.
13:45 Speaker 02 I know. That's why we've gone remote.
13:47 Speaker 01 Too turned on.
13:50 Speaker 02 I'm like, we can see what's happening, Joe, and we're not, we don't appreciate it. Step into the hallway, please. Sort yourself out. Relax. I'm just trying to live my life. I'm just trying to live my life.
13:59 Speaker 03 Take a breath.
14:00 Speaker 02 Just take a breather.
14:02 Speaker 01 Okay, okay.
14:03 Speaker 02 Would it help if you saw me from the left-hand side, Joe? That's not my best angle. Would that help? Would that help to mute the moment?
14:08 Speaker 01 I've tried it, Joanne. I've tried it myself. Don't bother.
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15:22 Speaker 01 Hi, girls and Joe. Longtime listener, absolutely love the pod. Thank you for making me laugh so much. Please don't judge me. I don't think anyone is in a position to judge anyone.
15:33 Speaker 02 No, Vogus just talked about robbing Rice Crackers out of the Airline Lounge. I think we're all.
15:37 Speaker 01 It's not robbing. I have access to that.
15:41 Speaker 02 He'd be driving in from house and all, she'd see the car pulling up into an airport. All her minions, all the staff, she's like, go, go. Like Ocean's Eleven.
15:51 Speaker 02 Go into your lounge, it's rinsed. There wasn't a cracker in the airport left. I'm entitled to this. I'm entitled.
16:00 Speaker 01 They won't know what hit them. Shut up, they might take it back off me.
16:03 Speaker 02 She's taken all the optics and all, all the furniture out of the lounge as well.
16:12 Speaker 01 Start ripping the seats off the plane and everything. Oh, this isn't okay.
16:15 Speaker 02 I'm entitled. I'm a silver member.
16:19 Speaker 01 My mom and Neil are like platinum. I don't know what they, I think Devon's stealing my points.
16:24 Speaker 02 She's one of the cabin crew at the boot of the SUV. She's like, I'm entitled. I'm platinum member. She works for me now.
16:32 Speaker 01 Okay. Background, I've been with my partner for four years, not met his family. We've spent, oh, that's a long time, isn't it? Hmm. We've spent one whole weekend together in the four years and I've never cooked him a meal. I've asked numerous times and he just doesn't want me to cook. That's not the worst. Fair, that's fine, yeah. Oh, wait, offensive because I'm a brilliant cook. Yes, it's weird. He comes around on evenings and within a couple of hours he's asleep. I've checked his phone numerous times and there's nothing. I did take his virginity and I'm his first relationship. Mm hmm. So I've had enough. We've had numerous arguments about all of this. Sorry, I just wasn't expecting that last kind of fatal line. Go on.
17:16 Speaker 01 And nothing changes. So I've ended up kind of sleeping with my child's dad on and off. And I, oh yeah, and I'm loving the excitement and it has put a spark back into my life. My child's dad and I are like best mates, but he just can't commit. But I'd marry him tomorrow if things were different. Oh. Oh, oh, that's shit. I just can't cut the relationship off with a long-term boyfriend. I hate being alone, but I know I'm being awful. Please give me advice and tell me how to break this off. I hate confrontation. And this is not like me at all, but hey, here we are. Please keep me on for obvious reasons and tell me straight. What and how I do. Oh, I think you've got a few little issues going on there, not just the one I.
18:01 Speaker 01 There's a lot to unpack, a lot to unpack there. I think the partner of four years isn't really rocking your boat anymore. And I think that. Certainly not. No. And I think that if you're wanting to sleep with your child's dad all the time, that kind of shows you that you're not getting what you want from your relationship that you're currently in. And even though you don't want to be alone and it is scary to be alone, I don't know if it's right to stay there for both of you.
18:26 Speaker 02 Well, the first boyfriend, it's his first relationship, so he doesn't know what he's doing, right? And like, no one knows what they're doing in their first relationship. You have to learn as you go.
18:35 Speaker 01 Four years in.
18:36 Speaker 02 Yeah, but he has no reference point. He has no context. This is all he knows, right? So maybe he's not getting what he needs either, but he doesn't know. He just thinks this is what it is. And it sounds like it's just kind of, it sounds like it's kind of plodding along, doesn't it?
18:48 Speaker 01 I've plodded, plod, plod.
18:51 Speaker 02 But she's plodding. She's plodding along with the first guy. The first guy is not the right relationship for either of them. The second guy is a kind of a sexy situationship.
19:00 Speaker 01 Yeah, I know, but it's also a situation that she wants to marry him and that's her child's dad. And that would be like, if that turned into a happy ending, I'd be really happy to read that book.
19:10 Speaker 02 Sorry, what I meant was a sexy situationship for him. As I say, situationships are very, they're never an equal situation. They're always one, in my personal experience, there's always one who would like to kind of fold it into something more serious. That's my experience of it anyway, and I'm usually that person. I'm usually that one.
19:30 Speaker 01 I thought Joanne was talking about her origami penis again. Remember you told that story?
19:35 Speaker 02 Oh, yeah. The origami, fold it in.
19:37 Speaker 01 I think about that a lot, actually. Whenever I hear the word fold, I'm like, Joanne.
19:43 Speaker 02 I'm clipping up Prosecco now, putting it online. Anyway, that's a different story, yeah. I've given up on the dream that Netflix are going to buy it. I have to accept that they're not, so we need to move on.
19:51 Speaker 01 I actually cannot bear that you don't put up the clips. It drives.
19:55 Speaker 02 I have to put up clips. I have no clips. But I have to now, because I'm trying to sell this European tour and my agent's like, Joanne, how do you? Because I'm like, oh, it's not going as fast as I thought. And he's like, yeah, because there's no clips online. You have no clips. Because I was holding Prosecco back. Anyway, whatever about that, the clips are going up soon. But she's, both these, neither of these relationships, she's not going to get what she needs from either of these men, from what I can tell. One's just plotting and the other, she's too invested and he's never gonna commit to her by the sounds of it. She needs to protect her peace and get out of that. She needs to get out of the two of them. And confrontation is shit, but sometimes, and I say this as someone who is allergic to confrontation. It actually makes me feel physically sick in my stomach. Sometimes you have to do the right thing, suck it up and tell them. You just have to.
20:36 Speaker 01 And do you know what? You might be lonely for a period of time, but it will, in the end, it will work out the way it's supposed to. And you never know, it might give your man, the child's dad, a kick up the arse to change his ways. I don't know if that will happen by the sounds of him, but I always am hoping for the romance at the end. I'm always wanting it.
20:55 Speaker 02 Being secretly in love with the father of your child, who is obviously, you've great sex, you've built a kid together, but he won't commit to you and he's probably sleeping with other people. That sounds like a low level kind of hell to me. This is, this woman needs, needs to address this stat. You're just, because you will just plot along in love with him for the rest of your life.
21:16 Speaker 01 Yeah.
21:17 Speaker 02 And you can't get rid of him because you've got a kid. I don't know what the solution here is. Oh, I do.
21:22 Speaker 01 What?
21:23 Speaker 03 Oh, yeah.
21:23 Speaker 02 I do. Tell them.
21:27 Speaker 02 That's what I would do.
21:28 Speaker 01 I mean, that is always, yeah, but if you're gonna, so you have to tell the partner for years, first of all, and then you need to talk to the child's father and say, listen, I'm actually, I'm still in love with you. And like, this isn't, yeah, this isn't gonna be good for me. So, and then, then he knows. Like, I'm sure he does know, but then he knows, knows you will feel like you've done as much as you can and then you can move forward.
21:49 Speaker 02 You're like bringing it all to the table, like cards on the table, real talk, this is how I feel. How do you feel? And he's like, well, if he's like, I don't want to commit, I'm still in the same boat. Then you're like, well, we need to cut this off then because I'm very invested in this. And if he is a sound guy, he will. If he's not a sound guy, he will just keep riding you and leading you on, basically. And kind of, it's like keeping you there, giving you enough rope to kind of keep you there. But he's never gonna give you, he's never gonna like tie you to the fence.
22:14 Speaker 01 Yeah, yeah.
22:16 Speaker 02 Whatever, not, yeah.
22:17 Speaker 01 I think that's the first time we've, yeah, we actually gave all right advice that time.
22:21 Speaker 02 I was more, I was more pleased with the analogy, but yes, I also think the advice was good.
22:25 Speaker 01 Yeah. Congratulations, guys. After four years, we've done it. Well done.
22:30 Speaker 02 Look at us there. Are we charged? Are we qualified?
22:32 Speaker 01 It's so grown up.
22:33 Speaker 03 I'll send you the bill.
22:35 Speaker 02 Send you the bill, Jo, yeah. What are we, 2.50 an hour?
22:39 Speaker 01 That's the gun, right? Yeah, that's what the expensive ones are. We'll get a place on Harley Street, we can charge 400 an hour.
22:46 Speaker 02 Just randomly zooming into people's sitting rooms, telling them to leave their husbands. I'd love that as a job. That sounds like, I'm telling you, if comedy doesn't work out, I would go, I would go into life coaching, unqualified. Yeah.
22:59 Speaker 01 Well, there you go. That's it for, for the bonus today. Thank you, everyone, for listening. We'll see you for the main on Friday.
23:21 Speaker 02 Life coaching. I feel like, I feel like I'd be good at that.
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