Why the SAME Painful Patterns Keep Showing Up in Your Life & How to Finally Break Free

What if the rejection, heartbreak, financial struggles, and painful experiences that keep showing up in your life aren't happening TO you, but are actually trying to FREE you? I'm sharing a powerful spiritual lesson I've been learning about why we keep experiencing the same painful patterns with different people and situations until we finally understand what they're here to teach us. I'm opening up about one of the most humiliating experiences of my childhood, how it created a deep wound around abandonment and never feeling good enough, and why that same fear still shows up in my life today, even after all the success I've experienced. If you're going through a season where everything feels like it's falling apart, this episode will help you see how it could actually be the beginning of your biggest breakthrough. Check out our Sponsors: Shopify - Ready to launch your business before Black Friday? Go to http://SHOPIFY. COM/happy to start your free trial. Monarch - Monarch breaks the debt cycle, turn endless gloom into a plan with an end date. Use code EYH at http://monarch.com to get your first year of Monarch Core half off at just $50. Northwest - Gain access to thousands of free guides, tools, and attorney-drafted documents to help you run your business with confidence at http://northwestregisteredagent.com/EarnFree Indeed - Spend less time searching, and more time actually interviewing candidates who check all your boxes. Get a $75 Sponsored Job credit at http://indeed.com/podcast right now and let them know you heard about Indeed on this podcast. Life At The Speed Of Play - Mark is offering our listeners TWO books for the price of one! Go tohttp://getmarksbook.com/earn Sequencing - http://Sequencing.com is offering our listeners up to 10% off your full Genome test, plus free shipping. Go to Sequencing Dot com, and use promo code EARN for 10% off. Faire - Sign up today and get 50% off your first wholesale order, up to $100 at http://faire.com/happy50. HIGHLIGHTS Why the same painful lessons keep showing up through different people, relationships, and situations. How to recognize the deeper emotional wounds that may be driving your reactions and decisions. Why rejection and abandonment can continue to affect you long after the original experience. How to stop tying your self-worth to being chosen, invited, loved, or validated by others. The difference between wanting something and NEEDING it to feel whole. A simple exercise to identify the common thread behind your 3 most painful experiences. How to stop reacting from old wounds and start responding from a place of personal power. Why giving what you feel you're lacking can help you shift out of scarcity. How to find wisdom in your hardest challenges instead of staying stuck in resentment. How to reconnect with God and trust that difficult seasons can lead you toward greater alignment. RESOURCES Learn how to turn podcast guesting into massive sales, ⁠⁠save your spot for the free live training HERE⁠⁠! Make your own ⁠Million Dollar Media Kit HERE! Try glōci for 40% off your first order with code HAPPY at checkout - head to getgloci.com FOLLOW Follow me: @loriharder Follow glōci: @getgloci

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  They're giving Earn Your Happy a $75 sponsored job credit. Go to Indeed.com/podcast right now and support our show by saying you heard about Indeed on this podcast. Life at the Speed of Play, Mark is offering our listeners two books for the price of one. Go to GetMark'sBook.com/earn. Sequencing, sequencing.com is offering your listeners up to 10% off your full genome test plus free shipping. Go to sequencing.com and use promo code EARN for 10% off. Pain is a really, really beautiful way to be broken open. Pain is a really clear signal that something is asking you to become somewhat different.

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  Maybe right now you're getting asked to learn a new skillset that feels like shit because everything about learning this new skillset feels horrible. God, you just learned one. You already feel like you put in the work and the time. Why is the world changing again? Why is AI making your life miserable and taking away jobs? And why does it feel like every day is a fight for your finances? Why does it feel like everything is hard? And right when I learn one platform, I have to go learn another platform? Why? Why? What? Well, you are being asked to do something hard so you can free yourself on the other side. And if you keep avoiding the hard things, life is going to get harder.

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  Welcome back to the show. It's time for another quickie because there's always time to fit in inspiration. I just recently got back from a full day in Los Angeles with Callan Faulkner, who is teaching AI challenges right now and has an incredible AI course. She's quickly becoming known as the person to learn AI from and get your teams on board. And let me just tell you, I am so excited about what I am learning and what I am doing with AI and with this podcast and with my workflows and for my team. It's absolutely crazy.

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  I feel like I have quadrupled the work that we are doing and staying on top of things that I often felt really behind on and like it was burying me daily. And that is very exciting. Now, also, we were at David Guim's house in Los Angeles for this one day event, which was the AI and Consciousness event. And they brought about 20 to 25 entrepreneurs together in the room. And let me tell you, when I tell you it was in this room, I'm like, oh, my gosh. Why am I here? I mean, it's one of those feelings where you're like, how did I get invited to this? And while I also know I, you know, had a great spot and earned my spot there

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  for what I've done in the world and in entrepreneurship and with my podcast, it's also just a moment of pinch me. And I think that that is so incredibly cool to realize. And part of this story really weaves into what I want to share with you today because sometimes when I get chosen for rooms like that, I can also be like, oh, my God, I'm, I've got invited. I'm finally good enough. And then other times when I don't get chosen, right? I can feel really bad or wonder why. And I'm getting to a really, really beautiful place, whether I get picked to be in a room or do not get picked to be in a room. It is all good and it's all for me and it's all okay.

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  And I think that is going to be what helps us dive into this podcast today because I am going back deep into some of the teachings of David Guim right now, which two years ago I really started talking about. I am such a spiritual person, meaning I have a very religious background. And even though I believe in God, Christianity, I got driven away from the church for a while. So I really needed to find what works for me. And what I'm finding is I believe in God, Jesus, and all of the things around that.

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  But also what's been really cool is some of David Guim's teachings has helped me wrap my brain around a lot of different lessons that I couldn't quite understand in my life. And I find that Kabbalah has just been something that has helped me understand all of these different religious beliefs that I have learned throughout my whole life. And it makes them less conflicting and more clear. And so that's kind of what people say about it is it just helps you start to understand everything in your life and your soul's purpose a little bit more clear. So when I was in that room, there were so many things that really landed for me that I can't stop thinking about.

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  And one of the things that has been so helpful is that everything coming into your life right now is coming for one reason. It's here to free you. The difficult relationship, maybe the business partner who let you down, the spouse who is never supportive, the friend that pulls away right when you need the most. None of this is random, right? The person who is suing you that you can't even fathom how this is happening. The horrible thing that is happening in your business, the money that you lost,

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  the partner that betrayed you. All of it is pointing you out one belief that's keeping you from your most abundant, most free, most connected to God, happy life. And as hard as that is to hear, it's a much easier way to live if you want to stop getting this lesson served to you over and over. And I know I do. I want to start looking at all the things. My lawsuit, my abandonment issues, my challenges in relationships, my challenges in business. I don't want to look at those as happening to me.

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  I want to get the lessons, guys. I like wanna, I want to move forward. I don't want to keep doing this for the rest of my life, right? But the catch is that if you don't learn the lesson, it comes back with a new person, a new job, a new partner, a new city, same lesson. It just comes in a different, shinier outfit and you're like, what the hell? How did this fool me again, right? Like, or how is this happening again? So I really want to talk about it because David teaches that each of us came here with a correction, like a soul correction. Think of it as your soul assignment. It's the one thing you came here to transform. Like the reason you chose your parents, the reason that you chose these people who are all in your life, whether you believe that or not.

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  You chose them because you were meant to overcome something that you need to correct. So the really beautiful annoying part is that life is set up perfectly to bring you exactly what you need to work on that. I talk about this a lot, not necessarily in terms of exactly this, but whenever I think of life, right? Before I, I started thinking exactly in this way for these teachings, which really, really has freed me up even more. The way that I used to think is that every challenge is happening for you. And essentially this is just a more spiritual way to say that. So every challenge is happening for you. And you know, my whole career, I have been in fitness. You know, I actually talked about this in my TED Talk that I did years ago. I believe it was 2017.

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  As a personal trainer who owned a gym and, you know, had to go buy the weight rack and all of the different weights and all the different equipment that I use to get my clients into the best shape of their life or whatever they want to do or whatever goals they want to hit. When the person would walk into the gym, you know, they look around and they see all of these really heavy weights. And a lot of times in the beginning, nobody wants to, they're like, oh, God, I just, I don't want to do the heavy weights. I don't want to do the really, really hard work. And all I can think of is, man, the heavier you go and the more that you're going to pick up, the bigger challenge, right?

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  The, the more your exact result that you want is underneath that. And so if you go with lighter weights, you're just never really going to get the result you want because we actually have to give you the really heavy weight that is going to kind of destroy you. We actually have to kind of demolish you and destroy your muscle in the gym. And that's actually what you're doing. You're getting so torn down that your muscle then takes a little bit of time to repair. And you go and you choose to get torn down again. You actually go by choice in order to get better and tear down your muscle over and over again, to the point where sometimes you feel like you can't walk, right?

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  You feel like this feels awful, like I am so sore, I can hardly move. But somehow, because you're choosing it and you have this idea that this is good for me, you know that something good is gonna happen. So you're kind of like, you deal with it. You keep going back because you have a belief that this is good for you. Now, what if you had a belief that these challenges that are in your life, or this person, or this lawsuit, or this thing that is happening to you right now, this breakup of a friendship, this breakup of a partner? What if this is actually good for you? What if? What if?

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  Now, some of you might be mad at me hearing this right now because you're just in the depths. But what if that actually gave you a little bit of power to know that you're just going back to the gym and you're getting sent that? So if we're really here to correct something right now, what I want you to think about is if you came here to heal something, what is showing up for you? And what is that thing asking you to heal right now? So if you came here to heal abandonment, guess what's gonna keep showing up? People who leave. People who go cold. People who ghost you. People that you feel you can't rely on.

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  Situations where you feel left out, right? I mean, I can't even tell you how many things that I have felt left out of. And maybe you're like, what are you talking about? I see you at things. Well, there's a whole lot of things that go on without me, right? Right in my backyard. Like, why did I not get this invite? Like, how were my friends there, but I was not there? Or how did this thing happen or this stage happen? And I just had them on my podcast, but they didn't invite me to anything of their stuff? How is this not getting reciprocated, right? And I absolutely have abandonment as a wound in my life. I have abandonment. I have, you know, not being able to trust people for so many different reasons.

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  I'm gonna tell you a story that is like a core, core wound from my childhood. You know, I was raised as a Jehovah's Witness and I was in a religion where you can't hang out with anyone outside of your religion. So I had this core group of kids that no matter how they treated me, that was the core group that I had to hang out with. It was them or no one. And so later on, when I got older, I kind of started choosing not a lot of them because it was just a group that I did not mesh great with for so many different reasons. But I was a little bit of an overweight kid. And I just remember, I was kind of this nerdy, funny, goofy kid who,

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  just to give you an example, I could be totally fine by myself, but I think that was also from, you know, wounding, from getting rejected and not chosen. But I was kind of nerdy. I was like really funny, but in a nerdy way. And so one of my favorite things to do is I would just literally sit and write these funny skits. And one of the funny skits that I, I remember really clearly, or one of the funny things that I like to do, that's so weird, like what a weird little kid, was I used to go on the typewriter and I would write funny singles ads. And I would put them on a piece of paper. And I remember being like, oh my God, I'm gonna read these to my family. I'm gonna read these at dinner.

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  And if you don't remember, there was the page in the newspaper where it was like, you could take out singles ad, ads, and it could be like, you know, single woman looking for male between the ages of 20 and 30 years old to go on a life adventure in Colorado. Must love dogs, must love mountain climbing, must love blank, right? Whatever it was. And so I would write really funny ones. I would go, I read these to my family and they would crack up. And that's just to give you an idea of what type of kid I was. So I remember, and I wasn't, I wasn't like ugly, but I also wasn't cute.

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  So, you know, I was like crazy teeth, bad haircut, little overweight. It just, it wasn't working that great for me. And I can't remember what age that I was, but I got invited over to a slumber party. And it was a girl and a boy who lived there, a brother and sister. And he was a little bit older than the sister. And he was having his friends over for a slumber party that night. And that she was having all of her friends over for a slumber party that night. And it just so happened that the guy in my congregation that I had a massive crush on was going to be there and they knew it, like they would tease me about it all the time. In fact, most of us all had a crush on him. And that day, you know, we were all playing different games together or whatever.

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  He had come over to me and was like, hey, I want to meet you in the kitchen alone at this time. And I was like, oh my God, he's gonna like tell me he likes me or something. And this was like one of the most exciting things ever. I was like, he chose me. Like, I'm gonna be the girl he has a crush on and like everyone's gonna know. I was freaking out. Like, I don't think you understand, I was going to marry this guy, like especially this religion. Like, I, this was the only person I thought I had to choose from, if you know what I mean. I was like, great, we're gonna get married. This is gonna be amazing. Like, we're gonna, whatever. I was really young.

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  I think, I don't even know if I was like 11 or 12 or something, right? Like just massive crush. And so I end up meeting him in the kitchen at that time. And he's like, you know, I really like you. And I think that we should like, you know, kind of like secretly proclaim that we like each other. And I was like, oh my God, like I, I've always liked you. This is how I feel. And right after I said how I feel, he started laughing. And he said to me, oh my God, do you actually think that I would like you? This was a dare. And all of the boys were around the corner and they started laughing.

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  And he was like, said all the reasons why he wouldn't like me. And I just remember just like bawling. Like literally my little soul was so crushed and so embarrassed. And everybody knew and I was the butt of the joke. That was probably one of the most horrible experiences of my life because I couldn't even hide from them. I had to still go to church three times a week and everybody laughed about it for I don't even remember how long. And it was traumatizing. I felt embarrassed and like nobody was really my friend. And the girls were laughing and the boys were laughing. And I think to a little kid, that just feels like nobody really likes you and you're never going to be good enough.

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  And gee, I can't figure out after being called fat and ugly by them, why I ever got into, you know, fitness and fitness modeling. And like this experience of if I'm finally strong enough and pretty enough, nobody can do that to me again. And I think that, you know, when you have abandonment wounds like that, all of a sudden, your whole life, one of the soul corrections I know I have is abandonment issues. And am I good enough? Am I invited? Do people like me? People pleasing? Do they want me around? Because it doesn't feel safe when people don't want you around, right? Like your survival instincts actually kick in and you're like, do people want me here?

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  So for me, one of my soul corrections is absolutely love and abandonment and feeling like I want to be chosen. And so, you know, I had to be seen and seen in a certain way to feel safe. And I couldn't figure out why this same feeling kept coming back over and over and over again in my life and still does to this day. Different people, different seasons, different chapters of my life. And by the way, that isn't the only time that happened as a young kid. Like, I've got lots of those stories because everything was trying to help me correct the fact that I did not feel enough.

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  Because what I am now aware of is that when I feel enough and when I work on this, I am incredibly powerful. And so when we think of our soul correction and what is here for us and what keeps happening to us, what is the thing in the experiences that you keep experiencing that you are meant to correct in order to free yourself? What keeps showing up for you that keeps saying, hey, you still don't feel worthy? You, you still don't think you're enough unless people choose you? You still don't feel enough unless you get chosen to go to that entrepreneur event or that dinner or get invited on stage or get invited on that podcast? But you're never gonna get invited because you believe that you are not enough without it.

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  We have to start realizing the difference between having it and needing it. And so you're allowed to have it all. You're allowed to have the love. You're allowed to have the money, have the beautiful home, the thriving business and the amazing friendships and enjoy them and appreciate them. Be so grateful for them. But the second that we actually need them to be whole, that's when we've made them like our, our God. We have, they're the air that we breathe. We're not okay without them.

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  And whatever we need, we're going to be tested on. Whatever we believe we need to be whole, whether that is our partner, whether that is money,

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  whether that is being chosen, you will get tested on that over and over again in a way that is probably pretty painful for you. So this is the part that I'm really unraveling right now because there's a difference between receiving just for yourself and receiving so that you can share. And when I need something to fill that absolute gap in my soul, that hole in my soul, because I don't feel enough, I'm receiving only for me, right? I'm like clinging to it. I'm grabbing on to it. I'm like, I need this. And that grabbing energy always pushes things away. But if I can somehow continue to observe

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  these challenges that are showing up in my life and say, okay, if I didn't get invited, how can I still feel worthy and whole? And like, I don't need to be invited, right? Or I'm, you know, feeling abandoned by this person and it's making me not feel enough. How can I go and figure out how to be enough without any of that? So that I can be a whole person, so that when I am giving, or when I get those things, I'm a whole person who has the thing. It's not a half of a person who's clinging to the thing because she needs it. Right? And the shift is how can I give because I want to be giving?

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  How can I serve from a place where I want to be serving, not because I need people to like me? So here's one of the things that you can do that I am working on as well. Look at them. Let's just look at maybe the last three times you felt completely like demolished in your life. Like not just annoyed, but like really torn down, like wrecked. Like what? What made you feel like you were just destroyed, taken down, right? Like just totally thrown out?

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  Is there a common thread between those three things?

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  Was it feeling left out? Was it feeling not enough? Was it feeling like you're not being seen? Was it feeling like your finances are disappearing? Was it feeling like you're never going to be successful? That thread is going to start showing you kind of what that soul correction is like. Once you name it, it loses a little bit of its power. Because now you know what's happening when it shows up again. And you go, oh, there it is again. Literally trying to free me from the thing that has its grip on me. And I can tell you the thing that has its grip on me is abandonment issues and people pleasing, worrying about people's opinions.

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  And it just shows up over and over and over and over again in my life and I don't feel free. Except I'm literally ready to feel free. And the only way to do that is for me to continue to trust that when anything that feels bad or challenging shows up, that I can turn it into a way to free myself. Just like whatever those heavy weights show up in the gym, those are actually the ones that I need to be lifting in order to get the results I want. Because if we keep looking away or getting mad at it, right? If I just go to the gym and I just get mad at the weights, but I don't lift them, what does that do? Literally nothing.

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  You have to use them. You have to curl them. You have to squat with them. You have to literally go, this hard thing is here for me. Get under the squat rack. Don't just scream at it. That's not how you get a result, right? It keeps showing up. It's like, um, hi, you said you wanted that juicy fat booty, except you won't get under the squat rack. So, you know, yelling at it and being mad at it and being mad that it feels heavy and putting it down and saying, you know, why do you have to be so heavy? I hate this. I hate you. This still don't have a fat butt. Right? Still got a pancake ass. So if you want the results, go through it. Go through it. Lift it. It's literally here for you.

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  Pain is a really, really beautiful way to be broken open. Pain is a really clear signal that something is asking you to become somewhat different. Maybe right now you're getting asked to learn a new skill set that feels like shit because everything about learning this new skill set feels horrible. God, you just learned one. You already feel like you put in the work and the time. Why is the world changing again? Why is AI making your life miserable and taking away jobs? And why? Why does it feel like every day is a fight for your finances? Why does it feel like

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  everything is hard? And right when I learn one platform, I have to go learn another platform? Why do I need to learn how to be a podcast guest? Why do I need to go and do this other thing? Why do I need to, you know, learn these different skill sets on my computer? Why do I need to shift the way that I do my offer? Why do I need to learn how to do ads? Why do I need to learn how to be a better email marketer? Why do I need to go deep on, on my messaging and learn how to do that? Why? Why? What? Well, you are being asked to do something hard so you can free yourself on the other side. And if you keep avoiding the hard things, life is going to get harder. When you run straight for the challenges, when you say, okay,

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  I can see that these things keep happening to me and that I am playing victim right now. And that if I were to just stop playing victim and start doing the thing that has the most resistance around it and the most challenge and actually sit down and say, I'm going to learn the skill set. I'm going to let go of this person.

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  I'm going to forgive this person for me, not for them. I'm going to move on from this friendship and stop clinging on to it and destroying my life because I'm replaying these scenarios and these fights of what I actually want to say and prove to this person.

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  over and over again and reacting from the exact same place. How can we become non-reactive? So that we can actually create a response that is empowering and different from the responses or reactions that we have been doing over and over and over. So another way you can start looking at this or overcoming this is to give the thing that you think that you need. So this one is crazy because it really works. And if you feel like you need love, what if you went and gave love first, right? Not to get it back, no expectations, because that's just going to make you spiral even more if you're expecting on the other side and you don't get it. But you just give it. You text a friend, you be the first person to send a voice note.

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  You be the first person to smile at someone and it doesn't matter if they smile back. You be generous with someone who actually can't give you anything. If you feel like you need money, maybe you go and give your time or your attention, or maybe even a little bit of money. Or a referral to someone's business. When you give the thing that you believe you're lacking, you actually prove to your nervous system and your soul that you already have it in you and you can't give what you don't have. So how can you cultivate that feeling within you in order to give it? And when you cultivate that feeling, you've cultivated the feeling and you have it. You're full. Fill yourself up first.

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  So here's a belief that I hope really, really frees you today is that nothing in your life is against you. Even if literally there is like who you feel is your worst enemy in your life. The person who left you, the deal that fell through. The moment you feel totally alone and abandoned. Maybe by your closest friend. Maybe by your spouse. Maybe by your child. What is the lesson that is trying to come to you over and over again to free you? And I hope that this is something that can actually make you feel a little more free

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  because I can guarantee, because I'm right there with you, that if I choose the disempowering thought, if I choose to continue to be a victim, I don't have any energy for anything. And I'm certainly attracting absolute fucking bullshit into my life. And so if you are ready to feel different. If you're ready for a different life, you have to be different and you have to believe different. So what is the through line of all of these big pains that have been happening? Ask that pain what wisdom it has for you. Why did they leave?

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  Why did you lose that money? Why are you self sabotaging? Why are you drinking the way you're drinking? Why are you gambling? Why are you cheating? Why is your partner cheating? Why are these people not inviting you anywhere? Why are people talking behind your back? Why does this person feel like your worst enemy right now? Why are you getting sued? What could it possibly be trying to tell you? And what could you actually focus on being whole within yourself? Without you believing that person took something from you? Because they can't take anything that's yours.

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  And so what was it that was such a deep need that you will not be okay without what you believe they took? Because when you can fill that in, that is when you get blessed abundantly with more and more and more miracles in your life. And so what if everything was coming into your life? To help you with that soul correction of what you need to heal so that you can have the most abundant life? Because that's what I believe. I believe God wants you to be complete on your own. To not feel like you need all of these crazy earthly things.

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  And when you don't need it anymore, that's when it all comes in. I hope this helps because I think in this wild, wild world of all of these different ideas and beliefs and everything going on, the only empowering belief out there is the one that can make you better after something bad happens. It's the story that we choose to tell ourselves on the other side of the thing that felt like it was going to take us down forever and that we'd never be complete again. What if you could actually be your whole self on the other side of it? And you never got to be that? What if it actually gave you the most perspective

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  and was trying to drive you back into the arms of God? What if you haven't had that great of a connection to God lately? Because you just, you know, when life is good, we're not very connected, right? Because it's just, it's going good. It's going good. We don't feel like we need to drop to our knees and ask God to reveal things to us and to lean on Him and to check in with Him for every decision that we make to make sure it's aligned. But when it's bad, let me tell you, that's when you're driven right back into asking to be led. And so I don't want you to have to get to that point all the time, but maybe it's trying to drive you back into alignment. Maybe life was good for a while, which means sometimes we start doing things that are out of alignment because we're just not checking in to see if it feels good because life feels good.

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  And so one day you wake up, maybe in your 40s like me going, hmm, are these decisions everything that I actually wanted in my life? And sometimes your life will have to look like it's getting burnt down around you in order to get back to what feels exciting and like alignment and alive and energy. And so if your life is falling apart around you, congratulations. If things are feeling really hard, if there's something really challenging right now, if you woke up in a life that doesn't feel like it's yours, congratulations. It's your whole life trying to reset. And I promise on the other side of it, if you stop resisting it and start asking, what's the wisdom here? What should I be doing? How can I let go? How can I stop controlling?

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  How can I let God? How can I start lining back up and knowing that even if I lose my friends, if I lose my house, if I lose my cars, if I lose my reputation, if I lose my partner, like this is a clearing of potentially what was no longer working into what could be. And that's the only empowering thought that you can possibly have. And so for you, what are the things right now that are trying to give you massive wisdom on trying to get you back to God in alignment? So that you can have your biggest blessing? I hope that this helps you guys. I'm sending you so much love. I have a free training coming up because I really believe that all of you need to be learning how to be a better podcast guest so that you can monetize a new sales channel.

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  Especially if you're long-winded like me and can talk on a whole podcast like this. Let me just tell you, you need to learn the skillset of storytelling, of connecting to people. And so if you want to learn from me, if I connected to you at all today or throughout this podcast, I'm telling you, it's one of the best trainings out there. And I want to help you learn how to monetize podcast guesting. Because so many people are making 25K, 50K, 100K from a single episode. And you can do this too. I'm going to break it all down. You're way closer than you think. And I really believe that majority of people out there can learn this skill and stand out because not a whole lot of people know how to do this right now. It's not an oversaturated market. You will stand out if you follow this formula. It's very formulaic and you can learn it. You can absolutely learn it.

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  Maybe that's the skillset that you are being asked to learn right now. So go to milliondollarguest.com/training or go to the show notes and you can click on that or you can join by going to milliondollarguest.com/training. And send this to somebody who needs it. I love you guys so much and I will talk to you soon.

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