Self-Coaching Motivation to Do Hard Things. A coaching question I ask my clients every week.

Most people do not fail from lack of potential. They fail because they never build a reliable way to act when the mood is bad, the weather is worse, and life is loud. I want to change that with one coaching question I have used for years with clients, and it takes less than five minutes to try. We unpack why this question works so well for personal development and habit building. If you want a practical weekly reflection, a stronger mindset, and more repeatable discipline, press play and d...

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  Hey guys and welcome back to another episode of Change Wired Podcast, a podcast dedicated to learning more about figuring out, discovering, using different tools, strategies, tactics, sense back literature applied to everyday life to unlock more of our potential and grow a little bit more, develop ourselves a little bit more every day. You know, everyone has a seed of greatness inside of us, but just like any seed of potential in a plant or a domesticated animal, you need to tend it to develop its full beauty and grace. And you're no different.

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  Just because you have potential doesn't mean it's going to grow into anything noticeable in the world, not unless you put consistent intentional action. You put yourself in situations, in systems, in environments, in position, and you make non-negotiable certain actions so that when applied can develop your potential, right? Just because you have your potential doesn't mean you're going to develop it and get any results on it. That is kind of a sad place because some people are born with, actually, I believe everyone is born with a lot of greatness and potential to do amazing things, like

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  things that will amaze the whole world. And very few actually put intentional consistent action towards developing that. So are you one of those people who actually decide to do something about developing your full potential or as much of your potential as possible in this world? You know, there is a saying that I absolutely love. There are two kinds of people or men in the world, the reasonable and unreasonable. The reasonable adapts himself to the world and the unreasonable tries to change the world. And therefore,

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  all the progress depends, all the change in the world depends on the unreasonable man. So what kind of person are you committed to be? Because it's a choice and you can be either way. Today, guys, we are talking about one coaching question, one, a simple question, like seemingly very simple question, that will allow you to see, to finally maybe remove some of the blindness that we all have, blindness to our own strengths and talents and genius that allows us to take consistent hard action, to create amazing,

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  astonishing things, that we have strengths and talents and genius to get to our next level, but we don't always use it. I've been coaching people for 18 years and I can say that 99.9.9% of people I got to work with, they're pretty incredible and remarkable people who've already put a lot of effort into developing self. And I noticed that it's especially clear in those people that, hey, you already have everything you need to achieve anything you want and you already are using it in some domains, but not in

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  the others. And I find it fascinating to see that blindness and help people to see that as well. So then they empower themselves to take it to a whole other level. So one coaching question, you're going to learn how to apply it to yourself. So then you can have maybe easier time or just more consistency to take the hard action you need to take to build your next level and unlock more of your potential. By the way, guys, if you don't know that, I am Angela Shorina, I'm your host on this podcast. By the way, next week, we relaunching our guest series. You know, guest series is something that

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  requires a little bit more work, a little bit more planning, a little bit more back and forth. But they are the ones where I and hopefully you as well, learn the most. And we get to reflect on our own journey through listening to other people's journey. So they are so rewarding and bringing them back and figuring out a way to make it more consistent. So next week, stay tuned for that at the end of the week. This week, we are finishing with this episode of one coaching question. What else, guys? Don't forget to bring more people to this podcast. See if you've been a listener of this podcast for a while, bring someone on board as well. So we grow our tribe of superheroes and together

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  unlock more and more potential of humans everywhere we go, because the stuff that you learn here, you can use and then you can teach it. And then more people can get better at unlocking and using their potential. So please share it with people, rate, review, so we automatically are pushed to more people. Please do that. Maybe pause the podcast listening right now before we jump into the rest of it and then we'll continue. My name is Angela Shorina, I'm your host, a master health, sleep, stress management, recovery, high performance, self-actualization, and executive coach, and just someone who is obsessed with what we can do as humans, our potential, and how to develop evolving,

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  emergent, emerging sense back tools to develop and unlock more and more human potential in the world and in our lives. So now I'm back to the topic of our today's episode, which I wrote a blog about. You know, it's very helpful for me as a practice to first write about the concept, about the story, and then tell that in the form of a podcast here to you. So then I have more structure and I can lead you through a more beautiful journey of learning and self-transformation. Just a little bit more on my process. If you think, if you might be thinking about studying your own podcast, structure, you're

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  thinking first, that's how a lot of people I learn from do it as well. And then do the recording in a free flowing fashion. And that's kind of you get the mix of the best of both worlds, the spontaneity, your creative flow, and at the same time, structure that allows other people, in this case, you, my dear listeners, to get value in a way that you can then remember it, you can evoke it, and you can use it in your life. Structure is also very important. So a coaching question worth asking yourself every Sunday to do better on Monday. That is the name of my blog that is linked in the show notes today

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  as well. I'm on Substack, where I write every day. Yes, every day. It's been, I think, almost 900 days straight. What are you proud of this week? It's one of my favorite questions to ask my clients every week at every one of our sessions. It makes my clients, well, first of all, it makes my clients often smile, like, yeah, there were some things that I'm actually quite proud about. It makes them stop and look back at the moments when they could have done the easy thing, right? What is being proud is all about. It's doing something that you thought was hard, that you didn't want to do, that you

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  thought you couldn't do, and yet you did. These are the moments that give us the feeling of pride. So it makes my clients stop and think, reflect on the moments when they could have done the easy thing, saying yes to the dessert everyone else was having, snapping at someone who was legitimately rude, skipping the scheduled hard work, the workout, the meditation, because the day was already too hard and freaking overwhelming. And yet, they did the work. They chose the hard. They stuck with the choices that align with their

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  aspirational future self. And then what interests me the most as a coach, guys, is not the answer to that question, even though it's always interesting to learn about what makes my clients proud. It's not that. What interests me the most as a coach isn't the answer to that question, but it's the follow-up. And what allowed you to do that? How did you still do the hard thing when the situation was far from ideal? That's where I learn about my clients' superpowers, or a client's self-management, self-regulation, self-mastery skills. Because if you've done hard things in life before, and I guarantee you did,

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  you've accomplished anything that took real effort, you already have strategies that work, strategies that can be transferred to meet your next challenge, whatever that next challenge, next goal is. Yes, as a coach, I help you to develop and learn new ones. But before we do that, why not deploy intentionally? What's already working for you, right? What you don't have to reinvent or relearn? So what works for you when the hard thing is hard? Is it reflecting on why it matters, on who you are and who you'd let down perhaps?

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  Is it thinking about the future you want to create, the cause you're passionate about? Is it the pain of remembering what it feels like to stay the same month after month, waking up on a Sunday morning, feeling like you let your dream escape again? Is it someone who keeps you accountable, someone you don't want to lose face in front of? Is it a good system that makes the hard thing the only viable choice? Is it reminding yourself that change always feels hard, you'll never want to do anything, to do anything challenging? So you might as well get started when, while not feeling it? Is it the skill of shifting

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  your mood through music, movement, going for a walk, inspirational quotes, a dose of Alex Hormozi or Gagans? Notice it. And once you see it, you can use it again.

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  Today, guys,

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  I bumped into a friend at the gym. It's a really cool friend that we always have this like deep conversations with in five minutes that we bumped into each other in the gym. I did my legs today. He was doing yoga, about to do yoga. And we talked about what each of us does, just stay consistent despite moods, weather and setbacks. I shared something that's been on my mind a lot lately. As the friend asked for advice, actually, as he's still figuring it out, like what makes him do the hard thing consistently. So what I shared is I've noticed that no matter the mood, the setback or the weather, I can still do things.

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  You know, like your parents, perhaps they had nine to five jobs, mine did. And they went to work no matter how they felt. Like sometimes they were sick and they still went. Sometimes they did not have any energy and they still went. They were tired, exhausted and they still went, right? There is this capacity in the human, believe it or not, guys, to do the thing, whether you feel like doing the thing or not. If you're someone who works or worked nine to five for someone, you know that. Like, most of the people who managed to keep the job or deliver a project to a client, you know, sometimes you don't want to do things and you still do them. You have this capacity.

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  And I noticed that as I do things consistently, sooner rather than later, things move where I want them to. Weather, no weather, mood, no mood, economy, whatever. If I just keep doing things, things improve. So why not just keep taking action? Keep showing up for my workout, keep eating my healthy meals, keep doing the writing, keep doing the podcasting, keep reaching out to clients, most of who will say no. I think, why not just keep taking action? At the end of the week, at the end of the month, at the end of the year, the results will linger far longer than any freaking mood.

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  You know, when I look at myself in the mirror, I see my six pack abs and pretty remarkable physique. And I think to myself, you know, that physique was made predominantly on bad mood. And guess what? It still was done. And what makes me happy every morning is not the mood. I don't even remember when I had what kind of mood. But that mirror gives me pride. I know I showed up. Cold, rain, bad weather, not always having a perfect night of sleep, sometimes crying because the business was so hard, and I still freaking showed up and results, didn't care.

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  Right, so why not just keep taking action? At the end of the week, at the end of the months, at the end of the year, the results will linger far longer than any mood. And so will the pride. The pride of knowing that despite all the weather, you showed up. You backed the decision you made with action. You kept promises to yourself. Right? So, the most important coaching question, my favorite coaching question. What are you proud of this week? And, and what made it possible?

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  Guys, before you jump off, don't forget again to share this podcast episode, to rate review, or let help everyone, all people all around us to develop their potential to its fullest possible expression. So we all get to live in the most extraordinary, kind, brilliant world where AI will not destroy us, but will help us to create the wonders of humanity that nobody has ever seen before. Let's help each other be kind, be a little bit better, be a little bit more like adults we are proud of becoming. Thank you, guys, for listening. I thank you for tuning in.

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  Before you jump off or before you continue your day, sit there for a couple of minutes, maybe even five minutes, and ask yourself, what am I truly proud of this week? Even if it's one tiny thing. And ask yourself, what made it possible? How was I able to accomplish that? And, and, and how can I use it for my next challenge to do some great things I'm going to be proud of? Thank you, guys, for tuning in. Keep growing.