Build The 10-Year You: the most lasting approach to achieve all of your goals.

If you’ve been stuck in a loop of big goals followed by burnout, there’s a good chance the problem isn’t your ambition, it’s the system underneath it. I talk through a simple but confronting idea: your current habits, actions, and mindset are perfectly optimized to produce the results you have right now. Whether you want a healthier body, better sleep, less stress, stronger relationships, more meaningful work, or a deeper sense of purpose, the same personal transformation rule applies. If yo...

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  Hey guys and welcome back to another episode of Change Wired Podcast. My name is Angela Sharina, I'm your host, I'm your health executive, sleep stress management, self-actualization coach and just someone who's really passionate about and pumped about. You know, today on LinkedIn, I get a message from someone who got in touch with me about coaching. And he's like, "Well, you asked me about the project that I'm most excited about. I don't know about the word excited, if that applies to my personality, but you know, I'm working on some things that I really enjoy doing."

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  That just returned me back to the fact that not all of us have the same energy, but especially when it comes to expression and I don't know, making noises and laughing and smiling. But all of us do have this energy compass or this feeling compass. Then when you engage with certain activities, they either give you energy and bring something, I don't know, spark in you, however bright or maybe sometimes a little bit more subtle. But all of us have those activities that spark joy in us, more excitement and just good feeling, right?

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  And so part of having of figuring out how to live this beautiful life to its most joyful expression for you is learning how to tune into that feeling and noticing what gives you joy, what gives you energy, what makes your eyes sparkle? And what is the exact opposite? What drains your energy and makes you not want to engage with life and with your day? And the more of those activities that spark joy in you, you can bring into your life, the better everything else gets because life, guys, guess what?

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  Life is how it feels to you every day. And if you are engaged with a lot of activities and people and things that drain your energy all the time, guess what? Your life is going to be pretty miserable experience. And back to the idea of why I say I'm excited and I'm pumped about and obsessed with human potential. And that's why I'm doing this podcast and bringing you pieces of knowledge, of experience, of different research to help you to develop more of that potential, to nourish that potential. So you get to live the most beautiful life experience you can possibly have

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  and, and create more positive impact and beauty in the world all around you. That being said, let's, it is actually also very related to the topic of today's podcast, which is all about personal transformation and changing your life in whatever domains make sense or feels right to you right now, whether that's your career, your business, whether that's your relationships and community, whether that's your spirituality and purpose and feeling connected to something bigger than yourself, whether that's your professional growth,

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  whether that's your fitness, whether that's your health and wellbeing and learning how to take care of yourself properly. Whatever that area of transformation is, there are certain principles that work beautifully and universally across all domains. And one of those principles is your habits and systems, the ones that you have right now are perfectly, ideally optimized for exactly what you have right now. Let me give you a little bit of a context and how in practicality, this small piece of insight, how you can put it into practice

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  and how it's going to help you to get more of the goals that you want. And most importantly, to maintain them for life and build on them versus like a lot of people approach, I don't know, weight loss or certain the income generation goals or maybe relationship building goals. It's like up and down, up and down, up and down and running in circles and never really getting to the next level. So then you can build on top of that. So then you can actually see what your life can become, right? Ask yourself this question more often. What can my life become? What is possible for me out there? What's like my true potential? What is it?

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  Get curious about that, get excited about that and get building that next level. But before you get to the next level, you kind of need to really see clearly where you are right now. So a client at a session a couple of days ago told me he wants to lose 10 kilos, to feel his best, to look his best, to show up for his family, to play with his grandson for now and decades from now, to show up for the TV and other media projects that he wants to engage with, to leave a legacy that he's proud of, right? But one of the micro goals that will help him to manifest all of these other goals

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  in the most beautiful expression is losing those 10 kilos that also come with lower energy, the habits that don't serve him and a lot of other. You know, our weight is not just looks. For most of us, it's our health, our vitality, our energy, our fitness, how vibrant we show up for every single day of our life. It's not just vanity, it's health. And health is your fuel for life, it's your vehicle for life. So he wants to lose 10 kilos. And so I ask him, "Okay, so you want to lose 10 kilos in three months? Doable, but it's challenging, but doable. But let me ask you about a question.

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  What kind of person do you need to become to make that happen? What does this person do every day? How do they prioritize? What trade-offs do they make? What do they eat? How do they move? How do they sleep? And how is this person different from the person who got you here? The person you are today? Because the person you are today got you to those 10 kilos. The person you are today got you exactly where you are. Now, you might not realize it, but everything you have, the system of habits, actions and mindset you have right now is optimized for exactly what got you here, what you have right now, right?

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  So what, how's this person that needs to have your new habits to get you the goal? How's this person different from the one who is sitting in front of me? What's the gap? The uncomfortable truth again, guys, is the system of habits and actions and mindset that you have right now has got you exactly where you are, where certain goals or results just don't work for you. So what is going to be different about that person? You are really good right now at getting exactly what you've got right now, for better or worse. You're really good at getting what you have. So you want something different? What's going to change about you?

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  What's going to change about you? There is a beautiful infographic from Precision Nutrition called "The Cost of Getting Lean." You can Google it, Precision Nutrition, "The Cost of Getting Lean." It shows men and women at different body fat percentages alongside the habits it takes to live there in that body fat percentage, you know, from overweight to normal to athletic to really, really, really stage-ready lean. It shows men and women. And it's built on data from hundreds of thousands of people who went through Precision Nutrition Coaching, which has been around for decades and it's a global organization.

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  For example, want to see that about 15, 16% of body fat as a woman like I am, who has well-defined abs and all? Well, there are some trade-offs. Dessert, once every one, two weeks if you want it. Alcohol, I don't drink any alcohol, but only once in one or two weeks, within reason. Not all-you-can-eat, all-you-can-drink buffet. Forget about that if you want to be the kind of person who sits at 15% of body fat as a woman all year round. Protein at every meal, fibrous veggies at every meal, eight hours of sleep every night.

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  And not for three months. If you wanna get those results and keep them for life. This is the person who you need to be in order to live, to have this result. Do you see yourself becoming that person with this kind of habits? I see myself being exactly that person. I enjoy it to the last cell in my body and mind. And that's why this result never felt like a struggle. Well, it was challenging when I had this mentality that I needed to be on a diet. And then, once the goal is reached, I can be whatever I want. And once I realized, no, actually, you need to change the person that you are and your habits for life, if you wanna keep that result for life.

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  Once I got into that mindset, the rest was a lot easier and simpler. Not long ago, I celebrated 10 years and 1,700 episodes of podcasting of this exact podcast. And I changed named over the years. And well, I'm gonna tell you a little bit more what else happened. But 10 years, 1,700 episodes. And somebody asked me, hey, what did it take? Like, you must have been pretty committed. You have been doing that for 10 years. And the truth is, I don't know if you call it commitment even. I didn't set any goals. I simply asked myself, who do I want to be in 10 years?

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  Like, the kind of person? What vision do I want to create with my life? What impact in 10 years? Decade and beyond kind of goal or vision? And what skills would that person have developed? And, and what can I start doing today? What habits do I need to build? What practices to slowly but surely arrive there to that person? So I started podcasting. I, at the time, I was a fan of a field of podcasting, which just has started to emerge.

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  And I got into Tim Ferriss and all of the people who did podcasting. So that was 10 years ago. And I'm still going. That's why you're still listening to this podcast. And I haven't won any major podcast awards. That was never the point. But I did become the person who can act on priorities and values, even when it's inconvenient, can talk to anyone and lead a pretty damn good conversation, even when you have little in common, different countries, cultures, background. Sometimes we barely speak in the same language. And a person who can express insights in a structured way that benefits others.

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  Hopefully, what do you think? The person who can manage herself and her productivity and can be relied on with her energy and output for weeks, months and years. Through pandemic, more than 10 countries, I lived in renting rooms, having noise and roommates and distractions. Sometimes having drunken parties that ended up me wanting to leave my house, not having internet, being in a lockdown. I even recorded a couple of podcasts at some airports while being stuck there. A person who can manage her schedule and environment to make the right things happen despite all odds.

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  If a client of mine asked me yesterday, we were, ended up in different Zoom rooms. And he thought, maybe I forgot about our session. And I told him, you know, me? Like, if you knew what I went through, me forgetting things, not the case. I have system upon system over system. I don't trust my brain, but I trust my systems, which I have backups for. So I know how to get things done despite all odds. And plus, I'm from Siberia. The podcast was never the goal, guys. It was the gym where I built the person. Right?

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  It's where I built myself, the person that I'm started to get really proud of. So what to you? Now, the question of, the main question of today's podcast. But before we jump into this question, how you can apply it in your life, to get to any goal and keep it with not going up and down, up and down, and running in circles. But don't forget to share this podcast episode, guys. It means a ton to me. And by sharing this type of information and content, we create better world together. And we need each other to create our visions, our mission in the world all around us. Right?

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  So if you are getting value from this podcast, please do share with at least one other person or rate review, whatever is the most convenient action. And back to the most important part of today's podcast. By the way, did you know, guys, that there is a link to my WhatsApp in the show notes? You can always drop me a note. It means a lot to a podcaster who doesn't usually see a lot of their listeners. So drop me a note, the link to my WhatsApp is in the show notes. The question of today's podcast, who is the person you want to be in 10 years from now? Who is that person who has every single goal, every single piece of vision of your extraordinary

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  life that you want? Who is that person who has everything you want? And, and what's one practice you could start today that would build her or him? That would build that person? Again, to the question, who is that person who has all the goals that you wanna have in a decade? Bill Gates have this beautiful saying, we underestimate what we can achieve in a decade and we overestimate what we achieve in a year. If more people, and I'm 100% convinced in it, set 10-year goals and ask themselves

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  every day, what I need to do today to get closer towards that? Not like to get it now. It also, by the way, will develop your patience, which is one of the key things that most of us struggle with. We want it now, we want it tomorrow. What if you gave it a decade? What could be possible? Right? Who is that person who has all, everything you want in 10 years and beyond? Who is this person? And what's just one practice? One practice you could start doing today?

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  You could commit to today to make it happen regularly, consistently, despite all odds, on a regular basis? What's that one practice you could start today that would build that person who has everything you ever wanted? Drop me a WhatsApp with the answer. That would be the coolest thing ever that happened, happens in my day. That would really put a huge smile on my face. Drop me an answer to this question. What is that person that has all of your goals in 10 years? And what one practice?

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  Drop me a WhatsApp with one practice you could start doing today to build that person? Thank you, guys, for listening. And thank you for tuning in. I hope you're enjoying and getting a lot, lot of value from this podcast. And till next time, just do that. Think about that person in 10 years and about this practice, one practice that you could start today to build, to grow that person. Talk to you soon. Keep growing.