✅Get anything you want done: Barrier, Beacon, Backup.

You can want something for a decade and still not do it, and that does not mean you are broken. It usually means your plan is built on hope NOT systems: more motivation, more willpower, more discipline. I share a simple 3-part behavioral science system that finally flips the script, so the actions you keep avoiding become easier to start and easier to repeat. The framework is Barrier, Beacon, Backup, inspired by Nir Eyal and sharpened through my 18 years of coaching. I walk you through the e...

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  Hey guys, good morning, good afternoon, good evening and welcome back to another episode of Change Wired Podcast. My name is Angela Sharina, I'm your host, I'm your partner in personal and collective transformation, you're a master house, sleep, stress management, recovery, body transformation, self-actualization and nutrition coach, yes, all of it, and I'm certified and experienced to help you guide through all the different modalities to ultimately unlock your best. Today, I decided to start our podcast episode with reading my podcast

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  description on Apple Podcasts, just to remind ourselves why we are here. So, reading from Apple Podcasts directory, "If you are the kind of person who wants to explore the edges of your potential while living your most extraordinary life, feeling, looking, doing your absolute best, driven by the impact beyond yourself, you'll love this pod. Change Wired is your new favorite podcast for practical, science-based insights into personal growth and change of behavior, navigating health, career, life and business transitions, driving, diving into tools and strategies for meaningful productivity, stress-free productivity,

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  mindset mastery, emotional regulation, stress management, sleep optimization and creating high-performing habits to feel, look, think and do your absolute best." So this is what this podcast is all about. If you're up for this journey, then you are in the right place. Today, guys, I don't know when you're listening to this podcast, but for me, it is Monday morning, the day of getting anything done, so starting to get everything done. And today, I'm sharing with you a three-part system, three-step system that will help you to get done things that you haven't been able to get done consistently,

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  maybe for the past decade, to make the breakthrough that you want to make in your life, in your business, in your health, in your relationships. So this three-step system is, I was reminded by, and the beautiful words that summarize this system, barrier, beacon, backup, I got it from Nir Eyal, who wrote The Power of Belief. I think the other book is Undestructible, it's all about how to not get distracted and sprinkle your focus all over, so the important things don't get done. So, an amazing writer, researcher, journalist, and he wrote a beautiful

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  article on LinkedIn about, he actually mentioned four steps, but the four-step is not so much about getting things done, but about giving yourself the right timeframe for actually having the time to get things done in our unpredictable life. But back to today's episode, today again, you're gonna learn the system to get anything done that you haven't been able to get done before, a system that Nir Eyal, with hundreds of thousands of followers all over the world, wrote about, a system that is backed and based on really, really,

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  really good research of behavioral science, the science that is dedicated to changing human behavior and closing the intention-action gap, the same system that I've used in 18 years of my coaching, keeping my clients accountable, and most importantly, helping them to learn how to keep themselves accountable. So when the coaching is done, they can use the system for decades of their life moving forward. And I also used it this morning at 4:30 AM, so I start outreach that I wanted to start to make progress on my 60-day sales

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  marathon challenge, when I'm doing three hours of outreach, starting first about in the morning to breakthrough, to get breakthrough results in my business that I haven't been able to achieve before. And so, 4:30 AM, it happened, I did 30 minutes of my outreach, tomorrow, I'm gonna extend it. The purpose, or the aspiration, the goal is to get consistent with doing one hour of outreach every morning before anything else. And so, today, it happened, and I didn't hope for it to happen, I didn't try to motivate myself more, I didn't try

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  to discipline myself into it, or become a different kind of person, who's finally able to do what I've never been able to get done. Instead, I asked myself a set of better questions, and it started with the one that's probably the most important. Why do you want to wake up at 4:30 AM and do this outreach, right? What do I want to achieve in those 60 days in December 2026? So, I get into 2027, ready to get to the really next level in my business, in my impact, in my leadership. So what do I want to achieve in those 60 days? Why do I want to wake up at that time, right? Why is very important? It's like, what's in it

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  for me? If your brain doesn't know the answer, you'll be sabotaging yourself all over again. So what's the importance? What do you want from this behavior that you want to start and get done? And then, the next very important step, you can't skip this, what will I do differently? The emphasis is on the word differently this time. So things simply shift in the right direction, because if you do what you've always done, you've get what you've always gotten. It's the insanity principle, right? Trying to get a new thing by doing the same thing, just doesn't happen. So what are you gonna do differently? That's what

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  I asked myself. And the morning outreach was one of those things that I'm gonna be doing differently. Then comes the most important question, the one most of you guys will skip, and I know that because as I coached people for 18 years, I've watched this happen over and over again, again, even the highest performers in certain domains, they fail to see that they lack this thing that they have for the area where they excel. And I've skipped it more times than I can count myself. So the question is, how can I back myself with a system? Not my willpower, not more motivation, not more discipline, how can

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  I back myself with a system? So doing becomes as natural as breathing. Again, Nir Eyal recently shared a simple system that I read about on LinkedIn, that's totally worth stealing, and again, it's also backed by research in behavioral science and many, many years of coaching that I've done, and I tried it on myself, like today at 4:30 AM, I was reaching out to everyone who was on my list, and I'm gonna tell you about the list just in a moment. But before I jump into the system, into this three-step beautiful system that will help you allow to, that will help you to get anything you want done, is specifically the things

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  that you haven't been able to get done consistently for the past, I don't know, months, half a year, a whole year, a whole decade. So this system will work. Before we jump into that, don't forget, guys, to subscribe, to review, rate this podcast on whatever platform you find it on, so then, we can reach more people and help each other get important things done, so we get moving our lives and the world forward. So, step number one, barrier. What can you put in place so that old behavior has no chance to happen, and the new one

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  happens instead? To do outreach before my morning workout, I needed to wake up 30 minutes early. To wake up 30 minutes earlier, I needed to go to bed, start going to bed 30 minutes earlier. To get to bed earlier, I needed to set up my 8:00 PM alarm to finish work and start preparing for sleep, so I give myself a very chance of actually executing the thing that I said I would do. And for that alarm to mean anything, I needed to schedule everything that I needed to finish before that, so then, that alarm can actually work. One new behavior, you see, guys, one new behavior that you want to do, it's never

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  one behavior. Like, you want to start eating healthier, you want to start exercising, you want to start doing something new in your business, it's never one behavior, it's all the behaviors that need to happen before that, it's all of the systems that you skip, and that's why the behavior doesn't happen. And when you arrive already busy or distracted or overwhelmed, you're like, there is no chance I'm doing that. And that's because you skip all of the other behaviors that need to happen, or all the systems that need to be in place for that behavior that you want to actually do to happen. So my 4:30 AM win started at 8 o'clock and planning the night before, and reading the day before

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  a news post, and decided to put it into practice. My second barrier was phone rules. I know that if I open my phone, I get sucked into all kinds of messages, and messages from important people, my clients, or my family, or whoever that is. It's not like those are just scrolling social media, although that also can happen. So my second rule was setting, keeping my phone on the airplane mode that I put it into before going to bed. So that was my second barrier, to protect myself from myself, from getting into my phone and doing all the other stuff instead of what I actually planned to do. And even stronger barrier, bring another

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  human into the loop, a partner, a friend, a roommate, a call from your coach, get accountability, and you'll get it done every time. That is the strongest one. If you can make it, make it happen. So this is the first step in this three-step system, which will allow you to get anything done that you have failed before for months, years and decades sometimes. So step number one, barrier.

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  What can you put in place so the old behavior has no chance, like really no chance to happen, barrier on the barrier or over the barrier? Step number two, by the way, you can use the steps in any way, in any sequence that you want. Step number two, beacon. How will you remind yourself to do the right thing? How can you make it unignorable, unforgettable? So you can't unskippable? So you just have no chance of it slipping your mind? And you might know mind, just like my mind, just like anyone's mind is forgetful, get overwhelmed, has very limited capacity of remembering things.

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  So how can you not forget? Set yourself up for not forgetting ever. My example, my alarm is set the night before. My goal hangs above my desk now with a note about morning outreach and why it's important, the sixty day marathon, the amount of money amount I wanna make, the amount of clients I wanna sign up. My to do list sits on top of my laptop. So it's the first thing I see and I know exactly what to do with that outreach, eliminating decisions. Think of it as a lighthouse, guiding lost ships to shore. So set your own guiding light, one that breaks through your day, through into your day, even on the foggiest morning, the funkiest morning,

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  when you maybe didn't have the best perfect sleep, but you still, you look at your laptop and there is a list with things to get done. You don't have to make any decisions. You just gotta sit down and get it done. So that how stream light or how natural it should be. So even if you remember nothing, when you wake up, it still gets done. You still have your beacon and you're like, yeah, this is exactly what I need to get done. And this is how I'm doing it and I'm doing it. So number two, beacon. What's gonna, what's gonna make it unforgettable for you? Step number three, backup. What if your plan doesn't work? What will you do then?

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  Guys, if you are in midlife, if you've made it this far, you've learned one lesson. Shit often doesn't go as planned. Shit often doesn't go as planned more often than it does.

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  You plan, life unfolds in its own ways. That's not a reason to get frustrated with life or yourself. It's a sign to readjust and run plan B and C or D or E. Pick whichever one is closer, most doable and still aligned with what you're reaching for. If I miss my morning routine of the outreach,

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  I won't ask like, what's wrong with me or what's wrong with my life? I'll ask, why did my plan fail? How can I make a better, more realistic plan, one with a real chance of succeeding? And what will I do the next time something interrupts me? If my morning outreach doesn't happen, I move it into the next first window I have available in my day. And then I plan better around what got in the way in the first place. I plan better for the next time. And I set up the systems and beacons and barriers. So far, it's Monday, guys. It's Monday morning and it's a little bit after nine AM.

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  And I did my outreach, I did my workout, did my writing, I shared it the right way. And now I'm recording this podcast. So it's Monday and it's, it's working. And this isn't because I suddenly became a new person. I know myself better than anyone. My imperfections, my excuses, the exact places where I fall and self sabotage. My best efforts, I know myself.

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  So I backed myself. I built systems that helped me succeed as I am, not as some perfect imaginary version of me.

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  Guys, what's the one thing you'll go after this week? And by the way, don't forget to rate, review this podcast episode. If you're liking it, we're also gonna do the recap really shortly and briefly in a couple of minutes. But yeah, rate, review or share with that person that you love, admire, cherish, care for, who might be struggling with breaking through and getting things done differently, right? So share. But what's the question of the day? What's the one thing you'll go after this week? And, and, and which barrier, beacon and backup will you put in place today? So doing it flows like breathing.

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  And guys,

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  breathe. Psychological side, four eight, four seven eight. Breathing helps you to switch to parasympathetic nervous system, re-arrest and digest, and be more creative, focused and clear about, about the things that you gotta get done. And to get them done, don't forget to ask, what is my barrier to make the thing that I wanna

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  do the only possible outcome of my morning, afternoon or my day, right? Barrier, what's gonna block the old behavior that I usually end up doing instead of what I actually wanna end up doing, right? So what's the barrier? What's the beacon? How can I create this guiding light that makes the behavior unfreaking forgettable? And what's the backup? Shit doesn't go according to your plan more often than it does. So what's your backup? What's your backup? Because you'll need that backup. So your barrier, your beacon, your backup. What will we put in place today? So doing the thing that you wanna start doing and get it done flows like breathing today and every day.

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  Thank you, guys, for listening. I thank you for tuning in. I hope you found this podcast episode extremely useful and putting it into place right now. And have an awesome, awesome week. Until next time, keep learning, keep growing.