193: You Are Entitled to Nothing

Nick Saban’s “Importance of Nothing” speech got me thinking about entitlement—what we believe we’re owed and how that mindset shapes the way we work, respond, and live. In this episode, I break down why hard work doesn’t guarantee success, why process matters more than outcomes, how to remove the habits and interferences holding you back, and a simple three-part entitlement detox: audit, shift, respond. CHAPTERS 00:00 Go One More Method 01:56 Nick Saban's “Importance of Nothing” 04:12 You Are Entitled to Nothing 06:49 The Pain of Discipline vs. Disappointment 08:33 Hard Work Does Not Guarantee Success 11:00 When Nobody Bought From BPN 13:13 The Just-World Trap 14:42 Intentions vs. Outputs 17:37 Process Over Outcomes 20:44 Win the Next Play 24:20 Stop Adding. Start Subtracting. 27:07 Your Words Become Your Rudder 30:03 Why People Fear Success 34:17 Internal vs. External Locus of Control 36:35 The Entitlement Detox: Audit, Shift, Respond 41:16 Courage Requires Uncertainty JOIN THE APP AND GET READY FOR UPDATES ⁠https://www.nickbarefitness.app/⁠ https://www.nickbarefitness.app/ ORDER MY BOOK HERE: ⁠⁠https://www.amazon.com/Go-One-More-Intentional-Life-Changing/dp/1637746210⁠ https://www.amazon.com/Go-One-More-Intentional-Life-Changing/dp/1637746210 FOLLOW: Become a BPN member FOR FREE - Unlock 25% off FOR LIFE ⁠ ⁠https://www.bareperformancenutrition.com/collections/performance-nutrition⁠ https://www.bareperformancenutrition.com/collections/performance-nutrition IG:⁠ ⁠instagram.com/nickbarefitness/⁠⁠ instagram.com/nickbarefitness/ YT: ⁠⁠youtube.com/@nickbarefitness⁠ youtube.com/@nickbarefitness This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal [health or profession] advice. Bare Performance Nutrition (BPN) is not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice. This podcast may not be republished without the written consent of Bare Performance Nutrition (BPN)

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• 0:00Nick Bare?

  Before we dive into today's episode, I want to talk to you about my training app, which is called the Go One More Method. Now, I recently relaunched this training app and we have thousands of people in the app already that are highly engaged, following the workouts, training programs, and making great progress. There are a few different ways to approach this training app. I have multiple different programs within the app, hybrid athlete training programs, high rocks prep, the strong athlete, there's marathon, half marathon training programs in the app. But what I recommend getting started with is G1M Daily.

• 0:40Nick Bare?

  Now, G1M Daily is a training program that is updated and released every Sunday. So every Sunday, you get a new week of workouts that combines strength, hypertrophy or bodybuilding, endurance, running, and high intensity interval training. It is six workouts per week, one workout per day. It is sustainable and you will make progress within your fitness and your health journey. So if you want to get started, go to nickbearfitness.app. There is a free trial, a one a week free trial after you get signed up.

• 1:21Nick Bare?

  And then after that, it is either $14.99 per month or $99 per year. And my goal with this training app experience for you is to over deliver value, resources, and education. So sign up today, get started, log in, join G1M Daily, get involved in the community, and make progress within your health, performance, and fitness goals. Today's episode is inspired by a Nick Saban quote I came across a few days ago.

• 2:06Nick Bare?

  Maybe not quote, but a speech. Now, if you're unfamiliar with Nick Saban, he is a famous notorious college football coach. And while he delivered the speech that I'm about to share with you, he has led teams to multiple championships. He is an aspirational leader, mentor, coach. And when he delivered the speech, he was at the University of Alabama Crimson Tide. It was 2023 after practice, leading into an upcoming game against Arkansas.

• 2:50Nick Bare?

  And he had a media interview and he delivered this speech, which I believe is so powerful. And the title is "The Importance of Nothing." And it goes, y'all ready for a lecture? We talk about the importance of nothing. You get up every day. You are entitled to nothing. Nobody owes you nothing. You could have talent, but if you don't have discipline and you don't execute, you don't focus, you get nothing. If you're complacent and not paying attention to detail, what does that get you? Nothing.

• 3:35Nick Bare?

  So nothing is acceptable, but your best. Everything is determined by what you do and you trying to be your best. So you can build on positive performance. That's the only thing. There should be nothing else but that for everybody. That's what we have to stay focused on. That's what we need to do. We need to not accept anything but our best in terms of what we're preparing to do. The importance of nothing. As I heard that speech, it really resonated with me.

• 4:17Nick Bare?

  Because the importance of nothing is all about entitlement. We are entitled to nothing, grateful for everything we have, but entitled to nothing. I believe we have been uniquely and individually gifted with a set of talents, each one of us. No talent's better than the other. And I share that with you from a Christian lens, a faith-based lens. For myself, someone who believes in God and a follower of Jesus Christ, I believe that

• 5:00Nick Bare?

  God has gifted each one of us with a set of unique talents, skills, abilities. And it is our responsibility to put forth the effort, the work, and the processes to put those talents into action, to see what those talents have the potential to become. We have been given the ability. We haven't been given the action. We have to make the decision.

• 5:40Nick Bare?

  We have the free will to take action on the talents we have been given. We can either put our talents to work or allow them to waste. I've heard someone say once before, and I can't remember where I heard it. They said that the fear they have in life is that someday they die and they are met by this individual. And that individual is who they could have become. And they meet this person who has accomplished more, who was a better friend, who was a

• 6:25Nick Bare?

  better husband, who was a better father, who built these things, who put their talents to work, the talents they had been gifted. And when they die, they meet the person they could have been, the person they could have become, but they didn't because they allowed their talents to go to waste. Nick Saban says, "There are two pains in life. There is the pain of discipline and the pain of disappointment. If you can handle the pain of discipline, then you'll never have to deal with the pain of disappointment." Let that sit in for a second.

• 7:08Nick Bare?

  Life's hard regardless. We are not guaranteed an easy life and I can promise you, no matter what you do, you will not have an easy life. We're going to go through challenge, we're going to go through turmoil, hardship, death, disease, destruction, all of those things. We're going to experience that at some point in our life, probably not just once, but multiple times.

• 7:46Nick Bare?

  So we get to make the decision, what hard do we want to embrace and invite? What pain do we want to accept? The pain of discipline, where we put in the work? Or the pain of disappointment, where we let it all go to waste? But we've all been uniquely and individually gifted with a set of talents. It is our responsibility though, to take action on those talents. The importance of nothing, we are entitled to nothing.

• 8:33Nick Bare?

  Alex Hermosy. If you're not familiar with Alex Hermosy, he is an entrepreneur, a very successful entrepreneur. He's very well spoken.

• 8:45Nick Bare?

  I listen to his podcast and his interviews.

• 8:49Nick Bare?

  And I always take away a lot of really solid inspiration, advice.

• 8:57Nick Bare?

  And when he speaks, he's very intentional and deliberate with what he says.

• 9:03Nick Bare?

  To quote Alex Hermosy.

• 9:07Nick Bare?

  Hard work is a requirement for success, but not a guarantee of it.

• 9:14Nick Bare?

  People who achieve all worked hard. But not all who work hard achieve. You have to get better. You see what separates the best from everyone else? Is their commitment to continuous learning? And treating progress as a permanent lifelong loop rather than a finite destination?

• 9:43Nick Bare?

  Effort does not guarantee success, and it never will. That's the harsh reality that we have to accept.

• 9:53Nick Bare?

  Just because

• 9:56Nick Bare?

  you commit to the thing and you put in the work and you show up day in and day out, day in and day out, and you work your butt off and you're exhausted.

• 10:08Nick Bare?

  And then at the end of it, if you have nothing to show for, it didn't work, you didn't win, you didn't succeed, you didn't achieve or accomplish the thing that you set out to do and earn. If it didn't work out,

• 10:23Nick Bare?

  that's just part of the process. That's, that's part of life.

• 10:29Nick Bare?

  It's hard to accept for a lot of people, but effort, hard work, does not equate to success. It increases and improves your probability of success 100%, but it doesn't guarantee it. We have to accept that

• 10:49Nick Bare?

  as we pursue anything.

• 10:53Nick Bare?

  An example for me, early learnings.

• 10:57Nick Bare?

  Entitled to nothing, grateful for everything. When I launched my business, when I started BPN in 2012.

• 11:07Nick Bare?

  And I took out a loan and I purchased the inventory and I built a website. And I designed T-shirts with a friend. I dieted down and lost 25 pounds to do a photo shoot to promote the, the launch of our supplements, our products.

• 11:28Nick Bare?

  I put in all the work for weeks and months leading up to the day where I made the website live, pressed go.

• 11:38Nick Bare?

  And when that moment came and we went live.

• 11:46Nick Bare?

  Product was on the website, available for purchase. You know how many people showed up and bought things? No one.

• 11:55Nick Bare?

  Not one person.

• 11:58Nick Bare?

  And that, that was a that was a moment of truth for me.

• 12:05Nick Bare?

  Where I realized and I was humbled. Oh, just because you put in the work.

• 12:12Nick Bare?

  Just because you make the decision to build something, to start something, to pursue a mission, doesn't mean it's going to work out. Nothing is guaranteed.

• 12:28Nick Bare?

  Entrepreneurship, building a business over these last 14 plus years at this point. I've been humbled every single year, multiple times a year.

• 12:43Nick Bare?

  It's the harsh reality. There have been moments of truth. They have proved to me that no matter how hard I work. No matter how much effort and intention I have.

• 12:58Nick Bare?

  Success is not guaranteed. Like I said, it improves and increases your chances and probability of success, absolutely. But it's not guaranteed.

• 13:13Nick Bare?

  There's this theory.

• 13:16Nick Bare?

  Which I believe is it's a death trap. It's called the just world theory. And it refers to our belief that the world is fair.

• 13:28Nick Bare?

  And consequently, that the moral standings of our actions will determine our outcomes. This viewpoint causes us to believe that those who do good will be rewarded and those who exhibit dishonest behaviors will be punished. The just world theory.

• 13:48Nick Bare?

  It is built off this foundation that if you are, if you're a good person.

• 13:54Nick Bare?

  The world will take care of you. If you're a bad person, karma will take care of you.

• 14:02Nick Bare?

  If you're dishonest, if you're mean, you're angry, you're greedy, you're violent. That your life, your success.

• 14:14Nick Bare?

  It will fall apart. It will self-destruct. And if you're nice, you're kind, you hold doors for people.

• 14:25Nick Bare?

  You are well mannered and intentioned, that the, the world will reward you and it just doesn't work that way. The just world theory is wrong.

• 14:42Nick Bare?

  Something else that Hermosy talks about. Is that we as people, and this plays off of the just world theory, that we as people want to be rewarded for our intentions and not our outputs.

• 15:00Nick Bare?

  This is

• 15:03Nick Bare?

  a behavior. A perspective of entitlement.

• 15:09Nick Bare?

  If we have good intentions, that we should be rewarded, we should achieve, we should get the thing.

• 15:18Nick Bare?

  Well, I meant well. I meant well, so I should

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  win. I should accomplish. I should achieve the thing.

• 15:28Nick Bare?

  There's a difference between intentions, as Hermosy talks about, and outputs.

• 15:37Nick Bare?

  I heard him breaking this down on an interview with Chris Williamson. Chris Williamson hosts the Modern Wisdom Podcast. It was one of his most recent interviews with Hermosy, and I've listened to this episode twice so far, because it was, it was really good.

• 15:55Nick Bare?

  And Alex talks about

• 15:58Nick Bare?

  fostering and building relationships with people, especially in business. And evaluating those relationships.

• 16:07Nick Bare?

  Based off of outputs as opposed to intentions.

• 16:13Nick Bare?

  Now, someone can mean well, someone can have honest intentions. But the outputs

• 16:21Nick Bare?

  are the determining factor of what they end up doing with the work.

• 16:31Nick Bare?

  We are evaluated on our outputs, what we produce. Not our intentions.

• 16:40Nick Bare?

  One of the examples they used in the episode that I was listening to

• 16:44Nick Bare?

  was

• 16:47Nick Bare?

  someone who is driving irresponsibly. And they're on their cellphone, driving, and they end up hitting somebody and killing them.

• 17:00Nick Bare?

  If we were to evaluate and judge that person based off their intentions, they didn't mean to hit someone and kill them. They were just looking down at their phone for a second to respond to a text message. They were well intentioned. During that drive they were on, maybe heading home from work. But what ended up happening, the output, is how we have to judge and evaluate their actions. We are evaluated based off of our outputs, what happens, not our intentions.

• 17:37Nick Bare?

  As I've been listening to more of Nick Saban's content lately,

• 17:43Nick Bare?

  I find that there's a lot of similarities between Nick Saban's, what he calls "The Process."

• 17:51Nick Bare?

  The Process is a framework, a leadership framework he has created and coined,

• 17:59Nick Bare?

  and learned based off building championship teams and excellent players.

• 18:07Nick Bare?

  There's a similarity between Nick Saban's Process and James Clear, who I've recently talked about. James Clear, he's an author, the author of Atomic Habits, which both books you should read, Atomic Habits and The Process. But they're similar, where they both don't focus on long-term goals. They focus on the day-to-day systems, routines, habits, processes that we put in place that get us to where we want to go.

• 18:42Nick Bare?

  James Clear says, "A goal-first mentality continually delays joy." A goal-first mentality, this might flip what a lot of you guys focus on, on its head.

• 18:59Nick Bare?

  We're told and we're preached

• 19:04Nick Bare?

  over and over and over again, "Set goals, set goals, set goals." Set these big, hairy, audacious goals, BHAGs. "Goals are important, but a goal-first mentality continually delays joy," as Clear says. "It operates on the assumption that once I reach my goal, then I'll be happy. So we rush the finish line in hope of achieving happiness. But the daily process and habits should be the focus. Joy should be found in the practice, not just the result."

• 19:41Nick Bare?

  If we have a goal-first mentality,

• 19:45Nick Bare?

  we assume that just by putting in the work, we will get to that goal.

• 19:54Nick Bare?

  It is an entitlement.

• 19:58Nick Bare?

  Clear says that goals are good for setting the direction, but systems are best for making progress.

• 20:06Nick Bare?

  Goals are about the results you want to achieve. Systems are about the processes that lead to those results.

• 20:17Nick Bare?

  Both James Clear and Nick Saban,

• 20:23Nick Bare?

  both amazing in what they do. Two different areas and focuses of work. James Clear, entrepreneur, speaker, author, highly influential. Nick Saban, coach, highly influential.

• 20:44Nick Bare?

  They're trying to inspire in different ways, but also

• 20:49Nick Bare?

  similar at the same time.

• 20:54Nick Bare?

  Saban talks about how he doesn't focus on winning the game. He doesn't focus on championships. He focuses on the individual play, and that's it. Win the play, and then win the next play, and then win the next play, and before you know it, you win the game. And you do that over and over and over again, and you win enough games, you win a championship.

• 21:25Nick Bare?

  Clear says the same thing.

• 21:28Nick Bare?

  Don't just focus on the goal. Focus on the daily habits, systems, and routines that get you towards that goal.

• 21:37Nick Bare?

  You might be hearing and listening to this, thinking, "It's the same thing." Like, "What are we talking about?" It's not the same thing. It's not. When we break it down to these microscopic actions of execution, from play to play, from system and habit to routine on a daily basis, over and over and over again, and being rigidly consistent with that, that gets you to where you want to be.

• 22:08Nick Bare?

  One of the things I heard Saban talking about

• 22:12Nick Bare?

  was how

• 22:16Nick Bare?

  whether you win or lose, you succeed or fail, you wake up that next morning, alarm clock goes off, same time as it normally does, and you get back to work.

• 22:30Nick Bare?

  He talked about

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  winning championships.

• 22:37Nick Bare?

  And you win the championship, they hand you a trophy. You look at that trophy, you admire it, you hand it back, and you get back to work to win another championship. You get back to the process.

• 22:55Nick Bare?

  The most successful people,

• 22:59Nick Bare?

  they are continuously successful. They don't just win once, they win over and over and over again. You can look at entrepreneurs, you can look at world leaders, you can look at athletes. The reason these people keep winning is not luck, it's not by chance. It's because they have a system and a process that shows up every single day. They know that their inputs will determine the outputs, and the outputs aren't guaranteed.

• 23:31Nick Bare?

  They are not guaranteed any type of success. Just because you win once, doesn't mean you are guaranteed another win, another achievement. You have to work just as hard, if not harder, to achieve the second win, another championship, another big business transaction and sale.

• 23:53Nick Bare?

  Look at the most highly successful people. They've built multiple businesses. They've played on multiple different teams and won multiple different championships. Their success is not by chance, because they've accepted the responsibility that they aren't entitled to anything. Their inputs determine the outputs.

• 24:20Nick Bare?

  Why are you not where you want to be? Why are we not where we want to be? We often think it's because of what we are not doing. "What do I have to add to my life

• 24:37Nick Bare?

  that's going to help me get to where I want to be? What am I not doing that's holding me back?"

• 24:43Nick Bare?

  But I believe the reality is, it's likely not what we are not doing, but it's because of what we are doing that's holding us back from getting to where we want to be. We want to say

• 24:59Nick Bare?

  we want to achieve X, or we want to be this type of person that does this type of thing.

• 25:08Nick Bare?

  And you sit there and you audit your life, it's like, "What do I have to do? What do I have to add to get there?" And I don't think it's an equation of addition, it's an equation of subtraction. What do we have to stop doing? What do we have to take away that's going to allow me to get to where I want to be, to achieve the things I say I want to achieve?

• 25:30Nick Bare?

  There's an equation that I've recently heard that I love. It's that performance,

• 25:36Nick Bare?

  and you can exchange performance as achievement or outputs equals potential minus interferences.

• 25:49Nick Bare?

  What are the interferences that we have in our life? The addictions, the vices, the bad habits that are holding us back? Those are the things that we have to identify, "This is what I'm doing that I have to remove, subtract to get to where I want to be." We all have interferences, everyone. We all have vices.

• 26:15Nick Bare?

  It might be a routine and a habit you're doing on a daily basis that isn't inherently bad, but it's not serving you any longer. But you keep doing it because you've been doing it for so long

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  that it's like second nature. But if that routine and habit isn't serving you anymore,

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  it might have diminishing returns that you have to stop doing and eliminate.

• 26:43Nick Bare?

  An interference might be an addiction that you have to food,

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  to alcohol, to smoking, to video games.

• 26:56Nick Bare?

  And what is that thing, what is that interference that is holding your potential back from performing, from achieving?

• 27:07Nick Bare?

  Steph recently was gifted this book. I haven't read through the entire thing yet, but I've skimmed it. And she speaks very highly of it.

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  It's called Change Your Words, Change Your Life by Dustin Barker.

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  And the front of the book has a piece of scripture on it. Proverbs, Chapter 18, Verse 21.

• 27:32Nick Bare?

  "The power of life and death is in the tongue."

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  And it reminds me of something Chad Wright once told me. He said, "Your tongue is your rudder."

• 27:48Nick Bare?

  "The power of life and death is in the tongue, and your tongue is your rudder."

• 27:57Nick Bare?

  "Change Your Words, Change Your Life," says, "Many of the problems we face in life are caused by the words that come out of our own mouth. Our words are the steering wheel of life that contain the power of life and death."

• 28:15Nick Bare?

  What's potentially holding you back from achieving the things you say you want to achieve are your words.

• 28:25Nick Bare?

  When you say things internally, or you speak them into existence, your tongue is your rudder. The things that we say about our ability, the things we say about our environment, the things we say about our family, the things we say about our work, the things that we say about ourselves are the rudder. They guide. They are the steering wheel of our life.

• 28:49Nick Bare?

  If we tell ourselves we can't, we won't, we shouldn't, we never could,

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  that will steer our life in that direction.

• 29:01Nick Bare?

  We have to limit negative self-talk. Self-talk limits self-belief.

• 29:12Nick Bare?

  I hear so many people, and I do it myself sometimes,

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  speak words into existence that shape our environment, they shape our ability. They shape our perspective of ourselves and what we can do. But it also shapes the perspective of other people about what we think, what we believe,

• 29:35Nick Bare?

  about ourselves, our ability, our lives as a whole.

• 29:44Nick Bare?

  I think a lot of people fear failure. But at the same time, they fear success and achievement.

• 29:56Nick Bare?

  This goes back to entitlement.

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  The fear of failure and the fear of success and achievement,

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  it's a personal responsibility. I think people fear failure because they think, "What will people think if I fail? I'm afraid to fail because of what people will say about me."

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  Or what I'll say about myself. It paints a narrative.

• 30:30Nick Bare?

  But even more importantly, I think a lot of people are fearful of success and achievement. And I've talked about this in a recent episode, but the more I've allowed it to marinate and sit on it, I believe it even more. I think people are afraid to do the thing, take the action, take responsibility.

• 30:52Nick Bare?

  When you lack responsibility, you own entitlement. People are afraid of success and achievement because it sets a new expectation and standard of yourself. And they ask themselves the question, "How can I sustain this new expectation and standard if I succeed? If I succeed, if I achieve, if I accomplish, if I win, now people expect me to keep succeeding and winning and achieving." Think of professional athletes.

• 31:26Nick Bare?

  You know, someone becomes the MVP, Most Valuable Player, or wins a championship, especially a quarterback who has led a team to a championship. That next season, there's a lot of pressure

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  to do just as well, if not better, to win another championship. Because everything after that, if you don't achieve the same thing or greater,

• 31:54Nick Bare?

  there's a fear that you look like a failure.

• 31:59Nick Bare?

  People were afraid to set a new standard for themselves, a new expectation, because if you don't continuously meet that standard and expectation, the perspective from yourself and others is that you are a failure.

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  I would encourage you.

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  Don't be afraid to succeed and achieve.

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  And it sounds ridiculous, and I'm sure a lot of people are listening to this thinking, "Dude, why would I be afraid to succeed and achieve?"

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  But if you really take inventory of your life and some of the decisions you've made,

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  I bet you it has had some type of influence over your choices.

• 32:48Nick Bare?

  I've met people before, and I've had people who have worked for me before, who I've presented a, an opportunity for a new job within the business. That was a promotion that came with a higher pay raise.

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  It came with a greater title, more responsibility,

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  but greater expectations. And they've turned down, I've had people turn down those opportunities because there's a fear of, "What if I don't meet

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  those new standards and expectations? In my current role, I'm comfortable. And I look like an A player because I am an A player. But what if I fail in this next role that comes with greater expectations and responsibility? I don't want that."

• 33:38Nick Bare?

  That's something that people experience and do on a daily basis all around the world. They turn down opportunities because they are afraid, there's a fear to be held to a greater, higher standard and expectation.

• 33:54Nick Bare?

  So they turn it down. And oftentimes, they become resentful of the person who takes that position

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  because they had the courage to step up and to own it, to take on more responsibility.

• 34:17Nick Bare?

  As I was doing research for this episode, I came across this concept called the locus of control. It talks about how entitlement is a lack of personal responsibility.

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  And this concept, locus of control, was first introduced in 1954 by psychologist Julian Roder.

• 34:42Nick Bare?

  The locus of control describes how much you believe you control the events in your life. People with an internal locus of control believe their own actions drive their outcomes.

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  But those with an external locus of control attribute outcomes to luck, fate, and/or other people instead.

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  So if you have an internal locus of control, you take personal responsibility for the things you achieve or fail to achieve. But if you have an external locus of control, you don't take personal responsibility. You put the blame on someone else, luck, and/or fate.

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  Having a characteristic of entitlement, being an entitled individual, is driven by a lack of personal responsibility, a lack of internal locus of control.

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  Sigmund Freud says, "Most people do not really want freedom." Because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are frightened of responsibility.

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  That's a truth.

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  Entitled people are frightened of personal responsibility, an internal locus of control, ownership.

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  Owning the outputs, the outcomes, of what they achieve or fail to achieve, the win or the loss.

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  So here's some tactical takeaways.

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  This is the entitlement detox, three parts. Audit, shift, respond.

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  Like what we have to do is audit our actions, our lives, our choices, our perspectives,

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  our mindset. What do we expect from our life right now? Our work, our relationships, what we show up on a daily basis? What do we just expect that's going to happen on its own? What am I, what am I entitled to?

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  What do we feel like we are owed?

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  This audit is tough because

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  many people, most people lack this level of self-awareness to sit with yourself, maybe a friend and audit your life and be very honest with yourself. What do I feel like I'm owed?

• 37:40Nick Bare?

  Like where do I feel in my life that I deserve? I'm entitled to an outcome or an output without my inputs being considered for those outputs?

• 37:57Nick Bare?

  Where do I feel like I'm owed in life? We're not owed anything.

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  We earn everything. But in order to detox your entitlement, you have to be able to audit and have real, honest, humble conversations with yourself or have a peer that you trust

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  to sit down with you and help you audit your life. Part two is shift from outcome-based thinking to process-based thinking.

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  Just like James Clear and Nick Saban talk about, it's not the outcome, it's not the championship game, it's not the goal. That is the main focus, it is the systems, the processes,

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  the routines, the habits that we put into practice that get us to where we want to be. And it's shifting our locus of control from external to internal.

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  And then we respond.

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  Just like Saban talks about, we have to handle success and failure the same way. Whether you experience a big win or a big loss, you go back to the process the next day.

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  If you had a really bad day,

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  so what? It happens. You got really bad news? I'm sorry, it's tough. But we have to continue on the process the next day.

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  It's going to make us stronger. It's going to improve our resilience. It's going to get us to where we want to be. Whether you had a big win or a big loss, you go back to the process the next day, the next morning. If you were going to wake up at 5:00 AM, wake up at 5:00 AM. If you were going to run 10 miles, run 10 miles. Stick to the process.

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  Handle success and failure the same way. Take responsibility.

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  You must take 100% responsibility for whatever you're experiencing. I heard Tony Robbins say, you don't have to take 100% responsibility of what happens to you. But you have to take responsibility of how you experience it. Bad things happen to us.

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  Bad things happen to a lot of people.

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  They get hurt.

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  They get sick.

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  And it's not necessarily your responsibility to own that. There are some very unfortunate circumstances that happen that aren't your fault. But you have to take 100% responsibility

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  of how you experience it. Your perspective, the way that you respond.

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  And the last part of responding is embracing uncertainty.

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  Going back to that podcast I was referencing between Chris Williamson and Alex from Ozzy.

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  Chris asked Alex,

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  what's something that he wants his, his son to learn from him as he gets older? And Alex said courage and Chris asked, how would you describe and define courage?

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  And I remember what Alex said exactly,

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  word for word, but

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  I'll boil it down to, it was all about being able to manage and handle high levels of uncertainty.

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  Tony Robbins also talks about this and what he calls the hero's call. We have to embrace uncertainty.

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  If you live a life of wanting and expecting certainty,

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  those expectations come from a lack of personal responsibility, ultimately entitlement.

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  Embracing uncertainty, it's taking what you are used to and getting out of your comfort zone and entering a world of uncertainty. There is no growth, none, in certainty. There is only growth in uncertainty. The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably live with. You see certainty is a basic human survival need.

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  Uncertainty unlocks growth.

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  Uncertainty

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  is courage and courage is one of the most powerful traits you can learn to embrace and harness.

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  Courage requires

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  really hard decisions. It requires personal responsibility.

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  And it spits in the face of entitlement. Expecting.

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  So those are some thoughts on my mind lately, all about entitlement.

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  And inspired by Nick Saban's speech, The Importance of Nothing. Hope you guys enjoyed this one.

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  Love you guys. And as always, go on one.