Jim Curtis (Pt 2): Release Fear, Align with Your Greatest Possibility & Become the Best Version of You!

Get ready to Overcome Insecurities, Step Into Your Possibility and Believe You’re Enough, Finally! Whether you’re dealing with insecurities, health challenges or fear, imaging breaking fully-free from self-doubt and truly transforming your life! That’s what today’s part 2 conversation with Jim Curtis is all about! Jim is a transformational coach and wellness leader dedicated to guiding people through change. He blends neuroscience and spiritual principles to help you reprogram your patterns and become your best self. With more than twenty-five years in wellness leadership, Hypno-coaching process and Hypno-meditations, Jim has worked with leading entrepreneurs, and public figures. His work is deeply personal, shaped by his own journey with chronic illness and childhood trauma, and rooted in the belief that no matter what, transformation is always possible. He’s been making headlines everywhere this year, not only for his thought leadership, but also for his love life…with girlfriend Jennifer Aniston. His brand new book The Book of Possibility: Release, Align and Become, is a practical and compassionate guide to healing, unlocking the power of your subconscious mind, releasing fear, and creating lasting change. He is also making his television hosting debut in his new original interview series called, Beyond the Program with Jim Curtis, premiering exclusively on Gaia this October. You can get Jim’s new book, The Book of Possibility anywhere books are sold and learn more about Jim @JimCurtis1 on Instagram and at https://links.jimcurtiscoaching.com/ And I have to say, I’m so excited to share today’s conversation with you! And if you could take 2 seconds and hit the subscribe button on the ap you’re listening or watching on…that way you’ll be the very first to get every inspirational episode! And I have to say, I’m so excited to share today’s conversation with you! And if you could take 2 seconds and hit the subscribe button on the ap you’re listening or watching on…that way you’ll be the very first to get every inspirational episode! And whether you're joining me today for yourself or because someone that you love shared this episode with you, I want to welcome you to the Jamie Kern Lima Show podcast family. And remember this episode is not just for you and me. Please share it with every single person that you know because it can change their life too. ____ Chapters: 0:00 Welcome to The Jamie Kern Lima Show 4:00 What Is Hypnosis Really & How Can It Help You? 15:35 The Power Of Your Knowing! 18:30 On Believing in God “There Has To Be” 22:00 The Power Of The Words “I Am” 28:35 Is It Possible We Chose Our Life Lessons & Experiences Before We We’re Born? 34:25 Is It Possible You Can Time Travel? 39:25 On Self-Love & Healing Your Body It’s such an honor to share this podcast together with you. And please note: I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Click ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to Subscribe to the YouTube Channel Follow me here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Sign up for my inspirational newsletter for YOU at:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ jamiekernlima.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ — Looking for my books on Amazon? Here they are! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠WORTHY⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Believe IT⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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  It brings tears to my eyes now.

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  You're crying.

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  It's such a beautiful thing.

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  Yeah.

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  Yeah.

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  Coming up in this incredible part two episode with Jim Curtis.

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  I want people to hear this because that are suffering, that they've lost children, that they're sick, that all these things that are happening, that they're really stuck in suffering. What if?

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  You talk about the power of self-love and self-compassion and the impact it has on our body and our wellbeing.

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  There is real science around this, both the science of self-love and the science of gratitude. When we step into the self-love, it lowers all the stress hormones. It creates a healthier environment within us. First step is to raise the consciousness from this kind of happening to me. And when you get to the idea of this quantum energy that is the fabric of all things and making me up and I am part of it, then we get into it's life is happening through me. And that step alone puts you further into this, the creator's mindset.

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  Do you believe there's a power that's greater than ourselves? Do you believe in God?

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  I do. I do. There has to be. You know, I've had too many experiences. We have this ability to feel such a relief that we start to tear up and cry. Why do we have faith? Because whether it's true or not, I feel whole. I feel safe. I'm supported. I feel loved. And when I feel that way, I can make others feel that way. And isn't that enough?

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  Jim Curtis, congratulations on your book.

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  Thank you.

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  The Book of Possibility.

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  That's right.

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  Whether you're dealing with insecurities, health challenges, or fear, imagine breaking fully free from self-doubt and truly transforming your life. Get ready to Release, Align, and Become with today's guest, Jim Curtis. Jim is a transformational coach and wellness leader dedicated to guiding people through change. He blends neuroscience and spiritual principles to help you reprogram your patterns and become your best self. With more than 25 years in wellness leadership, hypno coaching process, and hypno meditations, Jim has worked with leading entrepreneurs and public figures. His work is deeply personal, shaped by his

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  own journey with chronic illness and childhood trauma, and rooted in the belief that no matter what, transformation is always possible. His brand new book, The Book of Possibility, Release, Align, and Become, is a practical and compassionate guide to healing, unlocking the power of your subconscious mind, releasing fear, and creating lasting change. He's also making his television hosting debut in his new original interview series called Beyond the Program with Jim Curtis, premiering exclusively on Gaia this October. So, a lot of people have written in questions. Your girlfriend and all of our best friends, Jennifer Aniston, how do you process that when you see all kinds of stories out there

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  of, you know, Jen and Jim are getting married? Jen and Jim are-

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  Jen and Jim go to Greece.

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  Yes.

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  Eloped in Greece.

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  Yes.

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  Don't Google yourself again, Jim, to see what the news is saying today. And that took like, you know, three or four months.

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  Have you had any of the stories out there ever hurt your feelings?

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  Yeah, some of the, some things have hurt my feelings.

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  Do you guys think you look alike at all? Like a, like a hint?

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  We're both Greek. Yeah, we look alike. That's the Greek-ness.

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  Like real-life Barbie, real-life Ken. Like a hint.

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  A Greek Ken and Barbie.

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  Greek Ken and Barbie. Looking back at earlier years in your life, I know you're married before and have a son. And for your identity, who, who was Jim then? And how, and who is Jim now? And how has your identity shifted?

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  Yeah, that's a really good one. And-

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  Can you talk about what hypnosis is really?

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  I love it because it is like, it is the ability to get into a deeper state of focus. If I call it hypnosis, people are like, oh no, you're going to control my mind.

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  Do you think people are scared of the idea that they'll lose control if they're in a hypnotic state?

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  Yeah, I think that they're scared that they will be controlled and lose control. Your mind has so many safety mechanisms. The biggest part is our memories. We can go into self-hypnosis, into our subconscious mind, reimagine that, right? So that the new memory becomes more real than the old memory. The potential in the future reality is so much greater. We all have this intuition. We are all naturally plugged into something greater. And we have these knowings and these intuitions, whether it's, you know, our innate psychic abilities, I don't know what you want to call it. We have them. I'm sure you do, and everybody else does. You just have to call it, right? You do. Yeah.

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  Do you believe we can time travel?

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  You've talked about past life regression.

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  Soul contracts. So you and I may have had a contract at some time. We said, you know what? When we come to this world, we'll meet someone listening to this that doesn't believe in spirituality, or is going to think that like-

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  We're both nuts.

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  Yeah. When you're feeling stuck, really the only way to get unstuck is to take a step.

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  There's a lot of people out here that are not familiar with hypnosis, or they have misconceptions about it. And when they hear about hypno coaching and hypno meditations, can you talk about what hypnosis is really?

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  Yes.

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  And, and what hypno coaching and hypno meditations are for people that are just hearing about it for the first time?

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  Right. So as a coach, hypnosis is a tool in my, in my toolkit, right? As you come to build the house, it's not, you have many different tools, and hypnosis is one. I love it because it is like, it is the ability to get into a deeper state of focus. Right? Just imagine that you're in a very busy train station. People are running around. Everything's happening. And you put on some, you know, your headphones, and you put on an eye mask, and, you know, you can still get into focus. It's, it's, it's the ability to push aside the static of our mind for a moment and go within into perhaps our subconscious mind, into the thoughts and feelings of the theta state, which is a brainwave state,

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  which is deeper concentration and often associated with hypnosis. Now, meditation gets into hypnosis. Transcendental meditation really gets into hypnosis. But guess what else? Scrolling on your phone, Instagram, you get into a state of hypnosis. Watching advertisements on TV, so good at hypnosis. Blinking lights and like moving statements and music, and then a suggestion, buy this product. Or with Instagram, it is more, or with social media, I should say, it is more, go to this next piece of content. Right? So we're, or a long drive. Today I was driving down here an hour and 15, 20 minutes,

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  and I found myself having these amazing ideas. I was like, why am I having such good ideas? Oh, I need to drive more. Because I had this long stretch of road where I was able to just focus on the road, and everything else went, and all the thoughts came up because I went into a theta state while I was driving. Please do that carefully. So we go into hypnosis all the time. Now, this is how powerful words are, right? If I call it meditation, everybody's like, okay, I can accept that. If I call it hypnosis, people are like, oh no, you're going to control my mind. Right? So let's call it something different. Let's call it a hypno meditation. Let's call it whatever you feel most comfortable with. But recognize that you're not comfortable with a word, and it creates a feeling in

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  your body. And therefore, we can do anything with words. See how powerful they are. Right? Now, let's call it something different. Same with everything else in your life. The what you say affects you. So hypnosis, this kind of idea of stage hypnosis and putting you under control and like getting you to act like a chicken, or like, like a watch and having like this get out moment. It's not what I do, and it's, you know, not what anybody does. There is like, there are parlor tricks, and then there's hypnosis that's a deeper state of focus so that we can re-envision our lives in a safe place.

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  Do you think people are scared of the idea that they'll lose control if they're in a hypnotic state?

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  Yeah, I think that they're scared that they will be controlled and lose control. That there is like, something that says, you know, I'm going to make you do something you don't want, which is totally impossible. Your mind has so many safety mechanisms. If I was to put you under hypnosis and be like, you're going to transfer all your money to me, your subconscious mind would say, wake, open your eyes right now. And you feel like, get out. So we're, you know, our subconscious mind will protect us a lot more than we think.

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  And so when we go into a hypnotic state ourselves, we can still control coming out of it?

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  Yes, if I was to put you into hypnotic state.

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  Can you put yourself in one?

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  Yes, self-hypnosis is really a powerful tool. And I teach people how to do self-hypnosis. It is a really powerful tool to give ourselves suggestions, right? From our higher mind.

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  And even then, if I was to put you in the deepest hypnotic trance, if you could open your eyes, if you felt uncomfortable. And I even put that suggestion in. Move or feel uncomfortable, it doesn't matter. Your mind may wonder or wander, drift or dream, or you may just want to open your eyes. But you could also listen to every... It's giving yourself options. And so, and you can do this with yourself. From your higher mind, count yourself down and put yourself into a state of theta,

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  where you become more suggestible. And that's to either suggestions from Instagram or an advertisement, or from your own mind and how you want to be. The biggest part is, most of our memories, they only live within our mind, right? It's no longer happening. And we remember things skewed, based on the beliefs that we had, that came, right? And so, as a child, we, you know, dad didn't come to the football game. And we think, you know, dad was never there, never showed up, doesn't love us. And so, we can go into self-hypnosis, into our subconscious mind, reimagine that, right? So that the new memory becomes more real than the old memory.

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  And if that is the case, then the, the opportunity,

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  the potential in the future reality is so much greater. And, and you can do this with fears and phobias. I did this with a woman at one of my workshops. She was afraid of snakes.

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  Couldn't go outside walking. She lived in a very rural area. And all she thought about was snakes, couldn't go outside walking. And I said, who cares? Don't go outside, don't go into a snake. You're like, there's not enough snakes around, you know, for this to be an issue in your life. It's like, can't you just live with this? And knowing that there's always a deeper meaning.

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  And she said, well, you know, my husband and son go hiking all the time. I was like, okay, you'll see them for lunch when they get back. Well, I feel left out. Oh, so what happens when you feel left out? This is the questioning. Well, I feel like I'm disconnected from my son when I can't experience these long hikes with them because I have a phobia of these snakes. Okay, so the real issue is disconnection. So you want to be connected as a family, having this experience. And you feel shameful that you can't because you have a fear. Okay, so first, we think about how awesome it will be when you're hiking with your son and your husband with no fear.

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  So let's get connected to the future state that you want. Because it exists now. And she, I could see her drop her shoulders and like her heart open up and like, yes, I can't wait for that. Okay, so you already feel the emotion now. So the reality is already starting to happen. Now, we went into a quick trance state. And we said, when was the first time this fear came up? Well, my grandmother said something. And we reframed what her grandmother said, showed her that that child didn't have to be afraid of snakes anymore. It took about six minutes. She came back, opened her eyes, said, I feel great. I said, are you gonna go hiking with your son? Yes, I think so. One to 10, are you afraid of snakes? Zero. One to 10, how excited are you to go hiking with your son and husband? 10. Okay.

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  Tell me if it works, call me. She was hiking that entire weekend. We were up in like the New York. And six months later, she sent me a notes of a picture of her, you know, hiking with her son and husband. And so, that's what hypnosis can do.

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  You talk about having an experience where you sort of had a vision of your future self once you hit your 50th birthday. And being in like this loving relationship and all these things. Was that a practice you did back then that then came to fruition? Like, did you imagine the emotions, what you just described? Did you imagine the emotions around what that would all be like? And then now it's happened?

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  I think that's a different part. I think that we all have this intuition. We are all naturally plugged into something greater. And we have these knowings and these intuitions. And we, they had these, we call it instincts, whatever it is. But when we quiet our mind down more, we can more finely attune to those. You know, some, whether it's, you know, our innate psychic abilities, I don't know what you want to call it, we have them. And so, when I quiet myself down from my fears, I often have knowings. I'm not the only one. I'm sure you do and everybody else does. You just have to call it, right? You do, yeah. And so, my 47th birthday is, I've been looking around the table

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  at all the couples, you know, that I've invited. And I'd quieted down that voice of, will I ever be in a relationship? And I just had this knowing. It's like, and not now. I'm 50 years old is, you know, I kind of just had this 50 come. And I just knew that when I was 50 years old, that I would be in a, you know, kind of a more serious partnership. I didn't know with who, or when, or how. I just knew, and what that did, it settled me. It's settled by kind of fear and said, oh, you know what?

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  It comes, everything in time.

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  So you trusted it?

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  That's a great way to put it. Trust. Trust.

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  Right. I remember being a little girl, watching Oprah on my, like, I'd sit in my living room all alone, watch Oprah. And I just knew, like, I just knew one day that I would meet her, one day, all these things, you know? And it made no sense. Like, I was in the middle of Washington State and didn't know no one who knew no one. But I just like had this knowing. And it's like, I've had that happen many times in my life. And if I were to like tell someone, which I have on occasion, it makes no sense to anybody. But then it happens.

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  Right, now Oprah's your neighbor.

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  Yeah, and friend, yeah. And mentor, and all of it. First guest on the show.

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  Really?

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  Yeah.

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  So how did you learn to trust your knowing?

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  You know what? I look back in the moments I didn't trust it, I regret. Most of my biggest mistakes are when I listen to other people or I, you know, listen to my head instead of that, that, that knowing.

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  Yeah.

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  Yeah. And then I look back in the moments I did listen to it. I'm like, okay, it didn't always work out, but I like, I learned a lesson I needed to. Or it just always felt like it was right, like I was supposed to. So I trust it.

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  Right.

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  Yeah, sometimes I don't want it to be what it is.

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  Right, exactly, that's what I was gonna say. What if it's like, oh God, I don't want to do that?

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  Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I, I know it's there. And sometimes I ignore it, that's for sure. But yeah, I feel it. I feel it.

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  Yeah.

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  You talk a lot about spirituality and energy and the idea of I am. So where does God fit into the understanding of all this for you? Do you believe there's a power that's greater than ourselves? Do you believe in God?

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  I do. I do. There has to be. You know, I've had too many experiences. And I've worked with too many people that I've worked with people with past lives, regression that I've done. And my mentor, Dr. Brian Weiss, who wrote Many Lives, Many Masters, that first book that got me on my way. I've worked with people who have had N Ds. They've died.

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  Or they were pronounced dead. And then they came back to life in the surgery or operating room. And they came, one, one man came back and he was crippled. But he said, you know, my life is the most beautiful empowered life ever. Now I chose to come back. We have this ability to close our eyes and to go through the most expansive universe ever of our own mind. We have the ability to step in. And when we release this kind of knowingness of who we are and become into like the grace of God, or the quantum, or the nothingness, feel such a relief that we start to tear up and cry. It's hard to say that there's not something more. When we see a sunrise, when it's absolute splendor.

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  When we see the same swirl on my fingers in the stars, my fingerprint like in the stars, or the, you know, or the back of a leaf.

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  It's, either it's the matrix and it's all programmed that, you know, that we're in. Which, or there is some divine presence. And we've all felt it at one time or another. And so, I say to myself,

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  if I'm divinely guided.

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  And I can believe that. What's possible and how do I feel? And the answer is, I feel really confident and I feel really supported. I feel really safe. I feel really loved. And now I ask myself, do I know for certain, for certain, this is absolutely true? No. I can have faith. And why do we have faith? Because whether it's true or not, I feel whole. I feel safe. I'm supported. I feel loved. And when I feel that way, I can make others feel that way. And isn't that enough?

• 20:59Speaker 01

  Do you, do you align with any specific like religion or faith?

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  No, I align with this idea of spirituality, which is, the universe is operating for us.

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  Yeah.

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  It's not malicious. And in fact, this world is conspiring for us. We have, you know, air that we can breathe and sun that we can get energy from. And that there is something more that if we put our attention to it, this is kind of where we spirituality often looks to quantum.

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  Yeah.

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  Quantum physics. And although there is a big gap there, we make the leap because we want to believe that, if we are an observer and we can put our intention on something, then we can create it. And I believe that's, I make that leap every day. And it works out.

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  Do you believe you co-create it with source or with God or with the power bigger than yourself? Or if you're divinely guided, do you believe you co-create? Or do you believe you create and it's on you?

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  I believe that we are source. Right? That's what the I am is.

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  Like God is in you.

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  God is experiencing life as me.

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  Hmm.

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  Right? That, that this idea of the universe or God or spirit or source is experiencing this life and all of its wonderful splendor and pain. Right? Through my eyes, through my being. And so we start to think, I'm separate, like my fingers are separate. Right? And it's like, of course, there's no God. And, you know, this is Jane and this is me and we're separate. And then we start to realize, oh, this arm is experiencing, is the universe through all of us. And of course, we're connected.

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  We're connected to the hand, to the arm and to everything else. And so this idea that, you know, a wave in the ocean is just a wave is a silly idea. Because it's the ocean experiencing itself as a wave. And as the wave's done, it returns to the ocean. And I believe that's what we are. A wave in the ocean of God's grace or of the universe or whatever it is. But it's, it's something greater than ourselves. And when we attune to that, so much more is possible.

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  And do you believe for anybody listening or watching right now, no matter what, maybe they practice a specific faith, is your book for them, no matter what faith they might practice?

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  Yes, or no faith.

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  Or no faith.

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  Right? Because we are two things. We are the I am, which is the identity of our human potential. I am X, whatever you say. If you change your I am, you change your subconscious mind, you change your human experience as that identity, as that avatar. It's as easy as changing your I am. Right? I hear people saying, you know, or I am not. I said, that's not for me. Or, you know, like I'm a, whatever you say, you've said it a thousand times. That's what you believe you are. And that's what your reality will be. So that's the first part.

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  Whatever you say after the words I am.

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  You are.

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  You are.

• 24:21Speaker 00

  You become. Yeah. And so as we say in my human experience, what I say I am, I become I am. Whether I believe I can or I believe I can't, I'm absolutely right. We're creating this reality. You know? And so that's the I am. But also, hey, we're a spirit having a human experience. So if that's true, how do I remind myself of my divinity, of my spirituality, of my higher self? Oh, and that's when we just say, I am. I am that I am. What's the that I am? Okay, well, that was in the Bible. It's like I am it all.

• 25:03Speaker 00

  We look in the Sufi texts or, yeah, that says, you know, as above is below. And we start to look at all these religious texts, all these kind of spiritual texts and say, oh, yes, and the Kabbalah and all the Buddhist texts. It's this idea that, you know, what we see, we are, what we create. It's like, okay, so if that's possible, if that could be, even if I attune to that a little bit, then what's possible for me? And in the book, it's like, okay, you know, I'm not really relating to that. Okay, then stick with the I am, which is your human potential, which is so great and beautiful. And when you're ready, we can get into something greater.

• 25:47Speaker 01

  Hmm. You've talked about past life regression. For someone who's never heard of it, can you explain what that is?

• 25:55Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 25:55Speaker 01

  And your experience with that?

• 25:56Speaker 00

  Yes. Have you ever had a past life regression?

• 25:59Speaker 01

  I have not. That I'm aware of, yeah.

• 26:01Speaker 00

  Right. So it's this idea, you know, there is this, you know, many religions have this idea of reincarnation, that the soul comes to this earth to experience this lifetime, right? And what we haven't finished, we come back to do, or we come back as partners, soul contracts. So you and I may have had a contract at some time. We said, you know what? When we come to this world, we'll meet and we'll, we'll experience these challenges together. Brian Weiss, Dr. Brian Weiss in Many Lives, Many Masters, talks about this a lot. It's such a great book. Anybody hasn't read this. It was one of my first books that kind of opened me up to this, Many Lives, Many Masters.

• 26:44Speaker 00

  And I actually met him and he regressed me into a past life. And it was a pretty, he opened, and he wrote a blurb for this book, that he was so happy to open that doorway in my mind that allowed me to get to where I am today. So it was a beautiful, it was a, it was a beautiful full circle moment. But with past lives, it is shown that people who experience that are regressed into the memory of a past life in this lifetime, come back after that experience, right? They had that past life regression. They come back, oh, and they're no longer have the fears that they once had. Because somehow they remembered them and resolved them just through revisiting those memories.

• 27:29Speaker 00

  Now, some may say, really? And I said, perhaps it was a memory. Perhaps our subconscious mind is so divine, so intricate. Like holds so many emotions, so many opportunities, so, so much creativity and imagination. Perhaps you went back and remembered something that you made up. And then you came back out of hypnosis and you no longer had that fear because you believe that you remembered something and resolved it. Okay. Good. Does that make it any, you no longer have the issue? So is everything, you know, what does it matter? And for those that say, you know what? I feel it. That's something that was real. And perhaps it was.

• 28:12Speaker 01

  And you've had an experience, right?

• 28:14Speaker 00

  Yes, I've led many people through these experiences. And I've had my own experiences that, you know, that I, that I truly believe was a picture, was a doorway, was a window into the potential of kind of, you know, it's like another time.

• 28:33Speaker 01

  Hmm. Do you believe we're reincarnated? Like our soul continues to come back and have different human experiences?

• 28:39Speaker 00

  Yes. Yes, that's, that's my spirituality. That's my beliefs.

• 28:43Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 28:44Speaker 00

  I believe that, I believe that we, you know, our soul has a purpose and that we are gifted this life. And that before we come here, and I want people to hear this because that are suffering, that they've lost children, that they're sick, that all these things that are happening, that they're really stuck in suffering. What if we decided the lessons that we needed to learn before we were ever born? And that we knew what we needed through these challenges to grow into? And we came here to experience them? And that it's all right, nothing's going wrong. We chose it.

• 29:31Speaker 00

  And then a relief, right? It brings tears to my eyes now.

• 29:38Speaker 00

  And so I truly believe that. And I think that that release for many people, you know, will help them shine despite the issues because they're no longer shameful of it. They chose it, so their own learning.

• 29:51Speaker 01

  You're crying.

• 29:52Speaker 00

  It's such a beautiful thing.

• 29:53Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 29:54Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 29:55Speaker 01

  Yeah, because it helps people just, for the person, Jim, that says like, I would never choose this thing I'm going through. Is it that before they came here, you believe like they chose, okay, I want to choose to learn love, or I want to choose, and then it's this experience that happens?

• 30:12Speaker 00

  Yeah, like I want to, I want to understand the suffering and grief of losing my child, which I have many clients that are dealing with that, right? And so what is that? And so you have a soul contract with that soul that says, I will be your child.

• 30:30Speaker 00

  And I will show you what true love is through loss.

• 30:34Speaker 00

  Right? Or I want to understand and release the karma of like, or understand what it is, and learn and have the experience of learning to love myself despite my physical issue.

• 30:49Speaker 00

  So, okay.

• 30:51Speaker 00

  There you go. That's your life challenge. We'll give you this illness.

• 30:55Speaker 00

  So that you can grow and learn to love yourself despite it. And I believe these challenges are decided upon before we ever come here. And so, you know, that, I think for a lot of people, and for me, makes your suffering,

• 31:12Speaker 00

  okay, means something. And much easier to manage in this human, human life. Now, we have to be grounded too, because if we believe that we're a soul having a human experience, we need to have our human experience, right? It can't all be woo woo soul stuff. We need to like, we're in the school here. Let's have our human experience. And that means that we have mindsets, that we have patterns. We have things that we need to do here. Like, let's not get caught up in hours and hours and hours of meditation. Right? Let's get back into the body. Let's get back into the human experience and take an action to make life different. And then when things get heavy, all we have to do is close our eyes and put our hands over our hearts and count down from 10.

• 31:58Speaker 00

  And, you know, go back into the remembrance of who we truly are and why we're here.

• 32:04Speaker 00

  And I do that. And it makes, it's changed my life.

• 32:08Speaker 01

  Do you believe every, every time you come back, every time your soul is back having a new human experience, that you've learned the lessons you need to so far? And it's building? Or do you believe every experience is independent? And you're choosing something before you arrive in that experience?

• 32:24Speaker 00

  Oh, that's interesting. Yeah, I believe that it's building. I believe that, you know, we have this, you know, karma. The Buddhist, you know, idea of karma that we're, you know, that we're working through.

• 32:39Speaker 01

  Do you, and, and so I've heard people say like, oh, you have this thing. You must have done something bad in your past life. Do you, do you believe that's true or no? That, because that almost feels, is that karma? Or is that more just pessimism? Or vindictiveness, which I don't think God is?

• 32:56Speaker 00

  Yeah, I, I don't know. I don't know what that is. I think that, like, I think there are many different ideas about that.

• 33:04Speaker 00

  Maybe. And that's okay.

• 33:07Speaker 01

  This is going to sound ridiculous, but I, whenever my husband like kills bugs or kills something, I'm like, you're going to come back as that? Like, I won't, like, I won't kill anything? And, um, do, do you think we can come back as that? Do you think we can come back in a different form?

• 33:21Speaker 00

  The Buddhists believe that, yeah. The Buddhists believe that, yeah. And actually, you know, kind of this is a higher evolved soul that gets to a point of like, I'm not going to kill a bug. And so we have this idea of old souls, right? And there's no old soul or a new soul. It's, your soul is eternal. But there is experience. And so just say we've been back here a thousand times. That would constitute as an old soul, right? And, you know, someone listening to this that doesn't believe in spirituality is going to think that like, oh.

• 33:51Speaker 01

  We're both nuts.

• 33:52Speaker 00

  Yeah. Well, listen, you can be very grounded in the same thing. But, you know, so, okay, so, you know, I have this strong intuition. And I don't, like, I see ants. I want to lead them out of the house instead of squashing them. You know, like, I, I feel like, um, you know, when I see animals or babies or something, they resonate with me. And it's like, you know,

• 34:12Speaker 00

  it is believed that like, oh, okay, I've gotten to a level of knowledge and awareness of energy. You know, that, that is through experience of many lives here.

• 34:24Speaker 01

  Do you believe we can time travel?

• 34:29Speaker 00

  I believe that you just have to close your eyes and you try and travel. Remember your oldest memory. You know, it's called, you know, and the spiritual world again, it's called quantum leaping, right? So, okay, let's time travel right now. I'm going to go back to a memory, right? And, you know, that memory is very real for us. I also believe we time travel when we're triggered. Right? So you're in an argument with your husband, or you're getting in an argument with someone, or even you're driving, or you're in, you know, you sometimes you see these people and they're like on a flight and they're fighting. Or they're in the grocery store and they're getting into these like heated arguments. And it's like, oh, you just got triggered by something that happened in your childhood. And you just time traveled right back to it. Right?

• 35:13Speaker 00

  You literally became the identity of that person. And now you're acting it out with this, in this, in this current reality.

• 35:20Speaker 01

  Like PTSD is time travel.

• 35:23Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 35:23Speaker 01

  Do you believe you can time travel to your, to your future self? Or to a different, a different experience that might be happening at the same time?

• 35:33Speaker 00

  I don't know. It's really cool to think about, right? This idea.

• 35:37Speaker 01

  Have you ever time traveled forward?

• 35:40Speaker 00

  I, I know. I don't know.

• 35:41Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 35:42Speaker 00

  Maybe.

• 35:42Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 35:43Speaker 00

  Maybe we all are. I know that Joe Dispenza talks a lot about this. They're like, you can close your eyes and go, like, no time, no space, envision where you want to be. And then kind of like wake up. And, you know, perhaps everything's changed. And I'm so interested by that. And perhaps that's happening every time we go to sleep, right? We wake up into this new reality. But I don't actually know.

• 36:07Speaker 01

  Do you follow Joe's work, Joe Dispenza?

• 36:12Speaker 00

  I ha, I do, I have listened. I've spent a long time listening to his meditations.

• 36:16Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 36:16Speaker 00

  And, uh, I love them.

• 36:18Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 36:19Speaker 00

  Yeah. Yeah. And I've, I've read his books. And I, um, I really love his work. He lives right around here too, doesn't he?

• 36:27Speaker 01

  Yeah, he's a really good friend.

• 36:28Speaker 00

  Yeah, is he?

• 36:29Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 36:29Speaker 00

  I think he's awesome.

• 36:30Speaker 01

  Yeah, I love him. Have you done his retreats?

• 36:33Speaker 00

  Uh, I did do one of his retreats way back when.

• 36:35Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 36:36Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 36:36Speaker 01

  It's fascinating to think about even, uh, changing your own gene expression.

• 36:43Speaker 00

  Those things.

• 36:44Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 36:44Speaker 00

  Yeah. And, and then is that time? You know, when you're changing your epigenetics and your own gene expression, and the kind of some of the research that he has from HeartMath?

• 36:53Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 36:54Speaker 00

  That shows the coherence of the heart and mind, what, what kind of possible for resonance in your body is very exciting, right? And you can do this just by closing your eyes and going into a theta state? Joe and I, you know, kind of one of the claims to fame where I like, um, did, you know, I graduated from college and got the business degree and all that. But then I went back to school for hypnotherapy. And the school's claim to fame was Joe Dispenza got his hypnotherapy thing here. Right, it's 30, 40 years ago.

• 37:26Speaker 01

  Wow.

• 37:28Speaker 00

  And so now there's, I guess they're saying that about me. But through the theta state, through hypnosis, you can get into these trances. And it's just as easy as closing your eyes.

• 37:36Speaker 01

  For the person who's like brand new to this, how would you describe the quantum field and your own interactions with it?

• 37:43Speaker 00

  Okay. How would I, how do I describe the quantum field in my own? It is like David Lynch said, this infinite field of, um, this infinite sea of potential. This infinite sea of possibility and potential. And, uh, there is below the vibration of what we are as we, as we open our subconscious mind to the alpha theta bridge. It's called the alpha theta brainwave frequencies. We get into the quantum field, which is,

• 38:13Speaker 00

  I think of it as the Matrix. When they kind of go into the white room and then they're just like, whatever they need and it comes flying in. I, I think of it as this.

• 38:25Speaker 00

  And as they kind of describe it in quantum physics as this underlying connective tissue of everything that is making up everything and is part of everything and reacts to the observation and intention of our own mind. And it's incredibly loving. And that we can, with the frequency of love, start to create with it, through it, as it. And it's first step is to raise the consciousness from this kind of happening to me. And when you get to the idea of this quantum energy that is the fabric of all things and making me up and I am part of it, then we get into

• 39:10Speaker 00

  it's life is happening through me. And that step alone puts you further into this, the creator's mindset.

• 39:20Speaker 01

  One of my favorite parts about your book is when you talk about the power of self-love and self-compassion and the impact it has on our body and our well-being. A lot of people just, you know, think about all their faults, they have negative self-talk, they think they're not enough, they think they're not lovable. But they haven't really realized, and they think they're just gonna be that way forever. But they haven't realized maybe the impact on, on their well-being. And to the point where they actually want to do something about it and take a step like reading your book, or take a step like understanding why is it that they have, you know, these thoughts or this identity that they're unlovable or not enough.

• 40:02Speaker 01

  And so many of us do, like the stats are insane on how many women and men, right? Feel unworthy or inadequate or not enough. And so can you just talk about for the person listening maybe who knows this is them? But hasn't ever really connected the dots on like, why they should actually do something about it?

• 40:19Speaker 00

  Right.

• 40:19Speaker 01

  And just what it, what its impact is on, on well-being?

• 40:24Speaker 00

  There is real science around this, that both the science of self-love, the science of gratitude and gratefulness, that when you start to be grateful for this body, no matter what it is, you know, instead of saying, looking in the mirror and saying, too old, too wrinkled, too fat. And instead of saying, oh my God, alive, like this body is, you know, helping me survive. It's healing itself, it's breathing itself, it's reproducing itself, it's beating its own heart. And you say, oh, all this body wants to do is keep me safe and alive and it loves me. And I should love it back. And so when we step into the self-love, it lowers all the stress hormones. It creates a healthier environment within us. And it has been

• 41:09Speaker 00

  shown through research that when we do that, we heal faster. You know, we, you know, people have better health outcomes when they're, when they're in different things. I know for a fact that when I'm really mad at my knee because, you know, it's hurting. And when I actually go, okay, you're doing all right, you're fine. I step into this kind of like gratitude, acceptance, self-love, you know, it hurts less. And it's been shown that when, for people with severe chronic pain. And this has a giant impact as well as hypnosis. Research after study after study for chronic pain. Hypnosis is an amazing way to actually lower pain. And so we start to say, why is this?

• 41:49Speaker 00

  Oh, we're changing the chemicals in our body based on our emotions. You know, when you're mad at them, different chemical than when we love them. Yeah, a lot easier with oxytocin than, and epinephrine than, than cortisol.

• 42:07Speaker 01

  I feel like this is such a perspective shift, a lot of people haven't even considered. But when something's wrong, or we're in pain, or we have this autoimmune disease, or this, we can hate that part of us. We can get mad at it, or we can wish it wasn't there. And it's like, it's like when you actually learn to love it and encourage it, you shift all the chemicals in your body. And all of a sudden, the thing that you are so wish you didn't have actually could potentially heal faster, or you could actually feel better, or it can shift not just your mental health, but physical health.

• 42:39Speaker 00

  The biggest, the biggest pharmacy in the world is in our body. And it's controlled by our brain and our, and our emotions. Our emotions control the biggest pharmacy in the universe, right here. All those drugs that are created are to regulate the drugs that are already in our bodies. And they're controlled by our emotions. Isn't that, you know, take your power back and start to emotionally regulate. Because all of this that we're talking about today, and the entire book comes down to taking your power back and emotionally regulating. Because when you can emotionally regulate and you are no longer in high alert, then you create a calm, safe space where anything is possible.

• 43:21Speaker 00

  When we open our awareness to go beyond the program of, this is my emotion, this is my body, I'm separate. To like, oh, I'm in control of my emotions and my emotions dictate the chemicals in my body, the chemicals in my body. And it creates real health changes. Or real mood changes or real potential. Then it's like, oh, then, yeah, and we talked about Joe Spence, he wrote a book called, We Are The Placebo. There is a placebo effect, that they have to make drugs that exceed what our mind can do. And it's really hard to make those drugs, right? There's a big, high standard that we have to, oh, and we disregard the placebo effect as just something that we do. But what if we really focused on it and said, the mind-body connection is some of the most powerful connection that we have.

• 44:06Speaker 00

  We can not only change our life and our body through it, like Bruce Lipton says, or, or Van de Kamp, with the body keeps the score. But then we can also change our reality.

• 44:15Speaker 01

  Jim, you have lived through, you've, you know, everyone, pretty much 100% of people have some type of physical health challenge or mental health challenge that they're dealing with. I love that you take us through your journey also of all the things you're talking about, all the tools that you're teaching, all of the, the, the, everything that you're sharing now, but actually through your own journey as well of your, of your own health. Because you're, you're, you're applying it through your own experience too, and talking about like the differences that you've seen from real, like tangible challenges that you've gone through and that you're, you know, continuing to go through. All right.

• 44:55Speaker 00

  Well, I'll just say there that I'm not the guru, I'm the guinea pig. Right? That's, that's, that's why I use myself. And yeah, like, you know, this is tested. This is, this is not like, you know, wisdom of the teacher, you know? We're in this together type of thing. Anyway, okay, the stuff that people really want.

• 45:13Speaker 01

  I believe in the power of being a lifelong student.

• 45:15Speaker 00

  Yes, 100%.

• 45:16Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 45:17Speaker 00

  We're all students.

• 45:18Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 45:18Speaker 00

  And, you know, there are a lot of people who want to be coaches out there. There are a lot of people that want to teach, that want to lead. And they think, well, I, I don't know enough, I haven't arrived, I can't write that book. You know, who am I? As like, you're someone who's had a real experience. And that, you know, you are in a place where there's at least a few people that are one step behind you that can learn from you. And as you look to the people that can teach you in your growth, I'm still looking to the people. Like I look to you, I have questions, I was asking you questions earlier about life and what I should do. Right? So I'm always looking to learn. And at the same time, when I learn, I teach.

• 45:56Speaker 01

  Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. Isn't that beautiful? Yeah, I, I agree. I feel like I'm a lifelong student.

• 46:02Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 46:02Speaker 01

  Always will be. So a lot of people have written in questions, a lot of people are excited about your book. Lots of different, lots of different things that people want to know about lots of different parts of your life.

• 46:12Speaker 00

  Right.

• 46:13Speaker 01

  I've never felt you more excited. All right. So, so your girlfriend and all of our best friend, Jennifer Aniston, how do you handle any time, and it doesn't matter who, when there's like a a high-profile relationship or anything like that? It doesn't even matter who, it always comes with tabloids and tabloid stories. And, you know, we, we had, when Oprah was on the show, we talked a lot about the decades of the tabloid stories that were in her life. How do you, how do you process that when you see all kinds of stories out there of, you know, Jen and Jim are getting married, Jen and Jim are-

• 46:52Speaker 00

  Jen and Jim go to Greece.

• 46:53Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 46:53Speaker 00

  Eloped in Greece.

• 46:55Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 47:00Speaker 00

  That was new. Yeah, that was new. And to be quite honest, that was something to get used to.

• 47:10Speaker 00

  Because, you know, I've been pretty public for a long time, but never this level or this kind of in this segment. And I've never been in the Hollywood kind of trades, the press, or no one's really cared to update it in the past. So that was a, that was an adjustment for me.

• 47:33Speaker 00

  But it was a real learning experience, too. It was a part of my growth. Because, you know, I would get categorized as something, a tabloid, or it'd be a fake headline, or it'd be something that was not flattering or made up.

• 47:51Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 47:52Speaker 00

  And I immediately would be like, they could have just gone to my LinkedIn page and saw all my achievements, all my wonderful things. And now it's like, oh, you know what? This is your lesson, that it doesn't matter what people are saying or thinking or doing. That your work and who you're helping is what matters most. And so, don't Google yourself again, Jim.

• 48:15Speaker 00

  To see what the news is saying today. And that took like, you know, three or four months. And now, you know, the kind of thing, if a tree falls in the woods and no one's there to hear it, but it doesn't make a noise.

• 48:25Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 48:26Speaker 00

  And that's kind of, I told my, my family, like,

• 48:32Speaker 00

  you don't need to send me the latest.

• 48:34Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 48:35Speaker 00

  Shot of me on a boat with my stomach hanging out, you know, like, type of thing.

• 48:39Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 48:39Speaker 00

  You know, then, these are just private moments with, like, any couple have. And it just kind of highlighted.

• 48:48Speaker 01

  Isn't that funny, friends and family, that when it's new for them, they think that they're doing you a service by like, oh, did you see this one? And do you see this? And then they send everything.

• 48:56Speaker 00

  I'm like, okay, that's great. Thank you so much. I'm so blessed. Right? I'm so blessed to have, you know, people care about what I'm doing. And also, this furthers a message of how I can help people. And also, yeah, sometimes it's not for our highest good, and you don't need to send it to me.

• 49:18Speaker 01

  Yeah. Have you had any of the fake headlines or the whatever, the stories that are out there? Have you had any of the stories out there ever hurt your feelings?

• 49:29Speaker 00

  Yeah, some, some things have hurt my feelings. And then I had to say, it's, it's not, you know, like, sometimes I think, why do people like the negative so much? And it's like, oh, people write really negative things, really nasty things, because there is, there, you know, there's a part of us, there's that shadow self that's really attracted to that. And if you're just writing nice things all the time, you know, people want a horror show, too. People want to see horror movies, too, you know, and so, and then I say,

• 50:02Speaker 00

  if I met this person in person, you know, we'd probably get along. There'd be like, if they were sitting at a dinner table, we'd probably be nice and get along, find common ground. And this is their job, and that's what they do, and that's unfortunate. And I'd let it go, because I know they don't know me.

• 50:18Speaker 01

  Do you guys think you look alike at all? Like a hint?

• 50:22Speaker 00

  We're both Greek. Yeah, we look alike.

• 50:24Speaker 01

  Like a hint, right?

• 50:25Speaker 00

  Yeah, yeah, yeah, that's the Greek in us.

• 50:27Speaker 01

  Like real life Barbie, real life Ken? Like a hint?

• 50:30Speaker 00

  A Greek Ken and Barbie.

• 50:31Speaker 01

  Greek Ken and Barbie. You, you talk a lot about transforming identities. Looking back at earlier years in your life, I know you were married before and have a son. And for your identity, who, who was Jim then? And how, and who is Jim now? And how has your identity shifted?

• 50:50Speaker 00

  Yeah, that's a really good one.

• 50:56Speaker 00

  I'm so proud of my son.

• 50:59Speaker 01

  Aiden?

• 51:00Speaker 00

  Aiden.

• 51:00Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 51:01Speaker 00

  He's away at college, in his freshman year. He, you know, he's, he got his own job, he bought himself a car, and I'm so proud of, proud of him. He's an amazing kid. And my identity now, I think,

• 51:23Speaker 00

  shows confidence. Right? Shows self-acceptance, shows self-love. And I think that he can kind of, I believe we teach our children to the way we are and act, our way of being. Along with all the things that we have to tell him. And I think

• 51:42Speaker 00

  20 years ago, I think I was also very loving. But I had left confidence in myself. And I had less self-acceptance. And I was, you know, trying to, you know, kind of ignore this, this body. And I would, I would, you know, people would be like, what happened? And I'd say, I didn't want to talk about it. Instead, I'd, you know, I tried to fabricate the story that would have the least amount of questions. What happened? Motorcycle accident. No more questions after a motorcycle accident. Someone's gonna ask how fast you, there's no more questions. When you say, unknown illness. Then people, it leads to more.

• 52:25Speaker 00

  So I think the, between now, I am,

• 52:31Speaker 00

  you know, I think I've grown in terms of my ability to make an impact on my family and the world. And then I was supportive and loving and caring. And also, I think I had a, I had a lot to learn.

• 52:50Speaker 01

  Has your son read your book yet?

• 52:52Speaker 00

  No. No one's read this book yet.

• 52:54Speaker 01

  No one?

• 52:55Speaker 00

  Some parts.

• 52:56Speaker 01

  I feel lucky.

• 52:57Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 52:57Speaker 01

  I feel lucky.

• 52:58Speaker 00

  Yes. It was fun recording it. I was in the studio recording it. I let some people hear, like, the chapter of my voice recording it or so. But no one's read the whole thing, except for, you know, my publisher.

• 53:10Speaker 01

  Wow. So a handful of us.

• 53:13Speaker 00

  Right, and you. Yes, yes.

• 53:14Speaker 01

  I've read it, cover to cover.

• 53:16Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 53:17Speaker 01

  Are you nervous about anybody reading it that you can think of? Are you excited?

• 53:21Speaker 00

  I'm excited.

• 53:21Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 53:22Speaker 00

  I'm excited. I think, I think, I think that the frequency of this book will spread a lot of love and help people, and I'm excited for that.

• 53:32Speaker 01

  Yeah, for the person at home who is listening to all this.

• 53:36Speaker 00

  Yep.

• 53:36Speaker 01

  And they're like, huh, something really just hit me. Like, maybe it's like, they want to just change, you know, parts of their life to help them love themselves more, or they want to just enjoy life more, or they want to gain confidence.

• 53:51Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 53:51Speaker 01

  Or they're like, wow, Jim's journey of, you know, dealing with different things that he's gone through and saying that he's now come to this place where, where, where you're so much more confident than you've ever been, and you're, you have this life and a loving relationship and a thriving business that you're not putting a ceiling on anymore. And that you've kind of come to this place of expansiveness. What would you say to the person who maybe right now is like, but Jim, I'm stuck, but I want to do something about it? And, and, and can you just share in your words, because I could do this for an hour. Can you share in your words how your book, The Book of Possibility, is for them?

• 54:30Speaker 00

  It will give you one possibility. It will give you one potential, right? And then it will give you a number of steps that you can take. Because when you're feeling stuck,

• 54:40Speaker 00

  really, the only way to get unstuck is to take a step. And the reason why we stay stuck is because we're like, we see the end result, and we think that we need to take a leap.

• 54:50Speaker 00

  But, you know, one small step, you know, and leads to another step. And before you know it, you've, you've gone an inch, and then you've got a yard, and then you've got a football field, and then you've got a mile. And, and you've looked back and you see the trail of steps. So if you want to get unstuck, this book will help you. It very easily and relatable will show you that you can find your right step. And that it doesn't have to be a huge leap, it can be a small step. And the small step always leads to the next small step. And so you won't be overwhelmed. And if you heard something today that's just like, oh, I felt that in my heart. Or I felt, I've released a breath, and I was like, oh, like, what if that's true? And then you started overthinking it?

• 55:35Speaker 00

  That's your first awareness. You don't need to overthink. Just allow your energy and your emotions to settle and to regulate. And from there, you can say, I don't have to believe every word that my thoughts say. And instead, I can start to dictate what I want to happen and how I want to do it. And then that's your next small step. Start telling myself those words more often. Put them in an I am statement. Right? I am what I want to become. And that will help you.

• 56:07Speaker 01

  I want to say too, I think so many of these topics, if they're new to somebody can be intimidating, or we can think like, oh, am I smart enough to do this? Or do I have what it takes? I think one of your superpowers that I've observed in a few occasions, actually, is that whoever is exposed to you, whether it's through conversation or through your book, or I was at a godmother's event where a bunch of us were together and you were leading everyone through your process. I think one of your superpowers is somehow all of us feel like we're not doing it wrong. And like you're reminding us, like you said earlier, like something feels like, oh, okay,

• 56:50Speaker 01

  I can do this. Oh, yeah, I do have what it takes to do this. Oh, yeah, I'm okay. I'm not, everything I'm effing up in my life is actually I'm getting it all right. Because this is the human experience.

• 57:01Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 57:02Speaker 01

  The way you said this earlier, where initially when people like, oh, that, you know, I'm glad for the reminder, I'm glad, it's like you're actually, one of your superpowers is helping people see the power inside of them that's in there already. One of the words that you use a lot, that I've never heard anyone else use, is you say, you're doing it exactly right. And you say that, and I remember the first time when I was at the event you were at, and you were guiding us through an experience, and you said those words out loud over and over. And I remember I felt my body just kind of like exhale a little bit. Because like, none of us think we're doing anything right, half the time, you know? And all of a sudden, you're like, you're doing this exactly right. And I want to call this out because for someone who is maybe going, huh, should I check out

• 57:47Speaker 01

  the book of possibility?

• 57:50Speaker 01

  It's gonna be a book where you read it, and you're like, I'm doing it right. Even though you talk about tools that can change someone's life, the way that you communicate them, and the way that you lead people through them, I think gives them a confidence and a peace that they have what it takes already to do it. I think that's a superpower of yours.

• 58:13Speaker 00

  Well, thank you for saying that. I think, I think you're right. One of my skills is to take complex ideas and make them easy. And like I said, at first, I was like, boy, maybe I need to be more profound if these are just reminders. And then I realized, oh, sometimes a reminder is the most important thing we can have.

• 58:33Speaker 01

  I think it's Colin Powell who said, in the right key, one can say anything. In the wrong key, nothing. Only delicate parts, the establishment of the key. And the way you establish the key is gonna, is gonna allow a lot of people to walk through this and experience it. And that's really cool. Whether it's a brand new novel idea, whether it's something that, you know, you learned from someone that you talk about, how they changed your life, the prayer. But when you explain it through here, the way that you communicate is sort of this, is disarming and confidence building. So I think that's a superpower. And I think that's huge, because a lot of people pick up books, they get a chapter through, and their brain feels like the explosion emoji, emoji, and they can't like, get through it.

• 59:16Speaker 01

  And so I just, I want to honor that as one of your superpowers. The very last question I have for you, just for that one person out there who's like, okay, but does this apply to me? You say you are the consciousness that creates worlds. Can you just share to the person listening, what, what is possible for them with what they already have right now?

• 59:43Speaker 00

  Right. What's possible for you is that you're creating your entire world.

• 59:49Speaker 00

  You're the, you're creating your entire reality and your experience of it, based on your beliefs, that support your patterns, that support your identity. And so if you can become consciously aware, and in a very loving, forgiving way, say, that's no longer me, I am something different, then you can create an entirely new world for yourself, one beyond all expectation. And I know because I've worked with thousands of people to do this, one that you wake up happy, that you go to bed easily, more of the time, not always.

• 1:00:28Speaker 00

  And that you're in the relationship that you only dreamed of, or you're in a relationship where you get over conflict easily because you're on the same team. Like, it's all possible. And it comes with your own awareness that you are the creator of your world.

• 1:00:45Speaker 01

  So we're gonna link to everything, but just in your own words, where are the best places for people to find you, while you also share about the app that's in your book?

• 1:00:54Speaker 00

  Yes. The best place to find me is Instagram, at Jim Curtis One. I do a lot of stuff there, but also YouTube. And the app that's coming out at the same time of the book is called the Possibility App. And the book has a free companion in the Possibility App. So you get six meditations that go with each part of the book that you listen to, Release the Line, Become Health, Wealth, and Love. And if you listen to these over and over again, it's helped so many people, and I know will help you as well. Just, please DM me, or email me, or whatever it is, tell me your experience. The other part of the app has Jim AI Coaching and my voice, with all my podcasts, all my books, everything loaded up into the mind of this Jim AI.

• 1:01:38Speaker 00

  And there's 150 other hypno meditations that you can do for sleep, or anxiety, or anything else.

• 1:01:45Speaker 01

  Amazing. Thank you.

• 1:01:47Speaker 00

  Thank you for having me.

• 1:01:48Speaker 01

  Yeah, and congratulations on the book of possibility.

• 1:01:51Speaker 00

  Thank you.

• 1:01:52Speaker 01

  Go get your copy right now. It's out everywhere books are sold. Thank you, Jim.

• 1:01:56Speaker 00

  Thank you. That's good.

• 1:01:57Speaker 01

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