Bonus #185 - Live Call Show Vol. 42 [PATREON PREVIEW]

Patreon preview. Unlock full episode at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld Stavvy's back talking directly to the fans!! In the latest live call episode from the new Stavvy Baby HQ, Stav and Eldis help beautiful members from the Patreon live on Discord, including a guy who wants to convince his partner to open their relationship, a guy who's considering impulsively moving to Paris for a farfetched romance, and a caller who reveals a first: a Stavvy's World tattoo. If you'd like to be a part of future live call episodes, subscribe at www.patreon.com/stavvysworld to get access to the Stavvy's World Discord channel where these live calls are taken. ☎️ Have a question for a regular episode? Call 904-800-STAV and leave a voicemail to get advice! 🎟️ See Stavvy live on the Dreamboat Tour 🛥️💕!!! https://stavvy.biz/ for tickets ‼️ Bonus episodes every week! Unlock exclusive, Patreon-only episodes at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld

Speaker names marked ? are inferred from speaking time and the show’s known hosts — they are not voice-verified.

• 0:00Speaker 00

  Uh, so, quick context, grew up in a small town, America. Um, went to college right down the road from my house, stayed at home during college. Got a degree that is functionally useless.

• 0:19Stavros Halkias?

  Hmm.

• 0:20Speaker 00

  And have been working random jobs ever since, um, sort of directionless career wise right now.

• 0:32Stavros Halkias?

  Okay.

• 0:32Speaker 00

  And I've always felt this like push that gets stronger the older I get to like run away and fucking move to a city or move abroad and just like get out of my small town.

• 0:48Stavros Halkias?

  Sure.

• 0:48Speaker 00

  You know what I mean?

• 0:49Stavros Halkias?

  I get that, of course.

• 0:51Speaker 00

  Even though I like.

• 0:52Stavros Halkias?

  You're talking to two guys who've like moved to New York in their twenties. We, we get it.

• 0:57Speaker 00

  Exactly. Um, I love my family and I have a lot of really good friends that I love. So that makes it like a little harder for me.

• 1:05Stavros Halkias?

  Of course.

• 1:06Speaker 00

  To like grasp that, but anyway, six months ago, was like, I fucking hate my job and I need something new. So I was looking at ski mountain jobs in the Alps.

• 1:19Stavros Halkias?

  Hell yeah.

• 1:19Speaker 00

  But I was like, too late in the season to do that. So I just got a ski mountain job like down the road from me.

• 1:26Stavros Halkias?

  Mm hmm.

• 1:27Speaker 00

  And it's been awesome.

• 1:28Stavros Halkias?

  Beef up the resume a little bit. Beef up the ski, be up, beef up the ski resort resume a little bit.

• 1:35Speaker 00

  Yeah. And then maybe next year.

• 1:37Stavros Halkias?

  Maybe next year. I got you.

• 1:38Speaker 00

  Somewhere in Europe.

• 1:39Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, that's fucking awesome.

• 1:42Speaker 00

  So I got the chance to go on like, there's like a gap, four week gap between spring and summer or summer and winter, we get laid off for four weeks. So I said, fuck it. Backpacking trip to Europe for 11 days.

• 1:58Stavros Halkias?

  Fuck yeah, dude.

• 2:00Speaker 00

  Yeah, it was sick. Um, I was telling my sister about it and she was like, that sounds cool. And I was like, hey, you want to go? Cause she happened to be finishing up her semester. So.

• 2:12Stavros Halkias?

  Fuck yeah.

• 2:12Speaker 00

  We went and explored Europe a little, right?

• 2:16Stavros Halkias?

  Love that.

• 2:16Speaker 00

  And it was like awesome. It was dream come true for like the last 10 years. It's been something I want to do, right?

• 2:23Stavros Halkias?

  Hell yeah.

• 2:24Speaker 00

  Uh, in Paris, I met this girl.

• 2:29Speaker 00

  Off Hinge.

• 2:30Stavros Halkias?

  Ooh.

• 2:31Speaker 00

  And we had like a pretty fucking, you know, three.

• 2:34Stavros Halkias?

  That's awesome.

• 2:34Speaker 00

  Three solid days together.

• 2:36Stavros Halkias?

  Dude, that's the dream backpacking trip shack up with a Parisian bitch for a fortnight. Nothing better than that.

• 2:42Speaker 00

  That's what I'm saying. It was sick. Um, so now she's like, hey, you should come live in Paris. And I'm like, alright, well, I feel like there's a lot of things pushing me in that direction. Like, I really got nothing going on here.

• 3:03Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, America sucks dick.

• 3:04Speaker 00

  America fucking sucks dick. It's getting exponentially worse as time goes on.

• 3:09Stavros Halkias?

  Yep.

• 3:11Speaker 00

  So I'm like, I don't know, maybe I should just go to Paris and like, see what's up. Even though like, I know realistically, maybe it doesn't work out with this girl, but like.

• 3:19Stavros Halkias?

  Who cares? Who fucking gives a fuck, dude? Like, that's the thing. If you felt sort of directionless and have this malaise, and this is just sort of naturally in front of you, and you're young enough, like, you're, you're young enough, you don't have shit kind of holding you back, whatever, it's like, just fucking go. What's the worst that can happen? You're gonna fucking, you have to gonna find another fucking ski lodge job?

• 3:42Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 3:42Stavros Halkias?

  I gotta, I gotta hunch you'll be able to find, they're not asking about the gap in your resume, when you fucking apply for a ski lodge job. And listen, it doesn't work out in Paris, fuck it, try a different city. You know what I'm saying? Like.

• 3:54Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 3:55Stavros Halkias?

  That's, to me, this sounds cool. And this sounds like the kind of thing where, what do you really have to lose? You know, like, go see if you like it. If it doesn't work out with her, alright, you lived in Paris for six months and it was a cool, you'll be able to tell that story for the rest of your life? And by the way, that might be enough for you. That might scratch this itch, right? Like, cause something like, you know, I remember starting, cause we have a very, me and Elders do have a very specific kind of like, dork, dorks around America, like, thought of like, you know, moving to New York is like, like, that's our eat, pray, love, right? When you're like a fucking, we're like a fat schlub who's like, I want to get into comedy.

• 4:35Stavros Halkias?

  Like, New York is like, the ultimate thing. Uh, and yeah, I, I, and, and I remember when I was like, 20, being like, man, if I don't make it in New York, I'm gonna fucking kill myself, right? When the reality is like. The older I got, the more I'm like, I would see friends of mine who would like come to New York for 10 years. That was all they needed, then they moved back. I saw people that moved in for, moved here for a couple of years, had a great time and left. People who moved here and realized it wasn't for them. Like, these, these experiences, look, could you be a fucking guy who just lives in Paris? And you have fucking French kids and like, whatever. Yeah, that's one way it could work. Could you be a guy who just has an awesome?

• 5:16Stavros Halkias?

  Or not even awesome, but like, oh, the weirdest six months of your, like, you, you and this girl have a weird relationship, you break up. And then you stay in Europe and backpack for three months and get your dick sucked in Berlin and fucking, you know, go train to train, whatever the fuck, like.

• 5:31Speaker 00

  Right.

• 5:32Stavros Halkias?

  Either way, to me, you're never gonna, this is so perfect, cuz you don't have a job that you're that worried about. Your expenses, it seems like are probably low. This is the time to do it. And, and believe me.

• 5:45Speaker 00

  This is the time.

• 5:45Stavros Halkias?

  Believe me, if it wasn't, I would tell you, right? I would tell you it's fucking dumb. But, you know, you're not, you're not about to come up for tenure at your fucking university. You're not, you're not about to get promoted. You're not about to make the union, you know what I mean? Like, you're fucking serving up fucking, uh, uh, hot chocolate and fucking teaching kids how to go down the bunny slope, right? Like, you can find that job after you wash out of Europe, worst case scenario. So this is the time, bro. This is the most open and shut question we've ever actually gotten, cuz I don't even see one negative, if I'm being completely honest.

• 6:18Speaker 00

  Yeah. So, the reason I needed like some outside perspective is because I'm gonna talk to my friends and family about this. And they're gonna be like, ah, but we'll miss you. And they're gonna hit maybe a little guilt trip and like, you should stay. And like, we won't be able to see you. And I just needed someone else who's like on the outside with no.

• 6:37Stavros Halkias?

  Dude, yeah.

• 6:38Speaker 00

  Association.

• 6:39Stavros Halkias?

  How old are you, by, out of curiosity, did you say?

• 6:41Speaker 00

  Twenty-seven.

• 6:43Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, dude, you gotta go now, bro. You gotta go now. You're close. You gotta go now, man.

• 6:50Speaker 00

  I'm on the worst step of.

• 6:52Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, no, no, it's, if you don't go now, and by the way, yeah.

• 6:56Speaker 00

  It's never happened.

• 6:56Stavros Halkias?

  This is so, you cannot, you cannot let your friends and family guilt you into this shit. You cannot, bro. You will literally, this is crazy to fucking heighten this so much, but. There are certain moments in a person's life that dictate how your life turns out. I'm not kidding. This is one of them. And if you become a guy who lets guilt and the familiar and inertia of how you grow up, stop you from having new experiences, you will be this guy forever. You will be the coward who didn't go to Paris forever. Even if your life turns out good, on some level, you've changed who you are.

• 7:33Speaker 00

  I'll regret.

• 7:34Stavros Halkias?

  You will, dude. And I'm speaking of a guy who's like, I honestly, dude, I've been courageous like five important times in my life. And the rest of the time, I've been a complete coward. But it was like, you know, moving to, like, just being like, you know what? I want to do stand up. Even though, I mean, you know, I went to therapy because I want to do stand up. And my family guilt, like, I had to have a therapist basically tell me doing stand up was okay. And I still didn't listen, by the way. I went back to school, had to learn it for myself. And then was like, no, she was right. Moving to New York was a big one. Fucking leaving Compton where I was making like 30 grand a month for no, for no, with no like, you know, certainty

• 8:16Stavros Halkias?

  that shit would go well. And like, we've been really rewarded more than I even fucking could imagine. And it's like, you know, and look, some bets haven't worked, sure. Like, I've had some fucking bad, some bad shit that didn't work out, whatever. But like, you know, there's a couple moments where it's like, you have to throw everything away or that are scary. And it's like, if you just power through that shit, you just become a better version of yourself, win or lose. Whether that situation went right or wrong, now you're a guy who takes chances and doesn't let, you know, doesn't let his family and guilt stop him. And that, that in and of itself will be bigger for you than even going to Paris, in my opinion. Speaking as someone who's, you know, who's had a couple of these moments and a couple of hard conversations and a couple of hard decisions.

• 9:00Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, that's my advice to you, bud. I couldn't, I couldn't more strongly believe that you should go.

• 9:05Speaker 00

  Fuck, yeah. It's good to hear.

• 9:08Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, so do it. And yeah, call, call us back from a fucking French, from French internet when you're all set up up there.

• 9:16Speaker 02

  Absolutely. Did you go to, did you go to Chamonix when you were in Europe?

• 9:21Speaker 00

  I did not.

• 9:22Stavros Halkias?

  Elders just looking for an excuse to talk about his vacation. Go ahead.

• 9:25Speaker 02

  Well, you should definitely go. That place was fucking awesome. It's like, it's like, it's like, it's like basically a French like ski bum town. And it was like, I was only there for one night with my wife, like near the end of our trip. But I was like, holy fuck, this is the coolest fucking place.

• 9:42Stavros Halkias?

  That's awesome.

• 9:42Speaker 02

  It's just like so many young people are really doing that ski bum life up there. And God, you should seek that out if you go out there, but definitely, definitely. Yeah, I fully agree with everything stops. So this is, this sounds fucking awesome.

• 9:58Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah.

• 9:58Speaker 02

  Sounds like you got nothing to lose. And hey, worst case scenario, you're just back in six months to a year.

• 10:04Stavros Halkias?

  Gives a fuck. But call us, call us back in a year. We want an update either way. All right?

• 10:09Speaker 00

  Fuck yeah, I will do so.

• 10:11Stavros Halkias?

  All right, big dog. Good luck.

• 10:13Speaker 00

  All right. Thank you, guys. Love the pod. Love what you do. Keep it up. Thanks for talking to me.

• 10:18Stavros Halkias?

  Take it easy.

• 10:20Stavros Halkias?

  Wow, he's gotta do that.

• 10:22Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 10:22Stavros Halkias?

  He's gotta fucking do that, man.

• 10:24Speaker 02

  I mean, it's like, if you drop your life and go to fucking Paris, half the reason is because you want to get French pussy. And it sounds like he's got that lined up.

• 10:34Stavros Halkias?

  And by the way, even if you move back, now you're the guy, dude, how many people, remember when we were like, I remember like, I remember comics who came to New York failed, right? Older people.

• 10:45Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 10:46Stavros Halkias?

  But they were, not failed, but they were just like, they just wasn't for them. Like I had friends who like older comics who like, were passed at the cellar or had a TV credit. And it's like, yeah, did you have the fucking exact career you wanted to? Maybe not, but those guys are, you go back and you talk about your six months in France, you're so much more interesting than the version of yourself that just stays there the whole time. You just had, like, I had friends who came to New York, had some success and realized all this work isn't worth it. But they had some cool stories and a lot of those guys helped me just become a better stand up or like, and you could be a guy who some kid from your hometown could talk to you about living in France and then

• 11:24Speaker 02

  Totally.

• 11:25Stavros Halkias?

  You could actually, you could help somebody else, you know? So anyway, it's beautiful. We're all for having transformative life experiences and taking gambles here on this podcast.