The Ancient 4-Step Method to Clear Your Mind | Shaolin Master Shi Heng Yi

Shi Heng Yi is a 35th generation Shaolin master and founder of the Shaolin Temple Europe, in conversation with Lewis Howes on The School of Greatness. He argues that people fail to manifest what they want because a hindrance cannot change until it is accepted. The episode covers the RAIN method (Recognize, Accept, Investigate, Non-identification), the five hindrances, Heaven, Man, Earth, yin and yang, gratefulness, focused cycles of practice, and shaolin.online.

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• 3:55Lewis Howes?

  You have this four step method you call RAIN to help you clear your mind and overcome these hindrances.

• 4:04Lewis Howes?

  Can you share what this four step method is?

• 4:06Speaker 01

  So for example, once you are, once you know or have understood about yourself, what type of mental states these hindrances, for example, represent? Yeah, the way how we just try to explain to them. Every time one of these mental states pops up into your mind, which means positive emotion, negative emotion, ill will, you feel depressed, you feel weak, you feel that lack of power, you have this restlessness inside of you, or you have, yeah, what was the last one?

• 4:51Lewis Howes?

  Ah, the skeptical doubt.

• 4:52Speaker 01

  Ah, or the skeptical doubt coming up. So most important is you need to realize it. Realize that it is just there.

• 5:08Speaker 01

  Sometimes you realize it, sometimes you recognize it. This is the idea why it's a very, very nice simile to remember those four methods later on what we regard as RAIN, R-A-I-N. And we are at the moment with the R, meaning you recognize that you realize that apparently at this moment in time, you are finding yourself in one of these mental states which are representing hindrances. Okay. Now the next step, what are you doing after you have recognized that you're in it?

• 5:52Speaker 01

  Now starts the point where it becomes very helpful if we start to analyze. And analyzing meaning you do everything that is in your possibilities to just ask questions about why did it come up?

• 6:13Speaker 01

  What, what did it trigger?

• 6:19Speaker 01

  When did it exactly come up?

• 6:23Speaker 01

  How actually did this feeling in the first place get into yourself? When was, for example, the first time that you realized that you are having this type of mental state? So what analyzing means is you try to look into your past also. Is it something related to the education of your parents?

• 6:51Speaker 01

  Is it something related to an idea that you caught up from, I don't know from where?

• 6:58Speaker 01

  So analyzing means that you make an investigation.

• 7:04Speaker 01

  Investigation means this time you go deeper. This is where we are at the I already.

• 7:11Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, the third one, yeah.

• 7:13Speaker 01

  I is investigation, A, I'm sorry, I said.

• 7:19Lewis Howes?

  Analyze?

• 7:20Speaker 01

  Analyze, no, it's accept, it's accept, sorry.

• 7:23Lewis Howes?

  You're good, accept it.

• 7:24Speaker 01

  Accept it, accept it, acknowledge it. The difference is when you acknowledge something and accept something,

• 7:34Speaker 01

  it is that you're not pushing it away.

• 7:38Lewis Howes?

  You're not resisting it.

• 7:39Speaker 01

  You're not resisting it. And the reason for that is as long as something is not accepted or not acknowledged, it can't be changed because it is still outside of you.

• 7:55Speaker 01

  See, so if I have like a mental state, anything like this, and I say, yes, it's there, but, but I want to have it gone. Then what you're trying to do in this approach is you're separating. You're trying to separate it, but this is not the way this method is expressing. This method tells you it is there. Why is it there? It's because something inside of you already is resonating with it. So it's a matter of you, it's your business. So now what you're doing is I accept the business.

• 8:29Speaker 01

  I take it, I understand, okay, it's my business. That is the acknowledgement, the acceptance that you are saying, okay, I'm going to take care of it.

• 8:38Speaker 01

  This is like that A part, why it is important. If you reject it, if you don't embrace it, it can't be changed. And then now in the third step, now comes the investigation. This is where you ask the questions. So that means where you try to find out more. You want to become familiar.

• 9:02Speaker 01

  You want to take that feeling into your family.

• 9:07Speaker 01

  Make him become part of you and make him become friend of you. Understanding it is a part of you, but maybe it's just a misunderstanding of the way how you saw it before. This is like the, I did the investigation of asking questions.

• 9:25Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 9:26Speaker 01

  Finding out more about it. Where does it come from? Who implemented it into your way of seeing the world?

• 9:38Speaker 01

  And ultimately, the last step after this type of process is what we call non-identification. Now, non-identification is quite similar to what I tried to express before, that you sometimes need to stand above you and see from that perspective. How can you support yourself? How can you support that person to get into

• 10:10Speaker 01

  the next development stage?

• 10:13Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 10:14Speaker 01

  For example, yeah, this is one, one type of non-identification. But at the same time, also means.

• 10:25Speaker 01

  Nothing stays as it is.

• 10:29Speaker 01

  Nothing stays as it is. Just as sometimes things are so overwhelming entering into your life. It can happen the other way around as well.

• 10:41Speaker 01

  And I mean, you just need to, everybody just look back into your personal life. How many bad moments did you have in the past? How many times did you suffer in the past? How often we were already thinking like this is the end of the world. Girlfriend left you, boyfriend left you, you know, different, read different occasions, yeah? But none of them stayed. That is like also the other, the other truth behind it. You know, and

• 11:16Speaker 01

  the great part, like I also said already in our conversation is the way how you are able to use either the imagination

• 11:28Speaker 01

  or just like the abilities of the mind.

• 11:32Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 11:33Speaker 01

  Because you can turn it both ways. Either you see it as why did it come so suddenly? Or you see the opposite.

• 11:43Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 11:45Speaker 01

  It's going to leave.

• 11:47Lewis Howes?

  Right, right.

• 11:48Speaker 01

  So I mean, that's the other side. Of course, in this world we are living that we, we, we humans and this society, I think, is more, more easily being torn towards the positive or towards a very certain side, let's say. But this is because of, I think, the developments of our 21st century. Where there are certain values being propagated.

• 12:23Speaker 01

  There is no propaganda in learn how to be poor.

• 12:30Speaker 01

  Learn how to deal with failure.

• 12:34Speaker 01

  Learn how to not be successful. Learn how to accept the way how you are. Not how to make yourself more beautiful and try to stay beautiful.

• 12:47Speaker 01

  There is a different agenda going on in the 21st century. And based on that, I do think that the mindset also has shifted therefore in trying to fulfill the expectations, what is present in our nowadays world.

• 13:06Speaker 01

  But it's your personal decision.

• 13:09Speaker 01

  It's really important for me to really say this again and again. I'm not here to judge whether something is good or whether something is bad. But I'm just saying that if you have placed something upon your mind

• 13:27Speaker 01

  that right now you are trying with your lifetime to make it become real.

• 13:34Speaker 01

  But this is what you are trying to put into this life. It's not even an idea that comes from you. I just

• 13:45Speaker 01

  want to express that I think it can go very wrong to one day find out that you have lived a life and invested your lifetime following up on a vision, on an expectation or anything like this. Which first of all was never something initially coming from yourself. And afterwards, even if you followed up on it and achieved it. Afterwards, realize it doesn't give you what you were looking for in this lifetime.

• 14:22Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 14:23Speaker 01

  And that's just how it is.

• 14:24Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. This has been about the, the five hindrances that hold people back from mastering their inner selves. And really feeling more abundance, peace, love and joy. Um, I'm loving everything we're talking about. And I want to ask you now, I want to transition into

• 14:46Lewis Howes?

  a new topic about how to manifest your dream future. And how you think we can step into this? If someone has a vision, a dream, that they want to manifest something.

• 14:59Lewis Howes?

  Where do you think we should begin in this process of dreaming and manifesting the future? And I know you've talked about uh, heaven, man, earth concept that has helped you manifest a vision.

• 15:14Lewis Howes?

  Is this something that we should think about? And if so, what's this concept? Can you explain it?

• 15:19Speaker 01

  So this sentence, heaven, man, earth. Heaven above us, man in the center, earth below us.

• 15:32Speaker 01

  It's just expressing

• 15:35Speaker 01

  from the same, let's say, family of teaching. The same that also we find in the area of the yin and yang symbol. It's just a little bit more detailed. Meaning

• 15:48Speaker 01

  there is something inside of us humans

• 15:52Speaker 01

  which we say has some heavenly connection. At the same time, there is something about us humans which has a very

• 16:03Speaker 01

  strong foundation rooted in the earth. So let's start with the earthly aspects about ourselves. So earth means for me, first of all, I can see it.

• 16:19Speaker 01

  If I fly on the plane, no matter where, if I look down, I know where to look to see the earth.

• 16:24Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 16:25Speaker 01

  So what does it mean? It means there is something to see.

• 16:32Speaker 01

  Our whole world is based on seeing. What is it that you can see? You can only see something that has a shape.

• 16:42Speaker 01

  Something without a shape, you can't see. But talking about you can see it, talking about it has a shape. What is the nature of a shape? The nature of a shape is separating.

• 17:01Speaker 01

  It's separating what is inside the shape and what is outside of the shape.

• 17:08Speaker 01

  It is separating. So one quality of the earth is it's based already from the, let's say, from the natural side, based upon separation. Based upon this is life and this is death. This is growth and this is decay.

• 17:32Speaker 01

  And now, our body, our physical body. How come when we were born, we maybe had our like three kilograms, four kilograms baby? And now look at how huge we have become, not me, you.

• 17:49Speaker 01

  Look how much like we have, we have grown.

• 17:51Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 17:52Speaker 01

  So where all of this come from?

• 17:54Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 17:54Speaker 01

  Very, very easily said, from the food, from the nutrition, from everything that we have taken and give our body to eat or to drink. Even if it is meanwhile, some products are created in a laboratory. But even the resources for that, ultimately, everything comes just from the earth.

• 18:19Speaker 01

  So if you now just follow up on that thought. Our body is created upon, let's say

• 18:29Speaker 01

  individual aspects from this earth that by nature already are limited in a way. Limiting inside and outside, so limiting. That means our body automatically is limited. It is what we call nowadays lifetime. So simply said, sorry for the long explanation.

• 18:51Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 18:52Speaker 01

  But that is what it means for me.

• 18:56Speaker 01

  It is no doubt about it. I don't need to philosophize around it. I can see it. This is out of question. It's gonna go.

• 19:06Speaker 01

  That is the earth part about ourselves. At the same time, giving me insights. You want to change something about that? What is it to take care of? Everything that comes from the earth, very easily. Which means food, drinks, the breast.

• 19:24Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 19:25Speaker 01

  Yeah, so that is like how I would use now this concept to, in my daily life. To just understand, okay, this body comes from there. So the better the quality of the ingredients I put into this. The more quality this can generate. That is the earth aspect. And in comparison now to that earth, we have that heaven aspect. Heaven aspect called like this. Because looking up into the sky, it's really difficult to tell where does the sky end.

• 20:02Speaker 01

  Meaning heaven stands for something which is borderless. There are no borders in the sky.

• 20:12Speaker 01

  And so what is it inside of us humans that I think

• 20:19Speaker 01

  we have something similar like this?

• 20:23Speaker 01

  That is for me, the way of how you are able to use your mind.

• 20:32Speaker 01

  Because sometimes,

• 20:35Speaker 01

  you can use the mind and create something you have never seen in this world. You're creating something in the mind. You have never seen it in person. Why? Because it's not existing yet. Yet, you can see it here.

• 20:54Speaker 01

  This can mean a fear also. A fear what's gonna happen tomorrow. A fear what will happen to my children if I will not be able to take care of them anymore. So there is something you're projecting already that is not here yet. It's not real. You're projecting it inside of you and the feelings based upon that way of thinking still makes it real to you. Even though it's not in the world yet? Yes. So this is how you need to be careful what you're creating on the mind. This is the reason why it's

• 21:33Speaker 01

  so important to know what are you placing inside the mind? Because it's so powerful. Yes. But now assuming that we all do not want to create our own

• 21:53Speaker 01

  descent or decay, anything like this. Let's say this is not what we want, but we want to have something that we would like to create. Yeah. Let's say. So the question right now is, how do I get something from what at the moment is only in my mind? Into something that it becomes what we would call real? When is something real? It's real when it's here. When also other people can see it, not just you in the mind, then it's real.

• 22:29Speaker 01

  Because like you can imagine you have like some beautiful women as a girlfriend, yeah? But no one else sees it. But nobody else sees it, yeah? It's only real if there's another witness who sees you and that girl walking together, then it's real.

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• 24:56Speaker 01

  And how do we make this now happen? It is on the one side. Of course, you need a plan. You need a small step-by-step plan. And I really think that meanwhile, especially like in modern businesses of is very similar like when you make project management. You break your ideas of course down into walkable steps. So that's why I think I don't need to say so much to it.

• 25:28Speaker 01

  But along this plan,

• 25:32Speaker 01

  along this way of let's say, trying to make it become real. This can also mean you need to find more and more ways. How does something so fine like your thoughts start to shape into a form? So it is about find ways to give it expression. Can you explain?

• 25:59Speaker 01

  Yes. Write it down on paper is one way of giving thoughts and expression. Speaking about it. Speaking it out to your friends. More people know about it. Writing it onto your fridge. Something where the thought starts to enter into your visible world. This is the small steps that just support you on this mission. These are small things.

• 26:29Speaker 01

  The next step would be, whatever you would like to achieve there. What skills are necessary?

• 26:40Speaker 01

  Do you have the skills?

• 26:45Speaker 01

  Now a little bit more,

• 26:49Speaker 01

  a little bit more nicely drawn. It means

• 26:56Speaker 01

  you wanna go on a mission,

• 26:59Speaker 01

  but at the moment, you don't know yet in which direction you have to move. So that means the first thing in order for you to answer this question, which direction to move is, you need to know your location.

• 27:16Speaker 01

  And this now translated into, so what is it I'm supposed to do?

• 27:23Speaker 01

  Who are you at the moment? What are your abilities at this very moment?

• 27:33Speaker 01

  What do you have available time-wise?

• 27:39Speaker 01

  Financial-wise? It doesn't matter. What, in which situation are you right now? So we need to see where is our actual location.

• 27:49Speaker 01

  And from there now, it starts, at least now, you have a hint.

• 27:57Speaker 01

  If you wanna go there, but at the moment you don't know yet, where are you located? If you're located here, you know you need to walk here.

• 28:07Speaker 01

  East. If you are located here, it's not east, because then you're gonna make a long way. So that it really depends on where are you located? And this is why it's from person to person is different. And I cannot always tell to the same person, so you wanna go there, go east. You wanna go there too, you also go east. No. Because they are not starting from the same position. Yeah. Some people have already some education and some experience previously that will immensely help them to already like start from a different point.

• 28:49Speaker 01

  So, but where have we been? Skills. And now this is the part where also jumping back into what is Shaolin also known for. Known for abilities of the practitioners, which are normally above average human abilities. Yeah, and this doesn't come because we bought it somewhere.

• 29:18Speaker 01

  You practice it.

• 29:21Speaker 01

  Yes, but there is a very specific type now of practice.

• 29:26Speaker 01

  And this is maybe also interesting, what actually is that original meaning of David Carradine Kung Fu? Kung Fu. This Kung Fu.

• 29:40Speaker 01

  Kung Fu meaning it's attaining a skill

• 29:45Speaker 01

  through hard work.

• 29:48Speaker 01

  That is important. Attaining a skill through hard work.

• 29:55Speaker 01

  Why is only this one what we call Kung Fu? Because this Kung Fu is not about fighting at the moment. It is about something that you have, for example, also developed. You also have Kung Fu. It is something that

• 30:14Speaker 01

  you have, you can do, you got. And if somebody else in this room would like to have the same ability like you,

• 30:24Speaker 01

  he cannot buy it.

• 30:28Speaker 01

  He cannot just like wish to have it. There's only one way how a person would ever get to the same skill set like you have. He needs to go through the same training, effort, sweating, suffering. Consistently, yeah. Like you. And this is what we regard as, these are the skills we are looking for. I'm not looking for a skill that I can outsource.

• 30:58Speaker 01

  I'm looking for skills, I have them. And nobody else in this world can copy. If you wanna copy, well, then you need to train. You need to do the same. Right. And so that means along this way, you also realize in developing those skills right now, actually, this is a way to make something unique about you.

• 31:23Speaker 01

  And this uniqueness goes hand in hand.

• 31:29Speaker 01

  With the unbroken willpower that you put into it and with that vision of yourself that this is what you want and this is what you're gonna do.

• 31:43Speaker 01

  And...

• 31:45Speaker 01

  So it is a combination. It is a combination of you need to work for it, but also at the same time have the mindset also that backs up your battle plan.

• 31:57Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. And why do you think most people fail to manifest what they want? Is it because they don't have the discipline, the willpower, the consistency? Is it because they're not strong enough or willing to develop the strength? Why do they fail at manifesting?

• 32:13Speaker 01

  I think it is a question of time.

• 32:17Speaker 01

  In my world, people are repeating the same mistakes over and over again because they haven't overcome them yet.

• 32:28Lewis Howes?

  They're still level one. They keep failing at level one. They haven't beaten that level yet.

• 32:34Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 32:34Lewis Howes?

  Master the level.

• 32:36Speaker 01

  But it's out of question for me that they will. Why is that? Because you can touch three times on the hot heat plate and it hurts three times. You touch the fourth time, it still hurts. Fifth time, still hurts. There will come the day.

• 32:53Lewis Howes?

  They say, "Ah, no more."

• 32:55Speaker 01

  Now, no more.

• 32:56Lewis Howes?

  No more, yeah. It might take a while.

• 32:59Speaker 01

  I express it maybe like in a funny way, but

• 33:02Lewis Howes?

  It's true though.

• 33:03Speaker 01

  It is even said like this in the teachings, yeah?

• 33:09Speaker 01

  You cannot teach someone who is not willing to be taught. Don't waste your time on people or to teach people that are not having the willingness to learn. Don't waste. This is also the reason why this, what I try to present right now. We don't have missionaries going out like saying, "Look, we have the answers to your problems." We don't do that stuff.

• 33:38Lewis Howes?

  Because if people aren't receptive to it, it's not gonna work.

• 33:41Speaker 01

  Exactly. If people are becoming ready, how do they know they become ready? It's because they start to ask different questions.

• 33:52Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 33:54Speaker 01

  And once you start to ask the questions, sooner or later in this lifetime,

• 34:00Speaker 01

  let's just say, "What happens after death?" Let's just assume this one. This question only we can ask.

• 34:09Speaker 01

  People that are right now starving in the world, they are not asking what happens after death. People that are feeling too good,

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  they're also not coming up with this type of question.

• 34:23Speaker 01

  So that means whoever is asking this question already is at a certain level in his life, in his development of the mind. Yeah? And this is like why I appreciate this type of teaching so much. Because for every person, there's the right time. There's nothing to hurry. There's nothing to worry. It's in each individual hands. So why do they fail at the moment?

• 34:58Speaker 01

  I could say because they haven't failed enough yet in order to make the next step. Or because they were, didn't take...

• 35:11Speaker 01

  They didn't see the lesson yet from that failure. I don't know. I don't know. There are so many different reasons why people then do not continue. But it's just a question of time until they will.

• 35:25Lewis Howes?

  Right. I've made many mistakes over and over and over again

• 35:32Lewis Howes?

  until finally I said, "Oh, wait, it's not what I want anymore." Let me really take a step back and reevaluate why this keeps happening. Why I'm at the source of all these mistakes happening over and over again for fifteen, twenty years? And let me start to look at it differently and approach it differently. And it wasn't until I experienced so much pain and suffering where I was like, "Okay, no more. I'm done with this way of acting, being, experiencing, relationships, whatever it might be, and I'm gonna redefine what I want and step and act accordingly." And it took a lot of pain to get there.

• 36:14Lewis Howes?

  I was the one that touched the hot pan, you know, a hundred times probably, right? Until I finally said, "Okay, this doesn't work." But I think that's what we get, each one of us gets to be on our own timing and learn the lesson the way we need to. Whereas other things in my life, I learned very quickly. You know, I make one mistake and, "Okay, I don't wanna do that. Let me learn, you know, let me improve."

• 36:37Lewis Howes?

  I'm curious, in your life, where's the lesson that you feel like you haven't fully learned yet? You keep touching the hot plate, just a little bit. Is there any area that still causes pain or that still you haven't?

• 36:53Speaker 01

  Something I, let's say, observed about myself also in the way how I grew up and also like afterwards now watching what type of, let's say, hobbies I spent my time in. There is something I witnessed about myself, which is always, "I cannot leave the things as they are." I always have the urge to optimize.

• 37:20Speaker 01

  So that means optimize the bike, optimize the car, optimize the engine, optimize myself, optimize the body, optimize the mind, optimize the life. So at the moment, my biggest

• 37:37Speaker 01

  journey, I still have to say, is really... Yeah, at the end, these are all just like optimized. This life itself is for me the area

• 37:51Speaker 01

  to just discover, yeah? So the thing is, I don't know where this journey is going.

• 37:59Speaker 01

  Yeah, and this is maybe something also...

• 38:02Lewis Howes?

  So you don't have to always optimize, is what you're saying?

• 38:05Speaker 01

  Yes, maybe.

• 38:06Lewis Howes?

  You just let it be and just experience it and just sit with it.

• 38:10Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 38:11Lewis Howes?

  Inefficient, inefficient sometimes, yeah?

• 38:15Speaker 01

  To find that balance.

• 38:16Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, okay.

• 38:17Speaker 01

  You know, many years now already I have spent optimizing, thriving for goals, also like, also like training wise, yeah? So people always maybe misconfuse a little, misconfuse a little bit. So how could I have reached all these graduations, for example? Or reach any type of position in the field of martial arts?

• 38:41Speaker 01

  Because that is the difference. Inside the field of martial arts, you're not being measured by how much you can talk. In the field of martial arts, you are being measured by, "Does it work or doesn't it work?"

• 38:53Lewis Howes?

  Is it effective or ineffective?

• 38:54Speaker 01

  For example. Yeah? And so that means, of course, there is some fire inside of me in order to push through a lot of these hardships when it comes to the training. So that means it is still related to, "I want something." But now to purely taking the Buddhist teaching, Buddhist teaching is not about what you want.

• 39:22Speaker 01

  Buddhist teaching is about what can we take away from you until it is uncovered again, what you really are.

• 39:33Speaker 01

  You know? So we have this world nowadays on the one side where it is about, in a picture speaking, you're feeling not complete. That's why first of all you go to the school until you get your college degree. But even with that college degree, you are not complete yet. So that means you make a further education. Even with that university degree, you are not complete because you need a job. One job is not complete. Second job. Okay, second job, there's still something missing in your life. You need a family now. Now, you need a car, but actually the second car wouldn't be so bad. So you get the point? There is something about, you're never enough wherever, in which position

• 40:19Speaker 01

  you are located in your lifetime. Apparently, you're never enough. There's always something more to add. That is the one direction.

• 40:30Speaker 01

  And what we nowadays know as the Buddhist teachings doesn't have this approach. The Buddhist teaching says,

• 40:40Speaker 01

  "You come to this world as an empty cup. Then your parents put their drop inside of you. The teachers put their knowledge inside of you. The advertising, the government, the schools, your friends, the parents of your friends." So a lot of different influences, ideas, concepts, what you're supposed to do in this life is starting to fill up your cup. Now, really simply said, what Buddhist teaching now is, is to say, "Look, all of that stuff inside there, it's not coming from you."

• 41:20Speaker 01

  So that means spend some time and...

• 41:26Speaker 01

  Learn to empty the cup. Make that cup empty. Then you will realize who you really are, what your essence is, the way how you came to this earth. And previous to the question, when you asked, when was life, let's say, easier? As a child or as an adult? Like I said, I think as a child. Because that cup as a child is not so full yet.

• 41:52Lewis Howes?

  It's empty.

• 41:53Speaker 01

  Not completely empty, but more empty than now as an adult. Now you have the burden to cover, the expectations to fulfill, the role you have to play. This is why I think it's more difficult now. Yeah. And so that means you have these two approaches. Learning to get rid, learning to let go is one area. Learning to attain is the second. And the balance of this, I think this is the biggest challenge.

• 42:29Lewis Howes?

  My friend, I hope you're enjoying this episode. And the School of Greatness drops new conversations every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday around money, mindset, healing, manifestation, and relationships. And if you're not yet following the show, then you're missing all of them. Please tap the follow button right now and you'll get notified the moment every new episode drops because the next one might be exactly what you need. Now, let's get back to the conversation.

• 42:58Lewis Howes?

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• 43:54Lewis Howes?

  Support for this episode comes from Amazon Business. When it comes to your business, procurement shouldn't be a guessing game. Whether you're running a small business or managing a large organization, Amazon Business offers smart purchasing experiences designed to meet your unique needs. Smart tech, smarter decisions, streamline your buying process, save time and money, and gain valuable insights. Amazon Business empowers you and your team to buy with confidence. Learn more at amazonbusiness.com. I love your thoughts around mindset and your thoughts around how we can think in a certain way that can either impact us and be useful

• 44:38Lewis Howes?

  or hurt us and be ineffective and pull us backwards from manifesting the future that we really envision, the dream future. I'm curious, what are the daily thoughts that people should generate to keep focused on their vision and not fall back into pains or problems of the past?

• 45:01Speaker 01

  Now, that word came flying. Before, when I said you need a commitment, I didn't mean commitment. You need an affirmation.

• 45:11Lewis Howes?

  Affirmation.

• 45:11Speaker 01

  That is the word. For your goal that you set into your life, for whatever you want to develop yourself in, you need to connect it with a personal affirmation. That is something that fuels it. This is what fuels actions. Yeah, just similar, like I say before, in the Kung Fu training, for example, you are learning techniques. You are learning body mechanics. Yeah, but that is something you learn on the outside. It's the form. It's the shape that you are supposed to take in while you make, let's say, this movement.

• 45:56Speaker 01

  You need it, yes. But there is something more that you need. You need something that is going to fuel that movement. You need something that fills up that form. So, and now just to explain to you, you have no real drive to fight. You don't want to win. You don't care. You know how to do it against somebody who needs to do it because it's about an existential question, no matter what type. Okay? There is a different spirit behind it

• 46:41Speaker 01

  if you meet those two people. Somebody who has nothing to lose and puts everything on one cart because you have no choice. Either you make it now or your family suffer. You fight differently. So that means it's not always the technique, the form that you see on the outside that is so impactful. What is it that fuels your actions? Your daily actions? What fuels when you walk to the office, prepared to do the work? What fuels you to invite other people?

• 47:25Speaker 01

  Waking up every day, even if it's hard, even sometimes you're sick, you still go to the office and do the work? And that fuel, I think, is very, very essential. And yes. And I can only imagine, even if maybe you don't call it like this or people are not officially expressing it like this. I cannot imagine there is one person existing in this world who in some way has achieved something without an affirmation. I think it doesn't exist.

• 48:03Lewis Howes?

  What's your affirmation?

• 48:05Speaker 01

  I think we are all connected. On the one side, I really love this life. So as long as I can, I would like to experience the variety of everything that is existing here. But at the same time, I also see it as part of my obligation that if I have a possibility to do something that supports other people along the way, this is what I do.

• 48:36Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 48:38Speaker 01

  I just think this is what you do in a family.

• 48:42Lewis Howes?

  I'm curious about your thoughts on the actions people should take in order to manifest. And it seems to me like there that the world, there's a lot of weakness in the world. People don't have, in general, a lot of people don't have the discipline, the actions that create good habits that support them in being consistent, you know, having the right thoughts, the right actions, all those things. And I wanted to ask you about, how can we? You know, you train the body, right? You're training the limbs, the weaknesses. You're callousing the bones and all these things to take on more force, more stress.

• 49:27Lewis Howes?

  How do we harden certain things in us while also keeping our hearts open, loving, compassionate, giving? How do we do both in this process?

• 49:43Speaker 01

  Always when there is something consisting of two aspects, at least, or both, like you mentioned, the answer is always balance. So now, the practical ways, what I would suggest, okay?

• 50:05Speaker 01

  You need a healthy body.

• 50:11Speaker 01

  You need a healthy body. That means choose any type of physical activity. It really doesn't matter. It only matters that you understand all your wishes, all your dreams, all the goals that you are putting to yourself, what you want to achieve in this lifetime. They all are not going to matter anymore if your body is not going to be on the earth to witness these things.

• 50:40Lewis Howes?

  Right, you gotta take care of it.

• 50:41Speaker 01

  Simply said. But what we are talking about right now,

• 50:48Speaker 01

  greatness means you want to bring something out of yourself, which is not average.

• 50:56Speaker 01

  This is not what the mess is able to do. If it is something that the messes are not able to do, which means your body, yourself, the way how you're thinking, the way how you're training can't be average.

• 51:16Speaker 01

  So in our field, keep the body not just healthy, but watch out for methods to make your body really performant.

• 51:32Speaker 01

  Performant for that specific area where you maybe later want to find yourself in. Because let's just say, if I want to become a truck driver, I could never do it.

• 51:45Speaker 01

  Because my mind and my body probably is just not made for so long distances and this type of concentration which is needed. So I have definitely a lot of respect of all the truck drivers, but I can feel it is something I couldn't do. There is a performance necessary in these type of areas that I have not developed in myself.

• 52:09Speaker 01

  It's like I can also watch back in my past. I had a lot of ill will when it came to running around the track.

• 52:23Speaker 01

  Sprinting, never a problem. I enjoyed.

• 52:25Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, but long distances.

• 52:27Speaker 01

  So that means short burst of energy, a lot of energy in a short period. This is what I really feel like what that body is made for. But long distance, which is draining, this is draining me.

• 52:42Speaker 01

  So, but we were at the body, which means just physicality, activity, vitality, yoga, many things you can do. But there should be something.

• 52:54Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, and when we lack confidence, when we lack the belief in ourselves, the esteem, the self-esteem, how do we learn to overcome the things that we doubt about ourselves and gain more confidence? Not just in the material skill acquiring world, but in the spiritual world? How do we gain more confidence?

• 53:24Speaker 01

  Here, I think we're entering into an area that for me personally matters a lot, why I think. Look, it seems like at the moment 21st century, everything is about everybody can do what he wants. We are free to express. There's no hierarchy, because we are all humans. There's no hierarchy between all of us.

• 53:54Speaker 01

  Seeing as a human being, there is no hierarchy. I agree.

• 53:59Speaker 01

  But if you want to learn something, there is a hierarchy. And the hierarchy is there are people who already possess what you want to learn.

• 54:11Speaker 01

  And there are people who don't possess what is possible to be learned. So if I want to develop myself and I want to learn something, attain a skill, at the moment, I would just look out in the world first of all to see who possesses that skill. Because it might be that you think about something, but there's nobody else in the world who at the moment possesses it. So it maybe is a little bit unrealistic that it even exists. But if you want to have something, first of all, look for the places or the persons that have it.

• 54:53Speaker 01

  Very easily. And very often, that means you are meeting in our tradition now, you are meeting masters.

• 55:03Speaker 01

  You are meeting a person who has already mastered a certain ability because you see it and then you say, yes, he has it.

• 55:16Speaker 01

  And then the next question is, how does now either the knowledge or the skill is being transmitted? How does it come to you now? And like I said, from my tradition, there's only one way. You need to get into a student-master relationship, a master-student relationship. And a master-student relationship, there is no democracy.

• 55:42Lewis Howes?

  Right, what the master says, you do.

• 55:46Speaker 01

  And I do think that in the field of

• 55:52Speaker 01

  where we are talking right now as well, sometimes you need a mentor.

• 56:00Speaker 01

  Sometimes you need to surround yourself with people

• 56:06Speaker 01

  that are already standing at a certain point where you maybe would like to go to. These are the people with experience. These are the people that walked the path already that you right now would like to walk. So I think there is a difference in the way of how then you talk to these people, how then you also see yourself in regards to these people. And this is what opens up doors,

• 56:42Speaker 01

  which means you are regarding yourself as a student. This is what it means in our tradition. If you think you are equal to the rest of the world, you are equal, this is a type of wrong pride, I have to say.

• 57:00Speaker 01

  Because it absolutely stops you from further development and learning really what you would like to learn. So getting surrounded, searching for people that are already in that area where you would like to move to is also one of the next steps, for example, I would look for.

• 57:24Speaker 01

  So it is about with what type of people are you surrounded? One side. How are you taking care of your body? Other side. So now, taking care of the mind.

• 57:41Speaker 01

  How do you do this?

• 57:45Speaker 01

  In order to know what is important to you, it's necessary to also know unimportant things.

• 57:55Lewis Howes?

  Unimportant things.

• 57:56Speaker 01

  Unimportant things.

• 57:59Speaker 01

  It's not necessary from seven days a week to only do important things.

• 58:09Speaker 01

  Because ultimately, importance is a question which is also very subjective.

• 58:15Speaker 01

  Importance for this life, nothing is too important.

• 58:23Speaker 01

  What I mean is, you need balance. You consciously sometimes need to do something where you really feel this is really unimportant.

• 58:33Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, just doing whatever.

• 58:34Speaker 01

  Yeah, because it keeps something inside of you open.

• 58:40Speaker 01

  If you only do the important things, only be focused, you can only be focused because there's another state inside of you, which is you're open-minded.

• 58:54Speaker 01

  You're open-minded, you are able to receive. Focus, there is no receiving anymore. There is already that guided intention of yours.

• 59:10Speaker 01

  So switching the states of mind,

• 59:15Speaker 01

  putting yourself consciously into different states of mind, I think this belongs to the category of mind development.

• 59:24Speaker 01

  And there are different ways how you can put this into practice. And I can now maybe share the way what we use in the monastery.

• 59:38Lewis Howes?

  Please.

• 59:39Speaker 01

  I think it is super helpful if you are learning to work in cycles.

• 59:48Lewis Howes?

  Cycles.

• 59:49Speaker 01

  Cycles.

• 59:51Speaker 01

  So for example, when it comes to you need a new skill,

• 59:57Speaker 01

  you want to develop something, you need to learn how to program. You need to learn how to use a new software program. You need to learn accounting. I don't know, you need to learn to do the webpage. Something about you need to, you want to develop something new about you.

• 1:00:15Speaker 01

  I think the most effective way is to cut off yourself for a certain period of time

• 1:00:23Speaker 01

  and do nothing else in between. For that period, for that cycle.

• 1:00:33Lewis Howes?

  Can you give me an example?

• 1:00:35Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 1:00:37Speaker 01

  Now, this is really simple example, but it involves something more.

• 1:00:45Speaker 01

  If you want to change something about the appearance of your skin, you're not satisfied with your skin. So the good message is,

• 1:00:56Speaker 01

  it probably is the quickest to do something about it. The quickest, why? Because it lies right on the surface. Because it's right on the outside of the body. So it's easily treatable. So which means do a seven day treatment, where you take care of the body. Seven days long, go into the sauna, cream yourself, what, seven days? After seven days, I'm sure if you do it, it looks different. Now we go a layer deeper. You want to change something about your muscles. The muscles are lying underneath the skin, meaning not so easy accessible anymore,

• 1:01:40Speaker 01

  which automatically means the cycle needs to become longer. Seven days muscle training? No, it's not gonna be enough. So let's say thirty days. Yes? Maybe not visibly, but feelable, definitely.

• 1:01:58Speaker 01

  Go even more deeper into the area of your tendons,

• 1:02:05Speaker 01

  your sinews,

• 1:02:08Speaker 01

  your fascia.

• 1:02:10Speaker 01

  Thirty days is not enough. Because this is changing a very, this is

• 1:02:17Speaker 01

  going even deeper into your system, trying to change something there. So the cycles become longer.

• 1:02:23Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 1:02:24Speaker 01

  So the deeper within the field of martial arts, we get into our body until the bone, the longer these cycles become, that you need to dedicate your time in practicing. And similar, I would say, it is like now when it comes to the training of skills that modern people nowadays want to develop, you need to ask yourself, how much of a

• 1:02:56Speaker 01

  of a software hack is it that you're trying to put upon yourself? How deep is it embedded? The deeper it is, the more time those cycles need, the more often you need to repeat those cycles.

• 1:03:12Speaker 01

  But the main point is that I don't think it is sensible and a good method

• 1:03:21Speaker 01

  within a thirty day month to like spread it apart, to have too many things at the same time. Here you make that skill, here you make that, here you make another one. I think it's not effective.

• 1:03:35Lewis Howes?

  Go all in on one thing for a cycle?

• 1:03:38Speaker 01

  Yes. Now maybe of course people say, yeah, but I can't concentrate on one. Well, concentrate on three. Better on three than on ten.

• 1:03:46Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 1:03:47Speaker 01

  This is the main point, what I mean.

• 1:03:49Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 1:03:49Speaker 01

  Because it's not just physically that we are transforming.

• 1:03:56Speaker 01

  It is, it is mental changes, it is emotional changes, it is physical changes. And they just don't go so quickly if you jump too much.

• 1:04:06Lewis Howes?

  Right, right.

• 1:04:07Speaker 01

  And also, they don't penetrate deep enough. They don't penetrate deep enough for you to have a lasting impression of what it is that you're trying to develop there.

• 1:04:21Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:04:22Speaker 01

  Which means also before when we said mind training or how do I react to to ill will towards other people? I talked about the hard qualities. Hard qualities, you make one a week. Which means, let's just say we take the hard quality of gratefulness, just as an example. Gratefulness means you go to your clothes room, you close your eyes, if you want, you put some music on, but normally you better try without music. And then you recall all the moments in your lifetime where you think gratefulness was apparent in those, these moments.

• 1:05:07Speaker 01

  The gratefulness that you felt. Because, you know, like, yeah, Louis, so thank you very much for this interview and for that cup of water.

• 1:05:21Speaker 01

  You know, this is like talking. Gratefulness has never been about talking. Either you have it or you don't have it.

• 1:05:29Lewis Howes?

  It's feeling it, experiencing gratitude.

• 1:05:31Speaker 01

  Yes. So this is why in order to get to that feeling again,

• 1:05:37Speaker 01

  every human had it in his lifetime. Just sometimes it has been too much in the past and it has been forgotten. That's why we need to dig it out. And therefore recall the moments where you think, yes, towards that person, I really felt that gratefulness. Then, then it's like a small flame pops up. And you, there it is. It's not clear defined yet, but you feel there is something.

• 1:06:04Speaker 01

  And now, for example, what we use is you breathe into the feeling and try, use also like your mind to make that grow.

• 1:06:14Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 1:06:15Speaker 01

  Okay? Maybe it's a little bit more feelable. It feels maybe strange to many people, but since you're asking me, how do the ancient traditions look like? What are the methods? This is the way, how we do it. Okay? You realize there's something, you want it to grow, means you need to put energy into it. How do you put energy into it? By using your intention in going there. And so like this, on day one, it becomes like a small pellet of gratefulness, of, you know, that you feel. But now you stay one week long. On the second day, it's already easier to identify, there it is already.

• 1:07:00Speaker 01

  And you stay one week long cultivating, cultivating, until it's very easy for you now to identify, especially to identify if people who who apparently seem to be grateful towards you, if they really are.

• 1:07:19Speaker 01

  Because the good part is that now that you know how it feels,

• 1:07:25Speaker 01

  you just, you don't only know it how it feels inside of you, but you can detect it in other people.

• 1:07:32Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:07:33Speaker 01

  This is that special part. Why,

• 1:07:38Speaker 01

  why all this development always starts with yourself? Because I know how my body is aligned. I know how your body is aligned. Because I know the weak points of my body. I know the weak points of your body. And this is that idea that sometimes you can't change people around you. You can't look into the heads of other people. But what you can do at all times, every day, is to do something about what is in your own hands. Yourself. This is why this idea of turn the finger around,

• 1:08:23Speaker 01

  do something about yourself, develop yourself, invest in yourself. You grow as a human being, you grow in skills, all of these things, they will naturally just follow. Because in the moment where you are starting to express something,

• 1:08:46Speaker 01

  that people nowadays are not seeing often anymore, you just become the magnet.

• 1:08:55Speaker 01

  This is how it is.

• 1:08:58Speaker 01

  Why? Because people are, are used already to average. Every day they see average. Yeah, but now they start to see something different. They start to see somebody,

• 1:09:13Speaker 01

  another attitude towards life. And so this feels, I think, very like a magnet.

• 1:09:22Speaker 01

  And so all of this, you don't even need to probably go there. It's gonna come to you.

• 1:09:29Lewis Howes?

  Everything you want to create starts to come to you.

• 1:09:34Speaker 01

  Only if you work on yourself.

• 1:09:35Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:09:40Lewis Howes?

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• 1:10:19Lewis Howes?

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• 1:11:04Speaker 01

  We have therefore our ceremonies, for example. Yes, our ceremonies in the monastery, which always evening time, 9 o'clock. And there we have parts of this type of cultivation integrated in the ceremony.

• 1:11:19Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 1:11:21Lewis Howes?

  Do you think we can manifest a beautiful life without gratitude?

• 1:11:27Speaker 01

  No.

• 1:11:29Speaker 01

  No. It might feel like it, it might seem like it,

• 1:11:36Speaker 01

  but ultimately, no way.

• 1:11:39Lewis Howes?

  Gratitude is the key to abundance. It's the key to being a magnet, to drawing in the things you truly want. They create a beautiful life. I've got a few final questions for you. This has been fascinating. Before I ask those questions, I want to make sure people follow you online because your content is amazing. You also have a 12-month course, a program that people can follow if they want more of this mental training, the philosophies that you've provided, the things that you've learned, that you teach to others. It'll help people in their life improve their life.

• 1:12:13Speaker 01

  But also physical a lot, yeah?

• 1:12:14Lewis Howes?

  Physical stuff as well in there.

• 1:12:18Lewis Howes?

  So they can get this 12-month course at xiaolin.online for all the information there, plus information about the temple, the practices, the teaching, your work, speaking and other things. As you do some speaking, I'm not sure how much you'll be doing in the future, but every now and then you'll be doing some. Also, people need to follow you on social media, Instagram, @xiaolin.online for that. And if you look up xiaolin-tempel.europe on Facebook, you'll see it there as well. And if they look up your name, they'll see lots of great content, lots of great TED Talks you've done, videos. We'll have a lot of this linked up in the show notes,

• 1:13:02Lewis Howes?

  but I just wanted to say I'm grateful for you for being here. And I've got a couple of final questions. I have so many more things I want to ask you, but you'll have to come back on another time. Save your voice for the next time. But this is a question I ask everyone towards the end of my conversations. It's a hypothetical question. So imagine you live as long as you want to live in this physical, three-dimensional space-time reality. I think I heard you say 108, is that 100 and?

• 1:13:32Speaker 01

  108, yes.

• 1:13:33Lewis Howes?

  108, it sounds good, right? Yeah. So imagine you're 108, right? And you get to live the life you envisioned. Everything you want to do, it happens. You create it, you overcome, you learn, you master all these different areas of life. And you serve and impact the world through your teachings.

• 1:13:52Lewis Howes?

  But for whatever reason, in this hypothetical scenario, at 108 years old,

• 1:13:59Lewis Howes?

  you have to take all of your content and message with you. So this conversation goes to the next place. All the TED Talks, all the interviews you've ever done, for whatever reason, they're not here in this physical world anymore. Hypothetical scenario. But you get to leave behind three lessons with the world. Three lessons from all of your teachings and all your learnings. And this is, for whatever reason, all you could share, these truths that I like to say. What would be those three truths for you? If you could only share three?

• 1:14:31Speaker 01

  You know that this is a really super hard question.

• 1:14:34Lewis Howes?

  I know. I gotta get you to think a little harder, you know?

• 1:14:38Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 1:14:40Speaker 01

  Sounds super funny, especially if I'm not going to talk about it. But

• 1:14:47Speaker 01

  one message is just a flower.

• 1:14:52Speaker 01

  If you want a flower in a pot, doesn't matter.

• 1:14:56Speaker 01

  The first message, one, I don't even need to speak about it.

• 1:15:01Speaker 01

  It's just a flower

• 1:15:03Speaker 01

  in the pot.

• 1:15:05Speaker 01

  This is number one.

• 1:15:08Lewis Howes?

  What does that mean? Flower in a pot?

• 1:15:10Speaker 01

  It means everything.

• 1:15:14Speaker 01

  There is a history behind it. The future of that flower, in a way, is in your hand. The care is integrated. The nature is integrated. No words to be spoken.

• 1:15:31Speaker 01

  Sometimes

• 1:15:35Speaker 01

  you don't need to speak about it. It's feelable what needs to be done.

• 1:15:41Speaker 01

  So this is one message, let's say.

• 1:15:43Lewis Howes?

  Okay, that's number one. Number two?

• 1:15:48Speaker 01

  Keep community.

• 1:15:53Speaker 01

  It's not necessary to always be right. It's more important to also have backup if you're not right.

• 1:16:02Speaker 01

  That feels better.

• 1:16:05Lewis Howes?

  And the third?

• 1:16:14Lewis Howes?

  I gotta challenge you, you know? I gotta, I gotta challenge you.

• 1:16:18Speaker 01

  You do already.

• 1:16:23Speaker 01

  Number three is

• 1:16:26Speaker 01

  it's repeating.

• 1:16:29Lewis Howes?

  It's repeating?

• 1:16:30Speaker 01

  It's repeating.

• 1:16:33Lewis Howes?

  Everything?

• 1:16:35Speaker 01

  Just as I said it.

• 1:16:36Lewis Howes?

  It's repeating.

• 1:16:40Speaker 01

  This was now kind of Matrix stuff.

• 1:16:43Lewis Howes?

  Yes, it's the inception. I love it.

• 1:16:48Lewis Howes?

  Master Shao Hung Yi, I want to acknowledge you for the gift you are in this world, for being

• 1:16:56Lewis Howes?

  a symbol of inspiration for a lot of people and for dedicating decades of your life to mastering certain skills and philosophies, practicing them, and teaching them to others. I want to acknowledge you for showing up here. Present, open, loving, giving, vulnerable, wise, and giving us this time and this energy from, again, your near 40 years of existence and lessons. I really appreciate how you show up and your level of discipline, your level of commitment to your message, to your community that you have into the world.

• 1:17:40Lewis Howes?

  So I really appreciate your time here. Again, I want people to go and follow you. I want them to get your course, xiaolin.online, xiaolin.online on social media. We'll link up a lot of the TED Talks and all the other information that you guys can learn more about the temple in Europe. And I recommend people seeing if they can get to your temple too. I know you guys host certain retreats there for people to study, to practice for shorter periods of time so they can see and experience smaller groups. So you can go to the website, learn more about that. If you feel called to learning more, then go to the website for that.

• 1:18:22Lewis Howes?

  Is there any other way that we can support and serve you right now? Besides sending people there and following your message online?

• 1:18:33Speaker 01

  Not really. The only thing that since I started sharing out all of these methods, what gave me super much confidence also of why I also came here. Now I can tell you, I also did some search, where actually is Lewis Howes come from?

• 1:18:56Speaker 01

  And it makes me so happy to meanwhile have the chance that I met so many people who from nothing built up so huge things.

• 1:19:12Speaker 01

  And what does it show me? It means there is something that you can get,

• 1:19:19Speaker 01

  but you also need to give something back.

• 1:19:25Speaker 01

  You need to develop something about yourself in order to be able to receive these gifts from the world. And if you are selfish, you're not gonna get it. This affirmation for your mission. I really think this is something to keep in the mind. And at the end, no one in this world is like your master. I appreciate it very much if people call me master.

• 1:19:58Speaker 01

  But what is it that I'm trying to spread to the world? I'm spreading self mastery. You are your master. You take your life into the hands and decide in which direction you want to take it. It's just that you need the right methods and the right tools sometimes to go in the right direction. And that's what it is about. Learning from different people.

• 1:20:29Speaker 01

  Learning from people that already had experience before you.

• 1:20:34Speaker 01

  But ultimately, you are the one who needs to put it into practice. And this is that greatness of this whole path. That if you are open to it, things gonna come.

• 1:20:48Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:20:49Speaker 01

  And so therefore, I think everything that you have said, thank you also very much, Lewis. Really greatly appreciate it.

• 1:20:58Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, I appreciate it, man. I've got one final question for you then.

• 1:21:01Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 1:21:02Lewis Howes?

  What is your definition of greatness?

• 1:21:05Speaker 01

  To impact, to be able to impact on the one side, something beyond yourself in all different types of areas. Which means this is not about your own wealth anymore. It has become the wealth of the world. It is not just about your own personal peace. Your matters are the peace of the world.

• 1:21:30Speaker 01

  This is not about you are beyond yourself. You're greater than yourself.

• 1:21:38Speaker 01

  That is very closely related, I think, to what greatness means.

• 1:21:42Lewis Howes?

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