978 The Secret to Building Bulletproof Confidence

On today's 5-minute Friday, Lewis discusses the School of Greatness team's new wellness goals, and why keeping your word to yourself is the most important commitment.-Mel Robbins unveils a new way to think about confidence: https://lewishowes.com/970-This Les Brown interview is so powerful: https://lewishowes.com/971 Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

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• 0:00Lewis Howes?

  This is Five Minute Friday.

• 0:10Lewis Howes?

  My friend, I'm so glad that you're here. And I know that there's a lot of chaos, uncertainty, and overwhelm in the world right now. And you might be feeling some of that. I'm feeling a little bit of that, to be honest. There's different moments where I feel like you gotta have everything put together. Uh, gotta make sure the business is running and growing. And you gotta make sure that I'm, uh, you know, spending time with my girlfriend and doing this and checking into my friends and make sure my family's okay. It's like this constant check-in, check-in, and make sure everything is okay. And here's what I gotta say about that. You gotta give yourself a break on certain things and really start creating better routines for yourself to be okay with uncertainty.

• 0:51Lewis Howes?

  Because I'm telling you right now, the next six months, the next year, is going to be a little bit chaotic in your life if you don't do something about it right now. It's gonna continue to be uncertain, stressful, and overwhelming. Because people are gonna be freaking out around you. The news is gonna be freaking out. The political system is freaking out. The social system is freaking out. People are just in chaotic mindset and therefore it's gonna bounce off you. Things are gonna hit you a little bit here and there. You're gonna see something that's gonna trigger you in some way, shape, or form. So what can you do about it to set yourself up for greatness? What can you do about it to not be a part of the problem, but be a solution and ripple

• 1:34Lewis Howes?

  positivity around the people that you're seeing every single day? With the content you're putting out there, with your energy. Because your energy has the ability to change people's lives. And it also has the ability to create more stress, uncertainty, and overwhelm. Think about it. When you come up to a friend and you say, "Ah, I just don't know what's going on, and I'm stressed, and I'm worried, and I'm frustrated, and ah, I'm gonna lose my job, and I'm going through divorce." You create a negative energetic field that eventually is going to tap into them. It's eventually gonna affect them in some way, shape, or form. Just them hearing your stress will affect them. But here's what you can do to change that and to defend yourself against all the other stress that's coming your way. Because it's gonna keep coming.

• 2:19Lewis Howes?

  What you need to do is do what we've been doing as a team, which is creating clear wellness goals for yourself. Every week, we've been doing a wellness goal. Because it's been so much happening in the world, we think about what can we do with ourselves every single day that we can commit to, whether it's small or big, it doesn't matter, but something that we want to do that's going to help us feel better. You know, some people are committing to running 20 miles a week. Other people are doing 100 pushups a day. Some people are saying, I'm just going to go for a 30 minute walk. Whatever it is for you, you've got to find a wellness lifestyle. What do you want to challenge yourself? Call it a lifestyle, it doesn't matter, but you've got to figure out a wellness challenge where

• 3:02Lewis Howes?

  you can stay true to it 100%. And I want to talk about the power of staying accountable to ourselves and the importance of following through on commitments that you make to yourself. Because if you don't make these commitments, you'll ultimately end up losing confidence in yourself. And what I mean by keeping your word to yourself and keeping your commitments to yourself, we break and make promises every single day. We make promises that we're going to get up at a certain time, that we're going to make our bed, that we're going to eat a certain way, that we're not going to eat the sugar, that we're going to drink more water, that we're not going to react when something negative happens. We make promises to ourselves every day, and most of the time, we break them. Here's the thing, every time you break

• 3:44Lewis Howes?

  a promise to yourself, you lose confidence within yourself. You lose worthiness that you are worthy of achieving, of creating, of attracting what you want in all the areas of your life. When you break a promise, I don't care how small or big, your confidence goes down, your self doubt goes up. You continue to doubt yourself, and that builds over time. And that hurts your immune system, that hurts your beliefs about yourself and the world. And that energy will show up when you meet other people. I don't care if it's on Zoom, FaceTime, on the phone, doesn't matter. If you're seeing other people and interacting with people, they will feel it. You know, when you go to a restaurant, or you go to work, or you walk down the street?

• 4:29Lewis Howes?

  And there's someone just has this positive energy and you're like, man, everything seems to be going well for them. What is that energy where I've got stress and problems, they have this positive energy. I'm telling you, they have kept their promises to themselves, they've followed through on their commitments and they feel better about themselves. They're more proud. When you're proud of yourself, you're going to have your shoulders up, back, higher, you're going to be looking up. You're not going to be looking down at the ground. You are going to feel more confident. And a couple of things you can do to keep your personal commitments. One, check in with yourself every single night. Did I keep my commitments and track it, you know, just whether one to 10 assessment or a checklist assessment.

• 5:11Lewis Howes?

  But journaling and tracking your goals at night to make sure you did it will make you feel that much more proud going to sleep. Number two is a buddy system. So in our team, we haven't all been keeping our commitments 100%. We're about 90%. We'll miss a day off here and there of something we committed to doing as a team individually, right? But the people who are actually following through on everything they committed to in their wellness challenge. They had a buddy system. They were accountable to each other. We just said what we're going to do with the group. And most of the people that did that were 90% of the way there. But the people on my team who said, okay, here's what I'm going to do with the group, I'm committed to, to running every single day.

• 5:55Lewis Howes?

  And then they checked in with someone as a buddy at the end of the day to make sure they did it. You never want to let down a friend of yours or an accountability partner. So create a buddy system in your life. Create an accountability partner. I don't care if it's a friend, someone online, it does not matter. The third thing I would say is pay for it. I'm telling you, when you pay for a coach, you invest in yourself and you pay attention to what you pay for. If you're not paying for something or if there's no cost to not accomplishing it, you know, you might have to pay a price by not accomplishing it. Then it's not going to be top of mind. Pay attention to what you pay for. Schedule it in the middle, in the beginning of the day, what you're committed to. Journal it at the end of the day, if you accomplished it and have that accountability

• 6:40Lewis Howes?

  system in place. I hope this helps you with your wellness lifestyle challenge because I'm telling you, when you set that up in your life, when you do 30 to 60 minutes of something for yourself, something to improve your well-being, your health, your emotional well-being, and you move your body and you sweat and you experience some type of physical exertion, you are prouder of yourself than if you did nothing. I can tell you that. If you do nothing and then you eat all the sugar and cake and don't drink water and you're drinking soda all day, you're not going to be proud of yourself at the end of the day. But when you do something challenging, even if you say, "I'm going to do this," and you follow through, it builds belief, it builds confidence, and that's what you're going to need here on, moving forward.

• 7:23Lewis Howes?

  With all the chaos in the world right now, you don't need to doubt yourself more because there's already going to be enough of that coming your way. You need to build bulletproof confidence and it starts with keeping the commitments you make to yourself. If you enjoyed this, it would mean a lot to me if you subscribe on Apple Podcast and leave us a five-star rating and review. Those reviews really help us continue to spread the message of greatness and get this podcast out there. So if you want to help change lives, then please subscribe right now and leave us a five-star rating and review and text me the word PODCAST to 614-350-3960 if you want inspirational messages from me every single week on your phone.

• 8:07Lewis Howes?

  I want to leave you with this quote from Plato, "The first and best victory is to conquer self." I love you and you know what time it is. It's time to go out there and do something great.