14129 Steve Harper Interviews Dr. Kelly Liius CEO and Founder of Kelly 121 Acupuncture

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And welcome back, everybody. We've talked about hypnotherapy, hypnosis on this program before. Today, we're going to go a little bit deeper into one aspect of it that you might not even realize, and that is improving your relationships. Yes, hypnotherapy and hypnosis can do just that. How? Let's find out. This is what she practices, along with harnessing the power of Chinese medicine, acupuncture, herbals, and hypnotherapy, hypnosis. Great to have out of New York City back with us, our professional of the year, Dr. Kelly, is on the program. How is everything in your world today?

I'm doing very well, Steve.

Great to have you back here.

Thank you.

And we've talked before about hypnosis, and it can help you with stopping smoking, weight management, which I had a session with you, very impactful, don't have cravings anymore, and I trace back to why I had those cravings. There's so many different things, phobias, fears, and things like that, that hypnosis can help us out with. But relationships, I believe that many of us probably don't even realize that it can help make our relationships stronger. Can you give an example of maybe a challenge that somebody might be going through in a relationship? And then let's talk about what would happen with hypnosis?

Yes. Actually, if people have been married for, you know, 13 years, usually in Chinese, we call it seven years, aging. Like, if you have been married for seven years, you kind of like aging, you have the problem.

Yep.

Like, a lot of people actually ended up getting a divorce, which it looks like a easy solution, but I don't think that's a perfect solution.

Um, because usually if you have kids, you're getting divorced. Kids usually somehow can like have the feeling of, oh, marriage not gonna last long. Oh, I don't feel secure because you know mommy and daddy, they don't love each other anymore. And um, because I do an acupuncture, I treating little kids, like younger kids who went through parents divorce. They have depression or they have like addicted to like smoking or, you know, um,

a lot of problem. I, I um, don't mean to blame anyone who went through divorce. But I do see a lot of sad effect on kids when the parent going through divorce. So that's why um, I want to use hypnosis to helping people. You know, the parents who went through divorce, they also went through some hard time and also kids. Um, and it's a good result. I can tell um, the patients I went through with, you know, hypnosis. Their feelings, their confidence, their fear, you know, everything changed, also the kids.

Um, that's why I want to talk about it to try to help as many people as I can through hypnosis. To people have a challenge about, you know, relationships.

Interesting how you also look at this through the lens of Chinese medicine because you mentioned the chi. Within the relationship or the people involved in the relationship may have changed. Um, I want to share with you the, the whole seven year itch thing. So I, I actually did that and I traced back every seven years in our relationship or in relationships, there was something impactful that happened every seven years. I'm not looking to find that, but it's interesting how it turned out that way. And here's my theory on that. And I know we're, we're uh, digressing for just a moment, but we are talking about relationships.

My theory is that I've heard that we reevaluate our lives roughly every five years.

And we take an additional one to two years to make a decision as to what we're gonna do with that. So that comes up with seven years. I just, that's my theory. I don't know if that's proven or true. But definitely within relationships, there's, it's, it's always gonna be an up and down situation, like a roller coaster. That's, that's life. That's, that art, that's part of the relationship situation. Many of us, and we've talked about this before, are piloted by our childhood. Things that happened in our childhood, we don't even realize that we're doing it, but it can also be a challenge within those relationships. Is that something that you take

care of with hypnosis, taking her back, us back to our childhood, figuring out what happened there, and then how it may be applying to our, our adult life and our relationships?

Uh, yes. Actually, um, when you talk to people who have marriage challenge, actually, there are something, uh, in our subconscious mind, we may don't aware or in the conscious mind, because, you know, nobody really like the negative things, right? Somehow, we can't like just suppress the, the anger or the fear or whatever, the negative thoughts. Like, for example, uh, I've worked with this lady. She said her husband always want her to serve him.

Like, uh, her husband come back home, sitting on the couch, like drinking a beer, watching TV, but ask her, like, to cook and to give him the beer, so he wouldn't even bother to go to get a beer by himself.

So but the line during the hypnosis, he traced back in he in her childhood. So her dad always want her kind of do something for him. Right? Like, oh, can you give me a beer or something? She always say no. So very interesting, right?

Oh, bless you.

And and I have thoughts. I'm not going to say anything. So what what what happened within the within the childhood?

Sorry.

Bless you. It's allergy season too. So yeah, te- tell us more about that scenario.

So because in her childhood, she always reject to his father, to her father. But when she got married, somehow she kind of like reflect her husband is her father. So the

and what do we call it? And and failed of the serving feelings happened between her husband and her. So basically, she kind of like, oh, that's my father. I didn't do whatever he asked for when I was a childhood. Now I do it for my husband. It's not consciously she wants to do it. But somehow it just happened because she obviously no, no, no, no, no, no, no. When she was child, now she adult, she married. Laying the relationship kind of like reflects the kind of like the relationship between father and daughter.

I I bet, yes, I bet you that she found that person, her husband, based on her relationship with her father. Either it could be either she's trying to find something that she didn't find in her relationship with her father. Or maybe this person, her husband, reminds her of her father in some regards. And I'm aware of a situation where a woman, when she was a child, her father abruptly left the family. He just left, up and left. Big surprise to everybody. Years later, she got married, and this is a friend, I know this scenario.

Years later, she got married, and during the marriage, she started cheating, which is what her father did. And then, out of nowhere, she surprised the family and said, "I want to get divorced." Kids, husband, they're all surprised. Family friends, by the way, so I know the scenario. But here's what happened. She got involved with a man, and in serious relationship still with him. If you looked at pictures of her father and pictures of the man she's with, it's the same person. It looks exactly like the same person. Little bit younger, obviously. The same ethnic background, the same hobbies,

the same type of work, all of that. She basically found her father again. Apparently, all those years, she was looking for something, never found it, found him, disrupted the family, but a betcha. To your point earlier, if she had hypnosis or worked on herself and realized all of that, that family would probably still be together today.

Yeah, I totally agree with you. Actually, you know, a lot of things happened to our childhood. We never know it's gonna have such a big effect on our life. And it's so tremendously. I think everybody should do some hypnosis session so we can get rid of the negative thoughts, limiting beliefs, you know, whatever happened or buried, you know, before. Then we can move on with a better life, a happier life, instead of we have to repeat the pattern again, again.

You know, like you mentioned, the lady, right? And...

Also, I um I discovered, you know, um I'm not saying anything about the people who want to change their gender. It's bad or anything. I just want to say, um, you know, if you have such kind of kid in your family. It may happen to the either the mother or father when they were childhood. There's some danger involved, negative source.

Um.

Like, for example, if a girl, like, told the parents, oh, I I don't. I don't feel I'm enjoying to be a girl. I want to be a boy.

So if you do a session with the mother of the father. It may happen, oh, when the father or mother, when they were born. Somehow their parents actually want to opposite gender kid.

Um.

So in that way, the thought of the inner child of the mother or the father somehow. Kind of like happened to their children. So then their children kind of like speak on behalf of the parents. Oh, I'm a girl, but actually in my heart, I feel I want to be a boy. Why? Because. When their parents, you know, before even they were born, their parents, the. Like the kid, grandparents wanted a boy or girl instead. So that kind of thought actually kind of like passed on to the grandchildren.

So thi- this is amazing when we, if we can say this, we can really save a lot of families.

Now, I wonder about this. What if you don't know what you're trying to achieve in hypnosis? You just say to yourself, I I feel my life, I should be in better relationships, I should have a better job. I just feel it. I got more, I got more to offer, but it's not happening in my life right now. Would somebody do hypnosis just to go into their childhood and maybe find some of the things that may be holding them back from, from living the life that they want to live?

Yes, actually, you don't really have to say, oh, I have a clear goal or something. Because usually what happened during the hypnosis is we ask a question, right? I'm a hypnotherapist. I will ask you, what is the biggest, biggest challenger, you know, in your life currently? If you say, oh, I feel my husband stop loving me, right? We're gonna going down like, you know, why you think it's a problem? Why when the first time you felt in that way? Then we going down some question and we will find something. Actually, it's not like on your conscious mind.

You maybe get a surprise, like how deep, how early you can go back to your life. Like you figure out, oh, actually let's trace back. Oh, when I was only three years old, or my mom and my dad would happen to learn. Then I got scared. Then I had like, kind of like fear in, you know, in my heart. Then less three-year-old actually, you know, affect not the thirty years old. Subconsciously.

Wow. So these, would you say the majority of the challenges that we have nowadays really does come back from childhood? The majority of them?

Yes, almost like, I would say ninety-five percent.

Wow. I'm not surprised, but yeah, I'm, you know, from somebody that does hypnosis and studies this, it's interesting to hear that made official coming from you. Wow. Does anybody, when you do hypnosis, could they have a challenge going back to their childhood under hypnosis? You know, or could they just block it out and not want to go there? And then it might not work for them?

Um, actually, most people, they, they will go back. For example, I worked with this lady also about the marriage problem. She, um, she went back when she was about five. She said, oh, I saw my grandma getting old. I saw my grandma is very vulnerable. I so scared one day if I turn into that kind of person like her. You know, I, I feel like very vulnerable, a lot of fear in my heart. So that kind of fear actually affect her marriage. That's why she like really want to just hold on the marriage.

But that kind of fear actually push her husband away. Because nobody really like that kind of feeling, like you kind of just grab on him. Don't wanna, wanna him get out of your side. That feeling is not really pleasant to, you know, to the husband. But the wife doesn't know that kind of feeling actually back, trace back to her three year old.

This is everything. I mean, even think about it, you know, let's say, um, separation anxiety or codependence is a big thing as well. So let's say that somebody, let's say their father left when they were young or their parents got divorced. Or one incident happened, they got, I'm going very hypothetical here. Let's say somebody was five or six years old, they were in an amusement park and they got lost. They, they were disconnected from their family, their parents. And now they were just walking around traumatic, like where, you know, I can't trust anybody. I, I, I don't know where my, my mom and my dad is. Eventually got reunited with them, everything was okay. But that one incident could be the setup for later in life where they have a fear of being alone.

They have a fear of being separated from another person. They may even fear, let's say their partner or spouse, um, cheating and leaving them. So now they don't always trust that person. Just from that, just from that one situation when they were six and they got lost. Is it conceivable, is it possible that those things could come later in life for somebody?

Yes, that happened to one of the lady, you know, she. Like you said, she went to a park, then because so many people, she got lost.

Um.

The way she tried to find her parents, you know, took her for a while, and she's little, right? Adults are big, they are taller, but much harder for a little girl to find, you know, her parents in a big crowd. So she got scared because of that. Then later on in her life, she always scared to go to anywhere new. Even like a new job, uh adventure, like anything new, she's so afraid of. Like she had to do the same job for many years, even she doesn't really like, but she just afraid of to change.

All the new things, new place, just make her like have a big fear in her life because of the three year old.

Um, well, through evolution, aren't we wired to always want to be safe? So we're always going to be looking for whatever's going to make us feel comfortable and safe. And that might not be the best thing for us, but we'll do it anyway because it feels, it feels safe, right? Or staying in a relationship that maybe doesn't fully support you. Might not be the best, sort of abuse, let's say that's not happening, but it's just not the best relationship. But you're not moving on from it because it's safe for now. And there might be a reason in your childhood where you hang on to those things and, and, and you're afraid of making a change.

Yes, that, that, that's so true. You know, a lot of people, like, for example, if a person has abused father, you know, it may repeated, you know, in their marriage, they may got abused husband.

Um hum.

Why? Although nobody like to be abused, but that is familiar. Oh, like when I was little, you know, my father was doing that. So now my husband doing this. Although I hate this, but it's familiar, it's not new. I feel safe.

You just brought back a memory for me. Going to be very transparent here. I always am. I was in a relationship when I was much younger and that person's dad was abusive.

Seven eight eight five one eight six five. And I actually already done some session with my patients. And sometimes if patient are not ready, we can do like mini mini session. For example, cutting course, like the negative source. If you imagine them are course linked to your body. You know, you can cutting the negative source, even like just like a few minutes helping the patients. So if you are not ready for a big real hypnosis session, we can just do a mini one. Let you experience it, you will feel so much better.

And all my patient I have done with hypnosis or even the mini session, they love it.

Hmm, um, I've never heard that done before. Thank you for saying that. And what I'm going to say to everyone in the mini session, the full session, whatever it might be. You will be blown away and surprised how that was hypnosis. You're going to walk away from it saying, that's all? And I could change my life just from that? Many people, they don't even know they're under hypnosis when you're doing it. Cause it's so natural and comfortable. Kelly one two one acupuncture dot com is your website. That's for hypnosis, obviously acupuncture and Chinese medicine and more. Uh, thank you for being here today and, uh, and the insight on all of this. It's, it's life changing and, uh, work for me. I appreciate you. Thank you so much.

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