Jay and His Wife Radhi Talk About Challenges, Growth, and Prioritizing Love

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• 0:00Jay Shetty?

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• 2:16Jay Shetty?

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• 2:59Jay Shetty?

  Pro at drinkag1.com/onpurpose. That's drinkag1.com/onpurpose. You've got to be open to the fact that the person's becoming different.

• 3:12Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 3:12Jay Shetty?

  And you've got to want to be able to fall in love with a new person rather than trying to keep them the same.

• 3:17Speaker 01

  Exactly.

• 3:18Jay Shetty?

  Rather than being like, oh, wait a minute, you won't like this when I married you.

• 3:20Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 3:20Jay Shetty?

  You were like this.

• 3:28Jay Shetty?

  Hey, everyone. Welcome back to a very special anniversary episode of On Purpose. That's right, this is our one year anniversary, our first birthday as an On Purpose community and family. And I want to take this opportunity to just say thank you to each and every one of you. It means so much to me. I'm so grateful that you keep coming back every single week. And so many of you have been with us here for a whole entire year. And I am so excited to be talking to you today. I can't believe it. My new book, Eight Rules of Love, is out and I cannot wait to share it with you. I am so, so excited for you to read this book, for you to listen to this book. I read the audiobook.

• 4:12Jay Shetty?

  If you haven't got it already, make sure you go to eightrulesoflove.com. It's dedicated to anyone who's trying to find, keep, or let go of love. So if you've got friends that are dating, broken up, or struggling with love, make sure you grab this book. And I'd love to invite you to come and see me. For my global tour, Love Rules. Go to jayshettytour.com to learn more information about tickets, VIP experiences and more. I can't wait to see you this year. And for this very special Valentine's Day, one year anniversary birthday episode, I've brought back your favorite guest and my favorite guest, none other than my wife,

• 4:53Jay Shetty?

  Radhi Devlukya Shetty. Now, she was pretty hard to book. I had to work around her schedule and like, she, you know, it was a long, long journey for her to get here. So let's welcome Radhi.

• 5:04Speaker 01

  Hey.

• 5:04Jay Shetty?

  Thanks for doing this.

• 5:05Speaker 01

  Good to be back.

• 5:06Jay Shetty?

  I know. It's so good to have you back. Thank you for doing this.

• 5:07Speaker 01

  Of course. I'm really excited.

• 5:09Jay Shetty?

  I love having you on the podcast and the audience loved having you as well. You were our number one episode in the whole.

• 5:16Speaker 01

  I can't believe that.

• 5:16Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, in the whole last 12 months. Are you not going to do a little dance for that?

• 5:20Speaker 01

  Yeah, okay.

• 5:21Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 5:25Jay Shetty?

  But it was so nice because we got to talk about our relationship for the first time together. We got to talk about the challenges we've been through, what we've learned from and everything that we've grown through together in the last nearly four years now that we've been married.

• 5:39Speaker 01

  Yeah. I can't believe it's been only a year though. It feels like we've had so much going on since that last episode.

• 5:44Jay Shetty?

  Yeah. And then we're going to update everyone who's listening.

• 5:46Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 5:46Jay Shetty?

  We've got so many more things to talk about. So what we're going to do in this episode is we've had my team, our friends and a group of other people come up with a list of themes and topics and questions that you and they'd like us to answer. So I'll be going through those rather than it being just a Q and A and we'll both be answering these questions for you as well.

• 6:06Speaker 01

  Let's do it.

• 6:07Jay Shetty?

  You excited?

• 6:07Speaker 01

  Yeah, I'm excited to hear what the questions are.

• 6:09Jay Shetty?

  Okay. So I wanted to, this, this was actually something that people wanted us to talk about, which I think is a good place to start. So actually last year, when you did this, I think you'd only ever done one interview before.

• 6:24Speaker 01

  Yep.

• 6:25Jay Shetty?

  And when we did this interview, I remember it was massively outside your comfort zone.

• 6:30Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 6:30Jay Shetty?

  And I feel like just watching you over the last 12 months, it's been amazing to just see you become more naturally confident, more happy being yourself even on camera, because then we get to show everyone what I see every day behind the scenes. Everyone gets to see it for real.

• 6:47Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 6:47Jay Shetty?

  But I just feel like it was such a big, this podcast last year was such a big step out of your comfort zone.

• 6:52Speaker 01

  It was. I remember being so nervous before it. And even though it was you and I speak to you every single day, and I think just when you're in front of a camera, it ends up feeling a little bit scary. But I just love that we got to have such a natural conversation. And it was, yeah, it was really sweet. Nice to share it with everyone.

• 7:06Jay Shetty?

  Yeah. And then literally a few months after, and this is one of your talking points that you want us to talk about, was our red table talk experience.

• 7:12Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 7:12Jay Shetty?

  So I'm getting ready. I'm trying to figure out what I'm gonna wear.

• 7:15Speaker 01

  Oh, yeah.

• 7:16Jay Shetty?

  And, and what's going on. And then, shall I tell this?

• 7:20Speaker 01

  Yeah, you can.

• 7:20Jay Shetty?

  Okay. And then Ravi says, she's like, so, so what should I wear? Right? Very good question, normal question.

• 7:27Speaker 01

  I think I was cooking. Yeah, I was cooking. I was like making something. And then I was running really, really late. And I was like to you, oh, like, what should I wear? Like, you know, what should I wear? What should I wear right now? And you were like, it doesn't matter, because you're not gonna be on camera. Like, just wear anything that you want. Just be comfortable, wear whatever you want. So I had like five seconds to get ready. So I throw on like a t-shirt and jeans. And then you tell the rest.

• 7:51Jay Shetty?

  And so, no, no, but she skipped the detail. She's being nice to me. I, I literally said to her, I was like, I was just like, wear anything. Like, it doesn't matter what you wear. You're not even gonna be on camera.

• 8:00Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 8:00Jay Shetty?

  Right? Like, that's literally what I said to her, because it was meant to be an interview with me. And it was one of those moments that you live to regret as a husband and a partner. Because I was literally like, yeah, it doesn't matter what you wear. Like, wear anything you feel comfortable in. You're not even gonna be on camera. Next thing you know, we get out of the car. When we get there, we're both on camera from the moment we get out.

• 8:17Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 8:17Jay Shetty?

  Uh, Jada turns up to greet us and welcome us and just, you know, makes us feel so comfortable and welcomed and happy. And she's sitting with both of us. And literally after five minutes, her and her team are like, we think Ravi should be on the episode as well. And, and the only thing I can think of is, why did I say that? Why did I say that? Why did I say that? And, and then they're like, Radhi, would you feel comfortable doing it? How did that feel for you? It's like, you know, a few months before, you'd been on my podcast with me and that was a big step out of your comfort zone. Literally, I think it was like two months later on this, or maybe three months later. But how did that feel for you?

• 8:52Speaker 01

  Well, when she asked me, there was already cameras around us. So I was like, I can't really say no. And I think I was just scared because I also, you know, when you need to mentally prepare for something. And I take, I feel like I take a lot to mentally prepare for things that I'm doing or like going on. And so, yeah, as soon as she asked me, I literally just felt like my whole body go into immense anxiety. And, and I can't remember, I think I said, no, okay. Within like the space of two seconds. But it was such a good experience because it really pushed me to do stuff that I would have never, ever. Like if they'd asked me separately, I would have probably said no. Like if they had asked me beforehand and I had even time to think about it, I would have probably said no, just because of my anxiety about it.

• 9:37Speaker 01

  But it was so nice to be kind of pushed and like completely shoved out of my comfort zone. Because then when I watch it back, I was like, God, I didn't even, don't even, like, I have no recollection of that moment that I was on there. I don't know what I was saying. I feel like I wasn't even very present at the time because I was so nervous. But it really taught me like afterwards, and I was looking back, I was like, it's actually really so nice to be able to share things that you've learned and be part of something so special. And so, yeah, it was, it was a really good experience for me.

• 10:05Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 10:05Speaker 01

  Scary, but good.

• 10:07Jay Shetty?

  And there was the part where, so I went on first and we'd been having a conversation for around an hour. And then they bring Radhi to the table. And that's when you were like, I could see you behind the scenes. And tell us a bit about that.

• 10:19Speaker 01

  I was like pacing back and forth. I think I've never been so like, my whole hands were like so sweaty. I was like, so I, I just, I can't even describe it. I don't think I've been that anxious or nervous for a very long time. And then as soon as they said, it's time for you to go on, I just had to completely drop, smile and like walk on as if I was completely okay. So, but no, it was, it was again, like such a great experience and they, they make it so easy because they make it so, you make, they make you feel so comfortable when you're sitting with them. So, yeah, it was great.

• 10:55Jay Shetty?

  So what we're gonna do, as I said before, is we're gonna go through these topics. So that was one of the themes and topics that people wanted to hear about. Here are a few more that I want to check out, that we want to dive into.

• 11:06Speaker 01

  Hit me.

• 11:06Jay Shetty?

  Let's start with this one. So this one was, after the honeymoon phase ends, how do you keep your attraction level high for each other and your relationship moving forward?

• 11:15Speaker 01

  Ooh.

• 11:15Jay Shetty?

  It's a good question.

• 11:16Speaker 01

  Yeah. When does honeymoon period end? Like, what do people say that normally is?

• 11:21Jay Shetty?

  I don't know. I guess for most people, it's like six months, a year.

• 11:24Speaker 01

  Into marriage or into a relationship?

• 11:27Jay Shetty?

  I think into a relationship, but I think it also can happen in marriage too, I guess. Because, I guess like, I think when you're getting married, like, it's such a fun moment, right?

• 11:37Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 11:37Jay Shetty?

  It's like, so we know dating, we know that in dating, six to 12 months. But then when you get married, it's like, you have all your family, and you have all these events. And then you have this big high, and then you get married. And obviously for us, after we got married, we moved in together and everything else that came from that. So I guess, let's talk about marriage, because I guess that's what we're, that's more recent for us, but.

• 11:57Speaker 01

  I feel like for us, we had to make a really conscious effort to go above and beyond for the other person and really understand how the other person likes to have fun and how the other person really likes to

• 12:10Speaker 01

  express their emotions. So then we try and facilitate our time together in a way that it allows us to both do that.

• 12:17Jay Shetty?

  I remember, we went to a football match, a soccer match. It was in the US, it was at LA Galaxy Stadium, and we left at halftime. Like, that's all Radhi could do.

• 12:27Speaker 01

  Which is now good, because now you go with people who enjoy that with you.

• 12:31Jay Shetty?

  Yeah. And I think that's part of it, like, I actually like going to watch football or basketball. Radhi likes basketball.

• 12:36Speaker 01

  I love basketball.

• 12:37Jay Shetty?

  We like going to watch basketball together, but if I'm gonna watch football, it's like, I also want to watch it with someone who's gonna get into it with me and get excited and be motivated.

• 12:46Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 12:46Jay Shetty?

  And so I don't feel like, oh, she doesn't want to go with me, so then she doesn't care about what I care about. Because it's the same way as I wouldn't want to go to something particularly that maybe I'm not interested in, whatever that is, even though I seem to go with you to get pedicures and manicures.

• 13:00Speaker 01

  Everybody loves that. He loves a good foot. Massage, loves a good pedicure.

• 13:06Jay Shetty?

  We both love.

• 13:06Speaker 01

  You like getting groomed.

• 13:08Jay Shetty?

  We both love spa, that works well. Uh, but we, we found that we liked doing experiences together and she's referred, we went to, this is more my kind of experience, but this last Christmas, we went to Disney World.

• 13:18Speaker 01

  Oh, yeah.

• 13:19Jay Shetty?

  And I've been wanting to go to Disney World for like ages.

• 13:24Speaker 01

  He is a big kid, like he absolutely, I think for three, four, I can't remember how many months before, six months.

• 13:31Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 13:31Speaker 01

  It probably like six months, he's been so excited to go to Disneyland and to Universal. Um, and every single week he would probably mention it about his excitement for it. And, uh, and I think just through your excitement, I got excited about it.

• 13:47Jay Shetty?

  So we end up at Disney World in Orlando and Universal and it was just, I was epic, like it was amazing. I loved it. It was so good, like.

• 13:57Speaker 01

  Especially at Christmas.

• 13:58Jay Shetty?

  Yeah. What I love about it is the experience that those places create and a feeling. And because I'm a creator and a content creator and I'm always like, how can I create experiences that make people feel certain things and make people, you know, just how do you create something that makes people feel something and makes them feel excited and makes them feel passion and all of that. And I feel like they do it with such ease. And Riley actually felt unwell just before we went and when we got there and she soldiered through. Like she was the sweetest person ever because I knew that A, it was more for me than it was for her, but she does get into it too. And second of all, she, she felt unwell and she got pretty unwell at that time, but she soldiered through and she was just.

• 14:40Speaker 01

  He'd been waiting for this for six months and imagine I was like, I'm just gonna stay here and I'm gonna watch a film and just get a bit better. No, there was like, I could not do that to him.

• 14:48Jay Shetty?

  You could have.

• 14:48Speaker 01

  I could have, I didn't want to.

• 14:49Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I really appreciate it. You like push through.

• 14:53Speaker 01

  So what do you think? How do we do the, how do we keep excitement like through it after honeymoon period?

• 14:59Jay Shetty?

  I think experiences is a big one, like really prioritizing experiences. We're not just like, oh, we'll find, you know, I don't think you can make. Attraction or chemistry or compatibility, I don't think you can take any of that for granted. I think that's a big one. You know, for for men, get your haircut regularly, you know, get your beard trimmed.

• 15:19Speaker 01

  He really thinks that, he really, really believes that he's got a new haircut. I don't know whether you guys have noticed, but um he's changed his hairstyle and he genuinely thinks that his hairstyle has changed the way that I look at him.

• 15:31Jay Shetty?

  It works, guys. If you, the men's groomer on Instagram. Jason, you are the man. I love you. You're amazing.

• 15:39Speaker 01

  You tell the story way too much.

• 15:41Jay Shetty?

  It's a good story.

• 15:41Speaker 01

  I know, you love it.

• 15:42Jay Shetty?

  It's the truth. But but no, I I mean, okay, let's get to it. So the experiences are a big one.

• 15:47Speaker 01

  I think getting to know each other more and more as months go on and how we're changing as well. I think that makes a difference because you're never going to be the same person you were a year ago. And if we're not watching each other grow and watching each other like mold into different people and observing that, then actually that can also be something that can you can lose this like spark. Because actually, we change so much and so you're kind of falling in love with a different person regularly if you're paying attention. Which I think that's that's quite cool.

• 16:16Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I think that's a really good point, actually, that you've got to be open to the fact that the person's becoming different.

• 16:21Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 16:22Jay Shetty?

  And you've got to want to be able to fall in love with a new person rather than trying to keep them the same.

• 16:27Speaker 01

  Exactly.

• 16:27Jay Shetty?

  Rather than being like, oh, wait a minute, you won't like this when I married you. You were like this or you know, you were less like this when I married you and now you've changed or all of that kind of language that often comes in relationships. Like, I feel like we are actually very different people. Right? Like, we're very different people. Like, I think you really ground me, you center me. You remind me of what's really important. You are more energetic than me.

• 16:56Speaker 01

  In different ways.

• 16:56Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, and and just like, I feel like we're actually very different and people will be like, well, how do you, but we have the same deeper values, like our spiritual values are the same. But also, not just our spiritual values, I feel like we both are able, I I feel this is it. I feel like we're both able to love each other for who we are rather than who we want the other person to become for us.

• 17:21Speaker 01

  Yeah, for sure. And I think we. We've kind of had that from the beginning, or at least for most of our relationship, we established that. And I think it was good because we did those like, those rules of things that we knew we didn't want to change about ourselves or that we really felt were important to each other.

• 17:37Speaker 01

  But yeah, no, I agree. I think, I think that's a really good point.

• 17:40Jay Shetty?

  Okay, let's take the next one. The next one is when your partner is fully committed to a priority or project and you're feeling unseen, how do you help yourself?

• 17:49Speaker 01

  Oh, what's that film where they go, I see you?

• 17:53Jay Shetty?

  I don't know.

• 17:53Speaker 01

  Anybody know?

• 17:55Jay Shetty?

  Isn't that just, don't we just do that?

• 17:56Speaker 01

  No, no, it's like a couple thing where they're like, I see you, which means like, you know, I love you. Okay. If you know, then comment below and tell us.

• 18:06Speaker 01

  I feel like you're really, really good at balancing, like, he has a really, really crazy schedule. Like, I don't think I've seen anybody with a crazier schedule than, than him. And the way that he's able to really balance his work, but then still always prioritize me. Like, I never feel like I'm not a priority. And I think it's, um, I mean, I don't know whether we spoke about this in the last one about quantity. We did it, didn't we, about quality over quantity? But he really lives that and he's like that with everybody around him. And so like you get a good, he's so focused, so attentive. So even in the time that we do spend together, even if he has a crazy like week, two weeks a month, or if I do, then the time that we are actually able to spend together, you're so attentive and focused.

• 18:50Speaker 01

  And actually, if I ever need you or anything needs to like, I need you to do anything for me, or if something's urgent for me, or if you just feel that my emotions are even changing, or I'm feeling like a little bit sad or anything, like you're always there attentive to pick up on it and you always change everything around to just be there for me in those times. And so I feel like, I can't really say that I feel like I've been unseen by you. I think we've learned how to pick up on each other's emotions and know when to show up for the other person, which I feel like maybe we didn't have at the beginning of our marriage, but I think that we've really learnt to understand that from one another and it's, and it's definitely changed the way that we feel loved by one another now.

• 19:35Jay Shetty?

  I just miss her every day. Like this year, she was in London for like a long time.

• 19:40Speaker 01

  Yeah, a month.

• 19:40Jay Shetty?

  She was with her family, she was with the restaurant she's been working on. She was gone. We didn't spend time together, I think, over a period of, I'd probably say like, they were like six weeks, we didn't actually properly see each other.

• 19:53Speaker 01

  Yeah, probably.

• 19:55Jay Shetty?

  We weren't not, there were probably like six weeks that we didn't see each other. We weren't in the same country for a lot of that. I was in L A and she was in London. And on top of that, we weren't talking all the time. But with Radhi, she's really good at sending me voice notes, which are hilarious. Sending me funny selfies, which I absolutely love, like getting, I just, her pulling like the funniest faces ever. And then her trying to call me as much as she can. And that's how I, I am, I'm the same way. Like, I don't feel like we've set rules about when we are apart, we just get on with stuff. So like, the way I deal with it, if she's busy with a project is, I book out my whole schedule, whether that's spending time with myself, which I really enjoy.

• 20:36Jay Shetty?

  And, and I think that's a really important one, that when I know she's busy and she's really focused and she can't like be on a phone call all the time or talking and our time difference. For me, it's like, that's my time alone. Like, that's an opportunity for me to really invest in my relationship with myself and how I feel and what I'm doing for myself. So this year, I started playing more tennis, I started prioritizing my exercise, I started spending more time at the gym. Like, I was just thinking about like, what can I do to invest in myself during this time? I was spending more time with friends, I was catching up with people I haven't seen in a long time. And it's not that she's not available for a phone call or to talk to or to message, it's not that. It's just, hey, here's my time to spend a bit of quality time with myself. And I think that's such an important thing. And I know you do it as well, when I'm traveling for work and stuff.

• 21:21Jay Shetty?

  And I think we've both built that independence up. And at the same time, then I was just so excited to see her. I couldn't wait for the day she was coming back. And I remember that hug that we had when you, the day you came back. Like, it was just like, I was so happy to have you back. And so I actually loved that feeling of missing her. And I also love that feeling of having time to really invest in my relationship with myself.

• 21:44Speaker 01

  And how about when you, like, have you ever felt a time when you felt unseen by me?

• 21:49Jay Shetty?

  No.

• 21:50Speaker 01

  I think we had.

• 21:51Jay Shetty?

  We talked about that last year, like when they were talking, but not, not in the past 12 months.

• 21:54Speaker 01

  Yeah, I think we've really learned to detect when each other needs.

• 21:57Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I think last year we talked about a lot of the times when we've made that mistake, but I think in the last 12 months now.

• 22:01Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 22:02Jay Shetty?

  All right, let's do the next one. Okay, so what would you say annoys you the most about your partner? All right, I'm gonna go first because it's easy.

• 22:11Speaker 01

  Okay, go on.

• 22:11Jay Shetty?

  Okay, so for me, it is my chargers and my tech.

• 22:15Speaker 01

  Oh my gosh, like why?

• 22:17Jay Shetty?

  Look, so, so, no, wait, I'm gonna go for it. Okay, so I have chargers.

• 22:25Speaker 01

  I know, go on, carry on.

• 22:26Jay Shetty?

  I have chargers placed in every key location in the home. I have one by my bed, I have one at my study. I have one in the corner of where the TV is. Like, I just have chargers everywhere because I use my phone a lot. I'm in lots of different locations. I have one in the car and so I like to be able to charge it. I don't like being moving around, so then chargers stay where they are. Often, I will find chargers have moved locations. Chargers are no longer in those locations.

• 22:51Speaker 01

  My mom's gonna get well happy with this because I do this to her when I go home as well and she says the same thing to me.

• 22:56Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, chargers are missing. So what I decided to do, because, because the worst thing is when I notice this and I'm like, Rudi, that's my charger. She's like, no, it's not. She's like, no, I, I bought this. Like, I'm like, no, that is my charger. And she was like, no, no, no.

• 23:08Speaker 01

  Just to be clear, iPhone chargers all look the same.

• 23:11Jay Shetty?

  So, so I went a step further and got a different colored cable. So I was like, this is it, right? Like, I've got this bright pink cable. I was like, there's no chance that she bought the same.

• 23:22Speaker 01

  I thought you bought it for me.

• 23:23Jay Shetty?

  No, yeah, exactly. And then that happens with that too. So that is probably the most annoying thing.

• 23:29Speaker 01

  I do see the annoyance come out fiercely when he can't find a charger.

• 23:33Jay Shetty?

  Last night.

• 23:34Speaker 01

  Yeah, last night I was sleeping and he was like, Rudi, where's my charger? I was like, it's in my bag. Why is it in your bag?

• 23:43Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 23:43Jay Shetty?

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• 25:59Speaker 01

  What's the thing that annoys me about you? Hmm.

• 26:04Speaker 01

  Oh, I know. Well, I don't know whether this is actually a thing that, yeah.

• 26:07Jay Shetty?

  You talked about my shoes last time.

• 26:08Speaker 01

  No, I'm not talking about shoes. Um, the one thing that annoys me is that, oh, because he has this really annoying photographic weird memory where he can actually remember every single thing. And so even if I'm right, and even if I know I did something, because I know he's got this memory, I then question myself. Because like, I know for a fact like something has happened and I say that to him, or I know I've told him something, but because I know how good his memory and how like weird his brain is, I then question myself because I'm like, hmm, he does have that, like he does know how to remember every single thing that someone possibly says. So then I question my, my memory abilities because of your like genius brain.

• 26:51Jay Shetty?

  That's not nice.

• 26:52Speaker 01

  So yeah, that's a bit annoying.

• 26:53Jay Shetty?

  Five almonds a day, guys. My mom trained me. Five almonds a day.

• 26:56Speaker 01

  Apparently a Ayurvedic remedy.

• 26:58Jay Shetty?

  Is it?

• 26:58Speaker 01

  No.

• 26:59Jay Shetty?

  Oh.

• 26:59Speaker 01

  But almonds do have that quality, yeah.

• 27:01Jay Shetty?

  Really?

• 27:01Speaker 01

  Yeah, they're meant to be good for brain power.

• 27:03Jay Shetty?

  What else is, what are the nuts are good for brain?

• 27:05Speaker 01

  Walnuts. That's why they're shaped like a brain. Did you know that?

• 27:08Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 27:08Speaker 01

  Walnuts.

• 27:09Jay Shetty?

  You taught me that before.

• 27:09Speaker 01

  Oh, yeah. Um, all nuts really, nuts and seeds, they have really good, um, good um, ingredients that are meant to be good for brain power.

• 27:18Jay Shetty?

  Okay.

• 27:18Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 27:19Jay Shetty?

  All right. Next question is, what's something your partner has said to you that really hurt you, but served as a valuable lesson?

• 27:27Speaker 01

  Um, oh, I know what mine is. You always tell me that I don't know how to like utilize my time well, which didn't hurt, which, no, in like, in like, in a good way though, in terms of like, I have.

• 27:37Jay Shetty?

  I've never said that to you.

• 27:38Speaker 01

  No, you do. As in, not, not in a bad way, but you always say that I need to learn how to, you know, use my time in a way that's efficient because I know I don't like, I'm a big procrastinator. It's never come like in a rude way from me. It's when I've been talking about what I'm struggling with, um, whether it's to do with things that I want to get done, or um, how I feel like time just gets away from me through, and a whole day goes by and I feel like I've hardly got anything done. And um, I have this really bad habit of just either procrastinating or not knowing how to prioritize things. And so I'll end up having a list of to do and I'll end up doing everything that's completely not on my list, like reorganizing a kitchen cupboard instead of what's actually on my list of things to do. So you get, you, you, you talk

• 28:21Speaker 01

  about this a lot. It wasn't just that line, but when you tell me that about myself, I know it's definitely true because it hits home. So not, I don't think, we don't really, I feel like we don't often, we have never been in a situation where we don't filter what we say to each other. Like even if we're really upset with one another, or even if we're angry or whatever it is, I don't feel like we burst out like words that we don't mean.

• 28:46Speaker 01

  Yeah, I don't think, I don't think we've ever really done that. I don't think we've been so harsh with our words in, in arguments or when we felt upset with one another.

• 28:52Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I, I just feel like with that type of stuff, you have to be careful about that with your partner because you've got to look at this person like every night before you go to bed, you have to see them every morning when you wake up. And if you say stuff you don't mean too often, either it becomes real or that person feels like, just like a joke has an element of truth. Even if you say something you don't mean, that's extreme, there's still an element of truth and now that person has that with them. And I know one thing that I used to say that I stopped saying in our relationship was, for a long time I used to say things like, oh, you know, like we don't, I don't re, I can live without you if I needed to.

• 29:36Speaker 01

  Oh, yeah.

• 29:37Jay Shetty?

  And I used to see that as a sign of strength to say that. And that came from me just being detached and, you know, being independent, but then I started to see like that type of language in a relationship, but I never said it in a mean way or a extreme way, but just that statement, what those words actually mean, you end up pushing your partner away. And so you've got to be so careful with your words that you say to your partner, because if you're saying something just to get a reaction out of them, or you're saying something to, it's like being sixteen again, you know, like when you would, when you say something to your friend just to get a reaction out of them. But it's, you can't live like that with your partner because you're just with them so much of the day. That you've got to be so intentional and focused on how you speak to people. So, yeah.

• 30:19Jay Shetty?

  Uh, what's the one that you, so what's my thing? What would you, what's something your partner said to you that really hurt you but served as a valuable lesson? I don't think you've ever said anything hurtful to me.

• 30:28Speaker 01

  What about when I said I didn't like your hair?

• 30:32Jay Shetty?

  There are, oh, okay. Yeah, I mean, there are times when like I've worked really hard on something.

• 30:38Speaker 01

  Oh, yeah.

• 30:38Jay Shetty?

  Oh, yeah, yeah. This is it. This is it.

• 30:39Speaker 01

  Okay, go ahead, tell me.

• 30:40Jay Shetty?

  I've worked really hard on something like a video, or I've been on a photo shoot, or

• 30:46Speaker 01

  Oh, yeah, we have a lot of those moments.

• 30:48Jay Shetty?

  podcast logo, or whatever. I've worked really hard on something and I'll show Radhi to get her feedback. She is just so honest. Like, she is just honest. Like, she does not hold back. Like, she would just say it as it is. And in the beginning, and even there are some times now where like my ego gets hurt or when my emotions get hurt, but then I'm like, actually, I'm so lucky that I have someone who's so honest. And that's become a valuable lesson for me because if she wasn't like that and she just said yes, yes, yes to everything I did, then I would never know whether if I was doing something was good or not. Whereas I know now if I show her a video and she's like, I don't like that, I don't like that, I don't like that, then I'm like, oh, at least she cares to be honest with me

• 31:29Jay Shetty?

  rather than just be like, oh, yeah, that's the best video I've ever seen. And then we put it up and then no one likes it. And so for me, like, I've learned to value her honesty and she's just raw sometimes. Like, she'll straight over like, ah, that's terrible. Right? But it's, it's in a loving way because it's out of care ultimately in terms of getting the right thing. So for me, I've taken, I think that's the one. That's the one it is for me. So I actually value Radhi being honest with me as opposed to either lying to me or just saying yes for the sake of it, or just to make me feel better. So that's mine.

• 31:59Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 32:00Jay Shetty?

  Yeah?

• 32:01Speaker 01

  I agree. I do do that.

• 32:02Jay Shetty?

  All right. Okay. So here we go. What's the next one? Okay. How do you decide what you guys show to the public and what you keep private?

• 32:10Speaker 01

  Good question. We've, I've been talking to you about this a lot, haven't I? Um, I find I get asked a lot why I don't share like so much of mine and Jay's relationship on my page. Um, whether it's like pictures or whatever it is. And I find

• 32:29Speaker 01

  Like you're so sweet and you're so expressive on your page and I feel you're like that whether it's with me or whether it's with your friends or like whoever comes on your podcast like you genuinely want to show appreciation and love on your page and I think that's such a wonderful thing but I think it's really good for people to know that there can be different types of people in relationships and so that is him and that's how he likes to express himself along with being so expressive in person that's how he is whereas for me I just um I don't know there's a part of me that just likes keeping that to ourselves but also I find generally and especially for women a lot of like posts online of of people who look very very happy together and you know that have a lot of relationship posts it can actually agitate a lot of people who are feeling

• 33:13Speaker 01

  quite sad about that area of their life and unfortunately that is really prominent in society at the moment like a lot of people are really upset in their relationships or not dating and finding it really difficult and so I often try and just avoid posting things that I think might just agitate people in that way especially because love is the one thing that people are searching for so much and so I do post things and I do post fun stuff with us but I like to leave some of the stuff for just us to for me to be able to say to you privately and yeah not online yeah that's just yeah that's just how how I feel and I feel it's sometimes I've actually felt like oh maybe I should like write a really sweet post online and you know say to him and I'm

• 33:57Speaker 01

  like oh but maybe I just want to write in his card and then I write it all out and then I just delete it and I write what I actually feel like writing which is something just sweet light and like just relaxed rather than you know having that emotional outpour online which I find a bit difficult to do so yeah and I think that's like it's okay to be both people and I think there's a beauty in what how you are online and how you express yourself but I feel like I just want to protect that part of me a little bit and not have that have that so much out there

• 34:25Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, and I, and I think for me, it's, I'm always thinking about like, what can I share with you? That's going to be useful to you. So if you're listening or watching right now, I want to make sure that anything I'm sharing in our relationship is actually helpful to you, is useful to you, is real for you as well. Like, why are we doing this conversation? Because we get to talk about what goes wrong, what we don't like about each other, what, what doesn't work, or not what we don't like about each other, but what annoys each other, you know, all of the things that we're talking about already right now. To me, I want you to see that. I, I want you to hear that because I want you to hear that people can be different, people can have different opinions. They can have different priorities, but they can still love each other and they can still be together. And so for me, sometimes the reason why I share those messages is just because I'm like, this may be relevant to someone out there. And that's why we did last year's podcast. That's why we're doing this one.

• 35:10Jay Shetty?

  Because I'm hoping when you hear it, you'll be like, oh, wait a minute, that's me and my boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, whatever it is like, that's me and my friend. Like, I want you to hear that. And recognize that you can work through this stuff, that with work, with effort, you can actually get there. So, yeah, that's how I decide what I'm going to share. Okay, next one. Have you ever felt pressurized by your partner in any way?

• 35:37Jay Shetty?

  I have, I have to be honest and say no with this one, in the sense that I feel like you've been really great at coaching me through my growth in areas that you're more advanced. So when it comes to health, Radhi is far more health conscious in what she eats and her exercise routine. And it's, it's, it's beautiful for her wellness and how she sees wellness as this wholesome thing. And she's been that way since we've been together. And I have always focused on my mental health, but not as much on my physical health. And I've never felt forced by Radhi or pressurized by her

• 36:16Jay Shetty?

  to become someone I'm not when it comes to my physical health. I've always felt coached and guided by her. So I remember when we first moved to LA, she was the one like looking for a personal trainer for me because she was like, I know that, you know, I told her that that was the only way I would be able to get into that rhythm. And so she was doing that research for me. And then when it comes to my food, she's always making Making sure that whatever she cooks is right. And even though she loves spicy food, because spicy food is not good for me, she makes sure that the food she cooks for both of us is not spicy. And so I've always felt like very encouraged. And now that I'm at like, feeling like the best I've felt ever, it's like, I feel so happy about that because I, I feel like I did it in my own time. I did it for myself.

• 36:57Jay Shetty?

  And I have a practice and ways of doing it that are right for me. And often when things are pressurized, it's very much like, well, this is how I do it. This is how you should do it.

• 37:09Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 37:09Jay Shetty?

  And this is what you need to do. Whereas for me, it's like, I'm doing it for myself. I found my way of doing it and I did it in my time. And to me, having someone, especially a partner who wants you to be healthy, but not doing in a way that makes you feel bad about yourself, like. I, yeah, at one point I was probably eating too much sugar or eating too much chocolate, whatever it was. And Rani never made me feel bad about it, but she would educate me as to why it could be better. And I feel like being educated in that way is, is a much smarter way of helping your partner actually grow.

• 37:41Speaker 01

  Did you know that that granola you're eating is the same as?

• 37:44Jay Shetty?

  That is literally how you see it.

• 37:46Speaker 01

  The same amount of sugar in this as this. And you'd be like, oh my gosh, I had no idea. Yeah, it's so much about education. Um. I think with pressure, actually, one thing that I thought of when I had that question was, I also don't feel like you've ever pressured me. And one of the main things for me was when we actually met, you just, you know, you were recently a monk before that. And so in my eyes, I was like, oh my gosh. And I was just kind of starting my meditation practice at that time. And so for me, it was, yeah, I always thought, oh my gosh, am I like gonna feel really, really pressured by the, by the knowledge that he has and by the way that his meditation practice must be so deep and powerful and

• 38:27Speaker 01

  um, all of that, you know, I, I thought I would feel that way, but actually you were just such a wonderful guide and teacher in. Allowing me to explore myself because just like you said, I don't feel like anybody will want any, nobody is gonna feel happy about doing something that they're pressured into and also just the conviction with which someone wants to do something. If it's done out of pressure, actually, it's not gonna be that much. And so they're not gonna wanna stick to it anyway. Um, and so, yeah, I felt like that was such a beautiful journey that I went through by observing how you were in your um, day to day life and then how your meditation practice and how your spiritual journey is what took you to become that person. And so for me, that was the greatest motivation for me to continue my journey in it. Um, without you saying anything or

• 39:12Speaker 01

  making me feel a certain way about it. Um, and again, the other thing I think of is how um, yeah, anything that I wanted to do or I've said I wanted to do, you've always given me advice on it and always given me the best advice that I could have asked for, but yeah, you've never forced me to do the things that you've told me that I should be doing, like if you've given me advice. Yeah, you're not regimental about it. Like you've given me advice on so many different things and a lot of the times I haven't taken the advice. Or I've heard it, but I haven't been able to um, put it into practice. But you just really allow me to find that journey myself and you're always there to support me, which is what I think a partner should be like in that way, but you don't, yeah, you don't get annoyed if I don't do it and you don't pressure me into doing it if if I'm not ready for it, so.

• 39:57Speaker 01

  Yes, no, I don't feel pressured by you. Except for when um, you don't wanna eat sugar and I wanna eat like chocolate cake and I scream and you're like, I'm not eating sugar right now. Then I feel sad. And a little bit pressured to also have to not have sugar.

• 40:12Jay Shetty?

  Which started from you.

• 40:13Speaker 01

  I know, it started from me, but I like, I like having sugar sometimes. He's like an all or nothing, so that's another thing like about our characters which are so different. I can have a small bit of like chocolate every day or like a small amount of something every day and I will be fine. I will never have to finish it. I can just have that small amount and be very happy. He, if we're having sugar, he'll be like, we go to the ice cream place, Cocabella Creamery, the best vegan ice cream place ever. So we'll go there and he'll be like, okay, could I please have a chocolate fudge ice cream with triple or quadruple chocolate sauce, triple chocolate chips, triple sprinkles.

• 40:49Jay Shetty?

  That's a good.

• 40:49Speaker 01

  Um, a chocolate brownie that's heated up. And basically he goes, he has the same amount of sugar for like a month that he should have in like one day.

• 40:59Jay Shetty?

  Well, I've remembered of my order.

• 41:00Speaker 01

  I know.

• 41:01Jay Shetty?

  That is exactly my order.

• 41:02Speaker 01

  We went there the other day and they were like, oh, you've got 600 points, which he got all while I was away.

• 41:09Jay Shetty?

  I've saved them. I'm saving them. One day I want to walk in there and use all my points and like feed everyone.

• 41:14Speaker 01

  Um, but yeah, no, so he's an all in a thing, whereas I feel like I'm quite like, I, I, I will have a little often. Um, but you're really good. Like when he says no to having something, we will go anywhere and there'll be like the most incredible stuff around us to eat and you'll just be like, no, I'll have fruit. Like, fine, don't share my cake with me.

• 41:34Jay Shetty?

  And I think we've also felt it with like ambition.

• 41:37Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 41:37Jay Shetty?

  In the sense of like, I feel like I've always been really driven, like since, since I remember in my teenage years, I've always been really driven. I've always been really focused and motivated and inspired. And I've always been ambitious and chasing my dreams, whatever they may be. And when we met, I was very clear about that as well. If that's who I was, but I feel like I've, I work, I work harder on my purpose now than I ever have.

• 42:04Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 42:04Jay Shetty?

  So in one sense, I've changed a lot since we met because when we met, I still wasn't working as hard as I am now on my purpose. But I've never felt the pressure to slow down from you, or I've never felt the pressure to have to detach from those dreams or disconnect from those dreams. And I think that really helps me because I'm not worried about. Feeling like I'm letting her down because she doesn't let me, she doesn't make me feel that way because she doesn't feel that way, I feel.

• 42:30Speaker 01

  I think I've been asked this before because of the speed that you work at and like how focused you are, whether that makes me feel like pressured into being that way. And I actually like, I feel like that we, that never really happens. I feel like I watch you do it and I'm so amazed by it and in awe of it. But I feel like I still work at the same speed. I'm just like, just chilling along, doing things at my own pace. But I think that also shows that I never feel you're putting that on to me. It's always just you doing you and I get to do me at the same time, but we can just kind of work on parallel.

• 43:04Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 43:04Speaker 01

  Which is quite nice.

• 43:05Jay Shetty?

  Okay, awesome. Let's do the next subject that's over here. The next one is.

• 43:12Speaker 01

  Give us a fun one.

• 43:13Jay Shetty?

  What can only your partner do that really makes you feel loved and special?

• 43:18Speaker 01

  I mean, that's more you rather than fun. What do you do that makes me feel really special?

• 43:24Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, loved and special.

• 43:26Speaker 01

  Loved and special. Should I say what you say to me?

• 43:31Jay Shetty?

  Well, I don't, oh yeah.

• 43:33Speaker 01

  So basically, I don't know, I don't know where this came from. I'm gonna share this because it's really funny. I don't know where this came from, but one day he came and he like whispered in my ear, was it like while I was sleeping? Which also could have been a bit creepy, but he came and whispered in my ear, he was like, you are loved, you are cherished. You are, no, was it?

• 43:51Jay Shetty?

  You don't remember.

• 43:52Speaker 01

  You are loved, you are cared for, you are cherished like a little cherub.

• 43:58Speaker 01

  Um, so, and then since then, I know he says a joke, but really he, he feels like, he actually makes me feel a bit cute, like I like it. Um, so since then, every time I feel like I'm getting stressed out or he sees me getting a bit worked up, like if I'm cooking in the kitchen for like 50 people. Um, he'll come up to me, hug me and say, you are loved, you are cared for, you are cherished like a little cherub. So that makes me feel kind of cared for and loved. Um, and what else do you do that I feel loved and cared for? Just every day, he's just like, I've said this before, but it's just an ongoing thing with him. Like, he's just always very loving and caring on a daily basis. That, um, there's never really a need for like special gestures or like crazy stuff, because I feel like it's just stable and he's just always, I always feel supported and loved

• 44:43Speaker 01

  and cared for by him because that's just how he is.

• 44:45Speaker 02

  Mr. President, my company for me of the explosion on our rear on October 2nd. Causing massive water displacement and triggering a tsunami. They all keep the blame on me.

• 44:54Speaker 03

  Tom Cruise is. Digger got us into this mess and Digger's gonna dig us up. From the director of Birdman and The Revenant.

• 45:02Speaker 04

  What would happen if I stopped growing? You start, you freeze to death, that's what.

• 45:06Speaker 03

  With great power comes great deniability.

• 45:09Speaker 04

  I'm not the first then.

• 45:10Speaker 03

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• 45:16Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, for me, it's, we talked about this last year, where we talked about I love languages and things like that. But it's interesting how even the love languages are so much deeper than just the way they're spoken about. So I was always a gift person growing up, which I spoke about last year. But we both live a life where we both don't live for gifts anymore. Like, if I want something, I buy it for myself because I need it at that time. If Radhi wants something, she buys it. So we don't give each other gifts at all anymore, as in physical objects or gifts. Because we know that if we want something, we'll get it for ourselves or we don't really have a need for a lot of stuff. Like, we don't have a lot of things in that way, in our life, I feel.

• 45:54Jay Shetty?

  But for me, the biggest one has been the way Radhi has understood my love language in the deepest way. So in the last two years, and we spoke of one of them last year, but Radhi has thrown me two of the biggest surprise prizes.

• 46:08Speaker 01

  I have.

• 46:09Jay Shetty?

  And one was for my birthday, which is when we first moved to LA.

• 46:13Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 46:13Jay Shetty?

  But last year, it was after my live show.

• 46:17Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 46:18Jay Shetty?

  And so I, I want to talk about this for a moment because it was so important. So I did my first ever live show in LA.

• 46:26Jay Shetty?

  Nearly 2,000 of you showed up. It was packed, it was at the Ace Theatre. My team and I had worked for six weeks to prepare this incredible show that we were absolutely so proud of and in love with to put on stage. I'd been practicing with my team for like eight hours, nine hours a day for a week beforehand. And then you're on stage, I was on stage for about two and a half hours. We had this incredible show, people traveled from like Japan and Australia and London and from all over the world and people really had this phenomenal experience. And then you experience something really unique. So just think about that for a moment. You've got, you've, you've put all this effort in building this thing. You then experience it with thousands of people.

• 47:10Jay Shetty?

  And then you're grabbing your bags, you're grabbing your clothes and you're getting into the back of an Uber on your own. It's, it's like, it's like one of the weirdest experiences ever where you go from this real height to the almost being in completely the opposite scenario. And on my way home, I was thinking, I was like, wow, now I realize so many of the people I coach, so many people I work with, so many people I know who live these much more extreme highs than I do, like they have like 80,000 people, 100,000 people in, you know, their audiences or whatever. And then all of a sudden they're spending time alone without that buzz and rush. And I was thinking, there are so many people that get dissatisfied by not having that all the time and feel lost and confused. And I was thinking about the most important people in my life and I was like, well, I'm

• 47:54Jay Shetty?

  going back to my wife who loves me and you know, that's such a, such a fulfilling feeling. And I was like, I have friends, but anyway, I'm going home. And when I get home, I walk through the door and there's like, everyone I care about is in that room. Literally, all my closest friends are at my house. There's this big surprise. Radhi has always cooked like this incredible meal. She's got like these amazing balloons that spell out JS Live. She's got this amazing chocolate cake. Uh, and it was just like this really fulfilling feeling that I'm so fortunate to have an incredible group of people around me that love me, that really care for me, that are gonna stay at

• 48:36Jay Shetty?

  my house till midnight on a work night to celebrate my day with me that I've done this event. And Radhi's just figured out a way of giving me the gifts that I can't buy myself. And and I think that's what a gift really is. Whether it's an object, whether it's a thing, whether it's an experience. A real gift is giving someone something they can't give themselves. And I, you can't organize a surprise party for yourself. You can't organize a party for yourself where you tell all your friends to come and surprise you if you know it's happening. And she's really figured out the depth of the love language of the definition of gift in my gift, in my opinion.

• 49:18Speaker 01

  But don't be expecting this like every year.

• 49:20Jay Shetty?

  I'm expecting it every year now. It's happened the last two years in a row.

• 49:23Speaker 01

  I'm like done.

• 49:23Jay Shetty?

  Always happens around November, you know, there's something about November.

• 49:26Speaker 01

  Honestly, it's like.

• 49:28Jay Shetty?

  Gives a bit of time.

• 49:28Speaker 01

  I cannot explain how much I dislike organizing surprise birthdays.

• 49:32Jay Shetty?

  But you do them really well. Like, you're really good at it.

• 49:33Speaker 01

  Yeah, because I've done like two for you now. Look, if you want to hire me to um throw your girlfriend, boyfriends, or your own surprise party, then I'm available and I have all the contacts because I've done it twice for him now. And it took all the energy that I could possibly imagine that I had.

• 49:51Jay Shetty?

  They were amazing.

• 49:51Speaker 01

  Thank you. But yeah, no, that was also like for me going out of my comfort zone to do something I know that he would have been really happy about because I'm not an organized person and I find those things really difficult and stressful, but it was definitely worth it. Because you came in and you were actually so surprised. I thought you knew, but all I made all of his friends and us like all rushed out of the event like, okay, cool. Please see you later. I'm a bit tired. I'm gonna go to bed. Um, and then everybody waited here for a really long time for you to come back.

• 50:20Jay Shetty?

  Everyone who waited, thank you so much.

• 50:21Speaker 01

  And it was really sweet.

• 50:23Jay Shetty?

  It's really special. Thank you so much. And and that's one of the things, actually, I want to talk about that for a moment. This is that when we first moved to L A from New York, literally, everyone who heard that we were moving would say to us, you know what people are like in L A.

• 50:37Speaker 01

  Yeah, that's so true.

• 50:38Jay Shetty?

  You know that everyone in L A is superficial. You know, everyone in L A doesn't really care. And we heard that so much. And I've always had this rule in life for myself that no matter what I hear from someone about something, someone, or anywhere, I won't trust it or base my opinion on it until I've experienced it myself. And I've always had that rule. So if someone tells me this is an amazing holiday destination, until I've been to that place, I will not agree with that. If someone tells me this person is not nice or is nice, I will not agree or disagree with that until I've met and experienced that person and also actually spent time with them, not just spent time with them in an elevator or something like

• 51:23Jay Shetty?

  that, like actually spent quality time with them. And so for me, I was like, well, if you think that about LA, or loads of people think that about LA, I'm not going to let that define LA for me. I'm going to define LA for myself. And I have to be completely honest, like, we have met some of our closest, deepest friends, and so many of you I know, listening and watching right now, some of our deepest and closest friends we found and made in LA.

• 51:49Speaker 01

  Definitely.

• 51:50Jay Shetty?

  And I know Radhi feels that, that's what she feels at home here. I know I feel that, that's what I feel at home here, you know who you are. And that's such a special thing that these stereotypes and these broad generalizations we make about people or places are not true. They become what you want them to be. And I really feel in our life that LA has been such a beautiful place for both of us to find our purpose and create our purpose and live our purpose. And, you know, you can't really define a place just based, you can't just say that a place has a reputation or anything like that, because you, you find the people where they are. So for me, the people I've met here and the friends I've made here have just been absolutely incredible.

• 52:32Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 52:32Jay Shetty?

  And, and for me, what we've really tried to do, and I think this is important too, is we've tried to build the conscious spiritual community that we want. So rather than expecting that what you want should exist anyway, why not create yourself? So we started hosting these events at our home last year. We did two of them. We're doing another one coming up soon. We invite our friends to them, and they're spiritual events, community events that we used to have in London. And in New York a little bit, but definitely in London. And we wanted our friends to experience meditation in the way we meditate. We wanted our friends to experience wisdom from the people that we learn from. And so we started organizing these events and now they're not parties in the same way. Like we don't have any alcohol at these events, like no one's getting, you know, it's not, it's not that kind of an event.

• 53:16Jay Shetty?

  It's, um, it's an event where people feel that they can connect with themselves, a place where people feel they can connect with their consciousness and have a deeper experience. And that was the experience we wanted to offer our friends. And thankfully our friends love that kind of stuff. So it's worked out. But I just think it's so important that we don't expect things in a place, but you go and create for yourself.

• 53:36Speaker 01

  Yeah, I love.

• 53:36Jay Shetty?

  Cool. All right. Okay. Next one that is on the list. What are some telltale signs that your partner is upset?

• 53:42Speaker 01

  Yeah, he's pretty obvious. Um, if he's mad, he'll sound mad. If he's sad, he'll sound sad.

• 53:51Jay Shetty?

  I'm, I'm pretty.

• 53:52Speaker 01

  If he needs chocolate, he'll sound like he needs chocolate. Um, yeah, I feel like you're kind of just, if he's upset, he'll just be like, look, I like, I need to tell you, this has upset me. Or, yeah, you're like that, right? Trying to think of the last time you were upset. Oh, yesterday night when he was mad about his charges, I knew he was mad. I heard it in his voice. Um, yeah, I don't think we're very hidden with it. I think I'm probably a little bit more hidden than you are about it.

• 54:18Jay Shetty?

  Just goes quiet.

• 54:19Speaker 01

  Yeah, go quiet.

• 54:20Jay Shetty?

  Or I'll see her on the balcony crying.

• 54:22Speaker 01

  Yes, literally, literally that.

• 54:25Jay Shetty?

  I'll just see her outside. Obviously she wakes up earlier than me, so I wake up and she's outside.

• 54:32Speaker 01

  I, I cry sometimes during my meditations in the morning. It's like my time and then suddenly I'll realize I'm sad about something and then I'll just start crying. And then he catches me at that time. Or, yeah, my quietness, I need to, I, we spoke about this last time, but I need time to process, so.

• 54:46Jay Shetty?

  But you also tell me when you're sad about something.

• 54:48Speaker 01

  Yeah, sometimes I'll be like, I'm sad, it's not about you, but I'm sad.

• 54:51Jay Shetty?

  That's also a very.

• 54:52Speaker 01

  This happens a lot.

• 54:53Jay Shetty?

  This is a useful note because I get so, you know, I think we're all, in one sense, we're all so self-centered that we always feel like people are sad because of something we did. Like it's a self-centered ego trick where like, if she's sad, it must be something I did, even though I know I didn't do anything wrong. So then I but her telling me I'm sad, but it's nothing to do with you. It's like, you know, it's actually a useful technique and relationship.

• 55:15Speaker 01

  Irritated right now and I don't know why I've done this a lot. I feel really irritated. I don't know why, but I just want you to know that I'm feeling that way. So stay away.

• 55:23Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, it's just really useful to communicate that to your partner rather than expecting them like no one's a mind reader. Like no one is a mind reader. And I think one of the biggest challenges in relationships is you just expect the other person to know what you're thinking.

• 55:35Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 55:36Jay Shetty?

  Awesome. Cool. All right. That was a quick one.

• 55:38Speaker 01

  Cool.

• 55:38Jay Shetty?

  Okay, this one is, do you still try to impress each other?

• 55:44Speaker 01

  Yeah, probably. I feel like it's just like a subconscious thing that you do where it's unconscious, subconscious, one of the consciences. It's something conscious thing that you do where it's like, whether it's your outfit or whether it's like something you've you've like done or made or like if I've cooked something. I think there's always an element of wanting the other person to approve or to like it.

• 56:07Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 56:08Speaker 01

  Um, I think that's natural. Yeah.

• 56:10Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I like you too. Yeah, definitely. Like if I'm wearing something or I've achieved something or whatever it may be like, yeah, I I I love that. And I think it's an important thing to have like.

• 56:21Speaker 01

  I feel like you should feel like that, right?

• 56:22Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, it's like if and and impress in the sense of it's not about getting the other person's validation, but you want your partner to like

• 56:28Speaker 01

  Be excited.

• 56:29Jay Shetty?

  Acknowledge, be excited for you, recognize you. And I I I love that feeling like I don't. And I think if I didn't feel that way about her, then you're going to find other people to impress. And you're going to want to impress other people.

• 56:40Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 56:41Jay Shetty?

  And so I feel like it's an important quality to have. And I feel like you you lose that energy and the spark if you stop trying to do that to each other because that's how you were when you first met. Like that's what you tried to do when you first met. And if you stop doing that, it's, yeah, it's just, it's not about validation. That's not the ego one. It's about knowing that you love someone and always like

• 57:02Speaker 01

  And knowing that the other person is excited when you're excited too. Yeah. Yeah. All right, cool. Next.

• 57:08Jay Shetty?

  You don't add anything?

• 57:09Speaker 01

  No.

• 57:10Jay Shetty?

  Okay.

• 57:10Speaker 01

  Let's go.

• 57:10Jay Shetty?

  All right, okay.

• 57:11Speaker 01

  Power through.

• 57:12Jay Shetty?

  So what do you like most about your partner's sense of humor?

• 57:17Speaker 01

  Oh my gosh guys, so I feel like most of you only realize this when he went onstage at the live show if you were there, but he is actually really, well, okay, no, he's become really funny. Actually, you were funny-ish before, but like he had a lot of dad jokes, but now, oh my gosh, he's taken his humor to another level. I don't know where it's come from. But like at the live show, you were on fire. I was laughing so hard and most of the time I'm like, hmm, this is funny. But I was actually crying with laughter. You were really good onstage. And I feel like when you're in your element, all like different sides of you come out and you really like you come into who you like fully are onstage. And that was really cool for us. And I had so many people message me about

• 57:59Speaker 01

  how funny you are onstage and that they had no idea that you had humor in you. But that was really cool to see. What was the question again?

• 58:07Jay Shetty?

  What do you like most about your partner since you?

• 58:10Speaker 01

  Oh, yeah, now he really knows how to make me laugh. Like even if it's really silly stuff, I can't even think of it right now. But you definitely know how to make me from my belly laugh, not just a, hmm, that was cute.

• 58:22Jay Shetty?

  But I still take it too far sometimes.

• 58:23Speaker 01

  Yeah, sometimes it's like I'm laughing really hard and then he keeps going because like he thinks it's gonna make me keep laughing, but then he kind of ruins it. But that's also quite funny.

• 58:31Jay Shetty?

  I do that a lot. I do that a lot, but she's like, okay, you went too far. It's like, I feel like I'm just gonna get one more laugh. Yeah, that happens a lot. Yeah, no, my, on stages where I feel like I'm at my most myself in terms of what I'm sharing and I feel like, yeah, I feel like I'm at my best onstage. So I, I love being with the audience and I love that energy that everyone gave me that day as well. And you know, when, when I'll be touring soon as well, I can't wait to meet so many more of you. So it'll be fun. But yeah, okay, about you, what's my favorite thing? Radhi is literally exactly who she is on her Instagram. Like I just, whenever anyone tells me like, I love her posts, like I love the light she is, like that is her, like. That's just her all the time. Like, I wake up and she'll be doing a dance.

• 59:15Jay Shetty?

  Like, when I walk into the living room. Or, or like, I come home and she's just like smiling and laughing and she'll make jokes about everything. Like, Rali doesn't take life seriously, I feel, and that's what I love about you so much. And what I mean by that is she takes her spiritual life seriously, but then she doesn't take her day seriously. Like, she's happy to laugh at herself, she's happy to laugh at what's going on. We can both be like, talking about something really serious at one point and then we'll both start laughing because she's able to laugh at it. And, and I just think she's always got this childlike energy and it's not childish because we don't, you know, we don't want people to act childish, but when people are childlike and Rali really has that, like, she always makes everyone laugh.

• 59:56Jay Shetty?

  She's, yeah, she just says funny stuff throughout the day and her dances are the best and, uh, I love it.

• 1:00:02Speaker 01

  My no rhythm dancers.

• 1:00:03Jay Shetty?

  And they're the best. I'm just so happy that I get to experience them all the time. Like, I'm really, really happy. Like, you've made, you've brought, you are literally the comedian of our lives.

• 1:00:14Speaker 01

  Yeah, I mean, you're, you're catching up there.

• 1:00:16Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 1:00:16Speaker 01

  You are catching up with your jokes. I have to, I'll give you that. You're definitely becoming more funnier with age.

• 1:00:23Jay Shetty?

  I like your sense of humor is playful and not, like, contrived. It's not like she tells knock-knock jokes and stuff like that. It's like, it's just playful, it's childlike, it's abundant, like, it's just there. It's who she is. It's, it's the best thing about you.

• 1:00:36Speaker 01

  Oh, thanks.

• 1:00:37Jay Shetty?

  Yeah. And I love seeing you laugh. That's the best thing because she laughs her own jokes the most.

• 1:00:42Speaker 01

  Oh, I laugh at my own jokes all the time.

• 1:00:43Jay Shetty?

  Watching her laugh her own jokes because.

• 1:00:45Speaker 01

  Because I feel like, look, if there's ever a time when you need to laugh and there's nobody around, you need to be able to be at a point where you can make yourself laugh. If you're having a bad day, make yourself laugh. Don't leave it on it's somebody else.

• 1:00:56Jay Shetty?

  That's good advice.

• 1:00:57Speaker 01

  Thanks.

• 1:00:58Jay Shetty?

  All right, we've only got a few more left to go.

• 1:01:00Speaker 01

  Okay, I'm ready.

• 1:01:01Jay Shetty?

  Okay. Oh, Rali also does, I, I wanna add this. Rali also does some funny stuff that makes me laugh a lot. So, we went to this.

• 1:01:13Jay Shetty?

  Halloween party. And it was a fancy dress party, obviously, as Halloween is. And Riley came up with this idea about a month before that we should go as a Rajasthani prince and princess, based on this movie called Padmavati, for those of you who watch Bollywood. And so Riley came up with that idea. I'm, you know, I would probably gone as Batman or something average. So I was like, okay, yeah, that's cool. Like, it's different. Let's do it. You tell the rest of the story.

• 1:01:42Speaker 01

  So I, I thought of the idea and then obviously you either have to do it fully or you just end up looking just odd. So I thought, okay, let's go the full way. So that meant having pretty much like a bridal Indian outfit on. Um, and he was wearing basically a groom's outfit for a wedding. And in theory, it looks really cool in my head, which it did. But it was so heavy, like my headpiece, the skirt. I, he had to one, push me into the car. It was so big.

• 1:02:16Jay Shetty?

  I had to lift her dress into the car.

• 1:02:19Speaker 01

  Then I lasted about 30 minutes at the event and I was like, I have to go home. I literally cannot lift this anymore. My head was hurting. Um, the skirt was too heavy to like move about in. So I lasted at that party for 30 minutes, came home, undressed, got into my PJs.

• 1:02:37Jay Shetty?

  So I walked around the party for the rest of the night as a, as a single Indian prince in this hat with my sword, wearing an Indian outfit.

• 1:02:45Speaker 01

  Yeah, he had a sword. I got, he got a sword.

• 1:02:47Jay Shetty?

  And it's like, I only looked good when I was with her. Like, it only looked good as an ensemble, like together. But me on my own, it was not cool. Everyone was like, what are you doing?

• 1:02:55Speaker 01

  It was horrendous. It was so horrendous. I don't know. I don't know how I didn't think about that part.

• 1:03:00Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 1:03:01Speaker 01

  I got overexcited.

• 1:03:02Jay Shetty?

  I find that stuff so funny about you, though.

• 1:03:03Speaker 01

  Yeah, that was, that was not one of my best moments.

• 1:03:06Jay Shetty?

  Okay, so this question is, what are you proudest of your partner from the last 12 months since the first podcast?

• 1:03:14Speaker 01

  Oh, okay, so definitely the live event was one of them because you also showed people that you made them laugh, so that was cool for me. And then the other thing was obviously your book, because I've been watching him work on this book for, gosh, how long have you been writing it for?

• 1:03:27Jay Shetty?

  12 months.

• 1:03:28Speaker 01

  12 months, yeah, he's been writing it for 12 months and I've only read bits of it, but from what I have seen, it's just been so amazing, I want to see his dedication to the book, how authentic he's trying to make it, and also just how you get to see and hear a different side of him. Like, I feel like this podcast, you know, you show yourself in a certain way, and on your videos, you have another part of you, and this book, I feel like, is a completely different side of you as well, that people are going to be able to experience, and just the amount of energy and time and effort you've gone in to really make sure it is like the best quality stuff in the book.

• 1:04:10Speaker 01

  And the bits that I read, I just think it's going to be so, what I love about it is that it's literally made just to really help people, like, find their purpose. And that's the thing about you, like, you, I know you've said, I think you said this the other day, that like, your worst fear and like, your worst nightmare is for people not to live their potential, whatever that potential is, big, small, whatever it is for them, like, for them to live their potential, that's your, that's your, like, dream for everybody. And so I really think that this book is like, almost your first step in, like, serving those people to really help them find their, find their potential, and I think it's just such a beautiful book, and, yeah, just seeing you go through that process was really, really interesting, because it's hard work, and, uh,

• 1:04:53Jay Shetty?

  The hardest thing.

• 1:04:53Speaker 01

  Excited for it to come out, though, and like, see everyone's reaction and feedback and how it's helped people, so yeah, that's definitely another huge highlight.

• 1:05:02Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, it was definitely the hardest thing I've ever done, so I appreciate that, thanks. I love you.

• 1:05:06Speaker 01

  Yeah, that's it.

• 1:05:07Jay Shetty?

  But, uh, for Radhi, she is one exam away from being an Ayurvedic health counselor.

• 1:05:13Speaker 01

  If I pass.

• 1:05:14Jay Shetty?

  Which is amazing. She will pass. I know she's been working really, really hard. Like, I see her revising and I always think like, I'm so happy I no longer have to revise. Like, work is hard, but revising for exams was so stressful, like, it wasn't a fun feeling. Like, now I'm like, work, my work is, my work life is fun, obviously, I love it, but, and it's challenging, but it's not an exam. Like, there's something about exams that just, so Radhi still does exams because she's amazing and wants to learn and what I love about her desire to learn, it's not just to get a qualification or to get a title, it's like, she really has this belief that she wants to know and learn and deeply understand something before she teaches it. And I love her integrity for that. I love her authenticity for that. I think it's a beautiful quality that she has that

• 1:05:59Jay Shetty?

  she never wants to mislead anyone. She never wants to give someone a little bit of information. She really wants to feel like she has a full grasp of something before she tells someone else to do it. And I think that that is such a beautiful quality to have and I really, really respect it. So that's been amazing to what you do. And watching you create a full menu for a restaurant in London that we both tasted and went to check out together and the food tasted amazing. And Radhi designed the whole menu and I know she'd been testing recipes. She's worked on this project for like three, four years. Forget the last 12 months, like, she's turned up at food events, she's turned up at food festivals where she's like making food for like hundreds of thousands of people that are coming to eat. Like, she's done that time and time again to test her recipes. Like,

• 1:06:41Jay Shetty?

  the amount of effort that goes into creating a recipe, like one recipe. It's like thousands of people have had to eat that before she knows if it's right. It's not just like, oh yeah, Jay likes it, it gets on the menu. It's like, she's, you know, cooking for so many people to test it and to finally have that menu and to taste that with her and just to be so impressed by what she did. It was just amazing. Like, what an amazing achievement.

• 1:07:04Speaker 01

  Yeah, that was a.

• 1:07:05Jay Shetty?

  And it was so challenging in so many different ways, you know, working across time zones, you know, having to travel back constantly, like cooking in her parents' home, cooking at events, like, there's so much to it. That I just respect you for just how amazing you are at being dedicated to wanting people to eat healthy, tasty, nutritious food.

• 1:07:25Speaker 01

  Yeah, that was a fun.

• 1:07:26Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, really proud of you.

• 1:07:27Speaker 01

  And so many amazing people involved in it, too.

• 1:07:30Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 1:07:30Speaker 01

  That was fun.

• 1:07:31Jay Shetty?

  Really proud of you.

• 1:07:32Speaker 01

  Thanks.

• 1:07:32Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 1:07:33Speaker 01

  Yeah, it's it's fun to see it unravel and actually open.

• 1:07:35Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, and okay, so we're now at the final section.

• 1:07:42Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 1:07:42Jay Shetty?

  Team have asked us to fill in the blanks.

• 1:07:46Speaker 01

  Fill in the blanks.

• 1:07:47Jay Shetty?

  Which means I have to say these sentences, which I've never seen before.

• 1:07:50Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 1:07:50Jay Shetty?

  And apart from when I looked at this just now, and we have to end with the word that we both think. So we'll do one word each at the end. Does that make sense?

• 1:07:57Speaker 01

  Yes, makes complete sense.

• 1:07:59Jay Shetty?

  The first one is, love is best when?

• 1:08:04Speaker 01

  Love is best when shared.

• 1:08:07Jay Shetty?

  I was gonna say the same thing. I was gonna say when it's mutual or shared. I was gonna say shared first and then when it's mutual, okay, cool. Love is never?

• 1:08:15Speaker 01

  Hmm, ego filled?

• 1:08:17Jay Shetty?

  Ooh.

• 1:08:18Speaker 01

  That's not a word there.

• 1:08:19Jay Shetty?

  No, but that's good.

• 1:08:20Speaker 01

  Egotistical?

• 1:08:21Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, that's really good. I was gonna say boring.

• 1:08:25Speaker 01

  Or boring.

• 1:08:25Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, love is never boring.

• 1:08:27Speaker 01

  Both.

• 1:08:27Jay Shetty?

  It's always exciting, it's always full of growth, but your answer's better, you and that one, okay. Uh, commitment means?

• 1:08:34Speaker 01

  Um, commitment means, because commitment means dedication, so commitment can't mean dedication. Is it commitment means?

• 1:08:43Jay Shetty?

  Hmm, I think commitment means.

• 1:08:45Speaker 01

  Understanding, no, commitment means.

• 1:08:47Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, understanding's good, yeah. As in whatever, there's no right or wrong answer.

• 1:08:50Speaker 01

  Is that commitment?

• 1:08:51Jay Shetty?

  I think commitment means every day, anywhere, anytime, right? That's commitment.

• 1:08:57Speaker 01

  Three words, but fine, we'll give it to you. Yeah, I like that.

• 1:09:00Jay Shetty?

  Okay, uh, I knew I loved you when?

• 1:09:04Speaker 01

  Like time or like when you did this?

• 1:09:06Jay Shetty?

  No, when you did something, yeah, and it can be more than one word.

• 1:09:08Speaker 01

  Okay, I knew I loved.

• 1:09:09Jay Shetty?

  I knew I loved you when you first cooked for me.

• 1:09:12Speaker 01

  Uh.

• 1:09:12Jay Shetty?

  And you made this like. You made a chocolate croissant for me.

• 1:09:17Speaker 01

  I didn't make that one.

• 1:09:18Jay Shetty?

  Oh, you didn't?

• 1:09:19Speaker 01

  Yeah. That wasn't me. But the first was.

• 1:09:23Jay Shetty?

  I didn't know you made the old, she made, it wasn't someone else. It was, she had asked.

• 1:09:28Speaker 01

  I'd asked someone to make it.

• 1:09:29Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, that's.

• 1:09:30Speaker 01

  Because I didn't know how to make pastries at the time.

• 1:09:32Jay Shetty?

  No, that wasn't it. That was a wonderful moment though, but.

• 1:09:34Speaker 01

  I loved you when you were my, like, when you, well, I, I was, I always loved the teacher side of you. Like, I felt, feel like I, I really appreciated and valued you and loved you when you were my teacher and guide.

• 1:09:47Jay Shetty?

  A successful marriage means sacrificing.

• 1:09:52Speaker 01

  What? Say that one, sorry, say that one more time.

• 1:09:54Jay Shetty?

  A successful, a successful marriage.

• 1:09:55Speaker 01

  Marriage means sacrificing. We don't like the word sacrifice, do we?

• 1:10:00Jay Shetty?

  No, we don't. So nothing.

• 1:10:01Speaker 01

  We don't.

• 1:10:01Jay Shetty?

  I don't like the word sacrifice. I don't think I've sacrificed anything.

• 1:10:04Speaker 01

  No.

• 1:10:04Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, no, I'm missing that one.

• 1:10:06Speaker 01

  Sugar. Okay.

• 1:10:08Jay Shetty?

  Okay, fair, all right. Uh, building a family with you makes me.

• 1:10:12Speaker 01

  Like excited? I don't think it's something better than excited.

• 1:10:17Jay Shetty?

  I'd say grateful.

• 1:10:19Speaker 01

  Yes, that's a good one.

• 1:10:20Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I feel grateful.

• 1:10:21Speaker 01

  I take that.

• 1:10:22Jay Shetty?

  I just, I just know that having a little you in my life with you guiding them will be really.

• 1:10:27Speaker 01

  Oh, that's gonna be drama.

• 1:10:31Speaker 01

  Okay, go next.

• 1:10:32Jay Shetty?

  Okay, so this is your final five.

• 1:10:33Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 1:10:33Jay Shetty?

  I'll answer them as well. So who is your favorite family member?

• 1:10:37Speaker 01

  Hmm, my grandma. Bah.

• 1:10:40Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, mine has.

• 1:10:40Speaker 01

  Everyone loves her.

• 1:10:41Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, mine has to be my sister.

• 1:10:44Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:10:44Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 1:10:45Speaker 01

  For sure.

• 1:10:46Jay Shetty?

  Okay.

• 1:10:46Speaker 01

  We love her.

• 1:10:47Jay Shetty?

  Top two favorite restaurants?

• 1:10:49Speaker 01

  Top two favorite restaurants in the world?

• 1:10:51Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 1:10:52Speaker 01

  My mom's house. Won't give her address, um, but definitely my mom's house. And the second one, um, my, all of mine are in New York, actually. Divya's Kitchen, ABCV, Hungarwee.

• 1:11:05Jay Shetty?

  No, that's it.

• 1:11:06Speaker 01

  Okay, fine.

• 1:11:08Jay Shetty?

  I'd say Our House.

• 1:11:09Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:11:10Jay Shetty?

  And ABCV.

• 1:11:11Speaker 01

  Okay, yeah.

• 1:11:12Jay Shetty?

  Actually, I've got a few more too, but yeah, yeah, that's good. All right, okay, awesome. Uh, what song, song does your partner have on repeat?

• 1:11:20Speaker 01

  Right now?

• 1:11:21Jay Shetty?

  I guess so, yeah.

• 1:11:22Speaker 01

  Oh, um.

• 1:11:24Jay Shetty?

  I think Ravi's song on repeat right now is. It's probably some like soccer song or like some sort of like some like reggaeton song or something like.

• 1:11:36Speaker 01

  But also Janavi.

• 1:11:38Jay Shetty?

  Oh, yeah, okay. Meditation music.

• 1:11:40Speaker 01

  As in, yeah, just Janavi's voice is amazing.

• 1:11:42Jay Shetty?

  Radhi's, Radhi's YouTube.

• 1:11:44Speaker 01

  My YouTube is like a literal.

• 1:11:46Jay Shetty?

  You know when it goes like recommended for, it'll be like meditation music, Kirithan, songs, and then like soccer music.

• 1:11:53Speaker 01

  Girl, you're a party animal. Like literally it shows where my mind's at most of the time.

• 1:11:58Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 1:11:58Speaker 01

  But Jani Harrison is literally one of my favorite artists. She's, actually, people ask me about this a lot. Um, she does the most incredible meditation music, but also just the way that she puts instruments together and everything like it's just amazing. So definitely her soccer music. Um, and actually right now Justin Bieber's new song.

• 1:12:17Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, and what about mine?

• 1:12:18Speaker 01

  You're, oh, are we talking about each other?

• 1:12:20Jay Shetty?

  No, just, yeah, kind of like.

• 1:12:21Speaker 01

  What song do you have on repeat right now? Have I heard you listen to music lately?

• 1:12:25Jay Shetty?

  So for a while it was that rhythm of the night track from the Bad Boys Two soundtrack.

• 1:12:30Speaker 01

  Oh, yeah.

• 1:12:31Jay Shetty?

  Ritmo, I think it's called with J Balvin and, and Will I Am? And then there's a lot of Drake. I listen to a ton of Drake, yeah.

• 1:12:39Speaker 01

  Loves Drake, got Drake.

• 1:12:41Jay Shetty?

  I can listen to a lot of Drake. Okay.

• 1:12:43Speaker 01

  Cool.

• 1:12:43Jay Shetty?

  What was the last kind thing your partner did for you?

• 1:12:46Speaker 01

  Um, the last kind thing you did for me?

• 1:12:51Jay Shetty?

  You packed my suitcases on the way there and back when I was rushing and I was busy. Usually I pack my own suitcases, but you helped me out with that.

• 1:12:58Speaker 01

  Yes, I did.

• 1:12:58Jay Shetty?

  That was big.

• 1:12:59Speaker 01

  What did you do for me lately? Hmm.

• 1:13:05Speaker 01

  This morning, this morning, oh, you ordered me juice.

• 1:13:09Jay Shetty?

  Ruler, thanks for that.

• 1:13:10Speaker 01

  Yeah, so not you. So no, not today. Yesterday, what did you do for me that was nice? Oh, my God. Joking. You always give, I get like tension in my head and so you always give me a really good head massage. I'm not sure you did that yesterday, but most days.

• 1:13:29Jay Shetty?

  I did while watching the movie.

• 1:13:31Speaker 01

  Yes, you did. Yes.

• 1:13:31Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 1:13:33Speaker 01

  Said that. Next.

• 1:13:34Jay Shetty?

  Okay. And the final question, what is your partner's biggest goal for 2020? So what goal did you?

• 1:13:39Speaker 01

  2020? It feels like it has to be a big year with 2020, doesn't it?

• 1:13:44Jay Shetty?

  What's yours?

• 1:13:46Speaker 01

  What's your biggest goal?

• 1:13:47Jay Shetty?

  What's yours?

• 1:13:48Speaker 01

  Oh, we're not answering for each other.

• 1:13:49Jay Shetty?

  You can.

• 1:13:50Speaker 01

  Okay. My biggest goal for 2020 is to figure out exactly what I want to do.

• 1:13:54Jay Shetty?

  Nice.

• 1:13:55Speaker 01

  Because I don't know. Yeah.

• 1:13:58Jay Shetty?

  I love it. It's so cute.

• 1:14:00Speaker 01

  This has been my goal every year, but this year 2020 feels like it's going to be really special. And so this is the year I'm going to launch my blog, that's for sure, soon. I'm going to figure out exactly what I want to do and I'm going to be really productive.

• 1:14:19Speaker 01

  And your goal for 2020 is?

• 1:14:21Jay Shetty?

  My goal is the year of the book. So for me, I've spent so much time writing this book that I just want as many people as possible to read this book because yeah, I've just put everything into it.

• 1:14:34Speaker 01

  So cool that you have like everything down of like what your focus is and I'm like, hmm, we'll see.

• 1:14:40Jay Shetty?

  I love you for it.

• 1:14:41Speaker 01

  No, I know. I'm just saying it's like, it's just really different. Okay, cool. That sounds great.

• 1:14:45Jay Shetty?

  That's it.

• 1:14:45Speaker 01

  Is that it?

• 1:14:46Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, that's it. We did it.

• 1:14:47Speaker 01

  Number two.

• 1:14:48Jay Shetty?

  We did it.

• 1:14:48Speaker 01

  At five.

• 1:14:51Speaker 01

  That was great.

• 1:14:52Jay Shetty?

  Happy one yet. Everyone who's been listening, whether you started listening on day one or whether you just started listening today, I just want to welcome you to the On Purpose Family from me and Radhi. It's been a phenomenal journey so far and we've just got started. We've released two episodes every week for the last 12 months. We've got so many episodes for you to listen to, incredible interviews with some of the most fascinating minds, some of my best friends, some of the closest people in my life, and then weekly wisdom workshops where I'm guiding you through an incredible journey. Don't miss out. Every Monday, every Friday. If you've already subscribed, thank you so much. If you have. Haven't, make sure you do. And if you've already reviewed us, if you're one of the 12,000 people that have left a review, thank you. And if you haven't, please, please, please

• 1:15:37Jay Shetty?

  leave a review on the podcast. It makes a huge difference on Spotify and Apple and on all other platforms. And for me and Radhi, thank you again. Radhi, thank you for doing this. I love having you on. And yeah, it's so much fun to do this with you. I love you so much.

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