Dean Graziosi: ON How To Master Your Relationship With Money & Playing To Your Strengths

Dean Graziosi and Jay Shetty discuss collaboration, compassion, and self-education on a recent episode of On Purpose with Jay Shetty. Instead of sinking him, Graziosi’s childhood struggles with dyslexia and his parents’ divorce fueled his rise to the top of the entrepreneurial ladder. Today you'll learn Graziosi’s top tips on living a life of freedom, having a healthy relationship with money, and much more! Text Jay Shetty 310-997-4177 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 0:00Jay Shetty?

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• 3:09Speaker 01

  Live a little bit harder today. Make sacrifices, bring back that childhood enthusiasm, take steps that your friends and family think are crazy, model people, find something you're passionate about, and spend the next two years going all after it. Burn the boats, because the byproduct is you're gonna work anyway, you're gonna be stressed anyway. Life is gonna throw you obstacles anyway. You might as well be doing it towards something that fills your soul.

• 3:39Jay Shetty?

  Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose, the number one health podcast in the world. Thanks to each and every single one of you who come back every single week to listen, to learn, and to grow. And you know that my focus for you is to find guests who are fascinating, who we can tap inside the minds of, to understand new truths about ourselves, about our business, and about the world around us. Now today's guest is someone that I've started speaking to probably about a year ago now, it feels like. We were messaging back and forth. I've been getting wonderful voice notes from him. He's got a wonderful voice, by the way. And, and every time he was sending it, we were just connecting. And I was like, I really, I really like this guy. And finally, we're together. Now, if you're wondering why we're in this new location and why I'm wearing like a beach shirt.

• 4:23Jay Shetty?

  And if you can see my legs, I'm sorry, but we're in shorts because we're currently in Puerto Rico with Brendan Bouchard. He's doing this incredible brainstorming mastermind with a few of us. And I am so grateful for today's guest. He's a multiple New York Times bestselling author. He's sold millions of books. He's been an incredible entrepreneur throughout his life when it comes to real estate, when it comes to building businesses. And now he's actually a coach sharing all that insight with so many other new, young and seasoned entrepreneurs. It is none other than Dean Graziosi. Dean, thank you for being here.

• 4:59Speaker 01

  It's so good to be here, man.

• 5:00Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, it's a pleasure. Honestly, like when we started connecting about a year ago.

• 5:03Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 5:04Jay Shetty?

  When you messaged me and we were messaging back and forth. And I just got this, and I don't often say this, but I got this warmth from you.

• 5:11Speaker 01

  I appreciate it. Same here.

• 5:12Jay Shetty?

  It wasn't just flattery. It wasn't stuff like that. Like, you know, it wasn't that. It wasn't flattery. It wasn't charm. It was warmth. And I feel like that's a warmth that you feel from like family or like someone who really cares.

• 5:22Speaker 01

  It's funny because when we got here, I felt like I had known you for such a long time and your wife is amazing. And I want to tell you, and I told you this, but I want everybody listening or watching to hear this. You know, I don't know who said this, but a prophet's never welcome in their hometown. Right? So it was, my kids are 11 and 13 and part of their daily routine that I've been pushing them to do, and it's not perfect, but I bet you it's three, four days a week is to watch five to 10 minutes of something personal growth related. Cause, and the average kid doesn't have access to that. I didn't know it existed. And you're the person I've chose for years. And because I can't say, go watch your dad's stuff.

• 5:59Speaker 01

  And, and Tony, who's a dear friend of mine, Tony Robbins is great, but he's a little big and intimidating for especially my son when he was nine. And I just want to say thank you. You've been a guide and a sage to them and you've filled their hearts. And for that, I loved you before I knew you because of it. So, so thank you. And it's a pleasure to be here.

• 6:14Jay Shetty?

  No, absolutely. I'm very, very humbled to hear that. And I'm, and I'm grateful that my work is useful. And I'll have to show that my kids your videos. My kids will want to listen to me.

• 6:22Speaker 01

  Like dad, you take out the garbage and mom tells you what time to be home. I'm not listening to you.

• 6:26Jay Shetty?

  Totally, totally. But I love, I love that we're sitting down together finally. We've been wanting to do this for a long time. I'm excited because you're working on some exciting work that I can't wait to share with my audience. So we'll get to that. But one of my first questions is, if you told your 11 year old self that your life was gonna be the way it is right now, the way it is now, like I know you've got a beautiful wife who's pregnant. She's like seven weeks away from expecting. You've built this business empire. You have incredible friends. Like, you know, your friends with Tony, your friends with so many other incredible people. If you told your 11 year old self that that was gonna be your reality, what would have been, what would your 11 year old self have said?

• 7:04Speaker 01

  You know, um, I,

• 7:07Speaker 01

  of course, it would have seemed like an impossible dream. But I have to say on the other side, I had this, sometimes being young and a little naive is the greatest gift we can have. In fact, sometimes when older people come to me and, you know, they want to go to another level and they're stuck. I want them to go back to being more of a child when they didn't know limits, where the world didn't tell them no. So at 11 years old, uh, my parents had been divorced since I was three. And my mom at that phase was working about three jobs, not about, she was working three jobs. Cut hair, uh, cleaned houses and painted houses on the side to make about 90 bucks a week. So she came home late every day. Her hands would hurt, her back would hurt. And I'm, I know there's a long answer to a short story, but there was something I knew and I wasn't the smartest kid.

• 7:52Speaker 01

  I had dyslexia, so reading was really, really difficult. I always felt embarrassed to read. But there was something inside of me that I just knew somehow, some way I'd find a way. And again, we all just need something to push us sometimes. And mine was watching my mom struggle. I just remember thinking, I'm gonna be rich. I didn't know what that meant at the time, but not because I wanted the fancy cars or the fancy house. I wanted my mom not to work anymore. And, uh, so if you asked me at 11, like we all have two voices. We have the voice that says, you'll never do it. You're an imposter. You have to be smarter, richer, faster. And then we have the other voice that says you can do anything. You're limitless. If I would say both voices, one would have said, uh, maybe I'm gonna be like my family and that would be a dream. I can't believe that could happen. But the other part of me, the one that said,

• 8:37Speaker 01

  There's nothing that could stop you. I would say, wow, I knew I'd be successful. I didn't know it would be like that. But, and I think that leads into some cool things for all of us. Sometimes we have pain and we try to avoid it. And I think sometimes it's better to just lean into the pain, right? I watched my mom come home like tired at nine o'clock at night and I wanted to play with her. And I want to do things and she wouldn't. So I'm like, I'm fixing that, right? So, uh, yeah, long answer to a short.

• 9:01Jay Shetty?

  No, I love that. It's a great answer. Tell me about how you've learned and trained other people to think like a child again in that scenario. Because you're saying that that naivety, that innocence is almost what's needed. How have you kept that mindset? We were just talking about it as we went through. Like you were just saying to me like Jay, like, you know, it's amazing that we're, we're living in a way that like, we're still starting from scratch. Like, how, how do you maintain that childlike mentality?

• 9:26Speaker 01

  Yeah, it's a, it's a really good question. The one thing is outside influences, I feel like they're cumulative, right? And you don't know where you get them, right? You have a seventh grade teacher that says, you know, don't be a dreamer. Or you can't read good enough, so you must be dumb, right? Or maybe you have a ninth grade teacher who tells you, you have limitless power, right? Those little things are cumulative, but I feel as a child, you haven't heard no, you have dreams. I mean, as a kid, you could pretend and have a friend and do all these great things, right? And then the world tells you to get real, right? And then school kind of puts you in a, in a, in a path. And then you think you gotta do what other people think are smart. Your parents might say, hey, stop being a dreamer. It's not about a band. You're gonna, you're gonna get a job and you're gonna, and, and I think cumulatively, we hear outside influences.

• 10:11Speaker 01

  We watch the news and we say, oh my God, this, the presidency, the, the Congress, is it Republican, is it Democrat? Is it, should I be Christian? Should I be Muslim? And we have all these different things, these outside influences. And then we watch the horrific news and that's cumulative. And I think, you know, friends in our lives, that, uh, maybe they don't want to go for their full potential and that's okay. But because you want to, it makes them uncomfortable. And they say, hey, Jay, come on, you're gonna do videos and have hundreds of millions of people a week watch. Come on, that's too competitive. YouTube's got lots of people. You've never done this before. It takes money to make money. And I believe over time. That it adds up to a certain point, it's cumulative, the news, your parents, your friends, the outside world, and all of a sudden, that inner voice that tells you you can't gets

• 10:54Speaker 01

  just a little bit stronger than the voice that tells you you can. And then all of a sudden, five, 10 years go by, and you're listening to a podcast like this, saying, how do I start fresh? So going back is, what if all those voices were wrong? Like, there was a phase in my life where I got lucky enough. I'd love to say I read a book, or I had an epiphany, but there was a day that I just realized Mrs. Thompson in seventh grade was wrong. My parents, we talked about our parents, I love my parents dearly, but they struggled their whole life. And even to this day, they don't work on their emotional intelligence. And I love them. This is not being negative in any way. The way they raised me was meant for me, and I love it. But they got stuck in a certain error. They got sucked, at one point in their life, they got stuck in a certain mindset that just has lasted

• 11:39Speaker 01

  for 30 or 40 years. So I say, is what if we could go back and realize that your parents were wrong, possibly in certain areas, right? Your teachers may have been wrong, that we are limitless. That, I mean, again, I can go so many different directions. So reel me back in, but I often think about being with my maker at the end of my life. And if I lived with that adult mindset of I shouldn't, I shouldn't move, compared to that childhood enthusiasm to just go for it, to play like you're 10 points down, to play like you have nothing to lose, I could imagine sitting with your maker. Imagine if your maker said, okay, Jay, I made you human. I put you on earth. Tell me what you did. Well, you know, until I was about 14, I thought I could do a lot of these things, but you know, God,

• 12:21Speaker 01

  I, you know, my parents said I should go to school, my friends said this, my friends. So I just lived an okay life. Like, I could picture our maker going, oh, please, not another one. I gave you all these gifts. Okay, I love you, next. Compared to saying, I failed miserably. I tried, oh, my God, did you, God, you were watching me. See all the dumb things I did? But those dumb things finally stumbled into the perfect relationship, stumbled into my passionate, you know, career that I did. And I just think, anything you can do to reinvigorate that childlike naivety.

• 12:54Speaker 01

  You know, when you get to surrounded, we're here in Puerto Rico with some amazing people and you see it in all of them. They all have this sense that they can make something up and then make it real.

• 13:04Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 13:04Speaker 01

  And if we could give that gift to more people, just keep making stuff up and then go have the nerve to make it real.

• 13:11Jay Shetty?

  Absolutely. Yeah, no, I love that. And it's interesting because even the voice you are saying for me that you're hearing from outside, like you said, it's a voice you hear.

• 13:18Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 13:19Jay Shetty?

  Like, I remember the first time I got the option where someone said to me, Jay, you should just start a YouTube channel. And my response in my head was just like, that works for one in a million people. Like, I was like, that does not work for me. That works for like Justin Bieber. Like, that does not work for me. And that's genuinely what I said to myself. And I thought to myself, but I had exhausted all options that I couldn't do anything else but start a YouTube channel. Like, I'd got to that point. But what you're saying was like, you've just said no so many times, whereas now you've got to start saying yes to something because so many doors have been closed.

• 13:55Jay Shetty?

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• 16:11Jay Shetty?

  Tell me about that, because one thing that we've just raised, we've raised outside, we're raising it here. It fascinates me because it's true for everyone, no matter who you are. Why is it that we struggle to influence and be influenced by the people closest to us? Like family, why is that? That parents can't always influence their kids positively or that the other way? Why are we, like, for example, like you're saying, you could say the same thing as me to your kid and they'll listen to it when I say, or vice versa? When I have kids, I could say something, they won't listen to me, but you say.

• 16:45Speaker 01

  It's your eyes and your British accent. That's, no, I'm kidding.

• 16:49Jay Shetty?

  But why is that?

• 16:50Speaker 01

  You know, it's a really great question, and I think it's, listen, shiny object syndrome is not something they've been writing about forever. Like, we're looking for fields of gold over the fence when it's right in front of us in so many ways. And what I, what I would believe is that. We feel that we're always moving towards something more. We want to move towards something more. And I just think that people closest to us, we've been around them so much that it becomes either a voice that we want to be the complete opposite. You and I talked about, we wanted to be in certain ways, complete opposite of our parents when it came to relationships, right? So I think that, and I think as, I'm having a teenager, I have a 13-year-old right now, and she's amazing, I love her to death, but I see her independence.

• 17:35Speaker 01

  And I think the original operating equipment by God is designed around that age to pull away from the people you're closest to, so she can find her own voice. She can find who she is. So I think it's innate. I think it's God-designed, original equipment of at a certain era, we pull away. And that's what everybody tells me that have older children than me, is you'll lose a little bit of your kids. And I don't see it with my children, I'm so connected to them, but I could be wrong. Those of you with older kids are probably like, you have no idea what you're dealing with, right? But what everyone says is 13 to 14, they drift away to find themselves, and they circle back around, around 23 to 25. And that's just, it's so consistent with so many people. And I think it's just that.

• 18:17Speaker 01

  I think that we're designed to find our own way. But I think, even though we can't take advice from the people closest to us sometimes, then do what I did. Find similar advice from someone that you respect, you resonate with. That's why you're listening to this podcast, or watching this show, is because you listen to Jay, and you should, he gives such valuable wisdom. So I don't know the definitive answer, but I get to see it. I get to see it in my own daughter right now. She loves me to death, but I'll say certain things to her now, and she's like, Dad, let me figure it out. And I love that. It's also hard for me. It's like, no, but I've already been there, babe. But she doesn't want that. And I think sometimes, you know, when I watch her figure it out, I know it sticks.

• 18:57Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, absolutely. That's a beautiful answer. I wasn't looking for a definitive answer. I wanted to hear what your take was as a father. I remember one of my friends, literally, like, we'd be sitting, his wife, him, me and my wife, and he had a daughter, I think she was like... Two years old or something and she's like playing over there in the corner and they've got candles everywhere in their home and she's like so close to this candle and my instinct was like to go and help her and they're like no they're like no just let her be I was like and they're like she will burn her hand and she will learn yeah once and I was like wow they're way stronger parents than me I mean I could I mean but this kid has turned into like what I what me and my wife call a jungle

• 19:39Jay Shetty?

  baby like she's she's happy to like run under wood and trees and hang off stuff because she just has this she's built up this fearlessness from being given that space I'm not I'm not recommending that as a parenting tip or anything like do not advocate that I'm just sharing the point that that Dean's missing so Dean tell me about like a lot of people listening to me right now and listening to us right now on this podcast will be thinking Dean I have a passion I want to build a business I want to understand how to maybe just start a side hustle like I'm really engaged in wanting to live a life that's more on my terms that is freedom and you talk about freedom a lot tell us about the starting point of that journey when someone's literally at a

• 20:21Jay Shetty?

  point of like I'm not satisfied with my job I'm not sure that's working you know I'm I'm not really sure that this career line has something for me where does someone go from that kind of space that's full of confusion anxiety stress and pressure which you've been which you've coached people through you know bazillion times

• 20:37Speaker 01

  you know there's when I get that question asked there's two ways right there's a tactical approach right but tactics never work and you know this it's why you've dedicated your life to it tactics never work if the mindset is off right you might see the greatest opportunity in the world in fact some people listening right now had other opportunities and their mindset got in the way and then they had regret after missing the opportunity right so I would say on a on a big scale if you look at mindset as as like a top of a funnel the wide part of the funnel

• 21:10Speaker 01

  Deciding what your life will look like. Like, again, if you're listening to Jay, you already know this. But when's the last time you said, "If it was a year from today, and it was the greatest year of my life, I started this business, or I started this side thing, or I'm making more impact on the world." You have to define what that would look like, more detailed than you think. So, let's say it's a year from now. Jay and I are doing an anniversary show, and you're like, "Wow, this was the greatest year of my life in my new business." What does that look like? And I just know this because I'm even around, I get to spend time with some amazing people, and I get to be around thousands of my family, my team, my students. And when I ask that question, "If it was a year from now, and it was the best year of... Dean, I want to start a business." Okay, and I'll hit him real quick. Okay, "It was a year from now. It was the best year of your life because of this new business you started.

• 21:55Speaker 01

  What's it look like?" And most people say, "Wow, that's a really good question." Now, but if I say, "If it was a year from now, and you were doing things you didn't want, what would it be?" And in a moment, they'll go, "Oh, I wouldn't be in this job because it pays me money, but my heart's not filled. I'm not living my true purpose." But if I flip it on what you actually want, again, we hear this. We've been hearing it since we were little. You said your dad used to read stuff. Like, we hear it. But to make it ingrained in your soul, I think the first thing is, design what a year from now will look like in five years. Because a year is going to go by faster. I mean, a year goes by like this, right? And a year's going to go by no matter what. So, I would say first is, think about, what does that look like? It's a year from now. It's a great year. Write it down.

• 22:37Speaker 01

  And then, my prescription would be to look at it every day. A lot of times, people create a goal. They'll pray on it quarterly. They'll pray on it once a month. I feel for something to change. You have to look at it so much that you're disturbed by your own inaction. And I do that to myself. I still like, we were talking about, I still like to play like I'm 10 points down. And I know you have that same mindset. You're coming out with a book. I can't wait. I'm going to promote the heck out of it for you. But you're going after it because you know that book could transform people's lives. You're going to push that in every way possible because you have a vision of where you want to be in a year from now. If you just thought, "Hey, I want to sell some books." It's not the same, right? So, the first thing is, have a compelling future. Write it down. Understand what it is and stare at it every day.

• 23:21Speaker 01

  And then, this might sound like foo-foo advice from someone who's having a level of success in their life. And I do, and I feel blessed for that. But I had lots of years that it wasn't. Is, you really have to align with something that you could see yourself doing for 10 years. Because I know in my being broke and I lived in a trailer park as a kid and my mom struggled. I, in my twenties especially Jay, I compromised like who I was to make money. Like not terrible things. I didn't sell drugs or do anything bad, but I did things that weren't in alignment with me. And it felt so heavy. And even when the money started coming in, I didn't become a better person. I didn't grow.

• 24:02Speaker 01

  And I realize now that the people I see that are, look at you, you're so in alignment with what you do. The byproduct is you're making more money. You're growing, you're impacting lives, but on a daily basis, you love what you do. So the second thing I would do is figure out what it is that really lights you up. And then do a hell of a lot of research to see, could I take what I'm passionate about? And actually make it into an income. And if it took you six months to research people, to model other people, to get a course, to get into a workshop, to, to be mentored by somebody, would that six months, what could that do for the rest of your life? You know, um, there was a, a guy, I'll think of his name, uh, in a second.

• 24:45Speaker 01

  Kekic, David Kekic, um, he was paralyzed jogging, got hit by a car, paralyzed from the neck down. And he had these Kekic Cretos. And one of them I'll always remember was, living the hard way is easy and living the easy way is hard. And the way I equated that into my head, when I started my own business, I was scared to death, just like some of you right now. I was fearful. My family told me I was nuts. My sister drove up from Virginia where she lived to sit me down with an intervention to tell me, stop dreaming. Like I had to overcome that. I had to work more hours than anybody else. I had to stress some nights, wake up in the middle of the night and say, can I really do this? I'm running out of money and people don't believe in me and I'm not sure what to do and reading books and trying to figure it out.

• 25:26Speaker 01

  That was hard, but life is easier for me now. I can be a full-time dad. I pick my kids up from school every day. I coached Little League. I coached softball. I get to be a good husband to my amazing wife. I get to come to an event like this and share and unite and become better friends with people like you. It's because I put the hard time in when a lot of my friends were partying and having fun and that's okay, right? It, it's, it's as simple as. It's really easy to eat fast food in McDonald's and sit on the couch. That's easy to do, but it's really hard when you're 55 and you have diabetes and you're a bad example for your kids. It's really easy to be unfaithful. It's really easy to check out other people or do things that aren't right now, but it's really hard going through an ugly divorce and watching your kids being separated.

• 26:10Speaker 01

  So I'm not trying to get overly deep here. I'm just saying, I'm just saying, live a little bit harder today. Make sacrifices, bring back that childhood enthusiasm. Take steps that your friends and family think are crazy. Model people, find something you're passionate about and spend the next two years going all after it. Burn the boats because the byproduct is you're gonna work anyway. You're gonna be stressed anyway. Life is gonna throw you obstacles anyway. You might as well be doing it towards something that fills your soul.

• 26:41Jay Shetty?

  Hundred percent. So well said, man. That was beautiful. I love that. And it all started off with the seed that you said of disturbed by your own inaction. Like I'm just, I'm gonna keep saying that to myself. Like that is such a powerful statement because I often think we get even more paralyzed by our own inaction, but we almost have to be disturbed by it first because that's gonna actually push us into it. And I, I think what, one of the mindsets, which I know you're challenging everyone here on, and I see you do it very, you do it in a beautiful way and I appreciate you doing it. And we talked about it last night and you mentioned it just now, that this money pain, the pain around money. So there's two extremes, what you said. One extreme is you think money is everything. Like when you were saying in your twenties, you made a lot of mistakes.

• 27:26Jay Shetty?

  You were doing things out of alignment. I see that as one way people live. Money is everything. Like I gotta have the cars, I gotta have the homes, I gotta have the men or the women or whatever it is. And then the other option is, well, money's nothing. Yeah, money's bad. Yeah, money's bad. It's evil. Only bad people have money. You have to manipulate people to have money. You have to stab people in the back to have money. You have to lie, cheat. Tell us about the root of those mindsets and how you've been able to create, cultivate and find methods that are actually purpose related and progressive.

• 27:56Speaker 01

  Yeah, so I have, I have really deep thoughts on that because I watch people fight that. Like to me, money would be like if you were at a therapy session and your therapist was on one couch, money was in another and you were in another. And the therapist was trying to build a relationship between you and money. You'd say, I hate it. I don't wanna have to go make it. I don't ever wanna sell anything. I don't wanna do it. But how's your life going? Ah, I'm worrying about the bills and I don't like what I'm doing for a living and I can't help my parents because they're struggling terrible and I don't have any money for my future. It's like, whoa, wait, you just said you hated it, but now you're telling me you want it. So do you want to date money or do you want to break up with money? So it's this really difficult. It's such a difficult relationship. And I think, I think the best person to ever shared this with me is, I was lucky enough

• 28:41Speaker 01

  to spend a week with Richard Branson on his island. And it was because, it wasn't because I was cool back then, it was a long time ago and he wasn't my best friend, I didn't have him on speed dial. It's because he had a really great charity called Virgin Unite and he paid 100% of the bills. And I knew if I donated to that charity, it all went to people in need. So I got some friends together and another buddy of mine, we raised a million dollars. And for that, we got invited to his island. Amazing. And then I got up, I get up really early, I'm a five o'clock guy, and he saw me and he said, hey, tomorrow, do you want to sail around the island with me? I was like, nah, I was, of course. So, so 5:00 AM, I meet him and we sail around the island and I asked him a similar question about money. I feel like I should be doing more. And what he said to me, and it really put it in a perspective, he said, you have a

• 29:26Speaker 01

  gift, and you have a gift on how to make money and you're impacting lives. And he had seen one of my books, which was so cool. He said, I saw your book and I see the way you speak on video. He said, you have a gift. So here's what I think. Go out and make as much money as you can because that's your God-given gift. And then do what you want with it. Give it all away if you want. He goes, here's what I think. You said you wanted to put more time into helping people. He said, some people are meant to put the time in, but would it be better for you to go to a soup kitchen and work there all week, which would be great to see it? Or would it be better for you to work in your unique ability and go to that same soup kitchen and hand the owner $50,000 so you could help feed more people? He goes, when I had that realization, I realized I'm going to go out and make as much as I can, but I'm going to give most of it away. And it kind of just shifted me from, I was already there, but it shifted me to another

• 30:11Speaker 01

  level. And I think people don't realize the impact they can make. When people say money's evil, I said, you haven't given enough away yet. You haven't given enough away yet because I got to retire my parents by the time I was 27. My mom, who I worried so much about, she hasn't worked a day since she was 27 years old. I send her a check. She's still alive. She's amazing. She's 77 years old. I buy her a new car every two years. I send her a check. I do the same thing with my dad. That's not bragging. That's, that's my soul. That's my heart. We, this year, we fed 6 million people through Feeding America. Like, we get to do these cool things. While simultaneously, though, on my perspective, I get to employ 100 people. I, I know that my children are going to be safe. Not spoiled, not trust fund kids, but I know they're safe

• 30:54Speaker 01

  no matter what happens. And that peace of mind allows me to say, I want to be in control of my life. I can do a great balance. I get to serve other people. And, and that's why I also said, if you can equate that to things that make an impact, like, I'm blessed, so are you, and, and some of the things Tony Robbins and I are doing, when you have the ability to help other people, impact other people's lives, and then create revenue, wow, you know, it's a, it's a whole new desire.

• 31:24Speaker 02

  Mr. President, my company, for me, the explosion on our rig on October 2nd. Causing massive water displacement and triggering a tsunami. They all heap the blame on me.

• 31:33Speaker 03

  Tom Cruise is. Digger got us into this mess. And Digger's gonna dig us up. From the director of Birdman and the Revenant.

• 31:41Speaker 04

  What would happen if I stopped doing it? You're stalled, you're freezing there, that's what.

• 31:45Speaker 03

  With great power comes great deniability.

• 31:48Speaker 04

  I'm not the first then.

• 31:49Speaker 03

  Digger. See the trailer online. Only in theaters October 2nd. Rated R. Under 17 not a minute without parent.

• 31:58Jay Shetty?

  So, we were walking last night with our wives, and Dean told me this epic story. I don't know if it's true. He doesn't know if it's true, but I like the story. So, we're gonna tell it. And, and this is what I like about what we're doing right now. Like, so, you know, today, when we're hanging out with Dean, Brendan, and a few other people as well, it's just been like this, I, I always...

• 32:20Jay Shetty?

  I really admire people and for a long time have found the most enduring quality to be humility.

• 32:28Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 32:28Jay Shetty?

  And I find that more priceless and rare than any jewel in people. And it's the thing I admire and respect the most. And I believe the greatest reflection, like if you're like, Jay, humility, what does that mean? Like, does it mean like you don't, this is what I mean by it. Like humility is characterized by the desire for collaboration. Like being okay.

• 32:51Speaker 01

  I love that definition.

• 32:52Jay Shetty?

  With wanting to serve together.

• 32:54Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 32:54Jay Shetty?

  Not wanting to serve with myself. Building an island is completely the opposite.

• 33:00Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 33:00Jay Shetty?

  Of humility.

• 33:01Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 33:01Jay Shetty?

  It's just about me, I'm doing it all.

• 33:03Speaker 01

  Yeah, and you watch that here. I mean, everybody can't wait to help each other, right?

• 33:08Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, and that's what you were talking about, like that, that feeling. So with that, I'm gonna ask you to share this story and the difference and then the work that you're doing.

• 33:15Speaker 01

  Yeah, and, and there's amazing people here from Princey A to Trent Shelton. I mean, everybody's this little group and we're all shit.

• 33:22Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, Russell Brunson, Lewis Howes, Tom Bellew, Dave Hollis. Like, it's a great group of people.

• 33:28Speaker 01

  And could you imagine we're all in a similar field? And we can't wait to go around the table and collaborate and solve each other's problems and share what our gifts are. There's things that you do way better than me and there's things I do better than you. You and I get together, we both rise. And that's why, you know, again, we'll talk about this, why this self-education is becoming this thing. Because how much better off will we all be when we leave here this weekend, right?

• 33:53Jay Shetty?

  Huge.

• 33:53Speaker 01

  And, and look at the bond we have. I, I'm coming to your house to eat vegan. I'm just telling you, it's happening because we can't find good vegan food. That's why it's so hard to make it stick. Um, so let's just take that as we have people in a similar world, all here collaborating, sharing, and pulling back the curtain on our greatest secrets. That's collaboration. So, uh, my wife and I got married in, uh, Lake Cuomo, uh, last year. And we took a boat ride around Lake Cuomo and our pilot, not pilot, our boat captain takes us to this beautiful, old, old house on the edge of the cliff with a stream running through it. So if you can imagine edge of the water, a house that looks 15 stories high of rock, built probably multiple 500 years, maybe 5, 700 years ago,

• 34:35Speaker 01

  and a stream running down through the center of it. And they told the story of Leonardo da Vinci, that he used to paint there, but more than paint, he used to invite the competition that he disliked the most. Okay, now, this is the story from a boat captain, have no idea if it's real, but they said he would take and wine and dine them, and they would have an amazing night, and then there'd be a certain point in the floor where he'd say, "Stand here and you can see my new painting." No, move over a little bit, and they'd get to a certain part in the floor, he would pull a lever, the floor would open up, and it would drop them down four or five stories into spinning blades, chop them up and spit them out into Lake Cuomo.

• 35:13Jay Shetty?

  I love it every time. I've heard it three times now in the last twelve hours.

• 35:16Speaker 01

  It's like, everybody's, my family, I had my daughter and my son and my wife on the boat, and we're just like, our jaws are down, it's like, don't know if it's true, but it's the complete opposite of collaboration, of humility, right? So, but what's great is Randy Garn, who's here, went on a different boat, and they told him the same story. So, it's either a great urban legend, or just shows the opposite of humility.

• 35:42Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, totally. It's a great story, just to show just the mindset that we don't want, and what you talk about, like, you know, millionaire success habits, then when you look into habits of high-performing, successful, wealthy people, they're not acting in that way.

• 35:56Speaker 01

  They're not.

• 35:56Jay Shetty?

  They're not acting in that scarcity mindset, they're not acting in that defeat my competition, beat my competition mindset.

• 36:04Speaker 01

  And the other thing too is, if you, everybody listening, like, really take this into consideration, feeling alone is a really common trait of someone who wants more. Whether you consider yourself an entrepreneur, or just someone who wants more success in your life, some entrepreneur's got a little weird name in the last few years, so whether you want to call yourself that or not. Doesn't it feel really lonely when maybe all your friends are going off to college and you want to start your own thing, or you're way past that and you're in your own thing and you go to the PTA meeting and everybody's talking about their nine to five and you're talking about this vision you have that you want to make something up, make it real. Entrepreneurs feel alone. People who want another success. I know I felt alone a lot in my thoughts and in my life and in front of my teachers and my guidance counselors.

• 36:49Speaker 01

  I just seem like the oddball. He's a broke kid who lives in a trailer park with dyslexia. You're not going to college. Oh, and you're going to be successful and take care of your mom. That's so cute, little Dean. Okay, I'll see you, you know, when you're drinking your six pack, kicking your dog. Like, that's how I felt that they were looking at me, right? So collaboration is not only humility. When you don't feel alone, it's this empowering piece. Like, when you come here, think of how our lives will change just from us meeting, just from somebody else you met here, right? I want to help you with your book launch. You're helping me with things. Like, that collaboration is so awesome. But the bigger byproduct is when you realize you're not crazy. When you realize that your inner

• 37:29Speaker 01

  goals and ambitions are, could be actualized. And I think that's what groups and training and masterminds and I think that does, I think that's the biggest byproduct no one sees because everybody here will be leaving with bigger goals. Right or wrong?

• 37:43Jay Shetty?

  Huge.

• 37:43Speaker 01

  Did you step up your goals since you've been here?

• 37:45Jay Shetty?

  Hundred percent.

• 37:45Speaker 01

  Like, you think I'm going to sell a million books, impact a million lives. No, I want to impact 10 million lives now because I got this tribe helping me. But it's not, it's not just us. This is available for the whole world. That's why meetup groups are growing and workshops are growing and online communities are growing. And you go to a Facebook community, there's a half a million people and it's like, this is where you get to bond and grow.

• 38:06Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, absolutely. Tell me about the darkest moment in your life and why self-education was your savior.

• 38:13Speaker 01

  Yeah, wow, really good question.

• 38:14Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, like why self-education was the difference maker in that lowest dark, in however way you define dark.

• 38:23Speaker 01

  I had some pretty dark moments as a kid. But I would say that the darkest moment of my life, my parents split when I was three, no different than so many people listening and some people's parents didn't split and they should have, you know, there's just a million different things, but their split was so, I want to use a really pipe word, it was disturbing, it was violent, it was ugly, it was so bad that I never wanted to do that to my children. And about six years ago, I knew, five years ago, I knew that I was gonna go through a divorce and four years ago, I knew there was, no, five years ago, I knew there was no way out of it. And my ex and I found a way to be great friends and co-parents. I lived in a different room for a couple of years.

• 39:08Speaker 01

  But I had this inner child that was so fearful of divorce that the thought of leaving and not being there every morning for my kids, I don't know how to, like, I did all these years of all this self-work and thought I pushed the abuse and all the things in my childhood were gone, I thought I purged them out, I wasn't holding on to them. But they all came back that I was doing this to my kids. I was gonna do them what my dad did to me and it was the first time in my life I could not control my anxiety. It was, I don't even take an aspirin, I was taking Xanax twice a week just so I could sleep two nights a week, because I stayed up all night thinking they're gonna dislike me, all the work I put in, I love my kids so much, I'm gonna miss them, summer vacations, it's gonna be split in half, Christmases, holidays, and it was like, I just went through

• 39:50Speaker 01

  this, this downward cycle and, and thankfully, I have friends like Tony Robbins and Dr. Daniel Amen and Brendan and all these great people giving me the support. And the fact of the matter is, I couldn't spin out of it, but, immediately, but when it was the hardest, it was when I was trying to get through it on my own. I was trying to figure out and I couldn't find a path out. And then I connected with a dear friend of mine, her name's Annie Love, and she is an amazing love coach. And I started self-education. I chose her to coach me every day on how to find compassion and love through this because... I realized at a certain point, and I'm not going to go too deep on this because I don't

• 40:33Speaker 01

  want to digress too much, but we've all been through situations. I realized there was a certain point, the only way this would be okay, to solve all those problems, fighting maybe with my ex, worrying about money with my ex. I owned 13 companies. The complexity was difficult, right? Fighting with my ex, or her talking bad to the kids if she was upset. I realized what solves all that is replacing every emotion with compassion. If I just love her through it, no matter what happens. You want more money? Fine, I don't care, take it. And I made her this promise of 10 things that I would do, and I promised her I would never talk bad about her, no matter what. I would be on her side with the kids. If I brought someone new in my life, we would all be friends, we would communicate. I just made this promise of 10 things, but then I needed help through

• 41:14Speaker 01

  it. The self-education was a counselor once a week. I bought a course on how to do a child-centered divorce, and I devoured that course. I went and saw Tony probably every other week, and luckily I got Tony, but I could watch his videos. I watched podcasts. I listened to your stuff. No exaggeration. I devoured self-education everywhere I could. Anything that could bring me out of this funk, so I could focus on that solution, I figured out. And it worked. I went and saw Daniel Aben, and sat in his chair and listened to him. So it's not just something I talk about. It's a way of life. And the thing is, self-education saved my life, because I didn't go the traditional route, and I learned from other people. And

• 41:58Speaker 01

  how cool was it to go back to that on a personal matter? I mean, it was the, it truly was the darkest time of my life, but on the opposite side of that, you get to see the other side. I transitioned out of that. My ex and I are best, not best, but really good friends. My kids are thriving. I'm married again. I'm having another baby. My kids love my wife. They love her, like, not kind of love her. It's like they have this bonus mom. Um, you know, on Mother's Day, my wife is taking my kids shopping for their real mom.

• 42:26Jay Shetty?

  Oh, wow.

• 42:27Speaker 01

  Right? You know, so, but it took, I, the truth of matter is Jay, I never could have got through that without really obsessing and learning from other people that had a better path than me.

• 42:37Jay Shetty?

  Absolutely. Yeah. And now you're doing that back because, I mean, you've written tons of books.

• 42:41Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 42:42Jay Shetty?

  You've launched courses.

• 42:43Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 42:44Jay Shetty?

  Done coaching and now you and Tony have teamed up.

• 42:47Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 42:47Jay Shetty?

  And.

• 42:47Speaker 01

  Which is amazing.

• 42:48Jay Shetty?

  Yeah. Which is awesome to see, by the way. Again, the collaboration. I love it. I love seeing it. When, when you first reached out and told me about this, I was super pumped because I was like, oh, it's so cool to see, you know, giants in this space coming together to serve. And you've created what you believe is everything you wish you would have known.

• 43:04Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 43:04Jay Shetty?

  When you started.

• 43:06Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 43:06Jay Shetty?

  In this space.

• 43:07Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 43:07Jay Shetty?

  And tell, tell us about why this creation together was so important and why your hearts, because every time I've seen you both talk about it, it's like, you're just like, this is what was missing for us. Like, this is what, you know, this is what we were lacking.

• 43:19Speaker 01

  So I, here's the truth.

• 43:20Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 43:20Speaker 01

  I didn't know what the term self-education was in high school when I was young. I just didn't, I just knew.

• 43:26Jay Shetty?

  I didn't know.

• 43:26Speaker 01

  I wasn't going to college. I wasn't smart enough. My parents didn't really have money and my dad wanted me to work. And so there was just no option. So, you know, it was in my head, my guidance counselor friends were like, oh, no college? Oh, then just fix cars with your dad or go work at a factory. Like, there was nothing in between. And the truth of matter is, I knew there was more and I was hustling, doing a lot of it on my own. And by the time I was in my mid twenties, I was doing really well for myself. I had an auto sales, an auto collision shop. I drove, I had tow trucks where I drove at night. I was buying real estate with no money down. Like, I was, I was hustling, but I was doing it in a really heavy way. And probably at 25 years old, it was the first time I got introduced to self education because it was before podcasts or Instagram.

• 44:07Jay Shetty?

  Media.

• 44:07Speaker 01

  Yeah, for social media. I saw Tony Robbins on an infomercial late at night and I just believed him. Like, he just, you know, if you don't remember the first time you listened to that voice.

• 44:15Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 44:15Speaker 01

  And he's talking, it was like, he was vibrating in my soul. I bought everything. My dad told me to get a refund. I was dumb. He's like, I have a bridge I could sell you. You know what I mean?

• 44:24Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 44:24Speaker 01

  And I got it. And when I listened to that, I just couldn't believe it, Jay. I was like, wow, like. I've been waiting my whole life. I mean, there's this other way. I could learn through my own trial and error, or traditional school, or I could learn from someone who's already been there. I'm gonna choose to learn from somebody who's already been there. And then he introduced me to Deepak Chopra, and Wayne Dyer, and Eckhart Tolle, and Jim Rohn, and Dale Carnegie, and Earl Nightingale. And I just started going down this path. And I remember everything I absorbed. I'm like, how come everyone doesn't know this? And within two years of getting Tony's course, I did my first infomercial and my first product. Because I was so hooked. Like, I can take what I figured out. I went through challenges, I came out on the other side. Let me teach people. How to not go through those challenges?

• 45:07Speaker 01

  Or I learned how to make more money. Let me show people how to do that. So I launched that infomercial. And I wrote in my journal back then, someday I wanted to meet Tony. And someone introduced us about 10 years ago. We've been best friends ever since. But Tony's story is very similar. It's why we bonded so much. Jim Rohn saved his life. He was living in a car. He took two weeks' worth of pay, and he gave it to Jim Rohn, went to an event. As he says, life would never be the same. He got obsessed and read a book a week for two years straight. So self-education is the foundation of our lives. I went into real estate and did really well for myself. My first, you know, whatever, fortune or foundation of success, I'll put, that's easier said, came from real estate. But I realized

• 45:48Speaker 01

  it never would have worked without the self-education. So we got together as friends 10 years ago. And two years ago, we decided, this is what the world needs. We need to create a process where everybody can extract what they know, extract their experiences, extract a skill, a hobby, a passion, in a methodical way, and then share it with people to make impact and create success in their life. And we just decided, let's do this. I mean, who better than us? We got 64 years in this space between us, which sounds crazy. I always remind him, he's got way more ties in the name. He's 40, I'm like, 24 years. And we got together and said, let's do this. Let's create a process. And last year, we went live. And it was unbelievable. We had 220,000 people show up. We did this incredible training. And we're doing it again this year, and we're really excited.

• 46:32Jay Shetty?

  Yeah. And I'd love, I'd love for everyone who's listening and watching today to be able to take part and find out about it.

• 46:36Speaker 01

  Yeah, I think my team got a URL for you. If you go to jskbb.com.

• 46:42Jay Shetty?

  Okay.

• 46:42Speaker 01

  jskbb.com. There's just a quick page with Tony and I where you register and reserve your spot. So reserve your spot and then put it in your phone. So you don't miss it. Legit, we go live once a year. So if you come back the next day, you miss the energy of the live. And what we're going to show is what we did last year is just how to, how to do something that can be really impactful in the world. And I think that's what we all want deep down.

• 47:03Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 47:03Speaker 01

  I was just at our mutual friend Rachel Hollis's event.

• 47:05Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 47:06Speaker 01

  And I asked all the girls in the audience, I said, at the end of your life, you could do one or two things. You could have massive amounts of success and abundance, or you could make a massive impact on the world. Who would choose just success or money, whatever you want? And no one raised their hand. I said, who would choose impact? A hundred percent of the women, 8,000 women. I said, how would you like the opportunity to do both? And they all cheered. And that's what Tony and I are going to show on this live training. So if anything I said today intrigues you, if you love Tony like I do, if you got anything of value today, it'd be fun to stop by and watch us live.

• 47:36Jay Shetty?

  A hundred percent. Yeah. And I think, I think the whole point of all of this is just, most of us don't know when that moment's going to come for us. But we wanna, we wanna scale up the opportunity to have that moment, right? Like, we all need constant reminders. And we need to hear it in different voices. We need to hear it being said in different languages, like, open and expose, like, if I was you, I'd be going there, right? Like, if I was, if I was listening right now, I'm, I'm gonna turn up.

• 47:59Speaker 01

  Of course.

• 48:00Jay Shetty?

  Right? Because it's like, you just don't know what's gonna click.

• 48:03Speaker 01

  It's a true story.

• 48:04Jay Shetty?

  You just don't know what's gonna click. And we don't turn up in enough places for it to click quicker. And then like 10 years from now, you'll be going, oh, if I went to that, maybe I would have realized it seven years ago. And I could have got going.

• 48:16Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 48:16Jay Shetty?

  And so for me, yeah, make sure you go check out jskbb.com. Perfect. That's it. As simple as that. So make sure you go check it out if you're listening or watching right now, to dive into that live energy. And I agree with that live energy. I go live with my membership community every week.

• 48:30Speaker 01

  I know you do.

• 48:31Jay Shetty?

  And I love it because it's live. So yeah, definitely go check out the live. Don't watch the replay. If, I mean, if you have to, then you have to. But go, go, go, check it out and sign up. I'd love for you to check it out. It will genuinely, my few moments with Dean. Uh, today, yesterday, the conversations we've had, like I said, warmth and I trust warmth.

• 48:51Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 48:51Jay Shetty?

  Like there's something in warmth that is better than being impressed by someone or admiring someone. It's a warmth is a very special feeling and Dean is, you know, very collaborative. Dean is very giving. He's got a wonderful, open heart. He's, we've only scratched the surface on his story today.

• 49:07Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 49:08Jay Shetty?

  And so I would highly recommend, I would highly recommend Millionaire Success Habits. Is there anywhere else that people should go and check you out to learn more about you, Dean? If they're fascinated today?

• 49:16Speaker 01

  If you're on social media, Instagram, because I started doing Facebook stories every day and we've been growing like crazy. We just, you know, for you, it's a little bit, we, I kind of ignored social media for a long time. Because I was so into all my other, you know, pieces of businesses, 13 different companies. But we've been flying. We just passed a million followers last week and it's going so fast.

• 49:35Jay Shetty?

  Incredible.

• 49:35Speaker 01

  So I think it's because we go, I do a story. So check it out at Dean Graziosi. But try to join us live. It's a pretty spectacular thing. And Jay, I want to tell you something. Um, there's a quote I heard. I didn't make this up. So I like to say this isn't mine, but I heard, be careful when you meet your heroes. And you have been an influence in my kid's life because I've been there. And sometimes you watch somebody and I want to tell you in my experience, I'm a little bit older than you. I've been this face for a long time. I'd see somebody that I admire, hero, admire, role model. And I get the chance to meet them and I'm disappointed. And that's happened a lot in my life. Someone's talking about love and I watch them yelling at their wife. They're talking about time management and they're late to their live event. Right? It's just, it sounds crazy. Uh, my wife and I were going to bed last night talking about you and your wife.

• 50:19Speaker 01

  And you truly are the same person on camera as you do, as you are off camera. And you deserve all the impact that you're making, deserve the success you have. And, uh, I'm here to support you. So keep up the good work, man.

• 50:31Jay Shetty?

  I appreciate that. I appreciate that. I'm hoping, same back. I'm hoping everyone who's listening and watching does go turn up for the live. Because like I said, I'm going to turn up and I think it's going to be super exciting. People are going to have their minds blown. Like you said, 64 years.

• 50:44Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 50:45Jay Shetty?

  You know, I, I respect time and I respect maturity. And I had one of my mentors, he would always repeat to me, and I can't remember who he would quote, but he would always just say, there is no substitute for maturity. There's no substitute for maturity. And it's like, you can think you're as advanced as you think you are. And when you hear someone who's been around, done it longer, there is so much wisdom in that. So I'm all in to learn from both of you.

• 51:08Speaker 01

  Awesome. Thank you, brother. This was great.

• 51:09Jay Shetty?

  Thank you so much. Yeah, this was awesome. Oh, wait, wait, wait. We end every interview, the final five that I have not asked yet. So this is final five rapid fire. You have to answer in one word or one sentence maximum.

• 51:19Speaker 01

  Got it.

• 51:20Jay Shetty?

  No more than that. Especially today because we're late for, we're being the bad boys right now because we're late for a session. Okay, question number one, the number one mentor, and it doesn't have to be a figure, it can be anyone. One mentor that has had the biggest impact in your life.

• 51:33Speaker 01

  My grandmother, Carmella Post.

• 51:35Jay Shetty?

  Because I'm gonna add, that's addition to the question. Why?

• 51:38Speaker 01

  Because she was the one, when my parents split when I was three, I kind of landed on her door. And every day, she told me two things. One, I was beautiful. So that was cool or gorgeous.

• 51:47Jay Shetty?

  You are.

• 51:47Speaker 01

  And secondly, no, I don't know about that, but she thought so. But the second thing, she was the one who told me every day I could do whatever I want. Don't listen to anyone. And that's a woman who had a seventh grade education.

• 51:56Jay Shetty?

  I love that. Okay, second question, what's the best advice you've ever received?

• 52:01Speaker 01

  Best advice I've ever seen is honestly from my buddy Tony is life happens for us, not to us. And I've thought about it before, but that one sentence crystallizes everything.

• 52:09Jay Shetty?

  It does. Yeah, encapsulates a lot. Third question, what's the worst advice you've ever received?

• 52:14Speaker 01

  Worst advice I'd ever received, play it safe.

• 52:17Jay Shetty?

  Oh, nice. That's a good answer. I like that. All right, question number four, what's the one thing you're most excited about this year? I think I know what it is.

• 52:26Speaker 01

  Having a baby.

• 52:26Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 52:27Speaker 01

  Yeah, the love of my life. She's the love of my life, my wife. And, and the reason, I want to say this, I didn't find someone else who made me whole. Getting out of my last relationship, I realized where I wasn't whole. And I worked on myself for a whole year so I could attract the right woman. It wasn't just found somebody perfect. I knew I had to step up as a man. And I stepped up as a man, became a better version of myself, and I found my soulmate.

• 52:50Jay Shetty?

  I love it. And fifth and final question, if you could set a daily practice for everyone who's listening and watching to do it. And if it was like, you had to pass it like a law.

• 52:59Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 52:59Jay Shetty?

  Like for the next, however many days are left.

• 53:02Speaker 01

  I know this one.

• 53:03Jay Shetty?

  In 2020, what would be that daily practice?

• 53:05Speaker 01

  Okay, wake up and do not look at your phone first.

• 53:08Jay Shetty?

  I love it.

• 53:09Speaker 01

  Secondly, uh, secondly, just take 30 seconds of gratitude. Like it could be gratitude that it's raining out, not raining, or the pillow was comfortable. Then think of one win from the day before and one win you'd like to achieve in that day. It all takes five minutes and that puts you in an offensive mood for the day rather than defense.

• 53:28Jay Shetty?

  I love it. Perfect. Thank you, dude.

• 53:30Speaker 01

  You got it, brother.

• 53:31Jay Shetty?

  Thank you so much. Awesome. Perfect. That was great. Thank you, guys.

• 53:33Speaker 01

  Oh, that's awesome.

• 53:34Jay Shetty?

  That was great.

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