All You Need is 1 YES (How To Push Through Rejection)

What’s a recent rejection you faced? What keeps you going after rejection? Today, Jay takes us inside the iHeart Studio at the Doha Web Summit for a candid, unfiltered conversation with his best friend of nearly two decades, Nanda. Nanda joins Jay for an impromptu discussion that takes us on a journey through their friendship, personal growth, and the pivotal moments that have shaped their lives. Jay and Nanda reflect on the transitions that defined them—from Jay’s life as a monk and the challenges of reintegration into the corporate world, to Nanda’s bold decision to leave his successful career in law to pursue his true passion. They dive deep into the importance of humility, resilience, and self-awareness, sharing powerful lessons on navigating failure, taking risks, and reinventing oneself with purpose. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Overcome Career Transitions and Reinvent Yourself How to Handle Failure and Rejection with Resilience How to Develop a Winner’s Mindset Without Burnout How to Balance Ambition with Spirituality How to Make Big Life Decisions with Confidence Your journey is unfolding exactly as it should—every challenge, every transition, and every unexpected twist is shaping you into the person you're meant to become. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 03:13 19 Years of Friendship 04:05 How It Feels to Restart Your life 07:12 The Beast Mindset 09:30 Humans Function in 2 Ways 12:38 Taking a Risk for a Career Shift 19:00 Failure to Success Mindset 21:35 Start Investing in Yourself 24:55 How to Raise Resilient Kids 27:50 Your Life Becomes the Stories 31:48 Navigating Male Friendships 36:19 The Winner's Mindset 38:39 Living in the Spirit of Gratitude 42:04 Pause to Celebrate Success See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 0:00Jay Shetty?

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• 3:41Jay Shetty?

  And what I've found is that pressure doesn't attract success and joy. And being passive doesn't attract success and joy. And the only place that does is peace. And peace is me saying, I'm going to do everything I can and then leave the result up to what the universe is, what God wants, whatever the energy is around me, but I'm going to do everything I possibly can. Because I think there may be a lot of people listening right now who are doing something where they studied for it, they were educated for it, they worked hard for it, their parents maybe even were really impressed that they did it. And now they're at an age where they're going, I think I want to change my career.

• 4:25Jay Shetty?

  Like, I don't think this satisfies me anymore.

• 4:27Speaker 01

  The number one health and wellness podcast.

• 4:30Speaker 02

  Jay Shetty. Jay Shetty. The one, the only Jay Shetty.

• 4:35Jay Shetty?

  Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose. I'm your host Jay Shetty and I am so grateful that you've decided to join me today. This is a very special episode because I'm in Qatar at Web Summit. And right now I'm sitting inside the iHeart studio. And there are people around the studio who have headphones on, who can listen to the podcast. Hello everyone outside. We've never done this before ever, which is awesome. And I'm really excited because my best friend of nearly the last two decades now is in the house. He recently moved to Dubai. We're in Doha. He's flown over so that we can hang out because we now need to schedule our hangouts because that's what happens with adult friendships.

• 5:19Jay Shetty?

  And I'm so grateful because I thought I'd invite him on the show today so that we can share some of the most pivotal moments of our friendship, careers, life over the last two decades. And I thought it would be a special treat for you. So welcome to the episode, Nunda, who is in the studio with me. Nunda, thanks for joining me.

• 5:38Speaker 03

  Thanks so much, Jay. I can't believe that we've known each other for 19 years and we speak probably three times a week and you choose to drop about half an hour ago that I'd like to bring you onto the podcast.

• 5:52Speaker 03

  Give me an opportunity to prepare. This is my big moment. And literally I'm eating a burger and you're like, actually, I think you should come on the podcast, Nunda.

• 5:59Jay Shetty?

  That's exactly what happened.

• 6:00Speaker 03

  Thanks for that.

• 6:01Jay Shetty?

  We were having a casual conversation, even though we have three casual conversations a week. And I was just like, yeah, you know, it'd be really fun. We've never done this before. And it would be a really good idea. And I thought it'd be fresh for my amazing community.

• 6:14Speaker 03

  For sure.

• 6:14Jay Shetty?

  To hear about our friendship, life, the journey that we've both been on, the journey that I've been on through your perspective. And yes, just so everyone knows, Nunda's had no time to prepare. We both came up with this, well, no, he didn't come up with this idea. I came up with this idea 30 minutes ago and here we are. So let's dive in. I've known Nunda ever since before I became a monk. And I remember actually saying that to you. I wanted to do that. I then even talked to you when I was leaving the monastery and all the challenges of reintegration of my health and everything else, all the way through to, which we'll talk about some of these events of spending time in New York together in the early stages of my career, LA, and now all the way through to Dubai and Doha. And so where should we start, Nunda?

• 7:00Speaker 03

  Well, it's just incredible to think nineteen years is a long, long time. And I certainly remember the first time I did meet you back in two thousand and six. And yeah, that journey that you just talked about. The thing that just jumps to me is, I think people already know a little bit about your desire to become a monk. And when I first met you, you were out of the box thinker. You were like, okay, I know I can crush it in the corporate world, but I want to do something different. So I really want to start with when you left the ashram. And the reason I want to start with that is because I remember that conversation very, very clearly. You were heartbroken because you went in with a very clear idea of I'm doing this for life. Like I'm signed up. We've spoken about it many times before. For those of you that don't know Jay, he's an all or nothing guy.

• 7:43Speaker 03

  So a real extremist in the sense of if I'm going to achieve something, I'm going to go all in. So I want you to really share, how did that feel? Because I guess that was the first inverted commas failure for something that was really core to who you were and what you wanted to do as your offering to the world.

• 8:00Jay Shetty?

  Well, I want people to know also that now we're friends, but in the beginning of our relationship, you were my mentor. Because you'd been practicing spirituality for far longer than me. And so when I first came in, you were someone that I turned to for advice. And of course, I still do that today as a friend, but at that time, it was very much so. You were sharing with me experience, insight, and so it was natural for me to come to you at that time. And I've always described it like a divorce. Because I think that's the only analogy that makes sense for someone who doesn't know what it feels like to become a monk and leave. It feels like I got married for three years to the love of my life. And then I figured out that it wasn't going to last and that it wasn't going to work.

• 8:42Jay Shetty?

  So the heartbreak you'd feel from a breakup or a divorce is the heartbreak I felt from leaving the monastery. Because, let me paint a picture for everyone. I really didn't know what I was going to do. I think a lot of people feel like I had a plan or I had a strategy or I knew what I was going to do. I had no clue. And if I'm completely honest, I was really scared about going back to the workplace. Because I was worried, I was thinking, wait a minute, do I have to go back into consulting or finance or business? Because that's what I would have done. Will I be able to make it in that space? How will I be able to survive? I've been doing what I love for three years, which is study wisdom, teach it, share, do a lot of philanthropy work. That's what I've been doing.

• 9:27Jay Shetty?

  How am I gonna do that in the workplace? So I had no clarity. I was moving back in with my parents, which felt like a failure. I remember the community having judgment over my decision.

• 9:38Speaker 03

  Hundred percent.

• 9:39Jay Shetty?

  Right, there was, it wasn't like I came back to a fanfare of.

• 9:42Speaker 03

  No, there wasn't.

• 9:43Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 9:44Speaker 03

  In, in, in, in a bizarre way, there were certainly some people that were like, oh, really? You think you can do this? And so when you didn't end up doing it because of the health challenges and other reasons that came up. It, yeah, I'm sure it would have been a real kick in the face. And I think, and we speak about this all the time in terms of plot twist. But the way the journey has then unfolded is, is really remarkable. But I certainly remember those early days where it was like, I just need to pay my bills. Like, what am I gonna do? Like, what is, what is my core skill set here? And I'm sure you've shared it in other places, but all the different jobs you were applying to, all the rejections you got.

• 10:22Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, forty.

• 10:23Speaker 03

  Yeah, we read it in books all the time, but this is real. This is real life. And for me, it's, it's been an inspiration seeing you on this journey. And one of the things I wanna talk about in this podcast, in the five minutes you gave me to prepare, was, was this idea of the beast mindset that you can clock into. And we speak about this all the time. Jay has this belief that everyone can unlock this part of their brain that really fulfills their potential. And I think that in those times of challenge, that's when, when you're backwards against the wall, you really found out who you were. And I, I guess you also found out who your friends were in that, that moment.

• 11:02Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I, I always look back to a piece of advice that Thomas Power, one of my other mentors in life, would often say to me, he'd say that when you're in moments of pain, that's when you will find your potential. And whenever he used to say that, I used to be like, yeah, yeah, all right.

• 11:16Speaker 03

  Cliche.

• 11:17Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I used to be like, okay, like, I know my potential. I'm pretty okay, I'll figure it out. And then when I was in those moments, so at that time, when we're talking about right now, I was rejected from forty companies. And I didn't even get an interview at those companies. And I'm someone who got a first class degree.

• 11:34Speaker 03

  Yep.

• 11:34Jay Shetty?

  And so not getting an interview at forty companies. And I'm saying this not for you to think, oh, Jay, you're amazing. I'm saying this because I actually feel a lot of you might be in this position right now. Where you're trying to make a transition in your career, you're trying to make a new job, you're trying to sell a new product, you're building a new business and all you're getting is rejection after rejection after rejection. And that experience, what it gave to me was two things. One was, all you need is one yes. All you need is one yes. All I needed was one company. Accenture to say, we're gonna give you a shot.

• 12:08Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 12:08Jay Shetty?

  And we're gonna put you on a graduate scheme at twenty five, twenty six years old, but we're gonna give you a shot. So that's one thing. And the second thing I learned is that it's all a game of odds.

• 12:19Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 12:19Jay Shetty?

  It's all about the law of odds. And what I mean by that is it is simply as basic as the more doors you knock on, the more open. So if you've not had any open doors, you just haven't knocked on enough. And so I think I learned those two really critical skills and then fast forward a few years later, which we'll get to when I was four months away from being broke. It was the same principles I had to go back to was all you need is one yes. And if no doors have opened, you just haven't knocked on enough.

• 12:49Speaker 03

  Well, one of the interesting things about that is in order to knock on doors, you need humility. Because the likelihood is you're gonna knock on the door and it's not gonna open. It's gonna take that much. And in the monastery, obviously, we focus very much on the principle of humility. And again, it sounds great in the books, but can you actually live it? Like if this is really my service in life. And and I'm obviously thinking about it now, like I transitioned from law to what I'm doing now, which is um as as a leadership coach and an entrepreneur. And trying to sell, that's not natural to me. It's really uncomfortable, actually. And and the reason it's uncomfortable is because I have to go to people and say. Would you like my service? I'm very happy to provide the service.

• 13:31Speaker 03

  But yeah, I think it requires real humility and continuing to do it not from a place of desperation, but really from a place of service. And I think, I think you nailed that. And that's why, as we say, the universe reciprocated.

• 13:43Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, that's it. It's a really fine point you brought out and it's challenging because I think we operate from two places as humans. One is passive.

• 13:51Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 13:52Jay Shetty?

  And so we're like, oh, it will happen when it happens. If the universe provides, it will work out just the way it's meant to. And we say these phrases, but beneath them, there's a insecurity and an uncertainty. And the opposite way we function as humans is we're pressured. So we think, oh my gosh, that person's already sold their company and they're only thirty five. And oh my gosh, that person just made a hundred thousand dollars doing that. And oh my God, that, so there's pressure. So we either function from being passive, it will happen when it's happened, or pressure. Oh my God, it's not happening for me. And what I found is that pressure doesn't attract success and joy. And being passive doesn't attract success and joy. And the only place that does is peace.

• 14:38Jay Shetty?

  And peace is me saying, I'm going to do everything I can and then leave the result up to what the universe is, what God wants, whatever the energy is around me, but I'm going to do everything I possibly can. And it goes back to your point. And, and by the way, I've seen you do this and I think it's important to talk about it through stories that people may not be familiar with.

• 14:59Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 14:59Jay Shetty?

  You were a really successful lawyer. You were doing great.

• 15:02Speaker 03

  I was.

• 15:03Jay Shetty?

  And you decided that it wasn't fulfilling you. And I actually want to ask you about that because I think there may be a lot of people listening right now who are doing something where they studied for it, they were educated for it, they worked hard for it. Their parents maybe even were really impressed that they did it. And now they're at an age where they're going. I think I want to change my career.

• 15:24Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 15:25Jay Shetty?

  Like, I don't think this satisfies me anymore. And it's harder when you've done something like law, which took years of training, years of building up. How did you get comfortable with giving up your feeling around sunk cost bias? For anyone who doesn't know, sunk cost bias is an economic term, which means I've already invested so much time, money or energy down this path. And usually what it does is it keeps you on that path because you think I've invested too much to let it go. That's why people don't change careers. It's why people don't break up from relationships. It's why people don't do any of those things. For you, what finally gave you confidence to say, you know what, even though I'm really good at law, even though I make a really good living, even though I have a family and two kids, I'm still gonna take a risk because in my eyes, me going off to become a monk was a risk.

• 16:10Jay Shetty?

  But you pivoting your career at that age was also a risk. What got you there?

• 16:15Speaker 03

  It was a huge risk and it was in terms of the investment, the sunk cost was a three-year law degree, a one-year LPC, a two-year training contract, and then 10 years post-qualified in law. So that's a lot of years of studying to try and become a specialist in something. And at that point, I think two things happened. You get the golden handcuffs, i.e. the salary goes up. And whilst the salary is going up, your standard of living has also gone up. So you've then got the mortgage. As you know, at that point, I was already married with two kids as well. So it was a, it was a huge risk. But I think it came, I mean, I certainly got some courage from you. And I'm really grateful for those walks around central London when you were in that period of transition and you were encouraging me. And I remember you specifically saying, hey, Nanda, I, you know,

• 17:00Speaker 03

  when you're at your best is when you're talking to people and when you're coaching people and when you're public speaking. So why don't you do that? And I'm like, bro, that's not a career.

• 17:11Speaker 03

  That's not a career unless I'm speaking in court. That's not a career. So you really helped me think outside of the box and you touched on the cultural nuances. And you joke about it all the time, right? Like as an Indian, it's, it's a doctor, a lawyer. What's the third one?

• 17:26Jay Shetty?

  Failure.

• 17:26Speaker 03

  Or a failure, right? Exactly.

• 17:28Jay Shetty?

  So you were already winning.

• 17:29Speaker 03

  I was already winning in life. I was, my mum was happy, my dad was, my grandparents were happy. Like I was the chosen one when I'd go to family events. And all of a sudden. What I found was they were resisting the change, not because they didn't love me, but simply because they'd also come to the country and so security was their primary driver. So out of love, they were like, why would you wanna do this? You're now so close to where you ultimately want to be. But of course, I think that's where spirituality really comes in because it makes us think about, well, where do we really want to be and what really makes us thrive? So in my case, I found a huge amount of courage from the fact that the bits that I enjoyed in law, well, like when I would talk to clients

• 18:11Speaker 03

  or when I would do conferences within the legal industry or business development, people, people, people. So I was like, okay, I like it. Fortunately enough, I managed to go down to a four day week. On my non-working day, I worked and I got myself qualified as an ICF accredited coach. I started working and I got the feedback, the validation to say, this is a runner. This can work. And so, yeah, the rest is history, but it wasn't easy by any means. But I often say you need cheerleaders around you at that time because self doubt is gonna be all over you. And so I'm so grateful to you because I really feel like you were a pivotal person, just as I was a pivotal person for you when you were younger.

• 18:53Speaker 03

  At that particular time, you reciprocated tenfold because you were there for me and made me believe it's possible.

• 18:59Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, no, because I saw it and I think this is, you're so right. This is why our friends are so important in being honest with us, in noticing our strengths, being honest about our weaknesses, noticing our values. And I always say to people, if any of you are struggling with what you should do for work, sometimes just go around to your friends and meet them one on one and say, hey, have a really honest discussion with me. What do you think is my number one skill? What do you think I'm actually good at? And your friend might be like, you plan the best parties. Like, that's what you're good at. Or you know what, whenever it's, whenever there's a big event coming up, you're really good at event planning. And all of a sudden, I've done this with my sister and I've seen that. My sister's always organized lots of retreats. She's organized lots of events.

• 19:38Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 19:38Jay Shetty?

  She's really talented at that. It isn't her career. And I'm constantly nudging her in that direction and saying, hey, have you thought about wedding planning? Have you thought about birthday planning? Have you thought about event planning? And so, but what I loved about watching you make that transition was that I think a lot of people think, oh, when I get a million followers, then I'll make a transition. Or when I make X amount of money, then I'll make a transition. And you were actually making it while you were there.

• 20:04Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 20:04Jay Shetty?

  And the sign of success was good feedback. And so I think not postponing that transition, that pivot, that switch. And I love what you said, because I think this is true for everyone. You have to have one foot in either boat.

• 20:18Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 20:18Jay Shetty?

  At the beginning. So you were gone down to a four day week. One day became coaching, studying, weekends became that, going, doing the exams, the course. And when you've got one foot in each boat, once you're confident enough.

• 20:30Speaker 03

  You then take the other leap.

• 20:31Jay Shetty?

  You take the other leap.

• 20:32Speaker 03

  Exactly.

• 20:32Jay Shetty?

  Rather than what, what I think a lot of us do is we've got two feet in one boat. The other boat's so far away.

• 20:38Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 20:38Jay Shetty?

  And you go, oh no, it's all about the jump. It's all about the leap and you kind of amp yourself up. Then you jump and then you fall into the water and now you're drowning. Because you're like, wait a minute, I don't even know where the other boat is. And so I don't want to glorify risk, because I think a lot of people will be like, you have to take a risk. You've got to do something big. You've got to take a leap. And I'm like, well, you, you've got to be a little bit measured and a little bit practiced as well.

• 21:00Speaker 03

  Well, I mean, if you've got a mortgage to pay, absolutely. But I think this, this point around understanding the difference between your self-awareness and external feedback and getting that balance right. Because, yeah, we can amp things up in our own head and we can think we're the greatest speaker and, and the greatest coach or the greatest podcast host. But actually, the, the validation, of course, comes from the outside world. And, you know, if you're doing a good job, you're going to find out very quickly. I think you're going to find out quickly, but you're also going to feel really good. For me, like, even if I was doing a good job in law, I didn't feel good. So that, for me, that internal compass was always very clear. This wasn't what I was meant to be doing. And we speak about this all the time in terms of finding purpose.

• 21:42Speaker 03

  And it's a big pressure, like people come up all the time saying, how do I find my purpose? But it very much is a journey and it's not going to be something that you, um, sit down one day, meditate and have that aha moment. Like, you've got to go and do things.

• 21:56Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 21:57Speaker 03

  And you've got to be aware of like, what have I been doing? So you'd always say to me, actually, Nand, as long as I've known you, you've always been doing public speaking, right? Like, whether through.

• 22:06Jay Shetty?

  When I met you, that's what you're doing.

• 22:07Speaker 03

  Exactly. So that was, that was my go-to. So it was an easy thing for me to do. So it's, it's actually knowing that and then having someone to validate that and support you along the way.

• 22:18Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I read something recently, which I think is called the Pygmalion Effect. I don't know if you've come across it, but it's this idea that we're better at doing things when we think people believe in us.

• 22:29Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 22:29Jay Shetty?

  And so it's when they told teachers that these kids are performing well. And so teachers started to treat them better.

• 22:36Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 22:37Jay Shetty?

  And then the kids performed better, even though they weren't any different. And that's a quick version of it, you can check it out. But what was really interesting about it was we can also do that to ourselves. And so it works when we set higher standards for ourselves.

• 22:49Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 22:50Jay Shetty?

  We start treating ourselves in that way. And it goes back to your beast mode point of you rise to your standards. And I think a lot of us don't know what that means, because I think when we set high standards, we usually feel we fail.

• 23:04Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 23:04Jay Shetty?

  We usually feel, oh no, I'm gonna feel like I failed, so I might as well just set a lower standard.

• 23:09Speaker 03

  Exactly.

• 23:09Jay Shetty?

  And one thing I've noticed in high performers that I really appreciate is high standards matched with high grace.

• 23:16Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 23:16Jay Shetty?

  And so if you look at the best people in the world, like I love this commencement speech that Roger Federer just gave, I'm sure you saw it.

• 23:23Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 23:23Jay Shetty?

  And he talks about how in his career, he's lost a ridiculous amount of points. I can't remember the exact number, but he's lost a ridiculous amount of points, like almost forty percent of points or forty five percent of points. And you think, wait a minute, how could one of the greatest have lost forty five percent of points? And he says, because all I've got to do when I lose a point is focus on the next one. And he said, if I sit there and I'm constantly thinking about the last point and how I should have responded and how I should have hit it and how I should have placed it, now all of a sudden, my attention's gone on the next point and now I've lost the next point. And that just continues. So I love that idea that greatness came from having a high expectation of winning

• 24:05Jay Shetty?

  every point, but then having enough grace to say, actually, if I focus on the last point, I'm gonna lose the next point as well.

• 24:13Speaker 03

  Yeah, and I think it's interesting that, you know, you were moved by that commencement speech, because every single commencement speech follows that same pattern, if you've noticed.

• 24:20Jay Shetty?

  Yes.

• 24:21Speaker 03

  Right, it is, it is failure to success. And yet somehow we are surprised that all of these people have failed. And and it's the same for me. It's like if if if people think Jay's failed, I'm like, yeah, he's had he's had like crushing blows along the way, but he kept going. And it's interesting, like law, you know, there's a real perfectionist mindset. It comes from a strong academic background. And so that is what you're judged on. And so you're not meant to make mistakes. But as we all know, mistakes are how you make the journey.

• 24:50Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, that's how you learn. It's it's it's gonna happen along the way. And I think one thing that I remember, which was really important part of our friendship, and I wanted to talk about certain events, it was definitely that. So I'd started working at Accenture, and I was working at a client that was close by to your law firm. So every lunchtime, we'd go on like an hour walk around London, and we'd have these conversations nearly every day while I was at this client.

• 25:13Speaker 03

  By the way, just in case my former employers are listening, I wasn't I wasn't meant to have been gone for an hour, right? I think it was probably meant to be a client meeting.

• 25:20Jay Shetty?

  I think the same is true for me. But we'd go on this hour walk, and these are the conversations we'd have. And it shows you how important that friendship is, how how important that connection is.

• 25:30Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 25:30Jay Shetty?

  And I think we were both looking for an escape. We and but the thing is, we weren't just then making our time together entertainment. Our time together became these conversations.

• 25:40Speaker 03

  You had done your, you know, you were thinking about doing your coaching diploma, or you'd just done it at that particular point. And I just remember this idea of you need to invest in yourself in order to move forward. So at the time, you were really getting to psychometrics, right? It was DISC was the one that you would be rolling out constantly. And then it was MBTI. And more recently, as you know, I just got qualified in in a particular one. And what I loved about that was, it showed me that validation is very important to me. So even from a personality perspective, that is important to me.

• 26:09Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 26:09Speaker 03

  So how do I process that information? I should be aware that I'm going to be looking for that validation, but also know that potentially it could trip me up. Because if I don't get that validation, what do I do? Do I stop? So I think, you know, really investing in yourself is so critical. And we were taught it, obviously, from a from a spiritual perspective, from a young age, as we were coming through the monastery and so on. But even in normal business life, the moment you stop learning and growing, I think is the moment you start to feel like you're losing momentum in life and and lose that that joy.

• 26:47Jay Shetty?

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• 28:14Jay Shetty?

  Well, what's really interesting is that when you go to school, right, you start nursery at whatever, three, four years old, and then you're basically at school till 18. And if you go to university or college, then you're there till 21, or maybe a bit older if you do law or medicine or whatever it may be, or a postgrad. And what's really interesting is that from the moment you're three or four years old, every year up until 21 is pretty much mapped out. Yes. So you don't actually have to think. When you complete fourth grade. What comes next? You go to fifth grade, and then you go to sixth grade, and then you go to seventh, and then eighth, and then ninth, and tenth. And you never had to think. There's no ownership of your own development. There's no ownership. And what ends up happening is as soon as you get to twenty one and you, let's say you get a job, you get a grad job, you you start a job.

• 28:58Jay Shetty?

  Now, all of a sudden, your whole trajectory is up to you.

• 29:02Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 29:02Jay Shetty?

  Do you stay at this place? Do you network for a promotion? Do you take on extracurricular? Do you quit your job and get promoted somewhere else? Do you switch? Do you? All of a sudden, at twenty one years old, it's like, well, now we're not gonna tell you what to do for the next fifty years. And so I think everyone is at a disadvantage.

• 29:20Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 29:21Jay Shetty?

  Because you haven't had to use your brain for all of those years. All of a sudden, you have to use your brain and now you're scared. So you're asking everyone around you, what should I do? Is this the right path for me? Should I quit my job? Should I get married? Should I not? Should I, you know, right? And that confusion, I have a lot of empathy because of that, because we weren't made to make decisions early enough. Now, I'm not saying that a four year old should be deciding what they're studying at university. That's not the point. But there has to start becoming a little bit of ownership about direction and about choice. Because that's how you build confidence in yourself. So most of us have never made a major life decision until twenty five, thirty years old. No wonder we're crippled by the anxiety and the stress and the pressure that comes with that.

• 30:04Jay Shetty?

  Because you didn't have to think about anything that was that complicated for like eighteen years.

• 30:09Speaker 03

  It actually links really well to the discussion we were having last night around, um, so as I mentioned, I've got two kids. And, you know, the question is, how do you raise kids in this world?

• 30:19Jay Shetty?

  Oh, yeah.

• 30:20Speaker 03

  And we, it was a really fascinating discussion, this idea of pushing them to take responsibility. You know, not remaining under the shelter of your parents. Because although it's gonna be uncomfortable for them, that's the only way they're gonna learn. That's the way you're gonna get the life skills, to be an independent thinker, to be someone who's really gonna go out and be able to make those difficult decisions. Also, self-awareness, yes, you can get through a psychometric, but the real self-awareness is gonna come through challenges.

• 30:49Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 30:49Speaker 03

  And and and putting yourself in situations like, am I gonna sink or swim? So I remember you saying this to me when I was talking about my own son. It was like, no, there's gotta be a a certain degree of challenge. He needs to know that if he falls, you're there to catch him, but you're not there like holding him.

• 31:06Jay Shetty?

  Yes.

• 31:06Speaker 03

  Because otherwise, he's not gonna learn to stand.

• 31:08Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, it's it's knowing that, I think all of us need to know that we're loved whether we win or we lose.

• 31:15Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 31:15Jay Shetty?

  That's what all of us want. All of us want to know that I am loved. Or all of us want to know that you are loved, whether you win or you lose. And so your child, yourself, your partner, what they want from you is that you love them no matter what. But they need to be able to win or to lose of their own choices, of their own accord. And I remember one meeting that we had, I remember when you actually flew out with me to New York when I first moved there. And you slept on my couch.

• 31:47Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 31:47Jay Shetty?

  And I remember, well, maybe I'll explain, maybe you can tell them what you had for breakfast because.

• 31:53Speaker 03

  I think it was a banana from Whole Foods. So Jay's cooking skills are awful. My cooking skills are one, one tier below that. So we were just having a conversation about.

• 32:02Jay Shetty?

  I think we're on the same level.

• 32:03Speaker 03

  Okay, yeah. I mean, I could pick out the banana. But no, I was coming out to New York and I was expecting like, you know, the Huffington Post thing had just happened.

• 32:11Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 32:12Speaker 03

  Uh, it was actually, it was a beautiful apartment. Like it was, you know, it was a one bed. Uh, it was, it was, it was nice.

• 32:17Jay Shetty?

  Like five hundred square feet.

• 32:18Speaker 03

  Yeah, it was cozy. I think, I think is the right way to define it. But yeah, I, I, I was there, I was there, um, sleeping on your, your couch and uh, it's beautiful to think where you've come from that particular point. But go on, you were gonna say there was something particularly about that, that meeting.

• 32:35Jay Shetty?

  No, I was just gonna say that it was, one thing that you realize as you live life is that life becomes the stories.

• 32:42Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 32:42Jay Shetty?

  And I remember a few years before that, I was at a friend's wedding in Ibiza.

• 32:48Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 32:49Jay Shetty?

  And I was sitting, having dinner on the beach at my friend's wedding. And I was sitting with this man who is around seventy years old. And he was sitting there almost like in a movie scene of, he was in one of those beach rocking chairs. There was a little fire pit that we were around. It was me, my wife, some of our, Janavie.

• 33:08Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 33:08Jay Shetty?

  And someone else from the wedding. And we were sitting with this man and he just had these crazy life stories. And I remember sitting there and just thinking. I really hope that when I'm his age, that I'll have stories to tell. And not stories to tell to the world even, just stories to tell to my friends. And I think what happens in our busy, distracted life, the events in our life become events where everyone's there. Whereas we have a lot, we talk about this a lot, that as I have got older, group events are great. Yes. But it's the one-on-one investments over the years that give you stories and memories. For sure. Who remembers the big birthday party that a hundred people were at? Or fifty, I don't ever think about those things, I don't talk about those things. But I can remember when you were sleeping on the couch

• 33:50Jay Shetty?

  and we were waking up and we were walking to the, you know, the grocery store, picking up groceries, coming back like, I can remember that, or I can remember the walks we used to go on. Yeah. And I think it's so important that as we get older, I think sometimes we think, I want that big birthday party again, I want that feeling of being a kid again. And it's almost like those one-to-one relationships are so powerful. And I think one of the things I really value about our friendship is I think it's become harder for men to find these relationships. Yeah. In our community and outside, it doesn't matter whether you're in a spiritual community or not, it's just harder for men to find connection. And I think for us, one thing that really helped was you were always really vulnerable and honest and open about your life when we first got to know each other. And as you were my mentor, it was very new for me

• 34:36Jay Shetty?

  because mentors and teachers are generally people who you think have it all together. And you're learning because they have it all together. And not only do I disagree with that, you helped like burst that bubble very early on because you'd be really open about your challenges or whatever you were going through. And I try and do that with my community today, I'm really open and honest about, I always talk about how like me and my wife don't have a perfect marriage, there's loads of stuff and we'll talk about it. Or, you know, I haven't had a career where everything's been easy. But I find that as men, it's harder. How have you found that over time? And like, how have you navigated that? And what are your thoughts on male friendship and, and how you strengthen that bond? Because I think a lot of men are feeling lonely right now in the world.

• 35:19Jay Shetty?

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• 37:35Speaker 03

  Yeah, so you know, the definition of kind of the modern man is like a hotly contested debate. And just this idea of vulnerability, for me, I think I was naturally wired like that, like I like honesty and transparency. And you know, if you're sincerely asking, I don't see why I wouldn't be open. Actually, I think I've learnt the opposite. I think I was probably too open in this world. And so something that I've learnt over time is you can't place a hundred percent faith and trust in someone when you meet them for the first time. You know, it's a process that you have to build over time.

• 38:14Jay Shetty?

  That's a hard lesson as well.

• 38:15Speaker 03

  It is a hard lesson because, and it's a painful lesson. But we spoke about this in the past as well, like, you know, would you want it the other way? Would you want to be so closed and then gradually, gradually open up? I feel like, yes, there's a risk to the way that I am. People may judge me for being open about things. But actually, I think it's, it's the way forward because it's what feels natural for me. And obviously, as I've got older, it's about understanding the right people, the right time, the right place. And ultimately, am I being vulnerable to serve that person? Because one thing I've learnt with coaching is sometimes people are vulnerable really just to unload, right? And, and it shouldn't be about that. It should be very much about, I'm trying to serve that person.

• 38:59Speaker 03

  If I can be relatable and show them I'm not on a pedestal, I've gone through similar challenges, but this isn't about me, it's about you. I think that can be really helpful and you don't need to be a coach for that. I'm talking about basic, because you talked about. Friendships, I think that's where friendship comes from.

• 39:14Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, and I think that's also how you don't become harsh in a world that may feel harsh. Like, I would rather turn up fully as I am consciously. And then however someone responds to that, now I'm clear on where we're at.

• 39:27Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 39:28Jay Shetty?

  Whereas if I come all cagey and holding back, now I don't know whether that person's mirroring my energy or they might be hiding something. And so if I come out and I'm just fully myself and I'm loving and I'm trusting and I'm open, then I get a quicker sense of where someone's at and whether our energy matches. Not whether they're a good or bad person, just on whether our frequency matches. Whereas if I lower my frequency, thinking I'm protecting myself, now actually I'm working against myself because I can't quickly figure out. And I think that's what I look at is what's the pace of figuring it out? Like, when you can speed that up because you're fully yourself, now you have a great sense of, okay, I trust this person. I can see where my barriers are with this individual.

• 40:12Jay Shetty?

  And I think setting boundaries has become such a healthy thing.

• 40:15Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 40:15Jay Shetty?

  For for adult friendships as well. I think we talk about this a lot. When you grow up in a big community, everyone thinks they know you and everyone claims to know you and everyone claims to be your friend. And it's really hard. And, you know, sometimes people can turn, oh, I went to college with that person. Or I went to school with that person to, oh, no, no, I knew that person really intimately. And so I think it's really important that we set healthy boundaries. I think what's helped me with my male friendships, and I have a lot of young male friends who, guys that I mentored, like you were mentoring me at the time. And I think for me, it's always been these one on ones. I think it's really easy as a bunch of guys to hang out, watch a game, whatever it may be. But when you can have these one on ones where there's space for both of you to truly put the guard down, and it's almost like taking your armor off.

• 40:59Jay Shetty?

  Like, I think as men, you've got to recognize that there is a desire to be strong and be this warrior. But at the end of the day, you've got to take your helmet off, you've got to put the shield down, you've got to put the sword down, you've got to take the armour off. And that's when you can see each other's wounds.

• 41:12Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 41:13Jay Shetty?

  And be open about it and talk about it. And I think I consider myself to be a warrior mindset, as you were talking about earlier. But a big part of that warrior mindset is also having that safe space, where you don't have to have the shield and the guard up all day long, and you can finally put it down.

• 41:28Speaker 03

  Has that, has that changed for you over time?

• 41:30Jay Shetty?

  I think I dealt with that in the beginning of my career, where I had to be so intense about growing and building. And it's not about being mean, it's about having a winner's mindset. I think there's a difference between having a winner's mindset and being mean and harsh. And I, I was developing that winner's mindset. And I realised that it took me a long while to realise how to be with my wife and still have a winner's mindset, but recognise it shouldn't be projected onto her.

• 41:57Speaker 03

  How do, how do you reconcile that winner's mindset and that drive and that ambition with the spiritual principles that you live by? Because people externally would feel like that's a real contradiction. So how, how do you do that?

• 42:09Jay Shetty?

  I think there's a difference between being ambitious and aggressive.

• 42:13Speaker 03

  Okay.

• 42:14Jay Shetty?

  I think you can be ambitious without being aggressive. I think aggression is something that spills over onto other people. It's how you treat other people, it's how you greet other people, it's how people feel when they're around you. They feel scared, there's fear, aggression is ambition in its lowest form.

• 42:30Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 42:31Jay Shetty?

  And then ambition is something about you. It's now your expectation of yourself, it's your desire for yourself, it's what you expect and want of yourself. Aggression is when you want everyone else to now mirror that. And I actually remember Gorongadass, who's my monk teacher, and of course you know him very well as well. He actually taught me this very early on, because for anyone who knows him, as, as you do. He has an impeccable schedule.

• 42:56Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 42:56Jay Shetty?

  So he wakes up at two AM every day, meditates for two hours before everyone wakes up to meditate. And then we'll meditate, then go and cook for all the monks, then come back. So my point is, he's, he's a superhero.

• 43:08Speaker 03

  Superhuman.

• 43:09Jay Shetty?

  As a monk, yeah, superhuman.

• 43:10Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 43:11Jay Shetty?

  And anyone who tries to imitate him fails. I've been there, hands, hands up, I've been there. But the more important thing is, he told me that really early on, that he had to realize that his expectations had to be of himself and that a good leader doesn't create high expectations for others, but operates at the highest values and expectations for themselves. And everyone rises to that because they see the example. So anyway, going back to what we were talking about with the spiritual point. For me, ambition and spirituality should never have been put as opposites.

• 43:46Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 43:47Jay Shetty?

  And somewhere in our narrative, and this is probably one of my favorite things, the famous quote that goes around is money is the root of all evil. And everyone knows it, you hear it everywhere. But the actual text says, the love of money is the root of all evil.

• 44:03Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 44:03Jay Shetty?

  That's a really massive piece of context

• 44:06Speaker 03

  Huge.

• 44:06Jay Shetty?

  that is missed in one of the most famous quotes of money of all time.

• 44:10Speaker 03

  But also that money is, is God's energy.

• 44:12Jay Shetty?

  Correct.

• 44:13Speaker 03

  And, and therefore, and therefore can be used in, in service, just like everything else.

• 44:17Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 44:17Speaker 03

  But I wanted to talk about, um, how do you continue to live in that spirit of gratitude? Like, all of the achievements I've witnessed, um, really since, well, when did it all kick off? Twenty sixteen, I guess.

• 44:30Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 44:31Speaker 03

  So like the last nine years, every single time there'd be something huge happen, like a huge guest comes on to the podcast. I would always say to you, bro, like, this is nuts. Like, this is nuts. Remember, we're in New York. Like, this is nuts. And you would always come back and say, yeah, bro, this is just the beginning. Like, that is your line. This is just the beginning. So I really want to tap it, because I don't know when I'm ever going to get this opportunity again. But to tap into that mindset of this is just the beginning, what does that mean for you? And where do you get that consistent drive and determination? Because on one level, you've made it. Right, you have a great family, you've got great friends, including me.

• 45:16Speaker 03

  You've got everything that you need. But you are, you know, you continue to reinvent yourself. So what is your driver? Where does that come from?

• 45:25Jay Shetty?

  I really believe that if you get too familiar with greatness, beauty, or success, that makes you feel unsuccessful. And what I mean by that, and this idea of just the beginning, is I look at my life today as if I would if I was looking at it from twenty years ago. So when we were sitting up there in the iHeart booth just upstairs right now, and there's a picture of my podcast art next to like Malcolm Gladwell, who I love and I grew up reading and he's been a guest on the show. And then there's Breakfast Club with Charlamagne, who I love. And there's just all these amazing people. I have to look at that from eighteen year old Jay.

• 46:09Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 46:09Jay Shetty?

  And twenty five year old Jay, because when I look at it as that, my mind is blown and I'm like, no way, like, I can't believe this is my life. And when I sat down on the stage, I was like, I took a moment, just personally, it wasn't in front of, it was internally on just like how grateful I was to be able to have this opportunity. And my point is, I have to look at it from the kid who watched Fresh Prince. I have to look at it from the kid who used this person's product. I have to look at it from the kid who watched a tennis match and now gets to interview Novak Djokovic. I've got to watch it as the kid who watched a movie and now gets to sit down with Michael B. Jordan. Like, I have to watch it from that perspective. But if I only look at it from this perspective of, oh, here I am, this is my life now, this is normality. All of a sudden, it will start to feel really insignificant.

• 46:52Jay Shetty?

  And I think that's what happens a lot, where whether you get to wake up and look at a beautiful view every morning, looking at your partner that once you believed when you first met them was the most beautiful person on the planet. If you don't look at that, that, that way again, no wonder you get distracted and whatever else is. So for me, it's always looking at it from it's just the beginning in the sense of, let me fast forward, let me rewind. And then the other, it's just the beginning is going, I've got to have the beginner's mindset.

• 47:20Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 47:21Jay Shetty?

  Even in this moment, because otherwise this is all gonna go away. I've got to treat it.

• 47:26Speaker 03

  I've got to have the same hunger.

• 47:27Jay Shetty?

  I've got to have the same hunger as I had on day one.

• 47:29Speaker 03

  Yeah, it was. Yeah, I mean, you're absolutely right. And I've seen, I've seen that if you get too comfortable in, in any given situation, very quickly that dies and you, you just have to keep doing, you have to keep doing different things. What I wanted to ask about that was, how do you go and apply that? So I think for you, people listening may think, well, Jay, that's all right for you because, you know, every, every month you seem to have another epic moment. And yeah, sure, you can reflect back on eighteen year old Jay. So practically, what does that look like for someone is, and you gave, you gave an insight into that. Maybe it's your, your partner or your kid's eyes, or, you know, the view of just, you know, walking past the, the tree that you see every single day with gratitude. But essentially is what we're saying, it is having real gratitude for what you have.

• 48:14Speaker 03

  Um, and, and zoning into that in a real way.

• 48:17Jay Shetty?

  I think it's romanticizing your life. Like you have to be really present in it to see how beautiful every moment is. And not every moment is beautiful. But I think when things were tough, I'd say something else. I wouldn't, I wouldn't be saying this. Like, I don't think when things are tough, I'm like, I'll be grateful for what you have. I think that can be bad advice and can kind of be off putting as well. When things were bad, I'd be like, I can't wait to tell this story one day. So when I was going through the failures and things were going wrong, I'd say, I can't wait to tell this story one day when I get to the other side.

• 48:44Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 48:45Jay Shetty?

  And that gives you momentum to get to the other side because you can't wait to tell that story. And so I think it's a mix of mindsets and tools that you bring out in different moments. So when things are going well, slow down and smell the roses. There's a reason why, smell the flowers. There's a reason why that phrase is famous. Because when things are going well, you can just move through them like it doesn't matter. But when things are going badly, if you say to yourself, I can't wait to tell this story on the other side, all of a sudden you get momentum from the other side. Rather than being like, oh God, this is the worst thing I've ever gone through.

• 49:15Speaker 03

  But do you feel that you do celebrate your successes? So we talk about football a lot, and we talk about sport generally quite a lot. And we talk about, you know, world champions who have won Premier League after Premier League, and they say they lifted the cup. And then immediately it was like, I enjoyed it for like ten seconds, and then it was on to the next thing. So what does it mean to celebrate success? How do you celebrate success?

• 49:39Jay Shetty?

  I used to have an amazing football coach that would say, if you win, celebrate for a night and then get back to training.

• 49:45Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 49:46Jay Shetty?

  And if you lose, cry for a night and then get back to training.

• 49:49Speaker 03

  It's a great, it's a great.

• 49:49Jay Shetty?

  And I love that advice because it. Put the emphasis on get back to training.

• 49:54Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 49:54Jay Shetty?

  And so I've had some amazing successes in my life and I don't feel they've been fleeting. But they've just been a marker that you're on the path. And the greatest success, the greatest joy or celebrating success comes on the pursuit.

• 50:07Speaker 03

  It's the journey.

• 50:07Jay Shetty?

  It is that journey, like that old, you know, it's.

• 50:10Speaker 03

  Journey, not the, the end, yeah.

• 50:11Jay Shetty?

  Yeah. And it's like, that is the part that you have to celebrate. And that's what I mean, celebrating the moment and going, this makes my story better. Celebrating the moment and saying, I'm gonna stop and appreciate this moment of sitting on stage. Let me stop and appreciate the fact that this is happening for me. And by the way, sure, it's easier now, but all of those things were happening. You know, it wasn't like the first day I did it, it was this either. Going back to the right, the beginning, when I uploaded my first video and it got, you know, 500 views. In my first month on YouTube, I had a thousand subscribers. I was so happy about that.

• 50:43Speaker 03

  I remember.

• 50:44Jay Shetty?

  I never looked at the thousand subscribers and went, why is it not a million? And so it was there then. And I remember our friends were like, well done, mate. This is probably it. Yeah. No, no, no. It was, this is probably it.

• 50:54Speaker 03

  No, I didn't know. That's what I mean. You've done it as in that you've hit the cap.

• 50:57Jay Shetty?

  Yeah. So, um, but yeah, anyway, we could do this for hours. Uh, I've got to run to main stage now. Uh, Nanda, I am so grateful to you for joining me on a last minute request.

• 51:08Speaker 03

  Thank you, bro.

• 51:09Jay Shetty?

  Uh, it's been a really fun conversation. We'll have to do this again.

• 51:11Speaker 03

  Amazing.

• 51:12Jay Shetty?

  And, uh, I'm so glad you shared your journey because I think there's so much for everyone to learn. With whether our journeys are public or private, whether, whether they're, you know, in the public eye or not. We all have to make these decisions. And I think you shared so many great valuable insights today. So thank you so much.

• 51:30Speaker 03

  Main stage weights, man.

• 51:31Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, let's do it. Let's do it. If you love this episode, you'll love my conversation with Dr. Joe Dispenza. On why stress and overthinking negatively impacts your brain and heart. And how to change your habits that are on autopilot. Listen to it right now.

• 51:47Speaker 04

  How many times do we have to forget until we stop forgetting and start remembering? That's the moment of change. Who cares how many times you fell off the bicycle? If you ride the bicycle now, you ride the bike.

• 51:59Speaker 05

  Now, more than ever, we need someone on our side. But Rob Whitman? Whitman's votes drove up costs, cut Medicaid, and risked 350,000 Virginians' health care to pay for tax breaks for himself and his donors. He's not on our side. Shannon Taylor will fight corruption, cut taxes, and bring down costs. This November, vote for Shannon Taylor. She's for us. Paid for by HMP, the HouseMajorityPac.com. Not authorized by any candidate or candidate's committee.

• 52:28Speaker 06

  Mr. President, my company foreme of the explosion on our rig

• 52:31Speaker 07

  on October 2nd.

• 52:32Speaker 06

  Causing massive water displacement and triggering a tsunami. They all heap the blame on me.

• 52:37Speaker 07

  Tom Cruise is. Digger got us into this mess, and Digger's gonna dig us up. From the director of Birdman and The Revenant.

• 52:45Speaker 02

  What would happen if I stopped going? You stall, you freeze to death, that's what.

• 52:49Speaker 07

  With great power comes great deniability.

• 52:52Speaker 02

  I'm not the first then.

• 52:53Speaker 07

  Digger. See the trailer online. Only in theaters October 2nd. Rated R. Under 17. Not a middle without parent.