Pod Insights On Purpose with Jay Shetty 10 Ways To Spot Ego & How To Replace it With Self Esteem Thoughts About this episode There are so many voices in our head and sometimes it’s hard to tell if you’re displaying ego or self-esteem. You have to notice and switch your dialogue to strengthen the voice you want. You have to switch for something higher.
The Ego stops you from observing deeper and blocks curiosity. Self-Esteem allows you to approach something with fresh ears and eyes. Today I’ll share the signals that help me choose higher thoughts.
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2:55 Jay Shetty? And every time I would act from a place of compassion and empathy, I would put down a score, like a tally, for the good wolf. And so it was one, one, two, two, three, two, however it was, you know, the scores were building. And then often I started to see that my ego was tricking me into believing I was doing the right thing.
3:18 Jay Shetty? Hey, everyone. Welcome back to On Purpose. I am so excited to talk to you every single week where we dive into a new sphere of self, work, and love. These are the three areas that I really believe make up the biggest impact in our lives, right? Self, do we understand ourselves? Do we know ourselves? Do we know how to develop ourselves? Self mastery, self habits. Two, work. Where do we work? What do we do for work? Passion, purpose, making sure that our work is meaningful and fulfilling and impactful. And then love, relationships, family, parenting.
4:00 Jay Shetty? I really believe that the three most important decisions we make in our lives revolve around these three areas. So every week, we're tackling new ideas, new insights, and new reflections in self, work, and love. And a lot of what I do, and a lot of this is driven by you, every single week, I'm looking Looking out for your comments, your questions, things that you're talking about on social media that can drive these themes because these are really by you and selected by you. And they're also what I'm struggling with, what I'm working through, what I'm trying to figure out as well. So I'm trying to share the the honest journey of a seeker, the honest journey of someone who's making mistakes, trying to learn, trying to grow every single time, that doesn't have all the answers.
4:45 Jay Shetty? And actually, these sessions are amazing for me because I get to do the research, I get to do the learning so that I can share it with all of you, so that I'm learning, I'm researching, I'm reading, I'm trying to understand things more deeply. And I get fascinated by that. So again, thank you so much for giving me this opportunity. Thank you so much for being here. I hope you're enjoying the sessions. I love knowing which points are your favorite and which episodes are your favorite. Keep sharing on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. I do notice them, they do make a difference. Thank you so much. Keep that going. Now today's theme is is something that I think we all go through at different times, right? We all go through this at different times and it fascinates me.
5:28 Jay Shetty? And it's something that I really, really wanted to talk about with you all. So thank you so much for listening right now. So let me ask you this question. Do you ever struggle with knowing whether you're experiencing ego or self-esteem? How many times do you get lost in that battle where you're like, I want to maintain positive self-esteem, but I don't want it to tip into arrogance? Or how many times when you're around someone, are you sensing, oh wait, that just smells like ego? Or actually, I'm very clear that that's self-esteem. And often it's like a very thin line between these two. And it's so hard to tell whether we're experiencing self-esteem or ego
6:11 Jay Shetty? and whether someone is demonstrating self-esteem or ego. And a reason why it can be difficult and why the line gets more blurred and more blurred and more blurred is the ego plays tricks. The ego has its tricks. The ego has a mind of its own. It plays its tricks. It finds a way to make us start believing. In things that are not true, that makes us get lost and confused. So sometimes it's hard to understand how to maintain our self-esteem and not get lost in our ego. And at other times, in the process of trying to control our ego, we actually end up dampening our self-esteem. And in this podcast, I want to give you the signals to know which one you're experiencing,
6:55 Jay Shetty? because sometimes it's hard to know. And the more aware we are of the voices in our head, the more we can build a relationship with them. Right, this is the key. How many times are there loads of voices in your head and you're trying to think, wait, which one's my intuition? Wait, which one's my ego? Wait, which one's my self-esteem? How many of you get confused by the different voices in your head, by the voices in your mind? Raise your hands up right now, raise them high. Nod along, even if you're walking down the street or you're on the treadmill, wherever you are, just nod with that. Because I think so many of us go through that experience. And we all know this famous story, but I love telling it because I think it's such a great one.
7:33 Jay Shetty? And it's about a grandfather telling his grandson this story about two wolves. Right, if you've heard this before, you know what I'm speaking about. If you haven't heard this before, then it's a really powerful story to explain how these voices work. And it's a popular Native American parable of the fight between two wolves. So in this story, the grandfather is explaining to the grandson that inside all of us, there are two wolves. One wolf is full of ego, is full of envy, is full of greed and is full of anger. And the other wolf, by contrast, stark contrast,
8:17 Jay Shetty? is full of joy, is full of peace, is full of love and is full of kindness. Now, as these two wolves are fighting, for a lot of us, the voice of ego, of envy, of greed, of anger, of power, of control is so loud and is so strong and is so overpowering. How many of you have ever experienced that? Where you don't even want to be angry, you don't even want to take the wrong action, but you're just almost compelled and pushed to act in that way? You almost feel like you can't resist it. How many times have you ever felt that?
8:59 Jay Shetty? And how many of you feel that that voice of joy, of peace, of discipline, of love, of kindness, of empathy, it's there, it's there, it's right there, but it's quieter. It's hidden in the background, it's less powerful. How many of you feel that way? So as the grandfather is explaining this to the grandson, the grandson asks this question. The grandson says, "Well, if they're fighting, if they're going through this battle, if they're going through this war, which one ends up winning?" Great question. That if there's this fight between this wolf that's full of ego, envy, greed, and anger,
9:41 Jay Shetty? and the other one's full of joy, peace, love, and kindness, who wins? How do you win? Like, how do you know who wins? And the grandfather gives us a very instructive answer, a very teachable answer. And the answer is, "The one we feed." The wolf that wins is the one we feed. Every time we continue to act in a particular way on the side of either wolf, we are feeding that wolf, we are strengthening that wolf, we're giving more power and nourishment to that wolf.
10:23 Jay Shetty? Every time you repeat a thought that is envious, greedy, angry, or full of ego, you're feeding that wolf. And every time you repeat a thought, a word, an action of love, kindness, peace, joy, compassion, empathy, you're feeding that wolf. And I remember at one point in my life, I used to actually keep a physical table, right? Like a scorecard table of like, who's winning today? And it was a beautiful way of being honest with myself.
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13:30 Jay Shetty? And so every time I used to have an interaction throughout the day, whether it was road rage, whether it was talking to my mom in a way I didn't like, or whether it was speaking to someone at work in a way I didn't like, or I felt an emotion that I expressed or shared, I would put that as a score for the bad wolf, right? The bad wolf got one point. And every time I would act from a place of compassion and empathy, I would put down a score, like a tally for the good wolf. And so it was 1-1, 2-2, 3-2, however it was, you know, the scores were building. And then often I started to see that my ego was tricking me into believing I was doing the right thing, just so that I could put a score down on that side. So you've got to look out for that. But I found that making it into a score table really helped me
14:13 Jay Shetty? because it motivated me to become aware. Every time I was about to act on the negative wolf, on the bad wolf, the scoreboard would come into my mind and I would think, wait, I don't want to lose. I don't want to feed that wolf. If I feed that wolf, it's just going to get harder to beat it tomorrow. And that's really what happens, right? That's really, really what happens, that we don't realise that we're just strengthening it for the next day, which makes it harder to break it down. So it's better to start today, right? It's better to start today. So this story is how I want to explain the rest of our podcast because just as we have those two wolves, we also have these
14:53 Jay Shetty? voices and wolves of ego and self-esteem. And often they can sound similar. And it's really hard, but it's so important because we don't want to water the weed of our ego and avoid the seed of our self-esteem. See, when we water the seed of our self-esteem, it grows into a beautiful flower. It grows into beautiful shade. It grows and the flower plants more seeds and the shade gives shade to others. But when we water the weed of our ego, That can actually tear down other plants. That can be contagious in a negative way to other plants. It can pull people down. And so we have to feed our self-esteem, the seed of our self-esteem.
15:36 Jay Shetty? And we have to make sure that we're not feeding our ego. Because sometimes we get it the wrong way around. So I want to start off with, what I'm going to do in this podcast is I'm going to share with you, what are the common things we hear from our ego? And then how does the same thing sound with our self-esteem? So one of them is about how we deal with other people, how we listen to other people, how we hear other people. Now, when I'm going through this podcast, or you're reading a book, or you're sitting in class, or you're sitting at work. One of the things our ego does expertly is the ego will say, I already know this. I know all of this. I've heard it before. How many times have you done that? When you're listening to one of my podcasts, hopefully not.
16:19 Jay Shetty? But when you're listening to a podcast, you're learning, whatever it may be, in a work situation, even with your boss, and you're just thinking, I already know this. Why are we doing this again? Oh, my God, I already know this. Now, if you're having that thought, there may even be truth in it. You may know parts of it, but we don't know everything. And I remember someone asked me a brilliant question once, and it really resonated. It actually taught me. It's funny, when people ask questions, they usually want an answer. But actually, this question became my answer to myself as it grew. And I really want to tell you about it. So there may even be some truth in it, but we don't know everything about everything.
17:03 Jay Shetty? And so, as I was saying in this example, someone once asked me the question. They said, Jay, you coach so many people, you work with so many people, you advise so many people. They said, how do you make sure that when someone's sharing their problem, and you've heard that problem again and again and again, how do you listen to it with fresh ears and fresh eyes? Because when you've heard someone complain about their relationships, and you've heard someone else complain about their relationships, and you've heard someone else complain about their relationships, and you've heard someone else complain about their relationships, it kind of sounds like the same issue. When you hear someone complain about work, and you hear another person complain about work, and you hear another person complain about work, it sounds like the same complaint.
17:44 Jay Shetty? But the truth is, everyone's experiencing it, maybe even with 1% difference. But when a coach, when a teacher, when a trainer can dial into that 1%, that 1% is what makes you able to really help someone. So when they asked me this question, I was actually like, you've just given me the answer. That every time I listen to a problem, I have to listen to it with fresh ears and fresh eyes. I have to stop my ego saying to me, Jay, you already know the answer to this. You've heard this a million times. You know the answer to this. Just give the answer you always give, right? Like, that's what the ego does. The ego blocks you and it stops you
18:24 Jay Shetty? from having to observe deeper and go into autopilot mode, give an easy answer, enjoy the respect and the reward and get over with. And I know everything does the same thing. It stops you from actually noticing the caveat, the subtlety that may actually be there in what someone is saying. And hopefully, right now, as I'm saying this, you're thinking about it and you're going, oh, wow, Jay. When I, when you started this, I kind of heard the wolf story, but now where you're taking it, I'm like, oh, that's interesting. Because that's what happens. And I do the same in classes. And I will sit there watching other people's content and classes and learning and taking notes and being like, wow, you've just shown me a different dimension of that. Like, you've shown me a different perspective from that. And that's why self-esteem is I can learn from anyone, right?
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20:32 Jay Shetty? There's a quote from Maya Angelou that says, "I've learned that I still have a lot to learn." Right? And I love that quote because it's almost like the more we learn, the more we realize there is to learn. And you realize depths of topics. And you realize some people just know so much more. And you realize that some people know it from a different angle. Like even if you're a PhD in something, like maybe someone can present it from a completely different angle that's fascinating and interesting. And that's what I get excited by, right? So ego says, "I know everything. I know this. I've heard it before." Self-esteem says, "I can learn from anyone." "I learned this part, but maybe there's more for me." And it has that curiosity. Ego drowns curiosity.
21:17 Jay Shetty? Self-esteem grows curiosity, right? Self-esteem wants to grow and learn and develop. It doesn't want to settle for pretending like it knows or assuming that it knows. That's what the ego does. The ego assumes or pretends. So the ego isn't always pretending, right? It's not always pretentious. You don't have to be fake. It could just assume that you know. And you switch off your ears, and now you don't learn. Right? You switch off your ears, and now you don't learn. And often you don't ask questions either. Right? Often you don't ask questions either. And that again has its own weakness.
21:55 Jay Shetty? This is also the difference between the ego and self-esteem. The ego wants to prove itself. The ego wants to prove itself to everyone. It walks into the room and tries to prove itself, tries to justify itself, tries to name drop itself. Whereas self-esteem wants to express itself and share itself creatively and be itself for real, right? Not doing it to prove a point or to put forward a certain persona, but just be and express. Now, that's a bit harder to understand. It's like, oh, well, those kind of sound the same. Like, how do I know which one I'm doing? Like, sometimes maybe I have to in an interview. And therefore, it's contextual as well.
22:37 Jay Shetty? Like, in an interview, if you go in there and you just talk creatively, but you don't talk about your experience, you don't talk about the companies you've worked with, you don't talk about all of that, then you actually miss out, right? Then it actually becomes worse. And a lot of people end up in that situation where you try and become humble, but you actually miss out on actually the role and what's being needed. Like, in an interview, you need to talk about experience, you need to talk about past companies. But then maybe when you're with your friends, do you need to prove yourself to your friends? Or when you're with friends, do you just need to be yourself, right? When your friends are talking about something, do you need to prove that you know more? Do you need to show that you know more? Or actually, are you quite happy just being yourself? So, this is one that's contextually relevant.
23:20 Jay Shetty? And in an interview or somewhere like that, you need to put your best foot forward. Again, you don't want to lie, you don't want to manipulate, you don't want to say anything that's not true, but you want to be able to put your best foot forward. And with your friends, you just want to be able to be your best self. Another thing, the way the ego shows up. And that's really what I'm giving you here is indicators and signals to show you where the ego shows up. The ego compares yourself to others in your language and in your mind. And self-esteem compares you to yourself.
23:50 Jay Shetty? In your language and in your mind. You hear people say, oh, did you see so and so didn't get a promotion? Oh, my God, I just, I just ended up getting the dream job I wanted. Or did you see that so and so just broke up? Like, I mean, I just don't understand how they did that. I mean, I managed to stay together, right? So you're justifying your growth. You're expressing your growth through someone else's demise or someone else's mistake or someone else's flaws. So you're justifying your growth, your success through someone else's failure. That's what the ego does. The ego makes you feel better through someone else's mistake. The ego makes you feel better through someone else's supposed inferiority. Whereas self-esteem compares you to yourself.
24:35 Jay Shetty? You'll be like, oh, my God, you know, last year this time? I was struggling so hard, but now I'm so happy. Or, you know, like, last week I was going through this. I've just figured it out, like, I'm so happy about it. Notice that in your language. Are you comparing yourself to others or are you comparing yourself to yourself? And I really think that when we go from saying, you know what? Last year I was thinking about doing this podcast and now I launched it. It's amazing and exciting. Or the ego can be like, oh, yeah, you know, all those other podcasts that have been out? You know, and you start thinking along those lines. Or some people start thinking along the lines of like, oh, yeah, I did this first time. That person didn't do it till their 10th time. That kind of language is ego. So that's a really good one to spot in ourselves.
25:18 Jay Shetty? And all we want to do when we become aware of these is we're now gonna switch. Everything I'm giving you is switching from one to the other. So instead of comparing yourself to others, you're gonna compare yourself to yourself. Instead of, you know, instead of saying, I know everything or I've already heard this. You're gonna say, actually, I'm gonna learn from anyone. So you're just gonna replace that internal dialogue. You're literally gonna switch it for the other one that I'm giving you. And that's all you have to do. You have to notice and switch, notice and switch, notice and switch. You have to switch for something higher. Another thing the ego does in a crazy way that again stops us from growth is that it pretends to be strong. The ego doesn't wanna show weakness. The ego looks down upon weakness.
26:02 Jay Shetty? The ego looks at weakness as a weakness, right? It looks at any weakness as a bad thing. Whereas the self-esteem is okay to be vulnerable. The self-esteem is okay to say, I don't have it figured out. I want to learn. I want to know. I don't understand. I'm confused. Please help me. And that approach, we can see that in ourselves. If someone's, if someone's talking to you, are you artificially putting up the front to be strong so that they perceive you as strong? Of course, it's different if you've just lost someone in your life, or you have to be strong for someone. But then you also want to find a space where you can be vulnerable. You want to find a space where you can be open.
26:42 Jay Shetty? You want to find a space where it is okay to be vulnerable and your truest self. So notice that your self-esteem will never be scared of actually, you know, your, your self-esteem will never be scared of actually showing itself. Another one that really stands out is the ego is always scared about what will people say? And the self-esteem goes and gets mentors from the expert, the mentorship from the experts. So the ego is worried about what everyone will say. Like, oh my God, should I post this video? Oh my God, what will everyone say? Should I post this picture? Oh my God, what will everyone say? Or should I start this business idea? What will everyone say?
27:27 Jay Shetty? And it's worried about what everyone thinks because it wants to be liked and please everyone. And that's setting ourselves up for failure because that's not possible. There is no one in the world that is liked and appreciated by everyone. There is just no one who fits that category. But the self-esteem says, hey, I can actually learn from a few people. And it does matter what a few people say, but let me go and seek out that right advice. Let me go and find that advice so I can be really clear on where I'm going. I can be clear on where I'm going. So again, you want to spot that. What are you doing in times of trouble? What are you doing in difficult times? Are you worrying about what people will say? Or are you actually figuring out who to go to to filter what people say?
28:11 Jay Shetty? Another one that, where the ego really stands out is the ego, and I remember one of my teachers saying this before, the ego demands respect and self-esteem commands respect. What that means is when the ego is always looking for people to respect them. It's always like, why didn't this person respect me? How do I get them to respect me? And the self-esteem naturally expresses itself and that commands respect because it's based on behavior, it's based on setting an example, it's based on learning, it's, it's based on growing, right? It's not just thrown out there. And I think this is a really, really important one because I think so many of us are in that frame of mind like, "Okay, how do I get someone to like me? How do I get someone to respect me?"
28:54 Jay Shetty? And actually, that takes away all our energy from just being, from being able to give, to express our true selves, to be creative, to be exciting, to be dynamic. And that's where the energy needs to go, because if you're dynamic, you naturally attract respect. If you are setting a good example, have good behavior, that attracts respect. You don't have to think about respect. And we see this so often that we get lost in trying to generate a response. And the energy goes in generating a response rather than genuinely living, right? We're going to generating rather than genuine, you know? And I think that when you're going to generating or manufacturing a response, you lose that energy in there.
29:36 Jay Shetty? And I'm trying to think of something that feels like that sometimes when you're manufacturing something. It's almost like when they first design a car, it's not being manufactured. It's being creatively inspired. And then once the idea comes, then they replace it on a manufacturing belt, right? But initially, it just has to be a genuine creation. And that's the same with respect, that when you just do it genuinely, it becomes natural and then it repeats itself. But you can't manufacture it. And I don't even know if that's the best analogy, but hopefully it makes sense, right? Hopefully it gets across. Ego shows up as being self-centered and self-esteem is service-centered. It's service, self-care and service. Whereas ego, as we all know, is selfish.
30:20 Jay Shetty? It's always like, "What can I get out of this? What am I gonna learn, you know, what am I gonna learn from this?" It's never like, "How can we all gain from this? What can I learn from everyone? What can I share with everyone?" Actually, if I share more, will I learn more? Actually, if I ask the hard question, will everyone else ask hard questions? Right, you start thinking and realizing that if I serve, I also gain. I also learn, I also develop. And self-esteem is really good at that. The ego is really bad at doing that. The ego is trying to take us away from that and just saying, "No, it's all about you. It's all about you. It's all about you." And when it's all about you, you end up alone. And I talk about this often, like, if you're thinking, if everyone in the world was thinking about everyone else, then you'd have, you know, 7.9 billion people thinking about you.
31:05 Jay Shetty? But if you only think about yourself... And if everyone only thought about themselves, you've got one person thinking about you, right? And so you notice how different it is straight away. A great example of this is, I was watching this movie, it's a Bollywood movie called Gold. And it's based on the Indian hockey team. And at one point, the Indian hockey team was having a lot of infighting in and amongst themselves. They were arguing, they were debating, it was all, you know, bravado, ego, exactly what we're talking about right now. There's lots of ego in the camp. And so the coach decided to do something really effective. The coach had bricks on one side of the, uh, one side of the running track.
31:48 Jay Shetty? And he, he said to them, I want you all to grab the bricks and move them to the other side. So what they all did, they all grabbed two bricks each and started running to the other side. So all of these players grabbed two bricks each, started running to the other side, ran back, grabbed two more bricks, ran to the other side. And they were tired by the time they got it to the other side. And when they got to the other side, he said, okay, go and take it the other way again. And they were like, wow, why do you want us to do that again? But anyway, the coach said, do it again. So again, they grabbed two bricks each and started running to the other side. They grabbed two bricks each and started running to the other side. And each of them running back and forth, running back and forth to get all of these bricks onto the other side. And again, they were exhausted. The coach said, they're just not learning. They're just not learning. Now you may be confused, it's like, what are they learning? They're doing it right.
32:32 Jay Shetty? And the coach said, okay, do it once more, do it again. Now this time, one of them ran towards the bricks and said, look, look, look, I think we're getting it all wrong. I, I think we're all running out of energy and we're getting exhausted. Is there another way we can do this? They now formed an assembly line across the running track. And they passed bricks to each other in a line, handing them off to each other, passing them side by side, all of them in a uniform line, passing it side by side by side. And now none of them are running around, none of them are exhausted, they were all helping each other. And they accomplish the task in less time. That's the difference between self-centered and service-centered. Self-centered goes, I can carry ten bricks. I'm going to run all the way. I'm going to do it myself.
33:17 Jay Shetty? Service-centered goes, we can all achieve more when we're working together. And it's so important that we've realized that in the workspace and we share these stories in the workspace, because that's sometimes where it's hardest. When we're all trying to prove ourselves, we're all trying to get promoted. And there is a reason why you need to build a personal relationship with your manager, et cetera, for them to understand you and know you. But with your colleagues, you want to build this for long-term success. Or you want to build this for long-term growth as a team. And now, this is where ego sometimes works the opposite way for us. So sometimes that ego kind of does the opposite, where we start saying things like, everything bad happens to me, like I'm in the worst situation, right? Like no one's situation can be worse than me.
34:01 Jay Shetty? So just as ego can make you feel like you're the best, ego also competes. So ego competes on best and worst. That's the crazy thing, right? Egos not only compete like I'm the best, I'm number one, I'm the top. Ego also competes on being the worst. And I think that's what's fascinating about it. So if someone goes to you like, oh my God, I'm having a really tough time at work. And you're like, you have no idea, I'm having the toughest time at work, right? That's ego as well. Or if someone says, oh my God, I've just been through the worst breakup. And you're like, no breakup can be worse than my breakup. Right? If you hear that, that's also ego. When we're trying to put forward the fact that we've been through the worst or the most or the, you know, whatever it may be. And we recognize that self-esteem is letting someone share what their pain is
34:46 Jay Shetty? and genuinely sharing ours without trying to make one seem worse or more worse or better than the other. So self-esteem acknowledges that people have different experiences at different times. People have different tolerances. People have different situations and it stops from judging. So, so often, our ego wins because of so many of these little things. And what I wanted to share with you in this podcast is I wanted you to start reflecting on how you can start spotting ego earlier. And replacing it with self-esteem thoughts. That's the only process. You have to spot and you have to replace. You have to notice and you have to replace. We have to substitute.
35:27 Jay Shetty? The Bhagavad Gita talks about the higher taste where you can only give up the lower habits for higher habits. And so this lower habit of ego can only be upgraded by a higher habit of self-esteem. So similarly, like you don't just trade in your phone for no phone. Like, we need a phone. You're not just gonna trade in your ego for nothing. Cause you need some sort of model of thought and some sort of pattern of thought. So you're only gonna upgrade it. So I want you to try this out. I want you to pick just one way this week, just focus on noticing, right? This week, just focus on noticing and maybe start that tally board as well. I'd love for you to try that tally board in your home of your ego versus your self-esteem and give it a point each side. It's, it's fun.
36:09 Jay Shetty? It starts becoming funnier, like you stop judging yourself and you start realizing these are just patterns of thought. These are just habits. You're not a bad wolf, right? You're not a bad wolf or a good wolf. You just have patterns of thought that aren't serving you and you want to switch them and upgrade them. Just as you upgrade your phone, you wanna upgrade your thoughts. So I want you to check this out, share the lesson that really stood out. I love this episode. I hope you've gained a lot from it as well. Make sure you subscribe, rate and review. It means the world to me when you do that and share this with a friend. Thank you so much for listening. I'll see you again next week. Take care and thank you for listening to On Purpose. So this is just a little bit of fun. I love recommending great podcasts to you and more importantly, great people.
36:50 Jay Shetty? And I'm so excited that my good friend, Sophia Bush, has launched her own podcast called Work in Progress. I love the name because we're all works in progress. And I had the pleasure of being one of her upcoming episodes. And we genuinely had such an amazing discussion. It lasted almost two hours. She asked me some great questions and you'll hear some answers that I don't think I've ever shared before. And in addition to me, she's talked to everyone from Katie Couric to Chelsea Handler and many, many more. And it's awesome to hear so many great conversations that she's leading. So be sure to check out Work in Progress and I think you're gonna love it.
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