The surprising product that built Italy's richest family

Unsexy Business Ideas Database: https://clickhubspot.com/yjsa Episode 847: Sam Parr ( https://x.com/theSamParr ) and Shaan Puri ( https://x.com/ShaanVP ) talk about dynastic wealth creation. If you'd like to support Ben Wilson's treatment, he has a GoFundMe - https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-ben-fight-cancer-support-his-treatment — Show Notes: (0:00) Shaan gets invited to graduation (2:19) The richest man in Italy (16:09) The golden window (26:51) meeting an xtreme multi-billionaire (36:04) An update about Ben WIlson (42:52) achieving greatness vs being great — Check Out Sam's Stuff: • Hampton (joinhampton.com): My community for founders. Average member does $25m/year. Many of the guests are members. Get after it...apply: http://joinhampton.com/mfm — Check Out Shaan's Stuff: • Shaan's weekly email - https://www.shaanpuri.com • Visit https://www.somewhere.com/mfm to hire worldwide talent like Shaan and get $500 off for being an MFM listener. Hire developers, assistants, marketing pros, sales teams and more for 80% less than US equivalents. • Mercury - Shaan uses Mercury across all of his companies. you can too: http://mercury.com/ Mercury is a fintech company, not an FDIC-insured bank. Banking services provided by Choice Financial Group, Column, N. A., Members FDIC • I run all my newsletters on Beehiiv and you should too + we're giving away $10k to our favorite newsletter, check it out: beehiiv.com/mfm-challenge My First Million is a HubSpot Original Podcast // Brought to you by HubSpot Media // Production by Arie Desormeaux // Editing by Ezra Bakker Trupiano /

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• 0:00Sam Parr?

  I gotta bleep this out, but then he's extremely multi billionaire.

• 0:05Shaan Puri?

  Extremely multi billionaire.

• 0:07Sam Parr?

  Extremely.

• 0:17Shaan Puri?

  Sam, I have here in front of me a letter that I need to read for you. So I, I open the mail and I see a invitation like this to a graduation. And I think that's not my cousin. That's not my nephew. Who is this? Dear Sean, my name is Quentin Wood. I've been listening to MFM for, uh, since 2021. Over the last five years, you and Sam's podcast has made a huge impact on my life, shaping how I see the world, investing in stocks, my goals, my life. Your podcast brought me a lot of joy and helped me through long runs and study sessions. Uh, you and Sam have directed my life for the better. So thank you. I'm a high school senior this year, and because of the profound impact you've made in my life, I want to invite you to my graduation and graduation party.

• 0:59Shaan Puri?

  He lives in Colorado. Thank you for, thank you for taking the time to read this and everything you do. Keep making more episodes. Sincerely, Quentin Wood, high school senior. Isn't this amazing?

• 1:11Sam Parr?

  Baller.

• 1:16Sam Parr?

  Congrats, Quentin.

• 1:17Shaan Puri?

  Take a bow, Quentin.

• 1:23Shaan Puri?

  How good is that, man? I love this kid.

• 1:25Sam Parr?

  If you're under the age of 24, you should do some of these things that might sound insulting. Like we said, that's endearing, or I would never say that's cute, but like you feel like that emotion. You should 100% embrace doing those things because you can only get away with this at a very, for the very small time, and it's totally appropriate and totally awesome.

• 1:47Shaan Puri?

  It's like pooping your pants. You can only do it for so long.

• 1:51Sam Parr?

  And then you could do it like later in life, but like you, like this type of stuff, uh, 100% is awesome.

• 1:57Shaan Puri?

  And by the way, a lot, again, a bunch of people have written letters, but just inviting to the high school graduation was so endearing. I just thought, I was like, oh, that's so like, so wonderful. Diego was like, so are we gonna go? I was like, no, hell no. We're definitely not going, but I, but I, I will play him the song and give him the clap. This is great. Okay. I want to tell you about this, this business story that, that, uh, to me, this is, this is a billy of the week. So this is a billionaire family that I, I found really fascinating. I've been into these like family dynasties. Last, last week, I think we were talking about Cargill. And this one is.

• 2:31Sam Parr?

  Wait, can I, I want to try and guess these. I like trying to guess.

• 2:34Shaan Puri?

  Let me give you a couple of clues so you know which direction you're going.

• 2:38Shaan Puri?

  The richest man in Italy.

• 2:41Sam Parr?

  Sunglasses or chocolate?

• 2:44Shaan Puri?

  Chocolate.

• 2:45Sam Parr?

  Okay.

• 2:46Shaan Puri?

  Do you know who it is?

• 2:47Sam Parr?

  Yeah. Uh, Roche, Roche, is it called Roche something?

• 2:52Shaan Puri?

  Ferrero Rocher.

• 2:54Sam Parr?

  Yeah.

• 2:55Shaan Puri?

  So, uh, okay. Well, you got that pretty quick.

• 3:00Shaan Puri?

  It's a lot less fun when you just know the answer, huh? If I was a teacher, I would just be like, well, fine, teach yourself then.

• 3:08Shaan Puri?

  Dude, this family story is amazing. So I love Ferrero Rocher, the chocolate. I don't know if you've like, if you're a fan. Do we, do we have one? Oh, here. So if, for those who don't know, I have some here. Got this from, uh, from the grocery store this morning because I was so inspired by these guys. I was like, I'm gonna go support their small business.

• 3:26Sam Parr?

  He bought local.

• 3:27Shaan Puri?

  He's worth $32 billion. Um, so the, these chocolates are kind of amazing. They're, the packaging is amazing. If you've ever had one of these, you really feel like you're eating something special. And that got me kind of interested in like, what's the backstory of this? Turns out this family invented Nutella. They invented Tic Tacs. They invented like a whole bunch of Kinder, the Kinder bars and Kinder eggs. They invented like several of these like really big things, and now they own a whole bunch of other businesses. So I want to tell you the, the story of this, this company that's, it's one of the most secretive, family-owned businesses in the world. They do like $20 billion a year in revenue. The founder, the, the, the main guy, the, the heir, he runs the company and is the richest man in Italy.

• 4:09Shaan Puri?

  And the way they did it's really fascinating. So, um, back in the day, this was post, right after World War II. Italy, which was like, you know, not in great shape post-World War II, um, was trying to kind of bounce back. And so this guy, uh, the grandfather of, of this guy, he decides, I'm gonna start, um, making chocolate. Chocolate was really expensive. It was like this luxury item. It wasn't like a little common thing you found at every store. Not everybody was eating it. And so he starts and he, he had the form factor wrong. He was trying to make a, a bar, like a spread. So it's like butter. It would be like this kind of hard chocolate, like butter stick essentially. And his idea was like, people will put this on toast and you'll have like a chocolatey toast.

• 4:52Sam Parr?

  And I think at the time, like chocolate was like something like, it was like the equivalent of caviar. Like if you went to like a fancy dinner party, you would see it. And if I remember correctly, I don't even think it tasted nearly like it tastes now.

• 5:03Shaan Puri?

  No, they've just added butter and sugar over the years to the mix. It's like, cause if you have like a cacao bean or cacao powder, it's like bitter. It's like very bitter, right? So, so you, you really have to like butter and sugar it up. So he, he tries the bar. People don't like it. They're complaining. They're like, it's too hard, doesn't spread easily. So he's like, okay, I gotta solve the spread problem. And he comes up with a jar with like a creamy chocolate, like a, a jam, basically. And it's like a precursor to Nutella. It wasn't quite Nutella yet. But the idea was like, make it super spreadable, put it in a jar. And it was called Super Crema. And so he starts trying to sell Super Crema and it's doing okay. It's him, he's like the chef and he's just trying to make like delicious pastries, basically.

• 5:46Shaan Puri?

  And he's got the brother who's the business side and they're, they're doing all right, not great. But over time, the son takes over and the son is a bit more of an innovator. So first, I think the government like bans the use of crema in the name. So he's got to rebrand it anyways. And he decides to call it Nutella. And it was because hazelnuts are a big ingredient for the thing. And he makes it, he tweaks the recipe, makes it better. And the son starts innovating. He gets in the lab and he basically creates, he notices that breath mints are great, but there's all these problems. They come in these like big tins, hard to carry around, right? This like big giant rectangle. To open it up, you had to like kind of find the seam and pop it open. And then, you know, if you wanted to like share it with somebody, they had to like dig through, touch all of them.

• 6:30Shaan Puri?

  And so he creates the Tic Tac form factor. So way easier to open, smaller box, smaller form factor. And the ads were all like one person's hand out and then putting a Tic Tac in. And it was basically like, a Tic Tac was almost like a social gift. It was a social icebreaker, something you want from somebody else. So carrying it was almost like a thing of power.

• 6:50Sam Parr?

  These old Tic Tac ads are so good. If you Google vintage Tic Tac Italian ads, the old ads are like pretty awesome.

• 6:57Shaan Puri?

  A lot of the ads would have a question mark, which you would not normally do. You wouldn't say Tic Tac question mark, but the whole thing is basically it's an offer to somebody else. And, um, it's just a way to be smooth. Way, way, it's a, it's, it's small talk for the mouth.

• 7:12Sam Parr?

  Was Tic Tac the original name?

• 7:14Shaan Puri?

  Hey, I want to tell you about something pretty cool. We have a database of all of the business ideas that have been discussed on this podcast. So hundreds of episodes, the team at HubSpot went through, they pulled out all the simple, relatable, interesting, profitable, uh, ideas that we have brainstormed and they're all available for download for free. Just click the link in the description below. Thank you to our friends at HubSpot for sponsoring this podcast and putting together this free resource for you guys. Back to the show. Yeah. So, so Tic Tac was a, you know, a brilliant name also. And it starts getting used in movies because the name is just like fun to say. And, um, and then he's like, you know, we've talked about Touchlin Soap, this, this, this woman who, who sold this company for,

• 7:53Shaan Puri?

  I think $800 million or something recently. And what she does is she took Purell, like hand sanitizer, this utilitarian ugly product. And she made it look like women's perfume and it came in different scents. And it was all hand sanitizer, but you know, it's something small you'd want to carry in your, in your purse. That looked cool, smelled great and didn't have like, you know, chains of, just competed in a different dimension than hand sanitizer. Not trying to kill more germs per second, but say your hands aren't going to smell like ethanol at the end of this, right? So, so then, then you have the, the Ferrero Rocher like packaging where it's like this, this, you know, these golden nuggets, these like special things that are, that are put into this. And so just brilliant all around in terms of like,

• 8:35Shaan Puri?

  how they, how they did, uh, the marketing genius behind some of these things. And so the brand takes off. It's doing really, really well. He's an innovator. And now they're super secretive. I think for like, up until four or five years ago, they had never done an interview. They had never let anyone into the factory. It was like on some real Willy Wonka shit. They, um, you know, it was like the one journalist who got in was like, this is actually less like Willy Wonka. It's more like Area 51. There was armed guards. They, because they build their own machinery to produce the, the chocolate. So they didn't want anyone to know the engineering behind their machinery, the recipes behind Nutella. They didn't want to know anything and they weren't really even using it for marketing purposes. Like the, the grandfather, all the photos of him, you'll see he's wearing dark sunglasses.

• 9:19Shaan Puri?

  He just never wanted to be seen, never wanted to be known. And so only very recently did they start doing anything. And so then you have the grants on the third gen. And so, so gen one was kind of like, um, the pioneer, trying to make it happen was sort of kind of like, uh, you know, pioneers or what, what settlers gets, pioneers get slaughtered, then the settlers do whatever, then the townspeople build the empire. It's kind of that same thing. So, you know, he didn't really make it, but the son had the breakthrough innovations. And then that guy's son took on a totally different strategy. He went Warren Buffett. He was basically like, all right, inventing these products really hard, really expensive, really low hit rate. What if we went and found value brands that we could turn around?

• 10:01Shaan Puri?

  And so he went and bought Butterfingers and Baby Ruth and Crunch and like all these brands acquired them, tried to revitalize the brand and then bring them back. And so he's built this portfolio of other brands now. And he took like an M and A approach. And I just thought, what's the Italian word for private equity? Cause that's what these guys, this is some beautiful private equity that I've been seeing in play here for the last.

• 10:25Sam Parr?

  That is so cool.

• 10:26Shaan Puri?

  Eighty years.

• 10:27Sam Parr?

  I bought a, I bought a Butterfinger last night. I freaking love Butterfinger. I feel old, but I like, I eat. I did, I, I bought.

• 10:35Shaan Puri?

  Me, myself and Sam having a Butterfinger or what?

• 10:38Sam Parr?

  I went to the CVS and I got the, uh, the movie style. You know how they like put like, like movie style candy, like in the box with like mini Butterfingers? I totally had a whole box of myself last night. So I'm on board with this guy.

• 10:50Shaan Puri?

  I don't like Butterfinger. Love Crunch. Uh, Baby Ruth. By the way, not named after Babe Ruth.

• 10:58Sam Parr?

  It's not?

• 10:58Shaan Puri?

  No. It's named after Ruth Cleveland, the daughter of President Grover Cleveland.

• 11:04Sam Parr?

  Oh, is Babe Ruth the baseball player named after her then?

• 11:09Shaan Puri?

  I don't think so.

• 11:11Sam Parr?

  Dude, you can't have two babe. I mean, that's like, there's not like.

• 11:15Shaan Puri?

  I don't know how they got away with that.

• 11:18Sam Parr?

  This is, uh, this is pretty awesome. Why are you, um, fascinated by this, uh, this topic? Because it's a clearly a trend.

• 11:26Shaan Puri?

  Well, I have all these like themes. So one is like huge businesses hidden in plain sight is always something that's interesting to me. So like, you know, I've been eating this, but I never took the time to think, who made this? What's the story of this? Why does this packaging look so different than any other product that in the entire store? And why don't more people do this? Why isn't like, like, how can you apply this marketing principle to another category? Like, I just can't believe people aren't doing that. So that immediately my brain starts firing and I start fantasizing about these products I'm going to create before I remember. I'm already rich. I don't want to work and I have this way too much work to do any of that. But if somebody ever did it, you know, like, you know, kudos to them.

• 12:00Sam Parr?

  Rory Sutherland, who we had on, he talked about, uh, what's the name of the soda that has the piece of foil on top? You know, the Italian, also Italian, actually.

• 12:10Shaan Puri?

  Oh, Pellegrino? Uh, no.

• 12:12Sam Parr?

  You're close. Pella something. It's such with a P and it's.

• 12:14Shaan Puri?

  It's like that lemonade type thing, right?

• 12:16Sam Parr?

  It's like a lemon flavored Italian soda. Is it San Pellegrino? Okay. I thought San Pellegrino was also water, but this is like San Pellegrino, like soda.

• 12:23Shaan Puri?

  Yeah.

• 12:23Sam Parr?

  And he was explaining how the tin over it, he's like, that's a really small thing, but they did it to be like, this can is extra clean and special. It's never been like, yeah.

• 12:34Shaan Puri?

  Top of the seal.

• 12:35Sam Parr?

  He was explaining the importance of something fairly insignificant in the grand scheme and how, and he was explaining the psychology behind it. And that really got me thinking and you're, you're describing the exact same thing with the, uh, with the candy. It's wrapped in like a gold tin and I was thinking about that a lot. And I guess it's another Italian company pulling it off.

• 12:53Shaan Puri?

  Yeah. So I love the marketing mind. That's always a fascinating thing. I love businesses hidden in plain sight. I'm always a sucker for, you know, the richest man in Italy. And I'm like, sure, don't, you know, tell me like, this is gonna be an interesting story. And then I am also interested in these kinds of family dynasty businesses, um, because, uh, I think it's the businesses that really like withstand the test of time. They have to do like several miracles. And one of the great miracles is that it has to get passed down to somebody who doesn't screw it up. And what I thought was kind of cool, there was a story about one of the, one of the generations. I don't know if it's the current one. By the way, I'm opening one of these up. I don't know if it's the current one or it's the, the middle son.

• 13:34Shaan Puri?

  But he said something like, he didn't even realize they were rich until he was like 15 years old. He's like, I had no idea. They kept that from me. It's like the four housekeepers didn't tip you off. Uh, so I don't know exactly how that was possible, but you know, that apparently there was something in the upbringing where, uh, I think they were, they just spent so much time actually working in the like factory and on the product that it wasn't clear. Like it was more about the work and the craft than it was about the prizes.

• 14:02Sam Parr?

  That's awesome. I would love to, um, I listened to, uh, the reason I know very little about it, but I know some about it is because, um, founders, the founders podcast, he did an episode on the family. And it's a pretty old one. So I listened to it a while ago. Uh, but it would be curious. I would be curious to see like.

• 14:17Shaan Puri?

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• 14:23Sam Parr?

  While you're stuffing your face with food, which is like, the, that sounds great on the mic. Let me hear you chew.

• 14:29Shaan Puri?

  This 9am chocolate is hitting the spot.

• 14:31Sam Parr?

  Dude, I had sweet tarts for breakfast. So.

• 14:33Shaan Puri?

  It's intermittent fasting, but you intermittently eat a fair rache while you're fasting.

• 14:39Sam Parr?

  Uh, I would, I want to know like the family dynamics. I'm so curious. I think that like the stories of succession, the, the movie or the TV show and like the drama.

• 14:50Sam Parr?

  I don't think that is actually the common thing. I think that like, there is a way where you can be like harmonious and loving and also like good at this whole business thing. And I, it's just less interesting to write or read about that or make a movie or a TV show about it.

• 15:04Shaan Puri?

  Yeah.

• 15:04Sam Parr?

  Yeah. But it would be really exciting to like, read a book on how they do it effectively. Uh, another family that done, that, that did it effectively is the Rothschild family. Do you know about those guys?

• 15:16Shaan Puri?

  I mean, I just know the name. I don't know what they did in the family.

• 15:19Sam Parr?

  Like there's a crazy story where the, uh, like the, the original clan, so they're known now as like Illuminati-esque where it's like mysterious. But the original story is, uh, I believe they were, uh, in Germany in the 1800s. And the dad was, uh, into business and banking and he had five sons and he seemed very loving and respectful with them. And he purposely asked them to move when they became adults to different countries and do the banking trade that he was doing and teaching them. And that is how they became this like amazingly, uh, successful European family. But the kids were like, no, he was, he was a really loving guy. He like, he taught us good, uh, values and, and we liked doing this with them. And, and so like, I've been reading a little bit about that family as well.

• 16:05Shaan Puri?

  Yeah. It's, I mean, I don't know if I'm ever going to do that, but, uh, I did have a random idea recently that I, it's kind of like fascinated me. So I was listening to some interview with, um, the chef from Carbone and he said something like, the interview actually was a little bit boring, but he said one thing that I thought was, was pretty interesting. He goes, oh, I was always obsessed with food. I was 12 years old and I was, I was an absolute foodie. I was always watching cooking shows. I knew about every restaurant. I knew I wanted to be a chef. And, you know, one of the greatest gifts that nobody really talks about, right? Like you, you want your kid to be, you know, really good at school or really good at sports, really whatever. I mean, really one of the best things you can do is figure out what you actually love to do in life. The earlier you figure that out, that's actually the big advantage.

• 16:49Sam Parr?

  And so I think that was Warren Buffett's advantage.

• 16:51Shaan Puri?

  It's Warren Buffett. It's, it's everyone. If you read these guys, they, you know, Jim, uh, Mr. Beast is like, yeah, 12, I just, 11 years old, I decided I was going to die a YouTuber. Like I just wanted to be a YouTuber. That's all I wanted to do. And so from 11, he's like, yeah, so I'm whatever he is now, 28. He's like, yeah, I've been doing this for 20 years. It's like, you know, it's like, I've been doing this 17 years now. And so he's literally just spent more time on this than anyone else. Warren Buffett bought first stock at seven and basically was thinking about businesses, money and stocks since he was very young and, and had time during that golden window. And, and when I interviewed Manish Prabhar, he was, I was asking about these books on the wall. He had a whole section on like science and neuroscience, neuroscience and, uh, psychology.

• 17:33Shaan Puri?

  And I go, what's something you really took away from reading a bunch of these? And he goes, we have a certain hardwiring. That's kind of baked by the time you're six or seven, like your, your core nature, your DNA, you kind of know who that person is. But he goes, and there's a golden window. And I think the golden window was something like, you know, six to 16 years old. And during that 10 year window, if you found something that's, that you can obsess over and you can, um, you get free reign to actually obsess over it during that window, you will hyper specialize when the brain is in this certain period and you'll become world class. Like you're, you're, the rest of your life happens. And if you really don't, and so he, he talks about this with investing.

• 18:15Shaan Puri?

  He's like, I don't invest in companies where the CEO doesn't have an evidence of the lemonade stand when they were 10 or 11. Because if you really, if you're an entrepreneur, you were an entrepreneur at an early stage. Now I don't a hundred percent believe this, but I did think it's interesting. And you do see this pattern a lot.

• 18:31Sam Parr?

  Did he have that? Did Manish have that?

• 18:34Shaan Puri?

  Uh, yeah. So he, I asked him that and he was like, he's like, yes. And he goes, it wasn't for entrepreneurship. It was basically for like, his dad had a jewelry business or a gold business or something like that. And he's like, basically my MBA was every day my dad would come home and the business was failing. And me and my brother had to figure out something we could try to get this business to not fail, to have enough cash to be like in business next month. And so in doing that, he's like, I basically got my MBA when I was eight years old. Every day helping my dad with his jewelry business, working in the store, coming home, hearing the problems, hearing the inventory struggles, the cash flow management problem. If we have all these sales, why don't we have any money? Oh, because there's a difference between revenue and profit, between profit and cash flow.

• 19:16Shaan Puri?

  And you know, he's like learning these things without knowing the names of them, like this sort of intuitive gut learning that's happening during that phase.

• 19:22Sam Parr?

  And for the record, you don't need that to be pretty successful. I do think.

• 19:26Shaan Puri?

  But to be world class.

• 19:27Sam Parr?

  Yes. I think that that's the advantage that the best of the best of the best have.

• 19:30Shaan Puri?

  And you see like, oh, in the world cup right now, it is like, um, La Minia Mall. And it's like, you, what, how come the US doesn't produce players like this? And it's like, well, because at age seven, he went and moved in to the soccer academy and he was there from seven to 17. And guess what? He's amazing now at 18, you know, like which, which maybe your kid would have been two, had they left the house and moved in, um, you know, to the soccer academy at age six or seven. And that's like really all they trained and focused on for a long period of time. Are you willing to do that? Uh, the book outliers by Malcolm Gladwell talked a little bit about this, like, you know, at a young age, Bill, Bill Gates and Paul Allen, the founders of Microsoft. Their school was the first, one of the only schools in the country to have a computer. So he got to mess around with the computer for free, had free access to it after school for like a very long period of time.

• 20:15Shaan Puri?

  You know, Furcon, my old co-founder, he would tell me like, yeah, his dad worked at a computer company. So when he was five years old, like his earliest memory wasn't like playing catch with my dad. It was like building a printer from scratch. It's like, yeah, no, no, no joke that now he can like build anything. Because during that golden window, he did that. Anyways, long way of saying, I've thought about how you could be somewhat intentional about this. Meaning if my kid shows an interest in something, I think I'm going to lean in way harder than most people would during the golden window. And I've thought about taking like a sabbatical year where I'm just like, gonna pluck him out of school for, you know, in fifth or sixth grade. And just be like, hey, we're going to travel the world and like, we're, I'm just going to develop you. I'm going to shape you now.

• 20:58Shaan Puri?

  Not like when I'm 65 and I retire and I have more time, because you're going to be, the cookie's already crispy by then. You know what I mean? Like I gotta do it when the dough is raw. And so I'm thinking about that. Um, does that sound crazy?

• 21:10Sam Parr?

  No. So it's so funny. Um, a friend for my birthday, a friend gifted me the Andre Agassi book that I haven't started it yet, but I was asking him what he learned. Uh, have you read that Andre Agassi's, his biography?

• 21:21Shaan Puri?

  No, I haven't.

• 21:22Sam Parr?

  It's considered one of the best biographies and I'm not a tenant and my friend and I, neither of us are tennis guys, but he's like, it's, it's so good. And I said, what's the big takeaway? And he was like, the crazy thing is Andre didn't even seem like he loved tennis. And he, he frankly, didn't seem like he had superstar energy. Um, like he kind of begrudgingly did it. But he was pretty good. And I was like, well, how did he become like one of the greats of all time? And he said, his dad, his dad was maniacal. His dad, like his dad saw that Andre showed a little bit of interest and he just pushed him and, and just went all in on it. And I was joking and I was like, okay, so maybe he, maybe he did or didn't have a good relationship with his father. I'm not sure. But I think that like these guys, like, uh, Serena Williams dad, Andre Agassi's dad, like some of these harsh fathers.

• 22:07Sam Parr?

  I'm like, they get a lot of shit, but like, it seems pretty worth it. Like to have this like tiger dad, this tiger mom energy.

• 22:17Shaan Puri?

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• 22:44Sam Parr?

  I was watching Nadal's documentary on Netflix. Did you see that one?

• 22:50Shaan Puri?

  I've seen a little bit of it. I love Nadal. I love Nadal.

• 22:54Sam Parr?

  His dad was the same way. His father was so hardcore about it, and he pushed him and pushed him and pushed him and was his coach. And then there's this other guy named Sebastian Coe, who's a famous runner. So, you know, not that many people are gonna know who he is, but he's, he had the world record for the mile. And his dad, Peter, was the same way, where they would run and his father would be in the car with the stopwatch, timing every interval.

• 23:15Shaan Puri?

  Behind every great man is a great woman. It's like, and an abusive father.

• 23:21Sam Parr?

  I do think that there's a way that you can do this, where you can like balance like being a good, like a nurturer and also a pusher.

• 23:27Shaan Puri?

  One thing, I'm not saying I'm gonna like hypertrain them for greatness on like, you know, hey, get up, we're running sprints every morning, like, you know, whatever, up the hills. What I meant was really, I'm gonna give them exposure, because I think most people, the problem isn't that you found what you love, and then you didn't keep doing it. Because when you really love something, it has a great amount of pull, you just do it anyways. I think what most people don't do is they don't really get to walk around Costco and sample the things. And I think that's actually the more interesting thing, is like, how do you get somebody exposure? Because I would say, the vast majority of people never even find out if they really love something. Because by the time you, like, school is such a regimented track, right? You're spending eight hours a day doing the same exact things as every other kid.

• 24:10Shaan Puri?

  Did you happen to love photosynthesis? Did you happen to love trigonometry? Like, probably not. And so, by the, and then, and it's all just funneling you to get into a college. And when you get into a college, and it's about getting a job, by the time you have a job, now you're working and you're trying to like, pay for life. And by the time you're 30, you're like, well, I didn't really get that one, that, that opportunity to go figure out that actually, it was podcasting that I really had an affinity to. I actually really loved that. Or it was, you know, whatever it is, like baking, it was this, it was that. It doesn't really, it's hard to even know. And I think most people never even know. And so the thing I want to make sure I do for my kids is, get you to at least feel and see what different, what the world is, what's even on the menu of options, so that you have some exposure in life. Because I don't think the world by default, does a good job of giving you exposure.

• 24:53Sam Parr?

  You and I have a great friend, Ramon. So Ramon Van, Van Meere. And he, Ramon had a difficult situation where he became a single dad when his son was only two years old. And I met Victor when he was, I think, three. Now he's actually a sophomore or junior in college. And he, Ramon was crazy. Partly, he did this out of necessity, partly because he's a really amazing dad. And he would bring Victor, starting at the age of maybe seven, to these really big business meetings. I remember he sold one company when Victor was something like 10 years old. He sold it for close to $10 million. And I remember he would go to LA from San Francisco,

• 25:38Sam Parr?

  and he would take Victor out of school and bring him. And Victor would just sit like next to him. And Victor wouldn't talk, but he would pay attention to the meeting. And afterwards, Ramon would be like, Victor, what's your opinion? What should we do? And then another time, Victor has actually been to China, I think a couple of times. Because Ramon has a company now, Afinna, where they have manufacturers in China. And he'll bring him to China, and he'll just sit quietly and be like, afterwards, Victor or Ramon will be like, hey, okay, so what do you think? You think this guy's legit? Should we go with him? Should we do this? And I remember seeing that. And before I had kids, I thought it was awesome. And then after I had kids, I thought it was like, a blessing, a treasure. Like, it changed from like, this is cool, to admiration, to like,

• 26:22Sam Parr?

  you have gone from being a good dad to a deity to me. Like, you are like, I can't believe how special and how lucky Victor is to have you. And I remember seeing that, and I'm like, that is the way to have a kid.

• 26:32Shaan Puri?

  I agree 100%. Seeing the same thing. Ramon is an amazing dad. And it's not just, I think, because I've watched that. And in the moment, you're just kinda like, well, the kid is there, didn't say anything, or maybe even after the fact, what'd you think? It was good? It was cool? They're not gonna give you some satisfying answer as a dad, like, you know, dad, I really learned the, like, the virtue of hard work today. Actually, what I saw was, they're never gonna tell you the thing, but like, you just have to trust the process and be like, it's all soaking somewhere, somewhere in the mind, this experience was imprinting somewhere in the brain, in a positive direction. And that, if they, you know, if I didn't give them this experience, I would have, in a way, robbed them of some of that exposure. So yeah, I'm a big believer in that.

• 27:16Shaan Puri?

  My kids are really little right now, but I, I do similar things.

• 27:19Sam Parr?

  That's awesome. Okay, let me tell you another story about someone. You and I, we get invited to some stuff that occasionally is interesting. Most of the time, we both say no. But I decided to go to one of these dinners, and it was in a beautiful apartment. And clearly, some guys there were like total ballers. But I sit next to this one guy, and he's very unassuming. And I start talking to him, and he's very nice. He's kinda like Dharmesh Shah, the, one of the founders of HubSpot, like, very low-key. And he's like, how are you using AI? And I'm like, well, I made a Chrome plugin that helps you select like which jeans fit you, if you go to a store, if you like jeans.

• 27:57Shaan Puri?

  John, look at my ass right now.

• 27:59Sam Parr?

  Tell me to see these jeans?

• 28:01Shaan Puri?

  Fit like they were fitted by AGI. Three cities don't have water right now, because these pants fit so well.

• 28:08Sam Parr?

  And I was like, how about you? What are you doing? And he like starts explaining some stuff, and it's kinda blowing my mind. And I'm like, wait, who are you? And he says his name, but he doesn't really say what he does. And the guy runs maybe one of the most, if not like the top three, like financial services business in the world. And he's extremely multi-billionaire. And he's the founder of-

• 28:33Shaan Puri?

  Extremely multi-billionaire.

• 28:35Sam Parr?

  Extremely. Like, he's so extreme. And I thought, after he, I start talking to him, like, I recognize you. You have articles written about you. It's where it's like, this mysterious billionaire.

• 28:46Shaan Puri?

  Say his name, and then we'll bleep it.

• 28:47Sam Parr?

  Okay, so he's the founder of-

• 28:49Shaan Puri?

  Yes, okay.

• 28:50Sam Parr?

  So, one of the most like sophisticated financial services business. Argue, it potentially is one of the most profitable in its field, making like tens of billions in profit.

• 28:59Shaan Puri?

  That's almost an intimidating person to meet. It's almost like, have you ever, you know, I used to have this old Dell laptop, that when it really, when you, when you opened up a few too many windows, the fan would kick on and it would start heating up. I feel like that dude's brain must just be like that. Was there just heat exhaust coming off of him?

• 29:17Sam Parr?

  I'm, I'm closer to a homeless guy in terms of like accomplishments and brainpower than I am to this guy. And it was so awesome that this guy walked into this room. He was one of the most quiet guys. He probably talked the least amount.

• 29:30Shaan Puri?

  Before you describe his calves and stuff, what did he say about AI? You said he was blowing your mind a little bit. What did he say?

• 29:35Sam Parr?

  I have to be somewhat vague. He was saying, he was just explaining like how they do it for like trading, and like making financial decisions. But frankly, he was using, he clearly was trying to talk my level. But it was so hard without using like the jargon that he had to use. But like at one point, I was like, so is your company cool? Why is it cool? He's like, well, I think we have a good culture, we pay really well, and the office is nice. And I look up how much they pay, and it's like, the highest paying thing-

• 30:02Shaan Puri?

  In the world, yeah.

• 30:03Sam Parr?

  In the world.

• 30:03Shaan Puri?

  I think they have the most profit per employee or something. That's like crazy, crazy numbers like that. Did they say anything with AI that surprised you? Meaning like, oh, I just, I didn't realize that was possible, or I would have never thought to do that. Give me a little bit more, if you can, if you can break off one more piece of bread.

• 30:20Sam Parr?

  Well, what he, was he, what he was explaining, he was like, you know, we actually have been doing this before, like, it became popular. We are doing it in this particular way, and then all this new breakthrough technology came out. But it wasn't like a surprise to us, because we've been tinkering with this stuff. And basically, he was like, it helps us make decisions, like, within fractions and fractions and fractions of seconds. Like, he was using these time measurements that I didn't, I didn't even know what that word meant. And he was like, he was like explaining like how they make decisions, and how they use AI to make decisions. And he was like, yeah, like, we've had data centers, we've had all of this stuff before. Now it's more accessible and it's easier, because we, but he's like, we built all this stuff before. It was just like crazy that someone that is so epic, and so world-class at what they do,

• 31:04Sam Parr?

  they made me feel, he made me feel better than him in a weird way.

• 31:08Shaan Puri?

  So he's a great actor, too, then? Wow, triple threat.

• 31:12Sam Parr?

  Well, that's why I didn't want to be insulting. I don't think he was acting. I think that he like, he just made me feel good.

• 31:17Shaan Puri?

  Well, he had true, true charisma then in that he was genuinely interested in other people, not based off of like, you know, some weird power rankings. And when you're interested in people, that makes them feel great. And that's a gift. That's a, that's an amazing gift. I think it sounds so simple and very few people know how to do that.

• 31:35Sam Parr?

  And I've noticed that with a bunch of really successful people, the ones that I truly like, they are so curious. They are curious to the point where they will think about silly ideas very seriously and take them serious.

• 31:47Shaan Puri?

  Yeah. I had an embarrassing like reduction the other day where I was like describing, we went to an event or we hosted an event and it was like, oh, there's all these different people. I like this person. I really like this guy. That, oh, she was really cool. And then I realized, oh, what's the common factor is just like, I think I like people who like me. And I was so embarrassed by that being true, but it was really like the, I have a very hard time liking people who I don't feel like me. So the opposite is more true than the, than the first part, meaning like, I don't love everybody who likes me, but I can't really like anybody if I feel like they don't like me. And I was, I was like, what kind of junior high bullshit mindset is this? And I didn't know what to do with it, but I definitely had that awareness at least. And I

• 32:32Shaan Puri?

  was like, I think I should not have that be the kind of the heaviest weight, you know, factor in this stuff. Do you ever do that? That sounds so stupid as I say it aloud.

• 32:42Sam Parr?

  No, I mean, I don't think that's so stupid. I think that Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People, he says, the root of everything that you read from me is basically, people want to feel important. And if you understand that, then like, life's cream cheese, like life's good. And if you make people feel important, then, then that is how you win friends and influence people. And what's funny is this guy and I, we left the, the event together and we mistakenly took like a service elevator. And so we get lost in this building for like 25 minutes, like trying to get out because we took the wrong and we couldn't figure out the signs. And I'm like,

• 33:13Shaan Puri?

  Were you like, come on genius, get us out of here?

• 33:16Sam Parr?

  I was like, how many billionaires does it take to find the exit?

• 33:19Shaan Puri?

  Hey Superman, turn on the laser.

• 33:23Sam Parr?

  And then at the end, I was like, I, I know that like, no one can find photos of you on the internet. I know that you purposely stay off the grid, but uh, you know, like, wanna come on my first million? And he like, and he even dignified it with a, I'll consider it. It wasn't even like a, like, are you insane? No, I won't do this. And I just think that like, to all the up and comer, up and comers listening, like Quentin, be humble and be nice and make people feel important. That is like kind of a key to life.

• 33:54Shaan Puri?

  Well, we should tweak that, right? Cause the make people feel important sounds manipulative. What's the real, what's the way to do that? That's actually real. I would say, be curious. If you're genuinely curious or interested in people, curiosity is like one of these, you know, like those like grandma's remedies where it's like, oh, I have pneumonia and it's like, put some whiskey in the pancakes and that'll do it. It's like, what? That doesn't make any sense. And then it like works. It's curiosity is kind of like that where almost all these unrelated problems can be solved with curiosity. I'll give you an example. Um, one is, one is what we're talking about here, which is when you're, when you're actually curious about somebody, you will appear interested in them because you are interested in them. And then they feel interesting and they feel like you took, you know, because you took an interest in them,

• 34:39Shaan Puri?

  they feel an affinity towards you. Great. That's one. This works with yourself too. So a lot of times I'll talk to my, my trainer, my coach, and um, let's say I'm feeling bad about something. What most people try to do is they say, don't feel bad. Feel good. It's okay. And like, don't feel bad is pretty poor advice when you're feeling bad about something. And instead he just says like, don't feel bad, just get curious. And he's like, just lean into it. Like, get curious about it. What is that? Why do you feel that way? You know, um, hmm, has that ever happened before? And as soon as you start getting curious, it's almost like the cloud moves away, the sun starts to peer through and cause your brain literally shifts state into a, into a more childlike, curious state of mind. And it takes the edge off. It takes the guilt or the shame

• 35:23Shaan Puri?

  or the, the self-loathing off of whatever it is you're doing. It's so weird. You wouldn't expect curiosity to be a cure for, for some, some of these moments or these moods, but it is, it tends to be. And so just getting curious about something, I would say is like, it's kind of like a catchall, um, you know, cure for, for, for things.

• 35:41Sam Parr?

  And what's funny is like, I was a pretty awkward teenager. I would say I'm still a pretty awkward guy. Uh, and I like went and like read books on like good questions to ask people to like have a conversation. And I even follow these guys on Instagram, how to do it. But the best people I found was that show on the spectrum, the dating show with autistic kids. And I stole so many questions that I asked people. So if I'm like at like a dinner party or I'm talking to people, I will always say, what are your hobbies? And like, it sounds like such a childish thing. You get the best answers. And then I also say, um, what do your parents think of, of what you've done? Where I ask a lot about their parents and like they start opening up, but like, I had to like learn how to like have small talk.

• 36:24Shaan Puri?

  Yeah, everybody needs to, I think. Okay. I like that. That's a cool, that's a cool story. Today's podcast is brought to you by my friends at Mercury. Uh, they make the world's best banking product. I think you know this already. I use Mercury for all of my businesses. I think I have like maybe seven or eight businesses. We use Mercury as our business banking across all of them. And now they actually just launched a personal banking account. So I have my personal account there. I moved off of Wells Fargo and Chase. I'm just all in on Mercury. Why? Uh, I like products that are easy to use. I like products that get me and the problems that I have. So like very easy to make a joint account with my wife. Very easy to spin up virtual cards. Uh, one click and I get savings yield. It just has all the stuff that I need in one place. So if you're looking for the best banking product on the market, it's definitely Mercury. I will

• 37:06Shaan Puri?

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• 37:20Sam Parr?

  All right. I could talk to you, let me talk to you about something. Um, it, it's gonna sound sad and it is sad, but I think it's like really interesting. And uh, I have permission to talk about this, but I think it's cool. So you and I had a producer named Ben Wilson. Ben Wilson, uh, was our producer for my first million for a long time. And he now has a podcast called How to Take Over the World. Uh, he's got four kids under the age of five years old. It's crazy. And six weeks ago, he found out that he has stage four lung cancer, uh, where the odds are not in his favor, but he's got like the best doctors in the world. So like some crazy things might happen. And he's very optimistic, but I went and met with him yesterday. He, he's in

• 38:01Sam Parr?

  New York to see a doctor. And I wanted to talk about my experience getting to like, like talk to him. Cause this is like a very like interesting predicament that he's in. Think about this. Six weeks ago, he found this out. So in the six weeks, he moved his house, he sold his home and got a new home closer to the doctor that he's going. Uh, he did like a $400,000 fundraiser, which was amazing. He like got his will and all of his estate stuff together. And he's gone to like all these, um, like doctor's appointments, like so many of them. And I remember like talking to him yesterday and I was like, dude, you've gone through so much. Like this is so heavy. And I, and he was telling me a little bit about it. And I, my initial reaction when I heard all

• 38:42Sam Parr?

  of this, I felt like extreme sadness, partially because Ben's a Mormon. So Ben has lung cancer and it's in his spine and his brain, but it started as lung cancer and he has never smoked. He has never drank. He has really never done anything bad in his life. Uh, and I felt like, I felt like, uh, like we have an agreement with the universe where we put good in and we should get good out. And I was like, this agreement has been broken. And I felt like pretty like pissed about it. Uh, yeah, I felt very angry. But then like, I started like seeing how he was reacting to all this stuff. And like, I would put myself in that shoes. I'm like, all right. Six weeks ago in June, I find out that I have this illness. Like, how do I react? And I was like, I would be, I would go insane. I would be so sad. I'd be so depressed. It was just like

• 39:27Sam Parr?

  crazy how calm he was. And what's interesting is that Ben has a podcast called How to Take Over the World, which is about like how great leaders become great. And I was thinking about that. And he had this, uh, journal with him and it was on the title of this journal was zero to 365. And I was like, what's this? He was like, I have a journal where I'm going to document every single day and my goal is to fill this whole thing out. It may not happen, but I'm gonna work my hardest to fill this out and make it 365 days. And I pray that there's a sequel to this journal. So my kids can like read this, but if I can't do it and I meet my maker sooner than I intend to, or I want to, I'm going to be really excited about it. And I remember like thinking like I

• 40:11Sam Parr?

  listened to his podcast all the time on like how to be great. And I listened to all these podcasts on how to be great. We just did one on like how to be great. And I was thinking, I was like, what's crazy is how much dignity and integrity and bravery this guy is facing this. And I was like, me or you or hopefully and everyone listening, the odds are that none of us will face like a tragedy like this. But I was thinking, I was like, in my day to day life, like I react to things sometimes in such a horrible way, like so negatively. And uh, so like not being positive or I'm letting little things bother me or little things distract me from what's important. But I was like, I really should change that because I hope I never face anything like he's facing.

• 40:53Sam Parr?

  But what I've noticed knowing Ben for a few years is he's always been like a pretty stoic, brave person. And I'm like, these little things that I face every single day, they can prepare me for something horrible. And I hope that horrible thing never happens. And if it doesn't, at least I will have like responded to like my day to day life in a way that a great man would. Because what's interesting is like seeing him like journal about this. And he was like showing me a little of the journal. In my head, I was like, I'm seeing like a great man be great in real time and respond to like the worst thing on earth in the most dignified, wise and like the best way I've ever seen. And it inspired me so much. And I was just like, what good can I take from this? How can I be great? Even if I don't face like a tragedy or like if I just live

• 41:38Sam Parr?

  a boring life, like how can I be great on a day to day basis?

• 41:42Shaan Puri?

  Wow. Yeah. That's a great, I mean, I, that's a great way of putting it. Um, couple of things that came up.

• 41:50Shaan Puri?

  The first is, you know, if you haven't listened already, go listen to his podcast where he announced it. I mean, I listened to that. I probably listened to that two or three times. I listened the first time myself. I listened the second time when my mom was in the car because I wanted her to hear, because I just thought his entire attitude towards the situation, towards what is, you know, a very devastating sort of piece of news is you have every right to be sad. You have every right to be bad. You have every right to feel, you know, any of the feelings you want to feel. And he kind of had such a different perspective. It made me think a couple of things. The first was, man, um,

• 42:29Shaan Puri?

  you know, I haven't been a religious person in my life. And I think it's because the way my, you know, just my logical brain is sort of like, well, I don't know, there's no evidence, you know, like, it's like, literally, like, the definition of like, faith is kind of like believing without evidence. And I've always respected religion, but I've never felt it. But when I saw his response, and the way he was like, you know, I'm excited to meet my maker. And if, you know, if God's calling me, then that's, you know, the way it was serving him. I was like, wow, this is the, this is the, these are the rewards for living with like so strong faith is that even when the worst news hits, even when,

• 43:14Shaan Puri?

  and when anybody else would feel, you know, sorry for themselves, um, you know, he, he took it very, very differently. And it was like such a foundational thing for him. So

• 43:23Sam Parr?

  He said excited. He told me, and I think he said in the podcast, he goes, I'm, he goes, I can be excited about this. And I thought that was like, so good.

• 43:32Shaan Puri?

  Yeah, that's unbelievable. So I thought that was the first thing was like, really highlighted like the virtue and the value of like, being a person of faith and how like, you know, I've, in my own life, not, I've had the luxury of not having to have that. Because life goes pretty well without it for me, right? Like, without having to to have faith in in certain things. So I thought that was, that really stood out. The second was, I think you nailed it. The difference, you know, his podcast is about Napoleon and Caesar and these complicated men who achieve, who conquered, I think, you know, it's how to take over the world. It's about conquerors. It's about the world shapers. And there's a big difference between achieving greatness and being great. What Ben is doing right now is greatness, but it's being great, not achieving something. And I think there's

• 44:17Shaan Puri?

  a huge difference. And I think for myself and most people, we don't really split those out. And it's very easy to set goals. And, you know, I remember being young and be like, I want to be Forbes 30 under 30. This was before it became like, you know, the FBI watch list. But I remember thinking like, that would be a great achievement. I want to have a million dollars in my bank. I want to have this. I want to have that when I was 19, 20 years old. And it's like, it was all about achieving. And the two people we've talked about, Ramon and Ben, they are great examples of being great, living day to day in a great way. He's really showing his greatness, you know, in the hardest time, which is when, when it, when it, when it matters, when it counts, when it's real. And then, yeah, like, you know, I just hope that there's something, you know, in the, maybe

• 45:02Shaan Puri?

  the age of AI, maybe there's some, some way that, you know, with the best doctors, with the tech, with the belief, with everything that, um, you know, he does all right.

• 45:11Sam Parr?

  Yeah. And he's, he's, he's, um, he, um, he, like, the Brian Johnsons and Andrew Huberman's of the world, like, they like opened up the Rolodex and they put them in touch with all these people. And he's doing all this, like, the traditional stuff and some experimental stuff. And yesterday, he was like, I feel really good. I feel better than I have in a long time. Yeah. So, um, uh, it's looking good. But I, the reason why I wanted to bring this up on my first million, because I don't think we say this, this explicitly enough, but we have said it before, which is, we talk about like, being rich here. And we try to say a rich life. And we try hard to like, let people know that this isn't just about money. It's just that it's about defining what life is worth living and how it, how

• 45:56Sam Parr?

  it can be rich for you. And I just want to reiterate that, like, the million in my first million doesn't necessarily mean dollars, but it means like, the first like, unit of richness that you can have in your life. And so, that's sort of my public service announcement, but also like some of the things that I've learned in talking with him.

• 46:16Shaan Puri?

  Well, I'm glad you shared that. Ben, we're rooting for you, man. Yeah. He's part of the, he's part of the MFM family. He was, he was our producer for what, like a year or two, something like that? Yeah. He had his podcast and we met, we met through, you had, you've put me on to his podcast. You were like, dude, I've been listening to this thing. It's amazing. Then I remember going to the airport, and I was listening to his Edison episode. And it's a three parter. And I drove to the airport, listened to part one, drove back, listened to part two. And then I just went for an extra drive to listen to part three. And I was like, wow, this is amazing. And I called him and I was like, dude, who are you? What's your story? And then we brought him in. He became our producer, which helped him pay the bills while he was getting his podcast kind of like more and

• 47:00Shaan Puri?

  more off the ground. And it was time for him to kind of like focus on his pod. We wished him well. And, you know, still wishing him well. So Ben, get, get well, man. We, we're all rooting for you.

• 47:08Sam Parr?

  Yes. It was a very, I hope, listener, I hope you don't take this as sad. And I'm sure Ben's going to hear this, but it was, I, I, I want to leave on a, on a, on a inspirational note, not, not sadness. So I hope you guys dug it. And we'll end there. That's it. That's the pod.

• 47:35Shaan Puri?

  All right, let's take a quick break. I want to tell you about Marketing School. It is a podcast that is part of the HubSpot Podcast Network, and it is run by Neil Patel and Eric Su. And these guys are both marketers who are running businesses. And so if you want real world tactics from practitioners who are actually out there in the field doing it, this is the podcast for you. Check it out wherever you get your podcasts.