There are 2 Ways to Get to the Top.

In this episode of the GaryVee Audio Experience, I sit down to discuss my true life’s mission: helping the world dream bigger by building real self-esteem. I dive into the two distinct ways people reach the top and why only one leads to long-term fulfillment. I also share my personal aspirations for my family and how I hope to help them—and you—find a sense of "lightness" and balance in a materialistic world. You’ll learn about:The difference between insecurity-driven and love-driven successHow to build real self-esteem vs. entitlementMy childhood dream of buying the New York JetsWhy self-awareness is the key to eradicating hate and envyPractical ways to find "lightness" and reduce anxiety

• 0:00Speaker 00

  There's two ways to get to the top. One is extreme insecurity. And then there's a smaller group of people that get to the top on a pure form of confidence, driven by love, driven by patience. And those not only get to the top, they get to stay there.

• 0:18Speaker 01

  This is the Gary Vee Audio Experience.

• 0:23Speaker 02

  Okay, bro, so I'm on a life mission called 10,000 Dreams. And I'm filming 10,000 people saying what their dreams in life is. I've done it for 10 years, and I've filmed 2,500 people. And this is my life mission, bro. I want to help the planet dream.

• 0:36Speaker 00

  I love that.

• 0:37Speaker 02

  Take me all over the world. So I'm gonna ask you, Gary.

• 0:40Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 0:41Speaker 02

  What's your dream?

• 0:43Speaker 00

  My dream is that people can build real self-esteem and real self-awareness, which I think would eradicate darkness and negativity and hate in the world. That when you're good and you know yourself, you struggle to have energy to hurt others. That you realize that building your building does not require you tearing down everyone else's building. And you start to struggle to deploy envy and jealousy. And instead, you deploy gratitude and humility and the ability to cheer for others. I don't think people understand that there's two ways to get to the top.

• 1:27Speaker 00

  One is extreme insecurity. It's a driver, right? You just want to prove it to your mom or your daddy or the girl or guy that didn't like you or whatever happened in your life. And it's this, it's an incredible fuel to get you to the top. The problem that most people don't know, especially when they're youngsters, is to sustain being at the top when you got there from insecurity is almost impossible.

• 1:53Speaker 00

  And then there's a smaller group of people that get to the top on a pure form of confidence, driven by love, driven by patience. And those not only get to the top, they get to stay there. And they get to deploy more value to help others get to the top. So, what is my dream? My dream is that modern parenting gets readjusted to find a really great equilibrium that allows for real self-esteem, not entitlement, for real patience, not now, now, now, for a simple world that is less driven by materialism, followers, bank accounts, views.

• 2:36Speaker 00

  All which are wonderful if you have them calibrated. Ultimately, my dream is balance.

• 2:42Speaker 02

  Dude, that's rad, man.

• 2:44Speaker 00

  Thank you, man.

• 2:45Speaker 02

  What was your dream as a kid?

• 2:47Speaker 00

  To buy the New York Jets.

• 2:48Speaker 02

  That was the dream as a kid?

• 2:50Speaker 00

  Yeah, as a 4th or 5th grader. My first dream was to play for the New York Jets. Around 5th grade, I'm like, uh-oh. I don't think I have the vessel for that. But I thought I had the vessel for a different version. And, you know, that's my silly dream. My real dream is exactly what I told you. And I would tell you that, for the people that watch this, if they now go back and watch my 20 years of content through the lens of that, I think they'll understand what I've been putting out and why.

• 3:18Speaker 00

  And so, yeah, just, my dream is that everybody had what I was blessed with.

• 3:25Speaker 02

  That's amazing, man. And also, your dream as a father, bro, as a husband?

• 3:29Speaker 00

  Yeah, you know, obviously, if that's my dream for the world, it compounds dramatically for the people that I love the most. And so, you know, for my children, as a husband, as a brother, as a son, I just want that level of, you know, everything I just talked about. There's a level of peace that comes along with...

• 4:16Speaker 00

  Everything I just talked about and I wish less anxiety, less worry, less tough moments. I think life can be remarkably light.

• 4:30Speaker 00

  And I, you know, obviously when you have children, they're growing up so you're trying to figure out how to not create the baggage that later they're trying to dispose of. And then obviously for my parents or my siblings or my best friends, you know, for them to find their process, whether that's through exercise or meditation or therapy, like, how do they find ways to get lighter? How light can you get? Is my real dream for them.

• 5:00Speaker 02

  That's beautiful, man. Dude, thank you for chasing your dreams, bro.

• 5:03Speaker 00

  Thank you for having me.

• 5:03Speaker 02

  It's so inspirational, man.

• 5:04Speaker 00

  Thank you for having me. Hey everybody, if you enjoyed this podcast, please go back and look at the prior episodes. They're loaded. I appreciate your attention and thanks for being part of the show.

• 5:14Speaker 03

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• 5:29Speaker 00

  Journey. See you later.