Stop Waiting for Permission: Build the Life (and Business) You Want

In this episode of the GaryVee Audio Experience: the team mashed up the top 12 moments from Tea with GaryVee that are meant to inspire and motivate you to stop waiting for permission and to act on that business you've been waiting to start, that content you've always wanted to make, and that dream that you've always wanted to live out. I hope you enjoy this episode. Leave a comment on which moment was your favorite and what message stuck with you the most.

• 0:00Speaker 00

  Hey Gary Vee Audio Experience listeners. Do you have an idea that you're putting off because you're waiting for somebody else to tell you it's a good idea? Like starting a business, putting out your first piece of content, making a change you already know you want to be making? Well, in this episode, Gary shares inspirational and practical insights on what it takes to stop waiting for someone's permission and start bringing these ideas, these dreams to life, both personally and professionally. You'll hear him talk to everyday people about their ideas, their life, and you'll hear why confidence doesn't mean everything comes naturally, why someone else's success doesn't take away any from yours, and why getting people to care matters more than chasing a big number.

• 0:42Speaker 00

  This episode is just the right amount of Gary inspo and actual practical steps to bring those dreams to life. Enjoy.

• 0:49Speaker 01

  This is the Gary Vee Audio Experience.

• 0:54Speaker 01

  This concept of high-paying jobs are draining. I think that you can work very hard, very hard, from nine to six, for nine hours, very draining, very draining. But if you know that at seven o'clock, you're going to an audition, or you're going somewhere to make content to follow your dream, that from seven to midnight is your time to go after what you're doing. At lunchtime, instead of eating a fucking bologna sandwich, you're running to an audition, or you're emailing people for anything. If you're doing the thing you love, if you're chasing, that's gonna give you energy to be able to do the high-performing job.

• 1:37Speaker 01

  You are 23, you are ambitious, you are on Tea with Gary Vee right now, you've taken that, you're trying, you're putting yourself out there. I think you can do both.

• 1:51Speaker 01

  And the reason you could do both is when you're doing your dream, that becomes the fuel to allow you to grind the eight hours a day, nine hours a day on the high-performing job. You understand, right now, you don't think you can do it because your fucking juice isn't full.

• 2:12Speaker 01

  Because you're not actively attacking your dream, you're worrying about not disappointing your parents.

• 2:19Speaker 01

  You're worried about helping your parents because you love them and they've done right by you.

• 2:24Speaker 01

  But it's actually the reverse. You need to go after your dream and work the job and help your parents, and you'll be able to do both because the dream is gonna fucking feed you.

• 2:37Speaker 01

  Right now, you're not being fed, so you don't have enough energy, you're mixing it up. When you go first to the dream and know you're doing it, it will feed you, you can do both, you can do both easy. Your interest in dwelling about yesterday is stopping you from attacking today, which is keeping you away from being happy tomorrow.

• 3:05Speaker 01

  Yeah, that was good.

• 3:06Speaker 02

  Yeah, that was really good.

• 3:07Speaker 01

  Thank you, brother. Yeah, I like that one too. I need to clip that clip. Brother, please do me a favor that we had this serendipitous moment together. You can't look backwards, man. I promise you, for all 1,400 of you in here, Ella J., Michael G., Michael V., Karen, but not a Karen, Christina, Jack, Koozie, Patricia, Ron the Nomad, listen to all of me. Please, all of you, listen to me. Please, listen to me. The greatest cancer, the greatest pandemic, the greatest illness, the greatest issue, the greatest darkness

• 3:48Speaker 01

  that most of you are facing is your infatuation with yesterday that you have no control about. Brother, you're good. In three years, you'll be 42. To your point, I would be ecstatic to be 42.

• 4:02Speaker 02

  Sure.

• 4:03Speaker 01

  I turn 50 in eight days.

• 4:06Speaker 02

  Happy early birth.

• 4:07Speaker 01

  Thank you, brother. I'd be pumped to be 39. I'd be ecstatic to be 39.

• 4:14Speaker 01

  I'd punch my PP to be 39.

• 4:19Speaker 01

  And you're crying about being 39.

• 4:22Speaker 02

  Well.

• 4:24Speaker 01

  Right?

• 4:26Speaker 02

  I'm not sure I'm crying, but yeah, I understand your point.

• 4:29Speaker 01

  I think you're crying because you're not doing, and you know the answer to what to do. There's, you know, like, you're either insecure, or you're dwelling about missed opportunities, or different circumstances, or the worst two words to start a sentence, "I wish."

• 4:46Speaker 02

  I doubt.

• 4:47Speaker 01

  Do you know the only place where I'm unhappy in my life? Do you know where that is?

• 4:50Speaker 02

  Probably on vacation.

• 4:52Speaker 01

  Nope. I love vacation, by the way. It's actually being a Jets fan. And it is the only time I say "I wish." I wish we didn't trade Sauce Gardner. I wish we took Tom Brady. I wish we took Mahomes over Jamal Adams. I wish I grew up in Boston. I wish, and I'm miserable, and it's the only place I say "I wish." Nowhere else am I upset. Yee-haw! I'm happy 24/7, and I never say "I wish." You cannot say "I wish."

• 5:29Speaker 01

  Brother, work a job, come home, cook and film it, post it, have in your bio the stand store thing with, you know, one-hour consultation, put your email and then say, "If you want me to cook for you in Vegas, I do private dinners." And you will be dumbfounded that one of those posts will lead to your first cooking session for a thousand bucks for some wealthy family in Vegas. You will cook, it will work, hopefully, it will create word of mouth, and you will find yourself making a thousand dollars a night in Henderson and on the strip cooking because you have a personal brand on social as a cook.

• 6:11Speaker 01

  And that happened because you worked hard at 7:00 PM to midnight for a year or two to create the world you wanted for you and your family. That will happen if you listen to me.

• 6:24Speaker 02

  Understood.

• 6:25Speaker 01

  That's it, brother. But here's the sad part for most people in the chat, and the coolest part for me and the other winners in the chat. It's ridiculously hard work for the next 36 months. Paul Garza, what's good? Where are you from? What's your question?

• 6:38Speaker 03

  I am from West Texas, Odessa, Texas. So I'm 34 years old. I actually just recently started a garage clean-out business. We go and clean people's garages out, and then we buy the stuff they don't want, and we're trying to resell.

• 6:53Speaker 01

  I love this, fuck it. Bro, Paul, I swear on my children's health, I wish I was running this business. That is like my, you just literally described my dream life. Go and eat shit and clean shit, and I'm not scared of anything. I'll walk in, dead rodent, I'll pick that shit up with my hands and not wash my hands for a week. I'm not scared of shit, Court.

• 7:15Speaker 01

  I don't give a fuck. I don't give a fuck if it's unsanitary. And? And what, Court?

• 7:24Speaker 01

  I will let him talk. Let me just finish my excitement. And then to find, like, if I fucking clean out some dirty, dirty fucking garage, and then on top of it, I find some He-Man figures in the corner, oh shit. All right, go ahead, Paul.

• 7:38Speaker 03

  No, so we're working through some bottlenecks of trying to get stuff sold out. We're trying whatnot. We're doing Facebook Marketplace. It's going, it's slow. Where I, I'm in an interesting place right now is I also have a full-time job.

• 7:52Speaker 01

  I see.

• 7:52Speaker 03

  I'm a marketing director, so I work, you know, eight in the morning, I'm six in the morning, really, if you count taking my kids to work or to school, and then it's five to whenever to try and get stuff sold, and then we're mostly cleaning stuff on in the weekends right now.

• 8:06Speaker 01

  Makes sense.

• 8:06Speaker 03

  So I think it's a process of going through and trying to build that out. I think the biggest thing, the question I have is that, at what point or what kind of indicators do you look for for like, yes, this works, this is gonna be something that I can do full-time?

• 8:20Speaker 01

  Makes sense. You're asking the right question. Watch this. Have you, Paul, have you heard about the concept of common sense?

• 8:29Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 8:30Speaker 01

  Good. Let's play common sense game.

• 8:32Speaker 03

  I'm ready.

• 8:32Speaker 01

  Can I get some music for the common sense game? This could be an ongoing thing. I'm like, it's like, we gotta make a little thing, like, maybe make an AI song with me where I'm like rapping like comments, like, I think it's like, "Time for the common sense." It's like, praise is right, "Common sense game, common sense game, uh, common sense game, uh, common sense game." All right, good. It's time for the common sense game with Paul from West Texas. All right, Paul. Question number one in the common sense game.

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  Have you been able to get customers?

• 9:03Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 9:04Speaker 01

  How much are they paying you to clean a garage?

• 9:07Speaker 03

  Uh, $699.

• 9:08Speaker 01

  $699?

• 9:11Speaker 03

  Yes, sir.

• 9:11Speaker 01

  You need to quit your fucking job. Are you out of your fucking mind? What? $699? I would do it for $69, and that wasn't a high school joke.

• 9:26Speaker 01

  Paul, you're getting paid-

• 9:28Speaker 03

  700, yes sir.

• 9:30Speaker 01

  What?

• 9:31Speaker 03

  Yep.

• 9:32Speaker 01

  And how many, I mean, let's go to the next question even though the game's over. How many, how many garages have you cleaned?

• 9:39Speaker 03

  Uh, we've done 16 so far. We're only about a month in.

• 9:42Speaker 01

  Paul, you're an asshole.

• 9:46Speaker 01

  Paul, you're a fucking asshole.

• 9:50Speaker 01

  You have an enormous business. Do you know how many fucking people in West Texas would clean garages for $3 an hour under the table? You just need to build the infrastructure. Let's go.

• 10:01Speaker 01

  How'd you get to 16?

• 10:04Speaker 03

  Facebook.

• 10:05Speaker 01

  Bro, because you know how to do the marketing, you know I'm right about this Facebook local ads thing. You know I'm right. And you also know that people are lazy or incapable or prefer like me. I'm not lazy, but I'd rather pay for something I don't want to do. I'll happily pay 700, but I'm rich as fuck. I have no idea why people are paying 700. $699, Paul?

• 10:27Speaker 03

  Yeah, yeah.

• 10:28Speaker 01

  All right, Paul, wait, wait, wait. Paul, wait.

• 10:31Speaker 03

  Go ahead.

• 10:32Speaker 01

  Here's the best part. Question three in the common sense, play the music. The common sense game. Common sense game. The common sense game. All right, back at, Paul. Question number three in the common sense game. Have you found any expensive worthwhile stuff in any of these 16 garages?

• 10:49Speaker 03

  Uh, we've found a furniture. I found some $600 baseball gloves. I mean, yeah, there's some good stuff.

• 10:55Speaker 01

  Paul, you have a straight fucking, Paul. I hate you. I hate you. I also broke these, but that's good because these are broken anyway. Paul, I hate you. Bro, what are you talking about? Quit your fucking job now.

• 11:13Speaker 03

  I, I think it's just, it's the, it's the security that scares me because I've got, I've got three kids.

• 11:18Speaker 01

  Paul, you can get another job if this fails. You're doing this for like three hours dominating.

• 11:26Speaker 01

  You'd be able to sell the shit on whatnot eBay, Facebook Marketplace if you had time. You don't have fucking time.

• 11:32Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 11:33Speaker 01

  $700?

• 11:38Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 11:39Speaker 01

  Is the wife hearing this?

• 11:41Speaker 03

  No, she's not here. Uh, I'm, I'm sure she'll love to watch this later.

• 11:47Speaker 01

  Is anyone hearing this?

• 11:49Speaker 03

  Yeah, I've got, I've got my coworkers here at the, the job I'm talking about, Leif.

• 11:53Speaker 01

  They should quit too, Paul.

• 11:58Speaker 01

  I mean, this is-

• 11:59Speaker 03

  They should quit too.

• 12:04Speaker 01

  Paul, if you quit and it fails, you can get another job being a marketing executive. Everybody's gonna have jobs. Don't let this AI thing scare you. You, like, I could even just tell by your temperament, like, just talking to you for five minutes. By the way, this is how I hire people. Just five minutes, I can tell that you can get an, by the way, I'm gonna make a prediction. If your garage thing fails and you have to go back in the market and, and you're like there, you're, it's that night, right? You're laying in bed and you're like,

• 12:35Speaker 01

  play the music, like this is playing, right? You're thinking about this moment. All right, turn it off. And you're laying there and you're hearing the music and you go, man, fuck Gary Vee, right? If that's the moment you're in, right?

• 12:49Speaker 03

  Sure.

• 12:49Speaker 01

  Let me tell you what's gonna happen the next day. You're gonna get a job that pays you more than what you're getting paid now.

• 12:57Speaker 03

  Yep, yep. I'm, it's just, it's fear. You're a hundred percent right.

• 13:02Speaker 01

  You've sold, uh, would, did you see my fucking face? $699?

• 13:11Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 13:12Speaker 01

  In West Texas?

• 13:14Speaker 03

  Yeah, yeah. We got, we got oil money.

• 13:16Speaker 01

  I know you do. That's fair, but still, man. That's Manhattan prices.

• 13:26Speaker 03

  Damn it. I was afraid you were gonna say all that, uh, but I think I knew it was coming.

• 13:31Speaker 01

  Everybody, uh, I hope you're enjoying the podcast right now. Make sure you follow the podcast. That's why I'm interrupting. Let's keep going on this show, but follow the podcast. It'll make my mom super happy.

• 13:41Speaker 04

  What would you recommend to somebody who is passionate about being a business owner, but also has a chronic illness that makes them bedridden for one to sometimes two weeks per month?

• 13:49Speaker 01

  Give themselves grace.

• 13:55Speaker 01

  I, I admire them so much. Like, don't beat yourself up. You have a chronic illness. You know, I'll, I really want to talk about grace this morning. And the graceful goldfish, one of the underrated V friends, and I can't wait to develop that character. I don't know if there's any graceful, uh, goldfish collectors in here. I want, I want, that was a woman. What was her name again? Kayla. Kayla, I want you to give yourself grace, Kayla. Like, you have a chronic illness. You didn't control that. That was God's plan. And I think that you should give yourself grace. You can't hustle 18 hours a day, 365 days a year. You just can't. I want people who lost a loved one, like a parent, someone they really love. God forbid a child or a spouse.

• 14:41Speaker 01

  If you're struggling right now and you're watching, I want you to give yourself grace. Of course you can't go grind. If that happened to me, I'm not fucking building V friends the next day. I'm, I'm, I'm dwelling. I'm mourning. Please give yourself grace to mourn. Right? If, if you're starting your journey to building yourself back up and you've realized that you were suppressing very deep angers or upsetness towards a parent or an inappropriate uncle or an illness that your mother had with alcohol, like, give yourself a little grace. Now, don't dwell in it. Don't dwell in it and lay in it forever, but give yourself some grace, everyone.

• 15:26Speaker 01

  Like, you can't go hard if you don't have fuel.

• 15:31Speaker 01

  People ask me, like, you know, yesterday it was like, what drugs Gary Vee on? Gratitude, fuckface. Happiness. Of course I can go hard 15 hours a day. I'm not weighed down.

• 15:47Speaker 01

  I really want you to give yourself grace. When I make mistakes, big mistakes, when I, Mr. Gratitude and Happy, like, wake up on a gloomy day, I'm like, eh. I'm not like, oh shit, I suck now.

• 16:00Speaker 01

  You don't suck. Someone said I suck earlier in here when I was saying who's struggling. I saw it in the chat. You do not suck.

• 16:07Speaker 05

  Yeah, I just, I wanna, I wanna be ahead of the game, you know, I-

• 16:11Speaker 01

  You are ahead of the game. If, Viv, if you're on fucking tea with Gary Vee, you're ahead of the fucking game.

• 16:17Speaker 05

  I know.

• 16:17Speaker 01

  I'm serious, though.

• 16:19Speaker 05

  I've watched so many of these and I'm like, I, I could have never imagined myself being here. So, I don't know.

• 16:25Speaker 01

  Honestly, you are, listen, the way to be ahead of the game is to be focused on happiness, not perceived societal success on money or clout or, or whatever else is running through your head. You wanna actually be, let, let me teach you something you'll never forget. You wanna be ahead of the game? Aim for fucking happiness.

• 16:47Speaker 05

  Yeah, I'm, I'm happy every day. Like, I, you know, I only do what makes me happy, but the thing is, a lot of things make me happy and I'm happy with a lot of things.

• 16:54Speaker 01

  Me too, me too.

• 16:56Speaker 05

  So-

• 16:56Speaker 01

  Basically, you're talking about me right now.

• 17:00Speaker 05

  Oh my gosh, you did not just compare yourself to me.

• 17:03Speaker 01

  Yes, I did.

• 17:05Speaker 05

  That's crazy, but, um-

• 17:06Speaker 01

  Listen to me, stay in that zone. That's good. Don't let people talk you out of that and saying you gotta focus on something or you gotta be practical or you gotta get real or you've gotta figure it out at a certain point because you're gonna be a senior. Like, it's crazy. You're a fucking child. I know 60 year olds that don't have a fucking idea about life.

• 17:26Speaker 05

  Yeah, but just, eh, well. I just feel like, but I just wanna make the most of all my time, you know?

• 17:35Speaker 01

  The, let me promise you the best way to make use of your time by not dwelling about making the most use of your time. By not overthinking, not, by not like debating, by not try, like, you know, like, that, the way to make most of your time is by doing shit.

• 17:50Speaker 05

  Yeah, so, like, I'm just a bad decision maker, though. I'm not, like, not a bad decision maker, but I just, I don't know how to choose between certain things and what I want for it.

• 18:00Speaker 01

  Flip a fucking coin.

• 18:03Speaker 01

  Viv, I'm serious. I'm serious. You like them all. You shouldn't be crippled by having lots of interests.

• 18:10Speaker 05

  Yeah. Yeah. All right. I'll try, Gary. I'll do it for you. I'll do it for you.

• 18:17Speaker 01

  Do it for me, Viv. All right, have a great day.

• 18:19Speaker 05

  I love you, man.

• 18:19Speaker 01

  I love you back. See ya.

• 18:20Speaker 03

  I got out of $30,000 of debt because I sold my house and I moved in with my in-laws for like four or five months. So that, like, four or five months was tough, but it, it set my whole future up so much better with like my side hustle business and everything like that. So, thank you so much for that.

• 18:38Speaker 01

  So, yo, so Brian, you literally heard me talk about that theory. It sat in your head and you decided to do it.

• 18:45Speaker 03

  I did, yeah. It sat in my head and I, I was like really playing with the fears of like, man, you know, the judgment.

• 18:51Speaker 01

  Judgment.

• 18:52Speaker 03

  I'm 38 years old and like I just got married too last year. So it's like the judgment, like, whatever you're gonna say.

• 18:59Speaker 01

  I'm so proud of you.

• 19:00Speaker 03

  Oh, thank you. Thank you so much. I appreciate you.

• 19:04Speaker 01

  You know how much courage it takes to do that move, but I'm so more proud of you because right now people can sense your happiness with it and so many people have to sell their home and move in with their in-laws. They have, and with their friends, they don't realize. It's, it's a huge coup. It's a huge coup if you can't afford your lifestyle to reset a little humility. And by the way, I have no idea how much you like or don't like your in-laws, but one of the things that people don't realize, and I've gotten some of these emails, going back in with their parents or their best friend or their in-laws or their, one guy went in with their high school coach. Also, those three, four, five, six months have been a lot of fun for a lot of people because they got closer to people that they like.

• 19:44Speaker 03

  Yeah, yeah, and that was a great time and in-laws are awesome. They had a pool, so it was during the summer. We got to swim a lot, so. Yeah, yeah, it was like a little, uh, vacation.

• 19:55Speaker 01

  How did your in-laws think about it? Were, were they practical and like, hey, Brian, that's really, like, did they view it as a, did they also see it as like, wow, good on you that you had the courage to do it? Did they judge?

• 20:06Speaker 03

  Yeah, super supportive, super supportive, then and judged. They enjoyed us being there. So we, we had a good time. And then it was just time, we live in an apartment now, so it was funny. And now we're waiting to possibly buy a house when this whole thing goes over. And yeah, it's just such a big, uh, a big relief off my shoulder. And I was just able to focus, you know, more on-

• 20:26Speaker 01

  Just my brand and what I want to do. Do you trust people?

• 20:29Speaker 05

  Not always.

• 20:31Speaker 01

  Yeah, that's why I'm enjoying this right now. I'm really excited about this, brother. I'm really happy you and I are together. Notice how that like that was a maybe for some people watching right now in my team. That was like a left field question, but notice how I went there and how good this feels for me right now. And I would have bet all of it on you answering that way.

• 20:52Speaker 01

  I'm very fortunate. I have two very opposite parents. One of them trusts everyone until they give them a reason not to. And usually it takes her a lot of reasons for her to lose that trust. I was fortunate enough to get that DNA and also be fundamentally parented by that person. The other parent trusts no one. And even when someone gives them years of good reason to fully trust, he is not capable of trusting them and is always waiting for the other shoe to fall and is actually searching, almost often manifesting and creating some weird, non-truthful justification to lose the trust.

• 21:37Speaker 05

  Yeah.

• 21:38Speaker 01

  I would tell you that this is the path I want you to look through because you are doing a lot of great things in the first part of how we address the issue that we're talking about. It's the second part that's actually the punchline of the conversation you and I are having. Your DNA and your circumstances of growing up and your, the things that happened in life have put you in a place where it's a little harder to trust. And that is leaning and leading to why we're in this predicament. And I will tell you, if this is any solace and you're going to have to go on your journey, and I'd love for you to hang out more with us and good news, you're catching me at a great time in my career.

• 22:20Speaker 01

  Starting in October, I'm going to be doing Tea with Gary Vee and a night version of this. I'm actually contemplating cutting out alcohol permanently. So the winding down with Gary Vee thing's a little tough, though I might do a non-alcoholic wine deal, brand deal. That could be a whole thing in itself. I might start a brand again. Anyway, nonetheless, I'd really like you to hang out a little bit with us, brother. Because let me say one thing about this crew. There's a lot of people in here that I've gotten to know over the last four or five years that are incredibly worthy of your trust. And I already feel like I have a good sense that they quote unquote, won't let you down. And like anything in life, it becomes practice. Once you get three to four relationships where you get sustained two years,

• 23:01Speaker 01

  where you, it maybe was uncomfortable to trust, but they've done nothing to break that trust. And you're starting to get more and you're starting to get more comfortable. You'll then become stronger in being able to open up and trust. And then you'll become so strong that even when someone does fuck you up, right? And breaks your trust, it won't be a devastating knockout blow. It will just be a tough punch and you'll like wipe the blood off and move forward. That's what we need to build up.

• 23:28Speaker 05

  Yeah, absolutely, absolutely. And that makes total sense. I think you're spot on in terms of your analysis where I do have trust issues from, you know, trauma in the past. And everyone does.

• 23:37Speaker 01

  And by the way, it's good news, brother. It's incredibly valid. It's appropriate because there's, me not having trust issues and you having trust issues does not make me better or more capable or more awesome. It's literally circumstantial. The fact that you have the strength to go on here publicly, talk about this, put yourself out means you're, brother, you're 90% of the way there. People that are able to do what you're doing right now, which is incredibly rare when they're feeling it. Most people that are in the exact predicament you're in are deflecting, blaming, and definitely not putting it out there. Right? And so I'm incredibly proud of you. I'm very, I admire it quite a bit, to be honest. I'm glad I went with my intuition and kept this call

• 24:20Speaker 01

  because I think not only are you starting to help yourself, I genuinely believe in the thousands of people that are watching right now. Like literally, there's somebody who's literally you right now and whatnot, who's literally benefited from these seven to 10 minutes and are on their way. And man, I think it's a, I think you can do this, man. I've watched people, I've watched some people not be able to get there. Ones that I love deeply and I wish they could get further. But I've seen some of those people, including my father, get much further along. And I've watched people who actually. It's time, brothers, yes.

• 24:52Speaker 05

  And getting into the groove of meeting people and then finding that they are supportive and then finding that you can trust.

• 25:00Speaker 01

  And let me, and let me take it, let me take you to step three.

• 25:03Speaker 05

  Yeah.

• 25:04Speaker 01

  Once you realize that no one's better than you and that no human should be put on a pedestal, even the ones you most admire.

• 25:13Speaker 01

  Then it really gets going. The reason no one disappoints me is that I don't put anyone above me.

• 25:21Speaker 01

  We are only disappointed by ones that we put above ourselves.

• 25:25Speaker 05

  Yeah.

• 25:28Speaker 05

  Yeah, I mean, and that's, that's, you know, a life of service. You know, you put people in front of yourself.

• 25:34Speaker 01

  By the way, by the way, I'm obsessed with life of service. I would argue that I give more than I take to everybody I ever meet. That has nothing to do with my ability to not put their subjective opinions about me at a higher pedestal than the subjective opinions I have about my own self.

• 25:52Speaker 05

  Correct, correct, absolutely, absolutely. No, appreciate this conversation, Gary. I thank you for all your advice and support as always.

• 25:59Speaker 01

  And I'm like playing Blockland Minecraft when I'm nine years old and they're outside playing football still. And it's just like, I mean, I just knew it was my thing. I just didn't know it was okay to say it yet, you know? Brother, I promise you, it's, it's, it's more than okay. It's required. I know that. My man, my man, you, you know, you're tasting success. You know, you're tasting happiness. It sounds like you've dealt with a lot of adversity in the past. And so this new lane isn't computers. This new lane is happiness and prosperity. That's what it feels like too. And that's the best part. I mean, it's really. But it also potentially could be a scary part, right? Because you're not as used to it. It's definitely heart racing, for sure.

• 26:41Speaker 01

  Bro, let, let, work on yourself, whether it's therapy, exercise, listening to more positivity. You're on the cusp of a substantially great change in your life. I am so proud of you and so happy. Thank you, Gary. Thank you so much, man. This is, I've been a fan for years. This is awesome. It's really awesome for, bro, it's really awesome for me too, because you're, I'm not only happy for you, but this piece of content is going to help a lot of people because there's a lot of kids sitting in your seat right now, my guy. Can I, I know there are, the market for CRT gaming, for Game Cubes and Melee. Bro, I don't mean fucking CRT gaming and fucking Game Cubes. I mean fucking being in a porn, no, bro, I know that's big.

• 27:24Speaker 01

  I've been buying that shit and selling it on eBay since you were fucking born. I'm talking about kids that are fucking finally ready to actually be happy by not being insecure about what makes them happy. That's the lane I'm talking about, not fucking Game Cube. Sorry, sorry. No, I'm joking, I'm joking, I'm joking. I want to show you real quick, this is my best friend, Jacob Humphries. He, he's one of my friends who passed away. Big counter strike guy and my mom, Tina, so rest in peace to them. Rest in peace to both of them, brother. They encouraged me to start a business of some kind. They didn't know what it was yet either. It was up to me to figure that out. So I'm doing it for them, honestly, but. Brother, do it for you. And then if you do it for you, you'll be doing it for them.

• 28:09Speaker 01

  I need you to hear me on this. Do it for you. Make yourself happy. And then I promise you, moms and best friends are going to be smiling like crazy up there for you. Do you understand?

• 28:23Speaker 05

  A hundred percent.

• 28:24Speaker 01

  The way you become selfless in life is by becoming selfish about your own happiness. No one is strong enough to help others if they're not good.

• 28:36Speaker 05

  A hundred percent.

• 28:38Speaker 01

  Nobody can fucking help if they're not in a good place. Do you understand? Most people use the cover up of I'm going to help others as a disguise to them not being good. Few unfortunately are helping from a place of strength. We need to get to a place of strength where you're good. This brings you joy. This is your fucking lane. This is what you need to do, bro. This is your life. So in the process of me getting back to, you know, where, where I'm at now,

• 29:11Speaker 01

  I've had to, I had to write down a lot of what, you know, of some of my baggage and clear it up a little bit. And, you know, through some of the resentment and really process it to be able to let it go. A hundred percent. A big thing was a list of fears. Yeah. And I realized that, you know, getting completely honest with myself, that the, that one of my fears was not only the fear of failure, but the fear of success.

• 29:41Speaker 01

  For, for years, I've set the bar extremely low. So any expectation of anybody else was just lost on me because, hey, we know we can't do it, so why even expect anything out of them? That way, there was no letdown. I was already let down. You know what I'm saying? So now that I know, so now that I know that, you know, I can get good grades and I can get straight A's and like, you know, I just, you know, got a job that I, you know, I've been working towards. And, you know, it's my first job out of drug addiction after a decade is makes more than what my mom's made. And my mom's been.

• 30:16Speaker 02

  Her job for thirty plus years. And so it's like, man, I have, I have the real opportunity to fuck this up. You know, like, what if, what if I'm not competent? What if, what if I go in there and straight A's don't mean shit to practical applications?

• 30:32Speaker 01

  Can I give you the answer?

• 30:33Speaker 02

  Sure. Absolutely.

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• 31:03Speaker 01

  What, what you're going down the path of is where you've been. And this is why we got to fight it. What would happen? Then you weren't a good fucking mechanic and you move on.

• 31:15Speaker 02

  Eighteen hundred hours towards being a not.

• 31:17Speaker 01

  Who gives a fuck? Who, eighteen hundred hours ain't shit.

• 31:22Speaker 02

  Right?

• 31:23Speaker 01

  Who, who gets to judge you? You're worried about judgment, bro.

• 31:30Speaker 02

  Absolutely.

• 31:31Speaker 01

  Like eighteen hundred hours, I don't get like, um, you, people spend eighteen hundred hours watching Netflix during Corona. Eighteen hundred hours ain't shit. And number two, what? Somebody's be like, oh, I know what you're worried about. They're like, see, fucking knew it. You had a fucking good, he was good for eighteen months, but he's a once a loser, always a loser. You're worried about other people's opinions.

• 31:52Speaker 02

  Absolutely.

• 31:53Speaker 01

  Fuck them, bro.

• 31:55Speaker 02

  I know.

• 31:56Speaker 01

  No, no, I really, no, no, this isn't one of those, I'm like, you know, like, let's, let's play for a second here. Like, what? Like, what? Like, you, you're gonna have to, you have to understand rewiring. I mean, you, let me rephrase. You understand better than ninety nine percent of the people here. You've spent the last four years rewiring.

• 32:16Speaker 01

  Like, I, I admire you so much.

• 32:20Speaker 02

  Thank you.

• 32:20Speaker 01

  Do you know how hard it is to do, be in drug addiction for a decade and actually get out? Most don't.

• 32:26Speaker 02

  Right.

• 32:27Speaker 01

  There is nothing you'll ever accomplish professionally that I'll admire more than your ability to get out.

• 32:34Speaker 02

  Means a lot.

• 32:35Speaker 01

  You already won. I actually mean it too, bro. I don't like throwing admiration around. I'm a little bit weird that way, like, you know?

• 32:41Speaker 02

  Right, no, I get that.

• 32:42Speaker 01

  I admire you, man. You already won. Who gives a fuck if you're a shitty mechanic? Seriously? Then you'll fucking sell hats, I don't know.

• 32:52Speaker 02

  Right.

• 32:52Speaker 01

  Like, it's time that you fucking stop worrying about other people's opinions. I'm feeling very, very scared that I'm gonna quit my high paying job and start everything from scratch with uh, being very unsure about my income potential. I have some money accumulated, which I have considered as my freeway for the next six months or one year to survive while I'm not earning. I can't motivate you out of your fear consistently. I can make you feel better for the next hour. But I'm gonna give you information that might make you feel better forever. I have no idea if you're gonna pull this off or not. But I'm so happy for you because high paying jobs for someone like you are always gonna be there.

• 33:36Speaker 01

  Even if you were meant to win, maybe the global economy melts, right? Anything can happen. This is business. This is life. But you've already won, brother. Here's why. The amount of people that are sixty seven year old you, who wanted to try and did not. And every day it eats at them, every day. You will never have that. You may lose your savings, but you're a fucking kid. You're gonna make more savings again. And there's nothing embarrassing about not being an entrepreneur. There's nothing wrong with being a great team player in a corporation or company. It'd be nice for you to pick a company you enjoy being in. You enjoy the people you're around, that's important. That's a, that's a real quality of life issue.

• 34:19Speaker 01

  But you'll never, ever, ever wonder if you could have. And it's gonna be a tremendous experience and I'm proud of you and I'm happy for you. Do you know what people are doing on this show and with me for the last decade and what's happening overall in real life? People are asking me for permission. They're not asking me questions. They're asking for permission. They're looking for my validation. They're looking for a, a push. You can wrap up my entire being on the internet to say, choose self-esteem versus insecurity. Therapy, exercise, motivational content, the people you hang out with. Whatever it takes for you to become more confident.

• 35:03Speaker 01

  And confidence comes from your capacity to not care about other humans' judgment. And I remind you that every other human is flawed and has shortcomings too. And so you're allowed to fail. And if they make fun of you, that means they suck. Everybody, if you enjoyed this podcast, please go back and look at the prior episodes. They're loaded. I appreciate your attention and uh, thanks for being part of this. When an intruder approaches a home, they expect a camera. What they don't expect. Stop, this is simply safe. Police are on the way. Using smart AI cameras, live US-based agents help deter intruders in under thirty seconds. Don't just record a break in, stop it from ever happening. Plan starting around a dollar a day.

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