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• 0:01Speaker 00

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• 0:45Caleb Hammer?

  To watch episodes of Financial Audit a week earlier, check us out on YouTube. This house has hole in the walls, stab wounds and abuse every other week.

• 0:52Speaker 03

  He knew what the [bleep] he was getting into when he

• 0:54Caleb Hammer?

  No, the [bleep]. Getting stabbed?

• 0:55Speaker 04

  I did not.

• 0:55Speaker 03

  He met me two weeks after I got out of the, no. We first hung out after I got out of the psych ward. Yes, I got out of the psych ward and he asked me

• 1:03Speaker 04

  Disclaimer that I had to sign.

• 1:05Caleb Hammer?

  She's tearing apart your car.

• 1:06Speaker 04

  Tears it all, yeah, she destroys stuff.

• 1:12Caleb Hammer?

  This is literal, actual domestic [bleep] that you're in.

• 1:15Speaker 03

  He said he regrets meeting me.

• 1:17Speaker 04

  I regret, I do. I mean, after all this shit, her cheating on me first, her stabbing me.

• 1:22Caleb Hammer?

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• 2:01Caleb Hammer?

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• 2:22Speaker 03

  Hi, I'm Mercedes. I'm 19 years old.

• 2:25Speaker 04

  Hello, my name is Jay. I'm 20 years old and we are from Lexington, Kentucky.

• 2:29Speaker 03

  And this is Financial Audit.

• 2:32Caleb Hammer?

  Thanks for coming down to Austin, guys. I really thought Jay would be younger. Bro, looks like, you look 20, maybe younger. You look

• 2:43Caleb Hammer?

  like 32 or something.

• 2:45Speaker 03

  You're [bleep] kidding.

• 2:47Caleb Hammer?

  I'm unfortunately not. Mercedes, what do you do for a living in Lexington at 19? I wouldn't expect very much, I'll be honest.

• 2:54Speaker 03

  Well, I'm a stay-at-home mother.

• 2:56Caleb Hammer?

  You guys have kids already? I mean

• 2:58Speaker 04

  Yeah, one.

• 2:59Caleb Hammer?

  I mean, before, I guess back in the, back in the day, that would have been more normal. It's a little less common for sure today. Fuck, how old's the kid?

• 3:07Speaker 03

  Nine months.

• 3:08Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, this is new. This is fresh. Are you guys married?

• 3:11Speaker 04

  We are.

• 3:12Caleb Hammer?

  Geez, how long have you guys been married? Unfortunately, great. Yeah, that's what I want to hear, parents of nine months old. That's, that's wonderful. That's fantastic.

• 3:19Speaker 04

  We definitely got some problems.

• 3:21Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, I mean, that's why you're here. What is, uh, how long have you guys been married?

• 3:29Speaker 03

  Not even a year.

• 3:30Speaker 04

  Yeah, not even a year.

• 3:30Caleb Hammer?

  Immediately got into the kid? Was that the intent?

• 3:33Speaker 03

  The kid was before the marriage.

• 3:34Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 3:35Caleb Hammer?

  Nine months old, that doesn't make any sense. Oh, it was born nine months ago. Okay, so you got knocked up, which means you had to get married? Is that what you thought?

• 3:41Speaker 04

  I mean, her family definitely pressured me into it and so did she.

• 3:45Caleb Hammer?

  Her family?

• 3:45Speaker 04

  Yes, yes, her family's religious.

• 3:47Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, but you already got the baby in.

• 3:50Speaker 04

  Yeah, so they didn't want us

• 3:51Caleb Hammer?

  Changes that.

• 3:52Speaker 04

  Well, I guess she kind of thought that the marriage would fix our relationship.

• 3:57Caleb Hammer?

  How is, how the, how would that fix? How would a piece of paper being signed fix a relationship?

• 4:04Speaker 03

  Young, dumb, broke.

• 4:05Caleb Hammer?

  You're 19, you're broke, you're on Financial Audit.

• 4:08Speaker 03

  Exactly.

• 4:08Caleb Hammer?

  And trust me, you're dumb, I assume.

• 4:10Speaker 03

  Yes, very.

• 4:11Caleb Hammer?

  I mean, okay.

• 4:12Speaker 03

  I don't know, I thought it would fix something. I thought it would keep him loyal. Clearly not.

• 4:16Caleb Hammer?

  That didn't fix the baby. Wait, what do you do for a living?

• 4:19Speaker 04

  I'm an electrician apprentice.

• 4:20Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, apprentice.

• 4:22Speaker 04

  Apprentice, yes, apprentice.

• 4:24Caleb Hammer?

  What are you making?

• 4:24Speaker 04

  18 an hour.

• 4:26Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, fine. In Lexington, you know, it's probably on that lower cost of living. I will accept this.

• 4:32Speaker 04

  Not fine, I wouldn't call it fine. We definitely struggle.

• 4:35Caleb Hammer?

  Well, yeah, but I mean, buddy, at 20, I'm glad you're making 18, not 12. So how many hours a week are you getting?

• 4:42Speaker 04

  40.

• 4:43Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, so what's, what's coming in per paycheck? What is that per paycheck cycle?

• 4:48Speaker 04

  Um, every week, I'm getting anywhere between 550 and 600.

• 4:54Caleb Hammer?

  I don't know, we'll do, yeah, we'll do 575 then. That's weekly?

• 4:58Speaker 04

  Weekly.

• 4:59Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, times 52 divided by 12. When does electrician apprentice become electrician?

• 5:03Speaker 04

  Um, I'm planning to start school here soon. I just filled out my FAFSA.

• 5:07Caleb Hammer?

  I'll get you, why school? Wait, what's school? I'll get you an electrician certification through CourseCrews. People have taken that and converted them into six-figure jobs.

• 5:14Speaker 04

  I didn't know about that.

• 5:15Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, well, I got you that for free. What [bleep] school are you about to do?

• 5:18Speaker 04

  The school, it's a community college, but um, it would be a degree in applied sciences for electrical. And it would go towards the time that it takes to get my license.

• 5:29Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, that might be a play, but I mean, are you gonna make money while he's doing school?

• 5:34Speaker 04

  No, she won't.

• 5:37Speaker 03

  No.

• 5:38Caleb Hammer?

  He answered for you. Okay, so he knows.

• 5:40Speaker 03

  No.

• 5:40Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, I mean, stay-at-home mom's fine. You just have to be able to absolutely pay the bills and keep a roof over the baby's head. Now, here's a weird thing. I'm just gonna let you in on some lore. This was very odd to me personally. Security, usually at the front of the building. Uh, my producers requested security in near the room one time before, but the producers requested that. The first time ever

• 6:03Speaker 04

  Yeah, I wonder why.

• 6:04Caleb Hammer?

  In the history of the show, the security officer yesterday, and I still don't know what this episode's about, but yesterday said, "I'm going to sit out of the door."

• 6:16Caleb Hammer?

  "I'm gonna go sit out in front of the door." I don't know the [bleep] why, and that's weird. You guys don't look weird or dangerous, just old, but besides that, there's what the [bleep] is going on?

• 6:29Speaker 04

  Well, um

• 6:31Speaker 03

  I stabbed him.

• 6:32Speaker 04

  Yeah, so she originally applied to the show.

• 6:34Caleb Hammer?

  What do you mean you stabbed him?

• 6:36Speaker 04

  That's exactly what she means. No, literally, she stabbed me.

• 6:39Speaker 03

  Did you not see him limping?

• 6:41Caleb Hammer?

  Actually?

• 6:42Speaker 04

  Yeah, through the side of the knee. Yeah.

• 6:44Speaker 03

  He's got four stitches.

• 6:46Caleb Hammer?

  When?

• 6:48Speaker 04

  Saturday.

• 6:50Caleb Hammer?

  Show me.

• 6:51Speaker 04

  Saturday morning, like, hand up and show you? Or you want to see a picture? A picture's easier.

• 6:56Caleb Hammer?

  Uh

• 6:57Speaker 03

  Show him.

• 6:58Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, show me, let's see.

• 6:59Speaker 04

  Yeah, let's just see. Well, here.

• 7:04Caleb Hammer?

  Let's see that twink leg.

• 7:07Speaker 04

  Oh, my twink leg? We had a bone to pick with you.

• 7:12Caleb Hammer?

  Okay.

• 7:13Speaker 04

  About your chicken legs.

• 7:15Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 7:15Caleb Hammer?

  Chicken leg.

• 7:15Speaker 03

  Maybe focus on getting the [bleep] out of your chair.

• 7:18Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah.

• 7:18Speaker 04

  This might take a minute.

• 7:20Caleb Hammer?

  Because it hurts?

• 7:21Speaker 04

  Oh yeah, it hurts, definitely.

• 7:24Speaker 03

  He was fine when he was swimming.

• 7:26Speaker 04

  So there's the stitches.

• 7:28Caleb Hammer?

  Oh my goodness, uh, go, go over here so the camera can see it.

• 7:34Speaker 04

  Can we see that?

• 7:35Caleb Hammer?

  Oh my gosh, okay. What did you stab him with?

• 7:39Speaker 03

  A box cutter.

• 7:40Caleb Hammer?

  So my guy must have heard about that.

• 7:43Speaker 04

  I'm sure he did.

• 7:44Speaker 03

  Yeah, he took my tongue scraper.

• 7:46Caleb Hammer?

  Huh?

• 7:47Speaker 03

  He took my tongue scraper.

• 7:48Caleb Hammer?

  Fuck, he's that cautious? My goodness. Tell me what the [bleep] happened? You do have a kid.

• 7:56Speaker 04

  Yeah, so she wasn't there, um

• 7:59Caleb Hammer?

  But you guys still have a kid.

• 8:01Speaker 04

  Yeah. This stuff happens when she's not there.

• 8:04Caleb Hammer?

  This stuff happens?

• 8:05Speaker 03

  This is regular.

• 8:06Speaker 04

  Way more, this is just

• 8:08Caleb Hammer?

  Hey, that's not normal.

• 8:09Speaker 03

  I know, Caleb, that's why we're here.

• 8:12Caleb Hammer?

  I can fix people stabbing each other? What the [bleep] are you talking about?

• 8:15Speaker 03

  No, but maybe.

• 8:16Speaker 04

  You can fix her dumb ass, hopefully.

• 8:19Caleb Hammer?

  No?

• 8:20Speaker 03

  Not me.

• 8:21Speaker 04

  Well, we went to a party, so Friday.

• 8:23Caleb Hammer?

  You stabbed him? Okay, yeah, tell me.

• 8:25Speaker 04

  Friday, we went to a party. Uh, this was just over the weekend. Well, originally, we were supposed to go to the state fair, okay? We're already broke as [bleep]. We're already broke as [bleep]. We're planning to go on this show, right? And she wants to go to the state fair. She's begging me to go. We get into a huge argument because I'm like, I don't think we should go. We don't really have the money.

• 8:43Caleb Hammer?

  How'd the argument go?

• 8:44Speaker 03

  It wasn't even really about the state fair. It's just the fact that we never, you've never been to the fair. You're always either in jail or in North Carolina and running from the FBI.

• 8:52Speaker 04

  It's a fair, we have a baby. Why do we need to go to the [bleep] state fair?

• 8:55Speaker 03

  Why can't we take her to the fair?

• 8:56Speaker 04

  She's not gonna, she's nine months old. What are we gonna do? Walk around and get a corn dog?

• 9:02Speaker 04

  What are we gonna do at the state fair with our nine-month-old? So we get into the argument about the state, she's crazy as [bleep]. So we get into the argument about the state fair. Um, and I was like, okay, listen, I didn't want to hear her mouth anymore. So I was like, let's just go. Let's go to the state fair. And we get about 10 minutes away and I try to get gas at a gas pump. And the [bleep] gas pump froze up and put a hold on all my money in Cash App, okay?

• 9:26Caleb Hammer?

  Okay.

• 9:27Speaker 04

  So I

• 9:29Speaker 00

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• 9:53Speaker 04

  We're stranded at this gas

• 9:56Speaker 03

  No, he's acting like I'm the only crazy one. He's a psycho. He blows up at the gas station, hits the car, hits the gas pump, blows his lid. A psycho, just cuz his car is locked cuz he can't get money.

• 10:08Caleb Hammer?

  You're beating the gas pump?

• 10:09Speaker 04

  No, no, no.

• 10:10Caleb Hammer?

  You guys look so normal.

• 10:12Speaker 04

  You know, like, you know, I'm hitting the button. Like, it's not fucking working. I'm hitting the button.

• 10:15Speaker 03

  He's hitting shit, slamming car doors, going inside, yelling at the fucking-

• 10:19Caleb Hammer?

  Other people's car doors?

• 10:20Speaker 03

  No, ours.

• 10:21Speaker 04

  No, no. No, but, I mean, the gas pump put a hold on my money, so-

• 10:25Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, cuz he didn't have money, probably.

• 10:27Speaker 04

  No, no, I had the money in there. It was a hundred something, right? You know, we didn't have much, so it put a hold on all of the money. Cuz it puts a hold on like a hundred seventy-five.

• 10:35Speaker 03

  Literally, none of this shit matters. Listen. Okay, point is, we argue, fucking stab him, whatever. He goes to the hospital.

• 10:42Caleb Hammer?

  How'd you, where, you, why'd you stab him?

• 10:44Speaker 03

  I have no idea. Listen, I've-

• 10:45Speaker 04

  Because we were arguing and she goes blackout drunk. She gets blackout drunk and she does whatever she wants, so-

• 10:50Caleb Hammer?

  Is this a reoccurring thing?

• 10:52Speaker 04

  Not, not getting stabbed, maybe. This is the first time.

• 10:55Caleb Hammer?

  But getting just blacked out of crazy?

• 10:57Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 10:58Caleb Hammer?

  You have a kid!

• 10:59Speaker 03

  She's never there.

• 11:00Caleb Hammer?

  That doesn't matter. You are the parents of kids. You laugh about that? That's funny? No, you're a horrible mom. You're stabbing the father of the kid, your husband.

• 11:08Speaker 03

  Yeah. Yeah.

• 11:10Caleb Hammer?

  No wonder he said he regrets marrying you. So what, you run and get the box knife and just charge at him and stab him in the leg?

• 11:16Speaker 04

  So, I think she was about to leave or something. I have no clue where the box cutter came from. I don't know.

• 11:22Speaker 03

  He said he last remembers a box cutter was in his hand and it was in his knee, but-

• 11:25Speaker 04

  That's what I remember. The box cutter was in my hand. I don't know how it got there. We're both wasted. But, shit, we were arguing and then-

• 11:32Caleb Hammer?

  Boy.

• 11:33Speaker 03

  Black eye.

• 11:35Caleb Hammer?

  Close your eye? Okay, I'm hoping this one's from you, though.

• 11:39Speaker 03

  No, he slammed a car door on my face.

• 11:41Speaker 04

  Good. I think that's a reasonable reaction to getting stabbed, if you ask me. I could've stabbed her back, but I didn't.

• 11:47Caleb Hammer?

  I've never had someone from a black eye from their spouse on this show before.

• 11:51Speaker 04

  She stabbed me. And I did, it wasn't, it's not like I punched her, you know, I didn't punch her.

• 11:55Speaker 03

  I tried to leave. I got my friend's car. I was in my friend's car.

• 11:58Speaker 04

  Bullshit.

• 11:59Speaker 03

  He came to come get me. I have the text from my friend. She admitted all this. He came to get me. I was trying to go with her. He slammed the door in my face cuz I wouldn't go. With him, after I stabbed him. I was trying to leave.

• 12:08Speaker 04

  I was standing at the car door with my leg cut open, bleeding.

• 12:11Speaker 03

  That night.

• 12:12Speaker 04

  There was.

• 12:12Caleb Hammer?

  Why are you not going to the hospital, dude?

• 12:14Speaker 04

  I don't know. I was still arguing with her. But, she was, she had her friend's car door propped open and we were arguing and she starts putting her hands on me, from the car door.

• 12:22Caleb Hammer?

  We already accepted you to come on Financial Audit before this happened. So what the fuck are we doing? What, what is happening? This happened this Saturday?

• 12:29Speaker 04

  Yes, this Saturday. After-

• 12:31Caleb Hammer?

  Six days ago?

• 12:32Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 12:32Caleb Hammer?

  What the fuck, what are we doing? Okay, so what hap- did you? Why are you together still? She stabbed you and then he-

• 12:41Speaker 04

  We're on a break, we're on a break. We're on a break.

• 12:44Caleb Hammer?

  Oh, as of Saturday?

• 12:45Speaker 04

  As of Saturday.

• 12:46Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, after getting stabbed, I would assume so.

• 12:49Speaker 04

  After getting stabbed, yeah.

• 12:51Caleb Hammer?

  After what?

• 12:51Speaker 03

  After getting out of jail. The second time.

• 12:54Speaker 04

  Not even for stabbing me, for public intoxication. So, okay.

• 12:57Caleb Hammer?

  Wait, did you get arrested this weekend? Oh my- When did you get out of jail?

• 13:02Speaker 03

  What?

• 13:04Speaker 04

  Saturday?

• 13:05Speaker 03

  Sunday, Saturday morning?

• 13:06Speaker 04

  Sunday?

• 13:07Speaker 03

  I don't know.

• 13:08Caleb Hammer?

  It is not normal to go to jail. You are a mother of child. Where is the kid in all this?

• 13:12Speaker 04

  My mom's. Anytime.

• 13:14Caleb Hammer?

  That poor, your poor mom, man.

• 13:16Speaker 04

  My mom will watch her and then, we just always get into some shit. I don't know. We-

• 13:20Caleb Hammer?

  Then stop!

• 13:22Speaker 04

  That's the plan.

• 13:23Caleb Hammer?

  Is that funny?

• 13:24Speaker 03

  It is.

• 13:25Caleb Hammer?

  How?

• 13:25Speaker 03

  Because we can't.

• 13:27Caleb Hammer?

  Can what?

• 13:28Speaker 03

  Can't stop getting into shit.

• 13:29Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, but keep the, cuz, if the kid being gone is what gets you into shit, then stop giving the kid to your mom. And just lock the fuck in. What are you do- what shit are we getting into? Does it always start with drinking?

• 13:41Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 13:42Caleb Hammer?

  Then stop the fucking drinking.

• 13:44Speaker 03

  He buys the, he buys it.

• 13:46Caleb Hammer?

  Stop!

• 13:47Speaker 04

  Well, we like drinking, we like to party, we like to have fun. Um, I mean-

• 13:51Caleb Hammer?

  So, okay, I've never had a- Okay, this makes so much more sense why he was there. Probably thought you guys were sort of wailing on each other. What the- So, I've never had a spouse coming with a black eye recently from an ex. How'd you get that specifically?

• 14:05Speaker 04

  After, after she stabbed me, I went outside and she was trying to grab me through the car door and I was like, you, I slammed the car door and I guess the car door hit her in the face.

• 14:13Speaker 03

  No, like, my whole entire face was in, like, slammed into the door.

• 14:17Speaker 04

  I slammed the door and I guess the door hit her in the face.

• 14:20Caleb Hammer?

  Did you call the cops on each other?

• 14:21Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 14:22Speaker 04

  Yeah. Oh, yeah. She's went to jail for domestic violence.

• 14:25Speaker 03

  After I stabbed him.

• 14:26Speaker 04

  Oh, I did not call the cops, so-

• 14:28Caleb Hammer?

  That's normal. That's not normal. I stop pretending like stabbing is just a thing that happened.

• 14:32Speaker 04

  I drove myself to the hospital. I went to the hospital, got my stitches, got out. They wouldn't let me drive back because they thought I was drunk.

• 14:40Speaker 03

  He was drunk.

• 14:42Speaker 04

  No, I blew a breathalyzer that morning.

• 14:44Speaker 03

  Yeah, after you went to the hospital.

• 14:46Speaker 04

  Right. I wasn't drunk at the hospital. I was at the hospital for maybe thirty minutes.

• 14:50Speaker 03

  When you blew the breathalyzer, you were still point something. So whenever you were at the hospital, you were drunk.

• 14:56Caleb Hammer?

  They were accepted before this all happened. This wasn't even like their story.

• 14:59Speaker 03

  No.

• 15:00Caleb Hammer?

  What the fuck are you got, what is wrong with you?

• 15:02Speaker 04

  So, after I leave the hospital, I get my stitches, I have to walk home, so I'm, it takes me like an hour and a half.

• 15:08Speaker 03

  Mind you, while he's driving to the hospital, I'm drunk out of my mind. I'm walking to the hospital, walking all over our city, just walking around.

• 15:16Caleb Hammer?

  You're not a victim for being drunk. You chose to drink. Like, what the fuck are we talking about here?

• 15:20Speaker 03

  Right, so I'm trying to get to the hospital. I'm trying to see where he's at. He's discharged from the hospital cuz it takes me so long to get there.

• 15:25Caleb Hammer?

  I don't care.

• 15:26Speaker 03

  I tried to get there!

• 15:27Speaker 04

  I walk back from the hospital to my house. I'm looking for her. I don't see her anywhere. So I walk out looking for her again. She's nowhere to be found. I come back, I have my roommate take me to the hospital to get my car. And this is at, you know, seven in the morning. You know, this happened all, about four in the morning. This is about seven in the morning. So I go looking for her and I find her on a little street next to Speedway. Okay?

• 15:52Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, did you press charges there? Are you pressing charges?

• 15:55Speaker 03

  No, he's looking for me to bring me home.

• 15:57Speaker 04

  I was looking for her.

• 15:58Caleb Hammer?

  I don't give a shit.

• 15:59Speaker 04

  Well, I was worried, so-

• 16:00Caleb Hammer?

  Don't be. I don't care. Do I care about the ending of this story? Oh, you picked her up. Congratulations. Then what?

• 16:05Speaker 04

  The ending is jail. I didn't pick her up. So I found her and she starts flipping her shit, throwing her boots in the road, screaming at people cuz she's wasted. She's wasted.

• 16:13Speaker 03

  Cuz I'm pissed he wasn't at the hospital when I got there.

• 16:16Caleb Hammer?

  You're insane.

• 16:17Speaker 04

  And she's screaming, leave me alone and all this. So somebody calls the cops. And, they were gonna let her go home with her family. I called one of her family members to come pick her up, but she wouldn't quit cussing out the cops, so they took her to jail.

• 16:30Caleb Hammer?

  Horrible parents.

• 16:31Speaker 04

  No, I'm gonna be a great parent.

• 16:32Caleb Hammer?

  No.

• 16:33Speaker 04

  Yes.

• 16:33Caleb Hammer?

  You slammed the door in her face and gave her a black eye.

• 16:36Speaker 03

  And cheated on me two months after I gave birth and while I was pregnant and before that and-

• 16:40Speaker 04

  Like you haven't cheated.

• 16:41Caleb Hammer?

  Wouldn't be a financial audit with, okay.

• 16:43Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 16:43Speaker 04

  Like you haven't cheated.

• 16:44Speaker 03

  I did it first, but you decided to stay.

• 16:47Caleb Hammer?

  Wow, man.

• 16:52Caleb Hammer?

  I'm sure we'll get into that. How, how long have you guys been together? Not the marriage?

• 16:57Speaker 03

  Two years and four months. Not even three years.

• 17:00Caleb Hammer?

  Really counting, okay. Um, so you regret being with her?

• 17:03Speaker 04

  Uh, I regret getting married, yes. I definitely regret getting married.

• 17:07Speaker 03

  He regrets meeting me.

• 17:08Speaker 04

  I regret, I do. I mean, after all this shit, her cheating on me first, her stabbing me.

• 17:13Caleb Hammer?

  Getting stabbed is not a normal thing!

• 17:16Speaker 04

  Definitely not, no.

• 17:17Speaker 03

  He knew what the fuck he was getting into when he-

• 17:19Caleb Hammer?

  Getting stabbed?

• 17:20Speaker 04

  I did not.

• 17:20Speaker 03

  He met me two weeks after I got out of the, no. We first hung out after I got out of the psych ward. Yes, I got out of the psych ward and he asked me-

• 17:27Speaker 04

  Disclaimer that I had to sign.

• 17:29Speaker 03

  I went to the psych ward and he still wanted to-

• 17:31Speaker 04

  Disclaimer that I had to sign.

• 17:32Caleb Hammer?

  Why are you still with her?

• 17:33Speaker 04

  Because we have a family.

• 17:34Caleb Hammer?

  You're separated. A family! The kid's never there. You guys just get fucked up and like blow up the world.

• 17:39Speaker 04

  Well, what we want, we want to be happy.

• 17:41Caleb Hammer?

  You laugh every time. You're pathetic.

• 17:43Speaker 04

  And a good family. We do.

• 17:44Caleb Hammer?

  What are you laughing at?

• 17:45Speaker 03

  It's just the fact that it's true. I don't, it's true.

• 17:48Caleb Hammer?

  You're a bad mother.

• 17:49Speaker 03

  I'm sorry.

• 17:51Speaker 03

  No, no.

• 17:52Speaker 04

  She is insane, dude. She is insane.

• 17:55Caleb Hammer?

  No, that's unacceptable. How is that okay?

• 17:57Speaker 03

  No, when I'm with my kid, I'm not a bad mother.

• 17:59Speaker 04

  She, okay, but she, she is.

• 18:00Caleb Hammer?

  For the fifty percent of the time that you're actually with him?

• 18:03Speaker 04

  When we have the baby, she is a great mother. That, I can say that.

• 18:05Caleb Hammer?

  Whoa, a whole week. You're at the weekend!

• 18:07Speaker 03

  That, his mother begs to take her.

• 18:09Caleb Hammer?

  I'm like, what'd he say fuck me for? From you!

• 18:13Speaker 03

  And he-

• 18:13Caleb Hammer?

  From you!

• 18:14Speaker 03

  I'm not a problem when I have my child.

• 18:16Speaker 04

  She is a great mother. I can say that.

• 18:17Speaker 03

  I'm not a problem when I have-

• 18:19Caleb Hammer?

  Has the mom ever had to call cops on you guys? Yes!

• 18:22Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 18:25Caleb Hammer?

  That's not funny! Why are you guys actually laughing?

• 18:27Speaker 04

  No, it's not funny. It's not funny at all. It is not funny.

• 18:30Caleb Hammer?

  Joke. What is wrong with you guys? This is a kid.

• 18:32Speaker 04

  Her mom, no, no, there's never been cops called, anything to do with the baby.

• 18:36Speaker 03

  While she was there, no.

• 18:37Speaker 04

  Or while she was there.

• 18:38Caleb Hammer?

  How many times has the parent mom called cops on you guys?

• 18:41Speaker 03

  Just that one time at the old apartment.

• 18:42Speaker 04

  The one time at our old apartment because she was losing her shit and destroying the house like she normally does.

• 18:47Caleb Hammer?

  This one?

• 18:47Speaker 04

  Yes. Anytime she, oh, anytime she decides to lose her shit, she wants to destroy everything. She's destroyed my car, she's destroyed a-

• 18:56Caleb Hammer?

  What the fuck? Why have you not pressed charges on this?

• 19:00Speaker 04

  That's a good question. I mean, I-

• 19:02Caleb Hammer?

  It's time to, now you're separated. I'm sure, why do you guys keep getting back together constantly?

• 19:06Speaker 04

  Uh, because we're mentally ill. I don't know. She's, she's-

• 19:08Caleb Hammer?

  I'm sorry. She's a four. Like, you're a decently attractive dude. You gotta take care of your teeth, but this guy, like, there's something wrong.

• 19:15Speaker 04

  It's Kentucky.

• 19:17Speaker 03

  So you're saying what?

• 19:18Speaker 04

  No, no, I mean, she-

• 19:19Caleb Hammer?

  Big enough city. You'll find.

• 19:21Speaker 03

  He tried to add bitches, none of them want him. He's not cute.

• 19:24Caleb Hammer?

  Well, he was clearly able to get with someone, well, with you.

• 19:29Speaker 03

  Bitches who hate my guts.

• 19:31Caleb Hammer?

  Hmm, no, just bitches that wanted him in their guts.

• 19:34Speaker 03

  None of them wanted them. They did not want him in their guts.

• 19:38Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, says the cheated on spouse. Like, come on, shut the fuck up. So, why was, why was she destroying shit? That day that your mom called.

• 19:48Speaker 03

  Postpartum depression cuz he cheated. He's never there.

• 19:52Caleb Hammer?

  Hold on.

• 19:53Speaker 04

  Postpart- Let's specify cheating.

• 19:55Caleb Hammer?

  Was it postpartum depression or because he cheated?

• 19:57Speaker 03

  Both. Mixed together.

• 19:59Caleb Hammer?

  Makes no sense.

• 19:59Speaker 03

  Mixed together, that's a destruction.

• 20:02Speaker 04

  Caleb, what do you define as cheating?

• 20:04Caleb Hammer?

  That's up to the relationship. It could just be as simple as talking to someone.

• 20:06Speaker 03

  I mean, as married, I think texting other women is cheating.

• 20:09Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, I, I would say so.

• 20:11Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 20:12Caleb Hammer?

  Were you guys open?

• 20:13Speaker 04

  But, anytime she's done it, anytime she, so-

• 20:15Caleb Hammer?

  And she's a cheater too. I don't know. What do you want from her?

• 20:17Speaker 04

  I mean, she is a cheater, yeah.

• 20:18Caleb Hammer?

  No, you're both horrible. You're bad parents. You're like objectively bad people.

• 20:21Speaker 04

  I'm not a bad parent. I'm not a bad parent.

• 20:22Caleb Hammer?

  How many times have you gone to jail?

• 20:23Speaker 04

  Once.

• 20:24Caleb Hammer?

  Okay. Then what the fuck are we talking about?

• 20:27Speaker 04

  Before the baby was born.

• 20:28Caleb Hammer?

  Doesn't matter, dude. You're completely unrelated.

• 20:30Speaker 03

  Carrying the child, he went to jail.

• 20:34Speaker 03

  Because he ran from the Marine Corps and had a federal warrant out for his arrest.

• 20:37Speaker 04

  Go.

• 20:41Speaker 04

  Here we go.

• 20:42Speaker 03

  Here we go.

• 20:43Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, here we go. Sure. You were in the Marines?

• 20:47Speaker 04

  Slightly, for a period of time. I mean, not for long.

• 20:50Caleb Hammer?

  What? What does that mean?

• 20:52Speaker 03

  He graduated boot camp and got discharged.

• 20:54Speaker 04

  Pretty much.

• 20:55Caleb Hammer?

  Discharged? How is that fleeing from the Marines?

• 20:57Speaker 04

  Well, I went AWOL.

• 20:58Speaker 03

  He got discharged after AWOL.

• 21:00Caleb Hammer?

  Dishonorably? He went AWOL?

• 21:01Speaker 04

  No, no, no, no. Just a general discharge. But I did go AWOL a couple of times.

• 21:05Caleb Hammer?

  A couple of times?

• 21:06Speaker 04

  A couple of times, yeah.

• 21:07Caleb Hammer?

  What are you doing? Tell me.

• 21:08Speaker 04

  So, um, I mean, I graduated high school, met her, left for the Marine Corps, three months after I met her.

• 21:16Caleb Hammer?

  Was she ever cute?

• 21:18Speaker 04

  Yeah, she is. I think she's cute, yeah. I mean, I wouldn't be, we wouldn't keep getting back together if I thought she was ugly.

• 21:26Speaker 03

  I do not think that's why you keep getting back together.

• 21:28Caleb Hammer?

  Glad I'm not from Lexington.

• 21:29Speaker 04

  But, um, yeah, so I go to the Marine Corps, um, come back on my boot leave, which is just a, you know, a 10-day period where you get, leave after you complete boot camp. I go armed recruiting assistants. Um, so I'm home for an extended time, like three weeks. Uh, during that time, I had Snapchat'ed another girl. After, after boot camp, I Snapchat'ed another girl.

• 21:55Caleb Hammer?

  Sounds like him cheating first.

• 21:56Speaker 03

  Well, we didn't start from the very beginning of our relationship.

• 21:59Speaker 04

  Do we want to start, do we?

• 22:00Caleb Hammer?

  No, no, just keep going. No, just keep going. Just keep going.

• 22:04Speaker 04

  I get back from boot camp and I Snapchat'ed this other girl that we went to school with. Um, Snapchat pictures, you know, there was no conversation, there was no...

• 22:13Speaker 03

  Save pictures over in the chat of her arching her back up, trying to look cute.

• 22:17Caleb Hammer?

  Let me see.

• 22:18Speaker 04

  They're gone. I mean, that's long gone. That's just...

• 22:20Speaker 03

  He deleted that whole Snapchat account.

• 22:22Caleb Hammer?

  The account? You deleted the account?

• 22:24Speaker 04

  Yeah, we've had Snapchat on and off because of trust issues and...

• 22:27Caleb Hammer?

  Oh! Who would have thought? Oh, that's funny. You laugh at everything. You're a pathetic person. Continue.

• 22:33Speaker 04

  So, um, I was Snapchat'ing the other girl. Our relationship was shit at this point because I didn't trust her.

• 22:39Caleb Hammer?

  Has it been good?

• 22:40Speaker 03

  No.

• 22:41Caleb Hammer?

  You suck with money, so you download a budgeting app. You start with the classic one, YNAB. But everyone just deletes it because it's way too complicated to use. So you go to EveryDollar. That's Dave Ramsey, the personal finance guy, right? Well, they're gonna force you to use it.

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• 24:34Speaker 03

  Well, in the beginning...

• 24:36Speaker 04

  The first few days of it.

• 24:37Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah.

• 24:38Speaker 04

  That we were actually together before I found out.

• 24:40Caleb Hammer?

  Snapping a woman.

• 24:41Speaker 04

  Yeah, yeah. So I was snapping this woman and she found out. Um, and she found out just a few days before I was set to go back to North Carolina to...

• 24:50Caleb Hammer?

  How'd she find out?

• 24:51Speaker 03

  I went through his phone.

• 24:53Speaker 04

  Yeah, she went through my phone and seen it on my Snapchat. I didn't hide it.

• 24:56Speaker 03

  He wasn't trying to hide this. He wanted me to find it because he wanted to be done.

• 25:00Speaker 04

  At the time, I probably did because I thought she was crazy as [BLEEP] and...

• 25:03Caleb Hammer?

  Stop playing with that.

• 25:04Speaker 04

  So, um, she finds it and...

• 25:11Speaker 04

  What, what happened right there? That was the first time you put your hands on me. That was the first time she put her hands on me. At my grandmother's house, we lived...

• 25:16Caleb Hammer?

  What did she do?

• 25:18Speaker 04

  Pushed me into a dresser, pushed me into a window. Bullshit, bullshit. I did not push her first. That is straight bullshit. That is straight bullshit. That is straight bullshit.

• 25:28Speaker 03

  So you pushed me, so I punched you in the face.

• 25:29Speaker 04

  No, no, no. I did not. I have never once put my hands on her first. And the only time, the only thing that's happened from her putting her hands on me is me slamming the door, the car door, and I accidentally hit her in the face.

• 25:41Speaker 03

  You pushed me at your mammy's house.

• 25:42Speaker 04

  After you stabbed me, by the way. But no, at my grandmother's house, at my grandmother's house, no, I did not touch her first. That is a lie. No, I did not.

• 25:50Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, so what did she do to you?

• 25:52Speaker 04

  So we broke up. We broke up after she found out about that girl. I go back to North Carolina.

• 25:57Caleb Hammer?

  But she hit you, you said?

• 25:58Speaker 04

  Yeah, yeah. She hit me in the face once, like kinda closed-handed.

• 26:03Caleb Hammer?

  Okay.

• 26:04Speaker 04

  So I go back to North Carolina and we're broken up at this point. Um...

• 26:09Caleb Hammer?

  You guys have broken up an on, like 50 times.

• 26:11Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 26:11Caleb Hammer?

  I can clearly tell.

• 26:12Speaker 04

  Crazy amount of times.

• 26:13Caleb Hammer?

  Go on.

• 26:14Speaker 04

  Um, during that time that we were broken up, she goes to a parking lot party. It's [BLEEP] Kentucky, so there's nothing to do but rednecks with trucks in a [BLEEP] parking lot. I guess that's fun. She thinks that's fun. I don't, that's bullshit. That's not fun.

• 26:31Caleb Hammer?

  You can probably get easy dick there. I don't know.

• 26:33Speaker 04

  Well, yeah, that, that was the plan. So she texts her, she texts this guy that, uh, she was friends with before our relationship. Um, she texted him to pick her up, so she goes to this parking lot with a bunch of rednecks.

• 26:49Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 26:49Speaker 04

  We were. But at the time, she, we were not supposed to be, we were talking.

• 26:53Speaker 03

  Everything he's saying is, uh, we were broken up. We were broken up.

• 26:56Speaker 04

  Oh, but the shit that I do while we're broken up is a huge problem, but...

• 26:59Speaker 03

  But you were prom, whatever. Keep going.

• 27:01Speaker 04

  So were you. You were promising that we weren't talking to other people.

• 27:03Speaker 03

  Not at this point, not this night. No.

• 27:05Speaker 04

  Well, anyways, she went and sucked some other guy's dick because she was mad and...

• 27:08Caleb Hammer?

  Was it good?

• 27:10Speaker 03

  I was good.

• 27:12Speaker 04

  What's that mean?

• 27:13Caleb Hammer?

  Meaning she [BLEEP] swallowed that shit quick.

• 27:15Speaker 04

  Did you?

• 27:18Speaker 04

  Did you swallow it?

• 27:21Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 27:22Caleb Hammer?

  She's not a quitter.

• 27:24Speaker 04

  Well, uh, this guy's a little bitch, and if I see him, I'll slap the [BLEEP] out of him. Anyways.

• 27:30Caleb Hammer?

  Mark will take a turn after the show.

• 27:32Speaker 04

  Um, so she sucks this guy's dick, and then she goes and sleeps in the same bed with him. So this, at this time, this was about a week, uh, right, right around a week after we'd broken up. And we were for sure...

• 27:46Caleb Hammer?

  You were broken up, so I really don't care.

• 27:48Speaker 04

  Okay, but we were talking and saying that we weren't talking to other people, right? And she goes and sleeps with this guy that she used to buy weed from. Sleeps at his house and gets drunk and swears to this day that they didn't have sex and all this.

• 27:59Caleb Hammer?

  Does it even matter? You already sucked the dude off that day, so it's like, does it even matter?

• 28:02Speaker 03

  Exactly. Does it?

• 28:03Speaker 04

  Okay. Well, she's just lying about not having sex with this guy.

• 28:06Speaker 03

  I didn't have sex with him.

• 28:07Caleb Hammer?

  Your acne scars are crazy.

• 28:08Speaker 03

  That's pregnancy.

• 28:10Speaker 04

  You had that before pregnancy, but, um...

• 28:13Speaker 03

  No, I didn't.

• 28:13Speaker 04

  You had acne before pregnancy.

• 28:15Speaker 03

  Not scars like this.

• 28:17Speaker 04

  Well, um, she's a, the, the sum of, to sum it up, she's just a liar. She definitely sucked with this dude.

• 28:24Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, okay.

• 28:27Speaker 03

  I didn't.

• 28:27Speaker 04

  She slept in his bed and drunk.

• 28:32Speaker 03

  I don't even know, like five, six?

• 28:34Caleb Hammer?

  All probably well with him, right?

• 28:36Speaker 03

  No, I've actually never had sex with someone else while we've been together.

• 28:39Caleb Hammer?

  Just, well, you were broken up at that point anyway.

• 28:41Speaker 04

  Uh, okay, yeah.

• 28:42Speaker 03

  Yeah, but I've never had sex with...

• 28:44Caleb Hammer?

  But why'd you go AWOL? I was asking this AWOL thing.

• 28:46Speaker 04

  So I, I get to North Carolina. You know, we had broken up, so there's a [BLEEP] ton of stress in our relationship.

• 28:52Speaker 03

  Because he cheated, and he was begging for me back, even though I was outside.

• 28:56Speaker 04

  You created all the [BLEEP] trust issues before I cheated.

• 28:58Speaker 03

  Then why'd you stay with me? If I cheated first, why'd you get back together with me?

• 29:02Speaker 04

  Well, maybe there was a point, uh, of you finding something on my phone, and you, you're the one that went insane that night and wouldn't let me leave you and all this. But then you broke up with me after you went insane and tried to run away through a field.

• 29:16Caleb Hammer?

  AWOL? What does AWOL even mean, though? What do you mean? You ran from the base?

• 29:19Speaker 04

  Absent without leave, yes.

• 29:20Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, so you just left the base, told no one?

• 29:22Speaker 04

  Yes.

• 29:23Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, and you were in Kentucky?

• 29:24Speaker 04

  Yes, I flew back to Kentucky.

• 29:26Caleb Hammer?

  And your base was in North Carolina?

• 29:26Speaker 04

  Right, correct.

• 29:27Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, that's all it [BLEEP] was. My goodness, it was 10 minutes.

• 29:30Speaker 04

  Well, so...

• 29:31Caleb Hammer?

  What the [BLEEP] is wrong with you?

• 29:32Speaker 04

  You know, I went AWOL for five months, um...

• 29:34Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, were they looking for you?

• 29:36Speaker 03

  Yep.

• 29:36Speaker 04

  Yeah, they were, I mean, not actively looking, you know, there wasn't people out there searching for me. They knew where I was at, and if they wanted me that bad, they could have came and got me.

• 29:44Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, what's the consequence for this?

• 29:46Speaker 04

  It varies. I mean, my consequence was just a general discharge. It wasn't dishonorable.

• 29:50Caleb Hammer?

  So they found you and they discharged you?

• 29:52Speaker 04

  That's down the road, but after I went to jail.

• 29:55Caleb Hammer?

  Why don't you just tell me, because this guy sucks?

• 29:56Speaker 03

  He's a retard. Okay. He ran away from Marines probably like three times in total.

• 30:01Caleb Hammer?

  For why? What reasons?

• 30:02Speaker 03

  To come home to me.

• 30:04Caleb Hammer?

  You're pathetic. This [BLEEP] whore?

• 30:07Speaker 04

  I know, no, it's, yeah, it is pathetic, yeah.

• 30:09Caleb Hammer?

  You cheated on that black guy. He's crazy.

• 30:11Speaker 03

  It was way worse, Caleb. It was a lot worse.

• 30:13Caleb Hammer?

  I'm sure it was. It was like a week ago now. This is crazy.

• 30:16Speaker 03

  Yes. Anyway, he runs away, comes home to me. The very last time, he thinks he can get away with this shit. He's at Valvoline working, oil change place, whatever. He gets off of work, the cops are waiting for him as he's getting off work. They follow him all the way to his mammy's house, pull him over right in the beginning of the neighborhood. They're like, okay, FBI warrant, discharge, you're coming with us, you don't have a choice. Take him to jail, mugshot. That's that. That's that story.

• 30:42Speaker 04

  Yeah, I mean, I went AWOL a couple of times. They caught me on the second time with the federal warrant and...

• 30:47Caleb Hammer?

  Jeez.

• 30:47Speaker 04

  I went to jail. They extradited me.

• 30:49Caleb Hammer?

  Better not be on disability.

• 30:51Speaker 03

  All while I'm pregnant, by the way.

• 30:53Caleb Hammer?

  Oh, she was pregnant. That's wonderful. Me. Why'd you impregnate her?

• 30:58Speaker 04

  An accident.

• 30:59Speaker 03

  Yeah, I want to know.

• 31:00Caleb Hammer?

  Uh, were you on birth control?

• 31:01Speaker 04

  No.

• 31:02Caleb Hammer?

  Or were you having sex with a condom?

• 31:03Speaker 03

  No.

• 31:04Caleb Hammer?

  Were you coming inside of her?

• 31:05Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 31:06Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 31:06Caleb Hammer?

  That's not an accident.

• 31:07Speaker 04

  Okay, well, we didn't...

• 31:08Caleb Hammer?

  That's not an accident.

• 31:09Speaker 04

  We didn't mean to have a baby, obviously, but we're here.

• 31:12Caleb Hammer?

  You were coming inside of her with no birth control or condoms.

• 31:16Speaker 03

  That's kind of how the shit works.

• 31:16Caleb Hammer?

  Like, what the [BLEEP] is wrong with you?

• 31:18Speaker 04

  But she blames it on me. She's saying, well, I was nutting inside of you, but she was spreading her legs. Is that not...

• 31:22Speaker 03

  You could have told me you didn't want the kid and I could have done something.

• 31:25Caleb Hammer?

  It was on both of you. Like, you were probably like, come in me, and you were probably like, I'm coming in you.

• 31:28Speaker 04

  She was. Right, exactly.

• 31:30Speaker 03

  You did it.

• 31:30Caleb Hammer?

  It was on both of you, guys.

• 31:32Speaker 04

  It's not just me. It's not just my responsibility.

• 31:35Caleb Hammer?

  Huh?

• 31:35Speaker 04

  There's, she definitely has some responsibility in the past.

• 31:39Caleb Hammer?

  We both do. You were [BLEEP] consensually.

• 31:41Speaker 04

  Right.

• 31:42Caleb Hammer?

  Yes, I would say so. Okay, um, okay.

• 31:49Caleb Hammer?

  So.

• 31:51Speaker 04

  She's the one that set the tone for the relationship.

• 31:53Speaker 03

  Bitch, bitch, you stay.

• 31:55Speaker 04

  She, she, some, she somebody days before we got together, never told me about it.

• 32:00Caleb Hammer?

  Wait, days before you got together?

• 32:02Speaker 04

  We were talking for weeks.

• 32:03Caleb Hammer?

  I'm sorry, but days before you got together, it's not cheating?

• 32:05Speaker 04

  Oh, no, it's not cheating. You're right. It's not. But it's still.

• 32:08Speaker 03

  But I set the tone of our relationship because I someone before we even dated.

• 32:12Speaker 04

  Well, no, it probably set the tone.

• 32:13Speaker 03

  He gets mad at me for talking about the big old nasty fat bitch that he before we dated.

• 32:17Speaker 04

  A year before. We weren't talking. We weren't talking. We weren't talking.

• 32:22Caleb Hammer?

  Stop it.

• 32:23Speaker 04

  We weren't talking.

• 32:23Speaker 03

  Hippocrite.

• 32:24Caleb Hammer?

  What is wrong with you?

• 32:25Speaker 04

  We were talking. We were talking.

• 32:27Caleb Hammer?

  Besides the weird earring situation, you are not an unattractive person.

• 32:30Speaker 03

  Gay boy earrings.

• 32:31Caleb Hammer?

  What are you doing? You are a bit of a. But like, come on. Um, why are you fat bitches?

• 32:37Speaker 04

  I was drunk. I was drunk. I was drunk. It was the one time.

• 32:42Speaker 03

  One time.

• 32:43Speaker 04

  The one time I was drunk. It was one of those regret ones, you know?

• 32:47Caleb Hammer?

  I'd rather you get stabbed, man. This makes no sense.

• 32:49Speaker 04

  I wouldn't. This shit hurts. I would not rather get stabbed.

• 32:51Caleb Hammer?

  So is the fat bitch on you?

• 32:52Speaker 03

  So is the fat bitch clapping back on them balls.

• 32:55Speaker 04

  It didn't really hurt.

• 32:56Speaker 03

  I don't know how he found the pussy with how many rolls that bitch had.

• 32:58Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, you're, you're, you're, you're, you're getting, you're close to obesity. You're not there yet, but you're close.

• 33:05Speaker 03

  I'm like a hundred forty-five.

• 33:07Caleb Hammer?

  Mark the Springer machine.

• 33:12Caleb Hammer?

  Give me your phone while you do this. Open it.

• 33:14Speaker 03

  Okay.

• 33:16Caleb Hammer?

  How much you want to bet she's talking to other guys right now in your moment of immediately breaking up? Springer machine, go ahead.

• 33:21Speaker 04

  No, I, I doubt. I doubt she is, uh, talking to other guys right now.

• 33:26Caleb Hammer?

  Lots of people on Snapchat, mostly women, though. Whoa, you have no ass. That's incredible. I've never seen anything like that in my life. Where did, did she used to?

• 33:37Speaker 04

  Uh, she has more than.

• 33:40Caleb Hammer?

  No, that's crazy.

• 33:41Speaker 04

  She did.

• 33:42Caleb Hammer?

  Uh, it's five under, though, so add five to it. Add five to it. Hold still. She keeps having an ass and getting rid of it while she's up there and it's going crazy. Okay, she's snapping like fifty thousand women.

• 33:54Speaker 04

  Oh, yeah, I mean, cuz I think.

• 33:56Caleb Hammer?

  But that's okay.

• 33:58Speaker 04

  Yeah, she does snap a lot of women. I mean, she spends all her time on her phone.

• 34:02Speaker 03

  One fifty-two point eight.

• 34:04Caleb Hammer?

  So it's one fifty-seven point eight. No, it's five under. That, the scale's five under. Okay. What'd you say you were?

• 34:12Speaker 03

  I thought I was like one forty-five.

• 34:14Caleb Hammer?

  See, you don't know shit. You're getting fat. Oh, my gosh. Okay, let's get, let's get away from all these, like, streaks, shoes, clothes. Okay, why are you seriously snapping this many people? This is, I've never seen this in my life.

• 34:25Speaker 04

  Why do you snap so many people?

• 34:26Caleb Hammer?

  They're all women, except for Caleb, black Caleb.

• 34:30Speaker 03

  He's gay, which probably has a crush on him.

• 34:35Caleb Hammer?

  Are you gay?

• 34:36Speaker 04

  No.

• 34:36Caleb Hammer?

  Are you bi?

• 34:37Speaker 04

  No.

• 34:39Caleb Hammer?

  What are you saying?

• 34:40Speaker 04

  That's just one of her insults. She, you know.

• 34:42Speaker 03

  He just looks gay.

• 34:43Caleb Hammer?

  He, he looks gay.

• 34:44Speaker 03

  And a lot of men cheat on their wives with men.

• 34:47Caleb Hammer?

  Do they?

• 34:47Speaker 04

  I think what it is, is she might be insecure cuz she might be gay.

• 34:51Speaker 03

  You knew I was gay before I met you.

• 34:54Caleb Hammer?

  You're gay?

• 34:54Speaker 03

  Bisexual?

• 34:56Caleb Hammer?

  Oh.

• 34:56Speaker 03

  What woman isn't gay?

• 34:58Caleb Hammer?

  Honestly, it feels like it.

• 35:01Caleb Hammer?

  There is a Josh from five days ago.

• 35:04Speaker 03

  Gay Josh.

• 35:05Caleb Hammer?

  They're all gay, huh?

• 35:07Speaker 03

  Literally, I'm not allowed to talk to a man that isn't gay.

• 35:09Caleb Hammer?

  Well, yeah, I mean, that makes sense. You guys have cheated on each other, right? And I'm seeing if, uh, you know, there's guys, there's.

• 35:15Speaker 03

  That's my little cousin.

• 35:17Caleb Hammer?

  Well, Kentucky.

• 35:19Speaker 03

  No.

• 35:20Caleb Hammer?

  That's not even a joke.

• 35:21Speaker 03

  No, that's disgusting.

• 35:23Caleb Hammer?

  You snap an insane amount of, how do you know all these people? Do you?

• 35:27Speaker 03

  Most of them, yeah.

• 35:28Caleb Hammer?

  Where's even him?

• 35:30Speaker 03

  Probably not pinned.

• 35:33Speaker 04

  No, she don't talk to me.

• 35:35Speaker 03

  And plus, half the girls on there, he's probably.

• 35:37Caleb Hammer?

  What do you guys, is that true?

• 35:39Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 35:40Speaker 04

  No.

• 35:41Speaker 03

  Yes, it is.

• 35:42Speaker 04

  Half the, wait, what'd you say?

• 35:43Speaker 03

  Half the people on my Snapchat, you've probably.

• 35:46Speaker 04

  Who?

• 35:47Caleb Hammer?

  They're staff.

• 35:50Speaker 03

  Yeah, sorry. Yeah.

• 35:54Caleb Hammer?

  Um, okay, so. What do you guys want from me? Cuz that was a, that was a shit ton of yapping of like insanity. Like, I don't know where we stand, guys. What's happening?

• 36:05Speaker 04

  I need to know if there's any chance that we can fix our relationship or if she's just completely off her rocker.

• 36:12Caleb Hammer?

  What the, she literally just stabbed you. And also, no, the mom didn't, your mom didn't call the cops on you one time. It's been seven times. Every time she loses her shit, the mom calls.

• 36:20Speaker 04

  I think there's been seven times in total, but she only called. Once, I think.

• 36:26Speaker 03

  Maybe twice.

• 36:27Speaker 04

  Maybe twice. The rest has been somebody else or me.

• 36:31Speaker 03

  Or him.

• 36:32Caleb Hammer?

  How many times have you had to call the cops on her and you want me to fix the relationship?

• 36:36Speaker 04

  Four to five times.

• 36:37Caleb Hammer?

  See, what are we doing? Why would you want to be with someone that stabbed you on Saturday? That you have domestically abused and she's domestically abused you and you've cheated on each other. Why would you want that?

• 36:47Speaker 04

  I mean, we, we, we have a family. I mean, it's, it's hard when you have a baby with somebody. I feel like we still love each other. It's just, there's just a ton of issues. I mean, there's a lot of issues.

• 36:58Speaker 03

  The, the big issue is you blame all the issues on me, even though you're the problem.

• 37:03Speaker 04

  I am not the problem. You're crazy.

• 37:05Speaker 03

  To be with someone who stabbed you and made you get stitches.

• 37:08Caleb Hammer?

  Do you want to be with him?

• 37:10Speaker 03

  If he can change, if he can get.

• 37:12Caleb Hammer?

  What do you want him to do to change? Okay, I found you guys.

• 37:15Speaker 03

  Medicine, I don't know, anything.

• 37:17Caleb Hammer?

  What, what's wrong with him, I'm asking?

• 37:20Speaker 03

  What is, what is right with him?

• 37:21Speaker 04

  What's wrong with?

• 37:22Caleb Hammer?

  No, no, no, I need specifics. This is bullshit. Don't with me.

• 37:25Speaker 03

  You're never there. You don't care.

• 37:27Caleb Hammer?

  And you stabbed him, you've cheated on him.

• 37:29Speaker 03

  I have to.

• 37:30Caleb Hammer?

  What the, you have to?

• 37:31Speaker 03

  There's no other way.

• 37:32Caleb Hammer?

  You have to stab him.

• 37:33Speaker 03

  I mean, no, but there's no other way he'll listen to me. There is no other way he'll change.

• 37:41Speaker 04

  I don't feel like there's much about myself that I need to change.

• 37:45Speaker 04

  The, the biggest things that I've done in this relationship are the infidelity and.

• 37:51Caleb Hammer?

  And when was that? When did you do that?

• 37:53Speaker 04

  A couple of months after our baby was born.

• 37:55Speaker 03

  And before.

• 37:56Caleb Hammer?

  That's insane. What happened? That's insane, buddy.

• 37:59Speaker 03

  He cheated on me while I was pregnant, too. He texted two of my best friends while he was in North Carolina.

• 38:04Speaker 04

  That, we weren't even together. We weren't together. So how was that cheating?

• 38:07Caleb Hammer?

  She was pregnant. Okay, her best friends while she's pregnant, it's kind of crazy.

• 38:11Speaker 03

  It's, it's every time we're not together.

• 38:13Speaker 04

  And we were, we were in North, I was in North Carolina and we were arguing back and forth on and off and she, I don't even remember what it was. She had done something to piss me off. And I wanted to piss her off.

• 38:22Caleb Hammer?

  So you went to her best friends?

• 38:24Speaker 04

  I mean, I just texted them.

• 38:25Speaker 03

  And them bitches were ugly, too.

• 38:27Caleb Hammer?

  You're, you're calling your best friends ugly?

• 38:28Speaker 03

  Well, I'm not best friends with the bitches anymore.

• 38:31Caleb Hammer?

  So what did he do? Tell me.

• 38:32Speaker 03

  He was just drunk flirt texting with them and they were all making fun of him, calling him disgusting. I don't even, what were you texting them? Were you trying to?

• 38:41Speaker 04

  I mean, at the time, I was probably trying to get some pictures. At the time, I was probably trying to get some pictures or something. I don't know, but it was to make you mad. Probably, I don't. Yeah, cuz I was in North Carolina and we were off and on. We were off at that time.

• 38:53Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, so while you were pregnant, what did he do? He someone?

• 38:57Speaker 04

  I wasn't getting any attention from her. I wasn't getting anything from her because our relationship.

• 39:01Speaker 03

  Would I give you anything?

• 39:03Speaker 04

  Uh, I don't know cuz I pay your bills. I take care of you.

• 39:06Speaker 03

  As you should. You impregnated me and thought I had.

• 39:09Speaker 04

  Well, after we struggled for months, I think you should get a job, but you never do.

• 39:15Caleb Hammer?

  Well, if the mom can watch the kid.

• 39:17Speaker 03

  She works.

• 39:18Speaker 04

  We have plenty, we, there's definitely ways that we could figure out for someone to watch the baby.

• 39:24Speaker 03

  Job and he took all my money.

• 39:26Speaker 04

  Bullshit, you barely got paid anything. Anything you got paid went to.

• 39:28Speaker 03

  Because I quit because you were trying to bring our kid around a crackhead.

• 39:31Speaker 04

  No, I was not. No, the, I was not.

• 39:33Caleb Hammer?

  Is that who you're trying to?

• 39:34Speaker 03

  Yes, probably.

• 39:36Speaker 04

  My friend moved in with us.

• 39:37Speaker 03

  Boyfriend moved in with his ratchet ass girlfriend and he wants to fuck them both.

• 39:43Speaker 04

  She's literally.

• 39:45Caleb Hammer?

  I don't know what's real and what's not.

• 39:46Speaker 04

  No, that's just bullshit. I don't know.

• 39:48Caleb Hammer?

  Uh, guys, you confuse me so much.

• 39:51Speaker 04

  Her, or my, my best friend moved in because I need help with the bills because she won't work. She, she can't hold a job now. Babysitters.

• 40:00Speaker 03

  With what money?

• 40:01Speaker 04

  My mom.

• 40:02Speaker 03

  That works every single day, twelve hour shifts every day, who can't stay awake, who crashed her own car?

• 40:07Speaker 04

  You had two, you had two jobs.

• 40:10Caleb Hammer?

  Two, two.

• 40:11Speaker 04

  That worked around my schedule.

• 40:12Speaker 03

  Quit.

• 40:13Speaker 04

  That worked.

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• 40:39Speaker 03

  When I quit because I found out you cheated on me and then the second one I quit.

• 40:43Caleb Hammer?

  So he's talked to people. What's the worst he's done?

• 40:45Speaker 03

  Talk to people.

• 40:46Caleb Hammer?

  Well, you sucked a dude's dick.

• 40:47Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 40:48Speaker 03

  We weren't together.

• 40:48Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, so you guys have never anyone while you were together?

• 40:51Speaker 04

  No, no, I don't think, I mean, I think she's lying about the, the dude she slept in the bed with, but.

• 40:56Caleb Hammer?

  Doesn't matter. I mean, I don't know. I, listen, guys, this is a mess. And you want me to see if I can get you, keep you guys together?

• 41:05Speaker 03

  Nobody wants us together. His mother literally tried to fucking beat my ass.

• 41:08Caleb Hammer?

  Do you want to be with him?

• 41:10Speaker 03

  If he'll grow up and man up the balls.

• 41:13Caleb Hammer?

  Makes sense to me. I don't, that part confuses me. I understand the things he's calling you out about.

• 41:17Speaker 03

  Money to not have another man living our house that took our daughter's bedroom?

• 41:21Speaker 04

  The only reason I have to do that is because you won't get a job.

• 41:26Caleb Hammer?

  Who would watch the kid?

• 41:27Speaker 04

  Her excuses, get a better job, get a better job. My mom, we could put her. Assisted daycare. There's a really good daycare near us.

• 41:35Speaker 03

  Stayed assisted daycare.

• 41:36Speaker 04

  It's a religious.

• 41:37Speaker 03

  Stay home with my kid and not spend.

• 41:38Caleb Hammer?

  You're trashier than them.

• 41:40Speaker 04

  It's a religious daycare. It's a nice daycare. My little sister has went there. It's a great daycare.

• 41:44Caleb Hammer?

  It's fine. Yeah, what do we do?

• 41:45Speaker 03

  Demon.

• 41:47Speaker 04

  No, she's just a little kid.

• 41:48Caleb Hammer?

  Your kid will be. Look at the house the kid's growing up in.

• 41:50Speaker 04

  That's why we're trying to figure out if we need to just split up and do what's best for the baby or if we can fix our relationship and.

• 41:58Caleb Hammer?

  And I'm supposed to determine that? How often are hands being put on each other?

• 42:02Speaker 03

  Every other week.

• 42:06Caleb Hammer?

  And what is typically the reason?

• 42:09Speaker 03

  Alcohol.

• 42:09Caleb Hammer?

  I understand you get drunk, but what is triggering it?

• 42:12Speaker 03

  The cheating and yeah.

• 42:13Caleb Hammer?

  But he's not cheating like.

• 42:15Speaker 04

  All the like built up resentment and anger comes out.

• 42:18Caleb Hammer?

  Guys, if you never move beyond the mistakes that were made in this relationship, you'll always fight about the past.

• 42:23Speaker 03

  I can't. I can move past it.

• 42:24Caleb Hammer?

  You're the one beating him.

• 42:26Speaker 03

  He won't move past it either. He, he puts it up in my face and then I'm supposed to deal with it.

• 42:29Caleb Hammer?

  So she gets drunk, you put that she cheated.

• 42:32Speaker 04

  Uh, she gets drunk and we just, I mean, it'll, so what usually happens is we'll get into a tiny argument.

• 42:37Speaker 03

  Issues. We go somewhere. He's, oh, you want to kill him? You want to kill him? You want to kill him? You're a little insecure bitch.

• 42:43Speaker 04

  No, we go to a party and she wants to do nothing but run around and shake her ass. So.

• 42:47Caleb Hammer?

  There's nothing to shake.

• 42:50Speaker 03

  So why are you mad?

• 42:51Caleb Hammer?

  That is the flattest ass I've ever seen.

• 42:52Speaker 03

  Exactly. So why are you so obsessed with mom?

• 42:55Speaker 04

  Our whole relationship, she bases like her whole existence off of whether other people on social media approve of her or not. I mean, she needs approval. She has to.

• 43:05Caleb Hammer?

  No one is right now. I promise you.

• 43:06Speaker 03

  Hates my guts. So what the, what do you mean?

• 43:09Caleb Hammer?

  Including millions.

• 43:10Speaker 04

  You, you blame me for, for the times that I've talked to other people for attention, but you do the same thing.

• 43:16Caleb Hammer?

  Have we ever considered just not drinking on the weekend?

• 43:19Speaker 03

  He bought.

• 43:20Caleb Hammer?

  Is this an option?

• 43:21Speaker 04

  I mean, we need to not drink. Yeah.

• 43:22Caleb Hammer?

  Just stop buying. If he stops buying, are you saying you will not drink?

• 43:25Speaker 04

  We live in Kentucky. What else are we gonna do? What are we gonna do?

• 43:28Caleb Hammer?

  That, that, that's the, that's the same thing for literally everywhere you are. You make up what you do. Everyone can say that about every town, every city, every, everything ever.

• 43:40Speaker 04

  Have you been to Kentucky?

• 43:41Caleb Hammer?

  I've driven through.

• 43:42Speaker 04

  What did you see?

• 43:43Caleb Hammer?

  Beautiful hills.

• 43:45Speaker 04

  What the are we gonna do with the hills?

• 43:47Caleb Hammer?

  What, uh, what would you do in Austin today?

• 43:51Speaker 04

  Uh, I mean, if anything, you know, if. I'll run a school around the city.

• 43:54Caleb Hammer?

  What'd you guys argue about this morning?

• 43:56Speaker 03

  What, what even was it?

• 43:58Speaker 04

  See, it's the, it's pointless shit that we can't even remember.

• 44:00Speaker 03

  It was the fact that he, he got mad because he went through my recently deleted messages and found who he said I was talking to. And he shut down and got mad, but he wouldn't talk to me about it.

• 44:09Caleb Hammer?

  Show me your recently deleted.

• 44:11Speaker 04

  Oh, I'm excited for this.

• 44:12Caleb Hammer?

  Show me your recently deleted.

• 44:14Speaker 04

  Go ahead.

• 44:14Speaker 03

  He already deletes everything out of his recently deleted.

• 44:17Speaker 04

  I didn't even, I, whenever we were broken up this past week, I don't, I haven't texted anybody.

• 44:21Speaker 03

  Is that all of them? Yeah.

• 44:23Caleb Hammer?

  Oh. Now this, see, this is what I was trying to see. What'd you delete with him?

• 44:29Speaker 03

  Nadia.

• 44:30Speaker 04

  What did you delete with me?

• 44:32Speaker 03

  My Nadia.

• 44:34Caleb Hammer?

  Uh, how do I get in there and then?

• 44:36Speaker 03

  I think we're, just recover them all and go through all the messages.

• 44:40Caleb Hammer?

  Okay. Okay. Okay. Including his mom. Cause that seems to be a big thing here. Okay. And then now get back to them, I guess. Bring up his. What have you done?

• 44:56Speaker 04

  I have nothing to worry about.

• 44:57Caleb Hammer?

  Your recently deleted, buddy.

• 44:58Speaker 03

  No, he has nothing to worry about because he deletes everything.

• 45:01Speaker 04

  There's, I didn't text anybody. There's nothing to delete.

• 45:03Speaker 03

  Exactly. It was all on Snapchat.

• 45:05Caleb Hammer?

  Okay. Here, here's another place where we can find things.

• 45:09Speaker 04

  Oh, you'll find a bunch of shit in there, especially the videos of her going insane.

• 45:13Caleb Hammer?

  What?

• 45:13Speaker 04

  Oh, anytime she loses her shit, I'll take videos. I'll make sure.

• 45:16Caleb Hammer?

  Open this.

• 45:17Speaker 04

  I record videos.

• 45:20Caleb Hammer?

  Oh, I don't know where I'm going. Which ones were deleted recently?

• 45:23Speaker 04

  There's nothing in my recently deleted.

• 45:25Caleb Hammer?

  Okay. Oh, things are usually in this as well. Open that. I know we might see some other things.

• 45:32Speaker 04

  That's, there's definitely, uh.

• 45:34Speaker 03

  Stop.

• 45:35Caleb Hammer?

  It doesn't bother me, but it's up to you guys.

• 45:37Speaker 04

  It is. I mean, it's just the pictures and videos of us.

• 45:41Caleb Hammer?

  Nothing else?

• 45:42Speaker 04

  Not, um, she can look. There's nothing else. Yeah.

• 45:44Speaker 03

  Yes, that's just naked pictures.

• 45:46Speaker 04

  Of us. Yeah.

• 45:47Caleb Hammer?

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• 46:28Caleb Hammer?

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• 47:12Caleb Hammer?

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• 47:18Caleb Hammer?

  I meant, why was you with your ex to get a black eye? See, he's, this guy's calling, he was trying to fuck her. He's calling him your ass.

• 47:26Speaker 04

  Oh, I know, I know. But see, what I don't get, I mean, I do get it, you know, it just sucks that she stabbed me in the.

• 47:32Caleb Hammer?

  Why was you with your ex? He got me pregnant. She's saying.

• 47:35Speaker 04

  And I'm a walking checkbook. I mean, I, that's.

• 47:38Caleb Hammer?

  What?

• 47:39Speaker 04

  To pay your bills. She don't want to walk. Or she don't want to work. That's, that's one of the big reasons.

• 47:44Caleb Hammer?

  Oh, she's sending like titty pics.

• 47:48Speaker 03

  It was a contact photo.

• 47:50Caleb Hammer?

  Come on.

• 47:51Speaker 04

  I didn't know about that. What did you send?

• 47:52Speaker 03

  You can literally see it.

• 47:53Speaker 04

  Can I see what, what? Titty pics? What are we talking about?

• 47:55Caleb Hammer?

  No, it was like, like this. Like it was clothed, but it was like with cleavage.

• 47:58Speaker 03

  It was a picture that I took in our.

• 48:00Caleb Hammer?

  Stabbed him in the leg, so he can't really work. Oh my gosh.

• 48:03Speaker 04

  Oh yeah, I got put off of work for a whole week. Or I mean, we're on a show about that finances.

• 48:08Caleb Hammer?

  Talking to here?

• 48:09Speaker 03

  Just random people.

• 48:10Caleb Hammer?

  Who is this?

• 48:10Speaker 03

  Random people.

• 48:12Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, but this is definitely dating. How old are you again? 22? Are you religious? This is dating app talk.

• 48:17Speaker 03

  Dating. Facebook dating.

• 48:19Caleb Hammer?

  So you are talking to guys?

• 48:20Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 48:21Caleb Hammer?

  That's cheating.

• 48:23Speaker 03

  We aren't together, are we?

• 48:24Caleb Hammer?

  Not at the point of talking to him.

• 48:27Speaker 04

  So did you talk to any of these guys before?

• 48:29Caleb Hammer?

  Yes, this guy.

• 48:30Speaker 03

  This was all whenever I got out of jail.

• 48:33Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, let's see. When, when'd you get out of jail?

• 48:35Speaker 03

  Saturday. Yeah. Saturday morning.

• 48:38Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, she immediately started texting. She went on Facebook dating the next day.

• 48:41Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 48:42Caleb Hammer?

  What have you done with anyone this last week?

• 48:44Speaker 03

  Nothing. Nothing texted.

• 48:45Caleb Hammer?

  What have you wanted to do?

• 48:46Speaker 03

  Nothing.

• 48:47Speaker 04

  No, I'm.

• 48:47Caleb Hammer?

  Really?

• 48:48Speaker 03

  I haven't wanted to do anything.

• 48:50Caleb Hammer?

  I'm sorry. If I break up with a relationship, I go for a rebound.

• 48:53Speaker 03

  Maybe on the weekend, but I had my child the whole entire time, so I couldn't never plan to do nothing.

• 48:57Speaker 04

  That's why she was so adamant. She was adamant about asking me, uh, if my mom was gonna take the baby this weekend. So she was definitely planning something with somebody. Because you sit there and ask me over and over, is, is she gonna take her this weekend? Is she gonna take her this weekend? So what was your plans?

• 49:14Caleb Hammer?

  I'm being told he downloaded Tinder immediately though, too, right? Ah, here's her recently deleted. What's going on? There are things in here. There's a lot of things in here. What are you deleting all these photos for?

• 49:26Speaker 03

  Just so Jay wouldn't see them and go crazy.

• 49:29Speaker 04

  So what's in there?

• 49:30Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, what is in here? Just try.

• 49:34Speaker 03

  Anything and everything.

• 49:35Caleb Hammer?

  Oh, come on.

• 49:36Speaker 03

  Texts with other people, texts with your family, pictures of other people.

• 49:40Speaker 04

  Pictures of other people, like what?

• 49:42Speaker 03

  Like profiles, pictures of them.

• 49:46Speaker 03

  I don't have nudes in, for anybody in there.

• 49:48Caleb Hammer?

  No one's, I'm not after nudes. Things being hidden. There's usually more interesting things. Also, if we've all been in a locker room and we've all seen, who really gives a, you know how many dicks and tits I've seen on this show now?

• 50:00Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 50:00Caleb Hammer?

  I was like, who cares? What is this? Now here we go.

• 50:06Speaker 04

  What is it?

• 50:06Caleb Hammer?

  You, she's texting a random person. You murdered your own fetus and want to talk shit about someone getting pregnant? Fucking easy slut. None of your friends or family love you. Who are you texting? Shit, your own.

• 50:17Speaker 03

  Those girlfriends.

• 50:18Caleb Hammer?

  She had an abortion of his kid?

• 50:20Speaker 03

  Not his kid.

• 50:20Speaker 04

  No, no, I've never, I've never gotten anybody else pregnant. I've never.

• 50:24Caleb Hammer?

  Oh, you bitch, you had sex with a tampon and you're sick. And she says, this person said, if you touch me, I'll file charges and your kid will be taken from you. Who is this?

• 50:35Speaker 04

  She loves to beef with people.

• 50:36Caleb Hammer?

  Another one of those? My goodness, dude, you guys are crazy.

• 50:40Speaker 04

  Crazy.

• 50:41Caleb Hammer?

  Oh yeah, yeah. I don't know who your boyfriend is who told you to hit on, hit me because he didn't, he slammed my face into the door and asked. What the, you're texting so many women about him?

• 50:50Speaker 03

  That's his own family.

• 50:51Caleb Hammer?

  The fuck is happening?

• 50:54Speaker 04

  Let's not forget.

• 50:55Caleb Hammer?

  Hold the videos of her going crazy.

• 50:56Speaker 04

  Oh.

• 50:58Caleb Hammer?

  And yes, I am gonna see stuff, but I don't trust what you have in there.

• 51:02Speaker 03

  That's the same thing he has in his hidden.

• 51:05Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah?

• 51:05Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 51:06Caleb Hammer?

  Let's see what else. Put it on camera.

• 51:16Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, nothing else.

• 51:18Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 51:19Caleb Hammer?

  Okay. You also have no butt. Let me see the videos. Now these we will put on screen.

• 51:24Speaker 04

  Yeah, so, um.

• 51:26Caleb Hammer?

  Okay. No, just let me watch.

• 51:35Speaker 04

  Come look.

• 51:37Speaker 04

  Are you gonna get in the car? This is right after being stabbed. If I do, will you get in the car?

• 51:49Speaker 04

  Come look.

• 51:51Speaker 04

  Please get in the car.

• 52:00Speaker 04

  Please get in the car. You don't give a. You just let me walk home from the hospital. With stitches in my. After stabbing me.

• 52:13Speaker 04

  Can you please get in the car? Can you please get in the car?

• 52:22Caleb Hammer?

  Who's she talking to?

• 52:23Speaker 04

  Random people. On the street.

• 52:29Caleb Hammer?

  What are you guys doing?

• 52:31Speaker 03

  I just wanted him to leave me alone.

• 52:32Caleb Hammer?

  Why didn't you walk away?

• 52:34Speaker 03

  He would have followed me in the car.

• 52:36Caleb Hammer?

  Go into him.

• 52:36Speaker 04

  She did walk away and I did because she's walking around the town just wasted, walking out into traffic.

• 52:42Speaker 03

  Called my dad.

• 52:43Speaker 04

  Walking out into traffic, just being belligerent and, and I was actually trying to stop her for being arrested.

• 52:54Caleb Hammer?

  She's tearing apart your car.

• 52:56Speaker 04

  Tears it. Oh yeah, she destroys stuff.

• 53:21Speaker 04

  I didn't even call the cops that morning, by the way. Somebody else did.

• 53:34Caleb Hammer?

  What the?

• 53:43Caleb Hammer?

  The video is like stuttering.

• 53:52Caleb Hammer?

  He's still going?

• 53:57Speaker 04

  I was literally just trying to stop her from going to jail because I knew she would go to jail for public intoxication.

• 54:10Speaker 04

  Please get in the car.

• 54:15Caleb Hammer?

  You like saying slurs.

• 54:19Caleb Hammer?

  Very homophobic, even though he looks it.

• 54:23Speaker 03

  He is gay.

• 54:24Speaker 04

  What did I even do?

• 54:26Speaker 03

  I was.

• 54:27Speaker 04

  She's, she, I don't know. She, it's like she goes into a fucking trance and she's like fucking demonic. She's like possessed.

• 54:33Caleb Hammer?

  You are going.

• 54:34Speaker 04

  Like a whole nother person. Like it's insane. And then the next day she'll just, I'm so sorry for acting like that.

• 54:39Caleb Hammer?

  The N word. Wait, are you black or can't? Oh.

• 54:43Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 54:43Caleb Hammer?

  I guess you can say it.

• 54:47Caleb Hammer?

  Okay.

• 54:48Speaker 04

  There's plenty more videos. I mean.

• 54:50Caleb Hammer?

  Show me, show me the most egregious and then we'll move on. We really do have to get into finances.

• 54:56Speaker 04

  This was while I was, so I had just been stabbed and I was sitting on the floor or, I was drunk, so it's hard to remember. It was before or after, but it's around that time.

• 55:04Speaker 03

  No, I think that was before.

• 55:13Speaker 04

  I think this was right after I got stabbed. I was sitting on the ground.

• 55:16Caleb Hammer?

  Okay. Can we know something? You must give the best head that has ever existed because I'm sorry, the most insane.

• 55:25Caleb Hammer?

  Top tier.

• 55:25Speaker 04

  Yeah, she gave me some last night. It was pretty good.

• 55:27Caleb Hammer?

  Okay. Now after that, get rid of her. One more time and then done.

• 55:33Speaker 04

  I can't, I, I can't. I've tried. I can't.

• 55:38Speaker 04

  I can't. I, I simply can't. It's like.

• 55:41Caleb Hammer?

  You might need to move, dude. Okay.

• 55:59Caleb Hammer?

  What's that sound?

• 56:00Speaker 03

  He's crying.

• 56:00Speaker 04

  I mean, yeah, my leg was killing me. I'm sitting there on the floor stabbed. I mean. Yeah, I was crying. Yeah.

• 56:14Speaker 03

  We literally didn't know who stabbed him. He kept saying he stabbed him and then he said I stabbed him.

• 56:19Speaker 04

  I said that because I was scared of you to go to jail.

• 56:21Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 56:22Caleb Hammer?

  There's the, uh, okay, uh, trigger warning. Three, two, uh, blood. One, boom, boom, boom. Put them all on screen. All those photos. Yeah, that's crazy.

• 56:40Speaker 04

  The, you. Mocking me, mocking.

• 56:42Caleb Hammer?

  I think, I need you to understand right now, this is literal, actual domestic abuse that you're in. You, this is not something to joke around with. This is not funny. She's laughing about it. She doesn't care. No, shut up. You need to leave because your kid will get hurt at some point. It always translates.

• 56:59Speaker 03

  What about the holes he's punched in the walls and all the screaming he's done to me with our kid here?

• 57:02Caleb Hammer?

  At least it's not your body. There are degrees. It's not good.

• 57:08Speaker 04

  I'm not good. I have punched holes in the wall. I've.

• 57:10Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, I'm not defending that either, but this is clearly a.

• 57:12Speaker 03

  Right by me and our kid's head.

• 57:15Speaker 04

  It's a.

• 57:15Speaker 03

  At night.

• 57:17Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, that's insane.

• 57:18Speaker 03

  Child here and it's our head.

• 57:19Speaker 04

  When did I punch a wall while y'all were right there next to us?

• 57:22Speaker 03

  What is that nighttime because you were mad because she wouldn't go to sleep?

• 57:26Speaker 04

  That is no the, God did not punch a hole in the wall because I was mad she wouldn't go to sleep. That is a straight.

• 57:30Speaker 03

  There's times when she wakes up at night and you get pissed the fuck off because she has to go in the bed.

• 57:33Caleb Hammer?

  With these videos and shit, with these videos and shit, I don't trust you. Maybe he, but if it wasn't your insanity. If it wasn't for all this, I maybe trust you, but I can't. Let's see. Then we'll get into the finances because.

• 57:52Caleb Hammer?

  What's happening here?

• 57:53Speaker 04

  Uh, there's a, there's a medicine that I take.

• 57:57Speaker 03

  He, my medicine, medicine that I'm supposed to take.

• 58:00Speaker 04

  For, you know, for depression, but, um.

• 58:03Caleb Hammer?

  But you weren't prescribed it?

• 58:04Speaker 03

  No, and he takes it every day.

• 58:06Speaker 04

  No.

• 58:08Speaker 04

  So.

• 58:11Speaker 04

  I don't, I don't know. The nights are blurred.

• 58:12Caleb Hammer?

  Is one of those hidden videos?

• 58:15Speaker 04

  Yeah, I think I stuck my phone in my pocket. No, she's hiccuping because she's so wasted.

• 58:22Caleb Hammer?

  All right, show me the next most egregious thing and then, because that was the only video. I don't want to sort through it.

• 58:32Caleb Hammer?

  And you find all of this funny?

• 58:34Speaker 03

  And just because he has the one up on me because he gets the chance to take videos and pictures of everything. He's just lucky I don't get to.

• 58:40Speaker 04

  What do I do that you need to take? Well, I don't destroy the house. I don't put my hands on you.

• 58:44Speaker 03

  You've literally tried to run me over.

• 58:47Speaker 04

  When did I try to run you over?

• 58:48Caleb Hammer?

  Run you over?

• 58:49Speaker 03

  Whenever I was standing behind the car and you just go in reverse.

• 58:53Speaker 04

  You're, when, when was that?

• 58:54Speaker 03

  Whenever we were about to go get our kid.

• 58:57Speaker 04

  When was that?

• 58:57Speaker 03

  Like two, three weeks ago.

• 59:00Speaker 04

  Were you trying to stop me from leaving for some reason?

• 59:02Speaker 03

  We were both going to get the kid.

• 59:06Speaker 04

  And you were behind the car?

• 59:08Speaker 03

  I was outside of the car trying to ask to get in the car when you were just standing there locking it, unlocking it, standing there locking it. You have the video.

• 59:14Speaker 04

  Yeah, fine. I don't know what you're talking about, so.

• 59:18Caleb Hammer?

  Okay.

• 59:20Speaker 04

  Uh, no, I didn't.

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• 59:46Speaker 04

  And try to run her over. I mean, there's been times when I wouldn't let her in the car and I'm trying to drive off and she's literally hanging off the side of the car or. I only have one windshield wiper that works because she was hanging off of it.

• 59:55Caleb Hammer?

  Where's the egregious video? What are you doing?

• 59:57Speaker 03

  I'm trying to find the video. Where, is it in a hidden? Is it in a folder?

• 1:00:00Speaker 04

  No, no, no, no.

• 1:00:01Speaker 03

  They're just all in your camera roll.

• 1:00:02Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 1:00:04Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, okay, fine. You guys destroy each other. I get it. Man, I don't know what to do. Um, to try to see if we can get you back together is the question you're answering? No, you shouldn't be together. You shouldn't. Neither of you should be.

• 1:00:20Speaker 04

  I, I mean, we, we have a family, so.

• 1:00:22Caleb Hammer?

  Doesn't matter. This is a destroyed family. The family's already destroyed and fucked up.

• 1:00:27Speaker 04

  This is come, like, you don't think this is, we're able to come back from this?

• 1:00:32Caleb Hammer?

  Do you guys not see what your relationship is? There's domestic abuse every other week at a minimum, you said on average. No. Have you guys seen those videos? She has stabbed you. This isn't even just slapping you. She has literally stabbed you. You guys are cheating on each other. She, you guys, the moment you broke up, you went on Tinder to start bitches and she went on Facebook Marketplace to start sucking dick. Okay. Which, I mean, like, just see where you guys are.

• 1:00:58Speaker 04

  We.

• 1:00:59Caleb Hammer?

  You, you will never, this will never be a healthy relationship.

• 1:01:02Speaker 04

  I've tried to make it work.

• 1:01:03Caleb Hammer?

  And you have, and guess what? It has failed. You guys are done.

• 1:01:10Caleb Hammer?

  Okay.

• 1:01:11Speaker 04

  I think the, I mean, she would have been gone a long time ago if it wasn't for her using me for bills and stuff because she don't, she don't like to work. She don't like to work.

• 1:01:18Caleb Hammer?

  There's no, you, right?

• 1:01:20Speaker 03

  I would have been gone a long time ago if you would have just said get an abortion and I had the kid.

• 1:01:24Speaker 04

  Well, abortion's illegal in our state and.

• 1:01:27Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, well, that doesn't.

• 1:01:29Speaker 03

  Like you can't travel.

• 1:01:30Caleb Hammer?

  Or get a pill.

• 1:01:33Speaker 04

  You're right. Yeah, I could have, I could have said get an abortion, I guess, and we could have been done, but I didn't and we're here now.

• 1:01:38Speaker 03

  You knew what our relationship was gonna be in the beginning of it, so why? I'm not the only one delusional thinking a wedding or a marriage could have fixed it because you thought a kid could have.

• 1:01:47Speaker 04

  So in the beginning, I mean. It was the first couple of weeks of our relationship. I, we were still in high school and we were going to go to prom together and she was sending videos of showing off her ass to some sugar daddy.

• 1:01:59Caleb Hammer?

  What ass?

• 1:02:00Speaker 04

  Some sugar daddy to pay for her dress and, I mean, I was in boot camp. Huh?

• 1:02:05Caleb Hammer?

  How old was she?

• 1:02:07Speaker 04

  How old was you at the time?

• 1:02:08Speaker 03

  Seventeen.

• 1:02:08Speaker 04

  Seventeen, this guy's.

• 1:02:09Caleb Hammer?

  How old was she?

• 1:02:11Speaker 04

  I have no clue about this guy. I don't, I don't know.

• 1:02:14Speaker 03

  Between 25 and 30.

• 1:02:18Caleb Hammer?

  Not great. Guys, what do you think your individual financial scores are? Because I'm honestly, no, you should not be together and I'm going to separate this. What do you think your financial score is? Zero to 10, zero being the worst, 10 being the best?

• 1:02:30Speaker 03

  I zero.

• 1:02:32Caleb Hammer?

  You?

• 1:02:32Speaker 04

  She has nothing. I mean, a, a four.

• 1:02:34Caleb Hammer?

  Okay. Get yours at CalebHammer.com. It is free. Just takes a few minutes. You can see where you stand in the world of finances. It's been redone. If you've done it before, you should take it again. Now it's much more detailed in each category and we've redone the score, so check it out. And if you don't want to be like a guest who ends up on the show, make sure to download the Dollar Wise Budgeting app. It is the best budgeting app for the average American. You can take a free trial to see if you like it. And if you do, which most people do, they take the annual version because it saves nearly 50% on your money and you get the physical version of my 30-day meal plan signed by me mailed directly to you and the digital version of the cookbook as well. Um, okay. DollarWise.com links in below or just download the app. Question them.

• 1:03:13Caleb Hammer?

  I mean, clearly, whatever you're defining as him getting his shit together, he's not. And you're a horrible, evil human being, disgusting bitch. Um, if he, if he wasn't the one paying for the bills, would you be with him today?

• 1:03:27Speaker 03

  Hmm, no.

• 1:03:30Caleb Hammer?

  Why are you with him?

• 1:03:32Speaker 03

  Because even when we try to break up, we're both begging for each other back. There's something wrong with us.

• 1:03:38Caleb Hammer?

  Yes, you're attracted to each other, but that's it.

• 1:03:41Speaker 03

  That's it.

• 1:03:42Speaker 04

  I don't know. There aren't other people out there you will be attracted to. We've got, I think, all the shit that we've done each other and been through together. I think we're some like, like somehow.

• 1:03:51Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, you guys are 20 and 19. Like there's so much life. You don't even, just shut up. Guys, neither of you can legally even drink yet.

• 1:04:02Speaker 04

  We're gonna, the thing is, we're gonna go back home and be together. We're gonna be together.

• 1:04:05Caleb Hammer?

  Don't be. You have choices. Go live with your mom. Kick her out. She's done. She's a domestic abuser. Use that video. Get full custody. Move on with your life. Find a woman who loves you that you can make more kids with.

• 1:04:17Speaker 04

  She is a great mom. She really, that is.

• 1:04:19Caleb Hammer?

  Why? Have you guys seen the last hour and three minutes of this conversation?

• 1:04:23Speaker 04

  Well, so, we, we definitely have issues. She is a great mom. That is, I can defend that. We definitely have issues, but she is a great mom.

• 1:04:30Caleb Hammer?

  Issues than anyone on this show.

• 1:04:32Speaker 04

  Loves her baby. She loves our baby more than anything else, and she is a great mom.

• 1:04:36Caleb Hammer?

  Not enough to not get fucked up every single weekend.

• 1:04:38Speaker 04

  I did, I fucked up when I snapchatted another girl while she was postpartum. But, I mean, she, she, I just, I can't do the, the physical stuff. That's, I think it would, our relationship would be better, easier to manage if it wasn't physical, the, the physical shit.

• 1:04:55Speaker 03

  Easier and better to manage if we didn't drink.

• 1:04:59Caleb Hammer?

  Then don't drink.

• 1:05:01Speaker 03

  He wants to drink.

• 1:05:02Caleb Hammer?

  He buys it there, he buys it, and even if he wants to drink, you don't have to drink.

• 1:05:05Speaker 04

  It's usually her that wants to drink too.

• 1:05:07Caleb Hammer?

  You don't have to, even if there's alcohol there.

• 1:05:09Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 1:05:11Caleb Hammer?

  Okay.

• 1:05:12Speaker 03

  But why not?

• 1:05:15Caleb Hammer?

  Because it results in this.

• 1:05:18Speaker 03

  Yeah. Well, if he wasn't there, it wouldn't.

• 1:05:20Caleb Hammer?

  Does she ever lose her mind when she's not drunk?

• 1:05:22Speaker 04

  Yeah, if we argue, yeah.

• 1:05:23Caleb Hammer?

  There we go. So it's not just the drinking. You're just an insane, crazy.

• 1:05:27Speaker 04

  The drinking definitely amplifies it.

• 1:05:29Caleb Hammer?

  What does she do around the house when she loses her mind? Besides, hit you.

• 1:05:33Speaker 04

  She's destroyed a TV. She's, she's destroyed blinds. She's destroyed my car.

• 1:05:38Caleb Hammer?

  I saw her rip it apart. I, that was on video. It's in this video.

• 1:05:42Speaker 04

  I saw, uh, I mean, she's, just, she'll wreck stuff, you know, just throw stuff, sling stuff off. It's just destructive. Like, it's, I don't know.

• 1:05:52Caleb Hammer?

  Hey, you owe money to your grandma. What are we doing, guys? Why?

• 1:05:57Speaker 03

  Because.

• 1:05:58Caleb Hammer?

  Work.

• 1:05:59Speaker 03

  Well, how, when, where, what car?

• 1:06:02Speaker 04

  She had a car. She totaled it.

• 1:06:04Caleb Hammer?

  Drunk?

• 1:06:05Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 1:06:05Speaker 04

  Yes. So, um.

• 1:06:08Caleb Hammer?

  You're disgusting.

• 1:06:09Speaker 04

  We still owe her grandparents $1,500 for that car that I was paying for, for her.

• 1:06:16Caleb Hammer?

  So 1,500 for the car. Why do you owe your grandma that?

• 1:06:19Speaker 03

  Because it was her car.

• 1:06:21Caleb Hammer?

  You totaled your grandma's car?

• 1:06:22Speaker 04

  She can't drive anymore. She can't drive anymore.

• 1:06:24Speaker 03

  She's 100 years old.

• 1:06:26Caleb Hammer?

  Is she 100?

• 1:06:26Speaker 03

  My great grandma. It was my great grandma's car.

• 1:06:29Caleb Hammer?

  You took from a 100-year-old and?

• 1:06:31Speaker 03

  No, she gave it to me.

• 1:06:33Caleb Hammer?

  Did she know she gave it?

• 1:06:35Speaker 03

  She's very here, yes.

• 1:06:39Caleb Hammer?

  You won't make it. Not even close to half that. Huh?

• 1:06:43Speaker 03

  I would, I can't make anything.

• 1:06:46Caleb Hammer?

  No, you won't make it to 100 is what I'm saying.

• 1:06:48Speaker 03

  Oh, God, no. I know. God, no.

• 1:06:51Caleb Hammer?

  That's not a good thing. That's why you're a bad parent. Okay.

• 1:06:53Speaker 03

  I don't want to live to 100.

• 1:06:55Caleb Hammer?

  What?

• 1:06:56Speaker 03

  Why would I want to live to 100?

• 1:06:57Caleb Hammer?

  Maybe their kid wants, maybe your kid wants their mom to.

• 1:07:00Speaker 03

  I mean.

• 1:07:01Caleb Hammer?

  Is she a girl or a boy? I don't even know.

• 1:07:02Speaker 03

  It's a girl.

• 1:07:04Speaker 04

  Her name's.

• 1:07:05Caleb Hammer?

  Refer to it as like the fetus or the child or an abortion.

• 1:07:08Speaker 04

  Our baby, our baby. We, we refer to her as our baby most of the time, but it's a girl. She's a girl.

• 1:07:14Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, so 1,500 you owe to your great grandma? When? When'd you total this car?

• 1:07:20Speaker 04

  Before we get too deep.

• 1:07:27Caleb Hammer?

  So why do you owe 1,500?

• 1:07:30Speaker 03

  Because we didn't pay it?

• 1:07:38Caleb Hammer?

  No, no, no. I don't understand. Is that what she owed on the car or what was she?

• 1:07:42Speaker 04

  No, no, no.

• 1:07:42Caleb Hammer?

  So what happened?

• 1:07:43Speaker 04

  We agreed to buy the car from her for 1,500.

• 1:07:45Speaker 03

  For like a deal for 1,500. If I would have like went and bought that car anywhere else, it'd been like, what, $10,000?

• 1:07:53Caleb Hammer?

  Good. So what's the agreement now? Are you on a monthly payment with the grandma?

• 1:07:57Speaker 04

  No, we just.

• 1:07:58Caleb Hammer?

  Does the grandma know you were drunk?

• 1:08:00Speaker 03

  No.

• 1:08:01Speaker 04

  No.

• 1:08:02Caleb Hammer?

  Maybe she should.

• 1:08:03Speaker 04

  Well, she's probably going to.

• 1:08:05Speaker 03

  Croak over.

• 1:08:09Speaker 04

  Does she even know that it got totaled?

• 1:08:12Speaker 03

  No. You told me not to tell them.

• 1:08:14Caleb Hammer?

  So who do we owe the 1,500 to?

• 1:08:16Speaker 03

  My great grandma.

• 1:08:18Caleb Hammer?

  No, does, but she knows it was told. The great grandma. Not your grandma?

• 1:08:22Speaker 03

  Nobody knows. He told me not to tell my family that. He sold it.

• 1:08:25Caleb Hammer?

  Wait, how do you, how do we know you owe 15 then?

• 1:08:28Speaker 03

  Because.

• 1:08:28Caleb Hammer?

  Is that just in her, made up in your brain?

• 1:08:30Speaker 04

  We owe her $1,500 for the car. She gave us the car.

• 1:08:34Caleb Hammer?

  Oh, with the agreement for 15?

• 1:08:36Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 1:08:36Speaker 04

  Yes.

• 1:08:36Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, is there an agreed upon minimum monthly payment?

• 1:08:39Speaker 03

  There was.

• 1:08:40Speaker 04

  We haven't paid her.

• 1:08:40Caleb Hammer?

  What was it?

• 1:08:41Speaker 03

  It was like 250.

• 1:08:43Speaker 04

  100, 200 bucks.

• 1:08:43Caleb Hammer?

  I'm putting that in the budget. That's what it should be. You should be paying that. 250. Okay, for the baby 400. Why'd you have to borrow 400 from Nana?

• 1:08:52Speaker 03

  Well, after I got out of jail.

• 1:08:54Caleb Hammer?

  Which time?

• 1:08:55Speaker 03

  This Saturday.

• 1:08:56Caleb Hammer?

  Hey, what was the first jail?

• 1:08:58Speaker 04

  Domestic violence and public intoxication.

• 1:09:00Caleb Hammer?

  Uh, what did she do?

• 1:09:02Speaker 04

  That was when she.

• 1:09:04Speaker 03

  Punched him three times in the face.

• 1:09:06Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 1:09:07Caleb Hammer?

  What did you do?

• 1:09:09Speaker 04

  Uh, we got into an argument. What, what did that argument start about? What did that day, that argument start about? Something stupid, who knows?

• 1:09:18Speaker 03

  The fact that you got whatever.

• 1:09:20Speaker 04

  Someone I messed with, was it Seven Brew? We were gonna go to Seven Brew and somebody that I'd messed with before was there, so I was like, oh, I don't want to go anymore.

• 1:09:26Caleb Hammer?

  It's not his fault?

• 1:09:27Speaker 03

  No, but he made it a big deal. I didn't.

• 1:09:30Caleb Hammer?

  Oh, what'd you do?

• 1:09:31Speaker 04

  How the did I make it a big deal?

• 1:09:32Speaker 03

  I was like, are you sure you want to go? And you were like, no. And then after you got all mad and quiet and distant like you always do. So then I asked, what's wrong? You, nothing's wrong. And you make it a big deal. You're looking at me like I'm.

• 1:09:43Caleb Hammer?

  Boom, boom, boom, triple.

• 1:09:45Speaker 03

  Cause later, okay, we separated that day because when we fight, we separate because we know it'll turn into shit.

• 1:09:50Caleb Hammer?

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• 1:10:27Speaker 03

  I went to my cousin's. She got me alcohol.

• 1:10:30Caleb Hammer?

  Oh, my goodness.

• 1:10:31Speaker 03

  Bad idea.

• 1:10:31Speaker 04

  Two fifths of Fireball that night. Two whole fifths of Fireball she drank that night.

• 1:10:35Caleb Hammer?

  That's a lot. I'm not a drinker. I don't know.

• 1:10:37Speaker 04

  Yes, it's a.

• 1:10:38Caleb Hammer?

  I know, Fireball's nasty.

• 1:10:39Speaker 04

  Yeah, it's disgusting and she drank a ton of it and got drunk and went to a concert with her, with her cousin with no clothes on. So, uh, we were texting.

• 1:10:50Caleb Hammer?

  At the concert? You went naked at the concert?

• 1:10:52Speaker 04

  No, no, I mean, she had clothes on, but, so, we were texting and we were, we agreed, we can still have a good night.

• 1:10:58Speaker 03

  The whole entire point before this concert, the cops told us to separate. The cops got caught.

• 1:11:02Caleb Hammer?

  Why were the cops already involved?

• 1:11:03Speaker 03

  Because I decided to come back to get a few things because I knew we were gonna spend that day separated. So then I came home. He wanted to make things right. I was like, no, I just want to be alone, have a good day. So I go off, go crazy. He calls the cops.

• 1:11:15Caleb Hammer?

  Go, what? You wanted to make things right so you go off, go crazy?

• 1:11:18Speaker 03

  No, he wanted to make things right.

• 1:11:20Caleb Hammer?

  So you go off, go crazy. What did you do?

• 1:11:22Speaker 03

  I wanted to, I wanted to leave. I wanted to go to the concert. I want to have fun.

• 1:11:25Caleb Hammer?

  Why were the cops called?

• 1:11:26Speaker 03

  Because I went crazy.

• 1:11:27Caleb Hammer?

  What did you do?

• 1:11:28Speaker 03

  Scream, yell.

• 1:11:30Speaker 04

  Started destroying. No, why, why did I call? No, there was something. I don't know. You.

• 1:11:35Speaker 03

  I think I poured sweet tea on the floor.

• 1:11:37Caleb Hammer?

  Why are you so physical?

• 1:11:41Speaker 03

  I don't know.

• 1:11:42Speaker 04

  So the cops got called the first time.

• 1:11:44Caleb Hammer?

  You're in for something lucky after this filming, buddy. You're gonna come quick.

• 1:11:48Speaker 04

  So the cops got called the first time and, uh, they told us to separate that day. Well, we were texting and agreed we can still have a good night. So I came and found her at the concert. As I'm walking up, I literally see her boobs slip out because she's wasted and, you know, jumping around and she has no bra on. It's just like no.

• 1:12:04Caleb Hammer?

  But I mean, I got a glimpse in that hidden folder. Those things unfortunately are sagging down to her toes. Like, it's impossible.

• 1:12:09Speaker 04

  It pissed me off. So I'm like, why are you out here with no clothes on? And that starts the whole argument up again. And I had somebody drop, drop me off because I was drinking. I didn't want to drive. So.

• 1:12:20Caleb Hammer?

  I think someone's responsible, I guess.

• 1:12:22Speaker 04

  So I get dropped off and I'm telling her if we're gonna go to this, we were gonna go to another little concert with her cousin. So we get in the car with her cousin.

• 1:12:33Speaker 03

  It was like the 3rd of July, so everywhere.

• 1:12:36Caleb Hammer?

  Go on, go on, it doesn't matter.

• 1:12:38Speaker 04

  So, we get in the car and we were already mad at each other again because I had said something about what she had on. And it blew up in the car. It's just a little argument blows up. We start screaming and cussing and then the next thing you know, she's punched me in my face three or four times, so.

• 1:12:52Caleb Hammer?

  Where'd she hit you?

• 1:12:53Speaker 04

  Just in the jaw.

• 1:12:54Caleb Hammer?

  Close fist?

• 1:12:55Speaker 04

  Yeah. Oh, no, this was.

• 1:12:56Caleb Hammer?

  Boom, boom, boom.

• 1:12:56Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 1:12:57Caleb Hammer?

  What the is wrong with you?

• 1:12:59Speaker 03

  A lot.

• 1:13:00Speaker 04

  So I called the cops and she went to jail that night for domestic violence and public intoxication.

• 1:13:04Caleb Hammer?

  Good. So you got out of jail and you had to borrow 400 from grandma?

• 1:13:08Speaker 03

  Mm-hmm.

• 1:13:09Caleb Hammer?

  For what? Was it bail? No, 400?

• 1:13:11Speaker 03

  Well, I borrow money from her for a lot.

• 1:13:15Caleb Hammer?

  Uh, okay, here's the 400. Uh, Mercedes said she found out that Jay cheated on her after she gave birth about two months. And I gave her 400 for, for what? I don't understand. Oh, for the baby. It says for the baby.

• 1:13:31Speaker 03

  Well, after I found out you cheated on me, then we probably, yeah, we probably did separate and I was living with Nana.

• 1:13:37Caleb Hammer?

  So what's the agreed upon for the 400 for the payment to the grandma?

• 1:13:42Speaker 03

  Just living expenses. It's.

• 1:13:44Caleb Hammer?

  No, is there, is there, uh, is there a minimum payment?

• 1:13:48Speaker 03

  No.

• 1:13:49Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, 400. Okay, bail 1,500. Now that one was for the jail.

• 1:13:53Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 1:13:54Caleb Hammer?

  Grandma bailed you out. Did she know she bailed you out?

• 1:13:57Speaker 03

  I mean, yeah.

• 1:13:59Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, so what does grandma think about that? What the?

• 1:14:02Speaker 04

  She is disappointed, obviously.

• 1:14:03Caleb Hammer?

  Whoa, she's disappointed?

• 1:14:05Speaker 03

  They're all Christians, so they all think if.

• 1:14:07Caleb Hammer?

  Maybe you should be too.

• 1:14:08Speaker 03

  If we could just go to church, our relationship would be fixed.

• 1:14:11Caleb Hammer?

  You might need that, girl. You're broken.

• 1:14:13Speaker 03

  Trying.

• 1:14:14Caleb Hammer?

  You're broken in every way whatsoever.

• 1:14:16Speaker 03

  Trying to get him to go to church and he'll say he'll go and then we get ready to go and then he doesn't go.

• 1:14:22Speaker 04

  I'm not super religious.

• 1:14:23Caleb Hammer?

  That's fine. I think she needs something, though.

• 1:14:25Speaker 03

  Yeah, and if you wanted help, why not just sit in church?

• 1:14:28Caleb Hammer?

  I don't care what anyone, like, you do your life, but it's like, she needs some kind of help.

• 1:14:32Speaker 04

  I have seriously got to go piss, or I cannot continue.

• 1:14:35Caleb Hammer?

  I do not care.

• 1:14:36Speaker 04

  Like, seriously.

• 1:14:37Caleb Hammer?

  I do not care.

• 1:14:38Speaker 04

  I seriously have got to go piss.

• 1:14:39Caleb Hammer?

  Open up that gamer sub and finish yourself off. I am finishing this episode. Money owed to your cousin. Now you're borrowing from your cousin?

• 1:14:48Speaker 03

  I have to borrow money from everybody. Everybody. Everybody.

• 1:14:52Caleb Hammer?

  Why'd you have to borrow from your cousin?

• 1:14:54Speaker 04

  Because she won't get a job, or she would have her own money.

• 1:14:56Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, but what was it for?

• 1:14:57Speaker 03

  Probably gas, vapes, everything.

• 1:15:01Caleb Hammer?

  Vapes? You're borrowing from your cousin for vapes? You are the most pathetic mother that I have ever witnessed on this show.

• 1:15:11Speaker 03

  I like a vape.

• 1:15:14Caleb Hammer?

  You prioritize that over your future and kids?

• 1:15:16Speaker 03

  No.

• 1:15:16Caleb Hammer?

  Yes, if you're borrowing money and not getting a job and borrowing money instead of getting a job, yes, you are.

• 1:15:21Speaker 03

  Can I get help with a babysitter? Can I get a job?

• 1:15:24Speaker 04

  You had two jobs that worked around my schedule, so I would be home.

• 1:15:27Speaker 03

  I had to quit both of them because of you.

• 1:15:29Speaker 04

  You did not have to quit because of me. You would go to work for a day and complain, my feet hurt. I work at 2 hours, my feet hurt.

• 1:15:35Speaker 03

  That is not why I quit.

• 1:15:37Speaker 04

  I hate working. I shouldn't have to work.

• 1:15:39Speaker 03

  I stopped serving at the country club, number one, because you told me it was a shitty job and I have to flirt to make tips.

• 1:15:44Speaker 04

  She was bringing home nothing, literally nothing.

• 1:15:47Caleb Hammer?

  You're lazy, you're drunk, you're an abuser, you're an addict.

• 1:15:51Speaker 03

  Apparently.

• 1:15:51Caleb Hammer?

  Apparently?

• 1:15:53Speaker 03

  Apparently.

• 1:15:54Caleb Hammer?

  Dude, it's been an hour 15 minutes. That's what, that's what you are. Unless you have anything else.

• 1:16:03Speaker 03

  I tried to get a job.

• 1:16:04Caleb Hammer?

  What'd you try to?

• 1:16:06Speaker 03

  I was a server at a country club. Rich white people, you think you'd make a lot of money.

• 1:16:11Caleb Hammer?

  Potentially?

• 1:16:12Speaker 03

  For banquets. Banquets, I did make a lot of money. That was like 150, 170 a day.

• 1:16:19Caleb Hammer?

  Why'd you borrow 1,000 from your dad?

• 1:16:21Speaker 03

  That's just random.

• 1:16:23Caleb Hammer?

  Why are they supporting you? Why are they enabling you? Why are they enabling you to make all these bad decisions and face no consequences for it?

• 1:16:31Speaker 03

  Kentucky. I don't know.

• 1:16:33Caleb Hammer?

  No, that's not an answer.

• 1:16:34Speaker 03

  It's just my family. I don't know. My family.

• 1:16:42Caleb Hammer?

  What the? Is there an agreed upon minimum back to your dad, back to your cousin?

• 1:16:46Speaker 03

  No. They just helped me out.

• 1:16:49Caleb Hammer?

  What do you see in her that you like, besides your somehow attraction? I don't get it, cuz like.

• 1:16:54Speaker 04

  It's.

• 1:16:54Caleb Hammer?

  I'm not suggesting you're a good person, but she's objectively like one of the worst people I've ever met. You need to take the kid and be gone.

• 1:17:00Speaker 04

  It's the family.

• 1:17:00Caleb Hammer?

  No, but only, it's just her. You can still be a family with you, the kid, whoever you meet, and your parents. You would get full custody, most likely.

• 1:17:09Speaker 04

  Well, I, I don't, I don't wanna, I don't.

• 1:17:12Speaker 03

  Yes, I would care, but I know with all the evidence that he has, he would absolutely 100% get full custody.

• 1:17:17Speaker 04

  I'm not gonna do that. I'm not gonna take it. Because she, the baby doesn't deserve to be raised without her mother.

• 1:17:23Caleb Hammer?

  No, the baby does not deserve to be raised in this household.

• 1:17:25Speaker 04

  To be raised around this. You're right. She doesn't, but even if we split up, there.

• 1:17:29Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, you're 20. I think you're just too immature, man. You don't know the consequences and bad life that can happen.

• 1:17:33Speaker 04

  I, I don't think if we were to split up and co-parent that she would be continuing. I think she would, I realistically think that she would get help for her baby. Maybe not for me, but for her baby.

• 1:17:44Caleb Hammer?

  She has it in the nine months. Did you drink it all during the pregnancy? Be honest.

• 1:17:49Speaker 03

  That a drink while she's pregnant? No.

• 1:17:52Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, well, you get fucked up every weekend, so that.

• 1:17:54Speaker 03

  When she's not there.

• 1:17:55Caleb Hammer?

  Yes, I know that. No one's arguing against that point. This house has hole in the walls, stab wounds, and abuse every other week. And blow up fights. Come on. And money that has been borrowed from family. This is not good.

• 1:18:12Speaker 03

  No, it's not.

• 1:18:13Speaker 04

  That's why we're on this show, so.

• 1:18:15Caleb Hammer?

  No shit. Why, you don't need to clarify that. I know, why do you think?

• 1:18:19Speaker 04

  Uh, I think.

• 1:18:21Caleb Hammer?

  I'm saying you need to leave. That is the conclusion I have come to.

• 1:18:24Speaker 04

  It's just not gonna happen.

• 1:18:25Caleb Hammer?

  Then what are we doing? What's the point? If you wanted my opinion, then what the, cuz that's the objective reality. You're gonna learn it. You're going to learn that. You've been together for a couple of years. You're gonna be 25 and you're gonna realize this is the worst mistake you've ever made, sticking with her.

• 1:18:41Speaker 04

  I might, but it could get better. It could get better. It could get better.

• 1:18:44Caleb Hammer?

  In what world? Maybe, let's bring in Brandon. I, I need a man, I need another man to speak to him. Clearly, I am not breaking through. And I'll bring in Mark to stick his penis in your mouth.

• 1:18:56Caleb Hammer?

  Oh, like you're not looking for one to suck right now, anyway. You guys are broken up, anyway.

• 1:19:02Speaker 04

  We are.

• 1:19:02Caleb Hammer?

  Speak some sense into this man, cuz clearly I'm not getting through. Why the, he will not leave her.

• 1:19:08Speaker 05

  I talked to you guys before the episode started, did I not?

• 1:19:11Speaker 04

  Yes.

• 1:19:13Speaker 05

  I asked you, is this the first time that she's beat a man? She said you're number four.

• 1:19:18Speaker 04

  Yeah, I didn't know that until you told me.

• 1:19:20Speaker 05

  You're 19 years old, you crazy, you've beat four boyfriends.

• 1:19:24Speaker 03

  They weren't boyfriends.

• 1:19:25Speaker 05

  Okay, doesn't that's even worse?

• 1:19:27Caleb Hammer?

  That's actually even worse.

• 1:19:28Speaker 05

  That's assaulting random men.

• 1:19:30Caleb Hammer?

  What, what, what happened?

• 1:19:32Speaker 03

  Alcohol.

• 1:19:34Caleb Hammer?

  You just get drunk and hit random men?

• 1:19:36Speaker 03

  No, most of them deserve it.

• 1:19:38Caleb Hammer?

  What did they do?

• 1:19:39Speaker 05

  How has he deserved it?

• 1:19:42Speaker 05

  You beat the shit out of him and you've stabbed him.

• 1:19:45Speaker 03

  I guess.

• 1:19:45Speaker 05

  What if he doesn't deserve it?

• 1:19:46Speaker 03

  Not, maybe he doesn't deserve stabbing.

• 1:19:49Speaker 04

  Maybe I don't deserve the stabbing. Maybe I don't deserve it really.

• 1:19:53Speaker 03

  Maybe.

• 1:19:54Speaker 05

  She provides nothing. She, she birthed, she birthed a kid on accident.

• 1:19:58Speaker 04

  She did do that.

• 1:19:59Speaker 05

  She birthed a kid on accident.

• 1:19:59Speaker 04

  I'm very grateful that she birthed my baby. That's a hard thing. She carried.

• 1:20:03Speaker 03

  That's all I did?

• 1:20:04Speaker 04

  She carried my baby for nine months and while I was AWOL, and I'm sure I provided crazy amount of stress. But that's the only thing I can say that she's done that for me.

• 1:20:16Speaker 05

  Exactly. So get the out. You can have a bright future. You said Electrician's Apprentice?

• 1:20:22Speaker 04

  Yes.

• 1:20:22Speaker 05

  You can have a very bright future. You can make a ton of money. The money's in the trades right now.

• 1:20:25Speaker 04

  I know, yes.

• 1:20:26Speaker 05

  The money's definitely in the trades right now.

• 1:20:27Caleb Hammer?

  And all the money owed so far is to her family.

• 1:20:30Speaker 05

  She refuses to work. She refuses to be a mother. She refuses to quit beating you. She stabbed you on Saturday.

• 1:20:37Speaker 04

  Well, I just, I've tried. I've tried to leave. I just, I can't. I don't know what it is.

• 1:20:42Caleb Hammer?

  If he gets a taste of just anyone else that is actually like above the four, like.

• 1:20:47Speaker 05

  Do you understand that you hold the cards in this? She can't do any, she has no money. She has no support system. She has no money. You hold all the cards.

• 1:20:56Speaker 04

  I just can't. I've tried. I've tried to leave. I don't know what it is.

• 1:21:00Caleb Hammer?

  She already admitted in this show that if it wasn't for your income, she wouldn't stay.

• 1:21:04Speaker 04

  I know, I know. She's told me that.

• 1:21:06Caleb Hammer?

  So you're being a pathetic cuck.

• 1:21:07Speaker 04

  I know. It is pathetic. She's told me a lot of this shit to my face, you know, that it is.

• 1:21:11Caleb Hammer?

  Meaning if she ever gets any kind of independence, she's gone anyway, so you may as well bite the bullet.

• 1:21:15Speaker 04

  It's just hard. I've tried. I've tried.

• 1:21:18Speaker 05

  You're 20 years old. I get that you have a kid. I get that you want, I can tell that you want the family to be together. You want the family to be whole.

• 1:21:24Speaker 04

  I do. I think everybody wants that, regardless of how she feels. I think she wants her family whole, too.

• 1:21:29Speaker 05

  Do you, you had two parents growing up?

• 1:21:31Speaker 04

  No, no, I mean, I had two, but not mine.

• 1:21:34Speaker 05

  You probably want different for what you, for different than what you had. You're not gonna get that with her. Dude, buddy.

• 1:21:41Speaker 04

  I know, I know.

• 1:21:41Speaker 05

  Hey, hey, have you ever watched any, any like true crime, anything, anything ever?

• 1:21:45Speaker 04

  Yeah, yeah, my family's told me before that that's, it's gonna lead to that. I'm gonna leave.

• 1:21:49Caleb Hammer?

  Who said that?

• 1:21:50Speaker 04

  My family has told me before that they're scared that, you know.

• 1:21:52Caleb Hammer?

  Buddy, you've already gotten stabbed once in your leg. Imagine if that was in your throat. It could have been.

• 1:21:56Speaker 04

  That was an inch away from.

• 1:21:57Caleb Hammer?

  This isn't a joke. This is a real thing.

• 1:21:59Speaker 05

  It was an inch away from an artery?

• 1:22:01Speaker 04

  Less than an inch.

• 1:22:02Caleb Hammer?

  There you go. You, you will probably die with her.

• 1:22:05Speaker 05

  She could have killed you six days ago.

• 1:22:07Caleb Hammer?

  Like, just where we're going.

• 1:22:09Speaker 05

  This doesn't get better. This escalates to killing.

• 1:22:12Speaker 04

  I, I, I just can't. I've tried. I can't leave.

• 1:22:14Speaker 05

  But why are you risking your and your child's life? You're being a dogshit father by keeping your kid in that situation.

• 1:22:21Speaker 04

  I think if, I think the, the best course of action would be for us to separate, but I don't, I don't feel I should take full custody. I don't.

• 1:22:30Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, so that's your big sticking, okay, we'll talk about that. Let's at least, that's progress made. Let's leave that there. You owe on USAA $694.35. You didn't make a payment and your minimum is 151. You have a late fee right there. You're making money. Why not at least pay your credit cards?

• 1:22:47Speaker 04

  It goes, everything goes to bills. Everything goes to bills. Everything goes to.

• 1:22:51Speaker 05

  This is a bill.

• 1:22:53Speaker 04

  Other bills, living, I mean, water, rent, uh, electric. Now, now, now that I have a roommate that's moved in, it's definitely gonna make it easier.

• 1:23:02Speaker 03

  His crackhead girl.

• 1:23:06Speaker 01

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• 1:23:31Speaker 03

  Girlfriend.

• 1:23:32Caleb Hammer?

  Is it actually a crackhead or are you just a jealous whore?

• 1:23:34Speaker 04

  It's just an insult.

• 1:23:34Speaker 03

  I'm not jealous of her.

• 1:23:36Caleb Hammer?

  Then why are you saying someone's a crackhead who's not?

• 1:23:39Speaker 03

  Because his ex-crack, at first, we didn't know her. Know where he admitted it.

• 1:23:43Speaker 04

  But you know, okay, I feel like I, if I'm gonna bring, so this whole, this whole thing's a situation because I was gonna bring the baby back to the house.

• 1:23:51Speaker 03

  Because I did have a job. I wanted a job. I applied for the job. I got the job. I wanted to go to work. I had him as a babysitter. I didn't know who he was bringing my child around. He didn't either. He admitted it.

• 1:24:02Caleb Hammer?

  I did 10,000 hours in medical.

• 1:24:04Speaker 04

  Um, I went to the hospital, there, there's a few things. When I went to the hospital and stayed 10 days for Crohn's, they're being stabbed.

• 1:24:13Caleb Hammer?

  You were in the psych ward for what?

• 1:24:15Speaker 03

  Drinking.

• 1:24:16Caleb Hammer?

  Oh, good fuck.

• 1:24:17Speaker 05

  Why the do you still drink?

• 1:24:20Speaker 03

  Why not?

• 1:24:22Caleb Hammer?

  Oh, you suck. If, if that isn't the biggest, like, just leave. She's never gonna change. She doesn't want to.

• 1:24:27Speaker 03

  He doesn't want me to stop drinking. He's never just been like, hey, let's stop drinking.

• 1:24:31Speaker 04

  I've definitely said, let's slow down.

• 1:24:33Speaker 03

  He never wants, never wants, said stop.

• 1:24:34Speaker 04

  So, so the drinking isn't the problem. There's an underlying issue that the drinking amplifies. And when she gets wasted, you know, drinking's fine, but she gets wasted blackout.

• 1:24:44Caleb Hammer?

  Drinking is not fine.

• 1:24:45Speaker 04

  Wasted blackout.

• 1:24:46Speaker 03

  I don't just drink.

• 1:24:46Caleb Hammer?

  Drinking is not fine.

• 1:24:47Speaker 04

  Cause if we just drink a little, nothing like, you know, this doesn't get amplified like this.

• 1:24:51Caleb Hammer?

  They're too young. You know, maybe we should be infantilizing people. I was not this, at 20.

• 1:24:58Speaker 04

  We, the, the drinking is not, is not what, the underlying issues is what does this. The drinking just amplifies it. The drinking brings it all out.

• 1:25:06Speaker 05

  Do we drink?

• 1:25:07Speaker 04

  That's a good question. There's nothing else to do.

• 1:25:09Caleb Hammer?

  Alcohol in the house. Why do we party?

• 1:25:11Speaker 04

  I guess, and it's an addiction. I don't know.

• 1:25:15Caleb Hammer?

  Here's the reality. You have additional collections of Verizon 1709, more collections, 288, 548, 953, 655. You're not paying your own bills. You're not taking care of your own household. You're allowing her to drag you down just cause she's good in the sack. This makes no sense. Obviously, the kid was a mistake, but it wasn't an accident. You were putting raw loads in her, buddy. You should go find people. You need to go to rehab. You need to get help. Go to AA. You need a date. I promise you, we will find someone. You just met her when you were young and you feel like you should be with. How many women have you?

• 1:25:55Speaker 04

  I don't, I haven't kept a count. Maybe five, six.

• 1:25:57Caleb Hammer?

  There we go. I promise you, you will find one that you're more attracted to, that you are happy with. Yeah, that's, that's not a lot, okay?

• 1:26:06Speaker 04

  Uh, it's just, it's hard, you know, I can't.

• 1:26:07Caleb Hammer?

  No, it's, it's actually not.

• 1:26:09Speaker 04

  I, I don't know why I come back. I don't know why.

• 1:26:11Caleb Hammer?

  Well, she doesn't even want you to, except for the bills. You have family to go to. I might need you to actually, like, just get away from Lexington.

• 1:26:20Caleb Hammer?

  I know with the family and the kid situation, that one's hard, but I need physical distance between you guys.

• 1:26:24Speaker 04

  How am I gonna do that with the?

• 1:26:25Caleb Hammer?

  Exactly. It might be hard. We might have to brainstorm, but the thing is, you have some, you, therapy to get out of this situation. You need to get away from this crazy. Everyone already hates her in your town for a reason. She's insane.

• 1:26:41Speaker 04

  A lot of people do hate her, yeah.

• 1:26:42Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, she's insane.

• 1:26:44Speaker 04

  Everybody knows that.

• 1:26:45Speaker 05

  She has the craziest eyes I've ever seen on a person. She keeps looking over here and it's genuinely scary.

• 1:26:49Speaker 04

  You should wait until she gets into that mode where she goes crazy and it's like her pupils are just she's just.

• 1:26:56Caleb Hammer?

  I always saw some of it on video and that was actually insane.

• 1:26:59Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 1:26:59Caleb Hammer?

  That was terrifying.

• 1:27:00Speaker 04

  It was definitely.

• 1:27:01Caleb Hammer?

  And in this checking account, listen, I mean, you have fees that must have been an overdraft. You have like nothing in there. And it's vending machines and getting some bullshit and bullshit and vending machines and Taco Bell and getting some bullshit, getting the energy drinks, getting the energy drinks and smoking vape and energy drinks and raising games. McDonald's, Apple Bill, Cash App, Papa John's, uh, Walmart, energy drink, Cash Express is, what is that?

• 1:27:26Speaker 04

  That's from me borrowing money. Yeah, payday loans. I got trapped in that cycle for a little bit.

• 1:27:32Caleb Hammer?

  Just let it go to collections. You're done. Just like you already in collections. Just quit the cycle by just stop paying at this point. I mean, they could sue you and you could get garnished. Could. They might.

• 1:27:44Speaker 04

  I'd say there's a good chance.

• 1:27:46Caleb Hammer?

  Good chance, I guess. Netflix, bullshit, bullshit, Apple, getting into bullshit, bullshit, Taco Bell, bullshit, energy drinks and bullshit, bullshit, energy drinks, McDonald's, Cash App, Cash Express again. Bullshit, bullshit, market, firehouse subs, bullshit, bullshit. Hey, you spend more on energy drinks than it takes to actually pay back these cash advances. So just don't get payday loans and energy drinks and you won't be in the cycle.

• 1:28:13Speaker 04

  I'm trying to get out of the payday loan cycle.

• 1:28:16Caleb Hammer?

  Get out of the energy drink cycle and you won't be borrowing payday loans.

• 1:28:19Speaker 04

  Oh, I wouldn't have to have energy drinks if I could get sleep if we had a normal life.

• 1:28:22Caleb Hammer?

  Easy pay, easy pay.

• 1:28:23Speaker 03

  She blames that on me and my kid.

• 1:28:24Caleb Hammer?

  Drink liquid assets from gamer subs. It's a powder. It's 40 cents a serving. It's, that's a solution. Apple Bill bullshit, energy drink, energy drink, energy drink, energy drink, energy drink, Apple Bill Spectrum bullshit, energy drink, energy drink, energy drink, Taco Bell bullshit, bullshit. And yes, you are overdrafting for those energy drinks and her Cash App is.

• 1:28:45Caleb Hammer?

  When you're on Facebook dating, what are you intentionally trying to do? Right?

• 1:28:49Speaker 03

  Make him mad?

• 1:28:50Caleb Hammer?

  Is that it? Why'd you download Tinder?

• 1:28:53Speaker 03

  To talk to people.

• 1:28:54Speaker 04

  To talk to other people.

• 1:28:55Caleb Hammer?

  You're not trying to talk to people on Facebook?

• 1:28:56Speaker 03

  No.

• 1:28:57Caleb Hammer?

  What do you want right now?

• 1:28:59Speaker 04

  She talks to other, she doesn't talk to other people just to make me mad.

• 1:29:02Caleb Hammer?

  No, no, no, pause. Woman, you said if he wasn't paying the bills, you wouldn't want him there. So why aren't you talking to other men to have fun?

• 1:29:08Speaker 03

  But that's not the only reason why I do want him is just the bills.

• 1:29:12Caleb Hammer?

  What? You just said you, you just said if he wasn't paying the bills, you wouldn't want him there. You said that earlier.

• 1:29:18Speaker 05

  Like having a punching bag.

• 1:29:19Speaker 04

  She goes, she goes back and forth. She, sometimes she wants me to, sometimes she doesn't. Sometimes it's just the bill.

• 1:29:27Caleb Hammer?

  Yeah, you said that four times we had a count.

• 1:29:29Speaker 04

  Uh, what do you guys think? Do you guys think I'm manipulative? Honestly, do you think I'm?

• 1:29:33Caleb Hammer?

  You both probably are.

• 1:29:34Speaker 04

  I, I think I probably have been, but it's gotten to the point where I question.

• 1:29:37Speaker 03

  You just have videos and pictures and evidence. That's all you have.

• 1:29:43Speaker 03

  Plus a stab wound, which I have a black eye.

• 1:29:46Speaker 04

  After you gave me a stab wound.

• 1:29:49Speaker 03

  We both fucked each other up real bad.

• 1:29:52Caleb Hammer?

  What's your rent?

• 1:29:53Speaker 04

  800 a month.

• 1:29:53Caleb Hammer?

  What do you get from the first?

• 1:29:54Speaker 03

  400 a month. His boyfriend pays 400.

• 1:29:57Speaker 04

  Now it is, yes.

• 1:29:57Caleb Hammer?

  See, you're just so weird. Like, is there joy ever? Like, what the?

• 1:30:01Speaker 05

  Having a boyfriend, even if it was your boyfriend, may not be your boyfriend. Exponentially better than having this bitch under the roof.

• 1:30:05Speaker 04

  She's just jealous because this guy's been my best friend since we were kids and.

• 1:30:09Speaker 05

  Has he ever stabbed you?

• 1:30:10Speaker 04

  No.

• 1:30:11Speaker 05

  Yeah, I'd probably want him at home too.

• 1:30:12Caleb Hammer?

  Listen, with your 2,491 in grocery, this is not a hard budget. You give groceries for you and the kid, kick her out. You can pay for this rent. He pays half already. Utilities, probably a couple hundred bucks. You don't have a car payment. You don't have all this stuff. All you have is your USAA to catch up on and you're done. You can budget with an extra 1,000 hours left a month, I bet you.

• 1:30:34Speaker 04

  What about the collections?

• 1:30:37Caleb Hammer?

  Start negotiating them, but I think you have 1,000 hours left. Save up a couple month emergency fund, negotiate the collections, pay them down. With your $1,000 left, you could pay off your collections in six months.

• 1:30:46Speaker 04

  This all depends on if I can leave or not.

• 1:30:49Caleb Hammer?

  No, you don't have to leave. Kick her out. You can afford your rent.

• 1:30:52Speaker 04

  I don't know.

• 1:30:52Caleb Hammer?

  She's not contributing. And then do the government thing for the kids.

• 1:30:57Speaker 05

  It makes no difference if she's there or not. She doesn't bring any money in.

• 1:31:00Caleb Hammer?

  Okay, but you can easily budget this. It's a reality. If you have, you have an extra 1,000 hours left. You can pay off your collections. You can have a six month emergency fund and you can 50, 30, 20 till you retire. But the thing is, I will make this easier for us to actually conclude and get her ass out. Cause I have something she does not know about and we even extra confirmed she doesn't know about before filming in this envelope. And I'm gonna open this in the post show and honestly, you're done. Uh, yeah. This is the end of you and that's it. So we're gonna do that in the post show. So we'll see you there for an extra 20 minutes. Join in Hammer Elite, the best membership on YouTube. That's why there's over 130,000 monthly members.

• 1:31:43Caleb Hammer?

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• 1:31:58Speaker 04

  I hope you guys know that there's no way I'm gonna be able to leave her.

• 1:32:01Caleb Hammer?

  She could have killed you on Saturday. Why are you not really, dude, she could have killed you.

• 1:32:05Speaker 04

  I don't know. And I've left, but then it all, I always end up coming back or letting her back.

• 1:32:08Speaker 03

  Well, then make your decision.

• 1:32:11Caleb Hammer?

  Well, let me help make this easier for you. What do you think's in here?

• 1:32:15Speaker 03

  Pictures.

• 1:32:16Caleb Hammer?

  Pictures of what?

• 1:32:17Speaker 03

  Probably him cheating.

• 1:32:19Speaker 04

  You want pictures of me cheating to be in there?

• 1:32:21Speaker 03

  And make it easier for us to be done.

• 1:32:23Caleb Hammer?

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• 1:33:05Caleb Hammer?

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• 1:33:12Speaker 00

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