How to Find Your Confidence Again When Everything Feels Uncertain

Have you ever been trying so hard to make something happen that you end up feeling even more disconnected from it? In this episode, I share what I’ve been learning about manifestation, confidence, and getting back to a place of neutrality after a really challenging season in business. I talk about why forcing yourself to feel abundant can sometimes create more pressure, the questions that helped me take personal responsibility for what wasn’t working, and how getting neutral can help you reconnect with what’s already available to you. Get ready to release the pressure, trust yourself again, and start creating from a more aligned place. Check out our Sponsors: Shopify - Try the ecommerce platform I trust for Glōci. Sign up for your $1/month trial period at http://Shopify.com/happy. Monarch Money - Get your first year of Monarch Core for half off at http://Monarch.com with code EYH. Northwest Registered Agent - Visit http://northwestregisteredagent.com/EarnFree and start using free resources to build something amazing. Fabric - Join the thousands of parents who trust Fabric to help protect their family. Apply today in just minutes at http://meetfabric.com/earn. Indeed - Indeed is giving Earn Your Happy listeners a $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to help get your job the premium status it deserves. Just go to http://Indeed.com/podcast right now and support our show by saying you heard about Indeed on Earn Your Happy. Momentous - If you want to try Momentous Signature Spec Creatine, head to http://livemomentous.com and use code EARN for up to 35% off your entire first order. Brevo - Meet Brevo…the all-in-one marketing and CRM platform built to help you connect with customers, boost engagement, and grow your business smarter. Get started for free today—or use code HAPPY50 to save 50% on Starter and Standard Plans for the first three months of an annual subscription. Just head to http://www.brevo.com/happy HIGHLIGHTS The questions that helped me see why certain things weren’t working. Why alignment matters when you’re trying to show up and be visible. How nervous system regulation can support creativity, clarity, and possibility. Why breathwork, prayer, and slowing down can help you move out of scarcity. Why you don’t have to force the outcome to move toward what you want. RESOURCES Learn more about Loop at loriharder.com/loop Get on the waitlist for Mentor Collective Mastermind HERE! Try glōci for 40% off your first order with code HAPPY at checkout - head to getgloci.com FOLLOW Follow me: @loriharder Follow glōci: @getgloci

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  And I thought that was so interesting because when you're truly in it and when you're living, you don't have to market because you're just documenting and you're just showing up and you're just in a frequency and you're just vibrating. And of course, when you're in a frequency and you're vibrating, you're taking massive action on the thing that you want to because your, your energy is good. You feel good. You're aligned. And so instead of going out in the world and pushing everything out, it's really just occupying the space and the person that you are meant to be.

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  Hey everyone, welcome back to the Earn Your Happy Podcast. It's time for another quickie because there's always time to fit in inspiration. Last night I got to go and do the introduction for Amanda Francis and her new book, Holy Fuck. That is what it's called, Holy Fuck, God Wants You to Have It All. And I got to go intro her at her LA book tour and it was

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  some of the most perfect timing for my life, but also so grateful to have been able to do that for a friend and she absolutely rocked it and crushed it. But I've been diving deep back into manifesting and really getting into a place of neutrality with my nervous system, my frequency, the things that I'm thinking. Because as you can imagine, running multiple businesses and having one that had gone through a fairly hard time in the last year, I truly needed to get back to a place of just unshakable confidence. And what can happen, no matter how much success you've had in your life, when things can start changing in the world or

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  changing in your business, of course that's going to shift you as a human. Of course that's going to rock you. Of course it's going to make you question everything that you've done in your life. And what can start happening, especially if you are somebody who teaches on success and business and growth and scaling and manifesting, is it can really shake your confidence. And I know that so many people are in that right now. I just got to also go to Powerhouse Women, one of my besties event, Lindsay's Astro, and Catherine Zenkina of Manifestation Babes sat on stage and got so vulnerable and said, you know, she went through a really tough time in her life and that also reflected in her business with some of the changes that she had made. And she went through a period where she really, really deeply questioned herself and her work and her identity and if, if the work that she

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  worked for so long and believed in really worked. And I think this is where a lot of us are finding ourselves this year. And the world has absolutely shifted and we have to find new ways of being, new ways of doing, new ways of showing up, new ways of vibrating, new ways of believing. And so I want to share some of the things that have really rocked my world recently around what I believe in manifesting and around what I have been doing to get my confidence back up. And I feel like I am on the upswing. I feel like after getting an absolute fucking pummeling, I'll tell you more on this over the next year. I'm not out of it yet. So I just want to share if you're in that season as well. We got this. It's for

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  us. We're growing and I'm not bypassing, but I am saying, we all want to become that strong, you know, out there, visible person that we see in our head. And the only way to do that is through the fire. So if you're in the fire, just know that you are on the direct path to developing the muscles that we need to create and hold all the blessings that are coming. So last night, there were a couple of things that literally stopped me in my tracks. And along with Powerhouse, so I'm going to share, I'm going to share a few things from that. And one of the things that was actually at Powerhouse Women was Shoshana Raven said, "You don't have to market when you're living your purpose." And I thought

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  that was so interesting because when you're truly in it and when you're living, you don't have to market because you're just documenting and you're just showing up and you're just in a frequency and you're just vibrating. And of course, when you're in a frequency and you're vibrating, you're taking massive action on the thing that you want to because your, your energy is good. You feel good. You're aligned. And so looking at where is it that I feel so even out of alignment that I'm having trouble showing up? This does not mean we get to quit everything that we've done. This does not mean we get to quit contracts that we have signed. This does not mean we are going to say everything is done right now, but it does mean that you're going to look forward and start making decisions from a place of more excitement and more alignment. And so instead of going out in the world and

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  pushing everything out, it's really just occupying the space and the person that you are meant to be, right? Being louder in the world about something that doesn't feel right isn't going to get you audience or something that doesn't feel totally you yet, or something that you haven't put the time and work and energy and effort into to really pull the clear messaging out. And I think this is where a lot of visionary struggle. I don't think I know. And so this is also something I'm doing in Million Dollar Guest is the reason that a lot of people don't feel good on podcasts or they're not making the money they want, is they are not fully clear on their message, their messaging and how to convey that. So how to put that message out to the world. For years and years and years,

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  I felt this way and I never actually took the time to put in the hours, weeks and months that it actually takes to get a very strong visual and verbal brand that you can easily dictate and people can easily repeat to people. You can easily give that message to other people. And I don't even know if it's been until Million Dollar Guest that I've been able to do that, getting people paid for going on other people's podcasts. And so at Amanda's book launch last night, a woman stood up and asked a question around some businesses not working. And it was like, how do I get into a great place of manifesting when I just feel like everything that I've been doing is not working? I just feel like

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  a failure. And Amanda asked some questions that I was like, I don't know if I've ever thought of questions like that, like, or ask myself questions in that way. And while these are so basic, maybe you have done this, but it just really helped me look at everything in a way that helped me take personal responsibility too. So when something has not worked out, what role did you play in not wanting it to work out? I've just never asked it that way. When something hasn't worked out, what role were you playing in why it did not work out and why you didn't want it to? And that's the way that she said it. Like what part of you didn't want it to work out? And if I look back at certain things, I'm like, oh my gosh,

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  that didn't work out because I was so misaligned with how I was supposed to put that out in the world. I just could not figure it out. That I think I just like sabotaged myself. I just couldn't understand how to get it out. So there was a part of me that's like, this is so misaligned. You don't even know how to get it out, that you can't do it. And she went on to ask what part of you wasn't aligned with it? What part of you didn't want it to work out because it wasn't working? What would have had to be true for it to work? And so if we can look at our businesses and look at our life and look at our relationships, what would have to be true for this to work? And sometimes truth hurts and sometimes truth helps. And no matter what, truth is going to give you what you need in order

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  to move through. So instead of just thinking, ah, it didn't, it didn't work and blame yourself, like really looking at what parts of that can teach you a lesson on why it didn't work or why it could work, right? What would have to be true for this to work? And maybe that'll help you look at your business and say, these things have to really shift in order for this to work. And so I recently got a book called Dollars Flow Easily to Me by Richard Dots. I wish I could remember who on Instagram recommended this, but it was somebody, obviously, who had some influence on me because I saw it in a story and the book said, this book changed my life. So I went to Amazon, ordered it immediately. Couldn't remember by the time the book got to my doorstep, who the hell that was to think, but I will tell you, this

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  book is so basic. So if you think you're going to get this and it's going to absolutely rock your world, it may. It's, I read it in like three days. It was like 80 pages, but it did give me a interesting idea. And so if a book gives you an idea that shifts your life, I think it's just 100% worth reading the entire thing for one concept. And the concept of this book is what's really helping me. So Richard's argument is most manifesting tells you to force the feeling of already having it. But the thing that can happen sometimes is that can reinforce the belief that you don't have it because you're straining towards something

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  that you're struggling to feel. And so it can actually add a little bit of a burden. So this isn't for everyone because I've absolutely manifested in the past, but I'm finding what's happening when I'm in a place of maybe lack or struggle or big challenge is that sometimes the feeling of manifesting and trying to get in the frequency all the time of, I already have this, I already feel this, this is working out for me, can feel like a little bit more of a strain. So his alternative that he teaches, teaches through the book is to drop the effort and get neutral, to let the abundance that's already there come through and become visible. And for me, I really understood this because I used to meditate years ago. I went on a streak for like a year of 20 minutes a day. And I'm not

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  going to go back there because I just, I can't do it right now. I don't have, I don't have the energy to do it. And so it's taking three to five minutes during the day where instead of like trying to feel the thing, trying to feel the thing, I'm in this place, I'm in this, yeah, in my bank accounts like this, I really get back to a place of letting go of all the worry, all of the doubt, any negative frequency around anything. And I get back to that place of neutral where I start to just lean in to that like warm, relaxed place of I'm connected to God. I am connected to abundance. And then I see what happens from there. I just start to feel what happens from there. And the craziest part is that

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  So there is a, this is Claude, obviously, a PNAS study found scarcity mindset literally changes neural processing around reward and decision making, not just mood, but actual brain activity shifts. So scarcity eats up what researchers call cognitive bandwidth. And so the mental resources you need for planning and judgment are taken up by scarcity. When you're anxious about not having enough, you have less brain power left to actually create anything, even manifesting. So that's why trying harder to feel abundant can actually backfire because you're straining and forcing your sympathetic nervous system to go into

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  this other state and you're actually in fight or flight. And so it narrows the thinking of creativity. It narrows and blocks good decision and creativity and visualizing and manifesting because you're in that state of fight or flight. So getting neutral is actually a parasympathetic shift to rest and digest. The state where the brain can think long-term and see possibility instead of threat. So getting back to a state of neutral is the most important thing that you can do while manifesting. So the craziest takeaway of all of this for you guys is that nervous system regulation, breath work, slowing down, it's not separate from manifesting at all. It might actually be the whole way to do it.

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  And so I hope that this helps you because if you struggle with like getting into a high frequency and just feel it, call it in. While I believe in all of that, I really do, there are certain points in, in your life where I think getting neutral and tapping into what's already there and what you're already connected to, which is God, the unlimited energetic connection to abundance in life, to ideas. In order to get out of what we're in, we have to get neutral and tap back into that. And we can't do it when we're in a place of forcing. And even though the thought feels really good to bounce into act as if you already have it, it might be another layer on top of what already feels stressful. It's another thing to do. It's another thing to force. So instead of performing and forcing it, you

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  might want to start working on getting back to a place of neutral. So this is the work that I'm doing. And I really feel like it's starting to work. Like just get to a place of neutral. If I'm in lack, if I'm frustrated about something, it's like, I am so deeply connected to abundance, to God, to energy. And he's the one with all the ideas. So I have to get to a place where I can hear it, where I can trust that, where I can know. And that's internal. Like you literally know how to get there. So stripping away, letting go, stripping away, letting go, breath work, prayer, let me release this, let me offer this up. I don't need this anymore. I know that you've got this, God, take this from me. Getting back to a place of neutral, tapping into abundance. What do you want to show me?

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  I know that I'm connected to you. I'm, you know, feeling abundantly connected to you. Show me the answers to this, like really getting back into a place of neutral. So I hope that this helps you guys. Let me know. Send this to a friend. Super grateful for you. And until next time, earn your happy. Bye, everyone.