3 Ways To Cultivate More Compassion In Your Life To Live Without Judgement & Negativity

Jay Shetty believes that the monk mindset is for anyone seeking more compassion, focus, discipline and purpose in their lives. Listen in as Jay shares the wisdom from his book, Think Like a Monk: Train Your Mind For Peace and Purpose Every Day, with Eva Longoria. Eva and Jay discuss the dangers of negativity, the importance of finding your true identity. They also dive into how to recognize Ego and how to follow your purpose. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 0:00Jay Shetty?

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• 2:59Jay Shetty?

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• 3:16Jay Shetty?

  Hey, everyone. Welcome back to On Purpose. First of all, I just want to say a huge thanks to all of you who've gone out and ordered a copy of Think Like a Monk that has made it a number one New York Times bestseller. That's a real celebration for us. We're celebrating how wellness and wisdom is winning, thanks to each and every single one of you. And to celebrate that, this Friday, today, I wanted to share with you an episode that was a conversation between me and my good friend Eva Longoria, who read the book and had a ton of great questions. And I thought you'd really appreciate some of the answers, because sometimes when I'm having these very personal conversations, people ask a lot of thoughts and insights that I think will resonate with all of you. So I hope you enjoy this episode.

• 3:59Jay Shetty?

  If you've got your book, make your notes, scribble all over it, highlight a way. And if you haven't already, you can grab a copy at thinklikeamunkbook.com. And when you do that, you can also get your free meditation guide, because I'm doing the 20 days of meditations right now. So join in on Facebook and Instagram Live whenever you can. Thanks so much, and I can't wait for you to hear my conversation with my good friend Eva Longoria.

• 4:24Speaker 01

  Oh, my God, Jay, you wrote a book?

• 4:27Jay Shetty?

  You're so sweet. You've been supporting this book from when it just existed on a laptop.

• 4:32Speaker 01

  On a laptop.

• 4:33Jay Shetty?

  So I'm so grateful that you finally have the real thing in your home and in your hands.

• 4:38Speaker 01

  I'm so excited. And for everybody, I mean, everybody must know Jay, but if you don't know Jay, he's the social media superstar. He's host of the number one podcast, On Purpose. I highly recommend it. It's one of my favorite podcasts. He has an amazing guests on there and your conversations with them. But everything from like Dennis Rodman to a neuro brain guy. It's so great. And you can get, you know, so much wisdom from so many of these people. Jay's also been considered a monk for modern times. I love that. I read that article. It was so good.

• 5:14Jay Shetty?

  I don't know who wrote that, but yeah, no, I'm not a monk anymore, but I did live as a monk. And just like what you were saying, like, you know, when I wrote this book, think like a monk, for me, it was, I just got fascinated by monks' minds. And I, after I lived as a monk, I read all these studies that showed that monks from all traditions have the calmest, happiest and most compassionate brains in the world. And so when they did brain scans on monks, they found that they had the highest form of gamma waves. And I thought, wow, this is amazing. Like, what if everyone could learn to think like that? And have more compassion in their life, have more peace in their life and have more purpose in their life.

• 5:53Speaker 01

  And not have to go to India for three years like you did, right?

• 5:57Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, yeah. This isn't a recruitment strategy for sure. This is not a-

• 6:00Speaker 01

  At the end of this conversation, we're not going to shave our heads and get into robes, right?

• 6:04Jay Shetty?

  Only Eva, only Eva's gonna-

• 6:06Speaker 01

  I might, I might. But I'm so excited to talk to you about the book because I read it and I loved it. But like, you say, first of all, your introduction, not even why you became monk, how you became a monk. You come from a family, like probably most families where they're like, we paid for your education. You're gonna go and get a good job. And then you had to tell them, hey, I'm gonna go live as a monk. What was that? Because the introduction is so great. And you talk about, you know, the three options you had, which was lawyer, doctor, or failure.

• 6:35Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, absolutely. And you know, my parents, my mom and dad have been very supportive of my crazy decisions as I got them more used to them. And they become more and more open as time went on. And I think that's the joy of parents that, Eva, you're amazing. You've won so many hats in your life. So you know what it's like to chase your dreams and do multiple things at different times. And my parents were very supportive, but the extended community and society had so many expectations, opinions, and obligation. And I had my own, and I think everyone in the world has theirs. And I was just saying to someone today that becoming a monk is almost like the ultimate rebellion. Because it's like saying that this doesn't work and I'm gonna do it differently.

• 7:19Jay Shetty?

  And so whether you want to become a monk, or whether you want to be an artist, and no one in your family is an artist, or whether you want to be a author or a musician, and no one in your family's ever done that. This book's written in a way to help you make that transition and that rebellion. Because becoming a monk is just breaking the mold of society. And I think all of us are trying to break the mold. You broke the mold. And I think, you know, each and every one of us has a monk mindset inside of us.

• 7:44Speaker 01

  Well, this is the book, Think Like a Monk. When is it out, Jake?

• 7:48Jay Shetty?

  It's out yesterday.

• 7:49Speaker 01

  Yesterday! Oh my god. First of all, I love the cover. But in the book, you talk about, like, just generally, like, from a macro point of view, you talk about adopting the monk mindset is not only possible, it's necessary. Like, in this day and age, and I find it ironic that you are a social media star. It's like, how much, how do you reconcile that? I mean, I think it's because your goal was to make spirituality viral, right? Like, walk us through the reason why you wanted to write the book and make this for everybody to have.

• 8:22Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, so when I went and learned all these principles, living as a monk,

• 8:26Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 8:26Jay Shetty?

  And I always described those three years like monk school. And then the last seven years since I've left, I left in twenty thirteen. We're in twenty twenty now, so the last seven years has been like the exam. So it's almost like everything I learned in school, I've been testing it every year. And now I felt like, oh, so much of it worked, and I want to share the parts of it that worked. And and when we talk about social media, to be honest, even the truth is that I was trying to do this in so many ways, whether it was speeches, whether it was uh working, I was coaching people, I was working with people directly. I was trying to pitch it to media companies. But when I started out trying to share these messages, no one really cared, like no one was interested. And so I just used social media as a tool.

• 9:09Jay Shetty?

  It wasn't that I knew it, or I knew that it would work or anything.

• 9:13Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 9:13Jay Shetty?

  I just didn't have any other options left.

• 9:15Speaker 01

  Uh huh.

• 9:16Jay Shetty?

  And so that's kind of where I got to in life, where I was like, no one really cares about what I'm talking about. So the only option I have is to try and use social media because it's free for everyone. And you can create what you like, and I'm so grateful that everyone's responded with so much love.

• 9:29Speaker 01

  So, well, that just kind of gives you an idea of the thirst that people have for wisdom and and you know, you say it in the book, like you went through this journey so that we could learn from it. I really think feel like that was your purpose. There are so many amazing chapters, there's like a purpose and intention and negativity and and fear, and I feel like one of my favorite chapters was the intention because you talk about like there's different motivations for why you do things, it could be because of fear, you're scared to fail, so you're gonna go do it, or love, or was it a desire or duty? And I find like your intention for writing this book was so pure, like it was just like, I have to tell people about the monk perspective and how that wisdom that you learned is like

• 10:14Speaker 01

  thousands of years old and hasn't changed, right?

• 10:17Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, it hasn't changed, and and even if you look at human challenges today, yes, I understand that technology has advanced, and yes, I understand that we're living in a different world, but at the same time, our challenges still remain. We all want to find love. We all want to find a sense of purpose.

• 10:36Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 10:36Jay Shetty?

  No one wants negativity. Everyone wants more forgiveness in their life. Like, the things we yearn for are still those human exchanges and interactions.

• 10:46Speaker 01

  Right.

• 10:46Jay Shetty?

  And therefore, I find that this perspective is so necessary, as you said today. Because who doesn't want a world where we're more compassionate, more loving, more kind, but also more focused, more disciplined, and more empowered to make a difference? I think that's something that we're all yearning for right now.

• 11:05Speaker 01

  Well, I think you have a great chapter on negativity, and I want to touch on it a little bit because, like, again, social media, so much of what we digest every day could be negative, whether it's negative comments, or negative posts, or, you know, even reading the news, you get just bombarded. And you and I have kind of some, a lot of the same mentors, Malcolm, or Deepak, or, you know, The Four Agreements was a book that I

• 11:32Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, Don't Be Go, Louise.

• 11:33Speaker 01

  Don't Be Go, Louise.

• 11:34Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 11:35Speaker 01

  Who talked about words have emotional poison. And then, when I was pregnant, I read Deepak's book about pregnancy and spirituality, and he said, "Be careful what you ingest." Like, be careful what is coming through. And you have a whole chapter on negativity and how, when you were in the ashram? Ashram, is that how you say it?

• 11:55Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, yeah, that's right, yeah, the monastery, yeah.

• 11:57Speaker 01

  The monastery, that you got so used to no gossip, and then you go into the real world, and it is everywhere. And I feel like that is happening a lot with people. Like, they want to fit in, they want to gossip, they want to, we all want, like, it's human nature, right? It takes work to avoid negativity. Can you talk a little bit about that chapter? Because it's one of my favorite ones.

• 12:21Jay Shetty?

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• 14:27Jay Shetty?

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• 14:35Jay Shetty?

  I started with this beautiful quote that I want to show up to everyone here, and it's from the Daisaku Ikida, which is chapter two, negativity in the book. And in it, it says, "It is impossible to build one's own happiness on the unhappiness of others." And that's what that chapter is based on, that quote's by Daisaku Ikida. And, and that wisdom for me is just so powerful because I feel gossip... Or negatively talking about people. All we're trying to do is make ourselves feel a little bit better. Because someone else is struggling. But the problem with that mindset is that tomorrow. You might be the one struggling. And someone might be talking about you.

• 15:19Jay Shetty?

  And so if you're building your happiness on the unhappiness of others. Then tomorrow. Someone's gonna build their happiness on your unhappiness and the cycle just goes on. Whereas when we realize, wait, I'm on my journey. You're on your journey. I've got lessons I need to learn. You've got lessons you need to learn. And actually, one of the stories in there, Eva, that I don't know if you like this story, but I love it. It's a old parable and a Zen story of the evil king who comes to meet the good king.

• 15:46Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 15:47Jay Shetty?

  So the evil king comes to meet the good king, I won't give away the whole story. But the point is that so many of the times we project our own insecurities. And our own pains onto people around us, and that's a really harsh reality. But it's the only way to start avoiding this negative spiral. When you start talking bad about someone, it just keeps going, going, going.

• 16:08Speaker 01

  Well, but that ties in, all the chapters tying together, but that ties into your identity chapter, right? And so. Uh, I feel like, well, there's, you said, our, this is a quote from identity. It's like our self-image is tied up on how we think others see us. But most of our efforts at self-improvement are really just trying to meet that imagined ideal. So most of our efforts to be a better person or whatever isn't even for yourself. It's so, oh, I hope they think I'm nice. I hope they think I'm a good person. I want my legacy to be that I'm a humanitarian. And it's not really working inward out, it's working outward in. And that quote, I love the one about, um, it's a Cooley, I've lived by this quote, I love Cooley. I'm not what I think I am, I'm not what I think you think I am.

• 16:53Speaker 01

  I am what I think you think I am.

• 16:55Jay Shetty?

  I love that quote.

• 16:56Speaker 01

  Negativity and identity and like, we live in social constructs, right? Of like what people think we should be, whether women or sexuality or race and. That's so applicable right now. Talk about.

• 17:07Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, yeah, I love that. I love how you're connecting it to what's happening in the world right now. Because I think that's the most important part about this wisdom, that it's so relevant and so applicable. And and yeah, I think the challenge is that we've all built up boxes and we try and put people into boxes to understand them. And the mind does that to make life easier, but actually it makes life harder because people are more diverse and people are more than the box and the label you put them in. And and people want to be seen as more and people, but because since we were young, we were told to, it was almost like stand in line, you have to fit in. And then all of a sudden, as you grow up, it's all about standing out, right? No one wants to fit in when they grow up.

• 17:47Jay Shetty?

  When you're young, you're told to fit in. And so I find that a lot of what's needed is personal stillness and silence and space. To actually, well, what do I believe in? Who do I want to be for myself? And let me think about how to best express that rather than getting tied up in the noise. And I think this is something we have to do daily. It's not something you do once and then you're done with it. Like I have to do this every day. My life is so different now to what it used to be. And I'm challenged with this every day and, you know, we're always a work in progress and you can't just say, okay, I'm done with that. I figured out who I am now.

• 18:20Speaker 01

  Yeah, I think last time I was on the podcast with you, I was telling you about this child rearing pod, I listened to podcasts with a child psychologist about how to raise, it's called Raising Good Humans by Dr. Eliza, and she said, for toddlers, you have to meet them where they're at, right? Like if they're screaming because they want the toy, play with them with that toy and meet them where they're at. And I thought, that's for everybody. That's not for toddlers. That's for people. Right? Like I've met some people who were just rude and angry. And I go, wow, I don't know what has made them to be in this space, but that's where they're at, right?

• 18:58Jay Shetty?

  Yes.

• 18:58Speaker 01

  So I'm gonna accept that that's where that person's at. And then another time that person's not in that space and.

• 19:03Jay Shetty?

  Absolutely.

• 19:04Speaker 01

  Yeah, or not as evolved. And so meeting, I I feel like identity has a lot to do with that. Like you have to. Some people just don't, haven't figured it out yet, and that's okay.

• 19:13Jay Shetty?

  Totally, and I, and I love what you're saying because we've all come from such different backgrounds. And so what was normal in your culture may be totally abnormal in mine and what's not. And I think that's the part that we, we almost need to open up our minds to, which is that compassion and non judgment part of like, let me really understand what this person's saying. And even if I disagree with them right now, let me at least understand it fully. I think sometimes we, we don't know the line between disagreement and understanding.

• 19:42Speaker 01

  Well, and I think if you can even tie that to what is happening right now in our country, the United States, but like in the world of tying to the ego chapter, right?

• 19:52Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 19:52Speaker 01

  I quote, but like, we have such an ego about those boxes.

• 19:57Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 19:57Speaker 01

  Whether it's political parties or whether it's race or whatever it is, and it's so separating to us. So how could the monk mindset help us right now not do that? Don't judge people by the box. You put them in, in your mind, you know?

• 20:13Jay Shetty?

  I think we have to strip away the boxes and see people as humans. And, and we really have to see people and understand their background, understand why they made decisions and why do we not do this? Because it's hard work, because we wanna be lazy. The mind wants the easy route, the shortcut, the fast way out to be like, oh, I saw you do that. Okay, you're not a good person. Oh, I saw you do that. You're a bad person. And the point is, no one's inherently good or bad. You know, we had Nelson Mandela talk about that. Nelson Mandela would say that if people can be taught to hate, then, then they can be educated for love. And you know, it's like that we're taught to hate, right? We're trained to hate. And I think that that's what the ego does so much is that it makes you feel safe by hating someone else.

• 20:59Jay Shetty?

  Rather than looking into yourself and trying to understand. So I really believe that the more we can listen to conversations where you just understand someone's humanity, not even their ideas, not their thinking, not their thought leadership, but just who they are as a human. And I've been doing that. I've interviewed some people lately on the podcast and Dennis Rodman's a good example and, and so many others who, I like basketball, but I don't know that much. We, you know, we're, I'm a soccer fan and you know, I'm a big football fan and. I don't know that much about basketball, so when I sat down with Dennis Rodman, my fascination is not basketball, my fascination is humanity. Is who, what makes him him? Correct, exactly, and I feel like if we can train ourselves, and that's the monk mindset. The monk mindset looks at everyone without their labels,

• 21:44Jay Shetty?

  without their ideologies, without their, and just looks at the humanity inside that person. And when you start there, then you can really have a conversation that penetrates someone's heart.

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• 23:27Speaker 01

  You could do a whole book about ego. I mean, I think it's such a big word. You had a great podcast with Jada Pinkett Smith.

• 23:35Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 23:36Speaker 01

  She really articulated it so great. And she was talking about the martyr victim. Like she was like, I thought I didn't have an ego because I was so, you know, I was the victim. How could I have an ego? And it was like the same thing. Like so it shows up and it manifests in different ways.

• 23:54Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I remember her saying that from that conversation, she was, you know, we were talking about how the ego either makes you think you're the best or it makes you think you're the worst. And so it's like, I have the worst life. I have it worst. I have the worst career, the worst family, the worst partner. Like, it's like my situation is the worst. And that's again, the ego's competing to be the worst. And so just as the ego competes to be the best, the reverse, the false ego competes to be the worst. And the truth is that all of us, I think Robin Roberts said this, and she said, you know, if we threw all of our problems into a pile and we looked at them, we'd grab ours right back. And it's that, you know, Robin, and I just thought that's such a unique perspective that yeah,

• 24:38Jay Shetty?

  if you actually looked at everyone's problems in the same place, you'd just be like, oh yeah, like I might have actually probably been better than a lot of people's problem.

• 24:46Speaker 01

  Yeah, I think that, here's the thing, I also want people to know that you're not saying is a monk mindset means no ambition, no dreams, no competition, like that's not what the book is saying. And so I think sometimes people might go, well, come on, I mean, I want to have a nice car. I want to have a house one day. Like you explain it so well in the book, but, but talk about how that doesn't mean that.

• 25:11Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, thank you for noticing that subtlety because I'm so glad you're solving that misconception because a lot of people say that to me. They're like, Jay, but you know. You know, you live in L A now and you're married and you know, you have a home and and I'm like, yeah, like, I'm not telling you to live like a monk. I'm saying that there are certain mindsets of how a monk thinks about things. So the first thing that we understood as monks is that nothing is good or bad. Everything is given meaning by how you use it. So if I take, for example, this microphone that I have here, it's like, this is the microphone we recorded our podcast on. And the microphone's not good or bad. It's given meaning by how I use it. I could either stand here and say really hateful, hurtful things towards people,

• 25:53Jay Shetty?

  or we could be asking questions about humanity and compassion and love. And similarly, social media is not good or bad. It's how you use it. Some people are using it to pull people down. Some people are using it to pull people up. So as a monk, you realize that money is just energy, that fame, power are just energy, that resources, access are just energy. And all of us have a choice every day to use our energy to lift people up or pull people down. And so it's not about not having it. It's about what you do when you get it.

• 26:26Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 26:26Jay Shetty?

  And, and that's the key part. And that's what shows detachment. So people think detachment means indifference. But detachment doesn't mean indifference. Detachment is a beautiful statement by a Islamic.

• 26:37Speaker 01

  I love the concept of detachment. Please talk about it.

• 26:41Jay Shetty?

  So there's a beautiful statement by an Islamic teacher, Al Shafi, and he says that detachment doesn't mean that you own nothing. Detachment means that nothing owns you. And what that means is that it doesn't mean you can't have the car or you can't have the house and you can't have the career. It's that those things don't own you. You're engaging with them to serve and support as many other people as you can. And so the monk mindset can actually help you become more focused and disciplined. And again, going back to what you said before, purifying your intention.

• 27:14Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 27:14Jay Shetty?

  If your intention is just to be rich and famous, there's enough rich and famous people that will tell you that that's not worth it.

• 27:21Speaker 01

  The intention chapter, that's where you have the Y ladder. And I, I remember, God, it was before COVID, way before COVID. Jay and I met, we went for a cop for lunch. And I was having a rut in a question in my life. And I was like, Jay, so I need to figure out what questions I need to ask myself because I gotta figure out if I really want to do that, if I want to go this way. And you gave me the Y ladder. And then I read it later in the book. I was like, that was the Y. But because you say, you know, we all have different goals, but we all want the same things, a life full of joy and meaning. But if you chase happiness, that can be elusive. And that it's hard to sustain a high level of joy. But to feel meaning shows that our actions have purpose. So I love that.

• 28:05Speaker 01

  I love that, that the way you put that to feel meaning shows that we have purpose. And and then you're not chasing the car and the house and the the the because that'll be a constant chase. But if you chase meaning and purpose, it's more fulfilling. So that's monk mindset, no?

• 28:21Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, I mean, the way you've understood the book, Eva, is the way I pray everyone understands it. It's just the way you formulated it and the way you're expressing is beautiful. And and yeah, the goal is, and and I talk about this all the time, like if you live your purpose and find your meaning, everything else will come as a byproduct of that.

• 28:38Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 28:39Jay Shetty?

  And that's a beautiful life to live where the abundance comes because you're so aligned. And it's when we're out of alignment that we're chasing something that that isn't there. And and I can express this for my own self, like, you know, if you get everything out of alignment, you won't be satisfied. But when you have everything in alignment, it feels really beautiful to have. And so, yeah, I'm not encouraging anyone to not be successful, to not go after their goals. Actually, I want to help you get there in a way that you can keep it. That's the difference in the monk mindset. The monk mindset doesn't teach you how to get to your goals. It tells you how to keep success and keep joy uh when you've got there. And I know so many people, and I know you do too, that

• 29:22Jay Shetty?

  have got there without that and then had to evolve into that after it to make sense of all of it.

• 29:27Speaker 01

  Yeah, well, okay, I'm gonna ask you one more question because I get there's too much to talk about because we're gonna do meditation after this. So what is the one thing people can do today?

• 29:39Speaker 01

  That can help them have a monk mindset. Like, what is the one thing, I mean, not, there's a hundred things, but what's the first step, I guess? What's the first step anyone can take?

• 29:47Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, so I'm gonna give everyone a really easy one.

• 29:51Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 29:51Jay Shetty?

  And it's because this is how we would start our days every day. And so a monk starts their day with gratitude, gratitude to the earth, gratitude to their teachers and mentors, uh, gratitude to the divine, gratitude to God. And so I want you today, everyone, not just to feel gratitude, not just to experience it, but I want you to express something. Now, here's the key about expressing gratitude. Scientifically and spiritually, it only works when it's done in this way. So Eva, name two of your friends. They don't have to be real, you can give me imaginary names if you don't want to give me real names.

• 30:26Speaker 01

  Ross and Maria.

• 30:28Jay Shetty?

  Okay, we'll take Ross and Maria. If Ross and Maria are real, here's my disclaimer, none of this reflects who they are in real life. I do not know Ross and Maria. So, let's say Eva, you throw a party, once this is all over, you throw a party at your home, everyone comes, your close friends come, hopefully I'm invited, and Ross and Maria come, and the next day they both message you. Ross messages you in typical Ross style, and he goes, "Thanks Eva, had a great time." That's it. And then Maria messaged you, and she goes, "Eva, you're amazing, I loved it yesterday. Your family is so beautiful, and the food was incredible, and oh my god, the games were so much fun, I needed this in my life, I'm so glad you're in my life." Okay, now, when you get those, Eva's a very grateful person, so you're grateful for both of them,

• 31:12Jay Shetty?

  but which one fills you with more joy?

• 31:15Speaker 01

  Right, that Maria one.

• 31:16Jay Shetty?

  Obviously Maria, unless anyone's being awkward, it's Maria that fills you with more joy. Now, why is that? So scientifically and spiritually, when our gratitude is specific, when our gratitude is detailed, not only do we feel more joy giving it, but the other person feels more joy receiving it. So when you're saying thank you to someone... Tell them why you're thankful to them. Be really clear about it. Because when you think about that, you go, oh, wow. If that person did that for me, they must really love me. And then the person who's receiving it thinks, wow, if that person thought about that, they must really love me. And all of a sudden, you've got this beautiful human bond. And we started like that. You know, we got to know each other very quickly.

• 31:56Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 31:57Jay Shetty?

  And we had a mutual friend, Mona and Huda.

• 31:59Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 31:59Jay Shetty?

  That that knew we would get along, who I, again, Mona, who I love so much, and Huda, who I love so much. And so it's just when you start that way and you express gratitude, it changes your life. So that's

• 32:10Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 32:11Jay Shetty?

  That's the simplest thing.

• 32:12Speaker 01

  Yeah, personalized gratitude. There's so many meditations. The other thing that I think is meditation, and that's, I mean, you talk about it, but like, people think it's hard, right? And it's like, it's so hard. And it shouldn't be hard. The point is, it should be effortless. And so I know you, what do you meditate for, two hours a day?

• 32:30Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, about that. Yeah, one and a half to two hours now, yeah.

• 32:34Speaker 01

  Oh, my gosh.

• 32:35Jay Shetty?

  I've been slacking, going down to one and a half sometimes.

• 32:38Speaker 01

  Oh, because you're busy launching a book, that's why.

• 32:41Jay Shetty?

  Yeah.

• 32:41Speaker 01

  Well, you guys, it's available today, yesterday. So Think Like a Monk, it's so great. I just love it. There's so many gems in here that you guys are gonna go, oh, my gosh. I love when a book really just, you know, opens something up in you that that you go, oh, that's what I've been trying to articulate and never have been able to. And you do it so many times. And I thank you for going on a journey to be a monk, so that we have you now today. Your podcast, On Purpose, and it would now your book, and just access as a friend to me. Thank you so much for everything. Your videos are just, I can't tell you how many people send me one of your videos from Instagram going, oh, my gosh, you've got to check this out. And I go, I already saw it.

• 33:27Speaker 01

  Because I follow Jay, but like they go, oh my God, in case you needed to hear this today, in case you needed to see this today. And I'm just thankful that you exist.

• 33:35Jay Shetty?

  No, I'm thankful to you. I'm so thankful that we connected. I'm so grateful we became friends. I'm still gutted that I've never met Santi yet, so I'm slightly internally a bit mad at you.

• 33:48Jay Shetty?

  Every time I see videos of him, I fall more in love with him. So, no, you're such a...

• 33:53Speaker 01

  People love Santi.

• 33:54Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, he's the best, he's the best. And no, I'm so grateful to you. But thank you for your continued love and support. I don't take it for granted. And I just love the soul and energy you are. And you're such a powerhouse. You're just such a powerhouse. You're so deep, but then you go so far and wide to make a change in the world. And that's, you're living this, you're living everything that's in the book. So, thank you for giving people an example.

• 34:20Speaker 01

  It's work and it's just, it's so rewarding. It's so rewarding. But you know, there's so many, I'm so curious and I devour all of these lessons from many, many people. And I'm so glad that you're going to now be one of those people. I get to digest every day. So, do you want to do a five-minute meditation?

• 34:38Jay Shetty?

  If you have time. If you don't, we don't have to.

• 34:40Speaker 01

  I do. I absolutely do.

• 34:43Jay Shetty?

  So, we'll do a meditation. I'm using a three-hour crystal, we're not doing three hours, we're doing five minutes. But I'm using a YouTube sound from our YouTube page called Healing Vibrations. They're beautiful if anyone wants to use it afterwards. And this is a 432 Hz, three-hour crystal singing bowl, healing sound. So, if you go onto their channel, Healing Vibrations, they have so many beautiful soundtracks to meditate on and sleep to and everything. So, check them out. I don't know who they are. I just love them. And so, I've been telling everyone about them. But they're really, really brilliant. And we're going to use one of their sounds today. So, we're all going to close our eyes, everyone. Just close your eyes.

• 35:23Jay Shetty?

  Anita, just give me a thumbs up when you hear this sound. Great.

• 35:29Jay Shetty?

  So I just want everyone

• 35:32Jay Shetty?

  to find a place of calm,

• 35:39Jay Shetty?

  balance, ease,

• 35:44Jay Shetty?

  stillness, and peace. Whenever your mind wanders, just gently and softly bring it back to calm, balance, ease, stillness, and peace.

• 36:10Jay Shetty?

  Become aware of your natural breathing pattern, breathing in and out,

• 36:16Jay Shetty?

  breathing in through your nose, and with your mouth slightly open, exhaling, just becoming aligned with your natural breathing pattern.

• 36:33Jay Shetty?

  And as you breathe in, roll your shoulders back and up.

• 36:38Jay Shetty?

  And as you breathe out, roll them backwards and down.

• 36:42Jay Shetty?

  As you breathe in, roll your shoulders back and up. As you breathe out, roll them back and down. As you breathe in, roll your shoulders back and up. And as you breathe out, roll your shoulders back and down. Just feeling aligned and rooted and grounded.

• 37:05Jay Shetty?

  Now, place your right palm on your heart

• 37:09Jay Shetty?

  and repeat after me.

• 37:13Jay Shetty?

  "I'm exactly where I'm meant to be."

• 37:22Jay Shetty?

  You can say to yourself, "I'm exactly where I'm meant to be."

• 37:34Jay Shetty?

  And once more, "I'm exactly where I'm meant to be."

• 37:48Jay Shetty?

  Allowing yourself to be present with your mind and body.

• 37:54Jay Shetty?

  Reminding yourself that you're not ahead or behind.

• 38:00Jay Shetty?

  That all the power exists right now, here with you.

• 38:22Jay Shetty?

  Allow the thoughts to come in and out.

• 38:28Jay Shetty?

  Just being present with your breath.

• 38:37Jay Shetty?

  Place your palms upward on your knees, your palms facing upwards. And as you breathe in, clench your palms. And as you breathe out, extend them out. Extend your fingers. Breathe in and clench your palms.

• 38:56Jay Shetty?

  And breathe out and extend your fingers.

• 39:02Jay Shetty?

  Breathe in and clench your palms.

• 39:06Jay Shetty?

  And breathe out and extend your fingers.

• 39:12Jay Shetty?

  We're going to do that three more times. But this time, when you exhale, I want you to feel like you're letting go of any negative stress or tension-filled energy. And as you breathe in, you're breathing in uplifting, empowering energy.

• 39:34Jay Shetty?

  So breathe in, positive uplifting energy, and breathe out.

• 39:40Jay Shetty?

  Really exhaling and letting go. Breathe in.

• 39:46Jay Shetty?

  And breathe out.

• 39:51Jay Shetty?

  And breathe in, powerful uplift energy.

• 39:56Jay Shetty?

  And breathe out any negative tension-filled energy.

• 40:04Jay Shetty?

  And repeat after me to yourself.

• 40:09Jay Shetty?

  I let go of anything that doesn't serve me.

• 40:19Jay Shetty?

  And when you're ready,

• 40:22Jay Shetty?

  in your own time, at your own pace,

• 40:27Jay Shetty?

  you can gently and softly open your eyes.

• 40:40Jay Shetty?

  So that was just a short five-minute meditation and hopefully allowed you all to just feel present with yourself and allowed you to just rest into your breath and let go. And just doing that for five minutes a day allows you to just really feel that you're present with your body, not rushing around in your head or your mind, and also recognizing that you can train yourself to let go. So hopefully that helped Eva and I hope everyone watching that helped too.

• 41:07Speaker 01

  Oh my gosh, I love it. I love it. I love meditation so much. I love journaling. I love all of it. But you do make a point about meditation about it's like anything else. The more you dedicate to it, the better it works. If you want to learn a language, you don't do it five minutes a day. You're going to do a little longer. And if you want to meet somebody and spend time with them, you don't say just five minutes a day. So try to build, try to build upon it, right?

• 41:29Jay Shetty?

  Absolutely. Yeah, this was amazing Eva. Thank you so much.

• 41:33Speaker 01

  Thank you, Jay. Thank you for letting me ask you a million questions about this. I still have a million more conversations I could have with you. I am so happy that this poured out of you. And I know it was a lot of work, so it's available now. Go and order it. It's amazing. And don't forget to go to Jay's podcast on purpose. It has If you're struggling with any topic, you just go through the episodes and you go, that's what I do. I just go like, what do I need today? And then I go, oh my.

• 42:02Jay Shetty?

  I can't wait to have you back on. We've got some really exciting guests coming up too. So I'm really looking forward to your feedback. I love getting your feedback on the podcast. It means the world to me. So thank you.

• 42:11Speaker 01

  I'm so excited about I Think Like a Monk. And thank you, everyone who stayed with us. My gosh, everybody stayed with us. And we're going to repost this. So if you guys missed the beginning or the end, Jay and I will both post it on our social media channels.

• 42:24Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, perfect. Thank you, Eva. You're the best.

• 42:26Speaker 01

  Many blessings to everybody who is on right now. Grubizoom, beso, everybody. Thank you so much. Thank you, Jay.

• 42:35Jay Shetty?

  Thank you, everyone. Thank you so much. And give my love to Santi and Pepe as well. Take care.

• 42:39Speaker 01

  I will.

• 42:39Jay Shetty?

  Yeah, thank you, guys. See you later. Bye.