How To Work With Insomnia, Pain, and Your Mom's Voice in Your Head | Jeff Warren

A live Q&A session with meditation teacher Jeff Warren, where Dan and Jeff tackle some of the hardest questions in meditation and life. Jeff Warren https://jeffwarren.org/ is a meditation teacher, author, and co-founder of the Consciousness Explorers Club https://cecmeditate.com/. In this live session recorded on Zoom with subscribers to the 10% with Dan Harris app http://app.danharris.com/, Jeff and Dan take questions about insomnia, chronic pain, caring for aging parents, existential fears for loved ones, and what to do when your meditation practice feels stuck. We talk about: How to get equanimity around existential fears for your kids (which Jeff calls "the single hardest thing in human life") Why acceptance is a terrible word and equanimity is better The difference between doomsday spirals and what's actually happening right now Practical strategies for insomnia and chronic pain (including why your goal shouldn't be eight hours of unconscious sleep) What to do when you feel stuck in your meditation practice (hint: the plateau is normal) Three strategies for turning down the volume on your constant mental narrator Jeff also introduces the practice of asking your meditation a question—literally seeding a question in your mind during practice and seeing what bubbles up. It's surprisingly effective for creative blocks and getting unstuck. These live sessions happen every week in the 10% with Dan Harris app, where you can meditate with Dan and guest teachers and ask questions in real time. Get the app at danharris.com http://danharris.com/ — there's a free 14-day trial. Join Dan's online community here http://www.danharris.com/ Follow Dan on social: Instagram https://bit.ly/3tGigG5, TikTok https://bit.ly/3FOA84J Subscribe to our YouTube Channel https://bit.ly/3FybRzD Thanks to our sponsors: LinkedIn:  Spend $250 on your first campaign on LinkedIn ads and get a $250 credit for the next one. Just go to linkedin.com/happier http://linkedin.com/happier. To advertise on the show, contact [email protected] or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

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• 0:04Dan Harris?

  This is the 10% Happier Podcast. I'm Dan Harris.

• 0:18Dan Harris?

  Hello, my fellow suffering beings. How we doing? We've got a conversation today with one of my best friends and favorite meditation teachers, Jeff Warren. We talk about insomnia, chronic pain, how to turn down the volume on your inner critic, how to handle the existential fears that many of us feel for our loved ones, especially our kids, what to do when you feel stuck in your meditation practice, and the difficulty that many of us face when we're caring for our aging parents. What you're about to hear is me and Jeff taking questions live from subscribers to my new app, which is called 10% with Dan Harris. We do these live sessions every week on video where we meditate and then take your questions. And if you sign up for the app, you can join

• 1:01Dan Harris?

  us in real time. To get the app, go over to danharris.com. There's a free 14-day trial if you want to try it before you buy. All right, here's my conversation with Jeff Warren.

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• 2:12Dan Harris?

  Let's do some questions, Jeff.

• 2:13Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 2:14Dan Harris?

  This one's from Rebecca. Meditation is very helpful in managing my anxiety about life and well-being. Acceptance works. When anxious about the well-being of my child, however, it is actually triggering.

• 2:27Dan Harris?

  Acceptance, that is, I think. How do we get equanimity around existential fears for our kids? Jeff, just to broaden the question for those who don't have kids, you know, around anybody that you love and feel responsible for.

• 2:42Speaker 03

  Yeah, I mean, it's the hardest thing. I would say it's the single hardest thing in human life. That question. Thanks for asking the single hardest thing in human life.

• 2:50Speaker 03

  It's a practice. It's an endless life practice. Every parent, every human with any relationship will know that, well, however old you are. Sometimes people get hung up on the word acceptance. I mean, it's not the best word to use. It's why I prefer to use something like equanimity or think of it as this is the situation. Being able to truly recognize that this is what's happening. That's what the acceptance means. It's like this is a real struggle. This struggle is actually happening. This is actually here. I'm not going to try to avoid it, but also I'm not going to endlessly feed on it and obsess over it. It's more like, can I just be present with this exact clear seeing of how the suffering is?

• 3:36Speaker 03

  And from that place of just like, accepting that this is what's happening because it is what's happening. Then what is the response? It's like, you can hear that a million times, but then you have to try to put it into practice. And that's where that lives, you know? I have a regular practice outside of my seated practice for that reason. So I can come into the practice of going, okay, this is my experience. This is the breath. These are the sensations. This is what's here. Can I really let myself be with what's here? Can I not fight against what's uncomfortable? Can I not try to grab onto some way to secure myself? Can I really be there? From that training, when I'm in front of my kid and they're having a hard time, that's the thing I'm trying to implement.

• 4:19Speaker 03

  I wish my kid had an easier time in life. I wish my six-year-old had less suffering, but he has suffering.

• 4:28Speaker 03

  This is how it is for him. So I have to accept that's the case. And then when I'm really present with him, I find I have better responses around what I can do and I can begin to implement some of what I'm learning in this life. I mean, I'm just trying to be dead honest because I feel like I'm right in the middle of that too. And I'd be interested to hear what the wisdom of the group says, but that's what I do.

• 4:49Dan Harris?

  This really is not easy. It's where the rubber hits the road in many ways on in practice. It's like it's easy to practice with joy. You know, it's relatively easy to be mindful of an itch in meditation. But when it's worrying about somebody you love and you can't really control how things are going to go. That is hard. And that's the reason why we keep coming back to do this practice.

• 5:16Speaker 03

  What I have noticed is that I can get into these real doomsday spirals about things that are based on what I see happening. I'm like, I project into what it looked like for his future. I project what his experience is. And those are mind states. Those are like, there's our passing convictions that you live inside and they have to feel so authoritative. And if I can back out of the story of that and just come into being, well, what's actually here? That is the practice again and again and again. That is why we meditate. And interestingly, if I'm less infected, I guess, with my own convictions about how things are, then I have a cleaner way of responding to my little guy. And actually, often it creates better patterns of

• 5:59Speaker 03

  relationship and even helps him feel better. So I think being able to approach as much as possible, these people in our lives with more of a sense of kind of presence and spaciousness, that also is enormously supportive. And which isn't to say that there are endless other resources and perspectives around this, but then we could be more available for those from that place.

• 6:20Dan Harris?

  Very helpful, Jeff. Marie writes that she's got a nightly struggle with insomnia and chronic pain. Anything to say on that score, Jeff?

• 6:29Speaker 03

  Yeah. There are so many different ways to work with pain and it's one of those things where you have to kind of do a little bit of experimenting. I'm actually going to be writing a post about this, but some people find to what we were just talking about that there is the physical pain and then there's the kind of stories and this is definitely true with insomnia that happens, you know, you're not getting enough sleep and the stories about, oh, you're not getting enough sleep and how screwed you're going to be the next day and all of that, the way they chain out and get bigger and bigger and bigger than create more cascading stress hormones which prevent you to sleep less and increase the pain. And so to be able to notice all of that happening and back down into the actual experience can be helpful.

• 7:10Speaker 03

  And then it's like, well, what can you do around the actual pain? Like some people find going right into it, the very center of it and trying to stay with the heart of it can actually begin to, they start to notice that a lot of the discomfort happens in the radiation, the radiating around it and that bring you down is more helpful. Other people find that that creates too much intensity so that they need a really good distraction. They can find that they have a natural interest in doodling or in this, that they can pour their attention in that and that helps. And then doing self compassion practices can really help. That's around the pain. I mean, even if you Google different meditations, response to pain, like my teacher Shinzen had a great book called Breakthrough Pain with all of these really good pain strategies.

• 7:52Speaker 03

  But just to say on the insomnia tip, I think I mentioned this last time, but having a framework that my objective at night is not to get eight hours of solid unconscious sleep, but instead to get eight hours of rest or whatever it is, like I'm gonna, I don't have to be asleep for all of it. But if I wake up in the night, if I can let myself settle and find some just almost like meditate in the night, then you can still get a lot of the restorative benefits. So it took a kind of that nighttime rest period without being unconscious. So that's been helpful for me too.

• 8:26Dan Harris?

  Jeff, just on an audio tip, is there somebody clanking or is there some sort of knocking a pen on the table or something?

• 8:33Speaker 03

  Oh, this chair might be.

• 8:35Dan Harris?

  Ah, okay.

• 8:36Speaker 03

  This chair is kind of loud. Hold on.

• 8:40Speaker 03

  Alright, everybody.

• 8:40Dan Harris?

  Not a huge deal, but thank you for doing that. Just one thing on the, and I think I said this last time, I have pretty bad insomnia. I have to get up super early tomorrow at 5:45 and I know what I'm gonna do to manage that is tell myself whatever sleep I get is fine. I've been through many, many days of zero sleep and I've always been fine. And just calming my nervous system by reassuring myself that my amount of sleep tonight, even though I've got something important to do tomorrow, is not a referendum on my overall fitness and health or on how I will do tomorrow. I'll do fine because I've done fine before with little to no sleep.

• 9:23Dan Harris?

  And just saying the thing to myself that I would say to my kid or any of you if you were in that situation is massively helpful. And on pain, I don't wanna pretend to be an expert on this. One little thing that I picked up from Joseph Goldstein is just, and I'd be curious, Jeff, what you think of this. Zeroing in on being mindful of the unpleasant feeling tone of the situation. So just to step back and Buddhism, everything that arises has a feeling tone associated with it. Any sensation, mental or physical, is either pleasant or unpleasant, or it's neutral. And so if it's pleasant, we want more. If it's unpleasant, we don't want it. And if it's neutral, we zone out.

• 10:08Dan Harris?

  And so just noticing, oh, unpleasant, just tuning in just to the unpleasant instead of just labeling it as unpleasant instead of proliferating out on the stories about how this pain is just gonna get worse. I'm always the guy who's pain. How am I gonna deal with this? Does that make sense, Jeff?

• 10:26Speaker 03

  Oh, yeah. It's hugely helpful. It's all part of the same move, which is to disembod from the inevitability of things. Cause so much of the suffering comes from the sense of inevitability. It will always be this way. Just any way to kind of pop out of that. And so whether you're noticing a quality of the sensation, whether you're noticing whether it's pleasant or unpleasant, whether you're noticing a story, all of that has the same effect, which is to give us a little bit more space and to realize that we're not as subject to what's happening in the moment as we had previously imagined. And that's the, that's the freedom of practice.

• 11:01Dan Harris?

  A pre-submitted question here from Louis or Lewis. I can never decide how to pronounce that. Can you comment Jeff on the link between focus in meditation and focus in peak performance in sports or other activities?

• 11:16Speaker 03

  Yeah, I think they're the same skill. I mean, meditation is a bunch of skills gathered together. So you have the getting more clear, you have the accepting what's happening in the moment, you have the quality of kind of appreciation, but primarily what you have is concentration. We have a capacity to choose what we want to pay attention to. It's the most important human capacity. What you pay attention to becomes your life. And so meditation is the practice of choosing what you want to pay attention to and then committing to that. So there's this first, you select out of the many things you could be paying attention to, you select something and then you, you, you, you, you kind of commit to it and you let your focus pour into it. In sports and all the stuff where people talk about flow

• 12:01Speaker 03

  or people talk about being in the zone, it has to do with, there's a high states of concentration where you're paying attention to something that's not your worries. And the more you, and what's really interesting here is the more you gather or you recollect the pieces of your attention, the waving strands, the more you bring them into one direction, the more inherently fulfilling it gets. And conversely, the more times attention splits, the less inherently fulfilling any one strand. So the reason it's so fulfilling to get absorbed in music and art and sports and your work is because of that, that concentrated quality. So, and all that's to say, when you're meditating and you're practicing concentration, that capacity to concentrate gets bigger in other areas of your life as well. So there's a direct correlation there.

• 12:47Speaker 03

  It's also a recipe for happiness. There's so many ways that meditation is a training around happiness. One of the ways is this concentration piece, like what are you doing where you're losing track of time? That's something you should do more of. No matter whatever the circumstances are in the rest of your life, find ways to like drop your attention and lose track of time. And that's just a medicine for the nervous system.

• 13:08Dan Harris?

  Yes.

• 13:10Dan Harris?

  Another question from online here. This is from Mary. I started meditating as relief for depression a couple of years ago. It's been tremendously helpful, but I feel like I'm stuck in my meditation practice, just going through the motions. Any tips on moving forward?

• 13:23Speaker 03

  Yeah, well, I mean, the first tip is noticing that's happening and normalizing the plateau. It's always like that. You start with the, it's a new skill. It's kind of novel. There's this contrast between before and after. It's exciting. You have momentum and meditation practice can be really, there's an up slope sometimes, but there can be this real period of like honeymoon period. And then it's like, all right, now I'm used to it and the contrast is less huge. And so much of this part, when you're in the plateau is about just that kind of confidence of like coming back to the cushion again and again. Like, you know, that statue, the Buddha, whether it's rain, snow, leaves, sunshine, still you sit.

• 14:06Speaker 03

  So I would say like staying with the practice despite the plateau as part of it, it will change. And this is a good time to consult with someone who maybe knows your practice or get a little bit of extra advice because it can happen that we do get kind of in cul-de-sacs. You know, I would want to get a little more information about your practice, like what you're paying attention to, the way you're paying attention. Because there may be ways to just shift up either the object or the way you're meditating. That can create, that can unblock something. And that's also true. And that's why, you know, and you can get insights that way also from just reading Dharma books or doing things like this or hearing other people report on their practice. I wish I could give something more conclusive, but that would be what I would say about that.

• 14:51Dan Harris?

  That's great. Makes me think that one service that this nascent operation could eventually provide is the opportunity to speak one-on-one to, to a teacher occasionally.

• 15:05Speaker 03

  Super valuable. Or be listening to other people speaking one-on-one.

• 15:09Dan Harris?

  Yeah.

• 15:10Speaker 03

  Or not one-on-one or speaking in a group because then you're like, oh yeah, that happened to me. And that's why I think also trying different techniques a little bit. That's like why trying different kinds of meditations can be helpful. Like notice when you're doing different ones, you're going, doing a bunch of guided practices. Well, which are the ones that are seem to click or are working more? And what is it about that? And then do them a little bit more and you can get into a, a good stream that way.

• 15:33Dan Harris?

  Yeah, I mean, I think even for these sessions, the live guided meditation and Q and A sessions, we haven't figured it out yet, but we're gonna start bringing people on from the audience and letting them talk to the teacher directly. Because I think there's enormous value, not only for the person, as you just indicated, the value is not just for the person asking the question, but it's for everybody else who gets to listen in because even though you might not think it, actually, there's gonna be something useful in there for you.

• 15:59Speaker 03

  Yeah, and actually, can I say one more thing too?

• 16:01Dan Harris?

  Please.

• 16:02Speaker 03

  Something about the inner teacher. The most important teacher in all of this is the quiet. It's in you. And that sometimes just spontaneously through the act of getting settled, you can get insights about, oh, where there's an impasse or there's something blocked. And you can also do this more explicitly by, at the beginning of your meditation, ask, you know, drop in a question like, you know, I'd like to understand more about where I'm blocked in practice, or what is it that I need to know about my meditation? And you kind of just drop it in and let it go. And it's like you've kind of planted the seed in your subconscious. And you sit, you get quiet, you'd be amazed. Like, the amount of insights to things that must come up spontaneously

• 16:47Speaker 03

  through you without needing to talk to anybody else. I mean, if you haven't tried that in a practice, I would recommend everybody try that in some way or another and just see what happens.

• 16:58Dan Harris?

  Yeah, Joseph has recommended that very thing to me, specifically as it relates to creative blocks. You know, you're in the middle of writing, you don't know, how do you end chapter two? I'm saying that because I had that very question today, how do I end chapter two? And, you know, you seed the question in your mind, sit for a while. I mean, it's kind of like, you may not get the meal you ordered. Exactly. Something, something will come. Another question here that was pre-submitted. Leanne, how can I turn down the volume on the constant narrative in my head? Sometimes it's evaluating, often it's just commentary, but it feels increasingly intrusive. It seems to take up so much space and gets in the way of just experiencing what is.

• 17:42Speaker 03

  Yeah, well, it does because you're doing, you're meditating, you're meditating on your constant stream in your head. You've chosen the terrible meditation object, as we all do. We are all meditating all day long on, we're just choosing to meditate on all this agonizing stuff in our head. So you're in really good company and I have found the single, you know, the two primary, three primary strategies, three primary meditation strategies, you can choose what works best for you, they all work to some degree or another. One is replace the inner talk, the agonized inner talk with more friendly messaging. You know, you do a loving kindness practice, may I be well, may you be well, you just start to like, you substitute different phrases in, that's a legit way to go. Uh, second is you choose to pay attention to something else.

• 18:27Speaker 03

  That stuff's happening, you, but you know, there's only so much real estate in consciousness. So instead of putting all of your attention in that real estate, you put your attention on the real estate of the breath, the real estate of that sound of the hum when the heat vent. And the more you bring to it, the more you find those other strands cool out. They may still be there in the background, but they don't have as much robustness. And maybe the one I'd most recommend, based on the vibe of the person who asked the question, I would say go directly into the thinking and get really curious about what those thoughts are made of. When you are listening to the narrator, first of all, where are you hearing it? Get more by your right ear, your left ear, more down below, where is it happening spatially, if that makes sense?

• 19:12Speaker 03

  What is the tone? Is it urgent? Is it frenetic? Whose voice is it? Is it your voice or does it kind of sound like your mom's voice? Or whatever, your grade three teacher, right? Just get like, get curious about it as it's just a sensory object. Our thoughts are like inversions of our sensory experience. Thoughts happen, there's visual components, there's auditory components, there are somatic components. So kind of go into the thinking and, and get really, really, really curious about it. And I have practices like that on my Substack where, and we have one in our book, where you just basically deconstruct the thoughts. And I'm telling you, for some people, it's a revelation. Because even just the act of

• 19:53Speaker 03

  Turning towards them and getting curious about them often actually just cools out a lot of the thinking. So not only are you able to deconstruct the narrator or the problem or whatever it is, sometimes now it doesn't even show up at all. And so now you have this tool of just like turning with curiosity towards your thoughts can be one of the things that cools out. Now, not always, but there's many, many things that can emerge from turning towards your thoughts that are very unexpected and quite liberating. So that's what I'd say about that.

• 20:22Dan Harris?

  Yeah, I mean, Joseph often recommends that you just ask the question, what is a thought?

• 20:27Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 20:28Dan Harris?

  Cause investigating that gets you right at this whole and often confusing idea of non-self, the self being an illusion. Or what the thoughts feel so real and so authoritative, but if I look for, where is this thinking? Who's doing it? Who's receiving it? There's some fruitful not finding there.

• 20:49Speaker 03

  Profoundly and that and I would, the only thing I would add to that is thoughts, you're noticing a thought. They're not just happening. They seem to be happening for someone, to someone. So you can look and go, well, where is this person? Who are they happening to? You know, and you kind of like do this 180 and you look back and go, what are they happening to? And you realize there's nothing you can find in there that they're happening to. It's like the thought is happening and then there's a feeling of you behind your eyes. A bunch of visual stuff is happening to the bunch of sensations of your eyeballs. There's no you in it. Some people love that and find that deeply liberating. It's like, oh my God, there's nothing to take personally in here. The, the part that's most intimately you is just all that's happening kind of in space.

• 21:32Speaker 03

  So if you look at like Zogchen teachings in Tibetan Buddhism around the space of mind, those kinds of teachings can be really helpful around like not taking thoughts personally. And then they just become this hilarious thing happening as part of the creativity of nature.

• 21:47Dan Harris?

  Just to say, I find everything you just said, Jeff, super helpful. And I know there are some people listening who are like, what the fuck is he talking about? That's also fine. Like, you're not a bad meditator if this is conflicting to you. What I recommend to people is to play with this very lightly. And don't worry about any result or insight. It just, just knock on the door every once in a while and don't worry about any specific outcome. Let's see if I can sneak one more question in. This is from Thomas. "I'm struggling now and have been for months with one parent who is sliding into dementia and is anxiety ridden. And the other who is trying to valiantly hold things together, but lacks empathy and often loses it.

• 22:30Dan Harris?

  And speaks in a demeaning fashion to their partner. How could I better deal with this very difficult situation, providing enough support to the one parent? But not get too exhausted because I, I get sucked into their world? And then calling the other parent on their abominable behavior while also acknowledging all the shit they're going through." Does that make sense the way I read it, Jeff?

• 22:52Speaker 03

  Absolutely. And just, is it Thomas?

• 22:56Dan Harris?

  Thomas, yeah.

• 22:57Speaker 03

  Oh, man, just, that is such a hard situation. And so first, just, I feel you. And it is self compassion to start. Like, this is a very, very hard situation to be in. And of course compassion for the people you're caring for. And there is no perfect way through this situation. At least from what I can tell and to my friends who are dealing with similar kinds of things. It's like, it's about doing the best you can. And the best you can do will get better if you're able to pull back and take care of yourself to whatever degree you can take care of yourself. And by that, I mean some activity where you can settle the intensity of the situation and, and let it settle inside you and underneath you. And you can kind of come to center. And then you can come back into that situation with a little bit more presence.

• 23:42Speaker 03

  From that place, there'll be more clarity around the right time to have the right conversation with the right parent. If indeed that time ever comes. I've noticed that with family members, if I go in with an agenda around... Talking about something then or at a right time or whatever, it almost always goes pear shaped. It has to be more like, for me, it's been like, drop the agenda. Just be a kind of compassionate presence and often from that space, opportunities emerge to be able to mediate more skillfully. But you know, the more you can do the self-care for yourself to settle and just to come in there and be in in a place of kind of greater grounded availability.

• 24:21Speaker 03

  I think the better it goes, but it's just a really, really, really hard situation. And I was just talking to a friend who's in a, he's got a young autistic son and they're just. It's a really hard situation. It's going to be a really hard situation for a long time. So he's a meditator. He knows that what he has to do and what his partner has to do is just they gotta take time for themselves to build up. Capacity because it's going to be a long haul.

• 24:46Dan Harris?

  On this situation with the parent, I relate to it. I had this moment, this is actually a scene that I, including in my next book, five years ago where I had to. Drive my parents, one of my parents, not my mother, has dementia. I had to drive my, my mom and dad from their apartment in Boston to this assisted living facility that I had, my brother and I had chosen for them near me in the suburbs of New York. And it was just this like head splitting role reversal. Here I am like at the wheel. Literally and figuratively uprooting them from their lives after having been, you know, in the reverse situation where they're in the.

• 25:25Dan Harris?

  Front seat and I'm in the backseat and I'm in this situation where they're in the backseat bickering a little bit. I've got their cat. In a cat carrier strapped into the, into the front seat. She's screaming the whole ride. This is a four hour ride. She's screaming. This is like. Cabin is filled with feline ululations and like my mom and dad. Kind of complaining about what's on the radio and when's lunch and this guy's making a mess and. It was just like this total role reversal from when I was seven and in the backseat. And I just had this moment of like, I'm gonna send everybody, including the cat and myself.

• 26:05Dan Harris?

  Metta.

• 26:06Speaker 03

  Yes.

• 26:06Dan Harris?

  I'm just gonna go through, may you be happy. May you be free from suffering, which is a cousin of Metta or loving kindness. It's compassion or Karuna. That practice helped me stop trying to control the situation, jarred me out of my profound self pity and just gave me the golden fruit of patience. It was very, very helpful. It didn't fix anything. It just kinda helped me get right inside so that I could just manage the ups and downs of the moment. Does that make sense what I'm saying, Jeff?

• 26:41Speaker 03

  Oh, my God. Beautifully said. Beautifully said, brother.

• 26:47Speaker 03

  The sacredness of this life, you know, these are the people. These are the challenges. This is the reality. Can I lean into it? Can I embrace it and like not have this? You know, it's like kind of the broken heart and nature of reality. It's so, there's so much bittersweetness and you need both ends to feel the full. It is what it is.

• 27:09Dan Harris?

  Yes, the poignancy of the whole thing. I mean, that's why we show up and do this practice so that we can train for those moments. And for all moments, frankly, the good ones, you wanna be more there for them to savor them, make them last a little bit longer. And the shitty ones, you want them to last a little bit less long. And you wanna be as nimble and supple as possible. So that's the point of this practice we all do. And then supercharge it all by practicing together, which Buddha had this insight 2,600 years ago, validated by modern science that, as I often say, life is better and easier in the carpool lane. So Jeff, thank you for being so awesome generally and in response to these questions. Appreciate you immensely.

• 27:55Dan Harris?

  And thank you all for being here. It's enormously meaningful to me to see all of your faces. So, thank you. Love you guys.

• 28:02Speaker 03

  Me too. Friends, you don't have to do it alone. Come to these things.

• 28:06Dan Harris?

  Well said.

• 28:06Speaker 03

  It's all about, you know.

• 28:08Dan Harris?

  Yes. Well said.

• 28:09Speaker 03

  Thanks, Dan.

• 28:10Dan Harris?

  Thanks, buddy.

• 28:11Speaker 03

  Love you, bud. Okay. Bye, everybody.

• 28:13Dan Harris?

  Peace.

• 28:20Dan Harris?

  Big thanks to Jeff. Don't forget to check out my new app where you can hear lots of guided meditation from Jeff and many other amazing teachers. You can get the app if you go to danharris.com. There's a free 14-day trial. Finally, thank you very much to everybody who works so hard on this show. Our producers are Tara Anderson and Eleanor Vassili. Our recording and engineering is handled by the great folks over at Pod People. Lauren Smith is our managing producer. Marissa Schneiderman is our senior producer. DJ Cashmere is our executive producer. And Nick Thorburn of the band Islands wrote our theme.

• 29:00Speaker 04

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