The NFL Idols America Obsesses Over | Seth Wickersham (PT. 2)

Is ego a prerequisite for greatness as an NFL quarterback? In this episode, Ryan is joined by award-winning sports journalist, Seth Wickersham, to dig into the brutal realities of the position, from overbearing parents and sideline meltdowns to Tom Brady’s relationship with Bill Belichick. They talk about the psychology, pressure, and identity struggles that come with the glory of America’s most powerful position in sports. Seth Wickersham is a senior writer at ESPN and the New York Times bestselling author of It’s Better to Be Feared: The New England Patriots Dynasty and the Pursuit of Greatness https://www.thepaintedporch.com/products/its-better-to-be-feared-the-new-england-patriots-dynasty-and-the-pursuit-of-greatness?_pos=2&_sid=0d5097eba&_ss=r. Focusing primarily on longform enterprise and investigative work on the National Football League, Wickersham has been a finalist for the National Magazine Award for Reporting, and his stories have been anthologized in the Best American Magazine Writing, the Best American Sports Writing, and Next Wave: America’s New Generation of Great Literary Journalists, among others. Released in 2021, It’s Better to Be Feared https://www.thepaintedporch.com/products/its-better-to-be-feared-the-new-england-patriots-dynasty-and-the-pursuit-of-greatness?_pos=2&_sid=0d5097eba&_ss=r was named Nonfiction Book of the Year by Sports Illustrated and Best Sports Book by the National Sports Media Association. Follow Seth Wickersham: X https://x.com/sethwickersham?lang=en & Instagram: @Seth. Wickersham https://www.instagram.com/seth.wickersham/?hl=en 📚 Grab signed copies of It’s Better to Be Feared https://www.thepaintedporch.com/products/its-better-to-be-feared-the-new-england-patriots-dynasty-and-the-pursuit-of-greatness?_pos=2&_sid=0d5097eba&_ss=r and American Kings: A Biography of a Quarterback https://www.thepaintedporch.com/products/american-kings-a-biography-of-the-quarterback?_pos=1&_sid=efb24f02c&_ss=rat The Painted Porch | https://www.thepaintedporch.com https://www.thepaintedporch.com/products/its-better-to-be-feared-the-new-england-patriots-dynasty-and-the-pursuit-of-greatness?_pos=2&_sid=0d5097eba&_ss=r 🎙️ Listen to Seth Wickersham's first interview on The Daily Stoic Podcast: https://dailystoic.com/seth-wickersham/ 👉 Support the podcast and go deeper into Stoicism by subscribing to The Daily Stoic Premium https://dailystoic.supercast.com/ - unlock ad-free listening, early access, and bonus content: https://dailystoic.supercast.com/ 📖 Preorder the final book in Ryan Holiday's The Stoic Virtues Series: "Wisdom Takes Work": https://store.dailystoic.com/pages/wisdom-takes-work https://store.dailystoic.com/pages/wisdom-takes-work 🎙️ Follow The Daily Stoic Podcast on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dailystoicpodcast/?hl=en: https://www.instagram.com/dailystoicpodcast 🎥 Watch top moments from The Daily Stoic Podcast https://www.youtube.com/@dailystoicpodcast on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@dailystoicpodcast: https://www.youtube.com/@dailystoicpodcast ✉️ Want Stoic wisdom delivered to your inbox daily? Sign up for the FREE Daily Stoic email at https://dailystoic.com/dailyemail 🏛 Get Stoic inspired books, medallions, and prints to remember these lessons at the Daily Stoic Store: https://store.dailystoic.com/ 📱 Follow us: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dailystoic/, Twitter https://twitter.com/dailystoic, YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@DailyStoic, TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@daily_stoic?lang=en, and Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dailystoic See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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• 0:03Ryan Holiday?

  Welcome to the weekend edition of the Daily Stoic. Each weekday, we bring you a meditation inspired by the ancient Stoics, something to help you live up to those four Stoic virtues of courage, justice, temperance, and wisdom. And then here on the weekend, we take a deeper dive into those same topics. We interview Stoic philosophers. We explore at length how these Stoic ideas can be applied to our actual lives and the challenging issues of our time. Here on the weekend, when you have a little bit more space, when things have slowed down, be sure to take some time to think, to go for a walk, to sit with your journal,

• 0:46Ryan Holiday?

  and most importantly, to prepare for what the week ahead may bring.

• 0:54Ryan Holiday?

  Hey, it's Ryan. Welcome to another episode of the Daily Stoic Podcast. I posted a reel the other day of me signing some of the tip-ins for Wisdom Takes Work, which is coming out in October. Got these signed, numbered first editions. And my guest today, Seth Wickersham, sent me a little note and he said, hey, that's awesome. You're really burning through those. And I said, yeah, well, the video is old, but I'm going to have to be doing it again because I just found out my publisher lost 3,500 of the tip-ins. So I have to go do a whole other round. They should be coming here shortly. It won't change the experience for you guys because they're numbered. So we know, well, we know because I made them get to the bottom of it.

• 1:38Ryan Holiday?

  But we lost a big chunk. There's like six boxes of the pages. We stacked them all up. It was taller than me. But they lost basically a full box. So we know exactly which of the numbered pages they lost. So I'm going to have to sign them. The team here is going to have to number them again. Those will get out. It shouldn't delay anything. But we were just commiserating about publishers a little bit. Publishers are amazing in the sense that they help you do what you want to do. But like anything, any big industry or association, whatever, there's bureaucracy and problems and sometimes a lack of accountability. And all you can do is just throw up your hands and go, this is what I gotta do. And he was telling me that he has a copy of our mutual friend, Wright Thompson's book, Papulean,

• 2:22Ryan Holiday?

  with his name misspelled on it. So that's that. And then he said, hey, when's our episode gonna air? And I said, It's going to run really soon. Here it is. So Seth, here is your episode. I always hate watching the Jets Steelers game as we were texting, which I guess segues into what the episode is about. Seth has this amazing book called American Kings, which is about quarterbacks, the most powerful position in American sports, the hardest position in American sports, and the one that has in its way kind of echoes of what it must have been like to be a Marcus Aurelius or a sort of king, prince in any fields, literal or

• 3:07Ryan Holiday?

  otherwise. What does that do to a person? How does it change a person? Does it demand ego? Does it deform the ego? So good for you. We talked in part one about one of the only people to ever walk away from that position, Andrew Luck, and why other people hang on way too long. I thought this was a fascinating conversation. I think you're really going to like it. And I was really excited to have Seth on in person. As I said in part one, we had him on back in November of 2021 to talk about his award winning book, It's Better to Be Feared, which is about the Patriots dynasty. This book is about the position itself of quarterback. I think you're really going to like it. You don't have to like

• 3:47Ryan Holiday?

  sports. You don't have to like American football to know or recognize the deeper themes in this book and in this conversation. In part two, we're talking about ego. We're talking about some of the religious elements, the faith elements that seem to inspire some of these athletes. And then what's the difference between being gifted and blessed and much more? As I said, Seth is a senior writer at ESPN. He's a New York Times bestselling author. He's been a finalist for the National Magazine Award. His stories have been anthologized in the greatest American sports writing publications and books over the years. You can follow him on Instagram and on Twitter at Seth dot Wickersham. You can grab signed copies of It's Better to Be Feared at the Painted Porch. They didn't have American Kings

• 4:32Ryan Holiday?

  in yet when he was here, but the book is great. And you can buy that from the Painted Porch as well. Enjoy.

• 4:41Speaker 01

  How do you raise a quarterback? I mean, that's like, first of all. Probably not by trying to. I think that there's a lot of virtue in that. But one of the things that's interesting is that there's this entire multimillion dollar circuit. Yeah. That has to do with youth quarterbacking. Right. All these camps and quarterback coaches and physical trainers and media specialists, all these things that you think you need. Yeah. And they all know, I think that most of them are pretty good guys. There are some of them that I think are a little full of it. But like, if you tell a dad, hey, your son's got some of this, you know, he's got some, he's got something special here. I mean, Rick Neuheisel says, you know, they are nomads in the desert and you're giving them water.

• 5:26Speaker 01

  I mean, they will write checks and write checks and write checks. And like, these are kids who are becoming fully formed.

• 5:35Speaker 01

  And like Steve Young and I talked about it where he talked about how you're celebrating the hope. Yeah. And that's really a dangerous space to be in. That's a dangerous space. It's a lot of adults for a young child to have to please. Are there any quarterback moms? Or is it almost always dads? It's a lot of dads, but it's a lot of moms, too. I've seen moms that I think in some ways are more competitive than the dads in some cases. But, you know, it ends up just by gravitational pull, I think, being a lot of dads. And I was at Elite 11, which is this national showcase that takes place in Southern California every year, and they have regional ones.

• 6:18Speaker 01

  And, you know, you make it through regionals and you make it to nationals. And it really, it's a fun honor to have, but there's no predictive value in it whatsoever. It's a beauty contest for quarterbacks. And yet they're imprecise even at that because Patrick Mahomes didn't make it. Yeah. As a high school kid. Astounding and bewildering, but um, we were walking off the field and there was one particular quarterback, I'm not going to name him, but he had had a rough day and this is like seven on seven stuff like, nobody cares.

• 6:51Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 6:51Speaker 01

  You know, it's, it, you're throwing to people you've never even thrown to before. And his dad lit into him in front of everybody. And, you know, he just said, you know, what the fuck are you doing out there? And I mean, it was embarrassing for that kid. And Colin Hurley, who I was there kind of shadowing, saw it all happen. And he waited until the dad had, had left that scene and he went over and, you know, that kid's a peer of his. There, he's a blood brother and to a certain extent, like they're two of the only people who know what it's like to be teenagers try in, in 2024 or 2023, trying to be great at

• 7:34Speaker 01

  this thing. And he went over and just gave him a hug. Cause even though I don't think Charlie Hurley, Hurley was ever like that to Colin, um, he could, he could empathize and he felt a kinship.

• 7:44Ryan Holiday?

  He had other adults do that to him. Sure.

• 7:47Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 7:47Ryan Holiday?

  Like they all have, and I, I want, I actually do wonder if that partly explains some of the political stuff with the quarterbacks where it's like, yeah, they all have daddy issues. They all know what it's like to have an abusive, erratic, crazy dad, or most of them do.

• 8:00Speaker 01

  Oh, I know. Almost every quarterback story can be divided into too much daddy or not enough.

• 8:04Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 8:06Ryan Holiday?

  Is, is ego just a prerequisite?

• 8:09Speaker 01

  It's not only ego. Ego is something that's like much smaller than a prerequisite. I think that somewhere in there, you have to believe that you're kind of a superior human to everyone around you. Like you have to believe that you're, you know, better than everyone else, including the head coach.

• 8:28Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah, right.

• 8:29Speaker 01

  And I have this moment in the book. So Steve Young is trying to, you know, learn the West Coast offense. He's behind Joe Montana. This is. The early 90s, Joe was, his body's starting to break down, but he's still obviously a genius.

• 8:44Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 8:44Speaker 01

  Steve is running the West Coast offense the way they tell him to do it, which is you go from options, you know, reads one to five, and if nothing else is there, you scramble. And Steve is, is getting sacked a lot and getting hit a lot because he's going through options one through five, whereas like Joe Montana had figured out that the playbook can be either an open highway or a prison.

• 9:06Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 9:07Speaker 01

  But whatever it is, it's, it's a, it's a suggestion.

• 9:10Ryan Holiday?

  Yes, yes, yes, yes.

• 9:11Speaker 01

  And he would skip options one to two, go straight to three, then to four, and if that wasn't there, he'd just get rid of the ball.

• 9:18Ryan Holiday?

  Right.

• 9:19Speaker 01

  And he'd live to fight again, and he was avoiding hits that way. And even though his body was starting to break down, that was his genius, was that he understood the offense better than the coaches could draw it up. And Steve, meanwhile, was doing what he thought was right, which was doing it exactly as Bill Walsh, a supposed genius, had drawn it up.

• 9:39Ryan Holiday?

  Well, that's the, there's the, is it quite ego? But you experience it in, in anything you do where you go, hey, I'm a cog in this machine unless I insist on not being it, right? So like, it'll use me up, right? Like, the, the system is good for the system at, often at the expense of the quarterback. And I have to think about how do I have a playing career more than two seasons, right? Like, I can only take so many sacks. And so it's like the ego of like, when, when, I don't know, your publisher sends you something and you go, I'm not going to do that. Like, like, you know, like, you think without the ego, you're the team player all the time, you do what they ask, you follow the process, and you get fucking worn down and chewed up,

• 10:24Ryan Holiday?

  and you have to go like, no, our interests are aligned only up to a point, right? And, and that you have to have, that's a lot to ask a 22-year-old to figure out when they only have one body, to go like, hey, you got to figure out where the coach wants you to do X, because it's good for the coach and it's good for this, but if you push back even just slightly, it can go a way that's much more favorable to you.

• 10:50Speaker 01

  And it has to exist within this very fragile ecosystem where doubt cannot penetrate. So there's like a natural tension there.

• 10:57Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 10:58Speaker 01

  And I think one of the most interesting things that I spent a little bit of time on is how some quarterbacks.

• 11:04Speaker 01

  You think one of the, the basic requirements of the job is when you're answering questions from the press, you take all the blame, no matter what really happened. That's just part of it. You recite your lines, right?

• 11:15Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 11:17Speaker 01

  And there's people who just cannot do that.

• 11:19Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 11:20Speaker 01

  Pro quarterbacks who just cannot do that. And that to me was fascinating. Like what, what is it that when you get in that particular position where you're just doing what everyone expects of you, there's some sort of internal wall that that rubs against where you just cannot do it.

• 11:36Ryan Holiday?

  You figure these, you figure these things out. Like I was just listening to this or watching this, no, reading, I was reading, I was reading in the Times, but it's also about it. Miley Cyrus was being interviewed in the Times. The guy said, you know, you seem much less, like much calmer, much more at ease, more open than previous times I've interviewed you. And she goes, yeah, I've learned that if I don't like a question, I can just say, hey, I'll be right back. Can you excuse me? And then just not come back. And someone else will come in and fix this for me.

• 12:05Speaker 01

  Right.

• 12:05Ryan Holiday?

  Right. And you just, there's just these like tips of the trade that you only realize, like this is kind of the level and then the level above, right? And like you, you figure those things out as you go.

• 12:17Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 12:18Ryan Holiday?

  And then some people don't figure them out and it just makes it so much harder for them. And like as a member of the public who's just like, well, you gotta get that, maybe that feels unfair. But as someone who's like, you know, one of a handful of big pop stars, like she, probably Lady Gaga was like, hey, you just do that. Like somebody else figured that out and passed it along.

• 12:38Speaker 01

  And plus, it only becomes a thing if you don't answer it, right? If you do answer it and you just utter whatever cliche you want to get you through it, no one cares and no one will notice. Um, and it's one of the things that I think, you know, my first book was on the New England Patriots and it was basically about Brady and Belichick. Yep. It's a good worn copy there.

• 12:56Ryan Holiday?

  This is a gal, I've, yeah, I've got notes in it.

• 12:59Speaker 01

  Yep. I think that, you know, so you write a book about quarterbacks. Like how do you write about Brady when I literally just wrote a book about him? And so I try to, you know, touch base with him in particular parts where I think it really illuminates aspects of him or his personality. And one of the things that I think is really. I think underappreciated is how much shit he could eat.

• 13:19Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 13:19Speaker 01

  Because Belichick, unlike most coaches, would not let him off the hook.

• 13:24Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 13:24Speaker 01

  And there was a game that they played, it was in 2014. So it was, I think it was the year you might've spoke to them. They won the Super Bowl that year. And, you know, that was a pivotal year in the New England Patriots dynasty. Cause if they don't win the Super Bowl that year, I think Tom Brady is probably a San Francisco 49er. And Jimmy Garoppolo is still the, the Patriots quarterback right now. But they lost to the Chiefs early in the season and it was a pivotal loss. They've got blown out on national television and Belichick is doing his Monday morning squad meeting and he just rips into Brady. And, you know, people are saying this is the best quarterback in the league, you know, look at this shit. And Brady, who's at, you know, at that point in his late 30s, has put up with this his entire adult life.

• 14:07Speaker 01

  Looks to his left, looks to his right and just gets up and walks out of the meeting.

• 14:13Speaker 01

  And I think the other Patriots were kind of like, oh no, is this it?

• 14:16Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 14:16Speaker 01

  Like, is he gonna, he walked straight to his locker. He banged out some sort of text message and he sat back and like exhaled. And one of the Patriots saw him do all this and was like, hey 12, you straight? You know, and he was like, I'm fine, I'm good. And he was like, oh, thank God, you know, cause they were.

• 14:32Ryan Holiday?

  He just figured out another wrinkle in the system.

• 14:35Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 14:35Ryan Holiday?

  He did have to take it, but he also didn't have to take.

• 14:38Speaker 01

  Exactly. I mean, you know, even Tom Brady has his limits, but you know, I like that to me, I think is one of the most fascinating aspects of him. That he just had the capacity to eat shit like that.

• 14:49Ryan Holiday?

  Yes.

• 15:02Ryan Holiday?

  My favorite scene in the Patriots book is the one where he's throwing the ball around with some receivers. And they're just dropping, he's being, he's like, just being so hard on them. And somebody pulls Tom Brady aside and go, hey, like these kids aren't going as far as you are.

• 15:18Speaker 01

  Yeah. When he was in high school.

• 15:20Ryan Holiday?

  That, that realization that you're, this is, that's when the alienation starts.

• 15:25Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 15:25Ryan Holiday?

  I think, right? It's like the sense that, oh, hey, there's different tracks to this. And you're not the same and you're not held to the same standard. And by the way, you can't hold everyone to the same standard. That's a lot to put on a 18 year olds or a 16 year old or whatever.

• 15:43Speaker 01

  Yeah. Yeah, and Brady's have been always been one of those guys who like, growing up, everybody was always like, what's the matter with you?

• 15:50Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 15:50Speaker 01

  Because he would break his Nintendo remote when he'd lose on Super Mario Brothers.

• 15:54Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 15:55Speaker 01

  You know? And, you know, he, that piece of his personality never left. Like, in a lot of ways, we evolve a lot as, you know, people, and in some ways, you know, you grow out of certain things. But when he was a kid, his dad and he, his dad loved golfing with him and they would golf and Tom would miss shots and he'd get so angry and at one point, you know, he'd throw clubs.

• 16:17Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 16:17Speaker 01

  And Tom Senior would pull him off the course and it's like, you know, we're not doing that.

• 16:20Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 16:22Speaker 01

  And, you know, fast forward to him as the, as a New England Patriot, throwing tablets on the sideline and stuff, you know, he's a grown up, but you know, that, that rage inside him.

• 16:31Ryan Holiday?

  There's a scene in the book where he sees his son do that, I think, right? And he's like, man, this isn't gonna go well. You don't, it's like, it's kind of like that, it's like the Forrest Gump thing.

• 16:42Speaker 01

  Mm hmm.

• 16:43Ryan Holiday?

  Like me, and he's like, he realizes that he is, you know? Like, and it's, there's something kind of haunting.

• 16:48Speaker 01

  It was that he was just so hard on himself.

• 16:50Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 16:50Speaker 01

  And he was like, oh, bro.

• 16:52Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 16:52Speaker 01

  I was hoping this might skip you, you know?

• 16:54Ryan Holiday?

  Yes, yes, exactly.

• 16:54Speaker 01

  Cause there's a lot of torment and, you know, you know, as a, as a writer, there's a lot of things that go into writing. There's, you know, this base of knowledge, there's finding the right time to catch the wave, but, you know, at the end of the day, it's you and your computer. It is a loan.

• 17:09Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 17:10Speaker 01

  And, you know, you've got to figure out a way to get something on there that you can live with for a day, whatever it might be. And that torture exists all the way up the line and especially in this profession, I think.

• 17:22Ryan Holiday?

  Well, even if you love it, there's some part of you that's a miserable fuck.

• 17:25Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 17:26Ryan Holiday?

  That, that makes you do it.

• 17:27Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 17:28Ryan Holiday?

  And people who are not miserable fucks don't understand it. And there's just an unbridgeable gap, you know? Like, people ask, they'll ask my wife, like, are you a writer? And I go like, thank God, no. Like, I don't, I don't know how two could exist, like it seems like, but like, I'm more, it's more like, you're lucky, you know? Like, I think there is something about, as great as it is, as much you love it, there's this work you have to do constantly to keep it on a leash, I think. Unless you want to turn yourself over to it completely and maybe there's some slight plane, you get like some higher transcendent level.

• 18:04Speaker 01

  Mm hmm.

• 18:05Ryan Holiday?

  But it appears to come at the cost of essentially everything else.

• 18:09Speaker 01

  When I became a parent, I struggled a lot with regulating that mood.

• 18:14Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 18:14Speaker 01

  You know, because when you're married, it's okay. You know what I mean? Everyone kind of, your wife gets it.

• 18:18Ryan Holiday?

  You're two adults, two consenting adults that know what they signed up for.

• 18:21Speaker 01

  Exactly. And you know, your wife can help you to an extent, but she can also just go in the other room and watch TV or whatever it is.

• 18:26Ryan Holiday?

  Oh, that's a, did you have a good day?

• 18:27Speaker 01

  Yeah. But when you're a parent, you realize like how those storm clouds gather and what form they take. And, um, you know, I remember, um, you know, going to a therapist when I had just become a parent because I needed to figure out a way to not let stress from the day job just cast a shadow over the entire house.

• 18:50Ryan Holiday?

  Totally.

• 18:51Speaker 01

  And even now.

• 18:53Ryan Holiday?

  Office. I realized like I could do it from home, but I don't want this shit at home.

• 18:56Speaker 01

  And even now, like my, my eight year old son, you know, he, he gives me a hard time because I, I walk around the house muttering and I don't even realize it, but he notices it.

• 19:06Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. It's, and, uh, if they could do something else, I would be, if you could do something else, do something else.

• 19:13Speaker 01

  It's one of the things, you know, I, I write about Warren Moon a lot in the book and he was, he's such an interesting, he has such a kind of a star crossed career, but he was the first black quarterback for whom greatness was, was expected.

• 19:25Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 19:26Speaker 01

  And, you know, that's a, that's a hell of a burden and people, you know, got hurt in his career. Like he got hurt, other people got hurt over the course of his career because of who he thought he had to be. And, you know, he talked a lot about, he, he had an incident with his wife in the nineties where he was arrested for domestic violence. He was later acquitted, but you know, he knew that the path he was on was unsustainable and it was going to end very poorly. So he went to counseling and he would sneak into a building through the back door. And, you know, it was a complete utmost secrecy, utmost discretion. Eli Manning, when he was with the Giants, saw a therapist and the Giants, all the coaches and the execs were like, no one can know about this.

• 20:09Ryan Holiday?

  Because the quarterback can't be weak.

• 20:11Speaker 01

  The quarterback can't be, like, think about what the, the media might do with it.

• 20:15Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 20:16Speaker 01

  You know, and it's like. Moon was one of the first, I think, to try to use that as an outlet to help him just manage and learn how to talk, you know, learn how to like communicate about his feelings, learn that it's okay to communicate because as a quarterback, of course, you're thinking, I have to amass everything.

• 20:34Ryan Holiday?

  Right.

• 20:34Speaker 01

  And as we all know, there's limits to that.

• 20:38Ryan Holiday?

  Is it possible to be a quarterback and a reasonable, regular person? Like, I mean, in a way, does that make what Andrew Luck did all the more impressive? Or like, are there peers you would say like they're similar?

• 20:53Speaker 01

  Who do I think, yeah, who do I think is the most, the best at regulating all those different people you have to be? There was like the, Bob Dylan did this movie in the late eighties and, you know, the director, he asked the director, like, you know, who, what do you want me to do? Who do you want me to be? And he goes, well, just be yourself.

• 21:10Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 21:10Speaker 01

  You know, in the scene. And he was like, well, which one? So I think that of all the quarterbacks that I've met, gotten to know, studied, even ones who I never met, you know, people who died before I got into this, I honestly think Eli Manning is the best at regulating all that stuff.

• 21:30Ryan Holiday?

  Really?

• 21:31Speaker 01

  Because he came in, think about the pressures, being a Manning, being Peyton's little brother at every stage, then going to the biggest media market, being a disappointment.

• 21:40Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 21:41Speaker 01

  You know, for first couple of years, people not knowing if you were going to pan out. And he did a bunch of things that I think are really admirable and also just really genuine. And he's one of the most genuine superstars I think I've ever met. And people are kind of surprised when I, when I mentioned him, but he just did a bunch of things that I think, seeing a counselor, so figuring out a way to balance every part of his life. He's had, you know, the same marriage for a long time and they're a thriving marriage. And, you know, he's been an excellent father and, you know, even with the quarterbacks, you know, there's a balance that they have to have between knowing that they're apart from everyone else and also being one of the guys. And when it comes to meeting the press.

• 22:26Speaker 01

  Quarterbacks usually, the starting quarterback usually meets with the local media twice a week, after the game and once during the week. And those once a week things, you know, were supposed to be 20 minutes and they end up being like seven or something. And the NFL has rules that everybody has to be in the locker room for 40 minutes for four days a week while the press is there, I think four days a week. And the starting quarterback is never there. And if he is, he's not talking to the press. Eli Manning, again, this is a small example, but like Eli Manning would sit at his locker every day and he was available. It didn't matter if you were from ESPN magazine or the Asbury Park Press, you could get a one-on-one interview with Eli Manning. Now, he may not say anything interesting because he's too smart and savvy.

• 23:09Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 23:10Speaker 01

  But, and you fast forward again to the Manning that's, you know, 40 minutes away from here, Arch. You know, when Arch got his first start last year, he called Eli and it wasn't to ask about how to dissect certain defenses or whatever. It was like, how do you deal with fame? How do you deal with these certain things? And of course, there is no perfect answer to these things, but Eli had a lot of wisdom for him.

• 23:37Ryan Holiday?

  It would be interesting coming from that tradition, you know? We're talking about no one can tell you how to do it, but if you do, you're actually a third generation quarterback that's starting to get pretty nuts. There's a story, if you read that book, My First Coach, it's about like quarterbacks and their dad.

• 23:50Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 23:51Ryan Holiday?

  There's a story in that one where Archie Manning talks about deciding to retire early because he could feel Eli Manning was drifting and he didn't have the same relationship that he had with his other sons.

• 24:03Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 24:03Ryan Holiday?

  And just go, what a fucking powerful message that sends when dad gives up millions of dollars, again, gives up the thing you're not supposed to want to give up to spend more time with you. It makes sense that you would do a pretty good job yourself when you saw someone at least trying to do it better than, you know, it had been done.

• 24:24Speaker 01

  And that's something that I think has stayed with those guys. I mean, I think that like, again, when you're a quarterback, like during the season at least, there's no work-life balance.

• 24:34Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 24:34Speaker 01

  You know, you're, you're devoted to one master.

• 24:37Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 24:38Speaker 01

  And that's the team. But, you know, the Manning cast is a terrific way to watch Monday Night Football. What makes it so cool is that I think both Eli and Peyton can see the game through the quarterback's eyes, no matter who the quarterback is, whether it's a rookie, a journeyman, a franchise guy, they could always, they kind of understand. And so you can really learn a lot. But the reason why they do it is so that they don't have to travel. Like, they both do it out of the house.

• 25:02Ryan Holiday?

  Right.

• 25:03Speaker 01

  And that gave them a chance to stay current, be with the game, share some knowledge, have fun, but not have to be part of a crew that spends, you know, three or four days a week on site.

• 25:16Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah, maybe it was from your reporting, but one of the things that I took that's been helpful for me is like, so people look at Tom Brady and they go, this is what it costs to be great at what you do. You know, it tears apart your marriage, you know, this is what it takes. And it sounded like, from what I've read, that it wasn't the commitment to football that ultimately is what's taxing. It's that he would finish the football season, in which he was a maniac. Like, to be great at something, you have to be a maniac at that thing. And then, instead of going, hey, I've got three months off, it was, now I've got to shoot all the TV commercials, I've got to do, like, it was actually the off-season that was the unbalanced, the imbalance on top of the imbalance. One of my friends gave

• 26:01Ryan Holiday?

  me this, he said, you know, as a writer, he said, it's work, family, scene, pick two. So it's like, you can be a maniac about your work, and then you can be dedicated to your family, but if you want to go to parties, you want to do all the other shit, you're gonna, one of those two is gonna suffer. And, and I think, so, so people often take the wrong lesson, because they don't actually see what the schedules of these people look like. Like, you can, you can be maniacal about a craft, or a trade, or a sport, or whatever. And then, as long as you just go right home after, you can be decently, it's gonna be hard on your family to be traded, or moved, or whatever, the hours. But as long as you're not also trying to squeeze in a bunch of other selfish, selfish shit,

• 26:43Ryan Holiday?

  or ego-feeding shit, you can probably keep it together. The problem is, we can't say no to the other stuff on top of the big thing, the life-consuming thing that we've already committed to.

• 26:57Speaker 01

  Yeah, anytime there's a spectacular success, or a spectacular self-destruction, there's a lot of things that happen that led up to that, that are all invisible.

• 27:05Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 27:06Speaker 01

  And Brady is fascinating, because, I mean, remember, he won-

• 27:11Speaker 01

  His seventh Super Bowl with the Bucks and you know, Tizel Buncheon, right after the game on the field says to him, what more do you have to prove?

• 27:20Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 27:20Speaker 01

  And he kind of avoids answering. You watch him, he kind of moves out of the way and

• 27:24Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 27:24Speaker 01

  Goes to hugging his kids, you know, he didn't, he didn't want to be pinned down right there. But you look at, you go on Instagram and there's all these Instagram quarterbacks, you know, quote unquote, the next Tom Brady, he's only 13 and you know, they show this guy running around and doing all this stuff and that shows such a fundamental lack of sophistication to say nothing of maybe, it's so unfair to put that on a kid, but whatever.

• 27:48Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 27:49Speaker 01

  But like, it just shows that you had no idea what made Tom Brady, Tom Brady. And that's, you know, he goes to Michigan, he's seventh on the depth chart, he finally gets a chance to start and he has to condition himself to not take a single snap in practice for granted.

• 28:05Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 28:06Speaker 01

  And he conditioned himself in college that he can't have a bad play in practice because he may not play in the game.

• 28:12Ryan Holiday?

  Right.

• 28:13Speaker 01

  Then you go to the Patriots where that is the working ethos of the entire Bill Belichick philosophy on steroids.

• 28:22Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 28:23Speaker 01

  And then you have a, over him, over, you know, 20 some years playing, you know, you play against Peyton Manning, he knows that during those games against Peyton Manning, if he throw, has one bad play, that could cost them the game, which could cost them home field advantage in the playoffs, which would cost them the Super Bowl.

• 28:41Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 28:41Speaker 01

  One play.

• 28:42Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 28:43Speaker 01

  So you think about what that does to somebody over the course of their life.

• 28:47Ryan Holiday?

  Right.

• 28:48Speaker 01

  And you know, what it did was it produced the greatest quarterbacking career that anyone's ever seen and the most accomplished football player. And you know, it's also someone starting over in their late 40s.

• 28:59Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah, yeah. And I remember I was talking to Lance Armstrong one time and he told me that basically the reason, what he took out of the cancer battle was like, winning his living and losing his death. And he's like, I just look at, I just looked at literally every. Argument, every option, every choice, every one-on-one, everything was like, if I don't beat this person, I'm dead.

• 29:22Speaker 01

  Mm hmm.

• 29:22Ryan Holiday?

  And you go, okay, I could see why that would be a thing that would help you in fucking chemotherapy. And I could see why that would help you win the Tour de France. And I would see why it would also take you past any point of reasonability on what you're doing and not doing.

• 29:40Speaker 01

  And to bring it full circle is like, that's why Tom feels that way when he sees the sun.

• 29:44Ryan Holiday?

  Yes.

• 29:45Speaker 01

  You holding himself to a high standard and being hard on himself.

• 29:47Ryan Holiday?

  Yes.

• 29:48Speaker 01

  Cause he knows how this ends.

• 29:49Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah. And also like, cause I sent you this message about it, cause I saw he launched this email list. And I'm like, why? Like, why? Like, you're making $430 million just doing announcing. You need to have another me. But like, when they're like, hey, we'll pay you X to do X. The part of you that can't waste a single snap. I mean, I get it because I'm like, the idea of like, I don't actually need this. I can say no to this and be fine. Or I get this all the time. Like people will be like, hey, do you want to write this thing for this thing? And I'm like, why am I even considering this? Do you know what? Like I have, I have three books I have to write. And then an unsolicited request to do something now because it's there, I'm considering it, right?

• 30:31Ryan Holiday?

  And so you can see how the, the, the part of you that goes, no, I, I fucking seize every opportunity that's in front of me. That's what actually makes you a great quarterback. But then it makes it hard for you to be a good quarterback and then regular person. Cause you're just that all the time, even when you're, you're applying the quarterback mentality to, do you want to do this other thing or not? And this other thing is superfluous.

• 30:56Speaker 01

  Yeah. I mean, that entire, in my own way, I can relate to that, what you were saying. And like, it's that entire thing. It's that jockeying between insecurity and needing to be praised. Or the rush you get from a byline, the rush you get from standing in front of people and giving, you know, a speech and having people give you a standing ovation. It's all of those things wrapped up in that. And. I think that, you know, when you're out of the quarterback space, there are things in place maybe to check you here or there, even though it's ultimately up to you. And when you're in that tunnel of the quarterback space, there's very, very few.

• 31:33Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 31:34Speaker 01

  And that's where I think it becomes difficult. And that's where I think that for all these guys, you know, Steve Young loved Roger Staubach and he asked Roger Staubach when he retired, because Staubach obviously has probably become the most successful, great quarterback ever in retirement. I mean, he's a real estate, has a real estate empire. And, you know, Steve asked him, like, you seem like you've done pretty good. Like, how do you walk away from football? And Staubach was like, run. You have to run away from the game. You can never look back.

• 32:06Ryan Holiday?

  Interesting.

• 32:07Speaker 01

  And Steve kind of ran, you know, he stayed, he kept one, one foot in the pool, but like, it's that exact thing, because Joe Montana, you know, says, I wish that everyone could experience being an NFL quarterback for just one Sunday.

• 32:22Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 32:23Speaker 01

  Because then they'd get it.

• 32:24Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah, right. But it is, yeah, it's weird. It's like, why was Kobe Bryant, like, producing movies? Or like, why does Kobe Bryant need a venture capital fund? Some part of it's probably like, yeah, you got to put that energy somewhere. But also, like, if you don't wrestle with why you have that energy, there's just never enoughness. And so you're, you're just doing, doing, and at the end of the day, we all fucking die and nothing happens, you know, like.

• 32:51Speaker 01

  I think that he, and Brady did this too, but I think that he knew that it was going to be devastating.

• 32:58Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 32:58Speaker 01

  It was going to be a death of sorts when he walked away. And so he was looking for exit ramps to, so that when he was exiting, he was exiting into things.

• 33:05Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 33:06Speaker 01

  And, you know, when you had Brady, here at Brady, you know, has this like, career that spans two decades, accomplishes everything you could accomplish. Years before he retired, he had set up his Fox deal, he had these other businesses, you know, he had a production outfit, he had his TB12 quote unquote lifestyle brand, you know, he had all these things he was planning to do. And yet still, you know, he, he's talked about it where, you know, he said he felt like he was like, you know, in a washing machine, where you're just bouncing everywhere.

• 33:35Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 33:36Speaker 01

  And even it got Brady, like, even with all of that, it got Brady. And Elway was talking about how you exit, Super Bowl champion, all these things, perfect ending.

• 33:47Speaker 01

  And then you go into these other spaces and you're behind everyone else.

• 33:52Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 33:52Speaker 01

  And your name only gets you so far.

• 33:54Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 33:55Speaker 01

  And Elway went and became the GM of the Arena League Colorado Crush. Like, what is the great John Elway doing, becoming the GM of an Arena League team and doing these goofy commercials with Jon Bon Jovi?

• 34:09Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 34:09Speaker 01

  It's because that was his graduate school. He knew that he wanted to get back into football and he wanted to learn how to run a team. And he looked at that like his graduate school for it.

• 34:18Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 34:30Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah, it's funny. You'll be like, why is the ex-president on The View? Or what, you know, like, because you need your, not your fix, but you're just, you're used to being able to tell people what you're thinking. And like, you know, and then all of a sudden you're just a guy, you know? Like, they asked Truman what he did the first day he was out of the White House. And he goes, I, I had to take the suitcases up to the attic. And you're just like, what a come, like, that, that's not, there, there's no transition there. And you go from being a not regular to a regular person. And you spent your whole life trying not to be regular, right? And, and then it catches up with you.

• 35:14Ryan Holiday?

  And that, that's a, that's a brutal thing. Because if you, if you were content to be a regular person, you would have walked away the second you got, like, the fuck you money.

• 35:25Speaker 01

  Absolutely. You know, Springsteen talks about how he, you know, goes off a cliff into depression when he comes back from a tour. And you go from being king to being a highly paid chauffeur, you know, basically. And, you know, even in his 60s and into his 70s, when he spent his entire life doing this and he knows the ebbs and flows of it, it would still get him. Like, that's how powerful that is.

• 35:48Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah, you're you build kind of a life on the road and not and then all of a sudden you're just like, you're not doing that thing. It's you're you're you got the bends or something.

• 35:58Speaker 01

  One of the things I tried to write about in the book and get into is that like, and it becomes too much, you know, even that.

• 36:05Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 36:05Speaker 01

  That all of that stuff just becomes too much. And like, what ways do people, they have nowhere to put all of this anxiety and insecurity and doubt and whatever it might be. And so where do they put it? Like, you, you know, there's guys who I write about who put it to the bar. And you know, that's where they go. And then you have guys who you have Tom Brady who puts it to avocado ice cream.

• 36:28Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 36:28Speaker 01

  And other people who put it to Instagram. But I wanted to get into the people who, when we talk about Christianity and sports, it's often the question goes, well, you know, does God really care about a football game? And who wins or loses, given the state of the world? And I wanted to write about people and take them at their word. And I wanted to literally understand how religion helps them navigate this very complicated and odd job. I mean, Patrick Mahomes, like, people don't think about him as a fundamentalist Christian, and yet he is. You know, he has tattoos with with scriptures on it. And he's one of the rare guys whose performance has always outpaced his notoriety.

• 37:11Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 37:11Speaker 01

  And I think he thinks that his relationship with Christ has helped him do that. And, you know, again, that's like, a fascinating thing for me to explore.

• 37:21Ryan Holiday?

  Right. There's this humility to Christianity, but also there can be kind of a an ego to it. I'm the chosen one. He's speaking to me. And so it's probably the duality of it. It sort of grounds you. But then it also, you know, the kind of prosperity gospel of like, I deserve this because like, it both explains it and helps you navigate.

• 37:41Speaker 01

  Yeah, there's a big difference between being gifted and blessed.

• 37:44Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 37:44Speaker 01

  And even though they sound the same. And, you know, Kirk Cousins has obviously never been shy about his religion. And I and I went, he won this this award. From a Christian athletes group and he he got it at the Super Bowl. And so I went to see him and it was this huge ballroom and there's a lot of people there in in Arizona. And, you know, it was a it was a an event for jocks. And so you got to see that cockiness right there alongside their faith. And that, to me, was really, really interesting. That year Cousins had led the biggest regular season comeback in history. It was, they beat the Colts and it had eclipsed

• 38:26Speaker 01

  the Bills against the Oilers for the biggest comeback in NFL history. And that comeback, of course, was led by Frank Reich, who was so devout that he went to seminary school after he retired. And when Cousins had completed that comeback, he got a text from a number he didn't recognize. And it was from Frank Reich and it was him passing along the torch, but also letting it known that, you know, there was, he would find another level of his spirituality within the context of this comeback going forward. And I thought that was, it was a fascinating idea and thought to dive into, especially from the outside.

• 39:04Ryan Holiday?

  Totally. And I mean, Aaron Rodgers comes from a super Christian background. And then obviously he's stepped away from it, but that's all kind of swirling around in there. He is endlessly fascinating to me.

• 39:14Speaker 01

  Rodgers, yeah.

• 39:15Ryan Holiday?

  Do you think it'll work?

• 39:16Speaker 01

  Him with the Steelers? I don't know. I think he can still play. I think that, um, I think the tension that'll be interesting, I think, is not him versus age. I think he'll, he's smart enough that he'll figure that out, or it'll be exposed and we'll all see it.

• 39:29Ryan Holiday?

  No, I think it's him versus culture.

• 39:31Speaker 01

  Exactly. And so he's used to being kind of the face of this thing. And the Steelers have a culture that's in place before him and it will outlast him. And I think that will be the interesting thing.

• 39:43Ryan Holiday?

  They've just bet it all on this person. That, to me, there's a, it's a character's fate, kind of like, there's an ego in thinking like, hey, Like, cause if you're making a culture pick, you would never pick him.

• 39:55Speaker 01

  Right.

• 39:55Ryan Holiday?

  He's the opposite.

• 39:56Speaker 01

  Right.

• 39:57Ryan Holiday?

  So there's, there's this ego in, oh, yeah, our, our culture can work with anyone. Or I, I suspect it will end exactly the way it's ended in everywhere else. Because that's what the past is, but the past is prologue, right? And so I, I suspect it will be an experiment that will go down in flames. Just like, just like it hasn't really worked with Kyrie Irving. Cause Kyrie was Kyrie Irving.

• 40:23Speaker 01

  Yeah. One of the, and I think that like, I think that Aaron can probably do it for a year. You know, you'll see little glimpses of him trying to like, kind of rebel. But I think that, I think he could do it. I think that like, it couldn't have gone much worse than it went for, with the Jets in every way.

• 40:40Ryan Holiday?

  It can't go worse. It could go the same.

• 40:41Speaker 01

  Yes, it could go the same.

• 40:43Ryan Holiday?

  50% as bad would still be a, that's just a car crash instead of a car crash on top of a train.

• 40:48Speaker 01

  Exactly, exactly. But I think that everyone knows this is probably his last year. And I think he could, I think he's savvy enough, he could probably hold it together.

• 40:56Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah. Or, or something has been unleashed in a person and once it's out, it doesn't, you know?

• 41:02Speaker 01

  Well, we all know it's there. So even if he's hold, even, even if he's throttling it, we'll all know.

• 41:06Ryan Holiday?

  Yes. Yeah.

• 41:08Speaker 01

  We'll all know what he, what he probably wants to say right there.

• 41:11Ryan Holiday?

  But it is interesting to think like, so if, if being a quarterback is inherently alienating, strange and strange. Like, there's a reason we have term limits, right? In politics, right? It was never possible until very recently to be a, an NFL quarterback for 20 years, right? So, so you're getting the poison in, in much smaller doses before. And now it's there and it's working on you and into your bones. And it, not just because it's bigger, but, but because you're doing it longer. And I think that is, that's the interesting kind of new territory. Like, like, so you're talking about something now, now you're, you're, the clock isn't just starting when, the day you're drafted,

• 41:56Ryan Holiday?

  but it actually started when you became a millionaire in high school in Texas. And so it's just like, we say, Absolute power corrupts absolutely, but it's also how long you have it. If you had it for six weeks, does it break you? Probably not. But, but if you're, if you're president for 25 years, you're probably not emerging from that experience whole.

• 42:21Speaker 01

  Absolutely not. It's weird to think about playing the long game in professional football.

• 42:25Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 42:25Speaker 01

  You're allowed to do that now, basically because quarterback, I think, has become easier.

• 42:28Ryan Holiday?

  Yes.

• 42:29Speaker 01

  You're not getting hit as much. You know, all the rules have kind of made it harder on the defense. And, you know, especially in, in high school and the college levels, like coaches have figured out ways to create space that leads quarterbacks who may not be very good to put up huge numbers.

• 42:45Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 42:45Speaker 01

  To the point where you can't even trust statistics. Like the, the Milwaukee Brewers before the Colorado Rockies came along, had a, had a minor league team in Denver, the Denver Zephyrs. And they could never trust any statistics coming out of Denver.

• 42:57Ryan Holiday?

  The altitude.

• 42:59Speaker 01

  Like Bob Waterfield's one of my characters and he was kind of the first quarterback to be ushered into the culture as a sex symbol.

• 43:06Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 43:06Speaker 01

  And he was married to Jane Russell, who was the sex symbol. He was the first ballot Hall of Fame quarterback who retired after, I think, seven years. Like that was his window.

• 43:14Ryan Holiday?

  In a way, that might be the long game, right? Is like preparing for the long game in the media world that we exist in. Part of it might be like actually not trying to play for 20 years.

• 43:23Speaker 01

  Exactly. And now, you know, now it's like the first seven years, that's like the first chunk of your career.

• 43:29Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 43:29Speaker 01

  You know, if you play it right. And, um, no, you're not, you're definitely not exiting hole. Even if like Tom Brady, you know, your body's intact and you know, you don't look like you've played football for 24 years. Like I said, it warps you and Elway was talking about it at one point because he was talking about his inability to feel empathy for other people and how he's had to learn how to do that. He just said, you know, he was searching for the word and he was like, you know, warped. Like that was what it was. It was like, it just warps you and like, there's fun, there's parts of that that are really fun too. You don't want to give it all up.

• 44:04Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 44:04Speaker 01

  There's parts of being warped that are great.

• 44:07Ryan Holiday?

  Well, it's like, like, basically, no boxer has ever retired too early. You know, it's almost all and like, so how do you, yeah, how do you know when, when to walk away? And just because you can keep playing and doing it doesn't mean it's good for you. And that goes back to the Washington thing is he was like, yeah, two year, two terms. That's, that's the right number. There's no mathematical equation, but he had some instinct. And then he had this kind of, like, we think about these people as disciplined, right? You don't become president, you become a quarterback, you don't become a billionaire without discipline. But, but can you be disciplined about that discipline?

• 44:44Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 44:44Ryan Holiday?

  And know, okay, I'm good, I'm walking away. Most of us don't have that discipline, which is like arguably the hardest and highest form of it.

• 44:54Speaker 01

  I mean, I've been my 25th year at ESPN. I was hired there when I graduated from school. And, you know, in some ways I feel like I'm just getting started.

• 45:03Ryan Holiday?

  Right.

• 45:03Speaker 01

  You know?

• 45:03Ryan Holiday?

  The hard part, yes, yes, yes, you're, you're getting your stride. And that's when you're supposed to have the restraint. It seems crazy.

• 45:10Speaker 01

  Or like you'd be well out of an NFL career at my age and you're doing this stuff. So, yeah, it's that mindfuck of it all, I think, is like, again, you know, I spent a lot of time on it in the book. It's just, because I think it hits everybody differently.

• 45:22Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 45:23Speaker 01

  And, but it hits everybody and there's no doubt about it. And even Steve Young, who I think is like this great philosopher, he's a great quarterback philosopher.

• 45:31Ryan Holiday?

  Sure.

• 45:32Speaker 01

  And he.

• 45:33Ryan Holiday?

  He's probably lucky he took so many hits because like, they weren't like hits to the head, you know? But like his body broke down and he had to kind of leave earlier than he would have wanted to.

• 45:43Speaker 01

  Right, because he, you know, he, he was a phenomenal athlete who had to learn how to be a quarterback in the NFL. And then had to learn how to be an artist, which are two different things.

• 45:52Ryan Holiday?

  Sure.

• 45:52Speaker 01

  And by the time he had figured that out, it, it ended fast after that. And, but he went back to BYU a year ago. It was like an alumni weekend and someone said to him, hey, you know, they got the alumni football game. You, you're playing, right? And he had never done anything like that. And he was like, are you kidding me? Like, I'm not going out there. I'm 62 years old.

• 46:11Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 46:12Speaker 01

  You know, he decided to do it. He's like, oh, what the hell? And, you know, it was a Friday night. It was at the stadium. There was people in the stands. It was under the lights. It's just precious. And sure enough, he goes right out and throws an interception. But they let some other, you know, other guys play and he comes back at the end. And he leads them down the field and they're in the red area and he calls a play called shake. And it was a play that he, he had coached his girls in flag football and it was named after the Taylor Swift song, Shake It Off. And he calls this play and he throws a touchdown pass. And everybody lifts him up and it was like he'd won the Super Bowl. And he's laying in bed that night, just, you know, on adrenaline.

• 46:53Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 46:54Speaker 01

  And someone texts him a picture of the play from behind.

• 46:58Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 46:58Speaker 01

  So right behind him, they were videotaping it and he watched it like 20 times. And as he said, it was like, you know, it was like a reminder of what's in him.

• 47:06Ryan Holiday?

  Yeah.

• 47:07Speaker 01

  And man.

• 47:08Ryan Holiday?

  We're all fucking broken.

• 47:09Speaker 01

  That's a hard thing. That's a hard, I know. It's like, we're all Uncle Rico's, you know, deep down, right?

• 47:15Ryan Holiday?

  You want to check out some books?

• 47:16Speaker 01

  I'd love to.

• 47:17Ryan Holiday?

  All right, let's do it.

• 47:23Ryan Holiday?

  Thanks so much for listening. If you could rate this podcast and leave a review on iTunes, that would mean so much to us and it would really help the show. We appreciate it and I'll see you next episode.