4 Communication Mistakes That Hurt Relationships & 4 Ways To Fix It Forever

Ever feel like you’re trying to communicate but the message just isn’t getting through? Jay Shetty explains that while digital interactions have become a lifeline, they lack the closeness of face-to-face personal connections. As we strive for authentic connections, focusing on improving our communication skills is key. Listen in to learn the mistakes you make that signal you're not interested and how to fix them so you can stay connected & nourish your relationships. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 0:00Jay Shetty?

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• 2:01Jay Shetty?

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• 2:45Jay Shetty?

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• 3:29Jay Shetty?

  what ends up happening is that person ends up feeling like you're not listening, ends up feeling like you're disengaged, and ultimately ends up feeling like you don't understand them.

• 3:44Jay Shetty?

  Hey, everyone. Welcome back to On Purpose. Thank you so much for coming back to this week's episode. Now, I know that for the past few weeks, I've been interviewing guests who can help us navigate this pandemic. And I hope that you've been enjoying the episodes and learning from them because we've had some incredible experts, from psychologists to doctors to people who have deeper insights about health and wellbeing. Being right now. And today I'm really excited because we get to reconnect. So I know I've had those guests on for the past few episodes, but today I thought to myself, I just want to connect with you all again. I want to be there for all of you. I'm here right now. I'm genuinely meditating. Well, first of all, I'm meditating every single day.

• 4:29Jay Shetty?

  We've been doing the 20 days of live meditations. We're on round two. And I'm doing them free every single morning on Instagram and Facebook at 9:30 AM Pacific time. That's about 12:30 PM Eastern. That's around 5:30 PM UK and 11:00 PM in India and everywhere in between. So every day I'm leading a guided meditation to find calm, to find peace, to find balance. Because I really believe that if you can have a mindful moment in your day, then it can have a big impact on your mindset for the rest of the day. But not only am I meditating with you, I'm meditating for you. I'm sending a lot of positive vibes, sending you the best wishes. I'm really hoping that you're safe, that you're happy,

• 5:11Jay Shetty?

  that you're healthy and that you're in a good place. I know it's testing times. I know it's a troubling time, but I'm hoping that you're safe at home and I'm hoping that you're healthy at home. So today I wanted to talk about this very interesting topic that I think super relevant right now, but it's relevant in general as well. And it's called the four communication mistakes we make in relationships and four ways to rapidly improve them. Now here's what I feel about right now. We're having to communicate differently. I know that a lot of us are sitting on Zoom calls for hours every day.

• 5:50Jay Shetty?

  We're on apps like WhatsApp and FaceTime and WebEx and whatever else it may be. And we're changing the way we communicate, not just for work, but with the people that we love the most, people that we're so close to. And digital communication has its own pros and cons, right? There's pros to it. You can connect with anyone, anytime, anywhere. And it's incredible that we can do that. But at the same time, you want to really hug someone. You want to have a heart to heart with someone. You want to open up your mind to someone. And you want to have that deep connection with someone as well. And so, listening and communication are such big parts of what we're experiencing right now.

• 6:34Jay Shetty?

  And improving our communication skills increases our connection. Listen to that again. It's really, really important. Improving our communication skills increases our connection. If you're feeling lonely, if you're feeling disconnected, if you're feeling disengaged right now, a lot of that is because we're not communicating effectively, because we've never had to communicate in this way before. And, and we have to give ourselves the space and the stillness and the lack of judgment and guilt to feel that we can move on from this. Because guess what? None of us expected this. No one was trained for this. No one was prepared for this.

• 7:16Jay Shetty?

  But it is a great opportunity to improve our communication skills. So that not only are they better online, but they'll be better offline as well. But if we have better communication, we'll feel more connected to the people that we love. How many times have you been on a phone call or a Zoom call? And after it finishes, you're like, what did we even talk about? What did, what? I, I, I don't even know what we felt like. I don't even know how the time went by. And you kind of feel like you don't even remember if you were present or not. And presence is something that we struggle with communication a ton. I remember, I've heard it been said before.

• 7:56Jay Shetty?

  In a speech in other places that, you know, we don't have a retention problem. We have an attention problem, like we struggle with being attentive. We think it's that we can't remember something or that we forget stuff. It's actually that we were never actually there, like we weren't present enough to actually even remember it in the first place. So I was looking at some research about this as well. And before I dive into that, I think I wanted to talk about what I meant by communication for today. So we often think of communication as speaking and talking. And of course, that is part of it. But you've probably heard the saying before that we have two ears and one mouth for a reason, which would mean we should listen 66% of the time and speak 33% of the time.

• 8:39Jay Shetty?

  But either way, listening is a huge part of communication. And to be honest, listening is the foundation of communication. Listening is the heart of communication because you can never truly connect with someone if you don't listen to them. And I found some interesting research that I read by Rebecca Lake. And in it, she was talking about how research suggests that the average person hears between 20,000 to 30,000 words during the course of a 24 hour period. It's crazy to think of that. But listen to this. She also found that people spend between 70 to 80% of their day engaged in some form of communication.

• 9:23Jay Shetty?

  And 55% of their time is devoted to listening. So I wasn't that far off with my, with my 66% just based on two ears and one mouth. But I want to talk to you about the mistakes we make during communicating. Because I think that when you become more aware, and the reason why I start with the mistakes is the more aware you become of the mistakes, the better you are at making the right changes. Because we can easily spot what we do wrong. And when we spot what we do wrong, we can limit how much we do it. Whereas if we don't spot what we do wrong, then it becomes harder to actually improve from any situation that we're in. Now, this episode was inspired by a conversation I was having recently with Glennon Doyle.

• 10:08Jay Shetty?

  So Glennon's the author of Untamed and Love Warrior. And she was on the podcast on Monday and she was incredible. I absolutely loved talking to her. We've connected so wonderfully. And on top of all of that, we did a live together as well, an Instagram live. And this was inspired by a conversation me and her were having about listening and communication. And here's what I found, that these are the four mistakes we make when we're communicating and specifically when we're listening. So the first mistake we make when we're listening is that we reflect everything onto ourselves. So I'll give you an example to make it more simple. If someone goes, hey, so I've been thinking about going to Hawaii this year.

• 10:52Jay Shetty?

  And then you go, yeah, I was thinking about Hawaii, or I just went there, or my friend just went there. Or someone says, oh, you know, we've, we've been thinking about moving. And you're like, oh, yeah, yeah, I just, I just went and saw this really nice house. Or, you know, I'm really struggling right now. My, my family's going through something or my parents are going through something. Oh, yeah, my parents are going through something too. Now, this is a natural reaction. And I'm not saying that the response in and of itself is negative. What I'm saying is that when we're reflecting everything onto ourselves, we're doing it maybe to try and connect or find some common ground. But actually, it stops us from listening. See, when that person is telling you that they're telling you something positive, like they're thinking about a vacation or a new home, or they're telling you about something they're struggling with,

• 11:35Jay Shetty?

  whether someone's ill in their family or a challenge they've been through, they're seeking to be understood, right? That is such a big need for all of us to feel understood. And it's true that we do feel understood when we feel we're speaking to someone who has been in our position. But we don't want it to be premature. So it's really important that when you see this approach, and often for a few people, it can actually be quite egocentric. Now, this may be not true of you, but you may remember being on a date with someone, where every time you said something, they made it about them. Or every time you had something that you were struggling with, they made it about them again. And so often it comes from wanting to connect,

• 12:18Jay Shetty?

  but often it can come from ego as well. And that egocentric approach to listening, or the trying too hard to be empathetic approach to listening, both of them actually make the speaker feel like they're not understood. And I think we've all experienced this in different times in our life, where when you're really trying to share something and someone starts talking and deflecting back their experience, you kind of feel like, oh, well, maybe I shouldn't even bother right now. Right? So if you are going to have this response, first of all, make sure it's not from ego. Second of all, if you're sharing it in an empathetic way, then make sure that you articulate that effectively. Hey, I'm listening to you.

• 13:02Jay Shetty?

  I understand what you're saying. I connect with it, I resonate with it. And I think that this situation that I went through may help us both have this conversation. So it's important to articulate that and explain that so that the other person knows they're on a journey with you. The challenge with the egocentric approach is that we're basically saying that, oh, I've been through that before, and so I know what the right answer is. And often, that's not really what the person's looking for. The person, again, is seeking to just be deeply heard and deeply understood. And the best thing you can give them at that time is time, right? Just time to hear them, just time to support them and serve them. So the big takeaway on this one is

• 13:47Jay Shetty?

  when you are going to share your response of empathy, explain why you're sharing that response and why it's relevant. So for example, if I went to Mykonos last year, we went for my wife's cousin's wedding, who's a really good friend of ours as well. And so we went to Mykonos. So if someone said to me, hey, I'm going to Mykonos for a wedding, I may say, hey, I just went there last year and it was great. And here's the things that I would recommend that you could do. Right? And that would be a normal conversation to have. But if someone's saying, hey, I've got a father or a mother who's struggling with this. I've got this challenge. And let's say you've never been through that. One of the biggest mistakes you can make is, oh, I know what that feels. Or I I know how that feels, or you know, I've been through something different with my

• 14:29Jay Shetty?

  third cousin or my uncle, and then it feels different. And so sometimes just hearing out and not having a response, especially if it's a challenging situation, can be really, really helpful. And be mindful of the egocentric response. Maybe you don't do it, but when you sense it in someone, it's a sign that the person is constantly trying to bring the conversation back to what's happening in their life and what's happening to them. And notice it when you do do that, if you do that, because again, it just disengages you, it pushes the other person away, rather than bringing you closer together.

• 15:07Jay Shetty?

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• 16:45Jay Shetty?

  This episode is brought to you by State Farm. We talk a lot about intentional decision making, and that extends to the practical stuff too, like making sure your coverage actually works for your life. State Farm is there to meet you where you are, and they know how sweet it is to feel good about your decisions. Talk to a State Farm agent today to learn how you can choose to bundle and save with a personal price plan. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. Prices are based on rating plans that vary by state. Coverage options are selected by the customer. Availability, amount of discounts and savings, and eligibility vary by state. The second mistake that we make in listening and communication is a beautiful statement by Covey.

• 17:26Jay Shetty?

  And what he said is that we do not listen to understand, we listen to reply. "We do not listen to understand, we listen to reply," is what Covey said. And I think this is one of the biggest mistakes in listening. How many times when you're listening, have you only got into your mind what you're going to say next? And you're spending all your time and energy trying to figure out what you're going to say next that you're not really understanding or really listening to what the other person has to say? Now, this is something I have to really monitor closely when I'm recording a podcast with someone. So if I'm interviewing someone for a podcast, it becomes really, really challenging because I can start thinking about the next question.

• 18:11Jay Shetty?

  I can start thinking about the next topic that we need to speak about. I can start thinking about another question that I planned. And I've realized that actually the best conversations are where we're in the moment because you ask the most natural question. You ask the question that has the best connection. You ask the question that you really believe the audience and the community wants to hear and that I want to hear. Whereas if you're just thinking down your list of questions, it ruins it. And this applies to dates. It applies to FaceTime calls. It applies to colleagues' calls and everything. Like when we're on a work call and you're just trying to say the next smartest thing, it's not the next smartest thing because it doesn't feel contextually relevant. Like you can't, you can always prepare for a good conversation. Of course, you must prepare for meetings and, and everything.

• 18:56Jay Shetty?

  But my point is that a pre rehearsed answer, a pre rehearsed thought or question, or a, just a reactive statement that isn't really listening. Stops you from having the moment. And, and what we do is we're so scared of having a moment of silence.

• 19:16Jay Shetty?

  We're so scared of that silence, right? In, in a conversation, you're always trying to fill the gaps. You don't want that awkward silence. We don't want that moment where we're like, oh, I don't know what to say. Are they expecting me to say something? We're scared of that. But actually, because we're scared of that, we're constantly just thinking of the next thing to say. And then we're not listening again properly to the other person. So the change we can make to that is that we can listen to really understand. And a good technique that's commonly used in psychology is explaining to the other person first what we understood. And that also gives you time to think about the right answer. So after someone finishes speaking, actually saying, hey, well, I just want to quickly summarize what I think I heard from you just to make sure. Now, there's a lot of wins in saying that statement.

• 20:02Jay Shetty?

  Number one, the win is you're showing that you're actually listening. People are going to take you seriously. The second thing is when you articulate it, you give that person an opportunity to make sure that they're articulating themselves effectively. So if you think you work with someone or speak to someone that isn't very clear, by you saying this, you're actually making them realize what they sound like. And now they can be more focused on how they speak and share what they're saying. So you're, you're winning already on a couple of fronts here. And then another win with that statement is that you actually get to clarify what you're both trying to do in that relationship and connect. And you really make the other person feel understood. So remember that. Don't listen to reply, listen to understand, as Covey said.

• 20:45Jay Shetty?

  And that will keep you in such a strong position in any communication you do, work or personal. And it's really, really important to keep that as a top, top priority. Now, the third mistake we make. The third mistake we make is that we all try and be Google. And what I mean by Google is when Google autofills your search. So we try to finish people's sentences. And how annoying is it when someone does it and they get it wrong, right? When you're with a friend and you're both laughing and you both remember a movie and you say at the same time, or you remember a song and you say at the same time, or whatever it is. Like, those are all great moments where you're like, oh, there's so much synergy and there's so much connection.

• 21:27Jay Shetty?

  But the worst thing is, is when you're talking to someone and they keep trying to complete your sentences, or even guess the word you're looking for, and they're getting it wrong because they're not really listening. And so we're not like Google autofill or auto-search or predictive search or whatever it's called. And when you're trying to predict what someone's gonna say, again, you're putting them into a box. You're putting them into line with what everyone else thinks and says. Now, I remember this moment. I spoke at Queen Mary's London University quite a few years back now, before I started making videos, probably like 2014 or something like that. And when I was speaking there, I remember I did a Q and A session at the end.

• 22:11Jay Shetty?

  And after the Q and A finished, this guy came up to me, one of the students who is listening, and he said to me, he said, "How do you answer every..." He goes, "You've probably heard every single one of those questions 100 times." He was like, "You probably speak a lot. You've probably heard them 100 times." He said, "How do you listen to each question as if you were hearing it for the first time and answer it in that way so that it's genuine?" Now, the amazing thing is that since he asked me that question, that has been my meditation every time I answer a question. So what I remind myself is this. I may have answered that question a thousand times. Like, when people ask me, "Jay, how do I find my passion?"

• 22:53Jay Shetty?

  "Jay, how do I know when I'm ready to start a relationship?" "How do I know when I'm dating a person who's good for me?" Like, these are all common questions I get asked. And it may feel, every time you answer them, and you may feel this in your relationship with your partners or your colleagues or your boss. And it's easy to think, well, I've answered that question a thousand times. Why don't you just do this? But what I realize is that even if I've answered that question a thousand times, for that person, it's the first time they've asked it. So it is a new experience. It is a fresh experience. It's not a recycled answer that's going to work. It's not just a recycled thought.

• 23:34Jay Shetty?

  And when I give it that much intention and I realize I have to listen with fresh ears and I have to understand with fresh eyes every single person, instead of finishing the sentence and predicting what you think the other person's issue is. It's so easy to reflect the struggled conversation you had with a friend onto your colleague at work who you think is struggling with the same thing. But actually, it's a bit more unique. It can be in the same area of their life. It can be in the same area of their experience, but for them, it's different. And finishing sentences or predicting sentences means your mind is running ahead whilst that person is trying to find clarity.

• 24:16Jay Shetty?

  And if you're running ahead, what ends up happening is that person ends up feeling like you're not listening, ends up feeling like you're disengaged, and ultimately ends up feeling like you don't understand them. Now, just think about it for a moment. How many of these things that I'm talking about in today's episode are we doing more of because we live in such close quarters with people? Right now, we're indoors, we're with people all day, and it's so easy to just not listen effectively. And you know, I haven't even talked about distraction because I think it's such a common one, but I want to mention it here because when we're finishing sentences, it can often feel like we're distracted. When you're distracted, or better, let's put it this way, when you're focused and someone's trying to get your attention, it's important to share with them and say,

• 25:01Jay Shetty?

  hey, I really value you, I really want to talk about this, but give me five minutes to finish this off. It's so important to communicate that rather than snapping back or trying to be the big person and the great person trying to help and then getting frustrated in the process. And trust me, I've done these so many times. I've done that so many times. Rather than my amazing wife will ask me something, I'm preoccupied, I then stop trying to pretend like I'm doing her some sort of favor, and then I'm upset, rather than just being like, hey, I'll literally just give me 10 minutes to finish this off and I'll be with you. It's so important, right? So important. So finishing sentences. Predicting what people are going to say, getting distracted.

• 25:39Jay Shetty?

  The way it can be solved is the finishing sentences is recognize that each person who shares something is sharing something unique. And every time you get distracted or you're focused on something and someone wants your attention, listen to them, but explain to them. It's so important to explain. And if they're upset by that explanation, then you've done your best. And I think that's the point here, that when you're listening, it's about doing your best. Even if you reiterate to someone, here's what I think you said, and they're like, no. They're like, no, you got it wrong? That's a great learning point. And actually, that gives them an opportunity to explain it better, too. So don't let those things discourage you.

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• 27:54Jay Shetty?

  The fourth and final mistake that we make in communication and listening is while we're listening, we're judging and forming opinions quickly. The challenge with this is, is that how many times have you had it where someone's sharing something, you make an assumption or a judgment, and then afterwards you realize you were wrong? And then it's painful because you're like, oh, how could I be so stupid or how could I be so silly to just judge that and jump to that conclusion? And so we do that. When we listen to people, we just jump to conclusions. And it's really important, of course, to avoid doing that because it ends up actually creating more divide again.

• 28:39Jay Shetty?

  When you judge someone or you build an opinion of someone quickly, I mean, no one feels good about that. No one appreciates that experience, right? I don't know anyone who does that. So it's so important, so important that you don't just judge and you don't just create that assumption on someone, you let them speak fully. And this is what it means to listen fully, right? Really important to listen fully as opposed to what we do is we listen short and make a long opinion rather than listening for a long period of time before we form that. So the answer is to listen deeply, to listen completely and deeply and recognize that

• 29:21Jay Shetty?

  your assumptions or opinions or judgments, you're entitled to them, but while listening, you are just distracting yourself from what that person's trying to share. So it's so important that we give our rapt attention to listen to someone's full story before we give them our perspective. And this full story is. Is so important because you know, when someone's sharing a story, there's just so much they have to explain. And I think I've done that in my life many times where you, you know, it's like the tip of the iceberg analogy of you hit the tip of the iceberg of what someone's going through and you're like, oh, I know what that is. I judge it. I have an opinion on it. And then you realize there's this massive foundation of the iceberg below,

• 30:04Jay Shetty?

  where everything's actually happening and you completely miss that. So these are the four mistakes we make while listening. We reflect everything onto ourselves. Remember, it can be extreme empathy, like over empathy, trying to understand, or it's egocentric to do it. The second is Kobe's statement, "We do not listen to understand, we listen to reply." The third mistake we make is we finish sentences. We try and be like Google and predict. The fourth mistake we make is we judge informs opinions quickly before listening completely and deeply. And the four solutions, the first one is if you are going to reflect onto yourselves, explain empathetically why that is useful to the other person. Second, instead of listening to reply, listen to understand

• 30:47Jay Shetty?

  and explain what you have understood before giving your answer. Number three, instead of finishing someone's sentences and predicting what you think they're going to say, listen deeply and clearly. And number four, listen completely. Instead of judging an opinions quickly, give that person time to express how they truly, truly feel. Thank you so much for listening to this week's episode. What I'd love for you to do is pick out the elements that stand out to you. Tag me at Jay Shetty on Instagram, at Jay Shetty I W on Twitter. Tag me on these platforms, whichever ones you use, and share what you're learning from these episodes. It helps you, it helps me, it helps so many people. And I'm so grateful to be with you here again.

• 31:30Jay Shetty?

  Thank you so much for being a dedicated listener to On Purpose. You're making this podcast incredible and I'm so grateful to have you a part of the community. Thank you, everyone. Have an amazing week.

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• 32:20Speaker 01

  Mr. President, my company told me of the explosion on our rig.

• 32:23Speaker 02

  On October 2nd.

• 32:24Speaker 01

  Causing massive water displacement and triggering a tsunami. They all heap the blame on me.

• 32:29Speaker 02

  Tom Cruise is. Digger got us into this mess, and Digger's gonna dig us up. From the director of Birdman and The Revenant.

• 32:36Speaker 03

  What would happen if I stopped going? You stall, you freeze to death, that's what.

• 32:40Speaker 02

  With great power comes great deniability.

• 32:44Speaker 03

  I'm not the first then.

• 32:45Speaker 02

  Digger. See the trailer online. Only in theaters October 2nd. Rated R. Under 17. Not a middle without parent.