The Mental Frame & Specific Daily Actions to Succeed | Andy Stumpf

Andy Stumpf is a retired Navy SEAL, world-record-holding wingsuit BASE jumper, martial artist, and author. We discuss the mental framework and moment-to-moment decision-making process that can allow anyone to build discipline and resilience and better navigate both everyday life and life's most challenging moments. Andy explains several simple-yet-powerful tools gleaned from his time in — and after — his SEAL career that can help you determine where to focus your actions and how to clear your mind of things you can't control or that hold you back mentally. Andy also shares and reflects on lessons learned from some of the deeply personal challenges he faced outside of combat and freefall. Finally, we explore the all-too-frequent tragedy of people — including high performers — taking their own lives, and consider what might be done to prevent more such losses. Thank you to our sponsors AG1: https://drinkag1.com/huberman Our Place: https://fromourplace.com/huberman Wealthfront*: https://wealthfront.com/huberman Function: https://functionhealth.com/huberman Joovv: https://joovv.com/huberman Timestamps (00:00:00) Andy Stumpf (00:03:09) Protocols Book (00:04:06) Nagging Thoughts, Tool: Determine Influence vs Concern (00:10:14) Social Media, Screen Time Discipline (00:17:01) Sponsors: Our Place & Wealthfront (00:20:11) Social Media Addiction, Young Adults, Rebellion, Alcohol (00:27:38) Alcohol & Social Experiences; Cannabis; Ice Bath (00:36:07) Skydiving, Wingsuit Flying (00:41:47) Sponsor: AG1 (00:43:06) Skydiving, BASE Jumping, Wingsuit Flying; Navy (00:55:25) Danger & Fear, Wingsuit Flying Risk, Death (01:03:04) Divorce, Imperfection; Parenting Kids in Divorce (01:12:16) Sponsor: Function (01:13:55) Parents' Divorce (01:19:38) Long-Term Flow State, Focus, Adrenaline; Time Perception (01:30:58) Toilet Paper, Shortcuts, Tool: Do the Slightly Harder Choice (01:37:11) Micro-Discipline, Doing the Harder Thing, Tenacity & Super-Agers (01:48:00) Sponsor: Joovv (01:49:12) Physical & Mental Pain, Discussing Pain; Dogs (02:00:45) Self-Talk, Isolation, Alcohol (02:11:52) Top Performers, Suicide; Ibogaine; Military, Trauma (02:21:36) Trauma & Healing, Exploring Other Possibilities, Control (02:28:57) Disciplined Acts, Choosing the Slightly Harder Option (02:35:20) Current Projects, Project Choice (02:41:48) Price of Success, Happiness, Money (02:53:09) Zero-Cost Support, YouTube, Spotify & Apple Follow, Reviews & Feedback, Sponsors, Social Media, Neural Network Newsletter *This experience may not be representative of other Wealthfront clients, and there is no guarantee of future performance or success. Experiences will vary. Andrew Huberman receives cash compensation from Wealthfront Brokerage for paid testimonials in his podcast, creating a conflict of interest. The Cash Account, which is not a deposit account, is offered by Wealthfront Brokerage LLC, member FINRA/SIPC. Wealthfront Brokerage is not a bank. The base APY is 3.30% on cash deposits as of January 30, 2026, is representative, subject to change, and requires no minimum. If eligible for the overall boosted rate of 4.05% offered in connection with this promo, your boosted rate is also subject to change if the base rate decreases during the 3 month promo period. Additional terms and conditions apply, which can be found on Wealthfront.com/Huberman. Funds in the Cash Account are swept to program banks, where it earns the variable APY. Same-day withdrawal or instant payment transfers may be limited by destination institutions, daily transaction caps, and by participating entities such as Wells Fargo, the RTP® Network, and FedNow® Service. New Cash Account deposits are subject to a 2-4 day holding period before becoming available for transfer. Investment advisory services are provided by Wealthfront Advisers LLC, an SEC-registered investment adviser. Securities investments: not bank deposits, bank-guaranteed or FDIC-insured, and may lose value. Disclaimer & Disclosures Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Speaker 00

  Pick the choice as often as possible that is slightly more difficult. To me, it's the small stuff that nobody sees that makes the biggest difference in the world. Everybody knows the harder choice versus the easier choice. Everybody, to include myself, will look externally and say, what do I need to do? I know what I need to do, and so do they. They need to do the thing, then even if it's microscopic, that they want to do less more often than they do the thing that they want to do more. That, over time, is the juice.

• 0:34Andrew D. Huberman?

  Welcome to the Huberman Lab Podcast, where we discuss science and science-based tools for everyday life. I'm Andrew Huberman, and I'm a professor of neurobiology and ophthalmology at Stanford School of Medicine. My guest today is Andy Stumpf, a retired Navy SEAL and subsequently a member of the Red Bull High Performance Team, where he was a wingsuiter, where they literally get into what some people call squirrel suits and fly. He set two world records, wingsuiting, but today's discussion is not really prompted by his career in the military, nor his wingsuiting, although it does impact the discussion. Today's discussion was prompted by my reading of Andy's recent book called Drown Proof. Now, there are a lot of books out there by former Navy SEALs, but upon reading it, I

• 1:17Andrew D. Huberman?

  realized that this was a special book, and that Andy's experience and the lessons he shares, and most importantly, the tools he shares, are both unique and indeed important for everyone to hear. For instance, he describes a tool in there that I now use every single week, which has allowed me and many other people, and I'm certain you, to separate out issues of concern versus issues of impact, meaning to allow you to actually be able to impact, perhaps not control, but certainly have an impact on certain things while ignoring the issues in life that distract you, that pull you into drama, and that can numb you out, and that essentially waste your life. Today, you'll learn what that exercise is and how to implement it in your life. You'll also learn a lot of other simple tools about how to take the slightly harder

• 2:01Andrew D. Huberman?

  road in certain moments versus the easier road. You'll also learn from Andy about the most difficult things that he encountered in life and how he navigated. And no, those weren't in the military nor wingsuiting. It actually comes from his personal life, which he shares very candidly. And finally, we have a very serious and in many ways somewhat emotional discussion about suicide and mental health more generally. I do hope that that discussion will benefit all of you. I'm certainly, we are certainly, I should say, very open to your input. That discussion, of course, raises more questions than it provides answers. But I think we can all agree that this is an extremely important and timely topic. The frequency of suicide is increasing significantly in all communities.

• 2:44Andrew D. Huberman?

  So for reasons related to the range and the nature of the specific topics that we discussed today, you're in for a very special episode. Thank you, Andy Stumpf. Before we begin, I'd like to emphasize that this podcast is separate from my teaching and research roles at Stanford. It is, however, part of my desire and effort to bring zero cost to consumer information about science and science related tools to the general public. In keeping with that theme, today's episode does include sponsors. All right, my book is finally ready for release. Protocols: An Operating Manual for the Human Body is coming out in three months. It's my first book, and I've been working on it for many years now. And it's really a reflection of decades of research and experience that came even prior to starting the book. My goal for this book is that it serves as an easy to use manual

• 3:29Andrew D. Huberman?

  for dealing with any number of different pain points or performance goals that you might have in terms of mental health, physical health, and performance. It covers the science and most effective protocols for sleep, nutrition, exercise, focused learning and neuroplasticity, stress management, and much more. I'm super excited to share it with all of you. The launch date is September 15th. You can learn more about it or preorder by going to protocolsbook.com. It's also available on amazon.com. And I'm super excited that Protocols is finally ready for release. And as always, thank you for your interest in science. And now for my discussion with Andy Stumpf. Andy Stumpf, welcome. Thank you for having me. I read your book, Drown Proof, recently.

• 4:11Speaker 00

  Which makes me nervous, by the way. I told you that before we started.

• 4:14Andrew D. Huberman?

  I've read a lot of books, including a lot of the quote-unquote SEAL books. It's awesome. I'll mention a few of the reasons why it's awesome, but I'll let people read it for themselves. But just to really get right to it, one of the practices that you describe in the book is something that I decided to do right away, and I've been doing every week since I listened to it. Now granted, I just listened to the book a few weeks ago, so that means twice. But I've found it to be tremendously useful, not just during the exercise, but in the days that follow. And it's really remapped a lot of what I would call my unhealthy tendencies and given me much more sense of agency, and my days are just going so much better. In fact, I was on time today for the first time in my life.

• 4:58Speaker 00

  Influence versus concern?

• 4:59Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yes. So could you describe this simple exercise? Because I'll tell you, having done it, it is immensely powerful. I only wish I had learned about it in junior high school.

• 5:10Speaker 00

  Story of my life. Yeah. So first off, not my creation. This is something I don't remember, and I think I said this multiple times in the book, because I want to be very clear that of basically taking ownership over nothing in that book, because they're not my unique ideas. They were things that were taught to me that I'm trying to pass forward. So I don't remember exactly where I first saw this. But the way it was first positioned to me was your circle or sphere of influence, which is very small, and your sphere of concern, which for most people, to include myself, is very large. So if it was the size of this table, that would be your concern. The influence would be the size of a pin drop on the table.

• 5:53Speaker 00

  And the exercise is actually really simple. Take it, standard piece of paper, draw a line down the middle. Concern on one side, influence on the other. And you just take the time to write down the things that are occupying your waking hours. I don't know if you're anything like me. I try not to set an alarm unless I have something really pressing that day. But if I do wake up and my brain does a revolution, I have to get out of bed because otherwise I'm staring at the ceiling in the bedroom. And if I have really sticky things in the morning, I'll usually do this about once a month or once every six months now. But almost every time that thought will be on the left hand side of the column. It's just a concern. Why is it preventing me from going back to sleep? Why can't I let go of it? And it's social media, the world that we all live in. It's things you can't control.

• 6:38Speaker 00

  It's just all the stuff that you spend your energy and effort focusing on. And then you go to the other side of that paper and I'm still yet to find more than one thing that you can write down. And that's the direct influence that you have. And all you really can write on that is yourself. Now, you can, you can tranch that out and say your thought process, the way you speak to yourself, the way you plan your day, the way you manage your time. But all that goes back into things you can actually directly control, which leads you to the realization or leads me to the realization that I have no control over what happens to me in my life, but I have absolute and complete and total control over how I respond to it. And I think that speaks to the agency piece. And it helps me, especially when I have those sticky thoughts.

• 7:23Speaker 00

  It helps me at least take a step back. I'm not going to say I'm perfect and I can put down a lot of the things that I'm concerned with. But it will identify for me a healthy or an unhealthy attachment to those things. And it does help me cross back over to, okay, I understand that this is scary or concerning. But being scared or concerned about it doesn't impact outcome. Everything on the right hand side of the paper does. So that's what it does for me. Man, you want to talk about developing some more efficiencies? It's a great tool. It's startling how much is going to be on the left and how little is going to be on the right.

• 7:55Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah, it's been a game changer for me because, and maybe I misinterpreted the exercise a little bit because on the right hand side of the, the page, I've been listing out the things that I can control and the things that I can do with my time.

• 8:10Speaker 00

  That still goes back to you're controlling the management of your time. That's totally fine. And with all these tools, I don't think there is a wrong answer. If it has the impact that you're looking for. Again, you could titrate all that back up to you controlling yourself and what you do with your time. I think it's perfect.

• 8:24Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah, again, just an awesome exercise. I really encourage everyone to do it. For me, once a week has been very helpful. And it just pops to mind anytime I'm thinking like, I saw something in the news yesterday. And you start going down these rabbit holes, you're like, wait, what am I doing?

• 8:39Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 8:39Andrew D. Huberman?

  They're like, what am I doing? And, and we can blame the algorithms, we can blame the world, but ultimately,

• 8:44Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 8:44Andrew D. Huberman?

  You know, it's, you know, once you realize that you're being manipulated, I think the obligation is to not follow that, that path.

• 8:51Speaker 00

  Algorithm is real. I don't know what it means. I've listened to people argue about it ad nauseam, but I have the choice as to whether or not I interface with the algorithm. And that's where the power, that's what I think the algorithm is trying to do is figure out a way to take that power away from you and put it back into their hands, but it's optional.

• 9:07Andrew D. Huberman?

  You learned this some years ago?

• 9:09Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 9:10Andrew D. Huberman?

  In the teams?

• 9:10Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 9:11Andrew D. Huberman?

  But you still do it now about once a month?

• 9:13Speaker 00

  Mm hmm.

• 9:14Andrew D. Huberman?

  Do you carry it around with you?

• 9:15Speaker 00

  If you're anything like me, I spend a lot of time on airplanes. It's a really good time to occupy yourself with something that is, for me at least, productive as opposed to just tuning out and watching YouTube videos of sovereign citizens get arrested, which is one of my favorite pastimes. I highly recommend people get into it.

• 9:29Andrew D. Huberman?

  These are the people that, that say, you can't arrest me, I'm a sovereign citizen.

• 9:33Speaker 00

  Right to travel.

• 9:34Andrew D. Huberman?

  Right to travel.

• 9:35Speaker 00

  They have the right, which they do have the right to travel, but you don't have the right to drive without a driver's license in all 50 states.

• 9:40Andrew D. Huberman?

  Are they out there testing the law? Or are they hoping that they'll get, you know, flagged and, and there'll be a video so they can promote the sovereign citizen thing? Or they, are they just really into being sovereign citizens and living their lives?

• 9:53Speaker 00

  I think some of them fall into the first category. And I think some of them actually just legitimately believe.

• 9:58Andrew D. Huberman?

  Okay.

• 9:59Speaker 00

  And they, uh, there's amazing things on the internet. You shouldn't believe all of them.

• 10:04Andrew D. Huberman?

  Right.

• 10:06Andrew D. Huberman?

  Maybe even most of them.

• 10:07Speaker 00

  That's a fair point, actually. The vast majority of things you should take, I think, with a large dose of scrutiny on the internet.

• 10:14Andrew D. Huberman?

  We're about the same age, so late 40s for you, 50 for me. I was thinking about this in light of this concern versus influence exercise, which is, you know, that they created these like 10 and 20 and 30 year high school reunion things. I think for the reason that you have the choice to go back and learn about what people are doing and. Who's still married, who's still alive, who's thriving, or whatever. Whatever the reason is, we have these things called reunions. But with social media, there's this opportunity to be constantly aware of everybody you grew up with, them of you, people you knew five years ago in a job that you no longer think about. So I feel like that left column now has grown tremendously, regardless of somebody's age.

• 10:57Andrew D. Huberman?

  The opportunity to be aware of so many more things, not just distant in other countries and other, other issues entirely, but like our past lives are very much like anchored to us now, unless we really literally draw that line and sever from all that stuff. Cause like, as much as I wish the best for all my classmates and all these people in graduate school and like, it really, a lot of it should not occupy one's mind. Do you ever wonder whether social media itself is making it harder to do this exercise?

• 11:27Speaker 00

  I think it could be. Do you know who Chad Wright is?

• 11:30Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yes, I know of him and we corresponded a little bit.

• 11:33Speaker 00

  He is hilarious.

• 11:35Andrew D. Huberman?

  You want it, we should probably describe it.

• 11:37Speaker 00

  He does the same type of stuff that Goggins does. He's an endurance athlete.

• 11:41Andrew D. Huberman?

  Long red beard.

• 11:42Speaker 00

  I call him the Forrest Gump of the SEAL teams, to his face, so I'm comfortable saying it. He's amazing. I've had him on the show a couple of times, knew him when we were in the teams together. And he came on the show, on my show in November. And I don't know how we started talking about it, but it was this conversation around screen time. It's like, all right, bud, let's pull the phones out, let's see what we got. It's not awesome. I think it was four and a half hours. So we decided that in January of this year, we're going to try to drive our screen time per day to under an hour for total phone usage. I think phone calls, we were able to strip out of that. I think the closest he got was about 90 minutes. And then the last week of January for me, I got mine down to 30 minutes. Now, for clarity, I was still doing a lot of the stuff that I was doing on my phone,

• 12:25Speaker 00

  but I forced it over to my laptop, which was a really interesting experience because it's way less sticky on that platform. So Instagram on your laptop sucks. It's not intuitive, the things that you would normally just do with your thumb, they don't exist. So you end up closing your laptop up. So I'd get on there, post what I wanted to, and then just leave. My mental health was better in January than it had been in a long time. So I 100% think that social media is not only designed to suck up as much as that left-hand portion of your list as possible, but again, it's optional. I mean, you create content, you have a massive platform.

• 13:06Speaker 00

  I create content, we can easily tell ourselves we have to exist on these platforms, which to a degree we do. The question I ask myself is, is the platform working for me or am I working for it? And that's the healthy relationship. And I think actually that goes right back to that exercise. Am I targeting what I do with my time and being efficient with it and then moving on? Or am I just getting stuck into this thumb scroll of death? Which is right before bed. I've heard you say it's the best time to have electronic device light.

• 13:31Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah, real bright in a dark room.

• 13:34Speaker 00

  Right before bed, right?

• 13:35Andrew D. Huberman?

  If you really want to maximize, make sure you do it first thing in the morning too, and don't get outside and look at the sun.

• 13:41Speaker 00

  Yeah, but it's so sticky. I'm telling you, when I hopped over to my laptop, at first I couldn't even figure out how to post a picture and it's so clunky and so not intuitive that you don't want to play with it.

• 13:53Andrew D. Huberman?

  Are you still there now?

• 13:55Speaker 00

  Oh no, I went right back to using my thumb.

• 13:57Andrew D. Huberman?

  What's Chad doing now with his social media? Is he still?

• 14:00Speaker 00

  He's probably doubled it. He said the same thing too, by the way. Man, this is amazing. We should do this more often and just right back to being on your thumb again by probably March.

• 14:09Andrew D. Huberman?

  So what's mind boggling about this is, and you'll tell me, no, we're just ordinary people who were trained to do extraordinary things, but you know, seal selection, you know, pairs down, you know, for every hundred guys, you know, maybe 15 get through, maybe 10, you know, consistently, right? Discipline is certainly a piece of that. Resilience, mental toughness, you know, whatever language you want to throw at it. You have that, Chad has that, you guys were weaned in that, you were forged in that. Then you do high-risk, high-consequence work, right? And on minimal sleep, et cetera, et cetera. And here are two guys challenging each other to spend less time on social media. Accomplish it by virtue of competition. Okay, cool. And then you say revert. What does that say? Not about seals. What does that say about the platforms?

• 14:54Andrew D. Huberman?

  Because I mean, think about the rest of the world.

• 14:55Speaker 00

  It says everything you need to know about the platform. The fact that you can, like you just said, you can recognize all of those things. You can both text each other back and forth and your limited phone usage for the day. Man, this is awesome. And 60 days later, you're back to the same behavior that led you to the November, December conversation. That's all you need to know about the platforms.

• 15:15Andrew D. Huberman?

  Okay, I, I have to drill into this. This is not where I thought we would, we would go first, but, but it gets right to the heart of discipline and self-control versus influence and time and, and time is everything. When you are on a social media platform and you're scrolling away, are you aware of the time that's drifting away from you?

• 15:30Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 15:31Andrew D. Huberman?

  Are you thinking, why am I doing this, but I feel compelled to do it?

• 15:35Speaker 00

  Almost always.

• 15:36Andrew D. Huberman?

  Oblivious? Is it like being drunk where you don't, you, you're not thinking about the, the, the fact that you shouldn't be doing it until you sober up?

• 15:42Speaker 00

  I'm aware. I am aware that it's not healthy and I will actually sometimes, I don't know if you're like this. I talk to myself out loud. Somebody from the outside would probably think I'm a psychopath. But I will, I will say to myself, why, why are you doing this? This doesn't feel good. And just.

• 15:58Andrew D. Huberman?

  For hours.

• 15:59Speaker 00

  Not for hours.

• 15:59Andrew D. Huberman?

  An hour, an hour, 45 minutes.

• 16:01Speaker 00

  I can't go that far. I, I would, I would feel as if I needed to take a shower if I went that far. But if I have 15 minutes, man, it's, it's enticing. And I don't know what it is about it. And I don't feel joyful after doing it. I try not to compare myself to other people. Good luck being on the internet and doing that. I try not to get caught in the, uh, the negativity aspect of it because I can, I recognize the negativity bias in myself where you'll get 99, like this is amazing. And one guy's like, you kind of suck. And you're just like, you mother. That's the only comment you pay attention to.

• 16:35Andrew D. Huberman?

  The brain is, is, uh, wired for, to identify those outliers.

• 16:39Speaker 00

  So I refuse to be mean on social media. I won't make negative comments. What, don't get me wrong. You can insult people by not being mean. Just have to work your way around it and it takes a little bit longer. But, uh, I know it's not healthy. I know I could do. Anything other than that time and be more productive and maybe move my life just a little bit in the direction I want to, but I don't.

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• 19:57Andrew D. Huberman?

  This is a paid testimonial of Wealthfront. Client experiences will vary. Wealthfront brokerage is not a bank. The base APY is as of January 30, 2026, and subject to change. For more information, please see the episode description. I've got a theory that I'm just gonna share. Please. That I've been thinking about a lot lately, having just spent some time with, let's just say, one of the major providers of online content. It's not a social media platform. So I have this theory that unlike being drunk or doing drugs of any kind, opioids or amphetamines or something where people exit the state of intoxication and they realize like, oh my God, like that was a huge waste of my time, my life, I made these mistakes, et cetera.

• 20:42Andrew D. Huberman?

  Being on social media is different because there's this awareness that we're on there and we probably could or should be doing something else often. And I have this theory that it's the perfect addiction because...

• 20:57Andrew D. Huberman?

  It's what I would call low resolution enough that it doesn't occupy all of your mind. Like when people are really intoxicated, they're not thinking about the fact that they shouldn't be intoxicated. That's the state they're trying to achieve. This is a state that people come out of and report their data on this. They go, yeah, it didn't feel good being on there for the last forty five minutes or thirty minutes. Or I feel like I wasted a lot of time. So they're aware of that, even while they're doing it, very unusual for addictions, right? Yeah. Most addictions fall into the category of trying to erase the sense of time, lose themselves in the activity, forget the trauma. If you think it's trauma related, just forget everything else and just be in this moment. Gamblers will say this, right? It's that zone they crave so much. This is different. Doesn't feel really good. You're aware that you're not supposed to be doing it quite like that or that much.

• 21:41Andrew D. Huberman?

  So I actually think it's, it's the quote unquote ultimate addiction, because it's low resolution enough that your brain circuits can get attached to it and keep doing it while you're monitoring yourself. And yet you can run these two tracks at the same time. So you're not getting absorbed and coming out of it going, oh, my God, I didn't study for my final exam. Oh, my goodness, I didn't pick up the kids from school. It's just low resolution enough that you can still kind of tend to the kids, kind of be in a conversation, sort of be on the Zoom, sort of like, and Kind of still be driving your car. Your life doesn't totally fall apart. Exactly. And so in some ways, because it's not so extreme, I think that's actually one of the problems. The other problem is, of course, our brains can, but are not really designed to be split into these,

• 22:26Andrew D. Huberman?

  you know, two different activities for terribly long. It's not just an inability to multitask. I actually think that low resolution thing is, you can kind of do it while you're doing other things. Yeah. So I'm just, this is something that I actually want some laboratories to look at. Where does that lead, if left unchecked? Well, for you and for me, the consequences are different and probably less immediate, because we've already built our careers. There's the social detriment, you know, relationships to family and stuff that undoubtedly suffer somewhat, right? But they're doing it too, right? So there's that. I do worry, now I really sound like I'm in my fifties, like about the younger generation, because I don't know whether I would have been able to escape this tunnel.

• 23:05Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 23:06Andrew D. Huberman?

  Had these devices been around. So I think that otherwise incredible accomplishments and human beings and careers and families and everything in between art and music is literally not going to be made. I fear this much more than I fear AI, to be honest. Much, much more.

• 23:24Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 23:24Andrew D. Huberman?

  In terms of taking away jobs and taking away careers, I think that because it's, I'll tell you this, I am confident that it is way, way worse than the quote unquote opioid crisis, which was already terrible.

• 23:38Speaker 00

  I think we're gonna be okay. So I have three data points, which happen to be my children. So almost 18, almost 21, almost 23. My middle son has got it dialed. He's going to college in Bozeman. I think he's getting ready to start his junior year in mechanical engineering. He's doing an internship at a quantum computing laboratory. I don't know what that means. He tries to tell me, I'm like, he just talked to my wife. It's super cool stuff. He made a robotic hand. Of course, the first way he tested it was a middle finger, which I deeply, deeply appreciate.

• 24:08Andrew D. Huberman?

  He is your son.

• 24:09Speaker 00

  Hundred percent. He exists on social media. He downloads the app once per week, spends an hour on it, erases it. Because it's the pendulum going the other direction for him. My oldest keeps it on his phone, but uses it very sporadically. And it's almost, at least the middle one's gonna be 21, the other one's gonna be 23. My oldest now is almost at the point, and I think his peer group is almost at the point, a little bit of mocking people who spend, you know what I mean? It's almost now, it's almost, almost on the other side, like, oh, you're one of those, even though they were raised with electronic devices in their hand. My daughter, on the other hand, surgically connected to

• 24:49Speaker 00

  her hand and is constantly consuming. So I think she will get there as well, too, because when I can kind of pull her out of that digital world, or we go places that have less than optimal cell coverage intentionally, and somehow the wifi doesn't show up because dad unplugs the router, like, oh, there's no wifi at the house, that sucks. She can see the light, but my other two, as they've gotten a little bit older, they have seen it and found it on their own. And I think we're gonna be okay, because I think that generation now is really.

• 25:22Speaker 00

  Viewing these platforms with a little bit more of a wary eye. And I don't know why, but my middle son was the first one. He just was like, nope, this is what I do. I'm on there for an hour. It's a hundred percent for memes for him. And then he just deletes the thing.

• 25:35Andrew D. Huberman?

  Great. Yeah, I'm, I'm, I'm very reassured by, by what you just said.

• 25:39Speaker 00

  That's a data point of three, though. So.

• 25:41Andrew D. Huberman?

  Well, it's interesting because the data on, for instance, um, smoking in teens, like when we were growing up, a lot of people smoked. Young people smoked, you know.

• 25:49Speaker 00

  Had to be your first act of rebellion.

• 25:51Andrew D. Huberman?

  There were all these campaigns to try and get young people to quit smoking and they did not work. It's going to give you lung cancers. This is your lungs after smoke. None of that worked. What worked was the ad campaign that had these old white dudes cackling and talking about all the money they were going to make on these young kids smoking. So the rebellion of youth, if you leverage it against the big industry platforms, no one likes to be manipulated. But when kids realize and teens realize that they're being manipulated, they'll push back in a way that can be really good for them, which is a little bit of what, what we're hearing here. So that, so you know.

• 26:25Speaker 00

  As a parent, I can tell you they push back in ways super hard, maybe almost pendulum the other way. I tell you what they're also pushing back on in my, all three of their generation. Alcohol consumption.

• 26:38Speaker 00

  Damn. Don't get me wrong. They, there's a time and place for everything. We go to a yearly jujitsu retreat in Costa Rica. The drinking age is 18. One of my sons is in college. Like I said, it's an interesting watching those two. That might be the only singular time they drink in an entire year. That was the opposite of me growing up and the, the culture of the first community I went into. It is wild to see the push in the other direction. And now I talk peptides or my middle son, I told him I was coming here. He's just like, oh, oh, ask him what I need to be doing for sleep optimism. I'm like, oh my God.

• 27:17Andrew D. Huberman?

  Happy to send it to them.

• 27:18Speaker 00

  That's his generation. I was not, I think I started looking at sleep optimization about last Thursday. You know, it just wasn't the thing that we were looking at. So I actually, as much as my children, I truly believe children are just designed to sharpen their teeth on the parents' bones. I also have a lot of faith on the next wave coming through.

• 27:38Andrew D. Huberman?

  This is not a question I ever thought I would ask on this podcast as somebody who did an episode on alcohol that got some reach and got people rethinking whether or not they wanted to drink. And I should just quickly say, the major response to that was one of three different types. One was, I don't like drinking and now I can justify not drinking. There were a lot of people who felt that they had to drink and now they had justification not to. Other people who said, wow, I didn't realize that, you know, it can increase breast cancer risk. Or, you know, we have cancers in our family and that's a real thing. So, you know, class one carcinogen, et cetera. And then the third category, like, you know, I wish you hadn't told me this information. I really enjoy drinking and now my friends don't want to drink with me fair and I don't tell people what to do and I, you know, et cetera.

• 28:17Andrew D. Huberman?

  But I have to ask, do you think that your kids and their generation are possibly missing out? By virtue of, you know, not drinking at all?

• 28:29Speaker 00

  That's a fantastic question. I mean, it is a social lubricant for a degree. I was probably, and still am, antisocial in large crowds. Is there an aspect of that where it legitimately helped me not necessarily feel more comfortable, but maybe get out of my own way when I was younger? Yes. Did it lead to some bad decisions along the way? Yes. Did bad decisions and those consequences shape the human being that I would become along the way? Yes. I don't know where it, where it lands. I do think that there is a chance that yes, they are missing out on, maybe not formative life experiences, but important life experiences.

• 29:14Andrew D. Huberman?

  I think the camera phones are a big concern with drinking now because people are so worried about becoming less inhibited and maybe not even saying or doing the wrong thing, but even things as trivial as like, not everyone is an awesome dancer. They can get filmed, they can get posted, they can get teased, there's social shame. The other problem is that many, many people are awesome at certain things and those are the things that tend to be high amplitude also. And so people feel like they, you know, if they're going to be seen online, they have to be in some impressive form. So I don't really know. I do worry about the cannabis thing because I'm not anti cannabis, but I do think given a couple drinks a week versus smoking weed in terms of like the overall risk benefit, alcohol

• 29:58Andrew D. Huberman?

  seems less risky to me, but the, yeah, I think so. I mean, look, there are high performers and people who can use cannabis and they're like, not a problem. Young males in particular who have a predisposition to psychosis or bipolar disorder, some of them smoke high potency weed or even low potency weed and they never come back from the psychotic episode. I know a lot of examples of that and that's in the data now. So alcohol, yeah, you can drive off a cliff, you can run somebody over, you can say or do something really, really stupid, but assuming those things don't happen, the immediate risks and long-term consequences of like having a couple beers or a couple of drinks or maybe even a few more, try to

• 30:43Andrew D. Huberman?

  get home safe. You don't say or do anything stupid, like you're not going to make yourself psychotic.

• 30:47Speaker 00

  I'm kind of in the same boat that you are. I'm not here to tell people how to live their life. I do think that they should pay attention to the risk versus reward. You know, live your life how you want, your choices are going to have potential consequences and some of those can be pretty big. There's some things I deeply regret about my expressions of being a human being when I was drinking when I was younger. And there are some things that I feel like my life would be completely different without, that I would never want to give those experiences back. I don't know how you table that though. This is a fascinating cover.

• 31:18Andrew D. Huberman?

  You know where we're gonna go here.

• 31:19Speaker 00

  Yeah, I mean, I, in my own life, I wouldn't give up those experiences. But I also don't feel comfortable saying you have to drink to have them. I don't know what the difference looks like, though. Maybe later on, as you grow into your, I mean, I'm a more confident person now, absent alcohol, than I was a more confident person younger, absent alcohol. So maybe time will help you get to those places where you could take those actions, where you needed that social lubricant, but maybe not. I don't know, man.

• 31:49Andrew D. Huberman?

  Well, it's like, sleep is super important, and I think it's great for everyone, especially young people, to understand just how great they can feel and mentally and physically perform when they're well rested. I think it's also an important, not just rite of passage, but experience to know just how terrible you can feel after a night of no sleep and still go take a midterm exam or go for the run you were supposed to go for. Not because it's quote unquote "the best thing for you", but just because how do you explore the outer margins of your capacity unless you know how feeling really great feels and how, let's just say, not lousy, but how minimally good you can feel and still complete something while you're completely crushed? Like, I mean, after a breakup, after two or three nights of poor sleep,

• 32:33Andrew D. Huberman?

  in a very stressful time, not having eaten perfectly, like, it's good to understand what a workout or what going to class and forcing yourself to stay awake or having a hard conversation with your significant other feels like when it's like the last thing your body wants you to do. I think there's utility there. You know, it's kind of like the ice bath of mental experiences, right?

• 32:52Speaker 00

  Are you a fan of the ice bath?

• 32:53Andrew D. Huberman?

  I am, and-

• 32:55Speaker 00

  What temperature?

• 32:56Andrew D. Huberman?

  Cold.

• 32:57Speaker 00

  Thirty-four?

• 32:58Andrew D. Huberman?

  So on Rogan, I said, you know, low 50s, and he like, he was shocked and dismayed. He looked, he seemed, it was like an older brother or a guy you respect, looking at you like, "Oh, man, should we even continue this podcast?" I was like-

• 33:10Speaker 00

  I thought I knew you.

• 33:11Andrew D. Huberman?

  And I quickly went to, "Yeah, but I go into the sauna at 220 degrees Fahrenheit", you know, which I do. I'm very heat tolerant, not as cold tolerant. I like to do cold shower, cold plunge or whatever, like, you know, low 40s now.

• 33:23Speaker 00

  All right.

• 33:23Andrew D. Huberman?

  To me, there is nothing as reliable- And provided you don't like jump into an ice hole or something stupid like that or do, you know, hyperventilation breathing and then jump into cold water, which has killed people. Provided you don't do that. I don't know of anything that is both safe and reliably can give you that adrenaline spike in a way that you can start to learn to work with what it's like to be in a highly adrenalized state. I think there's just value in having your body flooded with adrenaline, somewhat against your will, but you're controlling some of it. And learning, I think it's a great space to explore. Okay, do I distract myself? Do I lean into it? Like you can, you can explore a lot of your own consciousness in these high arousal states. And I do think there's carryover.

• 34:06Andrew D. Huberman?

  And yes, there's a nice long wave of dopamine that lasts many hours. That's known. There's a nice long wave of adrenaline. But yeah, I think it's a great training tool. If you don't want to do it immediately after resistance training, because it can, it can reduce some of the, the quote unquote gains you would get because it, it visa constricts. You want blood flow. You want to perfuse the muscles in order to, you know, get, get the strength and hypertrophy benefits from the training, but provided you do it before or on off days or six hours after you resistance train, I think it's a really valuable tool.

• 34:38Speaker 00

  What protocol would you use? I like to have my cold plunge at about 80. What would you do? Like 10 in, five out a couple of times?

• 34:44Andrew D. Huberman?

  80 degrees Fahrenheit.

• 34:45Speaker 00

  It's great. I can bump it to 85 if you think that's a little too low.

• 34:50Andrew D. Huberman?

  You know, team guys have this advantage that they did all that so they can be like, I did it. I don't want to do it. Right? That's kind of like, I went through that.

• 34:56Speaker 00

  That's an advantage.

• 34:56Andrew D. Huberman?

  It's like the people who are sleep deprived in medical school. They're like, yeah, I don't do that anymore. I get it. Like you guys suffered enough. When I went down to Jaco's, he, he specifically had me do a heat cold protocol because I like to do three rounds of each. You know, heat it somewhere about, you know, 210, 215, maybe as high as 220. It was hot, but I'm pretty heat tolerant.

• 35:15Speaker 00

  For how long?

• 35:15Andrew D. Huberman?

  That'll be 20 minutes and then go into the, you don't want to start right off with that right up and then go into the cold. And so. They packed the sauna, they cranked that thing up and they kept resetting the clock. And literally he'll tell you, I was down on the floor where it's, you know, not cool, but it's still colder. Heat rises, obviously. And his daughters, they were laughing. His family and so everyone in there, young and old, male and female was just laughing at me. So he has what he calls the factory reset protocol, which is where you don't know how hot or how long you're going to be in there and you don't know how cold or how long you're going to be in there. And we'll talk about this a little bit about time, but I don't know, if you don't like the cold, you don't have to do it. But I do think most people can really benefit from it.

• 35:56Speaker 00

  I'm saying I'll develop a protocol for 80. The sauna will be at 97. Easy transition back and forth. Who knows?

• 36:07Andrew D. Huberman?

  All right. Um, taken from a guy who jumps out of or off of mountains in a squirrel suit. Let's talk about the squirrel suit.

• 36:13Speaker 00

  Sure.

• 36:14Andrew D. Huberman?

  And why in the world anyone who values their life seriously though,

• 36:17Speaker 00

  Yeah, no, I get it.

• 36:18Andrew D. Huberman?

  would do this? And is there an off-ramp? Is there a parachute? And when you learn how to do this?

• 36:24Speaker 00

  Yep.

• 36:25Andrew D. Huberman?

  How hard is it to learn? And what's the juice there?

• 36:27Speaker 00

  Okay. A lot of questions there. Okay. It's funny. A lot of people call them squirrel suits. It's just a wing suit. Squirrel is actually a manufacturer of one of the suits. Fantastic branding. They happen to be the suit that I jumped. So essentially it is

• 36:42Speaker 00

  a human body turning into a nylon wing. That's really all it is. It's nylon. It's some neoprene around the wrists. So you have a little bit of flexibility in the wrist. They're really actually advancing the leading edge technology with the fabrics. Just, I mean, it's crazy to look. I don't know the name of the program, but you're looking at all of these images from the side of wind angles and how the suits, they're looking to reduce drag. And it's more than just the rigidity of your body. So at least the suits that I jumped are modern suits. They are ram air inflated. So there is an outer layer on both sides, an upper layer, let's say for your back and an underlayer for your belly. In between, it's much like a canopy. There's ribbed fabric with portholes.

• 37:24Speaker 00

  And on the front and back of the wing, as you give it airspeed, either exiting an airplane that's already in flight. It's most skydiving airplanes are probably doing 80 to 120. Miles an hour or in the base jumping world, and this is where it can get spicy is you have no airflow for about the first four seconds.

• 37:42Andrew D. Huberman?

  Base jumping, for those that don't know is.

• 37:44Speaker 00

  Fixed up, call it a fixed object, building antenna span or earth is what the acronym stands for. You're probably not going to do it off of buildings because it's, you need time to get the suit actually flying. But it's a different experience because if you jump out of an airplane, those ram air inlets fill up, your suit is, it's pressurized, you can feel it and you can already fly your suit, you can flip over, you can actually, I've gotten above aircraft many time, you can basically translate that horizontal lift into power and go above them shortly, you're going to come back down, otherwise you'll stall the suit and it starts waffling down. But in the base jumping world, it's a zero airspeed exit. So for the first about zero to four seconds, you don't have any air filling up the ram air inlets. So if you don't go off in the right body position, or if you go head low and are scorpion,

• 38:29Speaker 00

  or head high and then you pitch through that and there is terrain below you, that's how a lot of people die. But the suit itself is, is basically that, it's, there's wings, there's a large wing between your leg, a wing underneath your arm, on both the left and right hand side, and they come in a variety of sizes. So learning it is, it's simple, not easy. First off, skydive before you throw a wingsuit on in the skydiving world. I think I had 3,000 jumps before I put a wingsuit on the first time.

• 38:57Andrew D. Huberman?

  Is it important that people do different types of skydiving? By the way, I'm not versed in skydiving. So what's the most basic type of, I assume a tandem jump, then you start doing individual jumps?

• 39:08Speaker 00

  Some people go, like I went right to, the first time I did a skydive, I had an instructor holding on to me from, for both sides until my parachute deployed. It's a very structured program that most modern drop zones will have. A lot of people will do a tandem first, which I recommend. If you're, if you've never done it and you're uncertain about whether or not you would like it, I think there's two really good options. One is a tandem, but if even that idea makes you a little bit uncertain, there's now enough wind tunnels around, commercial wind tunnels, there's down, there's oceanside wind tunnel, there's one in LA, there's one in San Diego, they're all over the place. I was just in Virginia Beach, there's one in Virginia Beach. So it simulates. The sensation of falling through the air in an environment where you don't have to wear a parachute, you don't have to ride an airplane, you literally hop in there, they can hold on to you, and it feels like skydiving.

• 39:54Speaker 00

  Sounds like fun. It's leveled up what people can do in the air because it's this contained environment where you can see if you're moving a millimeter. The number of jumps I have had where you get out, you jump out into the air where your only reference is another person that's moving around and you get, you were sliding all over the place, fuck you, you were sliding all over the place, neither of you know because your reference is the earth just flying around and then you get into the wind tunnel and you're both up against the glass, so like, we both suck, so makes it a little bit more difficult. The most basic type of skydiving would be just exiting the plane in flight, falling with your belly to the, oriented towards the ground and deploying your parachute on time. Skydiving is two parachutes, main parachute and reserve, reserve is packed by an FAA rigger, and I believe it's, for one period of time, it was 90 days in between pack jobs,

• 40:37Speaker 00

  I think it's six months in between pack jobs now, but full, they open it up, the reserve, they open the parachute up, they inspect it, they make sure that the canopy is good, the lines are good, the automatic activation devices, which are computers sensing fall rate, barometric pressure with a firing criteria, which will fire your reserve for you if you do nothing, which has hundreds of documented saves, by the way, for an unconscious jumper, or whatever it may be, or somebody, as crazy as it is to say, somebody falling through the air, forgetting to look at their altimeter because they're having so much fun. It happens. So, Cypresses or Vigils or just AADs, Automatic Activation Devices, have saved hundreds of lives.

• 41:22Speaker 00

  So that reserve parachute is packed by a rigger. Most civilian jumpers will pack their own main parachute. It takes five minutes for an experienced jumper, maybe 20 minutes for somebody who is learning, and you can go do, I think the most jumps I've ever done in a day was probably 30. That was at a, at a, an event called a boogie where it's just as fast as you can go and you're just jumping, jumping, jumping. An average day for me when I lived in San Diego would be six to eight jumps.

• 41:47Andrew D. Huberman?

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• 43:10Speaker 00

  13,000 is about average, 13 AGL. So if you're learning in Colorado or another Rocky Mountain state, you might only get 12 AGL because you might be up to 16,000 to 18,000 feet. But there's flying with your belly oriented to the earth, there's people who like to do it vertically, either feet down or head down. People fly on their back. There are formation jumps where they'll get a bunch of people together. I think the world record is hundreds of people linked up in free flight. You can watch it from the ground. It's crazy to see. They'll have eight aircraft, and you just see these just people bombing out of the back. And they'll make these snowflake configurations, and people are just sitting there on the ground, watching them either naked eye or with binoculars.

• 43:53Speaker 00

  And then at break-off altitude, everybody's tracking away, and then all these canopies open up and... Then on landing, it gets a little bit wild. So it can get as much as you want. And then wing suiting is just a part of that. But you can jump a smaller wingsuit. So if the suits I ended up jumping had a lot of fabric because I wanted to have a nice glide ratio and I wanted to be able to extend the amount of time in the air. You can get suits with a smaller wing, which give you more maneuverability. And you learn in those and then get a little bit bigger, a little bit bigger and bigger, bigger. So as safely as possible, graduating your way towards those larger suits that can have more consequence. You can end up on your back in the wing suits in flat spins.

• 44:35Speaker 00

  And I've seen people, you can get out of it. You need to get out of it quickly. But we're talking fully blown red eyes when they get to the ground from centrifugal force and pretty quick, too. That's the skydiving world. Two parachutes. The base jumping world is you're now down to one parachute that is packed very similar to a reserve, but it's packed now by the jumper who is doing the base jumping. And the reason for that is you are generally very close to the ground at an altitude where a reserve isn't going to save you because it does take a couple hundred feet for a reserve to open up. And in the US, there's one place to legally do it, 24/7/365. It's the Perrine Bridge up in Twin Falls, which is where I learned. It's, you know,

• 45:19Speaker 00

  the legality aspect is if people pursue to go that, they want to go that way. Do your research because there's some cities that had some problems with it. So they made it a felony, which will change your life if you want to test gravity off of a building. I don't know if the capital F is necessarily worth it. Vegas and New York are two good examples of that.

• 45:38Speaker 00

  Most people start off at that bridge. And then an antenna is of course exactly that, radio antennas. And there are other countries in the world where that is legal to do. And a lot of times people will travel. Buildings, you can get permission depending. I know one of your guys worked with Red Bull, not for Red Bull, he clarified for us. Shockingly enough, if you write a large check, things that were once illegal can become legal for short periods of time. So they will get permission to go off of buildings. Or you can go to Dubai where for, I think it was a year, they had this huge, just it was fully just set up for legal base jumping off one of the top floors of one of those skyscrapers, which is unbelievable. And then Earth, which is obviously that. And

• 46:19Speaker 00

  Cliffs, um, my first, uh, base jump off of a, uh, actually it was from the bridge. I have, actually I have done an antenna, buildings, not many buddy building, not many buildings, but my first jump, uh, off the earth was Monte Brento in Italy, which you jump, open your canopy, land, walk across the street and there's an Italian espresso just waiting for you. Perfect. It's basically heaven. And then we stayed there for two and a half weeks and went into Lauderbrunnen in Switzerland. But I had been skydiving and flying a wingsuit. Then I had to learn how to base jump and then at some point you have to combine those two.

• 46:59Speaker 00

  So one day you have to go from never having pushed off of a cliff in a wingsuit and having time flying it in the air to kind of bridging that gap where now you have this first four seconds that you have to deal with where the suit, the suit feels really sloppy. It doesn't feel rigid and you can't really do anything until it powers up and you can pull away. So that's kind of the activities. The why, I can't answer for anybody other than myself, but the why for me actually had nothing to do with the activity itself. And it is dangerous. There are some people who try to romanticize the danger of that. And if people want to participate in things because they're dangerous and that's how they want to define themselves,

• 47:42Speaker 00

  I leave that to you. Um, just, you know, be aware of the potential consequences you might get yourself into. For me, I got into that about three years after I got out of the Navy and I didn't realize what it was I enjoyed so much, but it was the mental reset associated with that. Um, at about one minute out in a helicopter, for me, and I can only speak for me, your entire, you know, talking about time, your entire circle of Concern goes away, completely gone. And there are very few times in my life where I've ever been able to get into that headspace. But it might be the most powerful headspace I've ever been able to arrive into.

• 48:26Speaker 00

  And my ability to find my way there lasted for months afterwards. Because overseas, yeah, they ask you to do some bizarre stuff. But you also likely at some point in your career will have a family. Maybe your first house, whatever it is. And like, fuck, the washing machine just broke. And you're dealing with real life stuff. Did I write enough checks before I left? Before the digital age? Did I write enough checks before I left to make sure that the rent was already paid? Now, these are the things you're thinking about, just normal, everyday life. An argument with your spouse, your kids, the holidays you may have missed, all that stuff. Get on a helicopter and you start heading towards an objective. And all that stuff starts to go away. And in about, for me, about the one minute and in until it lands or you're stepping off.

• 49:10Speaker 00

  It becomes this focus on the next three seconds of your life is the only thing I was capable of thinking about. And that is such a beautiful place. God, you want to talk about the ability to perform and not feel like you're necessarily, you're not trying to force it. You're just, there's books been written about the flow state, for lack of a better term. Incredibly impactful. And I didn't realize how much I needed that. And I didn't realize how much that job was providing for me until it was gone. And then the static of everyday life just is overwhelming. Skydiving, I guess you could get that, or maybe I got that when I first started.

• 49:52Speaker 00

  But after a few thousand jumps, about everything that's going to go wrong, you're going to have your first cutaway. You're going to have a mouth, you know what I mean? You're going to deal with your gear, your reserve is going to open. And so that really narrowed focus, it actually starts opening back up.

• 50:09Speaker 00

  The base jumping world, I remember the first time I was with the guy who taught me, he's like, all right, you just climb over the edge of the rail here and you're looking at 486 feet. You test the wind by spitting. And if you can, if it drifts past a certain point, you're good to go. So you can track your spit to where you are going to deck if you don't pull your parachute. Now, on the first one, he's holding on to the pilot chute, so it rips it off for you, so you don't have to worry about it. But you want to talk about that, right back into that space? Holy cow. That's what base jumping was for me. I had some of the deepest conversations with my friends on the four-hour hikes that would lead to a 90-second jump. And two weeks of those 90-second jumps, I could get myself

• 50:52Speaker 00

  into such a more dialed headspace for six months and be better at business, better, you know, a more patient father, a more patient husband. That's, that to me is why. And at some point, probably due to the death of my friends, and I had found other activities that had started to provide that, it crossed the metric for me where the risk was no longer worth, worth the reward. I have been skydiving since 1999. I could take five years off and go jump out of an airplane and I'd be fine. But I can't do that in the base jumping world. The currency and competency piece is so important. And then when I moved to Montana, my access to the drop zones and the ability to maintain currency and competency in that

• 51:35Speaker 00

  wingsuit really decreased. So it got to a place where it just, it wasn't worth the risk. Skydiving's still a bunch of fun, but I found other activities that I could kind of lose myself in. Maybe not to the same, I don't think to the same degree. I, it's hard to describe, zipping up in that suit with a maximal heart rate, to the point where you're looking over at your buddies like, hey, Are you hearing my heart too? This is pretty loud. It's about, you know what I mean? Like that thrush in your ears.

• 52:05Andrew D. Huberman?

  That's informative to hear that your heart was maxed out because I wondered if, you know, if adrenaline was low, if it was high.

• 52:13Speaker 00

  Terrified.

• 52:13Andrew D. Huberman?

  You know, something had happened systematically over the years in the teams where your adrenaline was set too low. You need to crank it above a certain threshold. Sounds like you were right where any rational person would be, which was terrifying.

• 52:24Speaker 00

  Yeah, because at some point you grab your little tail wing and you make a little nice little teepee with it and you get your toes to the edge and you check all your stuff. And then you are just looking out into the abyss and you have to make yourself rock forward past a point of no return that if you change your mind, whoopsies, that doesn't work anymore. And then you need to have maximal human performance for about the next four seconds of your life if you want your life to continue. So if you're not scared in that environment, I would recommend you stop that activity immediately because you're not paying attention. It was terrifying and that's probably why I liked it so much. It was awesome. Don't get me wrong, ripping down a mountain in Switzerland, six feet off the ground,

• 53:09Speaker 00

  almost playing tag with your shadow and then turning around and like carving through trees, amazing.

• 53:14Andrew D. Huberman?

  So you're actually pretty low to the ground, just going very, very fast.

• 53:17Speaker 00

  If you want to be.

• 53:18Andrew D. Huberman?

  Over steep ground.

• 53:18Speaker 00

  Yes. If you want to be, not everybody chooses to fly that way. And you can, you can have on the exact same jump, I can think of one very specifically. It's at the far end of the valley in Switzerland. It's a four hour hike up and it's, I mean, you're getting water and you're, in your, you know, canteen or nowging out of like these glacial, just spouting out of the rocks and there's sheep and stuff and you know, it's like a postcard. You walk for four hours. You can have a really aggressive jump on that and fly for 60 seconds, or you could flatten your suit out and just glide and fly for two and a half minutes. Same jump, different choices. Not that, you know, necessarily flying farther out, you still need to pack your parachute correctly and all those things, but your likelihood of impacting a tree at 100 miles

• 53:59Speaker 00

  an hour with your face is a lot better than flying six feet off the ground around corners that hopefully you've done some test jumps on and gotten lower and lower and lower and lower instead of just flash pointing that thing and hoping for the best as you come around the corner, which people do.

• 54:14Andrew D. Huberman?

  How fast are you moving once you're above the ground?

• 54:17Speaker 00

  If you really bend those suits over, I'd say you could get them to about 120.

• 54:22Speaker 00

  Face first.

• 54:23Andrew D. Huberman?

  You're a human missile.

• 54:25Speaker 00

  It's awesome.

• 54:28Andrew D. Huberman?

  I can, you know, we can, the, those of us like myself, listening to this can only wonder, right?

• 54:34Speaker 00

  You can feel it in the suit. So again, the ram air inlets, when you're a little bit flatter, flying slow, you just, it feels like you're on an air mattress is really what flying feels like. As you bend the suit over and you're just violently diving at the ground, you can feel the suit. It's almost like it's just your power meter is just all the way up. And so if you get in trouble, you can flatten that out. And that's how, that's your safety. You can disconnect from the terrain, which is how unfortunately some people die. They're not paying attention to that sensation and they're slowly getting flatter and flatter and flatter and flatter. Then they encounter a flat terrain and they don't have enough performance in the suit to clear it and they impact. But that, when you're pitched over like that and that thing

• 55:14Speaker 00

  is just, and you, it feels like you are licking the largest nine volt battery you've ever licked in your life.

• 55:25Andrew D. Huberman?

  Would your, uh, would your parents say that this, this is a window into the young Andy Stumpf or, or is this a departure or an evolution, devolution, evolution?

• 55:37Speaker 00

  I don't know if they would have called that one. I don't think, I, I don't know if I would have called that activity. If I would have said this one was going to be interesting to me.

• 55:46Andrew D. Huberman?

  Let me ask you this.

• 55:47Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 55:47Andrew D. Huberman?

  When you were a kid, not recommending anyone do this, but when you were a kid and your, and your guy friends, uh, someone found one of the larger firecrackers available. Were you the kid that would hold it after it was lit until the last second and then throw it? Cause I knew that kid, but it wasn't me.

• 56:03Speaker 00

  Does he still have both hands?

• 56:04Andrew D. Huberman?

  Uh, yes. But the, he was a great skateboarder, by the way. He became a pro skateboarder right out of high school, uh, moved on to other things eventually. I think those things were correlated, right? I mean, he used to take big railings. Like he had a very, very good relationship with confronting fear. There was another kid in our crew who would have been around the corner, the moment the thing came out. Okay. I was neither of those kids.

• 56:23Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 56:24Andrew D. Huberman?

  Right? And then there's a distribution in the middle.

• 56:26Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 56:27Andrew D. Huberman?

  Where were you?

• 56:28Speaker 00

  My answer's not going to make sense to you because. Holding it that long sounds dangerous.

• 56:34Andrew D. Huberman?

  It is dangerous, but wingsuit.

• 56:36Speaker 00

  I know, that's what I'm saying. It's not gonna make sense. That sounds dangerous, but just for the sake of danger, which somebody could 100% say about base jumping as well. But I don't know if holding on to, say, an M80 and wondering, you know, how long you can, provides for you that mental, I mean, I'm talking about your canopy opens, you land, you're laying in a fucking meadow in Switzerland on your back. Like, at a sense of ease and peace? I don't think you're getting that from an M80.

• 57:07Andrew D. Huberman?

  No. The reason I ask is that, you know, there are a lot of questions that the scientist in me wants to know about, you know, resetting of adrenaline set points and, you know, and because people can become desensitized to, to high-risk, high-consequence type situations.

• 57:20Speaker 00

  You see that in the wingsuiting community. I would say specifically the wingsuit-based jumping community. The fatality rate is high. I would never tell anybody that it is a safe activity, but I think you can do it as safely as possible. There's still immense residual risk. So you have to ask yourself, what is it worth?

• 57:36Andrew D. Huberman?

  If we were to plot out number of wingsuit jumps and plot fatality, time of fatality relative to first jump, right? So, so that the question, like the area under the curve. So are you getting, to address what you just said, are you getting more deaths the longer people have been doing it, independent of the number of jumps, right? You can't really do that experiment. It's not a perfect experiment. The question is, are people getting more dangerous to themselves because they need, they're pushing further and further into the abyss, getting closer to the edge, taking risks? Or is the novice more dangerous because they're a novice?

• 58:16Speaker 00

  I think the Dunning Kruger effect is always the most dangerous aspect of it. I think you would probably track, you certainly see people, especially in the

• 58:27Speaker 00

  Content age, I've seen people reach out, not to me, but to forums. Hey, I just want to get into wingsuit based jumping as fast as possible. And everybody on there is like, whoa, no, you need to go. I mean, most people will recommend skydiving 200 jumps even before you put a wingsuit on, which for most people who aren't doing it professionally, that's going to take a year or two. It's a slow progression, but that person reaching out saying that doesn't have time for that. So you're definitely going to get some people early on. The guys who are around the longest, the ones that I know who are kind of the titans in the sport. It's not that I don't worry about them. I worry less. I think it's maybe more, honestly, I think it's that Dunning Kruger curve where it's going to get people. Especially when, let's say you do this amazing job, right?

• 59:11Speaker 00

  You ripping around a corner and things you learn later on like, hey, is it ascending or descending thermals right now? Where's the wind coming from? What type of day is this? Is the slope, I'm just jumped off, maybe it was a western facing slope that I jumped towards. And I felt this amazing uprush of air, which is what you want to feel on an exit point. Same thing is why airplanes take off into the wind. It helps with performance. Well, as I am cruising down this mountain, am I thinking about the fact that three quarters of it is covered in the shade? And maybe the thermals have swished along the way and you're going to start feeling this pressure of almost a hand on your back.

• 59:52Speaker 00

  You know, you do it, the first time you do that jump and you survive, the dangerous thing to say is nailed it. But did you nail it or did you get away with it? And that's what kills people. And that's that perfect Dunning Kruger ascending line.

• 1:00:09Andrew D. Huberman?

  And there's a quote that should be stamped into everyone's brain, young and old. Did you nail it or did you get away with it? Because this translates to a lot of areas of life that could spare people a lot of pain and some important insights.

• 1:00:22Speaker 00

  I got away with it more than I nailed it.

• 1:00:26Andrew D. Huberman?

  Are you just being humble?

• 1:00:27Speaker 00

  No.

• 1:00:28Andrew D. Huberman?

  Okay.

• 1:00:28Speaker 00

  No, you don't know what you don't know until you see somebody else get bit by the same thing. Or you're on a jump with somebody and only one of the three makes it out or two of the three makes it out and they all had the same idea and plan.

• 1:00:43Andrew D. Huberman?

  And you describe some of that in your book. I don't want to give that story away.

• 1:00:45Speaker 00

  Yeah, with Alex specifically, I wasn't there for Alex's jump, but I had jumped with Alex enough for years.

• 1:00:53Speaker 00

  The one thing I wish I could do, looking back with him is I was there with him for some close calls that he had. A few were bad decisions that he, I would like to think corrected for, because there is a phase in anything that you're doing that my instructor taught me how to fly helicopters. He's like, listen, once you know better, you can do better. But there's a phase where you don't know any better. And so you think what you're doing is correct until either somebody points it out, or you watch something so horrific happen, and you pay attention to an investigation afterwards, or a debrief afterwards, and you can learn from that. But with Alex, I wish I could go back and just honestly slap him around a little bit, because that's what it would take for him to pay attention. He would be

• 1:01:38Speaker 00

  appreciative of it, I think, if he understood what it would save. But I would associate his death directly also with that Dunning Kruger curve, and he had been doing it for years. That doesn't mean you're out of that. It's that middle area where you think you have everything dialed. I think he had gotten away with it more than he had nailed it, and I had to. Would you let your kids squirrel suit? Do I have the right to stop them? Yes.

• 1:02:07Speaker 00

  No.

• 1:02:10Speaker 00

  Knowing the risk, I mean, I would do everything I could to prepare them as much as possible. And by that, I mean scare the absolute dog shit out of them with the reality, and confront them with the actual reality of it. Show them how long it would actually take, what they would need to do, what they would need to sacrifice in order to be able to get at that level. But then, if they wanted to make that choice, I don't feel like I have the right to stand in between them and that desire.

• 1:02:45Andrew D. Huberman?

  Appreciate the honest answer. I'm sure they do too. I don't know if your wife appreciates that particular answer, but we'll ask her. I don't get involved in marital disputes. That's a...

• 1:02:53Speaker 00

  We don't have any. Our relationship is perfect.

• 1:02:56Andrew D. Huberman?

  Excellent, excellent answer. Wait, you've been married before? No, that was a joke.

• 1:03:01Speaker 00

  That is correct. I tell you what, I learned some stuff. I learned some stuff.

• 1:03:04Andrew D. Huberman?

  You talk very openly in the book. I mean, to the extent you don't reveal specifics, but about the challenges of that, the ending of that first marriage.

• 1:03:14Speaker 00

  Hardest thing I've ever done in my life. People think that being a SEAL is hard, and it is. But a lot of that is truncated with, hey, we're gonna go overseas for this short period of time and time away, and it can be physiologically and psychologically challenging. But, once you're in that community, I didn't encounter anything. The military never asked me to do anything that got me to a place where I was judging or asking myself what type of person I was. Or if I was a good enough person to be able to continue going forward with anybody other than just myself. Like, those questions I wasn't asking myself in the military. At the lowest points of a nearly two-year divorce process that was very contentious.

• 1:03:59Speaker 00

  And quite frankly, the reason I don't go into details is I had built a larger, or a platform, and my ex-wife doesn't have one, and that's the fairest way to be about it.

• 1:04:06Andrew D. Huberman?

  I totally respect that.

• 1:04:07Speaker 00

  If people wanna go talk with her, trust me, I know the story you're gonna get. Enjoy it. Believe what you wanna believe. I always tell people, if you hear bad stuff about me, please believe it.

• 1:04:16Andrew D. Huberman?

  That's what you tell them?

• 1:04:17Speaker 00

  Yeah. I mean, why not? I am certainly not everybody's cup of tea. There's no way to please everybody, ever.

• 1:04:26Andrew D. Huberman?

  Amen to that.

• 1:04:27Speaker 00

  So, if somebody is out there who wants to run me through the mud, cool. Just believe every word that you were told if you want to. But if you wanna get the real spit, come hang out with me for a bit, and maybe compare and contrast those two things. But if you don't wanna do that, cool. Yeah, that's on you. It took every tool that I wrote about in that book to get through that circle of influence, circle of concern, all the things that I was worried about, what can I do today? Breaking time down into the shortest chunks humanly possible, controlling how I talk to myself. It was absolutely soul-crushing. And...

• 1:05:02Speaker 00

  10 out of 10 do not recommend. Zero stars on TripAdvisor.

• 1:05:07Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah, that portion of the book stopped me, I have to say, and I there were other parts of the book that that paused me where I was like, well, I didn't expect this coming. And, you know, I take notes on what I listened to. I also read the hard copy. I should have mentioned that earlier. I like to do both. It's really helpful for me. I think maybe other people would benefit from that as well. But that segment where you said, this is the hardest thing I'd ever been through. And it was, as you put it again, soul crushing. And what I gathered was, and I certainly can say I've experienced this before in a different context, that when other people's narratives start to, the boundaries between other people's narratives and and your narratives, and then, and in your case, kids were being affected,

• 1:05:49Andrew D. Huberman?

  which is, which is huge. As a child of a divorced parents, I think it's also probably got to be somewhat different. You talk very kindly of your own parents, your story of of your relationship to your mom and her passing, which we can also get to. That also stopped me. Also got me to call my mom. So she'll thank you, right? I call my mom, you know, well, you know, time and, you know, and

• 1:06:12Speaker 00

  You never know how much you have left.

• 1:06:13Andrew D. Huberman?

  You never know how much time you have left. But what inspired you to talk about that in particular? I know you're not one of these guys and, you know, I don't want to say team guys in particular, but you're not one of these guys who wants to paint a perfect picture of himself. But talking about how a contentious divorce came close to, you know, brought you really close to your edge, maybe to your edge, but fortunately not over it. It's an interesting choice and one that I appreciate, and I know readers will appreciate. It humanized the whole thing. But what, at what point did you decide that you wanted out in the book?

• 1:06:47Speaker 00

  I mean, probably from the beginning. I think one of the biggest mistakes people would make is if they would look at a job like the one I used to have and think that the people who do it are not normal people. I was talking with Chris Williamson about this. And it's a mistake that people make. There's no Captain America shield and cape and cowl that you actually wear. The things they ask you to do are sometimes pretty nutty. But

• 1:07:15Speaker 00

  after that, you go take your gear off, clean yourself up, get some food.

• 1:07:23Speaker 00

  Get together with the guys and you just talk about normal day to day shit. If you were having an argument with your wife before you went out on an operation, you're coming back to that. If your house had burned down, which I wish I could say I didn't know somebody's house burned down, but I did. They got that notification shortly before we went out on objective. Hopefully it didn't allow that to invade their mental thought process during, but when they came back, that's what they're dealing with. Then you come back from deployment and you're presented with all of those things. It's just, it is such a mistake to think that there are people out there who have everything figured out or that are impervious to the things that are damaging to you as the person.

• 1:08:08Speaker 00

  I started doing Q and A sessions on Friday for my show because I kept getting just this volume and wave of emails. And at first I wasn't really trying to, you know, tranche them into buckets. And I thought if I started doing the Friday episodes, it would decrease, but instead it multiplied them by orders of magnitude. And I realized there really were some deep themes. You know, one of them is I just don't know how to get started on my goals. But another one is, and this is the most dangerous one, I feel like I'm alone. I feel like I'm the only person dealing with this. How, can you give me some advice? I look at your life from the outside and it seems like you just have, you know, you were able to do all these hard, physical things. What would you do if you were me?

• 1:08:52Speaker 00

  Like dude, I am you. So you have to put that in there. How can you not? I mean, at the end of the day, I don't know what I want to do with my life, but I want to try to help people. I don't think you can do that if you're trying to sell bullshit. But I do think you can help if you can talk about your own personal experiences and your own mistakes and the other things that you have suffered with, not always past tense, because my life is certainly not perfect and I go through seasons of my life now, as does everybody. Why not be honest about that? Why try to portray this? You know, follow my 12 step program for $19.99 every month and you're gonna have it all figured out. Those are some of the most unhappy people that I know, by the way, and oftentimes not nearly as successful as they are presenting themselves.

• 1:09:36Andrew D. Huberman?

  Definitely.

• 1:09:36Speaker 00

  I would rather just be like, listen, you think your life is bad? Why don't you put a seatbelt on your chair? I've got a little story for you. And then people here, they're like, what? You mean, you guys deal with that stuff too? It's like, yes, that's the whole point. You're not alone. You're not unique in this. So I think from the very beginning of deciding to write it, I didn't know necessarily that I would, that I would use that particular example. But it was the most difficult thing I've done in my life. I'm obligated to put that in there and talk about it as openly as possible while maintaining the privacy of the other person involved.

• 1:10:11Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah, I was impressed how you main maintained respect for your kids, for your ex-wife, your, your current relationship, you know, and, and at the same time acknowledged that, you know, the, the exchange was anything but cordial.

• 1:10:24Speaker 00

  It was anything but cordial. And, you know, I've talked about this before, but, and I don't know if it made it in the book, but I lost contact with my oldest son for 18 months. I was the one who initiated the end of the relationship. And he was the oldest at the time. And I don't know if it was a matter of him being in a certain phase of his own life. And you know, the deal being a, a young man is not the easiest path, nor is being a young woman by any stretch. But it's really interesting how adults forget how difficult it was in those years to just get through the day when you think that everything is, you don't even know who you are. You're trying to figure it all out. But for 18 months, I, I tried calling him. I tried texting him. I tried writing him letters to his mom's

• 1:11:09Speaker 00

  house. I would pull up next to him at a parking lot that he would go to before he went to work. And he would burn out out of the parking lot without even acknowledging that I was there. And you think SEAL training is hard? Imagine something that you don't have the vocabulary to describe how much you love and thinking every day, I don't know if I'm gonna get this back. What else can I do? And now thankfully, by staying the course, I think I have a closer relationship. I mean, and not everybody has that that outcome. But our relationship is probably closer than it has ever been. And he'll call and ask for my advice or just want to bounce stuff off of me, which I think is apparent.

• 1:11:52Speaker 00

  Like if your kids are soliciting your time to ask questions, whatever it is you're doing, stop doing that and take the time because it's pretty awesome. And it means that they care about what you say. But I thought that was gone, man. You want to talk about soul searching? There's nothing I did in the SEAL teams that made me wonder whether or not I was a good enough man to still exist, but that experience did.

• 1:12:17Andrew D. Huberman?

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• 1:13:55Andrew D. Huberman?

  Wow. Well, I will say, as the description of your final moments with your mom led me to call my mom, I wasn't being facetious, I really did, you know, the description of the divorce process and the challenges that go there that, you know, I don't want to make this about my story, resonated in certain ways. I grew up in a very high conflict divorce. What you just said now, I'm on good terms with my dad, but I, you know, I'm familiar with being the son who wants to be protective of his mom, but still loves his dad and being caught in the middle.

• 1:14:26Speaker 00

  And I would think about those two. How could you not, with all three of my kids? And I have this conversation with my wife now, who honestly is the only reason that I think I pulled out of that was the recognition and seeing from somebody else, like, hey, just so you know, like, I know you're going through it, but this person sees something in you that is worthwhile. I mean, I dedicated the book to my kids and to my wife for that reason. But we'll talk about this now, because I'm, it's like, why would they say that? Or why would they do that? And she's like, listen, that's always going to be their mom. I'm like, yep, got it. Totally nailed it. I understand now. And it recenters and like, okay, doesn't make it any issue to deal with, but I understand.

• 1:15:06Andrew D. Huberman?

  Sons and fathers have a certain dynamic, and mothers and sons have a certain dynamic. And of course, mothers and daughters and fathers, I only know my own experience. I do have a sister, so there's a parallel experiment. There's a control experiment. She wouldn't appreciate me calling her the control experiment, but.

• 1:15:22Speaker 00

  Did you realize in your parents' divorce that it was going bad before it did, before they got divorced?

• 1:15:26Andrew D. Huberman?

  Definitely. And listen, I've done a lot of work with both of my parents to, we're on great terms now. I can truly say that. My dad was on this podcast. I know you've had conversations with your dad publicly. My dad and I are quite close, you know, and I now look at it differently. I'm living in a state of gratitude these days where I basically am like, okay, they gave me life. That's huge. Like, you can't realize that when you're younger, because you're like, you know, F my life, you know, at times, but they gave me life, so there's that. They gave me so many opportunities. And then the hardship of those years, I had my own story and version of it. But recently, just because of some evolutions in my personal life, which are all good, I'm like, I'm gonna put myself in my dad's. Try and put myself in my dad's frame,

• 1:16:10Andrew D. Huberman?

  where he was, what he was trying to do in his career and in his personal life, and then my mom's frame. I confess it's a little harder to do that because my dad and I are both male. And there's always going to be that, but my mom and I were still at home and he was living elsewhere. So I've tried to really work through it in those ways. And I keep coming back to this place where I now I go, oh, my God, that must have been so hard for them. Like, not for me, like, I had, I mean, years of understanding about how hard it was for me. I go for them, I'm like, holy shit. Like, that's gotta be so tough. I would, I mean, I was really hard on my dad.

• 1:16:43Speaker 00

  How old were you when you realized your parents were just people doing the best they could?

• 1:16:47Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yesterday. No, I'm just kidding. No, I, no, I.

• 1:16:50Speaker 00

  For a long time in life, as kids, though, your parents are, what they say, gospel. And they have, they must have the answers to everything because they're older than any human beings ever been.

• 1:17:02Andrew D. Huberman?

  Oh, man.

• 1:17:02Speaker 00

  And then you realize they are out there making shit up on the fly, doing the best they can with the data set that they have in front of them. Not doing great most of the time. It's not because they're not trying to do great. They're just fucking people.

• 1:17:16Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah. Well, I can't speak for your kids and I wouldn't, but I can say that for me, I joked yesterday, but I was actually very young because I, I came to this kind of black and white conclusion, which was not the correct one, which was they don't know what they're talking about. And that led me to go elsewhere to look for answers. And I found a lot of answers to a lot of things that I wanted. I also found some wrong answers. I had great mentors throughout my life. And the day you realize that your PhD advisor doesn't have the answers, that's when you go get a postdoc advisor. And then you realize they don't have the answers and you go start your own lab. And then you realize, oh, my God, how hard their job was because now you're dealing with graduate students that are like saying things like, do you even know what you're doing? Until the paper gets accepted and then they're like, oh, my God, like, you really know what you're doing.

• 1:18:00Andrew D. Huberman?

  My first graduate student will laugh when she hears that. She's actually a professor now with, she has two kids, she's happily married, she has super successful lab. So, but, and I said, have you gone through that evolution? And she's like, absolutely. So. I will say this, and I, again, I can't speak for your kids whatsoever, but there was a real benefit to having that realization early that they don't know everything.

• 1:18:24Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:18:24Andrew D. Huberman?

  Because you're, you're forced to go look for certain answers elsewhere. There's also something really beautiful to the, the reconnect, you know, that I have with my dad and my mom and I were more constant over the years because our, as you said, the relationship can be that much closer. Would you wish it on anyone?

• 1:18:40Speaker 00

  No.

• 1:18:40Andrew D. Huberman?

  Would you wish divorce on anyone? No. But at the same time, like, you know, my life wouldn't be what it was. So that portion of the book, I have to say, surprised me. I know you're, you're very humble, so please hear this as it lands. It impressed me that you were willing to put it in there and the way you did and how you handled it. And it really got me thinking about my relationship to my dad, my own family life now, where that's going and, um, and it gave me a lot of, uh, hope and humility around like, it's hard being a person, let alone being a parent.

• 1:19:13Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:19:13Andrew D. Huberman?

  You know, and, and, and the kid, the kid, the kid piece is easy, was easy to relate to, but it really opened my perspective. So I'm grateful to you for putting that in there.

• 1:19:22Speaker 00

  Yeah, I didn't, uh, it, to me, it just seemed natural. I didn't even give it a second thought.

• 1:19:26Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah, but you're also jumping off mountainsides in squirrel suits.

• 1:19:30Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:19:30Andrew D. Huberman?

  You know, you-

• 1:19:31Speaker 00

  But I'm telling you, if you've ever tasted that nine volt the way I did, you might, you might actually be like, so what is this progression?

• 1:19:37Andrew D. Huberman?

  Let's talk about the wingsuit and the nine volt battery a little bit more because you talked about the state that you were in, not just during, but in the six months or so afterwards. So that's not going to be the long tail of adrenaline, I'm guessing. I don't think you were walking around for six months, like, amped on life completely.

• 1:19:55Speaker 00

  Oh, no, the opposite.

• 1:19:55Andrew D. Huberman?

  You were able to dial in.

• 1:19:57Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:19:57Andrew D. Huberman?

  Could you talk a little bit more about that? Did you ever take some time to think about, like, what is this? And did you get that after a gunfight? Did you get that after, uh, you know, a funeral? Uh, you've gone to more than your fair share of those. Like, what do you think's going on there?

• 1:20:13Speaker 00

  It was the opposite of walking around adrenalineized. People oftentimes have asked me, you know, what does it feel like to be an adrenaline junkie? And I'd say, I don't know. I don't feel like I am one. I might participate in some things that from the outside would be viewed as people seeking adrenaline. But I don't, I don't like that hyper-adrenalized feeling where-

• 1:20:34Speaker 00

  You know, well, and it could be different for anybody and everybody, whether it's the tasting copper in your mouth, or the heart rate, or the, you know, feeling in your hair. I don't, I don't like that sensation. And that's not what I felt on the edge. I just was scared shitless, quite frankly. It's not an adrenaline. It would be the opposite of walking around feeling like that. I would describe it as feeling settled or anchored in the ability to just

• 1:21:05Speaker 00

  sit into it and think clear. It's, it's like having a stereo dial and the static and you're just twisting it down. And then the BS of life, and it comes back up, and it comes back up, and it comes back up. And you go on another one of those trips, or I, I should say, I would go on another one of those trips and it would dial it down. After a gunfight, it's not like the movies. Most of the time, it is so fast. It is such a rote decision. But it's high adrenaline, presumably, moderate. I think it would depend on how much time you had to make a call. I mean, it, most of it is, or in many times, a broad example, come around a corner, binary threat or not

• 1:21:48Speaker 00

  threat. There's not a whole lot of time to get ramped. I mean, you got to make a decision right there. I think maybe afterwards, you might get an adrenaline dump, or it might catch up with you. And I, I don't, I can't really think of any, anytime I've thought about an adrenaline dump, or I've seen it, it's, people actually kind of melt a little bit, the far side of that, where they're just, their performance degrades, for sure. They're on the other side of the bell curve of performance. I didn't see anybody experiencing that. Or maybe they were doing that when we were on a helicopter or vehicle on the way out. Not that much adrenaline. And again, it, it's just not as much time as movies and TV shows make it out. It's just not that, it's not that sexy. When you got back, I

• 1:22:29Speaker 00

  would say, for myself, you know, if the, if the optic of time starts coming in at about the one minute out, I would say, as you were to get back, And I would say for most guys, it's more of a routine. But taking gear off a certain way, hang it up, uniform off, shower, food. I think you find that settling spot. Once the guys come back together, generally communally over a meal or back in your hut, whatever your team, you know, we would usually have it separated by team. I think you would find your way to that settled space as well, too. So similar. I don't know if it was as powerful, though.

• 1:23:03Andrew D. Huberman?

  Let me ask it slightly differently. Coming back from a wingsuit jump and it went well. Everybody lived, including you, maybe learned a few things, maybe some errors you were able to correct, which is also learning, but you feel good about it. How do you sleep that night?

• 1:23:18Speaker 00

  Oh, so good. Hmm. Yeah.

• 1:23:20Andrew D. Huberman?

  Mm hmm.

• 1:23:21Speaker 00

  Yeah, probably better sleep. Um, let me see, I'm trying to think about sleep. God, you mean, you're going out so repetitively? Yeah. I mean, guys are, well, it wasn't unhealthy reliance upon Ambien. Is that sleep or hallucinating?

• 1:23:39Andrew D. Huberman?

  I mean, Ambien can induce some amnesia, but, you know, it has its place, but it's not, it's not the first line of attack, you know? I know SEAL Team guys liked Ambien. I think nowadays they're using things less.

• 1:23:52Speaker 00

  It's what they had available.

• 1:23:53Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah.

• 1:23:53Speaker 00

  And I mean unrestricted in a bowl, take what you want. I know people who would take two, unpackage another two, put them next to their bed with a little cup of water for the middle of the night when they woke up. But I don't think four is healthy. I'm not a doctor, but I don't think four is healthy.

• 1:24:11Andrew D. Huberman?

  There are better ways, but, but when you're out with your wingsuit buddies and you, you guys had a great jump that day and you're going back, everyone knocks out.

• 1:24:18Speaker 00

  You're wiped. You're just wiped.

• 1:24:20Andrew D. Huberman?

  And so for that next six months, you're feeling like you're in a, you're in a really good space.

• 1:24:24Speaker 00

  You would feel it changing at like the three month mark, but for, for a nice three months, for me, it was, it was clean. You could just think better. And I don't know the mechanism behind it, other than maybe your brain. Gets better at parsing out the bullshit that doesn't actually matter. And as you get that focus, so once it identifies it in that moment, you hold on to it less. I don't know what's going on there.

• 1:24:45Andrew D. Huberman?

  It's still a mystery. You know, I've spent some time looking at this in advance of this conversation.

• 1:24:49Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:24:50Andrew D. Huberman?

  The, the simple theory would be it raises your stress threshold. So the things that get you to secrete adrenaline, like everyday trivial things, that's not happening anymore. Okay, that's a reasonable theory. That's actually what the ice bath will do.

• 1:25:02Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:25:02Andrew D. Huberman?

  That's what a morning workout will do. But it turns out that's not what happens when, when people go into these flow states and you get this long tail of, of flow opportunities. Because the tendency when people's stress threshold goes up too high is that they tend to engage in a lot of meaningless behaviors because they're not stressful enough. You want the sensation of like, that was a tough conversation and I've got to deal with it. Or that was a tough conversation. I just need to avoid this person. Right? Like this is just not a healthy, you know, stress is a good indicator of, of pain. And sometimes it's a psychological pain that we need to overcome ourselves. Sometimes it's a psychological pain we need to excise from our lives.

• 1:25:39Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:25:39Andrew D. Huberman?

  So it sounds very different than that. And the reason I'm so interested in this is it's the exact same way that seems to come up a lot on this podcast, that like Rick Rubin has described, after putting together an album with some amazing artists where they've just been working and working and working. It's not just the time while doing the work, it's in, it's in the months that follow.

• 1:26:03Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:26:03Andrew D. Huberman?

  It's like this piece. It's like, it's the post-flow state something. We don't have a name for this.

• 1:26:08Speaker 00

  And it's almost like it lowers your stress threshold, not, because I agree with you. If it just raised your stress threshold, I would have just continued to do riskier and riskier behaviors. But at the end, I feel like it lowers it and just strips away the BS stress and makes you less likely to invest in those other potentially nonsense, high-risk behaviors. I have no ability to describe it whatsoever. And again, I didn't realize what that headspace was giving me while I was in the military. I knew something was missing after I had gotten out. And I think a lot of guys find themselves in that kind of abyss of how do I replicate this? Spoiler alert, you can't really. And they have to deal with that and work their way through that. And I'm not recommending.

• 1:26:52Speaker 00

  That wingsuit, skydiving, or base jumping is the path for guys getting out. And I specifically wrote about this. I've seen people who can do this in art, getting lost in creating something, or yoga, or meditation, or ice bath, or sauna, or I found a lot of it in the ability to detach and be in the moment in jujitsu. Even though it's totally artificial violence, you're in the moment because it sucks when your friend chokes you because you want to choke your friend, obviously. But you can find it. It doesn't have to be prescriptive. But if you can find your way there, I don't care that nobody can describe what it is. I am here to tell you it will change your life if you can find your way into that space. It really will.

• 1:27:32Andrew D. Huberman?

  There's a wonderful book in addition to yours. It turns out there's another great book out there.

• 1:27:37Speaker 00

  How dare someone?

• 1:27:38Andrew D. Huberman?

  No audio version, but it's called The Secret Pulse of Time, and it's about time perception. And so the idea that comes to mind that maybe we could talk about is perhaps these endeavors, whether or not it's wingsuiting, or producing an album, or painting, or gardening, or whatever it is, jujitsu, whatever it is that somebody does to access this flow state and gets this long tail of post-flow benefit, whatever that is, we don't have a name for it, again. It seems to calibrate our time perception is one idea that perhaps brings us so much into each moment that it's almost like our ability to capture moments becomes high fidelity. Again, you talked about getting the static out.

• 1:28:16Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:28:16Andrew D. Huberman?

  Right? And then when we go back into everyday life, it's almost like we're perfectly calibrated. This is, I'm stating a theory here. So now you wake up the next morning, you're home, and your kid comes in and they're talking about something, and you're thinking, and we'll get back to toilet paper in a little bit. And you'd be like, listen, dude, you're talking about this, but you didn't take care of the toilet paper. This will become relevant in a moment if you read Andy's. I've never thought so much about toilet paper, rolls in the bathroom, and how they're stacked. My girlfriend and I had a conversation about it the other day because of Andy's, but that will all make sense in a few moments. But it's almost like you can still be in that real world stuff, but your time perception is adjusted so that you know what you're doing. It's just that thing. So then when you pivot to the next thing, you need to sit down and do some work. It's almost like you can adjust your frame rate appropriately.

• 1:29:00Speaker 00

  It's like it pulls you into that. It allows you to sink into those things and digest better, to think better.

• 1:29:10Speaker 00

  That, yeah, the clarity of thought was just, and it would change how I thought about an argument or a conversation and it would allow me to look at it from a different perspective. And I have no idea why that was the case, but I agree with what you're saying. I think there might be some aspect of that, the fidelity and the ability to truly see clearly in that moment, pulling you or anchoring you into that. There's something there. I don't know.

• 1:29:34Andrew D. Huberman?

  A really cool paper came out just the other day showing that when we're stressed, prior memories, while we can still access them, we can't make insightful connections between things. And I won't describe the whole experiment. It was really cool. They basically have people remember pairs of objects and then there's some link between the two pairs. So like it would be like apple yerba mate and there'll be yerba mate wingsuit. And then at some point later, you need to link, you know, the wingsuit to the apple, right? You know, and it conceptually, not just that way. They built up from basic things like I just described. And as you ramp up people's levels of stress, you essentially lose the ability to make these connected insights. And this speaks to the, the hardwiring

• 1:30:18Andrew D. Huberman?

  and the software that the brain uses. I almost wonder whether or not your stress threshold, as you said, is brought down so that you can now have novel insights. Like, oh, this conversation with my son about the toilet paper is actually important in a way that isn't just me being annoyed. And, and I feel like maybe, maybe. It'd be fun to explore this as the science evolves with you, you know, and talk about it more. Cause I think the reason I'm so obsessed with this is for two reasons. One is navigating everyday life, which is a lot. That's a lot of what people are challenged with. It's so vital. The other is how to navigate the hard stuff in life. So I want to get to both of those things and talk about some examples from your life and from your book. But before we do that, I feel like we're obligated to talk about toilet paper.

• 1:31:01Speaker 00

  The number of pictures I have received via email of people taking pictures of their kids bathrooms and, and basically saying, I thought I was the only one.

• 1:31:16Andrew D. Huberman?

  All right, this is really seeming like an inside joke now for those that read Andy's What You Got. All right, we will get back to time perception, navigating the everyday and the hard things in life. I won't forget, we'll spin that plate in the background.

• 1:31:26Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:31:26Andrew D. Huberman?

  It's spinning. The toilet paper section, yes, it made me laugh. It also made me think about the little things I do each day and the little tiny itty bitty shortcuts that I'm taking and how those ratchet up. So tell us about toilet paper.

• 1:31:41Speaker 00

  It always takes longer to do it wrong, is the bottom line. And we all are tempted with these shortcuts. So

• 1:31:46Andrew D. Huberman?

  That's the mantra we have to remember.

• 1:31:48Speaker 00

  My children, their bathroom, if there was going to be an Ebola outbreak in the US, it might start there. I don't know anything about Ebola, but I feel like it might start there. So as with most bathrooms, there's toilet paper rolls. And my kids, when they finish a toilet paper roll, instead of popping it off the holder, taking it and going and getting a new one, they go get a new one. And they sit it right there. So it's like

• 1:32:17Speaker 00

  empty toilet paper roll up against the wall. You would think that when this one is done, they would take them both. But instead, they do this. So there's two against the wall, and then the other roll goes here. Now, I can't use this one because this is open. But when this roll is done, you would think that they wouldn't create a pyramid, which historically, from my understanding of math, isn't great to balance things on. But they will make a pyramid, and then put this up here. And inevitably, this roll goes forward, hits the ground behind the toilet, and then they start screaming from the bathroom, "I need toilet paper, Dad," to which I respond, "You got yourself there. You can figure it out on your own."

• 1:33:01Andrew D. Huberman?

  This is all of your kids?

• 1:33:03Speaker 00

  Yeah, for sure.

• 1:33:04Andrew D. Huberman?

  Okay.

• 1:33:05Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:33:05Andrew D. Huberman?

  And they're all your kids?

• 1:33:07Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:33:07Andrew D. Huberman?

  All right. I'm not really saying anything.

• 1:33:11Speaker 00

  And so the point in all of this is, if you don't want to be somebody screaming for a toilet paper roll, it actually takes less time to go and when you're out of toilet paper, disconnect it, throw it away on the way, and bring another one in. It's the same thing as laundry. Do you laundry?

• 1:33:30Speaker 00

  I'm not perfect at this by any stretch, but do your laundry, fold your laundry, put it away. That always takes less time than do your laundry in a pile. Then you're in a pinch and you're looking for your T-shirt, whatever shirt you want to wear. And I own a lot of black clothing. Oh, I do too. It's all blues, blacks, and an occasional red. The red ones are easy to find in that particular cohort. But otherwise you're in there and it's stuff inside out. So you don't know if it's got the right logo, there's socks coming out of the sleeves. Five excellent amount of time that would take you as opposed to just wash your laundry, dry it, fold it, put it away.

• 1:34:04Speaker 00

  I have tried to express this message to my children to the limits of my vocabulary. I went into my daughter's bathroom before we came up here. There was three rolls of toilet paper. Two of them were empty and wedged on the side and the third one was vertical. And I just closed the door and walked away, pretend like it didn't happen. They don't, they don't listen to me. It always takes longer to do it wrong. And those are the little shortcuts that we all take. We tell ourselves, I'll do it later or I don't have time to do it right now. We all have the same amount of time. It's where you're allocating your time. Do it upfront and I assure you what the McRaven speech about making your bed. The number of parents that probably thought that was life changing was just amazing.

• 1:34:48Speaker 00

  Like, yes, somebody else is telling my kid to make the bed. It's not actually about that. It's about having the discipline to do the little things. And it is way better at the end of the night when you're tired to come back to a bed that is made and ready for you to hop into. And having to, and not most people would do this, but make it first and then get into it. But it just gets worse and worse and worse. And in the end, it will take you longer to correct for that than the individual action of just doing it right the first time. What's your advice with respect to this?

• 1:35:17Speaker 00

  I mean, I can give you the advice, but I also don't follow it all the time either. Every, every single decision that you have in front of you in your life will have a slightly easier and a slightly harder choice. Make the slightly harder one more often than the slightly easier one. And the thing I liked a lot about McRaven's messaging around the bed is that it started your day with an act, a small act of discipline. It could seem meaningless, but then what if you pair another small one with that? And then another small one with that. I think that can really set you up for success in your day. And yes, at the end of the day, boom, your bed's ready to go and you can hop back into it. It just feels better to get into a made bed.

• 1:35:52Andrew D. Huberman?

  It took me a while to realize that most of the people that I could tell were really squared away in their jobs and because I happen to know their personal lives too, also their personal lives, they're pretty tidy people.

• 1:36:06Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:36:07Andrew D. Huberman?

  Whether by sheer will or by reflex, they're just pretty tidy.

• 1:36:12Speaker 00

  I don't think it's ever by reflex. I think it's always by, always by will. And it's not fun. And I'm, don't get me wrong. I'm not, I'm not perfect at it, but if I can look back at my lives or my life at times where things were a little bit less effort involved in, in being successful or making traction, it wasn't in chaos. It was in a little bit more of a controlled environment by me, again, controlling what I can control, which is my actions in the morning. You know, if you sit down in front of a desk and you can't even find the thing that you're looking for to do the work on it, how, I don't know anybody who has become ultra-successful in life with that model. But I think we could both sit down and talk about some people who are nailing it.

• 1:36:55Speaker 00

  And I think the vast majority of them would fall into that tidy category or disciplined category. But it's micro-discipline. They can make it seem as if you have this macro-discipline, but that's not actually what it is. It's the little things that nobody sees. That's what leads you to that end state.

• 1:37:10Andrew D. Huberman?

  It's interesting. Earlier we were talking about social pressure and alcohol and social media. You know, it's interesting to me that there seems to be some degree of social pressure to not do the slightly harder thing. You know, like what we're, what we're describing now, I never get into thinking about what the comments would be, but I, I'd be willing to bet one pinky that a fair number of people are either thinking or commenting directly, "Yeah, like that's really neurotic. Like loosen up."

• 1:37:43Speaker 00

  Yeah, take a picture of your fucking room and send it to me. It looks like shit.

• 1:37:47Andrew D. Huberman?

  Exactly. My dad's first generation immigrant from South America and I'll never forget when, it was in the mid 90s. He probably took me to a movie in an attempt to repair our relationship. And eventually it worked, Dad. We were doing great. Talked to him today. I called him today. We're on such good terms. It feels good to be able to say it. And I'll never forget, we were at the movies and there were these people walking by and they were wearing kind of like baggy sweats and flip flops or something. And he stopped me and he's a very orderly guy. And he said, see that? That's the beginning of the end. And I said, what do you mean? And he said, I come from a third world country. When people start going into the movies in their pajamas, it's the beginning of the end.

• 1:38:29Andrew D. Huberman?

  And I thought, hey, this is like, you couldn't be more out, he's, I actually think he's right. What he was talking about is that, that the, when the social pressure is not sufficient to like keep people feeling as if they need to show up as if they're in public, right? And he might have been a bit extreme, but you know, when, when that social pressure isn't there, then the social pressure eventually erodes around what people can say, what they can do. And then I do think that era of kind of Jerry Springer daytime television, where people would watch people who were way more screwed up than them. So they could feel a lot less screwed up.

• 1:39:01Speaker 00

  What's that called? Schadenfreude? When you take pleasure in other people's pain?

• 1:39:05Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah. Well, I think that there's, that's, that's the word for it for sure. But I think this is kind of adjacent to that where it's, it's like giving yourself license to not feel that bad. Because like, like either they're just so neurotic that I don't want anything to do with that kind of world where everything's right angles, or like, well, at least I'm not in total squaller. And this is where I think that, you know, we hear so much about, oh, everyone's presenting their best selves on social media. Also a problem to seem perfect, because no one's perfect. But I do think that there is this drift where we go, well, like, it's not going to crush my life, the toilet paper thing. Like if it were going to cost me my relationship or, you know, my allowance, you know, your kids might think about it differently, right?

• 1:39:46Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:39:46Andrew D. Huberman?

  But so I think, but what I got from your book, this, this section of your book is that it's because the consequences are so small.

• 1:39:55Andrew D. Huberman?

  At the individual level, but the upside is so big.

• 1:39:58Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 1:39:59Andrew D. Huberman?

  When you, you know, collect these things together that the real incentive to do the slightly harder thing is there.

• 1:40:06Speaker 00

  I mean, the toilet paper is not going to cost you your life. If it does, I'm going to need a case study on how that happened because I'm fascinated at this point. But what if it, the, we'll call it what it is, either the lack of discipline or the laziness in the moment changes the trajectory of your life because you apply that to everything in your life because that's how you start your day and how you end your day. I get it. People,

• 1:40:29Speaker 00

  I could, I'll take a picture of my room and send it out. Guess what? It's not hospital corners on the bed and there's probably something in the corner. I'm not saying that I'm perfect in this, but it's not being neurotic. It's doing the work that nobody sees. And for the people who can, you know, say, oh, it's, you know, that seems too neurotic for me. Like, let's, let's have a cup of coffee. Where do you want to be in your life and where are you at in that journey? I would, I'm fascinated by, and that, like we're saying, internet's the best worst thing. People can find this conversation and then critique us to death and say that we're being neurotic. But I'd also love to connect with somebody and say, listen, why do you have your, an allergic reaction to that particular statement?

• 1:41:12Speaker 00

  Is it because perhaps you're living it? And if you are, let's talk about the potential impact that it's having. Because again, I didn't create this. I'm passing along, you know, one of the mantras in the teams, how you do anything is how you do everything. But there's so many stupid, small things that you do specifically in training that have nothing to do with anything except doing the stupid, small thing. That, that's it. I mean, you know, this, the two mile swim, you have a K-bar knife in one of your hands and a CO2 cartridge in another and you're wearing your life jacket and we're like, got a jeweler's loop out looking at the, you know, the little twist in section of

• 1:41:54Speaker 00

  the CO2 cartridges. God help you if I find a grain of sand or a fleck of rust. Guess what? The jacket's still going to function, even if both of those things still exist because it actually has nothing to do with the nerling of the CO2 cartridge and everything to do with, I told you to have nothing in this to make sure it was basically brand new because you have to follow the procedure because the procedure was going to save your life. Can you? Even when you're exhausted and you don't want to and you have limited time, do what I told you to do because of the impact that it'll have. I mean, that exists in that community everywhere. So it's not me. I'm just telling you, the most successful people that I have encountered are not becoming

• 1:42:38Speaker 00

  successful in chaos. Now, of course, there will be somebody that can point to something and say, well, what about this person? I'm not saying that there's not a, what do they call it? A white elephant or a black elephant, whatever it may be. Does that scale? No, it doesn't. So if you're trying to replicate that, oh, they did it through chaos. So I'm going to as well. Live your life however you want to, but maybe you and I aren't being neurotic. Maybe we're just trying to help.

• 1:43:02Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah. You said, even when exhausted and limited in time, those are the two times when these little, I guess I used to think about them as extras. I'm trying to start thinking about them as foundational. That's when they become really tough.

• 1:43:17Speaker 00

  It's when they matter the most, though. Because if you, I mean, it's like this toilet paper roll weighs 2,000 pounds. There's no way I can get it to the garbage of this tire. That's exactly like the days you don't want to work out. Those are the most important days. Even if you do less, the mental victory there, in my mind at least, and I'm not an expert in any of this, far outweighs any of the physical aspect. It's the fact that you did and you didn't want to. If you stack that up over a lifetime, you're going to blow people away with what you can accomplish.

• 1:43:47Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah. And the generalizability of what you just described is definitely supported by science. People have perhaps heard me say this before, so I'll make it very brief, but there's this brain area, the anterior mid-singulate cortex, which most neuroscientists that teach neuroanatomy, including me, didn't know what it did until a few years ago. A guy at Stanford, Joe Parvizzi, is a neurosurgeon. He was stimulating this brain area and regions adjacent to it, looking for epileptophysi in a patient. That's how they find out where to burn out the seizure site. And he's stimulating in the singulate cortex and then he gets to this anterior mid-singulate cortex. And in every patient where he taps this region electrically, the person feels And reports, I feel like there's a storm coming and I want to lean into it.

• 1:44:31Andrew D. Huberman?

  I know I can go through it. Someone else might describe it as, I feel like there's this like big thing about to happen, but I'm going to persevere. So it's amazing, right? So this anterior mid-singulate cortex turns out hypertrophies. Well, it grows in volume per maybe in number of connections, et cetera, a number of neurons, maybe, but certainly grows in volume when people successfully diet, when they take their existing exercise program and just add three 30-minute sessions of cardio. But here's the caveat, if they hate cardio. If you love the ice bath, this, your anterior mid-singulate cortex, which by the way predicts successful dieting, predicts successful completion of any of other

• 1:45:14Andrew D. Huberman?

  hard things, all of that relates to whether or not the thing that you're introducing is something that you do not want to do in the moment that you do it. And so there's real science to this now. There's a long review that I can put a link to in the caption if people want to get into the science. So this is in human studies and it goes just on and on. So it's not the thing, it's the thing you don't want to do. Yeah. And so when people say, I love working out and the final two reps of that set, that teaches me how to be hard in life. You're like, do you like working out? They're like, love it. And you're like, ah, it's not doing anything for your anterior mid-singulate cortex. So I think this is very important science, which is why I keep bringing it up on multiple podcasts. And I think the toilet paper rule. So your kids have this amazing opportunity.

• 1:45:54Andrew D. Huberman?

  Other people have to, I don't know, do whatever, you know, they seem like very hard-driving kids and the way you describe them anyway. So it turns out that for them, the toilet paper thing, and no, your dad didn't pay me to say this, the toilet paper thing turns out to be the route to anterior mid-singulate cortex growth, which then translates to, by the way,

• 1:46:19Andrew D. Huberman?

  Growth of this structure is the defining feature of what are called super agers. Bit of a misnomer because these are people who maintain cognitive ability and many of their physical abilities relative to their peers into their 80s and 90s.

• 1:46:31Speaker 00

  That makes sense.

• 1:46:31Andrew D. Huberman?

  It's so it may even be related to the will to live. It may be that the tenacity structure in the brain, which people who successfully push back against certain, you know, life confrontations and things and on and on. So it's pretty cool structure and it may be the basis of the toilet paper phenomenon.

• 1:46:48Speaker 00

  It's same thing as putting your dishes in the dishwasher when you're done, as opposed to just dropping them in the sink for the next morning. The examples are everywhere. Not that that would ever happen in our house, but.

• 1:47:00Andrew D. Huberman?

  We're going to get back to the time perception piece, but you've mentioned jujitsu a few times.

• 1:47:05Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:47:05Andrew D. Huberman?

  What's an aspect of jujitsu that for you is this thing, this friction point where you actually don't want to do, or do you just love the whole thing?

• 1:47:13Speaker 00

  What I love about jujitsu is it can't be mastered. There's no way. And I have been very fortunate enough now to train with people or be around them that have been black belts for damn near as long as I have been alive. And I love asking them, you know, what do they like about it? And it's these seasons and phases where they think they have it figured out and then they see something else and their realization is they haven't even begun to understand. And so they build back up and something again, and they, the more experience these people have, the less they think it have, that they have it all figured out. And I, I don't know what the key to aging is, but I love doing things that seem as if it is impossible to master them. I think that's the key to staying at least mentally as young as possible.

• 1:47:57Speaker 00

  Constantly learning new stuff.

• 1:48:00Andrew D. Huberman?

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• 1:48:42Andrew D. Huberman?

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• 1:49:25Andrew D. Huberman?

  some intestinal distress that is not a... Is that what we're calling it? Yeah. That is not of the, just the diarrhea, constipation type, but like you described it as the worst pain you'd ever experienced, which when most people hear a statement like that, they go, okay, well, what pain have you experienced? Well, a touch. Turns out you've also been shot. Yeah. Turns out you were, you know, your job selection process involved a fair amount of immediate and long-term pain processes under, you know, limited sleep and so on. So we can check the box easily for you, like understands pain and then this was the worst pain. What do you think about this notion, maybe I heard this from Chad, right?

• 1:50:04Andrew D. Huberman?

  That when you vocalize about how hard something is, that you make it more real. I was wondering if in that moment where you're in the hospital, I don't want to give it all away, it's a great chapter, actually, and you're dealing with this worst pain of your life, not from being shot or from the other thing, that were you just cursing? Were you quietly cursing in your head? Do you think that we can make our physical pain and just challenges in general worse by talking about them? Or do you think holding it in makes it worse? I don't think you could make it worse.

• 1:50:39Speaker 00

  By talking about it, I think if people were open and honest about, let's just say, pain in general, whether that is internal or external, I think what they would be shocked to find is they're generally surrounded by people willing to do anything they can to help relieve that pain. So I think you could probably make it much better. For anybody who thinks that I might have stuff figured out, or I'm an intelligent person, here's a story for you. Here's how stupid I am. So I was doing a podcast when I felt the first little shift in my stomach, I took a sip of coffee, I was like, huh, that's weird. And I thought it was a gas bubble. My wife was teaching a jujitsu seminar at the time, we were just south of Salt Lake City. So I got done with that, I couldn't really stand up straight, but it was the open mat portion, so throw the gi on, go

• 1:51:23Speaker 00

  roll for 90 minutes. Couldn't, definitely could not stand up straight after that, so I was just slouching in a chair, you know, to try to hide it from my wife, who had at that point started looking over at me. And she was like, what's going on? I'm like, I just got a stomach ache, it's not that big of a deal. And we were gonna drive from Salt Lake City back to Kalispell, Montana, where I live, which should take a day. And she was saying, hey, let's get you some like, you know, gas medicine or something like that. And she wanted to go to In-N-Out, we don't have any In-N-Outs in Montana. For people who live around In-N-Outs, I'm here to tell you, it's a really big thing to people who don't live around them. I don't know why.

• 1:52:01Andrew D. Huberman?

  In-N-Out's pretty darn good.

• 1:52:02Speaker 00

  Yeah, I was raised by them, or around them, so to me, not that big of a deal, I'll grab them when I can, but also not gonna totally detour off to go get one. So she goes and gets her, you know, double double, whatever it is, pulls into the Walgreens, I'm in the passenger seat at this point. First off, she tricks me. I drove her to the In-N-Out, she's like, just let me drive. I'm like, fine. We get to the Walgreens. I'm in a good amount of pain at this point. She goes inside to get Gas-X pills or whatever. She comes out. I am upside down in my seat, trying to relieve the gas bubble, because that's what I thought it was. So my head was down by where you keep your feet. I didn't let her know, so she comes back into the car, is like, what are you doing? Just fully inverted in the car. Like, I'm fine, just, you know, I was just trying to see if I could get the

• 1:52:46Speaker 00

  gas bubble to dislodge. And she asked me, What do you want to do? Do you need to go to the hospital? I'm like, I think we're gonna be okay. Just start driving home. We'll be going through Salt Lake, so we'll get to a higher level of care if it gets worse. She got onto the phone, Googled the nearest hospital and drove me straight there. So that's how smart I am when it comes to pain. I wasn't verbalizing how bad it was and it wasn't, it was incrementally getting worse. But that's an example of A, I hundred percent don't have anything figured out. That's how dumb I am. And B, keeping it to myself didn't help much, but she knew me well enough that it was time to go. I was able to walk into the emergency room and then I ended up laying on the emergency room floor, mostly because it was cool and I was starting to sweat at that point.

• 1:53:27Speaker 00

  They bring me in and did a bunch of imaging and I had an intestinal blockage, which required emergency surgery the next day. The most painful portion of that, though, was about six hours when they gave me this fluid that you drink to constrict all of your intestines that they generally give to elderly people who haven't shit in weeks. So what I ended up having is I had a loop of scar tissue on the inside wall of my stomach that a piece of intestines had gone through and it cinched. So that particular red juice of death was the single most consistent pain that I have ever been in. Athletic sweat through all of my clothing. My sister and I have a genetic blood abnormality where I don't process opiates

• 1:54:11Speaker 00

  the same way as people do, so morphine to me doesn't even do anything. I did not know that until I got to the emergency room in Baghdad after being shot. And I kept asking for more morphine and then I pulled out a chart and said, this is what you weigh. This is your dosage. You are now at the threshold. If we give you more, your heart's gonna stop. So they stopped the morphine, put me on Dilaudid, barely touching the pain at the maximum dosage of Dilaudid. But that was the worst pain I've ever been in. And it's funny that you ask about talking about it or not. My sister is a nurse. She's been in healthcare for quite some time. And they had just gone on vacation.

• 1:54:54Speaker 00

  And my wife wanted to get ahold of them. And I'm like, whatever you do, do not call them and ruin their vacation. What she was trying to do Was understand what she needed to say to the staff so she could talk to them in their language because the dosages they were getting, it just wasn't doing anything. And I think to the degree they thought I was like seeking meds, even though I think the athletic sweat might have been a little bit of a tell and the fact that I'm like riding and the doctors coming, I'm like, I don't care what it is, cut it out right now. We can just insert, he's like, oh, we got to do imagery and you got to do paperwork. I'm like, sign my name that like, let's just do the knock me out and cut this out of my body right now. I don't even care what's left. But I didn't even want to share that with my sister because I didn't want to

• 1:55:39Speaker 00

  ruin her experience with her family in another country and that didn't make anything better. Shortly after that, right after I told my wife not to call her, she went outside and called her and then I got switched over to the ICU where they hit me with ketamine and that did the trick. Almost to the point where they almost, they almost pushed me into the K-hole and I didn't like that at all. I could hear the hairs on the inside of my ears starting to move around. And it was a dead quiet room. And I remember saying to my wife, can you hear it? It's so loud in here. And she's like, it is completely and utterly silent, right at the lip, to the point where I told the doctor, please no more ketamine, regardless of what it takes. But then they went and did the surgery. All of that to say, the more open and honest I was, the

• 1:56:23Speaker 00

  better it got. In that time where I was trying to not share that or not talk about the pain, it was still just as real for me. But there was no benefit in being quiet like that. And I think that that's something that people can, in my life, and I'm not sure yours, every time I verbalized pain or grief or struggle, surrounded by people willing to help out, why not talk about it? What's the potential downside? If you look at it purely from a physical perspective, was me suffering for a few more hours because I'm an idiot.

• 1:57:01Andrew D. Huberman?

  Well, I totally agree that when it's real pain, it's important to share. Also, God bless your wife for not listening to you around this particular issue.

• 1:57:13Speaker 00

  She's got me figured out. It's everything up to a point. She's like, nope, I'm, we're gonna, we're gonna go ahead and take the wheel from here.

• 1:57:18Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah. What's like I in, uh, before we came in here, we're talking about dogs. Uh, we'll get back, but you know, having owned a bulldog mastiff, you realize that they hide their pain. Like he, you know, ran out to, uh, you know, to, they don't have knees, right? But ran out to ACLs, right? I mean, he was his own worst enemy, but he would never quit on me either. So it's like, you kind of have to know that about bulldogs, right? So there's enough bulldog in you. You have a Dushan.

• 1:57:45Speaker 00

  Yes.

• 1:57:45Andrew D. Huberman?

  A wiener dog. I know that they're very, very smart and they're kind of mischievous.

• 1:57:49Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:57:50Andrew D. Huberman?

  But they're loyal. They like, um, yes.

• 1:57:53Speaker 00

  You are either one of their people. Or you're one of their enemies.

• 1:57:58Andrew D. Huberman?

  Is that you?

• 1:57:59Speaker 00

  I'm his, probably his favorite person.

• 1:58:01Andrew D. Huberman?

  No, I meant, is that your, your phenotype too? Is that you're, you're either one of my people or you're one of my enemies?

• 1:58:06Speaker 00

  I don't think so.

• 1:58:07Andrew D. Huberman?

  Okay. Yeah. You don't strike me that way.

• 1:58:08Speaker 00

  I am inherently distrustful of human beings, just based off my own personal experience.

• 1:58:12Andrew D. Huberman?

  All human beings.

• 1:58:13Speaker 00

  Not all human beings. Well, yes, the species, but not every person that I, that I meet. I am just aware that there is a subsection of who we are that is out there that ticks in the completely opposite manner with which I do. And I'm not to say, here to say that's right or wrong, but I've seen it enough with my own eyes that I can never forget that.

• 1:58:38Andrew D. Huberman?

  You're talking about from your time on deployments?

• 1:58:40Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:58:40Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah.

• 1:58:41Speaker 00

  Just seeing beliefs and ideologies that are completely at odds with what my beliefs and ideologies are. And sorry for anybody listening to this, whatever your belief and ideology is, there is an axis out there that feels that way. That's just the way that it is. It doesn't mean you should distrust everybody. I just remind myself that human beings are really capable of some gnarly stuff, but I also don't walk around. Snap judging everybody, but I try to enjoy my life just like everybody else does. But yeah, for that dog, it's a, you can go from being one of his enemies to one of his friends, though, if you have enough treats and spend enough time around him, they didn't get super excited when he sees you, but they're amazing dogs.

• 1:59:17Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah, I love Dachshunds. I don't know that I have the, the tenacity to own one, but I mean, because Bulldogs are stubborn.

• 1:59:26Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:59:27Andrew D. Huberman?

  But they're so food driven and they're not that smart.

• 1:59:33Speaker 00

  Don't tell them that.

• 1:59:34Andrew D. Huberman?

  I've had a Bulldog long enough and now a second one to know that they're, it's part of what makes them great. They, they don't do advanced math on, on their life experience.

• 1:59:43Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:59:43Andrew D. Huberman?

  They're doing basic addition and sleeping.

• 1:59:47Speaker 00

  We have.

• 1:59:47Andrew D. Huberman?

  They'll die for you.

• 1:59:48Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 1:59:49Andrew D. Huberman?

  But if your life isn't on the line, they're not doing shit at all. That's kind of like the Bulldog.

• 1:59:54Speaker 00

  Our dog does puzzles.

• 1:59:55Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah. So, right. That's what I'm talking about. Yeah.

• 1:59:58Speaker 00

  And like we have an outside fetch ball that I thought didn't fit through the doggy door. It was in the house the other day. What's going on?

• 2:00:05Andrew D. Huberman?

  Right, right. Totally. Same, same species, all completely different brain structures.

• 2:00:09Speaker 00

  Man, well, and they were bred to be independent because they were bred to be at down in little tunnels going for, I tell people they're bred to fight lions. Nobody seems to believe me. I'm also not sure that that's true.

• 2:00:18Andrew D. Huberman?

  You need 75 of them.

• 2:00:19Speaker 00

  Yeah, like rats. Yeah, that's, that's what I tell people. They hunt in packs, obviously. I would be terrified of 75 wiener dogs chasing me down.

• 2:00:25Andrew D. Huberman?

  Absolutely.

• 2:00:28Speaker 00

  No, they're down, down in tunnels. And that's also why they bark so much and why their bark is so loud. It's so it's their handlers can track them as they went. So a lot of that stuff makes sense. Not necessarily in an urban setting, but you know, it's fun to deal with. Your dog needs to do puzzles or he'll drive you crazy.

• 2:00:45Andrew D. Huberman?

  Man, we could go down the, the conceptual rabbit hole of, of dog breeds, but we won't because we left an important plate spinning that I want to return to.

• 2:00:55Speaker 00

  What did we leave?

• 2:00:56Andrew D. Huberman?

  This notion of time perception to navigate everyday life more effectively and time perception to navigate the real, really hard stuff. Your community by virtue of the work that you guys did and do loses a lot of people. Relative to other professions, there's a, there's a high fatality rate relative to other professions. But in the larger outside world now, you know, we are seeing much more suicide. Let's just be real blunt.

• 2:01:28Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 2:01:29Andrew D. Huberman?

  Walking in here today, we were talking to one of our. Team members here, not SEAL Team members, but editors, you know, somebody, a real, a real luminary in the skateboarding world, you know, cause of death still unclear, but you know, like there's yet another example of somebody highly accomplished, family, et cetera. I have a colleague who recently sadly took his own life. Like this just happens across domains, right? And it's not just men, it's women too, but it does seem to be higher among men these days. You know, it raises some really complicated, but I think important questions around what is going through people's minds that would lead them to think that

• 2:02:11Andrew D. Huberman?

  it was, or should be the end of the line for them, for themselves. Goes against every bit of adaptive evolutionary biology. It goes against all religious doctrine in terms of what's adaptive. So, you know, there's no straightforward answer to this, but earlier we were talking about, before we were recording, perhaps people get into a tunnel of the idea that the way they feel in a given moment is the way it's going to be forever. So two guys sitting here who are not in that state to kind of wonder about this is, we can only speculate. But what do you think, based on what you've observed and you, welcome to share if you like this, from your book, you talk about Dave.

• 2:02:52Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 2:02:52Andrew D. Huberman?

  Is there any understanding of what's going on for people in the, in the days, weeks, months, moments leading up to those decisions that, you know, maybe we can do some good here and help people identify if they're starting to enter that it's always going to feel like this mode?

• 2:03:09Speaker 00

  And there have been so many conversations about this and there are so many programs that exist to try to help, I'll say guys, because that's the community that I came from with this. The Green Beret community has now lost more people to suicide than combat operations since 2001.

• 2:03:28Andrew D. Huberman?

  What?

• 2:03:29Speaker 00

  Yep. I don't know where the SEAL community is with that, but I bet you they're close. The numbers will eclipse for sure. So it is an issue, but it is an unavoidable issue. Every situation is different to a degree that they share some similarities. So in speaking specifically of the SEAL teams, I mean, there's the biggest similarity, right? They came from that community and they probably had. Some semblance of shared experiences, whether that be deployments, time away from family, the psychological and physiological stresses of the job. But it doesn't seem to impact everybody equally either. Everybody's experiences differ. You can be in a room, I was gonna say with six people,

• 2:04:13Speaker 00

  but it's unlikely you'll be in a room with six people just because we don't generally have that many people and we try to solve issues with as few as possible. We'll say four. I have no understanding why

• 2:04:26Speaker 00

  the same shared experience, although maybe viewed from a slightly different angle, in totality could break somebody, but not the other three. Or why everybody has a different volume of, you know, somebody's got this much volume versus this much versus a thimble. And I don't, I don't understand why those experiences seem to break some people. Or in my opinion, I think they can, if you put the work in, make you an even better version of yourself. And I also think that you can pour some of the stuff out or drill a hole in the bottom and work through these things. Dave being the example, the things that stick out would be, and again, this is me, this is me speaking. I can't speak for Dave.

• 2:05:12Speaker 00

  There was a huge delta, I think, between how he thought of himself and how other people thought of him.

• 2:05:22Speaker 00

  And in most of the funerals that I've gone to that involve suicide, the number one question is, why? Why didn't somebody reach out for help? Or, and maybe they did, because you don't, you know, you don't, I mean, I guess you could look at their electronic device or maybe it was a face to face, it's hard to say. But the difference in

• 2:05:44Speaker 00

  what Dave left behind, he left behind some journals. And I think that there are

• 2:05:51Speaker 00

  Pros and cons. If you are in a place where you have the opportunity to read somebody's, what they have left behind and not, you may not want to know. It may make it more difficult because I've also seen people attach a very immense amount of grief because they either think that what was written and left behind was specifically about them, or they, oh, man, I was there and I could have, you know, the could have, would have, should have, which is all hypothetical and doesn't change the fact that it already happened. But I've seen people deeply, deeply struggle with that. So that would be the negative. The pro could be perhaps, I don't know, closure. So it really depends on the person. Choose wisely as somebody who has experienced that. My experience is it was a combination of both.

• 2:06:36Speaker 00

  I felt a deeper level of understanding, but also a deep sense I wish I would have done more.

• 2:06:45Speaker 00

  The internal struggles in self-talk in monologue, I couldn't read it without crying.

• 2:06:57Speaker 00

  And I don't think he realized how highly other people thought of him. The gap between the two is just unbelievable. He, and not everybody is, he was isolated at the time. There was alcohol involved, to the best of my knowledge, which unfortunately, especially in the community that I come from, those two things are pretty often tied, not always, but often tied alcohol in that decision as well. And the stats are pretty well back about, you know, the alcohol being, you could speak to this, and you know, the central nervous system depressant. It's like, yay, I'm feeling the best I've ever felt. It generally will spiral you in the other direction. But when I look at Dave, he was and is to this day,

• 2:07:42Speaker 00

  what I would consider to be the standard for a team guy. And what I loved about him so much is that not only did he expect that standard from other people, but he held it himself. And actually more than that, I think, I would say he held himself to a higher standard than he would hold other people to. If you met his standard, you were going to get two thumbs up. Probably not a pat on the back, but you were going to get two thumbs up and you were going to know you did a good job. If you did not meet his standard, which I tested many times, you were very specifically told where you're deficient in life and as a human being.

• 2:08:18Speaker 00

  And he, God, he had a tongue like a whip. He was awesome. And

• 2:08:24Speaker 00

  I think at the end, and this is me speaking for him a little bit. I think he arrived at a place

• 2:08:33Speaker 00

  where he couldn't live with the reality that he couldn't hold himself to the standard that he had expected from other people. And I think it destroyed him. But I don't know if he shared that with anybody. I don't think so. Some of the last people that he spoke with knew that he was struggling for sure. He had an alcohol addiction issue for sure. And for clarity, I mean, that's, Dave would be pissed, actually, if I didn't mention that because he would never tolerate anybody else beating around the bush. He legitimately had an issue with alcohol, as some people do from that community. They knew that he was struggling. He's the only guy I know who did multiple treatments of, I have zero experience in psychedelics, but from listening to people talk about ayahuasca and ibogaine,

• 2:09:18Speaker 00

  rides that don't seem to be a very good time. And oftentimes will instantaneously change the relationship they have with substances, whether it's opiates or alcohol. Not that you would never drink again, but their their relationship with it just shifts. They're like, you know what? Ugh, I don't even have the desire to do so.

• 2:09:36Speaker 00

  Seventy-two hours later, ninety-six hours later, and it's not like he just tried once. He would go back. He would even facilitate treatment for other people.

• 2:09:49Speaker 00

  But it wasn't working for him. But he wasn't, he wasn't sharing that. And that isolation and loneliness and that difference between that standard and what he was able to do.

• 2:10:03Speaker 00

  Got him to a place where he put a gun in his mouth, you know, alone, isolated at his family home in Florida. And when everybody showed up at the funeral, it's like, what could we, what could we have done more? And that happens at every, nobody's at a funeral saying, oh, did everything I could. Never have heard that, by the way. To just, God, I nailed it. I'm like, really? Exhibit A would, like, none of us nailed it. We all fucked up. Or

• 2:10:32Speaker 00

  Did we do the best that we could? And it's something that we can't stop. I don't know. I've started to have pretty deep conversations with friends around, from that community, around what can be done. I don't think an absolutionist approach is good. I think driving to zero is possible because, is impossible because it's a, it's a, an affliction that strikes all of humanity. A reductionist approach, I think, is helpful. But at this point, I don't know what else can be done. I mean, millions of dollars advocated towards these type of programs. Things like Ambio, you know, just south of the border. Or what Marcus and Amber Compon are doing with vets, which are largely an interface to the, and there's portals and people.

• 2:11:17Speaker 00

  And I'm on some of these groups where even the inkling, somebody is in trouble or you need help, like people are, they're trying to get stuff done, getting connected. People are getting on airplanes. And I was with mutual friend DJ, I think it was last week. And one of his new guys, who had become a team leader, who had gotten out, just killed himself. And both, and we sit there with faces like this, with things that are, that we don't know what to say in between us. I don't know. I don't know what's going on there.

• 2:11:52Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah, well, I certainly don't know either. I think that if we can borrow anything useful from other areas of mental health and neuroscience, because I think ultimately this is a brain issue, right? I don't think it's like a gut health issue, although that could impact it, right? I might be wrong.

• 2:12:13Speaker 00

  Could be corollary.

• 2:12:13Andrew D. Huberman?

  Right, could be, yeah, I mean, it could be. But, but I think it's a thought process that leads to a decision that, you know, and that's in the brain. So if we were to just take, like, start at ground truths, not to try and make this reductionist, we'd say, maybe suicidality is not one thing. Just like we know that you can get a fever from a lot of things. I don't want to say no one is immune, because I do think that. Fortunately, it's, you know, not everybody, but maybe everyone has the potential to go there. And there are certain buffers that we're not aware of.

• 2:12:43Speaker 00

  You might come out of the box immune to it, but I think either something psychologically or physiologically can happen that maybe could open a door that had started off closed.

• 2:12:54Speaker 00

  That's a guess.

• 2:12:55Andrew D. Huberman?

  In all these instances, they're leaping to mind of, unfortunately, real life suicides. Every single one of the people was a very high performer at one point, highly, very highly regarded, revered, et cetera. And so I think you've really touched on something important, which is that this notion of like, it's lonely at the top, that there's, it's true that there's, people are busy, you know, there's not, the general public is not so concerned about, you know, winners and their plight, you know, but when you hear about something like this, you know,

• 2:13:28Andrew D. Huberman?

  you realize that it, people can be quite lonely and perhaps as the number of true peers that somebody has, because they're in a leadership position over already ultra-high performers, the need to impress, the need to not have their, their image shattered is, it goes up and up and up and up. There might be something there. I think there's certainly important work to be done, but there aren't real data, I don't think, on the number of people who were kind of veering in this direction, but somebody reached out.

• 2:13:55Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 2:13:56Andrew D. Huberman?

  And then they're six months later saying, hey, thanks, you know, I, you know, you really helped me back when, and maybe they weren't right at that edge.

• 2:14:01Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 2:14:01Andrew D. Huberman?

  So we don't have data on what worked to keep people away from this edge either. So it's a really tough problem, but, you know, tough problems are tractable.

• 2:14:11Speaker 00

  Yeah, I worry less about the guys who are able to verbalize what they're going through.

• 2:14:17Speaker 00

  It's the ones who are more quiet, you know, you talk about, you know, lonely at the top. Dave, I left Dave's military career largely out of it. He originally wanted to go to development group and didn't make it through the screening process, I think largely more due to a personality conflict with one of the instructors, which totally happens. You get on somebody's radar, you might have to come back through. But he ended up going to another JSOC command that works at an incredibly high level, very less known, oftentimes by yourself in adversarial countries, and he crushed it there, I think for like 10 years. I mean, it's like. The top performer of performers.

• 2:15:02Speaker 00

  And then they contracted him to come back and teach guys in their own very long selection course. What I didn't realize is how much he was struggling just holding up that image, though. A part of their selection course occurs out in Las Vegas. He had more than one incident where he thought his career was going to be over because he went out and got shitfaced and got arrested. They work so independently and individually so often, nobody even realized he had gotten in trouble until his security clearance came back around and it popped on his security clearance, which then, you know, leads to a whole variety of other things. But that happened to him while he was active and then after, while he was out.

• 2:15:44Speaker 00

  But if you were to look at the guy, you mean, you'd say to him, how do I match your career exactly? What exactly are you doing to be able to do what it is that you're doing? Man, behind the curtain, holy shit. Just suffering. You could see it in the writing, just in the, the shape and texture of the words. You could, you could see it degrading towards the end. It's gnarly.

• 2:16:16Andrew D. Huberman?

  And look, I'm not one of these people that thinks everyone should just go do I have a gain, which is not a recreational experience. You know, right. But I was going to say the fact that he did, that has worked. I'll just say this on, I've said it publicly before, but I'll make sure I hammer this, you know, straight in the middle, that I've been very supportive of Veteran Solutions because, and the work that was being done at Stanford to support them. The arc of both successful escape from addiction and PTSD, whatever you want to call it, through the proper use of I have a gain medically supervised, as well as the number of just tragic instances of people who didn't make it there. I happen to know Chad Wilkinson's wife and talked to Sarah. You know, and, you know, it's a painful thing to be at these things and hear all these

• 2:17:01Andrew D. Huberman?

  wonderful stories of people that feel like they were rescued, their spouse was rescued. And then the spouses that are there are saying, it's. Grateful this exists and I'm frustrated that it wasn't there in time for their spouse or parent or, you know, so or kid. So many people have benefited, but some people just seem like they're refractory to it. Well, hopefully, talking about suicide, frankly, will, will get people thinking about different avenues around it. That's the hope.

• 2:17:31Speaker 00

  Yeah, I don't know the angle. I mean, I've tried to focus sometimes on talking about the impact that it has on those left behind in the hopes that that would, I don't know, buy somebody a 1%, maybe think about that for 1% and it changes literally the trajectory of their life. I don't understand the choice. I will describe the choice of ending your own life as an irrational decision. That's, I can't make any sense of it other than to say, like you said, it goes against every evolutionary, everything that we can understand. So somehow, people are arriving at an irrational decision and considering

• 2:18:13Speaker 00

  it to be the only rational solution. Talking about the people that they left behind and the impact it's going to have, doesn't seem to have impacted it at all. I don't, I don't know what the answer is. Many times, you know, whatever's left behind or text messages, the world's better off, you know what I mean, better off without me, they feel, I'm not going to say they feel as if they're doing the world a favor. That's, that's not what I mean to say, but oftentimes the language is close to that, like, I'm doing this because you will be better off without me. And again, irrational decision as their only rational option. I don't, I don't know. I do know that statistically, it's way higher in the occupation that I came from. What I didn't realize and what I've started talking with

• 2:18:58Speaker 00

  a lot more about guys I served with, is there time before the military, though?

• 2:19:03Speaker 00

  The trauma in the militaries can certainly be unique, but I tell you what, the number of guys that I've talked to now that I didn't have these conversations with that I, when I was in, they brought a full sea bag of trauma with them before. And if you layer that on top of everything that happens while you're in and you don't get a handle on that, it's going to get a handle on you. And I think that's played itself out many times. A lot of the emphasis is on just the military aspect, and I'm not saying that everybody from the military world came in with a broken, shattered, fill in the blank bucket of trauma, but there's a lot of them, the more that you dig into this, and that has to be addressed as well, too. And it makes sense. If you had a jacked up childhood or you were bullied,

• 2:19:48Speaker 00

  what better job than to be able to dispatch bullies or those that are preying upon others? Yeah, that's exactly what you're going to want to do. But it doesn't mean that the little suitcase you brought with you isn't going to meet you on the tail end of that journey. Then you pair that with isolation. A lot of times, guys get out, they'll move back to where they came from. So away from their social circle, the uniform goes up in the closet, identity and purpose struggle that we all have when you go from that occupation, social isolation, maybe they bring with them some unhealthy social habits, alcohol, whatever else it may be with them, with that isolation, with those struggles, with that baggage. It's a lot, man.

• 2:20:32Andrew D. Huberman?

  You make a very important point. I think, you know, perhaps one of the reasons they went into that profession is they were traumatized going in. But of course, as you also pointed out, many guys are not.

• 2:20:43Speaker 00

  I won the genetic lottery with my parents. They were spectacular. But now, I just, I wish I had been mature enough to sit down with people when I was younger and be like,

• 2:20:56Speaker 00

  Like, are you okay? What was your, what was your background coming up? You know, tell me about your life before the teams. Cause nobody ever asked about your life. Like, where are you from? Cool, shut up. Did you make it through BUDs? Great, go get your shit. It's time to go do gangster shit. Like, okay, cool. Let's go do gangster shit. It's afterwards where I get to know these people better at a deeper level. I'm like, I'm sorry, what? What situation did you come from? Dave was a good example. He brought a lot with him. Again, that's a data point. I can't apply that broadly. But in the anecdotal conversations I have had, it is trending past 50% of the guys brought a lot of stuff with them.

• 2:21:36Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah, and the sort of hyper proclivity for alcohol might have been related to that. I mean, we can do a just so story, but what you're saying, you know, it ratchets together in a logical way. And of course, everything we're talking about wicks out to the world at large. I mean, checking in on people is no small thing.

• 2:21:56Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 2:21:57Andrew D. Huberman?

  You know, I, a few years ago, I talked about how like, you know, this group of like, people were just like, check in in the morning and it seemed, people were like, oh, well, that's like, it's supposed to be the health act. It's like, I don't know, there's one guy in my, in my crew that like, he's, he's like, every single morning, if we don't hear from him by 8 a.m., we're like, he's dead. You know? And then like 8:15, he's like, sorry, I'm late, guys. And, you know, just by virtue of that group, he sends out, he's, you know, he sends around a little Bible passage, sometimes like a wish for the day for folks. Everyone checks in, it's like, it's a real thing. Like, it's a real thing. It's not just that I would be worried about him. I honestly, I'd be worried about me if he didn't send that. Now, is it, am I completely dependent on it? No, but those small things, back to this notion of small things, they can really matter. They can, they can really make the difference.

• 2:22:40Andrew D. Huberman?

  I don't know, my mind goes to all these places and maybe I've spent more than my fair share of time with our mutual friend Eddie Penny, where I actually think, and forgive me, because I'm a scientist, but these days I talk very openly, I actually think that evil forces can hijack people's minds. I know it sounds crazy, it sounds like conspiracy, but I believe that inside of our minds, we have a susceptibility to positive messaging and we have a susceptibility to evil messaging. And it can come in in different forms. And I think bad forces can work through us and they tend to come through the places of shame. They come through the things that we don't want to acknowledge. They're like, the way it was described to me by someone far smarter than me is it's like a lighthouse that's, you know?

• 2:23:22Andrew D. Huberman?

  Spinning its illumination and then there's like, there's like some like dirt on the, on the lighthouse and it casts this like shard of a shadow and that's where stuff comes in and gets us. And if we can kind of see that stuff and really acknowledge it, that's kind of what the real trauma process, trauma healing process is about. And once you own it, it's very different. Things can't get to you the same way. Now, I'm speaking in like riddles and metaphors here. So, so I want to be careful because I'm a scientist, I believe in biology. But I think that hopefully conversations like these will start to open up the, the thought and maybe in the dialogue around this because I think the mental health community, but really the general public needs to start thinking about this.

• 2:24:01Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 2:24:01Andrew D. Huberman?

  In a real way, because the numbers, as you mentioned, the SEAL teams and other special operations communities are staggering, but it's growing. I mean, and on and on. And I don't believe anyone is completely immune, just given the, the examples. These are people who had quote unquote, everything going for them and then some. So God willing, this will have some positive impact.

• 2:24:23Speaker 00

  I think it's important that somebody like yourself as a scientist is open to other non-scientific answers or possibilities at least, because we clearly don't have it figured all out yet. And I'm not a scientist, but I'm pretty sure scientists don't know everything, regardless of how some of them might like to tell you that they do.

• 2:24:45Andrew D. Huberman?

  Definitely do not know everything.

• 2:24:47Speaker 00

  And if we don't know everything, maybe let's just keep it open to possibilities because in that journey, hopefully one day we will figure out everything. But if we lose a bunch of people along the way because we were unwilling to at least even table a conversation about something maybe outside of the science realm, I don't think it's worth knowing everything.

• 2:25:06Andrew D. Huberman?

  I think that our, we were talking about dogs before. I think our species is a remarkable species, technology development. I think that we have incredible capacity for, for goodness. And I think we also should finally acknowledge after many thousands of years that we have a hardwired failure to understand ourselves that.

• 2:25:28Andrew D. Huberman?

  The answers are just not going to come from us. This is where I sit now. I don't want to sound too dogmatic about this. Like, it's just obvious. Like, you wouldn't expect 50,000 Dachshunds to come up with, uh, well, maybe they could come up with a supercomputer, but, you know.

• 2:25:42Speaker 00

  I'm in on this experiment so far. Do you know anybody who'd be willing to back us?

• 2:25:46Andrew D. Huberman?

  In this day and age, I probably do. But it's just so, you know, we tend to think that because we are the curators of the Earth, we are the ones that control the technology. All that is true, that we're sort of above our own bullshit, and we're not.

• 2:26:00Speaker 00

  No.

• 2:26:00Andrew D. Huberman?

  And so the big revelation for me was like, oh, maybe we shouldn't look to ourselves, certainly, or even other humans, or even groups of humans, or the technologies we create, or that combination for every answer. I do think gene therapies are going to cure a lot of diseases. I think that AI actually is going to be of great benefit, et cetera, et cetera. It's got its issues, but we'll navigate that. But when it comes to how somebody like Dave could be literally, take his own life, I think the implementation of the solutions will have to come from humans, but that really understanding the root of the problem is not going to come from a strictly scientific, psychological understanding. This is just my belief.

• 2:26:41Speaker 00

  I think it's okay. I think I like that type of malleable willingness to accept other options, much more than I like the dogmatic, rigid, you're not going to do anything other than it's either this way or the highway.

• 2:26:54Andrew D. Huberman?

  I feel comfortable sharing this. Let's just say that I knew someone very well, I still know him, fortunately, he's still alive in your community, who was in a really challenging place. And the only language, I heard someone else speak to him, unfortunately, he's still around, they said something to him, to the words of like, "Your goggles are foggy, so you can't trust anything you think or see about yourself for the next six months. You only can trust these three people."

• 2:27:20Speaker 00

  It's not a bad approach.

• 2:27:21Andrew D. Huberman?

  And he said, "Okay."

• 2:27:24Andrew D. Huberman?

  And he's like, you cannot do that. It's as if you're, you're, you're wearing prism glasses. It's kind of what I jumped in with, borrowed that from a neuroscience experiment.

• 2:27:32Speaker 00

  The DUI glasses is a better analogy for this community.

• 2:27:34Andrew D. Huberman?

  You're grasping for the mug here, but it's actually right here.

• 2:27:37Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 2:27:37Andrew D. Huberman?

  And if you can just accept the fact that your, your optics are off, your thinking is off, you cannot trust it. And, and the reason that resonated with me and got me thinking about the other thing I just said is the, I, I think that we all have this innate desire to not be controlled. And I think that, I'm not going to do the if only game, could've, would've, should've, but if people as, as hard driving as like team guys or just anybody, we're told, listen, that what you feel, it actually is not coming from you. You're being controlled. That can set up a resilience. It can, I do think you can trigger that anterior mid-singulate cortex. And it's like, instead of fuck me, or fuck all that, all these other people, it becomes, no, you can just start to, like, you can start to resist these forces.

• 2:28:22Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 2:28:22Andrew D. Huberman?

  And I, I do think there's something there. So I don't think science alone is going to cure suicidality or psychology alone. I don't think it'll come in the form of a pill. Again, I think the implementation will be very much of the human world. But I think that the, um, the core understanding about what's happening in those moments is going to come from accepting a, a bigger picture. And I think it's obvious what I'm talking about here. And hey, why not?

• 2:28:46Speaker 00

  It's a, it's a deep topic, man. It's a tough one. I know everybody wants easy solutions. I just don't think there is one on that topic. It's a painful, long road.

• 2:28:57Andrew D. Huberman?

  Bringing it to the everyday life.

• 2:28:59Speaker 00

  Mm-hmm.

• 2:29:00Andrew D. Huberman?

  I was imagining if I was like a, I don't know, 20 year old, or 30 year old, or 40, or 50 year old.

• 2:29:06Speaker 00

  Do you ever think you'd be 50?

• 2:29:07Andrew D. Huberman?

  And I said, oh, actually, you know what? My 50th birthday, I was like, Joe Strummer, one of my heroes, died at 50. My graduate advisor, dead at 50. Like, a lot of friends, even though I wasn't in the military, dead early. Like, I felt really lucky to make it to 50. And, uh, I feel very excited about what's to come, but I'm mindful. Of everything we just talked about.

• 2:29:27Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 2:29:27Andrew D. Huberman?

  You know, um, but no, I never, never did. But the fifth floor is awesome because Kelly Starrett described it to me best. He, he said, listen, when you're in your forties and you're like in good shape and your life is together, you're like, yeah, like you're doing okay relative to your peers. The moment you hit 50, like you're like, all right, I'm doing great. And he said, but you have to be very careful because that's like comparing yourself to people who are really slacking. So you gotta triple down, Huberman. He goes, don't come off the gas pedal. So.

• 2:29:51Speaker 00

  Oh, Kelly Starrett.

• 2:29:52Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah. I can imagine that many people are thinking, okay, give me the program. I know you're anti hacks. I am too, but what would that look like? What can they do? Start with the bed. So wake, wake up in the morning. Let's, let's walk through it.

• 2:30:06Speaker 00

  Yeah, the bed, do the bed. Don't do the bed. I would say start as early as you can with some semblance of a discipline act. If you don't want to do the bed, drink, drink a 16 ounce glass of water in the morning before you have a cup of coffee. Not many people enjoy doing that, uh, especially if it's not flavored with something. But I tell you what, I implemented that and it's kind of amazing how much better you feel when you hydrate a little bit after you sleep with your mouth taped, of course, on your sleep metrics. Cause you have to have a competition with your wife on who's winning the sleep score. Not a big deal. And I hate being prescriptive. And so just broadly, I tell people to pick the choice as often as possible. That is slightly more difficult.

• 2:30:48Speaker 00

  And the reason why the bed doesn't work for some people is that you have somebody you care about deeply still sleeping on the other side. And maybe your day starts at a time where they're not ready to get out of bed, right? So you don't want to negatively impact somebody else's life. So you can have this. I have to do this to get started. To me, it's the small stuff that nobody sees that makes the biggest difference in the world. It's the choice to have the water before your coffee. It's the choice to, the night before you go to bed, if you're, you know, you're going to have a busy day.

• 2:31:16Speaker 00

  Meal prep, or if you're going to have a breakfast that is other than ready to eat or complicated, do all the prep work beforehand. So it makes it, you know what I mean? It's just the small things that nobody, oh, great. Posting on Instagram. Look, I'm cutting up asparagus so I can put into my omelet. But in the next morning, when it's ready to go and you actually have a healthy breakfast over something far less healthy, the difference in your life and the difference in your energy and your thought process and all those things continue to build. I try to get people or advocate sweat or get as close to sweat as you can once a day. For some people, that's just getting off the couch and walking around. And I get it. I have limited time, just like everybody else does. If I push my physical exertion until later in the day, I am far more likely to push it off until the next day. So I try to bring it a little bit earlier into my day.

• 2:32:01Speaker 00

  The jujitsu training for me usually occurs around midday. So that's a nice setup. And that's based off a class schedule, not my own creation. Are you working out early day as well? Uh, I will either do jujitsu or workout. I generally don't do both. As I'm getting older as well, I see the utility in both and the lack of utility in doing both very hard in the same day. Because, man, you can augur yourself in with a little bit too much. So I'll do one of the other. But also sweat could be, and again, that's, I mean, they can get as far out there as you want. It could be sitting in the sauna for 30 minutes. If that's all you got and you don't have, you know what I mean? Figure it out. Which in your case is an ice bath. Well, I mean, 80, yeah. Set the sauna to 105, which is the perfect temperature for a sauna.

• 2:32:45Speaker 00

  Easy. I mean, you could put one in the other. You could. Ice bath and sauna. How much research has been done on that, Andrew? Not enough, you know? We could create the world's first ice bath sauna. I don't think it's gonna sell. We'll call it the stump. It's not gonna sell. It's not gonna sell. Yeah, it would just be at 90 degrees for both of them, which I think actually would be perfect and delightful. Everybody knows the harder choice versus the easier choice. Everybody, to include myself, will look externally and say, what do I need to do? I know what I need to do. And so do they. They need to do the thing, then even if it's microscopic, that they want to do less more often than they do the thing that they want to do more.

• 2:33:30Speaker 00

  It's the, and I know that's broad and I know people want more of a prescription than that. But that over time. Is the juice.

• 2:33:38Andrew D. Huberman?

  What I like about it so much is that it transcends circumstances and it transcends the kind of moment to moment. So there's always an opportunity to do something slightly harder. And then you find yourself in that friction point, that laziness point of like, I'll do this later, or, you know, like, leave that dish in the sink and, you know.

• 2:33:55Speaker 00

  How many times you realize, oh, shit, I gotta go. You got a coffee cup in your hand, finish it off, and the sink's right there and so is the dishwasher. This is a perfect example, easy one, put it in the sink, which you have to deal with later. Crack the dishwasher open, put the thing in there, close it up and be on your way. That is an example, to me, of a small victory. That's making the slightly harder choice. Is that in and of itself going to change your life? No. But what if you make that choice 100 times in your day? You're telling me it's going to look the same as it did yesterday? No way in hell. No way in hell. Pair that out over a week, over a month, over a year. Your life's not going to look the same.

• 2:34:32Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah, I think the, the social pressure to not do that stuff is the new counteracting pressure and the draw to, to the phone and all these things. But, look, it's just all more opportunities to grow your anterior mid-singulate cortex.

• 2:34:45Speaker 00

  Without somebody sticking, I'm assuming, a thing in your head. That doesn't sound fun.

• 2:34:50Andrew D. Huberman?

  The funny thing about neurosurgeons is they'll tell you, well, listen, after we make the little hole in your skull, they literally say this, one of my best friends from childhood is the chair of neurosurgery at UCSF, and he'll tell you, look, you know, yeah, we make the hole, like, we do the thing, but then we put a titanium plate in there afterwards, and that's actually better than a skull, because it can protect your brain even better.

• 2:35:07Speaker 00

  Maybe on that one little tiny area.

• 2:35:10Andrew D. Huberman?

  People, actually, if you look this up, there are people who have, you know, these big pieces of titanium plate. Anyway, fortunately, the wing suiting thing, you close shop with that early enough that you don't need those things. Which brings me to the, the final question, although there might be one more. What are you super excited about these days?

• 2:35:26Speaker 00

  So of all the things I do now? And for people who are unfamiliar with me, I own a coffee shop. Black Rifle. Black, I own a Black Rifle Coffee Shop in Kalispell, Montana. Very good friends with the founder. He allowed me to open up the first one in Montana. I host a podcast. I travel the world with my wife. She's coaching. I do not coach jujitsu. I participate in jujitsu. Please don't ask me for jujitsu advice because I'm going to tell you I'm not a coach. Go talk to somebody who does this profession. You roll with her? Yes. If you can beat your spouse, don't. That's going to save people a lot of pain and suffering right there. It's not worth it. I have beat my wife one time. And for clarity, before somebody clips this, I am talking in the context of a jujitsu.

• 2:36:11Speaker 00

  As that was coming out, I'm like, oh no.

• 2:36:15Speaker 00

  In a jujitsu, consensual jujitsu exchange, I have submitted my wife one time.

• 2:36:23Speaker 00

  And

• 2:36:25Speaker 00

  the visual of our eye contact, I should have realized before finishing the submission, what the potential long-term consequences would be. I did not. And let me be the test subject for anybody else out there who trains with their significant other. Just drill, just drill. Let them assume a dominant position. And if they beat you, great. Take my advice for that. So jujitsu, coffee, podcast. I guess I can say I'm an author now. I have no plans for a second book. I had no plans for a Fush book, but here we are. All of those things. If you had given me an unlimited amount of time for a month when I was getting out of the SEAL teams and had said, here's

• 2:37:11Speaker 00

  a bunch of legal paperwork, like legal notebooks and a pen, as many as you want, write down anything that you think you could possibly be doing when you get out. Not a single thing that I am doing right now would have been on that list. Couldn't even have fathomed it. I worked for a strength and conditioning company for a while. And doing that, I started being the pilot for the owner of that company, which led me to doing part 135 charter operations, flying jets, which I did that for a little bit. And then I was a professional skydiver and base jumper for years. I got into the public speaking world, moved to Montana, then got into the coffee shop stuff. And I lost complete and utter sense of what the hell I wanted to do with my life somewhere in that mix.

• 2:37:53Speaker 00

  And what I'm actually the most excited about now is that I have absolutely no idea what I want to do next. And I am old enough to realize that I don't have to like white knuckle it, that it's going to present itself, because that has been the case in my life up to this point. So, you know, money's a great thing. I only want to make enough money so I can say no to things. That's my favorite, most powerful word. Yes, the addition and subtraction, as the older I get, subtraction is way more powerful.

• 2:38:27Andrew D. Huberman?

  Are you good at saying no?

• 2:38:28Speaker 00

  No.

• 2:38:31Speaker 00

  It can be hard. It depends. Because if the question comes from a pure business aspect, my litmus test is, do I naturally do this in my life? And would I actually enjoy this regardless of the check? If either of those is no, it's an easy no. Tougher ones are friends, family, hey, do you want to do this? That gets a little bit tougher because it's a little bit of a mix of personal and professional. But I am at a place where I know that I have the tools that I will be able to sort whatever comes my way. And by relaxing a little bit and white knuckling it less, and not having a specific target that I'm throwing darts

• 2:39:08Speaker 00

  at, it has actually provided more opportunities for me than anything else. So, yeah, I wish I could give you a specific answer, but truly, the realization that I know I'm prepared for whatever comes next is actually what I'm the most excited about.

• 2:39:27Andrew D. Huberman?

  Very cool. I can sense your excitement about the uncertainty about exactly what it will be, but the certainty that you've got a process that's now well worked out within you that just emerges and that it's going to happen.

• 2:39:40Speaker 00

  You know, when I first got out of the military, it was almost crisis mode. I was working for this strength and conditioning company as my initial bridge out, and I'd been doing so on the weekends, moonlighting. So I had from an economic off-ramp, I went from making what I was making in the military to what I was making for that company, there was a slight increase as opposed to a decrease, which is great. Until that ended 16 months later, when I quit without having another job lined up whatsoever, and then went into the garage and started selling things on Craigslist, which is a really good way to meet really weird people. If you haven't tried it, give it a, give it a go. Maybe meet them away from your house, you know, them down the street somewhere. But it was for years, am I going to have enough money to pay the bills? Am I going to have enough money for the mortgage?

• 2:40:25Speaker 00

  What am I going to do? What am I going to do if somebody doesn't reach out with an opportunity? Built a, I would say more, I mean, I was going to say a tool, a toolkit or a skillset, but it's more a mentality than anything to realize that you can solve what does come out and you can kind of build on your, you know, your foundation of the work that you have done and that can slowly build out over time. It takes time. This is not something that happened in a matter of one year. This is well over a decade at this point. But getting out of that survival mode and just having the ability to assess opportunities from a place of, do I even want to do this? As opposed to a place of, I feel like I have to. Man, you want to talk about a sleep score difference.

• 2:41:07Andrew D. Huberman?

  Totally. Can relate, can relate. Oh, it's, it's a world apart.

• 2:41:13Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 2:41:14Andrew D. Huberman?

  And you've earned it.

• 2:41:15Speaker 00

  But it takes time and that's what people don't want to see. It's the overnight 10 year success, which again, I'm sure you could point to somebody who has that. Does that scale broadly?

• 2:41:26Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah. And it doesn't last. I don't know anyone that came up quick and it just had like a step function where it's still going. It's.

• 2:41:33Speaker 00

  Or continued on the, the vertical forever.

• 2:41:35Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah.

• 2:41:36Speaker 00

  Yeah. And again, it's an outlier. Cool. Totally get it. And two thumbs up for that person. But for everybody who thinks they're going to replicate that, even by doing exactly the same things, hasn't been my experience.

• 2:41:47Andrew D. Huberman?

  Last question. You talk about the price of success.

• 2:41:51Speaker 00

  Mm hmm.

• 2:41:52Andrew D. Huberman?

  And just acknowledging it. Wouldn't want to scare anyone out of going after their dreams.

• 2:41:58Speaker 00

  I would. That's what I'm here for.

• 2:42:01Andrew D. Huberman?

  Either short term or long term dreams, because I'm like a, you know, pick the target and go after it. You know, you know, I think five year, five year increments are really good. That's anyway, that's just my bias, but there is a price. Yeah, I could list off the number of things I missed or didn't do or failed or whatever. You certainly talk about some of those and they can go from, you know, the many small things that one can miss out on that it, you know, in total are turn out to be bigger things. And then there are like key moments that, you know, people miss and maybe let's just get your thoughts on gauging the price of success. Should people have a sense of what their line is before they, you know, jump into the, you know, the line of pursuit for their goal?

• 2:42:46Andrew D. Huberman?

  Or do you think it's just something that, you know, you just got to learn by experience?

• 2:42:50Speaker 00

  I think until you learn through at least a little bit of experience, it's hard to gauge where your line is. Because for a while, you just don't know what you don't know. And maybe we live in a, in a world where information is more accessible and so people can figure it out. Like my middle son is an example. It was fascinating watching my kids use the internet to bridge gaps in knowledge. Going on to you, my middle son specifically started two businesses when he was in high school. He started a window cleaning company called Peeping Tom's Windows. Which, but by the way, I came up with both of these names. That was the only marketing help I had. And he had a Christmas light company that was called Epstein's Lights, because they're not going to hang themselves.

• 2:43:32Speaker 00

  Right? Again, I came up with the names. He had to go door to door. But everything to include LLCs, equipment, it's YouTube. How do you, how do you start an LLC? How do you get a business license? How do you get insurance for a window cleaning company? So.

• 2:43:52Speaker 00

  I think when you and I were growing up, you were kind of out there smacking your head against the wall a little bit, unless you could find somebody who was exactly in that profession. So when I was in high school wanting to be a team guy, I didn't know any team guys. I mean, I knew Charlie Sheen, but who didn't, right? Documentary movie who probably inspired thousands of people to join the military. And then they get there like, oh, this is all made up, damn it. Except for the opening scene where he shitfaced wakes up in the ocean, relatively accurate. Beyond that, though, don't take that movie seriously. You're not jumping off your Jeep over the bridge in, you know, Chesapeake to get to work. I didn't actually run into a SEAL to get beta from until I was in the military. So I didn't even have access to that.

• 2:44:36Speaker 00

  There are, I mean, I saw this when I was instructor, there are websites that list every single day of training with relative accuracy to everything you're going to do that day, which actually the instructors were pissed about. And then I realized, oh, that's a good thing. That plays to our favor.

• 2:44:51Andrew D. Huberman?

  Hmm. Because you were an instructor.

• 2:44:53Speaker 00

  I was an instructor. You can then remind them how much time they have left. You can play the time game in reverse with them. But again, growing up, I, I didn't have a real good place to get this information where my kids do now. So I think that there's an opportunity, if you smartly use these tools, that you can maybe learn a little bit more and at least get access to some of the mistakes or just the, the mistakes that you would naturally make because you just didn't know. Like you probably could do a window cleaning business, but you might get in trouble from the city because a year into it, you didn't realize you needed to have a business license. Like, okay, you could skip that because you could go to the internet and find out what you need and the requirements and all that stuff.

• 2:45:35Speaker 00

  I, much like you, I don't ever want to tell people that they shouldn't pursue their goals, both short term and long term.

• 2:45:45Speaker 00

  But I am now of the opinion, as I get older, that I would rather have people arrive a little bit under this massive lifetime goal

• 2:45:57Speaker 00

  and be a really happy, really fulfilled, really enriched person than somebody who carves out everything from their life, life experiences, social experiences, family experiences, holidays, and they get exactly what it is that they wanted and they have nothing. Because I think both you and I know people who, from the outside, oh my God, the money, the fame, the fill in the blank, they're not that happy. But they have everything that they wanted and they have nothing. That sounds like hell. I'd rather have people fall a little bit short of that and be really happy about where they are. But it's tough. I mean, how can you be prescriptive with that?

• 2:46:42Speaker 00

  How do you say, aim for your goal, Andrew, but just a little bit short? That's a shitty fortune cookie, you know? Try hard, but leave some for yourself.

• 2:46:54Andrew D. Huberman?

  It is a tough one. And if people at sort of top 1% of their careers were willing to open the veil on their lives and show what Christmas Day looks like for them, or what New Year's Day looks like for them, or a typical Friday evening looks like for them, you know, a lot of people would probably rethink their goals.

• 2:47:15Speaker 00

  I think it would shock a lot of people. And again, I don't consider my, the people we're talking about, I mean, these are publicly facing people, you could look at them and think that it's perfection. And we have a little bit of social circle overlap, and I've rubbed elbows with a couple of these people and kind of leave with the perception of, man, you have everything, but at what cost? I just don't think it's worth it.

• 2:47:42Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah, I don't think it's worth it either. And it sort of brings us to elements of our prior conversation about when things really drop into the trench for certain people who are, you know, at least from the outside, doing incredible in their professions or their craft. I think there is a place to find balance on the whole. Maybe it's like first 50 years, you just, you know, I'm talking to myself, right? You just grind it out and then you go, okay, cool. Like the, you know, someone said it, I didn't say this, I think it was Naval that said this, like you, you know, one of the reasons to win the game is so you can stop playing the game. So you have to sort of define what winning the game is. And that's different for different things. But that portion of your book really got me thinking.

• 2:48:21Speaker 00

  Well, money is an interesting aspect. More seems to be the number of people are after, more than a number. And I don't know what that looks like, because with your number is never enough, and you're constantly seeking, and you never get to enjoy what you have via an experience, as opposed to a thing that you're not going to get to take with you anyway, doesn't more end up netting you less?

• 2:48:44Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah, Morgan Housel has a, he has a couple of really good books. I actually like the second one more. They're both excellent. But the second one is called The Art of Spending Money, which sounds like, you know, you're the rich guy telling people how to spend their money. Very interesting book, mostly psychological, about how to really assess what's, what things are worth to you, both in terms of what it takes to get the resources, and then when to use them. And, I mean, I will say, you know, all the, there's a lot of data saying that, you know, you don't pass, it used to be like $70,000 a year. Now I think it's scaled up with inflation, you know, past a certain amount of money, people aren't happier. I disagree. I actually think that money cannot buy happiness, but it certainly can buffer certain kinds of stress.

• 2:49:25Speaker 00

  I agree.

• 2:49:26Andrew D. Huberman?

  Not all forms. I know some very wealthy people, they used to fund my lab for studies on optic nerve repair, who had kids with diseases that were blinding disease. I'll tell you, you have billions of dollars in the bank.

• 2:49:40Andrew D. Huberman?

  They're putting money to try and heal that pain and solve the problem. Fortunately for their kid and many others, that's the fortunately part is that they're willing to do that.

• 2:49:49Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 2:49:50Andrew D. Huberman?

  But money can solve certain problems, not others, but it can buffer stress, certain forms of stress. And I think that's not, that's just the honest truth.

• 2:50:00Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 2:50:00Andrew D. Huberman?

  It can buy connection of a real kind and it can undermine.

• 2:50:04Speaker 00

  I was gonna say at a certain level of money, I've seen it undermine the connection because the person becomes wary of why does this person want to have a connection with me in the first place? And they're, they didn't come that way. They got taken advantage of enough times that they developed that thought process.

• 2:50:19Andrew D. Huberman?

  You know, it's a whole other conversation, but money is a certain form of energy. And when people have a lot of it, it tends to attract people who want to, I don't want to say steal, but they, they feel like some, they're entitled to some of that energy. At the end of the day, I, I think if everyone could define what enough for themselves is, maybe with, that includes a buffer. Like, cause they grew up with a lot of financial fear or something. They need enough plus a little bit more, just in case kind of thing. I know people like that. Past that, I, I don't think there's anything more to be gained in terms of wellbeing or life experiences.

• 2:50:50Speaker 00

  I do agree with the stress. I mean, if you can get to a place where you could outsource food or menial tasks that will give you more time to do the things that you are enriched by, yes, it 100% can help with that. But, you know, the example you said, you know, a billionaire who probably feels helpless. What? You know, like those two things shouldn't go together in a sentence, but that's the reality. No amount of money is going to make that person not feel helpless, especially when they're touched by that particular situation in their life. May not be the end all be all that people think it is.

• 2:51:23Andrew D. Huberman?

  Well, Andy, loved the book. I know I've said that many times, so I don't want to diminish from that statement by saying it too many times, but it's an awesome book.

• 2:51:32Speaker 00

  Thank you.

• 2:51:32Andrew D. Huberman?

  Really has changed my life for the better. I've been recommending it like crazy. I was in New York last week giving a talk to this group, raising money for a different laboratory. And they said, you know, what's, what's the difference between people who are like 11th to 100th in their profession versus the top 10? And I said, well, so much of it is about how they allocate their energy. And I found this tool recently in, you know, Andy's book and, you know, I've been talking about the book like crazy because of the practical value that it has and also the potency of the of the true life examples that you give that really extend to everybody. I know we talked a lot about teams and guys and stuff and everything in there really is a benefit, I say this with certainty, to men, women, boys, girls,

• 2:52:16Andrew D. Huberman?

  young and old, so much value there. You're clearly a get after it kind of person. You're also clearly very reflective and whatever friction it took to write portions of that book and get it out there, I'm just very grateful that you did. It's a real asset. And I'm also very grateful you came here today to to share. We finally linked up. And we finally linked up. I have to say, Montana is my favorite state in the entire country and maybe my favorite place in the entire world. Many years ago, I dreamed of living there and I love hiking in Glacier. And yes, they do have real bears there, not like in Yosemite where they have bears, but not the kind of bears that will hunt you. So, wear your bear bell. Story for another time. Grizz actually got somebody not too long ago. Oh, really? Yeah, in Glacier.

• 2:52:56Andrew D. Huberman?

  Yeah, wear your bear bell. Hang your food, wear your bear bell. But, listen, man, you're doing amazing work and we'll put links to all the things mentioned, but thanks so much. Let's do it again. Thank you. I appreciate it. Thank you for joining me for today's discussion with Andy Stumpf. To find links to his book, Drown Proof, which again, I highly recommend everybody read or listen to, as well as to find links to his work and to his podcast, please see the links in the show note caption. If you're learning from and or enjoying this podcast, please subscribe to our YouTube channel. That's a terrific, zero cost way to support us. In addition, please follow the podcast by clicking the follow button on both Spotify and Apple. And on both Spotify and Apple, you can leave us up to a five star review.

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• 2:55:27Andrew D. Huberman?

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