1080 How to Master The Law of Attraction (5 Steps To Achieving Anything You Want)

Today you will learn how to master the law of attraction so you can achieve anything you want in life! For more go to: www.lewishowes.com/1080Joe Dispenza’s full episodes: www.lewishowes.com/1054 & www.lewishowes.com/1055 Rhonda Byrne’s full episode: www.lewishowes.com/1037Sadhguru’s full episode: www.lewishowes.com/965John Assaraf’s full episode: www.lewishowes.com/400 Gabby Bernstein’s full episode: www.lewishowes.com/865 Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

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• 0:00Lewis Howes?

  This is episode number 1,080 on how to master the law of attraction. Welcome to the School of Greatness. My name is Lewis Howes, former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur. And each week we bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin.

• 0:29Lewis Howes?

  The Buddha said, "What you think you become, what you feel you attract, what you imagine you create." And Napoleon Hill said, "Set your mind on a definite goal and observe how quickly the world stands aside to let you pass." Today's episode is a special one, and if you've been a listener of the show for a while, then you may have realized that we have not posted a Five Minute Friday in the last couple of weeks. And I'm working on a very special project for those who love that short motivational bite sized format. And I'll be coming out with something soon with this new project, about Five Minute Fridays. But in the meantime, this day is going to be reserved for more long form, powerful, mind blowing content.

• 1:12Lewis Howes?

  And this week is all about the law of attraction and manifesting success in your life. And today I'm going to bring you some of my favorite moments about creating abundance and achieving anything you want in life. And for me, this is something I've been practicing since I was a very young kid, whether it be in sports and relationships and business and really just attracting the things that I want in my life, whether it be meeting the right people. I always seem to be able to show up in the right places and meet the right person who then unlocks something for me for a goal and a dream that I have. And there is power around your thoughts, your intentions and your actions that lead into accomplishing your goals. And I want to break it down for you in this process.

• 1:57Lewis Howes?

  Today we have Dr. Joe Dispenza, who's going to share how to take back your energy and attract a better life for yourself. We have Rhonda Byrne, who's the creator of The Secret, who shares how to overcome all of your challenges. in life. Sadhguru shares how to deal with your negative emotions that might hold you back. John Assaraf shares the key to manifesting and achieving success. And Gabby Bernstein shares how to get rid of the fears that are holding you back. Now, if you're enjoying this in any moment, make sure to share this with a friend that you think would be inspired. You can just text them, post it on social media. And a reminder, if this is your first time here, click that subscribe button over on Apple Podcasts right now to be subscribed to the School of Greatness, as well as give us a rating and review.

• 2:39Lewis Howes?

  And let us know what you enjoyed most about this at the end of this episode. Okay, in just a moment, let's learn how to attract and create the life you've been dreaming of.

• 2:51Lewis Howes?

  In this first section, Dr. Joe Dispenza shares how we can change our thoughts to take back our energy, to attract better relationships, success and peace for ourselves. I can never get enough of Dr. Joe's wisdom about unlocking the power of our mind.

• 3:09Joe Dispenza?

  The stronger the emotion you feel from some outer experience in your life, the more altered you feel, the more the brain freezes the frame and takes a snapshot. Well, now you're freezing a frame in the outer environment. But if you're truly in the present moment and you know exactly what you want, and you begin to teach your body emotions, start practicing opening that heart. It's amazing what happens. The moment that heart begins to open, we've measured this so many times, Lewis, on a scan, on a real time brain scan. When the heart moves into this kind of rhythm, when you're feeling frustration, when you're feeling impatient, when you're feeling resentment, you are stepping on the gas pedal

• 3:51Joe Dispenza?

  and you're stepping on the brake at the same time, and the heart is pumping against a closed system and it causes an erratic beat, it becomes incoherent. And energy literally leaves the heart. Now, you no longer believe in your future. You can't put your heart into your future. You can't trust the outcome because there's no energy there. It's, it's being used and consumed somewhere else. So, energy is leaving the brain as well. But once energy starts to move into the heart, we've seen this so many times, and it starts to beat in this rhythm, like banging a drum or dropping a pebble in water, pebble after pebble. The heart begins to create a wave of energy right to the brain, like, like taking a big sheet. And going like that. And then all of a sudden, you see this wave. Wow. And the brain gets this rush of energy.

• 4:36Joe Dispenza?

  And that change in brain wave patterns, that change, that wave is carrying information. And the person starts to get a very clear idea. They see their future very clearly. Now, that energy is causing them to move into very coherent alpha brain wave patterns, which is the state of creation. This is when you no longer hear the voice in your head that's talking to you, that you listen to and believe is the truth. I'm not good enough. Yeah, whatever that is. Those are, that's called the default mode. It suppresses the default mode network. And the next thing you know, you start seeing in pictures, in images. You start dreaming. And that's the imagination. That's the creative state. So now, you start naturally imagining the heart is the creative center. We've got to put our heart into our future.

• 5:20Joe Dispenza?

  It better be open and activated. So now, when you start falling in love with your future, oxytocin is released in the brain and in the heart. Oxytocin signals nitric oxide. Nitric oxide signals another chemical called endothelial-derived relaxing factor. And just like when your sexual organs get filled with blood because you're aroused, the same thing happens here as it would happen somewhere else. And literally, the arteries in the heart and lungs engorge. And now, your heart feels full, and it's thumping in order. And you're in the present moment. Now, once that happens, and it's beating in rhythm, the heart produces an external magnetic field up to three meters wide. Now, in survival, you're drawing from the field

• 6:05Joe Dispenza?

  and turning into chemistry. When you get energy in the heart, it's causing a change in the brain. And all of a sudden, it's resetting the baseline for trauma. And now, here you have a magnetic field. Now, the heart is your magnet. It is, it is the center of creation. And now, that, that energy is frequency. And frequency carries information. And you can lay the thought of your new relationship on that energy because it's consistent with it. You cannot lay the thought of your new relationship in need. That's a different energy.

• 6:41Lewis Howes?

  What do you mean in need?

• 6:42Joe Dispenza?

  Well, if you're feeling...

• 6:42Lewis Howes?

  I'm needing someone to love me, my partner.

• 6:44Joe Dispenza?

  Yeah, of course, that's a different frequency. That's a different energy.

• 6:46Lewis Howes?

  What happens when you're in a need state as opposed to an attraction state?

• 6:50Joe Dispenza?

  Well, you're in lack. So now you're trying, you're grasping, you're controlling, you're forcing, you're trying to predict, you're overthinking, overanalyzing. And that's how people live their relationships. So then, if you are going to prepare your brain and body for a new relationship, then you would have to become love completely every day. And that signal then, that you're sending out into the field, can carry the thought of your health, your wealth, your relationship, or whatever. But here's the cool part. When the heart is activated like that, and you feel so whole, so in love with life,

• 7:28Joe Dispenza?

  so satisfied in the moment, so exuberant, that it's impossible to want. Now you're no longer in lack. Now you're so whole that you will magnetize wholeness in your life. The person who's the person that fits the mold energetically, that would be the same as you and yet complement you, so that the two can become one, right? And then, instead of in contrast, in union, you exchange information equal to that emotional state. In other words, people use each other to reaffirm their dependence on certain emotions. You have certain people you complain with about politics or whatever.

• 8:10Joe Dispenza?

  They complain back about their lives and you use each other to reaffirm, you know, some type of...

• 8:16Lewis Howes?

  Belief or something.

• 8:17Joe Dispenza?

  Belief about life emotionally. You have emotional agreements on things. Well, that emotion is energy, and energy is frequency. And frequency carries information. So you share the same energy, you share the same information. But that's what people do in their lives. But now, in a true loving relationship... When you're truly in your heart, then the question is, what would love do in the relationship? And when your heart is open, it's no longer about you. It's about how I feel so amazing with you. I feel even more amazing, but without you, I'm still whole. And so now I'm no longer in need or lack.

• 8:57Joe Dispenza?

  And so now, when we get together and our fields interfere, when they start interfering, now the amplitude gets way higher and there's way more energy. And now, I mean, I'm all about all seven centers of the body lining up, all of them. And we're here in a body, let's enjoy it all, but come from love. And so now, your heart is so open that you can't do anything else but give. You feel so amazing, you're so happy with yourself, so happy with your life, so happy with what you have. You want other people to feel the same way. And you say, here, take that. And when you give now, guess what happens? You release more oxytocin, more nitric oxide, and more of those chemicals that cause the heart to swell even more.

• 9:40Joe Dispenza?

  Then all of a sudden, your immune system gets stronger. And all of a sudden, your body starts feeling better. You start having more energy. And now, the constructive interference between two people that are coming together in wholeness and no longer dependence, or lack, or separation, or need, is a different game. So then, what they do to protect, to nurture, to grow, to evolve that love is one of the most important things that they have. Not because they're doing it out of obligation, or because they're married, or whatever. It's just they can't not do it. We see people, we had somebody stand the other day in our workshop.

• 10:25Joe Dispenza?

  In profoundly high amounts of gamma, she can do it on command.

• 10:31Joe Dispenza?

  And there's an incredible arousal that takes place that goes along with these high brain frequencies that you can only describe as ecstasy or bliss. Now, you're getting that ecstasy and bliss not from anyone or anything out there. No drug, no person, no football game, no shopping spree is doing that. Somehow, it's coming from within. Like, what is that connection that you have? And so, one of the scientists said to this woman, "How do you do that?" You know what she said? "I have difficulty not doing it. I can't not do it when I'm in a relationship. When I'm doing this, it's too good." So now, that could be a constant feeling in your life.

• 11:16Joe Dispenza?

  So now... What, love? Independent of anyone or anything, it's coming from within you, okay? So, think about this. Whether you're in a relationship or single? It doesn't matter. Your whole, your love is not wavering, it's constant, right? So now, imagine having this feeling. And when oxytocin is released, what most people don't know is that it seeps into the amygdala. And there's certain survival emotions in the amygdala. Fear and anxiety, aggression and anger, pain and suffering. And it literally shuts the lights out and those circuits in the amygdala. And there's only one thing left, love and joy, right?

• 11:57Joe Dispenza?

  So, now this person is suppressing the survival centers, resetting the baseline of the past, how they perceive the past. And now, the research on oxytocin shows that when you have just a slight, slight level of increase, and ours, our research shows our students are way outside of normal, that it's impossible to hold a grudge. You know why? Because the feeling feels so good, why would you judge another person? Or why would you react to some condition and lose that feeling? You figure it out really fast. So, this birth of unconditional love really says, "I'm in love with myself, my connection to some divine intelligence within me."

• 12:42Joe Dispenza?

  And because I'm so in love with life and with myself, I'm looking at life through the lens of love, which means I'm gonna allow you to be whoever you want around me. I don't really, you, I'm no longer... Not a reaction. I'm not a reaction because I've overcome my fear. I've overcome my anger and now I'm ready for love. And now that relationship that you have, if you find that equal, that's a needle in a haystack because now it's a vibrational match. Right. And so as long as you're evolving, as long as I'm evolving, as long as we're sharing the same ideals, as long as we're working together, as long as we have our independence and as long as we come together and we bring our best. And I say to you, how was your day?

• 13:27Joe Dispenza?

  I mean, what did you learn? Or, let's start our day. So how are you gonna be today? Come on, let's just support each other. So what are the programs you're gonna stay away from? Are you gonna rush? You know, what did you do yesterday that you wanna improve today? How can I support you? How can I love you in that? You wanna text at noon, what do you need? And then, how am I gonna be? Okay, tell me how you're gonna vocalize it, articulate it, so that now I understand your intention and I can support. That's good. And so then, when the person can articulate it, what are they doing? They're rehearsing in their minds who they're gonna be and so now they're becoming conscious of that future. And then they have to work on staying conscious of their unconscious programs and by articulating that, they're gonna not let those thoughts slip by as well.

• 14:12Joe Dispenza?

  So then, now you have two people in evolution. It's no longer about all the other things. It's not about the money. It's not about the sex. It's not about the weight. It's not about the diet. Those are all things that are, we already know. This is something else. This is a whole nother level where when you exchange and evolve on this level, it's the most important thing. Because now you see that person as a mirror. Oh my God, she did amazing. I'm in love with her. I admire her. Wow, she's got it going on. She executed today. She got her behaviors to match her intentions and I wanna celebrate. Her, like wow, I'm in awe.

• 14:55Joe Dispenza?

  That to me, you don't work on that. You work on you. Everybody works on themselves and then they bring their best. And if they're not at their best, excuse yourself and get back to your best. And if you tell me it's that person or that circumstance, we went back to the unconscious program of being a victim. Nothing wrong with that, nothing wrong with reacting. But the next question is, how long? I'm gonna stay in this mode. Right, or do you want help getting out? Right, so I think that when you start feeling those elevated emotions and your energy is synchronized, right? And it's, you got a wifi signal. Right. You got a signal. You're connected, you're 5G, you're connected. And you're connected, and what are you connected in?

• 15:37Joe Dispenza?

  In this sense of wholeness, this sense of love, this sense of joy, this satisfaction with yourself and your life. And when, I mean, I watch this, Louis. I mean, people come to our events for all kinds of reasons. Some people come for health, some people come for wealth, some people come for relationships. It's really funny, and they show up angry people. They're angry with themselves. When they're angry with themselves, they'll be impatient and angry with others. People who are unhappy with themselves will punish other people so that they can feel their unhappiness. Or is it to get their anger out, or is it why? No, because that's who they are. That's the emotion that's driving their behaviors. People who are in love with themselves will find love in others.

• 16:22Joe Dispenza?

  People who are happy with themselves will find something that they can connect with. They won't see all the flaws. They'll see some part of them that they want to enjoy. I mean, so if you're in a relationship and you've scrubbed the cupboard and you've taken out all those skeletons and you've looked at them and you said, I don't want to bring this into my relationship. I don't want my insecurity to be there. I don't want my fear to be there. I don't want my judgment to be there. I don't want my emotions from other relationships to be there. So let me finish this. In other words, if you want love in your life and your future, Then you better take care of your frustration because you can't bring that there.

• 17:04Joe Dispenza?

  You gotta leave it. So then, you may say to me, "Well, it's because that person and this emotion from 15 years ago, my ex, makes me feel frustrated." Well, let me tell you something. The only reason that you're thinking about your ex is because you're still in frustration. You overcome frustration. You'll look back at your ex and you'll be like, "I wish them well. I'm not connected to my past any longer." So, cleaning the cupboards and getting down to those thoughts that slip by people's awareness all the time, their behaviors, they complain, they make excuses, they say it'll never hap— what do they do? And the emotions that keep them connected to their past, they won't even see that person. They'll walk right past their future relationship. They'll never recognize

• 17:49Joe Dispenza?

  that person because they're looking at their future through the neurology and the chemistry of their past. And the brain only learns by— only—we only see reality based on pattern recognition. I memorized your face, now I know Louis, and if the pattern matches, I know. But if you're creating a future, and you're not clear on that future, and you want all these things, but you haven't addressed all those circuits and behaviors and emotions and chemicals of the past, you won't recognize the pattern. You'll walk right past the relationship. You'll never see it. So, I think that there's—the preparation for the relationship, the

• 18:30Joe Dispenza?

  overcoming, and overcoming, and overcoming, and overcoming, and overcoming, and becoming, all of a sudden now says, "I am worthy." And the universe only gives us what we think we're worthy of receiving. So, when you're worthy to receive, it's not going to be on match.com where you're looking at body parts and whatever else. This is going to be like ka-ching, like, wow, like, that came out of nowhere because when you're in survival.

• 19:01Joe Dispenza?

  And you're in separation, and you're in lack, and you're forcing and controlling and trying to predict outcomes. You're matter trying to change matter. And of course, it's going to take time for this to happen because you're creating a three-dimensional reality. And everything in three-dimensional reality takes time. But when you're creating from the heart, with a coherent brain and a coherent heart, and you've got that 5G Wi-Fi signal, it's not like you go anywhere now. The experiences are coming to... You're drawing the event to you. So we spend a lot of time bonding with our future emotionally. I have colleagues of mine who look at our data on oxytocin, and they're like,

• 19:44Joe Dispenza?

  "Listen, oxytocin levels go up during, you know, when I'm in a relationship, the honeymoon stage of a relationship, and a monogamy is created because of those chemicals, or a female mammal is bonding with their offspring." That's exactly right. I want our people, our students, to bond and fall in love with their future, just like they do with somebody else. And when you're bonded to your future, no person, no circumstance, no thing is going to remove you from it. So then, if you fall from grace during the day, then the next question is, "What person, what circumstance caused me to disconnect from my love in the future? And let me rehearse in my mind, if I have that same circumstance, how I'm going to overcome it." And now you're worthy of love.

• 20:28Joe Dispenza?

  It's no longer the person or the event. It's just you're doing what it takes to stay in the emotion of your future. Your body is aligned emotionally to that future. So, great doing it with a meditation, that's easy. But now, the real game is open your eyes. When what is happening is happening. Open your eyes and be in the initiation of life, and stay in that place, and just know that your future's going to happen.

• 20:55Joe Dispenza?

  Being able to activate the heart and breathe in there and get the body out of survival and start working with it like it feels safe enough to create. Once energy makes it here, you're going to get some really good ideas. You're gonna see things you never thought of seeing, you're gonna feel things you never thought you'd feel, and the images that you're creating, what are they doing? The thoughts that you're creating, they're making more of those chemicals. And now you're feeling more of the feeling of your future before it happens. You're giving your body a sampling, a taste of the future before it's happened. Keep doing that enough times, and that feeling is gonna become very familiar to you.

• 21:33Lewis Howes?

  In this section, Rhonda Byrne shares how we can use the law of attraction to overcome the challenges in your life. It was a privilege to sit down with Rhonda Byrne and learn more about our limiting beliefs and overcoming them. And I highly recommend you checking out our full interview, as she hasn't done many over the last decade, and it was a mind-blowing episode.

• 21:56Lewis Howes?

  Can you share what is the law of attraction? And is it possible that anyone can truly achieve what they want if they use it effectively? And also, part two of this question, what's the quickest way to hold you back from the law of attraction?

• 22:13Rhonda Byrne?

  So, one of the ways that I talk about the law of attraction or the secret is sort of in a different way from the way I used to speak about it, because I'm always looking, how can I make it even simpler? And, I mean, basically, that work talks about the power of the mind and the power of thought to create our physical world and material world. And then the greatest secret takes that to a whole new level, actually. And so then you really get to see that, oh my gosh, it's super easy. Create anything I want, like really so easy. Because if we have a belief, it's hard, then it's gonna be hard, you know?

• 22:54Rhonda Byrne?

  And so, and so it has everything to do with our mind and what we believe. And so if we believe a thought, it will manifest. End of story.

• 23:03Lewis Howes?

  So if we believe we are deserving of great love, then we will manifest. If we believe we are gonna be poor, we're gonna stay poor. If we believe we don't deserve something, then it's not gonna come to us.

• 23:15Rhonda Byrne?

  And you know, it's interesting because, because for all of us, you know, and we've been conditioned, you know? I mean, you were very fortunate because you, you had a childhood where you were, mind was opened and you were opened and your heart was opened. And that's the biggest, biggest thing is to open yourself to the possibility that everything isn't the way it appears to be. And so even if you can just open yourself to that possibility, just for a moment, you can pick up it all the next day. You can take it all with you the next day, that it's all real and everything that you're seeing. But if you just for a moment, open to the possibility that things might not be the way that you think they are,

• 24:00Rhonda Byrne?

  then you have the greatest opportunity to really discover something incredible. How incredible you are. So, so with the secret, yeah, I describe it really. And so I really simplify it and the law of attraction, because I would say to anybody, if you would just think about what you want, that's all you'd ever get in your life.

• 24:22Lewis Howes?

  It's as simple as that. But a lot of people, yeah. A lot of people think a lot of negative things consistently. It's on a loop that just holds them into this negative pattern. So how do we break that negative thought pattern?

• 24:35Rhonda Byrne?

  Right, so. So you, I mean, the mind is like a computer program. So and and the fact that it's on a negative loop is because we programmed it on a negative loop. But but you know, we could have been influenced when we were children and things like that. So um so one of the things that the mind loves is loves repetition. I mean, loves it. You know, if you really watch your thoughts, this is the same old thoughts over and over again, you know, it's just kind of dishing up the same old thing. So it loves repetition. So the way you can override a program is to put in the opposite, you know, and when you start out, you know, you feel like you're lying, you know, you'll say something like, you know, you might be really broke. Gee, I was when I was making The Secret. So um you you might not have

• 25:19Rhonda Byrne?

  any money and you're trying to instill, you know, wealth and prosperity and riches. And every time you say it, you feel a contraction in your body because you know you don't have it. But you know, truly, because I did it myself, after a while, you change it, you re you really begin to change it. And you don't quite have that contraction anymore. And then you start to see money coming in, you know, in in different ways. Um and and and and or you can be given things that you were going to buy, and now you don't have to buy it. Or so you begin to see, you start to see signs of land, you know, is one of the great, one of the great new thought thought writers would say, talk about a sign of land. So you start to see sign of land. Now, that's what I did in The

• 26:05Rhonda Byrne?

  Secret. You can do gratitude, that will turn everything around, that will make you feel good, that will get you off the negative round. But those negative thoughts are coming from beliefs held in the subconscious mind. Right. That's

• 26:20Lewis Howes?

  Where do the beliefs stem from for most of us?

• 26:22Rhonda Byrne?

  They stem mostly from our childhood, conditioning. Yeah, somebody's parents said something to us, we just swallowed it, pu klan and zinka. You know, we're like, right, that's a belief. And and so we take it in and and then we have all these beliefs that that and you can hear, you know, if you if you're talking to somebody like if if if somebody says, oh, I believe da da da da da, or because we say that all the time, or somebody says, I think da da da da da. Behind those two uh behind those two statements are going to be a belief. And so the really interesting thing, they're hard to spot because you believe they're true.

• 27:03Lewis Howes?

  They seem real, yeah.

• 27:04Rhonda Byrne?

  So you don't think, yeah, you don't think they're a belief, you think they're real, you know? And so that can be hard to spot. But if you start to listen to yourself, you know, I believe, or I think, or especially look at the things that you have a really strong opinion about. Because where you have a really strong opinion is a belief that's underneath that. So, so one of the things that in the latest book is that I show how to, um, show how to dissolve those, those beliefs and ju- just really by some of the things that I've just mentioned. And, uh, and, and you can dissolve them and you just feel free. Every time a belief goes out, you feel completely free.

• 27:48Rhonda Byrne?

  You know, it's an, it's amazing, amazing feeling to, you just feel as light as a feather. And actually you feel invincible.

• 27:55Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 27:55Rhonda Byrne?

  Because can you imagine, like if we have the, the, for example, the, uh, the feeling of doubt, right? Doubt and uncertainty. Now doubt and uncertainty play a big part in most people's lives and that can be paralyzing those two things. So just imagine living a life, zero doubt, zero uncertainty. I mean, incredible.

• 28:18Lewis Howes?

  How do we get to a place of not doubting ourselves?

• 28:21Rhonda Byrne?

  You can, because you need to know who you, you need to know who you are so that you don't doubt yourself because, because the one, the one that is doubting is the ego, the one that is doubting is the mind and it's not who we are. So then you've got to become very aware of your thoughts. That one that is doubting, the one, the negative thoughts, they're all coming from the ego, right? All of them. Because who you are would never have a negative thought ever, ever. Who you are would never judge, who you are doesn't have, who you are is allowing and accepting. And so you, so all of those things are coming from the ego and they are not who you are. And that voice in your head that you hear, that, that voice that's, you know, so familiar

• 29:04Rhonda Byrne?

  to you and seems to know an awful lot about you and sounds like you, that voice is not you. That voice is just a program.

• 29:14Lewis Howes?

  Hmm. What was the voice that was in your head consistently pre-secret that you had to overcome that belief? And then, and then what's been the, the program? Because I feel like every new evolution of us is going to be some type of thing to overcome. So has there been something you've had to overcome in the last 15 years post-secret to get to the next level?

• 29:37Rhonda Byrne?

  Definitely negative thoughts.

• 29:39Lewis Howes?

  Before, before the secret, you had a lot of negative thoughts?

• 29:42Rhonda Byrne?

  Oh heaps. I was like, I was like, everybody. I was just like, I was pointing out all the things that were wrong. And somehow I was kind of brought up, and I think a lot of us are that you're a good person if you, if you point out the things that are wrong, you know, you have to speak up and say, that's wrong. You know, that shouldn't be happening. And, and, and so I, I was kind of brought up with that too. And so that's brought up with judgment. And that does not help us at all. Judgment, we need to put it in the trash. Because that does, that does not belong with us. And the one who is judging is the ego. That's, it's the ego is judging. The

• 30:24Rhonda Byrne?

  one that has negative thoughts is the ego. So, so I had all of that going on. You know, I had doubt, I had uncertainty, I had feelings of unworthiness. I had heaps of stress. Oh my God. Heaps of stress.

• 30:38Lewis Howes?

  This is pre, pre the book.

• 30:40Rhonda Byrne?

  Pre-secret, yeah. Living on the edge, you know, I was like this with life, like white knuckles, you know? What's going to happen next? You know, something bad's going to happen and being really afraid. It's, you know, something's going to happen to somebody I love. Or, so, I mean, I live my life like that. And, and I think everybody does. And, and they just kind of keep it all squashed down, you know? And, but most people live their life that way. And, I mean, you know, in the last year, if you've been terrified, You know, in the last year and really fearful in the last year, you know, all of that fear has been given to you as this lovely gift. You know, when you were maybe a child and it's like, here's a whole lot of things to be fearful about.

• 31:24Rhonda Byrne?

  And and then we go through fear. And I mean, it's very easy to see that there's no pandemic that is fear, a fear based pandemic. Why do we know that? Because there are many people who are not afraid. And so if the pandemic was, you know, in the world was actually of a real fear um manifestation, then every single person on the planet would be fearful. And while there are a lot of people fearful, there are still a lot who are not. So that just shows you that the fear was already here with us, you know, before the pandemic came along.

• 32:03Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 32:03Rhonda Byrne?

  Yeah.

• 32:04Lewis Howes?

  What was the, what was the belief that you still had to overcome post secret? Because you you overcame a lot to be able to create something like that. There was this incredible movement. But then were there other negative beliefs that still held you back?

• 32:17Rhonda Byrne?

  Oh, yeah, the biggest one, the biggest one was that I was abundant. That was the biggest one.

• 32:23Lewis Howes?

  That was your limiting belief?

• 32:25Rhonda Byrne?

  Yeah, that that was the one I I had been brought up with. We can't afford it, we don't have enough, you know, and money would come into my hands. It would slip through my fingers, you know, things would break down. The universe would do all these things to get the money out of my hands. It would just like take it away. Yeah, because I had this belief that I did not have an abundant amount of money and that I was always in struggle and that came from my parents, bless them, you know, they are beautiful. Um, but that that came from them, you know, we can't afford it and all of those things. So I was brought up with that, as many of us are. So the the one, one that I had the biggest thing to overcome, the belief, the biggest thing to overcome was the belief in lack of money.

• 33:11Rhonda Byrne?

  And and I knew I needed to overcome that for The Secret to sweep the world.

• 33:17Lewis Howes?

  To be able to attract and bring you.

• 33:19Rhonda Byrne?

  Yeah, because if I didn't overcome that, how could it possibly?

• 33:24Lewis Howes?

  Why would money come to you then?

• 33:26Rhonda Byrne?

  Exactly.

• 33:26Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 33:27Rhonda Byrne?

  So I had to overcome it.

• 33:29Lewis Howes?

  How did you over how did you overcome that? I mean, how do you overcome the the fear of lack of the not having enough? Never, I'm not worthy of money. How do we finally transition into abundance?

• 33:41Rhonda Byrne?

  Hmm, I did that by many, many things. I tried many things. Uh, all kinds of, I was experimenting with it. So I mean, I would just walk down the street and say, there's prosperity, I'm breathing in prosperity. I'd do all these. Um, affirmations, you know, I'm breathing in prosperity with every breath I take. I am, my substance is prosperity. I am abundant. I am worthy, you know? And so I would say all these affirmations, I would have them all pinned up around the apartment that I was staying in. And so that I would see them and read them every day. So that was just one thing I did. Then what I would do, the biggest thing was because at the time I was in incredible debt.

• 34:24Rhonda Byrne?

  I was making The Secret and I just didn't have the money to make it.

• 34:29Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 34:29Rhonda Byrne?

  I started out two million dollars in debt, mind you, because of a whole lot of shows that went really wrong. And so.

• 34:37Lewis Howes?

  You were producing TV shows at the time.

• 34:39Rhonda Byrne?

  Yeah, I was. And so, I mean, two million dollars in debt makes it sound like I had a lot of money. I never had anything like that money. But we, these particular movies that we're making, they ran over budget. And so I started with two million dollars in debt. I remember I discovered The Secret and I went to my accountant and I said, you have to do whatever it takes to keep my company afloat. I'm gonna make something that's gonna change the world. I'm gonna make it, you keep my company going. And so, and and you know, and he just said, he just said, okay. And and so I took out, oh my gosh, I maxed every credit card I had to the limit.

• 35:17Rhonda Byrne?

  I I mortgaged my home to the absolute limit. I took overdrafts out on my company so I could make the documentary.

• 35:26Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 35:26Rhonda Byrne?

  And and so I had crushing debt coming in on me and I needed more money to keep making it. So it was a journey of absolute luck. You know, and and the luck was just an expression of what I'd been brought up with. So I had to turn that around. So one of the things I did, like the um, when I would go and get used to get, then you would get your bills or accounts in the mail, you know, it wasn't all online. And so I'd go to the mail.

• 35:58Rhonda Byrne?

  You know, and straight away, my stomach, my stomach would like. And if anybody's been in that situation, where you just don't have enough money and you've got all these bills, it's a horrible feeling, you know. And my, my whole body would contract and I would know that is attracting a lack of money. And that's not attracting abundance. So I used to do this thing whereby I would do gratitude and, and I would listen to music and I would do all of as many things as I could until I felt really, really good. And I would just say to myself, I am abundant and nothing would object, no thought would object. And I'm like, right. Now's the time to open the mail, right? I'm feeling really, really good. And so then I would open the, the, the bills.

• 36:44Rhonda Byrne?

  And I would look at each one as though it was a check. I would imagine it's a check, not a bill.

• 36:50Lewis Howes?

  So you played a game in your mind and you're like, okay, here's a hundred thousand dollar check.

• 36:55Rhonda Byrne?

  And I would go, wow, look at all the checks I've got today. And so I would do that, you know. And then I'd open them up and I'd be like, wow, a hundred sixty dollar check and, you know, a two thousand three hundred dollar check. And then I felt like it wasn't, I would, I would add them all up and that's how much I received today. And then I would think, you know what? I need to be receiving more money than that. So I would add zeros to the, to the bills. And I would pretend that they were, instead of a hundred and sixty dollars, it was sixteen thousand dollar check that was coming to me. And so I would add it all up and I've received all this money. So that was one of the other games that I played.

• 37:37Rhonda Byrne?

  Um, and then I did something quite radical. I, it was an experiment and test and all of these things I did. So that I could tell what worked and what would work for people. And, and so I thought, what's the way that I can feel really good about money? Cause when you don't have enough, it's really hard to feel good about.

• 37:58Lewis Howes?

  Really hard, yeah.

• 38:00Rhonda Byrne?

  Really hard. And so I thought, what's the one way that I can feel good about money? Okay, the way that I can feel good about money is if I give some away.

• 38:09Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 38:11Rhonda Byrne?

  And so what I did was.

• 38:12Lewis Howes?

  Well, what about if you have no money to give away?

• 38:14Rhonda Byrne?

  I didn't, I took it, took it, I took it out on my credit card.

• 38:18Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 38:19Rhonda Byrne?

  I took, I took out these twenty dollar bills on my, on my credit card. I think I could access a hundred dollars or something. So I took out all of these twenty dollar bills and I thought, right, I'm gonna walk down the street. And I said to the universe, show me who to give it to. And so I would walk down the street and I was looking at everybody's faces. And I don't know if you've ever done that in your life, is just so silently walked down the street and look at people's faces like with a heart wide open. And I was just melting, looking at all these people's faces and, and, and then it was just amazing because the universe would just show me who to give it to. Like these kids walked out of a store and they're like counting their money.

• 39:04Rhonda Byrne?

  I don't have enough to get that, you know, they're wanting to get something in the store. And so just, you know, gave them twenty dollars and they're, and they're like, thanks lady. And ran, and ran back in the store to get, you know, the ice creams or whatever they wanted. And, uh, um, it was an ice cream store, I think they were out the front of. And so, so yeah, I just went down the street giving away this money. And, uh, and in fact, there were two, I think there was two or one twenty dollar note that there, it just like stopped, it wasn't clear anymore who to give it to. And so I just stopped, do you know that that was on a Friday? And on the Monday, I received twenty five thousand dollars in my account

• 39:47Rhonda Byrne?

  from a place that I never, ever, ever could have experienced.

• 39:50Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 39:52Rhonda Byrne?

  Yeah.

• 39:52Lewis Howes?

  So powerful.

• 39:53Rhonda Byrne?

  Right?

• 39:54Lewis Howes?

  It's crazy.

• 39:55Rhonda Byrne?

  Isn't that something?

• 39:56Lewis Howes?

  Was there any of the other tests or games that you tried to, you know, change your thoughts and play with your mind to start seeing yourself as abundant and

• 40:05Rhonda Byrne?

  Yeah, I did. I did lists of all of the things that I was going to, all the things I was going to buy, you know, when the money came in. Um, so I did all of these lists and I imagined that I had those things already. Um, and yeah, and I wanted, I remember it was like, I want a house on the ocean. I really went all out, you know, that was just some list. Um, one of the things I remember is that I'd always wanted a Range Rover all of my life, and that was just beyond anything I could afford. And especially in Australia, like they were crazy prices. So, but still I put it on the list and I put all these things on the list. But you know, interestingly enough, like I did that because that was a way to turn money around.

• 40:48Rhonda Byrne?

  But when The Secret got released, I didn't care about any of it because and I didn't even care. All that mattered was that I had got it out into the world. And now it was in the world, it could never be taken away. And that is what mattered to me more than anything is that that was going to get into people's hands. And so, um, but still, I have to tell you, got all the things on the list. You know, there's amazing views out here of the ocean. Um, I ended up by getting a Range Rover. Um, and so, yeah, but I did, I did a lot of practices and I have shared those practices in a lot of the books.

• 41:27Rhonda Byrne?

  And also we created an app, which was The Secret to Money. And so there are a lot of the practices in, that I put in that app. And I was just dedicated.

• 41:37Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 41:38Rhonda Byrne?

  Because I knew this was a big thing for people and, and that if I can do it, anyone can do it.

• 41:44Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 41:45Rhonda Byrne?

  And you've just, all you have to do is you keep doing it until you do not feel any more lack anymore. Until there are no more thoughts coming up saying, oh no, you're broke, you know, or thoughts where you're even looking at the money going out with lighter contraction.

• 42:03Rhonda Byrne?

  You know, something else I did, I imagined that with those bills that I would open, I imagined that I was giving those people money and helping their families and helping. So, I would imagine that as well. That was something else I did that I, um, that when I paid a bill, I would really sit down and I would think about all of the people that worked in that company and all of their families. I would feel the feelings of all of that. Then I would think about all of this, all of the industries that service that company that I was paying the money to and that all of the money that I'm paying affects all of those

• 42:43Rhonda Byrne?

  people and helps their family and helps them get food. And so, that was sort of another way that I felt really good about money.

• 42:53Lewis Howes?

  In this next section, Sadhguru shares how we can deal with our negative emotions when they rise up. Emotional intelligence is crucial to focus on the right things in your life. And negative emotions are a normal part of our lives, but it's up to you what to do with them and how it will make a difference for you.

• 43:14Lewis Howes?

  When we have emotions, thoughts, feelings, emotions of anger, resentment from something that happened in the past, upset that we see on social media, frustrations in the world, where should we be redirecting these thoughts, feelings, and emotions?

• 43:33Speaker 03

  You must punch a window pane or a wall better. A stone wall is good.

• 43:38Lewis Howes?

  (Laughs) You're a feeler boy. Yeah, exactly.

• 43:41Speaker 03

  (Laughs) Because that is the model that the Hollywood and the television shows, everything is setting up. When you get angry, you break something, all right?

• 43:51Lewis Howes?

  Exactly.

• 43:53Speaker 03

  So, see, first of all, people are assuming that anger is happening to them or misery is happening to them. No, this is exactly what I said earlier. Maybe I didn't articulate it fully. No, you are creating anger. You're creating misery. You're creating joy. You're creating whatever. All this is happening from within you. Is it true all human experience is happening from within us?

• 44:20Lewis Howes?

  Uh, it's, it's, yeah, because we perceive something and then we...

• 44:24Speaker 03

  No, no, something else, something else may stimulate. But human experience is happening from within us, isn't it?

• 44:31Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 44:31Speaker 03

  Whether it's love, or hate, or anger, or misery, or joy, or anything is only happening from within us. Now, simple question I am asking is, what happens from within you? Should you ha- should it happen your way, or somebody else's way?

• 44:47Lewis Howes?

  It should happen your way.

• 44:49Speaker 03

  Of course, because the world will never happen your way hundred percent. Because there are so many stakeholders in the world. Little bit will happen my way, little bit your way, that is fine. But what happens within me must happen my way. If what happens within me does not happen my way, this is the worst form of slavery, isn't it?

• 45:09Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 45:11Speaker 03

  Somebody decides what happens within me. Somebody decides where I should sit. This is slavery, everybody understands this. Now, somebody decides whether I am happy or unhappy. Isn't this the worst form of slavery?

• 45:23Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 45:25Speaker 03

  So, this is the liberation that humanity needs to work at. This is what inner engineering means. Inner engineering is not some mechanical process. Because engineering means this essentially. You will say something is well engineered, only if it works the way you want, isn't it? If this one doesn't work the way you want, what the hell are you expecting other things to work the way you want? It's just an accident. When you live accidentally, anxiety is normal.

• 45:57Lewis Howes?

  Yes, it's every day. But when you're living on purpose and intentionally and mindfully, you should be able to shift out of that.

• 46:04Speaker 03

  No, no, no, no, I wouldn't use those words.

• 46:06Lewis Howes?

  Okay, what words would you use?

• 46:10Speaker 03

  Well, when you say purpose, intention, mindful. See, this is the whole problem with people, their mind is full all the time.

• 46:17Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 46:19Speaker 03

  My mind is just empty all the time, nothing happening, nothing. That's why I wear a turban, just to make it substantial.

• 46:32Speaker 03

  There is nothing in my head. If I am walking there, I am just walking, nothing happens. Because, see, right now, your hands are there. Suppose your one hand starts jumping like this.

• 46:44Lewis Howes?

  Huh?

• 46:45Speaker 03

  Or if, let's say, my hand starts jumping like this. What will you think? You think Sadhguru has some kind of ailment, isn't he?

• 46:51Lewis Howes?

  I just, that's the, that's the way intelligent people do things, you know?

• 46:57Speaker 03

  No, no, suppose my hand starts jumping like that. You will think, there is some ailment, isn't it? You will think I am, maybe Mr. Parkinson's is visiting me, or something like that.

• 47:08Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 47:11Speaker 03

  So, your mind is jumping all the, all over the place. Why is that not ailment, I am asking? Your only comfort is, other people cannot see it, isn't it?

• 47:22Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, I guess they see it through the manifestation of you being anxious, or tense, or stressed, or angry, or...

• 47:27Speaker 03

  Now, whether they see it or not, they see it or not. If any part of you is simply jumping without purpose, is that an ailment, I am asking?

• 47:37Lewis Howes?

  If any part of you is jumping without purpose, is it an ailment? Well, I think in your Inner Engineering course, you talk about how we have certain faculties that we can't control, like going to the bathroom and doing certain things that are part of our body, so...

• 47:54Speaker 03

  Yeah, but...

• 47:54Lewis Howes?

  I don't know if that's a trick question.

• 47:56Speaker 03

  No, no, the pee, the pee is just filling up in the bladder, it's not jumping all over the place.

• 48:01Lewis Howes?

  Got you, got you.

• 48:02Speaker 03

  If it jumps all over the place, that is an ailment.

• 48:05Lewis Howes?

  That's an ailment, yes, correct.

• 48:08Speaker 03

  Right now, suppose, let me take a worse example. Suppose your hand starts beating you in the face.

• 48:14Lewis Howes?

  That's an ailment, yes.

• 48:16Speaker 03

  Well, sure. So, right now, your thoughts and emotions are beating you up from inside. Why is that not an ailment, I am saying?

• 48:23Lewis Howes?

  No, it is.

• 48:26Speaker 03

  So, let us not think anger happens to us, resentment happens to us. No, these things we are creating. We have the power to emote. We can make it love, we can make it joy, we can make it ecstasy. But people have chosen to make it tension, anger, resentment, hatred. They have turned it that way. Now, they will claim, this is because life has been unfair to me. Life has not been fair to anybody. Especially not me.

• 48:57Speaker 03

  Life is not fair to anybody. Life is simply rolling. It's for you to learn to ride it. Sometimes we are in uncomfortable situations, some far- sometimes we are in comfortable situations. Sometimes we are in situations where we know exactly what to do. And sometimes we are in situations where we don't know what to do. Sometimes somebody else is controlling the situation. Sometimes you are controlling the situation. This is how life is. If you are constantly stepping into unfamiliar situations in your life, that means you are growing at a rapid pace. If you are in constantly uncomfortable situations, that means you are a stagnant life.

• 49:37Speaker 03

  So if you, if you look for comfort, if you look for a comfort zone, because the moment your thoughts and emotions are going to torment you with external stimulant, external stimulation that happens, what will you choose? You will choose a comfort zone. This means you will limit your life. So the moment somebody can cause you pain or suffering, this means unknowingly you will make the very scope of your life very limited. Only when a person loses this fear of suffering, that no matter what happens, this is how I will be. If this assurance comes to you, then you walk full stride. Because whatever happens in the life around you,

• 50:20Speaker 03

  it will not really make you suffer. Once you are free from suffering, only when you are free from suffering, when you are free from the fear of suffering, that is when you will explore your life in full depth and dimension.

• 50:34Lewis Howes?

  How do we rid ourselves of the fear of suffering then?

• 50:40Speaker 03

  See, as I told you, the suffering is happening because your faculties are not held in your hands. If I have to go to this in little detail, I will have to take a few minutes. See, for example, if I ask you a simple question, do you want your intellect to be sharp or blunt? What is your choice?

• 51:00Lewis Howes?

  Sharp.

• 51:01Speaker 03

  Sharp, of course. So you understand, your intellect is, the be- better, the sharper it is, the better it is. It's like a knife. So if it's like a knife, it's a cutting instrument. So if you give anything to your intellect, it will dissect everything and see. This is the nature of our intellect. You don't have to physically dissect, but it dissects everything and sees, "What is this? What is that?" This is the nature of the intellect. Without dissection, it doesn't know because it is a knife. It's like a scalpel. It must be sharp. A knife that is not sharp is no good knife, isn't it?

• 51:35Lewis Howes?

  Right. It's good for butter.

• 51:39Speaker 03

  Yeah. That also depends. If it just comes out of the refrigerator, even that it won't cut. So, if you're using a knife to do everything, to do everything, let's say you eat with a knife, you brush with your knife, and you do everything with your knife, of course you will be bleeding. That's all that's happening. Only one dimension of intelligence within us. In yogic way of looking at things, we look at mind as sixteen parts. This intellect is just one part. Because our education systems are such, which are totally intellect oriented,

• 52:22Speaker 03

  human beings largely are using only one dimension of their intellect to do everything. You use a knife to stitch your clothes. What will you wear? Only tatters. See, that's what you're seeing in Los Angeles right now. Half the people are wearing tattered clothes. Maybe they used a knife to stitch their jeans.

• 52:38Lewis Howes?

  Hmm. Exactly. With holes in them, yes.

• 52:44Speaker 03

  So if you use a knife to stitch, that's what will happen, all tatters. Right now, human life is in tatters mainly because of this. Instead of using a needle, you're using a knife. So intellect is a very good instrument of survival. If you want to survive on this planet, you need a sharp intellect. The sharper it is, the better you will survive. But that will not make life, that will not put everything together. Right now, because through intellectual process, people are trying to handle everything with so much care. They're trying to do everything right, right, right, right, and a blunder. The result is a blunder. Everything right, but the end result is a big blunder because you're using a knife to do everything.

• 53:33Lewis Howes?

  Okay, here's a question for you. When was the last time that you felt anger or resentment and actually expressed it?

• 53:43Speaker 03

  I was just thinking of getting angry with you just now.

• 53:45Lewis Howes?

  Perfect, bring it. I love that.

• 53:52Speaker 03

  See, the thing is, Louis, I did not give this privilege to anybody. That somebody can make me happy, somebody can make me unhappy, somebody can make me angry, somebody can make me miserable. I have not given that privilege to anybody. It's not that I'm incapable of all these things. If I want, I can be all those things. But I have not given this privilege to anybody. They can't do something to me and make me angry, no. I have not given that privilege to anyone.

• 54:27Lewis Howes?

  Did you have that experience or give that privilege to someone when you were younger? Did you learn that at a certain point where you transitioned?

• 54:35Speaker 03

  Till I was 23, 24 years of age, from the age of probably 11, 12, I was always 24 hours angry.

• 54:43Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 54:44Speaker 03

  Yes, because I was on this binge of what is justice and injustice. So, once you start looking what is justice and injustice, just about everything in the world looks unjust.

• 54:59Lewis Howes?

  Everything makes you angry.

• 55:01Speaker 03

  Small, small things. Yeah, everything, anything unjust means it makes me angry. And everywhere I see, whether at home, in school, on the street, in the society, in the country, in the world, wherever I see, I think, this is unjust, this is unjust, this is unjust. So much injustice, always angry.

• 55:19Lewis Howes?

  Right. I mean, I feel like there's a lot of people in America and in the world who a lot of things make them angry and there's a lot of injustice for people. So, when did you shift and how did you come to that realization that this no longer works for you in your life?

• 55:39Speaker 03

  See, it doesn't work for anybody.

• 55:40Lewis Howes?

  (Laughs) That's true.

• 55:42Speaker 03

  Not just for me.

• 55:43Lewis Howes?

  But for you personally, when did you realize?

• 55:46Speaker 03

  See, the reason why people think anger is some kind of a virtue, because they say righteous anger, all right? Right now, America is seething with anger, and they think it's righteous anger. This is simply because it takes some horrible thing to stimulate them into action. There is not enough love in your heart to stimulate yourself into action. Something has to poke you, you must get angry, and then it propels you into action. So, that kind of action, sometimes will produce results, of course. But if you want genuine results, which will be good for everybody, we must do it when everything is right.

• 56:30Speaker 03

  But when everything is little comfortable, nobody does anything. When something horrible happens, then we will get angry and propel ourselves into action. Right now, this propelling yourself into action with anger, how long will you keep it up?

• 56:47Lewis Howes?

  I mean, you can't keep it up long. Yeah, you get tired.

• 56:50Speaker 03

  Yes. If you keep it up forever, you will destroy yourself and you will destroy everything around yourself. So, anger is become valuable because most people are so lethargic in their responses. Once in a way, when they get angry, they feel empowered and seem to be doing right things once in a way. You must be doing those right things all your life. Then, by the end of your life, everything might not have changed, but you would have made a difference. That's the way the world works.

• 57:24Lewis Howes?

  Hmm. So, how I... Man.

• 57:30Lewis Howes?

  So if people are lethargic and comfortable a lot of the times and they're unwilling to choose love and act with love to make a change, how do we get people to wake up when things are calmer so that they can act with love and get the change and the results they want?

• 57:50Speaker 03

  See today, this whole moment, what you're seeing as Inner Engineering, is a moment from religion to responsibility, in a way.

• 58:00Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 58:02Speaker 03

  Essentially, what I mean is, religion means people are thinking responsibility is somewhere up there. Where is that up? Nobody knows, alright? You just have to believe where is that up. But now, you're sitting in California, I'm here in Tamil Nadu. If I look up, I'm looking at, looking up in one direction. If you look up, you're looking up in another direction. So my up is different, your up is different. And by tomorrow morning, again, my up will be yours, your up will be mine. It'll be big confusion. The damn planet is spinning and it's round. Which way is up? Does anybody know which way is up in this universe? Is it marked somewhere in the cosmos, this side up?

• 58:47Speaker 03

  There is no such thing. So responsibility is up there. No, no, no, it must come here. We must understand, if we want to live in a wonderful world, it's only us and us and us who can make this happen. No other force from anywhere is going to make this happen. Unless we realize and transform ourselves from religion to responsibility, that it's here, what this whole thing has come up is... See, because we have no explanation for creation. Before you and me came, so much creation has happened. Who did it? A simplistic childish understanding of this is, a big man must have done it. So he is somewhere up there.

• 59:30Speaker 03

  Because you can't see him here, he must be up there. Now, of course, women are claiming, why not it be a woman? In India, we sorted these problems out. There are, we have man gods, we have woman gods, we have snake god, we have cow god, we have elephant god, we have every kind, crawling ones, creeping ones, flying ones. Because we foresaw all the future problems that may happen. You don't know who will claim what tomorrow. So, we said, everything is God. So, what I am saying is, our idea of God has essentially come because we have no explanation for creation. How did all this happen? Such a complex, fantastic stuff. Who did it? Because we are human, we think it must be a big human being.

• 1:00:15Speaker 03

  Suppose you and me were buffalos, having conversation right now. We would definitely think God is a huge buffalo, isn't it?

• 1:00:23Rhonda Byrne?

  Hmm.

• 1:00:25Speaker 03

  Nobody could argue with us about that. We would definitely say, he is a huge buffalo. Because that would be our imagination. Right now, this is our imagination. It's fine. If you are using it to settle a few things, if you are using it as a way of a psychological process, fine. But solace is one thing. Solutions for life is a different thing. So, one first thing that we must decide is, those who are in extreme states of poverty, war, other kinds of misery imposed upon them, only for them you must give solace. Rest of us who have eaten our breakfast today morning or dinner, we should talk about solution, not solace.

• 1:01:07Speaker 03

  Solace is just a psychological process to settle something within you. But why? People who have eaten well, people who are healthy, people who have a life to live, why are there psychological problem? They should not have any psychological problem, that's all I am saying. I know this will be very cruel for lot of people, but they better get it because life is brief. If they don't get it now, and they think being psychologically disturbed is normal, they will spend their life like this. It is not normal. To be healthy is normal. To be balanced is normal. To be joyful is normal. Look at yourself when you are five years of age. Were you miserable or joyful? And if somebody had to make you, take the joy out of you by poking you with something,

• 1:01:51Speaker 03

  otherwise joy wouldn't go, you would be bouncing all over the place, isn't it? Today, somebody has to make you happy. Somebody has to work hard to make you happy. At that time, somebody had to work hard to make you miserable. Today, somebody has to make you, work hard to make you happy. The whole equation has gotten reverse. What is it? What is it that happened to you? You just grew up. If you grew up, life should become better when you grow up, isn't it?

• 1:02:19Lewis Howes?

  In this next section, my friend John Assaraf shares the key to manifesting and achieving success in your life. Listening to John always gets me fired up to go after my goals. And I want you to reflect on how you're showing up in your own life and business, and what small changes you can implement today to improve your life.

• 1:02:40Speaker 04

  You cannot.

• 1:02:42Lewis Howes?

  Can achieve results.

• 1:02:43Speaker 04

  Achieve results without some kind of discipline. And so, we know that there's some fundamental truths to achieving success. And every successful person will tell you, you know, and Jim Rohn is, I know you, you love Jim Rohn, said, "You either pay the price of discipline, or you pay the price of regret. Discipline weighs ounces, regret weighs tons." But the thing is, can you teach discipline? The answer is yes.

• 1:03:04Lewis Howes?

  How?

• 1:03:05Speaker 04

  You have to have a willing participant. And if the participant's reason why is big enough, if they know, "I want to achieve X," and the reason why, the motive for their action, motivation, the motive for their action is a reason beyond just themselves, chances are, they will do more to achieve that success than if it was just left up to them. But there are some people that are born, you know, with incredible drive. They just have this insatiable drive, and they'll just, "I'll do whatever it takes for the things that I want." And there's other people that want things, but they just don't have this insatiable drive.

• 1:03:46Speaker 04

  And this is where, you know, as much as I hated school, I love to use schools in analogy. In the game of life, whether it's health, wealth, relationships, career, business, spirituality, fun experiences, you have to decide, what level of the game do I want to play at? Is it the grade school level, the kindergarten level, the high school level, the university level, the pro level? Because each one of those levels requires a totally different mindset and totally different skillset. They're building blocks on each other, but if you are extremely talented, but you're not prepared to practice and rehearse and drill and fall and fail forward to the next attempt, you will never make it as a pro. You will never make it as a pro business person. You'll

• 1:04:26Speaker 04

  never make it as a pro husband or wife or athlete or musician. You just never will. So just get used to that if you're not prepared to pay the price. If you are prepared to pay the price and you have the aptitude, the talent, now we're talking about there's some real potential here. And what we don't know is, you know, what's in your heart? Like, what is the fire that stirs you that that you wake up saying, I will do this even when I don't feel like it? I will do whatever it takes to overcome my temptation for mediocrity, my temptation for excuses, my temptation for reasons and circumstances to hold me back. I won't allow those to be in my way. And if you have that within you, you'll achieve whatever you choose.

• 1:05:11Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 1:05:12Speaker 04

  And so the question you asked before is how do you develop that? Start small.

• 1:05:16Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:05:16Speaker 04

  Start small. So if you don't have discipline, show to your, show yourself that you can give yourself one command and one follow through. So you know what? Um, right now I'm going to get up, I'm going to do two pushups. Right now, not, not like later, now. Can you give yourself a simple command, one sit up? Right now, I'm going to go get a glass of water. You start with something ridiculous. I, I learned many years ago, reduce it to the ridiculous. So for reduce it to the ridiculous, and I start, I said, can you do that? Great. Will you? Cause that's the difference right there is that's the razor's edge. The people who can, will you? Yeah. Great. When?

• 1:05:56Lewis Howes?

  Now.

• 1:05:56Speaker 04

  Now. Yeah. Right. So if you develop that skill and specifically from a brain plasticity, a neuroplasticity perspective, as soon as you do that, you give yourself a command and you take the action, you have just created a neural pattern that you can give yourself a command and take action. Now that may be just be one time. Well, what if you did that every hour by putting a little bell on your computer? And every hour, like if you were, if my computer was open, I'd have, um, every hour it would say, it's 12 o'clock, it's one o'clock. And I take 60 seconds. Just to be in control of my mind. Sixty, I don't care where I am.

• 1:06:32Lewis Howes?

  Stop what you're doing.

• 1:06:32Speaker 04

  Stop, take six breaths.

• 1:06:34Lewis Howes?

  Breathe.

• 1:06:34Speaker 04

  Just get, just get centered. Am I on track? Am I off track? Am I doing something I shouldn't be doing? Versus a high impact activity that I need to be doing. Every hour, I've trained myself to just reset. I didn't always do that. So I just started with one a day.

• 1:06:51Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 1:06:51Speaker 04

  Then two.

• 1:06:52Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 1:06:53Speaker 04

  Then three. Then it was working so well, I said, great, let's do this every hour. But more importantly is, as soon as you become the person who believes in themselves, you see? Everything you do or don't do, leaves an imprint on your self-worth and self-esteem scale. And you know it.

• 1:07:13Lewis Howes?

  Absolutely.

• 1:07:13Speaker 04

  You know it.

• 1:07:14Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, every time you have that cake or that cookie.

• 1:07:16Speaker 04

  Right.

• 1:07:17Lewis Howes?

  Either believe in yourself or you don't believe in yourself.

• 1:07:18Speaker 04

  Right.

• 1:07:19Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:07:19Speaker 04

  Every time you're, you're voting with every decision. You're disqualifying with every negative belief. You're qualifying with every positive. Same with behaviors. So you start to get, getting aware of, am I qualifying myself to move forward? Or am I disqualifying myself? Do what I say I want and what I do or don't do over and over and over again? Because thought patterns become emotional patterns, which become behavioral patterns. And our brains pick up on our thought, emotional, behavioral patterns and says, hey, you know what? You've done that one enough. I'm just going to make that automatic for you.

• 1:07:57Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 1:07:57Speaker 04

  So all of a sudden, you know, if you're a person who has lots of positive thoughts, but you suck at taking action? Your brain says, let me make that a permanent pattern for you. So you don't have to think about it anymore. But I'm also going to create some neural tension and I'm going to make you pissed off at yourself now. Now you're going to start talking to yourself about how you don't want to not take action, but you're still taking action. And this is where we have this conscious, non-conscious ping pong match going on all the time.

• 1:08:23Lewis Howes?

  Complex.

• 1:08:24Speaker 04

  Yeah. It's actually complex, but it's actually pretty easy to.

• 1:08:28Lewis Howes?

  So if someone's listening right now and they're thinking, you know, there's a lot of things I want. You know, I want to get out of this relationship or I want the relationship. I want to have better health. I want to have more money, whatever it may be. And they've been saying that for years and they feel like they've been consuming all the information they need to have, but they haven't been able to take action. Maybe because their why isn't powerful enough. What would you say should be their first step?

• 1:08:48Speaker 04

  Well, the first step is to take one thing. I'm going to go back to one thing.

• 1:08:53Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:08:54Speaker 04

  And say, great, let me move one thing forward. Why? Because that just changes the trajectory of the same pattern repeating itself. And as soon as you interrupt a pattern and then you repeatedly interrupt the pattern, it's like taking a detour. And as soon as you take a detour, one day, you're like, okay, that was, that was okay. But you tended, your tendencies to want to go back to what's comfortable. But if you take the detour two days, six days, seven days, we know from a neuroscience perspective, it takes about sixty six days to create a solid enough neural pattern that it'll go from conscious effort and thinking about it

• 1:09:32Speaker 04

  to a non-conscious pattern that has the beginnings of automaticity, happening without your involvement. You're just doing it.

• 1:09:41Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:09:41Speaker 04

  And so for me, what I do and for myself is I, uh, whenever I want to change something, whether it's a habit, whether it's a thought or emotion or behavior, I say, I'm going to work on this for one hundred days, not thirty days, not twenty one days, not sixty six, which is rhetoric around there. I say one hundred days. And then I focus all of my energy just on that one thing for one hundred days. Why?

• 1:10:05Lewis Howes?

  Can you give an example of something you've done?

• 1:10:07Speaker 04

  Sugar.

• 1:10:08Lewis Howes?

  Sugar.

• 1:10:08Speaker 04

  Sugar. I'm a, I'm a sugar.

• 1:10:10Lewis Howes?

  Me too.

• 1:10:10Speaker 04

  I'm a sugar, like if he was an alcoholic, I'm a sugar alcoholic, right?

• 1:10:15Lewis Howes?

  It's so bad.

• 1:10:15Speaker 04

  Yeah. So I, I go like, you know, a week, two weeks, no sugar. Then a month, I eat dessert every night. Ninety days.

• 1:10:23Lewis Howes?

  Me too.

• 1:10:24Speaker 04

  You know, like a cake and cookie and, and five of them a day and then, and then.

• 1:10:28Lewis Howes?

  Same way. I can be very disciplined, but it's either way.

• 1:10:30Speaker 04

  Yeah, I'm extreme. I'm an extremist as well. So it's all or nothing, higher off. It's like no, no in between, right?

• 1:10:36Lewis Howes?

  You have one, you have a ten.

• 1:10:38Speaker 04

  Yeah, I don't, I, I don't have one cookie. If there's only one cookie, I go, no, I can have like six or seven more. My cookie bills, my cookie bills at hotels are twenty one dollars, not three. So keep replenishing. Yeah. So, so you take one thing, just one thing that you know, maybe a little challenging. A hundred days. A hundred days, just one hundred days. So let's say you want to drink more water. One hundred days, a glass a day. Conscious effort to want a day, whatever you did before, you'll still do, but one glass a day. So, you know, I started that with my assistant. So I want to drink, you know, like four of these a day, you know, like, you know, thirty two ounces, whatever the case is. And so every, we got a mug and it's on my desk every time I walk in.

• 1:11:23Speaker 04

  And then I have some support from her saying, hey, remember to drink your water. So just do it. So the first, you know, two, three weeks, I feel like I'm going to drown myself in so much water. Um, but then it's like, okay, now I'm used to it. Now I'm drinking as much water as possible because the habit is there. And one of the rules that I love to follow is the habit is more important than the intensity at first. So don't worry about the intensity. Right. Develop the habit. So can you take one minute a day to focus on how you will achieve a goal? Just one minute a day. Can you take one minute a day to focus on your health? Yeah. Can you take one day to retrain your brain? Yeah. Can I take one day?

• 1:12:05Speaker 04

  You know, or one action a day. Right. And you start off with something, you know, and reduce it down to just a minute. Or two minutes or one behavior. If you can get that behavior to be a habit, it's easy to stack. Right, of course. It's just like the foundation of a building. Once you have the foundation, if you build it right, you stack. Yeah. And so every good discipline affects another and every bad discipline affects others. Usually when people say they're having, they're having a bad day. Sure, certain things may have gone wrong or something that they tried to do, you know, didn't work out. All information and experiences are processed at the non-conscious brain first, and then it gives rise to something we call a feeling.

• 1:12:50Speaker 04

  So emotions are processed non-consciously. The electrical and chemical reaction to that is called a feeling. So when I'm not feeling.

• 1:13:01Speaker 04

  The way that I want to feel, I don't focus on the feeling, I focus on the cause, the neuroelectrical charge that's occurred in my brain. And in most cases, it's something that you're doing to interpret an event that's causing the neuroelectrical signal, causing the feeling. So in meditation, for example, why do you meditate? Well, obviously, it's great for a whole host of health reasons, whether it's less stress, less, you know, lower blood pressure, less cortisol release, etc. But the one thing meditation does, more than anything else, is it gives you the ability

• 1:13:43Speaker 04

  to have a pause of awareness, so that you sense what's happening at the non-conscious level and what's happening outside of you. So when somebody behaves a certain way, it's processed at the non-conscious level, it gives rise to your conscious mind for you to respond. And so when something happens, I like to be able to check in, so that I don't react and I have the ability to respond. And if you do that enough, through mindfulness, being aware, just being aware of exactly what's going on, then you have fewer and fewer of those times.

• 1:14:26Speaker 04

  So, you know, something happened last week, I was in a hotel room and I spilled some water on a shirt that I needed for a wedding that we were going to. And my wife, I was, "Oh, fuck, dah dah dah dah." She was going off deep and I was just calm.

• 1:14:39Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:14:40Speaker 04

  And she goes, "Aren't you worried about this, will it help?"

• 1:14:43Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 1:14:44Speaker 04

  Like, "No, let's just figure out what to do. The accident already happened."

• 1:14:49Lewis Howes?

  Why are we so wired to react in situations, as opposed to be calm and say, "Well, this reaction is not going to serve a solution."

• 1:14:57Speaker 04

  Well... We have a misunderstanding of flow of information and the way information is processed. And so the reaction happens again at the reptilian, non-conscious level. So every external stimuli, if you, if you get into some of the brain, which again is my, is my passion is, one of my friends is Dr. Evan Gordon, kind of with a great model. He says, you know, the number one thing to understand about the brain is safety and comfort first, right? So in the environment that you're in, whether you like it or you don't is irrelevant. Your brain finds that comfortable because it's the homeostasis, but safety first. So any loud noise, any type of real or imagined, present or future pain,

• 1:15:43Speaker 04

  based on the interpretation at the non-conscious level, gives rise to automatic feelings. So the signal is sent from the reptilian or lizard brain to the emotional brain. And it's only later logically understood if we take the time.

• 1:16:01Lewis Howes?

  To be aware of it.

• 1:16:02Speaker 04

  Be aware of it.

• 1:16:03Lewis Howes?

  That's why people react so much in traffic instantly.

• 1:16:05Speaker 04

  That's right.

• 1:16:06Lewis Howes?

  Instant reactions.

• 1:16:07Speaker 04

  Yeah, but here's something you could do quickly. It's, it's called a reframe. So, so let's say you're driving in traffic and let's say somebody cuts you off and you've been sitting at the same spot for, you know, 20 minutes like I did this morning and somebody, you know, you're, you're maybe looking down at your cell phone because you have some time because you're parked on the highway, right? And somebody cuts you off. So you could automatically react, go, son of a bitch, I can't believe he just did that and just use all of this energy, the cortisol, epinephrine, adrenaline that's flowing through your body and causing stress in your body. Or you can say, well, what if that person just found out their dog died and they're really trying to get home quickly? You go, okay, I guess it's okay if she or he cut in front of me. Or they just got a call from their mother, their mother fell.

• 1:16:51Speaker 04

  Would you change the way you felt about it? And the answer is, yeah, probably. And the reason because you changed the frame. So you can learn how to create frames for yourself, how you see the world, how you see failure, how you see effort, how you see your habits, how you create frames in advance that actually serve you through awareness and response versus reactivity.

• 1:17:13Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:17:14Speaker 04

  And that is what a lot of people who, for example, I'm gonna go back to professional athlete, what do you learn how to do? Respond in a variety of different ways in advance or through practice.

• 1:17:26Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:17:27Speaker 04

  So that when it's game time, you're just unconsciously doing what you do.

• 1:17:31Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, especially like, um, you know, I used to react a lot. Whenever I felt like anyone was attacking me physically or verbally on the, on the game, in the game, I used to react and wanna beat people up and hit people and respond. If I got hit in a weird way, I would always wanna have the last say, right? The last hit. And my coaches would always train me because I would always get flagged. The person who's the second person is the one who gets flagged, not the first person who does the foul.

• 1:17:56Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 1:17:57Lewis Howes?

  And, um, so I started to train myself and visualize, okay, this is gonna happen in this game. Like someone's gonna punch me in the nuts, someone's gonna bite me, someone's gonna do this. And I can either be calm and focus on the next play, or I can respond and have a penalty for our team.

• 1:18:12Speaker 04

  Right.

• 1:18:13Lewis Howes?

  And I started to train my, my mind, seeing it in the future as it already is happening. And that really supported me in not reacting.

• 1:18:19Speaker 04

  And that's actually one of the best ways. It's, it's, it's a cognitive behavior therapy process where you practice in advance anything good or anything challenging. And what's really amazing, some of the latest research on goal achieving, is the ability, you know, in the past, I used to teach and also do, uh, visualize my goals. Whether it's my body, health, relationships, money, charity, whatever, I used to visualize the outcome. And some of the latest research now shows, um, in addition to visualizing the outcome, visualize the obstacles. And in the past, when we talk about this law of attraction, no, don't visualize the obstacles, you attract them to it. No, no, no, your brain's way smarter than that. So if you have, whether it's a belief that's in your way,

• 1:19:02Speaker 04

  um, a story that's holding you back, a circumstance, uh, references, you know, something that's holding you back from achieving X. So take a look at whatever it is that you already know is holding you back. I don't believe I'm worthy. I don't believe I'm smart enough. Don't believe I'm good enough. Don't believe I'm skilled enough.

• 1:19:18Lewis Howes?

  Too young, too old.

• 1:19:19Speaker 04

  Too young, too old. I'm, I'm too this or too that, or not enough of this, not enough of that. So address that and say, okay, here's an obstacle. I'm going to visualize that obstacle being real. I'm going to visualize just moving it aside and me moving towards my goal. The very act of acknowledging that releases the neural tension around. If you do that over and over and over again, what your brain starts to see is, yes, there was a struggle. And so it's worthy of me creating this neural pattern around this new effort.

• 1:19:48Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 1:19:49Speaker 04

  Because most of what we're doing is, you know, we're being on, we're on autopilot. We're just eking through the day, you know, on autopilot. And so the brain loves anything that makes it curious. The brain likes anything novel. The brain likes a challenge. So earlier you were asking me about, you know, one of the brain training companies other than ours. I said, does it work? I said, yeah, it's a workout for your brain. And if you can strengthen the neural patterns of you seeing yourself with an obstacle and overcoming it, what do you think that does to your self-confidence and certainty?

• 1:20:18Lewis Howes?

  Builds it up big time.

• 1:20:19Speaker 04

  Builds it up. So if you, if you actually do the work and develop those patterns in your brain, as you're doing the stuff you need to do in the physical world, you just strengthen those neural patterns and that's what becomes your habits.

• 1:20:33Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:20:34Speaker 04

  And that's where it becomes really fun because you can develop the, the habits and, and the skills that you need, that you'll actually take action on versus having knowledge and skills in your head.

• 1:20:45Lewis Howes?

  Now, I feel like you've been testing things for decades now with all the research and the work you've done.

• 1:20:50Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 1:20:50Lewis Howes?

  So what does your morning routine look like now? What, what's, you know?

• 1:20:54Speaker 04

  So today was a little bit different, except for one thing, because I drove from San Diego to LA to be with you. But I wake up, I pee, I do my meditation, 20 to 30 minutes every morning. I don't care where I am in the world.

• 1:21:05Lewis Howes?

  What are you focused on during that time?

• 1:21:07Speaker 04

  I, I do a variety of different meditations. So there's meditations that I can do where I'm just observing my thoughts. Now, a lot of people think, well, I'm not supposed to have thoughts when you meditate. Says whom? There's hundreds of different ways to practice awareness. See, meditation is the art of awareness. Awareness internally, awareness externally, but also the various millions of layers that exist in the physical and the non-physical world. So this morning, I did a meditation with some ocean sounds. And so it was, um, about 5 o'clock, I woke up this morning, sat in my little sofa, you know, with my feet propped up

• 1:21:48Speaker 04

  and did a 20 so meditation in the dark with the ocean, just listening to the ocean, just paying attention, going into a trance-like state where after two or three minutes, like I disappeared, like my body was part of air and space. So today was, I was using sound to get into that trance-like state. Other days, I'll do a mantra, whether it's, you know, a lot of people know transcendental meditation. So it's the Om mantra. So you just take a deep breath in, then as you exhale, it's Om. And the question is, why would you do that? And the answer is anytime you can give your brain a rhythm, it will entrain to that rhythm. That's one.

• 1:22:32Speaker 04

  Anytime you could pay attention to your breath, inhale and exhale, you turn off the parasympathetic nervous system. Um, you could, you turn on the parasympathetic nervous system, which is your rest and relaxation and your calm state of flow versus your sympathetic nervous system, which is the stress response system of adrenaline, norepinephrine, cortisol, et cetera. So when you get the serotonin, oxytocin and dopamine going, uh, and you're in that state of calmness, uh, you're able to enter deeper levels of consciousness and awareness. So you're able to observe a thought, you're able to hear your heartbeat, you're able to sense different things that are giving, are being risen in your body through thoughts that you're having.

• 1:23:15Speaker 04

  So you can actually start to see, when I have this thought, here's the sensation in my body. And you start to get so tuned to what's happening, what's stimulated happening within you that's producing these sensations that cause you to either take action or not, retreat or move forward. You can start to get a feel for how the mechanics work. So, um, so I'll do that. Sometimes I'll put on some of the Tibetan monks and chant with them. Uh, uh, so I use sound, no sound. I use breathing, I use open eye, closed eye, five minutes, 10 minutes, 30 minutes. So I practice the art of being in control of my breath, not breathing, just being one with the entire universe and feeling this

• 1:23:59Speaker 04

  other than normal state of consciousness that we're used to. And it's not sleep and it's not, you know, conscious awareness. You're in an altered state of awareness and you can, you can enter deeper and deeper and deeper layers of energy, which everything is made up anyway. Everything's connected. We have this, obviously our physical body, but the space between you and I right now, there's just vibrating packets of energy. Right? And so you're able to access different layers of all of the intelligence and information that already exists in the universe versus the memories that we have in our brains.

• 1:24:37Lewis Howes?

  In this section, Gabby Bernstein shares how to stop judging yourself. And I want you to make a commitment to yourself today to stop living in fear and open yourself up to the opportunities that are waiting for you.

• 1:24:52Gabby Bernstein?

  We all grow up in this world where there's just so, each moment is an opportunity to detour into fear. And then we create a world of fear-based perceptions. And so what we must do to live and thrive and feel good is undo those fear-based perceptions. And I believe through a spiritual path or through maybe a therapeutic path. I mean, I think spirit's in all of it, whether you realize it or not. But to make a commitment to feel better means that you're committed to returning to God. Or love, or, or, you know, spirit, whatever you call it. Yes.

• 1:25:25Lewis Howes?

  You also talk about how, um, we have guides. And it's funny because my girlfriend, who's amazing, and she'll always tell me, she's like, you know, your angels are always watching you.

• 1:25:37Gabby Bernstein?

  Yeah, she's the spiritual being, right?

• 1:25:39Lewis Howes?

  She's like, I have, there's angels that are always supporting me whenever I'm in trouble. I'm like focused on my angels. I'm like, where are these angels? Like, how do we know they're here? What were these guides? Like, how can we tap into this belief that there are, whether it's our ancestors, spiritual beings, whatever they may be, are here with us, are guiding us,

• 1:25:58Gabby Bernstein?

  So far we're talking about this on the School of Greatness.

• 1:26:00Lewis Howes?

  Are protecting us, are leading us into a path of love.

• 1:26:04Gabby Bernstein?

  So, what I write about in my book is what I believe. And I always have a big disclaimer that says, this is an opportunity to crack you open to believing something new. And if it's not for you, you choose how you choose to perceive this. So, not only do I talk about spirit guides and angels and deceased family members, but I also talk about your higher self. So if this is too woo woo for you, start to tap into what is the voice of my higher self.

• 1:26:26Lewis Howes?

  Gotcha.

• 1:26:27Gabby Bernstein?

  Right, that voice of my inner guidance system. And that wisdom that I believe in is my, is my true nature, right? But I, I personally, Gabby Bernstein, I believe that I, that we all have guides, ancestors, family members, teachers, beings of, light beings, energy beings, that are supporting us in a, in a form that is, is able to step in, able to channel through us when we write books, able to, to be there in those darkest moments, pick us up off the floor, and, and, and, and hold us in, in discomfort, and guide us to business opportunities, or babies, or whatever it is that we're looking for. And it's always available to us, that guidance, but we just, we cut it off, we block it.

• 1:27:10Lewis Howes?

  Why do we block the guidance?

• 1:27:12Gabby Bernstein?

  Fear is the reason we block it, fear.

• 1:27:13Lewis Howes?

  Fear of what?

• 1:27:14Gabby Bernstein?

  It's not even fear, it's that false-based perception that we've built up around ourselves from those traumatic events, right? So, we have these traumatic events early in life, and they continue to build and build and build. We build up a world of, of false perceptions. I am this body, I am Gabby Bernstein, I am Lewis Howes, I've got the School of Greatness, I'm a New York Times bestseller.

• 1:27:33Lewis Howes?

  People are out to get me, I can't trust people, we create these beliefs.

• 1:27:35Gabby Bernstein?

  Right, and you believe you're separate from others, you believe you're, you're better than, or less than, or not good enough. And all those stories, all those, those false pretenses are what, what many spiritual practices call the ego, right? And that fear-based perception of yourself is misaligned with God, with love, with spirit, with angels, with guides. And so this book is all about how to get back into alignment so that you can hear that guidance and receive that guidance and be a channel for inspiration. And when you clear and undo those patterns of fear and start to claim the pattern of love, that's when you are hooked up, super attractor.

• 1:28:16Lewis Howes?

  Unstoppable.

• 1:28:17Gabby Bernstein?

  Unstoppable, invisible doors open for you. It doesn't matter how low you are when you're starting this, you will go way further than you could possibly have imagined. And I am standing behind that subtitle, "Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest Dreams," standing behind it.

• 1:28:34Lewis Howes?

  I love that. What's the difference between spiritual guides or guides and intuition?

• 1:28:42Gabby Bernstein?

  You could call it the same thing. Your guides are your bridge from your fear-based thoughts back to your love, right? So if you pray and say, "God, guide, higher self,"

• 1:28:53Lewis Howes?

  Angels, whatever.

• 1:28:54Gabby Bernstein?

  "I give this to you. Figure it out, right? I don't know I'm gonna get through this time, but I give it to you." That's how we surrender. People are like, "I don't know how to surrender. I don't wanna let it go. I don't know how to." Through prayer, okay? Prayer is the conduit. And then when we say that prayer, or that intention, whatever you wanna call it, and we allow ourselves to give it over to a higher power of our own understanding, a guide, God, spirit, grandma, whoever, then we're taking that difficult experience, we're handing it over, and then we relax.

• 1:29:24Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:29:25Gabby Bernstein?

  Because we think, okay, it's not on my shoulders anymore.

• 1:29:27Lewis Howes?

  It's like taking our ego out of ourself and putting it over here and saying, "Someone else is gonna handle it."

• 1:29:31Gabby Bernstein?

  Help me undo this. And then their job is to pay attention, what's gonna show up for us. And so pay close attention.

• 1:29:37Lewis Howes?

  How do we pay attention?

• 1:29:38Gabby Bernstein?

  Just be aware, stay calm, and stay chill, right? And be conscious of how things start to speed up, or the synchronicities that begin to happen around you. Or if you are like, you know, "Guides, I wanna see a sign," and you're like, "I need butterflies," and butterflies are everywhere. Yeah, I'm getting thousands and thousands of emails from readers that are reading this book in the last two weeks it's been out, and they're just like, "Gabby, every single sign I've asked for is coming to me." And like, it just speeds up. Ask for a sign today. If you're having a difficult experience, say, "Guides, what would your sign be? Don't think, just say it. Just say it, don't think."

• 1:30:14Lewis Howes?

  Oh, the sign itself?

• 1:30:15Gabby Bernstein?

  Like a pumpkin or anything.

• 1:30:16Lewis Howes?

  An eagle.

• 1:30:18Gabby Bernstein?

  Eagle is your sign. That's a good one. It's strong.

• 1:30:22Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:30:22Gabby Bernstein?

  Let's see how everybody, how he answered that. It's gotta be the first thing that comes to your mind. And now, if there's an issue that's happening in your life, just say to yourself silently today at the end of this podcast, just say, "Thank you, guides. Thank you, universe," whatever you both mean, right? "For showing me my eagle to remind me that I'm on the right path."

• 1:30:40Lewis Howes?

  So, ask for the sign, the eagle.

• 1:30:42Gabby Bernstein?

  Thank you for revealing my eagle.

• 1:30:44Lewis Howes?

  Thank you for revealing it before I see the eagle.

• 1:30:46Gabby Bernstein?

  Yeah, thank you for revealing my eagle to remind me that I am being guided.

• 1:30:49Lewis Howes?

  Okay.

• 1:30:50Gabby Bernstein?

  Okay?

• 1:30:51Lewis Howes?

  And the eagle will mean whatever I give the meaning to, whether it's to make a decision on something.

• 1:30:54Gabby Bernstein?

  If it's just being guided in general, or if it's being guided towards that, that job, or that healing, or that whatever, right? Sometimes I'll use a sign like, I'm like, "Am I supposed to, to, to take this deal? And I don't know what to do, and I'm feeling so uncomfortable about it." And I'll say, "Show me a sign," and I'll get this. And the thing is, if you don't get your sign, that's a sign too. But you absolutely will get your sign. If you're asking to be shown that you're being guided, 100% you're gonna get your sign.

• 1:31:18Lewis Howes?

  Okay.

• 1:31:19Gabby Bernstein?

  Lewis is gonna text me later, everybody.

• 1:31:20Lewis Howes?

  It's on the eagle.

• 1:31:21Gabby Bernstein?

  My eagle! Just have me a photo, like some massive eagle.

• 1:31:25Lewis Howes?

  So, so give me an example for people.

• 1:31:27Gabby Bernstein?

  It could be an eagle, like, in a photo, or an eagle, you know, on a napkin.

• 1:31:30Lewis Howes?

  Not some eagle sitting on my window, which is, would be amazing if that happened.

• 1:31:33Gabby Bernstein?

  Could be that too.

• 1:31:34Lewis Howes?

  So, give me, so let's give an example, practical example for someone. Say someone says, uh, there's a, a female listening, or a male listening, and saying, "Okay, is this, should I go on a date with this person? A second date with this person, right? Just something small."

• 1:31:48Gabby Bernstein?

  Show me my sign.

• 1:31:49Lewis Howes?

  Show me my sign.

• 1:31:50Gabby Bernstein?

  Yeah.

• 1:31:50Lewis Howes?

  And what if you don't see, and the sign is to reveal if you're supposed to go on this date, or to give you some guidance.

• 1:31:56Gabby Bernstein?

  And if you don't get the sign, if you don't get the sign, then, and you decided to go on the date anyway, it's okay, there's still some learning in that.

• 1:32:03Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:32:04Gabby Bernstein?

  It might be not, there have been times where I've done things where I didn't get my sign, and they didn't work out necessarily, but I still learned something from the experience.

• 1:32:11Lewis Howes?

  Has there ever been a time where you didn't see a sign and it did work out?

• 1:32:17Lewis Howes?

  Maybe you saw the sign later or something.

• 1:32:19Gabby Bernstein?

  It worked out in a different way.

• 1:32:20Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:32:21Gabby Bernstein?

  Right? So like if I was like, I need a sign about this situation and I didn't get the sign. Oh, here's an example from the book. So I was, uh, my, my two weeks before I was meant to conceive. My doctor, who was like a very conservative Yale trained physician in my little tiny country town, was like, you're, you're turning, I just turned 39. I was 38 when I was pregnant and I just turned 39. So he considered me 40, okay? I was like, dude, I was 38 a week ago and now I'm fucking 40. So he makes me 40. And he's like, we believe that you need to deliver 40 and 40, 40 weeks when you're 40 years old. And I was resisting and resisting and I was like, I'm not 40 and I don't want to be induced and I don't want to force the baby out. I don't want to have that kind of thing.

• 1:33:05Gabby Bernstein?

  And I, um, so I was so torn up because he was so nervous and that was infiltrating my fear, my fears.

• 1:33:12Lewis Howes?

  My trauma, yeah.

• 1:33:13Gabby Bernstein?

  And so I was in his office and I was like, okay, universe, I can't make the decision. I need a sign. And so I said, show me a sign if following this path is the right move. And he walked in the door and he was wearing this necktie. And I said, Howie, what's on your tie? And he said, it's a, it's a cardinal. And I said, okay. In my head, I'm like, that's my sign. It's a cardinal. And so the next day I had to make a decision if I wanted to get booked. So I didn't have an opportunity to see my cardinal before I made that, whoa, that decision because I had to book him in the schedule and he was leaving the next week. It was, it was a mess. So I made the decision without seeing the sign. I said, okay.

• 1:33:50Lewis Howes?

  To, to.

• 1:33:50Gabby Bernstein?

  To be induced, to schedule an induction.

• 1:33:53Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:33:53Gabby Bernstein?

  It's not what I wanted. And so I made that decision. I was in my bath. I texted my girlfriend. I said, okay, I'm going to be induced. This is happening. And she writes back to me, that's a great decision. I feel really good about it and I know it's good for you because I saw a cardinal land on my window just now. Cardinal land.

• 1:34:10Lewis Howes?

  No way. Did you tell her the sign?

• 1:34:11Gabby Bernstein?

  She had no idea about the sign.

• 1:34:12Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:34:12Gabby Bernstein?

  But here's the thing. So I got my cardinal, it gave me the guidance, says on the right path. I was meant to be induced on a Wednesday. On a Monday, I'm lying in my bed, I'm finishing, the finishing touches of the book. Cause I wanted to deliver the book before I delivered the baby.

• 1:34:28Gabby Bernstein?

  I stand up to go to the bathroom and my water breaks.

• 1:34:32Lewis Howes?

  No way.

• 1:34:32Gabby Bernstein?

  And here I am, and I have the most epic Beyonce birth. Like, there was nobody at the hospital, I had like, rolling hills out my window and like, I was the only one birthing in the maternity ward.

• 1:34:43Lewis Howes?

  My gosh.

• 1:34:43Gabby Bernstein?

  And I had, you know, the sun setting. So the whole point is, is that my sign was saying, yeah, you're on the right track. Make the decision, so that I could relax. Because if I hadn't made that decision, I wouldn't have relaxed. My water wouldn't have broke because I would have been too freaked out and tense. And everything worked out. Do you see what I'm saying here?

• 1:35:01Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, of course.

• 1:35:01Gabby Bernstein?

  So if you don't see your sign, that's still guidance. And then, you know, if you get your sign, even if it's something you didn't want, you know?

• 1:35:06Lewis Howes?

  What has been the biggest lesson of motherhood? That you were unexpectedly, because you have lots of friends who are mothers.

• 1:35:14Gabby Bernstein?

  Yeah, I had no idea.

• 1:35:15Lewis Howes?

  You have so many fans of yours who are moms that you speak to all the time. And maybe you thought you knew what they were going through. You could speak into some of their challenges. But what have you really learned? Maybe three biggest lessons so far about

• 1:35:28Gabby Bernstein?

  Alright, good.

• 1:35:28Lewis Howes?

  motherhood and what moms experience?

• 1:35:31Gabby Bernstein?

  Yeah.

• 1:35:31Lewis Howes?

  In the first year of motherhood.

• 1:35:32Gabby Bernstein?

  So in terms of what moms experience and what happens. And I think my son has taught me, has given me the greatest gift of healing I could ever have imagined. Because as soon as I became pregnant, what happens for women is, all your shit comes up. And for men too.

• 1:35:46Lewis Howes?

  Oh yeah.

• 1:35:46Gabby Bernstein?

  You know, when you're like about to bring life into the world and be responsible for that life, your, your darkest demons start to come to the surface. And so many people just push it down, push it down, push it down. And so I don't push things down. I was like, let's go. Okay, I'm ready, I'm willing, let's go for this. And so I, you know, I worked at it along the way. And then the postpartum, and that gave me even a greater, greater step of healing. So his presence in my life has already put me on a massive healing path. I've had, you know, fast forward healing in the last year and a half. So that I'm grateful.

• 1:36:16Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:36:17Gabby Bernstein?

  My son has taught me that

• 1:36:21Gabby Bernstein?

  I am going to make my highest priority in life to honor his feelings. People keep asking me, like, what's your parenting advice? I'm like, look, I've been doing this for 10 months, but I can tell you this. Honor their feelings. Imagine that was something that we experienced.

• 1:36:38Lewis Howes?

  Amazing.

• 1:36:38Gabby Bernstein?

  I mean, you'd be a different person. I'd be a different person. And if we could honor any human's feelings, any human being, particularly a child. And then I guess the third thing that I've learned as a mother, there's so much, but

• 1:36:54Gabby Bernstein?

  is that they are, they have their own guides. They have their own, they're not, oh, this is big. He is not, not my son, Oliver Rockland. He is not, you know, the son to Zach, the son to Gabby. He is his own spirit having a human experience.

• 1:37:10Gabby Bernstein?

  And he is a person, he's not a baby.

• 1:37:12Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 1:37:13Gabby Bernstein?

  Yeah.

• 1:37:13Lewis Howes?

  And you're just here to guide him?

• 1:37:15Gabby Bernstein?

  I am in an archetypal position to be a guide and a love and a support for him. But I find myself often being like, my baby's so cute, my baby, my baby. And then I have to stop myself and say, Oliver, not my baby. He's not my baby. He's him.

• 1:37:32Lewis Howes?

  Wow. So when we reflect our judgment on someone else, we don't like something, we're angry at them, we're pissed off at them, whatever it is, how can we shift that to see the good in them?

• 1:37:45Gabby Bernstein?

  Read Judgment Detox.

• 1:37:47Lewis Howes?

  Okay.

• 1:37:48Gabby Bernstein?

  Because I'm sitting here, I'm just like, yeah, I wrote a book about it.

• 1:37:51Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, exactly, I get it.

• 1:37:52Gabby Bernstein?

  But I'll answer your question fully right now, which is like, when we are in judgment of somebody else, what's happening is that we're projecting onto them our own wounds.

• 1:38:00Lewis Howes?

  Gosh.

• 1:38:00Gabby Bernstein?

  And so the second step of Judgment Detox is to, well, the first step is to

• 1:38:03Lewis Howes?

  Heal your wounds.

• 1:38:04Gabby Bernstein?

  Is to honor your wounds.

• 1:38:05Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 1:38:05Gabby Bernstein?

  Yeah.

• 1:38:06Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, of course.

• 1:38:07Gabby Bernstein?

  Yeah.

• 1:38:07Lewis Howes?

  It's so hard, so hard to not judge other people, isn't it?

• 1:38:11Gabby Bernstein?

  Gets a lot of

• 1:38:12Lewis Howes?

  It gets easier when you practice it, yeah.

• 1:38:13Gabby Bernstein?

  That book helped me so much. And do I not judge all the time? Of course, I still judge. But when I judge, I don't believe in it. And I get out of it quickly.

• 1:38:22Lewis Howes?

  So what do you say when you're judging someone else?

• 1:38:23Gabby Bernstein?

  I witness my judgment without judgment. Step one, I honor the wound. Okay, oh, I'm judging them because I'm feeling insecure. I'm judging them because they're triggering something, right? And then I continue on the journey of the judgment detox, which, you know, just releasing and forgiving and and seeing someone for the first time. Choosing to see them through the lens of love. It's a fabulous book.

• 1:38:45Lewis Howes?

  See them through a lens of love, yeah. Get that book too. What is, you think is your greatest accomplishment? In 40 years of life?

• 1:38:52Gabby Bernstein?

  My greatest accomplishment in 39 years, two weeks away from 40. Don't age me. I can't live on 40, oh my God. So my greatest accomplishment is the freedom I'm feeling right now, today, here with you, is my greatest accomplishment. My recovering from trauma is my greatest accomplishment. It will be the best contribution I can give to the world. I am going to help people because even just being in this state of freedom will help people watching because they will see what they are capable of.

• 1:39:23Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:39:23Gabby Bernstein?

  Yeah.

• 1:39:24Lewis Howes?

  That's powerful. And do you feel like you'll be able to make a bigger impact in the world by being a mother? Or?

• 1:39:32Gabby Bernstein?

  Already, yeah. So I've noticed myself in my talks, I would always have a really good boundary, which you have to have, as you know, when we do the work we do. Because if I'm going to get up and answer questions, people, a lot of my, my audience is like, you know, coming up being like, I have a brain injury or I'm suicidal or, you know. And I have to hold them in their, in their, in their transformation, but not take it on. But as a mother now, I don't feel that I'm taking it on, but I have a way deeper level of compassion for people that I never had before.

• 1:40:00Lewis Howes?

  Because you're experiencing all this stuff.

• 1:40:02Gabby Bernstein?

  I'm seeing their innocent child in them. I don't see them as an adult who hasn't taken care of themselves or as an adult who's done stupid things. I see them as a wounded child. And all I want to do is just hold them into love. And that's, maybe even in one of my talks, this one woman was so wounded and I actually went as far as asking her to come up so I could just hug her. And that is so against everything I've ever done in my career.

• 1:40:25Lewis Howes?

  Why?

• 1:40:26Gabby Bernstein?

  I would never like touch someone or, you know, have it. It doesn't mean that I wouldn't hug somebody like casually, but I held her like an I'm a hug. You know what I mean? I was like, this is, and I kept holding her. I said, you're safe, you're safe, you're safe. And I don't know what came over me. The other thing that's happening is I'm becoming more unapologetic about my mediumship. So, we're all mediums. We all have the ability to listen to spirit and like, but I can, you know, I throughout my life have always heard messages and you know, now I'm just like giving messages to people. And I always have channeled throughout my talking, but now where normally I would say, you know, okay, this is the guidance. If I'm hearing it as a guide, I'll say, what I'm hearing for you is this. And I'll deliver it in a different way.

• 1:41:04Lewis Howes?

  So people can receive it, not if they don't believe in some type of medium stuff, they can, they can.

• 1:41:08Gabby Bernstein?

  Sometimes I'll just tell them, like, I think, you know, your grandmother is telling me something.

• 1:41:11Lewis Howes?

  Tim's telling you this, yeah.

• 1:41:12Gabby Bernstein?

  Sometimes, not always.

• 1:41:14Lewis Howes?

  I've never had a, someone who calls himself a medium that does this practice on the show. I've been pitched like different mediums to come on and I've always been kind of resistant, but lately I'm like, you know, I think it'd be a fun experience for me to. Is there someone that you think is like the best at what they do?

• 1:41:30Gabby Bernstein?

  There's so many. I mean, um, yeah, let's talk offline. Cause I can sit here and tell you five or six different names and I don't want to offend anybody out there. I know a lot of mediums. I don't want that one to be on, why didn't you say me on Lewis House? So I'll give you some suggestions. Yeah, they're all good though.

• 1:41:43Lewis Howes?

  It'll be fun. What do you think is missing from you to get to the next level in your life? Whatever that looks like for you. What's missing?

• 1:41:52Gabby Bernstein?

  There's, there's a little bit more trauma work that I've got to face. It's not missing though. It's not like it's, it's in perfect time.

• 1:42:01Lewis Howes?

  Around what? What's the trauma around?

• 1:42:03Gabby Bernstein?

  Um, just a lot of the sexual trauma, the shame around the sexual trauma.

• 1:42:07Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. You talked about it on our show a couple of years ago, a couple of years ago. And I know you've been doing a lot of work over the last few years with it, but do you feel like you're fully, you're not fully healed with those things yet? I don't think I am either, even though I talked about it for the last six years.

• 1:42:22Gabby Bernstein?

  You're more healed than ever before, but every.

• 1:42:23Lewis Howes?

  I'm at peace a lot about it, but there's still little triggers.

• 1:42:26Gabby Bernstein?

  Yeah, EMDR.

• 1:42:27Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. So I keep hearing that.

• 1:42:29Gabby Bernstein?

  I really recommend it to you.

• 1:42:30Lewis Howes?

  Okay, I'll try that. Yeah. Where do you think you'll be once you have that final healing?

• 1:42:36Gabby Bernstein?

  Freedom is my end game, right? I hope to live for a long, long time feeling free. You know, I had, I did talk with Deepak Chopra yesterday and I was on the plane with him coming here. And we were chatting about, you know, I was like, do you, do you, you know, feel triggered or shocked? You know, he's like, not at all. I'm happy all the time. And. And it's because of his practice. It's because of his devotion to his practice. So that's, I'm getting closer and closer to that. It doesn't mean I'll be enlightened. It doesn't mean I'll have bad experiences. I won't have bad experiences. It doesn't mean I won't be a human, but that I can feel free, even when things are tough.

• 1:43:15Lewis Howes?

  What do you think it is that he has or people like him have that allow them to have zero connection to, or not allow the ego to affect them in a triggering way, in a reactive defensive way, guarded when maybe something bad happens to them? Maybe this is deal goes down.

• 1:43:31Gabby Bernstein?

  He's the person who grew up being taught that the divine is the direction. That, you know, God was the, I don't want to use language that's not his, but he had a very spiritual upbringing. So it was a foundational experience for him. And he's devoted his life to being at ease. And meditates, he's up very early, meditates for two hours, I think, in the morning. And, you know, I think it's his devotion and commitment that's let him be that way.

• 1:43:57Lewis Howes?

  Isn't it amazing that when I'm consistent with my meditation practice, I feel like I'm unstoppable? Like, the longer I meditate, I feel like, I see, it's like the Matrix. You'll see someone saying something to you. And see someone touch you on.

• 1:44:11Gabby Bernstein?

  You become a super attractor. This is what the whole focus is about, baby. Is that the more we practice being in alignment, the more that unstoppable experience occurs. But when we are just living out of alignment, we feel out of alignment.

• 1:44:26Lewis Howes?

  That's it.

• 1:44:26Gabby Bernstein?

  Things don't work.

• 1:44:27Lewis Howes?

  That's it.

• 1:44:28Gabby Bernstein?

  We're pushing.

• 1:44:28Lewis Howes?

  What do you think's missing, from your point of view, as a friend of me, what's missing in my life to help me attract more of good things that I want?

• 1:44:36Gabby Bernstein?

  I think there's a little more trauma work to do. I can feel it, and you've said it a few times.

• 1:44:40Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:44:40Gabby Bernstein?

  And so, I'm gonna hold your hand while I say this, because I love you so much. And I will help you if you need any guidance and support, just to be, listen and be there for you. Because you have the potential for that same freedom that I'm talking about now. We all do, but particularly, you're right there. But there's shame and there's places to go to that. I think you're ready to go now.

• 1:44:59Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:44:59Gabby Bernstein?

  And it hasn't been, there's been no, no step along the way that's been an accident. It's all been perfect order for you and it's all been unfolding perfectly.

• 1:45:07Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:45:07Gabby Bernstein?

  And you know, humbling moments and difficult times and things that come up only to get you to the place where you're ready to crack open more and face some of the dark, the darkest stuff. And you need to do that with a, so I'm hearing that you need to do that with a, with a facilitator that you trust, someone that you feel safe with and someone that will really give you that, hold that space for you to go to the places that scare you.

• 1:45:31Lewis Howes?

  Hmm, sounds good. I'm in.

• 1:45:33Gabby Bernstein?

  Because you're, you're doing really big shit in the world, you know, big stuff, big work and it's going to be massive the more free you become.

• 1:45:41Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:45:42Gabby Bernstein?

  Yeah.

• 1:45:42Lewis Howes?

  I'm excited. Excited to continue to work.

• 1:45:44Gabby Bernstein?

  And I'm really proud of you because the fact that you even asked that question is so major because it means you're willing.

• 1:45:50Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, definitely.

• 1:45:51Gabby Bernstein?

  I'm so proud. I love you so much.

• 1:45:52Lewis Howes?

  Thank you. I love you. Yeah. And you said the first step is willingness and, and what? You said willingness is the key for something before in one of our interviews.

• 1:45:59Gabby Bernstein?

  Willingness is the catalyst for change because the moment that we become willing, it's like we invite the next right action. We invite God into our life to show us where to go and what to do. The willingness that you've developed over your life over the last 36 years got you into this seat right now with me while we're talking about things that we've both been through for you to say what's next and for me to honestly and authentically say this is what I think is next.

• 1:46:21Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, okay.

• 1:46:22Gabby Bernstein?

  Okay, so.

• 1:46:23Lewis Howes?

  I trust you. I trust you.

• 1:46:24Gabby Bernstein?

  That's your willingness.

• 1:46:26Lewis Howes?

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