Joel Dommett: “Pretending’s the first step!” Build confidence and quieten nerves

Do you find yourself running a mental list of what you’ve got to do tomorrow...next month... instead of living in the moment? Comedian and presenter Joel Dommett is getting better at appreciating the present. In this chat, Fearne and Joel debate if it’s a good or bad thing to set career goals, and explore how to focus on the process rather than an outcome. Joel also has some advice about faking confidence in order to build it, and explains why his marathon efforts brought out his shadow side... Plus, Joel justifies some of his more questionable tattoos, and reveals some big behind the scenes gossip from The Masked Singer! Joel’s Happy Idiot tour has been extended into the autumn; get your tickets here https://www.joeldommett.com/. If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like: Mo Gilligan https://pod.fo/e/2d3d77 Julian Clary https://pod.fo/e/2b6890 Joanne McNally https://pod.fo/e/294cdf Child on the line is a three-part documentary podcast series celebrating the Volunteer Counsellors of Childline, and the brave children & young people who contact the helpline service. Listen here: https://www.childonthelinepodcast.com/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy https://acast.com/privacy for more information.

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• 0:00Speaker 00

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• 0:28Fearne Cotton?

  Hello and a massive welcome to Happy Place with me, Fern Cotton. This is the show that makes you feel a little bit lighter. Today, I'm chatting to the lovely Joel Dommett.

• 0:39Speaker 02

  I've got these awful flashes of what I think is the worst part of my personality that came out at this time. I have a flash of me being dragged by two marathon employees to the ambulance and me shouting at what is people who are watching the marathon and just go like, someone record this. Like, I think I'm more important than the 50,000 people who are running. Like, it's the worst side of me that's ever come out and God forbid it ever comes out again.

• 1:13Fearne Cotton?

  I'm really excited for you to hear this episode for lots of reasons. One of them is because, I mean, we touched on lots of different subjects, but one thing we talk about is really trying to sort of be present and find joy in the moment. And I think it's been a bit of a theme of my week. I took my kids to the circus. It was a circus with, it was like an old school circus, no, you know, animals being mistreated, et cetera, just sort of acrobatics and a clown doing ridiculously funny things. And it was one of those moments where I was mainly watching my kids' faces, which were lit up so beautifully. They were like laughing their heads off, squealing with joy. And I sort of got carried along with it. And I, like, I'm sure many of you, am the sort of person that can get a little bit in my head.

• 1:58Fearne Cotton?

  And if I'm at something like the circus, I could be thinking, oh my God, when I get home, I need to do laundry and then I forgot to buy cat food. And I'm just running a mental list of what I need to do next. But actually, just watching their faces and seeing the joy in the moment made me do exactly, like, it was contagious. It was so wonderful. And it's something I've been thinking about a hell of a lot recently. I mean, it's obviously... You're not going to get that all the time. I did also go to a Jurassic Park experience with the world's worst hangover the day before. And let me tell you, I was not present. I was hot and bothered and it was really noisy. I mean, it was great fun. The kids loved it, but I was like, it's not, it's not with a hangover, is my tip of the day.

• 2:40Fearne Cotton?

  So we're going to talk about all sorts of things, including being present and in the moment. Let's talk about Joel in a niche way first. He is such a beloved comedian and TV presenter. And he hosts the Never Have I Ever podcast with his lovely wife Hannah, too. I absolutely adore Joel. We've sort of met each other over the years at work things and he's been on Celebrity Juice. And personally, I love being a viewer of his TV shows. Me and the kids are obsessed with The Masked Singer. Do you know what I do on long car journeys? If I'm really bloody bored and I'm on my own, I will listen to random songs on shuffle and sing along to them. And when I've really nailed a song,

• 3:21Fearne Cotton?

  I think that would be my Masked Singer song. I mean, what a loser. That's so tragic. But I am like a mega fan of The Masked Singer. I just think Joel is brilliant. And as you probably imagine, as a viewer, he is as nice as he is on TV in real life. He's just a bloody good guy.

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• 5:14Fearne Cotton?

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• 5:59Fearne Cotton?

  Okay, look, there's no official start to this podcast episode because we were just already talking and I'd already interviewed Joel once that day. So we're just, it was just like one long stream of consciousness that you are jumping into. Here goes. Here's the show.

• 6:35Speaker 02

  Stupid things. This was, no one wants to hear about tattoos, but

• 6:39Fearne Cotton?

  We do.

• 6:39Speaker 02

  This is a, it's a bird. It's a crow on my arm. And people are like, why have you got a crow on your arm? And the genuine reason is that the lady who did it was good at crows.

• 6:52Fearne Cotton?

  Are you joking? You're like, just do a crow.

• 6:55Speaker 02

  Just what I was like, what are you good at? She's like, I think crows. And so I got a ma- like, and it's, they always wanna do it bigger than you want it. So I was like, oh, maybe I get small crows, takes up the, my entire forearm. Absolutely massive, it's like two full days.

• 7:10Fearne Cotton?

  She is good at crows.

• 7:10Speaker 02

  I mean, this is another bad story that's really bad. I'll see if, so, I got this done and then at first day, the end of the first day, I noticed there was this weird line coming out the back of the crow.

• 7:21Fearne Cotton?

  What?

• 7:22Speaker 02

  And I was like, that's weird. What is that line? And then I Google imaged the picture that she'd gone from and I realised that she'd not gone from a picture of a crow. She tattooed a picture of a taxidermy crow that was hanging from someone's roof. And the line was the bit of like string. And I was like, that's a bit of string. She's like, no, no, it's not. And then she covered it up on the second day. So it's not even a real, when you look at it, you're like, oh yeah, that doesn't actually look like a-

• 7:49Fearne Cotton?

  It's a dead crow.

• 7:49Speaker 02

  It's a dead crow. It's so emo.

• 7:51Fearne Cotton?

  Wow.

• 7:52Speaker 02

  It's a bit of you, that, dead crow on your arm.

• 7:54Fearne Cotton?

  It's so me in the early noughties. It's a joke.

• 7:57Speaker 02

  That's, that's stuffed with something. That's not a real, a crow, a crow isn't like-

• 8:03Fearne Cotton?

  No, it's really not. No.

• 8:05Speaker 02

  It's got some sort of flow to it.

• 8:06Fearne Cotton?

  It's just a dead crow, some sort of flow. It's just a dead crow.

• 8:09Speaker 02

  Why is his eyes like so lifeless?

• 8:11Fearne Cotton?

  Wow, a soulless crow.

• 8:14Speaker 02

  Which is also the name of my new band.

• 8:15Fearne Cotton?

  What a bad name. Actually, someone needs to take that.

• 8:18Speaker 02

  Soulless crow.

• 8:19Fearne Cotton?

  Just a free name for you guys. Um, I like talking about tattoos, Joel Domit, a lot. Me and Ryland did an exploration of bad tattoos recently. I mean, we've both got Chinese symbols. There is no more awful tattoo, I don't think. And no judgement from me. I mean, I have a teddy bear because Teddy Swims can only do that tattoo.

• 8:37Speaker 02

  That's great.

• 8:38Fearne Cotton?

  That's the only one he can do.

• 8:38Speaker 02

  Cause that is a story. It's the story behind it that's important.

• 8:41Fearne Cotton?

  It's the story behind it.

• 8:42Speaker 02

  Because it makes you, what, what I love about tattoos is that it bookmarks your life at a certain time.

• 8:48Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 8:48Speaker 02

  So like, there's no other reason for me to remember the, the Edinburgh show that I did where I got the Edinburgh tattooed on my ribs there. Like, and it's like a grotty little tattoo place where I realised halfway through, it's a tiny tattoo. And it took like three hours and it would have taken anyone who was good at tattooing fifteen minutes, right? And halfway through these two hours, that's when I asked him of his experience.

• 9:16Fearne Cotton?

  Oh.

• 9:17Speaker 02

  Turns out, first tattoo.

• 9:18Fearne Cotton?

  Brilliant, brilliant. And what is that, that tattoo?

• 9:22Speaker 02

  It's my first Edinburgh show that I wrote as a comedian. It was called Neon Hero.

• 9:27Fearne Cotton?

  Right.

• 9:27Speaker 02

  And so it's got neon hero and it's on, I cannot tell you how small it is. And it took two and a half hours.

• 9:33Fearne Cotton?

  Was he shaking at this?

• 9:34Speaker 02

  Shaking, sweating. I was like, mate, why is, and I, and that was my, like my second tattoo. So I was like, maybe this is normal.

• 9:43Fearne Cotton?

  No.

• 9:43Speaker 02

  That a guy is like perspiring over.

• 9:47Fearne Cotton?

  So great. Hey, talking of touring, you've been touring literally all year and you're gearing up now for a second leg of your Happy Idiot tour.

• 9:55Speaker 02

  I'm doing the Palladium next year.

• 9:57Fearne Cotton?

  I mean, that is such a great gig venue.

• 9:59Speaker 02

  It's really beautiful. And I actually haven't done a proper London tour date for maybe like five or six years.

• 10:06Fearne Cotton?

  Really?

• 10:06Speaker 02

  Yeah, it's really weird. I just didn't, my last tour, I didn't really go in because you do periphery towns of London. But I never really went and did a big one in London. And so I'm really, I genuinely have loved writing this tour because it feels like I've actually got something, not just to write about, but to care about. Because now I've got an eighteen month old child and it's nearly two and, and so that feels like, I feel like I'm just sort of doing it for a different reason. I'm not just doing it because I love it. I'm now doing it because I'm like, oh, this is like, I feel like it's a real privilege what I do for a living and, and you know, it's all very cheesy, isn't it? But suddenly I'm like, oh, this is why you make a bit of money. So you can take it home and feed your child.

• 10:47Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah, yeah, there is feeding the child and entertaining the child and buying clothes for the child and all the things like that.

• 10:54Speaker 02

  To tell you what, what I'm finding the difficult thing.

• 10:56Fearne Cotton?

  Go on, hit me.

• 10:57Speaker 02

  Not to turn this into a parenting podcast.

• 10:59Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 11:00Speaker 02

  You've got to find the, the right clothing that fits the child at the time, which like the, the, the ages of clothing is like, you know, all over the shop. Sometimes he's in three, sometimes he's in an ear and a half. But then you've got to buy the right seasons.

• 11:14Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 11:15Speaker 02

  So you, literally you'll, he'll wear something for like a day and a half and then you're like, it's gone.

• 11:20Fearne Cotton?

  It's done.

• 11:21Speaker 02

  It's gone. Why can't he just wear sacks?

• 11:24Fearne Cotton?

  Sacks?

• 11:24Speaker 02

  Do you know what I mean? Just put them in like a Hessian sack for four years.

• 11:28Fearne Cotton?

  Bring it, bring the Victorian era back.

• 11:29Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 11:30Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 11:30Speaker 02

  Just put them in a, cut a little hole on top of a Hessian sack. Pop them in that.

• 11:35Fearne Cotton?

  I'm, I'm, this, I'm seeing like the Joel Dommett baby range looming. It's happening.

• 11:40Speaker 02

  Yeah, and then you can turn it back upside down and use it as a bag when he's too old for it.

• 11:44Fearne Cotton?

  With a hole in the bottom.

• 11:45Speaker 02

  Hole in the bottom. I'll, I'll get my wife to sew that up.

• 11:49Fearne Cotton?

  Shall we put you on Dragon's Den? Shall I call Steven Bartlett?

• 11:50Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 11:51Fearne Cotton?

  Shall we see if this has like got legs?

• 11:52Speaker 02

  I'll get them, I'll get Deborah Meaden to put a bag on her and be like, what do you think? What do you think, Peter?

• 11:58Fearne Cotton?

  Well, now we've solved your parenting dilemmas.

• 12:00Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 12:01Fearne Cotton?

  Um, let's talk about your life at the moment because you've had a huge moment that you've just turned 40 at the weekend. On Sunday, you had a big party Saturday. The big question is, why was Ben Shepard pulling you around the floor by your arms?

• 12:15Speaker 02

  My fortieth party, um, someone said to me at the party, um, Joel, this is the weirdest collection of people in one room that I've ever been involved in in my life.

• 12:25Fearne Cotton?

  Who are we talking? Who's there?

• 12:26Speaker 02

  So we had like Ben Shepard there and then you also.

• 12:29Fearne Cotton?

  Who is the nicest man ever to live.

• 12:31Speaker 02

  What a, what a wonderful human being who's so nice and so successful while being so lovely.

• 12:37Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah, and like muscly and.

• 12:39Speaker 02

  And muscly.

• 12:39Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 12:40Speaker 02

  I, I just, when you hug him, you grab such a big amount of lat.

• 12:45Fearne Cotton?

  There's so much lat.

• 12:46Speaker 02

  There's so much lat.

• 12:48Fearne Cotton?

  Disproportionate lat to just like, oh.

• 12:50Speaker 02

  Yeah, feels like he's smuggling baguettes.

• 12:53Fearne Cotton?

  Maybe he is. That's, he's carb loading.

• 12:55Speaker 02

  Yeah, yeah, maybe grab one out, just, just nibble on the end. Maybe you go from the middle because that's the nicest.

• 13:01Fearne Cotton?

  I climbed Kilimanjaro with Ben. Could there be a better person to walk for hours on end through just relentless grey rock with? No.

• 13:09Speaker 02

  Such a good guy.

• 13:10Fearne Cotton?

  He's so lovely.

• 13:11Speaker 02

  This is, uh, this is all gonna, can we do the next 45 minutes about him?

• 13:15Fearne Cotton?

  Just about Ben?

• 13:15Speaker 02

  Just about Ben Shepard.

• 13:16Fearne Cotton?

  I mean, I could fill a podcast about Ben.

• 13:18Speaker 02

  Yeah, he's absolutely great. We're actually starting a business together.

• 13:20Fearne Cotton?

  Are you?

• 13:20Speaker 02

  To give a small tease, but, um, but we, yeah, we're gonna, we're gonna.

• 13:23Fearne Cotton?

  Can you tell us what it is or no? It's a secret.

• 13:25Speaker 02

  I don't really know whether we're allowed to yet.

• 13:27Fearne Cotton?

  Baguettes.

• 13:27Speaker 02

  But it's, it's fully all about carbs.

• 13:30Fearne Cotton?

  This is exciting.

• 13:31Speaker 02

  It's called smugglebaguette.com.

• 13:34Fearne Cotton?

  I'm in.

• 13:34Speaker 02

  And Hessian Sax.

• 13:37Fearne Cotton?

  Hessian Sax.

• 13:37Speaker 02

  It's a niche business that we're going into, but I think it's gonna be really successful. But so you'd have Ben Shepard, then you had Lee Mack, and then you had Wayne Bridge.

• 13:47Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 13:48Speaker 02

  Frankie Bridge from the Saturdays, then also like Sam Carter, who's the lead singer of Architects, my favourite band. So you've got like a metal singer talking to my dad, who's a truck driver from Bristol. Talking to Lee Mack and then Ben Shepard.

• 14:07Fearne Cotton?

  So great. You've covered all the areas, like all the genres.

• 14:10Speaker 02

  Yeah, it's a very strange, it was weird things. I haven't had a party since I was like 21. And I genuinely found it quite hard to enjoy.

• 14:18Fearne Cotton?

  Why's that?

• 14:20Speaker 02

  It's a weird one because I don't know whether it's because of my job. I think my job is to make people in a room enjoy themselves, right?

• 14:28Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah, so you feel responsible.

• 14:29Speaker 02

  Yeah, and I found it really difficult to like go like, I'm having fun, instead of thinking like, oh, is everyone here having fun? And my wife, who had organised the whole thing incredibly, came up to me and was like, you're having fun? And I was like, I think so, which is not the answer you want to hear when you've spent the last sort of two months trying to make sure that you've got the right venue and that you've, who can make a cake made entirely of my face?

• 14:55Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah, great cake.

• 14:56Speaker 02

  Great cake. And so, yeah, but I eventually got drunk and it was fine.

• 15:01Fearne Cotton?

  It's really interesting, that responsibility that I think a lot of entertainers feel, that it does spill over into your private life. You know, it is your job, as you've just stated, to entertain a whole room of people. And they've paid money to be there. There is an accountability, like you want to show up and do your best. They go home thinking, yeah, I'm glad I got a babysitter, I'm glad I bought the ticket, I'm glad that I took the time to travel from wherever. That is tricky when you end up in social situations where, you know, that's not the setting to have to carry that weight, but you kind of end up doing it, I get it.

• 15:33Speaker 02

  Yeah, and I also charge people to be at my party too, so that helps. But like the, um, no, I didn't, the, um, but yeah, no, I do, I do, I was talking to you about this earlier, but I think, um.

• 15:45Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah, this is my second interview with you today.

• 15:46Speaker 02

  Which is fantastic.

• 15:47Fearne Cotton?

  It's like a lot.

• 15:48Speaker 02

  No, it's not.

• 15:49Fearne Cotton?

  That's great. It's so, me too.

• 15:51Speaker 02

  It's, it's great. And, um, and let's make it a third.

• 15:54Fearne Cotton?

  I agree.

• 15:55Speaker 02

  Let's go.

• 15:56Fearne Cotton?

  Women's hour?

• 15:57Speaker 02

  Yes, please.

• 15:58Fearne Cotton?

  Okay.

• 15:59Speaker 02

  Um, I, uh, I find it so strange now doing gigs because I, I appreciate the audience more than I ever have. Before I knew I used to do gigs, it was like lovely that people were there and I was like, this is so cool, what I'm doing. But now I feel like I, I, I under, when someone gets a babysitter to, to be here and spends money to, to be sat there and have a nice evening. And when I see someone in the audience laughing, it does something to me that, that makes me appreciate it so much more than I've ever appreciated it. Because I know what it means to like turn your phone off for like an hour and a half and spend this evening with me. And I know how expensive babysitters are. I know how much parents don't want to leave their children with other people.

• 16:44Speaker 02

  Like, that's a real responsibility that you give to someone. And all of those things, just to spend a night with, with a guy that they've seen on a show or something that they might find funny. It's, it's like a lot of trust. And if I think about that, that pressure too much, then it, then it all becomes a bit much.

• 17:00Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 17:01Speaker 02

  But I just try and just enjoy, enjoy it and have a, have a nice time. I always try and think as little about stuff as, as possible, otherwise it becomes really overwhelming.

• 17:10Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah, you need to almost get into a meditative flow where you're just in the jokes and nothing else exists. Is that easy enough to do?

• 17:17Speaker 02

  I try to, I try to really boil it down to what it, what it actually is. Like, when I do the NTAs, the O2, live on ITV.

• 17:27Fearne Cotton?

  It's terrifying.

• 17:28Speaker 02

  That all of the people who would be better at your job are sat right in front of you watching you. And I just try and go, it's just reading, innit? So I've just got to read this thing that's on the autocue.

• 17:39Fearne Cotton?

  Can you get to that place in your head? I don't think I've ever really managed to do that.

• 17:43Speaker 02

  I kind of, I kind of pretend, I pretend I can, and I think pretending is the first step on, on the ladder to becoming it. Again, probably a very cheesy thing to say, but I think if I just really, really pretend that that's what it's about. I know in my heart of hearts I'm nervous, but that is all that it is. I've just got to read. And it's, you bring your heart rate as low as possible because you know, you can't read autocue if your heart rate's right through the roof. Because you start too fast, you've got nowhere to go. So if you start really chill and enjoying yourself, then, and also it draws everyone in. Everyone's like, oh, this guy's comfortable.

• 18:19Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah. So how do you get to that state? Because I think I, when I was younger, I definitely could do that naturally. Because I was naive enough and maybe even cocky enough to think, yeah, you know, I'm on TV and this is what I love doing. And it was just all very second nature. And then I think the older I got, that just died. And the heart rate was really hard to control. The nerves would kick in if I didn't feel safe. And I think I found it almost impossible to go, just be really, really chilled. I mean, I can do it in certain environments. I love doing talks. I love doing this. I don't feel, I feel as calm as I humanly could. But there were some situations, certainly live TV, where I would feel there was no way I could control it. What, what's your method to get into that mind state?

• 19:02Speaker 02

  I really think about your interview with Davina that you did. I think it was either her on yours or you.

• 19:08Fearne Cotton?

  Me on hers, yeah.

• 19:09Speaker 02

  And you talked about how you did Radio Two for a week and it was cover and you went to sleep.

• 19:16Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 19:17Speaker 02

  And it was getting worse and worse and you kept on thinking about it. I genuinely think about that all the time. Because I feel like that's, that is there in me. And this job is very strange in the way that you do at some points have hundreds of thousands or millions of people listening to you. And if you think about the weight of that, then it is just, it's, it's all consuming. It's too much. But if you boil it down to what it actually is, it's you with a microphone, which is such a weird contrast that you, I can't. I think I live somewhere in the middle of that and I try, I'm basically, I feel like my life is constantly dealing with swinging from either side or both of our lives is that,

• 20:01Speaker 02

  I think. And I, it difference to you, I think you were thrust immediately into this madness from quite an early age and you're immediately on these massive shows and in these magazines and being known as you. And then you, I think, maybe learnt to deal with that, that gravity later on of like, oh my god, I was huge back then.

• 20:25Fearne Cotton?

  Definitely.

• 20:26Speaker 02

  Whereas me was the other way around, I suppose, where when I was younger, I was just doing stand up for a really long time and then built my way up the stand up ranks and did all that, did the Edinburgh shows, did the tours and to nobody, played rums of two people and one of those people would walk out halfway through. And then when I did start to get on telly, when I'd probably been doing it for about eight years, something like that, it felt like it was to a degree earned, I suppose, at that point in my career, not to say it wasn't for you, but like, so I felt like it was easier to deal with then and now, I think, because I look back and go like, wow, that was, that was my life without it, I suppose.

• 21:10Fearne Cotton?

  And I think stand up is so brutal and I guess if you're gonna gain resilience, it's gonna be in that environment where, like you say, you're in a show and you can see the audience really clearly, they're sat in front of you, it's not like viewers at home watching TV. If people don't like it, you know, the jokes aren't landing, you know, people walking out, you see them go.

• 21:30Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 21:31Fearne Cotton?

  How did you initially cope with that? Because it is a real dent to your ego when, you know, you believe something you're gonna say is really funny and when the reception isn't there, that's a really hard thing to stomach.

• 21:42Speaker 02

  But it's on the flip side of that, and again, I'm an eternal optimist. So the flip side of that is it's the most beautifully productive thing that you could ever do in your life, right? You go out and you, you do a set and a bit works, a bit doesn't, a tagline works and you're like, oh, I feel like I could add to that, da, da, da. And then the next night you go out and you do it again. A couple of weeks ago, me and my wife, we did a speech together at a friend's wedding and

• 22:09Fearne Cotton?

  That's fun.

• 22:10Speaker 02

  It was really fun writing it together and doing all this stuff. And then we, of course, what happens is all the bits that you think are absolute bankers, really fun bit. Goes like, fine. And the bit that you didn't even think was like, you thought it was just a little funny bit, but not really anything. That's like the bit that everyone's rolling with laughter, having the best time of life. So you never really know until you do it. But I said to Hannah, I was like, can you, do you, for the first time in life, she got it, what I do for a living. In the, I was like, imagine if we were doing that speech again, somewhere else tomorrow. Imagine how much better that speech would be tomorrow. Cause we'd take that bit that worked really well and we'd enhance it. And we'd like nurture that bit. We'd get rid of the bits that we thought were great, but actually were really shit.

• 22:53Speaker 02

  And then we'd like tie the end up. And like, that's the process that I love so much.

• 22:58Fearne Cotton?

  It's like data. You're just collecting data every night.

• 23:01Speaker 02

  Yeah, yeah.

• 23:02Fearne Cotton?

  That's cool.

• 23:03Speaker 02

  And you learn that, yeah, the death stuff is not nice. Like you, you have bad gigs. But I think that was also, again, to the flip side of it, keeps you like a, a good person.

• 23:13Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 23:14Speaker 02

  Because I expect if you're like a rock star and you're going out every night and everyone's loving you every single night. It's sort of, your brain just tells you that, you're like.

• 23:23Fearne Cotton?

  You're great.

• 23:23Speaker 02

  You're incredible.

• 23:25Fearne Cotton?

  It's not good for a human.

• 23:26Speaker 02

  It's not good, right?

• 23:27Fearne Cotton?

  It's really not.

• 23:27Speaker 02

  It's, I, still, even obviously you know how to avoid the bad gigs now, I suppose, but. You, you still have to work up material for a new tour. You have to go out in front of. Smaller audiences that don't know that you're gonna be there. They might be like a massive fan of Tim Vine sort of stuff. And then they've got you and. And then you have a bad gig and you go, okay, cool. You know, it keeps you like a bit, hopefully, nice.

• 23:52Fearne Cotton?

  Hashtag humble.

• 23:53Speaker 02

  I am so humble. Jolde from the block. Me, I'm so humble, guys.

• 23:59Fearne Cotton?

  You are. You're just a humble guy. Does touring life suit you? Cause it's quite an unusual way to live. And I know that obviously. You know, you can make it work to an extent with your family life and whatever you're doing now, cause you're at that level, but. It's still full on. There's a lot of travelling involved, not staying at home. You can get lonely. You know, how does it work for you?

• 24:16Speaker 02

  Again, I don't think people realise this about stand up, is that. They don't have to be exhaustive, stand up comedy tours. Like if you're in a band, you have to, you have the trucks that have all your set and you have drums and everything on. So you do. Like if I was a band, you'd go out on tour like for a month, like bash, bash, bash, bash, bash. You'd be away from home for that whole time. It'd be really hard and sleeping in a tour bus and stuff. With stand up, it's great cause like I can just, once that show is written, I go out for like two nights a week. Go there, do that stuff and then I can do filming bits in between and then I can make sure I'm, even if I'm out and I'm hours and hours away. I just drive home and get back at three in the morning, but then I'll be waking up for breakfast with my son.

• 25:00Speaker 02

  So it's, um, it's genuinely being on tour isn't as hard as writing the tour. Writing the tour, you've got to be out as many nights as possible for like two or three months. Like to just like getting that tour ready. And again, going to like gigs that you don't even know are good. So there'll be like ones where there'll be like no people there. There'll be like shows that aren't right for new material. Where people are like, why are you reading from a book? Like this is weird. I don't get that. And like, that's the hard part and you've got to do it so many times nights a week. Because if you do that once a week, by the time you go back and do it again, the next week, you've forgotten what worked and what didn't.

• 25:44Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 25:45Speaker 02

  Cause it's like in those really tiny little moments, you have to like go do three nights on the bounce at least. Sometimes doing three nights, three gigs in a night, just going and gig, gig, gig, gig, gig.

• 25:56Fearne Cotton?

  I don't think I realised how, um, exhaustive that bit was. I don't think I'd really given it. I guess it's like you're training with the Olympics and the tour is the actual Olympics. But the bit you're doing before is like, that's the training. I don't think I'd realised how.

• 26:08Speaker 02

  It's great.

• 26:08Fearne Cotton?

  Hardcore that is. Yeah.

• 26:09Speaker 02

  And it's great on one hand because like, imagine if musicians could do that. They could go out and be like, do you like this chord?

• 26:14Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah. Is this a good song or should we ditch it? Yeah.

• 26:17Speaker 02

  Shall we get rid of this verse?

• 26:18Fearne Cotton?

  It's handy. I love that. The interesting thing about being a stand up, I, I sort of liken it in a way to, I watched that Netflix tennis documentary. I never remember the name of it.

• 26:27Speaker 02

  Break Point?

• 26:28Fearne Cotton?

  Break Point, Point Break. Which one was it? Keanu Reeves surfing or I don't know. Anyway, one of the, one of those. And, and it's so interesting, being a stand up, being a tennis player, you are on your. Own.

• 26:40Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 26:40Fearne Cotton?

  And I don't mean that just sort of like physically in the job, but mentally, I'm imagining, I mean, I would feel like this, it's quite a lonely place because if you're playing tennis or you're doing stand up, you can only rely on hope that it's gonna go well.

• 26:55Speaker 02

  Hmm.

• 26:56Fearne Cotton?

  The knowledge that you have a skill set and some sort of inherent drive that you know is gonna keep you moving in the right direction, even when things aren't on track. So I mean, it's not even just in a singular gig, but in the terms of, you know, starting out in comedy, wanting a career, you've got to remain optimistic, hopeful, resilient, confident, without a team of people, like you're not in a football team, you're not in a team, working on a project together, it's just you.

• 27:24Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 27:25Fearne Cotton?

  Why do you think you as a person, your personality suits that and is able to, or has been able to do that to succeed?

• 27:32Speaker 02

  I didn't, I didn't really realise until I, I had a child myself, that I realised that my childhood was actually quite sort of geared towards me being a stand up comedian. I think it suits me as a person. Um, I'm, I'm a bit, I was a bit of a loner, I suppose. I grew up on a farm in the middle of nowhere, where I couldn't travel to like the nearest town without getting a lift from my mum. And so it was like very isolating. My brother always wanted to be a farmer, so he was so happy on the farm, whereas I didn't, so I just would just sit in my room and make up stories and make up performances for my mum and all of that stuff. So that, that sort of loner lifestyle has just been really perfect for me.

• 28:16Speaker 02

  And like, when it, when I first started, that sort of drive that you were talking about, I didn't really, that, that naivety that you said you had in your career, I, that naivety in stand up is just, you're doing it because you love it. You know, I didn't think about it being career, ever, ever. And I had no idea that you could make a career out of it. I was just doing it because I was like, this is so fun. And for the first time, even though I was a real loner, I had a community. You had all these stand ups around you, you meet up at all these gigs. And you'd talk about this amazing thing, comedy, that you'd be like, oh my god, I've got this amazing new DVD that I need to show you.

• 28:56Speaker 02

  And there's this new clip on YouTube that's incredible. And we felt like that we were a new generation. That it felt different for us because YouTube started in two thousand and six. I started comedy in two thousand and seven. So it felt like suddenly there was this huge wealth of material that we could watch. And we were being influenced by American comics in an entirely different way that I think the generation before slightly didn't. And it just felt, it felt so special. Looking back now, it was the most incredible time. Where I didn't know what I was involved in was so special. I just moved to London because I just didn't really want to live where I grew up.

• 29:38Speaker 02

  And I just moved into a flat of my friends, found this thing called comedy. And we'd just go out and do gigs, like sometimes I'd have got a little bike from a charity shop and I'd run it from. Because I found out if you had a bike, you could do more gigs in a night. You'd like print out the timeout listings for that night and have loads of names on it than you would be able to do. You were like, oh, that's probably an open mic gig. So I'll try and see if I can get onto that one. If I didn't get onto that one, I'd go to another timeout gig that I saw in the listings. And then I didn't get onto that one, I'd go to another one, riding my bike around town, trying to get like stage time. And yeah, and I just, I just loved, I like loved it. It was all because I just like loved this thing called comedy.

• 30:24Speaker 02

  And it's funny because like now all I do for a living is doing presenting and all that stuff. People might not even know that I did stand up, but I'd done all this time as a stand up comedian. But I think it's really shaped me and my, certainly my work ethic, I think, in what I do. And how I like to work on shows and how I like to like feel like an authorship to, to, to what I'm reading on an autocue. And I just, yeah, really shaped who I am, I think.

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• 32:28Fearne Cotton?

  Do you think you have to be obsessive to do well in stand-up? Because it is niche and it is, I'm imagining there's lots of people out there that would love to give it a go.

• 32:36Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 32:36Fearne Cotton?

  I'm imagining there's got to be a level of obsession that keeps you.

• 32:40Speaker 02

  Yeah, I think it is an obsession, actually. I think there's this weird thing where like, I feel like everyone should do it, it's so special. Like, why doesn't everyone do it?

• 32:49Fearne Cotton?

  Because lots of people are really unfunny.

• 32:51Speaker 02

  Yeah, but like, I know loads of unfunny comedians. I'm not, I'm not a funny guy.

• 32:56Fearne Cotton?

  Course you are, what are you talking about?

• 32:58Speaker 02

  You can learn to do like, you can, like, you can learn to be a runner.

• 33:01Fearne Cotton?

  Do you think?

• 33:02Speaker 02

  It's the same thing. I really.

• 33:03Fearne Cotton?

  Really?

• 33:04Speaker 02

  There is people who have a natural thing for it. There's certain people, and it's usually those. Oddball weirdos that you, there's certain people on the, on the standup circuit or on telly now, you know, who are just that, there's nothing else that they could do.

• 33:19Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 33:20Speaker 02

  There is nothing else in the world.

• 33:21Fearne Cotton?

  Like Paul Foot.

• 33:22Speaker 02

  Paul Foot.

• 33:23Fearne Cotton?

  I love Paul.

• 33:23Speaker 02

  Incredible. There's a new, newer comedian, at least, called Sam Campbell, who was on Taskmaster a couple of years ago. He's unbelievable. You're like, well, what else would he do if he was this incredible entertainer? I'm sure he would hate being called an entertainer, but, you know, and it's just these brilliant, brilliant, I love, that's why again, I love standup. It's like this thing where it gives a, a job to people who shouldn't have a job.

• 33:50Fearne Cotton?

  Favorite.

• 33:51Speaker 02

  Do you know what I mean?

• 33:52Fearne Cotton?

  Honestly, when I first saw Paul, so I, I met Paul Foot because he was on Last Comic Standing, which is a show that I hosted on NBC in the States.

• 34:00Speaker 02

  Oh my god, this is mad.

• 34:02Fearne Cotton?

  So Paul and I were the only Brits on the show, so we obviously just became mates. And we ended up doing all sorts of weird things because we were really bored a lot of the time, hanging around. I mean, we went, I, we went to a strip club in Las Vegas together.

• 34:19Speaker 02

  Paul Foot in his strip club.

• 34:20Fearne Cotton?

  I got him a lap dance, which was the funniest thing I've ever seen because Paul doesn't like women for a start. I mean, he likes them as friends, but it was just the best night out. He, and watching him do standup, I don't think I've ever laughed so much in my life. It's so weird.

• 34:35Speaker 02

  It's so odd.

• 34:36Fearne Cotton?

  It's so odd and none of it should work, but it is perfect.

• 34:39Speaker 02

  It doesn't hit the, it doesn't hit the, the classic beats of, like, no one could write a Paul Foot joke.

• 34:44Fearne Cotton?

  No.

• 34:44Speaker 02

  And.

• 34:45Fearne Cotton?

  They're not even jokes.

• 34:46Speaker 02

  They're not even jokes. They're just like, and somehow you find yourself, this again, is this obsession is so incredible because like, sometimes people don't follow that rhythm. Like mine, stories I suppose would follow quite a classic rhythm of like a story. So you get why the audience were all laughing in unison at that, that moment, but someone like Paul. You're like, oh, why, how are the room all knowing to laugh at this moment? Because it's so all over the place with this rhythm. Russell Kane is another one like that.

• 35:14Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 35:15Speaker 02

  He's somebody who's so good in the room and he's so funny and his rhythm is so different to it. You would never be able to write it down like how it works. And Paul Foot gave me my first job essentially.

• 35:28Fearne Cotton?

  Really? How come?

• 35:30Speaker 02

  So I was on the Paul Foot radio show. It was for this thing called Resonance FM, which was like, it's probably, it's not a thing anymore. But it's, um, it was basically this weird little radio show that he had. And I went in to be a guest on it. It was, again, I must have been doing stand up for like two, three years or something. And he, uh, he went, oh, do you want to come in as a regular? And I thought, yeah, of course. So I then came in as a regular and this is really early days of podcasts. He then got me to edit the show and make it into a podcast and put it up on. And I used to put it up on thing and we were in, this was when there was like 10 podcasts.

• 36:05Fearne Cotton?

  Wow.

• 36:05Speaker 02

  So I used to make the Paul Foot podcast with him.

• 36:07Fearne Cotton?

  That's crazy.

• 36:08Speaker 02

  And that was a really big thing for me to sort of, again, it's all like levels with stand up. It was like this ladder, this really slow ladder, which is really necessarily slow. It's really, nothing happens in stand up too early.

• 36:25Fearne Cotton?

  You've got to earn your stripes.

• 36:26Speaker 02

  And it's great.

• 36:27Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 36:27Speaker 02

  And it's great in that way. You can be like really frustrated, like, oh, why have I not got this show? And then you're like, oh, you look back when you do get it and you're like, oh, it's because I wasn't good enough.

• 36:36Fearne Cotton?

  Hmm.

• 36:37Speaker 02

  I wasn't ready or whatever. And he like lifted me up to that first rung, I suppose.

• 36:41Fearne Cotton?

  That's so amazing.

• 36:42Speaker 02

  Yeah, it's weird.

• 36:43Fearne Cotton?

  We love Paul Foot.

• 36:44Speaker 02

  We love Paul Foot and that, the mad thing with that, that was probably 16 years ago.

• 36:48Fearne Cotton?

  God, that's crazy.

• 36:50Speaker 02

  I have been in stand up like 18 years.

• 36:51Fearne Cotton?

  That's so amazing. I saw Cat Cullen the other day, who I thought was amazing. I don't know if you've ever seen her stuff.

• 36:56Speaker 02

  So funny.

• 36:57Fearne Cotton?

  Her songs are genius. Again, I was crying, like my ribs were hurting. I'm a massive fan of hers. I think she's incredible.

• 37:05Speaker 02

  Netflix, she's going on Netflix and she's so funny.

• 37:08Fearne Cotton?

  She's very, very clever.

• 37:09Speaker 02

  She's so funny and it's just, and again, there's something for everyone. That's why I like, that's why it's, people get annoyed at the moment. It's very divisive comedy, I suppose. It's like people get frustrated that certain people are saying certain things. There's also another comedian for you.

• 37:23Fearne Cotton?

  Find your one.

• 37:24Speaker 02

  There's loads of us.

• 37:25Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 37:26Speaker 02

  And that's what I love about it.

• 37:28Fearne Cotton?

  When I was watching a bunch of your stand up prior to this chat, I had a very long train journey on Monday and it kept me highly entertained. I was going to Newcastle and

• 37:36Speaker 02

  I must have made it much longer.

• 37:37Fearne Cotton?

  No, it made time fly. But there's something so brilliant about when you walk on stage, you are there, your energy is there, it's big, you're straight in. Sometimes you're almost sort of shouting, like you're excited, we know that you want to be there and you've got something to say and you're quite urgent about saying it. How do you maintain those energy levels? Because I'm imagining doing that, whether it is night on night when you're testing material or you're on tour, that's quite a draining thing to do.

• 38:01Speaker 02

  Yeah, I suppose so. And it's like, it's definitely my earlier gigs when I look back at my stuff on Tally from years and years ago, I can see a much more of a falseness that I had on stage that was more of a performative thing than maybe it is now. But I don't really find it that draining, I suppose. I just, I genuinely enjoy it. I really enjoy it. And hopefully, again, when it sort of crosses across the television, when people seem to say like, oh, you look like you're really enjoying yourself on on Tally. And I really do. I feel like it's, to say it again, a real privilege what I do for a living. And

• 38:43Speaker 02

  I think it's in that process of it that I find the enjoyment of it. Because I feel like, because I do change it every night and try and make it like fun for myself by changing things as much as possible. And I love the puzzle of the show and going like, okay, I'm going to put that bit in there and then I'm going to mention that bit again there. And then how do I tie this show together? What is this show fundamentally about? Can I make it have a sort of a little bit of pathos at the end? And my shows don't tend to be just me sort of talking for an hour and a half. It tends to have some sort of thing in there that's a bit like, a bit more of like a sort of showpiece, I suppose, somewhere at a certain point. And so putting that bit together and making it worth it.

• 39:29Speaker 02

  That's really fun and yes, I genuinely love it.

• 39:32Fearne Cotton?

  I mean, you are doing a hell of a lot and you are managing to juggle continuing your stand up career, TV presenting, marathon running, there's like a lot going on. Would you say your personality is the type that needs to do maybe a bit too much? Push yourself a little too much?

• 39:49Speaker 02

  Yeah, I definitely like having a lot to do. I think it's probably considered ADHD, but I just, I would never know.

• 39:56Fearne Cotton?

  Undiagnosed.

• 39:56Speaker 02

  Undiagnosed.

• 39:57Fearne Cotton?

  I mean, I, same here. I tick many boxes. Just haven't done the test.

• 40:02Speaker 02

  Yeah, you, you sit in a room, like in a green room with those stand up comedians and you're like, well, this could be some sort of documentary about some sort of spectrum. I think it's like, we're all on it somewhere. And it's, yeah, I love to be really busy and it feels really, as soon as I'm not busy, I'm like, why I should be doing something now, which I need to try and get better at. Which again, my son has really helped with because now when I'm not busy, what I'm doing is hanging out with him.

• 40:31Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 40:32Speaker 02

  And that is so time consuming and so, like, it's so consume, it takes every bit of you to be there, which I love, which I really love. And my wife always really laughs because I'll go like the bit that she will look at the, we can look at the diary in bed. I don't know whether that's a very, such a, do you want to look at the diary before we go to sleep?

• 40:56Speaker 02

  Before we slide the eye mask down.

• 40:58Fearne Cotton?

  Oh, I love the eye mask. I've got a silky one.

• 41:01Speaker 02

  Have you got the drowsy one?

• 41:03Fearne Cotton?

  No.

• 41:03Speaker 02

  Mate, you need to get the drowsy one.

• 41:05Fearne Cotton?

  What the fuck is that?

• 41:05Speaker 02

  It's like padded and it goes over your ears as well.

• 41:09Fearne Cotton?

  Why have I not got that?

• 41:10Speaker 02

  So, and it's silky.

• 41:11Fearne Cotton?

  I've just got like a common or garden eye mask.

• 41:14Speaker 02

  You need to step up your eye mask.

• 41:15Fearne Cotton?

  I need to.

• 41:17Speaker 02

  It's fantastic.

• 41:18Fearne Cotton?

  Literally Googling that immediately after this.

• 41:19Speaker 02

  It's, it's almost, it's almost, it's part eye mask, part pillar.

• 41:25Fearne Cotton?

  You've sold it to me.

• 41:27Speaker 02

  I'm gonna get you one.

• 41:28Fearne Cotton?

  Okay, thanks.

• 41:28Speaker 02

  Oh, yeah, for your birthday, whatever that is.

• 41:30Fearne Cotton?

  Like fucking September, but go for it.

• 41:32Speaker 02

  Yeah, absolutely fine.

• 41:34Speaker 02

  And yeah, we just like, we check our diaries. And I'll be really busy and I'll go, don't worry, honestly, next month is really.

• 41:43Fearne Cotton?

  Really chill.

• 41:44Speaker 02

  It's really chill. And she's like, you say that every single month.

• 41:48Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 41:48Speaker 02

  I think it also just takes me by surprise because I feel like I'm not, every month I'm like, it's all gonna stop now. Like, I'm, I'm, I've always got that fear of not.

• 42:00Fearne Cotton?

  Me too, I get that.

• 42:01Speaker 02

  Falling apart.

• 42:01Fearne Cotton?

  Mmm. Where do you think that comes from?

• 42:03Speaker 02

  I don't know, actually, because it's not, I, I mean.

• 42:06Fearne Cotton?

  Because you literally couldn't be nailing it anymore if you tried in like all areas.

• 42:10Speaker 02

  Yeah, it's so hard, isn't it, to like know that?

• 42:12Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 42:13Speaker 02

  Isn't that the weirdest thing?

• 42:14Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 42:14Speaker 02

  You can, you could be like on every television show and doing a stand up tour, which is the dream of yours. Yet still you're going like, oh no, what if, what, maybe this tour is like smaller than my last tour. So that means I'm like, oh, it's all falling apart. I, I don't, I don't know, like. I would love to like, I need to have therapy, I think, at some point, just so someone can like figure me out. And go like, oh, you know, that's why, because of this and because this happened in your childhood that you, I haven't figured out that stuff yet.

• 42:45Fearne Cotton?

  No.

• 42:46Speaker 02

  But it's not like growing up that we would have everything taken away from us at any point, that it would give me that insecurity.

• 42:53Fearne Cotton?

  I think, you know, you don't even need to pathologise it perhaps because I think this industry does breed a certain amount of like comparison and fear that you're gonna lose your job. Because that's how the industry sort of works, I think. I, I've definitely experienced that where you're pitted against other people quite openly and you don't get the job or whatever. And then, so you're always feeling like you're slightly on the back foot. And maybe also just, you know, the notion of, even if you look at how comedy works today, like you said, with the inception of YouTube and now social media. You can constantly go, oh, well, they look like they're doing better than me or more than me. And we're all in that kind of loop of comparing ourselves.

• 43:26Speaker 02

  Like, oh, and we've got to shift more than we used to, right? We've got to constantly like change and reinvent and into, into places that we have no idea about. Like, I don't, I don't know what I'm do, I don't know what I'm doing a lot of the time. Whereas before I was like. Go to a gig, go to a gig. The more you gigged, the better you get at it. It was so simple. That was it. And then the more you gigged, the better you became as a comedian, the more TV you would get on. That was it. That was simple. And now it's like, you have to be an incredible editor to be able to put stuff on. You'd have to know like how the socials work and it changes every fucking month. And the algorithm changes. Like, we're not doing that. It's carousels now. You're like, what the fuck is a carousel? Oh, God.

• 44:11Fearne Cotton?

  It's relentless.

• 44:12Speaker 02

  It's so relentless. And there's so many different parts of your brain that's taken up by all this stuff. And I love to be busy, but I hate it when my brain is like busy with all this like fucking shit. That's like, all these different, and I don't, and I never wanted to sound like I was this old fuddy duddy dude.

• 44:32Fearne Cotton?

  You're 40 now, mate.

• 44:33Speaker 02

  I sound like I'm like, what is this new app? I can't deal with another one. Like, you know, 16 year olds, like, yeah, just do it.

• 44:42Fearne Cotton?

  Oh, I know. Even my 12 year old is just like, how do you not know anything? Like, what is wrong with you? I don't. Look, we are, we're over 40. I'm over 40. You've just tipped over the edge, mate. So, look, it's all downhill.

• 44:54Speaker 02

  Oh, my God.

• 44:55Fearne Cotton?

  It's really not. It's all great.

• 44:56Speaker 02

  I feel like we could be having this conversation in a care home.

• 44:58Fearne Cotton?

  We could. And we probably will be one day. There's showbiz care home somewhere.

• 45:03Speaker 02

  Oh, my God. I can't wait for that. Meet you at Ben Shepard.

• 45:06Fearne Cotton?

  But remember that time when I met Carney and Oog? It's all very tragic. But, I mean, you are juggling a hell of a lot. As you well know, in our house, we are obsessed with Mar Singer. We absolutely fucking cannot get enough of it. It's so good. Every series, I am mentioned at some point. I think I was Mel, I can never say her surname.

• 45:25Speaker 02

  Mel Gidroich.

• 45:27Fearne Cotton?

  Gidroich. I never know if it's a ch at the end or a c.

• 45:29Speaker 02

  Yeah, I'll be honest, I said it pretty quick on the show.

• 45:31Fearne Cotton?

  Yep. Breeze over that autocue moment.

• 45:34Speaker 02

  Oh, my God, ladies and gentlemen. Just some fear of getting it wrong.

• 45:40Fearne Cotton?

  But it's either me or David Tennant every time. And my kids look at me like, could it be? I mean, no.

• 45:45Speaker 02

  This is why you should do it.

• 45:47Fearne Cotton?

  I'm too scared. I'm absolutely terrified.

• 45:48Speaker 02

  What are you scared of? Like, what's the fear that you have? You fear of singing?

• 45:51Fearne Cotton?

  Do you know the actual niche fear? The niche fear is the bit where they've guessed who you are and you've got to sing with the head off. What's my face doing when I'm singing?

• 45:59Speaker 02

  Yeah, that's, that is, that is the hardest thing.

• 46:02Fearne Cotton?

  That's so awkward.

• 46:02Speaker 02

  Because also, what makes me laugh so much about that, like, is that the costume, when the heads come off, it's just, it just looks like an outfit.

• 46:14Speaker 02

  So like, this is my favourite one. Stephen Hendry was on the show.

• 46:17Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 46:17Speaker 02

  Snooker player. And he was, um, he was rubbish, like he was the character rubbish. So he was literally in a green bin and it was like all a really fun cartoon head in a green bin. And then when he had his head taken off, just looked like Stephen Hendry in a bin. Just like Stephen Hendry put himself up in for the recycling.

• 46:40Fearne Cotton?

  But I think singing is so profoundly awkward. Obviously for singers, and I've interviewed a fair few in my, in my time, they would find talking into a microphone excruciatingly embarrassing. They'd say, how do you do, how do you do a talk to people? That to me feels like I'm, there's, I'm just talking. The singing, like, how do you hold the microphone? What's your, what expression are you pulling? I would just look mad.

• 47:02Speaker 02

  It's, it is mad and you've got to embrace the madness because you're, you're gonna be in a bin.

• 47:09Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 47:10Speaker 02

  So like, you've just got to embrace it. Also, this might help you. This is a bit of a look behind the curtain.

• 47:15Fearne Cotton?

  Yes.

• 47:15Speaker 02

  But when you do that final reveal and the final, um, song, when you sing, we've got rid of loads of the audience for NDA purposes.

• 47:25Fearne Cotton?

  Oh, that's interesting.

• 47:28Speaker 02

  Clear out the most of the audience.

• 47:30Fearne Cotton?

  They don't know either when they watch it on the telly.

• 47:31Speaker 02

  Exactly.

• 47:32Fearne Cotton?

  That's clever.

• 47:33Speaker 02

  And then, um, so it keeps the secrets alive.

• 47:36Fearne Cotton?

  I love that.

• 47:36Speaker 02

  And they, uh, they, so you're.

• 47:38Fearne Cotton?

  Because you genuinely don't know who they are, do you?

• 47:40Speaker 02

  No idea.

• 47:40Fearne Cotton?

  No idea, no.

• 47:41Speaker 02

  And it's so much better that way because I like really play along. And, uh, and I just, it's also in the fun of it.

• 47:46Fearne Cotton?

  It's the most fun show ever.

• 47:48Speaker 02

  As soon as I, if someone on the street just goes, tell me who traffic code is, Joe.

• 47:53Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah, don't know, mate.

• 47:54Speaker 02

  I go, if I was to go like Sally Jones, he'd be like, oh, all right.

• 47:58Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah, you've ruined it for me now.

• 47:59Speaker 02

  Ruined his day.

• 47:59Fearne Cotton?

  Why did you tell me?

• 48:00Speaker 02

  But it's so fun. I, I just appreciate it so much more than I used to. I used to just, I got this job and I was like, oh, this is cool that I've got this job. People started watching and I was like, oh, great. And then now that I understand what it means now that people come up to me and say like, my sixteen year old comes down from their bedroom, it's the only show they'll watch with us. Uh, like, we watch it with our, our four year old, my granny, and we sit there in the lounge together, it's the only show that does that. And that, that means so much. And I'm suddenly, I'm now going and doing that show. I feel like this is so special. And because I've got that fear of it all falling apart any moment.

• 48:45Speaker 02

  Now, for the first time in my life, and I've never been good at this. I'm really trying to take in every moment and go like, fucking hell, man, this is mad what's happening. Like, I'm doing a show that people watch, and that is so rare nowadays.

• 48:58Fearne Cotton?

  I know.

• 48:59Speaker 02

  Like, just doing a show that people like, and they watch together, and it's a family event. And I don't think I appreciated how rare it was.

• 49:08Fearne Cotton?

  Hmm.

• 49:09Speaker 02

  And I think it's only seven series in now that I'm like going, well, this is a really cool, special thing that I'm a part of. And making it isn't, isn't horrible.

• 49:20Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 49:20Speaker 02

  Like, there's also people who are on shows that are really big, that making it is a real hard thing to do. Because everyone really hates being involved and there's a real diva at the top or something.

• 49:30Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 49:30Speaker 02

  Whereas this is great, we all, we all love it, man.

• 49:33Fearne Cotton?

  It's so good. And you're so right. I think with my kids who are nine and twelve, you know, they're predominantly watching YouTube. And I'm a classic sort of parent of that age group who's like, oh, can't you just watch normal telly? Like, that's the version of maybe our parents going, why aren't you reading a book or whatever? But when we have those moments where I know we all love watching The Masked Singer, we all love watching Celebrity Get Me Out Of Here. We're all together on the sofa and it is such a moment. And we're all sort of shouting at the TV and it is such, it's a beautiful thing. So I love that actually when you're doing it, you have those little moments of, this is really bloody cool. Cause I think, you know, I was doing a talk yesterday and someone said to me, what do you, what does success mean to you? And I never quite know what I'm gonna say or what that even means to me on any given day.

• 50:18Fearne Cotton?

  But I do think success for me now means those moments where, you know, I could be sat here interviewing you or interviewing, I had Mel Robbins on last week. And I'll get a little moment in the interview where my brain is quiet enough to go, this is really cool. Like, you're just sat here having this moment, having this chat with someone that's really interesting. And I think before I'd be like, get to the end of the episode so you feel the relief, get to the end, know that it went okay. And then you can go home and you can breathe and you can, and I was just all about getting to the end to feel the relief. Whereas actually, I think a successful day now is where I've been present enough in it to go, oh, I enjoyed that bit.

• 50:58Fearne Cotton?

  It might not be all of it, but like just little moments, that feels like you've got a bit more autonomy over it. But also you've got that gratitude that I think naturally comes with enjoying your day. It's like that simple.

• 51:11Speaker 02

  Yeah, it's so true. And it's, um, it's like the, the NTAs when the, the breaks happen. And you're stood there because when you're doing the show, you're doing the show, you're concentrating, you're reading, you're doing whatever. And then a break happens and everyone else is really enjoying themselves, hugging, catching up, drinking, bit drunk, having a great time. You've also got the audience, like 15,000 people who are just like milling about, having a lovely time. And I'm the only one stood on, I've just stood on stage, just stood there, just like watching all of these people mill about.

• 51:46Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 51:47Speaker 02

  And I'm like, oh, this is mad that I'm quote unquote, in control of this, you know? Like this is, this is my gig. Like it's mad. And like, again, in the stand-up show, if I was playing the O2, which I would never be able to sell enough tickets to do so. I, I wouldn't have enough time to take that in because I would be doing the show. But it's so nice to be able to have those, those, those rests where I can just go like mad.

• 52:14Fearne Cotton?

  Hey, I'm pretty sure that O2 is in your future, PS. Come on, Joel. Of course it is.

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• 53:21Fearne Cotton?

  Hello, this is Susie Ruffel.

• 53:23Speaker 00

  And Maisie Adams.

• 53:23Fearne Cotton?

  And together we host Big Kick Energy. Hey Mais, what is it?

• 53:26Speaker 00

  Only the best podcast ever.

• 53:28Fearne Cotton?

  Yes.

• 53:29Speaker 00

  A comedy entertainment podcast with a focus on all things women's football, all things hilarious, all things friendship. It's a laugh is what it is, Ruffel.

• 53:39Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah, and a fair bit of gossiping too.

• 53:40Speaker 00

  Oh, and a lovely bit of gossip. Chow down on the gossip.

• 53:45Fearne Cotton?

  You can listen wherever you get your podcasts. You just need to search Big Kick Energy.

• 53:48Speaker 00

  Grab a knife and fork and tuck in, baby.

• 53:55Fearne Cotton?

  Hey, we haven't talked about the marathon, which was a big moment of this year for you. I mean, you are insanely fit. You set again your goals really high. You were trying to go, what, sub three hours this year?

• 54:06Speaker 02

  Trying, yeah, yeah.

• 54:07Fearne Cotton?

  Which is a professional athlete.

• 54:10Speaker 02

  Not quite, but it is like, it's a thing that everyone aims for. Sub three is like a thing that like, it's, I was really wanting to do it before I was 40. That was like the big thing I've basically been working at for the last sort of year and a half. It just, for lots of people, unfortunately, the marathon in London this year was not that day. It was a really hot day. It was quite stifling, the heat. And so it's just really frustrating and I just, I mean, it's funny to that, it's really funny. But I just, I was on course to do it and I did a three ten in Amsterdam in the October before. So I was like, okay. And I really trained for it. My training runs went well. I was like, this is gonna be okay.

• 54:52Speaker 02

  And then suddenly the heat hit on that day, but everyone was like, we're gonna do it, still go for it, it's gonna be fine. About a 15K, I was like, this is feeling too hard. Like, this is, should be a breeze at 15. Got to the half, I was like, oh god. I remember 25K, there's 42K in a marathon. And 25, I was like, again, this shouldn't feel this hard. I do not remember from 25K to 30K, because I woke up in an ambulance at 30K. And I've got these awful flashes of what I think is the worst part of my personality that came out at this time.

• 55:31Fearne Cotton?

  What?

• 55:32Speaker 02

  Honestly. So I don't remember any of it. And I have a flash of me being dragged by two marathon employees to the ambulance. And me shouting at what is people who are watching the marathon and just going like, someone record this. This needs to be documented. Someone record this. Quite angrily, really.

• 55:56Fearne Cotton?

  Which people did?

• 55:57Speaker 02

  Which some people did. And then I got to the ambulance and I was saying to the ambulance, incredible saying, John's ambulance people. I was like, has anyone got Gabby Logan's number?

• 56:11Fearne Cotton?

  Why are you trying to call?

• 56:12Speaker 02

  She needs to know what's happening. This needs to be on television.

• 56:16Fearne Cotton?

  Oh, because she's hosting it, right? Yeah.

• 56:19Speaker 02

  So I'm like thinking that like Gabby Logan gives a shit about the fact I'm in an ambulance. Like, I think I'm more important than the 50,000 people who are running. Like, it's the worst side of me that's ever come out and God forbid it ever comes out again. I'm a horrific humor.

• 56:36Fearne Cotton?

  We've all got a shadow side, okay? We've all got it.

• 56:39Speaker 02

  I thought it was a nice guy.

• 56:40Fearne Cotton?

  You are a nice guy.

• 56:41Speaker 02

  I'm a piece of shit inside.

• 56:44Fearne Cotton?

  We've all got that side.

• 56:45Speaker 02

  I said.

• 56:46Fearne Cotton?

  It would just manifest in different ways. We've all got it.

• 56:48Speaker 02

  I was doing my first Radio 2 show that Saturday, the Saturday after the marathon. And again, I remember just saying to the St John's Ambulance people, like, oh, at least I've got something to talk about on Radio 2. They're like trying to like give me an IV drip and trying to get my thing down. All I'm thinking about is.

• 57:06Fearne Cotton?

  Work.

• 57:06Speaker 02

  Like, I'm such a fucking psychopath. I'm an absolute psychopath.

• 57:12Fearne Cotton?

  Oh, it's so good. It's so good. I mean, you poor bugger. Because I know how much that means to you, doing that sub three. And how, you know, you set a goal, you wanna bloody do it. You wanna achieve it.

• 57:24Speaker 02

  This is something that I wish I was better at in my career. Because I find it so easy to set fitness goals and be like, I wanna do that. I wanna do a sub three. I wanna, I wanna run this, this fast. I wanna be able to lift this weight that's this heavy. I'm so good at that because it feels so palpable. It feels so, so gettable.

• 57:41Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 57:42Speaker 02

  I'm so bad at setting career goals.

• 57:46Fearne Cotton?

  It does not seem that way.

• 57:47Speaker 02

  I need to be better because I feel very lucky in the way that it's sort of all worked out to plan. But I wished I was better at going like, oh, in five years' time, I wanna be doing this, this, this, and this is the perfect thing. Because I know how important that is because then it sets you on the right journey. I think a part of why I sometimes feel like it's all gonna fall apart is because it's, there's no structure in place. Do you know what I mean?

• 58:11Fearne Cotton?

  I do, but I will counter it by saying, because my own life experience of that is probably the absolute opposite. Because I used to, when I was TV presenting, think from a very young age, all I wanna do is be as big as Ant and Dec. Like, there was no greater goal, or Zombie Ball, whoever my heroes were and still are. I just wanna be as big as them. So here's the route. I have to do all the meetings. These shows are gonna work. There was always an easy decision for questions put to me because it was like, is that gonna aid me getting to that point? Yes or no? And if it is, I'll do it. But then everything kind of fucking imploded and went wrong anyway. And now I've ended up going on this tangent that I am enjoying a million times more.

• 58:53Fearne Cotton?

  That feels like I'm challenged so much more. Has taught me more than anything. And I hadn't, I didn't know I was gonna do this. I had absolutely no clue. So I think it's no bad thing to have a very flexible approach to. Yeah, you wanna do well. Yeah, you can still be ambitious. But I think having a set goal. I, I think it can be detrimental sometimes.

• 59:14Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 59:15Fearne Cotton?

  I would say, just to flip it on its head.

• 59:17Speaker 02

  No, I think that's really nice to hear.

• 59:19Fearne Cotton?

  Because who knows, you could get offered something that isn't in your great plan that you've got to end up. Playing the O two or whatever it is.

• 59:25Speaker 02

  That's what I find hard because it's like anytime I feel like I should do something like that. And plan my life like other people do. Something then comes in that I've never would have ever dreamed of.

• 59:36Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah, how exciting.

• 59:37Speaker 02

  Yeah, it's exciting. It's petrifying all at once. It's great.

• 59:40Fearne Cotton?

  Course, it's scary and exciting, but it's brilliant. Going back to the marathon. What do you think you learned from that experience? Because I'm imagining in that situation where you're lying in the ambulance. You could be really pissed off, frustrated, feel a sense of injustice because you've done all the training. Or do you still find the humour in it?

• 59:58Speaker 02

  I definitely find the humour in it. Again, it's something that, that's brilliant about being a stand up. Because if something fails, then it's a story. So it's like all fuel for your next, your next endeavour. Like it's, a failure is a, is a plus in a way.

• 1:00:13Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah.

• 1:00:14Speaker 02

  And that's, so that's great. I, I like. I, at least you've got a story out of it. And the story is better now in reality than if I just did it.

• 1:00:23Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah, did sub three, like done. There's no story. Yeah, well done. You're really fit.

• 1:00:26Speaker 02

  Literally got my child to come to the finish line wearing a T-shirt that says sub three. And I did it in six hours.

• 1:00:34Speaker 02

  So embarrassing. So embarrassing.

• 1:00:39Fearne Cotton?

  That T-shirt needs to be in a frame.

• 1:00:42Speaker 02

  It's like, I mean, it's some three days. To be fair, I wasn't specific in the timeframe. But it's, it's so mad.

• 1:00:52Speaker 02

  I like set it all up because.

• 1:00:54Fearne Cotton?

  The T-shirt is so extra.

• 1:00:55Speaker 02

  It's so, because like I know the way I work and the way that my brain works during these long runs and stuff. Is that I needed to give myself something to be accountable for. So if I told everyone, I'm going for some three hours, I'm gonna fucking do it. Whether you like it or not, come on. Whereas if I was silent about it, I would be like, well, you know, halfway through, I'd be like, I haven't told anyone on that. So let's just do three oh five. That's fine. Whereas if I had that goal, I'm thinking at the end, my, my child's wearing a T-shirt.

• 1:01:25Speaker 02

  I've made clothing. I've made merch for a thing I haven't even achieved yet.

• 1:01:29Fearne Cotton?

  You've gone on like Snappy Snaps website, like on the T-shirt.

• 1:01:32Speaker 02

  Awful. So awful. The whole thing is it's so, it's, yeah, I don't know why I fill my life with these things. And I don't actually know what my next sort of goal is gonna be, but I know that in the last.

• 1:01:43Fearne Cotton?

  You need to have a challenge or that sort of person.

• 1:01:45Speaker 02

  Definitely. Because I, I, I've realised it the last month. When I haven't had like a goal, I was like, I'm just gonna give myself a small rest. And I, I just feel just a bit like I'm, I'm missing something in my life.

• 1:02:01Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah. Were you quite forgiving of yourself in that moment? You know, obviously it's not your fault. It's bloody hot and you've done all the prep, whatever, but it's so easy when you don't meet a goal to beat yourself up.

• 1:02:12Speaker 02

  But then the, the thing that, that was brilliant that came out of the whole thing is that I could have quite easily have given up in that moment and gone like, oh, I haven't got my target. I then was lying down in the ambulance for so long that my legs wouldn't move. So I couldn't stand up. And I was like, I think I want to finish it. And they were like, no. And I said, I think I really would love to finish it. So I had to stay in the ambulance longer for my vitals to come back to life. Then I, I, they helped me sort of stand up and my legs literally wouldn't bend because you've gone from running really fast to lying down for an hour and a half. And then I, um, it took me about half an hour, three quarters an hour to do one revolution of the ambulance.

• 1:02:55Speaker 02

  And because I kept on falling over, I was like, sort of like Forrest Gump, Pelotia or whatever. And some reference and then, uh.

• 1:03:04Speaker 02

  I was like, I said, I'm just gonna get on and do it, start really slow. And I think over time, my legs will, now I'm not falling over, I'll be able to do it. And it's like, however much snow it takes. And then your legs warm up and then you get faster and faster and faster and faster. And I think I ended up doing it like six fifteen or something like that, after spending like two and a half hours in a marathon.

• 1:03:22Fearne Cotton?

  That's amazing to get your brain back into the idea of shit, I've still got so many miles to go.

• 1:03:27Speaker 02

  But that was actually a real gift because the fact I could, could finish it in the first thing. And the fact I really got to enjoy it, that second half was so enjoyable. Because the first half, you're just like, I gotta reach this target, I gotta run faster, I gotta keep with this flag, with this pacer, you know? And then the second half, I just got like to see that there was loads of people cheering and loads, they had the time to be able to see your name on your shirt and say, go on, you can do this. Like, it was a real joy where you, you come out of it going, oh my God, isn't London special? And isn't London great? Like, if I ran that whole thing in three hours, I would have finished that marathon and gone, aren't I great?

• 1:04:11Speaker 02

  Whereas instead, I came at the end of that marathon and went, fuck, isn't London great? Isn't like fitness great? Isn't like community fantastic? The fact that we all get together? Isn't my wife fantastic? The fact that she was there, like, helping me and making sure my son was okay and napping and it's all good and da, da, da, da. And I had the time to think about those things. So I think when your things go wrong, it's, it's like, it's better than if things go right. Same with stand up, it's like, when something goes wrong, when you have a bad gig, you learn so much. You go, oh, that bit's wrong, that bit needs a stronger ending, that needs to work. When you have a good gig, you don't write any notes because you're like, I'm great.

• 1:04:50Fearne Cotton?

  Yep.

• 1:04:51Speaker 02

  And you don't learn anything from that. And so you learn so much more about yourself and from just having things just falter and go, go badly.

• 1:05:01Fearne Cotton?

  Also, I think your whole marathon run is like a really lovely analogy for life. Like, when we rush through it and we're just thinking about the end goal and how it's gonna benefit us, we sort of miss everything.

• 1:05:10Speaker 02

  Hmm.

• 1:05:11Fearne Cotton?

  But actually, when you're not in a rush and you're slowly moving through the process, that's when you get to go, oh, wow, let's have a look around and see what's actually going on. And I think we're all in the, in a rush to get to. Like this bit where we're gonna feel okay.

• 1:05:25Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 1:05:25Fearne Cotton?

  And it never comes.

• 1:05:26Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 1:05:26Fearne Cotton?

  It will never come. It will never arrive. So actually, might as well just enjoy or at least look around and be present to whatever we're going through.

• 1:05:34Speaker 02

  And to put it in a fitness term as well, it's a heart rate thing. So I've found that in television. When like in the marathon, you first half, your heart rate is so high that your your body doesn't have the ability to think about anything else than like powering your body. And it's really diff- like when your heart rate's much lower, you can take so much more in. You have the ability to think faster. You have the ability. You have more oxygen into your brain, literally. I remember I used to go the first sort of live telly I used to do. I used to be so like excited and just get my energy so high and then go off and then fuck up the autocue because I was reading so fast. And I was like, why am I so good in rehearsals? And then I'd get to the real thing and I'm awful. I could never work it out.

• 1:06:17Speaker 02

  It's because my heart rate was so high. That's the only difference, right, between the rehearsals and the main thing. So if through understanding that, that was where I was like, okay, just the whole thing is about getting your heart rate as low as possible. When you before you go on stage, whether it's tour show, NTAs, Master Singer, anything, you're so much better at your job when you're just like present.

• 1:06:40Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah, and that's a really good tip for anyone listening to this who might have to do, stand up in front of people and say something at work. Do a presentation or whatever. Is that heart rate thing is is a bloody good tip.

• 1:06:51Speaker 02

  Bring your heart rate down with it. Literally, I used to, I don't necessarily do it anymore, but I used to literally wear a heart rate watch thing and look at what my heart rate was and just found that interesting. And then physically bring your shoulders down. When your your shoulders are up and you physically bend, bring your scapulars back on it and then just like go, just breathe and then take a breath, go out.

• 1:07:13Fearne Cotton?

  Do the thing.

• 1:07:14Speaker 02

  Just read.

• 1:07:15Fearne Cotton?

  Do the, just read. Before we wrap up, I'd love to know where your happy place is.

• 1:07:20Speaker 02

  Oh, it's, I mean, it's really changed a lot in the last couple of years. My happy place, one hundred percent, I was at home. It's like with Hannah and Wild. I suppose it would be in the morning where we, because our jobs are a bit unorthodox. Often we're there in the mornings and not there in the evenings. And so we just love having breakfast together. And I just love making him laugh. It feels so special. And I love, I love my family so much. And I feel like really privileged to be able to spend time with them and to be

• 1:08:03Speaker 02

  able to see him grow up and be a, hopefully a, a, a better person than me.

• 1:08:08Fearne Cotton?

  Oh, mate. Well, that is just the most adorable, adorable answer. And I'm so, so happy to see all the brilliant things that you're doing. It's just like a joy to watch you thrive and try all these new projects and do all these TV shows that bring us lots of laughter and lots of fun. So thank you so much, Joel.

• 1:08:26Speaker 02

  And it's a pleasure to be on this show. I genuinely love it. And you've taught me a lot in the way of, it doesn't have to be the same way as everyone else in order to get satisfaction and enjoyment out of life. And you can just take a, like, a complete left turn and do something to please yourself. And, and it can all turn out for, for the way for the better. You don't have to follow upstream all the time.

• 1:08:52Fearne Cotton?

  Yeah. Thanks, mate. That means a lot. Thank you, Joel.

• 1:08:55Speaker 02

  Thanks for having me.

• 1:08:57Fearne Cotton?

  Oh, Joel, you bloody legend. Do you know what? I love chats like that, which managed to sort of meander through very funny terrain to really thoughtful, poignant moments. It was just sort of like a lovely episode, one that I will think about a lot, especially that heart rate stuff. You know, I struggle still now with the thought of doing a live TV show, something that I used to do literally, like sleepwalk into and do with my eyes closed. My heart goes bananas and I feel like I've got no control over it. So I think I'm gonna go and let all of that percolate somewhat because it was very interesting to hear how Joel deals with those sorts of nerves. Joel's Happy Idiot Tour has been extended into

• 1:09:38Fearne Cotton?

  the autumn before closing at the very prestigious London Palladium in April 2026. I'm definitely gonna go. You'll have a riot over time, so get your tickets to see him. And keep an eye on your podcast feed during the week, by the way, because there's a really cool episode coming up. Spoiler, you might cry a little bit. I did.

• 1:09:58Fearne Cotton?

  But you'll also laugh a lot too. In the meantime, a massive thanks again to Joel, to the producer Anushka Tate at Happy Play Studios, and to you, you lovely lot.

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