Maria Malik: Public Speaking Habits That Help Introverted Entrepreneurs Command Any Room | Human Behavior | E423

Maria Malik's perfectionist mindset once made public speaking feel impossible. After landing her dream job at Stanford University, she spent two weeks preparing for a presentation, stayed up until 3 a.m. rehearsing, and still called in sick rather than face the audience. Realizing that her fear of public speaking could cost her valuable opportunities, she worked to overcome it and eventually founded The Introverted Speaker. In this episode, Maria shares communication habits that help entrepreneurs overcome public speaking anxiety, speak confidently without being extroverts, and unlock career and business opportunities. In this episode, Hala and Maria will discuss: (00:00) Introduction (00:00) Why Poor Communication Can Cost You Opportunities (04:37) Growing Up With a Fear of Public Speaking (08:08) How Introverts Should Prepare for Speeches (09:04) How to Manage Public Speaking Nerves (17:04) The Secret to Connecting with Your Audience (27:42) Live Coaching: Hala’s Public Speaking Habits (38:15) Overcoming Speaking Anxiety and Communicating Clearly (45:02) How Speaking Confidence Opens Business Doors (52:18) Mastering Vocal Tone and Speaking Style (57:04) Growing a Personal Brand on LinkedIn Maria Malik is an executive speaking coach and founder of The Introverted Speaker, where she helps introverted entrepreneurs and executives communicate with confidence and authority. Before launching her coaching business, she worked as a research administrator at Stanford University. In her book, The Introverted Speaker, she shares strategies for overcoming public speaking anxiety and developing an authentic speaking style without pretending to be extroverted. Sponsored By: Indeed - Get a $75 sponsored job credit to boost your job's visibility at Indeed.com/profiting Shopify - Start your $1/month trial at Shopify.com/profiting. Northwest Registered Agent - Get a complete business identity with Northwest. Visit northwestregisteredagent.com/YAPFree and start using free resources to build something amazing. HeyGen - Create AI avatar videos without constantly being behind the camera. Get your first three videos free at HeyGen.com/profiting. AG1 Next Gen - Support your nutritional foundation with vitamins, minerals, prebiotics, probiotics, and superfoods. Get a free Immune Support Bundle with your first subscription order at DrinkAG1.com/PROFITING. Whatnot - Grow your business through live shopping, community, and real-time connections with buyers. Search Whatnot, W H A T N O T, in the App Store and start selling today. MOD - Connect with licensed medical providers for modafinil to support sustained energy, focus, and alertness. Visit MOD.com for a free consultation and get 10% off your first order plus free shipping with code PROFITING. See the website for important safety information. Prenuvo - Get a radiation-free whole-body MRI in about an hour, with no contrast dye or needles. To learn more about Prenuvo and get $300 off your scan, visit Prenuvo.com/hala. Terms and conditions apply. Resources Mentioned: Maria’s Book, The Introverted Speaker: theintrovertedspeaker.com Maria’s LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/mariamalikspeaks Maria’s Instagram: instagram.com/mariamalikspeaks LinkedIn Creator Club by Hala Taha (Skool): skool.com/linkedin-creator-club Active Deals - youngandprofiting.com/deals Key YAP Links Reviews - ratethispodcast.com/yap YouTube - youtube.com/c/YoungandProfiting Newsletter - youngandprofiting.co/newsletter LinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/htaha Instagram - instagram.com/yapwithhala Social + Podcast Services: yapmedia.com Transcripts - youngandprofiting.com/episodes-new LinkedIn Creator Club - Skool.com/linkedin-creator-club Entrepreneurship, Entrepreneurship Podcast, Business, Business Podcast, Self Improvement, Self-Improvement, Personal Development, Starting a Business, Strategy, Investing, Sales, Selling, Psychology, Productivity, Entrepreneurs, AI, Artificial Intelligence, Technology, Marketing, Negotiation, Money, Finance, Side Hustle, Startup, Mental Health, Career, Leadership, Mindset, Health, Growth Mindset, Positivity, Self-Improvement, Personal Development, Human Nature, Human Psychology, Critical Thinking, Robert Greene, Chris Voss, Robert Cialdini

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• 0:00Hala Taha?

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• 1:23Speaker 01

  Most people, they're so worried about the self. What am I doing? Do I look good? Am I okay? Am I gonna be judged? Am I gonna remember my script or my presentation? That you forget, hey, there's a whole audience in front of you. Focus on connection a lot more than performance. I think that's the most important thing when it comes to public speaking.

• 1:38Hala Taha?

  You can be brilliant at what you do, but if you can't communicate that brilliance, people may never see you as an authority. The good news, you don't have to be an extrovert or the loudest person in the room to command attention. And that's something my guest and close friend knows firsthand. Maria Malik is an executive speaking coach and the founder of The Introverted Speaker.

• 1:58Speaker 01

  I think as introverts, we prep so much because we want to be so perfect. We put in all this extra effort, all this preparation, and then sometimes that becomes cognitive overload and you don't do so well. Worst thing is looking through your notes again, right before.

• 2:12Hala Taha?

  How would you recommend an introverted speaker or any speaker prepare for a speech?

• 2:17Speaker 01

  Call up a friend and say, hey, can I explain my presentation to you? When you explain things to people, it gets embedded in your head much better. So then, now when you actually get up, you'll remember what you have to say. You won't have to memorize. And let's say sometimes you just absolutely don't have the time and you cannot explain something to someone. I like to create something I call skeleton notes. What you could do is [BLEEP].

• 2:36Hala Taha?

  What is like your favorite thing to do 60 seconds before you go onstage?

• 2:40Speaker 01

  It's all about like starting your clock early. One of the reasons people are afraid is because as soon as they get up, that's when the first 10 minutes, you're the most nervous. You're more likely to go blank. You're more likely to mess up. If you can't do that, one of the easiest things that you could do is-

• 2:53Hala Taha?

  Maria, welcome to Young and Profiting Podcast.

• 2:56Speaker 01

  Hi, Hala. So excited to be here. Thank you for having me.

• 2:58Hala Taha?

  Of course. It's so fun to have my friends on the podcast. We've been hanging out basically all year since you moved to Austin. We first met on LinkedIn. We were just like LinkedIn friends. And now you moved to Austin. We've been hanging out all the time. And I was like, I gotta have you on the podcast. We gotta talk.

• 3:15Speaker 01

  Fun fact, I moved here because of you, Hala, because you told me how great it was. And I was like, I was ready for a new place. So when you told me Austin's amazing, I totally believed you and you've been right. It's been so much fun. I'm loving it here.

• 3:26Hala Taha?

  Well, you had a built-in friend right when you got here.

• 3:28Speaker 01

  I did, yeah.

• 3:29Hala Taha?

  But today, we're gonna focus on communication because you are a communication expert. That's what you've been teaching for so many years. And first, I want to talk about the stakes because the stakes with communication are really high. Like, it's really important, especially for entrepreneurs, to be a great communicator. So let's talk about the stakes. You can be great, but not necessarily recognized as being great. Talk to us about that.

• 3:54Speaker 01

  Great topic, first of all, to start with because I've been working now with so many different types of people. And the majority of what I'm seeing is people coming to me. They're so smart, first of all. They're so brilliant. But then you put them on a stage in front of people and they, they sound like they have no idea what they're talking about because they get nervous or they just don't know how to communicate their expertise. So to answer your question, you know, what is at stake? It's your entire brand is at stake, your entire company, your entire business, your entire, the revenue, like everything at that point is at stake. Because if you can't communicate your value, if you can't talk about what's in here, people don't understand you then. And if they don't understand you, a confused mind, you know how they say, never buys. So if you're not able to portray everything that's in here,

• 4:38Speaker 01

  then people will just not look at you as an authority or an expertise at something.

• 4:43Hala Taha?

  You can basically be an expert, but not necessarily an authority. So talk to us about the difference between expertise and authority.

• 4:50Speaker 01

  Exactly. So when it comes to expertise, I know there are so many brilliant entrepreneurs, business owners. You've probably crafted and perfected your craft. But the problem is, when somebody asks you about it, you don't know how to talk about it. So the difference is that expertise is you being great at something and authority is how people perceive you. So do people perceive you as somebody that's also great at something or not? Because those are two very different things. You could be so smart, but how are people gonna know? Unless if you can talk about it and you can demonstrate it.

• 5:21Hala Taha?

  Yeah, and sometimes it's the person who's not so brilliant, not so smart, who's just like the loudest person in the room, who's perceived as the authority.

• 5:29Speaker 01

  Exactly. And I think some of us know this type of person. You're like, how did you move up before me? When I do all this hard work, I'm so great at what I do, but people respect you and look at you as an authority figure. And it's kind of annoying, to be honest.

• 5:41Hala Taha?

  Yeah. Well, you talk about this in your, in your new book, The Inverted Speaker, this invisible tax that you pay when you're a communicator that isn't so great at communicating. Tell us about that.

• 5:52Speaker 01

  Yeah, so the introverted speaker, when I wrote that book, I was thinking about, okay, what are we losing out on? And I use myself as a prime example. So for me, I was so quiet. And the things that I was losing out was, number one, on jobs that I wanted. I was losing out on the promotions that I wanted. I wanted to get invited to events at work. I was losing out on that. So I wasn't able to network as well. When I started my business, I was losing out on opportunities because I was so afraid of public speaking and getting up in front of people. So the list kind of keeps going because if you can't get up in front of an audience and speak, then how are people going to know about you? If there's no visibility, how will people want to work with you? If they don't understand you, why would they invest in you? So it just, the list just goes on and on.

• 6:34Hala Taha?

  Yeah, so when I think about invisible tax for entrepreneurs, I think about the fact that when you're an entrepreneur, it's not school. No one's giving you feedback, right? It's not like you're presenting in front of a teacher and then they're gonna tell you, you did this wrong, you did this wrong. When you're doing a sales pitch or an investor pitch, people are just not gonna buy from you. They're not gonna invest in you. They're not gonna tell you, you didn't communicate effectively or you sounded unconfident. They might not even know why they said no.

• 7:02Speaker 01

  That's so true.

• 7:03Hala Taha?

  So there's an invisible tax in being a poor communicator because people don't trust you enough to buy from you or invest in you.

• 7:10Speaker 01

  Exactly. And that's why when people call communication a soft skill, I'm like, are you serious? How's that a soft skill? When, if you don't have the communication, how will people know about you? Why would they even want to work with you? So for me, it's definitely a hard skill. And I'm honestly so surprised that we don't get taught this in school.

• 7:26Hala Taha?

  Yeah. Well, you actually have a really interesting backstory. And you didn't grow up as this, like, really- we're actually very different. We were just talking offline. We look like sisters, but our personalities are actually very different. Like, I grew up wanting to perform in front of everyone, sing in front of everyone, be onstage. I get energy from being onstage. Like, I'm a real extrovert. I've always been my whole life. I love to like walk up to people, start conversations. I love social gatherings. And you were quite different. We both grew up with immigrant parents, but we just ended up being very, very different. So talk to us about being an immigrant or your parents being an immigrant. You were actually born in Pakistan, right? So tell us about your upbringing and how that made you introverted.

• 8:11Speaker 01

  Of course. And I think so many people can relate to this. So first of all, I'm the eldest daughter of immigrant parents. So I was born in Pakistan. I was about four years old when we moved to Canada. And my parents were so afraid of this new world because it was completely unknown to them. And I think they installed that fear in me as well. They're like, hey, Maria, don't go out there, you know, don't be too loud. Like, they just wanted to fit in, just work hard, you know, build their lives. And that was it. And that was what was taught to me as well.

• 8:37Hala Taha?

  And really religious too, right? So even just like women are more conservative. You grew up Muslim, right? So more conservative, more like, don't speak up, that kind of stuff.

• 8:46Speaker 01

  Exactly. I was always told that, you know, a woman's voice should not be heard, that you should just be there, you should be useful, you should be helpful, but stay quiet, Maria, don't speak too loud. So naturally, I became very introverted. And naturally, I just became so afraid of the world, to be honest. And I think that's why I became an introvert. And it was fine for a while, like, I was getting by. But then, you know, after school, after university, and then now in the corporate world, like, I was really struggling. And I was like, something needs to change. Like, this is not okay. So yeah, being an introvert was something I had to really, really- like, I feel like I had to just work extra hard to do everything that would come naturally to extroverts.

• 9:23Hala Taha?

  Yeah. Tell me about a time when you were a kid where you had to do something that was like communication-related? And like, what happened? Like, how can somebody tell if they're like naturally an introverted speaker?

• 9:37Speaker 01

  Great question. So I remember this one time, I was in grade 11 and I had to give my very first presentation. And I really looked up to my teacher because he had so much faith in me. And it was just like such a good environment. So he, we had to do our first presentation. And the night before, like, I was completely ready. I was like, oh, I can't wait to do this. I put in so much work, so much effort into my presentation. The next day, when it was time for me to get up in front of people, by the way, it's my first time ever in like grade 11. I freaked out and all I could do was read. So I literally had a paper in front of me and I did not look up once. I was just reading, I was reading. And I was like, okay, whatever, I got it done with. But then my teacher came up to me and he's like, what was that? He literally said, what was that?

• 10:20Speaker 01

  Because he saw me in other, um, other areas and he knew that I was so much more than that. So I was like, I don't know, I was just so scared. And he's like, Maria, that was like, he pretty much said that was horrible without saying it was horrible. And that's when I'm like, okay, what is he talking about? Like, wait, was it really that bad? And that disappointment that I heard from him like really stuck with me. And I, I think at that point I knew, wait, something's not right. Because after everyone else that went, like, people were so energetic and they were just, they were commanding the room. And I kind of wondered, wait, why can't I do that? Why was it so difficult for me? So I think that was a time that really kind of shifted things for me.

• 10:55Hala Taha?

  What is the difference between how an introverted person shows up before a speech? Who isn't trained or coached versus an extroverted person?

• 11:03Speaker 01

  Great question. I think as introverts, we prep so much because we want to be so perfect. We want to make sure that we connect with the audience. We do all of that. And because we're so introspective, we think too much. And the way that we show up, like, we have to almost like prepare everything. I think what extroverts do is they naturally rely on the audience and their energy to give them more energy to keep going. So I do think extroverts need less preparation. Introverts, because we overthink everything. And I do think more introverts are perfectionists. The way that we show up is we put in all this extra effort, all this preparation. And then sometimes that becomes cognitive overload and you don't do so well. So that's why I started this, uh, the whole introverted speaker thing.

• 11:46Speaker 01

  Because I felt like nobody was teaching it from our perspective.

• 11:50Hala Taha?

  Yeah, I'm going to ask you so many questions about how to prepare and everything like that. But I first want to ask you, for all these years, you've been teaching communication for a handful of years now. Do you still get nervous before you go on stage?

• 12:04Speaker 01

  Absolutely. And I think nerves are good. They're not really bad. I think we've given such a negative connotation to nerves. I think nerves just means you're taking this seriously. And I would want to be a little bit nervous because it does make me prep a little bit better. It does make me think a bit harder. And nerves at the end of the day, they, they just tell you that, yeah, like I take this seriously. So I do think they are important. And absolutely, yeah, I still get nervous. But I've learned to manage it so well. And I think that's what people like to learn from me. Like, how do I manage this enough that I want to keep doing it over and over again? Instead of, okay, that was terrible, never doing that again.

• 12:42Hala Taha?

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• 14:06Hala Taha?

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• 16:14Hala Taha?

  For me, when I think of nervousness, nervousness is actually a very similar emotion to excitement. It's just, it's like anxious and excitement. So I try to tell myself, okay, like I'm anxiously excited, let me take out the anxious, you know? I prepared and I, I tend to tell myself like affirmations, like you prepared, you're super smart, you deserve to be here. And I love to tell myself affirmations before I go on stage, just like bigging myself up because I know I did the work and I'm ready for that moment. And that really helps me. What is like your favorite thing to do 60 seconds before you go on stage?

• 16:52Speaker 01

  Yeah, first of all, what you said, affirmations are great. I think that's so powerful. So for me, 60 seconds, and this is something I love telling everyone. It's all about like starting your clock early, right? So one of the reasons people are afraid is because as soon as they get up, that's when the first 10 minutes and based off of studies too, you're the most nervous. You're more likely to go blank. You're more likely to mess up. You're more likely to feel like, oh, I never want to do this again.

• 17:14Hala Taha?

  Yeah, you're basically warming up in front of your audience.

• 17:17Speaker 01

  Exactly. So with those 60 seconds, uh, it depends on what environment you're in. Let's say, I'll give you an example. I was doing a big speech in front of about 400 people in Toronto and it had been a while since I did that. So I knew I was going to be nervous. So what I asked the organizers of the event, I was like, hey, instead of just putting me on directly, could we do a panel before? So that helped me start the clock early. So we had a panel, I was sitting down, people asked me questions. And then after that was my segment. Now, of course, not everyone can do that. So if you can't do that, what I would say is start that 60 second clock early. Go up to people and say, hey, I'm Maria, you know, so excited to meet you. Was there something specific that you wanted me to talk about when I present? Start that clock early.

• 17:59Speaker 01

  Once you start talking early, it just becomes easier because now that one minute before, you're a bit more relaxed, you've already started speaking and you now know somebody in the audience too. So it takes away from that pressure a little bit.

• 18:11Hala Taha?

  And you don't necessarily even need to do it like, that's something that you could go like half an hour before and go like, basically you're saying like, go sit in the crowd, go engage with people, be on before you actually have to be on so that you're already warmed up before you get on stage.

• 18:25Speaker 01

  Exactly. It makes a big difference.

• 18:28Hala Taha?

  What's the worst thing you could do before going on stage?

• 18:31Speaker 01

  The worst thing is looking through your notes again.

• 18:33Hala Taha?

  Oh.

• 18:34Speaker 01

  Right before. Yeah. And I know a lot of people do that. What I say is even just 24 hours or, you know, the night before, just stop looking at your notes. You're not going to be able to retain that information. If anything, you're going to put more pressure on yourself at that point. So don't try to look at those notes again. Whatever you do, do it the night before, sleep on it the next morning, get ready, dress up, have a nice meal. Take that pressure off of yourself.

• 18:57Hala Taha?

  Yeah, I'm like psychotic when it comes to, uh, preparing for presentations. So typically what I do is I create my slides. I, I create an entire script. Word for word script.

• 19:09Speaker 01

  Oh, do you memorize it?

• 19:11Hala Taha?

  Sometimes.

• 19:11Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 19:12Hala Taha?

  And I will, yeah, I do memorize it.

• 19:15Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 19:16Hala Taha?

  And I will record it and then I listen to that recording over and over again. Usually I'm like a procrastinator, so it's like not done until like one or two. If it's two days before, like I did an excellent job. But usually it's like the day before I finish it. And then for like 24 hours, I'm just listening it to over and over. And I basically like crash memorize. That's actually how I study for my podcast too. Like I crash memorize for 24 hours what I need to memorize. And then it kind of goes away after the moment goes away, you know? Because a lot of my presentations are actually timed where I have like 15 minutes or 30 minutes and I can't go over. And as you know, it's easier to talk longer than shorter, right? So I try to like be concise. But there's been moments where that has worked against me.

• 20:01Hala Taha?

  Where I'll get on stage and like I'll miss a word and then it will like screw me up, right? So it's like, I know it's not perfect, but for the most part, that's kind of the process that works for me. That at least keeps me to time. And the more that I have it memorized, the more that I feel comfortable to actually go off script, right? And like, and like wing it. How would you recommend an introverted speaker or any speaker prepare for a speech?

• 20:26Speaker 01

  Absolutely. So I'll tell you, me personally, I hate memorizing things because I feel like my memory is not that great. So I know if I forget one word, like you said, then it messes with my head and then I'm going to forget something else and my energy will be off. And most of my clients that I work with, they tell me the same thing. I don't love to memorize. So what I like to do and what I have my clients do is, so let's say you've prepared your slides, okay? Get your slides done, call up a friend and say, hey, can I explain my presentation to you? So as you're going through each slide, explain to them what you want the audience to get from here. For example, let's say I have my first slide open and I'm talking about a presentation that I missed. So I'll be like, Hala, okay. So this is what I want to do here. I want people to understand that this one time I had a presentation and I was so sick to my stomach that I stayed up until 3:00 AM.

• 21:11Speaker 01

  And because of that, the next morning I felt like crap. I had no sleep. I was so nervous and I ended up calling in sick. So yeah, when you explain things to people, it gets embedded in your head much better. So then now, when you actually get up, you'll be, you'll remember what you have to say. You won't have to memorize and you'll go through the entire thing without forgetting what you need to say. So explain things to people. That is the number one thing. Another thing, let's say sometimes you just absolutely don't have the time and you cannot explain something to someone. I like to create something I like, I call skeleton notes. And I have so many examples of my clients that have done this and they've seen some great stuff happen. So skeleton notes, what you could do is think of it like a brain dump. So everything that's on your mind.

• 21:51Speaker 01

  And by the way, one of the reasons why we're so nervous about public speaking is because we're getting that cognitive overload. So if you feel like you put too much pressure on yourself, you don't want to memorize, take everything out of your head, put it onto paper and organize it in a way that's easy to understand. Again, not memorized, to understand. So you're going to make a bullet point. Point one, I'm going to talk about presentations. And have your bullet points there. Write down two or three things you want people to remember and you want to talk about during that time. So again, it's just words, a couple of words. You're not writing down the whole sentence. So skeleton notes are, they're such a great way for you to again, release that cognitive overload, for you to release that pressure, but still be able to have a structure while you're speaking.

• 22:34Hala Taha?

  Yeah. So basically like a couple of words that will just like help you remember what you're supposed to say. So it's like Cliff Notes.

• 22:41Speaker 01

  Yeah, kind of like a prompt.

• 22:42Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 22:43Speaker 01

  It's giving you, it'll remind you, oh yeah, this is what I'm supposed to talk about.

• 22:45Hala Taha?

  Yeah, this is the next thing that I need to talk about. I also find that like when you're the actual one who made the presentation and like put the thoughts together, that it's way easier than presenting something that somebody else did. Like my team will always try to like make presentations for me and like I'll get it and I'll be like, I'll have to redo it all so that I feel like it's mine and then I can actually present it.

• 23:07Speaker 01

  Yeah, absolutely. Definitely make your own presentation.

• 23:09Hala Taha?

  Yeah. Okay, so what is something, so you said, don't look at your notes before you get started. What do you do in terms of like customization or audience preparation? Does that matter at all to you when, in terms of like connecting with the audience?

• 23:27Speaker 01

  Absolutely. I think the biggest problem right now is also people present because they think that I have to perform and I have to be so great. And they forget that your audience is there, right? Fifty percent of public speaking and a presentation is your audience. So be open to improvising if you need to. And here's the thing, look at your audience. Most people, they're so worried about the self. What am I doing? Do I look good? Am I okay? Am I going to be judged? Uh, am I going to remember my script or my presentation? That you forget, hey, there's a whole audience in front of you. Instead, look at your audience. They're going to tell you how you're doing. So if you see them on their phones, if you see them yawning, if you see them laying back a little bit, okay, that means they're getting relaxed. If they're talking to the person next to you, that means you're actually doing something wrong.

• 24:10Speaker 01

  It is our job as speakers to keep them engaged. So of course, ask questions. Um, and if you've been speaking for let's say 20 minutes and you can see people are getting tired, stop. Maybe do a quick exercise. So engage with your audience, focus on connection a lot more than performance. I think that's the most important thing when it comes to public speaking.

• 24:30Hala Taha?

  Tell me more about that. Connection more than performance. When you're saying performance, like what do you mean exactly?

• 24:35Speaker 01

  Yeah. So I'll give you an example. I have all these clients that I work with when I'm like, okay, I'll get to know them a little bit. We'll be talking. I had this one client, Shawnee. She was so bubbly, so friendly. She's like, hi, I'm very, I'm so excited to be here. And then I'll be like, okay, Shawnee, can you talk about X, Y, and Z as an exercise? And she'll be like, okay. And then it's almost like she had like this reporter voice. She'd be like, hi, my name is Shawnee and today I'm going to talk about this. So it's like a whole different person. And I can tell, I'm like Shawnee, that's not you. When I talk to you, you're just like bubbly. You have much more relaxed body language. You're so much more fun to listen to. So that's the performance of what we think a great speaker should sound like. We try to become that person. And then of course, it's no fun anymore because you're like, it's, it's almost like icky. It's like, that's not me.

• 25:17Speaker 01

  Versus imagine you get up there and you could be yourself, you can have fun, you could talk to people, you're exchanging really good energy. I do think public speaking is an exchange of energy. So imagine doing it that way and then you walk off and you're like, wow, that was so much fun. I want to do it again.

• 25:35Hala Taha?

  Yap, fam. I've interviewed some of the world's leading health experts and those conversations have really changed how I think about my health. I stay active and I eat well, but you know what I realized? There's still so much I don't know about what's actually going on inside my body. And I've been hearing so much about body scans lately, so I finally did it. I got my whole body MRI at Prenuvo. The scan is radiation free, which I love. There's no needles and it takes just about an hour. Prenuvo evaluates major organs and systems, including your brain, spine, abdomen, pelvis, and more. And they give you a full detailed picture of your health. I just got my results back and nothing serious, thankfully, just a little scoliosis. I'm looking forward to reviewing my results with my Prenuvo provider, where I can ask questions and better understand all my results and what's going on in my body.

• 26:20Hala Taha?

  So I'm really curious about that and I'll keep you guys posted. To learn more about Prenuvo and get $300 off your whole body MRI, go to prenuvo.com/hala and use code HALA. That's prenuvo, P-R-E-N-U-V-O dot com slash Hala, H-A-L-A. Terms and conditions apply. Receive $300 off Prenuvo whole body scans and executive and comprehensive memberships through January 31st. For full details, visit Prenuvo's website to read their terms and conditions and privacy notice. Prenuvo gifted me a whole body scan. A Prenuvo scan is a screening service, not diagnostic. Diagnosis and treatment are determined by your healthcare provider.

• 26:59Hala Taha?

  Yap, fam. I have an expensive confession. I need an outfit for practically every interview. And I love designer clothes, so you can imagine what that does to my budget. And after talking to Haley Sachs, who's a financial expert, I was unfortunately reminded that I can't just assume that every outfit is a business expense. You guys know that I love hosting live streams and webinars and I love selling. So I'm planning on opening up a pre-owned designer shop on Whatnot. Whatnot is a live shopping app where you can show off products, interact with buyers in real time, and turn shopping into a fun, interactive experience. And you absolutely do not need designer clothes to get started. People sell everything from sneakers and beauty products to sports cards, Pokemon cards, and collectibles. All you need are your products and your phone. Whatnot handles payments and provides shipping labels.

• 27:44Hala Taha?

  So I recommend you take a shopping trip through a few live shows, see how it works, and maybe you'll be inspired to start selling too. Search Whatnot, W-H-A-T-N-O-T in the App Store. Download and start selling right away. What's up Yap, fam? If you're building a personal brand, you already know how hard it is to stay consistent with content when you're also trying to actually run your business. I love creating content, but realistically, I'm not trying to sit in front of the camera every single day. I need time to work on my business. But the problem is consistency matters. The more people see your face and hear your voice, the more familiar you become. That's why HeyGen has been such a great tool for me. You can record just 15 seconds of footage, create an AI avatar of yourself and use it to make videos on demand.

• 28:30Hala Taha?

  So instead of constantly filming from scratch, you can create more content, stay visible, and keep showing up without making your entire life be about generating content. And you guys know I'm always looking for tools that give entrepreneurs more leverage. HeyGen is definitely one of those tools. Thirty million people already use it, from solo founders to 85% of the Fortune 100. Your first three videos are free at heygen.com/profitting. That's H-E-Y-G-E-N dot com slash P-R-O-F-I-T-I-N-G. Heygen.com/profitting. I find that when I am speaking in front of like 50 people,

• 29:12Hala Taha?

  it's a lot harder than speaking in front of like 7,000 people like I did at Funnel Hacking Live. Because when you're on a stage with thousands of people, you can't really see anyone. It's just like lights. And so you just kind of like look around and like you can't really see anyone. But when there's 50 people, sometimes I find myself like looking at one person and I think that person eventually gets like uncomfortable, right?

• 29:34Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 29:35Hala Taha?

  You talk about this Z pattern that you use so that you can look at all different. And I love this, tell us about that.

• 29:42Speaker 01

  Sure. So one of the hardest things for people to do when it comes to public speaking is figure out where do I look? Because especially if there's a lot of people. And it's scary when there's 50 pairs of eyeballs looking at you. So if you are in front of your audience, one of the easiest things that you could do is form a Z pattern. So pick four people in your audience. Find one person on the top left, one person on the top right, one person at the bottom left, one person at the bottom right. And as you're going through this, look at those four people. Only look at those four people. And you see how when you're making that Z pattern to the audience, it looks like you're scanning everyone and you're looking at everyone, but really you're just focusing on four people. I don't know about you, but I think it's much easier focusing on four people than 50.

• 30:22Hala Taha?

  Yeah, and then it just looks like you're just scanning all areas and you probably look more confident because you're not just looking at one place or at the slides or something like that. How about body language? Something that I loved learning from you is that like the smaller the opportunity, the smaller your hand gestures, the bigger the stage, the bigger your hand gestures. So how big or small, like in this podcast interview, like am I doing too much right now?

• 30:48Speaker 01

  You're actually doing really good.

• 30:49Hala Taha?

  Okay.

• 30:50Speaker 01

  Yeah. So I'll tell you how to kind of figure out what to do with your body language. First of all, use your body language. Most people don't. When they're speaking, they're just like, they're, they're so, you could tell they're nervous. They're like holding themselves. They, uh, their shoulders kind of go up. They're so constricted. So first of all, relax your body because people can tell. People pick up body language very, very quickly. It's almost like when you meet someone and you're like, hmm, I really like this person. And then versus when you meet someone, you're like, I don't like this person. It's because of the cues they're giving you with your, with their body language. So in order to answer your question, Hala, how big should your body language be? Almost imagine like you're holding your audience in your hands, right? So if like right, if, if there's like 50 people, I should be able to hold them in my hands like this. That's how big it should be.

• 31:34Speaker 01

  If there's a thousand people, okay, now we're here. See how I can picture everyone in my hands here? More than that, then you can get bigger. So that's how you decide how big your body language should be. But for the most part, not all of us go and speak in front of 50,000 people, right? For the most part, you shouldn't be crossing your hands from here, your eyes and your belly button. That's where you're really going to be working. So it's this little space right here.

• 31:57Hala Taha?

  Okay.

• 31:58Speaker 01

  And of course. The other thing with body language is especially your hands, show your palms. The more you show your palms.

• 32:03Hala Taha?

  That means like open friendly way.

• 32:05Speaker 01

  Exactly. Think of it when you're like, when you're lying, when you're lying, you're like, no, it wasn't me. Versus, yeah, it was me.

• 32:10Hala Taha?

  She's crossing her arms, right? Everybody listening on audio. But I thought that when you don't show your palms, it's like actually more authoritative. Like if I'm like trying to tell my team something really serious, or if I'm like running for some sort of like politics thing, like, you know, a politician, you wanna actually not show your palms, right? So that you look more of like a leader.

• 32:32Speaker 01

  I think you should still show your palms. Um, it's how you do it. So when you're explaining something, that's when your hands should be open. That's when they should be moving like this. But I like what you did there. When you're trying to show people, hey, this, I mean, business, you're still showing your hands, right? But again, you're, there's a lot of movement. So when I say don't, when I say show your hands, I mean, avoid putting your hands in your pocket. Avoid putting them behind you, avoid crossing your arms. Now, you're barely seeing my palms, right? Here, you're still somewhat seeing the palms. So this is still okay.

• 33:00Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 33:01Speaker 01

  So for the most part, keep your hands open. But when it comes to showing more authority, you just have a bit more stern body language. Like this was stern versus, guys, I need you to do this versus, I need this done. You see how it's two very different messaging?

• 33:13Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 33:14Speaker 01

  Through your body.

• 33:14Hala Taha?

  What, what do we do with our feet?

• 33:16Speaker 01

  Great question. Depends on if you're sitting or standing. So if you're standing, work with the room that you have. Don't just plant your feet in one area. So move back and forth, go left and right. It should be very subtle movements, nothing too fast. Because once you start moving fast, then it's like, oh, you start looking like you're fidgeting and you're nervous. So have nice fluid movements. Avoid being diagonal. I, I see some people go diagonal and that's confusing to your audience. So one step to the left, but for the most part, make sure your chest is facing them and you never turn your back towards them. Come back to the middle, go back to the other side. You can move back. When you're saying something important, lean in, take a step forward. So I wish we were standing. I could show you better.

• 33:56Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 33:56Speaker 01

  But the point is have movement. Don't just stay put the whole time. But when you're saying something very important that you want them to remember, that's when you should stand still and change everything up and say what you need to say.

• 34:09Hala Taha?

  Yeah. And, and speaking of wanting importance around what you're saying, taking a big pause before or like slowing down also helps as well, right?

• 34:19Speaker 01

  Absolutely. Think about your favorite speaker. Do you ever see that speaker rushing through everything? No. They're almost like so present in the moment. And they pause because they wanna show you that they're comfortable around you. There's no rush. And also you have to understand nowadays too, audiences, they have such short attention spans. I blame TikTok, honestly. I blame TikTok. Because people just want the next thing like, okay, keep it moving. So when you pause, you let people absorb that information, retain it. And then they don't feel like it's too much. Because when people feel like it's too much, then they don't wanna listen anymore. They've, you've lost your audience.

• 34:54Hala Taha?

  It's like information overload. So it's like slow, don't say too, too much. That makes a lot of sense. Okay, let's go back to preparation, cause something I didn't ask you about. My team makes me presentations, but now AI is making people their speeches and their presentations. What do people have to watch out for with that?

• 35:13Speaker 01

  You have to remember that, first of all, I, I love AI. I will say this and I use AI for a lot of things. But AI will never think the way that you think. So yes, you can use AI, you like dump your ideas in there. Say, hey, AI, this is what I wanna talk about. I do this all the time, even with my trainings. I'll be like, hey, this is what I wanna teach. The, these are my ideas. What do you think? And then it's gonna give me a list of things. Let's say it gives you a list of 10 things. Do this, talk about this. Out of those 10 things, there's gonna be maybe three that you should actually take away. So yeah, definitely use AI, but don't let it replace your mind. Because trust me, I have tried this. I've created content sometimes using AI. And I'm like, oh, this looks great. And then it just doesn't resonate with people. Versus when I take my ideas and then throw it into AI and say, hey, let's work with this.

• 35:59Speaker 01

  Then we come up with something great.

• 36:00Hala Taha?

  I think the moral of the story is do the first draft. Do the first draft yourself. Use AI as a sparring partner, not to like create it for you.

• 36:09Speaker 01

  Absolutely.

• 36:09Hala Taha?

  Does doing more reps actually help you become a better speaker by default?

• 36:16Speaker 01

  No.

• 36:16Hala Taha?

  Why?

• 36:18Speaker 01

  So you could keep doing the same thing over and over again and be doing it wrong. So yes, reps help. If you're gonna go back and watch it, point out what you did well, point out what you did wrong. So, or if you get feedback from somebody, from a coach, from a friend, then yes, you get better. Because like I said, you could keep doing the same thing over and over again, the wrong way. And you're never gonna know until you look back and watch it.

• 36:40Hala Taha?

  Yeah. Did you ever have a client that did a lot of reps, but wasn't necessarily a good speaker?

• 36:46Speaker 01

  All the time. And this is a thing, Hala, also. I think most people don't realize that they're bad speakers. They think, oh, just because I can go up there and I feel fine, this is great, let me keep doing it. But then when we go back and watch it, we're like, hey, did you notice you did this with your body language? Hey, why did you scratch your neck? What signal are you giving people here? Or look, you repeated this twice and you didn't really need to do that. So when we go back and watch it and we fix those things, and then people do it again, each time they get better and better. And those reps are the ones that actually count, I think, at the end of the day.

• 37:16Hala Taha?

  Well, this is a great segue into a coaching session I thought that we could do, where you could actually be my coach. And guys, I had not had time to prep for this. So I had AI write me the questions and I don't know them. And I'm gonna give Maria my iPad.

• 37:33Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 37:34Hala Taha?

  And you are gonna, you've got some prompts. You don't have to say them all. But basically I want you to judge me. I'm on the spot. I don't know what you're gonna ask me.

• 37:42Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 37:43Hala Taha?

  I'm gonna just say it from my heart, how I would say it in real life. I might mess up and you're gonna tell me what I messed up and how I can improve it, okay?

• 37:49Speaker 01

  Okay, absolutely. All right, welcome, Hala.

• 37:54Hala Taha?

  Thank you.

• 37:55Speaker 01

  Today, we are gonna talk about a couple of things. So I have a few questions for you. Are you ready?

• 37:58Hala Taha?

  Yes.

• 37:59Speaker 01

  Okay, Hala. So there are thousands of business podcasts out there. Why does the world need Young and Profiting?

• 38:10Hala Taha?

  Yeah, fam. I've interviewed some of the world's leading health experts and those conversations have really changed how I think about my health. I stay active and I eat well. But you know what I realized? There's still so much I don't know about what's actually going on inside my body. And I've been hearing so much about body scans lately, so I finally did it. I got my whole body MRI at Prenuvo. The scan is radiation free, which I love. There's no needles and it takes just about an hour. Prenuvo evaluates major organs and systems, including your brain, spine, abdomen, pelvis, and more. And they give you a full, detailed picture of your health. I just got my results back and nothing serious, thankfully, just a little scoliosis. I'm looking forward to reviewing my results with my Prenuvo provider, where I can ask questions and better understand all my results and what's going on in my body.

• 38:55Hala Taha?

  So I'm really curious about that and I'll keep you guys posted. To learn more about Prenuvo and get $300 off your whole body MRI, go to prenuvo.com/hala and use code HALA. That's prenuvo, P-R-E-N-U-V-O dot com slash Hala, H-A-L-A. Terms and conditions apply. Receive $300 off Prenuvo whole body scans and executive and comprehensive memberships through January 31st. For full details, visit Prenuvo's website to read their terms and conditions and privacy notice. Prenuvo gifted me a whole body scan. A Prenuvo scan is a screening service, not diagnostic. Diagnosis and treatment are determined by your healthcare provider.

• 39:34Hala Taha?

  Yeah, fam, I have an expensive confession. I need an outfit for practically every interview. And I love designer clothes, so you can imagine what that does to my budget. And after talking to Haley Sachs, who's a financial expert, I was unfortunately reminded that I can't just assume that every outfit is a business expense. You guys know that I love hosting live streams and webinars and I love selling. So I'm planning on opening up a pre-owned designer shop on Whatnot. Whatnot is a live shopping app where you can show off products, interact with buyers in real time, and turn shopping into a fun, interactive experience. And you absolutely do not need designer clothes to get started. People sell everything from sneakers and beauty products to sports cards, Pokemon cards, and collectibles. All you need are your products and your phone.

• 40:17Hala Taha?

  Whatnot handles payments and provides shipping labels. So I recommend you take a shopping trip through a few live shows, see how it works, and maybe you'll be inspired to start selling too. Search Whatnot, W-H-A-T-N-O-T in the App Store. Download and start selling right away. Well, Young and Profiting podcast is all about no fluff and actionable advice. I think what separates me from other podcasters is I really do my research, I study my guests, I read their books. And I try to make sure in that hour, hour and 15 minutes that we're together, that it's nothing but advice that can help entrepreneurs succeed.

• 40:53Speaker 01

  Great. Okay. So should I tell you first?

• 40:55Hala Taha?

  Yeah, why not?

• 40:56Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 40:56Hala Taha?

  Anything.

• 40:57Speaker 01

  So let's talk about the stuff that you do that you do well, and then we'll talk about what you can improve.

• 41:00Hala Taha?

  Sure.

• 41:00Speaker 01

  Okay. So something you do well, you have great body language. So you said the one, two, and three, and you're pointing at me and you're looking right at me. So you do have that. You do have great body language. What I do recommend when it comes to your eye contact, you do tend to look up a lot. So whenever you start, you look up. And you know why we look up? We look up because our eyes are literally looking into our brain like, wait, what was that thing? What was that thing?

• 41:21Hala Taha?

  Looking for the answer.

• 41:23Speaker 01

  Yeah. So you don't want your audience to think, hey, you have to think so much about the answer. So when you start, look right at the person and answer, okay? The other thing you could do better is pause a little bit at the beginning.

• 41:34Hala Taha?

  I was like boom, boom, boom.

• 41:35Speaker 01

  Yeah, you're like, oh, yeah, let's go. Right? When we're doing that, that's almost like telling the person, hey, I just wanna get it over with. I just wanna get into it. But an authority figure, they stop, they, they look like they're thinking about it and they say, hey, that's a great question. And then they get into it. Also, before you answer the question, comment on the question. That's always a great thing to do. Oh, wow, Maria, I'm so glad you asked me that question. Or, you know, I was just talking about this the other day with Hala.

• 41:58Hala Taha?

  I actually like, don't like it when my guests, when I ask them a question and they're like, great question. To me, I feel like they're buying time. And it's like obvious that they're buying time.

• 42:09Speaker 01

  Sometimes it's good to buy time. You don't have to do it every time. Um, but you could also say, it doesn't always have to be, that's a great question.

• 42:15Hala Taha?

  I feel like you gotta switch it up.

• 42:17Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 42:17Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 42:17Speaker 01

  Don't keep it so basic. If you just say, that's a great question, that's just like, okay, gets repetitive.

• 42:21Hala Taha?

  I've been thinking, I was thinking about that the other day, or I was just talking to my friend about that.

• 42:25Speaker 01

  Exactly.

• 42:26Hala Taha?

  Earlier this morning.

• 42:27Speaker 01

  And then it just sounds like, oh, now it's more of a conversation, right? And then it becomes a little bit more genuine. So one more thing I did notice, of course, you're like me, Hala, you're like perfectionist. You need everything to be so great. I suffer from that too. The problem with that is sometimes it comes off as like rehearsed and it comes off as, wait, people, people don't like perfectionism as much as they used to. So it's okay.

• 42:53Speaker 01

  So it's okay to let us see a little bit more of who Hala is.

• 42:56Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 42:56Speaker 01

  Okay. So let's do that for the next one.

• 42:58Hala Taha?

  Okay.

• 42:58Speaker 01

  So just relax a little bit. Keep it easy. Okay. So Hala, another question for you. A potential client says YAP Media is too expensive. How do you respond?

• 43:10Hala Taha?

  Okay, I'm gonna try to look at you. I did it again. I started looking in the wind. Um, I'm sorry that you feel that Yap Media is too expensive. However, I feel like our price reflects the amount of work and effort it takes to run social media and podcast accounts. Uh, we don't cut corners. I stand up in a player team for all of my clients and we do an exceptional job. We're an award-winning social media and podcast agency. And also, I'm really picky with my clients. We've got a waitlist of clients pretty much at all times. And so if it's not for you, I'm about to be like, I'll just work with somebody else.

• 43:54Speaker 01

  Get out of here. There's the door.

• 43:55Hala Taha?

  That was not very good.

• 43:57Speaker 01

  Okay, so this time, first of all, body language is great. So you fixed what we talked about. What I was focusing on more this time was your actual content and what you said.

• 44:04Hala Taha?

  I know, I was saying, I'm sorry. That's not.

• 44:06Speaker 01

  Yeah, so take out that softening language. I'm sorry, I don't really own it.

• 44:10Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 44:11Speaker 01

  I guess maybe it's not for you then, right? So you want to speak with a bit more conviction. I feel like what you're doing almost, you're convincing me.

• 44:17Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 44:18Speaker 01

  That, hey, it's not like, hey, no, but it is, you know? So try not to convince me and you're gonna do that by not, by taking away that softening language. The other thing I noticed was your structure, you start off great. So you're like, well, this and this, and you go on, but you don't know how to end it. You're like, how do I wrap this up?

• 44:33Hala Taha?

  Yeah, how do I wrap it up?

• 44:34Speaker 01

  I could see you getting nervous, right? So a lot of people struggle with this. The outro, I like to call it. How do you wrap it up? Right? So what's the last thing you say? The last thing you say is just as important as the first thing you say. So we could talk about a couple of things you could have said here. You could have said, yeah, unfortunately, if it's not for you, then maybe another time. Does that sound good to you?

• 44:52Hala Taha?

  Yeah, or like, you know, let me know, maybe now's not a great time for you financially, but if it ever becomes an opportunity, we're always here.

• 45:01Speaker 01

  Exactly. There you go.

• 45:02Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 45:02Speaker 01

  That's an ending.

• 45:03Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 45:03Speaker 01

  So that's the only thing I would change. Should we do one more?

• 45:06Hala Taha?

  Should I try? Yeah, let's do one more.

• 45:09Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 45:09Hala Taha?

  Let's do one more. But this is great.

• 45:11Speaker 01

  Good. I like it. You're doing really good, though, Hala. You're really good. Okay, I like this one.

• 45:15Hala Taha?

  Okay.

• 45:15Speaker 01

  So Hala, what's the single most important lesson you've learned about entrepreneurship?

• 45:22Hala Taha?

  Oh, that's a good one. I told you guys I didn't prep, so I didn't think about this. The single most important lesson that I've learned about entrepreneurship is that there's always gonna be ups and downs. And you can't get too high on the highs and you can't get too low on the lows. And in my opinion, the best place to be is like an even keel. Things are going great. They're going great. I'm positive. I'm happy. But also, I'm not overdoing it in terms of my excitement because I know the lows are gonna come. And when the lows come, I try not to think about it as the end of the world. And I try to separate my identity from whether my business is doing good or bad. And also my mood from whether my business is doing good or bad.

• 46:06Speaker 01

  Awesome. Okay, few things I loved. Your pacing was much better this time. You weren't rushing. You weren't like leaning in, trying to kind of convince me of anything. You were taking your time. That sounded more like an authority figure. You were taking your time. Your pace was good. There were some times you speed, you did increase your speed, which is good.

• 46:22Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 46:23Speaker 01

  Here's the thing, with public speaking, the more variety you have in what you're doing and saying and how you say it, the better.

• 46:29Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 46:29Speaker 01

  The more it keeps the audience engaged. So you do that really well. You did that really well. With this one again, I think the ending, it was like, how do I wrap up?

• 46:37Hala Taha?

  I repeated it too much. Yeah, yeah.

• 46:39Speaker 01

  Yeah, so don't be afraid of ending with conviction. Say what you need to say and say, yeah. Uh, one thing you could do is repeat the question again. So you could say, yeah, so that is the most important lesson that I've learned about entrepreneurship. Anything else, Maria? Right?

• 46:51Hala Taha?

  I love that. Yeah.

• 46:52Speaker 01

  So you can end it that way. Your start was really good. I like that you were so honest about, wow, I told you guys, I didn't prepare for this. Now we started to see Hala, the real Hala, and it looked less performative.

• 47:01Hala Taha?

  Let's do more because I feel like we're getting really great, like, advice from this that I wasn't planning on asking you. So I feel like, just like, ask me one, at least one more.

• 47:09Speaker 01

  For sure. Oh, okay, this is a good one. And something I'm gonna do here, Hala, is I'm gonna interrupt you as well. I wanna see how you bounce back from that, okay?

• 47:16Hala Taha?

  Okay.

• 47:16Speaker 01

  So tell me about a recent business decision that you got wrong.

• 47:20Hala Taha?

  Ooh, oh, that I got wrong. I guess the only thing that I can think of is, so I launched a new series called How We Profit.

• 47:29Speaker 01

  When was this, Hala?

• 47:31Hala Taha?

  Uh, this was like three months ago. And a lot of my listeners probably have heard the series. I basically interview upcoming entrepreneurs. And the reason why I started this new series is because I have so many sponsors and I wanted to spread out all my sponsorships across more episodes. I didn't want so many commercials on every episode because we have so many sponsorship opportunities and I wanted to take them all and not say no. However, this has increased my recording cadence to two or three times a week, when it used to be one or two times a week.

• 48:03Speaker 01

  It sounds like you don't like that.

• 48:04Hala Taha?

  I don't.

• 48:06Speaker 01

  Why is that?

• 48:07Hala Taha?

  Because it doesn't enable me to work on my business. And then I feel like I'm always scrambling. I'm always MIA. I'm always studying. And then I get like resentful, like my bookings team will do such a great job and I'll be like, why do I have so many interviews? They're like, because you need them, because it's on the schedule. You know what I mean? Because we've got sponsors. So I think I made a mistake by putting too much on my plate.

• 48:29Speaker 01

  Okay, I love that. So a few things you did here, that was really good. You were starting to veer off into the rambling category because you were like going here and there, but I liked how you brought it back. So that last sentence, you tied it all together. Great job with that. I really like that. Again, we're seeing more of you now, Hala. It's less performative.

• 48:46Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 48:47Speaker 01

  I also like that when I interrupted you, you didn't let that deter you from answering the question. You always brought it back. So great job with that.

• 48:54Hala Taha?

  Thanks.

• 48:55Speaker 01

  Your body language is, it's looking a little bit better as well. It seems like you're opening up slightly more, which is great. I know right now, sometimes like, you know, I do this too. I feel like I have to sit so perfectly.

• 49:03Hala Taha?

  Prima proper, yeah.

• 49:04Speaker 01

  You were relaxing a little, but then you were bringing it back. So I really liked that, too. Um, one thing I would say when somebody asks you a question, so I interrupted you almost three times. So sometimes when we get interrupted, you could see it in people's face. You're like, whoa, why did you stop me? So I could come, almost see it in your face. You're like, oh. So instead of that, just be like, oh, yeah, actually, you know, almost like lean into it. Almost let the other person feel like, I'm glad you interrupted me and you stopped me. I'm gonna keep going from here. That again, shows confidence. It shows that you don't mind being interrupted. It's not like you're following a script. You can veer off to other things. So that makes you look a lot more like an authority figure as well. But yeah, good job.

• 49:41Hala Taha?

  Thank you for being my coach. How much do I owe you?

• 49:44Speaker 01

  That was great. How much do I owe you?

• 49:45Hala Taha?

  I'll buy you a coffee.

• 49:46Speaker 01

  You're funny. Yes, I'll take a coffee.

• 49:49Hala Taha?

  So Maria, back when you were growing up, when, when did you like decide, like, I, it sounded like it was 11th grade, where you were like, I need to turn this around?

• 50:00Speaker 01

  So it, I think 11th grade was the first time it came to me, but I still kind of brushed it off and I thought it was fine. Um, I am gonna tell you about a time where I was like, okay, enough is enough. Something needs to be done. So when I was in, um, I got my dream job at Stanford University and I was so excited for it. Um, I got the job and I started, you know, doing the job. Everything was going great until one day, my supervisor, she was like my manager, she's like, hey, Maria, you're gonna have to do a presentation. And I was like, oh, yikes. Okay. So I'm like, okay, this, I'm gonna, I'm gonna get over this fear. I had a fear of public speaking. I'm like, this is gonna be the best presentation ever. So I start prepping two weeks before, the night before, I guess what, I'm still prepping. I'm still memorizing. I'm still trying to get it perfect. That it's 3:00

• 50:43Speaker 01

  AM now. And the presentation was at nine the next day. So I wake up at eight and I felt sick to my stomach. And I literally, Hala, I called in sick.

• 50:53Hala Taha?

  Oh, my God.

• 50:54Speaker 01

  I still till, till this day, I'm like, wow, how did I do that? Like, I disappointed myself. I disappointed my manager. I disappointed everyone else that was gonna attend. So that was the defining moment for me. I was like, I can't continue like this because I was so ambitious. There was so much I wanted to do. And I'm like, if I can't get up and speak in front of people, then how am I ever gonna make it?

• 51:15Hala Taha?

  Yeah, how are you gonna move up the ladder and everything?

• 51:17Speaker 01

  That was that defining moment for me. I'm like, letting people down, not just myself, but other people. I was like, yeah, this, this needs to change.

• 51:23Hala Taha?

  Who did you learn from? What did you do in those like early days?

• 51:26Speaker 01

  Yeah, so as an introvert, I did what everyone else thinks we should do. I started watching YouTube videos. I started reading books. I started practicing in front of the mirror. But I think it wasn't until I hired my first coach and I started to get feedback that it really pushed me to do better. So I tried everything under the sun, everything. And I think that's why my programs now are so great because I know especially from an introvert's perspective, what works and what doesn't.

• 51:49Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 51:50Speaker 01

  So that was, it, it was a mix of everything.

• 51:54Hala Taha?

  What, what are some of the first things that you tell, like, like, if, if you had me as a client, what would you make me do?

• 52:00Speaker 01

  Yeah, so it would depend on where you are because sometimes I have clients that are coming in that have a severe case of they're so afraid of public speaking. So if it was someone like that that came to me, the first thing I would do is work on their mindset and figure out where is this fear coming from. So there's actually seven different types of fears when it comes to public speaking. Think of it this way, when we say I'm afraid of public speaking, nobody talks about what does that mean? What does that mean?

• 52:23Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 52:23Speaker 01

  When you're afraid of public speaking, the most common ones are number one, you have a fear of failure. Number two, you have a fear of embarrassment. Or number three, you have a fear of judgment. So are you looking at people and thinking they're gonna judge me for what I say? If it's that, we approach it very differently. Because if you feel like people are gonna judge you, then you wanna build a better relationship with people. If you have a fear of failure, okay, where is that coming from? And when I work with my clients with this, it's honestly, it sometimes turns into a therapy session.

• 52:52Hala Taha?

  I was gonna say, it sounds like therapy.

• 52:54Speaker 01

  We go back to like, okay, and a lot of the times with fear of failure, what I see is that these are kids that are usually the eldest child. They are kids who have parents that push them and want them to just be so perfect. So they're afraid of disappointing their parents. They're afraid of disappointing their teachers, their managers. That was me, right? I had a huge fear, fear of failure. So it really depends on where you come from. That's number one. Sometimes people will come to me and they've been speaking for years. They're like, yeah, you know, I'm not bad. I just wanna get better. And then with them, what they just really need is the fine tuning and structure. So there's a lot of people, especially extroverts, that when they come in and because they're experts, people ask them questions and they ramble. They'll talk about this topic, that topic, this, this,

• 53:38Speaker 01

  and then I did this, and then this. And your audience is just like, when is this person gonna stop, right? So with them, I focus more on things like structure. Okay, how do you begin? Uh, what do you say in the middle? How do you end?

• 53:49Hala Taha?

  Yeah, Hala, you told me. Hala, wrap it up.

• 53:51Speaker 01

  Yeah. You guys, it's much more impactful if you speak for two minutes. Give people the point. Start with the conclusion. Give people what they want. Land that plane. And then if they have questions, let them ask for it. Don't just assume people would wanna know everything. Because that's, again, it's too much information overload and you lose your audience.

• 54:09Hala Taha?

  I remember when I worked in corporate, I was a rock star. I used to get promoted all the time, but I would get two pieces of feedback. You're always late. And I talk too much.

• 54:18Speaker 01

  Really?

• 54:19Hala Taha?

  I remember my man, and I really hurt my feelings. I remember my manager sat me down and he was like, Hala, you're wonderful. Uh, you talk too much in meetings.

• 54:28Speaker 01

  Oh, my gosh, really?

• 54:30Hala Taha?

  I made a career out of it, luckily. But what do you say to an extrovert? In terms of like, not, I guess, being too loud, I guess I was too loud.

• 54:40Speaker 01

  Yeah, so great question. And what I want to say here is, so I teach a lot of different types of structures. And one of the most common ones is it's called PRI. So if you get put on the spot, use PRI. What is PRI? P stands for point, get to the point, start with the point, tell people what the point is. R is the reason, what is the reasoning behind it? It should not be more than one or two sentences. And then the I, the impact, what impact does this have in terms of everything? Because a lot of times we'll talk about something and then we'll give the reason and that's it. But we don't conclude it with that impact. Why does this matter? So if you follow a structure like that, PRI, again, uh, it's going to make sure you're not veering off into different areas. You're only speaking for enough time and it's going to be a lot more impactful.

• 55:23Speaker 01

  So two minutes tops, even a minute and a half should not be more than that.

• 55:26Hala Taha?

  To be honest, when I reflect back at that moment, like I feel like if I was a man, that I would have never gotten that feedback. So I don't, I don't take it personally. To me, I'm just, I'm going to keep being loud and contributing.

• 55:37Speaker 01

  Absolutely. And like you said, you made a career out of it, which is great. But I'm sure you've probably interviewed so many people too. And sometimes you're like, did you, you're not getting to the point. Like I asked you a question to get to the point.

• 55:48Hala Taha?

  Exactly.

• 55:49Speaker 01

  Right? And it's, it's great because things sometimes are recorded and you can cut them out, but you can't do that in person. You can't do that on stage, right? So that's when.

• 55:57Hala Taha?

  And to your point, you like kind of lose your authority because you seem less intelligent when you can't just get to the point. And you're just rambling or like, you know, bouncing from story to story. It just feels like you are not clear yourself.

• 56:10Speaker 01

  Experts do that. It's, it's the expert trap where you have so much knowledge about a certain topic. You want to, and I, it comes from a good place. You want to give everyone as much information, as much context. But you have to remember again, short attention spans and people just want to know the answer. So start with the answer, get to the point, and then see if people have questions. Take it from there.

• 56:30Hala Taha?

  Maria, I want to talk about some of your client examples because you are such a phenomenal coach. You actually have a new book out called The Introverted Speaker and you've been coaching for many years. So you've got so many great examples that I want to talk about. One of them was about a client that hated public speaking and then like entered some sort of a competition and ended up winning after he got coached by you. Tell us about that.

• 56:54Speaker 01

  Yes, I will never forget this client because he's, he was a type B personality. So his name was Ethan and he told me, Maria, please tell my story anytime. So his name was Ethan and he would show up late to every call. He would be all scattered and you'd see his kids running around in the back. Like it was crazy. Uh, but he wanted to get better at public speaking because he was a business owner, a CEO of his company. So this one time, you know, after coaching him for a little while, he, uh, went on to this conference and he didn't even know he was supposed to do a speech. So he freaked out, but he basically sat down and he took about 10 minutes and he wrote down his skeleton notes. So again, that brain dump of like, what do I want to talk about? And he pretty much took everything out, wrote it on paper. He did the speech. Uh, there were 20 people and it was actually a competition as well.

• 57:38Speaker 01

  So he did the speech and in the end he won the best speech award. And he, the first thing he did was take a picture. It was a small little trophy and he sent it to me and I was like, Ethan, what is this? He's like, oh my God, Maria, I just used your skeleton notes to create my speech in 10 minutes. And I won best speech award that night.

• 57:57Hala Taha?

  Wow.

• 57:57Speaker 01

  And I was like, great. So what happened then? And he told me he had so many people come up to me, congratulate me, added me on LinkedIn. He got a whole bunch of leads and he was like, it was so simple and easy for people to understand. He's like, this is going to get me more clients. So he's like, I'm so excited. This was like such a good feeling. So that was something that I was like, yeah, see, it's sometimes the simplest things. And you don't need to prepare for five, six days. You could literally in 10 minutes, write down what you need to say, but if you know how to say it, it'll have such a good impact on people.

• 58:27Hala Taha?

  How about the entrepreneurs that are scared of being the face of their company? Have you ever experienced a client that doesn't want to be the face of their company? When that's so important these days?

• 58:38Speaker 01

  All the time. I had this client, um, he basically created an AI LinkedIn tool. And it, it was taking off. It was doing so well. He was getting all these podcast invites. He was, um, being asked to get on all of these stages and he just kind of kept pushing them off, pushing them off. So we started working together and we worked on his delivery. We worked on his stage presence, his executive presence. Because he was in a lot of meetings as well. Um, and after that, he finally started taking on these opportunities. Uh, he's doing amazing now. Actually, I think he grew his LinkedIn following to like 50K or something.

• 59:11Hala Taha?

  Oh, wow.

• 59:12Speaker 01

  Uh, just based off of showing up and using a lot of that content. So his story is a great lesson for entrepreneurs because you as an entrepreneur, you as a business owner, people look at you as the face of the company. So if you don't know how to communicate, if you don't know how to speak, if you don't know how to tell people about your business, then again, you're losing business. You're, you're harming yourself so badly, right? And especially in today's world, Hala, everything is online. You know, every, your face needs to be everywhere. It is, you do have to be the face of the company. So you have to learn how to communicate. If you don't, it's, it's going to harm you and your business at the end of the day.

• 59:47Hala Taha?

  How did you like baby step him into being comfortable if he was so uncomfortable to be public facing?

• 59:55Speaker 01

  So we did a lot of, a lot of different things. So one exercise I love telling people to do. And if you're listening to this, do this right now. Put up a camera in front of you, your iPhone, ask ChatGPT for a question. And this is a great exercise. Do this every single day. Ask ChatGPT for a question. Let's say, you know, what is the best thing you like about your business? Look at the camera and answer it.

• 1:00:16Hala Taha?

  So like a mock interview.

• 1:00:18Speaker 01

  Exactly. Because you do have to build a relationship with a camera too. It's very different online versus on camera. And then you'll be surprised at what you see. You're going to notice maybe you're using filler words. Maybe you are showing fidgeting behaviors. You know, when you're nervous, you're like scratch the back of your neck. Women, we, we play with our jewelry when we're nervous. These are signs your audience are picking up on. So look back and watch and see what you're doing. So I had him do those, a whole bunch of those, submit them to me and I watched it with him. So we both watched. He's like, oh, I had no idea I said that. Oh, I say you know a lot. Oh, I look up a lot. Oh, I'm constantly like scratching my head. So once you see yourself, you see yourself through the lens of your audience. So however you're feeling in that moment, they're feeling the same thing in that moment too.

• 1:01:01Speaker 01

  If you're getting, you're feeling cringed, your audience is probably like, what's he saying? So that's a great exercise to do. Record yourself, watch it back, get feedback.

• 1:01:10Hala Taha?

  And like we were just talking about, being a poor communicator has an invisible tax as an entrepreneur. Again, like you lose sales opportunities, you lose investor opportunities. Even like your team doesn't respect you or doesn't know the direction you want to take the company in. Cause you can't clearly communicate or they don't respect your authority, right? So there's so many reasons why you should get better at this.

• 1:01:35Speaker 01

  Absolutely.

• 1:01:36Hala Taha?

  Now you actually had a client that did a TED Talk eventually.

• 1:01:39Speaker 01

  Yes, yes. I'll never forget her because she was that same client that I told you about earlier, you know, super bubbly, very friendly. And she actually came to me because she had to do so many presentations at work. And she was writing a script and memorizing it. And she used to tell me, Maria, every time I have a presentation, I'm dreading it. Because I know I'm going to repeat that same script and I know it's just going to be so uncomfortable. So just within six months, not only did she get off of the scripts and she started to enjoy those presentations, she also got promoted. And then after she got promoted, I got a message from her once and she said, Maria, you know what? I think I want to do a TED Talk. And this was someone that was afraid of public speaking. And I was like, okay, let's do it. Let's get ready. I got her ready. And by the end of the year, she did her first TED Talk.

• 1:02:24Speaker 01

  And now if you ever go to her LinkedIn, it's like plastered everywhere. And she's like, it's the most credible thing I've ever done. And she's like, that was something, and it's not just about credibility, it's also for yourself. She's like, I kind of made like that girl in me happy, that little shy girl in me. And it's, that's just such a great feeling, right? So even, yes, great for business, but for yourself, doing something like that, it's, it's memorable. And it makes you so much more confident in everything else that you do in your life.

• 1:02:52Hala Taha?

  Yeah. What made you want to write this new book?

• 1:02:55Speaker 01

  I wanted to write this book because I've now been working with especially introverts and entrepreneurs, executives for six years. And I've, I felt like I had such a wealth of knowledge and from a different lens. It's called The Introverted Speaker because we do operate and perform and do our presentations and everything very different than extroverts. So I wanted people to first of all, understand that you're, there's nothing wrong with you. And I think that's something, Hala, a lot of introverts think like, what is wrong with me? Why can't I do it?

• 1:03:24Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:03:25Speaker 01

  So I wanted a book for introverts that they can read, that they can see themselves in, that they can learn. And they could kind of get started in that process.

• 1:03:32Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:03:32Speaker 01

  Because yeah, there are a lot of books out there, but I don't ever see it from a perspective of how the introvert thinks. So that's why I created this book.

• 1:03:40Hala Taha?

  A couple more hacks before we go. I want to talk about tonality. Uh, I've noticed that I've got some star employees that they end every sentence with up talk. And then I feel like it's hard for people to pay attention to them. They don't sound as smart or authoritative, especially in front of clients.

• 1:04:00Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:04:00Hala Taha?

  How can somebody improve up talk or know that they do it? And what are your suggestions in terms of like tonality?

• 1:04:06Speaker 01

  Yeah. First of all, tonality is so important. People don't realize this. Can I give an example for this? So when I was in university, I had two classes at 8am, one on Monday, one on Tuesday. So one of them was about world politics and one of them was about English. So I went to both of these classes and I was so excited for the world politics because I was like, you know, it's like, it's more interesting.

• 1:04:25Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:04:26Speaker 01

  Um, both classes started off with completely full seats. And as the semester went by, the world politics class was completely empty by the end of it. And the other class, you would actually see people, like extra students show up and sit on the seat.

• 1:04:39Hala Taha?

  Oh my God.

• 1:04:40Speaker 01

  And we're just talking about like English literature. So the biggest difference that I saw between both professors was their delivery and their tonality. The world politics professor would be like, good morning, everyone. Today we're going to talk about. So people were falling asleep because you, he had that monotone. The other professor would make everything sound so interesting and his volume would go up. And he would really exaggerate words and he would end sentences on a downward, um, trajectory. So it felt more heavy. So that's what I mean when it comes to like how important tonality is. It's makes a difference between people actually stay interested and listen to you versus zone out and fall asleep. So a couple of things you could do. I know it took me a while to get to the answer, but a couple of things you could do.

• 1:05:21Speaker 01

  Number one, increase your volume. When you first start speaking, bring it down as you're finishing your sentence, then bring it up again. So change up your volume. That's number one. Number two, exaggerate some words. Some things do carry more weight in that sentence. So figure out what that is. It could be, and we did this or, uh, communication is so important. You see how instead of me just saying communication is so important, communication is so important. That so carries so much weight.

• 1:05:48Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:05:49Speaker 01

  And then lastly, your pace. Sometimes when you're saying something important, really slow it down. Sometimes, Hala, let's speed this up a little bit so we can get through it, you know? So change up your pace as well. These are the three most important things when it comes to tonality. That's gonna make you sound less monotone and more interesting.

• 1:06:06Hala Taha?

  Now, something that I know that you always talk about is you don't wanna change people's personalities. You're not like, hey, you're introverted, we need to make you extroverted now.

• 1:06:15Speaker 01

  Yes.

• 1:06:16Hala Taha?

  How do you deal with like people who don't have a lot of charisma naturally? Or are just boring to listen to?

• 1:06:23Speaker 01

  Just boring to listen to. Um, so, okay, I'm so glad you brought this up. We were talking about this yesterday. There are speaker archetypes out there. So that means you don't have to be like every other speaker. I'll give you some examples of a very popular speaker, Tony Robbins. Everyone knows Tony Robbins. He is the archetype I like to call the energizer. He's got full energy, his body language is great, he motivates people. That's his strength. Not all of us can be that way, especially introverts, cuz we have lower energy. So I, for example, I am the archetype, the, the teacher. I'm great at taking complex ideas, simplifying them so that people really understand them and retain that information. So I lean into that more. I'm not trying to be like Tony Robbins.

• 1:07:04Speaker 01

  I'm the thinker and someone that's a think, um, sorry, the teacher is Marie Forleo. She's great.

• 1:07:10Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:07:10Speaker 01

  So I lean more towards the type of things that she does.

• 1:07:13Hala Taha?

  Okay.

• 1:07:13Speaker 01

  And then with you, Hala, can I tell you what I think you are?

• 1:07:15Hala Taha?

  Yeah, what do you think I am?

• 1:07:16Speaker 01

  Okay, you are something I like to call the archetype, the commander. Okay? An example of that is Mel Robbins. She is a commander, direct, to the point, very kinda polished. Um, and your strengths are that you can really show people that you know what you're talking about without overpowering them. So you're the commander and you're leaning into that more and more, which is great.

• 1:07:36Hala Taha?

  Hmm.

• 1:07:37Speaker 01

  And this is the difference between when you get up there and you see like someone speaking and you tell them, you, you think, wow, this was a great speaker. It's because they're leaning into their archetype.

• 1:07:46Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:07:46Speaker 01

  So there's eight different archetypes, figure out which one yours is, lean into that. That's what's gonna make you look so much more genuine and not like everybody else out there.

• 1:07:56Hala Taha?

  Well, I'm sure everybody tuning in wants to learn more from you, so where should they go?

• 1:08:00Speaker 01

  I would definitely say, start with my book, The Introverted Speaker. You can get it at www.theintrovertedspeaker.com. And start reading the book because I talk about fears in there. We talk about all this stuff in there. And of course, if you figure out what your archetype is, send me a message, let me know what it is. I'd love to know on Instagram, on LinkedIn, I'm, I'm trying to be everywhere.

• 1:08:20Hala Taha?

  Yeah, being LinkedIn, this is where I wanted to go next. So we actually started becoming friends online first. So we're both LinkedIn influencers, I think, how many followers you have now?

• 1:08:31Speaker 01

  Like two hundred fifty-three thousand.

• 1:08:33Hala Taha?

  Ah, I got you by like fifty-five thousand or something, I'm at like three hundred something thousand.

• 1:08:39Speaker 01

  Awesome.

• 1:08:40Hala Taha?

  LinkedIn changed my life. And I think LinkedIn changed your life too.

• 1:08:43Speaker 01

  Oh, yeah.

• 1:08:44Hala Taha?

  What kind of opportunities arose from starting your personal brand on LinkedIn for you?

• 1:08:50Speaker 01

  Yeah, wow, that's a big question. And I wanna answer that before that, I do wanna say that, Hala, remember I was telling you this? When I joined LinkedIn, I would see you and I would be like, I wanna be like Hala one day.

• 1:09:02Speaker 01

  That was literally like, cuz I had zero followers at this time.

• 1:09:04Hala Taha?

  And I was like, who the hell is this new girl on LinkedIn?

• 1:09:07Speaker 01

  You know what I loved about you, Hala? I loved that you were like such a powerful woman, but you were still so feminine. You used to dress up and you were still like, hey, guys, like it was still you. I loved that and you were still such a powerhouse. So you were literally my inspiration when I started LinkedIn. And the fact that I'm sitting here with you today like blows my mind, blows my mind. But LinkedIn has completely changed my life. First of all, I left corporate and I started to market on LinkedIn, so I didn't have to get a job again. I became my own boss. I get opportunities till this day, as I was coming here, I was getting a podcast opportunity. Hey, Maria, we'd love to have you on my, on our podcast, would you be interested? It's opened up doors for me that I never even thought was possible.

• 1:09:50Hala Taha?

  Mm-hmm.

• 1:09:50Speaker 01

  So when I say it's changed my life, like, I, like, I can't even explain how it did it because it's taken me from working in corporate to starting my own business, to now being on the most amazing stages, to meeting the most amazing people, to working with people that I wanna work with, making my own schedule, and it's so rewarding at the end of the day.

• 1:10:10Hala Taha?

  It is. LinkedIn did similar things for me, like it enabled me to be an entrepreneur, to grow my podcast, to have like career insurance. Even if I decide to shut down Yap Media today, I could get a job in two seconds because I have so much social proof on my LinkedIn, over three hundred thousand followers, known as a marketing and podcast and social media expert. I feel like I could get a job tomorrow at like Spotify if I really wanted to, you know?

• 1:10:38Speaker 01

  And you've created your own brand, Hala, nobody can take that from you.

• 1:10:41Hala Taha?

  And I could start a new business.

• 1:10:42Speaker 01

  Exactly.

• 1:10:43Hala Taha?

  Because I have this brand.

• 1:10:44Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:10:44Hala Taha?

  Something I like about LinkedIn is that it really evens the playing field.

• 1:10:49Speaker 01

  Mm-hmm.

• 1:10:50Hala Taha?

  Like I have is just as much reach as Alex Schmoosey and Mel Robbins and Gary Vee. Same thing with you, Maria. We have just as much reach as these mega business influencers on LinkedIn.

• 1:11:02Speaker 01

  Exactly.

• 1:11:02Hala Taha?

  And we compete with those big dogs, even though on Instagram and TikTok, we're still growing. But there's just like less competition because people are sleeping on LinkedIn.

• 1:11:11Speaker 01

  Exactly. I will also say this, Hala, me being good at communication skills is what helped, like, pushed me to that level too.

• 1:11:18Hala Taha?

  Hmm.

• 1:11:18Speaker 01

  Because communication skills also show up, of course, like on camera, on video, in your writing.

• 1:11:23Hala Taha?

  Yep.

• 1:11:23Speaker 01

  So I blew up, the time that I blew up, I was writing a lot of my posts.

• 1:11:27Hala Taha?

  And you went from like two thousand to like fifty thousand or something in like five months or something, right? Or a hundred thousand?

• 1:11:33Speaker 01

  A hundred thousand in five point five months, I'll never forget that.

• 1:11:36Hala Taha?

  So you went from two thousand to a hundred thousand in like five months?

• 1:11:40Speaker 01

  Five months.

• 1:11:40Hala Taha?

  Wow.

• 1:11:41Speaker 01

  It was mind blowing, it was mind blowing. And it's all because I knew how to write, I knew how to connect with my audience. I was using my communication skills in writing.

• 1:11:49Hala Taha?

  It's so true. It's like, because when you are actually writing yourself, back then we had no AI.

• 1:11:53Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:11:54Hala Taha?

  So we were writing it ourselves. We weren't using like all these tools to like fake it.

• 1:11:59Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:12:00Hala Taha?

  We were writing it ourselves and there was like lots of emotion attached to it. And LinkedIn really was like more of a writing platform, but me and you also were doing lives a lot. I used to do so many Q and A lives. And that really helped me like think on my feet, like, and like get those reps in, like we were talking about before, were those live sessions, and I know you did that a lot too.

• 1:12:20Speaker 01

  I did, I was doing them every week. It perfected my craft, it helped me reach a larger audience. Again, some, someone that was afraid of public speaking is now doing these things. And I knew I had to get better at public speaking, communication, in order to make it in life. And I know if somebody ever asks me now, Maria, what's that one skill that everyone should get better at? I will always hands down say communication.

• 1:12:41Hala Taha?

  Hmm. Well, I've got something special to announce to everybody. I actually just launched a program on school.

• 1:12:49Speaker 01

  Ooh, yay!

• 1:12:49Hala Taha?

  Called the LinkedIn Creator Club.

• 1:12:51Speaker 01

  Amazing.

• 1:12:52Hala Taha?

  And basically, I am teaching people how to grow on LinkedIn. Because just like it changed my life, it changed your life, I wanna help change lives and help people grow on LinkedIn. So you can find it on school, just look it up, LinkedIn Creator Club, or look up my name, Hala Taha. And it's just ninety-seven dollars a month, which is way more affordable. My other class used to be like two thousand dollars for two days.

• 1:13:15Speaker 01

  I would hop on that right away cuz Hala knows what she's talking about.

• 1:13:18Hala Taha?

  I'm trying to get like volume this time, you know, like, let's get hundreds of students, let's make this accessible. I'm gonna show up and do webinars all the time, teach people, I'm gonna bring my friends, yeah.

• 1:13:28Speaker 01

  I'm gonna join right now.

• 1:13:30Hala Taha?

  So while we're on it, like, what would you say was the number one reason why you were able to grow from two thousand followers to a hundred thousand followers in less than six months?

• 1:13:39Speaker 01

  So storytelling.

• 1:13:41Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:13:41Speaker 01

  Yeah, definitely. And as a communicator, you have to be able to tell stories. As a business owner, you have to tell stories. As an executive, you should be able to tell stories. And I'll tell you this, Hala, I, I do have a powerful story, but I also see a lot of powerful stories on LinkedIn, like people are talking about them and they're not getting any views, they're not getting likes. It's because you have to know how to put it all together.

• 1:14:04Hala Taha?

  Yep.

• 1:14:04Speaker 01

  And really connect it to your audience and to your message. So it was definitely storytelling and being able to say, like articulate my, my thoughts, what's in here onto paper.

• 1:14:13Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:14:13Speaker 01

  And for other people to understand. Once you could do that, game over.

• 1:14:18Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:14:18Speaker 01

  Game over.

• 1:14:19Hala Taha?

  Something, advice that I give my students is I have them create a story journal. You should do this with your clients if you don't.

• 1:14:25Speaker 01

  Okay.

• 1:14:26Hala Taha?

  Where basically it's like, okay, we've got childhood, uh, even like family, like generational history, right? Like I talk about like being Palestinian or whatever, family. Childhood, high school, college, jobs, like have you ever gotten fired? Did you ever get divorced? Were you fat and you lost weight? Like, what are all the challenges you've been through, all the failures? Write them down because it's so easy to forget all. When somebody like wants to invite me on a podcast, my first thought is like, well, I don't have anything to say. And then I'm like, wait a second, like, let me go look at my story journal. I've got a million stories, you know? You really want to think about your stories and it's really easy to think that you have no stories. But people relate in the most simple things.

• 1:15:07Hala Taha?

  Like you want to be relatable and a lot of the stories that happened to you probably happened to other people, like getting fired or whatever it is.

• 1:15:14Speaker 01

  Yeah, and I think sometimes, okay, I had this one person, I was on stage the other day and she was like, Maria, I feel so uncomfortable sharing my story. And I was like, you know, the more vulnerable you are, the more people connect with you. And I'm like, why wouldn't you want to find your tribe? So the more you talk about your stories, the more the right people will find you.

• 1:15:32Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:15:32Speaker 01

  So it's okay to be vulnerable. I told the most personal story on LinkedIn and look at where it got me.

• 1:15:37Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:15:37Speaker 01

  Right?

• 1:15:38Hala Taha?

  Should we talk about it?

• 1:15:39Speaker 01

  We can, sure.

• 1:15:40Hala Taha?

  So you actually were, uh, had an arranged marriage when you were seventeen.

• 1:15:46Speaker 01

  I wa- I did, yeah. When I was seventeen years old, my parents took me back to Pakistan and got me to a ma- married to a man I didn't know.

• 1:15:53Hala Taha?

  Wow.

• 1:15:53Speaker 01

  Seventeen, I didn't even finish high school at this time. And I know for a fact that that is something that created this fire in me to be successful, to be all that. So the story was just, yeah, they took me back. I was in this arranged marriage, it was forced, I had no, I couldn't say no. Even when I tried to say no, my father was like, well, if you don't marry him, then I'm not your father anymore. Imagine at seventeen in Pakistan, a new world for me. Um, so I really struggled, I was left there, I had to figure out.

• 1:16:23Hala Taha?

  Your parents moved back to Canada?

• 1:16:24Speaker 01

  Yeah, I was there by myself. Um, and while I was there, you know, I was struggling, like I didn't speak the language that well. Um, I didn't connect with the culture because I grew up in Canada and I wanted nothing more but to come back. Um, what's interesting is how while I was there, um, I found this author, Sydney Sheldon. And I started reading his books, it was the only English books that I found. And every single one of his books was about a woman going through some type of struggle. And then somehow in the end, she becomes this big entrepreneur or a lawyer or something. And I feel like that really embedded in me somehow. So I was like, I need to get back, get back to Canada. Um, so I found my way back in the way like I was visiting at one point. And when I came back, I was like, I'm not going back to Pakistan ever again.

• 1:17:08Speaker 01

  Because, not to get into the details, but there was a lot of stuff happening there. I just wasn't where I was supposed to be, I was miserable. So when I came back, I really fought to go to high school and finish high school. Then I really fought my culture, the Pakistani community to go to university. And I had to fight so hard to get a divorce because back then it was so taboo. It was just like, nope, you're not getting a divorce. He could hit you, he could cheat on you, it doesn't matter what he's doing. You cannot get a divorce. So I was here breaking all cultural norms, all cultural boundaries.

• 1:17:41Hala Taha?

  Uh, woman in your family to go to college and?

• 1:17:43Speaker 01

  First woman to go to college, I was the first woman to get a job, I was the first woman to travel the world. I'm the first woman right now who's living on my own. First woman in my family to do every, start a business. I'm hoping to become the first millionaire woman in my family. And honestly, it wa- it was tough, but the lesson here is like, if I can do it, because I was just a girl growing up in Scarborough, Toronto.

• 1:18:06Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:18:07Speaker 01

  If I could get this far than anyone can, right? You just really have to want it for yourself and believe in yourself.

• 1:18:12Hala Taha?

  And it's funny, like the thing that really scarred you when you were younger helped propel your personal brand. It was that telling of that story on LinkedIn and it kind of went viral.

• 1:18:25Speaker 01

  Got twenty million views.

• 1:18:27Hala Taha?

  Wow.

• 1:18:28Speaker 01

  And I was like, oh my God, I was like, great.

• 1:18:31Hala Taha?

  It was probably really scary because you probably were thinking like, my family's going to disown me for sharing this publicly.

• 1:18:37Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:18:38Hala Taha?

  Was that hard?

• 1:18:39Speaker 01

  It was. I remember when I started to go viral, I was like a million views, two million views, I'm like, oh God, I'm like, should I delete this? I was literally, should I delete this? I literally remember, I just turned my laptop off, I went into bed and I'm like in my blanket, I'm like, great, what have I done? Um, and the next day I got a call from my mom, she's like, oh, her friend called her and said she saw your post. Um, and you know, by then, my family, because I had gone through so much with them already, they had accepted it. They're like, Maria, go ahead, tell your story, it's fine. So by then we had built such a good relationship, um, that they were accepting of it. And I think that's why we're at such a good place now. But I got, for the most part, a lot of support for it.

• 1:19:21Speaker 01

  There was some like, hey, why are you making the Pakistani community look back? Or this isn't about religion, this is this, like, just so much back and forth. But you know what? It liberated me, Hala, because this is something I was carrying with me, it's like guilt somehow, like it was my fault that I went through that.

• 1:19:37Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:19:37Speaker 01

  It really liberated me and after that I felt like I could do anything.

• 1:19:41Hala Taha?

  I love that.

• 1:19:42Speaker 01

  I can do anything now if I've been able to overcome this.

• 1:19:45Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:19:46Speaker 01

  So it was the most powerful thing I did for myself.

• 1:19:48Hala Taha?

  And I feel like it's a good learning lesson for anybody out there who's just went through something really difficult. If you feel comfortable enough, sharing your story could really help propel your personal brand on whatever social platform you want to get started on. Like I remember I actually had a client, Stephanie Malik, who I grew her LinkedIn super huge. And she was homeless and she was afraid to tell the story, she was homeless when she was younger. And now she's like this like super successful lady. And that stor- oh, you know Stephanie Malik, yeah, so she went viral so many times.

• 1:20:19Speaker 01

  Wow.

• 1:20:19Hala Taha?

  From telling that story. And when it comes to your personal brand, something you have to remember is you want to tell those stories over and over again. You don't share it once. You basically are rinsing and repeating forty stories, a thousand times each, over and over again in different ways.

• 1:20:33Speaker 01

  Here's a fun fact, okay, so I told my story the first time in January and it got one or two million views. And then my coach told me, tell it again, Maria, say it again. I'm like, no, no, no, no, the one, two million was fine. I think back then my family didn't hear about it. The second time I told it, I, the exact same story, I posted, the second time it got twenty million views.

• 1:20:52Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:20:53Speaker 01

  And that's when I started getting the phone calls, that's when, um, I had Toronto Life Magazine reach out to me and say, hey, we want to write a memoir about your life. That's when it really exploded. So like you said, yes, telling it over and over again, because sometimes it doesn't reach the right people.

• 1:21:05Hala Taha?

  And to your point, it's like, once something gets traction, you know that it hit a button, you know that it resonated. So it's like, how do you change the hook? How do you change the format? How do you just keep repeating the thing that got people excited and commenting and having a conversation? So that you can keep going viral over and over again. It's like the trial reel strategy nowadays, right? Rinse and repeat.

• 1:21:27Speaker 01

  Yeah, and it's fun. I feel like everyone should experience going viral once, because the stuff that happens behind the scenes that people don't see, like the, the messages that you get from people. I got so many messages, Hala, from men and women saying, thank you so much for talking about this. Because my sister's going through this, or I went through this and I was so ashamed and I felt like my life was over.

• 1:21:45Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:21:46Speaker 01

  And you talking about it is making me realize, wait a second, there's still so much more out there for me.

• 1:21:51Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:21:51Speaker 01

  So it, it does, it touches a lot of people.

• 1:21:54Hala Taha?

  Now me and you kind of have like a moat on LinkedIn, we're kind of like spoiled, where I feel like we don't, we want to grow on LinkedIn, but now me and you are both like.

• 1:22:04Speaker 01

  Comfortable.

• 1:22:05Hala Taha?

  Yeah, we're comfortable because we have like a moat, it's, it's very unusual to have like almost three hundred thousand followers on LinkedIn. There's really not that much competition. So me and you are kind of continuing to grow LinkedIn, but we're really focused on Instagram these days.

• 1:22:18Speaker 01

  Do you know how humbling it was coming from LinkedIn to like Instagram where I'm like with my two followers?

• 1:22:24Hala Taha?

  Exactly, well, you have twenty thousand now, so good for you.

• 1:22:27Speaker 01

  Getting there, but you see how like learning everything on LinkedIn help, is helping me grow on Instagram? Because I've developed that skill. It's, it's all about skill, so I, I would say start with one, um, one social media platform first. I know some people say go in on and all.

• 1:22:42Hala Taha?

  I did the same thing, I focused on LinkedIn first and it, it helped us, it gave us leverage. We were able to like quit our jobs, start a business, gain an audience.

• 1:22:50Speaker 01

  Hire people to help you.

• 1:22:51Hala Taha?

  Create courses, like whatever we needed to do to make money. And then now we can like invest in growing on the other platforms, which we are. Slowly but surely, I'm growing on Instagram, YouTube and all the other platforms, but yeah.

• 1:23:05Speaker 01

  I love it, I'm, I'm, I, I loved that humbleness that I had to like adapt to, because I'm like, okay, Maria, how do we do this all over again? Because it's fun, every time you go viral, it's like, it's fun.

• 1:23:14Hala Taha?

  Yeah, it's like new excitement. Well, Maria, this was such an awesome conversation, I feel like we touched so many different topics. I really appreciate you coming on, so, uh, where can everybody learn more about you and everything that you do?

• 1:23:26Speaker 01

  Sure, I mean, I would love for them to connect with me on LinkedIn, Maria Malik, on Instagram, Maria Malik Speaks. Of course, check out my book also, theintrovertedspeaker.com. Um, I'm, like, I, when I say Hala, I love this work I do, like I found my thing. And I feel so blessed to have been able to do that, like I genuinely enjoy doing this work. So if you want to tell me about your stories, please send them to me, I love hearing about them. And yeah, just connect with me, I, there's so much I post out there and I genuinely, at the end, end of the day, do want to help people, especially introverts.

• 1:23:58Hala Taha?

  Yeah.

• 1:23:58Speaker 01

  So, yeah, definitely connect with me.

• 1:24:00Hala Taha?

  If you're an introverted communicator, that's your girl, Maria Malik.

• 1:24:04Speaker 01

  Yes, exactly.

• 1:24:05Hala Taha?

  Thank you so much for joining us on Young and Profiting Podcast.

• 1:24:08Speaker 01

  Thank you so much for having me, Hala, this was so much fun, I loved it.

• 1:24:12Hala Taha?

  Young improffiders, most people think communication is a soft skill. But after this conversation with Maria, I think we all don't see it that way anymore. Because you can be incredible at what you do, you can be so super talented, but if you can't clearly communicate your value, people may never recognize your expertise. Maria calls out the invisible tax of poor communication. Nobody's going to tell you that you lost a sale, the investment or the job opportunity because you sounded insecure, unsure, or you couldn't get to the point. They'll probably just move on without giving you any feedback. And what I loved about Maria's approach is that becoming a stronger communicator doesn't mean you have to change. You don't have to become an extrovert, you don't have to become a different person or performative.

• 1:24:54Hala Taha?

  In fact, sometimes trying too hard, trying to sound too perfect or somebody that you're not, can work against you. So instead of memorizing every word, try to understand your message deeply. Like Maria suggested, you can talk through your presentation with a close friend or use skeleton notes to just keep yourself on track and talk naturally. You still prepare, but you leave enough room to actually connect with the people listening, so you can pay attention to their body language and adjust your presentation accordingly. And I actually experienced some of this firsthand with the live coaching. As soon as I stopped trying to make everything perfect and I gave myself to be natural, to talk authentically, to speak from my heart, Maria actually said I was more authoritative.

• 1:25:36Hala Taha?

  And this was so interesting to me because confidence is not really about being perfect. It's about being comfortable enough to pause, to say exactly what you mean and to actually know when you're done and to tie up with a really solid close. And that can be easier said than done, especially for those of us that know a lot about certain topics. That's Maria's expert trap, like she likes to call it. The more you know about something, the more tempted you are to give people every single detail and piece of context. But that knowledge can actually make you harder to follow and less engaging. And Maria's PRI framework helps us improve that, point, reason, impact. Give people the answer first, explain the reasoning behind it, then tell them why it matters. Simple.

• 1:26:21Hala Taha?

  And if you want to improve, don't just keep doing more speaking engagements. Don't just assume repetition is going to make you better. Maria says the reps that count are the ones that you review. I love that advice, so watch yourself, get your feedback and then make an adjustment before your next rep. So Yap, Bam, whether you're pitching a meeting or stepping on stage, focus on making your expertise easy for other people to recognize with all the tips that you learned from Maria. Young improffiders, thank you so much for joining us today. And if somebody came to mind who knows their stuff but struggles to communicate it, make sure you send them this episode. Maria also coached me in real time during this interview, so if you want to watch it, you definitely can. And exciting news, Yap is now streaming on video on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and YouTube.

• 1:27:06Hala Taha?

  You can also come say hi to me on Yap with Hala, on Instagram, X or TikTok, that's at Yap with Hala. And I'm also on LinkedIn, just search for my name, it's Hala Taha. Before I go, a huge thank you to our amazing listeners, you guys support us so much. In fact, we just won another award in the podcast industry, the W3 Awards. So keep liking, sharing, commenting and reviewing and I'll keep bringing you conversations that help you learn and profit in every area of your life. Until next time, this is your host, Hala Taha, AKA The Podcast Princess, signing off.