Dr. Maya Shankar: The Mindset Shift You Need When Life Doesn’t Go as Planned | Human Behavior | YAPClassic

One mindset shift changed everything for Dr. Maya Shankar. After suffering a devastating hand injury at 15 that abruptly ended her promising violin career, her sense of identity was shattered. Forced to reimagine a future beyond music, she turned to cognitive and behavioral science to understand how humans navigate unexpected change. That path led her to President Obama’s White House, where she applied human behavior insights to influence policy and improve decision-making at scale. In this episode, Dr. Maya reveals the power of human psychology and how small mindset shifts can help us make better decisions when life doesn’t go as planned. In this episode, Hala and Dr. Maya will discuss: (00:00) Introduction (02:13) Dr. Maya’s Early Life and Violin Journey (11:04) What Is Behavioral and Cognitive Science? (21:23) The Sunk Cost Fallacy Explained (26:55) Her Impact at the White House (37:24) Understanding the Power of Nudging (43:43) Why Changing Minds Is So Difficult (46:24) Practical Nudging Tactics for Everyday Decisions (50:12) Decision-Making Biases You Need to Know (54:32) A Slight Change of Plans Podcast Mission Dr. Maya Shankar is a cognitive scientist and the creator, executive producer, and host of the podcast A Slight Change of Plans. She currently serves as Senior Director of Behavioral Economics at Google and previously founded the White House Behavioral Science Team under President Obama, where she served as a Senior Advisor. Dr. Maya completed a postdoctoral fellowship in cognitive neuroscience at Stanford, earned a Ph. D. in cognitive psychology from Oxford as a Rhodes Scholar, and holds a B. A. from Yale. Sponsored By: Indeed - Get a $75 sponsored job credit to boost your job's visibility at Indeed.com/profiting Shopify - Start your $1/month trial at Shopify.com/profiting. Spectrum Business - Visit Spectrum.com/FreeForLife to learn how you can get Business Internet Free Forever. Northwest Registered Agent - Build your brand and get your complete business identity in just 10 clicks and 10 minutes at northwestregisteredagent.com/paidyap Framer - Publish beautiful and production-ready websites. Go to Framer.com/profiting and get 30% off their Framer Pro annual plan. Intuit QuickBooks - Start the new year strong and take control of your cash flow at QuickBooks.com/money Quo - Run your business communications the smart way. Try Quo for free, plus get 20% off your first 6 months when you go to quo.com/profiting Working Genius - Take the Working Genius assessment and discover your natural gifts and thrive at work. Go to workinggenius.com and get 20% off with code PROFITING Resources Mentioned: Dr. Maya's Podcast, A Slight Change of Plans: bit.ly/ASCOP-apple Dr. Maya's Website: mayashankar.com Nudge by Cass Sunstein: bit.ly/-Nudge Active Deals - youngandprofiting.com/deals Key YAP Links Reviews - ratethispodcast.com/yap YouTube - youtube.com/c/YoungandProfiting Newsletter - youngandprofiting.co/newsletter LinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/htaha/ Instagram - instagram.com/yapwithhala/ Social + Podcast Services: yapmedia.com Transcripts - youngandprofiting.com/episodes-new Entrepreneurship, Entrepreneurship Podcast, Business, Business Podcast, Self Improvement, Self-Improvement, Personal Development, Starting a Business, Strategy, Investing, Sales, Selling, Psychology, Productivity, Entrepreneurs, AI, Artificial Intelligence, Technology, Marketing, Negotiation, Money, Finance, Side Hustle, Startup, Mental Health, Career, Leadership, Mindset, Health, Growth Mindset, Positivity, Human Nature, Critical Thinking, Robert Greene, Chris Voss, Robert Cialdini

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• 0:00Hala Taha?

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• 1:20Hala Taha?

  Yap, ganks, our lives are shaped by thousands of decisions, from the big decisions to the small ones, and even the ones that we don't realize we're making. But imagine being able to understand the hidden forces behind those choices that we make, so we can navigate our paths with more confidence and clarity. In this Yap Classic episode, we're revisiting my conversation with Dr. Maya Shankar, a renowned cognitive scientist and former behavior science advisor in the White House. Maya has spent her career studying how emotions, identity, and subtle nudges influence the paths and decisions that we make. Together, we unpack how to let go of outdated identities, overcome mental traps like the sunk cost fallacy, and design environments that support smarter, more intentional decision-making. Yap fam, I guarantee you're gonna want to take notes on this one. Here's my sit-down

• 2:05Hala Taha?

  with Dr. Maya Shankar.

• 2:10Hala Taha?

  Hey Maya, welcome to Young and Profiting Podcast.

• 2:13Speaker 01

  Hey Hal, it's so lovely to be here with you.

• 2:16Hala Taha?

  Yeah, me too. I'm really excited for this conversation. Human behavior and the science of decision-making, the science of change. These are all things that I'm really passionate about. I love talking about them on my podcast. And so you're super impressive. You know, you worked at the White House, you worked at the United Nations, you work for Google now, and you lead their behavioral science teams there. So really interesting stuff, but we always like to start from the beginning. So let's talk about you growing up. And from my understanding, you were super talented at the violin. And the violin was essentially your whole life. But when you were 15 years old, you had a very traumatic hand injury. That kind of changed the way that you thought your life would be thereafter. And you had to kind of switch careers.

• 3:00Hala Taha?

  So talk to us about what it was like for you as a child, a teenager, how you got into the violin, and then maybe how you transitioned to some of the stuff you're working on now.

• 3:10Speaker 01

  Absolutely, yeah. So violin, as you mentioned, was my entire life as a kid. When I was six years old, my mom went up to our attic and brought down my grandmother's violin that she brought with her all the way from India when she immigrated here in the 70s. And I think my mom had just meant to show me the instrument. I don't think she expected that I would be instantly captivated by it, but I was. And I really took to it. And my mom says that she never had to ask me to practice. It was just one of those genuine passions that I had as a child. And I can't say that for many of the other things I was asked to do in school. So she knew that it was very rare. And then when I was nine years old, things started to get a little bit more serious.

• 3:54Speaker 01

  And I was starting to realize, hey, maybe this violin thing could be my life, right? Like, maybe this could be a career. And so I ended up auditioning for the Juilliard School of Music in New York. And I was accepted into their pre-college program. And that began weekly trips every Saturday from Connecticut to New York, in which my mom and I would get up at 4:30 in the morning. Go to New York on the train and I'd spend about 10 hours in the day studying the violin. And then, as you can imagine, like with the intensity of that spirit, things started to get even more serious. And then in high school, Itzhak Perlman, who's, you know, the greatest violinist of our time, invited me to be his private violin student.

• 4:36Speaker 01

  And that was an incredible vote of confidence for me because I think, like so many, when we're in competitive environments, it can be very intimidating. You're not sure if you have what it takes to succeed. And him taking me on as a student, I think, really helped me appreciate, oh, wow, I maybe I could actually be a violinist and go pro. So unfortunately, what happened is that when I was 15, I was in summer music camp. I woke up early, probably didn't warm up as much as I should have. And I overstretched my finger on a single note and heard a pop. And it turns out I had torn tendons in my hand. And I resisted Hala for so many months. The diagnosis that my doctors were giving me and the fact that they were telling me I could never play the violin again.

• 5:20Speaker 01

  But ultimately, I just had to surrender at a certain point. And, you know, the pain became too intense. And yeah, I realized that, you know, my dreams were crushed and I could no longer pursue this path.

• 5:32Hala Taha?

  Wow, that must have been so hard because that's what you were doing your whole life. So before we move on to like your next phase of life, I do want to talk about how you got into Juilliard because it was a really scrappy, interesting story. So I'd love to hear about that.

• 5:46Speaker 01

  Absolutely. So, you know, my parents had no connections within the musical sphere. So my dad is a theoretical physics professor. My mom helps immigrants get green cards to study in this country. And they knew that I had these big dreams as a kid, but they weren't really sure how to connect the dots and how to make my Juilliard dreams come true. So One day, my mom and I were in New York. This was, yeah, this was when I was nine and we just were, we had a mother-daughter trip and I happened to have my violin with me. And we walked by the Juilliard School's building and she said, "Hey Maya, why don't we just go in? Like, what's the worst thing that could happen?" I'm like, "Mom, get out of here. That's nuts. I don't want to go inside. Like, we haven't even been invited."

• 6:31Speaker 01

  But she said, "Let's just do it. Let's just see what happens." So we go in to the building, unannounced, uninvited. And my mom strikes up a conversation with a student in the elevator and her mom. And she, you know, very politely asked her, "Oh, you know, at the end of your lesson, would you mind just introducing my daughter to your violin teacher? Because it would just be so wonderful if they could have a chance to connect." And they were very gracious, very kind. They said yes. I think a lesson I've learned over the years is just how generous people can be when you just ask them if they're willing to do you a favor. But they let us, you know, meet her teacher afterwards. And I actually auditioned for him on the spot. He accepted me into his summer program. And it was only because of that intense boot camp training that summer

• 7:16Speaker 01

  that I think I had any chance at all of getting into Juilliard. And what that lesson taught me, Hala, is that a lot of times, the door will not open for you on its own, right? You won't get that silver platter, but sometimes if you just force it open, I mean, literally in this case, my mom just walked into the building, you can try and inspire new opportunities for yourself. So I'm so grateful for that learning lesson because it wasn't the first time when I had to create an opportunity for myself that didn't necessarily exist beforehand. But I, yeah, I'm grateful for my mom's fearlessness, I guess, because it really helped allow my violin career to, you know, to blossom.

• 7:55Hala Taha?

  100%. It's something that I always talk about at this podcast is like, shoot your shot. Ask, you know, show up, show up. Half the battle is just showing up and the fact that you just went there, you and your mom. You were so young. Who knows, they would have, they could have laughed at you guys, but instead they embraced you and it kind of set off a whole new path for your life and was a huge resume builder for you later on. Even though you didn't end up becoming a violinist, I'm sure going to Juilliard really helped you in other areas in terms of your hard work and dedication. So what other lessons did you learn as this like pro violinist at such a young age? Did you carry anything on later on that helps you?

• 8:35Speaker 01

  Absolutely. I mean, I think just hard work, just relentlessly devoted to my craft. Because, you know, I'm really grateful that my mom opened the door for me that day. But it was important that I was able to perform on the spot, you know, and actually complete the audition. And so I think just that relentlessness, that drive, that that spirit of commitment to my craft, I think was so important for me to cultivate as a young, as a young child. Because again, I think I've carried that also into other pursuits that do require that kind of relentlessness, you know? We'll get to this later, but certainly, working at the White House, things are not easy. You face so many barriers. And I feel like in many ways, I carried, I carried that spirit with me forward when

• 9:20Speaker 01

  I was working there too. And, you know, not trying to see many obstacles, trying to feel like hard work could get me to the finish line. So I think that was certainly something. And, you know, I think actually, looking back, the greatest lesson that I learned about myself from playing the violin is that what I really loved about music was not necessarily the beautiful sounds that it created. Of course, I loved the way the violin sounded, but actually, it was my ability to emotionally connect with my audience, to connect with listeners of my music. And I loved being able to forge that connection from an early age on stage, right? I mean, I'm going out to the stage, I'm in a room with a bunch of strangers, and suddenly we feel connected in this really deep, powerful way.

• 10:04Speaker 01

  And I think what that taught me is that, especially when I lost my ability to play the violin, that there was a feature of my musical life that I could maintain afterwards, which was finding other areas, other passions, where I could unlock that same human emotional connection, my same fascination with humans, which is what ultimately drove me to become a cognitive scientist and to study humans as my profession, right? Like what it is that unlocks our passions, how we make decisions, how we develop our attitudes and beliefs, and certainly has driven me to create my new podcast, A Slight Change of Plans, which is all about how people Navigate extraordinary changes in their lives.

• 10:48Speaker 01

  You know, people like Hillary Clinton and Tiffany Haddish and Kacey Musgraves. And I feel like I'm able to emotionally connect with my guests and I feel that same joy that I felt as a child playing the violin.

• 10:59Hala Taha?

  Oh, my gosh, I love that. So then you ended up going to Yale, right? And then you went to University of Oxford. You got your PhD and you had a Rhodes Scholarship. So, super, super impressive journey. I love to set context for my listeners. So, some people might not be familiar with your field. So, what is like behavioral and cognitive science? Like, what is that?

• 11:21Speaker 01

  Absolutely. So, it is the study of how our minds work. The science of how it is that we make decisions, how we develop our attitudes and beliefs about the world, how we develop motivational states. It's basically a comprehensive understanding of our minds. And I will tell you, I mean, when I was, you know, on the heels of trying to figure out, like, what is my new passion? Right now that I don't have the violin, what is it that I do? What is it that I can do? I really struggled for a long time. I had no idea what it was that could captivate me in the same way. And I was really lucky, actually, Holla, because I was, the summer before college, I was helping my parents clean their basement, as a dutiful daughter does.

• 12:06Speaker 01

  I was actually supposed to be in China that summer touring with my musician friends, but instead I was with my parents. And, but I was helping them clean their basement and I stumbled upon a book on how the mind works. And it detailed the incredibly sophisticated machinery behind our ability to perceive and learn language. And I remember up until that point in my own life, I had taken for granted my ability to comprehend language and produce language. And it was fascinating to have the curtain pulled back and to fully understand what was behind this skill that I'd taken for granted. I mean, I think so many of us can be really hard on ourselves in daily life, very critical of ourselves, but when you learn about the mind, you will feel like you're crushing it all the time.

• 12:50Speaker 01

  You will be in total awe of what our minds are capable of. So, I read this book on language and I remember thinking, well, this is how sophisticated the machinery is behind language learning. What is behind our ability to do complex mathematics? I mean, I can't do complex math, but my physicist's dad can. You know, what's behind our ability, like, what's behind falling in love? What's behind really high-level decision-making? I was enraptured. I mean, I could not wait to figure out all there was to understand about the mind. So when I went to undergrad, I ended up becoming a cognitive science major, which was a relatively new major at the time. Your audience might appreciate, because again, it's an education podcast, but one thing that I loved about the cognitive science major is

• 13:33Speaker 01

  that it is interdisciplinary. So you study the mind from multiple perspectives. So I took classes in neuro-linguistics, I took classes in psychology, anthropology, computer science, neurobiology. Like, you're really trying to figure out some fundamental, you're asking fundamental questions about the mind, and then you are also answering those questions. I also, sorry, I took philosophy classes as well. You're answering those questions using this rich canvas of insights from so many different fields. And another feature, I think, of my undergraduate experience that really lit up my excitement for cognitive science is that I actually got to do lab research. So I worked in a non-human primate lab. My mentor

• 14:17Speaker 01

  was Laurie Santos. You might have heard of her. She has this incredible podcast.

• 14:20Hala Taha?

  Yeah, she's gonna come on our podcast soon, yeah.

• 14:22Speaker 01

  Oh, that's amazing. Okay, so she's been my lifelong mentor. I'm so grateful to have had her in my life from day one, but she, she took me on as that lowly freshman into her monkey lab. And so I got to do research on non-human primates and also on, on humans and study things like how our visual systems work, how we code objects in the world. And yeah, I was just so excited by the idea of asking novel questions about the mind.

• 14:49Hala Taha?

  So your trajectory was to actually just be an academic, right? I think a lot of people who go into your field, they end up becoming professors or writing books or things along those lines. And I think you had a change of heart at some point. So talk to us about that and, and what you did next, and maybe how you used some of your lessons that your mom taught you about getting into Juilliard for your next job position.

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• 18:42Speaker 01

  People who have degrees in this field often become academics. And I remember this one day. So I was doing my postdoc in cognitive neuroscience at Stanford, and I was scanning people's brains in the basement of an fMRI laboratory. I was on my whatever hour of doing this. And I remember this guy came in, and within minutes, I'm peering into his brain. And I remember thinking, given my personality, I feel like the order of operations is wrong here. Like, I'm already peering into this guy's brain, and I don't know whether he has kids, what his favorite food is, what his passions in life are. I feel like I should be doing something that feels slightly more social and team-oriented, where I get to know people first, and then maybe, you know, do the behavioral science piece.

• 19:25Speaker 01

  But as you can imagine, and I imagine as many of your listeners can relate to, when you put so many years into a pursuit, you feel a lot of anxiety about the idea of jumping ship, right? And I also didn't know what could come next. Like, what does a postdoc in cognitive neuroscience do, other than become an academic? And so I remember thinking, you know, should I just keep at it? Just to, you know, avoid all this sunk cost? But I knew from my, you know, behavioral science research to avoid the sunk cost fallacy, which is to not give in to that. But also, I called up Laurie. I called up Laurie Santos and I said, Laurie, I know, you know, you're an academic, you're a professor. You've been my role model all this time. It's one of the reasons I even went to grad school in the first place.

• 20:10Speaker 01

  Like, what do I do at this point? And I said, I think maybe I should become a general management consultant? Like, I had no idea what to do. And she said, Maya, I recently heard about this incredible work that's happening in the Obama White House, where they are using insights from our field to really change people's lives. In this particular case, they were using the power of defaults. The default setting in a program can wildly affect participation rates. And they changed the default setting in the National School Lunch Program to help enroll millions of kids into free or reduced-price lunches. So, prior to this change, people had to proactively enroll their kids into the program. And that was associated with the stigma.

• 20:52Speaker 01

  It was also accompanied by a very burdensome application process that was, you know, required referencing multiple tax forms. And think about like a single mom who's working three shifts to make ends meet. And now they're being asked to fill out this very burdensome form just to allow their kids to eat lunch at school every day. And so, what the government did is they used existing data on these students and they automatically enrolled these kids in the program, such that now, the default was for kids to be enrolled. And if you wanted to un-enroll your kid, you could. But that was the default setting. And as a result of this change informed by behavioral economics, 12.5 million more kids were now eating lunch at school every day. And I just remember being blown away by this example.

• 21:36Speaker 01

  You know, I've been waxing poetic about the promise of my field for years at this point, but to actually see it in practice was extraordinary for me. And there was just this lightbulb moment of, oh, my gosh, this is what I want to be doing. You know, I want to be actually taking insights from decision science and putting them into practice in people's lives so that they can live better lives. But the challenge that existed, Hala, was that there was no job for a behavioral scientist in the White House. And so I ended up sending a cold email. So this is my mom's Juilliard method. I opened that door unannounced, and I sent an email to an academic luminary named Cass Sunstein. So he had written the book, Nudge, which is all about the science of how we can, you

• 22:18Speaker 01

  know, positively impact people's lives through these small tweaks in how we design programs and policies. He'd also worked for Obama for four years as the head of their Office of Information and Regulatory Affairs. And I basically just sent him a note saying, hi, I'm Maya. I've published nothing of significance, and I have no public policy experience. And I even did this thing that I think a lot of women do in particular, which is I really downplayed myself. I said, I remember writing in parentheses, I know I'm not cool enough to work with the likes of Obama, but if there's a state or local government opportunity for me to apply these insights, I'd be totally game. And thankfully for me, Cass ignored all the insecurity that was seeping out of my email

• 23:01Speaker 01

  and wrote back almost right away, again, generosity of spirit that I referenced earlier, and said, this is so wonderful, Maya. I'm going to introduce you to the president's science advisor. Now, I remember, like, nearly falling off my chair. I was like, what is happening in my life? I can't believe this connection's been made. And a week later, I was interviewing with top White House officials, pitching them on the idea of creating a new position for a behavioral scientist like me. And... There was this particularly powerful moment, Hala, I remember in the interview, where I was proposing all these ideas based in behavioral science, like the growth mindset, which is the idea that, you know, if we treat our minds like muscles, they can, that can grow

• 23:44Speaker 01

  with time and effort, we can actually see a lot more potential in people. I was talking about social norms and how that can inform the first lady, Michelle Obama's Let's Move Initiative, which was all around, you know, health and wellness and exercise. And I remember this White House official telling me, "Well, that's great. I mean, I know Michelle Obama and her team. We can absolutely propose this change." And it was in that moment I realized, wow, okay, this is a real thing that can happen. And I was so taken by that interview and the promise that I saw in this position, that even before I had a formal job offer, I moved to DC, packed up all my bags, I signed a one-year lease. And, I mean, he had obviously

• 24:26Speaker 01

  expressed some degree of interest, such that I would take this risk. But I basically was like, "I'm moving to DC. I'm moving to DC. I'm going to be here whether you like it or not. We are going to make this job happen." And sure enough, a few months later, I would be able to join the Obama White House and continued that work for four years.

• 24:44Hala Taha?

  Wow, that is a really powerful story. She basically created her own dream career out of nothing. But, you know, the willingness to ask and having the passion and the skills and the experience. And the other lesson that I find here is that a lot of the times, people think, and I want to circle back to something that you mentioned, the sunk cost fallacy. They think that, you know, you go to school and if you switch gears, or even evolve, because you didn't totally switch gears, you just applied what you learned in a whole new way and probably learned new things to succeed in that avenue, right? You just layered skills on top of what you already had. But that actually was a huge differentiator for you to actually create this dream job. And so it wasn't a waste

• 25:29Hala Taha?

  at all. And same thing with me. I was in corporate. I worked at HP Disney for many years. I was in marketing. I launched a podcast on the side. Then I launched a marketing agency that blew up. And everybody told me, "You're crazy. You're an executive at Disney. Everybody would kill for this job." And I was like, "Well, yeah, I did, you know, rise up the ranks, but that doesn't mean I have to do this for the rest of my life. I could easily take these skills and transfer it somewhere else, right? And continue on that way." So talk to us about the sunk cost fallacy. I'd love to hear about that from you.

• 26:00Speaker 01

  Yeah, I mean, I think it speaks to the fact that we feel so attached to the things that we've invested in, or the things that we own, and we can make irrational decisions in the face of that emotional pull towards those things. You know, there's this interesting insight in behavioral science called identity foreclosure, and it refers to the fact that, especially adolescents, though this can follow people into adulthood, can get very closed off very quickly regarding what their identity is in this world. They can attach themselves to an early identity that they claim, and they can hold on to that with a firm grip in ways that make them close-minded in the face of other opportunities or other identities that they might occupy.

• 26:44Speaker 01

  And I think the fact that at 15, I was forced to challenge my fundamental identity, I mean, as I mentioned to you, Hala, I was first and foremost a violinist. That was my defining trait. But when that was taken away from me, I was forced to see my identity as far more malleable than I otherwise would have. And I think opening myself up to multiple identities at that point in my life and learning this valuable lesson of, you know, maybe I shouldn't attach my identity to things, to pursuits, but instead to traits of pursuits. I was mentioning earlier that one of the appeals of the violin was the fact that I could forge this emotional connection and that I was so fascinated by the human mind and its response to music.

• 27:26Speaker 01

  And so, maybe I can find that trait in another area of life, right? Maybe I can, maybe I can translate that into other pursuits. And so, I think seeing my identity as more malleable is something that has served me well, it was very painful at the time, but I would certainly encourage listeners to try and avoid identity foreclosure and to instead keep an open mind about all of the identities that we can occupy, you know, over the course of our lifetime.

• 27:54Hala Taha?

  Yeah, that's super powerful. I love that what you said about, you know, choosing to really not tie yourself to a thing, but rather than a trait, something that can evolve and apply to many different things. I think that's, that's a really great piece of advice for everybody listening, especially young listeners, who may not have gone through failure. You know, I can really relate and I have so many stories, but I want to focus this on you.

• 28:15Speaker 01

  Well, I would love to hear one of your stories if you're willing to share.

• 28:17Hala Taha?

  Well, I used to work at Hot 97 and I actually dropped out of school for this radio internship at Hot 97. And I was the girl from Hot 97. I was the coolest girl, you know, with all the celebrities. That was my life. You know, all my branding on social was Hot 97's Hala, you know? And I was an intern working for free for three years and trying to get that my dream job on air. And then they fired me out of nowhere, you know, they fired me for no reason because they didn't want to pay me minimum wage, even though I had sacrificed everything to work at the station. And again, like you, I felt like my identity was ripped from me. And I was like, wow, I've invested all this time. I have absolutely nothing.

• 28:58Hala Taha?

  I'm not allowed to use their brand anymore, similar to you, like you weren't able to use your hand anymore. It wasn't possible, right?

• 29:05Speaker 01

  Yes, exactly.

• 29:06Hala Taha?

  And then I had to pivot quickly and I owe a lot of my grit and being able to understand when it's time to move on. And also, you know, to your point, be more aligned to things you own as well as your mission, rather than other brands or things. It's really important for people to understand. And I think if you don't get that early failure or rejection or tragedy, you might not know that and you might hang on to a dream that's worth letting go.

• 29:31Speaker 01

  I think that's completely right. And I'm, first of all, I'm so grateful that you share stories like that because I think in the same way that when you see someone's Instagram feed, you're seeing the highlights reel. When you read someone's bio, you're not looking at all of the moments in which they failed and they were challenged. And I almost want all of our bios to say, you know, and then I tried this and it didn't go anywhere. And then I tried this and I failed or I was rejected because I think, one, it humanizes people and it allows people to see the path is never linear. It's going to have so many twists and turns and it's having, you know, perseverance and trying to build self-confidence at those critical junctures that ultimately can lead you to thrive.

• 30:11Hala Taha?

  Yeah, 100%.

• 30:12Speaker 01

  As you did, clearly.

• 30:14Hala Taha?

  Thank you, thank you, and so did you. So, let's go back to your time in the White House. So you were working for the Obama administration and, you know, you basically were like a little startup because you invented this job. I think you started with no team in a very male-dominated, I guess, not industry, but male-dominated culture, right? So, how did you thrive there? What are some of the things that you did? What are your best memories from that work experience?

• 30:43Speaker 01

  Yeah, so interesting. I mean, I thought, oh, the challenges ended when I convinced them to give me this job. But actually, that wasn't the case at all. So on day one, I decided, based on the advice of my boss, that instead of just focusing on the impact that I, as one person, could have while in government, it might be far more worth it to actually build out an institution that would persist beyond my unique tenure in the White House and actually be able to keep doing this work well beyond my departure. And that can take a lot of effort and time because instead of just trying to get discrete projects done, you're trying to convince the federal government and Obama leadership that they should actually build out a new function in government, right? A behavioral science team.

• 31:28Speaker 01

  And on day one, I started off with zero budget, no team, and I'm a 27-year-old at the time with no public policy experience, trying to make this happen. Now, I will say there was one advantage to lacking that experience at the time, which is that I came in so optimistic about what it was that I could accomplish. I didn't see barriers because I didn't know where they existed. And I think had I been a seasoned government official, I would have been like, okay, I've done this rodeo six times and I failed, you know, four to six times. And so I'd be somewhat disenchanted and a bit jaded. But actually, I think my, you know, light naivete served me well, which is that I came in and I was just absolutely resolute in my commitment to building this team.

• 32:13Speaker 01

  But I had to get very creative, so... I recognized early on that the only way that I would succeed at this mission is if I could inspire organic interest in my government colleagues to translate insights from behavioral science into public policy improvements. Because I could not point to a high-level mandate. I could not point to, at the time, President Obama saying, "You guys all need to do this." Instead, I had to convince people because they saw genuine value, inherent value, in what it was that I was proposing, and that it would help them achieve their existing program or policy goals. So I knocked on every single door I could in government. I engaged at all levels of government. And essentially, the tactic I used was

• 32:58Speaker 01

  to align my recommendations with existing goals they already had. So if the Department of Veterans Affairs was already trying to get veterans enrolled in a program, I would knock on their door and say, "Hey, I have some science-based insights that we can use to try to get you from point A to point B." Or if the Department of Education was trying to help student loan borrowers better understand their choices among repayment plans, I would say, "Oh yeah, here's some research on the most effective way that we can structure these choices." I kind of recognized in those early days that if I were to introduce a new goal or a new idea, it would just be too much for folks to swallow on day one. So that was one. I aligned these incentives. Really smart. Number two is that I decided I need to get some quick wins on the board.

• 33:43Speaker 01

  So I think one trap folks can fall into is that they spend so much time writing beautiful prose about what this team could be in the future, what these insights could translate into in the future, rather than actually just getting your feet wet and getting some wins on the board. Because I realized, like, yes, I can draft these 15-page elaborate policy proposals with the hope that one day someone important might sign the dotted line, but that's not going to be the way that you actually ignite people's imagination and creativity and excitement for the work. So I ended up organizing a meeting fairly on, early on in my tenure at the White House, where... I created an admissions ticket to the meeting. So I invited all these luminaries like Daniel Kahneman and Richard Thaler,

• 34:27Speaker 01

  who are Nobel Prize winners in the field of economics and also government luminaries. And I said, "You can only come to the meeting if you submit a one or two-page proposal on how you plan to integrate a behavioral insight into one of your existing programs over the next three to six months." And it was incredible to see the motivation levels that emerged from this ticket to the meeting. In fact, I probably got maybe 35, maybe 50 proposals in the door because people were so excited to meet their intellectual heroes, right? Like Danny and Richard and have them evaluate their proposals. But also just creating a deadline of any kind was very motivating for folks.

• 35:09Speaker 01

  And those wins ultimately generated the kind of argument that I needed to get buy-in from government agencies to actually give me headcount, to help give me a budget, ultimately build the argument for President Obama to sign an executive order that made my team a formal, persistent part of government.

• 35:29Hala Taha?

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• 36:12Hala Taha?

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• 36:42Hala Taha?

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• 37:26Hala Taha?

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• 37:40Hala Taha?

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• 38:25Hala Taha?

  Go to GetMark'sBook.com/Yap, buy one copy for $32 and get a second copy free. So you can keep one for yourself and give the second to a friend, future co-founder, or someone who needs a little push. I love how you use creative solutions to kind of get your way. And I love the fact that you mentioned that your naivety really helped you because you approached the situation extremely optimistic. And I know from my experience that when it comes to growing a team or influencing others, just being optimistic, positive, confident, creative can get you a really long way. So I could see why everybody kind of adored you once you got in the door and gave you those opportunities.

• 39:06Speaker 01

  I mean, it was definitely, it was so much hard work. And I will say that the failure rate was extremely high. You know, for every 100 conversations I had, maybe we get one project over the finish line. But in looking back, I will say that there were so many times that I wish, Hala, that like Obama would just step in and be like, "Y'all need to do this." Because my life would be so much easier. But in hindsight, I realized that the fact that I had to inspire organic interest from the outset at all levels of government meant that folks were doing this work because they saw inherent value in it. And you can't dictate someone to care about something, right? Like, no mandate in government can force a person to be excited about stuff. And I do feel like this more start-up-y approach

• 39:51Speaker 01

  led to a lot more cultural change in the government and a lot more sustained change in the government. I'll share one story with you, which is that I remember there was a career civil servant I'd worked with. Her name was Rosemary Williams. She had worked at the Department of Defense for decades. And I met her just when she was on the cusp of retirement. She was like, "Oh, I've worked in the government for so long. I'm planning to retire. I'm done." And after working with us for a month or two, she came back and said, "I no longer plan to retire. Like, working with your team has energized me so much, has allowed me to see that the government can, in fact, be very innovative, that I've decided to stick it out and I'm going to stay here longer than I did before." And it was stories like that that really touched me in a deep way

• 40:34Speaker 01

  because it allowed me to see, one, the power of these scrappy, start-up-y environments where everyone feels like they're building this thing together. And, two, how you can really change minds. Not just the minds of Americans who you're serving through these public policies, but even the minds of government officials who have done incredible service to this country that could do even more if they just find the right opportunity.

• 40:56Hala Taha?

  I love this conversation. It's been so great so far. I want to dive deep into how you actually changed the minds of American citizens. So from my understanding, I think that they called your team the nudge unit. Is that correct?

• 41:10Speaker 01

  Yeah, that's right. Yeah.

• 41:11Hala Taha?

  So

• 41:12Speaker 01

  We're formerly known that way.

• 41:13Hala Taha?

  Yeah, the nudge unit. So talk to us about nudging, what nudging is, what's different from the way traditionally the government would try to convince people to take action?

• 41:22Speaker 01

  Yeah, I think what behavioral science teaches us is that there are a lot of surprising factors that can influence our decisions that we might not even be consciously aware of. And if we can better understand human behavior, we can in turn design public policies and programs in ways that reflect those surprising features. So a good example of this is when people go into a voting booth, I think they like to think, oh, of course, I'm just going to vote for the person that I'd most like to see elected into office, right? That's just common sense. But it turns out that the order in which the candidates' names appear on the ballot can have a profound impact on who gets vote share from different

• 42:03Speaker 01

  voters. In Texas, they found that if a candidate's name appeared first on the ballot, that candidate received a 10 percentage point boost in voter share relative to those, you know, listed below. And so this is again, a very surprising feature, right? We might not think that the order in which the candidates' names appear has this outsized impact. But once we understand that, we can then design ballots in ways that actually randomize the order of candidates' names across ballots in order to help solve this problem. In government, there were so many instances where we had designed a really impressive program or policy, but it just wasn't reaching Americans in the way that we had hoped for. So a good example of this

• 42:45Speaker 01

  is I worked with the Department of Veterans Affairs. They were really eager to have veterans sign up for an educational and employment benefit that they could use after they had served our country overseas. And this was a very valuable benefit because as you can imagine, the transition from military to civilian life could be quite jarring, full of lots of obstacles and hurdles psychologically and physically. And we wanted to do everything we could to smooth that transition and open up as many doors as we possibly could for veterans. Now, the challenge is that vets weren't signing up for this. In part because we hadn't made a compelling enough case probably for the program, or we weren't getting the word out. And because we were budget constrained, right? We didn't have a ton of dollars to throw at marketing this program.

• 43:29Speaker 01

  So the VA came to us and said, "Look, Maya and team, we have one email that we're sending out about this program. Do it what you want, but that's all you've got." And so we set up an A/B test in which, you know, the, you know, one version of the email was the original email. And then we modified the email, and we actually just changed one word in the email. Instead of telling vets that they were eligible for the program, we simply reminded them that they had earned it through their years of service. And this one-word change led to a 9% increase in access to the program. It's a spin-off of an insight in behavioral science called the endowment effect, which basically says, "We value things more when we own them, or in this case, have earned them."

• 44:12Speaker 01

  And so when veterans feel, "Oh, I've already got this benefit, you know, in my hands, and now I have something to lose if I don't take advantage of it," it was a very compelling way to drive interest in the program. And so that's an example, that's one example of a project that we worked on. In other cases, we are working on issues that had, wow, really deep and systemic underlying issues. So in my final year in the White House in 2016, I was working in collaboration with Flint, Michigan, residents and officials in the face of the lead-in water crisis. So as you might know, when there's lead in water, it can poison the brains of young children and adults in communities. And tragically, members of Flint, Michigan,

• 44:54Speaker 01

  were on the receiving end of this terrible change in water quality. And so I was working with my teammates at the time to make sure that information about safe water practices was written very clearly and was disseminated within the community. And we did everything from, you know, trying to dispel myths, because there's, you know, disinformation was on, on the rise around water quality. And so we had to make sure that we were, you know, conveying truthful information, but also making sure that the messenger was the right messenger. I think, you know, prior to this instance, we would have seen the environment... National Protection Agency is having been like the beacon of truth and the best messenger and harness for this mission, but think about the fact that in Flint, Michigan, residents

• 45:35Speaker 01

  don't trust their government. They've just been betrayed and lied to by their local government. And so naturally, you might expect there to be spillover effects and they wouldn't trust their federal government. They wouldn't trust the EPA. So instead, the local EPA organized a canvassing effort where members of their community, members of the local Red Cross, the heads of YMCA, the heads of churches would go door to door distributing these water safety flyers around the community. Anyway, so we're working on this water safety piece and I ended up flying to Flint, Michigan, a few times to make sure that they're responsive to residents' needs. And then I realized, it like hit me like a freight train, that

• 46:17Speaker 01

  the problem is so much deeper. And it is the result of decades of disenfranchisement among communities of color, decades of lying from the government towards communities of color, and that at the end of the day, the breach of trust between the government and its residents was at the heart of this challenge. You know, the water quality was a symptom, but the underlying issues were ferocious and deep and deeply problematic in the result of a lot of decades of systemic racism. And so we were using behavioral science at the tail end of the administration. Obviously, a lot of these efforts got truncated after the 2016 election, but to try to figure out strategies we could use to try and rebuild

• 47:00Speaker 01

  trust between residents and their government, but only justified trust. You know, if the government was sucking, then they shouldn't trust the government. But to try to restore some semblance of trust because the government would actually take better action moving forward.

• 47:13Hala Taha?

  That's really interesting stuff. Thank you so much for sharing all those different stories. So I want to talk about why it's so hard for people to change their minds. So like basically, your job at the White House was to try to get people to make better positive decisions for themselves. You can't force them to do it, right? So you were trying to use these little tweaks, these nudges, to try to get people to make the right decisions for themselves. So I've heard you say in the past that it is incredibly hard for people to change their minds. Talk to us about why that's true and what's at play there.

• 47:47Speaker 01

  In general, I think getting people to change their behaviors in ways that align with their long-term goals is achievable. In fact, in many ways, my work in government was trying to do exactly that, which was, you know, you find a service member who wants to sign up for a retirement savings plan, but, you know, finds the options confusing, or just hasn't gotten around to it because they're procrastinating, and then you can use these nudges to try to get them over the finish line. Changing people's minds is an entirely different beast. It's extremely hard for us to change our minds because we often attach our identities to our values and our opinions and our beliefs, and we feel a lot of cognitive dissonance when it comes to challenging these deeply entrenched views that we have about

• 48:32Speaker 01

  the world. In many ways, when we challenge our own minds, we're challenging our sense of selves. And importantly, this is research by Dan Kahane and others at Yale Law School, we're challenging our group membership, we're challenging our tribal membership in the communities that we associate with. I think one thing I've learned from all of the research in behavioral science is that people don't make up their minds just based on the facts, just based on evidence. They make up their minds based on what their communities believe and value. And, you know, this played out in COVID, for example, right? A lot of those who are believers of COVID and believers of wearing masks are thinking, it's just a piece of damn cloth, like just wear the mask, it'll keep you healthy. Like, why is this

• 49:17Speaker 01

  such a big thing? But actually, if you appreciate the fact that sometimes people aren't wearing masks, not just because, you know, it's inconvenient, but because wearing a mask would threaten their group membership. It would signal something really important to them about where it is they belonged in society. And so if they see their entire community not wearing masks, and it's a cultural statement, then it carries a lot more significance than we might give it credit for. And so what's important to appreciate in this space is that when you're asking people to change their minds about a topic, you need to understand what gave rise to that belief in the first place. And just throwing more evidence at them is not going to change the game.

• 49:57Hala Taha?

  Super, super interesting. So I want to go back to nudging a bit because I really want my listeners to understand how they could maybe use some nudging tactics in business, in the workplace, in their professional lives. Like, do you have any tips and tricks or just little ideas you could throw out there that we can use?

• 50:16Speaker 01

  Yeah, absolutely. I mean, one, I would definitely, if listeners are interested, I would have them listen to the conversations that I had with Adam Grant and Katie Milkman on my podcast, The Slight Change of Plans, because we dive deep into exactly some of these questions, and they can get the longer version if they listen to those. I mean, Adam Grant's an organizational psychologist, so he's all about workplace reform, and Katie Milkman is an expert on the science of change. So she gives us lots of tactics we can use. I would say a few nudges that I've used in my own life when it comes to trying to inspire change within myself is, one is a concept called temptation bundling, and that comes from Katie Milkman's research. It's the idea that if you pair up an undesirable activity,

• 50:58Speaker 01

  like working out, or doing your laundry, or cleaning the home, or doing your math homework, with a desirable reward, it can be much more likely that you actually commit to those activities in the longer term. So I have my favorite songs. I only allow myself to listen to them when I'm on the treadmill or working out. And it actually increases my motivation to do those things. I deny myself that pleasure in the rest of my life. Another insight I'd share with listeners as it pertains to the workplace has to do with the power of social norms. So we are heavily influenced by how those around us act and behave. And if we understand this, we can actually leverage it for good in a lot of situations. So for example, when they were trying to get homeowners to use

• 51:40Speaker 01

  less energy, this one company tried all sorts of tactics, right? Financial incentives, canvassing, door hangers, you name it. None of them worked. The one that did work was telling people when their neighbors were using less energy than they were. And that positive norm was so helpful at motivating people to use less energy because they're like, "I don't want to be the highest energy user on my block. This would be terrible." And so I think in a workplace setting, when you see, you know, pro-social behaviors, when you see desirable behaviors, if you can collect statistics around just how many people are engaging in those behaviors, and just share the facts with people, it can have a really positive impact.

• 52:19Hala Taha?

  Wow, that's super interesting. It's so funny. I have an example to bring up in which I've figured this out, but didn't know that there was like some science backing to this. So I do live interviews on Clubhouse. It's this social audio app. And one of the things that I do is I say, DM me if you guys want to hear the replay. You know, send me a direct message if you want to hear the replay. And I noticed that when I say, I've got hundreds of messages. Everybody's asking me for the replay. If you want the replay, DM me replay. And then I get 100 messages because I said that. It's so funny that people just like, it's kind of like, you know, I hate to say it, but that phrase of how kind of people are like sheep, they kind of follow the path. It is true.

• 53:00Hala Taha?

  Like, we want to be accepted, I guess. And so we're more likely to make decisions based on what everybody else is doing. Is that true?

• 53:08Speaker 01

  Well, importantly, I think we're really influenced by those people or populations in particular that we socially identify with. So if you're a teacher, for example, and you find that a bunch of other teachers are doing something, there's an implicit cue in there being teachers that you share some of the same value systems, and that you might enjoy the same types of things. So I think, Hala, in your case, when a lot of people are asking for the replay, and they know they're already fans of you, they're thinking, I'm a fan of her too. So chances are, I might enjoy this replay as well. So I think we do find that social norms are even more effective when they're coming from people within a community, or people who share a similar trait of you.

• 53:47Hala Taha?

  Very cool. So we're all about actionable insights, and I just want to pick your brain even more about decision making. Like, what are some other things that we need to know as young professionals, young entrepreneurs, in terms of how we can ourselves, kind of make sure we're not using biases, or like, how can we make more realistic decisions for ourselves, and make sure that our emotions are not getting in the way, and that all these other things that you're talking about are not getting in the way? Like, how can we make clear, good decisions for ourselves?

• 54:19Speaker 01

  I actually think the best way for your listeners to make more sound decisions is to just acquaint yourself with what those biases are. You know, for example, we're loss averse, so we find it super painful to lose things, and we weight those losses much more than we weight gains. Another example is the way that we construct our memories is, you wouldn't necessarily intuitively understand that we code our memories in the way that we do. So let me say a little bit more about that. So I think, at least I, when I was thinking about my memories, think, okay, well, you have an experience, and every single moment of that experience carries some weight, and at the end, your brain kind of averages all those hedonic experiences and decides how

• 55:02Speaker 01

  enjoyable or not enjoyable the experience was. Actually, our minds don't work like that. We assign disproportionate weight to the most emotionally intense moment of the experience and the end of the experience. This is called the peak-end rule. And what this means is that when we think back to experiences, that end moment and that peak moment are really important in terms of whether we want to do that experience again and how we think about it after the fact. This is really relevant in the context of health exams. Like, for example, colonoscopies are very painful exams. What they find is that when they elongate the exam, but they actually make the last few minutes slightly less painful, people are much more likely to return for follow-up visits.

• 55:46Speaker 01

  Which is kind of astonishing, because the overall amount of time that you are in some level of discomfort is actually longer, but the intensity of that pain is less at the end, and that can weigh in in a pretty significant way in terms of how you construct that memory. And I think this is so important for all of us, because when we think back on experiences, we might not be coding them super accurately, right? And if we're aware of this bias, then we can think back differently on, you know, end of that, like, setting for that test, those last five minutes were so brutal, but actually, there were moments of joy there. I remember learning something new, I remember feeling like my curiosity was ignited, and so kind of reminding ourselves to take that full experience into account. Or making sure that when we do want to repeat a behavior, we end the experience on a high, on a positive note. It's a little bit of folklore, but...

• 56:32Speaker 01

  Danny Kahneman, who's a Nobel Prize winner in behavioral economics and is a friend of mine, he has said that there are times where he would end a vacation short when he was having the time of his life, just because he knew that the memory would be more positive in his mind. He said this a while back, and I think he now neither confirms nor denies it. But I thought it was such a charming anecdote, because it is a sign of just how powerful some of these biases can be.

• 57:01Hala Taha?

  Yeah, and that one, I really like it. That one's called peak and, what is that one called?

• 57:06Speaker 01

  The peak end rule.

• 57:07Hala Taha?

  Peak end rule. I love that, because I can also see that being really useful in like a job interview. So on both sides, like making sure that you are really strong in the beginning and end in some sort of positive way at the end, because you know that they're going to remember the beginning and the end most. But then also as a person interviewing...

• 57:25Speaker 01

  Oh, sorry. Just to clarify, so it's not necessarily the beginning, it's the most intense, emotionally intense moment of the whole experience. So it's the peak, it's the peak of the experience, and then the end, hence the peak end rule. Yep.

• 57:37Hala Taha?

  Okay, that's really interesting. And then I think you also talk about something called the IKEA effect. Could you tell us about that?

• 57:45Speaker 01

  Yeah, the IKEA effect refers to the fact that when we have contributed to something, when we have built something, we attach a lot more value to it. So even if you build the IKEA furniture and it's a piece of crap, and the four legs aren't perfectly on the ground, you will assign more affection and it will feel like a more valuable item to you, because it involves your input.

• 58:06Hala Taha?

  Very, very interesting. So let's talk about your podcast. You briefly mentioned it before, A Slight Change of Plans. I'd love to hear more about that, because it sounds really, really interesting. What gave you the idea to start this podcast? And what are some of the things that you talk about on your podcast?

• 58:23Speaker 01

  My inspiration for a slight change of plans, I think, was twofold. One is my own personal experience navigating change early in my life, right? Losing the ability to play the violin and not knowing who I was and asking all these deep existential questions about identity and whatnot. And the second came from 2020, when I was feeling extremely overwhelmed by the rapid pace of change around me. I think so many people were feeling overwhelmed by the rapid pace of change around them. And it was just really daunting and intimidating to feel like we were totally out of control of our world and of our environment. And then I put on my behavioral scientist hat and thought, okay, maybe the specifics

• 59:03Speaker 01

  of what 2020 threw our way are unprecedented, but our human mind's ability to navigate change is absolutely not. In many ways, our minds are built for change. There's no manual out there. There's actually no scientific textbook out there on how to navigate change. You can't just look up the answers and be like, oh, I'm in the throes of this horrible health diagnosis. What do I do? And so I thought, what if we can mine people's stories? People who have navigated extraordinary change in their lives, like Hillary Clinton and Tiffany Haddish and Kacey Musgraves and Tommy Caldwell and folks who have just lived through extraordinary change in general? What if we can mine their stories and glean insights from them about how did they navigated change in ways that can teach us valuable lessons?

• 59:48Speaker 01

  It can help us think differently about change in our own lives.

• 59:52Hala Taha?

  And what are some of the key lessons that you've learned so far being on this show? Like, have you learned something new from your, you know, college days?

• 1:00:01Speaker 01

  Absolutely. I mean, it's been so humbling to make this podcast because, as you know, part of what I do is I study change. But my interview guests have taught me so much about change in ways that I could never have predicted. So I'll give you a couple of examples. One is, I spoke with a young woman named Elna Baker about her deep desire to become thin, to lose weight. She felt that if she could just become thin, she could achieve all of her dreams and goals in her life. And she did it. She lost close to 100 pounds in five and a half months. For a while, Elna thought she was actually living her dream life until she realized that she was starting to lose parts of herself in the process. She realized that she was becoming a more superficial person.

• 1:00:45Speaker 01

  She wasn't as kind to people. She was valuing the wrong things. She was losing her boldness and her authenticity. And what she learned from that experience and what it taught me about change is that change doesn't happen in a vacuum. It's not like you can change one part of yourself and assume all the other parts of yourself will stay fixed through that change. Because you can't control the spillover effects, right? And you can't control the way people will respond to you. And so I think it's taught her that she should approach change with a lot of humility and openness, because you might not appreciate all the ways in which it might change you in unexpected ways. And the flip side of that is I spoke with a young man named Scott. He's a cancer researcher and a total health nut.

• 1:01:29Speaker 01

  I mean, if it's in a book somewhere, he's done it. Intermittent fasting, high intensity interval training, he's vegan, he adds turmeric to all of his food, he eats chia seeds. And when he was 32, he received a stage four bone cancer diagnosis that led him to have to amputate one of his legs, do 18 administrations of chemotherapy, move to MD Anderson in Texas for inpatient treatment. And in his mind, this is his worst nightmare come true, right? He had spent so much of his adult life trying to avoid this outcome. He was the A-plus student when it came to managing his health. And yet, surprisingly, much to his surprise, he said, "If I had known that I would respond

• 1:02:11Speaker 01

  psychologically in this way to my worst nightmare, I might never have been as fearful of it in the first place." And that was so powerful for me, because it showed me, like, sometimes the change that we will, that we encourage in our lives, doesn't actually have the positive impact we think it will. And so, again, we need to have humility there and be mindful and observant and audit our experiences to make sure it's having the intended impact. And then sometimes the changes that we dread, that are unexpected and undesired, can have silver linings that make us better people in our lives. And so I feel now that I would give the same advice that I would give the same advice to someone, whether or not they were going through a willed or an unwilled change, whether

• 1:02:55Speaker 01

  or not they were going through what they believe was a desirable or an undesirable change. And that would be approach change with a profound amount of humility and open-mindedness.

• 1:03:04Hala Taha?

  I love that. Thank you so much for sharing. Everybody, make sure you go tune into her podcast, A Slight Change of Plans. She's obviously super well spoken, very, very interesting and bright. Thank you so much for your time. The last question that we ask all of our guests is, what is your secret to profiting in life?

• 1:03:23Speaker 01

  I think building a really strong community of supporters around me. I've been the beneficiary of so many incredible mentors in my life, and I try to pay it forward by mentoring others, especially young women of color. And I feel like in tough moments, or when we're feeling insecure, or feeling like we can't accomplish that next goal, tapping into that community for strength and support and wisdom and warmth and insight can really help buoy you and help you get to that next phase. Don't do it yourself, or don't believe you have to do it all on your own.

• 1:04:00Hala Taha?

  100%. And where can our listeners go to learn more about you and everything that you do?

• 1:04:05Speaker 01

  They can go to my website, mayashankar.com, M-A-Y-A-S-H-A-N-K-A-R.com. But you know, my current passion project, and where all of my heart is at right now, is my podcast, A Slight Change of Plans. They can check it out anywhere that they subscribe to podcasts, Apple, Spotify, iHeartRadio. And if they like the show, definitely please subscribe, rate, and share. Thanks so much.

• 1:04:27Hala Taha?

  Amazing. Thank you so much, Maya.