Pod Insights The Sporkful How To Be The Best Dinner Party Guest (Live) About this episode Casey Elsass is known as the “cookbook doula” because he’s helped birth nearly 20 cookbooks, as a ghostwriter or co-writer. Now, Casey has published his very first solo cookbook, What Can I Bring? Recipes To Help You Live Your Guest Life, about how to be the best guest at a dinner party.
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0:22 Dan Pashman? This is The Sporkful. It's not for foodies, it's for eaters. I'm Dan Pashman. Each week on our show, we obsess about food to learn more about people, and we're coming to you live from the Samsung Test Kitchen in New York City.
0:40 Dan Pashman? We're here in this beautiful space, surrounded by gleaming Samsung appliances, some of which we're going to be using in just a few minutes. I don't think in the 15-year history of The Sporkful, we've ever done live cooking while taping in front of an audience. So it's exciting. It's gonna be super fun. A lot of people call my guest "The Cookbook Dula", because he's helped to birth nearly 20 cookbooks, although often behind the scenes. He's worked with famous chefs, celebrities, and influencers as a co-author and ghostwriter. So I can tell you that whether or not you know his name, you've almost definitely seen his work. Now he's out with his first-ever cookbook all his own, where his name is the one in big letters on the cover. It's called "What Can I Bring: Recipes to Help You Live Your Guest Life."
1:24 Dan Pashman? Please welcome Casey Elsass.
1:30 Speaker 01 What a welcome.
1:31 Dan Pashman? I know. Very good, huh? "What Can I Bring?" is the cookbook. What's it about?
1:34 Speaker 01 Yeah. So the question we all have to ask, which is a stressful question. I wrote a cookbook that is 75 answers to that question with dips, drinks, salads, and desserts, because I think that's the thing we get asked to bring the most.
1:47 Dan Pashman? It's so useful, but also creative. That's what I love about it. This is an issue.
1:52 Speaker 01 Yeah.
1:52 Dan Pashman? And we're gonna be cooking two dishes from the cookbook tonight. What's the first one?
1:56 Speaker 01 The first one going in the oven now is olive and rosemary focaccia. And then later, I'm gonna make this tomato and halloumi salad.
2:04 Dan Pashman? Ooh, that's right. And everyone here is gonna get to try some.
2:07 Speaker 01 Yes.
2:07 Dan Pashman? All right. Should we put this in the oven?
2:08 Speaker 01 Yeah.
2:09 Dan Pashman? All right.
2:11 Dan Pashman? What is the key to making a great focaccia as opposed to any other bread?
2:16 Speaker 01 Water. Focaccia is a much wetter dough than a lot of other breads because you don't need structure in the same way. It's sort of spreads out and it's meant to. So it's a very hydrated dough, which also means that kneading isn't like on the counter kind of kneading. You do kind of a stretch and fold knead over time and that's what builds the structure in it.
2:37 Dan Pashman? So the olive and rosemary focaccia is in the oven. Let's talk about your career a little bit. This role of ghostwriter or co-author on a cookbook. Like first off, what exactly does that mean for folks who don't know about inner workings of cookbooks?
2:47 Speaker 01 Yeah. Ghostwriter, my name's not on the book. Co-author, my name's on the book. In both situations, I'm coming in usually at the beginning of the book, but sometimes at various stages of the book.
3:00 Dan Pashman? Sometimes it's like this thing's a train wreck. Call Casey.
3:03 Speaker 01 Yeah, it's happened. Yeah. Or like an author is like hit a wall, the deadline's in a month, and they just need someone to come right with them and get them through the finish line. But no matter what I'm doing, I'm just helping somebody realize their vision for their cookbook, which is what's really interesting. I get to sit in so many points of views and palates and just really absorb like what their perspective on cooking is, which is super interesting. Sometimes I'm doing the recipes too. Sometimes I'm just writing. It depends.
3:35 Dan Pashman? How do you absorb someone else's palate?
3:37 Speaker 01 Time, like a lot of time together. It's a really intimate thing, making a cookbook. And so you just get this sort of like quality of time. It's a scary thing too. So I get a lot of vulnerability from that person as well. I've seen a lot of chefs like break down their walls with me.
3:54 Dan Pashman? Really?
3:54 Speaker 01 Mm-hmm. Everybody spins out, but it happens at a different point for everyone.
4:00 Dan Pashman? What is the thing that makes them freak out?
4:02 Speaker 01 Um, it's a lot of pressure and I understand it now. It's scary to put your name on something and to put it out into the world and say, this is it. This is me. This is my point of view. It's a stressful thing. I get it.
4:16 Dan Pashman? What's the hardest part of the job?
4:17 Speaker 01 Two things. Managing personalities is tough, but I also think a lot of times the strict, hardline recipe writing can get really tedious and boring, especially if I have like multiple...
4:31 Speaker 01 Deadlines near each other and I feel like, oh, I just did this. That's like the least creative part of the process. That's just the like grunt work of it. So that's where I get a little like, oh, I just have to get through this part.
4:42 Dan Pashman? I know some of the folks you've worked with, you're a ghostwriter, you can't say. But who are some of the folks you've worked with who you can say?
4:48 Speaker 01 Um, a few of the books I've co-authored were Dolce with Renato Pollofito. He owns Chow Gloria and Pasta Night. And then Jeremy Solomon, who owns Aggie's Counter in Pitts in Brooklyn.
5:01 Dan Pashman? His cookbook was Second Generation.
5:02 Speaker 01 Second Generation, yeah. I love that book so much.
5:05 Dan Pashman? Yeah, it was great.
5:05 Speaker 01 Um, and then a celebrity I can talk about is Caroline Manzo from The Real Housewives of New Jersey.
5:11 Dan Pashman? Right.
5:11 Speaker 01 Who was wonderful. Like when we started the process, she had already typed up all of her family recipes in a big three-ring binder. So she just sent me home with that to like adapt those into, because all the recipes said like enough basil and a handful. So I figured out what that meant.
5:30 Dan Pashman? Right.
5:30 Speaker 01 But yeah, she was great.
5:32 Dan Pashman? So everyone from like really upscale pastry chefs to Real Housewives.
5:36 Speaker 01 Mm-hmm. Yeah, which is upscale too, in my opinion.
5:41 Dan Pashman? Transitioning to your book, the experience of doing your first solo cookbook. Did it give you a different perspective on all the people you've worked with in the past?
5:51 Speaker 01 Yeah, this part of it for sure.
5:53 Dan Pashman? The promotion.
5:54 Speaker 01 Yeah, because usually by the time the book goes off to print, that's where I drop out. So they sort of go off and plan their promo and their book tour and I'm never part of that situation. Um, so this was like a whole new perspective on it. The interesting part about writing was that I had only ever done a cookbook as a group project. And this was my first time doing a cookbook completely by myself. And that was really strange because there was a lot of things that I was super clear about. And like I, I knew what I wanted to look like, what I wanted to sound like. But you know, there's like a thousand tiny decisions that you make in the process of writing a book.
6:34 Dan Pashman? It's exhausting.
6:35 Speaker 01 Yeah, and I just didn't have. The person to turn to to just be like, what do you think about this? Or like, where does this thing go?
6:43 Dan Pashman? I imagine like, cut to Casey in the kitchen, like, having a long conversation with yourself.
6:47 Speaker 01 Truly, yes. Or like, a couple of friends who like, spend a lot of hours on the phone as I was like, I don't think I've used an orange in this book. And they're like, I don't think that matters.
7:04 Dan Pashman? So what gave you the idea for the cookbook?
7:05 Speaker 01 It was during the pandemic, when we were all in quarantine and I was really missing getting together. And I said the name of the book in a group chat as a joke. And then I was like, oh, hold on, wait, that's actually really good. And so I just kept a Google Doc going for years, just ideas and scraps of recipes or whatever. And then I just sort of got to a point where I was like, okay, I think I'm ready to do this.
7:31 Dan Pashman? You have some tips for living your guest life in the book. I want to go through them and let's talk a little bit more about them.
7:37 Speaker 01 Okay.
7:37 Dan Pashman? Number one, be honest about what kind of guest you are.
7:40 Speaker 01 Yes.
7:40 Dan Pashman? What does that mean?
7:41 Speaker 01 There's a lot of information out there about how to be a good host, but there's not a lot on the guest side of the equation. And there are some very important things to make your host life much easier. So being honest about what kind of guests, I say in the book, if you're always on time, bring appetizers. If you're reliably late, bring drinks. If you're stopping by later, bring dessert. And if you bring nothing else, bring a present. Just like knowing, like, before you commit to the cheese plate, are you actually going to be leaving your house at the time you're supposed to show up? Or will you be there on time? Like, that will derail the whole night.
8:14 Dan Pashman? Right, right. Because then everyone's just eating Cheetos, waiting for the cheese plate to show up.
8:17 Speaker 01 Right, or it shows up like halfway through the first course. And then what are we supposed to do with it? Like, we're not in France.
8:24 Dan Pashman? Right, so that's a good rule. Come prepared.
8:27 Speaker 01 Yes, don't show up expecting fridge space, oven space. Room temp food is great. A lot of things like fats and acids actually taste really great at room temperature. But also, don't expect your host to be your Williams Sonoma. If you need a serving bowl, if you need utensils, that's your responsibility. If you need cups, anything like that, just bring that.
8:49 Dan Pashman? But are you okay with like, me showing up with the salad in a bowl and the dressing in a separate jar?
8:54 Speaker 01 Yes, I would appreciate that, actually. Like, that's being thoughtful. But whatever bowl it's going to end up in, that's you. I hate when people walk in and they're like, do you have like a big bowl?
9:04 Dan Pashman? Right.
9:05 Speaker 01 Like what? I don't know what that means.
9:06 Dan Pashman? Right. Do you have a turkey roasting pan?
9:09 Speaker 01 Right.
9:10 Dan Pashman? I need to roast a whole turkey. Right. And then you kind of touched on the next one, embrace room temp food. This is big, Casey.
9:16 Speaker 01 Yeah.
9:16 Dan Pashman? As I have gotten older and hosted more and more, one of the biggest sources of stress when you're hosting is worrying about everything being hot.
9:23 Speaker 01 Yeah.
9:24 Dan Pashman? If you don't worry about everything being hot, the whole thing just got so much easier.
9:28 Speaker 01 Yeah.
9:29 Dan Pashman? But you say as a guest, don't worry about it being warm.
9:31 Speaker 01 Yeah. Your host is playing Tetris in the kitchen. And so don't be expecting a burner, a rack in the oven, a shelf in the fridge. But when I'm hosting, I also embrace room temperature food. Because then it's like, one thing at the table can be hot. Everything else is fine at room temperature. And that cuts down the stress immediately.
9:51 Dan Pashman? Big time. You get everything ready. Maybe you mix a couple of things at the last minute. You put the plates out. It looks great. Everyone's happy. Room temp food.
9:58 Speaker 01 Yeah.
9:58 Dan Pashman? I want to add one more about guesting. Tell me what you think of this.
10:01 Speaker 01 Yeah.
10:02 Dan Pashman? Understand reciprocity. Sometimes my family will be going to someone's house. And especially if it's like somebody who hosts a lot and goes to great lengths. They're a very elaborate and generous host. There'll be a debate in my household about what we should bring. And my wife feels like she wants to like really bring a lot. She's coming from a good place. She wants to show appreciation. Like it's so nice. But I also feel like showing up with 25 things, it's almost kind of weird at a certain point.
10:30 Speaker 01 Right.
10:31 Dan Pashman? Like, is there such a thing as bringing too much?
10:33 Speaker 01 Yeah. I mean, your wife's right there, so I'm scared to answer.
10:37 Speaker 01 But yes, I agree with you.
10:38 Dan Pashman? All right.
10:40 Speaker 01 Some people have very strict rules that if they said bring nothing, they will be pissed off if you bring something.
10:46 Dan Pashman? I feel like if someone is hosting you and they're being very generous and they're a very great host, the way to repay them is not by showing up with 25 things. It's by being reciprocal with the invitation.
10:58 Speaker 01 Yes.
10:59 Dan Pashman? So invite them over the next time and show them a really nice dinner. That's the way that you thank somebody is by inviting them.
11:05 Speaker 01 Yeah, I would say two things. My favorite way of showing Someone that I appreciate it and I love them is showing up with one incredible thing, which then makes them look good. Like if there's that one thing at the party that everyone's obsessed with, your host looks incredible.
11:20 Dan Pashman? So quality, not quantity.
11:21 Speaker 01 Yes. Or bringing a gift that they can enjoy later. That's really special and thoughtful. But the thing that I also say in that rule section is say thank you. People forget that like just taking a moment to acknowledge and appreciate your host is the most meaningful thing. So if that's sending a card, that's incredible. I've gotten that a couple of times and it's so meaningful.
11:43 Dan Pashman? Yeah. Thank you. Card is so nice. Yeah.
11:45 Speaker 01 Even if it's like something more casual, just take time the next day and send a really thoughtful thank you text.
11:50 Dan Pashman? Yeah.
11:51 Speaker 01 That makes your host feel seen and appreciated.
11:53 Dan Pashman? That's good advice. Um, let's talk about some of the recipes in this cookbook. Pico de sandia as opposed to pico de gallo.
12:00 Speaker 01 Right. Sandia is watermelon in Spanish. So instead of using tomato, it's a finely diced watermelon, which to me just has a better texture that holds up over time, but also a really nice sweet flavor. Pico is going to get watery anyway, so it might as well be watermelon juice in the mix. But everything else about it is like peppers, onion, exactly what you would expect to be in there. But it's just like a really nice summary version.
12:23 Dan Pashman? See, I never think to put onion with watermelon, but I guess it must work.
12:27 Speaker 01 It's great. Yeah. I mean, watermelon is not overly sweet. It's a subtle sweetness.
12:31 Dan Pashman? Right.
12:32 Speaker 01 But also onions have a sweetness too.
12:34 Dan Pashman? Right. I would think, yeah, yeah. But raw onions.
12:37 Speaker 01 Well, I'm very against raw onions.
12:39 Dan Pashman? Oh, okay. I, I share your skepticism. Go on.
12:41 Speaker 01 So they get a soak in some cold water first to cut the edge off of them.
12:44 Dan Pashman? Oh, okay.
12:45 Speaker 01 But then also there's a lot of acid in the mix, so they lightly pickle.
12:49 Dan Pashman? Right.
12:50 Speaker 01 There's also your favorite ingredient, tahin is in that mix.
12:52 Dan Pashman? I love to me some tahin. Yes, very good. Um, so that, that's a good dip to bring to someone's house.
12:57 Speaker 01 Yeah, for sure.
12:58 Dan Pashman? Okay. Uh, and if you make it in advance, you bring it over. If it gets a little watery, it's still gonna be good.
13:01 Speaker 01 Well, that's the whole point. That's the best part.
13:04 Dan Pashman? You have a recipe for the perfect pasta salad.
13:07 Speaker 01 I would say that's more my list of rules, more than a recipe, which also includes no raw onion. Um, there are a few key moments in a pasta salad where people drop the ball. Like while your pasta is hot, that's when the sausage go on. It's just ready to absorb all the flavor right there.
13:26 Dan Pashman? That's interesting. So even if you're making it ahead and it may not be eaten for a little while, you would still sauce the pasta.
13:33 Speaker 01 There are like fresh herbs that go in at the end, so I would save that. But everything else should just get coated right away. So all those flavors can just marry together.
13:40 Dan Pashman? I was invited to a friend's house and I made a pasta salad from my cookbook that's orecchiate with raw heirloom tomato putanesca. It's phenomenal. But I mixed it with the pasta and I didn't realize we weren't eating for a while. So it sat for like three hours and that was too long. Like the orecchiate were the size of frisbees.
13:59 Speaker 01 Yeah.
14:00 Dan Pashman? By the time we were done and the sauce was gone.
14:03 Speaker 01 Yeah.
14:03 Dan Pashman? It was still fine. It wasn't bad, but like there is, it is a risk.
14:07 Speaker 01 Yes, that's true.
14:07 Dan Pashman? Is it wrong to message your host and be like, what time are we eating? Cause I got a plan when I'm gonna sauce my pasta.
14:12 Speaker 01 I mean, I would say a good host will give you that information upfront, but yes, ask for it if you don't have it.
14:17 Dan Pashman? That's not being too annoying?
14:18 Speaker 01 No.
14:19 Dan Pashman? Okay. Couple more recipes I want to touch on.
14:21 Speaker 01 Yeah.
14:21 Dan Pashman? Apple and Chinese five spice pie.
14:24 Speaker 01 Yeah.
14:25 Dan Pashman? Chinese five spice has cinnamon, has cloves.
14:27 Speaker 01 Yeah.
14:27 Dan Pashman? So it's got already things that are
14:29 Speaker 01 Yeah, familiar flavors.
14:31 Dan Pashman? Anyone would recognize an apple pie, but what else does it have and why is it special?
14:34 Speaker 01 I mean, it also has ginger. So like, none of these are too out of left field for flavors that go with apple. The only thing that maybe is a little bit of a twist is white pepper, which is a more mild version of pepper, but it adds this nice like background heat to the pie. To me, that's just like a really nice compliment. And it tastes almost like a classic pie, but there's like one little thing about it that just feels really different and special, which was kind of my goal with every recipe in the book. Starting with something familiar, but changing one thing that makes this feel brand new.
15:09 Dan Pashman? I love that approach.
15:13 Dan Pashman? One of the things that I like about your book is that you're really getting into a fraught interaction between hosts and guests.
15:19 Speaker 01 Yeah.
15:19 Dan Pashman? There's a lot of ways that even very well intentioned people. Can go wrong. I want to do a little lightning round. I'm gonna lay out a guesting scenario and I want you to tell me how you recommend people deal with it.
15:31 Speaker 01 All right.
15:32 Dan Pashman? Okay, you're a guest, you ask, what can I bring? And the host says, bring whatever you want. Major eye roll from Casey. The audio record will not reflect, but Casey just looked very peeved. I mean, I agree, but you go on. Why is this annoying?
15:46 Speaker 01 I mean, that's bad hosting, but that's someone else's topic to talk about. I would say this is where having a signature dish is the most useful. Because if you make a great dessert or a perfect salad, that's your chance to be like, okay, this is what I do best. Can I bring this?
16:02 Dan Pashman? Right. Would you tell the host, okay, fine, I'm gonna bring this? Or would you just like show up with it?
16:07 Speaker 01 I mean, this person's off the rails, so someone has to be. They need some structure to this dinner.
16:13 Dan Pashman? So you would tell them.
16:14 Speaker 01 Yeah.
16:14 Dan Pashman? Right, right, right. Next one. You're a guest, you ask, what can I bring? And the host gives you a specific assignment, like bring a salad, bring a side. But you like, don't have a good dish in your repertoire for that. You don't have the ingredients, like it's gonna be difficult for you to make the thing. What do you do?
16:31 Speaker 01 I would say buy a copy of What Can I Bring by K C Alsace.
16:37 Speaker 01 Everything in my book is ranked by effort.
16:40 Dan Pashman? Right.
16:40 Speaker 01 Nothing's hard. Everything just is a different level of effort. So I wanted to make recipes that anybody at any level could find something that feels like the thing they could do. But worst case scenario, I think store bought things are okay. If you're just filling a gap in the dinner, it's not gonna be the most incredible thing, but you're just chipping in in that case.
17:00 Dan Pashman? Right. Last one of the lightning round. You're the guest, you ask, what can I bring? And the host says, don't bring anything. What do you do in this situation?
17:07 Speaker 01 The last chapter of the book is called present moment, and it's five food gifts that you can bring that are meant to be enjoyed later for your host. So I just think bringing something to show your appreciation is really nice if they're not contributing to the dinner in some way.
17:24 Dan Pashman? One that I love to do, like, so every fall, the new olive oil crop comes in, I order like two cases of olive oil from Italy, really nice ones from a place that I like. And, oh, you get invited to someone's house? Grab a nice bottle of olive oil. And it's something they don't need to serve, but it's special. It's a thing that we picked out and, you know, everyone uses olive oil.
17:42 Speaker 01 That's a good one. Yeah.
17:44 Dan Pashman? What I find annoying is that if you're the host and you tell someone, don't bring anything, and then they bring something. I feel like that's being a bad guest.
17:50 Speaker 01 Yes, I would agree with that.
17:51 Dan Pashman? I think you're right that in that situation, bring a gift for the house.
17:55 Speaker 01 Yeah.
17:56 Dan Pashman? Bring something that does not need to be served. But like, if the host says don't bring anything, and then you show up with something like a cake, and they already have three cakes, well, that's annoying.
18:06 Speaker 01 Yeah. I think to your point, though, being a good guest is elevating the event, but not upstaging the event. You want to bring the right thing for the right occasion, but not ever bring something through the door that was not expected or asked for.
18:19 Dan Pashman? The host is in charge. And when I'm the host, I'm in charge. And when you're the host, I will defer to you.
18:23 Speaker 01 Right.
18:26 Dan Pashman? Coming up, we open the floor to the audience and hear a story of a guesting disaster. Then Casey keeps cooking, and we get to my favorite part when we eat. Stick around.
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19:59 Dan Pashman? Welcome back to The Sporkful. I'm Dan Pashman. Let's return now to the Samsung Test Kitchen where I'm talking with Casey Elsass, author of the cookbook, What Can I Bring? Is olive oil, rosemary, focaccia is in the oven, and we're opening the floor to the audience.
20:13 Speaker 02 I'm Carrie. When my mom hosted my brother's soon-to-be-in-laws for the first time, they asked what they could bring, and we said wine, and they brought a box of calzones from a pizza shop.
20:28 Speaker 02 They proceeded to eat most of the calzones and didn't eat most of the dinner.
20:33 Dan Pashman? Wow.
20:33 Speaker 02 So I think that they had some maybe food preferences that perhaps they didn't feel like sharing in advance. I'm curious, who owns the obligation of asking or telling what food preferences are? Should the host say, "I'm having a dinner, and this is what's on the menu. Do you have any food allergies?" And if the host does not offer that information, then is it on the guest to say, "We're so excited to come for dinner. Could you provide more information?"
21:03 Dan Pashman? By the way, we only eat calzones.
21:05 Speaker 02 Yes, we only eat calzones. We're gonna bring them actually, and we'll just leave the driveway and eat them by ourselves.
21:09 Dan Pashman? We have a case in the trunk, it's fine.
21:12 Speaker 02 They are ex-in-laws now, in case you wonder how that story ends.
21:16 Dan Pashman? So you just answered my question. Okay, so I guess it didn't bode well.
21:19 Speaker 02 That's right.
21:20 Dan Pashman? So Casey, how do you deal with this? Whose responsibility is it to communicate, whether it's dietary restrictions or just sort of like specifics about likes and dislikes?
21:31 Speaker 01 Yeah, well, first, I want to be on whatever diet that is. That sounds incredible. But I would say it's the host's job first to ask. At the time of the invitation, you should be checking with your guests if there's anything you need to know. But it's also the guest's job to speak up. Like, it's so weird to show up expecting a vegan thing or a gluten-free thing if you didn't tell anybody that you need those things.
21:56 Dan Pashman? Right, but it's tougher when it's like mild pickiness.
21:59 Speaker 01 I count pickiness in that category. Speak up, or train's going out of the station. Let me describe this real quick.
22:06 Dan Pashman? Yeah, check the focaccia. I'm excited to see. How's it looking in here?
22:09 Speaker 01 Oh, she's beautiful.
22:10 Dan Pashman? You want me to close the door?
22:11 Speaker 01 I got it.
22:12 Dan Pashman? You got it? Oh, yeah. Where's our racial race style applause? Come on.
22:21 Dan Pashman? Let's hold it out so everyone can see it, though. Oh, look at the focaccia.
22:28 Speaker 01 This is the most unnatural thing I've ever done.
22:32 Dan Pashman? All right, we can put that down. There's one more dish we're making. Tell me again what it is.
22:36 Speaker 01 Tomato and halloumi salad. The halloumi is lightly fried, so it gets nice and crispy and warm.
22:42 Dan Pashman? Like pan fried?
22:43 Speaker 01 Yeah, pan fried. And then there's an oregano oil that I made earlier, some lemon juice and sesame seeds.
22:50 Dan Pashman? Oh, it looks so good. All right, let's do it.
22:52 Speaker 01 All right.
22:52 Dan Pashman? Live action cooking here on the spork bowl.
22:56 Dan Pashman? I love halloumi cheese. It's so good on salads. If you don't know, it's like a Middle Eastern cheese that is very firm, kind of squeaky. You can put it on a grill, grill, like on the grill grates and grill it. And that's also phenomenal, but pan grill, like it won't melt, it won't fall apart in a pan.
23:12 Speaker 01 Yeah.
23:12 Dan Pashman? And that's kind of what makes it special. It gets a little char on the outside of it, and it's just so, so good.
23:17 Speaker 01 Yep. So we're gonna start with the tomatoes, so I can salt them and start getting some of that flavor going. So we want like nice chunky pieces, so we get some nice texture in there.
23:27 Dan Pashman? What do you do if you want to make a tomato salad when it's not prime tomato season where you live?
23:32 Speaker 01 I know. That's really tough. Like, I would encourage any tomato, like, raw tomato dish, wait till it's tomato season. But, I mean, if you really can, the keys here will be a lot of salt, maybe some extra acid, just to get some more flavor going out of them. Because you know they get so bland when they're out of season.
23:53 Dan Pashman? Right.
23:53 Speaker 01 Even a little sugar is fine, too, just to get some sweetness going.
23:57 Dan Pashman? People feel like that's somehow cheating. Like, Italian owners do that, too.
24:00 Speaker 01 Yeah, of course.
24:01 Dan Pashman? And you feel like salt the tomatoes and then let them sit?
24:04 Speaker 01 I like to do this first, so the juices can just get flowing along.
24:08 Dan Pashman? Even if it gets a little, like, watery in the bottom of the plate?
24:11 Speaker 01 Well, that's the whole point. Like, the nice thing about tomatoes is they have a natural acidity to them. So it's not just flavorless water, it's actually gonna make your salad taste better.
24:21 Dan Pashman? Right.
24:21 Speaker 01 There's another layer of flavor in there.
24:23 Dan Pashman? I would be too, like, OCD about it. I would have to salt each individual slice. Because there's some that are buried on the bottom that didn't really get salted, but it's just gonna flow down, you think?
24:32 Speaker 01 Yeah, yeah. I'm very into the, like, they'll all get something somehow. Okay, now we'll move. Back here.
24:40 Dan Pashman? So we got the induction burner here. Casey's got a nice, flat griddle. We're gonna griddle up some halloumi.
24:48 Speaker 01 There we go.
24:49 Dan Pashman? Now, if you were bringing this salad to a party, Casey, would you fully dress it first? Or would you keep the dressing on the side?
24:54 Speaker 01 You do want time for everything to sort of mingle and marry together. So I would dress it right before I leave.
24:59 Dan Pashman? Okay.
25:00 Speaker 01 Let me give this a second to heat up.
25:02 Dan Pashman? Yeah.
25:05 Dan Pashman? With each piece of halloumi, the sizzle builds. So here's a question for you, Casey.
25:11 Speaker 01 Yes.
25:11 Dan Pashman? While you're cooking.
25:14 Dan Pashman? How do you feel about bringing leftovers? So, wow, the crowd just gasped.
25:22 Speaker 01 We know how they feel.
25:23 Dan Pashman? Like, I wouldn't do this in any situation. But I feel like if it's a close friend or a family member.
25:28 Speaker 01 Yeah.
25:29 Dan Pashman? Let's say you hosted the night before and someone brought a whole giant cheesecake to your house and you only ate a quarter of it.
25:35 Speaker 01 Yeah.
25:35 Dan Pashman? And now you have three quarters of a giant cheesecake in your fridge, which you either aren't gonna finish or know that it's not good for you to finish. Is it okay to bring three quarters of a cheesecake to your close friend or family member's house?
25:49 Speaker 01 Yeah, to a close friend. I also think dessert leftover is not... That's different. When you said leftovers, I thought you meant like half of your Chinese takeout.
25:59 Dan Pashman? Right, that...
26:00 Speaker 01 Yes.
26:01 Dan Pashman? Right, okay.
26:01 Speaker 01 Extra cake is... Well, let's not call it leftover.
26:04 Dan Pashman? Okay, okay, alright.
26:05 Speaker 01 Bonus cake.
26:05 Dan Pashman? Uneaten.
26:06 Speaker 01 Yes.
26:07 Dan Pashman? Got it, okay.
26:07 Speaker 01 Yeah, that's fine. But to a new friend, no, that would be crazy.
26:10 Dan Pashman? Who here would bring three quarters of an uneaten cheesecake to a close friend or family member's house? Only three hands.
26:18 Speaker 01 Whoa.
26:19 Dan Pashman? Four, five, there, yeah. Some people are very bashfully raising half a hand in shame. Don't be afraid, it's okay. Casey and I say it's okay.
26:32 Speaker 01 It's almost time to eat, guys.
26:34 Dan Pashman? Any more questions? Yes.
26:36 Speaker 03 What if I bring a dish, something that the host wanted, but there's a lot of leftover? And the host says I should take it back home?
26:46 Dan Pashman? This is a very common situation.
26:48 Speaker 03 So should I feel insulted, like they don't want to eat it? Or it's just too much food? Like, should you take your leftovers back with you? Or leave it with the host?
26:56 Dan Pashman? Great question. Casey?
26:57 Speaker 01 If there's leftovers of what you brought, there's also probably a lot of leftovers of what they made, too. So I understand it from the, like, fridge space, or we just can't eat all this food. I like to make things that I love to eat. So if I got to take it home with me, that's just extra for me.
27:16 Dan Pashman? Right, if it's something store-bought or something sort of random, that's one thing. But if it's something that I put a lot of effort into, was really excited to bring, and there's a lot of leftovers, it's like, I kind of want to take some of it home. I think you should leave some.
27:27 Speaker 01 Yes.
27:28 Dan Pashman? But to say, like, let's split it.
27:29 Speaker 01 I mean, you shouldn't make the gesture of pretending like you're gonna leave it, at least.
27:33 Dan Pashman? Right, right. And they're like, no, no, take it. We have so much, we have so much. You're like, no, no, you take it. No, you take it. Okay, fine, I'll take half. Right, yeah. But I run into trouble with that once in a while. You know, it'll be like, no, you take it. And like, okay, you sure?
27:48 Speaker 01 Right.
27:48 Dan Pashman? Like, oh, no. I didn't mean for you to do that.
27:53 Dan Pashman? Just trying to be polite.
27:54 Speaker 01 Totally.
27:55 Dan Pashman? All right, the lemon juice is drizzling all over. We have our beautiful charred, golden brown halloumi rectangles over the bright red tomatoes, the salt, the lemon juice. It's gonna be sweet and salty and...
28:07 Speaker 01 Wow, can you just follow me around when I cook? It's so nice.
28:12 Dan Pashman? Oh, man. And then we're gonna drizzle some of that oregano oil on the top. Is that right?
28:16 Speaker 01 Yes. Okay, last steps, and then we're ready. So sesame seeds.
28:22 Dan Pashman? Such a good touch. You're not skimping on the sesame seeds.
28:24 Speaker 01 No, no, no.
28:25 Dan Pashman? I feel like some people would put like a pinch. No, like, there should be sesame seeds in every bite.
28:28 Speaker 01 No, they're so, they're crunchy, they've got great flavors. They're an important part. We're gonna do just a little more salt, just to be safe. There we go.
28:37 Dan Pashman? Look at that, huh?
28:41 Dan Pashman? This looks amazing.
28:43 Speaker 01 Thank you.
28:43 Dan Pashman? And are we ready to cut up this focaccia? Last call for questions.
28:46 Speaker 04 I'm Josh. One of the great things to ask when you're a guest to your host is, what can I help you with at a party? Maybe the host is in the weeds. They're like, I'm in the middle of mixing this dish. I don't have time to think about it. What are your go to things of something you can do if the host can't give you direction because they're in the middle of something and you can't pull them away from it?
29:06 Speaker 01 I would say music is definitely a great one. Ask if you can help set the table. Don't ask if you can help in the kitchen. That always seems to be a real trigger point. But I would say also ask, can I wash any dishes? Can I get anything out of the sink for you?
29:22 Dan Pashman? Washing dishes? That's the number one thing I need help with when I'm cooking.
29:25 Speaker 01 Right, because you already have a backlog in the sink. So like getting some of that cleared out would be a very helpful guest task.
29:32 Dan Pashman? Yeah, everyone has their food now. How's the salad and the focaccia? Good?
29:40 Dan Pashman? Very good. I should get my taste though. Shouldn't I get a taste? I'm just going to take it right out of the pan. I'm making my own bite right here. I'm grabbing a piece of focaccia, a tomato with a ton of stuff on top. You guys put this in the casey? Here, I'm gonna rip it in half. I'm just going hands here. All right, cheers.
29:59 Dan Pashman? This is a good pairing, too. It says everything, salty, savory, sweet. Really good. Hey, listen, before we wrap up, I want to mention that we have been shooting video this whole event. So head over to my Instagram to see what Casey cooked up and much more from this live show. Follow me on Instagram, at the Sporkful. Casey Elsas's cookbook is What Can I Bring? Recipes to Help You Live Your Guest Life. It's out now. You gotta have it in your life. Big hand for Casey Elsas.
30:27 Dan Pashman? And my thanks to everyone at Samsung and Sirius XM who made this event possible. And thanks to all of you for coming out. Good night.
30:43 Dan Pashman? This episode was produced by me along with Max Miller and Andres O'Hara. Engineering by Jared O'Connell. The Sporkful is a production of Stichar Studios. Our executive producer is Camille Stanley. Until next time, I'm Dan Pashman.
30:53 Speaker 05 And I'm Rain Kornitzky from Santa Cruz, California, reminding you to eat more, eat better, and eat more better.
31:13 Dan Pashman? Thank you again to the sponsor of today's episode, Samsung Bespoke Appliances. Visit samsung.com/bespoke to learn more.
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