Pod Insights The Moth The Moth Podcast: Putting on our Dancing Shoes About this episode On this episode - we’ll put on our dance shoes, we’ll find our pelvis, and we’ll find the joy and the self-expression that anybody, at any age, can get from dance. This episode is hosted by Blaze Ferrer.
Storytellers:
Katie Rivard finds herself through dance.
Jessica Ribera lives out her dreams as an understudy.
Podcast # 902
Transcript 0:00 Speaker 00 Welcome to The Moth Podcast. I'm Blaze Ferrer, and with a five, six, seven, eight...
0:10 Speaker 00 Yes. On this episode, we'll take a page from the great dancers throughout history. We'll put on our dance shoes, we'll find our pelvis, and we'll move through the joy and the self-expression that anybody at any age can get from dance. First up is Katie Rivard. With a story she told at a New York City Story Slam, here's Katie, live, at The Moth.
0:35 Speaker 01 So, a few years ago, I decided to move on my own from Boston to Tucson, Arizona, in July. And the trip was ominous. My car broke down twice. I got there, it was 120 degrees. It was brown. Everything looked like Mars to me, because I'm from Michigan. And so I spent the first two weeks on my own, just like watching Amy Schumer's train wreck over and over in the theaters and like crying to myself. But I moved out there for a teaching job, and I felt pretty confident in my teaching abilities. I'd been teaching for a while, and so I thought, I've got this. But then the school year started, and I realized that the school I had signed up to teach at was similarly a train wreck. And I switch into type A teacher mode.
1:18 Speaker 01 I'm like doing anything I can to get control back into my life, like cutting up tennis balls and putting them on the bottom of chairs so there's no extra noise with the already excessive noise that's going on in my classroom. But I'm struggling. And there's one student in particular, I'm going to call her Maria for the sake of anonymity, and we're just not seeing eye to eye. She's taking those tennis balls I'm carefully cutting up and like throwing them at people and at me. And so I do what anyone does when you're struggling in your job. I decide to fulfill my childhood dream to become a dancer.
1:53 Speaker 01 And there's a local dance studio and they have auditions for an adult dance company. So I think, this is great. This is what I'm gonna do with my time here. And so I go to the audition and I'm wearing this like large gray Americor T-shirt and soccer shorts from the last time I worked out when I was in high school. And I'm like remembering, how do I stretch, you know? And there are people doing stretches I've never seen before. Because University of Arizona is down the road and it's actually like a really good dance school. And so the students go there to cross-train. And so this song comes up for the audition and it's called "Bury Me", and the beat drops and it's going really quickly. And I'm like, okay Katie, you've got this. Like, stand in the back, blend in. You're wearing gray, it's gonna be fine.
2:37 Speaker 01 And then I realized that they're calling up people in small groups, like groups of four. And so they call me up and I bumble through. And at the end, I'm like, I just wanna book it out of here. When Todd, the studio owner, comes up to me, and he's like larger in stature and used to be a prominent dancer in LA. And he was like, Katie, that was amazing. We'll see you Wednesday. I was like, okay, this is how I'm gonna spend my time. And so the worse things got with school, the more I turned to dance. My co-teacher, who was teaching 8th grade, she had previously taught preschool. She quit after two weeks and I took ballet one. And then the principal who hired me and brought me to the school was also fired. And then I took jazz one.
3:21 Speaker 01 And jazz one was with Todd. And I still remember the first class, there's like a turn sequence I don't know how to do. And so I'm just like holding my arms up and spinning and feeling really free. And he's like, beautiful Katie, you got this. And so I've become like a Todd disciple. I'm like, anything you do, I'm there. And so after a particularly bad day at school, it was Dia de los Muertos, which is celebrated pretty widely in Tucson. And we had an altar at our school where kids could write up names of loved ones that they had lost. And so this girl, Maria, who I was struggling with, chose to write my name in Sharpie all over.
4:02 Speaker 01 And so, after crying in the teacher's lounge like you do when that happens, I went to dance. And Todd had a class. And so, this particular class, we were dancing to a song from The Waitress. And so, we hadn't heard the music yet, and he positions us around the studio and he says, "Stand in the mirror, look only at yourself, and I want you to start as the music comes on, just pretending you're getting ready for work and doing your ordinary, like, life things." So I'm like pretending to put on my cardigan and put my hair into a bun because lice is an occupational hazard as a teacher. And the music comes on. And the lyrics are saying, "Most days, I don't recognize me because the shoes and
4:44 Speaker 01 this apron, the place and its patrons have taken more than I gave them." And I'm hearing this, like, looking at myself, and I'm realizing that in becoming this teacher that I had been for many years at that point, I had lost track of Katie. I had become like fully Miss Rivard, and I didn't know who Katie was anymore, and I wanted her back. And so, I started to cry, and I'm like crying as I'm going through this entire piece. And so, Todd always like sits us down in front of the mirror afterwards and talks to us, and then he is like going down the line and he stops and he's like, "Katie, that was fucking amazing." I'm just like, "Yes, yes." And I decided I wanted to make a change. So I went back to school and I changed my discipline system.
5:28 Speaker 01 I decided to be way less buttoned up and just kind of laugh, enjoy it more, be more myself. And things got a lot better. They got a lot messier, but they got a lot better. And one day, Maria came up to me and I rolled in typical eighth grade fashion, and she's like, "Why don't you hate me? Like, I'm terrible to you and I don't like you." And we, I kind of was like, "You keep it interesting." And she laughed and I laughed, and things got a lot better. A lot came to light that was going on in her home life, and I was able to kind of build a trust with her that Miss Rivard, teacher self, wouldn't have been able to do, but as Katie, we were able to kind of form a connection, and we're still in touch to this day. So while Miss Rivard was a total train wreck, Katie had a pretty good year.
6:22 Speaker 00 That was Katie Rivard. Katie's a product designer and a soccer enthusiast who enjoys experimenting in the kitchen, dancing, and being outside. She currently lives in New York with her husband. We were curious if Katie continued to dance and if the lessons she learned stuck with her. Here's what she had to say.
6:39 Speaker 01 I continued taking dance classes for a while and dabbled with a lot of different styles. But I recently moved and there aren't a ton of dance classes available for adults where I am right now. But I do really hope to find a studio in the future. It was just such a fun community to be a part of. That said, I still frequently dance in my living room and I keep working on my turns. Someday I will land a clean triple, someday. Taking up dance classes as an adult really taught me a lot, primarily how to be at home in my body, which has helped me just overall to feel more at home with myself. When I first started taking the dance classes, I was worried that my lack of skill or the
7:19 Speaker 01 fact that I had 10-plus years on the people I was dancing with could lead to humiliation. But it was actually quite freeing. It gave me the confidence to try new things despite my fears, which actually led to me putting my name in the hat at the Moth Story Slam.
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9:44 Speaker 00 As a dancer, certain things can lead you to recall an old phrase or movement. The texture of a sweatpants, a song on a playlist, the smell of a wooden floor. Gestures locked inside our muscles and nervous system can awaken with just a breath of familiarity. Our next storyteller is very familiar with those memories. Jessica Rivera told this at a Seattle Story Slam, where the theme of the night was "Wonders." Here's Jessica live at the Moth.
10:16 Speaker 04 When I was a little girl, I wanted to be a ballerina when I grew up. And I think a lot of kids want to do that, but I was really serious about it. And luckily for me, even though I'm from a small town in Texas, there was a good set of teachers there who had sent three daughters, these legendary daughters, off to the New York City Ballet. And um, so I stayed really serious about it. And as time went on, it mostly became that I just wanted to get out of my small town in Texas. Um, and wind up in a city and preferably New York City. Because I had become obsessed with the New York City Ballet because of these daughters. And their portraits were on the studio wall.
10:57 Speaker 04 And my teacher would um, tell us these like, they were almost like, um. You weren't really sure if they were true stories, or if he was just trying to like Esops fable us somehow, you know, like these. And that's why you should never be late for rehearsal or, you know. But one of them that he told was about um, Alexia. Who you could tell like, they were the most proud of, and I don't think you're supposed to do that, but that's what they did. Um, and he said, you know, Alexia, she wanted to learn so much, she would stay in the back of the rehearsal and she would. Learn all the parts in the ballet, not just the one that was hers and she would practice and one day, the ballerina was injured. And the rehearsal director said, does anyone know this part?
11:42 Speaker 04 And Alexia was like, I do. And then it became her part, and then she was like this big moment of jump up and then, you know, in her career. So I always like tucked that in my mind, it's like, that's like the dream, right? That's like, I want that to happen to me. Um, as I was obsessing about New York City and getting out of town, I. Read every book I could get from like the tri-state library system about New York City Ballet and. Um, George Balanchine started New York City Ballet, he's credited with like bringing ballet to the United States. And I was obsessed with him, I really loved reading about him, just artistically and.
12:22 Speaker 04 Um, I found out, like it seemed like maybe he was a little bit obsessed with like western, like Texas culture. He choreographed a few ballets that are set in these like saloon-y town, like Wild West, this like. Man who grew up in the, in Russia, um. And I thought that was so cool, I felt like it like legitimized me, that I was this like. Girl from Texas, but if he liked it, then that was still okay and I could still be a dancer. He's died the year I was born, um, but I went to his school, the School of American Ballet in New York City. And it was fantastic, and I learned about this ballet, learned more about it, called Western Symphony, it's the Saloon Ballet.
13:03 Speaker 04 Fast forward, I came here to dance as a student of Pacific Northwest Ballet. And my first year in the program, I got cast to understudy in Western Symphony. And I was thrilled. I stood in the back of the studio doing my best to learn. And the policy at the time was that understudies had to come to the theater and check in backstage. And as, you know, when the curtain went up and everyone was on stage, then you could, you could go home. Well, I didn't go home because I was new to town and have a lot of friends and I was obsessed. And so I would just get a ticket and go sit in the audience. And I was watching Western Symphony and I saw a girl go down on stage.
13:48 Speaker 04 She was clearly badly hurt. Her partner, who was actually her real-life boyfriend too, picked her up and had to run her off the stage. And I was just like, oh man, that sucks. And it wasn't my position, like I had learned a different spot in the ballet. And within like, I swear it was like 30 seconds, I feel this tap on my shoulder. And they're like, "Come backstage, we need you right now." And I was like, "Oh my gosh, it's happening." So, so I go running with him backstage and they're like, we're like putting my hair up into a bun and, you know, I like, no one ever would have thought that like a peon like me was actually gonna go on. And so I didn't have, you wear black pointe shoes for that ballet.
14:32 Speaker 04 I had to borrow someone else's pointe shoes, which if you know anything about ballet, that's just like crazy. I had, I strap on these black pointe shoes that have like black fishnets, this little like saloon-y looking outfit for this classical ballet and neoclassical, but still. So, I'm standing in the wings and my friend's like scrawling lipstick on me. And the director of the ballet herself comes to me and she's like, "Jessica, do you feel like you can do this?" And you know, I was like, "Totally, I can totally do this." And so I went on and, you know.
15:10 Speaker 04 Later on, three years later, I was badly injured in a accident onstage, and it was career-ending and totally a sad end to the long story. But that moment, doing Western Symphony, doing these steps, it was like one of the most wonderful moments of my life. It was Balanchine, it was Texas, it was all my dreams coming true. Thank you.
15:38 Speaker 00 That was Jessica Rivera. Jessica is in Seattle, happily parenting four kids, writing novels, and completing a master's in creative writing and the performing arts from University of California, Riverside. Her ballet memoir, The Almost Dancer, is available now. We asked Jessica if she ever got back into dancing. Here's what she had to say. "I have danced in smaller companies since then, taught children, and been a rehearsal director. The physical injuries required several years of healing. The emotional wounds needed decades. I wrote therapeutically about the process of rediscovering myself as an artist and eventually organized it all into a book. Right now, I'm the overjoyed choreographer for High School Musical Junior at my kid's high school and a writer with many projects on my Google Drive. When I work with students, I tell them that their
16:23 Speaker 00 ambitions are precious and priceless, but today is what we're here for. My dancing life gave me grit and courage. Losing it gave me the opportunity to learn compassion, find new joys, and appreciate the gift of being present." That's it for this episode. From all of us here at The Moth, we hope the next week is filled with as much dancing as your heart can handle.
16:45 Speaker 00 Blaze Ferrer is an interdisciplinary choreographer and performer, who is also the staff accountant at The Moth. Born and raised in downtown Manhattan, Blaise has performed and created work at Judson Memorial Church, Pageant, The Collapsible Hole, and countless dance and DIY venues across the city. His work has been funded by Pioneers Go East, the Immediate Medium, Brooklyn Arts Council, NYFA, and the Foundation for Contemporary Arts. This episode of The Moth podcast was produced by Sarah Austin Jenness, Sarah Jane Johnson, and me, Mark Sollinger.
17:20 Speaker 05 Rest of The Moth's leadership team includes Sarah Haberman, Christina Norman, Jennifer Hickson, Kate Tellers, Marina Kluchay, Suzanne Rust, Leigh Anne Gully, and Patricia Orenya. The Moth podcast is presented by Odyssey. A special thanks to their executive producers Jenna Weiss-Berman and Leah Reese Dennis. All Moth stories are true, as remembered by their storytellers. For more about our podcast, information on pitching your own story, and everything else, go to our website, themoth.org.
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