How Emotionally Strong People Handle Conflict

In this episode, I'm calling you out and lifting you up. We’re tackling one of the biggest challenges that silently destroys relationships, careers, and your own peace of mind—emotional immaturity. I’m sharing real talk about how anger, resentment, and emotional triggers keep you locked in a race to the bottom—and why true strength is found in staying composed, kind, and centered no matter what chaos comes your way. You’ll hear the hard truths I’ve had to learn myself, including why it's not just about the other person’s behavior but about how you choose to respond. I’ll walk you through how to recognize when you’re being pulled into someone else's emotional home of fear, anger, or anxiety—and how to stay firmly planted in your own home of peace, joy, and faith. We get into why true emotional maturity isn’t about winning arguments or proving your point—it's about refusing to let anyone else control your emotions. And I’ll give you the questions you need to ask yourself to check if your reactions are pulling you closer to your highest self—or dragging you further away. Don't spend another second living in somebody else’s emotional chaos. Your minutes are precious. Your peace is non-negotiable. Key Takeaways: Why racing to the bottom in anger or frustration only makes you the loser How to stay emotionally mature when others around you lose control The truth about emotional homes—and why you have to guard yours fiercely How to confront toxic patterns with calm strength instead of retaliation Questions to evaluate whether your reactions bring you closer to your goals and your faith You are not here to live in chaos. You are here to live in peace, in power, and in purpose. Don’t race to the bottom with people who are hurting—race to the top and stay there. Share this with someone you know who needs it, and remember: the most intelligent version of you is calm, composed, and in complete control. God bless you. Max out. 👉 SUBSCRIBE TO ED'S YOUTUBE CHANNEL NOW 👈 → → → CONNECT WITH ED MYLETT ON SOCIAL MEDIA: ← ← ← ➡️ INSTAGRAM ➡️FACEBOOK ➡️ LINKEDIN ➡️ X ➡️ WEBSITE Get my exclusive Monday Motivation training in GrowthDay, the world’s #1 app for advanced mindset and personal development. Visit https://growthday.com/ed. This show is sponsored by GrowthDay. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Ed Mylett?

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• 2:08Ed Mylett?

  This is the Ed Meyer Show. All right, welcome back to the show, everybody. So I'm really excited about this week's episode. As you know, I don't post very often on social media anymore, but if you're not following me on Instagram, make sure you go ahead and do that. I did make a post a few weeks ago on my Instagram story about emotional maturity and how to deal with people that, for lack of a better term, get you all wound up. They get you angry or hurt, or they just create angst in your life. You probably have somebody like that in your life. They push your buttons. And maybe that person's very close to you, maybe really close to you. And so we're going to talk about that today. You know, life is supposed to be a joyous experience, at least most of the time. And you got to really evaluate your emotional maturity

• 2:53Ed Mylett?

  and how you deal with people that are emotionally immature, which I believe is a sign of weakness in people, hurt people, angry people. And we're going to talk about this today. Let me ask you a question. If you and I met, or you met the person in your life who you wanted to spend the rest of your life with, let's just say, but they said, well, here's the thing, we got to live in my house. And you go, okay, all right. They said, let me just tell you about my house. My house, regularly, there's snakes all over it. You got to avoid them. There's a fire that pops up in a room randomly every couple of weeks. So there's fire in this house all the time. It rains in there. It gets really hot some days, and other days it gets freezing cold. Sometimes it feels like you're in an earthquake. The whole house is shaking. You think it's going to come down all around you.

• 3:38Ed Mylett?

  Then there's other times in this house where it's like a tornado blows through it. You don't know where it came from, but it's just, it just hits the house and wrecks it. And we're going to live in that house the rest of our lives. So I know you love me, but you need to know the house we're going to live in. And it gets worse than that from time to time. You don't even know what's going on. You can't read it at all. There's no detection. And out of the blue, another storm hits, another fire hits, another snake pops up. Then you walk into the wrong room and there's lions and tigers and bears that just attack you. And so it's coming from all angles a lot of the time.

• 4:16Ed Mylett?

  Would you rethink that relationship or whether you wanted to live in that house? Maybe you loved the person, but you said, the house part, that part I'm not buying into. Maybe it wasn't even a significant other, but it was just a great friend who said, when you come visit me, you know, you won't know when, but when you come to my house, this is what takes place there. You probably rethink that friendship, wouldn't you? You would not accept those terms in a long-term relationship or in a friendship. Yet we do this all the time with the people around us. Let me say something to you, a truly emotionally mature person does not allow another human to pull them into their pit of anger, hurt and angst. But people do it all the time. I want you to evaluate whether you're emotionally mature.

• 5:00Ed Mylett?

  I only know this is true because I've allowed this to happen to me far too many times, where how somebody else acts pulls me into their pit of anger, fear, angst. Then you find yourself with these people, because by the way, people, humans have an emotional home. Don't they? I've talked about this in my book, The Power of One More. You have an emotional home, as does every human being you meet. Your default emotion is bliss, joy, ecstasy, passion, peace, laughter. If you're in those emotions, most of the time, there'll be times when you're not at home and you visit other places and you will feel anger or fear or sadness or scarcity. But everyone has an emotional home.

• 5:45Ed Mylett?

  And if you love somebody, but their emotional home, in other words, the home they're gonna have you live in with them, because you live in that home with them, is anger, fear, anxiety, depression, frustration, angst, scarcity. You know what I'm talking about? You've chosen to live in that home with this person for the rest of your life. And an emotionally immature person allows, when someone goes to their home of anger, angst and frustration, they go there with them. And they try to win a conversation. You ever be in a conversation with somebody where they get angry? So you get angrier. They put you down. So you come back with something about them. They bring up something from your past. So you bring up two things from their past. And it ends up being this emotional immaturity pit that you end up in.

• 6:30Ed Mylett?

  You know exactly what I'm talking about. That is no way to live your life yet. So many times in our life, these people, this stimulus, if we're emotionally immature, we go there with them with this immature person. And we end up being more immature than they are. And so if the quality of your life is in fact, the quality of your emotions. This may be one of the most important episodes you ever listened to. I want you to begin to think about yourself and evaluate yourself in terms of your emotional maturity. I know I'm doing this as I speak to you. Remember, I only know this because I've allowed this to happen to me far too many times myself. So you don't evaluate two things. A, your own responses when these people begin to behave this way, which is more often than not, isn't it for some people? And B, their proximity to you.

• 7:12Ed Mylett?

  And whether you really would live in that house if you knew that was the house, even if you like or love them. Because here's the truth, you choose your response, your reaction, or the lack thereof. You don't win by getting more angry, more reckless and more out of control with somebody. That's a race to the bottom and the loser is you. And so when you're dealing with somebody who on a regular basis, they pit up anger, they're passive aggressive with you. They're a victim. They start generating these emotions and you find yourself trying to win. I can be more angry. I can put you down more. And you think, well, no, I'm standing up for myself.

• 7:52Ed Mylett?

  No, you're not. You're being emotionally immature with a very emotionally immature person in your midst. Being more angry, mean or threatening is not a sign of strength. It's a sign of fear and immaturity. A strong person, when someone is emotionally immature, somehow finds a way to stay in peace, to stay in bliss, to stay composed, to stay in God. Strength is resisting the desire to hurt them back. I really want to talk about this for a second because you know, I know that when I was an emotionally immature person and I still can be.

• 8:31Ed Mylett?

  When someone would become angry with me, I would try to win that conversation and be more angry. If they hurt me, I wanted to hurt them back. But ask yourself a question, is that mature? Is that good for your own emotional health? Is that good for your own well-being? Is that good for your own inflammation? These people inflame us, literally. They inflame us. And so I want you to evaluate something. I already know, by the way, you're thinking about that person who does it, aren't you? You got that person, you're thinking about their face.

• 9:01Ed Mylett?

  Their name. They may be somebody you're married to, that you date, maybe a good friend of yours, maybe a parent. Maybe a sibling.

• 9:09Ed Mylett?

  If you're emotionally mature, when they get angry, you don't go there. You rise above, you disconnect, you become an observer of what's taking place. When they get loud, you get quiet. When they get mean, you get kind.

• 9:24Ed Mylett?

  When they get hurtful, you get loving. And these are a choice. These are choices that we make in our life. You're choosing to get angry with them. You're choosing to race them to the bottom of the emotional game. Nobody wins when you do it. Nobody feels better after. You know what it else is? It's spiritual immaturity.

• 9:46Ed Mylett?

  What if you would begin to act as God would want you to, not the enemy? Here's what I think, if you believe in that, which I do. The enemy is the one going, now you get more angry. Now you put them down again. Now you bring up something from the past. Now you get immature. Now you be the victim. Now you retaliate. Now you be passive aggressive. And all of a sudden, you're in this out of control spiral. And you got to ask yourself, how many minutes of your life do you want to spend in this spiral of emotional immaturity? How much time do you want to live in your emotional home of angst, anger, frustration, sadness? Anxiety? You know what I mean? Like you get wound up about stuff in life. But what if you decided to start to act as God would want you to? What if you began to surrender, winning the argument with this poor person?

• 10:29Ed Mylett?

  I've started to feel empathy for people in my life who are around me, friends or otherwise, who begin to behave in this way. And you get into patterns in your relationships with people that are so unhealthy, so dangerous. This could be at work. Maybe it's somebody at work that pushes your buttons. You know what I'm talking about, right? You are best to rise above, disengage, and act as God would want you to. If you believe in this, and I also believe in this, you stay at a high vibrational frequency when they start to go low. When they start to reduce the frequency of all these negative things and emotions and put downs or whatever they do to you, you stay in the high emotional frequency. By the way, nothing, nothing will frustrate them more than you doing that.

• 11:11Ed Mylett?

  Nothing frustrates an angry person more than when you come back with kindness. They're trying to pull you into this race to the bottom. And by the way, if they're naturally a little bit more of an angry or sad or victimized person than you are, they're better at it than you. Don't even try. They are professionals at being a victim. They are professionals at being sad. They are professionals at anxiety. They are professionals at retaliation. They are professionals at anger. And you're you dabble in it when you go into their house. Stay in your house. You choose your emotions. The quality of your life is the quality of your emotions, and too many of you are spending too many minutes and seconds of your life and emotions that you don't want to be in

• 11:52Ed Mylett?

  because you're emotionally immature still. If another human being can control you that easily, you need to look at you. This is your choice. I'm speaking to myself, by the way. Okay? You need to look at you. This is not about them. They are clearly who they are. They are clearly in their emotional home. In fact, just for a second, when I say somebody who lives in an emotional home of being sad or a victim or angry, or there's somebody who takes a superior position and puts you down and tries to minimize you, any of those things, who'd you just think of?

• 12:23Ed Mylett?

  Who'd you just think of? Work, family, friends. Okay. That's their home. You stay in yours. Okay? And when you begin to go into theirs, you lack maturity. It's a sort of spiritual immaturity. By the way, if you still get an adrenaline rush out of retaliation,

• 12:43Ed Mylett?

  you know, when you go back and forth with them and kind of get an adrenaline rush, ask yourself why that is. You know, the reason I put the podcast out today about this is I'm traveling a lot and I'm flying commercial when I fly now as a choice, and I just watch humans.

• 12:59Ed Mylett?

  We're so mean to each other.

• 13:03Ed Mylett?

  We're so harsh. We're so dismissive. It's rare to meet a kind person. It's rare to meet someone who's generous. Who cares? It's not out to get it, you know? And I, I'd like to just make a speck of sand in the beach of life by pushing back against that for a second and resisting it, you know? You don't have to be that way. You ever be on an airplane and watch when they say group two boarding and humans just rush and elbow people out of, it's just unbelievable? Or how they don't make eye contact when someone serves them? Or the arguments people get into. And these are strangers.

• 13:45Ed Mylett?

  Never mind, you're having some of these same arguments with the person you say you love? Who says they love you? Who's your sibling? Who's your parent? Who's your girlfriend or boyfriend? At some point, you have to ask yourself, do I really want to live in this house the rest of my life? And you have two choices. A, don't ever go into that house with them again. Ever. You don't get more angry, you don't race them to the bottom, you don't put them down more. Or B, leave the house altogether. You only have so many minutes in your life. I think you were born to spend most of those minutes in bliss, most of those minutes in peace.

• 14:29Ed Mylett?

  And you know what sucks about having someone in your life like that? They will give you a few moments of bliss. You will get a few moments of peace, you will get a few moments of ecstasy and joy. And, and these same people that are so incredible at getting to create tremendous hurt and angst and disappointment. By contrast, they're typically the people that are best at giving us pleasure and joy and bliss. And so in these fleeting little five or 10% of the moments that it's great. Some of us have chosen, I'll take the 80 or 90% of the time. That's not so good. For these spikes of adrenaline I get when they're kind or nice. What's crazy though is they're not any more kind or nice. It's the contrast because they most of the time aren't. And so in the few moments when they are, you're so grateful.

• 15:13Ed Mylett?

  It's almost like you're grovelling for the kind them, the nice them, the peace them, the not depressed them, the one that's not angry, the one that's not superior, putting us down. That's no way to live. That's not mature. That's not grown up. You were born to be in that environment. You were born to behave like that. And then they pull out this part of you that when you're done, you got an adrenaline rush and you're like, I don't feel better about myself after behaving like that. Yuck, I need to take a shower for how I talked or thought. So please evaluate this. And here's some powerful questions. Is this choice and this behavior I'm now making with this person? When I race them to the bottom? Moving me closer to God or further away?

• 15:57Ed Mylett?

  And my faith as a Christian, is it closer to God or further away? If you happen to not be a Christian, is it higher frequency or lower frequency? And also, is this really making you closer to your other goals? You think getting into these fits of anger or frustration are getting you closer to your other goals? Are making you a better human? Are making you wealthier? Are making you more productive? Are helping you be more clear thinking? Are contributing to your energy? Are reducing the inflammation in your body and giving you more strength and power? Are you crazy? This is all kryptonite to Superman or Superwoman. Emotional intelligence involves understanding and managing your own emotions and recognizing those of others. How it impacts relationships?

• 16:41Ed Mylett?

  How it impacts communication and overall well-being? One thing to become is become an observer. When this person begins to spiral and they show up as the angry them or the victim them, or the frustrated them, or the sad them, or the woe is me them, or the put you down them, or the gossip them. Get away from it, above it and observe it. Get quiet, get still. What happens is they get us riled up, don't they? This episode is sponsored by Ro. A lot of people assume GLP-1's cost a fortune and that assumption keeps them from even looking into treatment. Ro helps people find a more affordable path to FDA-approved GLP-1 treatment. Ro wants to help people lose weight.

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• 18:55Ed Mylett?

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• 19:16Ed Mylett?

  A real key of mental weakness is the avoidance of discomfort. Mentally weak people avoid doing hard things. And let me tell you something, not only is this person mentally weak, but the hard thing to do is to resist getting angry with them, is to resist putting them back down, is to play their game. That's the hard thing to do. So if you give into that every time, does that make you mentally weak or mentally strong? I would submit it makes me mentally weak when I do it. You are also mentally weak when you can't avoid doing.

• 19:49Ed Mylett?

  The thing that you know is the most harmful. Now, by the way, mentally weak people avoid the avoidance of discomfort physically. They avoid it in exercise. They avoid it in emotional discomfort oftentimes. But more importantly, they refuse to have difficult conversations. See, at some point, once the emotions go away, you need to be able to step back with that person when they've calmed down and you've helped them calm down. And say, this is not acceptable. I will not live like this. I won't join you in this home you live in.

• 20:18Ed Mylett?

  And I have empathy for the fact that you live in this home, but you're not pulling me in it anymore. This is not how I speak to people. It's not how I treat people. And it's certainly not how I'm going to be spoken to or treated. This is unacceptable. You do that after the emotions have calmed down. How do you know you're with somebody who might be emotionally weak? Or spiritually weak? They're a victim most of the time. Everyone's out to get them. Listen to their language. Are they a victim? Number two thing, I think they avoid doing difficult things, as I've said. Number three, they are unable to take feedback. Everything that is said to them as feedback is felt as criticism. They defend and defend and deflect. They defend and defend and defend.

• 21:03Ed Mylett?

  And then what happens is now you get mad and start doubling down and making it worse than it is with them. They're unable to take feedback. They also will do one thing where you say, well, can you please not do? They'll flip it back on you, but what about you? And they'll change the lens and put the camera on you to take it off of them. Who are these people really?

• 21:23Ed Mylett?

  They're God's children also.

• 21:27Ed Mylett?

  They're sad and scared people. Some of them appear on the outside very big and strong. They're scared. The flip side of anger

• 21:39Ed Mylett?

  is fear.

• 21:42Ed Mylett?

  People that try to make people feel sad are sad. We all know that hurt people end up hurting people. But remember this, what if you could not only rise above and not participate? But as you observe them, you almost, actually you do feel empathy. As God would. This is no way to live. This is no way to behave. People who put other people down or gossip hate themselves.

• 22:08Ed Mylett?

  Did you know that? When they're putting you down or someone else or gossiping with another person, that is a form of self hatred. People who truly love themselves have no room in their heart, their mind, or their spirit to put down other people. It's just not something that would come out of them. When you live in an emotional home of peace and love, you can't act out that way. But when you live in an emotional home of angst, fear, anger, lack, scarcity, low self-esteem,

• 22:42Ed Mylett?

  you act out in these ways. These folks are not comfortable in peace. They've become too familiar with stress and tension. They are inflammation. Literally by definition, these folks are inflammation in your life. We always say that in our bodies, really, disease doesn't exist. All the new data tells us the number one thing in a body that's the worst thing you can have for disease or in the future, early death is inflammation in your body. Everything from cancer to heart disease to aches and pains. Inflammation, you want to rid the body of inflammation. Well, these people, when they behave this way, they try to inflame you. And you automatically begin to play their game and you become inflamed. And by the way, you become emotionally inflamed.

• 23:26Ed Mylett?

  When you're emotionally inflamed, your body becomes inflamed. And so these folks are inflammation. You need to rid it from your life. You do not participate in it. These folks, number one, they blame others. Number two, they look for external validation constantly. Let me say that to you. Number one, they blame other people. Nothing's their fault. Everything's a victim. Everything's coming at them. They blame others. Number two, they are always looking for external validation constantly. Listen to their language. So and so said this about me today. So and so said this, so and so said that. When they walk in, they're looking, they give you their resume. They gotta look a certain way. They gotta tell you their background. They gotta tell you about their car, their something they get validation for. I was smart. I was this in high school. They're looking for validation.

• 24:10Ed Mylett?

  Number three, they don't tell you the truth. Do you have anybody in your life that blames others? Evaluate this. Do you have anybody in your life that looks for external? You have that friend, by the way, who's constantly looking for validation from other people? Instead of from God, instead of from internally. Do you have that boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife, boss, person at work? They look for external validation constantly. Third thing, they don't tell the truth. They don't tell the truth. They pervert and warp reality. To make it bend their worldview. And then they don't tell the truth. Number four, they choose what's easy over what's right. How do you know this? It's easy to get angry. It's easy to blame. It's easy to put people down.

• 24:56Ed Mylett?

  It's easy not to go to the gym. It's easy. So somewhere in their life, they choose the easy over what's right. What's right is to treat the people you love with kindness. What's right is to be gentle. And to protect strangers that you don't know. What's right is to stand up for people who are hurt. Not to put people down and make them hurt. So they choose what's the easy thing. It's hard to stand up and say, don't do that. And to protect people. It's hard to keep your emotions under control when someone is spinning out of control. When they're hurting you, not to hurt them back. When they're angry, not to get to angry back.

• 25:32Ed Mylett?

  And number five, they're a victim. The victim mentality. Let me ask you a question. What's the emotional home that they live in? Most of the time? And do you really want to live in that house?

• 25:46Ed Mylett?

  Because you don't have to. Either A, you change the way you interact with them, which helps change them. Or B, you move out of that house. You get distance from that house. You deserve to live a life of emotional bliss and peace and abundance. The majority of the time. Life's about duality. It's about contrast. We would never know how beautiful it is to be warm if we've never been cold. Right? It's okay that there's some duality in our life. There are moments of sadness. There are moments of anger. There are moments of frustration. But they should be moments, not the norm in our lives.

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• 27:09Ed Mylett?

  Download the Quince app for app exclusive offers or go to quince.com/ed for free shipping on your order and 365 day returns. Now available in Canada and the UK too. That's Q U I N C E dot com slash ed. You know, the other element of emotional immaturity is getting wound up and worked up beyond what is a normal response to things out of your control. And I want to address this last. Here's a form of emotional maturity. Going absolutely crazy over something like world politics.

• 27:49Ed Mylett?

  This last weekend, I got picked up in the car, great guy in the Uber picks me up. We say hello and immediately he went into politics. He hates Trump, F Trump, this so and so support. I mean, it was out of control. He was yelling, talking about my gay brother. I don't want to talk yelling. You know, these, you know what I'm talking about like worked out. I mean, so crazy worked up about a human being. He's never met that he probably never will meet. And out of something mainly out of his control. I'm not suggesting you don't have opinions. I'm not suggesting you don't stand for things. I'm not supposed to, you don't get in line in March or stand up or hold a sign or state your opinion or post, but you know what I mean? Where things out of your control get you so worked up emotionally that you're crazy.

• 28:34Ed Mylett?

  That you have become dominated this, this entire ride. I'm a nice guy in the backseat. He probably could have learned a few things from me or about me. I always try to learn things about the person I'm with, learn from them. He spent that entire ride in anger all over the place. I mean, it was, I felt I got out of the car. I felt empathy. Now I could have got angry back and said something about a point he said that didn't make sense, or I could have agreed with one and joined him in his area. Yeah, you're right about the tariffs. I'm like, my gosh, you with this was the last 30 minutes of your life. You certainly were pretty dad gum out of control and immature. You know exactly what I'm telling you. He's like, I had to block my family on Facebook because they like him. And I said, you've blocked your family?

• 29:20Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, we don't get together anymore. Over you guys arguing what are you serious? This is your blood, like your mom? Really? You don't talk to your mom because she has a different opinion than you about someone. Neither one of you have ever met before and never will meet. Wow.

• 29:40Ed Mylett?

  I just got out of the car. I felt such empathy. I was proud that I didn't join him in his anger about it, or refute it and get more angry with him to prove him wrong. That would have been a race to the bottom, huh? What if I disagreed with everything he said? So now we're back and forth.

• 29:56Ed Mylett?

  Angry, more angry, put him down, put that down. Well, what about Biden? Well, what about this? I could have gone back the other way. That would have been a pleasant drive. Great way to spend 30 minutes of my life. Right? Or joined him in his anger. You're right. Can you imagine that? This has become normalized in our culture and our society. It's what most of you listen to every day. You just feed yourself more of it. How's your heart feel? How's your spirit feel? How's your inflammation? I'm not saying don't listen to be informed. I'm not saying don't stand up. I'm not even saying don't scream from the rooftops about issues that matter to you. But are you serious? This is an all-consuming reality TV show. That you're not in, but you think you are. Literally got from the car.

• 30:41Ed Mylett?

  Got to the airport, got on the airplane. I'm not kidding you. And now I sat next to somebody who loved Trump, but that wasn't the conversation. Hates liberals. Hates them. Said words that I won't even repeat. About Biden and who they back and these there for the party of the blah, blah, blahs and the blah, blah, blahs and.

• 31:04Ed Mylett?

  Anger, man, anger, wound up. By the way, they both think they're complete experts. They had anger, angst, frustration, put downs. Really divisive language that Trump hater had and unbelievably divisive language that Biden kind of liberal hater guy had. And then I'm like, well, wait a minute. I'm gonna sit next to this one for three hours. I've just had 30 minutes with the other guy on the other side. I ain't doing this. So at some point, I literally said, I touched his arm. I said, brother, I could tell you're really passionate about this. Just want you to know, I am not spending the next three hours in these emotions with you. You seem like a great guy, man. You seem like a great guy. I love your passion for what you're doing. I'm gonna put my headphones on, I'm gonna listen to some great music.

• 31:50Ed Mylett?

  And if this was the last three hours of my life, I ain't spending it this way. I'm completely clear on your opinion. I could read everything you just said on the internet. By the way, same thing with the other guy. And what we do in our life is then we surround ourselves with people who completely validate these emotions. You're right, you're right, you're right. This dude that drove me in the Uber can't even conceive of somebody who disagrees with any of the points. And neither could the guy on the airplane the other side. I just thought, we are one wound up culture.

• 32:16Ed Mylett?

  And by the way, one guy thought he was a victim to everything Biden did. The other guy thought he was a victim to everything Trump did. They blamed, they both look for external validation by being right about it from a stranger in me. Neither one of them had the total truth. And they're both choosing what was really easy over what was right. Which might be to listen.

• 32:36Ed Mylett?

  Might be to listen, might be to learn. I know some would say, hey, you gotta stand for something, you gotta have an opinion. Absolutely you do. And I, I believe in that. I also believe that there's an articulate, loving, kind, and actually influential way to stand for something and have an opinion. And that is not the way to do it. Behaving emotionally ridiculous in a totally immature way is not the right way to take a stand. Or to have an opinion, or to create any difference or change. Or is that you're really not interested in creating any change. You're interested in being angry. You're interested in biting your chest. You're interested in being a victim. You're interested in angst. You're interested in stress. You're interested in getting validation for it.

• 33:18Ed Mylett?

  But if you really wanted to persuade, if you really wanted to take a stand, you would probably do it in an emotionally mature way. Where you'd be much more articulate, where you wouldn't put people on the defensive, where you might actually persuade somebody. And you only do that when you've connected emotionally to somebody, where there's a spiritual connection, where there's an energy that says, I can trust you and like you and believe in you, and that you treat me as a brother or a sister, and you have my best interest in mind. That's not what I see or hear almost any of the time, and that's why I make the point that I'm making. And again, I love passion. But what I'm saying right now, even as I say it, many people would probably disagree because it's just our culture now.

• 34:03Ed Mylett?

  It's the mind virus we now live in. What did they do today? What did he do today? What's happening in the world today? And I know some of these things are very serious. They affect our pocketbooks. They affect health. They affect rights. I'm not talking about any of that. I'm talking about getting wound up to the point of irrationality, of it being all-consuming, where it literally takes from your life and the quality of the life of the people around you. And you vibrate at a lower frequency. You're further from God. You're not as productive. You don't have as much energy for the right things because you've expended it on ridiculous things. And you spend your life in these emotions. And then, by the way, you leave this planet. I know you want to make it a better one. I know you want to change it,

• 34:48Ed Mylett?

  but you're also supposed to enjoy your time here to some extent and contribute, not just say what's wrong. To contribute. And so, these are things I've noticed. I think emotional immaturity and spiritual immaturity is at an epidemic rate in our culture. And what it contributes to overall, ask yourself this, especially if you disagree with the last thing I said. Does that contribute to more kindness? More peace? More gentleness? More understanding? More elevated ways of living?

• 35:23Ed Mylett?

  Or has it gotten a bit extreme? Just a bit extreme. So whether it's people that create emotional immaturity in your life and you're around emotionally immature people, topics, situations, circumstances, all of it can trigger an emotionally immature person to behave in an emotionally immature way. My driver was a grown man yelling, driving me in his Uber, dropping F bombs about someone he's never met before while I sat in the back of his car. The guy on the airplane next to me was using profanity and derogatory names for certain groups of people. That was beyond disgusting. And they're both on different sides of the aisle, both incredibly emotionally immature people.

• 36:07Ed Mylett?

  There has to be a way to elevate the conversation where it would actually be productive and mature. So whether it's world issues or whether it's personal relationships, I want to challenge you to not have a race to the bottom. Race to the top, elevate, observe, listen, communicate with dignity, kindness, generosity, and most of all, intelligence. The most intelligent you is the least wound up and the most calm. Isn't she, isn't he? All right, you guys, I hope this helped today. Don't race to the bottom. Stay on the top. You'll be happier and you'll win more in every other area of your life. Share this with somebody who needs it. God bless you.

• 36:50Ed Mylett?

  This is the Ed and Myron Show.