Ed Mylett - Blissful Dissatisfaction

You asked for it , you got it! I am FIRED UP and PRIVILEGED to bring you this all-new original Content release! In this training , I'm going to break down happiness and fulfillment and share exactly how to experience MORE of each in your life. Blissful Dissatisfaction - The formula for happiness and fulfillment. So many of you, especially the high achievers, believe that you must keep some happiness in reserve so you don't lose your motivation and hunger to achieve more. You cheat yourselves out of enjoyment and bliss thinking it will "STEAL" your drive and passion and motivation. Many of you also delay your happiness until you attain a certain goal, promotion, or relationship in the future and have found yourself in a consistent state of delayed happiness. So how exactly do we begin to find blissful dissatisfaction? I’ll explain how to magnify happiness and fulfillment. (This is just 30 min of a topic I could spend three days on!) this will be a great catalyst to help you begin the transformation I also reveal the SECRET emotion that is what I call the “Gateway Emotion” that magnifies all of the love , gratitude, passion, peace, focus , passion and faith in our lives ! This podcast will unveil the myths about true happiness and why fulfillment is a level past happiness ! I teach you strategies and keys to experience MORE true happiness and fulfillment. #maxout! WATCH/LISTEN NOW! Please SUBSCRIBE to all platforms, by CLICKING THE LINK IN MY BIO. Please SHARE, REVIEW, COMMENT, REPOST, and TAG SOMEONE to spread the word about the fastest growing show on earth! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• 0:00Ed Mylett?

  I hear so many small business owners say the exact same thing. They just never have enough time in the day. Well, I measure time differently. I've compressed, condensed, heck, I've bent time. My first day is 6:00 a.m. to noon. My second day starts at noon and goes till 6:00 P.M. And my third day, 6:00 P.M. to midnight. I now get 21 days a week. Stack that up over a month, over a year, over five years, and my life's completely different than it would have been otherwise. And if you want to win as an entrepreneur, you have to compress your time, too. And you definitely can't afford to waste it. Waiting weeks on a big bank for capital? Your best bet's to work with my friends at Cardiff. They know how to compress time for entrepreneurs. They get your business approved in minutes and funded the very same day. They're America's favorite small business lender, and for good reason.

• 0:45Ed Mylett?

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• 1:43Ed Mylett?

  I am fired up and privileged to spend some time with you here today. You know, the Max Out program, every week I bring you a guest who's maxed out a particular area of your life, and the program has just caught fire. It's a, it's the number one viewed or listened to program in the world in the lifestyle, personal development, peak performance space. And I'm honored about that. And it's a, it's something that I just, I can't get over even to this day, how many people listen to the program and watch it. But we have been asked an awful lot lately if I'd begin to create even more original content where I talk directly with you about some of the things you'd like to improve in your life. And so that's what we're going to do today. Today's topic's the most important one we could possibly cover. We're going to talk about happiness and fulfillment today. Because I think we can forget often, you know, when we cover all these strategies on the program

• 2:27Ed Mylett?

  between fitness and family, spirituality, finances, business, the end game is to be happier. That's what we're all after. And beyond happiness, a level past happiness is fulfillment. And so I want to share some ideas with you today that aren't covered all the time on other programs and that I don't talk about often enough either. And so we're going to talk about getting happier. Would you like to cover that? Would you like some ideas, some concepts? And maybe past that, some fulfillment in our lives and more of it, more abundance of those two areas. And so in my book, in Max Out Your Life, in my recent book, I cover something that is something I'm very dedicated to, which is living with blissful dissatisfaction. And that's a concept that sounds foreign to many people. Blissful dissatisfaction.

• 3:12Ed Mylett?

  And so I want to talk about what that means because I think that that's the pathway to happiness and fulfillment. See, many people delay their happiness until a particular destination, a particular time. They cheat themselves from happiness now. And there's two types of people that do it. Maybe you can relate to this. And they also confuse happiness and satisfaction. Those are different emotions. And remember this, the quality of our life is made up by the quality of our emotions. And our emotions come from meaning. So it's not the events of our life that define us. It's the meaning we attach to those events because meanings give us emotions. And emotions literally create a different blood chemistry in our body. They literally alter us.

• 3:53Ed Mylett?

  So the quality of our life is the quality of our emotions. Those emotions come from meanings. And those meanings are what we attach to events. So the key to a happier life, the pathway, is not the different events of our lives that happen to us. It's the meaning we attach to those events. And so do the meaning we give to events serve us or not serve us? You need to begin to ask yourself that in your life. And so I'm after, and I want you to be after blissful dissatisfaction because that's the formula for happiness and fulfillment. That's where the science and art form of achievement comes together. So that you can be happy as you achieve. And so what happens is people confuse happiness and satisfaction. You can be dissatisfied and still In other words, seeking more abundance, seeking more of something,

• 4:37Ed Mylett?

  but simultaneously enjoying the journey, enjoying the process. So there's two types of flawed thinking that I see in that realm. First is the achievers. All you achievers listening to it, you think, boy, if I enjoy this right now, I'm gonna lose my mojo. I'm gonna lose my drive. I'm gonna lose my ambition. You know, part of your recipe, your formula, all your life has kind of been, I always leave a little happiness in reserve so that I stay driven. Because total happiness means I'm laying on a beach all day long, right? With no drive and no ambition, because we've all seen people like that. That's not total happiness. I can prob- promise you that people in their life that are laying around, golfing seven days a week, laying on a beach every single day, are not as fulfilled as they could be if they were chasing something that they believed in.

• 5:21Ed Mylett?

  If they were contributing, if they were making a difference in the world at their maxed out level. And so don't confuse those people for the most happy and fulfilled. They're not. But what happens is achievers think, man, if I enjoy this too much, I'll lose my drive. Completely not true at all. The best analogy that I give in the book about that is, if you've ever bitten into a delicious piece of food, if you're a meat eater, a steak, if you're a vegan, you know, the best, I don't know, lettuce wrap you've ever had in your life, right? And you, and you bite into that and it's just so delicious. It's blissful, right? Does that bliss cause you to be less desirous of the next bite? Think about that steak, you meat eaters, right? No, it makes you want to have another one, right? So there's actually a correlation that's between blissfulness and drive.

• 6:06Ed Mylett?

  In other words, the more blissful you are, the more driven you are. Your brain gets this hit of dopamine and you want more and more of it. What happens though, over time, if you're an achiever, is if you cheat yourself out of enjoyment and celebration during the journey, during your victories, slowly but surely, you get what we call burnout. And what burnout is, is that you never get a dopamine hit in your brain. You never enjoy it. And eventually you just go, I don't want to try that hard next time. I don't want to achieve again. It's not worth it. I don't get from it what I thought I would. That's the definition of burnout is that we stop enjoying something to the point where we don't want to do the work anymore. So it's a very dangerous recipe for those of you that are achieving to cheat yourself out of enjoying and celebrating. And in fact, you'll eventually burn out on it. So do not do that. You've made a mistake in doing so.

• 6:51Ed Mylett?

  In fact, there's a correlation between enjoying it and wanting more of it. I can promise you that the more dopamine you get, the more you enjoy it, the more your brain will chase the next victory, the next level, et cetera, et cetera. So that is a misnomer that somehow enjoyment steals drive. It does not. In fact, it feeds it just like biting into that lettuce wrapper, biting into that steak. It will give you more and more of it and you'll seek more of it. The second type of person says, well, I'm delaying my happiness until I get something. I'll be happy when, many of you can relate to this, I'll be happy when I find the perfect relationship. I'll be happy when I get my dream house, when I get my promotion, when I get a certain amount of money.

• 7:34Ed Mylett?

  And they delay the happiness level until a destination in the future. The challenge with that, listen to me on this, is you have to bring you with you to that destination. And if you can't be happy now, if you can't find a way to love yourself and be happy now, I can promise you, you will not love yourself at that next destination. I have many, many friends who are at the destinations you think you want to get to, in that dream home, at that dream income, with the dream amount of money, the dream car, the dream jet, and they're no more happy than they were prior to having it because they didn't learn the tools of loving themselves now, believing in themselves now. Both of those are flawed thinking. A great life is someone who lives blissfully now and stays in a state of dissatisfaction and drive.

• 8:19Ed Mylett?

  So I want to talk to you about how to do that. You know, one of the things I think that's important to start out by saying is, is you cannot love yourself if you're not being yourself.

• 8:31Ed Mylett?

  You cannot believe in yourself if you're not being yourself. So the first step towards really enjoying happiness now, believing in yourself and loving yourself now, is truly being yourself. What do I mean by that? The first step is being proud of you. Acting in congruency with your standards, with your values and your character and your beliefs. The more and more you do that, the minute you begin to step away from yourself by behaving in a way that's not congruent with your faith, congruent with your character, congruent with your values, the more and more you lose a little bit of yourself, the more you can't love yourself, the more you can't believe in yourself. That first step to self-love, to enjoying you and your own company, is truly being yourself.

• 9:15Ed Mylett?

  The other side of that is by how other people treat you. And more importantly, how you let other people treat you. See, you teach people how to treat you in your life. And oftentimes, we begin to lose ourselves as people treat us less than we're worthy of. Our coworkers, our spouses, our boyfriend or girlfriend, our friends, strangers. We allow, we subject ourselves to treatment that is less than who we really are. And we begin to lose ourselves in that, and therefore lose the love for ourselves and the belief in ourselves. So you teach people how to treat you. You need to begin, especially I would say this to the men, it's true. But ladies, I want you to hear me on this. You have to love yourself first.

• 9:55Ed Mylett?

  You have to start with the belief that you are enough, that right now, men, you too, but you are enough. See, I think it's harder right now in the world, there are more demands on women than men, but it's difficult for both. And so this message is for both of you. But ladies, I want you to hear me on this. You are enough, you are beautiful, you are special, you are cherished, you are favored. Now, whether or not everybody in the world treats you like that right now or not, you must believe that to begin to demand that treatment from others. It's the first step to being happy. You cannot love yourself if you're not being yourself. You cannot believe in yourself if you're not being yourself. You cannot stand up for yourself, you cannot achieve, you cannot max out, you cannot kick some tail in your life if you are not being yourself.

• 10:40Ed Mylett?

  That means if you're in a career you don't love, you need to begin to seek a career that is more in congruence with who you are. If you're doing something every single day, whether that's a... A behavior you shouldn't be in. Maybe it's you're drinking too much, or an addiction, or you're lying, or you're gossiping, or you're just in a career that is not who you are. You need to be able to take those steps and do the things that reflect who you are. But ladies in particular, all the demands, all the pressures. I see so many beautiful women in my life that I think feel invisible. They walk in a room and no one acknowledges them. They don't look exactly like what a magazine tells them they should look like. Maybe their man has forgotten to tell them how beautiful and loved and cherished they are. And they have begun to teach that man that it's okay to treat them that way. To talk to them a certain way, to be dismissive of them a certain way.

• 11:25Ed Mylett?

  To not provide and protect if that's one of the roles a man may have in your life. Men, make sure you go out of your way to treat your lady in a way that's congruent with who you are, with your values, your strength, your respect, your confidence is exuded in the way you treat the women around you. And women, make sure you demand that treatment from these men. Men, you'll fall more in love with yourself and believe in yourself if you begin to treat these ladies in your life in a way that you know you really should. And ladies, same with you with your men. And so the first step is to love ourselves, is to begin to act and behave more like ourselves. We can't get there if we don't do that. But I want all the women to hear, you are enough right now, in this moment, you are perfect.

• 12:09Ed Mylett?

  Men, listen to me, you are enough. I know there's messages for the men out there where you haven't achieved at the right level. Or maybe a friend of yours is providing for his family in a way that's more abundant than yours is, or maybe he's a little bit in better shape than you, right? And these men feel invisible as well. Listen, brother, you are enough, you are strong, you are special, you are favored. You were born to do something great with your life. Ladies, you were born to do something great with your life. You're a miracle. Begin to tell yourself that, begin to demand other people understand that about you. When you're treated in a way that is not reflective of who you are, let people know that it is not acceptable, right? Treat yourself first in a way that is acceptable. Believe in yourself, love yourself, message yourself the right things, act in accordance

• 12:52Ed Mylett?

  with your values, and you're gonna begin to see more bliss in your life. Clearly, everybody talks all the time about gratitude. But if you can be grateful for the smallest possible things in your life, just waking up in the morning. I spent the morning today at a children's hospital that I spend some time at regularly, and I can tell you that you ought to just be grateful that you're healthy, if you are. Man, I'm telling you, you should be grateful for that. Something baseline like that. Or that your children are healthy, if they are, God willing. Man, what an abundance of gratitude we can find in just the most simple things in life. And these begin to create bliss and happiness in our life. Now, I said something earlier that you are perfect in this moment, and people confuse this.

• 13:36Ed Mylett?

  Because men and women, you are perfect in this moment. How I know you're perfect? Because you've produced the moment you're in. Right? You've produced this moment. You get out of life what you're deeply convinced of. So, right now, the hardest thing to accept is the life that you're currently living is the one you think you're worth. It's the one you think you deserve. So, you are perfect for the life you have right now. You've produced it. You are getting out of life what you believe you're worth, what you believe you deserve. The way people treat you, the amount of money you have, the way you look, the way you feel, is what you think you're worth. That's how it always works. We get out of life what we're deeply convinced of. So, the key thing is to begin to become more deeply convinced we're worthy of more, to work on our identities, right? To work on our self-worth, our self-confidence. Because it changes us when we do that. And so, I want you to think about this just for a second.

• 14:20Ed Mylett?

  If that's true, then what are the keys in changing that? Because when I tell you this, I want you to hear this very carefully, very closely, okay? You're going to always get what you're deeply convinced of in your life. And so, if I'm perfect for this moment, because you are, you are perfect in this moment. Stop being so hard on yourself. Stop beating yourself up. You are perfect in this moment. You've produced this moment. You've produced this life. Now, see, there's this balance of accepting you, loving you, believing in you, knowing you're perfect in this moment, but also being self-aware, which says, "I don't want to continually repeat this moment." So, although I'm perfect in this one, I don't need any self-loathing, or self-hatred, or beating myself up. I'm perfect as I am.

• 15:04Ed Mylett?

  However, I don't want to spend the next 20 years in this same moment, in this same reality, with this same life. And so, that will require me to change. Because I want to change the moment. I want to change my conditions. I'm perfect as I am now. I accept that. I love me, because if I don't accept me now, I won't accept me later. However, I'm also self-aware and I don't want this moment forever. I don't want this life forever. I want to improve it. I want it to be better. That's the dissatisfaction part. That's why you must improve. You must grow. So you can, you can love who you are and still have a desire to grow and change. Because you want to produce a new moment, a new reality. Because you're, at that time, you're going to get what you expect your worth as well, which you're deeply convinced of. And so the key thing for me is that we love where, we love ourselves in this moment,

• 15:48Ed Mylett?

  but we know to change the moment, to change the condition, we must change us. And that's where growth comes in. That's where changing ourselves comes in. And that's why, uh, personal life strategies and reading books and working on our identity and listening to audios like this and following the right people on social media, not the wrong ones, the ones who actually have produced a great life, not the ones theorizing because they've got a microphone, but the ones who have actually produced a great existence. And so having said that, let's talk a little bit about how we can change some of those things. I want to suggest an emotion to you that's going to be very risky, but it's not talked about enough. So we, on social media and all these self-help books, you're always going to hear about gratitude and love and self-confidence and all of these great values, okay? And strength and all that.

• 16:33Ed Mylett?

  And those are all abundant values in life, okay? There's a secret emotion though, that's the gateway that can magnify all those other ones. And it's vulnerability. Are you willing to be vulnerable? Vulnerability is one of the most incredible qualities a person can have. Because ironically, to be vulnerable, you must have confidence. Vulnerability means you're willing to accept risk. So in a relationship, the only way to have an abundant loving relationship is to take risk, is to be vulnerable, is to give yourself all of it. If you're in a relationship and you're only giving yourself 80% of it, 90% of it, you're holding a little bit back, you're afraid to be taking all those risks, you'll never have the abundant love, the abundant connection you think you want to have. If in your fitness, you're holding back 10%, because if you gave it all you had, it's

• 17:18Ed Mylett?

  a lot of risk there, it's a lot of pain, it's a lot of discomfort. You're not willing to be vulnerable and get weaker as you work out. I can tell you, you're cheating yourself out of the abundant physical body you could have. In your business, if you're in it... And you have a team, let's say, you believe in your people, but you don't buy into them all together. Because you don't want to get hurt. You don't want to get let down, right? You're not willing to be vulnerable and take a risk of fully buying in, fully believing in people. Your avoidance of vulnerability will cheat you out of the best business, the best production, the best wealth in your life. And so it's, it's, the reason we avoid vulnerability is risk, because guess what? People do let us down. People lie to us. They hurt us. They take from us. They disappoint us. And that's all true.

• 18:02Ed Mylett?

  So it takes courage to be vulnerable. And on the other side of that vulnerability is more abundant gratitude, more abundant love, more abundant faith, more abundant health, a more abundant relationship. And so the secret that no one talks about is, will you be vulnerable? Will you go all into the relationship, all into the business, all your heart, all your belief, all your dreams, all in? Knowing you could get let down, knowing you could be disappointed. But knowing that eventually, if you're willing to take those hits, if you're willing to take that rejection, that you eventually find the business, the body, the, the happiness, the fulfillment in our lives that we seek. If we're not willing to take risk, if we're not willing to be vulnerable, we cheat ourselves out of the abundance of those emotions. It's something never talked about in personal development and lifestyle.

• 18:48Ed Mylett?

  I've learned to build the muscle of vulnerability, to fully engage with people, to fully give myself to a business, to fully give myself to a topic, to fully give myself to an endeavor, knowing there's risk, knowing I could lose, knowing I could be rejected. But on the other side of that is the greatest of all victories. So I want to challenge you to do that. You know, right now, there's an area that you want more abundance in, and you're holding back 1%. You're holding back 2%, you're holding back 20%, because you've been let down before, you've been hurt before, you've had a business setback before, you've had a client let you down, you've had a teammate steal from you. You've had someone in a relationship hurt you. And what happens is, then when we find the ultimate business, we sabotage it. Because we don't think we're worthy of the end result.

• 19:33Ed Mylett?

  We sabotage it. We don't give it all we've got. We get to a certain point, we stop doing the work that got us there. Right? I remember when my daughter, I was teaching her to ride her bike. And she didn't really understand the concept of pedaling. And so, you know, if we had the training wheels, then I would hold the seat, you can picture it, and then finally I got her going. I go, go Bella, and she was, I kind of ran with the bike and then let it go, and so it had momentum, right? And Bella loved it. She was steering the bike, but she wasn't pedaling the pedals. And so it would run, run, run, run, and then it would lose steam and then she'd fall. And then I'd hold the seat, run, run, run, let her go and she'd go, oh yay! And then she'd fall off the bike. I said, Bella, it's not a motorcycle. It doesn't have an engine, honey. You have to keep pedaling to keep the momentum going.

• 20:15Ed Mylett?

  If you want to have this great ride, this joyous experience of that ride. Remember the first time you finally pedaled the bike? You remember that, right? Wow, woo! What a feeling! It requires you to keep pedaling. If you stop pedaling, the bike loses momentum, it slows us down, then it wobbles, then it shakes, and then it crashes. Doesn't it? People stop pedaling in their relationships. People stop pedaling in their personal development. People stop pedaling in their business. They get their business to a certain point, they've crushed it, they pedal, pedal, pedal, made phone calls, got clients, busted it, busted it, busted it. It gets going and they delude themselves and thinking, I can stop pedaling now. No, you always have to pedal. You'll pedal forever.

• 20:58Ed Mylett?

  Now, when you get tons of momentum, the pedaling can be slightly different. Right? It takes less of a threshold to maintain the pedaling, right? But if you want to go faster, you have to pedal more. In a relationship, it's so great in the beginning and then someone stops pedaling. And then it gets a little wobbly, then it loses steam, then it crashes. And our fitness, it's true, and our fitness. We get fit, we're working out, we gotta go, we got a great body, we stop eating like we were, we stop crushing the workouts. We stop pedaling, we think we got it. And then it wobbles a little, then it loses steam, and then it crashes. So the key is to keep pedaling. Personal development and your identity, if you don't keep pedaling, listen to me. If you don't keep growing, keep working on your identity, right?

• 21:40Ed Mylett?

  At some point, you will sabotage the great relationship, the great business, because your results will exceed what you think you're worth. And you get out of life what you're deeply convinced of, that you're worth. And so if you want the life to keep increasing, if you want to go to the next moment, you're perfect in this moment, but you gotta pedal harder for the next moment. You have to pedal more for the next moment. Because what happens is if our results exceed our identity, as I've talked about a A million times, we will cool life back down and sabotage to get it back to where we think we're worth. That's true in your body. If you don't keep pedaling on your identity, and your fitness, and your health, and your wellness, and your body starts to get more fit than you believe you're worth, you will gain the weight back.

• 22:24Ed Mylett?

  You will lose the muscle mass to get it back about what you think you're worth. In a relationship, it's so good, it's off the ground, it's loving, it's incredible. And then you look back and it's a mess. It's disintegrating. Somebody stopped pedaling, and they're getting back out of that relationship with they truly think they're worth. They think it's the other person, but no, you've taught them to treat you this way because you stopped pedaling on your own identity. You stopped pedaling on your own worth. You stopped, right? And your money, same thing. I see people make money, save, save, save, and then they blow it all on one stupid purchase, right? Why do people do that? Because they got more money than they think they're worth. They stopped pedaling on their identity, and they sabotage it.

• 23:06Ed Mylett?

  In their business, they get their business going, it's doing so well. They pedaled so hard to get there on their identity, now they got the one they think they're worth. They stopped working on themselves. Sometimes they stopped working on their business like they should, and guess what? They cool it right back down, and it crashes. So the key thing in life, just like riding that bike, is to keep pedaling. I'm telling you, these are the key things in building blissful dissatisfaction. I'm telling you, the last thing is this. Happiness and fulfillment are separate things. One of the misnomers out there you'll hear from people is that if you have a bunch of material things, you'll be completely fulfilled. That's a lie. Material things do not fulfill you.

• 23:49Ed Mylett?

  Only serving people, only making a difference, only fulfilling your destiny, only using your God-given gifts will fulfill you. So that is a lie, that many people in this space tell. There's also another lie, though. The people say, "Well, material things can't make you happy." You have your son, "Material things can't make you happy." That's a lie. We all know it's a lie, it's a complete lie. Ladies, anytime you ever bought a beautiful dress, you were happy, weren't you? For those moments. Guys, you got that dream car, you were happy. Ladies, that piece of jewelry, or a great meal, or something you were able to do for a friend. Made you happy. So it's not true that material things can't make us happy. They just can't make us fulfilled. I want you to have material things. Of course I do. Think it's part of the formula of having, of having your kids in a good school,

• 24:33Ed Mylett?

  or feeling like you look great, or having the best of something. It can make you happy short term. It'll never last, but it certainly can make you happy. I don't like people that say, "Don't get those things." But overall, people matter and things don't in life. I want you to have happiness and short-term happiness can be a great meal. It can be a ride on a jet. It can be a nice car. It can be a beautiful home, but it won't fulfill you. What will fulfill you? What will, will be you serving other people, will be you contributing, and also using your God-given gifts towards a cause or a mission. And so that's the last part of today that I think helps formula, one of the formulas, there's tons of things, but I just wanted to give you a 30-minute message. One of the things that makes people feel fulfilled, that makes me feel fulfilled,

• 25:16Ed Mylett?

  is that when I'm using some of the gifts I know I have for the good of other people. And so one of the things I'd ask you to do, because it'll give you more happiness, happiness, is to take an inventory of today of some of the things that are your gifts to you. I'll name some of them for you. Is it your nurturing skills, your math skills, your humor, your ability to communicate, your intensity, right? Your passion, your critical thinking, your engineering ability, your artistic ability, right? Um, your ability to write, your ability to do code. I don't know what those gifts are. Your strength, your toughness, your resiliency, your faith, your compassion. These are gifts. We all have different ones that we were given.

• 26:01Ed Mylett?

  And if you could identify what three or four or five of those are, because if I ask most people right now, they don't treat themselves very well. What's wrong with you? What are you not doing well? They could give me a list of 100. But if I said to them, "Name me three or four gifts of yours," they really struggle. They're almost embarrassed to tell you. And so I want you to think right now, what are you gifted at? Maybe it's your physical beauty. Maybe it's your ability to see beauty in others. Maybe it's your ability to listen. Just listen. Just be present with people, just care. Maybe it's not, maybe you're an incredible thinker. Maybe you're brilliant. You know, maybe it's your ability to put things together, you know, like a puzzle or a, an engine or, you know what I mean?

• 26:41Ed Mylett?

  And in our lives, we're most happy when we identify what some of our gifts are. And then we use them towards fulfillment. Happiness is identifying them. Fulfillment is the usage of them towards our destiny or helping other people. And so the first step to happiness today is identify your giftedness. And if you want a fulfilled life, you'll use those gifts till your last day. Chasing your destiny, fulfilling your dreams and serving other people. That's the formula. It's the formula with your children. One of the things I try to do in my life is not just identify my own gifts, but when I meet people, identify theirs and tell them. It's one of the great gifts you could ever give somebody is just identifying for them one of their natural gifts.

• 27:25Ed Mylett?

  And when you say it to them, they kind of know it intuitively it to be true. And man, if you could get somebody in your business or your life or your children or your spouse to believe that you know what their gift is and then link it to success in that area. You've got somebody who's a true believer. In other words, in business, if I could meet somebody and I get to know them and I identify their gift, it's their, let's just say it was their intensity and their engineering ability. And I tell them, man, with your ability, you're so intense and your ability to put things together and engineer, that's why you're going to win here. That's different than just saying you're going to win here. They say, oh my gosh, that is true. I, I am intense. I do have that ability. I know I'm going to win. Or I love you and the reason I love you is I just love you. I love you because man, you have such great faith. You're such an amazing listener.

• 28:08Ed Mylett?

  You care so deeply about people and you link your love for them to some of their natural gifts. You now have a deeper connection with them. And so happiness in your own life is identifying your own gifts. Fulfillment is using them towards your mission, your destiny, your dreams, and contributing to other people. And one of the things that will give you daily happiness, daily gratitude, is to identify those gifts in other people, whether it's a server in a restaurant, or your children, or a friend of yours, or just people you randomly meet. If you identify their natural giftedness. Now for me, as a person of faith, I want you to know that I think gifts are a gift from God. And so what you're actually identifying them is Christ in them, or God in them. And when you touch that little part of somebody,

• 28:50Ed Mylett?

  now you're inspiring them because that's spiritual, that's in spirit, that's a soul connection. Not like, "I really like you, you're amazing." But when you say, "You know what you have inside you? This, this, and this." I believe those gifts come from God, and just for that second, you've identified God in them. And it's a magic feeling for human beings. It's an incredible gift you could give somebody. And if you could walk around the rest of your life giving those gifts to other people, it's very difficult to feel bad about yourself. Because at the heart, earlier I said, "You can't love yourself if you're not being yourself." And at your core, who you are is put here in the world as a person to help other people, to give hope and belief and love to other people. That's who you are. And so when you're identifying their gifts,

• 29:34Ed Mylett?

  you are literally living congruently and authentically with who you are. So I hope today, I know many of you think, "Man, I wanted, I wanted, it to give me this intense, fired up messaging." But I also want to give you tools and strategies to become happier and more fulfilled. And so I'd like you to think through the things we've covered here today, and I hope they serve you, I hope they make a difference for you. I also want to remind you on the program to please subscribe and spread the words. How it moves up and more people around the world, and that's what I want, around the world get access to it. On social media, every day I do something called the Max Out 2-Minute Drill. And what that means, it's really Instagram. When I make a post on Instagram in my main feed, for the first 2 minutes, anybody who just makes any comment... That's why you want your notifications turned on for me on Instagram. Make any comment on my post with hashtag max out. I do a drawing every day.

• 30:19Ed Mylett?

  Every single day, we pick somebody out of that group for the first two minutes. And they get a coaching call with me, some of my guests, they get gear in the max out store, they get autographed books. It's a really cool thing to keep the community growing. So make sure you're commenting every day and your notifications are on. And then also, if you missed the first two minutes, you just got there late. If you just comment every day on my posts, just regularly comment every day. At the end of the week, we look at everybody who commented on every post and we pick a winner from those two. And so I'd encourage you to do that. I'd love to connect with you, I'd love to send you a book, some max out gear. Maybe have a coaching call with you or get you connected with one of my great guests. So I hope today was valuable for you as it was for me. These were great reminders for me. I want you to create more happiness and more fulfillment in your life. And I want you to live blissfully dissatisfied. I hope today gave you some insights and some tips on how to do that.

• 31:03Ed Mylett?

  God bless you and max out.