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• 0:00Ed Mylett?

  So hey guys, listen, we're all trying to get more productive and the question is, how do you find a way to get an edge? I'm a big believer that if you're getting mentoring or you're in an environment that causes growth, a growth-based environment, that you're much more likely to grow and you're going to grow faster. And that's why I love Growth Day. Growth Day is an app that my friend Brendan Burchard has created that I'm a big fan of. Write this down, growthday.com/ed. So if you want to be more productive, by the way, he's asked me, I post videos in there every single Monday that gets your day off to the right start. He's got about $5,000, $10,000 worth of courses that are in there that come with the app. Also, some of the top influencers in the world are all posting content and they're on a regular basis, like having the Avengers of personal development and business in one app. And I'm honored that he asked me to be a part of it as well and contribute on a weekly basis, and I do.

• 0:45Ed Mylett?

  So go over there and get signed up. You're going to get a free, tuition-free voucher to go to an event with Brendan and myself and a bunch of other influencers as well. So you get a free event out of it also. So go to growthday.com/ed. That's growthday.com/ed. I hear so many small business owners say the exact same thing. They just never have enough time in the day. Well, I measure time differently. I've compressed, condensed, heck, I've bent time. My first day is 6:00 a.m. to noon. My second day starts at noon and goes till 6:00 p.m. And my third day, 6:00 p.m. to midnight. I now get 21 days a week. Stack that up over a month, over a year, over five years, and my life's completely different than it would have been otherwise. And if you want to win as an entrepreneur, you have to compress your time too.

• 1:30Ed Mylett?

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• 2:08Ed Mylett?

  This is the Ed Mylett Show.

• 2:13Ed Mylett?

  Hey, everyone. Welcome to my weekend special. I hope you enjoy the show. Be sure to follow the Ed Mylett Show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. You'll never miss an episode that way.

• 2:22Speaker 01

  Here's Ed Mylett appearing on the Quick Brain Podcast with host Jim Quick.

• 2:27Jim Kwik?

  What's the premise of the one more philosophy?

• 2:30Ed Mylett?

  Well, the overall premise is that you're much closer to your dreams or your vision for your life than you think you are. And most people don't have a vision issue. They have a depth perception issue, meaning they think things are further away than they are. And so they act in accordance with that belief system and they keep these ambitions, these dreams, these visions for their life at bay because they think it's so far away. But the truth is not that. The truth is that your one decision, one relationship, one meeting, one new thought, one new book, one new podcast, one new emotion away from a completely different life, that it's much closer than you believe that it is. And if you can, you know, buy into that philosophy, that I can teach you how to begin to see those relationships, see those thoughts, have those emotions, and change your life. So you're much closer than

• 3:12Ed Mylett?

  you think you are. There's a power to doing one more. In other words, people that don't have confidence, why? They have a relationship with themselves, a reputation where they don't keep the promises they make to themselves. People who develop self-confidence, they keep the promises they make to themselves. But then there's a higher standard than that. What if you kept the promises you made to yourself, plus one more? I'm gonna make 10 contacts today. You do that, plus one more. I'm gonna do 10 reps in the gym. You do that, plus one more. You're gonna tell your child you love them today, plus one more. Your entire life transforms when you set that higher standard.

• 3:43Jim Kwik?

  Hmm. So one more phone call, you know, one, one more meeting, one more page in a, in a book. And because we don't know, like the wondrous worlds that lie beyond one more. Who is the influence on this, on this one more philosophy?

• 3:59Ed Mylett?

  My dad. My dad was an alcoholic the first 15 years of my life. And I think the reason I believe so deeply that human beings can change is because I watched my hero do it right up close, my father. My dad didn't live a great first 15 years of my life, but the last 35 years of my life and his, he lived magn- And my dad had tried to get sober many times, Jim, as you know. And then there became this time where he was driving me, he was in tears. In the car, I never saw my dad cry before, and he said, I'm gonna give it one more try to quit drinking. And that one more try changed our family tree forever, brother. I wouldn't be talking to you now if my dad didn't give it one more try. There's a chapter in the book, as you know, called One More Try. And then these one more started to stack up. When my dad got sober, I'd say, Dad, are you never gonna drink again the rest of your life?

• 4:43Ed Mylett?

  And he would say, I don't know, just not gonna drink for one more day. And that served me very well. Businesses I've been in that, you know, my back was up against the wall and I'm thinking about quitting. I've always just said, just don't quit for one more day. And so these one mores in my life were lessons from my dad over and over and over again. And then, like you, I wanted to know, how's this impact the brain? What's the reticular activating system in the brain? How can I find these one mores? You know, all these different strategies that I've come up with. So it's a pretty heavy book on how to do the one mores.

• 5:12Jim Kwik?

  People hear a lot of podcasts or in books about goal setting. And, you know, one of the challenges when people set out to achieve their goals in their career and their relationships and their body and their, in their, in their health and their bank account, they might feel overwhelmed. Right? And so why, why do so many people feel overwhelmed when they, when they approach goal setting?

• 5:34Ed Mylett?

  Well, one, I don't think we get our goals long term. I think we get our standards. So I think we probably get 20, 25% of our goals statistically, that's probably bound to be true. But we always eventually get our standards. Eventually you're gonna get your standards. So if your standard is just to do the basic, you're gonna get a basic life. If your standard is to do the one more, you're gonna get the one more. And I actually don't think you are overwhelmed. I think that's a notion that you've created in your mind because what starts to happen is when our results begin to exceed our identity. We start to experience a bunch of emotions that don't serve us, that try to confuse us, try to make us feel overwhelmed. Try to make us feel lacked, unprepared, not ready for something. And all that is, is your identity is like a thermostat setting, sitting on the wall. I cover this in the book and it sets the temperature of your life. So if your success identity is set at 75 or happiness

• 6:19Ed Mylett?

  and your results begin to exceed that identity, you get 80, 90, 100 degrees worth of results. Turn the air conditioner on of your life and cool it back down to what you believe you're worth. Well, how do you do that? You start feeling overwhelmed. You start creating chaos. You start thinking it's circumstantial. No, no, no. You know, I was doing well financially, but then I had to make this loan or the market changed or the economy changed. No, no. You turned the air conditioner on and you started to feel overwhelmed, even though it didn't really exist. Because your results exceeded your identity. So the key is raising that identity thermostat in our lives so that we never have those emotions.

• 6:55Jim Kwik?

  I love that. Identity thermostat. And that also implies that we take responsibility for where we are, that we are setting the, we are changing the environment. All the time, you know, for, for something that is for us or something that could be disabling us also.

• 7:12Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, I feel like what it is, is our filter. So the environment is set what it is, but we have this filter in our lives, this RAS, as you know, in the brain. I, I call it the matrix, which I know you know those guys, so this is right up your alley, but I call it the matrix. And the matrix is where you can slow things down. And your, your reticular activating system in your brain is essentially the place that reveals to you what's most important to you in your life. And filters out the things that aren't so you can be sane. So I just bought a Tesla. I like what Musk is doing. I'm like, let's get a Tesla. So I get this Tesla plat. Jim, within a day, when I'm driving this thing, I'm seeing Teslas everywhere on the freeway. They're everywhere. White Tesla, honey. Hey, look, red one. Three lanes over going the other direction on the highway. I'm like, babe, black Tesla, right?

• 7:55Ed Mylett?

  Here's the thing, those Teslas were always in the environment. What happens is they've been screened into my RAS, so I see them now. So what if theoretically our Teslas of our lives become those relationships, those decisions, those meetings that we have to have in order to change our life? In other words, we get programmed in our RAS to see the things in the environment that were always there, hear the things that were always there. But now have become important to us. And that's like the law of attraction explained actually in the brain of how you do it. So it's using the RAS.

• 8:26Jim Kwik?

  Because primarily our brain is deleting everything and only lets things in. And it's the RAS lets in, it's interesting, our name, when we hear our name.

• 8:34Ed Mylett?

  That's right.

• 8:35Jim Kwik?

  Identity and lets in threats because that's part of survival. Opportunities for procreation because that's also passing on your genes. But yeah, the things that you value and the things that you're asking questions about. And you start seeing those Teslos everywhere. So clearly then the standards are more important than than the goals. You talk about in the book, this idea of inconvenience and how the importance of embracing inconvenience.

• 9:00Ed Mylett?

  Yep. So Napoleon Hill says in Think and Grow Rich that on the other side of pain of difficulty, we're introduced to our other self. So it is literally that the inconvenient things in our lives are the things that introduce us to the other versions of us. And so I have a chapter called one more inconvenience. If you can begin to build the muscle of chasing, doing hard things, of pursuing the inconvenient. That's where the other self is revealed to, and that other self produces another life. As human beings, our tendency is to avoid pain because we think it's permanent. And the truth is, the only thing that's permanent in our lives, if you believe this, is our souls. Even our bodies aren't permanent. I was with my father, as you know, when he died. I watched my father's body no longer exist in the in a functioning state anymore.

• 9:45Ed Mylett?

  His spirit continued. So this temporary pain you're going through, the truth of the matter is it's temporary. And if you'll survive the inconvenient pain and work through it, on the other side of you is all the things you want in your life. So I've sort of learned to build the muscle, not always, I make mistakes. But what's the inconvenient thing right now? I'm going to do the inconvenient thing, not the easy thing. The path of least resistance leads to the least happiness, the least bliss, the least benefit to you. The path of most resistance oftentimes is where all the good stuff lies. So chase the inconvenient.

• 10:16Jim Kwik?

  I want to make sure, and I have a couple more questions for you. But where do people get the power of one more? Where do you recommend, or should we?

• 10:24Ed Mylett?

  Anywhere books are sold, but I also have a website called thepowerofonemore.com. And then there's this little thing you and I are doing that's not so little that we should at least mention.

• 10:32Jim Kwik?

  Not little at all.

• 10:33Ed Mylett?

  It's never been done before, but I'm doing the mother of all events, the granddaddy. That way I cover both genders. And at this event is myself, I'll miss people, but myself is speaking. Jim Quick is speaking. This guy Quick says, turns out he's a pretty smart guy. Andy Frisella, Mel Robbins, Maria Menounos, Jenna Kutcher, Marie Forleo, Dean Graziosi, Rob Dierdick, Eric Thomas, John Gordon, and a few others are all at one event. And if you preorder my book right now and you go to maxoutlive.com, I'll give you that event for free. You can watch it on a virtual basis in your home or your living room. If you want to come to the event, you got to buy some books, but it's free. It's a gift. All you got to do is preorder my book. Go to maxoutlive.com and you'll see all of us

• 11:16Ed Mylett?

  speak in one place, one day for free. It's crazy.

• 11:19Jim Kwik?

  That that's so much value. And in time that we've known each other and our friendship, you know, what I love is that you are the person that you are.

• 11:27Ed Mylett?

  So are you.

• 11:28Jim Kwik?

  Not on camera and on stage, and that means everything. You're so, so very congruent. My last couple of questions has to do with this word that I see often in the book and it's equanimity.

• 11:40Ed Mylett?

  I knew you were gonna ask that.

• 11:41Jim Kwik?

  Yeah. So this is something that is, is I love, like I tweeted something that was like, what's your favorite word out the other day? I got hundreds of responses. This is one of my favorites. Can you define that?

• 11:54Ed Mylett?

  Yeah. If you, if you looked at a picture, if you looked at a picture of it in the dictionary, it would probably be Jim Quick. And, and this is true. And it's why I love you. It's why I wish we had more time together. Equanimity is basically tranquility or peace under duress. Calmness under duress. And this is such a quality of the people that I admire most of my life and of all high performers and of all happy people. Duress, chaos, difficulties are a given in life. So it's not the, it's not the events of our lives that matter. It's the meaning we attach to it. And that meaning then creates an emotion and that emotion makes us make a action. If you can learn to seek more equanimity, which is calmness, think about someone you admire, if it's an athlete, right? Tom Brady, under center,

• 12:37Ed Mylett?

  50,000 people, it's the playoffs, they're down six points, it's the last drive, it's the highest level of chaos and stress you could get. It's his ability to find equanimity, which is calmness and peace under duress, so that things slow down and they don't speed up. I have a fighter that I work with that I love named Michael Chandler. He just fought last week and I know you know who Michael is. Typically, a lot of times, Mike, when he's been in these fights, when it starts to get really riled up, he speeds things up and he gets all wound up and it doesn't serve him. This week, when he had the fight, it happened. He got punched. He was really hurt. And he stepped back and found equanimity and calmness under duress. And he ended up knocking this guy out and winning the fight in a really dramatic way. And so equanimity basically means finding peace and calm under a stressful situation and condition.

• 13:21Ed Mylett?

  And it's the one thing emotionally, the people that I admire the most have the ability to maintain emotional maturity and emotional control in their lives. And the people that are just sort of average and ordinary, that when it's everything's okay, they have emotional control. But when stress level gets elevated, when an importance level, the important meeting, the important phone call, the higher the importance level, the less equanimity they experience. And so in the book, I talk and teach how to have more of equanimity under duress.

• 13:52Jim Kwik?

  Yeah, that's one of my, one of my favorite parts of the book. I recommend everyone gets their copy. I recommend you get three copies of Ed's book. You have one for yourself and get two to gift to others. And I'll actually gift two of my copies to some random people who are listening. I challenge everybody to take a screenshot of this episode. If you're listening on Spotify, on iTunes, on YouTube, take a screenshot, make sure you tag Ed, tag myself, and repost some of our favorites. And you know, equanimity is actually, this principle is through all ancient wisdoms, from Taoism to Stoicism, it has, it's represented there. So it's, it's so very important. So for more detail on this, you have to read the book because the book is, you're an amazing storyteller.

• 14:37Jim Kwik?

  And there's some real practical, powerful, proven things that people could do. I have a question for you that's kind of off script. You know, you're very public. You know, you have a huge following, millions of people, you do these big events, huge, huge, huge podcasts and brand, very successful. Is there something that people seem to maybe misunderstand about you? It's kind of a left field kind of question, but is there, and there might not be an answer, but.

• 15:04Ed Mylett?

  No, there, there's. Certainly is, and I think you've probably experienced a little bit when you're around me. I probably struggle with confidence more than most people would think that I do. And so even at this age of my life, you know, I've got a pretty deep voice. I've got kind of a hard look to me. I teach all these things about being confident and all those things, but the truth is I have to keep that guy at bay. I'm very introverted like you are. We're both very quiet people privately. Public things aren't easy for you or I, and I struggle with still at this stage of my life, you know, believing I belong, not having imposter syndrome. You know, no matter what level of external success I've had, that has not changed this child of an alcoholic

• 15:45Ed Mylett?

  that grew up in chaos and grew up in stress and would go to school every day thinking, why is my family this way? What's wrong with me? Why can't my dad be like their dad? You know, and none of my friends wanted to come over to our house because it was so stressful and, and I ended up with a wonderful, beautiful dad, but so there's that little dude in me still, man. All those beliefs that are installed in you when you're a child and you're defenseless about who you are and what your role is in the world. And it's why I'm in this space. I'm one of the few people I think that's like, hey, you're on my Instagram. I'll tell you, I'm having a bad day, guys. I'm struggling with this today. I'm hurting today because I don't want to be perfect. I want to be aspirational where people aspire to be like me, meaning that, hey, this guy's working on himself too.

• 16:27Ed Mylett?

  And so maybe that would surprise some people if they see, you know, jets and islands and houses and ocean fronts and, you know, great friends and all that. But I'm just a man who was once a little boy, who is just trying to get better and feel better about himself and help other people. And it's when I'm doing something like this, brother, with someone I love and I know we're serving people and my intent is there that I have the most confidence because I know I intend to serve. So that's probably something most people wouldn't know.

• 16:56Jim Kwik?

  Amazing. Thank you. Thank you for sharing that. Everybody, get your, get your copy of The Power of One More. And please join us for this amazing event. And the message here is really, as Ed has said, you are much closer to the life that you dream of than you think you are. You know, he says in the book that you're often just one more meeting, one more relationship, one more decision, one more action, one more thought, you know, away from leading the life that you desire and that you, that you really deserve. So.

• 17:27Jim Kwik?

  Ed, buddy, thank you so much for being on our show.

• 17:29Ed Mylett?

  Brother, what an honor. So great to be with you. Thank you.

• 17:32Jim Kwik?

  Until next time, make sure you subscribe. We'll put all the links to Ed's book and more in our show notes and also to my, where he interviewed me. We'll put all the links to all the things we mentioned at jimquick.com/notes. And until then, make sure you max out, as Ed would say, and be limitless, everybody.

• 17:50Scott Miller?

  Hello and welcome back to Franklin Covey's On Leadership podcast series, the world's largest weekly podcast dedicated to the topic of leadership. I'm Scott Miller, your host and interviewer. Each week, I do not say this about all the guests because it's not true. He is my favorite interview on our first 200-plus episodes. Ed, my lead, welcome back to On Leadership.

• 18:12Ed Mylett?

  Brother, that's a pretty big introduction right there to live up to. So, thank you so much.

• 18:16Scott Miller?

  Whenever I interview someone, I always read their book. I do my best to read it cover to cover. I research them. I watch other interviews, listen to interviews that others have asked to make sure that this one is unique. However, I watched the entire hour and 40-minute interview that Jamie Kern Lima, she had a book called Believe It, a fabulously successful entrepreneur in her own right, when she interviewed you. And she teed up a story that I think is so remarkable, I'm going to have you repeat it on this podcast. And it really was this idea about being seen. It's about how each of us as leaders, as parents, as friends, as entrepreneurs, we have the power to help other believe in themselves and be seen. You shared a story I think about, maybe was it your first grade teacher? Would you take a

• 19:00Scott Miller?

  few moments and just recap this story? Because I've thought about it multiple times since I listened to your interview with Jamie Kern Lima, and I think it's worth repeating on our podcast.

• 19:12Ed Mylett?

  It's a hard story for me, brother. You're going right to it. So, yes, my first grade teacher was Mrs. Smith. And, you know, most things in leadership are caught, not taught. You catch it. And I caught something this day from this beautiful soul. Mrs. Smith knew that I came from a broken family, and she knew that I was being teased at school. I was Eddie Spaghetti. I would get bullied at school. She could see the stress on me every morning. And I didn't know this in first grade, but now as a grown man, looking back, I know. And she knew I had no self-esteem. She knew that I didn't think I was very smart. I didn't think I had any valuable. I was invisible. When you come from a family like that, brother, every morning you walk out of your home, you're ashamed.

• 19:54Ed Mylett?

  You know, why can't my, why don't my friends not want to come over because my dad's yelling all the time? Why can't I come from what I ever thought was a normal family? And so I would carry that every day in school and I was this little boy that was just sad. And had no self belief whatsoever. I felt completely invisible and worthless. And she set up this scenario, bro, where we had to take tests for the state. And she set this all up. I didn't know it. And she had this other teacher come in the room, it was actually the vice principal come in the room and say, Mrs. Smith, I need your smartest student. I need the brightest person you have in here because this student's going to represent this whole class as the leader and take these tests for us.

• 20:36Ed Mylett?

  And I need you to pick them. And I didn't know this, but she had set all that up. And she goes, oh, well, that's little Eddie. And I looked up and I went, me? And she goes, and she kind of mouthing, it's little Eddie. And all of a sudden, for the first time in my life, man, someone saw me. Someone told me I was special. Someone said something great about me. And that little boy got up, me, and I walked to the back of that class and I think I was walking on clouds. And it changed my life because it was the first time ever that someone said, I see you. You matter. You're special. You're important. What she was really saying is, I love you. I care about you. I believe in you.

• 21:22Ed Mylett?

  And it changed my life. And to this day, I owe so much of my life to Mrs. Smith because so many people, man, are going through this world right now, not feeling seen, feeling invisible, feeling worthless, feeling like I'm just average or below average. Who cares? And, and she changed my life in that moment. I, I, I am almost incapable of telling that story without crying because.

• 21:47Ed Mylett?

  My whole life, no one ever made me feel that way. And I remember that day thinking, I would love to, sorry, I get choked up now. I would love to make other people feel the way she's making me feel right now. And it changed my life because after that day, I thought, well, maybe I'm not stupid. Maybe I do have value. And I didn't believe it all the time, but all of a sudden, I said, maybe. And it opened my life up to the possibility that maybe I could do something great in my life. Maybe I was special. Maybe, maybe I had value. Without that day and without Mrs. Smith, I am not talking to you right now for sure. And I think most people undervalue their ability to impact another human being's life.

• 22:26Ed Mylett?

  They don't understand that one decision, one gesture, one thought, one emotion can change another person's life. And Mrs. Smith definitely did that. And that's why I'm sitting here. She is one of those people in my life for sure, and probably the main person.

• 22:40Scott Miller?

  Ed, your vulnerability is a gift you're giving to all of us. When I read this passage and heard the story on your interview with Jamie Curran Lima, I thought about the first time my father told me he was proud of me. I was 32 years old. I was at the Minneapolis airport. I was boarding a plane from the funeral of his mother, my grandmother. And my father put his arm on my shoulder at like the, at the, as I was getting in a cab. And he said, "Son, I'm proud of you." I was 32. Unlike you, I did not come from a broken home. I came from a very stable, middle-class environment. But I think my father's, dad died when he was 10, didn't have a role model there. My parents, my mom's parents were alcoholics, and so they didn't know how to parent.

• 23:22Scott Miller?

  But as I looked, as I listened to your story and I hear you talk about this, all of us as leaders, whether we're formal or informal leaders in companies, we also have the power to help people be seen, not artificially, but to validate in them their worth. You're a leader of a large company. You've hired and trained and on-boarded and terminated thousands of people in your career, many companies you own. Speak to the thousands of people who are listening and watching, millions, that are in fact leaders of people, whether they are parents or formal leaders. What are some things they can do today to make sure those in their purview feel seen?

• 24:02Ed Mylett?

  Seriously get to know their gifts. So each human being comes with them a set of giftedness that they know to be true about themselves. By the way, there's two or three or four of them. It could be their kindness, their intellect, their humor, their beauty, their resiliency. You know, their vision. There's all kinds of gifts, their patience. And these, if you end up pointing out those gifts to somebody in their life and you say, look, I see you. By the way, it's when they go, you're gonna do great. You're awesome, you're incredible. That's just, that's just floats by somebody. But if you say, you're gonna do incredible because, and then you tell me something about me that I know to be true. You know why Ed, you know why you're gonna be incredible here? Not because you're the smartest guy in the world, even though you're a bright guy. Because you love your family so much, man. You will fight for your family. You will do anything for your family.

• 24:46Ed Mylett?

  And I'll go, whoa, that is true about me. Or you know why you're gonna do very well here, Lisa? Because you care so deeply. You've got this heart to serve people. Your intentions are so good. That's why. So it's when you link what you'd like them to do to the gift they have that they already believe to be true about them. Now, you got it. Now you're leading. Now you're changing them. By the way, you will be on this many, I'm showing one hand up. You will be one of one to five people in their entire life that made them feel this way. You're 32 years old and how much that stood out from your dad. And if I said to you, who are the two or three people in your life, Scott, that have really believed in you? There's not 30. If you're lucky, there's two or three.

• 25:29Ed Mylett?

  For me, it's Mrs. Smith, right? A couple of coaches I've had. And these are the people that I cherish in my life because they found something in me. If you're a person of faith, they've found God in you. They've found the gift in you. And so this is what great leaders do. They take the time, even if it's in brief, to say, well, I see this special in you. You're special because that makes me feel seen. Not you're awesome, you're incredible, thanks for being here, grateful for you. Nah, that's nothing. I see you. And let me tell you what I see. I see X, Y, and Z. And then they go, now they really, they will never leave you. They will be loyal forever. They will be talking about you on podcasts 20 and 30 years later.

• 26:12Ed Mylett?

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• 28:26Ed Mylett?

  Very short intermission here, folks. I'm glad you're enjoying the show so far. Be sure to follow the Ed Mylett Show on Apple and Spotify. Links are in the show notes. Here's an excerpt I did with our next guest.

• 28:37Speaker 01

  Here's a clip of Ed Mylett appearing on the podcast from Stuck to Unstoppable with host Stephen Scoggins.

• 28:44Stephen Scoggins?

  You mentioned something called becoming an impossibility thinker and a possibility achiever.

• 28:50Ed Mylett?

  Yep.

• 28:50Stephen Scoggins?

  And so many people that I see are self sabotaging because they're not viewing it through that lens. So talk to us a little bit about that.

• 28:57Ed Mylett?

  Okay, I'm sorry. I'm typing this great note down. Here's the thing. Here's the governor that you put on yourself if you're someone who is not an impossibility thinker. Being an impossibility thinker is really simple. It's being willing to envision things you're ill-prepared to do.

• 29:14Stephen Scoggins?

  Yeah.

• 29:15Ed Mylett?

  See, the people that I know that I think have achieved this level of success, they have a lower threshold for what they need to know about something in order to imagine it and believe it's possible. So unsuccessful people have a very high threshold of what they have to know, or what they have to have everything in place. And so they won't step into the unknown. I used to coach a race car driver. I won't say his name because I had an NDA with it, but a very successful NASCAR driver. And he told me, he goes, "Ed, the most difficult thing in racing is not the normal race. It's when there's a crash in front of you." And when there's this crash in front of you, he goes, "I want you to imagine you're going 180 to 200 miles an hour, and all there is is a cloud of smoke. It's all you see. And you have to drive into that cloud of smoke, not knowing that on

• 29:59Ed Mylett?

  the other side, there may be a stalled car, but you're going to hit head on and kill yourself." And he said, "It's your ability to drive through that fog, drive through that unknown, drive through that smoke that separates you from other drivers." What most guys do is they start looking at the wall, and they veer towards it. And he said, "My ability to drive through that crash smoke, even though I don't know what's on the other side of it, is what separates me from other guys." And man, that's so true in business and life, too. Successful people are willing to drive through the smoke, not knowing what's on the other side, but believing I'll be resilient enough when I get in the room to figure it out.

• 30:32Stephen Scoggins?

  Yeah.

• 30:32Ed Mylett?

  Unsuccessful people, or people who are not successful yet, go- I'll go, I'll drive once I know. I'll go once this, once the conditions, once my kids are growing, once I have this much, once I read one more book, once I do one more, once, once I get, and then the threshold keeps getting higher and higher and higher, and they never take action. That's a big separator. In order to achieve the impossible, you have to be willing to imagine it and actually allow your brain to go there, knowing you don't have all the information. I have a podcast, it's probably the most successful business podcast, you know, weekly podcast on the planet, entrepreneurship. Man, I started out, I didn't even know how to order the microphone. The first one I did, I didn't record it. I forgot to record it, right? Like, my son was the editor, he was 16, but I was willing to get into the space not knowing

• 31:15Ed Mylett?

  everything. I didn't know who the guest was gonna be. Man, I didn't even know how you posted it once you recorded it. I remember, I remember Tony Robbins was like, hey, man, you, you put that thing on the chip? I'm like, chip? He goes, in the recording device, dude, you have to have a microchip in there to record the show. And I'm like, shit. I didn't know that. I thought you just pressed record. He goes, what did you think you were recording it on? I'm like, the machine.

• 31:39Stephen Scoggins?

  Oh, gosh.

• 31:40Ed Mylett?

  There's a, so what if I would have thought about all I didn't know? I wouldn't have the number one show in the world. Yeah. So you gotta start to drive through the smoke.

• 31:48Stephen Scoggins?

  Yeah, no, gosh, that's so good. You know, I was just thinking too, one of the things that you mentioned in the book is this, that goals are energy. I've never heard somebody actually phrase it that way. Yeah. You know, there's lots of things on goal setting, make smart goals, let's do this. But then you said, goals are energy. And I got to thinking about it, I'm like, anything that I, that I intentionally went after with my, with my full heart, with my full self, always manifested in some way, shape or form, may not look like exactly like I thought it was gonna look.

• 32:15Ed Mylett?

  Or when you thought it would happen, either.

• 32:17Stephen Scoggins?

  Oh, yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Talk to me about goals and energy, because I had never heard someone actually say it that way before.

• 32:24Ed Mylett?

  Well, a goal is a thought, and a thought creates a space that didn't exist before you have it. And I'm not going to get really quantum on you, but it actually creates an energy field that didn't exist before you had it. So when you have a goal, it creates an energy around it. That goal now has a vibrational frequency, and the more you feed it, and the more it vibrates faster, and you start to feed it and feed it and feed it, its energy level can get up to a point where it achieves itself.

• 32:44Stephen Scoggins?

  Yeah.

• 32:45Ed Mylett?

  People don't look at it that way, but that's exactly how it is. I'm a Christian, you are as well. But I also believe there's an energy field that just the almighty created.

• 32:52Stephen Scoggins?

  Yep.

• 32:53Ed Mylett?

  And so I believe goals have energy to them. Now, having said that, I don't think you get all your goals. And I say it in the book. I think you always get your standards, though. And that's why the next chapter is on standards. Goals without standards are empty. What I really focus on is what my standards are that can help deliver on the goals that I have. So the goal creates the energy, the standard creates the delivery mechanism.

• 33:13Stephen Scoggins?

  Jeez.

• 33:16Stephen Scoggins?

  Can I be transparent with you about something? Please. So as a Christian, I've been on the fence for probably 24 months. Right? Because I, meaning not, not with my faith, but with elements of how quantum and energy and stuff relate to my faith.

• 33:35Stephen Scoggins?

  I discovered Dispenza's work, you know, a couple of years ago, probably when everybody else really started to, and I started to kind of go through some of his work and

• 33:43Stephen Scoggins?

  and it wasn't until you at Mac's Out Live, where you actually stood in front of him and said, "Look, I believe in Jesus, but I also believe in energy and I believe this resonance and this vibration is real." That I actually felt okay.

• 33:54Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 33:55Stephen Scoggins?

  Because I've been carrying that with me for so long, not sure, because you know, I I go to a, you go to a traditional pastor kind of scenario and not everybody kind of gets it. And then you can, if you go new, you go too far, new age, and then, then you kind of start losing a little bit of your faith. I've been walking this

• 34:09Ed Mylett?

  Me too, brother. The new age is like your God, and I don't buy that at all. Yeah, I know me really well. By the way, I'm really, no one's ever said that to me before, ever. And I have too. In fact, the chapter I wrote on faith and energy took longer than the rest of the book combined. And I really struggled with it because I wanted to honor my faith, the same time be honest about, listen, this, this interview is going well. Why? There's an energy frequency happening here.

• 34:32Stephen Scoggins?

  Yeah.

• 34:33Ed Mylett?

  You always know when you're in a space. God gave you this energy. God gave you discernment. Discernment is energy. Talks about it in the Bible. Doesn't call it energy, calls it discernment. But what discernment is, is you're sensing energy. Discernment tells you, this person, I don't, you ever meet somebody, you're like, nah, I don't feel it.

• 34:47Stephen Scoggins?

  Absolutely.

• 34:48Ed Mylett?

  What's that come from? That's discernment, which is energy. So you're already proving that there's an energy field. Or you've been, other people are like, man, I can't explain it. Man, I like this dude. I like her, right? That is an energy frequency. So to deny that is ridiculous. Also, highest energy wins. People that make us feel good. What is a feeling? It's an energy, right? It's an energy. So everything is energy. We're always feeling energy. Highest energy wins. I'm trying to transfer energy when I speak. So to deny its existence is insane. In fact, take churches. A really, a good church is on fire for the body of Christ has an energy that's infectious. And people are excited. Why do you want to bring, why do you want to bring people to church? Because the energy, the feeling, right? We do something special here. So actually, I think great pastors

• 35:32Ed Mylett?

  understand energy. And I will say this to you, it's, I struggle with it as well because I, I, um, as a, as a devout man of God, of as a Christian, I always worry I'm sounding new agey. Me too. Right? When I'm like, oh, you tap into this field. And so I always am, I always am reluctant, but I've, I've come to the conclusion that all of the beautiful things in life that have served me have come from the Almighty, have come from God. Yep. And I know energy exists. I think, and I think success has an energy. I think failure has an energy. I think slumps have an energy. We all know this. As I say it, you're all nodding. So to deny its existence is crazy. Having said all of that, I believe that energy is spirit. Yeah.

• 36:16Ed Mylett?

  And when I, when I speak, people, man, when you speak, sometimes I'm like, hey, man, that's not always me. That's the Holy Spirit. And I'm not sure how to put it all together quite yet, but I'm not so sure that the Holy Spirit doesn't have something to do with energy. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? And so I, I think we'll, you know, guys like you and I that talk openly about this stuff, maybe we'll find better ways to phrase it. Yeah. But we certainly feel it. We certainly know it. And I don't believe the fact that you buy into energy discounts the fact that you have a Lord in sake if you're. Yeah. And I think the notion of it's crazy. Does that mean you're not going to get criticism for people to think any word like that's blasphemous? Yeah, but I've just decided that's okay. I'm not religious. I have a relationship with God. It's my relationship with Jesus, right? And sometimes it's roaring and doing great. And sometimes I'm like, Lord, why are you doing this?

• 37:00Ed Mylett?

  Why are you, my dad died. What's going on here? I, I was at Chalk Hospital this week with kids that are, you know, one of the little boys has leukemia. You don't think for a minute I went, Lord, come on, man. Let's get this, you know, but I understand there's a higher purpose. I understand there's a calling. I understand there's an energy to it. So, man, I'm really appreciate you're transparent about that. It's, it's, it's probably the most difficult thing I've struggled with in my life, too.

• 37:21Speaker 01

  Here's a segment of Ed Mylett appearing on Mel Robbins podcast.

• 37:24Ed Mylett?

  They're the one. The second chapter of the book's called The Matrix. And the reason it's The Matrix is about the RAS, but also in The Matrix, Neo, they call him the one. See, when you see a really happy family, or a successful family, or both, if you go all the way back in their lineage, at one point, they weren't.

• 37:42Ed Mylett?

  It's true. And then the one shows up. The one arises in that family and stands up and goes, "The world's not treating my family like that anymore." The Mylett's arising up. We think different. We operate different in the world. And the one changes that family forever. And it's typically a lot closer than you think. My dad did say this to me. He'd go, "Eddie," and this is the whole premise of the book. He'd go, "I don't know about that beach house stuff, how you get there, but here's what I do know. It's closer to you than you think it is." And he goes, "Eddie, please don't spend your life thinking that's 100 years away. Because if you think like that, you will act in accordance with that belief, and you will perpetually keep your dreams that far away from you." And he said, "I think it's one decision away, one relationship away, one meeting away, one thought, one emotion away,

• 38:26Ed Mylett?

  you can change your life." And he goes, "Look at me. That one decision to get sober completely changed my life." And I've always believed this, Mel, because I believed it. It's been true. I'm one decision away. I'm one meeting away. I'm one this away. I'm one relationship away. And it's, I'm a stacking of those one more's in my life. The truth is, the difference between winning and losing in life is sometimes so small, it's almost too scary to talk about. And it's one new thought, like, "Hey, I'm gonna give myself a high five every morning." That one new thought can change your life. It's one decision. It's one dinner I walk into and I meet Mel Robbins at a dinner table with some other folks that I know. That changed my life. My life got better in that instance. And so, if you begin to believe this, then the question becomes, how do we find these one more's?

• 39:10Ed Mylett?

  What are the things we need to know in our mind to get them? What are the things we? What are they? Like, because I'm like, "Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah." Like, what are they? Well, there's a lot, and they're in the book, but one of them, for example, is the RAS, which is the filter that sort of reveals what's most important to you in your life. And so, you know exactly how it works, but for the benefit of everybody else, it keeps you sane. It's why you don't feel the blood rushing through your right ear right now. It's why when you walk in a crowded room and there's all this noise, but someone says Mel, not even loud, you can hear auditorily over all the noise, what's important to you, which is your own name. It's like, for me right now, I just bought a Tesla. I don't know if Musk is buying Twitter.

• 39:43Mel Robbins?

  You bought a Tesla?

• 39:44Ed Mylett?

  I did it. I did it because I like this dude's just disturbing stuff. I have no idea whether he's a good guy or not. I just, this guy's just rocking out a little bit. I'm like, give me.

• 39:53Mel Robbins?

  Which Tesla did you buy?

• 39:55Ed Mylett?

  I bought the Plaid. I bought the good one.

• 39:57Mel Robbins?

  What's that? I don't even know what that is. I, because my daughter was just, I was bitching about the fact that I now have to drive back and forth between Vermont and Boston.

• 40:04Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 40:04Mel Robbins?

  As if it's a problem. And she's like, why don't you get a Tesla and let the car drive you? And I was like.

• 40:10Ed Mylett?

  I like it. And I gotta tell you the other thing I like.

• 40:12Mel Robbins?

  Is this the, the thing with the wings?

• 40:15Ed Mylett?

  I don't know. Well, the doors open that way, but what it does do is that you can hit the mode and it'll drive for you. But I don't, I don't trust it. But what I do have that I like is I have this mode on the car that it, it'll not let you hit a car, even when you're driving. So like, if you're stupid and you're not going to break, it breaks. If you're drifted into the wrong lane, which I do all the time, it goes.

• 40:35Mel Robbins?

  I'm not surprised by that, by the way.

• 40:37Ed Mylett?

  I know, I know.

• 40:37Mel Robbins?

  I can't wait for the call that you're gonna have where you call me and you're like, Mel, you know that boat I bought in Miami? I just ran it up on some rocks in Maine.

• 40:46Ed Mylett?

  It's at the bottom of the Atlantic Ocean.

• 40:51Ed Mylett?

  That's actually way more likely than you might think. That's.

• 40:54Mel Robbins?

  I know.

• 40:56Ed Mylett?

  It's extremely possible. See, if you, oh my gosh, you saw me drive a boat and you see me drive, well, I'm not gonna comment. It's probably possible. I need the Tesla thing on the boat is what I need. But I bought this Tesla, right? It's crazy. It's driving my wife nuts. I'm like, babe, red Tesla, white Tesla. There's another white Tesla. Three lanes over the other side of the freeway going the other direction. I go, honey, there's a black Tesla. She's like, what is wrong with you?

• 41:19Mel Robbins?

  It's the RAS.

• 41:21Ed Mylett?

  It's the RAS. I said, these Teslas were always there.

• 41:24Mel Robbins?

  Our, our daughter, dude, this is happening to us. I'll give you a different car that, that is not a Tesla. So the, are you Subaru Crosstech? A Toyota RAV4? Uh, that, our daughter's shopping for her first car. And now she's like, everybody drives one of these things. I'm like, no, they don't.

• 41:41Ed Mylett?

  No, they don't.

• 41:42Mel Robbins?

  Yes.

• 41:43Ed Mylett?

  It looks like it, right? And that's because it's part of my RAS. Here's how life works. You already know this. If you can program your matrix, your RAS. That the Teslas of your life become these meetings, these decisions, these people, these relationships, these thoughts, these emotions, you got it. And what I'm here to tell you is that these things have always been around you, but you're oblivious to them because what's in your RAS are your fears, your anxieties, your worries, your to-do list, your problems. What's right in front of you, you see, and so you validate it and prove it to be true.

• 42:16Mel Robbins?

  So do you have an exercise that you recommend for people that are so mired?

• 42:21Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 42:21Mel Robbins?

  In the negative, like it's not going to work out. This is going to be awful. It never worked. Like, what is an exercise that you would tell somebody to do so that they can start to reprogram that way of thinking?

• 42:33Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, I'm a big believer in daydreaming, lucid daydreams.

• 42:37Mel Robbins?

  What does lucid daydreams mean?

• 42:39Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, lucid daydreams means very clear, very specific and repetitive. The big one is repetitive. So here's what you already do. Your mind moves towards what it's most familiar with. We all know this, or maybe most people don't know this, but it moves towards what it's most familiar with. And here's, I have a chapter in the book where I say, become an impossibility thinker and a possibility achiever. So I'm going to combine two things. I'll give you the technique.

• 42:59Mel Robbins?

  Okay.

• 42:59Ed Mylett?

  99% of the people in the world operate out of a frame of reference, a pattern of thinking that is history and memory. 1% of the people operate out of imagination and vision. This is a different frame of reference. Why, my friends, it's very difficult when I'm around most of my friends to go, remember when? You guys remember? Remember that? My friends almost never do that. If you surround yourself with people where you're reminiscing most of the time, not only do you operate out of memory and history, but you're reinforcing it with the conversations you have with people. I very, when you and I are talking, we're flying back with Jamie Kern Lima, there was no reminiscing. We're talking about the future and we're operating in the present. This is a different pattern of thinking and it must be, it must be worked on.

• 43:42Ed Mylett?

  And so why are we happier when we're kids? I have two philosophies. One, I think you were just more recently with God. And two, you operate out of imagination because you have no history and memory. But by the time you're about 10 years old, you begin to slowly operate of history and memory. Oftentimes, the history and memory of the emotions of your parents. Did you guys lose me?

• 44:03Mel Robbins?

  No, I'm thinking because this is super, super helpful to me right now. And it's super helpful to me right now because Chris and I just sold our family home where we raised our kids for 24 years. And I've lived there almost half my life. My parents have never sold the house I grew up in. My grandfather was born on the family farm that my mother was. This has never been modeled for me. And so I was not prepared for the avalanche of grief and panic and uncertainty that happened when all of a sudden in 24 hours the house sold.

• 44:41Mel Robbins?

  And I have spent the last three weeks in an up and down emotional breakdown around, like literally, when you said reminiscing, something snapped for me, Ed. Because I was like, oh, shoot. I am wallowing in the memory. And that is now becoming this like cyclone of sadness and regret and maybe we shouldn't have sold it and maybe this was too soon and maybe we weren't ready that has blocked my ability at times the last two weeks to even remember why we were all so excited and now is the time.

• 45:23Mel Robbins?

  And so it's the reflecting back and then allowing myself to stay there that has made the kind of grief that's normal with a transition that big really weigh me down. And so you just broke something open.

• 45:39Ed Mylett?

  Good.

• 45:39Mel Robbins?

  And gave me, I think, the keys to really connect back into what you and I both do so well, which is staying inside the imagining of where is this going and why are we doing this and what's possible? Because as we both know, the brain also can only imagine what you're losing. It can't actually imagine something beyond your wildest possibilities. And so I gotta get back the fuck into the imagination piece of this versus the memory and reminiscing and all that stuff.

• 46:15Ed Mylett?

  Yes, and what, and I love that that helps you. And what we do when we're reminiscing, or we're going down that pattern, is we're flashing in our mind pictures and videos of other times. We actually see them, and it creates this emotion in us. And so, this is not complicated. The most successful people are the people in life that can get very clear in their vision and their imagination repetitively. Like, when I work with top athletes, Mel, one of the things that, and by the way, there's really simple visualizations in the book that you just do very simply and you do it repetitively, and then I teach you like, "Slow it down. Now, speed it up." All it's doing is forcing you to focus on it. Add color to it. Make it black and white. It's very easy, and it'll change your life. But when I work with pro athletes, I'll give you an example.

• 46:59Ed Mylett?

  I work with a fighter who won last weekend in the UFC. And what he does when things get really fast, when he gets hit in fights, he speeds things up and awfully goes into brawl mode. And what happens is, it's when he's lost a couple fights. He had lost his last two fights. And I have a chapter in the book called "Equanimity: One More Level of Equanimity." When you were visualizing in your RES, things will begin to slow down like in The Matrix and Bullet Time. And in this particular fight, Mel, what was incredible is, he was getting hit, and he started to speed up, and you watch him consciously, I'm ringing in his ears, he steps back, and he gets, slows down and finds that equanimity. And he ended up knocking this guy out with a leg kick, Mel, that knocked the man out, I don't like this stuff, for four minutes out on the mat. It's one of the most devastating knockouts in the history of fighting.

• 47:43Ed Mylett?

  And afterwards, he gets interviewed, and he goes, "I don't know what happened. I've never practiced that leg kick before, in person. Only in my visions and imagination." And he executed it to save his career, to win the fight. And so, this is something you can do over and over again. One more thing on this visualization. We think we visualize well, but the more we practice it, it's a muscle. So when I work with like a B-level baseball player, I'll say, "Hey, let's visualize the pitch coming in." They'll go, "I got it, I saw it." I said, "Where'd you hit it?" They go, "Up the middle." I go, "Okay, good." Where's the camera? They go huh? I go, where's the camera? Is it over the center field camera shooting over the pitcher like you watched it on television? Or is it from the batter's box and you're

• 48:26Ed Mylett?

  watching the view out? Inevitably, average players will go, I'm not, I don't know. And I go, then you weren't really visualizing. Let's find the camera. They go, okay, it's uh, from the batter's box. I go, great. Can you see the rotation on the ball? Is the pitcher left or right-handed? Can you see the stitches on the ball as it comes in? And I make them start to see it more clearly. And then I'll say, can you see the ball hitting the bat? No. Well, let's work on that. Have the bat hit the ball. Do you see the stitches now rotating the other way back out? My point is that I'm getting them to visualize with specificity. But when I work with an all-star player, they do this naturally. The difference in their athletic ability is their ability to repetitively specifically visualize. And

• 49:07Ed Mylett?

  this is not complicated stuff. I even know when I say it, you already do it. Some of you with your fears and your worries, you're really good at this. You can visualize it with clarity and you can make it bigger and bolder. You can change it to black and white to make you really sad about it. You could slow it down. You could add sounds. So you already do this well.

• 49:26Mel Robbins?

  How do you interrupt that? So if you are in that negative visibility loop, right? Where I immediately, my, my visualization was, oh my God, we just sold the container that has held our family together for 24 years. Now that that's gone, I'm never going to see my kids.

• 49:47Ed Mylett?

  Yep. Yeah.

• 49:48Mel Robbins?

  How do you, how do you interrupt?

• 49:51Ed Mylett?

  You interrupt, you know what it is. It's a pattern interrupt. It's a pattern interrupt. Okay. And so I have this on how to create habits in the book. I teach you actually how to create a habit. It's a pattern interrupt. And so we'll just be real here. For me, it's usually a physical move. I'll move myself. I'll snap my fingers. I'll do a jumping. You may think that this is nuts. For me, a physical move will snap me out of a thought pattern. That's for me. For some people, it's an auditory thing. And this is so funny. I have someone that I coach right now, and I sneezed on one of our first calls. And this person goes into negative thought loop smell like you can't believe. Most people say, God bless you, right? Or excuse you or whatever. This person was old school, except she's young and she goes gazuntite. And I go, "What the fuck did you say?" She goes, "Kazoo-tight."

• 50:33Ed Mylett?

  I go, "I haven't heard that since my grandfather in like 1977." And so with her, we laughed about it. It was a belly laugh. That word then became a trigger for laughter. And so her way out of her negative thought patterns, this sounds so stupid. She goes, "Kazoo-tight, kazoo-tight." And she throws her arms back and we make a laugh out of it. And what happens is it doesn't put her into the good loop. It interrupts the negative one.

• 50:59Mel Robbins?

  Right.

• 51:00Ed Mylett?

  It's an auditory funny one. For a lot of people, it's a physical move. It's a snap of the fingers. It's a grab of the ear. And this is not complicated stuff. You ever watch an athlete? When they get into the batter's box, a baseball player, they'll tap the plate two times, adjust their batting gloves. Tom Brady gets over the center. "Let's fucking go." Peyton Manning used to say, "Omaha." These were plays, but they were also triggers.

• 51:25Mel Robbins?

  They were cues, right?

• 51:27Ed Mylett?

  Yes. And so it could be a physical, you and I both, by the way.

• 51:30Mel Robbins?

  Five, four, three, two, one. Boom. The five-second rule is a batter interrupter. Yeah.

• 51:35Ed Mylett?

  You got it. So that's the best one, but that's...

• 51:38Mel Robbins?

  Well, I don't use that crap that I, you know, teach.

• 51:41Ed Mylett?

  Stop it.

• 51:41Mel Robbins?

  No, I'm just kidding. Oh, well, when I am in a death spiral, I'm wallowing.

• 51:46Ed Mylett?

  And sometimes, though, sometimes it's a physical move for me.

• 51:49Mel Robbins?

  Yeah, I think a physical move's a good one. A snap of the fingers, I like that a lot.

• 51:53Ed Mylett?

  Okay, there you go.

• 51:54Mel Robbins?

  I like that a lot. That's good.

• 51:55Ed Mylett?

  Thank you.

• 51:56Mel Robbins?

  What do people not know about you?

• 51:58Ed Mylett?

  You're one decision away from completely changing your life. One new recruit, one new relationship, one new thought, one speaker away from totally changing your life. Here's how I know it. This is my dad. I gotta tell you this quickly. This is my dad and me. Goofiest picture ever. No idea why my team picked this. That's my dad and I. My dad's my favorite human being that's ever been here.

• 52:19Ed Mylett?

  Because he changed. See, if you really want to impress people, tell them how perfect you are. That's what most speakers would have come out here and done. But if you want to connect with people and you want to do this in recruiting, reveal to them your imperfections. Too many of you are trying to recruit like, "We're making big money." You know what you can say? "You know what? I'm struggling myself, but I'm gonna get this going." I have insecurities myself. I don't know everything, but I'll get you the answers. I'll tell you the truth. We'll root for you. We'll believe in you. Show them your imperfections when you recruit people. You will connect with them more deeply. Tell them where you come from. Tell them what your fears are. Tell them your anxieties. I promise you, I'm right. This is my dad and I at my sister's wedding, just to prove at one time, we were both good-looking men.

• 52:58Ed Mylett?

  This is my dad, my Papa, and me. I'm Edward Michael Joseph Mylett III. Papa there in the middle is Edward I. I want you to take note first of what my dad's wearing, which is his patented white golf shirt and glasses. My dad had no money. My dad played golf on my dime. Papa, on the other hand, was the man who believed in me when I was young. Did you have anybody when you were really young make you feel special? Like you were the special one? Picture their face right now. A teacher, your mama, your daddy, a grandma, a coach. Prove them right, because they were right. If they've passed away, honor them with who you become. A week after this picture, Papa died. The last picture I ever took with him.

• 53:43Ed Mylett?

  Papa has a 4th grade education. You wouldn't be impressed with that. Let me tell you why he has a 4th grade education. This is where I come from. His dad died when he was in the 4th grade. You know how his dad died? In a gutter in South Boston, in front of a bar. He drowned, drunk, passed out. That's where I come from. I went from that to here. You can go from where you are to anywhere you want to go. Papa, by the way, stormed the beaches of Normandy on D-Day. He's a stud. I remember when this happened, and yeah, I remember when this happened, thinking, "Oh, my gosh, Dad's in Papa's seat now, I'm in Dad's." Like that, like a flicker.

• 54:27Ed Mylett?

  You young people in here, I was once the young, cool dude in the front row. Now I'm the old, wise guy speaking, like that. You know what your problem is? Listen to me. You think everybody else is gonna die, not you. You know it's probably gonna happen, but you don't really believe it's gonna happen. So you're gonna get around to winning. You're gonna get around to making your dreams come true. You're gonna get around to making memories. You're gonna get around to giving your best. You're gonna get around to getting closer to God. You're gonna get around to making those things work. You're gonna get around to being happy. Until you can't get around anymore. This is me and my dad golfing. My favorite thing to do in the world was to sit in a golf cart with my dad for 5 hours and be with my best friend. He knew everything about me, I knew everything about him. We didn't agree on a whole lot either.

• 55:11Ed Mylett?

  That day, my dad, who has the exact voice I have, a deep voice, that day went,

• 55:20Ed Mylett?

  I'm like, "Well, you need to go to a doctor Monday, man." He did. Tuesday, he had a 12-hour surgery to remove a tumor the size of a football that had been growing in him for eight years that he didn't know about. He was diagnosed with liposarcoma, very rare cancer. And when he got the cancer, I'll never forget, my dad said, "Hey, listen, I'll fight this thing once, I'm not shriveling up, I'm not getting all wrinkled, not losing my hair, I'll fight this once, if it doesn't happen, that's it, I'm out." That's not what happened. My dad had surgery, surgery, chemo, chemo, radiation, proton therapy, chemo, surgery, surgery, experimental chemo, over eight years. And I would say, "Dad, why are you putting yourself through this horrible suffering?"

• 56:03Ed Mylett?

  My dad said, "Eddie, I'm not suffering, I am in pain, but I'm not suffering. Suffering's something we choose." He said, "Eddie, remember this, please, so you don't have to get sick, you will only understand the power and the blessing of having one more day until you're threatened with never having one again." "I'll do anything to have another day with your mama. I'll go to another chemo, another surgery, more pain to be with your mama. To me, to get to spend another day with you, we could no longer golf again." So I taught my dad all these visualizations of how to visualize he and I playing golf that I teach in my books. He said, "For me to get to my granddaughter's wedding, to go see my grandson Jacob play another football game, I'll do anything for one more of those. They're so precious."

• 56:44Ed Mylett?

  That's my dad about three years into chemo. He wore his golf shirt and his glasses every day. He couldn't play. And he started to shrink and shrivel, and he lost his hair. And every time I would see my dad, I would know I'm losing my best friend, my father, my hero. I'm losing him. If your parents are still alive, even though that may not be happening, listen to me, you're losing them. I had the blessing of God showing me it physically. Your children are losing you. The world will lose you. This is a year later.

• 57:33Ed Mylett?

  I don't give this talk a lot anymore and I don't like giving it because I don't like this picture.

• 57:41Ed Mylett?

  He's still wearing it.

• 57:46Ed Mylett?

  But I knew I was losing him. Thank God I knew because I sure appreciated him more. I sure listened a little closer. I sure picked up the phone when he called and didn't put him to voicemail. I sure figured out what really mattered, which is not a jet. In fact, my jet was parked a mile from my dad's house. He could walk to it. You know how many times my dad ever flew on my jet? Zero in his life. I said, "Dad, let's jump on the jet and go to Maui and play golf." He go, "Why would I go all the way there? I can be with my son and Chino. We can play." My dad was unimpressed with my wealth, my houses, never told anybody about it. It was always in the golf cart. You helping people? You being good to Christiana? You making sure you're getting time with the kiddos? You calling your sisters? What kind of a man are you? What kind of money do you have?

• 58:32Ed Mylett?

  What kind of a man are you? Okay? This is my dad in the hospital. I got, I got four minutes left. This is my dad in the hospital during COVID. First, take note of what he's wearing.

• 58:46Ed Mylett?

  My father would get up every day and shave and put his golf outfit on and visualize us playing golf. I would sit in the parking lot of Pomona Valley Hospital every day with my dad up because I couldn't go see him. I couldn't hug him. I couldn't touch him and he was a couple hundred feet away. And we would talk every day.

• 59:05Ed Mylett?

  This day, my dad called and said,

• 59:07Speaker 06

  "Hey."

• 59:09Ed Mylett?

  Sometimes my dad would breathe five times a minute, sometimes 25.

• 59:13Speaker 06

  "Hey."

• 59:14Ed Mylett?

  I said, "I'm downstairs, just working on the podcast, some other stuff. I'm good, writing this chapter for the book."

• 59:20Speaker 06

  "Okay."

• 59:21Ed Mylett?

  I said, "How are you doing?" He goes,

• 59:21Speaker 06

  "I'm good. Okay, kiddo. Okay." "We just played Pebble Beach." I said, "We did?" He goes, "Yeah."

• 59:30Ed Mylett?

  I said, "How'd you play?" He goes,

• 59:33Speaker 06

  "Lights out. I just played awesome. Shot 67.

• 59:39Speaker 06

  I finally burned it, 18. It's awesome."

• 59:42Ed Mylett?

  I said, "How'd I play?" He goes,

• 59:43Speaker 06

  "Oh, like shit."

• 59:48Ed Mylett?

  I go, "I gotta go."

• 59:49Speaker 06

  He goes, "All right, I gotta get some lunch."

• 59:53Ed Mylett?

  Two hours later, the phone rang.

• 59:56Ed Mylett?

  Hello?

• 59:58Speaker 06

  Hey!

• 59:59Ed Mylett?

  I go, "What's going on?"

• 1:00:01Speaker 06

  Yeah, uh... I wasn't honest earlier.

• 1:00:06Ed Mylett?

  I said, "What's up?"

• 1:00:08Speaker 06

  "I'm not doing so good."

• 1:00:11Ed Mylett?

  I said, "Okay."

• 1:00:13Speaker 06

  He goes, "Uh, I wanna go home."

• 1:00:17Ed Mylett?

  I go, "Dad, you can't go home. You know that."

• 1:00:19Speaker 06

  "No, no, I...

• 1:00:21Speaker 06

  Take me home. I wanna go home with mom. I wanna see you and your sisters tonight."

• 1:00:30Ed Mylett?

  I go, "Dad, stop it. We're gonna get you another steroid shot. You're crazy." He goes, "Listen to me." It's the power of one more.

• 1:00:34Speaker 06

  He goes, "Listen to me.

• 1:00:38Speaker 06

  Uh... I have one more day."

• 1:00:44Ed Mylett?

  What?

• 1:00:45Speaker 06

  Eddie, I have one more day.

• 1:00:49Speaker 06

  Please, let me go home.

• 1:00:51Ed Mylett?

  My stomach sank.

• 1:00:55Ed Mylett?

  I said, "I'm gonna call the doctor."

• 1:00:58Ed Mylett?

  I called the doctor. I said, "Hey, he's talking crazy." He goes, "I'd go get him, Ed. I'd send an ambulance. Take him home." I said, "What?" He goes, "Eddie, they know." I said, "Who's 'they'?" He said, "Someone who's gonna die. They know."

• 1:01:17Ed Mylett?

  This is four hours later. That's my dad coming home one more time.

• 1:01:23Ed Mylett?

  Walking through that front door one more time. In an ambulance. By the way, you're gonna come home one more time someday. Your husband, your wife, your mom, your dad, you. You will someday come through that front door one more time. Who do you wanna be when you come through that door? What do you want to accomplish? Seen, felt, experienced, tried, done, contributed? Who do you want to be in that one more day? It's coming for you at some point. That's my mom right there. His high school sweetheart, his wife of 50 years, watching her husband come through the door one more time. The staircase to her right, that you can see there, is the staircase I would send her

• 1:02:05Ed Mylett?

  up when I sat at that front door, as a little boy. That's the same front door of a man I was terrified of would come through. A totally different man came through that door 35 years later. A totally... You can come home a different person someday. You can totally change your life. I'm in this space, I'm giving this speech, I write my books, I do my show, because I know human beings can change, because I watched my father do it. Right left of that paramedic is the liquor cabinet, that I used to try to get him to avoid through the hallway. Totally different man came home. Who do you want to be?

• 1:02:44Ed Mylett?

  This is my father with one more hour left, and I'm holding his hand. He's still wearing the same clothes. My father refused to take morphine for the excruciating pain because it would violate his sobriety. About 20 minutes after this, I'm holding his hand, my dad goes... "I'm so proud of you. I can't believe God gave you to me, as my only son. I love you." And he closed his eyes.

• 1:03:25Ed Mylett?

  I've never said this, but I feel family here, so I'm gonna tell you something. I then, I got into the bed with my dad, and I held my dad, like he held me when I was a little boy. One of the most beautiful moments of my life, got to hold my dad, this man I was terrified of. And it made me think, who do I want to be in this moment, when my children are gathered around me? What do I want them to know about me? Who I became, what I did, who their dad was? Who's Kristiana gonna think her husband was? My sisters. Who do I want to be, when I've got one more hour left?

• 1:04:10Ed Mylett?

  And about 20 minutes later, he took one more breath. And he was gone. And his temporary pain was over. And I was a different version of me because of his pain. See, the other thing that's gonna happen is if you'll survive the temporary pain is it will change the people around you for the better. And my dad did that. So you know those pieces in your closet that you find yourself wearing like on repeat all the time? That sweater that kind of just goes with everything or these perfect pair of pants? Those are the pieces that make getting dressed easy and that's what Quince does best. Quince focuses on high quality wardrobe staples with premium materials like 100% Mongolian cashmere, organic cotton. The styles are timeless, versatile and designed to become the dependable pieces you reach for every day. It's what I'm wearing right now.

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• 1:06:21Ed Mylett?

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• 1:06:42Speaker 01

  Here's a clip of Ed Mylett appearing with David Meltzer, co-founder of Sports One Marketing.

• 1:06:47David Meltzer?

  I know in your book you talk about slowing down time, which if we could slow down time, right? Let's talk about baseball. Imagine if you could slow down time. Even I could bat, like you were leading the nation in average. I could be better than Ed Mylett if I could slow down time and slow that 95 mile an hour fastball down. How do you slow down?

• 1:07:07Ed Mylett?

  Well, that's the best question. It's chapter two. It's called The Matrix. And the best do exactly what you just said. Tom Brady has the ability to slow things down under duress and pressure. I have another chapter called Equanimity, one more level of equanimity. The athletes that get rattled, things speed up. I watched Michael Chandler fight this weekend, and Michael's been in some really intense fights a couple of times. He's a good friend of both of ours. And sometimes, under the duress in these fights, things have sped up for him, and it's not served him well. This fight, I watched him step back, get equanimity, and slow things down. And he executed one of the most dramatic knockouts ever. How do you do it? There's a thing in your brain called the reticular activating system. It's the filter that reveals the entire world to you of what's important to

• 1:07:49Ed Mylett?

  you. So I just bought a Tesla, for example. I just like what Musk is doing. I told my team, get me one of these Tesla Plads. Next day, it's in my driveway. And now, David, everywhere I go, there's Teslas everywhere. I mean, literally everywhere. In front of me, to the right, three lanes over, other side of the freeway. I'm like, babe, another white Tesla. Here's the thing. They were always there, but they've become important to me. So my RAS now filters them into my awareness. You begin to see, feel, and hear things that were always around you, that were not a part of your awareness and your filter. So the key thing to slow things down. Tom Brady, when he's pre-snap, he slows things down. His RAS finds the coverage and the open receiver. The rookie quarterback finds the covered guy. So the difference in life is, can you make your dreams, your

• 1:08:32Ed Mylett?

  goals, the meetings, those relationships, those thoughts, your Teslas? And the way you do it is by repeatedly reprogramming your reticular activating system in your brain. And I go very detailed on doing it. And the other reason I love The Matrix as an analogy is that Neo is the one. They call him the one and in every family, the one eventually shows up in your family. You're it Dave and mine, I'm the one, meaning you find a rich and successful family. If you go back in their lineage, it's somewhere they weren't. And then the one shows up, the one that changes everything for that family that cares for their mom like you do, right? That just changes everything, how they live, how the world treats them, how they think, their emotions, the one shows up. So Neo in the matrix is the one.

• 1:09:16Ed Mylett?

  I teach you how to be the one in your family by using your RAS to slow things down. So you see here and feel things that were always there that can change your life.

• 1:09:27David Meltzer?

  And one of the other things that you do really well is utilize that time. So not only can we slow down time, but utilize the time productively with accessibility. When I say accessibility, people would be amazed how accessible Ed Mylett is. You know, I've always found it interesting that Mark Cuban, Ed Mylett, Jack Canfield, Bob Proctor would always immediately text me back or email me back. And yet everyone perceives them differently. So accessibility is not only accessing what you want, but it's accessible to others to give of yourself and be of service. And then also this lens of gratitude intertwined in productivity, accessibility, meaning there's

• 1:10:08David Meltzer?

  a nuance in your book that when we look at being grateful, finding the light, the love and the lessons, having faith and everything, we have to integrate time. Is it worth my time to spend with Ed Mylett over Gary Vaynerchuk, right? Which one's going to feed me more or whoever or whatever we're doing. And so many people don't reconcile time into the productivity, accessibility and gratitude lenses of our activities during the day. How do you, cause I know you talk about 21 days in a week. I talk about the power of 64, 64 hours of productivity a day. Six, I get 60, so eight times seven, 56 days a week. You're only at 21, brother. I can start mentoring you, but more importantly, how do you do that?

• 1:10:53David Meltzer?

  Because we can beat people with time in a quantitative sense.

• 1:10:57Ed Mylett?

  Well, that's the, it's one of the most important chapters in the power of one more. Here's the deal. The 24 hour day is the most archaic, antiquated, ridiculous concept that is currently existing in mankind. My second day is noon to 6pm and in that same thing, I want to get as much productivity, contacts, calls, fitness, faith, whatever it is in that day. Third day is from 6pm to midnight and some days, these are just chill days, right? Some of these are just family days. But the point is, what happens now is because I've shrunk and compressed timeframes at the top of every day. Like around noon every day, this alarm clock goes off, my head says, hey, what did I get done the last day? What do I need to redouble? What do I need to be accountable for? What did I miss? So instead of, you know, average person, once a year checks off with themselves, New Year's resolutions.

• 1:11:38Ed Mylett?

  Really productive people, maybe they do it once a month or at the end of the week. Some people end of their 24 hour day, alright, what do I have to do tomorrow? But I'm now doing it three times in a normal day. So two things happen. Number one, I get 21 days a week. I get way more productivity. And these are real days too. You can actually get a full day's work done in them. But the other thing that's important about it is other people begin to respond to you differently. Because now, time is precious. That's why diamonds are more valuable than paper, right? Which rare is precious. The more rare your time is, the more precious it is, the more other people respond to you in a particular way. So it's one of the most, I would say, single handedly, there's maybe five things in the book that are all really detailed. I don't know where they rank, but this is on there somewhere where I completely changed my perception of what a day looks like.

• 1:12:21Ed Mylett?

  And then the last thing is this, in life, you don't always get your goals. You don't. People say, I want more self-confidence. Everybody knows, keep the promises you make to yourself, you'll probably get more self-confidence. Because self-confidence is a relationship and reputation with yourself. And if you can keep the promises you make to you, you're gonna be a pretty productive person. But what if you had a higher standard? There's a chapter called "One More Higher Standard." You always get your standards. You don't always get your goals. But if your standard is, "I always do one more, I always do one more." Now I keep the promises I make to myself and one more. I'm gonna tell my daughter I love her every day and one more time. I'm gonna do 10 reps on the bench and one more. I'm gonna make 10 contacts and one more. I'm gonna text message five friends, tell them I love them and care about them today and one more.

• 1:13:06Ed Mylett?

  Now you've changed your life, the way you manipulate time, because your standard is different for how you conduct yourself.

• 1:13:13David Meltzer?

  And you've elevated that standard, which has an energetic aspect to it. We have a frequency that also gets into that particular side of things where things become, or you become aware of them by what we think, say, do, believe, and feel. Those five different levels. It gives us a deeper purpose. And you and I are both extremely faith-based people. And through that aspect of faith, we integrate energy and quantum science, the mathematical side of things. How does your purpose and faith that is integrated together relate to energy and quantum science, the quantitative side of the world?

• 1:13:52Ed Mylett?

  No one's asked me that. So that was the hardest chapter for me, brother. One more prayer. Because I wanted to talk about my faith, because I'm a faith-based person, but I also didn't want to put off people who didn't share my faith. And because I'm also science and quantum-based, I believe there's a quantum field. In fact, I don't believe it, I know it. I just happen to believe there's an almighty creator that created it, that's all. I don't know why that's in conflict with people. And so, right? So there's this whole notion that, well, if you're faith-based, you're not scientific or energy. And if you're energy-based, you're not faith-based. You and I know tons of pastors and rabbis that are very energy-based people that are also dogmatic in their faith. And so, why do I love you so much? Because we vibrated a similar frequency, and so there's a connection there. We've all felt energy before.

• 1:14:36Ed Mylett?

  We've all been able to vibrate at a frequency where they're becoming answers to things that really we're not capable of answering on our own. And so, for me, I know I feel energy. The key thing for most people is that if you don't believe in energy, you don't really believe in influence. You don't believe in inspiration. You don't believe in connection. You're always making people feel something. You're always emanating an energy. You ought to start to take control of what that is and be intentional about it and work at it. Because that is, energy is influence. Energy is love. Energy is emotion. And so every part of my-

• 1:15:08David Meltzer?

  And money, and money, don't forget money.

• 1:15:11Ed Mylett?

  Everything is. And so it all has an energy frequency, a vibrational frequency. And so although I'm extremely faith-based, I'm a Christian. You and I have sat around and talked about these things many, many times. I'm blown away by the fact that I, that people would think, well, that would, I would deny the fact that there's quantum energy in the world. That's like denying that there's gravity. I just happen to think that the gravity and nature and oxygen, the way it relates with animals and all that stuff came from one place. But having said that, I'm very much, you know, some of my dearest friends are the people that are the best in the world that are like Dr. Joe Dispenza. So, and yourself, and others whom I admire greatly. So I'm super energy-based, I'm super quantum-based. And I can tell you that I believe even this podcast has a particular energy frequency to it that people will respond to,

• 1:15:53Ed Mylett?

  different than other ones, because there's two dudes that vibrate a particular way, spending some time together.

• 1:15:58David Meltzer?

  You know what's so amazing is we grew up similar in so many respects, but also differently in our faith. And yet we ended up in the same place as faith. And one time when we first met, you had a statement and you said, "God is good." And it wasn't just you were saying it. I, I almost cried when you said it. And I thought to myself, 20 years ago, if I met Ed Mylett, because I was at a different frequency, I would have had judgments and conditions that separated a brother of mine, someone that I'm so connected to and through, inspirationally, energetically, and I would have let those three words, which I state every day as many times as I can today, and believe full-heartedly,

• 1:16:40David Meltzer?

  despite my background, which is different than yours religiously in the dramatic sense. And no one in the world, I think I share beliefs with as much as I do Ed Mylett, and I hope he takes that as the compliment. I mean, I study very hard to understand that. Why do you think people resist that defining moment for me in faith? That, look, there's something bigger than us that loves us more than our mom loves us. And that gives me the faith to be protected and promoted at all times. And everything I look upon, I say to myself, "God is good." And I don't want to separate- myself from anyone when I say that, but I know that there's listeners right now going, I didn't know David Meltzer was was a Jesus freak.

• 1:17:24David Meltzer?

  You know, I know they're saying it, and I know they're saying it. I know my rabbi brother is saying, oh, my God, did he not learn anything? But I believe God is good, and so do you. And that's what has blessed me to be where I am today with you on this podcast.

• 1:17:39Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, brother. I love you. I think that it's resisted because the truth is that religion has gotten the way for a lot of people getting to know God. And religion's done a lot of negative things in life. It's done a lot of positive things too, but organized religion. I think even some of my most devout pastor friends would say, hey, there's it's bumped up on doing some stuff. There's been a lot of wars over religion. Right? There's been a lot of judgment over religion. And I don't really, I guess I'm religious in the sense that I'm a Christian, but I'm not a religious person in the sense that I subscribe to a particular dogmatic church. And so I think that's what the gap is. I think, and by the way, I think it's a it's a

• 1:18:19Ed Mylett?

  a reasonable assessment of people over time. I'm I know something you don't know. I'm right, you're wrong. Right? And and that's not something God would ever say. That's not something that's true. And so what I have is a relationship with God, which means it ebbs and flows. When my dad died, I wasn't happy with God, right? When my dad got cancer, I'm like, what's going on here, man? What are we doing? Right? So it's okay to question one's faith. In fact, if you don't, someone that never questions their faith never will never grow in it. And so I just think the answers to life lie there. And I would just tell everybody to embrace your version of what God is. And the more you explore that in your heart, I think the more, by the way, any of you listening to this, here's what I do know about you.

• 1:19:00Ed Mylett?

  You wonder, you wonder, it's a calling that's been on your heart since you were a little boy or a little girl. You've always wanted to know. You always want to do explore that. In fact, it's always going on in the back of your mind. What's true? What's life all about? What happens when I die? Right? Most importantly is what happens when I live. And so I think these questions are beautiful and I don't think you should avoid them. And I think you should be open to whatever inspiration and answers you get. And not use the judgment of other human beings or dogmatic religion from people to cause you to be suppressed in your pursuit of it. Because it's a beautiful pursuit. It's what life's all about. And you will find more bliss and happiness as you find your version of those answers.

• 1:19:42David Meltzer?

  And that beautiful pursuit in this idea of one more takes that faith, that that understanding. And you've really helped me understand what is the paradox or the paradigm of my life. That I don't need to go get more healthy, more wealthy, more happy, more worthy. Because of my faith, I am happy, healthy, wealthy and worthy. I just gotta figure out what I'm doing to interfere with it. And the concept, the, the, the concept of one more to me is clearing the interference. Is clearing the interference. Cause every time we say I'm gonna call my daughter, you know, I have minimums in my life. I'm gonna call her one more time or one more minute, which isn't easy with teenage girls.

• 1:20:26David Meltzer?

  But I'm going to do it, even if they, I feel rejection at times. But it's never too late to have this one more philosophy of clearing the interference of our potential. And everyone has different potentials. How come so many people think, well, it's too late?

• 1:20:43Ed Mylett?

  Yep, because they're carrying around baggage of the things they're ashamed of, the things they failed at. They think they're defeats. They think they're invisible. They think they're not qualified. Um, they're not special. Uh, you don't know about the things I'm embarrassed by. You don't know about my bankruptcy, my divorce, my financial setback, this sin I've had. And we carry those things around with us. And because, so we think that somehow that disqualifies us from helping other people and living our best life. In fact, the, the opposite is actually true. I gotta tell you something, bro. I haven't told you this yet. So I wrote this book, The Power of One More. Basically when my dad died and, and all the lessons in it. About two weeks ago, I woke up about three fifteen in the morning crying.

• 1:21:25Ed Mylett?

  This is just for me and you, but everybody gets to listen and it answers your question perfectly. And I woke up and I told, I woke Christian up. I said, babe, and she goes, yeah, because what changed my family life forever is my dad got sober. That one decision changed our family. I'm not talking to you right now. If my dad doesn't do that, I don't help millions of people unless my dad makes that one decision. And I said, babe, she was what? I said, someone helped daddy.

• 1:21:50Ed Mylett?

  She said, what, honey? I said, someone helped my dad. And I've never thought about it before. Someone helped my dad get sober. She was, oh, my God. I said, I don't know who they are. That family by helping my dad changed millions of other people's lives and Max and Bella's lives, my children, are deeply affected by this precious soul helping my dad in some quiet place in some room, somewhere that no one will ever know about. And I said, here's what's amazing, babe. Do you know what qualified that person to help my dad?

• 1:22:27Ed Mylett?

  Their messed up life. They were a drunken and alcoholic. All their mistakes, all the things they were ashamed of, all their life experience. That's what qualified them to change my dad's life and change my life and change millions of other, whoever this person is. It's some quiet coffee shop somewhere or a room somewhere. They saved my family. Little did they know, all those years they were drinking and using drugs was preparing them to change the world. And it just occurred to me two weeks ago. So if you're listening to this, your mistakes, your setbacks, your experience, your failures,

• 1:23:05Ed Mylett?

  your sins are the very thing. That mess is your message. It's the very thing that qualifies you with your intent to serve, your giftedness and your experience to make a difference in the world and live greatly. And there's no better example of that than whoever this precious soul is that changed my family and millions of families forever because they were an alcoholic at some point in their lives.

• 1:23:32David Meltzer?

  And there's great significance to that in our lives. You know, one of the things that I can't still fathom is the size, scope and scale of how, what I call the protection and promotion in my life, the mistakes, failures, setbacks and sins, as I see them as a hot stove that as a three-year-old I try to reach out to. And of course, my mom slapped my hand and she's never really hit anyone and screamed at me and she screams at very few. And I immediately said, why am I being punished? Because I didn't understand the stove was gonna burn me. And you know, here with faith, whatever your dogmatic beliefs are, with faith, there's something bigger than us that loves us more than my mom loved me at that moment to protect me. There is no punishment.

• 1:24:15David Meltzer?

  That person that saved your father and saved his legacy and saved his family and now has saved millions around the world because it has given you the opportunity to be saved, to be saved from yourself, from the lessons and the love and the light that has always existed through you to others. But I can't still, I get choked up, fathom when we have a young kid that begs me, "Hey, Mr. Meltzer, there's only two podcasts in the world I listen to, Ed Mylett and you, and can I please meet him? He has changed my life. I come from the Bronx and this family and you know, and I've got a college education.

• 1:24:54David Meltzer?

  I'm inspired to do great things, to be kind to my future self and to do good deeds in the world, to touch other people exponentially, brother, right? Exponentially doubles. And I see you doubling the thousands and then millions of people that are gonna sit there someday and say, "Thank you, Ed Myletter, thank you, whatever the name of those guys were on their podcasts together that somehow planted a seed or watered a seed that changed an entire legacy." How do you deal with the importance of the ability to touch that many lives?

• 1:25:33Ed Mylett?

  First, I love you. You're special. You're the special one of all this stuff I've been doing. And I know you know that I feel that way. I don't know why I'm gonna get emotional too. It's just, first off, I'm gonna step back. It's pretty cool that two rich guys are talking about this stuff.

• 1:25:50Ed Mylett?

  There's very few profound conversations and you and I've had several of them now and I'm glad this one's being recorded. I just deal with it like this. I don't think God calls qualified people. I think he qualifies called people and I just feel like I'm called to do this. And one of the things I talk about in the book is like, how do you change your identity and your self-confidence? And I say, well, there's a trilogy, faith, intention, and associations. But the second one's a biggie. How do I deal with it? Because I'm not, I don't have every answer. I do make mistakes. I'd like to sound, I'd like my life to be as smooth and as beautiful and as elegant as it sounds like in an interview, but it's not. There's mistakes I make all the

• 1:26:31Ed Mylett?

  time. But I know this about me. When I was a very young man, I know you know the story. Well, not that young compared to a lot of people listening. I was 30 years old. I won an incentive trip to go to Hawaii. And I'm running down the beach in the morning before the sun got up. And this man's running towards me and he gets closer and closer and closer. And I realize it's Wayne Dyer. And those of you young bucks, if you don't know who Wayne Dyer is, Google him. But Dave definitely knows who he is. And I said, we were, I was running with a Sony Walkman on, Sony Walkman. And I go, Dr. Dyer, you changed my life. And he lifted off his Walkman after he had ran by me. He goes, I doubt that. I bet you changed your life. But he goes, how did I help you? And he walked towards me and we sat on the beach together and watched the sun come up. Can you imagine? And at that time, he was

• 1:27:16Ed Mylett?

  writing a book called The Power of Intention. And here's what he said to me, and I'll impart this wisdom on to everybody else on this topic. He said to me, Ed, you're going to change the world. And I'm sure he had said that to other people, but for me in that moment, it felt like I was the only person he goes, and it's, there's a, there's a spirit about you. There's a, God gave you this voice and he gave you this ability to communicate. You're brilliant. And I'm like, just my hero's saying this to me. And he goes, and none of that's why you're going to change the world. You're going to change the world because you intend to do well. You intend to serve. You intend to contribute. He said, I sense beautiful intentions on you, Edward.

• 1:27:52Ed Mylett?

  And I knew that was true of me. I've never believed I was talented or smart. I've never believed I was special, but I do know my heart. I do know I intend to help people. And he goes, the rest of your life, never link your confidence to your ability to do something, link it to your intention to serve. And I've never forgotten that. That makes me emotional because I'm not the most talented guy in the world. I'm not the smartest. I'm not the biggest, the fastest, the strongest, the blah, blah, blah. I'm none of those things. But I do have a pretty good heart. I do intend to serve people. And so before I do a podcast like this, before I give a speech, before I do any business meeting, I do remind myself of my intent and I have tremendous confidence in my intentions. And I would acknowledge, I would tell everybody out there, maybe you should take a page out of that book. Maybe

• 1:28:34Ed Mylett?

  you should read that chapter in my book too. But your intention to contribute, to have a pure heart, to serve people, to make a difference, is where your confidence should come from. Because you'll find, whether it's your God, or the energy field, or a combination of both, the answers will come your way. The answers, you will find the people, places, and things that you need that are requisite to you delivering on this intention you have. But it starts with the intent. And that's how I carry that, you know, that not burden, but honor and privilege of some people wanting to hear what we have to say is that I know I intend to help. And usually, the spirit helps me move them in the right way.

• 1:29:10Speaker 01

  Here's a clip of Ed Mylett appearing on the podcast, The School of Greatness, with host, Lewis Howes.

• 1:29:16Lewis Howes?

  I mean, you're at a stage right now, 51, you're going into the 50s decade. You've accomplished so much, you've, you know, made so much, you've got the homes, the pla- I've been to a lot of your homes, I've been in a plane of yours, I've seen the lifestyle. It's an amazing lifestyle that you've created for yourself. You had nothing, you had a vision in your mind, and then you got yourself to that vision.

• 1:29:37Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 1:29:38Lewis Howes?

  What excites you for this next decade? What are you thinking about now that you have everything externally, let's say? I'm sure you want to create more and build more, but what is the main mission for the next nine years of this decade?

• 1:29:51Ed Mylett?

  I want people, brother, I'm so glad you said this. I believe all this stuff's connected. I'm not like this Zen entrepreneur, but sometimes I come across that way. I believe entrepreneurs and business people in general are the change agents in the world. I don't believe it's going to come from a political movement. I believe that entrepreneurs like ourselves are the people that are going to change the world. And I believe the planet's at a tipping point. And I think that we're trending in a direction where we're, people, so many people feel invisible. So many people feel that they lack something. There's a lack of kindness and gentleness and love, particularly expressed by business people. Business people in general, the last thirty years have contributed to this in a major way.

• 1:30:36Ed Mylett?

  The brutal nature of business, the cutthroat nature of it. And I think the next ten years that entrepreneurs, hopefully people like myself that are in thought leader space, can begin to show people that entrepreneurs are the ones who can bring the most love and change and solutions to people's lives. And for me, because I do have this platform, I want everyone to feel seen. I want people to know you do matter. That person, that alcoholic and drug addict that helped my dad mattered big time. Yeah. And you matter. And we need more people to come to you and say, you matter? And here's the actual reasons why you matter. It's not just a saying, you matter because of this. And I want to give people the tools and the resources to do it. I really would love to think that when I'm done,

• 1:31:19Ed Mylett?

  that all of us collectively have turned the corner on this way we treat one another in the world. Yeah. Concerns me so deeply, man, that my experience every single day with most people is that we have a lot in common. And that we really do want to love and care for one another. And that sometimes success gets in the way of that. The financial pursuit gets in the way of it. Some of these thought leader entrepreneurs that are so aggressive about money, money, money, money, money. And I don't mind that because I think that that money can do a lot of good. But I believe there's a more beautiful and elegant way to get there. I don't think business has to be brutal. I think that there's an elegant and beautiful way to create wealth in your life and bliss

• 1:32:02Ed Mylett?

  that's, there's not a lot of examples of, and I intend to be one of those examples.

• 1:32:07Lewis Howes?

  And for those that want to become more entrepreneurial, but maybe have that fear of believing in themselves. Would you say there's a shift in the mindset between scarcity and abundance when it comes to money? Like, do you remember a time when you didn't have any?

• 1:32:21Ed Mylett?

  Yes.

• 1:32:21Lewis Howes?

  And then it started to shift and it started to really roll? Was there like a shift in the mindset or what?

• 1:32:26Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, I was raised thinking that wealthy people got their money kind of through some ill-gotten means. And that, you know, that maybe you had to be a little bit cutting corners or shady or something to get money.

• 1:32:38Lewis Howes?

  Some illegal stuff or whatever, yeah.

• 1:32:39Ed Mylett?

  Yeah, just, you know, maybe just hurt people to get it, is what I thought. And so, yeah, I started to have, when I started to make some money, I used to, Christiana and I, when we were kids, we actually live on the actual beach I used to walk on with my wife when we were in high school. I know, isn't that crazy?

• 1:32:53Lewis Howes?

  In Laguna.

• 1:32:53Ed Mylett?

  In Laguna. And I would say, babe, I'm gonna get you one of these houses someday. And she goes, you will? I go, yeah. How? I don't know yet, but I'm gonna get you one of these houses. I would ask my dad, I'd go, Dad, who are these people that live in these ocean? Who are they? Like Martians?

• 1:33:07Lewis Howes?

  On a cliff over the ocean.

• 1:33:09Ed Mylett?

  Who are they? My dad would go, I don't know, but man, I wonder how they got there. You know, I don't know. And then what I would do is I'd go touch my dream once in a while. So like on a weekend.

• 1:33:19Lewis Howes?

  I love you do this, yeah.

• 1:33:21Ed Mylett?

  You move towards what you're most familiar with, right? So I would go, hey babe, let's go. If I make 12 sales this month or X, Y, Z, we're gonna do one night at the Ritz-Carlton in Laguna Beach in Dana Point. And we'd go down there and get the valet and I'd give the dude my keys and feel like a big shot. I had like five bucks to tip him, you know? And then we'd check into the hotel and she'd go get a massage and I'd go play golf. Then we'd hang out at the pool and have a nice bottle of wine. Just one night, every 60 days, touch it and then go back. Then we'd do it again, then we'd do it again, then we'd do it again. All of a sudden I became familiar.

• 1:33:49Lewis Howes?

  You'd do it every week.

• 1:33:50Ed Mylett?

  Your mind starts to become familiar with this dream, right? And then I'd meet the people that were there. I was like, these are actually pretty nice people. A lot of them are very kind. Many of them are very charitable. Not all of them. But you know what? Not all of the broke people I know are very kind. In fact, these are just human beings that have solved people's problems, that are willing to take risks, that are willing to dream. And so the more familiar I became with my dream and the people associated with them, the more I became comfortable, and the more I thought I belonged there. Over time, you begin to believe you belong in your dreams when you touch them periodically. And so for me, it just was this periodic shift of... Actually, a lot of them have helped people.

• 1:34:30Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, that's cool.

• 1:34:30Ed Mylett?

  A lot of them make a difference, and you know that as well. You've interviewed some of the richest people in the world. And not all of them are great people.

• 1:34:36Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:34:36Ed Mylett?

  But about the same percentage that are broke are good people, and richer are good people.

• 1:34:40Lewis Howes?

  What's the one skill you would like to develop in the next nine years?

• 1:34:44Ed Mylett?

  I'd like to develop the skill of more presence, and I want my meditation abilities to expand. I'm a pretty good meditator, but I think there's another level I could get to of emptying my mind more regularly. I would like to be able to do that. I would like to have the skill of being more comfortable in public environments. I'm good in them, but I'm... A lot of people can relate to this. I'm very drained when it's over.

• 1:35:08Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, I know the feeling.

• 1:35:08Ed Mylett?

  You know?

• 1:35:09Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 1:35:09Ed Mylett?

  And I'd like to be charged up by being around people more than I am drained by it. It's not that I don't love them, I do, but there's an element of me that's working at it. And it's... Because my love for people is off the charts, I know you can relate to this.

• 1:35:22Lewis Howes?

  You have so much energy when you're on stage, you bring, you know, all of it.

• 1:35:26Ed Mylett?

  All of it. So do you, right? You know what that's like. And so I'd like to have that ability to enjoy that more. And I think probably the pathway to doing it, though, is my meditation. And so for me, it's just I want to grow that part of my life, that muscle.

• 1:35:39Lewis Howes?

  That's powerful, man. I'm so excited about this book. I got to dive into some of it. I want to get to the rest of it, though.

• 1:35:45Ed Mylett?

  Thank you.

• 1:35:46Lewis Howes?

  But "The Power of One More: The Ultimate Guide to Happiness and Success." I can't recommend enough to buy a few copies of this, give it to your friends, do a book club, and share this out on social media. "The Power of One More." It's going to be a very inspiring book for you. It's going to help you transform the way you think, your emotions, your actions. So make sure you guys get a few copies of this book. And make sure to support Ed, follow you on social media. You've got an amazing podcast. I had a great time. on there. You have some incredible people and you ask amazing questions as well. So make sure you check out your show, um, social media. You're mostly on Instagram and YouTube.

• 1:36:23Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 1:36:23Lewis Howes?

  You on any other places?

• 1:36:24Ed Mylett?

  I'm on, I'm on Twitter and Facebook and all that, but you know, my podcast is on all the platforms too, all the audio platform.

• 1:36:29Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. But edmylett.com is where they should get the book?

• 1:36:32Ed Mylett?

  Yeah. No, you can get your book anywhere. Go anywhere that books are sold. And if you go to the power of one more.com, there's a great tools on there that'll help you with the book, enhance the experience of the book. And it's a heavy book. I'll be honest with you, there's a lot of tactics and strategies in there. So if you want to read a heavy book that'll really help you, there's, it does not lack for details.

• 1:36:49Lewis Howes?

  I love this, man. Um, how else can we be of service to you?

• 1:36:54Ed Mylett?

  Oh, brother, I want to see you keep changing the world. I want you to continue to grow. I'm so proud of you. I love you. You're the future.

• 1:37:00Lewis Howes?

  Thanks, man.

• 1:37:01Ed Mylett?

  And, um, I mean, you know, I told you I got in here today. I just watching you shine makes me so happy.

• 1:37:06Lewis Howes?

  Thanks, man.

• 1:37:06Ed Mylett?

  And I just want you to be enjoying and loving your life. And the way that everybody can help me is just be kinder to people and be kinder to yourself.

• 1:37:13Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 1:37:14Ed Mylett?

  And really, really begin to operate out of your dreams and your imagination. If you're a praying person, those dreams and your imagination are a form of prayer and they can be answered.

• 1:37:22Lewis Howes?

  Absolutely. Um, this is a question I've asked you before. It's called the three truths. So imagine it's your last day on earth, many years away. You get to accomplish everything. You're the best meditator in the world now. You're more present, loving, all these, all these things, you know, you've accomplished everything and you've been the man you want to be.

• 1:37:41Ed Mylett?

  Yeah.

• 1:37:41Lewis Howes?

  But for whatever reason, it's the last day, and this could be any time in the future. Uh, and you can't leave behind the wisdom that you've shared, the books, the podcasts, the videos, it's all gone for whatever reason, hypothetical. But you have three things you can leave behind, three lessons to the world. This is all we would have of your wisdom. What would those three truths be for you?

• 1:38:04Ed Mylett?

  One, there's a God in heaven who loves you that made him, made you and your image and likeness and his image and likeness. So there's a God in heaven. Two, you were born to do something great with your life in big ways and small ways, just like that person who helped my dad. They thought that was a small thing. It may not be on Instagram. It may not get 20 million likes or views, but you were born to do something great. I'm gonna say that to you again. You, you were born to do something great with your life. You are not average and ordinary. And the third thing is this, there's a power to doing one more. And if you'll do one more, your one decision, one relationship, one meeting, one encounter, one thought, one podcast interview, one book away from a completely different life, you don't lack vision, you lack depth perception, you think you're

• 1:38:48Ed Mylett?

  further than you are and you keep keeping it in that distance because you think it's so far away, you're one more away. I'll give you the last example of it. Played golf two weeks ago with this dude. Everyone says, "You gotta meet this dude." He's a similar net worth. I show up to the first tee, he goes, "Man, Ed Mylan, big fan, I can't wait to spend the next five hours talking about you." I go, "That ain't how it's gonna work, bro. I already know about me. I wanna know about you." And he goes, "Well, I can tell you the whole thing on the first tee." I go, "Give it to me. You gotta hear this, Louis." He goes, "1986, I loaned a guy 50 grand. So did my best friend." I said, "You both loaned him 50 grand?" He goes, "Yep." He goes, "A week later, my friend got cold feet, asked for the money back. I kept the loan. It turned into 750 million dollars."

• 1:39:25Lewis Howes?

  Holy cow.

• 1:39:26Ed Mylett?

  I said, "Come again?" He goes, "750." I said, "Who'd you loan that money to?" "Jeff Bezos."

• 1:39:31Lewis Howes?

  Holy not.

• 1:39:33Ed Mylett?

  I said, "Come on, man, are you serious?" He goes, "Yeah." I go, "Man, you really were one decision away, one relationship away from totally changing your life." He goes, "Yeah." Now, that's an extreme example. I don't have one of those, but I'm a series of those one more's in your life, and so is everybody listening to this. So you're one away, one relationship, one meeting, one person, one thought away from changing your life.

• 1:39:53Lewis Howes?

  That's a good story, I know. Before I ask the final question, I'll acknowledge you, Ed.