Bonus #168 - Tony Deyo [PATREON PREVIEW]

Patreon preview. Unlock full episode at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld Tony Deyo joins the pod to discuss his new special RACCOON MAFIA (out now on Youtube!), his expertise in playing six-mallet marimba, not having played the marimba in decades despite having a Master’s in it, touring with Chevy Chase, and much more. Tony and Stav help callers including a woman who wants tips on introducing a toy into the bedroom without hurting her boyfriend’s ego, and a guy whose three older coworkers have foisted a horrid work nickname upon him after he introduced them to some fun young guy slang. Watch Tony Deyo’s special RACCOON MAFIO out now: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mqoa5RwN5Gg See Tony Deyo live and follow him on social media: https://tonydeyo.com/ https://www.instagram.com/tonydeyo https://www.youtube.com/tonydeyocomedy https://www.tiktok.com/@tonydeyocomedy https://www.facebook.com/tonydeyocomedy ☎️ Want to be a part of the show? Call 904-800-STAV and leave a voicemail to get advice! 🎟️ See Stavvy live on the Dreamboat Tour 🛥️💕!!! https://stavvy.biz/ for tickets ‼️ Bonus episodes every week! Unlock exclusive, Patreon-only episodes at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld

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• 0:00Speaker 00

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• 0:12Speaker 01

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• 0:37Speaker 02

  I'm calling for some advice about how to bring something up to my boyfriend. We've been together for about four and a half years and my libido actually increased recently. So that's been super fun for both of us, of course. But I have been wanting to bring up to him that I'm interested in using a bigger dildo or a vibrator.

• 1:03Stavros Halkias?

  Oh, no. Take the guitar away. Bigger dildo. You gave her a guitar for she wants to use a bigger dildo, Eldis? That's what you think is guitar worthy? I'm saluting her for that. Oh, no, dude. She's in a stride and she wants to go bigger and better. That's tough, bro. That's really tough. I'm sorry, replay. Let's start back. We got lost in the guitars.

• 1:32Speaker 02

  Yeah. My boyfriend, we've been together for about four and a half years and my libido actually increased recently. So that's been super fun for both of us, of course. But I have been wanting to bring up to him that I'm interested in using a bigger dildo or a vibrator. That's just longer.

• 1:57Stavros Halkias?

  That's tough stuff. That is tough stuff.

• 1:59Speaker 02

  And when I say longer, I mean like at least like seven or eight inches. And, you know, in the nicest way possible, that's definitely, you know, a couple, a few inches bigger than my boyfriend, but. Which is totally fine and I love everything that he does in the bedroom and I'm totally satisfied with him. And he also uses my own vibrator on me, which is a little smaller. Um, and he seems totally comfortable with that and he's really good at it. Um, but I think he knows that my G-spot is a little bit higher up there, so. I'm definitely interested in bringing this up to him, but I, I heard on one of your recent episodes, the guest said that men tend to be a little

• 2:42Speaker 02

  insecure when it comes to vibrators and the size of them. So basically I just wanna know, um, as a man, what would be the best way you think to bring this up? Um, where he still feels comfortable and secure, which I do generally think he is. And he's never really acted insecure, but I wanna bring it up in a way that is sexy, but doesn't risk him.

• 3:08Stavros Halkias?

  Sexy.

• 3:08Speaker 02

  You know, thinking too much into me wanting something bigger up there.

• 3:13Stavros Halkias?

  Sexy.

• 3:13Speaker 02

  But anyways, thank you, uh, and can't wait to hear back. Thank you.

• 3:18Stavros Halkias?

  Oh, this is a tough one. I mean, this, it seems like me and Elders are about to have another philosophical debate here. It really does. Uh, I will say that, let me, before I give you the floor, Elders. Tony's just a spectator for us arguing for this.

• 3:34Stavros Halkias?

  Like, wow, these guys are really passionate about this one. This really is a passion. This really is one that I could, we could talk about this one for quite some time. Okay. My immediate, we all saw it. My immediate reaction. Very tough stuff. Very tough ask. And listen, I am on the record as like, get a vibrator in the mix. Get something like that's sort of like, I'm not competing with, right? Like, I'm, I'm not insecure in that, like, look, I'm not, I can't fucking vibrate, like, that's a fuck, that's a, that's a. Science has designed this thing to make women bust in ways that I can't.

• 4:12Stavros Halkias?

  It'd be like, it'd be like being mad that, uh, my girlfriend wants to take, you know, is the girl you're dating wants antibiotics instead of your chicken soup. It's like, look, the antibiotics do something my fucking remedies are never gonna do, right? Where that, where the line is for me is when the, it is purely cock size. It's pure, it's purely, I wish your cock was bigger, right? Yeah. And it's okay to have that desire. Yeah. You know what I mean? I get that. To me, that's a solo, and even that, it's like, that's a solo thing that you can't, you don't share. No. It's like every once in a while, you wanna have a, like, it honestly would fuck it. I don't know that I would do well. No.

• 4:54Stavros Halkias?

  With my girlfriend's desire being a, essentially, a cock that is three inches bigger than mine. I don't know that I would do okay with that, personally. There's no way to phrase that. There's no way to make that sexy, in my opinion. Unless he's into like, now, look, this might be, some people are into cucking or like, you know, I'm sure there's an element, some people might find it hot that, you know, they're, like, some people do find hot that they're like partners getting just fucking torn up in ways that they can't, right? And they're getting some kind of perverse joy out of that. Right. Not my programming whatsoever. I don't judge that if that's you. Yeah. I don't, Vince McMahon, those leaked emails where he's talking about big, black cock

• 5:36Stavros Halkias?

  or whatever, there's a whole, there's a whole other like, you know, how much people's sexuality is like warped by their fucking racism and whatever, like, I got none of that. I got no desire to see someone I'm dating fuck a cock bigger than mine. That's just me, whether it's another man or it's a blue one, right? Right. And I don't wanna be asked that personally. That's me. Yeah. Now, if it's a, now, the G-spot thing is the first, the first, this, this might be your path. She's like, I wanna hit my G-spot. It's gotta be a weird, skinny, like, again, a scientific thing designed for G-spot. Like, we've seen a couple of those vibrators where they're sort of like, you know, slim

• 6:19Stavros Halkias?

  as fuck and kinda curved to exactly hit it. That's what it's gonna have to be, in my opinion. Yeah. A bigger dildo that is just my cock, but bigger? No. I, I don't think, not only would I not like that, that would take, I don't know that I'd get over that. I don't think you'd get over that. I think that would lead to the dissolution Right. of that, of whether that was the next day or in 10 years Yeah. after I've, after something clicked. Yeah. It would lead to the end of that relationship to me. If it was like the kind of thing where it's like, hey, why don't you put a strap on? That's your, that's a cock, but bigger than yours and fuck me with it. I would pack my bags Right. in 45 minutes. Right? I would be on hotels tonight, that evening. Right.

• 7:04Stavros Halkias?

  Looking for a place to crash. Right. So anyway, that is my perspective, Eldis. I would love to hear a rebuttal from you.

• 7:12Speaker 00

  I must say, I am genuinely surprised by your knee jerk response to this question. In general, when we get questions about how do I help introduce a vibrator?

• 7:25Stavros Halkias?

  But, but you heard my, a vibrator, a dildo toy, whatever, you know?

• 7:30Speaker 00

  What you, and I think we, we generally agree on this is say to, to those people is like, you know? Anything that helps your girl nut in bed is good.

• 7:42Stavros Halkias?

  Sure.

• 7:42Speaker 00

  That's a positive for the man. Men can get cagey about it, cause it's like, no, fuck that dude. I'm at, I don't need help like getting my girl off or whatever. It feels threatening, but that's stupid because it's just a tool. I think if, if that's the, if that's the logic, it shouldn't make any difference if it's a small little two inch vibrator. Or if it's a eight inch vibrator.

• 8:07Stavros Halkias?

  You're blowing over my chicken soup bacteria, antibacterial point. Cause it's Excellent analogy. Like it's pure cock size she wants more of. That's all I'm, anyway, I'm sorry to interrupt. The floor is yours.

• 8:18Speaker 00

  Even if that's true, even if she needs a bigger tool to hit her G-spot deeper that the guy's dick can't hit.

• 8:29Speaker 00

  It's still, I don't know, it's still towards the goal of like getting her off. She doesn't want to like cheat on the guy. She doesn't want a guy with a bigger dick. Think of this as experience.

• 8:41Stavros Halkias?

  I'm sorry. Do we know that for fact? She wouldn't like to fuck a guy with a bigger dick?

• 8:46Speaker 00

  We have to take her at her word.

• 8:49Stavros Halkias?

  Maybe this might be, this is a slippery slope. If we're talking about just a bigger cock, a bigger like whatever. You're right. No, you're right. She hasn't said that. We have to take her at word. I'm saying you are correct, right? We have found the, we have found the exception to me that proves the rule, right? Cause it's like, I'm okay with anything, anything. Unless the request is simply a cock, if it boils down to a bigger cock than yours. Do you know what I'm saying?

• 9:21Speaker 00

  I don't know. I think it's like, you know, this, he will be a good partner if he supports her in, you know, her urge to like expand her experience, feel a bigger cock or a bigger vibrating toy inside of her.

• 9:35Stavros Halkias?

  You sign up for the cock.

• 9:37Speaker 00

  That helps.

• 9:37Stavros Halkias?

  You sign up, you Jamie, you sign up for what my cock is.

• 9:40Speaker 00

  That helps getting her off.

• 9:42Stavros Halkias?

  The bigger cock is a prob, the bigger dildo is a, pure size is a problem. Now again, if we want to talk about finding the G-spot, but what does she want him to fucking have a fucking, instead of him fucking her, he has to sit there with a dick that's just looks like his, but it's three inches bigger and fucking throw his shoulder out fucking her? He doesn't get anything from that? I don't know, brother. This is the one thing where I, I can't go down this route. Now, if it's one of those like G-spot finding vibrators, that's different. But if it's purely getting fucked by a dildo that's bigger, that's only your cock, but bigger. We have found my personal line here that I could not, and I don't even, and it is an insecurity for sure, but it's like.

• 10:25Speaker 00

  I think, I think you're succumbing to the logical fallacy that we always like accuse guys of like, you know, just feeling threatened by a nude tool. All dildos must be created equal.

• 10:35Stavros Halkias?

  They're not. They are not equal. They are very different. If we're talking about dildos that I cannot, it's like, it's fu- it's like the machine, it's like a fucking nail gun versus a guy with a fucking hammer, right? I, the nail gun can do other shit, right? But if she just wants, I want a bigger hammer, it's like, no, you can use a nail gun, but the, I use the hammer, you use my hammer. You don't get to just use a bigger, thicker hammer. Use the nail gun, use a diff- use a pneumatic fucking, whatever. We can get some fun, cool toys, but you don't just get a bigger hammer. You get my hammer.

• 11:05Speaker 00

  This, this is not that to me yet.

• 11:07Stavros Halkias?

  I think it is.

• 11:08Speaker 00

  She's saying seven or eight inch dildo. That just feels like nineties dildos. Remember how like all dildos, it's like, when did these new, smaller vibrators start coming out there? They're just like, you know, demure, like a little classier, like you could sort of away nicely.

• 11:24Stavros Halkias?

  What happened to old fashioned dildos? What happened to Spencer's Gifts dildos?

• 11:29Speaker 00

  I feel like every dildo used to be in this range. It's not that crazy now. If she's talking about, I want a black silicone mold dildo that's like the shape of a dragon that's like twenty inches.

• 11:41Stavros Halkias?

  Dildos are in the mix. I gotta be honest with you. Vibrators are fine. My cock is the dildo. That's the whole point here. You're replacing my cock. I don't want my cock replaced. I want my cock being a part of a team, a team of vibrators and whatever the fuck. But now you're saying your cock's the backup. Your, your cock is second string. We're signing a bigger cock. And I don't want that, man. I'll be honest with you. I just don't want that.

• 12:07Speaker 00

  Okay. Okay, maybe we need to take a step back.

• 12:09Stavros Halkias?

  Thank you, Tony.

• 12:10Speaker 00

  It's getting very heated in here.

• 12:15Speaker 00

  Here's some other questions that we kind of need to know for this.

• 12:18Stavros Halkias?

  Sure, sure.

• 12:19Speaker 00

  She says her libido has increased.

• 12:21Stavros Halkias?

  Right.

• 12:21Speaker 00

  Does that mean she wants to fuck more? Does that mean she started like orgasming more from sex and hasn't in the past?

• 12:28Stavros Halkias?

  Sure.

• 12:29Speaker 00

  Does?

• 12:29Stavros Halkias?

  I'm gonna guess, we can just say more. In any way, whatever it is, it's leading to more sex.

• 12:35Speaker 00

  And, okay, if we go from there, I would ask her, what does sex look like for you guys? You know, can you come from sex with him? Do you need toys? Are vibrators doing it? Um, I don't know. It's, it's like, it's like-

• 12:51Stavros Halkias?

  I'm not even opposed to her fuck do, like I said, getting a dildo in the mix when he's not there. I just think I wouldn't personally like to do, I wouldn't like to team up with a bigger dick than me. That's it. That's all I'm saying. I'll team up with whatever. And if she needs to explore this, fine, explore it. I just think of all the thing, you know, I wouldn't do, my advice would be if you, frame it as G-spot finding. Frame it as that, which is fair. Get a dildo that's very specific G-spot, even if it's longer, if it ends up being longer, great. But I don't frame it as I want to be fucked by a bigger dick. That's all I would say. That's all I would say.

• 13:30Speaker 00

  I don't, see, I don't think-

• 13:31Stavros Halkias?

  Okay, let's make this very personal, Eldis. Your girl comes up to you and is like, I would like to get a bigger dildo.

• 13:39Speaker 00

  I would honestly be fine with it. I would say, okay, fine.

• 13:42Stavros Halkias?

  Well, maybe this is the difference of a man who's actually has a real relationship and me just a man thinking, so I'll defer to you here. That's fine.

• 13:50Speaker 00

  I think all dicks just basically work the same. You just tug on them, you fuck them and they come after a few minutes.

• 13:59Stavros Halkias?

  Okay.

• 13:59Speaker 00

  I think pussies are much touchier than that.

• 14:01Stavros Halkias?

  Absolutely.

• 14:02Speaker 00

  Every girl comes so differently and-

• 14:06Stavros Halkias?

  I just, okay, my only thing is, we have now opened the door where it's not something a toy does, it's something a different person could do. Right? It's like saying, I'd like to fuck someone with a tighter pussy. You signed up for the pussy you got. You know what I mean? Then it's like, all right, I want a bigger dildo. Maybe I want a guy who fucking has bigger arms now. I don't know. We've, we have crossed into replacing human body parts instead of just sexual things that a human body cannot possibly compete with. That's my argument. And it's like, listen, you signed up for the cock you got with the guy, in my opinion. That's all I'm saying.

• 14:46Stavros Halkias?

  What if he's like, I'd like, what about a pocket pussy that's like fucking small? You jerk me off with that, right? And then he's like, why don't we fuck a girl with a smaller pussy? Then what if, like, I think the, the path, the, the path from- Bigger dildo to how about another guy fucks me is a lot closer and shorter than let's get a vibrator to another guy. I don't think let's get a vibrator in the mix. There is a logical step to now. Let's fuck a guy. But I think bigger dildo, there is a logical step to let's get a guy with a bigger dick to fuck me. That's all. That's all I'm saying.

• 15:21Speaker 00

  I disagree with that.

• 15:22Stavros Halkias?

  And I respect that. And maybe we just have to agree to disagree.

• 15:25Speaker 00

  You gotta look at it purely as a tool.

• 15:27Stavros Halkias?

  You're right. This is insecurity for me because it's like, to me, this is like, what if I found the perfect relationship? Everything's great. And she springs this kind of final boss of security on me. I think what we're seeing here is someone who has only thought of, who's been worried about relationships and ruined them to preemptively avoid moments like this. And someone who is in a happily committed relationship, who is not threatened by any sexual request his girlfriend or wife would make. Maybe that's the, maybe that is the philosophical difference here, perhaps. I don't know.

• 16:00Speaker 00

  Maybe. I think, I think they've been together for five years. Sexual seasons change. Wax and wanes so much over time.

• 16:10Stavros Halkias?

  I agree with that.

• 16:10Speaker 00

  And, you know, maybe she wants to try this now. Maybe it'll be different in a year. You don't know how it's gonna change. So.

• 16:20Speaker 00

  I guess, I guess, you know, going back to the advice for her. If you say there's no indication he's ever really been insecure. Yes, I agree. I do agree with you seven. It's like frame it as the G-spot thing.

• 16:31Stavros Halkias?

  Thank you. We can meet in the middle to give this girl advice. After a heated partisan debate.

• 16:40Stavros Halkias?

  Now let's get the policy. We've debated on the Congress floor. It's time to work together, meet in the middle and craft a bill that helps our constituent. Okay, so fine. Can we say that? Can we focus? He's never been threatened. Focus on the G-spot. Get a G-spot finder. Don't get a pure bigger dildo.

• 16:59Speaker 00

  Sure.

• 17:00Stavros Halkias?

  And you know what? And you know what? This is a case by case. Maybe she's got an eldest at home. The G-spot finder, you start there and if you still want the dildo, like test the waters with, let's get a dildo in the mix. You don't even have to, that's actually a good point. You don't have to frame it as bigger. You can just kind of get one similar size, but a little big. You know what I mean? Like, kind of test the waters that way. Cause it's not like anyone's gonna, unless the dildo is like insanely bigger than my dick. I guess I wouldn't even have thought to, you know what I mean? Cause there are those like long vibrators that are bigger than a dick, but it's like, hey, you get that in the mix. I'm not fucked. It's also skinnier. I would say if you want to go long, go skinny. If you want to go fat, go short.

• 17:43Stavros Halkias?

  You know what I mean? His dick's gotta be superior in one way or the other to it. You know what I mean? One dimension. Cause I wouldn't, cause now thinking about it, I wouldn't be threatened by those long, classic kind of vibrators that you could also use in a dildonic fashion. Is that a word? Did you coin a new term? I think we just coined it here. You're, you, Tony, you're really, you, you, you're on an episode that has really engendered some very lively debate. It's not usually how it goes. But I, but you know, maybe your presence here is, has brought out the best in me and eldest. Is it me? Has brought out the, the argumentative side to me and eldest. I'm usually a calming force.

• 18:23Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, yeah. That's, well, I think that's it. We know we ultimately have a rational voice to get us back. Right. You know, I think without you here, we don't end the way we did. Without you, I'm yelling at Elvis, I'm calling him a stupid Albanian. We feel like we have to be, at the end, and help our friend who called in as well. So that's going to be our meet in the middle advice for you. Good luck. Hey, we're happy for you. And listen, in a perfect world, this isn't the fucking problem. This guy's got a fucking shoulder mounted fucking dildo that he's fucking you with in a couple of months, but whatever happens, we hope you're happy. Yeah.

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• 19:39Speaker 01

  Time for a quick break to talk about McDonald's. It's the tangiest time of the year. For a limited time, head to McDonald's and get a McRib sandwich. Make it a meal by adding a medium fries and a soft drink like an ice cold Diet Dr. Pepper. So grab a McRib sandwich and embrace the tang. Save time by ordering ahead on the app. Participate at McDonald's for a limited time. Dr. Pepper is a registered trademark of Dr. Pepper, 7-Up, Inc.