Bonus #154 - Blair Socci [PATREON PREVIEW]

Patreon preview. Unlock full episode at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld Blair Socci returns to the pod to discuss the fine line between ayahuasca and Hawaiian pizza, getting back to her SoCal Republican roots, how being sincere transformed her dating experience, bad eggs vs. bad spunk, and much more. Blair and Stav help callers including a woman who’s afraid that her best frenemy will bang every guy she likes, and an oil rig worker dating a girl who’s perfect except for the fact that her parents wouldn’t approve of his blue collar career. Follow Blair Socci on social media: https://blairsocci.com/ https://www.instagram.com/blairsocci/ https://x.com/blairsocci https://www.tiktok.com/@blairsocci https://www.youtube.com/user/bsocci/ ☎️ Have a question for a regular episode? Call 904-800-STAV and leave a voicemail to get advice! 🎟️ See Stavvy live on the Dreamboat Tour 🛥️💕!!! https://stavvy.biz/ for tickets ‼️ Bonus episodes every week! Unlock exclusive, Patreon-only episodes at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld

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• 1:31Speaker 02

  Hey, Savi. So calling today, less for advice for me, but calling as a girl who's out here in these streets and hooking up with guys who are your followers, friends, your audience. So I figured, you know what? They're pissing me off. We're gonna call dad, come directly to you. So recently I've noticed there's this epidemic of men who will like send into my DMs, whether it's Instagram, Twitter, whatever. And I don't know what it is, will be just totally chill, like, hey, hey, how are you? Like, we get to know each other. Like, again, I don't know you. You are just some random man on the internet who follows me. Maybe it seems normal.

• 2:11Speaker 02

  And within like five to six of like questions, like very early on in the conversation, they will just randomly make it sexual, like bring up porn. Like, what kind of porn do you like? I'm gonna go watch porn. Do you like porn? Like, tie to your feet. As an opener? And these are like not bots, like I go to their pages, like these are people like I have mutual followers in front in common with people that I look at their page, like we're retweeting each other and we seem politically aligned, like

• 2:38Stavros Halkias?

  Right, right.

• 2:39Speaker 02

  We like the same comics, we like the same jokes, like they're real human beings and yet they immediately fuck up any single or every single conversation I have with them. Because they make it freakishly sexual so early, like

• 2:53Stavros Halkias?

  I don't think so.

• 2:54Speaker 02

  And then it just gives me the ick because then it's just another horny man in my DMs and like maybe we would have gotten along, maybe we could have been compatible. Uh, we'll never fucking know because you just gross me out. So this is me as a girl just begging you to talk to the men out there. Okay. I love you. Thank you so much. Aldous, you rule, you rule, you rule to I can't speak. Thank you. Bye.

• 3:15Speaker 04

  Oh, she sounds like an angel.

• 3:17Stavros Halkias?

  I know. You feel her frustration. She's like, I might have even liked you.

• 3:20Speaker 04

  Yeah, no, she's like, I

• 3:21Stavros Halkias?

  I might have fucked you. Why don't you just like take me out one time?

• 3:24Speaker 04

  I'll just say this one thing, like anyone with real riz and game has a sense of timing of when to um, go into those waters. And if you're just meeting someone on Hinge or First Date, asking about porn and stuff like that's absolutely insane.

• 3:41Stavros Halkias?

  I mean porn in general is like a, you've been dating some, like I don't even look at porn as like a

• 3:47Speaker 04

  That's not a casual conversation. That's a private, that's an inside thought.

• 3:52Stavros Halkias?

  So what are you beating off to Aldous?

• 3:54Speaker 04

  Totally. Um, that's between you and your laptop.

• 3:57Stavros Halkias?

  Sure, sure. Um, yeah, you feel her frustration and I think I unfortunately what I'm worried about is that this is the like sort of commodification of human beings where it's like, somebody doesn't see her as a person. She's a hot woman on the internet who he might be able to fuck and he's like, you've done a calculus in your head that's like, okay, it is worth five back and forths and then I'm, and then I am, I have put in too much cap, too much social capital trying to get pussy if I don't see tits by then. Like, it's like looking at human interaction as a formula instead of like actually getting to know someone.

• 4:36Speaker 04

  Hinge is wild, though.

• 4:38Stavros Halkias?

  I've never, I've never had.

• 4:39Speaker 04

  Yeah, that's so, that's so cool that you never had to do that.

• 4:42Stavros Halkias?

  She's talking about like Instagram and social media, though, right?

• 4:44Speaker 04

  Oh, no, she said hinge.

• 4:45Stavros Halkias?

  Did you say hinge?

• 4:46Speaker 04

  She said hinge.

• 4:46Speaker 05

  I think she also said social media. I'm imagining she's like someone like on Twitter.

• 4:52Speaker 04

  I will also say that my therapist once, like when I would go on Hinge, like I only go on there like twice a year when I remember.

• 5:01Speaker 04

  Like asked me to send my, her pictures of my profile and then made me like write the entire thing like sincere. And it weeds out so many people. There's nothing like I would have just written like dumb jokes or something and it is like, no, I'm looking for the love of my life. Someone like who likes to go home early and hold hand, like stuff like that. And it's like the most sincere profile you've ever seen. I would actually die if any.

• 5:32Stavros Halkias?

  If it ever came to light.

• 5:33Speaker 04

  If any of you ever saw it. Now it's so, oh my god.

• 5:39Speaker 05

  If you look at the screen, Blair, I'll actually be pulling this up for you right here.

• 5:45Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, I mean, look, if you're like, if you're behaving this way on the internet as a dude, it's like you have to realize the internet has just become real life. And it's especially if you're people who interact and have the same, you have the same like.

• 6:01Stavros Halkias?

  Like friend group or the same interests, like even if you're not in the same cities, you exist in some plane together here. You're, you exist in some community together here and just kind of have to stop behaving this way. I sort of was caught, I was sort of caught by this in a funny way where I, I haven't really been. I was kind of offline a lot, like I was trying to be bef, but then, you know, when I went to Venice, I was like, let's. So I can take a look at this. This is cool. I want to fuck it.

• 6:30Speaker 04

  Those pics were incredible.

• 6:32Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, it got me back online to be like, oh, nice. People are saying I look cool with the ponytail.

• 6:38Speaker 04

  You're fit. You look amazing.

• 6:40Stavros Halkias?

  Yes, and I just, I hadn't really done a DM slide in a while and I just like noticed some like. Beautiful woman had like commented on something and I was like, and I'm also in Venice, I'm eating pasta, right? And I think I hit it with. I hit it with some variation of the like. Actually, oh, lady and the tramp thing, like, uh, something about lady and the tramping some pasta.

• 7:05Speaker 04

  Oh, that's good. I feel like that's good.

• 7:07Stavros Halkias?

  Well, I had done it. I hadn't, I hadn't said in a while. I, I had used it in the past.

• 7:11Speaker 04

  Okay.

• 7:12Stavros Halkias?

  And, uh, and, and I, I really wasn't saying it, but I was like, I'm in Venice eating pa- I'd had pasta every meal. It was top of mind. And she just was like, lol, I think you used this on a friend of a friend.

• 7:26Speaker 04

  Oh, fuck.

• 7:27Stavros Halkias?

  A year ago, whatever. And I was like, damn, yeah, probably.

• 7:31Speaker 04

  Oh, that's brutal.

• 7:32Stavros Halkias?

  She was like, hey, it worked. Cause I did, I think I did, I think I guess I hooked up with a girl or whatever. Um, and, and, and, but it was tough to be like, you kinda caught me.

• 7:43Speaker 04

  With more girls than that other girl's friend?

• 7:46Stavros Halkias?

  I don't know. I don't know how many.

• 7:49Speaker 04

  You have no idea your number?

• 7:51Stavros Halkias?

  I don't really know my number. Yeah, yeah. I'm not sure. I don't think it's over 200.

• 7:56Speaker 04

  Oh, that's gnarly.

• 7:58Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, I don't think so.

• 7:59Speaker 04

  Slut shaming you.

• 8:00Stavros Halkias?

  You are, yeah. Well, that's, that's the Republican in you.

• 8:03Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 8:07Stavros Halkias?

  But yes, that happened to me, but it's like, hey, look.

• 8:10Speaker 04

  You took that one on the chin.

• 8:11Stavros Halkias?

  You gotta take it on the chin. It's a beautiful woman. I think she had a boyfriend anyway, you know? Pretty funny also to be like.

• 8:18Speaker 04

  Like, once a year, I'll DM a guy that, where I like see their picture and, um, and all just write, um, are you single? How old are you?

• 8:29Stavros Halkias?

  Respect. Does that work for you? Probably every time. A hundred percent it works. For sure, right?

• 8:38Speaker 04

  If they're single or like, whatever.

• 8:41Stavros Halkias?

  I love that directness, though. Are you single? How old are you?

• 8:44Speaker 04

  Yeah, that's all, that's what I care about.

• 8:46Stavros Halkias?

  I like that. I'm gonna try that next.

• 8:48Speaker 04

  A lot of young dudes hit on me.

• 8:51Stavros Halkias?

  Interesting.

• 8:51Speaker 04

  And the guy has no interest.

• 8:53Stavros Halkias?

  You're not interested in that?

• 8:54Speaker 04

  No.

• 8:55Stavros Halkias?

  What's your cutoff age-wise? What's the youngest you would date?

• 9:00Speaker 04

  I don't, I can't, I don't think I could date, like, I don't know, I've never dated younger guys my whole life. It's probably because I had older brothers. I mean, I've had a boyfriend that's like a year younger than me, but like, I've never dated anyone younger. Yeah.

• 9:13Stavros Halkias?

  So, what's the, but do you have just a couple of years? You wouldn't go like 10 years younger than you?

• 9:19Speaker 04

  No, I wouldn't. I mean, I'm not the buzzer bitch. Like, I can't, I'm not fucking around.

• 9:24Stavros Halkias?

  Well, we just said, people are saying it's old eggs, but it might be old sperm. You might need that fresh jizz.

• 9:29Speaker 04

  I don't know. I don't know. I, I just can't imagine a man, like, I, I like to be a real woman in a relationship.

• 9:38Stavros Halkias?

  Republican.

• 9:40Speaker 04

  I'm not trying to be this.

• 9:42Stavros Halkias?

  Of course. You're not trying to be a mommy figure.

• 9:45Speaker 04

  Well, like in stand-up, you have to basically be a man.

• 9:49Stavros Halkias?

  Right.

• 9:49Speaker 04

  And like, I'm not trying to.

• 9:50Stavros Halkias?

  You would like in your personal life to have a more feminine.

• 9:52Speaker 04

  Yeah, like, I don't want to be an alpha, like.

• 9:55Stavros Halkias?

  I know what you mean.

• 9:55Speaker 04

  Yeah, like, I like, I like.

• 9:57Stavros Halkias?

  Some women are into that, you're not into that.

• 9:58Speaker 04

  I like a dude that is like, takes care of shit and is like, uh, has a good job and wants to coach soccer and man the grill, you know?

• 10:08Stavros Halkias?

  Totally, totally, totally. No, I'm, I'm, I'm fucking with you, but I also, again, the older you get, the more you're like, alright. I kind of feel the same way where it's like, yeah, I do like doing those things. I do kind of like, you know?

• 10:20Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 10:20Stavros Halkias?

  I like doing all, even though it's like I have other non-traditional beliefs, like.

• 10:24Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 10:24Stavros Halkias?

  You know?

• 10:25Speaker 04

  No, but I, I think.

• 10:26Stavros Halkias?

  Although I wouldn't mind being like a stay-at-home husband. That would be hilarious. I mean, I think now, if that happened to me, that means I would, I don't know who.

• 10:34Speaker 04

  You'd marry Meryl Streep.

• 10:36Stavros Halkias?

  It would be awesome, yeah.

• 10:37Speaker 04

  Yeah.

• 10:37Stavros Halkias?

  I'm listening. I'm listening, Meryl.

• 10:40Speaker 04

  You'd have to get, um, Marty Short out of the way.

• 10:42Stavros Halkias?

  Fuck you up, Marty. You old little motherfucker.

• 10:45Speaker 04

  He's like the funniest person alive. He's so funny.

• 10:48Stavros Halkias?

  He's so funny in every context. It like makes you mad. He crushes like, anything he does is hilarious.

• 10:53Speaker 04

  Jimmy Good is like the funniest thing in the world. Unbelievable. I love it.

• 10:57Stavros Halkias?

  So good. Uh, but yeah, sorry, you know, stop doing that, fellas. Start treating women like, uh, human beings.

• 11:03Speaker 04

  Oh, also, uh, for this gal, if you're a gal listening, I, you see how. Correct. I go like, uh, no, I don't have time. Uh, what are you looking, just say, what are you looking for? And if they, they should, if they're a good dude, be honest. Like they're like, I want, I'm just looking to hook up right now. Or I'm looking to date, or I'm looking for a girlfriend, whatever. Just ask straight up.

• 11:26Stavros Halkias?

  But I think the problem is she hasn't even gotten, they've exchanged a couple of pleasantries and they're coming through dicks hard.

• 11:32Speaker 04

  Oh, I thought this was like on the date they were asking.

• 11:35Stavros Halkias?

  No, no, she's saying like in the DMs.

• 11:37Speaker 04

  Oh, yeah, no. I, I, if someone sends me sexual DMs or like nasty shit from these fuckers. And how I even have one male fan at this point is like, I am so confused by. And most of mine are men. It's so confusing to me. Cause I'm like the gal's gal.

• 11:57Stavros Halkias?

  Of course you are.

• 11:58Speaker 04

  I don't even like dudes.

• 11:59Stavros Halkias?

  No, you don't.

• 12:00Speaker 04

  Um, so.

• 12:01Speaker 05

  I'm, I'm at the game, but I feel like dating got like so much simpler for me where it was like, I just like stopped worrying about like trying to make anything sexual. The bar is like so low for men. It's like you get so far if you just like, know how to like sit politely and like just go back and forth for like an hour or two over some drinks and just like, you know, keep it to like polite conversation, maybe some, maybe some friendly riffs and like, don't be, you know, don't be like, oh yeah, I have a fucking electric vibrator in my house.

• 12:38Stavros Halkias?

  Have you ever ridden a sib in?

• 12:41Speaker 05

  Like, you know, the girls don't want to hear.

• 12:43Stavros Halkias?

  Let me show you a hilarious video and it's like Howard Stern, the girl riding the sib. Would you ever want to ride one of these?

• 12:49Speaker 05

  Like the girls don't want to hear about the sex toys and shit or.

• 12:52Stavros Halkias?

  Absolutely.

• 12:53Speaker 05

  All that shit. It's like, you just gotta like wait out those like getting to know you beats and like, you know, especially if it's in the context of a date or online dating, like everyone is there to fuck really. Unless you're like, you know, Christian or some crazy shit, like even.

• 13:09Speaker 04

  I'm not.

• 13:14Speaker 05

  I mean, you know what I mean? Like even if you're like looking for a relationship or something.

• 13:18Stavros Halkias?

  Eldon's saying ultimately, people at the end of it is a sexual relationship.

• 13:23Speaker 04

  Oh, okay. Well, yeah.

• 13:24Stavros Halkias?

  At the end of the road, not a hookup.

• 13:26Speaker 04

  Right, right, right.

• 13:27Stavros Halkias?

  But at the end of the day.

• 13:28Speaker 04

  Well, if a guy, I like when I got dudes like, oh yeah, I'm just looking to hook up. I'm like, thank you for telling me. That's not what I like, you know? I think that's great. Like just everyone just be straight up and then everyone can find what they're looking for.

• 13:42Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah. So anyway, good luck out there, Toots. Stop. Yeah. Like Eldon said, just, and all those guys, like the guys who just DM'd her probably could have gone out with her and they maybe even could have hooked up or even dated.

• 13:55Speaker 04

  Yeah. Cause she's like, they seem really cool. And she's in.

• 13:58Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah.

• 13:58Speaker 04

  Like she was yours and then it was yours to mess up.

• 14:02Stavros Halkias?

  Why is it so fast? Why are you going so fast?

• 14:05Speaker 04

  So horny.

• 14:07Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah. I mean, look, do I behave that way sometimes? Maybe.

• 14:12Speaker 04

  According to a friend of a friend.

• 14:17Stavros Halkias?

  But it's sort of like making it clear what you're interested in.

• 14:20Speaker 04

  Yeah. Even though you keep calling me a Christian nationalist. I'm like, what? Cause I don't fuck on Hinge.

• 14:26Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, exactly.

• 14:26Speaker 04

  Damn. That's that wild?

• 14:28Stavros Halkias?

  No, I'm kidding.

• 14:29Speaker 04

  Oh, okay.

• 14:30Stavros Halkias?

  It's a fucking joke, dude.

• 14:32Speaker 04

  I thought you were serious.

• 14:33Stavros Halkias?

  No, I don't actually think you're an Orange County Republican. Well, I mean, not really.

• 14:41Speaker 04

  I'm like, what? I'm like, really defending?

• 14:43Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah.

• 14:44Speaker 04

  Yeah.

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