Bonus #103 - Sydnee Washington [PATREON PREVIEW]

Patreon preview. Unlock full episode at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld Sydnee Washington returns to Stavvy's World to discuss whether her life is currently in shambles or not, getting shafted for an apartment after the realtor saw her credit score, Stav's unconventional leading man status, worrying about being uninteresting now that she's not as reckless as she used to be, and much more. Stav and Sydnee help callers including a woman who suspects that the older man she's seeing is cheating on his girlfriend, and a guy who's sick of hanging with the couple next door that his girlfriend befriended. Follow Sydnee Washington on social media: https://www.instagram.com/justsydbw/ https://twitter.com/Justsydnyc https://www.tiktok.com/@justsydbw20 Bonus episodes every week! Unlock exclusive, Patreon-only episodes at https://www.patreon.com/stavvysworld Wanna be part of the show? Call 904-800-STAV and leave a voicemail to get advice!

Speaker names marked ? are inferred from speaking time and the show’s known hosts — they are not voice-verified.

• 0:00Speaker 00

  So I am seeing a much older man right now. Um, he's very hot, very charming. He's British, so he has a really fun accent. And we met on a certain app that is used for hooking up. Um, and yeah, we've been having a really good time together, but there is a really big problem. Um, so I am pretty positive that he is cheating on his girlfriend. Um, we've talked about it before. He has a long-term girlfriend, probably about four or five years. Um, and he keeps on saying, oh, they're in a sexless relationship. They never have sex, yada, yada.

• 0:45Speaker 00

  Um, and anytime that I really ask him about if they're open or if he's talked to her, he kind of sidesteps it, like, he'll give me kind of a

• 0:58Stavros Halkias?

  Like, pause this. I'm pretty certain he's cheating. He's openly talking about cheating. What are you talking about, you're pretty certain?

• 1:07Speaker 02

  Like, girl, you just wanted to send this stuff, because it is clear.

• 1:11Stavros Halkias?

  There's no, yeah, there's no pretty.

• 1:13Speaker 02

  You're not really.

• 1:14Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, I mean, this is hilarious, but let's see. We're feeling some mental gymnastics on her part already, but let's see the rest of it. So awesome.

• 1:21Speaker 00

  On, or he'll be like, oh, yeah, I did. And she probably wouldn't be happy if she found out about it. Um, and he also hides all the evidence of me when I come to his place.

• 1:36Speaker 02

  Yes, girl.

• 1:37Speaker 00

  So he has sent me my hair clips, the ones that I've left over, which, thank you, I guess. Um, and then the last time in particular, he, I came out and he had one of those handheld vacuums and he was sitting on the couch.

• 1:52Stavros Halkias?

  Oh, my God.

• 1:52Speaker 00

  And I was like, what are you doing with that? And he was like, oh, I am picking up your hair, like, picking up my strands of hair, whatever. Um, so my question is, am I morally wrong for doing this? Um, my opinion is that I'm not the one who's cheating. I'm not the one who's hiding, but I do feel horrible if this is hurting his girlfriend. Um, and also I totally believe in karma. Um, I'm worried that when I'm in my fifties, maybe my partner will be cheating on me with somebody in their thirties.

• 2:27Speaker 02

  They will.

• 2:28Speaker 00

  And then also, does it sound like he's done this before?

• 2:33Speaker 02

  This is not his first one.

• 2:34Stavros Halkias?

  Oh my god.

• 2:35Speaker 00

  He really threw me off. Um, yeah, would love your thoughts on this. Thanks, bye.

• 2:40Stavros Halkias?

  An incredible call.

• 2:42Speaker 02

  Girl.

• 2:43Stavros Halkias?

  It sounds like, I'm pretty certain, I mean, yeah.

• 2:48Speaker 02

  Girl, you crazy for this one.

• 2:49Stavros Halkias?

  Honestly, you need to get out of this because this is gonna end bad for you.

• 2:53Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 2:54Stavros Halkias?

  Like, this guy doesn't get, like, I'm sorry, he doesn't give a fuck about you. This is what he's doing to his wife.

• 2:58Speaker 02

  He's vacuuming in front of you. Babe, like you're some golden retriever and all your hair is around you like, oh, you know, I got other guests coming in. I wanna get it on their coat. Like,

• 3:11Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah.

• 3:12Speaker 02

  Girl, stand up. Stand up and get out. Stand up and get out. This is not, you haven't told me anything that is so, like, good for me. Be like, you gotta stay.

• 3:24Stavros Halkias?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 3:25Speaker 02

  It's not like he's investing in, in a nonprofit that you started or like,

• 3:32Stavros Halkias?

  Are you on the payroll? You know what I mean? Is there like a arrangement thing?

• 3:36Speaker 02

  I said, is your mother sick or you said, are you on the payroll?

• 3:38Stavros Halkias?

  Well, yeah, sorry. I didn't hear the, is your mother sick part. I sort of said it. But go ahead. Yeah. Is your mother sick? Is he helping her? Is that what you're saying?

• 3:45Speaker 02

  Yeah, yeah. This is a, this is a, this is a no for me. And karma is real and,

• 3:52Stavros Halkias?

  I don't know about that.

• 3:55Stavros Halkias?

  You think karma's real?

• 3:56Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 3:56Stavros Halkias?

  Evil people will die happy so much.

• 3:59Speaker 02

  I don't think so.

• 4:00Stavros Halkias?

  You really don't think so?

• 4:01Speaker 02

  Mm-mm. They're miserable, they're miserable in a way that we just can't see.

• 4:06Stavros Halkias?

  Maybe. Well, either way, you're, okay. I think, Even if we weren't even to delve into the moral question here. That um you, this would be what, when you're like, you're right, you don't hear anything that's like, why should you stay?

• 4:20Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 4:21Stavros Halkias?

  Unless it was like, I'm just having, if you really were having a good time in a disposable way, you're like, look, I'm just hooking up. If you're like our first caller, or our last caller, who was like, I'm just trying to fuck, and he's hot, and all his shit is none of my fucking business. I'm in and out, but-

• 4:38Speaker 02

  We can't support this.

• 4:39Stavros Halkias?

  And tha- and we haven't even, and then we would be like, okay, there's a reason to stay, but now let's talk about the morals. We haven't even crossed over to that, like, it's not even worth talking about the morality, because I just don't think this is a good relationship for you.

• 4:54Speaker 02

  Girl.

• 4:55Stavros Halkias?

  Even if we haven't gotten into like, whether it's right or wrong, which of course it is wrong, I mean, it's wrong, but it's a matter of like, do you really give a fuck?

• 5:02Speaker 02

  Girl, you wasting me and Stavi's time. You know what it is, like, I mean, even the thing about like, you being worried that when you're in your 50s, it's like, girl, it can happen to you in your 20s, your 30s, it doesn't matter, like, somebody, if he's dogging you out, he going, somebody else is going to dog you out, like, that's just how I think the tables turn. And it's just better to not have that on your, like, how are you coming, knowing that he's not making somebody else that he's married to come?

• 5:38Stavros Halkias?

  Oh yeah, I mean, I should probably not thinking about her at that moment.

• 5:41Speaker 02

  I would think about it.

• 5:42Stavros Halkias?

  Wow.

• 5:42Speaker 02

  I would think about it, because when I've been with somebody and they not, and they not making me come, I'm like, damn, there was somebody before me that was not busting nuts out of me, that's wild.

• 5:52Stavros Halkias?

  How far back did this go?

• 5:56Speaker 02

  It's probably their father, it's probably their dad, or their grandpa, you never know.

• 6:00Stavros Halkias?

  Um, so yes, I think you're, and maybe it's not karma, but maybe you're the kind of person who is attracted, this type of guy really works on her. This type of like, debonair, whatever dickhead.

• 6:12Speaker 02

  She didn't tell me, she didn't tell us though, why it works, she doesn't tell me why she's-

• 6:17Stavros Halkias?

  Rich, rich, old, British, like, cheater, these guys are charming, you know what I mean?

• 6:23Speaker 02

  He got an accent, teeth are fucked up, so- Yellow, like butter, I don't.

• 6:29Stavros Halkias?

  He could be a piece of ass, but anyway, yes, you don't want to do it. And you're too naive about this whole thing.

• 6:33Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 6:34Stavros Halkias?

  And you're doing weird mental gymnastics. You're not happy. You got a couple nuts off, hopefully.

• 6:39Speaker 02

  Hopefully.

• 6:40Stavros Halkias?

  And go on, let go. You live through it and now you can reflect on it. And I think when you're not in the middle of it, you will actually, when you're not in the middle of engaging in the behavior, you'll learn how you actually felt about it. And my hunch is, you're not gonna, you're gonna feel a little embarrassed and like, I shouldn't have done that. Just because you sound like a nice person. What else we got, Eldo?

• 7:00Speaker 02

  What does you sound like a nice person?

• 7:02Stavros Halkias?

  She does.

• 7:03Speaker 02

  She's, she sent us a voice memo or some shit. She knew she was dead wrong. Girl, you like hearing your voice.

• 7:12Stavros Halkias?

  Alright, fuck you, I don't care. Fuck this bitch. You fucking homewrecking whore. Is that what you wanted, Sid?