Fire Escape: Worthy EP6

The Fire Girls blast their sirens to salute Amika as she is released from prison after seven years. She has no career, no home, no money, and teenage children who have been waiting for their mom to return. But the hardest part of regaining her freedom, would be believing that she is worthy. This episode contains graphic imagery. Sensitive listeners please be advised. Thank you, Amika Mota, for sharing your story with us! Fire Escape https://snapjudgment.org/fire-escape/, the 6-part series is dropping weekly on the Snap Judgment podcast feed. You can access the bonus episodes here https://wondery.com/shows/fire-escape/. Fire Escape is a production of Snap Studios https://snapjudgment.org/ at KQED https://www.kqed.org/, made in partnership with Audible (previously Wondery). This series was created, written and produced by Anna Sussman. Snap Senior story editors: Mark Ristich and Nancy López. Director of Production: Marisa Dodge. Original music by Renzo Gorrio and Doug Stuart. Doug Stuart also created the theme song. Sound design and engineering by Miles Lassi. Audible senior story editor: Phyllis Fletcher. Development producer: Eliza Mills. Senior Producers: Clare Chambers, Lauren Dee and Mandy Gorenstein. Managing Producer: Sarah Mathis. Executive producers: Glynn Washington, Mark Ristich, Marshall Lewy, Morgan Jones, George Lavender and Jen Sargent. Special thanks to Adizah Eghan, Kathryn Styer Martínez, Pat Mesiti-Miller, Allison MacAdam, Catherine Winter and the San Francisco Fire Department. Season 17 - Episode 22 Join Snap+ https://snap.supercast.com/if you aren't already a member! Get bonus eps, an ad-free stream and more. Learn about your ad choices: dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices https://dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices

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• 2:45Glynn Washington?

  Welcome to Snap Judgment, the Fire Escape special. If you haven't listened to the Fire Escape previous episodes, you're going to want to start at episode one. Sensitive listeners are advised.

• 3:00Speaker 01

  When it's time for someone to parole from the firehouse, the whole team and the captain gather outside and there's a ceremony.

• 3:08Speaker 02

  What the firehouse girls would do for you was when they see the parole van coming through the gates of the prison, they would line up all of the fire trucks and turn on the lights and sirens. And everybody would be out there like loving you out there, waving and crying. And we had, I'd seen so many people paroled before me. And so for my day to come was, it was a big thing.

• 3:38Speaker 01

  After seven years in prison, four and a half in the main prison and more than two years at the firehouse, Amika's day did come.

• 3:46Speaker 02

  What I envisioned the whole, I'm probably going to cry on this one. What I envisioned the whole time I was in prison, how I would reconcile with my kids.

• 3:58Speaker 02

  I envisioned myself like giving them a lot of love to make up for all these years that I'd been gone.

• 4:05Speaker 01

  She was shaking as she walked from the fire station to the parole van.

• 4:10Speaker 02

  Lord.

• 4:14Speaker 02

  I mean, definitely like that kind of endorphin rush, like definitely butterflies in my stomach, you know, palms sweating, kind of just those visceral feelings of like, you could feel the nerves, the anxiety, the excitement. I mean, you always expect like the worst to happen. Like, you don't want to go in thinking everything's going to be smooth because...

• 4:39Speaker 01

  What do you mean, worst of the worst?

• 4:41Speaker 02

  I don't know, that no one will be there for you, or that they'll be like, "Just kidding, head back in." Like, you know, you just never really know.

• 4:56Speaker 01

  In the holding area, Amika was given her release clothes, sent to her by a friend. It was sweatpants and a sweatshirt from a skate shop in Ukiah that said "Freedom" on the back. She tried to put on a pair of heels, but it didn't work, so she went with flip flops. The plan was for her family to wait in the parking lot.

• 5:15Speaker 02

  And then my kids were in the parking lot waiting for me with my papa. And so I told them, "Listen for the fire trucks and the sirens, and when they go off, it'll mean the van is coming." And so it was kind of a beautiful thing because, you know, I could see it from the Pearl van, my kids could see it from the parking lot, the three fire trucks lined up. I saw the girls lined up in front of the fire trucks, people sitting up on the fire trucks, people clowning behind the wheel, you know, laying on the horns, sirens blazing. It was so surreal, you know? It was just kind of one of those things

• 5:56Speaker 02

  that you've been imagining for years and years, that that'll be you one day, and then it's actually you. And it's almost the same as when you walk in the gates. It just feels like a dream, and, you know, you can't even imagine what's next.

• 6:16Speaker 01

  From Wondery and Snap Studios at KQED, I'm Anna Sussman, and this is Fire Escape, the story of a woman whose world burned down, and then she learned to fight fire from behind bars. This is episode six, "Worthy."

• 6:42Speaker 01

  It was finally the day of her release, the day she had imagined for all these years. The day she could begin to be the person on the outside she planned to be, starting with Milo, Soleil, and Blossom.

• 6:54Speaker 03

  And it seemed like it would just be forever, but it was really happening, you know? I saw her, I hugged her. Like, there were no guards watching. There was no... We weren't gonna leave at 2:00. You know, it was like... It was just like, super exciting.

• 7:11Speaker 02

  Oh, the whole ride, my kids were like, "Look at this," and "Look at that," and "Look..." I had no idea what they're talking about. It was like phone stuff, or pictures on Instagram. Like, none of that. I didn't know about any of this.

• 7:29Speaker 02

  Just like, looking out the window and just having my kids kind of curled up on me and just holding on. That was sweet.

• 7:39Speaker 02

  And then...

• 7:41Speaker 03

  When she was inside, we talked a lot about what we were gonna do when she got out. And it wasn't all like, big things. It was just like, our plans. Like, mom and daughter thing, painting our nails together, going on trips together, watching movies, showing our music, listening to music together.

• 8:07Speaker 01

  When they got home to Amika's papa's house, she put her one bag of belongings down on the patio where she'd be sleeping. She called her mom, and she made plans for her boyfriend, Jose, to call her from prison, collect when he could. And then they all sat down on her dad's couch, and she put in a DVD with pictures of her work at the firehouse.

• 8:26Speaker 02

  We're on papa's big red couch, and we're all cuddled together. That was probably one of the first moments when we all just, you know, I had a girl on each side.

• 8:39Speaker 01

  There were pictures of Amika doing vehicle extractions, climbing ladders and hosing down burning buildings.

• 8:46Speaker 02

  And they were blunt, my, it was just like, my mom's a gangster, oh my god, my mom. You know, that's how my girls were, like, whoa, you know, it was kind of unbelievable.

• 8:56Speaker 01

  They were proud of you?

• 8:56Speaker 02

  Yeah, they were really proud. And my papa was too, my mom was, I mean, it was, it was, uh, it was pretty amazing. I just felt like I was getting to share my life with them and bringing it home to them about what I really did.

• 9:15Speaker 01

  The first day together on the couch, being proud, being hopeful, that was the easiest day.

• 9:22Speaker 03

  It was like this goal, it was like, when she got out, everything would be perfect. It was like this, it was just this thing that we were waiting on. And once she got out, everything would be perfect, life would be perfect. But it wasn't like that at all. It wasn't like that at all.

• 9:40Speaker 02

  I mean, coming home and having two teenage girls in the house who loved me and were hurt by me and that had placed me on a pedestal for all the years I was gone. Coming home to those girls and to the reality of like, we, we had different visions, actually.

• 10:04Speaker 03

  But I didn't, what had happened when she came home, I didn't expect that.

• 10:15Speaker 01

  Amika's son Milo was in his twenties and already out of the house. She had two daughters. Her older daughter, Serlay, was turning 18, and there was a lot of pain in that mother-daughter relationship. And her youngest, Blossom, was 13.

• 10:30Speaker 03

  I mean, 13 is like where you're first, like, you're just starting to be a teenager.

• 10:38Speaker 03

  I think the first, like, crazy thing that happened was when, when she first got home. I just remembered like the first, this one night, it was a school night, too. I went out with my friends, I didn't come home until like 6:00 in the morning.

• 10:51Speaker 01

  When Blossom came home, Amika knew exactly what she had been doing.

• 10:57Speaker 02

  I mean, I, I knew she was using because I could tell in her eyes, I could see it in her eyes. I knew, uh, I knew she was off, I knew she wasn't fully there.

• 11:11Speaker 02

  That scared the shit out of me. I just didn't know what to do. I didn't, I didn't know what to do, like, as a mom at that point.

• 11:24Speaker 02

  She was like, all I had left, and the idea of me losing her to some fucking drugs or some bullshit

• 11:33Speaker 02

  was so terrifying. I was so sad and afraid for my daughter. And it came across as just anger, you know?

• 11:44Speaker 03

  And I think that just set her off. And it got, yeah, after that, got violent, and then...

• 11:53Speaker 02

  I picked her up by her jaw, and I picked her up kind of by her neck and her jaw. And I, you know, put her head up against the wall. And I don't even remember what it was I said, but

• 12:04Speaker 02

  that touch alone was not a touch she had ever felt for me.

• 12:11Speaker 02

  And it was extreme. It scared her. It scared me. It scared all of us. I have never put hands on my kids like that, you know what I mean? So...

• 12:21Speaker 03

  It was just so shocking to me

• 12:25Speaker 03

  that that happened.

• 12:28Speaker 03

  And it was... It was disappointing.

• 12:35Speaker 02

  I wasn't able to love my kids the same way when I got home.

• 12:43Speaker 02

  I wasn't able to be the kind of mom that they wanted.

• 12:50Speaker 02

  I wasn't able to be like, a soft and gentle, loving mom. I had a different shell on me at that point. And it wasn't, even though I was always felt like I was a touchy feely person, I was. Like, my, you know, I wasn't anymore. And like,

• 13:08Speaker 02

  you know, there's times my, my kids would like, want to cuddle with me and and it was like, too much. I didn't, I, I just, it freaked me out a little bit. Like, I just, I don't even have a words or a process to put to that. But I knew that I wasn't accessible in the way that they had wanted me to be, or that I had wanted to be when I got home.

• 13:34Speaker 02

  This is what I keep thinking, like, it was interrupted. My bond with my kids was so interrupted that it's changed forever. You know what I mean? There is no going back to what was before. And I spent most of my prison life thinking I could go back in ways, or I could make up. And it's taken me as long out as I was inside to realize that that's not the case. Like, I can't go back. I can't fix. I can only move forward.

• 14:09Speaker 03

  I think because I was so young when she went away, like, I was used to not having a mom. I knew she was my mom, but it was also like, no, she was kind of a stranger. Yeah.

• 14:25Speaker 03

  And it's like weird saying that, but it is like, she was a stranger.

• 14:46Speaker 01

  This is Fire Escape. The story continues right after this short break. Stay tuned.

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• 16:45Speaker 01

  Welcome back to Snap Judgment. This is Fire Escape, the story of a woman whose world burned down and then she learned to fight fire from behind bars.

• 16:56Speaker 02

  In some ways, I feel like I overpromised my kids when I was in the inside. Like, when I was trying to get right for them or I was trying to redeem myself, I overpromised. I really did. Because I had no idea how hard it would be out here.

• 17:19Speaker 01

  Did she ever ask you how you process your accident?

• 17:25Speaker 02

  I mean, she didn't ask me a whole lot. She's, you know, but she would say things like,

• 17:34Speaker 02

  "It's hard for me to believe that that is part of you," right? She's like a girl of few words. She watches a lot more than she asks questions. And she was definitely paying close attention to me over those years.

• 17:56Speaker 01

  About a year and a half after Amika was released from prison, she was still living at her papa's house when she got a phone call from her mom, Joni.

• 18:06Speaker 02

  She was like, "Are you, where are you? Sit down. Like, you need to be by yourself and be somewhere okay right now."

• 18:17Speaker 02

  And that was when she told me that she had pancreatic cancer and that it had spread. So they found, you know, a lesion on her liver. And so, yeah, we knew it was spreading.

• 18:36Speaker 03

  I think we had found out that she was sick. And then what I can really remember is when she came to visit us.

• 18:47Speaker 03

  She came over to my papa's house.

• 18:52Speaker 03

  And she was the cutest little thing ever. She had a purple dress on and her purple hat and a little suitcase.

• 19:01Speaker 02

  We knew pancreatic cancer is, you know, as she was diagnosed at a really late stage.

• 19:11Speaker 02

  She told me that she was going to die and that she probably had about six months left to live.

• 19:22Speaker 03

  She had told us that, you know, she didn't want to do chemo. I think the doctor estimated like six or seven months.

• 19:32Speaker 02

  And so my mom was like really excited because she thought, you know, I have the option to choose to die if I want.

• 19:39Speaker 02

  But I also remember she was really terrified about that because of my criminal history. And she knew I would be with her and be tending to her. And so I know my mom went into this mode too of trying to protect me. I mean, she started kind of like getting everything, all of her Ts crossed and Is dotted and making sure she had legal paperwork and that neighbors knew that, you know, what her plan was. And, um, yeah, she was afraid that I could be held responsible for some, in some way, if she chose to, to die on her own.

• 20:14Speaker 01

  It was a real risk for Amika to put herself at the scene of someone's death. But she told herself all those years in prison, the kind of person she wanted to be when she got out, the kind of mom she wanted to be. She wanted to be there for people and to show her daughter how to take care of others. So Amika took Blossom and they moved into Joni's apartment in downtown Oakland.

• 20:37Speaker 02

  She was getting sick fast. I made the decision to go and live with my mom, knowing she was dying. And Blossom, from the beginning, was like 100% on board. And we just were with her. Like, we, you know, we just, what we did was we set her bed up in the living room. It was like a studio apartment. The other thing that really, that was really stood out to me at that time was how vulnerable my mom became. Because my mom is not like that.

• 21:18Speaker 02

  My mom is like this, she's fierce, she's loud, she's, you cannot shut my mom up in a room, but she, she needed us in a way that she's never needed us.

• 21:35Speaker 01

  Amika would call her mom's friends on the phone and then lay the phone down next to her. They called the women who helped her start Good Vibrations. They called the photographers she had collaborated with for Down There Press. But there was one important person they couldn't call. They had to wait for him to call them.

• 21:53Speaker 02

  Jose called from prison and he was able to spend some time talking to my mom. And she'd known about him for years, but the last conversation that they had was my mom giving him her blessing. Even when he sat inside prison, my mom believed that we were making the right decision and that he would take care of me.

• 22:22Speaker 02

  The other thing that my mom had on her finger when she died was a little ring that he had sent her from inside the county jail that had my name on it. And she wore that on her her wedding finger.

• 22:40Speaker 02

  This little ring made from jail that Jose sent to her. And it was like her most prized possession at the end.

• 22:52Speaker 02

  It was hard. I mean, it was like hard and beautiful because I had never seen the side of my mom too. All of us had blocked off this tenderness, you know, myself, my mom in many ways. You know, Blossom had that too. It was like, once I was gone, you know, I remember my friend that was taking care of her, just, you know, she would write me and be like, she doesn't want to hug anybody. She doesn't want people to touch her. She only wants her mom.

• 23:19Speaker 02

  I think she

• 23:23Speaker 02

  I think she was reminded about a part of me that wasn't front and center most of the time, right? Which was

• 23:32Speaker 02

  the ability to be soft and nurturing and

• 23:39Speaker 02

  loving and

• 23:44Speaker 02

  I think I saw for the first time the nurturing, the true nurturing side of my mom.

• 23:53Speaker 02

  Seeing how good she is at taking care of people and like making that space for spirits to pass through.

• 24:03Speaker 02

  So we were figuring it out together. And yeah, Blossom was a natural, just like right there. We just kind of, you know, kept her cozy and warm. And then

• 24:14Speaker 02

  we just knew it was coming. We just got in bed with her and

• 24:19Speaker 02

  Blossom and I just kind of took turns

• 24:23Speaker 02

  cuddling with her and

• 24:26Speaker 02

  you know, keeping a cool rag on their face and things like that.

• 24:32Speaker 02

  I remember hearing her take her last breath.

• 24:38Speaker 02

  Me and my mom, we just sat there for a long time.

• 24:45Speaker 03

  I think, actually, I did think, when she passed, she actually did kind of have like a half-smile on her face, like a, like a soft smile, you know?

• 25:00Speaker 02

  We got some music going, "Gobal" burning.

• 25:05Speaker 02

  And then we decorated her body. We, we had some henna. And so we painted on her and we covered her with these flowers from her garden.

• 25:17Speaker 03

  We laid the flowers all around her.

• 25:24Speaker 03

  And just sat with her.

• 25:28Speaker 02

  We felt proud that my mom got to die the way she wanted to die, in her home.

• 25:36Speaker 02

  And that she didn't suffer too much at the end.

• 25:40Speaker 03

  I think when she died, it was a really...

• 25:48Speaker 03

  You can't put it into words. It's the same feeling that you have at a birth.

• 25:56Speaker 03

  You know, birth and death are so similar. So it didn't feel scary, it didn't feel strange. It just felt normal.

• 26:10Speaker 01

  The story continues right after this break.

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• 28:45Speaker 01

  Welcome back. I'm Anna Sussman and you're listening to Fire Escape from Snap Studios at KQED.

• 28:55Speaker 01

  A little while after Joni passed away, a few months later, Jose was released from prison. He was working the fields in central California, picking strawberries for not much pay.

• 29:07Speaker 02

  Well, what I saw was that he actually, like, he also started, like, studying for his GED. He got his license. So those were like indicators, like, okay, well, he seems pretty serious, right? And but it became more and more clear how serious he was.

• 29:27Speaker 01

  And then he and Amika and Blossom were able to move into Joni's apartment together. It was in an intentional community where folks ate meals together, gardened together, generally took care of each other.

• 29:42Speaker 02

  And that was also life-changing for him as well, because for the first time ever, he'd been, he was in a community where there was resources and support. And he had never experienced any of those things in the Central Valley.

• 29:54Speaker 01

  Because it was an intentional community? What do you mean?

• 29:56Speaker 02

  No, because I was so tapped into, I'd say, the kind of reentry community and people that had got out and made it. He had never seen anybody that had made it before. Like, that's actually pretty normal, is like, to not have people in your community that have come back and done well for themselves, right? Or survived it, like...

• 30:17Speaker 01

  They lived together for more than a year, just trying to slowly and quietly build a life together.

• 30:27Speaker 02

  I knew, I had the feeling I was pregnant.

• 30:30Speaker 01

  How did you feel?

• 30:34Speaker 02

  A mix of everything. I knew there was going to be people that judged me or didn't want, you know, that didn't think this was the right decision.

• 30:44Speaker 02

  And all of that, and I still felt like, sweet baby, I was so excited.

• 30:53Speaker 01

  She told Blossom first, and then they took Jose out for a birthday dinner at a buffet place and handed him a little box all wrapped up, a pregnancy test.

• 31:07Speaker 02

  We both, he had never been in his kids' lives the way he wanted to be because of incarceration, right? And addiction. And so for him, it was a kind of a dream to like have a new, a chance to do it again.

• 31:28Speaker 02

  And for me, too.

• 31:36Speaker 02

  More so on choosing to bring another child in, right? Especially with wounded children that we had let down and hurt. And I'm sure it was really hard for them to see us

• 31:56Speaker 02

  starting over. Everybody was like, really? This is where you want to put your energy instead of us? We have our own insecurities about becoming parents this late in the game. And after having like, you know, left and abandoned our children in many ways.

• 32:16Speaker 02

  You know, the truth is that we went from a death in our home, when my mama died at home, to a year and a half later,

• 32:28Speaker 02

  our daughter, Jose, and I were married. And we were giving birth to our first baby girl together in the same spot that my mom had passed in a year and a half earlier.

• 32:42Speaker 01

  In this small loft that her mother had painted lavender, the same loft her mother had passed away in, in a blow up birthing tub surrounded by women she had known for decades, and Jose and Blossom, Amika began to birth her fourth child.

• 33:01Speaker 03

  Oh my goodness.

• 33:03Speaker 04

  Relax, relax.

• 33:05Speaker 02

  Relax, you're fine.

• 33:07Speaker 04

  It's okay. Yeah, Bill, it's okay. She's gonna slip by. She's gonna slip on by, okay?

• 33:15Speaker 03

  Okay.

• 33:15Speaker 04

  Just gently slip by, there you go.

• 33:17Speaker 03

  I remember thinking that I wish I could take her pain away. It's like whatever I could do to make it better for her. My mom bent over and I'm like, oh my god, oh my god. What do I do? Like, you kind of don't, like, I did not know what to do, really. I was trying to feed my mom popsicles.

• 33:40Speaker 03

  And...

• 33:44Speaker 03

  Smudging her down and she was beautiful.

• 33:48Speaker 02

  We, my husband and Blossom and myself, we all touched her head as she was coming out.

• 33:55Speaker 03

  So yeah, she was in the tub and we were all, we were all just watching her. Saw her little head poke out. There she goes, there she goes.

• 34:12Speaker 02

  Blossom was the first one to have hands on little Gloria and lift her up to our chest.

• 34:19Speaker 03

  And I caught her. She finally came out and I caught her.

• 34:25Speaker 03

  And I handed her to my mom.

• 34:32Speaker 04

  I know. We're gonna bring you up.

• 34:42Speaker 02

  It was a very full circle moment on so many levels.

• 34:47Speaker 02

  Blossom was my baby before Gloria, right? And she was the youngest and so it was her first experience of like,

• 35:00Speaker 02

  being at a birth, catching a baby, which has always been something that I thought a kid should experience. Like, I felt like I had given her a bit of a cycle that a daughter deserves, right? To understand birth and death closely.

• 35:24Speaker 03

  And you know, as my mom says, like, the one that's there at the gates, they're passing through, is an honor. Like, I felt, like I feel like I was really, really lucky to be the one to catch Gloria and to be the one to be there with my grandma as she passed on.

• 35:51Speaker 02

  What I envisioned the whole time I was in prison about how I would reconcile with my kids,

• 35:58Speaker 02

  I envisioned myself being there for them all the time. I envisioned myself, like, giving them a lot of love to make up for all these years that I'd been gone.

• 36:11Speaker 02

  And I envisioned myself setting example of the new person I would be when I came home.

• 36:17Speaker 02

  I can say I can do one of those, and it's set an example.

• 36:24Speaker 02

  It's like, how do you pass on and translate? Especially when you've been removed and interrupted, you know, your relationship. And so, this was all those things without speaking a word.

• 36:44Speaker 02

  The community we lived in, that was what they wanted us to do when the baby was born, was they asked Blossom, "Please come ring the bell so people could pay their respects." And that was how we got to announce to our people that she had made her way and that she was there.

• 37:04Speaker 02

  We, we had so much joy and we, we were celebrating Gloria.

• 37:13Speaker 02

  And we sure did tell the world that she was here and we had just did that, you know?

• 37:19Speaker 01

  I mean, ringing a bell is like the opposite of shame.

• 37:24Speaker 02

  That is so real. That is so real.

• 37:29Speaker 02

  If I didn't rise up a bit out of that, the shame or the looking back and regret, I couldn't have done what I did. Like, I could not have... I couldn't have parented them in the ways that I did when I got out. If I didn't believe I was doing the right thing, if I didn't believe that I was worthy of being their mother or a new child's mother, right? Like, I had to decide that I was worthy of of living my life again.

• 38:47Speaker 01

  Fire Escape is a production of Snap Studios and Wondry. We want to thank Amika Mota for sharing her story with us. We have the stories of four more incarcerated firefighters in our bonus episodes. You'll also hear from some special guests in those episodes, including Anna Sale of Death, Sex and Money, Earlonne Woods of Ear Hustle, New York Times bestselling author Stephanie Foo, and Suzy Lewis from On Our Watch. Fire Escape was created, written, and produced by me, Anna Sussman. For Snap Studios, our senior story editors are Mark Ristich and Nancy Lopez. Marisa Dodge is our director of production. Original music by Renzo Corio and Doug Stewart. Doug Stewart also created our theme song. Sound design and engineering by Miles Lassie.

• 39:31Speaker 01

  For Wondry, our senior story editor is Phyllis Fletcher. Our development producer is Eliza Mills. Claire Chambers, Lauren D., and Mandy Gorenstein are our senior producers, and Sarah Mathis is our managing producer. Our executive producers for Snap Studios are Glynn Washington and Mark Ristich. Executive producers for Wondry are Marshall Louis, Morgan Jones, George Lavender, and Jen Sargent. Special thanks to Adisa Egan and Catherine Steyer Martinez, Pat Mercedes Miller, and the San Francisco Fire Department. On Team Snap, the union-represented producers, artists, editors, and engineers are members of the National Association of Broadcast Employees and Technicians, Communication Workers of America, AFL-CIO, Local 51.

• 40:34Speaker 05

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