Venus Williams: THIS Is How You TRAIN YOUR MIND For SUCCESS, CONFIDENCE, & FULFILLMENT

Today, I am absolutely thrilled because we have a true icon on the show. She's not just a tennis legend; she's also a fierce entrepreneur, a champion for equality, and an all-around inspiration. Whether she's smashing winners on the court or breaking barriers in business, she's always pushing the limits and showing us what's possible. Venus has teamed up with Dove to raise awareness about the Body Confident Sport program — a first of its-kind online coaching program developed in partnership with Nike to build body confidence in 11-17 year old girls. Today she shares her passion for shifting the conversation from appearance to capability, and how her personal journey has given her insight to this issue. Learn more about Dove’s Body Confident Sport program and get involved HERE! In this episode you will learnAbout the journey from self-doubt to self-belief and how to develop confidence in oneself. How to translate athletic skills into life skills for navigating uncertain situations. You will hear about the power of letting go of emotions and beliefs that hold you back and how it can lead to personal growth. Insights into the importance of mental and emotional preparation for achieving success in any field. The significance of focusing on performance over appearance and learn strategies for fostering body confidence in young people. For more information go to www.lewishowes.com/1591IT’S MY BIRTHDAY! 41 years for me, 41 gifts for you – register to win a $250 Amazon gift card by clicking this LINKFor more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you’ll love:Eckhart Tolle – https://link.chtbl.com/1463-podRhonda Byrne – https://link.chtbl.com/1525-podJohn Maxwell – https://link.chtbl.com/1501-pod Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

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• 0:00Speaker 00

  You just have to keep training your mind. And I think sometimes people forget that part, that training your mind is so important. If you want to be strong mentally, train to be strong mentally.

• 0:10Speaker 01

  A tennis icon, she has won 73 titles, four Olympic gold medals, and seven grand slams in her career that has spanned two decades. Please, everybody, welcome Venus Williams.

• 0:22Speaker 00

  Also, you have to think about the decisions you would make if you weren't afraid. You know, like if I wasn't afraid, what shot would I actually go for?

• 0:28Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 0:29Speaker 00

  What would I try? What would I give up? A lot of times, not even going for it, actually, what would you leave behind? Just embracing unapologetically who you are and what you look like. This is me, this is what you get, this is my brand. Just knowing who you are and not having to apologize for it. When you find what you're passionate about, it just clicks, right? It's important to get connected to what you love.

• 0:49Lewis Howes?

  I think a lot of people struggle with building a good identity for themselves. Do you ever think about identity? Or do you just tie it towards kind of your values, your self-confidence and

• 0:59Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 0:59Lewis Howes?

  your belief system? Or do you think about identity in a different way?

• 1:02Speaker 00

  That's an interesting question. No one's ever asked me that, but I think identity is...

• 1:09Lewis Howes?

  Hey, everyone, and welcome back to the School of Greatness. Today's episode is truly special because we're honored to be joined by a true champion. The one and only Venus Williams is here to share her experience as a woman in sports and the vital importance of building body confidence. Did you know that a staggering 45% of girls drop out of sports by the age of 14 due to low body confidence? But fear not, because Dove, in partnership with Nike, is on a mission to change that narrative with their groundbreaking initiative, Body Confident Sport. So join us as we dive deep into this transformative conversation and visit dove.com/ConfidentSports to learn more about how you can join the movement. Let's keep her confident.

• 1:53Lewis Howes?

  And now, without further ado, let's jump into this episode with Venus Williams. Welcome back, everyone, to the School of Greatness. I'm very excited about our guest today. We have the inspiring and iconic Venus Williams in the house. Good to see you, Venus. How you doing?

• 2:08Speaker 00

  I'm great. How are you guys?

• 2:10Lewis Howes?

  I'm very I'm very good, very excited that you're here. I just want to read a quick little bio about you because it's so impressive to hear about the results that you've done in your life and be behind the results. You know, every time that people have a lot of big accolades and results, I always know that there's an incredible human being and soul behind the results. So I want to talk about both of these, but I want to let people know a little bit about you if they're not aware of the incredible success that you've created. You're a former world number one in both singles and doubles. You won seven Grand Slam singles titles, five at Wimbledon and two at the US Open and

• 2:52Lewis Howes?

  Olympic gold medalist and widely regarded as one of the greatest tennis players of all time. And so many more accomplishments, that's just the scratching the surface. But you're also incredible human being, you care about humanity and you have a big heart and a beautiful soul. And so I wanted to connect with you on both how you've been able to translate your mindset, your ability to care deeply about the things you love and the people that you love. And how you've been able to translate into your profession, into your your efforts in the world as well. So, welcome to the School of Greatness. I'm very excited that you're here.

• 3:30Speaker 00

  Thank you. Good to be here.

• 3:31Lewis Howes?

  Now, I'm curious, you know, something that I love about you is that I that I've witnessed about you, this is us connecting for the first time, but the things that I've witnessed about you and your career that I love watching is your incredible self-belief. And, you know, I've watched your career for many years and and watched your consistency of believing in yourself. And I'm a big believer that self-belief is one of the greatest skills that we can develop in order to accomplish our goals and dreams. And I'm curious Did you always believe in yourself? Or was there a period of time that you lacked confidence? That you didn't think you were any good?

• 4:15Lewis Howes?

  Or you didn't think you were worthy of believing in or loving yourself?

• 4:20Speaker 00

  You said, were there moments where I felt like that?

• 4:22Lewis Howes?

  Was there ever moments like growing up where you you didn't feel like you had self belief? Because it always seems like you you have it. But did you ever struggle with that?

• 4:31Speaker 00

  Yeah, I do hate to be one of those annoying persons that didn't struggle with that. You know, but I didn't.

• 4:43Speaker 00

  I was also very oblivious as a child. Like, I had a real childhood. Like, I was a kid. I didn't think about what I looked like.

• 4:53Speaker 00

  You know, I didn't have the best outfits or the best hair or any of those things. So if I would have actually looked at it, I probably would have been very self conscious. But I think I was just so oblivious that I didn't even know to think about that stuff.

• 5:06Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 5:07Speaker 00

  Yeah, I just had a great childhood in the sense where we just went and we played tennis. We went to school. We went to church. And my whole world was my family and my parents and my mom and my dad. So they whatever they told us was golden. It's like, believe in yourself. OK, believe in yourself. Have confidence. OK, have confidence. You're going to be great. OK, I'm going to be great. And obviously, there's a lot of work that went behind it. But it was almost like drinking the Kool-Aid, right? We drank the Kool-Aid. And so there was no room for any other kind of outside influence to get involved or get in the way. So I was lucky in that sense.

• 5:42Lewis Howes?

  Interesting. What do you think? Why do you think so many people struggle with self confidence and self belief today? Is it social media, outside influences? Is it people just don't think they're good enough? Like, how how come you were able to drink the Kool-Aid and stay in that environment? And not let outside forces creep in?

• 6:00Speaker 00

  Yeah, I think that's important. And I think there's a difference between having self belief at your core and having situational moments where you don't feel good about it, right? I there's a hundred times more that I've walked on the court and just didn't feel great. You know, like, I don't know if I can do this. Right? So that's different than ultimately, deep down, knowing I have what it takes to do it. So those are two different things, right? So I would say, yeah, there have been plenty of times where I was like, you know, oh, my God. But at the end, I always felt like I was worthy and that I deserved it. And um, and that that's purely my background. It was purely my parents who just gave us that from the very beginning. Like, there was nothing else I ever heard since I could remember. So I was very fortunate in that sense.

• 6:46Speaker 00

  And I think as an adult, I've I've definitely faced some moments where I was I have felt like, I don't know if I belong here.

• 6:53Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 6:54Speaker 00

  That was, yeah, that that that felt um.

• 6:58Lewis Howes?

  Like, what situations do you mean?

• 7:00Speaker 00

  Uh, I I guess they call it imposter syndrome.

• 7:03Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 7:04Speaker 00

  Uh, yes, I've had different moments. Um, I'm working with a new AI company in interior design. I'm thinking, should I really be here? I mean, I have a background in interior design. And then I had to fundraise for the first time. This was a nightmare for me.

• 7:17Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 7:18Speaker 00

  And, oh, my God, like, the anxiety and the the issues going. It was horrible. And I that's the moment where I understood imposter syndrome. So I went through my whole life of like, pretty much feeling like, you know, king of the court. And then I get there and have to raise money. I'm like, I don't want to be here. I'm so afraid. What's happening? So I think that was a great experience for me. And I think that I saw it for what it was. And I knew I had to push through, but it was extraordinarily uncomfortable.

• 7:49Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 7:49Speaker 00

  It was awful.

• 7:49Lewis Howes?

  What was so uncomfortable about it? Was it doing something you'd never done before? Like, getting out of your comfort zone and asking to raise money for something that maybe you're new at? Is is that what it was?

• 8:00Speaker 00

  Exactly. Uh, my parents are, once again, back to them. My mom says, never ask for anything. So just for me to have to ask, like, you know, we're raising money. We need you to give us this. I'm like, oh, no, I have to ask for money? This is out of my DNA. I don't ask for anything. I'm used to be able to do everything for myself. Um, also, just a pitch, like, in AI, like, I don't know anything about AI. I had to learn the term. What am I doing here? Um, just in general, I think on the second call, I, um, the person I was pitching with, they fell off. So they asked me, okay, yeah, what are next steps in the timeline? And I'm all by myself and you have to, you have to say something.

• 8:43Speaker 00

  You know, and so those kinds of things happen and you're completely unprepared and it's like, how do you deal with it? But I absolutely think that my experience in sport helped me to deal with that kind of dealing with ambiguity. It's just, it's not easy, but sometimes you don't know what's gonna happen when you walk on the court, but you have to deal with it. So I think that helped, but my, by no, it, it was a tough situation. Do I ever want to fundraise again? Absolutely not.

• 9:10Speaker 00

  I hope I don't have to. It's not a place I'd like to be, but it was, it was, it was good to be very humbled.

• 9:16Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. Wow. What do you think was the greatest skill that you developed in your training on the court and as an athlete? That you're able to translate into these moments of raising money for a business?

• 9:28Speaker 00

  Well, I mean, it's hard to pick one, right?

• 9:32Speaker 00

  I'm a workhorse. I don't mind working day and night. I'll work all day, work all night and start over again, repeat. I think that lack of fear of, of laying it on the line, blood, sweat, tears, leave your heart out there. Walk off on a stretch or not even walk off, be carried off on a stretcher. So, you know, that kind of thing, not being afraid of hard work. I think a lot of people are afraid of that level of intensity. But that's honestly what it takes to succeed. People who are succeeding, a lot of times you see folks when they get to the finish line, the trophy's up, right? They played a beautiful match or created an unbelievable business. Now you see them and they're billions. You never heard of them before. You didn't see them the 10 or 15 years that they put in. You didn't see their failures beforehand.

• 10:13Speaker 00

  No one sees, you know, the injuries that you have around the court when you just can't get it right and the frustration and the back and forth and the losses. So all of those things really teach you all the lessons you need in life. And, and the failures too, the failures that you have to get back up and you still have to believe in yourself just as much. And if you don't, still pretend at least that you do. Sometimes just faking it is enough. Sometimes you don't know how you're gonna get there. And I think being okay with not knowing, but knowing that there is a point A to point B and you gotta get to point B. It's okay not to exactly know, but you know, you're, you know, you're swimming through the, the water, you're climbing the mountain. Whatever you face, you have to do it on your terms.

• 10:56Lewis Howes?

  Wow. Have you ever been afraid of failure or have you just been confident in, really?

• 11:01Speaker 00

  For sure, for sure. Everyone is.

• 11:06Speaker 00

  But you can't, you can't let it stop you. My mom always said, fear is the devil. And also, you have to think about the decisions you would make if you weren't afraid. You know, like if I wasn't afraid, what shot would I actually go for?

• 11:20Speaker 00

  What would I try? What, what would I give up? Also, if I weren't afraid, a lot of times not even about going for it, actually, what would you let, leave behind?

• 11:28Lewis Howes?

  Interesting.

• 11:29Speaker 00

  A lot of times we hang on to stuff that's just holding us back.

• 11:34Speaker 00

  And also, if you aren't afraid, are you, then you can actually look at yourself. I think sports teaches you self-awareness, and I have a real thing for not being self-aware and being around people who aren't self-aware bothers the heck out of me.

• 11:49Speaker 00

  If you're not self-aware, if you do not tell yourself the truth, you will not win. That's what it's about, winning and being honest with yourself.

• 12:00Lewis Howes?

  What's the thing, speaking of holding on to things, what's the thing that you in your life held on to for the longest period? That once you let go of it, allowed you to step up in a greater way as an athlete or a human or, you know, in business? What was that thing?

• 12:17Speaker 00

  You know, this is gonna sound weird, but I'm, I'm a person who's always involved in the arts. And when you are buying art, for me, I buy or look at art that I love because it makes me happy and I find it beautiful. There is no category. I don't buy just this or that. And so over the years, when you look back, you're like, I should have gotten that piece. I thought about it, or I should have invested in this artist. And it's about buying work that you love and you get to live with it, right? And so I would walk through art fairs and everywhere you looked was someone else that I just didn't get that has like blown up now. And I think finally, once I let it go, I let it go. I felt such peace. You know, just like such peace of like, it's fine.

• 13:02Speaker 00

  That was hard. And I know that's a weird answer.

• 13:05Lewis Howes?

  So the letting go of the, letting go of, oh, I should have invested in this. I should have taken this action. And, and beating yourself up, you let that part of you go for that.

• 13:15Speaker 00

  And I had to let that go. And now I feel free.

• 13:19Lewis Howes?

  That's good. That's good.

• 13:20Speaker 00

  I know you weren't expecting that answer, but.

• 13:23Lewis Howes?

  No, whatever's on your heart and mind. What do you?

• 13:25Speaker 00

  Regret.

• 13:26Lewis Howes?

  What do you think has been the, the emotion that you've had, that you held on to for too long in your life? That when you let go? Uh, allowed you to be a better human being, a better athlete, a better, you know, person with your family.

• 13:38Speaker 00

  Oh, no, I don't hold on to emotions.

• 13:40Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 13:41Speaker 00

  Um, no, I, I mean, an emotion is just an.

• 13:44Lewis Howes?

  Or belief, or beliefs, or beliefs.

• 13:47Speaker 00

  I don't, I don't know. I don't, I don't hold on to things. I think that's one of my strengths that I can, I do let go outside of that art thing. Um, but you, it, things happen as they happen. I think I would hold on to things if I was continuing to make the same mistakes over and over. But I'm human. I make mistakes. Sometimes I make a decision that could have been better. But I learn from it. Immediately I set responsibility for it and I move on. And I think that's all you can do, right? So you, I, you can't, you can't hold on to stuff.

• 14:21Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 14:21Speaker 00

  Unless you have a time machine and you can go backwards, but otherwise there's no point.

• 14:25Lewis Howes?

  What would you say, you know, your, your parents, obviously, I think a lot of people know about your parents making a big impact in your life. You speak about them a lot. Um, what would you say was the greatest lesson that each of your parents taught you growing up that you still hold on to today? And implement today in your life?

• 14:43Speaker 00

  Yeah, you know what? Um, that's hard because there's, there were so many lessons. You have to understand everything was a lesson. Even watching a cartoon was a lesson. Like, there was nothing that wasn't a lesson. So I'm so grateful for that. And, and as I've, you know, had time to spend around my nieces, I just feel like I've just totally failed. Because I've made, I feel like I haven't made anything a lesson yet. Like, I gotta bring my parents' energy to this. But, um, I think one of the biggest gifts my parents gave me was spirituality.

• 15:13Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 15:14Speaker 00

  It's so important to have something to believe in. It's so important to have hope. Uh, the world's a beautiful place, but it's a tough place too. And if you don't have belief in values, you will do anything and then you'll get anything. If you don't have hope.

• 15:29Speaker 00

  It's gonna be hard to get through this world where so many things happen. And it's not even to you, but to other people that you hear about that's so disheartening. So, um, all that is very grounding. And I think it helps you to let go of stuff. It helps you to play better in your game. It helps you to realize like, I'm gonna give my everything to this. And if I fail, that's fine. I have something bigger and better that's backing me up. And I think it just lets you be happy. So to me, that that's the biggest gift that they gave me.

• 15:57Lewis Howes?

  It is.

• 15:58Speaker 00

  I'm just like my mom, though. I've, my family joke's transformation complete. We're exactly the same. And I'm proud of that. I love being just like her, but we, we have our weaknesses. We definitely have weaknesses.

• 16:13Lewis Howes?

  What is your weakness that you think you could improve on?

• 16:15Speaker 00

  Um, zero patience.

• 16:17Lewis Howes?

  Me neither.

• 16:18Speaker 00

  I can't always read the room as well as I like. And my emotional intelligence is as high as I'd like it to be. Uh, and that's not something I can fix. You're born how you are. And I just tell people, I'm empathetic, but I don't always pick out about it. Just tell me, I'll be there. Just me not know. So you gotta, you gotta let me in on some things. And, um, I think once I became aware of it, um, cause during COVID, I had a friend stay with me and like the friend came and like ate all the food, drank all the drinks, didn't get groceries. So I'm like buying food, buying drinks, buying groceries. And

• 16:57Lewis Howes?

  Paying the rent, yay.

• 16:59Speaker 00

  Everything, you know, cause we just, we thought it was gonna be a few weeks and it lasted months, right? It was a fun experience, but I had to learn how impatient I was. And also the standard I hold for myself is so high, but because of the standard my parents held, like we weren't even allowed to walk slow. My dad would say, a slow walker, slow thinker, you can't walk slow. So everything was fast, quick. So I learned to do things so quickly, so fast, so efficient, that then, you know, someone else is in your house and you see that they're moving so slow. You're like, this could be done in a minute. Like, what are you doing? And, you know, my house is someone else's. So I didn't, I never complained about it, but it was like, buy some groceries. Like you can't just eat all the food.

• 17:39Speaker 00

  So I learned a lot about myself and I realized that I needed to work on my EQ. And then I realized that some people had more of it and others don't. So always my family helps me understand things and situations. They're like my crutch.

• 17:55Lewis Howes?

  Are you, do you feel like you're just overly generous and not, you're not thinking, oh, is this person just taking advantage or just maybe they weren't thinking about contributing?

• 18:03Speaker 00

  No, not even that. But like I, once I was at a party and I was talking to some friends and then one of my friends came over and when she left, everyone said, what's wrong with her? She seems horribly sad and I never saw it. And so I said, wait, let me go check on her. So I, those are things like I will never see and it's not because I don't want to, it just goes over my head. So those, those kinds of things I've seen, I can't improve on. That's why I tell people I care about. It's like, I have this, you know, you know, this thing that it doesn't work as well as others. So just tell me everything, you know?

• 18:36Lewis Howes?

  Sure. I'm curious about your, you know, your mindset, you know, against with someone like yourself who's accomplished so much at the highest level in the world of what you do. Can you break down a little bit on how you think before entering a big moment in your life, in your, in your sport or in the business you're building? Like, is there a process that you think about? When you're going to enter the arena of whatever you're working on?

• 19:04Lewis Howes?

  Is there a mantra, a process? Do you visualize something? Do you, do you release something? Can you just walk through a little bit about that process?

• 19:13Lewis Howes?

  Before we jump back into our powerful conversation with the legendary Venus Williams, I want to take a moment to thank our sponsor Dove for their incredible Body Confidence Sport Initiative in partnership with Nike. Now, I'm still wrapping my head around the statistic I shared earlier in this interview, that nearly half of all girls drop out of sports by the age of 14 due to low body confidence. I also want to emphasize that the bumps, scrapes, or bruises they might endure aren't what's stopping girls from playing sports. It's the low body confidence. And 45% is not a statistic we can ignore. I'm so honored to support Dove on their mission to

• 19:53Lewis Howes?

  change that narrative and ensure every girl has the chance to stay in the game and feel confident in their own skin. And I'm grateful that Venus Williams is here today to help get this message out about the importance of body confidence in sports and share her inspiring journey. But listening to this episode is just the first step in taking action. You can be a part of this transformative movement by visiting dove.com/ confident sports. Together, let's keep her confident. All right, time to dive deeper into Venus's incredible story, her triumphs, her challenges, and her insights on work, happiness, and the crucial role of effort over results. Trust me, you don't want to miss the rest of this conversation.

• 20:36Lewis Howes?

  So let's get back to this episode with the one and only Venus Williams.

• 20:40Speaker 00

  I think the process changes depending on the moment you are in life, right? I think you have these moments as an athlete or in business or in life where you're on top of the world, you can do nothing wrong, everything's golden. Then you're like, okay, it's great. You're in a world, you're in a, you're in a flow, right? And then you have other moments where it's not great. And so you have to be more cognizant of, of that process, be super self-aware and really extract out what's, what, what you're feeling and figure out what part's real and what isn't. Cause we can get the feels, right? And you have to distract like what's, what is just a feeling and what is the, what is the issue? And I do that by journaling. I just start writing what I'm feeling.

• 21:24Speaker 00

  And then once I start writing down all the things I'm feeling, then I'm able to recognize this is actually the one thing that's real is issue. The rest is just a bunch of other stuff that's just floating in my head and I can get rid of the fluff and then focus on the real thing that's bothering me. I think also a lot of being about being your best is just preparation. You cannot be great without the preparation and you can't feel good about what you're doing unless you've done the work. So the greats are doing the work. They're putting in the work, day in, day out. If you're in finance, you're, you're up all night reading, whatever that is that it takes to do that, being on top of your industry, thinking, literally just sitting and thinking and meditating about what you like to accomplish. And it's the same in sport too.

• 22:09Speaker 00

  You, you sit and you meditate about what you'd like to accomplish. So being great is intentional. And then when you're in a bad place, also getting out of it is also intentional too. But it's just realizing where you are and applying what you need to succeed, no matter where you are. When you're in a bad place, you just have to realize that a lot of it is also mental too. You can just what I try to tell myself is that this moment, I'm anticipating what might happen that could be bad. But anticipation is just that it's not even real.

• 22:47Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 22:47Speaker 00

  What if something great happened? What if something amazing could happen? What if I could make that happen? And it's like changing your thought around things is so powerful. And it's not easy and you have to constantly work on it. But if you put in the work, your mind will change. It's like anything else. If you go to the gym and do those biceps for six weeks, you're going to see some improvement. So if you flex your mind in a different way, instead of saying, I can't for six weeks, if you say, I can for six weeks, your mind goes on a completely different pathway and it's so powerful and so true. And it's not easy and you have to continually do it. Once you do it just once, it doesn't just stick. You just have to keep training your mind.

• 23:29Speaker 00

  And I think sometimes people forget that part, that training your mind is so important. If you want to be strong mentally, train to be strong mentally.

• 23:37Lewis Howes?

  Oh, I love that. How do you train to stay strong mentally? Personally?

• 23:43Speaker 00

  Yeah, for sure. First is preparation, right?

• 23:46Lewis Howes?

  Uh huh.

• 23:47Speaker 00

  Doing the preparation, that's, that's ground zero.

• 23:50Lewis Howes?

  Doing the work, putting in the reps. Yeah, yeah.

• 23:52Speaker 00

  Putting in the work, whatever that may be, you have, you have to put in the work.

• 23:57Lewis Howes?

  Uh huh.

• 23:57Speaker 00

  So if you don't do that, you're never going to be great. You're never going to be mentally strong, whatever it is you'd like to achieve. Once you've put in the work, then you realize what you're good at, what you're not. And me personally, I think there's probably a lot of people who are smarter, who are going to get that sixteen hundred on the SAT. I'm probably not going to get the sixteen hundred.

• 24:18Lewis Howes?

  Nah.

• 24:18Speaker 00

  But my strength is that, you know, I'm extremely logical and, you know, I notice patterns. I'm very quick in those sorts of things. So then I have to set myself up in a way that plays in my strengths. Not everyone's gonna have the same strength, everyone's gonna be good at everything. But once you've done your work and you see your strengths, then you gotta figure out a way to play to that. And then always, of course, work on your weaknesses over time. And those at some point can come up too, until you're like this complete player. You know, ready player one.

• 24:49Lewis Howes?

  Let's go.

• 24:50Speaker 00

  And it's just, yeah, it's like, let's play this game to win. If we're gonna play, let's win. Or else there's no need to play.

• 24:56Lewis Howes?

  Absolutely. I think a lot of people want to win at whatever game they're playing in life, or their career, or their business, or their sport. They, they want to be more successful, they want to win. And it seems like more than ever, uh, society, at least in America, American society, it seems like everyone, lots of people, want to become more famous, wealthy, and successful.

• 25:19Speaker 00

  You said it.

• 25:20Lewis Howes?

  And the more people I interview and ask about this, who have fame, wealth, and success, they talk about, you know, the pressures that come with that. Can you share a little bit about how you were? Did you feel like you were mentally and emotionally prepared when you became, you know, a world icon in your sport? And you started to gain popularity, fame, success, money? Did you feel you were mentally and emotionally prepared? Or was that a challenge? Or was it, was it a lot of pressure at first?

• 25:52Speaker 00

  I think I was aware of the pressure. I started really young, like my first pro match was, we're teens. So, a lot of it though, the youth and inexperience is in some way a protection. You just don't really, really get it.

• 26:09Lewis Howes?

  You don't now, yeah.

• 26:10Speaker 00

  You know? Uh, but also it can go the other way too. And I think there were some matches where I, I felt pressure to perform up to maybe what I was supposed to be, like this hype. Um, but at the end of the day, I failed sometimes. And then the failure was a lesson.

• 26:30Lewis Howes?

  Hey.

• 26:30Speaker 00

  And I learned from it. And so that was like, you know, that even though I failed, it was still a step up.

• 26:36Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 26:37Speaker 00

  It wasn't a step down because I learned something. And I got more determined. Um, so I think that a lot of what people want today is based on what they think other people have in social media. I think that's a lot of pressure for young people to to be successful, like immediately. No, no one's successful that young. I was successful young, but I started playing tennis at four and I put in a decade.

• 27:02Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 27:03Speaker 00

  Before I even like went pro. So yes, it was young, but there was, there was, you know, millions of hours of work that happened before that happened. Nothing happens that fast. And really, the process is the most joy I find, right? When you, when you can't figure something out, or you do figure it, once you've figured it out and you've put in the work and you find the right process, and you're able to repeat that process over and over and over again, the sense of pride and accomplishment that you get, not from the success, but the work you put in to get there. That's where the happiness comes from.

• 27:42Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 27:43Speaker 00

  And I think there might be a generation now that doesn't understand that, that there's so much pride in your work. Like what you do, work is a part of your happiness. You don't want to circumvent that. Uh, of, uh, that's a part of who you are, that accomplishment, accomplishing things gives you confidence and happiness. And so if you are empty, or because you haven't, you've skipped that process, then it's something to look at.

• 28:09Lewis Howes?

  Wow. I mean, it's interesting you say this, you say you were kind of young and maybe innocent and wasn't aware of certain things. But, and that's maybe why it didn't impact you or, or create a lot of overwhelming stress. But there's a lot of, you know, either child stars or actors or young musicians who have a lot of fame and success and money quickly, and then go through years of depression or drug addiction and, you know, and fall apart.

• 28:35Lewis Howes?

  So there was something that you had that a lot of people at your age never figure out.

• 28:40Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 28:41Lewis Howes?

  Do you think a lot of that was just, you know, the, the community had with your parents and just the process you were in and the values you developed, or was it something else?

• 28:51Speaker 00

  Two things, just having a great support system, my family. Because when you're winning, everybody's texting you.

• 29:00Speaker 00

  There, there's people that I call them the finals mongers. They're like, oh, if you get to the finals, I'll come. And I'm like, you absolutely will not be coming to the finals. We will come to the first round. Like, the first rounds have to be played, you know? There's the first and a second, and there's, there's, there's moments for the final. It's like, no, you won't come to the final.

• 29:18Lewis Howes?

  Show up in the beginning, and then you can stay at the end.

• 29:20Speaker 00

  Exactly. So everyone's there for you when you're winning. When you're winning, everyone's sending you a text. You lose a batch, there aren't that many people who are there. And then those people were my family. Those people were my sisters, who believed in me every time. And they said, you'll get the next one. When you're feeling sad and low and you feel like you could have done better. Those moments, they were there for me. And I knew that it didn't matter what happened, I had something else to fall back on. So a strong support system is so important. And knowing that, like, the effort you give is so much more important than the, than the result.

• 29:55Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 29:55Speaker 00

  You could sleep at night if you just left it all out there, you know?

• 29:59Lewis Howes?

  Absolutely.

• 30:00Speaker 00

  Those are the values that are super important, so that way you don't feel like, you know, that, that sort of confusion where you, you kind of lose it. So I, I had that. And, and like I said earlier, this strong spiritual background. And my, my dad, when we walked on the court, he would always say, have fun. He would say, sometimes he'd say, look at the ball, too. Which, weirdly enough, is extremely important. You and the pros will not look at the ball. Because you're like, looking where you're hitting, because you want to hit a good shot so bad. You have to look at the ball. But sometimes he'd say, look at the ball, but he'd always say, have fun. And so I had that supportive, you know, that I could possibly have fun. The more fun you win. But like, that was the only expectation. And I knew that they wanted more from me, but

• 30:46Speaker 00

  to know that I didn't have to come off the court and like, you know, hear yelling, or I've seen players where they

• 30:52Lewis Howes?

  You should have done this. Yeah, yeah.

• 30:53Speaker 00

  Brings, then, you know, and it's crazy. None of that. It's just a hug. And that's all we needed, that love, you know, and support.

• 31:01Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, I mean, I remember running suicides and running miles after losing football games. Uh, you know, stay staying on the basketball court after you lose while people are still in the arena and our coach telling us to run suicides. Um, after we just exhausted ourselves, did you ever feel like you got punished after a loss?

• 31:21Speaker 00

  No, nothing was worse than the punishment that I felt like internally, you know, that my expectation of myself and.

• 31:30Speaker 00

  I think that's a good thing and a bad thing. You gotta temper it, right? Sometimes your expectations can be, you can be so hard on yourself that you never pat yourself on the back enough. But some people aren't hard enough on theirselves and so that they never make it. You gotta find the middle, the middle ground of like being hard, but also like recognizing the things you accomplish too.

• 31:49Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, and not holding on to it for like days or weeks of, of, you know, a loss or something.

• 31:54Speaker 00

  Easier said than done. Like we hold on to our losses, whether we realize it or not, and you just have to think about it's a new day, like.

• 32:02Lewis Howes?

  Absolutely.

• 32:03Speaker 00

  Possibility and that's not easy.

• 32:05Lewis Howes?

  Absolutely. But it sounds like you got a great support system around you. And speaking of support, you know, your sister Serena has been a big impact in your life. Can you tell, can you tell me about maybe a challenging moment that you had during a performance, a match, a tournament where you were struggling and she intervened and and supported you with your mindset or a reminder? Can you share a story about that?

• 32:30Speaker 00

  We were once playing like a Wimbledon doubles final and Serena was playing the Wimbledon final. And I had such a stomach ache and I just thought it's gonna pass, it's gonna pass. I just kept taking medicine. So we were, I warmed up before for the doubles before her match. I couldn't even eat. My stomach hurt so bad. I was in her match, like I didn't even realize it was match point because I was like out of my mind. And I'm thinking it's gonna pass, it's gonna pass, it's gonna pass. So finally, it's, you know, we had two hours to prepare for the match after her singles. And I'm just thinking it's still gonna pass this hours later. She was smart. I don't know why I didn't figure this out. She got the doctor. Made sure I got the right medicine that I needed, unfortunately for our opponents.

• 33:11Speaker 00

  And, um, you know, it would have been better if there was like 50% of the team there and I could have never, I don't know why I couldn't figure it out. I didn't even know what was wrong. I just thought it was gonna pass. Normally it did if I had just taken the normal medicine I took. And she fixed it for me and that was huge. We got another title. And I was actually finally able to eat something so that we would have some energy for the match. So, yeah, those, those kinds of things and you know, that's a, a huge example, but other things too, like small ones, just a small text or, or, you know, how do I play this person, like sending extensive notes, those kinds of things.

• 33:47Lewis Howes?

  Really? Will she give you those notes and kind of feedback?

• 33:51Speaker 00

  Yeah, we're like, how did you, how did you play her? How did you beat her? Let me know, you know, those kinds of things. Yeah.

• 33:56Lewis Howes?

  That's cool. That must be nice to have that kind of support and that inside, you know, thought process on how to win as well.

• 34:03Speaker 00

  Yeah, it's an interesting experience because all I know is playing tennis with my sister. To me, it sounds weird to not do that. And I know pretty much every athlete's experience is not playing tennis or sports with their sister. And I can't imagine people having to go through that by themselves. And I know exactly what she's feeling on the court when I'm watching her play because I've been there. I know what it feels like. And I'm like, we, we feel that for each other.

• 34:29Lewis Howes?

  Wow. Do you think you know her more than she knows you?

• 34:34Speaker 00

  Oh, wow. That's a good question.

• 34:39Speaker 00

  Um, she has a lot more emotional intelligence than I do, like huge amounts. So she might know more about me than I know about her.

• 34:53Speaker 00

  She's good at that stuff. She's good at that stuff. She has that skill.

• 34:57Lewis Howes?

  I'm curious about the way you think about identity because I think a lot of people struggle with uh, building a good identity for themselves. Is there, do you ever think about identity? Or do you just tie it towards kind of your values, your self-confidence and your, your belief system? Or do you think about identity in a different way?

• 35:17Speaker 00

  That's an interesting question. No one's ever asked me that, but I think identity is, is a lot of things. It's being proud of who you are and your heritage, right? Knowing who you are is so important, knowing your history, that can be as simple as knowing your family. For me, as African American, there was a time where it wasn't easy to be African American. Maybe it wasn't easy to be proud of who you were. So, different kinds of people have different experiences that could make it more challenging or less challenging to be proud of who you are.

• 35:49Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 35:50Speaker 00

  Or depending on where you are, you might get teased because of who you are, right? So, first of all, it's just embracing unapologetically who you are and what you look like. This is me, this is what you get, this is my brand. You know, sometimes I joke, it's like, you knew what brand you were getting when you entered this, you know, like, and you still decided to come. Just knowing who you are and not having to apologize for it. And, and I think that's, that's so important, knowing what you like and what you love. I think if you don't know who you are, I think, get out there and experimenting, try new stuff, expose yourself to new things. Maybe you aren't in the right calling for your work. Maybe your identity will be easier to know if you're doing something that you

• 36:35Speaker 00

  love. I think continually to try new things and have new experiences, meeting new people that you can learn from, I think is important too. It helps you get closer to who you are. I mean, I personally will always identify as a tennis player, even when I'm in a cane, God willing, I'll get old enough to be walking with a cane.

• 36:52Lewis Howes?

  There'll still be, still be hidden that.

• 36:55Speaker 00

  We identify as athlete, you know, so that's who I am at the core. And as much as I would say, oh, I'm more than an athlete, I'm a, I'm a human being, that's who I am because I found my passion. I think finding your identity too is finding your passion. When you find what you're passionate about, it just clicks, right? So, that's, it's important to get connected to what you love.

• 37:16Lewis Howes?

  That's really cool. You know, one of the reasons we're talking today is because you've teamed up with Dove to raise awareness about the Body Confident Sport Program, which I think is really cool. It's a first of its kind online coaching program developed in partnership with Nike to build body confidence in 11 to 17-year-old girls, which I think is really cool. And one of the things I was asking you about earlier was Kind of the identity of the younger generation and the lack of self-belief and self-confidence that I feel like the younger generation might have today, or the confusion around how to build confidence. Uh, can you share, and I think this speaks into building a confident identity.

• 37:56Lewis Howes?

  Can you share your passion for really starting to shift the conversation from appearance to capability? And in your own personal journey, given the insights in this issue?

• 38:10Speaker 00

  You know, there's this movie called Mean Girls. I don't know if you've seen it.

• 38:13Lewis Howes?

  I haven't seen it, but I've seen the commercials for it, yeah.

• 38:16Speaker 00

  The girl gets mean and in the end, she's in this math contest, right? And she said, it doesn't matter if I like make fun of this girl because of how she looks or what she does. It's not going to make her not answer this question more. Like I have to find something in myself to answer this question right, so I can win this math lead, whatever it is, right? So it's so important that does this matter what you look like? It matters what's inside of you that you can get out to live the life that you want to live. And figuring out what that life is and that having other people's approval or none of those things really matter for, you know, it doesn't help you get out of bed, you know?

• 38:58Speaker 00

  So those, those things are, are really important and Dove, I'm so happy to team up with Dove. Because body confidence sport, the program is so important for young girls between the age of 11 to 17. And the research has shown that about 45% of girls globally quit sports by the age of 14, and that's due to low body confidence.

• 39:20Lewis Howes?

  Mm-hmm.

• 39:21Speaker 00

  And when I think about what if that happened to me? I turned pro at 14. What if I had stopped sports at age 14 because I didn't feel good about myself? I mean, this is literally my life. I got to play sports and change my life. And through that, and that was never my plan. I just wanted to win Wimbledon, change other people's lives. Just by doing something positive for yourself, you never know what impact you're going to have on not only yourself, but the world. I had no idea that was going to happen and just wanted to lift the trophy. So it's so important when I look at that, how it could have happened to me, that it doesn't happen to other girls. Not everyone goes pro, not everyone becomes an athlete,

• 40:05Speaker 00

  but what you learn from sports is unparalleled. You cannot teach in a classroom or in a book, what you learn from sports. I think Serena and I, once we were laughing, not laughing, but we were like, is this serious? Like, there's different books and we were like, oh, this, this certain school is writing a book and a series on how to be resilient. And we're like, yeah, just get out there and, and push yourself physically.

• 40:29Lewis Howes?

  Do it.

• 40:29Speaker 00

  You'll learn resilience fast. You start pushing yourself to like get your mile time down, you will learn resilience quickly. You don't have to read a book to learn it.

• 40:38Lewis Howes?

  Uh huh.

• 40:39Speaker 00

  You will figure it out because you will have to stay resilient to, to beat yourself and to beat that clock. And you don't even need a racket to like, to, to experience that. So it's so important for, for girls to have that opportunity in sports. And it's so important also to have that impact on coaches.

• 40:58Lewis Howes?

  The, the-

• 40:58Speaker 00

  And the coaching program that Dove has to make sure that coaches are getting girls in that right direction, giving them the right feedback so they can feel good about themselves and about them, their bodies and stay in sports. I'm so excited to be about, in this program because it's, it's literally my life.

• 41:16Lewis Howes?

  It's really cool that Dove is supporting this. And I, and I'm curious, why do you think so many young women and so many young girls struggle with body confidence? And, and what, and more importantly, I guess, why do they care so much about what other people think about their body? Versus kind of what you went through, you, you weren't really thinking about it. You just said, I want to win. It doesn't really matter how I look, I guess. As long as I win, that's what matters. How are you not affected with the body confidence challenges then that a lot of young women have today?

• 41:51Speaker 00

  You know, I was asking my niece and- Yeah, I was like, oh, what do you do at recess? And she's like, well, I played fashion sport, you know, fashion school this. And it's like, yeah, but you aren't playing sports. You know, I'm like, aren't you playing four square? Are you running? Are you jumping? And she's like, well, you know, it's hard to play with the boys. And so there's different challenges and she's like six years old. You know, there's different challenges there. And also, women are much more judged for what we look like, right? Oh, she wasn't hot. Oh, she didn't have a good body. But you don't always hear that about, oh, he wasn't hot. He didn't have a good body. And women are judged from the very beginning to till they get older. You know, and it's, it's hard and there's a lot of pressure.

• 42:35Speaker 00

  There's a lot of pressure to look the way you're supposed to look, whatever today's look might be. And women take the brunt of that. And I understand the, the impact of negativity that can happen in sports. I, I remember I was um, at this tournament and the reporter asked me, did I gain weight? And I took it as a challenge. It's like, okay, if you want to ask me that question, let's dive on in. I said, did I gain weight? Where exactly did I gain it and how much? And he's like, no, no, no, I'm sorry. I withdraw the question. I was like, no, I want you to answer the question. Like, where did I gain the weight? Where do you see it? I, I put on maybe five pounds, like five pounds on a six one frame.

• 43:16Lewis Howes?

  Oh, that's muscle. Let's go.

• 43:20Speaker 00

  You know, five pounds on like my dog who's 10 pounds. Okay, you're gonna see it. But on the six one frame, like how mu- how mu- how hard can you be? So I've, I've personally had to go through the most ridiculous questions that no, they're never gonna ask a guy that. You know, did you gain weight? It's, it's, it's a lot of pressure. So this kind of program is developed specifically to prevent that. And also even coaches who might be well meaning, might say, oh, you need to lose weight to be able to compete harder. Or you need to get more muscle and maybe a, a girl may feel uncomfortable with getting more muscle. So how do you? How do you word things in the right way to keep girls in sports? So this program is developed specifically for coaches.

• 44:05Speaker 00

  That's scientifically proven to build body confidence for girls. In their age, so they can not only stay in sports, but enjoy it. Associate sports with joy. Not associate sports with something that's sad and depressing. Cause you don't stay in anything that's depressing.

• 44:19Lewis Howes?

  No, if you feel like you're not good enough, or you don't look good enough, or you feel like you're not, you know, celebrated for your, for your gifts and your talents. This is really cool. I'm curious, what do you think is the number one thing that parents or coaches can say to someone? Who maybe doesn't look perfect as the perfect athlete or whatever at their age. Uh, what can they say or how can they encourage them in the right ways? To make them feeling more confident about themselves, to want to continue the sport as opposed to feeling like, ah, I give up and I'm gonna go, I wanna go worry about my looks all day.

• 44:53Speaker 00

  It's all about what your body can do for you, right? So I think using these kinds of terms of you need to eat to fuel your body. So make sure you're having like lots of vegetables and enough protein. Really talking about that end point. Uh, inviting them to talk about anything that might be making them feel uncomfortable. It's important to never comment on someone's body or appearance. You know, however you're born with your genetics or whatever you might be going through at that age, puberty and you know, whatever it might be, those are tough times. So I think inviting, talk about how they feel. Letting them just express that and then letting them know that your body's beautifully made.

• 45:36Speaker 00

  And that your body is serving you to do this wonderful sport. And just, I think listening also is, is just so important because sometimes someone might feel a way that they're holding into. That you might just need to hear. Um, just commenting on body appearance, that is always a no-no.

• 45:54Lewis Howes?

  Right, right.

• 45:55Speaker 00

  You need to lose weight or you need to, you're not looking muscle enough, those kinds of things like. My kind of frame, I'm just never look like I have a lot of muscle, even though I do. Um, I always joke that my calves are like, you know, um, putters. You know, it's just like. It's never gonna happen for me. That's my body type.

• 46:15Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 46:15Speaker 00

  And as an athlete, I always like wanted bigger quads and it just was never gonna happen. So

• 46:20Lewis Howes?

  Please.

• 46:20Speaker 00

  I had to just deal with whatever I had and realize I was still strong, even though it maybe didn't exactly look like it.

• 46:26Lewis Howes?

  Right. I've heard this from, uh, you know, female friends of mine that a lot of, and I don't know if this is true or not, but this is what I've heard from some female friends, that a lot of women, when they're going out on a date or with friends, they're really trying to impress the other girlfriends with the way they look and their appearance. I don't know if that's true, but that's what I've heard from some women. Do you think, um, young women in their teens are more concerned about their girlfriends' opinions of them or kind of the, the peer guy friends they have in school or in sports? And where is the pressure, where is the pressure coming from more from female, you know, girls? Kind of, you mentioned this movie Mean Girls. Is it more of like, these girls are mean or

• 47:12Lewis Howes?

  really they're worried about what a guy is gonna say about them? I'm not sure.

• 47:15Speaker 00

  I think it's all the above, right? You don't wanna be the one with the wrong outfit.

• 47:20Lewis Howes?

  Hey.

• 47:20Speaker 00

  Or you, you don't look like whoever it is that's like the most popular and that group of, of girls and the popular guys, we never talked to you. I think it, it definitely comes from both ends. And then at the end of the day, you take all those inputs and then you take them on yourself and then you judge yourself so hard. And then that's the worst one. The judging of yourself, right? And that's when you have to just realize, or young girls need to realize that you can't judge your, you can't judge yourself by someone else and someone else's life. Like

• 47:53Lewis Howes?

  Ooh.

• 47:54Speaker 00

  Yeah. I, I think I, I've been very successful and I've won grand slams. My sisters won like three times as many, more. Like what if I judged myself by her success? I would never feel great about me. So, and I'm, her success is my success. So you have to be happy for whatever someone else has and realize you have your own gifts.

• 48:15Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 48:15Speaker 00

  As well that they may not have either and just celebrate yourself every single time. Put on your blinders, celebrate you.

• 48:23Lewis Howes?

  Not many people can not care what other people think about them. Uh, but it sounds like you figured out how to do this from an early age and been consistent throughout your life and career. I think that's one of the hardest things to do to not care what other people think about you and not let those inputs you talked about make you believe that you're not enough. What piece of advice do you have for a mom or a father who's got a daughter that maybe doesn't believe in themselves and is taking in so many inputs from peers and society and social media that they're not pretty enough, they're not good enough, they're not worthy enough of feeling love and accepting who they are? What piece of advice would you have to parents who have those young daughters out there today?

• 49:08Speaker 00

  Right. I know sometimes coming from the parents, they'll be like, oh, well, you're my parent. You have to love me.

• 49:13Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, yeah.

• 49:15Speaker 00

  But it's still important to say it. It's still important to say you're amazing. You're smart. You're fantastic. If you're not saying it, who else is, right? So you have to still say that, even if it like becomes a broken record. That's so important. Even from like a coaching standpoint, I always just did better when I was had someone on the court who was I've hit a million forehands. I still need to hear that my forehand looks good, you know? I still need someone to say, great job today. So that's so important to still give that positive feedback. And just remember that like, people are worried about their own lives. Like, at the end of the day, they're not even worried about your life. They're worried about their life.

• 49:59Speaker 00

  They didn't wake up, brush their teeth in the morning and say, I wonder what Suzie's doing. I wonder why, you know, I wonder why she doesn't think she's cute. No, none of that. They're worried about what they're trying to do. And once you figure out that like, the dialogue you have in your head is your own dialogue and everybody else is doing their own thing, the quicker you'll figure out how to just focus on you.

• 50:21Lewis Howes?

  It sounds like your parents reinforced in a positive way daily with you. Isn't that right? They weren't like, you need to do better. You're not doing good enough. They were always positive is what it sounds like.

• 50:32Speaker 00

  Yeah. Growing up, my dad told my sister and I we'd be number one and two in the world. Like, he always told us that. Okay, so granted, that doesn't just happen, right? We got. It almost has to be a perfect storm, right? The center of a storm, it somehow works out. It doesn't always work out. And there was a lot of work, like endless work. That's all we did was play tennis. But and then you have to do it the right way. And you then you'd have to not get injured. Like, anything could happen along the way, right? But what was important was that we believed that we could get there. And so then we walked on the court, not only had we put in the work, but we also had the right mental and, you know, force. And then he would warn us too, like, if you don't bend your knees,

• 51:17Speaker 00

  you're not going to get there. You're like, okay, I'll bend my knees. You know, like, it wasn't all just like rosy, rosy, rosy. He was tough on us.

• 51:25Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 51:25Speaker 00

  But at the end of the day, the message was, you can do this. You have what it takes. You can absolutely be the world's best. And you have to hear that.

• 51:35Lewis Howes?

  That's beautiful. I I'm curious about, you know, we talked about the challenges and the pressures of winning, success, you know, maybe some fame or notoriety that a lot of people struggle with. And a lot of times when people achieve their dreams or their goals at the top of their industry or their sport,

• 51:56Lewis Howes?

  they don't always stay there forever. No one stays at the top forever in their thing, right? There's a transition.

• 52:02Lewis Howes?

  You've been at the top, but then you've fallen off the top. But then you've been back at the top. But then, you know, you've gone up and down. There's been waves of momentum for you to get to the top and then a setback and then back to the top. How do you? And I feel like a lot of people struggle once they get to the top, whatever they're doing, and they start to fall a little bit. It's really hard for them to get back. But you've done it over and over again.

• 52:28Lewis Howes?

  And I'm not saying that you've fallen, but how if you're not at the number one spot at the top of your game, when you've had a setback, maybe a minor injury or something? How do you build the momentum, the energy to get back on top when most people can never do that?

• 52:43Speaker 00

  I think for me, realizing that.

• 52:48Speaker 00

  I could have a great start. I could win a bunch of matches. Or it could go the other way that I might have to fail a little bit along the way. And not taking that failure with you with the next match. I think

• 53:02Lewis Howes?

  Hey.

• 53:03Speaker 00

  Sometimes I still do, you know? On the corner, remembering the last three matches you lost. You're like, ah, why am I doing this to myself? Uh, but still fighting through it. Um, I think also a few things embracing the battle. Like enjoying the battle. Like this is gonna be a fight. I'm gonna fight my opponent. I'm gonna fight my own thoughts. I'm gonna fight injuries, whatever that may be. I'm gonna fight bad market conditions in your business. It's gonna be about, you gotta enjoy the battle. And then if part of enjoying the battle is just knowing it's not gonna be easy and not being afraid of that.

• 53:44Speaker 00

  Like when we know it's not gonna be easy, it's like there's a certain amount of fear, right? You're like, oh, it's gonna be horrible. But just almost embracing that pain too of like, it's gonna be a process, it's gonna hurt. And just like recognizing, so yeah, it's gonna hurt. Instead of like, oh, it's gonna hurt, you know, eh, it'll hurt, but we'll get through it. And it's interesting too. We remember and tell stories about the challenges that we succeeded. No one remembers the easy games. No one remembers the easy times in the matches. The stories we tell and the ones that stick with us are those, those ones that went the distance. And those matter. Those matter the most because they took the most.

• 54:25Speaker 00

  And so to be able to have those war stories, that, that's worth getting an 80 years old and be able to tell that story.

• 54:31Lewis Howes?

  Tell us, right? What's the war story that you're most proud of? That you had to face or overcome? That maybe is super public and everyone knows about, or maybe no one knows about, but you do. It was like something uh, inner battle, an outer battle, something that you overcame.

• 54:48Speaker 00

  I'm, I don't know. I'm like a pit bull. I'll run through a fence to my own detriment. It's not smart.

• 54:56Speaker 00

  I was once playing a match and I was coming off of a hip surgery that I'd never announced. In fact, this is probably the first time I've ever said it. And

• 55:06Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 55:06Speaker 00

  And I played this match and I guess I came back too soon and I'm like playing the match and like I did something to my hip and like I just screamed on the court. And so I couldn't really run or move, but I kept playing the match. This is the first set, lose the first set. I still play the next two. And I'm stifling screams sometimes. And so it was at a Grand Slam, it was the Australian Open first round. I, um, I was to say it's Monday, I need to play Wednesday. So I took the next day off, I played Wednesday night. Took Tuesday off, took Wednesday off, didn't even play until like it was time to warm up for the match. And didn't really move like I was like, okay, I'm just gonna get through this. I'm thinking it's just mental. I get on the court, I get to seven points and I'm just trying not to scream.

• 55:50Speaker 00

  And I have to retire after the seventh point. The audience boos me. I go on my merry way. I never announced like what happened to me, but I, I, I tore like my, like a muscle called the psoas.

• 56:01Lewis Howes?

  Oh, man.

• 56:02Speaker 00

  stomach and it goes into your leg. I tore it three inches in this match.

• 56:05Lewis Howes?

  Oh, man.

• 56:07Speaker 00

  Well, I just keep running and keep playing and I say, oh, it's mental. Finally I get the MRI the next day. And I'm like, oh, well, that's why I was hurt.

• 56:15Lewis Howes?

  Wow, I just, a three inch tear in my hip, yeah.

• 56:18Speaker 00

  Crazy. I will run and play and I've had to learn over the years. I don't even trust myself anymore because if there's a bad decision to be made, I will make it. I will keep playing. I will play until I'm die- dead and buried, you know, not six feet under, like to the center of the earth. So I like, I literally need people to tell me, step away. You do not want to play. And that's hard for someone to say, that's hard for someone to say like to someone else, like you can't play, like that's my choice. So.

• 56:48Lewis Howes?

  I know.

• 56:49Speaker 00

  Yeah, that's definitely a wolf's embrace.

• 56:52Lewis Howes?

  Wow. But sometimes we need other people to step in and, and save us from our own harm that we might do to ourselves.

• 56:59Speaker 00

  We do. Yeah. And that's when you have a real friend, right?

• 57:02Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. At least they could say, hey, you gotta stop. And if they don't, if you don't listen, that's on you. But Venus, I've got a, I've got a couple of final questions for you, but I just want to say I'm, I'm so grateful that we're connecting.

• 57:15Speaker 00

  Yeah, it's so much fun.

• 57:17Lewis Howes?

  I'm so, I'm so excited for you on everything that you've created, your journey. And I just want to acknowledge you before I go to the final few questions. I want to acknowledge you for your consistency and how you show up as a, as an athlete, as a human, as a sister, a daughter, a friend, all these different things. And your consistency in evolving as a human being into businesses and the fashion, all the different things that you're into. I just think it's really cool that, again, your identity as athlete, but you're evolving it beyond sports and athletics as well. And you continue to grow and learn as a human being based on the conversation I'm, I'm hearing here. So I want to acknowledge you for everything that you've created, everything you're going to create.

• 58:02Lewis Howes?

  And more importantly, the human being that you are inside and the peace that you have about yourself and the belief you have, it's really inspiring to see.

• 58:12Lewis Howes?

  Before I ask the couple of final questions, I want people to check you out and follow you. Venus Williams on Instagram and social media, Twitter, Facebook, everything. They can follow you everywhere. Is there one specific place to send people to, to follow you that you think they should go to the most?

• 58:30Speaker 00

  Instagram or TikTok's fine, you know, where you can find me.

• 58:33Lewis Howes?

  Okay, cool. Awesome. Also, also, it's really cool that you're a part of the Dove Body Confidence Sport Program. And I just think, you know, young women need these type of tools, especially when there's a lot of confusion or pressures from society that might be out there right now. I think young, young boys need these tools too, but I think it's really cool that you're doing this for young girls. Where can people go and learn about Dove Body Confidence Sport Program? Is there a place that they should check out online that we should send people to?

• 59:05Speaker 00

  Yes, dove.com/ConfidenceSports.

• 59:08Lewis Howes?

  Dove.com/ConfidenceSports.

• 59:11Speaker 00

  That's where we go, right?

• 59:12Lewis Howes?

  Yes, exactly. But I'm excited about that. And, and how can people really get involved in that? Is it, is it something they sign up for? Is it something that's? Just online, that there's a curriculum and how are you? Are you a coach in this? Are you adding your take as well?

• 59:31Speaker 00

  Yeah, so what I'm doing is building self-awareness. I don't think that anyone thinks about it every day like, oh, forty-five percent of girls are dropping out of sport. What do I do? You know, no one, no one knows that. So awareness is, is super important that we know this. Personally, when I first started working with Dove, I thought that was not a thing anymore, that girls were dropping out of sports. I just thought that was like a time from yesteryear when girls weren't, you know, had a harder time getting involved. So I was shocked to hear that. I don't want that to happen. So it, that's important for me, um, to get involved. And then if you go on the website, then you can find ways to, to get in, get involved in the program.

• 1:00:10Lewis Howes?

  Awesome.

• 1:00:11Speaker 00

  There's different workbooks, there's, there's different ways to, to get involved. So different guides that you can provide for your own family or to another girl that you think that could possibly benefit from that. So if you just get on, you'll have a chance to, to see it all.

• 1:00:26Lewis Howes?

  Love that. Dove.com slash confidence sports to check that out. I love it. It's an inspiring program and I think it's going to help a lot of, it sounds like parents and their, their girls in sports as well to have more confidence. Um, these are two, the two final questions I have for you, Venus. Again, thanks for being here. The first one is a hypothetical question that I ask every guest that I've had on the show for the last, I don't know, eleven years almost. And I call this question, the three truths. So let me set up the scenario. Uh, imagine you get to live as long as you want to live on this earth. You get to live as, as many years as you want to be here. And you get to accomplish all the dreams from this moment until that last day on earth.

• 1:01:11Lewis Howes?

  But for whatever reason, on your last day on earth, you have to take all of your content with you. So all the videos about you, this interview, anything you ever put out online, on social media. We no longer in this hypothetical scenario have access to your content or videos or anything like that. But on this last day, you would get to leave behind three lessons for the world. Three lessons that you would leave behind and this is all we would have to remember of your content. I call this the three truths. On the top of your head, what would those three truths be for you?

• 1:01:50Speaker 00

  Okay, I would say just be positive and love your life. Have fun. It's number one. Just, just have fun. And just look at things half glass full. Number two.

• 1:02:09Speaker 00

  It's hard to pick just two, but bet on yourself. Just always believe in yourself. Not always easy, but just bet on you. Number three is just give more than you take.

• 1:02:25Speaker 00

  Just be happy to give and give whatever you can. Not saying just be foolish about it. But you still want to teach a man to fish, but just be about that gift. And yeah, that would be my top three.

• 1:02:43Lewis Howes?

  Those are beautiful, Venus. Final question for you. What is your definition of greatness?

• 1:02:48Speaker 00

  My definition of greatness?

• 1:02:52Speaker 00

  I think it's so individual. I think it's giving everything, giving all that you have. And when you do that, whether it's great or not great, the effort was great. Greatness is about the effort you give. And when you give that effort,

• 1:03:13Speaker 00

  put your hands up in the air, you're done. So I think that's an individual, right? Also, what's the point of being great if you're not happy? So have fun while you do it. If you're not having fun, figure out how to have fun. But you don't want to look back and be, and I think we all can look back like, or you hear a song and you're like, I remember this time in my life I was sad, or I remember this time in my life when I was happy. Your life is your soundtrack. You want to look back and say, you know, I failed a lot. Things didn't go right, but I had a good time. You know, it should, you should have a good time. That's greatness.

• 1:03:50Lewis Howes?

  Venus, thank you so much. Powerful information, inspiration. I appreciate you. Thank you so much for being here.

• 1:03:55Speaker 00

  Thank you so much. I appreciate you. I had a lot of fun.

• 1:03:58Lewis Howes?

  Thank you so much for joining us today. What an incredible conversation with the inspiring Venus Williams. And as we wrap up, let's remember that we all play a role in creating a more inclusive and empowering landscape in athletics. With initiatives like Dove's Body Confident Sport in partnership with Nike, we can make a real difference in the lives of young athletes everywhere. So let's keep the momentum going. Visit dove.com/ConfidentSports to learn more about how you can join the movement. A big thank you again to Venus Williams for sharing her wisdom and her experience with us. I was so inspired by her lessons. And of course, I want to thank you for continually striving for greatness in your own life.

• 1:04:39Lewis Howes?

  And until next time, stay inspired and keep making a positive impact in the world. Let's keep her confident. I hope you enjoyed today's episode and it inspired you on your journey towards greatness. Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a full rundown of today's episode with all the important links. And if you want weekly exclusive bonus episodes with me personally, as well as ad free listening, then make sure to subscribe to our Greatness Plus channel exclusively on Apple Podcasts. Share this with a friend on social media and leave us a review on Apple Podcasts as well. Let me know what you enjoyed about this episode in that review. I really love hearing feedback from you and it helps us figure out how we can support and serve you moving forward.

• 1:05:23Lewis Howes?

  And I want to remind you, if no one has told you lately, that you are loved, you are worthy, and you matter. And now it's time to go out there and do something great.