Tony Robbins: Own Your Future in Business, Life & Love EP 1107

“If you want joy, happiness and freedom in your life, it won’t come from blame.”Today's guest is Tony Robbins, who is an entrepreneur, best-selling author, philanthropist, and the nation’s #1 life and business strategist. Over the past four decades, he has empowered more than 50 million people worldwide through his business and personal development coaching programs and events. Lewis has had the privilege of having Tony on the podcast multiple times in the past, so if you enjoy this episode, make sure to check the others out! In this episode Lewis and Tony discuss three habits Tony wishes he knew in his twenties and thirties, why loving yourself is not the secret to success, the key to “stacking the positives” in your life, why you’re raising your kids to be more insecure and unsafe and how you can change it, why millennials could be the best generation if they play their cards right, and so much more! For more go to: www.lewishowes.com/1107Tony's previous episodes: www.lewishowes.com/109, www.lewishowes.com/311, www.lewishowes.com/366, www.lewishowes.com/451, www.lewishowes.com/794Join the Own Your Future Challenge: www.lewishowes.com/future Book Tony Mentioned: The Fourth TurningThe Wim Hof Experience: Mindset Training, Power Breathing, and Brotherhood: https://link.chtbl.com/910-podA Scientific Guide to Living Longer, Feeling Happier & Eating Healthier with Dr. Rhonda Patrick: https://link.chtbl.com/967-podThe Science of Sleep for Ultimate Success with Shawn Stevenson: https://link.chtbl.com/896-pod Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

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• 0:00Lewis Howes?

  This is episode number 1,107 with number one New York Times bestselling author, Tony Robbins.

• 0:10Lewis Howes?

  Welcome to the School of Greatness. My name is Lewis Howes, a former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur. And each week, we bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin.

• 0:32Lewis Howes?

  Eleanor Roosevelt said, "Do one thing every day that scares you." And author Wayne Dyer said, "If you believe it'll work out, you'll see opportunities. If you don't believe it'll work out, you'll see obstacles." My guest today is Tony Robbins, who is a massive personality, entrepreneur, number one bestselling author, philanthropist, and the nation's number one life and business strategist. Over the past four decades, he has empowered more than 50 million people worldwide through his business and personal development coaching programs and events. I've had the privilege of having Tony on the podcast multiple times in the past. So if you enjoy this episode, make sure to check out the others in the show notes as well. And in this episode, we discuss the three habits Tony wishes he knew in his

• 1:16Lewis Howes?

  20s and 30s. Also, why loving yourself is not the secret to success, the key to stacking the positives in your life and what that can do for you, why you're raising your kids to be more insecure and unsafe, and how you can change it, how to free yourself from the chains of your past, the power of pushing through your fear, why millennials could be the best generation if they play their cards right, and so much more. I was so inspired by this interview, and I hope you enjoy it. Also, make sure to go to lewishouse.com/future right now and sign up for a free challenge that Tony Robbins and my friend Dean Graziosi are creating. It's all about how to create and own your future in your business by building

• 1:59Lewis Howes?

  your brand and business online. Go to lewishouse.com/future right now to sign up that for free right now. It's an amazing free challenge. And if at any moment- You are inspired by this. Make sure to share it with a friend that you think needs to hear this. You can just copy and paste the link wherever you're listening to this podcast and share it over text or WhatsApp group or social media and make sure to tag me and Tony Robbins over on Instagram as well. When you share it there. I really hope you enjoy this one and in just a moment, the one and only Tony Robbins.

• 2:34Lewis Howes?

  Welcome back everyone to the School of Greatness. I'm very excited about our guest. Mr. Tony Robbins is in the house. Good to see you, Tony.

• 2:41Tony Robbins?

  Good to see you, Les. How are you?

• 2:42Lewis Howes?

  I'm doing good. Every time I get the chance to interview you, this is interview number four now for the show with you. The last three interviews have done over six million views and have changed millions of people's lives. We've done them on your plane. We've been in hotels and now we're virtually here. And every, every time I get to interview you, I, I have a ritual. You may not remember, but I've told the story of how I first saw you in person. So I want to tell it really quickly. So I set the context here. It's about 22 years ago, my dad bought myself and my mom tickets to an event they used to host. That was like a big three day conference, success. All these great speakers came, actually.

• 3:24Lewis Howes?

  Trump was there.

• 3:27Lewis Howes?

  Larry King was there, all these great football coaches. It was in St. Louis, Missouri. And you came down on stage at one point, I'm sitting about halfway back in the arena on the floor level. And you came off stage and walked down. I remember vividly, there was a song, "Don't Worry, Be Happy" that was playing. I don't even know if you remember this part of your speech.

• 3:46Tony Robbins?

  I do remember that, yes.

• 3:47Lewis Howes?

  You came down, I mean, I'm sure you, you had this story at all your events, but you came down off this song. It came down and you stopped right next to me. I'm probably 50 yard line back in the arena. So halfway back. You stopped right over me. You don't look at me. You look out, you say something to the crowd. I have no clue what you said, but I remember the energy you possess in that moment. And I was like, I want to have that confidence one day and that energy. And that, that's, that moment has stuck with me for the last 22 years. So I want to acknowledge you for constantly being an inspiration to not only myself, but millions of people around the world, from your way of, from your way of being, the way you open your heart and the way you see other people. So I really, really appreciate your consistent, your consistency

• 4:31Lewis Howes?

  over the four plus decades of work. And my, my first question. Is what is it like being a father of a daughter?

• 4:40Tony Robbins?

  Yes, I'm 61, which I can't even believe I'm 61, but thank God I feel better than I did when I was 30 physically. And I've trained harder, I'm stronger and psychologically better. So yes, I just have a brand new daughter. I have five grandkids that are older than my daughter and I've got five kids in total. My oldest is 54 and my youngest now is four weeks tomorrow. So it's, it's beautiful. She's the greatest gift and she's the rainbow baby. We tried so many different ways. So we're just so, so grateful to have her and we keep her life out of social media. I'm certainly mention her, but we don't show her pictures and don't talk about her name. Just to give her a little bit of space from what the world is like where everybody's trying to get likes for something. I don't want my daughter to have that habit. So we're going to give her a little space there.

• 5:24Tony Robbins?

  But it's very kind of you to ask and there's no greater gift, you know, anybody who's a father or a mother out there knows. Nothing, anything else you experience in life, nothing comes close.

• 5:33Lewis Howes?

  What, and what's the biggest lesson she's taught you in these first few weeks?

• 5:36Tony Robbins?

  Well, she's already restructured my life.

• 5:40Tony Robbins?

  Like no one else has. I mean, I sit there and hold her and obsessed about her and I feel like 40 minutes have gone by and I'm just staring into her eyes, you know, it's that kind of thing. So she's put a little balance in me, that's for sure. And, and you know, also, you know, I, I, like you, I'm obsessed with being fit and strong and alive is required for what I do. And to do it at the quality I want to do for 44 years plus, and I'm planning to do it for a lot longer. So. But you know, when I started thinking about her life, I'm 61, I remember telling my wife, I said, I'm not having a kid after 50. I said, I'm not going to be, you know, you know, 80 years old with the kid's high school graduation and so forth. But now it's like for me to see her at 30 plus, I gotta be 90 plus. So I'm, you know, I'm well on my way to making sure that happened. But it's given me even greater incentives.

• 6:25Lewis Howes?

  I love that. For all the, the young people here who are maybe they're, they're just having their first kid and they're in their late twenties, early thirties, around that range. What are the three habits or skills you wish you would have known then? That you wish all of them start to learn at this age in their life?

• 6:44Tony Robbins?

  The tough one, because I think at every stage. Your life, you look at life differently. So it's hard to tell someone in their twenties how they should be till they've experienced certain things. There are certain things, they'd just be words. But if I was gonna give a couple habits, I'd say the first habit is to not judge yourself too hard. Cause I think that's what young people do a lot, and I think people do of all ages. You know, when you're sixty one years old and you've lived as much life as I have, a little less judgment of myself in this area. Uh, you know, it's not make everything life and death, because then the kid feels that. And it isn't all life and death, you know? Uh, well, my, I, I've got to be honest, I thought when my daughter's crying is like, I hate anybody in pain. You know, I thought it was gonna just pierce me and make life so difficult. But fortunately, number one, she doesn't cry. She's like, I told my wife, I don't know how this kid came from us, cause this kid is so zen.

• 7:26Tony Robbins?

  She cries when she's gotta go to the bathroom, when you've got a diaper, she cries when she's hungry. But otherwise, she's pretty zen. But the cry even then is different for me now. So it's not life and death, I'm not hyper judgmental of it. And then the third thing is decide what's most important that you want for your child. The two or three most important things for me is that child feels so incredibly loved. And for me, not yet, but as the child develops, it's developing a sense that life is something that's calling to you to give something, not to get something. I think if I could give any lesson to my child, it's the lesson of contribution, which makes life so meaningful. The depth of relationship that comes from having such a deep love. I think those two things are the minimum, but you've got to decide what do you want for your child? Cause you know, they're their own being.

• 8:09Tony Robbins?

  You're gonna have your plans, how you think they should be, and then they're gonna be how they are, right? And but what you can shape is their value system. And not every individual value, but the, the, the global values. You know, that life is a balance, that of course you're gonna go to extremes, but balance is how the body maintains. It's how life gets in balance, it's like, look for that. It's like, life is not about me, it's about we. That life is calling to you to give something. Don't ask what your country's asking for you, as you know, a democratic president once said, what are you gonna do for your country? We kind of lost that theme, not only in our country, but in our parenting. And so I see a lot of kids today that are like, they're, what, what are my parents doing for me? I can never imagine that thought in my life. My whole thing was like, not, not one of my, what can I do for my parents was my focus, you know? What can I do?

• 8:52Tony Robbins?

  And all those little patterns lead to a life that is more meaningful. And fulfilling, but I don't think over controlling is not going to get you where you want to go. Based on my history, because this isn't my first radio. I got four children before that, three of which I adopted. So I was 24 and had a 17 year old son instantly, an 11 year old, a five year old and one on the way. So you learn to grow differently and you know, my former spouse who had those kids, she'd been married twice before me. So they were from different parents. And so I adopted them all and brought them in my life, probably got the greatest growth in my life from that experience of parenting.

• 9:28Lewis Howes?

  And, and for those that grew up and don't feel like they got the love they wanted, or the love they deserved, or the love they were supposed to have, or whatever. And people haven't learned how to love themselves, whether it be because they didn't get it from their parents, so they didn't learn it. How can they learn to love themselves later in their life when they never really felt it?

• 9:48Tony Robbins?

  I think this idea of loving yourself as a cultural obsession has no basis in reality. And here's the challenge, when you're born, what do you got to do to be loved? Nothing, because your mother's on drugs, natural drugs, oxytocin. So you look like a lizard and she thinks you're beautiful, you know? You're fat, you shit all over, you throw up and you're still beautiful, right? For a while, you're unconditionally loved and thank God, we wouldn't have survived otherwise. You know, I'm so, I love women so much, I have so much respect for women, even more so going through birth again. No man will ever fully appreciate what a woman does, or what a baby demands of mother. If you're breastfeeding and the energy and the no sleep, I mean, it's just, it's amazing what women do in our life. But the point is, in the beginning, you're going to do nothing and then the oxytocin wears off.

• 10:32Tony Robbins?

  And suddenly you do the same scream or yell, throw your food, now you get yelled at or hit, or the worst one of all, you get ignored. And then fear enters your body and then the rest of your life, you're looking for, how can I get this unconditional love? And I remember in the beginning asking myself, because I studied all animals and with the level of dependency they have. And you know, human beings have the longest period of dependency for survival of any creature other than other primates. Whales will be dependent for a year, birds for a few weeks and boom, get your ass out there and fly, you know? It's a different world, we have this long dependency, it's just the nature of how we are. And then I thought to myself, so why, why don't we just have unconditional love all the time? And I think my answer is because then you never grow or give anything to life, you think everything is about you.

• 11:15Tony Robbins?

  And unfortunately, there are a large population of kids that were raised in a generation of parents that were helicopter parents that thought everything should be about the child and they wonder why they're selfish today. Or why they, you know, don't seem to have great relationships where you gotta be with somebody else, you gotta put somebody else ahead of you. That's what love is. Love is putting somebody else ahead of yourself. Loving yourself usually comes for most human beings by starting to have a value and just appreciating people, not because of what they do, not because of what they have, just because you feel their essence. And it's easy to do that with somebody you love than it is with yourself, but when you start to with somebody else and you're not judging, you're truly loving them, then it's much more natural because you're already doing the loving.

• 11:57Tony Robbins?

  You're not getting it from somewhere else. Someone may say something, look you a certain way as a trigger, but all love is self-love. It's bullshit I don't love myself. If you've ever been someone who felt loved, you loved yourself. They didn't love you. They said something, they did something with their eyes and you use that as a trigger to release love inside of you. But loving yourself every moment, all the time is not the secret to success. Having appreciation for yourself is different than constantly loving. Now, in the Bible, it says, "Love thy neighbor as thyself." So I think it's a worthy goal and it's useful, but most people are obsessed with it. And I think get on about living a life that's meaningful and you'll love yourself. As long as you focus on you, you're not gonna love you. Because the human brain is always looking for what's wrong, what to protect, what needs to be changed. It's the survival instinct.

• 12:42Tony Robbins?

  And so it's looking for things to fight or flight, or try to freeze, or pretend they're not there about yourself. But when you're in a bit of service, when you're trying to serve something more than yourself, that's when the higher part of your consciousness is there. That's when your heart is flowing. And when you're doing that, you're not thinking about you and therefore you feel love. And I can tell you my own experience, I don't have to, no one else has to earn love with me, but my strategy has been I gotta earn my own love, right? I gotta be worthy of my own love. I don't do that to somebody else. How do you do that? Well, by helping millions of people for forty-four years, now I'm finally at the stage where, oh yeah, I fucking love myself. I enjoy myself or appreciate it. But along the way, I've always earned it.

• 13:25Tony Robbins?

  Now, I don't think that's necessarily healthy or not, but I like what it's done with me. If I know people that just think they're God's gift to creation, and they don't have anybody in any other human being, and they're assholes to be around. They love themselves. So I just, I would challenge that whole belief system. I'd say it's appreciating yourself. It's loving the people around you, and the more you can unconditionally love others, the more you'll unconditionally love yourself. But trying to start with yourself when you're not doing with others, forget it, it'll never happen.

• 13:52Lewis Howes?

  Was there ever a moment where you didn't unconditionally love yourself? And if so, and if so, when did that shift where you stopped that? And you started saying, okay, I appreciate myself because of my contribution and my service and who I am? When was that shift?

• 14:08Tony Robbins?

  I don't think it was ever I just didn't love myself. There were times, obviously, be angry with yourself or frustrated yourself or think, you know, I'm not doing enough. I mean, I can remember my birthdays, to be honest with you, probably up to my fortieth birthday, including my fortieth birthday. You know, you have a birthday with a zero on it, once you're over past thirty, you know, thirty-five, sometimes five years on it as well. People look at their life differently culturally, and I used to think it was bullshit. But sure enough, I would do it. I remember turning forty, and I was really, really unhappy. I was like, Jesus, I've not done enough, I've not helped enough people. I'd helped tens of millions of people at that point already, done all over the earth in a hundred-plus countries at that point, but it was still kind of stuck in my head. So I would earn the love by over-delivering, change somebody's life.

• 14:51Tony Robbins?

  Like, I don't get it because somebody says, oh, I love you, Tony, I mean, I appreciate that, or, oh, you're the greatest. It's gotta be my standard. My standard's higher than their standard for me, right? So when I get up and someone's gonna kill themselves, and it's, they're suicidal, and boom, turn around, they're no longer not gonna kill themselves, but they're transformed, their life is there, you know, that's when I'd go, okay. You know, now we've hit the center of what I'm made for. Now, you know, I deserve to feel this euphoric feeling within myself and appreciation. And even then, I still know it's God coming through me. I don't have the delusion it's just me. But I think sometime after forty, I finally saw the stupidity of it. I accumulated enough that I looked at life with fresh eyes. And I can say, by the time I turned sixty a year ago, I noticed it was interesting because my birthday, I didn't have an ounce of it. I was just like...

• 15:37Tony Robbins?

  You know, how could I at this stage of my life when I've had the privilege of serving so many humans in so many contexts? You know, from turning around, you know, guys are gonna kill themselves with PTSD to helping kids turn around, to getting kids off cocaine or adults, to, you know, helping people build multi-billion dollar businesses from nothing. And when I've lived this long, I can't go by without hearing half a dozen stories a day or dozen stories a day from people telling me how something I did changed their life. So it's not that I'm so smart now, it's just I've stacked it. But why though, stacking is the way you can do things. Most of us stack the negative. If you are really angry, it's not usually because it's just the moment. It's that it happened again. You know, it's like, if you've ever lost it or overreacted to your kid, or to a friend,

• 16:22Tony Robbins?

  or a business, or even within yourself, it's because it happened again. We hit this one, two, three mini point, and then our nervous system overreacts. But what I've learned is you can stack the good. And, but for example, if you're, if you go into a state of really strong anger for more than five minutes, your immune system is suppressed between an hour and a half to two hours. That's a physiological fact. But no one had done any study, I started stacking good, like, okay, let me stack a dozen great memories, feel them, see them, experience them. And I felt this biochemical change that didn't just last a half hour, an hour, or 10 minutes, it went on for a day or two. And so I think, uh, I've learned to stack the good. So just having experience is not enough. You gotta stack the good to be able to appreciate it. But I, I think, just come back to the main point here from my perspective, which could

• 17:07Tony Robbins?

  be completely, it's just my perspective, so I wanna point that out. I think the more you find unconditional love for others, the easier it is to find in yourself. And I think the focus is serving and loving, and that's what will get you to the point where you start doing it. But if you wanna speed it up, stack all the good you've done, you'll feel great about yourself.

• 17:28Lewis Howes?

  I, I already know all the comments that have come through, thousands of comments telling me, but what about my family that's toxic? What about my partner who's toxic? And how do I love someone unconditionally when they don't respect me, I can't trust them? What about situations like that?

• 17:42Tony Robbins?

  All those reactions are natural human reactions from ego.

• 17:47Tony Robbins?

  Because it's all about you, me, me, me, what I'm not getting, what I'm not doing, and that's why you're in pain.

• 17:53Tony Robbins?

  And so, I'm not telling you like I haven't done this, but I've done it too in the past, but it's an old pattern, I don't really do anymore. And it used to affect me. Now, not a dominant one, I wouldn't have become who I've become. Early in my life, I developed this belief that life is calling, not to give me something, life is calling for me to deliver things, for me to bring something to life. And I felt the joy that came from not getting but giving. And I got hooked on that core pattern, and then the pattern of learning so I'd have something to give, which I know, one of the things I respect about you, Lewis, is that you have that same pattern in you. You're always trying to learn more, because underneath it all, you also want to give it. You want it for you, but you want to share it, right? And so, those patterns helped me not be in what they're not giving.

• 18:37Tony Robbins?

  And all this language, language, today, people don't understand the power of their language, like toxic.

• 18:45Tony Robbins?

  What the hell are you talking about? You've been reading too much social media and thinking about yourself, or somebody raised you to constantly judge everybody else. We live in a culture now where people, you know, you're evil or you're like me. That's basically how it is, right? The whole world, everybody else is immoral unless they do what you do, think what you think, experience what you think. I mean, being a liberal, I was a liberal, right? Being a liberal growing up meant, I would fight for your ability to say and believe whatever you want, different than me. Today, now, everybody wants everybody to think the same thing, otherwise they're evil, or otherwise they could hurt me. Whatever happens, sticks and stones will break your bones, words will never hurt me. We have this whole thing that words are evil, words are action, words, it's bull.

• 19:27Tony Robbins?

  And all it does is make you incredibly weak as a human being, and you're more than that. We all are more than that. But you know what? Like, a kid that's never broken their bones, deathly afraid of breaking a bone, but if you're a kid, and you're rough and tumble, you broke multiple bones, they heal, you don't have any fear of it. There's so many kids that have been raised to be safe and secure every moment, anything that's insecure or unsafe, they don't want to be a part of, including language. And what it does is make you incredibly weak and fearful. And that's why there's so many people that are abundant that are angry all the time. Cause they're angry because they're not growing. So, don't get me wrong. I know some people are not a good influence. I'm not denying that. I'm just saying you're more than somebody's influence. Unless you obsess about it every moment and make them wrong.

• 20:11Tony Robbins?

  So you can make yourself feel superior morally, psychologically, or spiritually. That's bullshit. Stop the pattern. We've all done it. Catch yourself. Cause if you want joy, happiness, and freedom in an extraordinary life, it will not come from blame. Never. There's no pride that comes from blame. I don't mean fake pride where you make shit up to feel good. I'm talking about real pride. Pride is something you earn. Like people tell me, oh, I have no self-esteem because my parents used to say this, or they'd say that. I'd say, that's such bullshit. I'm not saying it's bullshit they didn't say that. I said it's bullshit, that's why you don't have self-esteem. Self-esteem does not come from what people say about you. Self-esteem comes from what you experience about yourself. See, someone can tell you your whole life you're a piece of crap, and in a party you go, you're full of it. I'm gonna show you. Lots of people have done that.

• 20:56Tony Robbins?

  They never bought it. Or someone tell you you're beautiful your whole life, you go, I'm not really beautiful. So what people tell you doesn't matter at all. It's what you stack. It's what you assemble. It's what you create. It's the habit of what you put in your head. And today, I don't blame you because we got a whole culture that's always blaming somebody else for something in their life. But blame is not a strategy for pride. That's why you listen to these blaming people. They're all angry all the time. Listen, if I wanted to blame, I grew up in an environment, I didn't even share it till my mom passed. And even then I didn't share. I grew up in a pretty rough environment. My mom was a beautiful soul, but when she drank alcohol and she mixed it with prescription drugs, it was a different creature. And it was a violent creature.

• 21:39Tony Robbins?

  And I have a younger brother, five years younger, and a younger sister, seven years younger. And my mom would get nuts. And I didn't want them to get hurt. So I was 5'1" in high school. She'd grab me by the hair and smash me against the wall till I bled. Now, I never shared this, and I'm not denigrating her in any way. I only shared it like four or five years after she died. Um, because I was talking to a group of kids in New York City, um, all without fathers. Um, eighty percent African American, about uh, twenty percent Hispanic out of their group roughly. No white kids, and I'm talking about your biography is not your destiny. And it doesn't matter what you've been through. What you decide now is what's gonna control your life, what you decide each day going forward is gonna decide your life. And I look at them, seeing me, I can read their minds.

• 22:22Tony Robbins?

  This big, tall, white, rich guy is gonna tell me biography doesn't matter. So I said, yeah, let me tell you my story, and I told them the whole story, way more than I'm telling you. And every one of them was crying their eyes out when they're done. I said, look where I am right now. Because I wouldn't assemble the story that my past equals my future. The past only equals your future if you live there. If you're using a rearview mirror to guide yourself, you're gonna crash. So what you've been through is horrific, what you've been through is unjust. I'm on your side. But if you hang on to it, you have no future, and you have no one to blame but yourself. And these kids, to their credit, man, they just responded to the challenge 'cause they first cried their eyes out hearing all the stories. My mom would think I was lying, and I wasn't lying, she poured liquid soap down my throat till I threw up.

• 23:07Tony Robbins?

  And I wasn't lying, so it's not the physical abuse, it's the fact that this is the person you love most that's trying to hurt you, that messes with your head. So I could have been messed up for life. But I didn't. 'Cause something inside me says, I'm responsible for this life. And part of that's because I started reading when I was thirteen, fourteen biographies of people, the greatest people in history, and reading their lives and finding out, guess what? Their lives were far from perfect, some of them had worse lives than I had. But when you have no reference and all you just go online, you talk to other people, making everybody else toxic, and I'm like this, and they didn't do that, then you get to have this shitty life just like those other people. Why are they online so much? Because they don't have a life. Right? Don't be one of those.

• 23:49Tony Robbins?

  Free yourself from the chains of your past. I'm not saying your past doesn't matter, but listen, my mother, I tell people this all the time, and it's the truth. If my mother had been the mother I wanted to be, the mother she should have been, I would not be the man I'm proud to be today. Because I had to become a practical psychologist way before any schooling. Figure out, when's she gonna go in the mood? How do I change her state? How to protect her from the kids? What do we... I mean, it was felt life and death, and it was to some extent. So I developed skills at such a young age. Then when I learned things, I just added to my skills. But I had a core sense of certainty. I could turn anybody around because it started with my mother. And thank God for her.

• 24:34Tony Robbins?

  And she encouraged me in so many ways. She did so many great things. And she loved me, even though it didn't look like it at times. So, but if your parents, if the people around you said all the things you thought they should have, if they had just not been toxic, if they'd encouraged you, you wouldn't have any muscle. And right now, you don't have any muscle because you're using that as an excuse, if you're thinking that. And I'm not attacking you, brothers and sisters. I'm calling to you because I know you're more. Otherwise, I'd just keep my mouth shut. We're just, you've been hypnotized by a culture of weakness. Now, having said that, I'll say one last thing. I know you have a lot of other questions, but it's so important what you ask. Yes, there are people that you don't want to hang out with that will not serve you. But then move on.

• 25:18Tony Robbins?

  Don't sit there and talk about it constantly. Don't waste your time. And you say, but what if it's family, Tony? Mine was family too. And you learn to grow. You go, they're in my life. If someone can get your goat, if someone can piss you off, if someone can make you feel less than,

• 25:34Tony Robbins?

  that's God coming to you saying, grow. You need some spiritual growth. There's gotta be some change in your perception, your belief, your emotions, your spiritual look of life. So that can't happen anymore. And when it happens, like at 61, I've been through so many of those things. And I like do things in mass. I took on big challenges, so I'd have to grow more.

• 25:54Tony Robbins?

  But then life throws them at you too. When they come, you just go, okay, it's gonna have me until I grow. What needs a shift in me so that no longer has an impact? But you know, Jim Rohn used to say, my original teacher, he used to say, Tony, what happens if I've got a cup of coffee here? And he'd say, what if your worst enemy drops sugar in your coffee? What's gonna happen? And I'd go, well, you'd have sweet coffee. And he goes, what if your best friend, your mother, your father, your brother, your sister, your loved one drops one drop of strychnine? I said, you'd be dead. He goes, that's right. Life is the most sugar and strychnine, so watch your coffee. His whole thing was stand guard at the door of your brain. But some people take that and go, oh, my God, you can kill me. It was a metaphor. These people are not so toxic. They're toxic because you give them energy. So if your mom's crazy and constantly criticizing you and it drives you nuts,

• 26:40Tony Robbins?

  just go, that's my mom. That's her way of showing love. And I find a new perspective. And no matter what she does, just stay in a beautiful state and love on her and think, boy, think of all that she cares and feels for, all that she's frustrated in life, or all that she's going through that's made her this way. And think, I don't have to go through this. I can love her. It's like, your growth is the only limit to your happiness. If you're not happy, you're not growing in some area. And usually, it's a place where you're blaming, you're pointing the finger. I don't care if it's government, don't get me wrong. People can be unfair, unjust, that's for sure happens. But you can't control that. You can't make it not happen. What you have to do is become stronger than any of it, so you're free. Freedom comes from growth.

• 27:24Tony Robbins?

  Freedom does not come from control. Because control's an illusion. You can't control everybody, no matter how hard you try. You can't control what they think or feel. And not everybody's gonna be fair and just. And you, my dear friends, and I, have not always been fair and just. Whether we admit it or not, it's just the nature of being a being, a human being. But we can make the largest pattern fair and just, and loving and powerful and serving and growing, until it becomes the dominant thing inside you. And then you experience, life is being great, not your great. Life's great because you're living a great path.

• 27:56Lewis Howes?

  It seems like what I'm seeing and hearing from a lot of people that this past year, everything has fallen apart for them. Their health, their relationships, their finances, their mission or purpose. And these, their spiritual awareness, like every area of life has been in breakdown mode for, for some people. Not everyone, some people have had incredible lives and it was stepped up to the occasion and broken through on all these things. But I'm seeing a pattern of a lot of people breaking down in many areas. Hypothetical scenario, let's say you, you could only focus on one thing to get you started. You only had the time and energy to focus on one of these areas. Your health, your relationships are all breaking down, your finances are failing, failing everywhere.

• 28:37Lewis Howes?

  Where should people lean into first to kind of create that foundation so that everything else can start to rise as well?

• 28:43Tony Robbins?

  I think before you answer what to do, you gotta answer why you're there.

• 28:49Tony Robbins?

  It is not because of the pandemic. I remember when nine 11 happened and people tell, oh my God, our, my life was destroyed because of nine 11. And there were people in the same building who turned their life around, became, grew spiritually, grew closer to their family, made their businesses larger. And the same building burned down, right? Um, I know in my case, you know, nine 11 comes, if you can imagine, you know, I'm fortunate enough to have now more than 80 companies in all these different industries. And obviously, you know, I've done pretty darned well, but by most people's standards of business and life. But my core mission is what I do for a living. It's why I'm here to talk to you right now. It's getting people to be free and alive and have a level of fulfillment that they deserve to have. I know they desire, but I also believe they deserve to have, but to deserve to have it, you gotta do certain things, right?

• 29:34Tony Robbins?

  And so you're not in a place of being overweight because you lost your job. So stop the bullshit blame. Blame is not a strategy for a meaningful life. Blame is not a strategy for greatness. So you gotta resolve that number one. And then your question was, what's the one thing to focus on if you only focus on one? I think it's smart to focus on one thing primarily. Focus on too many can be overwhelming. Other people, it's, it's good to focus on multiple things. It depends on your personality. So I wouldn't presuppose, but then the answer would be whichever thing you're most desirous of changing. Whatever thing is giving you the most pain. So if it's your relationship, I'd go full force on that. Now, in the world we're in today. You know, you don't usually have the the privilege of going, okay, I want to work on just being happy.

• 30:18Tony Robbins?

  Well, I can train to be happy while hell's breaking loose. You can sit in this chair and be totally euphoric. But if you do that in a Western culture, people come and take your furniture, right? So you probably have to work on both your business or financial side and some personal side. I would be working on both. And to me, the way to attack that, if you're not sure which area, is to start with the body. And I know you can relate to this, Louis, because you and I both share this in common. It's like, I always teach physiology first, as you well know. If you change the body, you'll change the emotions. If you change the emotions, you'll change your decisions, you'll change the quality of your life. Because the quality of your life is your emotions. It's not what you get, and you have a billion dollars and commit suicide. People have done it. Right? You can have beautiful relationships and commit suicide. You can have people loving you and be sad all the time.

• 31:03Tony Robbins?

  Our pattern of emotion is our home. And you have to upgrade your home. You have to train it. And one way to train it is the emotion comes from the way you move, the way you breathe, the way you speak. So if I said to your listeners, uh, there's a depressed person behind the curtain over here, and I'll give a hundred thousand dollars to their favorite charity if they had to describe their body, their posture, and they're depressed, you tell me. I'll just use the example. What's that person look like?

• 31:30Lewis Howes?

  They're slunched down, they're looking down at their feet, they're not looking upward, their their shoulders are over, they're...

• 31:36Tony Robbins?

  Are they breathing full or shallow, do you think?

• 31:39Lewis Howes?

  They're shallow.

• 31:40Tony Robbins?

  Are they talking fast or slow?

• 31:42Lewis Howes?

  They're talking, if they're depressed, they're probably talking fast because they're not calm.

• 31:47Tony Robbins?

  Well, no, that's usually stressed. Depressed is different than stressed.

• 31:50Lewis Howes?

  They're probably talking low volume, slower than...

• 31:55Tony Robbins?

  And all those physical characteristics change your biochemistry towards this feeling of being depressed. And in a depressed state, you won't do anything. When I used to be depressed, and I don't get it anymore, I just took it out of my life. I even took the language of it out of my life. Because the words you create create a biochemical response. But when I did that decades ago, because I was like, having those thoughts like, is there a reason to still be here? That kind of crazy shit in your head. I got out of it by using anger originally. I'm much like, sometimes if somebody's really sad or depressed, I'll make them angry. People like, "What's he doing? He's making them angry." Because anger is much more resourceful than depressed. From anger, I can get you the laughter, I can get you the taking action. So, and then gradually, I got why I didn't need anger. It was about growth, it was about contribution, it was about meaning. So there's like stages to go through.

• 32:37Tony Robbins?

  But to answer your question, they should work on both their business side of their life and personal, one of each. And or for either one of those to work, you need to be in a strong emotional state. And if you start with your body, like you know, I start every morning in my cold water. Start every morning with my workout. I start every morning by feeding my mind, right? So there's certain things you gotta do physically. So you're strong enough to remember the truth. Because remember, fear is physical. You feel it in your throat or your gut. So is courage. Courage doesn't mean you're not afraid. It just means you're strong enough, you push through in spite of the fear, right? And courage feels different in the body. So when you go lift, or you go for a sprint, or a strong run, or you jump in that freezing water. When you push your mind, you go beyond what's comfortable. You feel a strength inside you, and that strength will help you to change your body, your emotions, your relationships, whatever.

• 33:21Tony Robbins?

  But then the other thing I'm gonna say is, model someone who's successful. Don't just do this shit by trial and error. Like, find somebody who has what you want. Ideally, maybe more than one person, two or three. And figure out, what are they doing different than you in their relationship? What do they believe different than you about relationship? If it's their body, what are they doing different? They're not lucky. They're doing things differently. You might be slightly biochemically different, but there's patterns there that you can see. And so, instead of learning by trial and error, which can take decades, you may never learn. Jim Rohn taught me, success leaves clues, man. Find someone's got what you want, study what they do, every aspect of it, and then add yourself to it. And that's the pathway to speed of transformation. So, now, like, you know, I've done it. I'm not the only person.

• 34:04Tony Robbins?

  There's so many companies that went from worse off than they'd ever been in their history to the best off because they found a way to pivot. But that required a psychological piece of not blame. So maybe it's time for you to think for yourself and model what works, instead of just what you're told. That's something to consider for yourself.

• 34:24Lewis Howes?

  It's one of the reasons you've got millions of people that model after you, just like myself in many areas of my life. I've got three final questions, is that okay to ask?

• 34:31Tony Robbins?

  Sure.

• 34:32Lewis Howes?

  Want to be respectful of your time, since we're at the top of the hour, just want to make sure I'm good.

• 34:38Lewis Howes?

  You mentioned, I had the opportunity to go to Fiji with you and Dean Graziosi and a group of people about a year and a half ago. And you mentioned that winter was coming. This was in 2019, I guess, or yeah, right before 2020. And you mentioned winter is coming. I don't know how, where, what, what type of crisis is happening, but something's gonna happen. It may be in six months, it may be in the next few years, but something is happening. And from people that went through 9/11 to the housing crisis of 2008, 2009, to then 2020, what would you say if people want to prepare themselves to create more financial abundance over the next 10 years?

• 35:23Lewis Howes?

  With winter coming, maybe again sooner than later, what should people be focusing on in order to earn more and invest more so that they're not overwhelmed financially with the next winter?

• 35:37Tony Robbins?

  Well, first of all, I want to acknowledge that every generation, there's a book everyone should read, it's called The Fourth Turning. It's not a great read, I'll be honest with you in advance. I read it 25 years ago. One of the most seminal books I've ever read, because what it'll show you is that every generation goes through different stages. A winter time, a really, really rough time. A springtime, like after the rough times, we usually see this easy growth. You know, a summer where, God, I'm working hard, doesn't seem to reward. And then a fall where all the rewards show up in a major level. But those seasons, which maybe 10, 20 years are a way of thinking, for some people, those seasons happen in their youth, some midlife, some later, because there's a cycle of history. It's 1,000 years of history you can study, it's fascinating. I'm not gonna try and explain it to you right now,

• 36:21Tony Robbins?

  but if you want perspective, it's there. The generation you're speaking of, the millennial generation, very special generation, I don't mean special like you're so special. Special because they have a unique place in human history. They've experienced certain shocks at a certain time. They are an archetype of one of the four seasons of life. The last one is called the great generation. Think about this, if you were born in the year, say nineteen hundred, nineteen oh one, nineteen oh two, something like that. When you're coming of age, twenty years old, when you wanna think about your life and where it's going and all that stuff. I say nineteen ten, excuse me. When you're coming of age, if you're born in nineteen ten, the stock market crashes. The biggest depression in human history, at least that we're aware of, modern history, happens. You know, fifty percent of people seem to be losing their jobs.

• 37:05Tony Robbins?

  There seems to be no hope whatsoever, right as you're coming to your early prime, gonna make things happen. Also, that's nineteen twenty nine. What happens a decade later when you're about to turn thirty? Another seminal time in your life. World War Two breaks out. Holy shit, the whole world wants it to get over. We're talking about world war all over the earth, and it looks like Hitler's gonna win. And that we're gonna have Nazism everywhere, and countries are dropping like flies, and the economy's going through the floor. And you just turn thirty.

• 37:36Tony Robbins?

  But guess what? At forty, the greatest bull market in the history of the world began for that generation. But they were so tested and so strong from everything they've been through. But then they were tested by their own kids, who didn't have to go through that suffering. Who thought life should be easy for them and said, look at you, you're not balanced, you aren't fair to women, and they weren't. But they were busy fighting wars to get to the part where you'd have time to do that. It's like, see, people say, you know, art, for the sake of art's sake, is for the well-fed. Right, you know, it's like, you know, these people have a different journey. And so, it's not like challenges disappear. But they're called the great generation because they found their way through those things. Cause it was a generation that was not taught to look for excuses.

• 38:20Tony Robbins?

  I think the millennial generation is the next great generation, if they play their cards right. And I think there's enough great people in that generation to help lead a new direction for it. And I think there's, technology allows them to connect in new ways, but technology unfortunately also pits them against other people. Because if you've seen The Social Dilemma, you know there are people manipulating your brain and your biochemistry and your dopamine right now. So, but I think they'll figure that out. I think they really will. Now, the answer to your question. I want to give that context because without the context, all this is about survival or doing okay for yourself. And I think you're not going to feel a great life just trying to take care of yourself. Don't get me wrong. It's like,

• 38:59Tony Robbins?

  if you know the Indian tradition in India, that they teach these four aims of life. The first aim is Artha, A R T H A. And what that means is prosperity and security, but it's important to take care of that because when that prosperity and security is there, it's not like that's not spiritual. Taking care of yourself and your family is part of life. And so you need to do that. And then the next level of development, next aim of life is Kama, K A M A, and that means pleasure. And it's good to find pleasure. Like if you've found good work that serves more than yourself, you're going to prosper. But then do you enjoy it? And do you enjoy your life? And do you appreciate things? And it's like finding that appreciation. It isn't just sensuality or sexuality. It's music, it's art, it's family, it's all these things. It's the history of your own country and finding the good, right?

• 39:44Tony Robbins?

  And then the third level for that most people have heard of is Dharma, which is, you know, your purpose or your truth. But notice you really don't have a real clear Dharma in most people unless they got some level of prosperity or security, some level of enjoyment of life, that they get to the point of thinking broader. Now, some people early on are trying to find their purpose. What's my purpose? What's my purpose? I gotta find my ultimate purpose. Who said there's one frickin' purpose?

• 40:08Tony Robbins?

  Where did you get that delusion? And why does it have to be so huge? I know like when I was a young kid, I had this purpose statement, the purpose of my life is to be a passionate, loving, incredible creation of what God shows is possible by serving all its humanity and lifting them. And I went on and on and on. Now, like, what's my purpose? How can I help? I mean, serving is what my purpose is. I don't need all this bullshit. And that means I can do it when I introduce, when I say hello to the mailman, I can do it in front of 50,000 people. I can do it with my child. Right? And there's lots of different purposes as you go through your life. But most people are trying to get that. They haven't even figured out what the hell they're gonna do. They haven't even figured out enjoy their life. Your purpose will unfold if you do the right thing.

• 40:52Tony Robbins?

  So now to answer your question precisely and specifically in short order, you need to put yourself in a position if you're gonna be successful is to have ideally your own business or a business where the more value you add, the more you earn. You can work for someone else and do that. If you had stock options, you could do that. If you've got bonuses. But to me, autonomy, if you really want an extraordinary life, I believe this is just personal preference. This is my opinion. This isn't the truth for everyone. Is if you can find yourself in a place where the more value you add, the more you can grow mentally, emotionally, spiritually and financially, then you can write your own ticket. Right? And so owning your own business to me is one of the ways to do that or partnering with somebody in a business or working for somebody, but where they treat you as a partner, you get a piece of the business.

• 41:37Tony Robbins?

  So you don't have to be only on your own. But if you're gonna grow, you need to make whatever business you're part. Even if you work for somebody else, you gotta think like an owner. Cause if you do, you become one. And if you think like an owner and you're gonna succeed, then you gotta model the people that are successful. It's like, why we put this challenge together? It's not just me. We've got about a dozen of the best people in the world, all different ways. Cause they're like, oh, Tony can do this. But what about Jenna Kircher with her camera and what she's doing? Make a couple million dollars a year, being a mom, enjoying her life. Right? So they get to meet them all and not just be inspired, but this is specifically how to do it. Cause you know, and I know there's you get to have that I didn't have 20 years ago, or even 15 or five years ago, some of it, but certainly not 30 years ago. It cost a fortune to do stuff. Everything's for free now.

• 42:21Tony Robbins?

  You put up a podcast and reach millions of people. That was impossible in the stage of my life. So there are ways to leap from because of technology that you wanna take advantage of. So you wanna model somebody that's incredible. But then what's gonna make that business work or not is two things. Do you understand who your ideal client is? You can't be a client to everybody. You gotta know who's my, you can help everybody, but who's your ideal client? Who's the client's gonna stay with you when the economy gets bad? Cause as you said, winter always comes. I was saying winter came then because I knew we'd had a bull market so long that we're gonna have to have a bear market. We usually have one every five years. We had this unbelievable long period of time without having one. And I wanted people prepared. Because when things go down is your greatest opportunity.

• 43:06Tony Robbins?

  Right now, your greatest second opportunity in your life is happening because we're coming out of winter and we're not fully in springtime yet, although the economy is heating up. And it's artificially heating up. They're gonna pour so much money into it that you can be an idiot and do well in this economy. But you want to take advantage of this time because when it goes back again, because it will. We can't just keep printing dollars forever or putting ones and zeros in computers without inflation. We're already starting to see it. And most of you don't know what inflation is. I remember buying my first house at eighteen years old, a triplex at eighteen percent interest. It's hard to make money at eighteen percent.

• 43:40Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 43:41Tony Robbins?

  Now you got like two and a half for people right now. It's different universes. So you gotta be prepared for whatever is coming and the way you do that is know who your ideal customer is, who you can add value to, fall in love with them. What do they need? What do they want? What do they hate? And not fall in love with your product, fall in love with them so you can keep meeting their needs and then come up with an irresistible offer. If you have those two things, you're gonna win. I mean, I remember I saw, there's a great little series out right now on, I think it's the History Channel. They've done these series in the past. You may have seen them, Louis, like the, you know, the, the people that shaped America and they show like all the, you know, the guys that built Standard Oil, like the Rockefellers and so forth. They're doing one right now on the food that built America. And it's fascinating. And so one of those stories was about the pizza business.

• 44:26Tony Robbins?

  And I won't run it for you, but one of those was such a perfect example was Domino's Pizza. He was going bankrupt. He couldn't figure out what the hell to do. He couldn't make any money no matter what. And then one day, he had a problem delivering something and somebody was pissed off and they go, I will not accept this pizza if it takes more than thirty minutes. And he was, and he heard it. And then he tried on every call. Domino's Pizza, we deliver within thirty minutes or your pizza is free. He made an irresistible offer, not just that we'll deliver by thirty minutes, but I will be penalized, you will get it for free if you don't. That offer turned Domino's from a losing company to the one of the most dominant pizza companies in the history of the world.

• 45:05Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 45:05Tony Robbins?

  Having an irresistible offer and knowing who his client was. He went for kids in college. He targeted them because they ate more pizza and you could deliver more to the same dorm with more people. So he knew his ideal clients, he knew who else he wanted to serve. He came up with irresistible offer, done deal, unbelievable business.

• 45:23Lewis Howes?

  And this is one of the things you guys are teaching in the Own Your Future Challenge, which if I want everyone listening or watching to sign up for this, it's completely free. You can go to lewishouse.com/future. It'll take you right there. You guys are doing this week-long challenge, you and our friend Dean Graziosi, talking about how to build and scale an irresistible offer, talking about how to build a business, a side hustle, whatever it is, using your knowledge and information to build something, to earn something on the side that eventually you could take it.

• 45:53Tony Robbins?

  What's unique about this challenge, and it's not just me, it's a bunch of people, is we're going to use technology each step of the way, each day. So you start to build a business that you could start to launch at the end, because this technology can do in minutes what used to take months or years. And/or if you already have a business, how to grow it dynamically. So it's not just going to be sitting back with philosophy. We're going to be calling you, there's no charge for the program. The charge is you've got to take uncomfortable action each day, using a little bit of technology will show you how to do, and then you're going to have something really at the end, not just inspiration.

• 46:24Lewis Howes?

  I love it. Yeah, I want everyone to sign up for this. It's completely free. LewisHowes.com/future. There's going to be a lot of great content. A lot of my mutual friends are going to be on there, teaching, sharing some of their the greatest strategies about how they've built and scaled their businesses and brands. So make sure you sign up for that. Final two questions.

• 46:42Lewis Howes?

  This is a question I've asked you before. You probably don't remember. I think the last time I interviewed you was four or five years ago. But it's called the three truths, and I like to make it a spin this question. It's a hypothetical scenario. Imagine it's your last day on earth, many years away. You get to accomplish and live as long as you want to live, but eventually you've got to turn the lights off. And for whatever reason, Tony, you've got to take all of your work with you. Your written words, your audio, the video. No one has access to your content anymore. They steal the books out of people's homes and it goes with you to the next place, hypothetically. But you get to leave behind three things you know to be true. The three lessons you would share with the world, and this is all we would have from your information.

• 47:25Lewis Howes?

  What would you say are those three lessons that you would share with your daughter or to the world if this is all we would have to remember you by?

• 47:32Tony Robbins?

  Life is not about me. Life isn't about we. The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships, and relationships are grown by giving, not by demanding, not by judging.

• 47:44Tony Robbins?

  I'd say, secondly, love is the answer with strength. You have to have love and strength together, those two resources. Anything can be transformed, anything can be accomplished. Because with love and strength, you'll have a larger vision. If it's true love, I don't want to talk about love in a sense of just trying to get something. I mean, true love, which is about how can I give something? But still having strength also, so you're not run over. And I'd say, I'd say, constant, never-ending learning will make life not only interesting, but the meaningfulness will come because you'll have something to give. And that'll tie back to the first piece that I described. So, I mean, there's so much, it's hard to reduce to three things. But off the top of my head, those would be my first three.

• 48:26Lewis Howes?

  I love those. And Dean Graziosi said, one of the greatest lessons you've taught him is about love and relationships. And he said that you told him, you feel love when you give it, rather than when you receive it. And also in relationship, never keep score. And so I just wanted to mention that as something that has been impactful for him and so many of your friends that you've taught this to, especially myself, and relationships and understanding relationships. Before I ask the final question, I want to acknowledge you, Tony, as I've done many times before, and I will continue to do for as long as you're alive, for constantly being a symbol of inspiration to so many people, for constantly showing up. You don't have to do this stuff anymore.

• 49:08Lewis Howes?

  You've done a million times over the work of helping so many people. And the ability, the amount of growth that you continue to have in wanting to serve at a higher level continues to inspire me like you'll never know. And so I want to acknowledge you for leading the way, for constantly serving so many people that will never know that you touched their lives directly, because you're doing it not for them to know you're doing it, on every area of life. I really appreciate who you are as a human. And my final question is, what is your definition of greatness?

• 49:40Tony Robbins?

  I think greatness is service. I think great service is a great life. I think... You know, as you live your life, and I'm fortunate enough to uncover this earlier in my life, not because I'm such a good person, I think just because I love people and because I then attracted really brilliant people, 20, 30 years my senior, who had been through all the patterns. In the end, it's not what you get that's gonna make you happy, it's who you become, and it's who you've been able to touch. And, you know, so I think greatness is service. I think greatness is finding the way to do more for others than anybody else, because that'll also come back to you in spades from the standpoint of your own sense of internal pride, not external, but your own sense like, people could take away everything I have,

• 50:23Tony Robbins?

  they can't take away who I've become as a man by my service and by my growth. So I think, I think purpose and, and having a sense of progress are the two things that create a great life. If you've got a higher purpose than yourself, that's gonna give you the motivation and the energy to drive when everybody else is exhausted and you're exhausted. And if you're making progress, you'll feel the rewards that come from that. And I think those two are twin powers in a great life.

• 50:51Lewis Howes?

  Tony Robbins, thanks for all your service and generosity, my friend. I'm so grateful and thanks for being here.

• 50:56Tony Robbins?

  Thank you, Louis. Great to see you again.

• 50:58Lewis Howes?

  Thank you so much for listening to this episode. If you enjoyed it, please spread the message of greatness to a friend, three friends. Post it on social media, share it everywhere that you think someone would be inspired to listen to this episode. Make sure to subscribe over on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Just click the subscribe button right now, leave us a rating and review, and share the part of this message that you enjoyed the most over in the review section on Apple Podcasts. Also, if you want inspiring messages sent to your phone every single week via me over text message, then text the word PODCAST to 614-350-3960 to get on our secret texting community list. Also, make sure you sign up for the Own Your Future Challenge right now. Tony Robbins and Dean Graziosi are putting this on.

• 51:43Lewis Howes?

  Go to lewishouse.com/future. You can get signed up for free. Incredible week-long challenge to help you build your business and brand online. So make sure to go there, lewishouse.com/future. Sign up for free right now. And I want to leave you with this quote from Shonda Rhimes, who said, "You can waste your lives drawing lines, or you can live your life crossing them." I hope you enjoyed this. I hope you got value. Every time I have Tony on, I'm always inspired. There's something that he says that reminds me of what I need to do to continue to improve my life. And he always shares something new that inspires me as well in a positive way. I'm always grateful for his time for coming on this show. Make sure to check out the previous interviews we had with Tony on here.

• 52:25Lewis Howes?

  If you want to be inspired, just check out the show notes at lewishouse.com/1107 or check out the description below this episode. And I want to remind you, if no one has told you lately, that you are loved, you are worthy, and you matter, my friend. I'm so grateful for you. You know what time it is. It's time to go out there and do something great.