The 3 Dangers Holding You Back From Your Meaningful Mission EP 1466

The Summit of Greatness is back! Buy your tickets today – summitofgreatness.com – Today, we’re going to talk about the dangers of the good life. Maybe you’ve worked your entire life to reach the “good life”. You’ve worked hard to reach a level of comfort and safety – and there’s nothing wrong with that. But once you got there, did you ever feel like something was missing? Did you ever feel unfulfilled, or there was something more out there waiting for you? When we strive to reach comfort, our safety can often leave us with a scarcity mindset because we’re afraid of losing what we worked so hard for. I respect that, but I also believe that we were meant for SO MUCH MORE. We were meant to unlock our inner greatness and live fulfilling lives full of love and peace. In this episode, I invite you to step outside of your comfort zone. Maybe you’re following a path you think you’re SUPPOSED to be doing, but you know it’s not what you were BORN to do. Maybe you were on the right path for a season, and now your story has taken an unexpected turn. Wherever you are, you can choose to stay stuck, or choose to break free. In this episode you will learn,What is “the good life” we’re taught by modern culture? Let’s define that. Why so many people are lacking a sense of purpose. How having a meaningful mission will end the temptation to endlessly wander aimlessly. Lewis’s personal story of finding his meaningful mission from a very low point. Why comfort isn’t always bad, and when to embrace and celebrate your wins. For more information go to www.lewishowes.com/1466More inspiring episodes to help you on your journey to GREATNESS:Dr. Joe Dispenza on finding your life’s purpose - https://link.chtbl.com/1413-podJames Clear’s Atomic Habits - https://link.chtbl.com/1395-podLisa Nichols on living for your life’s mission - lewishowes.com/979Bruce Lipton on manifesting abundance - https://link.chtbl.com/1312-pod Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

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• 0:01Lewis Howes?

  Calling all conscious achievers who are seeking more community and connection. I've got an invitation for you. Join me at this year's Summit of Greatness this September 7th through 9th in my hometown of Columbus, Ohio to unleash your true greatness. This is the one time a year that I gather the greatness community together in person for a powerful transformative weekend. People come from all over the world and you can expect to hear from inspiring speakers like Inky Johnson, Josprey Singh, Vanessa Van Edwards, Jen Sincero, and many more. You'll also be able to dance your heart out to live music, get your body moving with group workouts, and connect with others at our evening socials.

• 0:44Lewis Howes?

  So if you're ready to learn, heal, and grow alongside other incredible individuals in the greatness community, then you can learn more at lewishouse.com/summit2023. Make sure to grab your ticket, invite your friends, and I'll see you there. Today, we are going to talk about the dangers of the good life. Now, maybe you've worked your entire life to reach the good life. You've worked hard to reach a level of comfort and safety, and there's nothing wrong with that. But once you got there, did you feel like something was missing? Did you ever feel unfulfilled? Or there was something more out there for you?

• 1:24Lewis Howes?

  When we strive to reach comfort, our safety can often leave us with a scarcity mindset because we're afraid of losing what we worked so hard for. And I respect that, but I also believe that we were meant for so much more. We were meant to unlock our inner greatness and live fulfilling lives full of love and peace. In this episode, I invite you to step out of your comfort zone. Maybe you're following a path that you think you're supposed to be doing, but you know it's not what you were born to do. Maybe you were on the right path for a season, and now your story has taken an unexpected turn.

• 2:04Lewis Howes?

  Wherever you are, you can choose to stay stuck or you can choose to break free. And that's what we're going to discuss in today's show. We'll cover the three dangers of the good life and ways around them. And it's possible not only to live a good life, but to live a great life. I'm so excited for today, so let's dive in.

• 2:27Lewis Howes?

  Welcome to the School of Greatness. My name is Lewis Howes, a former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur. And each week, we bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin.

• 2:51Speaker 02

  So as we dive into this topic and this conversation, I want to share a quick story about the fisherman in a small village. And maybe you've heard this story before, but I just want to share it really quickly about fishermen in a small village that tourists went to go visit this village and they saw this fisherman and they asked them how long it takes them to catch fish. And the fisherman replied saying, not very long. And so the tourist says, well, why don't you stay longer and catch more? And the fisherman said that their small catches were sufficient to meet their needs in those of the families. And the tourist said, well, what do you do with the rest of your time?

• 3:33Speaker 02

  And the fisherman replied, well, we sleep late, we fish some, we play with our kids, we take siestas with our wives. In the evenings, we go to the village to see our friends. We have a few drinks, we play the guitar and sing a few songs. We have a full life. And the tourist interrupted and said, well, I've got an MBA from Harvard and I can help you and you should start by fishing longer every day. You can then sell the extra fish you catch. And with the extra revenue, you can buy a bigger boat. And the fisherman said, well, after that, then what? Well, with the extra money and the larger boat you'll bring, you can buy second one and then the third one and so on until you have an entire fleet of boats.

• 4:17Speaker 02

  And instead of selling your fish to a middleman, you can negotiate directly with the processing plants and maybe even open your own plant. You can then leave this little village and move to a bigger city in Mexico City or Los Angeles or New York City. And from there you can direct your huge enterprise from that city. And the fisherman said, well, how long would that take? And the tourist replied, well, 20, maybe 25 years. And after that, well, afterwards, you can do some interesting things, the tourist said. When your business is really big, you can start buying and selling stocks and making even more millions. Millions, really? Well, after that, then what do you do?

• 5:01Speaker 02

  Well, the tourist said, after that, you'll be able to retire and live on a tiny village near the coast, sleep late, play with your children, catch a few fish, take siesta with your wife and spend your evenings drinking and enjoying your friends. The fisherman replied, well, with all due respect, sir, that's exactly what I'm doing right now. So what's the point of wasting 25 years? Now,

• 5:29Speaker 02

  I love this story because you've got to ask yourself, what type of life do you want? What type of life is a rich, abundant, full life? Where do you want to be spending your time? And understand the sacrifices you make, no matter what you're going after. Now, you can live in a small village, you can have a great family, you can do things on a daily basis that support that family. You can be a contribution to the community and you can have a full, rich life. But I feel like there's a few dangers to that life in this

• 6:08Speaker 02

  society. There's a few dangers to that in this world. And it doesn't make you wrong or bad. It doesn't make you good and right. There's just some pros and cons. And there's also some pros and cons to the other extreme of, you know, working longer hours and buying a bigger boat and making more money and then having a fleet and then moving to a bigger city for bigger opportunities. There are certain pros and cons and and opportunities and consequences to that as well.

• 6:41Speaker 02

  So I want you to understand what is a rich life to you. And when we talk about the good life, we're taught by modern culture, different things that look like a good life. And again, I don't think there's a right or wrong, good or bad here. It's what do you want? What makes you feel like you're thriving? Like you're growing, like you're making a difference? And based on what you feel you are supposed to do with your life. In Webster's dictionary, they define the good life as a happy and enjoyable life. And this definition is a little vague. If we don't define happy and enjoyable for ourselves,

• 7:26Speaker 02

  we'll default to someone else's definition, we'll default to society's definition, and we'll be in a trap. We'll be in a trap by things that we don't want to do. So the fishermen wanted to stay in the village. They liked their life. They weren't looking to expand and grow, at least financially. We don't know if they were unable to grow and expand emotionally and spiritually. Maybe they were. But here's what I do know. Without growth, it's hard to truly be fulfilled. Without expansion, it's hard to truly know what we're capable of. Without obstacles and certain challenges, it's hard to see what we're made of.

• 8:10Speaker 02

  The good life teaches you to be grateful, but is it gratitude or guilt that keeps us from seeking more for yourself? It teaches us to not ask for more than you're given. But what's wrong with having abundance for you and those that you love? And again, abundance can be spiritual, emotional. It can be experiences. It doesn't have to just be money and career. And sometimes the good life teaches us scarcity, that there isn't enough to go around and we should hoard money. We should hide our gifts and our talents. But who does that benefit? You know, I see the allure of the fishermen in the small village.

• 8:56Speaker 02

  I've experienced that life. It's a pretty amazing life. It's pretty fun to just kind of do the same thing every day. Take it easy, relax, do the bare minimum. There's a peace to that. There's a, a joy to that. There's fun. There's play. There's not much stress. But there's also gifts inside of you, talents inside of you that you haven't maximized. That you haven't seen what you can create. You haven't at least even tried to fail. Because you're doing kind of like the bare minimum to survive and stay alive. Again, this is not a judgment. This is not a make wrong. This is not good or bad. This is just for me personally.

• 9:42Speaker 02

  There is something to see, to explore within each one of us. And the biggest danger in my mind is lacking a meaningful mission. Now, a meaningful mission is an underlying sense of purpose that gives your life greater significance. And I think we are living through a crisis of people not being clear on their meaningful mission. Therefore, that they lack the alignment of motivation. They might have motivation to live up to some standard in society or keep up with their friends or make money because they're trying to look good. But it's not the right type of motivation. It's not a meaningful motivation. And so many people are comfortable. They have jobs. They have food. They have shelter.

• 10:26Speaker 02

  They have time to listen to a podcast like this and read books. But it may not be for a clear purpose or meaning to serve something greater talents, gifts, uniqueness inside of them. And they lack this sense of meaning and purpose due to putting comfort above all else. Again, I am not saying that we shouldn't live a comfortable life. I, I love having comforts in my life. But I also know that when we live comfortably too consistently. When challenges come up in life, and they will. When society throws stress at you. When health challenges arise, when people around you are dealing with a challenge.

• 11:08Speaker 02

  We lack the emotional, physical and mental strength to overcome the challenges.

• 11:17Speaker 02

  And that's why it's important to put ourselves through some type of structured pain, structured discomfort on a consistent basis. This doesn't mean you need to be in pain constantly, but you can be in physical discomfort 30 minutes a day to help build the strength to overcome challenges in the future. Having a meaningful mission enables you to end the temptation to wander aimlessly and label it success or comfort. Now, this is something I've talked about many times. I talk about it in The Greatness Mindset. When we are not clear on the direction we're heading, even if it's the wrong direction, if we're not clear on where we are heading, we are wandering aimlessly.

• 12:00Speaker 02

  And when we wander aimlessly, we typically do things that aren't the best for us or the best for others, or we're wasting time on things that aren't supporting our growth and development or service and contribution with others. And then we start to get anxious. We start to get stressed. We get depressed. We feel like something's wrong with us. And it's because we're not aiming for a direction. And again, you might be going in the wrong direction right now, but at least you're moving somewhere. It's better to be going the wrong place than no place at all and standing still. Because that's when the vultures of the world come and start to feed on. The vultures in the physical world, the vultures in your mind,

• 12:45Speaker 02

  the wrong thoughts that are going to hold you down, that are going to make you play small and doubt yourself. They're going to start attacking your soul. And people in the world are going to start coming after you and trying to drag you and pull you and push you in a lot of different directions and waste your time. So that is danger number one, lacking a meaningful mission. And in my book, The Greatness Mindset, we give you the full strategy for developing and creating a meaningful mission. So if you haven't got a copy yet, make sure to check that out. Danger number two, this is a biggie.

• 13:22Speaker 02

  The lack of a growth mindset. You've heard this phrase about a growth mindset over fixed mindset before. If you've been listening to this show or you've been working on developing your personal growth for a while, you've probably heard the book mindset, which is about this concept versus fixed and growth mindset. And as humans, we are motivated to grow and evolve. But at times we feel stagnant or that we're repeating the same day because we're too comfortable. Again, like I mentioned, comfort isn't a bad thing. I like feeling comfortable, but I feel comfortable because I'm constantly putting myself through discomfort. I'm delaying gratification.

• 14:06Speaker 02

  I'm not eating sugar all day. I'm delaying that gratification and doing it every once in a while. I'm working out. I'm getting up early as opposed to sleeping in and not moving my body at all because it feels more comfortable. I feel comfortable because I put myself through discomfort daily. It doesn't need to be extremes here, guys. We don't need to be like, I get up at 3 a.m. and I push myself for four hours until I'm nearly dead. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about creating a structure and a system that works for you. So you can have energy all day. So you can feel inspired, not exhausted. That's not what this is about.

• 14:49Speaker 02

  It's about creating a structure and a system that works for you to support you in feeling comfortable. And that might mean putting yourself through discomfort, delaying gratification, doing the challenging things that make you feel proud about yourself consistently and build your self-worth and self-confidence. Now, I love this story about Jim Carrey. Maybe you've heard this speech online, but Jim Carrey talked about a story of his father in a viral college commencement speech. And the speech goes a little something like this. He talked about his dad and how he could have been a great stand-up comedian. He had all the skills, all the tools.

• 15:33Speaker 02

  He was hilarious, but he chose accounting as a more practical profession. He was comfortable, it was practical, it was safe. Take care of his kids, family, you know, had time to do the things that were were good for him and his family. It was practical. It was safe. And when Jim was 12 years old, his dad lost the job. They struggled after that. Now, him choosing a comfortable, safe situation in life later in life caused extreme pain, sadness, loss, grief, and discomfort.

• 16:18Speaker 02

  So they struggled to make ends meet for a time, and he saw his family take all sorts of odd jobs to pay the bills. Now, the lesson for him, for Jim Carrey, was you can fail at what you don't want to do. So you might as well take a chance on what you want. On page 167 of The Greatness Mindset, it says, "You are the only person who can give yourself what you want, and you must be willing to do the work every day." You see, because comfort keeps us safe from one of the greatest fears, and that is the fear of failure. I

• 16:58Speaker 02

  talk about this in Chapter 4. There are three main fears. The fear of failure is one of the biggest ones that we all face, that we all struggle with. Some people have this greater than the other two fears, but the fear of failure is a big one that we talk about in Chapter 4. And this fear of failure can prevent us from having a growth mindset. And what I mentioned earlier is the feeling and the experience of growing individually gives us the greatest sense of fulfilling. Not growing makes us feel uneasy, dissatisfied, and eventually uncomfortable with ourselves, not more comfortable because we're not growing.

• 17:42Speaker 02

  And what I would like to ask you is, what if we gave ourselves permission to fail on our journey of life, on our journey of greatness?

• 17:53Speaker 02

  And I really think greatness is allowing ourselves to fail constantly. Failure is the only way to grow. You don't grow unless you have failure in the gym. If you're trying to get a bigger muscle, you don't grow by moving it once. You grow the bicep by doing a curl until you feel failure, until you cannot do another curl. And that way, it breaks it down a little bit. You break down, you stop, then you have to recover. The body starts to generate, the muscle starts to build, and then it grows. That's what happens in life as well. Psychologically, emotionally, physically, we've got to be willing to fail.

• 18:34Speaker 02

  Failure should be a thing we celebrate, be inspired by, be motivated by, because we know, hey, when I fail, it means I grow. The next thing that happens is I pause, I reflect, and boom, here's some type of opportunity, some type of experience where now I have wisdom, I have new lessons, I have new experiences where I get to grow into now. Failure should be celebrated, not feared. When a lot of time, we are crippled by this idea, well, if I fail, I'm not going to be good enough. I'm going to be made fun of. I'm going to be laughed at. People are not going to accept me. But that is not true.

• 19:16Speaker 02

  And maybe there have been situations or scenarios in your past where you have made mistakes and kids laughed at you. Okay, that will happen, but it doesn't mean you are a failure when you make a mistake. It just means you made a mistake, or you did something not to the best of your abilities yet. And for you, if you flip that script, if you flip that story in your mind, you'd say to yourself, man, this is something I should celebrate because on the other side of this, I have wisdom. Now I'm smarter, I'm more talented, I'm more educated, and you know what? I'm courageous. Most people lack the courage to actually try something because they're afraid of what people are going to think when they fail.

• 19:59Speaker 02

  But when you stay comfortable, that's when the biggest discomfort comes later in life. Just like in the story with Jim Carrey. So give yourself permission to fail on a daily basis. I love the story of Sarah Blakely. I talk about Sarah Blakely a lot because when she was growing up, she's the founder of Spanx, which sold for over a billion dollars. And when she grew up, she told me the story on this podcast that her father, every night at the dinner table would ask her, the kids, what did you fail at today? And he would celebrate them for sharing a story of failure.

• 20:39Speaker 02

  So when she got into her journey of being an entrepreneur, when she knew nothing, she had no clue what she was doing. She wasn't afraid to fail. She had challenges. She had obstacles. She had everyone telling her that this was the wrong thing and it's not going to work and it was a hard industry. But it didn't stop her from trying. The failures that happened over and over again gave her information, gave her experience, gave her courage to keep going. And I want you to have that same courage, knowing that something beautiful and grand and great is on the other side. Now, danger number three is a lack of self-love due to comparison. I don't know about you, but in the past, I've struggled with comparison.

• 21:24Speaker 02

  Ah, are they bigger than me? Are they better than me? Are they doing it in a unique way that I could be doing? And oh, I should be doing what they're doing and constant comparison. You know, many of us count on our culture, our friends, social media and coworkers to tell us what the good life is, based on what they're posting, what they're talking about, where they're traveling to, how much money they're making. And as humans, we are comparison machines. Nod your head up and down if you relate to this. If this resonates, if this is like, yes, Louis, you're speaking my language. For some reason, I've allowed myself to be in comparison mode way too much.

• 22:04Speaker 02

  And now is the time to stop it. It's time to stop, my friend. You don't need to compare anymore. Here's a statistic. According to Finance Online, FOMO, or the fear of missing out, is experienced by 56% of people on social media. More than half the people on social media have this fear of missing out. Well, they, they did this trip. I need to go do this trip. They bought this type of car. I need to buy this thing. And I'm telling you, the danger with comparison is that it's often an act of violence against yourself. When you compare yourself to someone or something else.

• 22:44Speaker 02

  Using your friend's idea of a successful career to shape yours, ooh, that is dangerous. Using social media's idea of a happy relationship to decide yours, that is dangerous. Using someone else's idea of wealth to inform yours is dangerous as well. Goes back to the comparison about the fisherman and the, uh, the tourist MBA who said, hey, here's what you should be doing. Well, maybe the fisherman doesn't want to do that. You know, maybe there is ways that the fisherman can grow still in his village. But maybe he doesn't want to do this big crazy thing that he really isn't a part of his meaningful mission. Another thing is all comparison isn't bad.

• 23:29Speaker 02

  But the kind that leaves you to abandon your truth, to abandon your emotional peace and forget your standard of your good life, that is bad. It, it's when it's taking you away and it's distracting you and it's causing you this anxiousness. If it's inspiring you and saying, oh, here's a model that actually inspires me. It's calling you forth, calling you greater to overcome something, showing you what's possible. That is inspiring. Not all comparison is bad, but you need to ask yourself, okay, why am I taking these actions? Is it because I see everyone else doing it and so I feel I'm supposed to? Or is it because that's what I truly want for a deeper reason?

• 24:15Speaker 02

  So I want you to ask yourself how you can start to reconnect with your standards. So that you separate what you should want from what you really want. So here's an example, you know, should I, should I buy a home or should I rent a home? You know, when you hear everyone saying, oh, you should buy, buy, buy. You know, because that's the, that's the lifestyle and you're not, you're not worthy unless you buy a home. For, man, how many years? Twenty years I lived in an apartment. It wasn't until recently where I got my first home. For twenty years, I lived in an apartment and I rented a two-bedroom apartment. And my first apartment was, well, I mean, twenty years ago, I had an apartment for a hundred twenty-five dollars a month.

• 25:00Speaker 02

  It was a little studio that I split it with someone else. We paid two fifty a month total, uh, but we split it for a hundred twenty-five each. Then my first apartment by myself was in two thousand nine. Uh, so fourteen years ago was my first apartment by myself and it was four ninety-five a month, four hundred ninety-five dollars a month. For me, that was the biggest stretch. I didn't have that money. It was like, man, can I afford this in three months? I don't know, but it it got me thinking bigger by doing that. But over the years, as I started to earn more, people like, why don't you buy a home? Buy a home, buy a home. And I had a vision for the home that I wanted to buy. And I liked the flexibility of being in an apartment. I liked the flexibility. I was traveling a lot.

• 25:45Speaker 02

  I wanted to put my money in my business rather than a home right away. So I wanted to have more cash so I could invest in growing the business. So I was clear on my vision and I didn't do something because everyone else was buying a home. I didn't jump into that. I was clear and made my decisions based on my mission, my meaningful mission. Another example would be working a nine to five versus starting a business, starting a side hustle. And oh, I see everyone else jumping their career ladder and and working at these awesome companies. I should go do that versus seeing people, ah, all these side hustles and have multiple streams of income and do real estate and do stocks and do crypto. And jumping in all these things because you see other people doing it.

• 26:28Speaker 02

  It's not, choose the life that you want that excites you, that allows you to maximize your talents, your gifts. Working with people that are enjoyable to work with in a community and the impact that you could have together, all these different things. Another example might be building a relationship versus staying single. For now, to work on yourself. You'll see people posting photos about being married and engaged and all these things and thinking, oh, I should be engaged and I should be married and oh, what's wrong with me versus other people that say, you know, single life is the greatest and you're in a relationship and you're thinking, ah, maybe I should end this relationship and be single. You gotta ask yourself, don't compare to what others are posting. You don't know their stories. You don't know if it's true or not. You're just seeing the highlight reels.

• 27:14Speaker 02

  Focus on your meaningful mission and what works for you for a good life. One of the best ways to stop comparing yourself to others is to know who you are. Get to know you better. Take yourself out on a date. Take yourself to the movies alone. Take yourself out on a walk by yourself. Listen to yourself. Take alone time to hear about you, to learn about you, ask yourself questions, journal about you. That might sound a little weird, but I'm telling you, when I was in my early twenties, I was afraid to be alone. I was so afraid of it, I needed to be around people all the time. And I realized, wow, I'm really insecure. I don't feel like I'm valuable enough.

• 27:58Speaker 02

  I don't know how to be alone. That was a scary thing for me. And I said to myself, well, if I don't learn how to be alone now, I'll never do it. And this anxiety is going to make me feel afraid and anxious when I'm with people and when I'm not with people. So I started to go out on dates by myself. I took me to the movies. I took me to dinner. I took me for long walks on the beach metaphorically. I lived in Ohio. I didn't have a beach, but I walked around little ponds. And for me, that was powerful. After six months of doing this, the first few times it was awkward. I felt like everyone was making fun of me for having dinner alone, for going to the movie and buying a ticket for one. It felt so uncomfortable and weird. Now I love it.

• 28:43Speaker 02

  I mean, I spent a lot of my time with my girlfriend Martha, but I love being alone. I love having alone time and taking a walk by myself. I love, I can go to the gym by myself. I can go to the movies by myself. I can do whatever I need to do and I feel good with me because I've gotten to know me. So get to know you and start taking inventory. And this is an exercise that we have on page 158 of The Greatness Mindset, is to really start taking inventory of yourself. I want you to go through that full exercise on page 158. That'll help you get to know you better. I want you to write your meaningful mission manifesto. Again, we give you the full process in The Greatness Mindset.

• 29:26Speaker 02

  And if you find that you are constantly comparing yourself to others, it could mean, it could mean that you are out of touch with your true purpose or you haven't fully healed past wounds. I used to compare all the time in my twenties because I was not in a healing journey at that time. It wasn't until I hit 30 years old when I started to truly be on the journey of healing. It took a while and that journey continues now. But that allowed me to stop comparing little by little and start focusing on my mission versus comparing and jumping from thing to thing. Take some time to reflect on you, your life,

• 30:09Speaker 02

  and the behaviors that are leading you to negativity towards yourself. And just write them down. Write the things down that you're doing and write the things down that you want to change about those behaviors. For example, here are some prompts that you could use. These are behaviors I know I want to change and then write some of them down. My highest self no longer spends time doing this. So paint yourself in the future of like the greatest version of you. Does your greatest version of you do these things with your time anymore? No, so write those things down that your greatest self wouldn't do. My highest self wants to spend time doing these things instead.

• 30:50Speaker 02

  So write the activities, the behaviors that your greatest or highest self likes to do instead. And my highest self wants to help others by doing this. Again, when we start to reframe these, when we start to take inventory, when we reflect, when we create a game plan, when we get clear about the direction we want to go, even if we're not clear, and listen, you don't have to be like, I know what I'm gonna do for the rest of my life. This is not what that's about. It's about what do you want to do for the next three to six months to get out of this situation? Create the game plan for the, the current future, not the extended future. You don't have to know for the rest of my life, this is my purpose.

• 31:32Speaker 02

  My purpose has changed so many times over the last 40 years, I've lost count. I'm very clear on the direction that I'm heading now for, for many years to come, but my first 30 years, it was changing all the time and that's okay. And then after you do these examples and these exercises, I want you to write your meaningful mission manifesto. Again, that's on page 161. This manifesto for yourself in this season of life will help guide you as you build a new, more positive, more powerful, more abundant, more freeing identity. It will bring you back in alignment when you feel yourself drifting in someone else's lane.

• 32:18Speaker 02

  And at the end of the day, we want to create a sense of peace, a sense of fulfillment, a sense of wholeness about who we are and the direction we're heading in our lives. That will give us a great sense of joy. And if you are a wise individual, you want to live a life filled with joy and adventure and wonder and curiosity and fun, fulfillment.

• 32:46Speaker 02

  And that doesn't always happen when you strive for living only a good life, living by the standards of society. It typically happens when you're willing to have courage, when you're willing to risk certain things, when you get out of your comfort zone, when you fail often, but you redefine failure as something to celebrate and acknowledge in a positive way. That's when it starts to happen.

• 33:13Lewis Howes?

  And there you have it. The three dangers of the good life and how to overcome them. And I want to acknowledge you for all your hard work for getting here today and in this moment in your life. And whether you're living the good life or working towards it, it's important to ask yourself, is the good life a peaceful life? Is the good life full of love and abundance? And no matter what your answer is, don't let the good life stop you from healing old wounds. Don't let the illusion of safety stop you from chasing after the person you were meant to be for you. You are worthy of not just a good life, but the life of your dreams. And if you'd like some extra support on your journey to a great life,

• 33:56Lewis Howes?

  then I encourage you to pick up a copy of my new book, New York Times bestseller, The Greatness Mindset. It was 10 years in the making and the gift I would give to my younger self. Wherever you are, again, thank you for listening and watching. Thank you for being here and thank you for being you.

• 34:14Lewis Howes?

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  your inbox over at greatness.com/newsletter. And if no one has told you today, I want to remind you that you are loved, you are worthy, and you matter. And now it's time to go out there and do something great.