How to Rewire Your Mind and Heal Stress from the Inside Out with Dr. Ellen Langer

Dr. Ellen Langer has spent 45 years proving something most doctors still resist: your thoughts don't just influence your health, they are your health. In her groundbreaking counterclockwise study, elderly men lived as their younger selves for one week with zero medical intervention and emerged with improved vision, hearing, strength, and even looked noticeably younger. She's discovered that chambermaids lost weight simply by viewing their work as exercise, that wounds heal based on perceived time rather than actual time, and that stress is the single greatest source of illness, surpassing even diet and genetics. You'll walk away understanding that chronic disease isn't a life sentence but a signal that medicine hasn't caught up yet, and that your body responds to every thought whether you're aware of it or not. Dr. Langer’s books:MindfulnessThe Power of Mindful LearningOn Becoming an ArtistCounterclockwiseThe Mindful BodyIn this episode you will:Discover why stress causes more disease than diet, genetics, or even medical treatment and how mindlessness keeps you trapped in patterns that make you sickTransform how you experience pain and illness by asking one simple question twice daily that initiates your body's natural healing responseBreak free from the myth that aging means falling apart by understanding that sickness and aging are completely separate processesUncover why trying to make the right decision destroys your peace and what to do instead that eliminates stress entirelyMaster the power of uncertainty to unlock possibilities that rigid thinking and false certainty have kept hidden from youFor more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1850For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960More SOG episodes we think you’ll love:Rhonda Byrne – greatness.lnk.to/1848SCBob Proctor – greatness.lnk.to/1837SCPrice Pritchett – greatness.lnk.to/1821SC Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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• 0:03Lewis Howes?

  Welcome back everyone at the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have the mother of mindfulness, the mother of positive psychology, Dr. Ellen Langer in the house. So good to see you.

• 0:13Speaker 01

  Thank you.

• 0:14Lewis Howes?

  Your bio is really impressive. You are a pioneer in the world of psychology and you made history as the first woman to be tenured in psychology at Harvard. You've got three different awards, scientific awards around your studies and 13 different books. And you've got so much information backed by research and science, talking about how to heal our bodies, how to heal our minds, how to reverse our aging, all these different things that I'm fascinated to go into. Because I think a lot of people don't believe that you can change your body and the pain within your body with your mind and your thoughts.

• 0:58Lewis Howes?

  And you are talking about specifically in this book that you can. And I'm curious, if someone is saying, "This is just a bunch of crap. You know, I don't believe any of this. I only believe that, you know, I have to take a pill or medicate myself to heal my body." What would you say to that?

• 1:16Speaker 01

  I'd say, "I feel sorry for you because you're missing out on a great opportunity to take care of yourself." It's interesting that we have a notion of mind and body as separate. And that's ruled for so long. That's why people think, you know, the only way you can heal yourself is by taking some medication. There's no reason to have a mind and body as separate. They're just words. And lots of this book is based on the idea of putting them back together, even just for useful purposes. All right? And if you have a mind and body and they're one thing, then wherever you're putting the mind, you're necessarily putting the body. And so now I have decades worth of research showing that we can put the mind in very

• 2:01Speaker 01

  unusual places, take the measurements from the body, and indeed, the effects are clear.

• 2:09Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 2:10Speaker 01

  I think that for this person, the non-believer, you might ask them if they've ever seen, this may be off-color or whatever, somebody regurgitating on the side of the road. And how did they end up feeling? Because many people need to vomit just by watching somebody else. Nothing is happening to them. Maybe a less colorful example and better is you're walking down the street and a leaf blows in your face. You're startled by it, just a leaf. But you can feel the changes in your body. You know, my first experience with this mind-body unity was many, many years ago. So I was married when I was very young. And we went to Paris on a honeymoon.

• 2:54Speaker 01

  And I was now eighteen, nineteen, going on thirty. So I had to be very sophisticated. And we're in this restaurant. And on the menu was this mixed grill that I ordered. And on the plate came pancreas. So I said to my then-husband, which of these is a pancreas? He points, that one. So I eat everything else. And now comes the moment of truth. I have to eat it because after all, I'm married.

• 3:20Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 3:20Speaker 01

  I don't know how that followed, but it seemed to at the time. So I start eating and I'm literally getting sick. He starts laughing. I said, why are you laughing? He said, because that's chicken. You ate the pancreas a long time ago.

• 3:34Lewis Howes?

  Oh, man.

• 3:35Speaker 01

  All right. So I was thinking myself ill.

• 3:38Lewis Howes?

  Interesting.

• 3:38Speaker 01

  And all of the research supports that. You know, it's interesting, again, I thought of this just the other day. I might have it in the book and have forgotten it. But I was in Missouri several decades ago. And a friend dragged me to an iridologist. And, you know, I'm up for anything. I mean, I'll go to... I went to see this iridologist who looked in my eyes. And she says, I have problems with my gallbladder. Okay, fine.

• 4:07Lewis Howes?

  Just by looking in your eyes?

• 4:08Speaker 01

  Yeah, my... Okay, so the game is over. And then eventually I go to the doctor and lo and behold, I had a gallstone.

• 4:15Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 4:16Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 4:16Lewis Howes?

  Now, do you think you thought that to occur? Or did you actually have it?

• 4:19Speaker 01

  No, no, no, no. That's a good question. I'm gonna go there. I don't know how it happened. Here, the point for me was by looking in my eye... She, you know, she knew there was something in other parts of my body that were not right. And, you know, what people don't realize is that every thought, if I, if I lift my arm, my whole body is different. Different in tiny ways that we, we haven't been able to measure. But it's all connected. And, um, which in some sense lends more credence to this whole idea of mind-body unity. And the first study we did, uh, was a study where we took old men to a retreat that we had retrofitted to 20 years earlier. Right. What was this called again, though? Uh, we called the counterclockwise study.

• 5:04Speaker 01

  Yes. So they were going to live for a week as if they were their younger selves. And they were in their late seventies, eighties? Uh, yeah, um, even older. Eighties, nineties? Now, remember, that was quite a while ago. Okay. You know, that was when seventy was the, in the new ninety. Uh huh. Or even a hundred or whatever. I mean, they, they were, they were really old. Yeah. In can, like walkers, canes. They get younger as I get older, but, you know, as I recall. So they're, they're in walkers, they're in canes, they're, they're immobile, they're very slow. Well, actually, you know, that when I was, um, interviewing people to do the study, so their, um, adult daughter would typically go and bring them to the lab. And I see them tottering down the hall. And at one point I said to myself, why am I doing this?

• 5:48Speaker 01

  I don't know if they're going to live through the day, no less be able to live for the week. You know, it was, it was, uh, and I took on something that only the younger of me would have considered taking on. You know, I was in charge of their entire lives, these several, you know, seven men, old men, um, uh, every aspect of their lives for a week. At any rate, you could, you know, you looked at them and didn't matter what number you attached to them. They were old. Right. Now they were going to live for a week as if they're their younger selves. So they'll be talking about current events, things from the past, as if they're just unfolding. And, um, other things as well. Like they would have newspapers from thirty years prior?

• 6:33Speaker 01

  Exactly. And they were making their own meals and they would correct each other. So if you would say was, you know, somebody would tell you is, um, because the past was now the present for them. Wow. And they were listening to older music and watching older movies and everything. I, I could spend the whole time with you just so I know that study. So you want me to give more details, just tell me, but let me tell you the results. Cause those were amazing. So they lived as their younger selves for a week. Without any medical intervention, their vision improved, their hearing improved, their memory, their strength, and they looked noticeably younger. And I must tell you that almost from the beginning, the changes were palpable.

• 7:14Speaker 01

  You know, and most people accepted the findings. There were a couple of people who said, you can't make people younger. And I'm not saying that chronologically, we're changing your age. But it is the case that we associate certain ways of being with certain times in our lives. And that these men had, were living their lives now very dependent on their adult daughter, presuming that they can't do many of the things that they used to do. And they were wrong. And so that's at the stage for a host of studies, most of which, well, all of them actually to date, are in the mindful body.

• 7:55Lewis Howes?

  That's fascinating. What would you say, you know, that study was a while ago, right?

• 7:59Speaker 01

  Yeah, now that was, um, let's see, we designed it in 1979.

• 8:04Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 8:05Speaker 01

  Yeah, a long time, before you were born.

• 8:07Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, wow. So what would you say in the last 44 years, I guess? What is the new?

• 8:16Speaker 01

  Has the world changed?

• 8:18Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, I mean, are what are the, what are the, what are the new studies or research that you've done to show how to either reverse aging or to, I guess, create longer aging in the biological sense?

• 8:32Speaker 01

  Well, remember, it's all one, mind and body. So we don't have a psychological as opposed to a biological sense.

• 8:39Lewis Howes?

  So it's both, it's the mind and the body.

• 8:40Speaker 01

  But I thought you were asking me, so I'm going to answer the question I thought you were going to ask, not the one that you did, right? Which was, how has the world changed? It's had a lot of years. And way back at the beginning, the medical model believed that psychology was more or less irrelevant. All right, now, I'm sure everybody thought it was nice to be happy, but that wasn't going to affect your, your physical health. Now that's changed. And now what most people believe is a biosocial model. So these things like stress and so on matter, but they don't go nearly as far. And I'm saying.

• 9:16Speaker 01

  Down the road, psychology will be the most important aspect of your well-being. So, so that's a change that's come about slowly. Now, for me personally, once we had those, those data, I did several studies where we simply make elderly people, every time I say the word elderly, I stopped not being older myself, but we make seniors more mindful and they live longer. So it's important for you to know that mindfulness, as I study it, has nothing to do with meditation. Meditation is fine, it's just different, okay? When you meditate, you take yourself out of the world

• 10:00Speaker 01

  and you say your mantra to yourself over and over. Mindfulness, as I study it, couldn't be more in the world. That what you're doing is not a practice, it's a way of being. You actively notice new things about the things you thought you knew. You come to see you didn't know them at all, and then your mind naturally goes to them. Now, if we start off with the realization that everything is changing, everything looks different from different perspectives. The idea of being certain of anything becomes silly. Because you can't know, it's not what it was the last time you looked. And if you could adopt just one mindset, and it's the only one, I believe, that's good for you,

• 10:45Speaker 01

  that uncertainty is the rule, not the exception, then you don't, you don't know, so then you tune in. The problem is our parents, our schools, the media, virtually everything, is trying to teach us absolutes. And when you think you know something, you don't pay any attention. So I'll do what I do probably too frequently now. Let me ask you a simple question. This is the one that everybody knows. Oh, man. How much is one plus one?

• 11:12Lewis Howes?

  Two?

• 11:13Speaker 01

  Okay, and that's what everybody says.

• 11:14Lewis Howes?

  I feel like this is a trick question.

• 11:16Speaker 01

  Well, it is, though, because one plus one isn't always two. That if you are adding one wad of chewing gum plus one wad of chewing gum, one plus one is one. If you add one pile of laundry plus one pile of laundry, one plus one is one. You add one cloud plus one cloud, one plus one is one. In the real world, one plus one probably doesn't equal two, as or more often as it does. So now, look at the difference. Somebody, it's unlikely, but after we finish, somebody comes over to you and says, "How much is one plus one?" You're not going to mindlessly say two. You're going to pay some attention to the context, and then you're going to answer more mindfully and say, "It could be," and then you can say, "It could be one, it could be two."

• 11:58Lewis Howes?

  Interesting. It's all context.

• 12:00Speaker 01

  Yeah, exactly, exactly. Everything changes, and our minds tend to hold things still. We think we know, we want to know, because we think that gives us control. But since things are changing, you don't want your mind to hold it still. Well, in fact, it's changing, because then you're giving up control that you otherwise would have.

• 12:21Lewis Howes?

  Wow. This is fascinating stuff. Now, I'm curious about, you know, chronic health, thinking our way to chronic health. This is the subtitle of your book, The Mindful Body. You say we can think our way to chronic health.

• 12:34Speaker 01

  Yeah, well, you know, the reason I want to use the term chronic, just because it's a little startling, because we only think of chronic illness, but people tend to assume that as you get older, you're going to fall apart. You're going to get sick. And sickness and aging are not the same thing. One can live their entire life without illness. And the way to live one's life is essentially the same when you're 10 years old or when you're 80 years old, just by knowing you don't know and tuning in. Now, people don't like not knowing, because they think you can know. And what I'm here to tell everybody is you can't know.

• 13:17Speaker 01

  So what you need to do to live the kind of life that I'm suggesting is be confident and uncertain.

• 13:27Speaker 01

  All right. If you think you should know, then you pretend. Um, but you can't know. Now that makes everything possible. Now, I was at this horse event many years ago. After this, I'm gonna use only new stories.

• 13:43Lewis Howes?

  Okay.

• 13:44Speaker 01

  Um, and this man asked me if I'd watch his horse for him because he was gonna get his horse a hot dog. Well, as you might know, from the credentials you read, I was an A plus student. So I knew, as well as anyone in this world, that's ridiculous. Horses are herbivorous. They don't eat meat. He came back with the hot dog and the horse ate it.

• 14:05Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 14:06Speaker 01

  And at that moment, I realized everything I thought I knew could be wrong. Now, for me, that was actually exciting because that meant that everything was possible. All of those things that we were taught, um, are impossible not to strive for. Actually became available in a whole different way.

• 14:26Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 14:26Speaker 01

  And the next step in the reasoning for me was to say that, you know, recognize that experiments, science, science give us our facts mostly, right? But that science only gives us probabilities. There's no experiment that gives you anything absolute. So it's sort of, most horses, under the conditions that were tested, didn't eat the meat. Which is very different from all horses never eat meat.

• 14:55Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 14:56Speaker 01

  You know? And, um, so, and it's very important for one's health because you have to realize that any information you're given is a best guess. Now, it's an educated guess, but it's still not an absolute.

• 15:11Lewis Howes?

  This is fascinating because what I heard you say a moment ago is that if you wanna live till you're eighty or ninety or a hundred without illness or disease,

• 15:21Lewis Howes?

  Think like a ten year old is kind of what I heard you.

• 15:24Speaker 01

  Well, what I'm saying is the way of thinking should be no different, which is life is exciting when you address it as brand new, when you're not afraid of trying new things. When you recognize that all of the stops you've put on yourself were just decisions that some other people made and there's no reason not to do whatever it is you want to do. You don't want to hurt anybody, but you know, for people to say you're too old to play tennis or you're too old to. I don't know. What are people to? I don't pay any attention to it, so I can't generate the instances. But you know, one of the earlier titles of the book was Who Says So? And I think that that's a refrain that people should.

• 16:09Speaker 01

  And that's where they're similar, not to ten year olds, but I think two or three year olds. Yeah. Who says so?

• 16:16Lewis Howes?

  So it's almost always like having a beginner's mindset.

• 16:18Speaker 01

  Yeah, yeah.

• 16:20Lewis Howes?

  What is the thing that you've learned in the last few years that maybe you thought you knew that completely rocked your, your world?

• 16:27Speaker 01

  People have asked me that. It's, you know. I don't know if it's my being dense or what it is, and it's hard for me to answer. I know there was something that I came to many years ago that I think was far more important to me than most people who read about what I say in this regard, but it's still. Let me share that with you, which is the simple idea that behavior makes sense from the actor's perspective, or else the actor wouldn't do it. Now, what that means is when you see me, let's say, as gullible.

• 17:07Speaker 01

  I'm not intending to be gullible. What is it I'm intending? Well, I'm trusting. When ICU is inconsistent, you don't intend to be inconsistent. What you're being is flexible. And turns out for every single negative description, there's an equally strong but oppositely valence. For every positive, there's a negative, every negative. Now, what that means is, you know, to make it a little more sensible, nobody wakes up in the morning and says, you know, today I'm gonna be gullible, obnoxious, sloppy. I mean, you know, whatever we call people. So what is it that they're intending? Now, people don't realize that it made sense to them

• 17:51Speaker 01

  because they often engage in the action mindlessly. So they don't know why they're doing what they're doing. So if you say to me, Alan, you are so gullible, which I am, and now I look back at my behavior the way you were looking, my God, I can't believe that. And I'm sad, I'm not gonna be gullible anymore. And of course, it's going to fail because going forward, I'm not being gullible, I'm being trusting. So the point is, if you want to get someone to change, you have to address the behavior from the perspective in which they're engaging in it. You want me to stop being gullible? You have to teach me to stop being trusting. And my guess is then you wouldn't want to. So you can see how life would unfold very differently

• 18:35Speaker 01

  because as far as I can see, people are constantly evaluating each other, judging themselves, foregoing pleasures for fear of what somebody else might say and so on. What do you think is the root of sickness and illness and disease in your mind? Mindlessness. Really? Oh, yes, I think that, um, I would say virtually all. I probably even mean all, but be a little safer. All of our problems are the direct or indirect consequence of mindlessness, whether it's personal, interpersonal, global.

• 19:12Speaker 01

  What is mindlessness to you? Mindlessness is that responding to the world based on these absolutes, where you think you know, you're like an automaton. You know, so what happens is when you learn something, then you keep doing it. Okay, so you first learn it, you're gonna be doing it mindfully, but you know, now you know how to do it, you do it the same way over and over again, but the world is changing and very often you come up short. I mean, an example I used is a lot is, and this isn't good for California. And the last time I used it and was going to not use it again was in India, where it's also not good, it depends on snow. Okay.

• 19:52Speaker 01

  Put that aside, that if you're driving in snow and this car starts to skid and you ask somebody older than you, unless you were taught by that older person, what do you do when you're driving on ice? And most people will say, you slowly pump the brake and turn into the skid. That made sense when you first learned it. However, and you keep doing that, but now there are anti-lock brakes. And the way you stop a car on ice is you firmly hit the brake. Okay, so what you learned for safety sake is now unsafe. So the point is, once you think you know, you freeze everything while things are actually changing.

• 20:34Speaker 01

  So you're not able to avoid the danger that hasn't yet arisen. You can't take advantage of the benefits that are right in front of you because you just don't see it. And most of us are using yesterday's solutions to solve today's problems. Now, you know, people are afraid to just let things be because they think there are good things and bad things and I have to jump over fences or kill people, do whatever I have to do to get those good things and to avoid the bad. But things in and of themselves are neither good nor bad. And when you fully recognize that, then, you know... If this interview goes well, wonderful. If this interview does, wonderful.

• 21:19Speaker 01

  It doesn't matter, there'll be other reasons. You know, if it doesn't go well, then that will free up some time in some, in some fashion. I'll have learned something that'll make the other one, the next one, you know, even bigger and what have you. You see what I'm saying?

• 21:34Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 21:34Speaker 01

  You know, the idea, people by believing there are things that are good and things that are bad, um, set themselves up for all sorts of stress, for example.

• 21:43Lewis Howes?

  So when there's things happening in the world in the last four years with

• 21:46Speaker 01

  Terrible.

• 21:47Lewis Howes?

  Horrible things happening, wars and COVID and all these different things, how do you interpret these?

• 21:51Speaker 01

  Yeah, no, no, I, you know.

• 21:53Lewis Howes?

  So you don't stress yourself into sickness and disease?

• 21:56Speaker 01

  No, it's a very important question and I don't know that I have, um, the right answer. I would say though, that telling yourself that the world is falling apart, uh, that we're on our way to a dictatorship, whatever things that are going to keep you up at night, is not serving any purpose. So, um, do something about it. Whether that means finding, um, places to donate money, to do some work, to elect the, uh, officials that, um, have the same views as you and so on. Um, but if you're doing nothing but worrying, worrying is a waste of time, you know, that, I have a few one-liners about worrying. The first one is, um, you should ask yourself, which is not the case here,

• 22:41Speaker 01

  is it a tragedy or an inconvenience? And you're talking about potential tragedies, but most of the things we worry about are just inconveniences. Right, and, you know, and, um, most of the things we worry about never happen. And if you reflect on the last time you worried and how you dealt with it and you saw it didn't even happen, you'd be more persuaded of that. The way to deal with stress, I think, is, um, stress relies on two things. It relies on an assumption that something is going to happen and that when it happens, it's going to be awful. Well, the first, you can't predict. And this is very hard for people to accept that predictability is an illusion.

• 23:23Speaker 01

  You can post it, you can look back, you know, let me, let me make this, use an example. Let's say you're at a party and we see Tom and Susie fighting. And I said to you, are they gonna get divorced? You say, kind of why, no, right? Sometimes people fight. Well, let's say we don't have that conversation. So you see Tom and Susie fighting. Two weeks later, you're told, you know, Tom and Susie are getting a divorce. Ah, I knew it. You should have seen the way they went at each other at the party. All right. You can't predict. You can predict, you can predict for a group that if you were to start a hundred Mercedes and you turn the key, most of them will start, not necessarily all of them.

• 24:06Speaker 01

  And that would be more than if you were in some used car, car lot.

• 24:10Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 24:11Speaker 01

  But you can predict the individual case and we're all individuals. And when it comes to our health, um, you know, uh, we really care more about how the medicine is going to go down for us personally.

• 24:24Lewis Howes?

  Uh huh.

• 24:24Speaker 01

  Now, I believe that stress is the major source of our illness.

• 24:31Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 24:31Speaker 01

  Over and above diet, genetics, even treatment. It's a very big statement. And that stress, though, is psychological, right? Events don't cause stress. What causes stress are the views you take of the event. So if you open it up and you're more mindful, um, and if you said to yourself, rather than this thing is gonna be awful, give yourself five reasons why it might actually be an advantage. So now it could be awful, could be advantageous. You're immediately somewhat relaxed. But I say go to the next step. Let's assume it does happen. What are the advantages?

• 25:09Lewis Howes?

  The worst case scenario.

• 25:10Speaker 01

  And what are the advantages? And so then, when you say, you know, you'll be able to deal with whatever happens, then you're, you're less worried about them. And, you know, you don't have to spend so much time trying to control the outcome.

• 25:25Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 25:26Speaker 01

  Yes, but for the big things that are happening in this world right now, um, I think that it's a super test of all that I'm saying.

• 25:34Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, yeah. How do you, how do you manage stress, though?

• 25:37Speaker 01

  I don't experience that most of the time.

• 25:39Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 25:39Speaker 01

  I, you know, I was.

• 25:40Lewis Howes?

  You're a professor at Harvard, you've got books, you've got people that rely on you. You see, you know, people coming to you with their problems. How do you navigate all that?

• 25:47Speaker 01

  Yeah, I surely, at this age, have had real things happen. I had a fire that destroyed eighty percent of what I owned way back when. You know, my mother died when she was a young woman. I'd been divorced, and so none of those things sound so big anymore, but nevertheless. In the moment, it's like. Yeah, so, and when those things happen, I don't think that my responses are, well, you know, I'm of this earth. Sure, sure. But it doesn't stay with me. So let's say the, and I wrote about this in The Mindful Body, when the house went up in smoke, that I called the insurance adjuster, he came over the next day, and he said it

• 26:30Speaker 01

  was the first time in his twenty-five years of the job where the call was less bad than the damage. Most people go, oh, my God, oh, my God, and he gets there. One little room, yeah, yeah. And here, but, you know, to my mind, it was already gone. What was the point in getting crazy over it? And I immediately felt that what had been burnt were things of my past, you know. So if I were to redo it today, you know, that day, would I, how many of those things would I have bought again, or what have you? But it was still a little scary. Sure. And, but, I might as well tell the whole story now, because this turned out to be wonderful. Really? How could it have been wonderful? Tell me.

• 27:15Speaker 01

  So, I go to the Charles Hotel to live now, because I don't have a house, and I have my two dogs, and so I'm a sight to be seen, right? You know, marching, okay. It's Christmas. Wow. Christmas Eve, I go out, I come back, and my room is full of gifts, not from the hotel management, not from the hotel owner, but from the so-called little people, the people who park my car, the chambermaids, the waiters, the waitresses. It was years that, when telling the story, I would cry. Now, I've told it so many times, and I don't remember, except for one thing, anything

• 27:58Speaker 01

  that I lost in the fire, but every Christmas, I'm reminded of what I think is the basic goodness of people. Wow. So. Why did they give you all those gifts? Just to be nice, because it was Christmas. Wow. Yeah, and they knew what had happened.

• 28:12Lewis Howes?

  And if you would have lived in a home, you wouldn't have had that experience.

• 28:15Speaker 01

  That's true too. I hadn't realized that. But the funny thing is, the one thing that I missed, and I set that up for you to say, well, what was that one thing? Um, I was teaching a large course in a few weeks. All of my notes were burnt. What was I gonna do?

• 28:29Lewis Howes?

  Oh, man.

• 28:30Speaker 01

  Um, so, um, I called the student from the year before who got an A, and I borrowed her notes. It was like a game of telephone.

• 28:39Lewis Howes?

  That's great.

• 28:40Speaker 01

  And I apologized to the class before, telling them that I don't know how this is going to go, you know, for the following reason. And I think it was the best class that I taught.

• 28:49Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 28:49Speaker 01

  Because it, it was happening right then, you know, that all of the information I was giving them was, um, a new version or a version that I believed right at this moment. You know, when you, you present PowerPoints, it's just too easy not to use the same PowerPoints and to, you know, you don't want to think things through again.

• 29:09Lewis Howes?

  You're innovating things, you're, you're adding to it.

• 29:11Speaker 01

  And so I enjoyed it more than any other class I taught.

• 29:14Lewis Howes?

  This is fascinating. Now, you're speaking about kind of lost things from the past. A lot of people hold on to the traumatic memories. And it keeps them stuck in a, a mindset of resentment, fear, anxiety, frustration, guilt, whatever it might be from these traumatic experiences that either happened to them, that they interpreted, or that they were a part of, or did to other people. And they hold on to these memories and put a lot of meaning on those memories. And it causes them to feel stuck, or gain weight, or get sick, and have anxiety.

• 29:53Lewis Howes?

  How powerful is our thoughts around the past?

• 29:57Speaker 01

  Well, I think that what we need to do, and people, there's data, not mine, that shows trying not to think about something is totally ineffective. It always comes back. But, so what you want to do is not try not to think about it, but to think about it differently.

• 30:14Lewis Howes?

  Interpret it differently.

• 30:15Speaker 01

  Yeah. Um, and your feelings will be based on your interpretations. You know, so that for me, the fire, you know, was not the scary thing. It, you know, so I lost some things. So who cares? Right. Um, and then I got all of this, uh, attention, this, uh, feeling of the goodness of stranger. Community, love, support, yeah. And so it, it's not a scary thing for me. So if we open up our minds and see that no matter what we're experiencing, there are multiple ways of understanding it. There is no one way of looking at it. Um, and that's what we do when we're being mindless, you know, um, and then it lends itself to,

• 30:56Speaker 01

  again, all sorts of possibilities. It occurs to me that we only talked about the counterclockwise study. I probably, with your permission. Go ahead. Yeah, share another one. Um, uh, there are many in the book, but to be more persuaded of this mind-body unity. Yes. Um, let's see, the next study in that series was, was chambermaids, which is fun. This is awesome, yeah. The chambermaids, um, I didn't realize this until we did the study, didn't, don't see their work as exercise. Because the surgeon general says, exercise is what you do after work. You sit in a chair all day. That's when you get your exercise. And they're just too tired after work. Study was so simple, as many of these are, my studies. We just taught them that their work is exercise.

• 31:40Speaker 01

  So making a bed is like working on this machine at the gym, sweeping. And so now we have two groups, one group that doesn't realize their work is exercise. One group that now sees that their work is exercise. We take many measures. Turns out they're not working any differently, these two different views. They're not eating any differently. All that's changed is their mindset. Now work is exercise. As a result of that change, they lost weight. There was a change in waist to hip ratio, body mass index, and their blood pressure came down. Wow. Um, you know, so, um, I, our thoughts matter. Let's go, I'll go to the very present because there's so many things for us to talk about.

• 32:25Speaker 01

  I did this, uh, study recently with my graduate student, Peter Ungel. And, um, it's a study on wound healing. Oh, this is interesting. And in order to test, um, the one's mind, the degree to which your mind affects healing. The physical body, yeah, yeah. We had to inflict a wound. I'm not sadistic.

• 32:45Lewis Howes?

  Right, right.

• 32:45Speaker 01

  And even if I were, the uh, human subjects committee is not gonna let me. So it's a minor wound.

• 32:51Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 32:51Speaker 01

  But it's a wound.

• 32:52Lewis Howes?

  A little cut, a little paper cut or something.

• 32:54Speaker 01

  No, we used um, um, the Chinese cupping.

• 32:58Lewis Howes?

  Okay.

• 32:58Speaker 01

  Um, so creates it.

• 33:00Lewis Howes?

  Okay.

• 33:01Speaker 01

  And all we have are people in front of a clock.

• 33:04Lewis Howes?

  It's like a bruise almost.

• 33:05Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 33:05Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, like a.

• 33:06Speaker 01

  Exactly. Unbeknownst to them, the clock is going twice as fast as real time, half as fast as real time or real time. The question we're asking is, does that bruise heal based on perceived time? Which is the time the clock tells you. Or real time? And it turns out it's perceived time.

• 33:27Lewis Howes?

  Come on.

• 33:27Speaker 01

  Yeah. And we're doing this now with um, people who've had um, hernia operations, um, uh, cataract surgery. Um, I want to do with broken bones as well, where we tell people, right now, you know, the doctor probably tell you, say, how long is it gonna take for me to heal?

• 33:45Lewis Howes?

  Three to six months.

• 33:46Speaker 01

  Right, and I think they use the outer limit. I want to tell people, you know, some people have healed as quickly as, and give the quickening heal a start, healing time, and see what happens.

• 33:57Lewis Howes?

  Interesting. Um. So if a doctor who is a credible expert and is telling you, this is gonna take three to six months of recovery.

• 34:05Speaker 01

  You're not gonna do anything until three or six, exactly.

• 34:09Lewis Howes?

  Of recovery.

• 34:09Speaker 01

  Right.

• 34:10Lewis Howes?

  Um, you're just gonna wait until that end time and then start feeling better. So you're saying if, what if a doctor said, you know, it's possible you could heal in two to four weeks?

• 34:22Speaker 01

  Mm-hmm.

• 34:22Lewis Howes?

  And start seeing incredible healing fast if you do these certain things. Do you think the body could connect to our thinking and our belief that way?

• 34:30Speaker 01

  I think it's one. It's one, so we'll necessarily be connected. You know, so in the back of, um, uh, after I talked about in the book about all these mind-body unity studies, um, I give um, a treatment that we've come up with that essentially, uh, you know, but I want to, let me backtrack a little bit. Most people know about placebos.

• 34:52Lewis Howes?

  Mm-hmm.

• 34:53Speaker 01

  Like, placebos may be our strongest medicine. I just think about it. You take a sugar pill, you take a nothing. And then you get better. So it's not the pill, you're doing it yourself. So my life's work has been to try to find out how to do this more directly. And what I'm just going to tell you is a procedure that seems to work. And that could explain placebos and other things as well. But it's the answer to your question. Okay, so if you have three weeks to heal, and now you're approaching, the second week has passed. What are you doing? And this is what you might be doing. When people are given a diagnosis of a chronic disease, they tend to think that the symptoms are going to stay the same or get worse.

• 35:38Speaker 01

  Nothing moves in only one direction. There are all these little blips. It's sort of like the stock market. If it's going up, it doesn't go straight up. It goes up, it goes down a little up, okay? Or down, depending on. Sure, sure. And it's the same thing with any measure you're going to take over time. There are fluctuations. Now, what happens is there are times you're feeling better, but you're not paying any attention to those times. All right? Because your expectation is it's only going to get worse. What happens if you pay attention? So what we do, we start by calling people every day, twice a day, sometimes three times a day at various times. And we say, how, let's say you have chronic pain, for example.

• 36:21Speaker 01

  Nobody's stressed, it doesn't matter what it is. People in chronic pain think they're in pain all the time. People who are stressed, they're stressed. Nobody has anything all the time. So we call and say, how is it right now? Is it better or worse than before? And why? The why is the crucial question. All right, so what happens is now, during many times, it's going to be better. So you're going to feel, gee, it's not as bad as I thought it was. There are moments of relief. Why initiates a mindful search? Why now is it better? Than before. And by doing this, the very, and the process now gives you some control over the disease. So, control itself is important to your health. Interesting.

• 37:06Speaker 01

  When you're in control, you're looking for ways to be better. To improve, yeah. Right, so we use the stress. So, you're stressed all the time. I call you, how's your... Okay. Then, all of a sudden, you realize, you know, when you're talking to Ellen Langer, then you're maximally stressed. So, then it's easy, right? Don't talk to me as a way of improving, alright? So, three things happen when you do this attention to variability, which is just a fancy way of saying being mindful, noticing change. The first is that you see, hey, it's not that you're maximally awful all the time. Second, by asking why you're being mindful, that's good for your health.

• 37:46Speaker 01

  And third, that you're more likely to find a solution if you're looking for one. Now, we've done this with Parkinson's stroke, multiple sclerosis, arthritis, chronic pain, a host of real disorders. And in each case, we get very positive results. And so, you know, now we're looking at how this might actually explain the placebo. And the way is that you take a pill, now you're expecting yourself to get better. So, you're looking, "Am I better? Oh, now I'm not as better as I was before. Why?" And the process unfolds naturally. Now, so I was trying to arrange it so people could take care of themselves

• 38:29Speaker 01

  rather than rely on a doctor to give them a nothing so that they take care of themselves. It doesn't seem that way because we're calling them, but most people now have smartphones. It's very easy. You set your smartphone to ring in an hour. You ask yourself, "How is it now? Better or worse than before? Set it now for two hours and 10 minutes, just vary the time." And you will be better, even if it doesn't completely go away, although we have very positive, um, very positive findings. This is powerful. You know, and the thing about a placebo that's kind of interesting

• 39:08Speaker 01

  because when we, um, the BBC did a version of a replication of the counterclockwise study. And I remember there was this actress who was one of the participants, and she got better and she couldn't understand it. And she said... You know, you say it's placebo, but you know, arguing because placebos are bad. Now, placebos to people are bad only because the people who started talking about them with pharmaceutical companies. And for pharmaceutical, I want to bring this drug to market to make a fortune. And this damn thing, you know, this placebo is just as good. So then I can't bring it to market. But if you think about it, and then people say, it's only psychological, as if, wait a second.

• 39:53Speaker 01

  You know, physical is real, you know, psychological not, and I'm saying, they're both the same.

• 40:00Lewis Howes?

  So what influences the other? Do our thoughts influence?

• 40:03Speaker 01

  It's all happening simulta- more or less simultaneously. Yeah.

• 40:07Lewis Howes?

  So if we feel pain somewhere, we feel overwhelmed or stressed, or we feel sharpness of pain somewhere. Is our thoughts influencing that pain, or is our, the feeling of it influencing our thoughts?

• 40:20Speaker 01

  It's, it's one thing.

• 40:22Lewis Howes?

  Interesting.

• 40:23Speaker 01

  You know, I raised my arm, that's affecting my wrist, um, my forearm. It's all happening essentially at the same time. You know, there was somebody, I can't believe that I couldn't remember, I couldn't find, who did this study. Where they did the biochemistry of a teardrop. And that a teardrop of sadness is biochemically different from a teardrop of happiness.

• 40:47Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 40:48Speaker 01

  I remember the iridologist, iridologist, who was able to look in my eye. And know there was something wrong with my golf leg. It's all the same. I go like this, my mind, my brain is different.

• 41:01Speaker 01

  We don't have the sophisticated machinery, technology to, to pick up the difference. But if I took a few cells of your skin and you were mindful versus mindless, the difference is there.

• 41:16Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 41:17Speaker 01

  But we can't see that now.

• 41:18Lewis Howes?

  Holy cow.

• 41:21Lewis Howes?

  This is fascinating. What I mean, what would you see, say then, if people want to live pain free? If they want to live pain free, stress free, and they want to feel like they're aging gracefully.

• 41:36Speaker 01

  All in one day.

• 41:37Lewis Howes?

  What can they be? What is the cocktail of ingredients that you should be doing on a daily basis to create that?

• 41:45Speaker 01

  Yeah, you should accept that everything is uncertain. And so then you can't know those things. You know, if you forget something, doesn't mean now you're becoming sick, getting dementia. You forgot something. And it's interesting because I'm a teacher, a professor of these wonderful students at Harvard, and I give an exam and they get a lot of it wrong. They studied it, they just didn't remember. So, young people are not infrequently forgetful. They just don't worry so much about being forgetful. If you fall,

• 42:25Speaker 01

  some people then take themselves out of the world, you know, because they're afraid of falling again. And I remember in this, I was consulting this nursing home many years ago. And this woman who was, I was in the director's office, and this woman who was about, I'd say she was about eighty-five or whatever, visiting her sister who was ninety. And she was bragging, she said, you know, "My sister wanted me to bring tongues to help her put on her underwear by herself, but I wasn't gonna do it because she could fall." And I said, "Okay." And then I chimed in, which I probably shouldn't.

• 43:08Speaker 01

  And I said, "You know, we can prevent her from falling and burning herself or anything else that happens to people in the course of a lifetime. We can induce a semi-comatose state."

• 43:20Speaker 01

  And then she'll be perfectly accident free and so on. You know, so in some sense, I mean, it may seem silly, but some part of being human is the possibility of some of these things happening.

• 43:33Lewis Howes?

  Falling, yeah.

• 43:33Speaker 01

  Yeah, and recognizing that you can get yourself through it in some of the ways we've already discussed.

• 43:43Speaker 01

  I'm not suggesting that we all, you know, just throw caution to the wind, but I think a life that provides no opportunity for any of these things to happen, it wouldn't be one that I would choose for myself.

• 43:58Lewis Howes?

  This is all fascinating because I think a lot of people want to live longer and but they want to live longer, healthier. They don't want to live in pain and on medications and stressed about it. They want to feel better and

• 44:11Speaker 01

  So let me, let me tell you.

• 44:12Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 44:13Speaker 01

  What people want to do, it should be doing is making the moment matter. And that whatever they're doing, they should enjoy doing it rather than doing it for some end, you know, so that I hate exercising, but I'm going to exercise so I live longer. No.

• 44:33Speaker 01

  And there are people who exercise and then end up having heart attacks because of the exercise, you can't.

• 44:39Lewis Howes?

  Because they're stressed about it.

• 44:40Speaker 01

  Yeah. What you want to do is if you do it, show up for it. If you show up for it, it'll be enjoyable. If it's enjoyable, you can't ask for more than that. So many people are trying to add more years to their lives. And I think that what we should be doing is adding more life to our years. And that will end up, I think, in the long run for most people, have us living longer. But whatever you're going to do, it should be fun. Now, how could it be fun? It depends on the way you do it. Doing it mindfully, actively noticing, it sounds so simple, but that's the essence of engagement. That's the, that's what you're doing when you're having fun. And it's no work.

• 45:25Speaker 01

  That's why I say it's very important to understand mindfulness, as we study it, has nothing to do with meditation. If you were to leave California and come back to the East Coast and come visit me at my house, you wouldn't have to practice. Uh, being mindful, you'd walk into my house, you'd be curious, oh, look at, did she do that painting? What, this is the book she's reading? Whatever it is you saw, you would notice because um, you knew you didn't know and you know, and you'd be curious. Um, and you know, once you're noticing, the neurons are firing and that's figuratively and literally enlivening. So that's all you have to do. Now, the problem is, the world has taught us to divide work and play, for instance.

• 46:09Speaker 01

  And that work has to be bad, so for students, it can be play and study, or you know, work and life. And again, I object strenuously um, that um. Bring play into your work. Exactly, you know, that, um, and people talk about work-life balance. You know, I have so many of these in the book where here is bad, then the experts help us to get here, it's better, but not as nearly as good as it could be. So, work-life balance is better than work-life imbalance. But better still is work-life integration. Make it one thing, don't be a different person at work.

• 46:52Speaker 01

  Um, you know, that there should be a certain seriousness to even play, um, and uh, playfulness to our work. Um, we have studies where we just have people notice things about uh, whatever they're doing, and it ends up fun. Um, we had people, this is um, a study, so what did we do? We gave people index cards that had on them jokes. Jokes. And their job was to evaluate how funny the joke was. Okay, so for half of the people, it was a job. For half of the people, it was just an activity. It was fun, it was interesting. Right, exactly. And when it was a job, their minds wandered, they resented doing it, even though the thing

• 47:37Speaker 01

  they were doing was, would seem to be almost inherently fun. Right. So, you know, um, I don't know that if you were doing brain surgery, any kind of surgery, at the moment you're doing it, you want to be lighthearted in, but it should at the least be interesting. You know, the doctors make a lot of errors, um, no different from the rest of us, except uh, medical errors are very costly and can cost people their lives. And those all result, to go back to your original question, how do we fix everything? By making people more mindful. When you're more mindful, you see what's going on. And you know that you were leaving that sponge inside the the person's body before you sewed them up.

• 48:21Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 48:22Speaker 01

  So, no matter what you're doing, if you're doing it mindfully, you're going to be enjoying it. And if you're enjoying it, um, that's going to be its own reward, which will probably lead to the longer life. I'm trying to think why.

• 48:37Lewis Howes?

  Right, sure, sure. It's great, I love this. I, you know, I feel like a lot of what I've noticed in the world lately is that a lot of chronic illness is linked to people being obese, so obesity is up in this country and around the world. Um, and you talked about the the chambermaid's

• 48:54Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 48:54Lewis Howes?

  study, but I'm curious, can can people just think themselves thinner? Is it possible to lose weight by your thinking alone?

• 49:01Speaker 01

  Well, that's what seemed to be the case with the chambermaid's study. But I think that, you know, again, if you want to stop doing something that you're doing, the best way to do it is not to look at the result of what you've done, but to look at why you're doing it in the first place.

• 49:19Lewis Howes?

  Can you give an example?

• 49:20Speaker 01

  Well, sure, um, you know, that, um, I gained 20 pounds, therefore I want to take off the 20 pounds. Um, and why did you gain the 20 pounds? You know, were you eating because you are anxious? Well, then, you know, we have to find a way of not being so anxious. I think that, um, for many people who are trying to lose weight, um, they are not paying attention to why they gained it in the first place. If you were mindful, you would notice that, you know, you gained three pounds. Taking off three pounds is not very hard for most people. If you don't notice until you go up two sizes.

• 50:03Lewis Howes?

  Then you're not being mindful.

• 50:04Speaker 01

  Exactly, it's going.

• 50:05Lewis Howes?

  You're not paying attention to what you're consuming, you're just eating throughout the day, or you're not, whatever, you're not moving your body enough, something, right?

• 50:12Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 50:13Lewis Howes?

  You're not paying attention.

• 50:15Speaker 01

  You're not paying atten- well, paying attention sounds big, just noticing little things, and then it becomes much more doable. But, and people have written now about mindful eating. In fact, the word is so out there that I think that it's important, it may get lost with that, but I'm glad it's having an influence.

• 50:38Lewis Howes?

  Sure.

• 50:39Speaker 01

  In so many ways, yes, because you're gaining weight out of nervous eating, the more mindful you are, the less stress, you know, so let's say, I came to you, we don't know how many people are going to be watching us. I could have said to myself this morning, oh my gosh, you know, how is it going to go? So many people are going to see me, and then just stuff my face. But, I didn't bother doing that, it didn't make me the slightest bit anxious. You know, because I've done, you know, things, I'm not 12 years, you know, 20 years old, it's not the beginning of my career. But I think that lots of the things we learn when we're older,

• 51:20Speaker 01

  the wisdom that comes with age, people should learn when they're young. You know, to realize, I wrote a paper, a little blog at one point about, you know, you're three years old, and you fall, and you scrape, and you cry bloody. Then you're six years old, I don't know, you in elementary school of six years old?

• 51:40Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, you're first grade.

• 51:41Speaker 01

  Okay, and Johnny or Janie doesn't send you a valentine, and you know, the world's gonna end. And then you get a little older, and now you've got some pimples, and, oh my god, I'm never gonna be attractive. And then you get, and you get your first job, and am I ever gonna, it just goes on and on, until at some point you say, it was all so silly. You know, and we can be taught the ways it's silly right from the beginning. And to realize there are many ways of doing everything. And by thinking that there's one right way, then that makes so many of us wrong. And and there are things we put in place to keep us down.

• 52:24Speaker 01

  And I'm here to say, you want to do it differently, do it differently. We should all be doing it differently and a whole different way. When I lecture sometimes, I look in the audience, I say, is there anybody here who's six, five? Surprisingly, there almost always is. I ask them to come on the stage. I'm five, three. Uh huh. We look ridiculous, right? I ask him to put his hand up, I put my hand next to it. His hand is three inches bigger than mine. And then I ask a simple question, should we be doing anything the same way? Anything physical? It seems silly, right? And so it is with with everything else. You know, that people, who are the people who decided?

• 53:08Speaker 01

  These are the things we should know, these are the ways we should know it. You know, it got to the point, gets to the point where imagine you're in school and you're asked the question, how much is one plus one? And little Johnny says one. What's going to happen in today's schools? Friedrich said, no, that's not right. Exactly, and the the child is going to be looked down on by all the other kids, ha ha. You know, and then grows up feeling less than. And sometimes less than is because you actually know more than rather than less than. Interesting. Um, it's interesting that when we're putting people down. There's a way, and talk about three levels here. So let's imagine we have a little kid who's uninhibited.

• 53:55Speaker 01

  Okay, now then we have people like us, more you, through our age, that are inhibited. What does inhibited mean? You know the rules. You're supposed to do this, you're not supposed to do that, and you comply. Then hopefully, hopefully, you get to a certain point where you say, who cares? Right? Now, that behavior of the who cares, the old person, may resemble the young person. And it's a mistake to think of that person as behaving childishly. So they're not uninhibited, the way the child is, they're disinhibited.

• 54:36Lewis Howes?

  Interesting. It's usually, as you see, you know, my grandfather, before he passed, he used to just say whatever was on his mind. And it was inappropriate for a lot of people, but for him, he was just like, I don't care. You know, just, I'm gonna say what I wanna say.

• 54:50Speaker 01

  Yeah, yeah, but the point here, the larger point that I'm making is that when you see somebody behaving in a way where you're taking them to task, diminishing them, it may actually be that they're more evolved than you are.

• 55:06Lewis Howes?

  Interesting.

• 55:07Speaker 01

  Rather than less. You know, so another example, you see somebody drop their cane. And so the miserable person doesn't go over and help. Then the next level two person runs over and helps. But there's also a level three, better, where that person watches and sees, because the person who dropped their cane is going to feel better if he or she can pick it up by themselves. And you don't want to deny them that. And so you don't give help that's not really needed. So level one and three are not the same. They're both not helping, but they're very different people.

• 55:47Lewis Howes?

  Interesting. One's just kinda like, whatever, the other one's saying, I don't wanna rob them of the opportunity of empowering themselves.

• 55:55Speaker 01

  Right. So, and this goes, there are so many things, I spend a lot of time with language that is interesting to me, because I think here... In the world that we live in today, most people are not enjoying the lives that they could be enjoying. And they don't know what's available to them. So, many years ago, I was asked to give a sermon in one of the Harvard churches. Okay, I say yes to everything. So I say yes. I'm not religious, and if I were to be religious, I'm Jewish. So what's an appropriate topic? That's forgiveness. It sounds sort of religious. It's not, but I could get away with it.

• 56:36Speaker 01

  So I start to think about forgiveness, and I come up with something that's almost sacrilegious. If you ask 10 people, is forgiveness good or bad? What are they gonna tell you? Good. It's good. If you ask 10 people, is blame good or bad? What are they gonna tell you? Bad. It's bad. Gee, well, you know, you have to blame before you can forgive. So our forgivers are our blamers. Now, do you blame people for good things or bad things? You blame people for bad, but things in and of themselves are neither good nor bad. So what do we have here? We have people who see the world negatively, who blame, then, you know, come to forgive. Hardly divine.

• 57:18Speaker 01

  Okay, so if you blame, it's better to forgive than not. However, you shouldn't be blaming in the first place because their behavior made some sense, or else they wouldn't have done it. So if you understand that their behavior was sensible, then there's no reason to blame them. Then there's no opportunity necessary for forgiveness. So we leave it at forgiveness rather than this whole better way of being. So we have trying. It's much better than giving up to try, right? So we're always teaching kids to try. Well, I did this study. Well, then I was informed that this should be called the Yoda Study, which I didn't realize, and it is the Yoda Study.

• 58:02Speaker 01

  Don't try, just do it. Would you try to eat an ice cream cone? No, you'd do it. No, you'd just do it. So trying has built into it the possibility of failing. All right, so not doing it, trying, when you're thinking of it, not nearly as good as just the doing. So it goes through lots of ways where, in fact, there's a world that's so much better than the world most people experience. I went to visit a friend many years ago, had a very bad case of cancer, and I said, Eva, how are you? She said, they told me my cancer's in remission. At that moment, I thought, well, wait a second. If

• 58:42Speaker 01

  I had the very same test, they'd probably tell me I don't have cancer. Why is it I don't have it, but she has it in remission? Okay, now, if you think it's in remission, you're still stressed.

• 58:58Lewis Howes?

  Hopefully it doesn't come back.

• 58:59Speaker 01

  Right, exactly. If you're cured, you don't have that stress.

• 59:03Lewis Howes?

  Interesting.

• 59:03Speaker 01

  Yeah, and so, again, remission is better than it being active, but not nearly as good as it being cured. Now, when you have a cold, and the cold goes away, you don't see yourself as in remission.

• 59:15Lewis Howes?

  See, it's gone.

• 59:16Speaker 01

  And then if you get a cold, as soon as a brand-new cold, and it can be the same thing for cancer. In some way, the cancer is all cancer, bears something in relationship to each other, or else we wouldn't call it by the same name, but each cancer, each moment, is different.

• 59:33Lewis Howes?

  So how important is the language in our lives?

• 59:35Speaker 01

  It's crucial, because we, the way we use language, once we name something, we think we know it. Once we think we know it, we don't pay attention to it anymore, while it's changing.

• 59:47Lewis Howes?

  It's such my fiance, she's from Mexico, and I don't know the exact language of how they say certain things, but when they have, for example, when they have a cold, they don't say, I have a cold. They say something that's like, it's, I'm experiencing a cold, or something like that. They don't own the sickness, they don't own the disease, the illness, the anxiety, their stress, and then say, I have stress, I'm experiencing it.

• 1:00:17Speaker 01

  Yeah, no, and we do here with, if you have some disease, you almost become the disease.

• 1:00:23Lewis Howes?

  You identify.

• 1:00:25Speaker 01

  And it's very hard, you know, so I had a student, a wonderful young woman, who had MS, and I heard, you know, somebody comes over and asks her how she is, and she was great. Rather than, you know, oh my goodness, for every question, the MS is with her. And, um, and then she, you know, explained to the person how her mind is working, her arm, you know, and went through all the parts of her that are just fine. And that gave me a different idea that when you have a chronic illness, all the word chronic means is that the medical world doesn't yet know how to help you. It doesn't mean that there is no way to help yourself. And so I don't have data to support this, but it seems to me a thought experiment

• 1:01:07Speaker 01

  that if you built up the rest of your body, made yourself strong, I can't imagine that wouldn't help the healing. So I show a slide, um, I don't remember what I was talking about during COVID, but, you know, and you imagine Olympic runners now versus a couch potato. And let's assume both of them were exposed to COVID and both, both of them got COVID. It, it seems to me the Olympic athlete would probably have an easier time with it. And, you know, and so, um, you can build up the rest of your body. That feels good. You're in control, you're being mindful, so that itself is helping whatever the disease is.

• 1:01:49Speaker 01

  And it may actually be, um, enough to fully turn things around.

• 1:01:54Lewis Howes?

  So how we think and identify ourselves also is determined based on the life we're going to live as well, it sounds like.

• 1:02:01Speaker 01

  That, well, the way we define ourselves will determine the life we're going to live. And that's also important because too often people say they can't, whatever it is, they can't. And you can't, you can never prove that you can't. There's no experiment that can prove that you can't. All an experiment can prove is that if you do this, um, this may happen. It doesn't tell you that there's, you know, no way for anything else to happen. And then if you think about all of the advances the culture makes, that, you know, the big ones are always things where everybody said it was impossible. Right? It's impossible until somebody does it and then it becomes possible. Then people don't learn from it because they think they always knew it.

• 1:02:45Speaker 01

  And so they go on to the next thing that can't be. And that when you realize that it's the doing of it, the trying, that's the fun, um, not the end.

• 1:02:58Speaker 01

  You know, you organize yourself differently around an activity. And let's just take, um, two experiences come to mind. I'm trying to think now, they're blocking new thoughts. So these are old thoughts, but you're a little kid and you're in the elevator. Trying to press the button and you can't reach it. And so your parent picks you up and you get it. And then eventually you're able to hit, and at that point it's no longer fun. I mean, when was the last time you got excited that you could hit the elevator button?

• 1:03:29Lewis Howes?

  Right, right, right.

• 1:03:30Speaker 01

  Okay, or if you were playing golf and you got a hole in one each time you swung the club. There's no game there anymore. It's the not knowing that makes it exciting, the mastering, not having mastered. Um, and so when you get something wrong, I, I think we should all be more like, as either computer programmers where when they get it wrong, they don't say they got it wrong. It's a bug, it's in the system and I'm going to figure it out. You know, if you think of, I, I like crossword puzzles. So in doing a crossword puzzle, it's great fun for me, or Words with Friends or whatever, word games. Um, after I finish it, it wouldn't be fun for me to do it again. As I know all the answers.

• 1:04:14Speaker 01

  So you have to recognize that the not knowing is what makes it interesting. What makes it impossible for some of us under so many circumstances is somebody else standing over you. Uh, whether it's a teacher, a spouse, making you feel stupid for not being able to, you know, answer the question right away.

• 1:04:34Lewis Howes?

  Judging you, shaming you, making you wrong.

• 1:04:36Speaker 01

  And then, you know, that we need to realize, so. Uh, my goal, this is, I'll write my next book about this. Right now, the world is vertical. You have those of us on top, uh, comfortably, um, and you have, you know, we, we make it as if we really know how we stack up, right? Um, as if the measures we're using are always reliable. And I want to take that vertical and make it horizontal. Uh, with the realization that everybody has special skills. So let me tell you where this came from. We are having lots of furniture coming, uh, to be, uh, stored in our basement. I've seen the amount of furniture, I know the size of the basement.

• 1:05:19Speaker 01

  And I say to myself, there is no way. No way that all of that is gonna fit. This man who does some work for us, who has no sense of himself. He is uneducated. He, everything negative, right? In his mind. He takes the furniture, fits it all in where it's all accessible. And when I saw that, the first thing that I thought, it's not fair.

• 1:05:50Lewis Howes?

  Right. You're this genius, you have a genius award, Professor Harvard.

• 1:05:53Speaker 01

  And he couldn't do it. And I thought maybe some things would change during COVID. When you saw how important somebody who's delivering toilet paper, you know, is relevant to, you know, more important than the architect at that moment. But to recognize that everybody doesn't know something. Everybody knows something else. Everybody can do something. Everyone can do something else. And to, to question when I talk about talent and things like that in the book here. Who chose the criteria? You know, to say, you're good, you're not as good and so on. You change the, yeah.

• 1:06:33Speaker 01

  When I said before about the six foot five guy and I, doing things differently. He wrote the rules. Now, the more similar you are to him, the white, tall male, the better you'll be at whatever you're doing. More important to understand the more different you are from the person who wrote the rules, the more important it is for you to find your own way of doing it. And everything we teach is, this is the way. No, this isn't the way. This is the way for that person who, you know, who determined the rules of the game. It's very important. I mean, you know, I use this example a lot also. And I'll stop saying that. I'm a tennis player.

• 1:07:18Speaker 01

  And, you know, I throw the ball, I kill it. It doesn't go in. I throw it up and then I have a wuss, very weak second serve because I'm playing doubles and I don't want to get everybody angry. Okay. If I had created the game of tennis, you'd have three serves. The first one, I'd kill it. Second one, now I'm going to learn from that first one. I'd kill it again. More often it's going to go in. And I still have my backup third serve.

• 1:07:45Lewis Howes?

  Interesting.

• 1:07:46Speaker 01

  Nobody would think that two serves somehow comes from the heavens. Right? This is the way it has to be. All right. So who decided? Now, it doesn't mean we have to change the rules for each of us. It does mean that when you don't do it as well as somebody else, you recognize it's only because of the way the rules were written. At my five three, I'm going to break more dishes than you are. Right? Who decided that the cabinet should be all the way up there?

• 1:08:15Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. As opposed to down here.

• 1:08:17Speaker 01

  Yeah. You know, I mean, everything could be, you know, mechanically, it's not very difficult to have the shelves change height.

• 1:08:25Lewis Howes?

  True.

• 1:08:26Speaker 01

  But we don't think about that because we hold everything still. And we think that everything that is had some good reason for it being that way. And the reason is just that a group of people made the decision for it to be that way. Then we freeze it, as I was saying with how do you stop on ice in a car? Everybody learns, you gently pump the brakes. And they're doing that even though now.

• 1:08:53Lewis Howes?

  Until they innovate new technology.

• 1:08:54Speaker 01

  Right. And now it's actually counterproductive. Dangerous.

• 1:08:59Lewis Howes?

  Wow. You've learned, I mean, how many years have you been teaching?

• 1:09:01Speaker 01

  Forever.

• 1:09:02Lewis Howes?

  Teaching at Harvard now?

• 1:09:03Speaker 01

  Forty-five.

• 1:09:04Lewis Howes?

  Forty-five years you've been.

• 1:09:05Speaker 01

  I started when I was ten.

• 1:09:07Lewis Howes?

  Exactly, yeah. Forty-five years of teaching at Harvard. You've seen a lot, you've experienced a lot, you've done a lot.

• 1:09:17Lewis Howes?

  If you could only, if you could have parents watching today, teach their kids only one skill set.

• 1:09:26Speaker 01

  It would be the appreciation of uncertainty.

• 1:09:31Lewis Howes?

  Appreciation of uncertainty.

• 1:09:32Speaker 01

  And I guess, well, it would be recognizing that everything that is could be different. Everything that is was a decision, so that people don't give up their own way because the rule says.

• 1:09:51Lewis Howes?

  Because that's skill set.

• 1:09:52Speaker 01

  It's all part of just being mindful. When you notice, if you're going to actively notice, you're going to see that things depend on context. You're going to see that, well, this person, you're right-handed, but I'm looking at you right now, assuming you were left-handed, and we had a culture in the past that tried to make you right-handed. Fine. There's an advantage to being left-handed. There's an advantage to being right-handed. We don't want to homogenize on every dimension.

• 1:10:26Lewis Howes?

  Right. I'm fascinated by this stuff. You have a chapter in your book, The Mindful Body, that is called "A World of Plenty." And my audience really loves this idea of abundance, creating more abundance in their life. I'm curious, how can we align our thoughts with abundance, even when everything around us seems to be like we're lacking?

• 1:10:51Speaker 01

  Well, first of all, you have to be more specific about what you think you're lacking. You know, that, if it's anything material, it's in order to get people's approval. And why do you want people's approval? Because then you will have better sense of your own self.

• 1:11:15Speaker 01

  We don't need any of that, you know, that you can make yourself. If we just go back to what I just said about realizing that everybody doesn't know something, but everybody knows something else. So what do you know? What can you do? And if you spend your moments doing those things so that you're happy, the problems all go away. Right. I was on this, gave a lecture down in Australia many years ago. And unexpectedly, she called all the person in charge, called all the speakers. So we're all sitting on stage. And then she asked each of them, what was their bucket list? Okay, so now she comes to me, and I don't have a bucket list. So you don't have a bucket list?

• 1:12:00Speaker 01

  I said, no, that if you make the moment matter, you can't do more of that. And so, you know, if you're happy, you're happy. Yes. And you don't have to then wait for a vacation to be happy. You know, it's nice. Do certain things to create that joy. Exactly. You just are joy. Whatever you're doing should be fun. And, you know, I tell my students, I mean, I'm sure that they think I'm very strange, you know, that if you're flossing your teeth, make it a game. For me, everything is virtually a game. There's this wonderful video out there, I don't know if you've seen, it's called Piano Stairs. Yes, of the person climbing and falling, that guy? No, no, no, no, no. Okay. And I think it was in, well, someplace in Scandinavia. Okay. That was where it started.

• 1:12:43Speaker 01

  They go to subway, and the subway stations seem to be the same all over the world. And they see, everybody is taking the escalator. And there are stairs and escalators. So everybody's taking the escalator. Then they lay down a piano, keys on the stairs. So as you go upstairs, it goes, whoop, whoop, okay, right. And in almost no time, Everyone's. Everybody's now taking the stairs. And so what I tell my students, why wait for someone to put, you know, to put the piano keys down there? Do, do, you know, sing yourself as you go up the stairs. Everything can be made fun.

• 1:13:20Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 1:13:21Speaker 01

  But in this world, we've decided these, these things are work. And work is supposed to be stressful. These things are fun. As a result, when you're not working, you're not having fun, you're stressed. Because why aren't I having fun?

• 1:13:34Lewis Howes?

  Yes.

• 1:13:35Speaker 01

  Um, and I think it, it doesn't take much to, to change some of this. Most of it just comes from realizing that it was put in place at one time to serve the needs of certain people. And that if it doesn't serve, if it doesn't serve your needs, change it.

• 1:13:54Lewis Howes?

  Change it.

• 1:13:54Speaker 01

  Um.

• 1:13:55Lewis Howes?

  I love this. One of the quotes you have in your book, you say, don't try to make the right decision.

• 1:14:01Speaker 01

  Yeah, this is a hard one.

• 1:14:02Lewis Howes?

  Make the decision right.

• 1:14:03Speaker 01

  Uh, this is so important that I don't know, um, it, reading it, I think is easier than listening to me talk about, but let me tell you. Okay, so the most stressful thing in the world for people are making decisions. Now, remember I said stress is the major killer. Okay, so let's look at decision making. Okay, we go back and add up some of the things I've already said. The first is there's no such thing as good or bad. That's a frame you put on things. Things in and of themselves are neither good nor bad. So if you were making a decision and what you're going to do is a cost benefit analysis, if every cost is a benefit and every benefit is a, you can't add them up. They're not going to tell you what to do.

• 1:14:46Speaker 01

  Not only that, but if you were going to do a cost benefit analysis, there's nothing that tells you when to stop pulling in information. And each new piece of information could change the sense of a decision. Not only that, but I told you, prediction is an illusion. Decision making relies on being able to predict. Right? You know, that, um, if you, if you have to decide, you want, um, a car or a boat. Um, strange choice. I don't think anybody makes, but anyway, let's just leave it that way. Okay, so we have a car and a boat that have costs about the same money. And you can't decide which one. That the decision you're making depends on your guess about how much you'll enjoy. Well, I enjoy the boat.

• 1:15:30Speaker 01

  I get seasick, so it's not appealing to me. Uh, but will I enjoy the boat as much as I have enjoyed it? You can't say, things change. Okay, now, help me get back to this, but I want people to understand when I say you can predict. So that when I was married at the time with the pancreas,

• 1:15:54Speaker 01

  he was in the army, was a Vietnam sort of thing, and I was able to go to the commissary. So this is like Costco, but Costco didn't exist. Sure. So I go and I buy as many stockings as they had, because these were expensive, right? Now, they were like half price. A week after I got home, pantyhose had come out. Now, this is probably for a man, I don't know if you know. So the stockings were no longer useful. Oh, man. Right. I'm skiing and I finally decide, okay, what I'm gonna do is invest in ski boots that are comfortable, that are warm. I do that, and then I end up spending winters in Mexico, so I never go skiing again. Right.

• 1:16:39Speaker 01

  You, you don't know, okay? You can't predict. You really can't predict. You think you can, but you can't. Okay? If you can't predict, making decisions makes no sense. If the way you make a decision is to do a cost-benefit analysis, if the costs and benefits are only limited by the way you think about things, that's not gonna get you anywhere. So then, the point is, rather than try to make the right decision, which you can never make. Let me, one more little piece of.

• 1:17:14Speaker 01

  Do you want A or B? You know, they're psychologically the same. Whenever you can't make a decision, it's because the alternatives are psychologically the same. Then you pull in information to make them different. So, let's say you find out A is a hundred dollars and B is a thousand dollars. There's no decision, right? It follows mechanically, you're gonna take the thousand dollars. Okay? So you're never really doing these cost-benefit analyses. Sometimes you gather information so you can justify, well, here's why I did this thing that you think is stupid. So, anyway, you have to read it to fully appreciate it,

• 1:17:54Speaker 01

  but the bottom line is, rather than waste your time trying to make the right decision, make the decision right.

• 1:18:04Speaker 01

  And so I had students live for a week. I said, from now until you come back for class next week, do not make any decisions. Flip a coin, use a rule, you know, the rule could be the first thing that occurs to you is the option you're going to choose, but no decisions for the week. They come back and they had a stress-free, wonderful week.

• 1:18:24Lewis Howes?

  And you accept the decision you made as the right decision?

• 1:18:27Speaker 01

  Exactly, because you can't know. Now, sometimes people regret the decisions that they make, and that's mindless for many reasons, but not the least of which is...

• 1:18:36Lewis Howes?

  Because you can't change it again.

• 1:18:37Speaker 01

  Not only that, is that that other thing that you regret having chosen this could have been worse.

• 1:18:42Lewis Howes?

  Right. You never know.

• 1:18:44Speaker 01

  Exactly, exactly.

• 1:18:45Lewis Howes?

  There's that whole story, like the fable of, like, the farmer and the horse or something.

• 1:18:52Speaker 01

  And the horse was a nail in...

• 1:18:54Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, and it goes and goes, it's like, okay, the horse broke its leg, or, but then it...

• 1:18:59Speaker 01

  Right.

• 1:18:59Lewis Howes?

  The other, yeah, something that's like, but that bad decision turned into a good decision.

• 1:19:03Speaker 01

  Exactly.

• 1:19:03Lewis Howes?

  And then something bad happens.

• 1:19:05Speaker 01

  Right. And it's like, it's like the, um, my house burning.

• 1:19:09Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, exactly. It's like this horrible thing that...

• 1:19:12Speaker 01

  But you don't have to wait. You can create the good of whatever happens.

• 1:19:17Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, and you say there is no good or bad. It's all interpretation.

• 1:19:20Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:19:22Lewis Howes?

  I agree with that.

• 1:19:23Speaker 01

  I mean, if you, you know, you break your right arm, what will happen is that you'll be using your left arm more, and that strengthens it. And so for many people, your left arm is not as strong as your, if you're right-handed. Um, so at the end of all of it, you're in a better position.

• 1:19:37Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, and you just never know. I mean, I did break my right, my right wrist playing football, and I remember, uh, being really sad for, I don't know, about a year and a half because I was no longer to play football anymore. I was in a cast, had a surgery, they took a bone from my hip, they did a graft. I was in this position for six months. I was living on my sister's couch for a year and a half, rent-free.

• 1:19:56Speaker 01

  That part's good.

• 1:19:57Lewis Howes?

  And yeah, I mean, but I didn't have a good, I didn't, I wasn't enjoying my life because this identity I once had, being an athlete, was playing professional football, was no longer available to me. The thing I had worked so hard for so many years, so long, dream, gone.

• 1:20:14Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:20:15Lewis Howes?

  And I remember feeling very sad, and I don't know if it's depressed, but just in a low state.

• 1:20:20Speaker 01

  Low energy.

• 1:20:21Lewis Howes?

  Looking back, I'm so grateful that it happened. What if, what if I didn't get injured and I would have broken my neck the next year, or something worse would have happened?

• 1:20:31Speaker 01

  Well, yeah.

• 1:20:32Lewis Howes?

  And, and it set me to a path of doing what I'm doing now.

• 1:20:34Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:20:35Lewis Howes?

  Which is impacting lives in a different way.

• 1:20:37Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:20:37Lewis Howes?

  And it, and it brings me so much joy.

• 1:20:39Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 1:20:39Lewis Howes?

  So it's just learning to interpret it not as a bad experience.

• 1:20:43Speaker 01

  And the same problem for people is they don't realize when they're in a transition.

• 1:20:50Speaker 01

  Transitions are almost necessarily discomforting because you're not where you were and you're not yet where you're going to be.

• 1:20:57Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, you're in the middle somewhere.

• 1:20:58Speaker 01

  Yeah, and to look forward to where they're going rather than look back. Because the looking back, you know, so let's say you're assuming that if you had stayed in football, you would have continued to enjoy it.

• 1:21:11Lewis Howes?

  Who knows?

• 1:21:12Speaker 01

  Exactly. You know, that if you're doing what you're doing now fully, everything you've done before has led you to it.

• 1:21:20Lewis Howes?

  Exactly.

• 1:21:21Speaker 01

  And you can't do more than that.

• 1:21:23Lewis Howes?

  I'm so excited about this, that you wrote this book, The Mindful Body, Thinking Our Way to Chronic Health. I want everyone to get this copy. Make sure to share this with a friend, get a copy for a friend as well.

• 1:21:33Speaker 01

  Yeah, I have a statement in the back that you can't read it twice. You have to buy another one.

• 1:21:38Lewis Howes?

  There you go, exactly, yeah. Give it to a friend. I truly believe that our thoughts, the way we interpret ourselves, the world, events, is so powerful for us. And so everything you're talking about, it's all backed by research and science. And when people have these tools and they apply them, they're going to live happier, healthier, longer, better lives. And so I'm so grateful that you're, you're putting this out there. I have a couple final questions for you, but I'm just so grateful you're here sharing this. This question is a hypothetical scenario, so bear with me. It's a question I ask everyone towards the end called the three truths. So imagine, in this hypothetical world, you get to live as long as you want to live.

• 1:22:22Lewis Howes?

  But it's eventually the last day on this earth for you. You've written thirteen books and I'm assuming you're gonna write twenty more. And you're gonna do so many other things to share with the world. But imagining this hypothetical last day scenario. No one has access to your books. This interview is gone. No one has access to anything you've ever shared. For whatever reason. You have to take it all with you to the next place. But you get to leave behind three lessons. Three things you know to be true. From all your life experience. And this is all we would have to have access to your information, your content. What would you say are those three truths for you?

• 1:23:02Speaker 01

  Again, I can probably just repeat what I've said to you. One is to recognize that behavior makes sense or else people wouldn't do it. And that will improve our relationships and our relationships to ourselves.

• 1:23:17Speaker 01

  The second is that people have to appreciate, enjoy, exploit the power of uncertainty.

• 1:23:28Speaker 01

  And, I mean, just be mindful. But that follows. Each of these leads to the other.

• 1:23:35Lewis Howes?

  Of course.

• 1:23:36Speaker 01

  You know, I have an acronym that I use in teaching at the end of my classes. It's called GLADO.

• 1:23:45Speaker 01

  G L A D O. So it's my recipe for happy life. Be generous, loving, authentic, direct, and open. And each of these leads to the other and all of them follow from being more mindful.

• 1:24:03Lewis Howes?

  I love that GLADO. Generous, loving, authentic, direct, and open.

• 1:24:11Lewis Howes?

  I want to acknowledge you, Ellen, for the contribution you continue to make on society, on humanity, and the world through your research, through teaching of students at Harvard, and then taking that research, putting it into things that we can all understand, apply in our lives. Through taking the time to craft these social experiments that you do and giving us more inspiration and more hope. So I'm just grateful that you're changing the paradigm for a lot of our thinking. And the things that we have thought are one way, you're shifting it to say, hey, there's another way. So I really acknowledge you for your contribution and the gifts that you bring to the world. I'm so glad that you're you're doing this. And again, the mindful body.

• 1:24:55Lewis Howes?

  The final question I have is what is your definition of greatness?

• 1:25:00Speaker 01

  Being awake. Being being present, being there. And you know, it's funny because people say sort of stop and smell the roses, or you should be present. And that's sweet, but it's an empty instruction because when you're not there, you're not there to know you're not there. And so the way to be there is to notice new things about the things you think you know. You see, you didn't know them, your attention naturally goes there, or top down to start off recognizing that you don't know, nobody knows you can't know, and that not knowing is exciting rather than scary.

• 1:25:37Lewis Howes?

  I hope today's episode inspired you on your journey towards greatness. Make sure to check out the show notes in the description for a rundown of today's show with all the important links. And if you want weekly exclusive bonus episodes with me as well as ad free listening experience, make sure to subscribe to our Greatness Plus channel on Apple Podcast. If you enjoyed this, please share it with a friend over on social media or text a friend, leave us a review over on Apple Podcast and let me know what you learned over on our social media channels, at Lewis Howes. I really love hearing the feedback from you and it helps us continue to make the show better. And if you want more inspiration from our world-class guests and content to learn how to improve the quality of your life, then make sure to sign up for the Greatness newsletter and get it delivered

• 1:26:21Lewis Howes?

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