830 Cultivate Inner Peace and End Your Suffering with Preethaji

IT’S TIME TO TRANSFORM. At some point in our lives, we have let go of our old selves and grow into something greater. Think about the king cobra. It starts to feel uncomfortable in its skin. It’s not able to see- its skin makes its vision blurred. So it moves in seclusion. It gets rid of the old skin, and a new shiny skin comes up. Suddenly, its vision is clear. We all need this process. We all need to let go of the past and embrace our future. On today’s episode of The School of Greatness, I talk about freeing ourselves from suffering with one of my most influential teachers: Preethaji. Preethaji is the co-founder of the O&O Academy near Chennai, India. O&O’s campus and teachings are designed to free humans from all forms of suffering. Combining ancient wisdoms and teachings with neuroscience and neurobiology, Preethaji helps students develop a personal practice of mindfulness, meditation, and breathwork with the goal of personal transformation. I studied with Preethaji in India, and it changed my life. She taught me that there are only two states in life: a suffering state and a beautiful state. So get ready to learn how to stop suffering on Episode 830. Some Questions I Ask: Why did this calling come to you when it did? (6:30) How do we stop suffering? (18:00) What happens when we fixate on past experiences? (23:00) Why do so many people hold onto heartbreak (39:30) What happens when our outer world is thriving but the inner world is suffering? (49:00) In This Episode You Will Learn: What to do when your children struggle with depression and addiction (11:00) The only two states in life (13:00) The fable of Yesmi and Nomi (22:00) The root of loneliness (25:00) The four sacred secrets (34:00) If you enjoyed this episode, check out the video, show notes, and more at http://www.lewishowes.com/830 Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

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• 0:00Lewis Howes?

  This is episode number 830 with Preeti G.

• 0:07Lewis Howes?

  Welcome to the School of Greatness. My name is Lewis Howes, a former pro athlete turned lifestyle entrepreneur. And each week, we bring you an inspiring person or message to help you discover how to unlock your inner greatness. Thanks for spending some time with me today. Now let the class begin.

• 0:32Lewis Howes?

  Herman Melville said, "We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow man." And among those fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions run as causes, and they come back to us as effects. Welcome to this episode. Super excited. Preeti G is a friend of mine, and someone I've learned so much about mastering my inner world from over the last couple of years since we've connected. I went to India a couple of years ago and spent time with her and her husband, Krishna G, for about two weeks, learning to meditate, becoming a meditation instructor myself, certified,

• 1:15Lewis Howes?

  and really exploring the mind and the inner heart, and how to master emotions. And let me tell you this, I have not mastered this myself. I still react. I still get frustrated. I still get angry. I still have resentment, don't forgive people, all these different emotions that human beings have. But through their teachings, I've learned to really hone in on those emotions and react less. And when I'm consistent in their teachings, I feel unstoppable because I feel in complete control of my thoughts and

• 1:53Lewis Howes?

  Essentially don't react at all when I'm consistently practicing this philosophy, this method of mastering inner peace. And I wish I did it every single day consistently because when I do it, I truly feel like superhuman. And Priti G and her husband Krishna G are considered two of the most impactful philosophers, transformational leaders, and philanthropists of our time. Together, they founded World Youth Change Makers, an elite community of youth redirecting the future of the world through a revolution in consciousness and One Humanity Care, a foundation working with the vision to uplift 10,000 villages in India.

• 2:33Lewis Howes?

  In their new book, The Four Sacred Secrets, this couple offers a life-altering adventure that is inspired a movement towards emotional and personal prosperity. I'm telling you, this philosophy, this way of thinking, this way of living, has helped transform my life and thousands of people's lives. And I believe it will for you as well. In this interview, we talk about why we must all strive for living in a state of connection with everything around us. How loneliness is the absence of connection, not the absence of people. Creating abundance by shifting your state of being.

• 3:13Lewis Howes?

  How can you create more physical, emotional, and mental abundance in your life by shifting your state of being? Why the world needs us to share our joy right now? And the four sacred secrets for living a beautiful life. So excited about this. Make sure to share with your friends. Let me know what you think about this. Again, lewishouse.com/830 is the link. Text to a friend who might be feeling anxious, or overwhelmed, or stressed, or feel like they're not where they are in their life right now, send this link to a friend. You can send them that link or the podcast link on the app that you're listening to this with your podcast. All right, guys, without further ado, let me introduce you the one, the only, Priti G.

• 4:01Lewis Howes?

  Welcome everyone back to the School of Greatness Podcast. We have the inspirational Priti G in the house. Good to see you.

• 4:07Speaker 02

  Good to see you, Lewis.

• 4:08Lewis Howes?

  So glad you're here. Namaste. I met you three years ago through a mutual friend of ours and came to India. I guess it was three years ago I came, right? And it was incredibly transformational for me. I felt like I was a student of life and visualization and had dabbled in meditation before and I felt like I had a pretty good awareness about myself and the world and how to manage emotions and my thoughts and things like that. But when I went to your facility, which is called One World Academy, now called O and O, it was just transformational. And to watch other people transform as well was really inspiring.

• 4:51Lewis Howes?

  So I recommend everyone go to India and come see you live in person because it's incredible what you guys have created at O and O. And you came on three years ago on the podcast. It was very inspiring. You're back on now because you have a book called The Four Sacred Secrets for Love and Prosperity: A Guide to Living in a Beautiful State. Make sure you guys get this book right now. I'm excited about this because I was one of the people that said, "You need to have a book out there."

• 5:20Speaker 02

  Absolutely.

• 5:21Lewis Howes?

  I was like, "You need to have a book out there. This information is so powerful and if people can't travel to India or fly to a workshop where you guys do them around the world, they need to be able to have access to this because the wisdom is so powerful." And you've studied philosophy in school, you've studied business, you've done a lot of different things in your own personal life. But why did this calling come to you at the age it came to you? Because now you've been teaching meditation and this wisdom that we're going to get into for a while, but you didn't start there, right?

• 5:54Speaker 02

  Yes. Looking at my own life when I was very young.

• 6:00Speaker 02

  I would feel very connected to people. I would feel what they would be feeling.

• 6:07Speaker 02

  And that connection actually led my life into doing what I did.

• 6:11Lewis Howes?

  Okay.

• 6:12Speaker 02

  For a very long period of time, I thought that's how the world lived. Then I saw that's exactly not how the world lived, so.

• 6:20Lewis Howes?

  You thought the world lived like everyone felt intuitive and compassionate and loving.

• 6:25Speaker 02

  Yes, and no, and also feel like, you know, not separate from the other.

• 6:29Lewis Howes?

  Uh huh.

• 6:29Speaker 02

  Feeling so connected to the other's experience of joy, the other's experience of happiness. And then it changed, my perception changed, that to see that world is not that way. And the experiences that I've had in meditations, in my transformational journey, when I was in my early, I would say seventeen, eighteen, has left a huge impact. And the experiences continue to happen. There are experiences where I feel beyond myself and experience of deep connection and experience, where there is no self-experience without mind commentaries. So these experiences have shaped the person who I am. It is not like one movie that you watch and you walk out,

• 7:14Speaker 02

  but it is something that is deeply impacting your very perception of life, the way you relate, the way you connect, the way you experience joy, the way you experience peace. And thereafter, the experience I share with Krishna G until today has deeply impacted me. To see another person who can connect more than me, who can feel more than me, is impacting, is continuing to impact me, and I impact people.

• 7:40Lewis Howes?

  Wow. You think Krishna G, for those who don't know, Krishna G is your husband and partner in O and O. You think he feels deeper than you?

• 7:49Speaker 02

  Oh, I, I definitely feels, he, he feels much more than.

• 7:53Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 7:54Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 7:55Lewis Howes?

  Wow. But you're very empathetic and compassionate and connected.

• 7:59Speaker 02

  He's much more than me.

• 8:00Lewis Howes?

  Wow. That's amazing.

• 8:02Speaker 02

  You probably don't see it from the outside, but the way he can connect to, not only to me, to everybody whom he works with, and wanting to impact their life, wanting to change their life, wanting to. Impact the entire experience is tremendous.

• 8:17Lewis Howes?

  Wow. So how often do you feel like, I think you mentioned you said you feel a lack of, or no self, is that what you said, there's moments where you feel no self? How often does that occur for you? Is that daily, is that once every few weeks?

• 8:32Speaker 02

  It happens once in a while.

• 8:34Lewis Howes?

  Once in a while?

• 8:34Speaker 02

  Once in a while, not daily. Not daily, but the experience of connection is pretty more often.

• 8:41Lewis Howes?

  Okay, what does that feel like, the experience of connection?

• 8:46Speaker 02

  Feeling not separate from the other, feeling.

• 8:49Lewis Howes?

  From another person?

• 8:50Speaker 02

  Yeah, it is, I would say it's more than empathy. I would say that actually experiencing what you're experiencing, actually feeling what you're experiencing, and from there, a deep compassion towards you, and an experience where you don't feel separate.

• 9:07Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 9:07Speaker 02

  You include the other.

• 9:10Lewis Howes?

  So what happens when we feel connected to every other person on the planet? Or the people around us?

• 9:16Speaker 02

  People around us, when you feel connected, it's a lot of joy.

• 9:21Lewis Howes?

  A lot of joy. What if they're in a lot of pain? Or they're angry at you?

• 9:24Speaker 02

  When you.

• 9:25Lewis Howes?

  Or they're yelling at you? Do you want to connect to that or disconnect?

• 9:29Speaker 02

  When they are in pain, when they are yelling, that means they're deeply disturbed. So when you connect to them at that point of time, you feel immensely powerful to help the other. If you're talking about somebody in your family or a friend, and is not fine, is disturbed, when you feel connected to that person at that point of time, and the other is not in a good shape, then you feel powerful enough to impact the other.

• 9:56Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 9:56Speaker 02

  The connection, the experience of connection, has a huge healing impact on the way the other experiences life. I have mothers come to me and talk about children who are into addictions, and children who are depressed. And they say, what do I do? You know? I said, the only thing that you can do is, you nurture a beautiful state of connection. When you grow in connection, it is not something that will happen overnight, but as you are in it, as you grow in connection, you would see that experience that you share with your child. Has a, has a power to heal your child. Has a power to, to, to slowly get over whatever that is disturbing.

• 10:41Speaker 02

  And as every parent, not as, not only as a parent, as anybody who wants to impact the life of another being. It is important that you nurture a beautiful state of connection.

• 10:49Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 10:50Speaker 02

  I haven't seen, or I haven't come across anything more powerful than this experience of connection in my life. In bringing up my daughter, in, in relating to my husband, in mentoring the faculty at the academy, or the people in the courses and in my meetings across the world. I haven't seen anything more powerful than a powerful state of connection.

• 11:16Lewis Howes?

  Hmm. When I went to O and O, three years ago, I learned that there's only two states.

• 11:22Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 11:22Lewis Howes?

  A suffering state and a beautiful state. Is that still true?

• 11:25Speaker 02

  Absolutely true. I have to ask you, is that true?

• 11:29Lewis Howes?

  I think so. So there's suffering state, or I guess suffering states, emotions or ways of being that all fit into a category of a suffering state of, of being.

• 11:39Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 11:40Lewis Howes?

  And then there's a beautiful state of being, which is experience of lots of other emotions, joy, love, and that passion, connection, intimacy, service, all these things come from a beautiful state, whereas disconnection, anger, resentment, a lack of forgiveness is in a suffering state. Is that correct?

• 11:57Speaker 02

  Yes. A suffering state separates you from, from people, from life. You could be fighting for a great cause, but when you are in a suffering state, that fight for a great cause separates you from the cause itself.

• 12:14Lewis Howes?

  So if you're frustrated about a cause in the world, you're, and, and you're coming from a place of anger, or rage, or frustration, does that hurt your chances of solving?

• 12:27Speaker 02

  Absolutely, Lewis. When you are in a suffering state, you are disconnected. You are engrossed only with yourself.

• 12:39Speaker 02

  And all throughout, people believe my state is my state. We believe that we are separate individuals. And if I'm having something, I'm experiencing something here, it's not going to impact you. It's not going to impact my life. That's not true. Though we experience ourselves as being separate, as separate and isolated individuals, the truth is, we are all connected in our consciousness.

• 13:01Speaker 02

  So the experience of suffering, an engrossment with yourself, moves your life towards chaos, moves your life towards disorder. You constantly face challenges after challenges. You feel you're moving one step, but you're moving back ten steps. Because your state is communicating to the universe.

• 13:22Lewis Howes?

  What's it communicating?

• 13:24Speaker 02

  That I'm open to problems. I'm in suffering, I'm engrossed with myself, I'm disconnected. That state of disconnection actually does not allow you to experience beautiful synchronicities, beautiful people and beautiful situations in life. Your state has an impact on the way you experience life. Your state also has an impact on the reality. So when you transform your state of being from a suffering state into experiencing a beautiful state, you open up, you enter into the magical realm of happening.

• 14:00Lewis Howes?

  Of happening?

• 14:00Speaker 02

  Of happening.

• 14:01Lewis Howes?

  What's happening?

• 14:02Speaker 02

  Of meeting those right people, those right contacts, getting into those situations, creating synchronicities. You feel now the universe is your friend. When you are in suffering state, you feel the universe is your enemy, trying to plot everything against you. And when you are in a beautiful state, you are communicating to the universe and saying, "I am open to a lot of joy, I am open to synchronicities." And you enter into the magical realm, through the magical flow. And you create synchronicities. It's like the randomly moving universe is arranging itself into patterns to fulfill your heart's desires.

• 14:41Lewis Howes?

  Just for you.

• 14:42Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 14:42Lewis Howes?

  So that everything unfolds, we think, ah, I really could use this right now, and then it shows up. I wish someone with this skill set I could get in touch with.

• 14:50Speaker 02

  Absolutely.

• 14:50Lewis Howes?

  Someone makes the introduction, things start to fall into place.

• 14:53Speaker 02

  Absolutely.

• 14:54Lewis Howes?

  But they don't fall into place when you're angry, resentful, frustrated.

• 14:58Speaker 02

  Angry, resentful, frustrated, or sad, and

• 15:02Lewis Howes?

  Or lack of gratitude.

• 15:03Speaker 02

  Insecure, lonely. When you move into the state of connection, you are telling the universe, like, we are together.

• 15:13Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 15:14Speaker 02

  We are one.

• 15:17Speaker 02

  When you are in a suffering state, probably this is a very strong word to use, it is like the cancer cell.

• 15:23Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 15:24Speaker 02

  Which is declaring independence and trying to cause disease in the entire environment.

• 15:30Lewis Howes?

  Wow, so it's going to reject you from other opportunities to protect itself. The consciousness will reject you because you're a disease.

• 15:38Speaker 02

  You are a disease.

• 15:39Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 15:40Speaker 02

  In a suffering state.

• 15:41Lewis Howes?

  Yes. Wow.

• 15:43Speaker 02

  But everyone has the opportunity to move out of the suffering state. I personally feel

• 15:51Speaker 02

  there has not been enough education on nurturing a beautiful state and consciousness.

• 15:57Lewis Howes?

  They didn't teach you this in school?

• 15:58Speaker 02

  No. I wish, I wish we could teach our children in school. Then we would be creating a better world. We are doing it in India with the World Youth. Not only in India, we are doing it across the globe, but in India on a massive scale. Where we have this huge charity, World Youth Changemakers, where we send teachers to schools and colleges and do programs for them.

• 16:26Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 16:28Speaker 02

  On awareness of what state they are living in and how to lead their lives.

• 16:33Lewis Howes?

  But sometimes I feel like you have those friends that just are always trapped in the suffering state. I've experienced this, where I've had friends, and I've been there in the past too, where I feel like there's no way out. It's like, the world is against me, is how it truly feels. I'm sick, I don't have any energy, you know, my friends keep stabbing me in the back, whatever it is, I feel betrayed. How do we, if it feels so real for people, how do we get out of it? And what's the, what's the, you know, it's like, seems so impossible at times, so dark.

• 17:09Speaker 02

  Let me take an example from the nature. If you look at a cobra, it begins to feel uncomfortable in its own skin every few months. And then it, when it's uncomfortable in its own skin, it's not able to see. Its vision gets blurred. And then, when it becomes unbearable, what it does is it moves into seclusion. And then gets rid of the old skin.

• 17:35Lewis Howes?

  It isolates itself.

• 17:36Speaker 02

  Yeah, it isolates itself, gets rid of the old skin. And then there is a new shiny skin that comes up. And then it has a lot more power in its fangs. And its eyes, its vision is very clear, ready for life again.

• 17:52Speaker 02

  Every one of us needs this process.

• 17:53Lewis Howes?

  Really? Shedding of the old skin.

• 17:55Speaker 02

  Shedding of the old, old, old that you've accumulated in, when you were in your mother's womb, old that you've accumulated in your early childhood, old that you've accumulated as you move past your life's challenges, the rejections, the failures. It is sitting on you. It is sitting on you, you feel uncomfortable in your own skin. You do not have a vision for the future, you do not have a purpose for your life. You are, you really, you really do not know what you're doing with life. Your, your vision is very blurred.

• 18:29Lewis Howes?

  You're like, why am I here? What's the purpose?

• 18:31Speaker 02

  You're just living.

• 18:33Lewis Howes?

  How often do you feel that?

• 18:34Speaker 02

  You're just existing.

• 18:36Speaker 02

  How often I feel that? I, I don't think Krishna G allows me to feel that.

• 18:41Lewis Howes?

  You don't think what?

• 18:42Speaker 02

  Krishna G allows me to feel that.

• 18:44Lewis Howes?

  You can't feel that way. How often do you feel like you have to shed at least something?

• 18:48Speaker 02

  No, for me, I feel every time. When suffering arises, there is this inner vision for a beautiful inner state that we want to walk out of it. We do not allow the weeds to grow in our consciousness.

• 19:03Lewis Howes?

  So you might come up for a moment.

• 19:04Speaker 02

  Yes, and then walk out of it. It's not that I don't feel angry, it doesn't, it doesn't, it's not that I don't argue with Krishna Gita, but we do, absolutely we do, but we walk out of it. Every time we relate, every time, it is, it is like we're not carrying the past, we're not carrying the hurt, we're not carrying our consciousness which is damaged. Because when you are damaged, you can only create more damage into the lives of people around you.

• 19:29Lewis Howes?

  There's a great story or fable or whatever it's called of the two monks. I'm sure you've heard this, the two monks are...

• 19:36Speaker 02

  Yasmi and Nomi.

• 19:38Lewis Howes?

  What is this?

• 19:38Speaker 02

  Yasmi and Nomi, I shared it on the TEDx in Kansas City.

• 19:42Lewis Howes?

  Is that what it is? Yasmi and Nomi? Is this, is this the one where they, one of them picks up someone?

• 19:47Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 19:48Lewis Howes?

  What's the story?

• 19:49Speaker 02

  Two monks, Yasmi and Nomi are getting back to the monastery and they're about to cross a village. We named them Yasmi and Nomi. They're about to cross the village and Yasmi hears, both of them hear a woman crying who's wanting to cross the village, but she's not able to cross because the river is full that particular day. And she's crying because she's not able to get to her toddler that night. So Yasmi offers to help her, so he carries her from the one side of the river to the other side and drops her on the other side and she thanks them. And they both walk, she walks away into her village and they both walk towards the monastery. And Nomi, after half an hour, in a very agitated tone, speaks up saying that, you know what you have done?

• 20:32Speaker 02

  And Yasmi is calm and he says, your, Amma said never look at a woman and you saw her. Amma said never speak to a woman, you touched her. Amma said never touch a woman, you carried her. It is, it's such a big mistake that you've done, it's, it's huge. For which Yasmi is very calm, looking at Nomi and saying, yes, yes, but I dropped her half an hour ago. But it is you who's still carrying her. The insight that we give using this story is, yes me represents a beautiful state. No me represents a suffering state. No me is agitated before, during and after the event, and he's continuing to live in agitation and stress. Yes me is very peaceful and calm.

• 21:16Speaker 02

  He's present, the lady's suffering. He's able to feel her pain. And then he acts because he's present. He wants to make sure that she's free of her pain. And then he helps her. And then, once the event is over, he continues being peaceful. So, no me, the past is lingering. The past is lingering and the agitation continues. Yes me is fully present and he moves away from the situation also completely.

• 21:49Speaker 02

  He's not going back, getting back to the woman again and again, but no me is.

• 21:53Lewis Howes?

  And what happens to us when we fixate on past experiences? Whether it be thirty minutes ago or thirty years ago, what happens to us physically or spiritually?

• 22:03Speaker 02

  Physically, we are becoming diseased.

• 22:06Lewis Howes?

  Wow. By just obsessing about the past?

• 22:09Speaker 02

  Obsessing about the past, getting back. When do you obsess about your past? You obsess over a painful situation. Or you obsess over one particular pleasure that you experienced.

• 22:21Lewis Howes?

  A highlight in the past, yeah.

• 22:22Speaker 02

  Pleasure that you've experienced. And in that state of obsessing over one particular thing, you are either continuing to fuel your anger, continuing to fuel your hate, or continuing to fuel your fear, or you are wanting that experience again and feeling that you do not have it now.

• 22:41Lewis Howes?

  You're suffering because you don't have what you wanted once.

• 22:44Speaker 02

  So it is a state of suffering.

• 22:46Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, wow.

• 22:47Speaker 02

  And what it does to you, you become unintelligent.

• 22:52Speaker 02

  You are not present to life. So your responses would be because of the thinking that you have nurtured.

• 23:00Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 23:00Speaker 02

  Because of the emotions that you have fueled. And that would pour out in your actions. To believe that we are sane individuals, I mean, we are all sane. To believe that we respond only to life out of logic. It's a very poor understanding of us. We are responding the way we're responding because of something that has happened when we were five years old, ten years old, eleven years old, fifteen years old. And it is important to clean our consciousness from all that is hurting us.

• 23:29Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 23:30Speaker 02

  All that is stopping us from experiencing connection. So the short route towards success, towards having a beautiful relationship, towards creating abundance in your life or prosperity is move into connection. And what is stopping you from connection is your habit of constantly being preoccupied with your past.

• 23:53Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 23:54Speaker 02

  Or projecting your future.

• 23:56Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 23:56Speaker 02

  You are either in your past experience or you are anxious, you are in fear about the future. The greatest epidemic that I observe, meeting people across the globe, just the same is either anxiety or loneliness.

• 24:11Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 24:13Speaker 02

  You might be with the most beautiful person in your life, you might be amidst great company, but still you feel very lonely.

• 24:20Lewis Howes?

  Why?

• 24:22Speaker 02

  Because loneliness is not about a lack of company. It is the inner sense of disconnection with everything around you. You are disconnected with everything around you because you are encrusted with yourself.

• 24:34Lewis Howes?

  Hmm. Is it obsessive self-centric thinking? Is that the definition of suffering?

• 24:39Speaker 02

  Yes. Suffering exists only when you're obsessing about yourself.

• 24:45Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 24:47Speaker 02

  If there is no suffering, if there is no obsession within oneself, then there's no suffering.

• 24:52Lewis Howes?

  What if you obsess over something else, like someone else, or a cause, or a vision?

• 24:58Speaker 02

  You have to look deeper within yourself.

• 25:03Speaker 02

  If you look deeper within yourself, you'll be able to discover the truth

• 25:09Speaker 02

  that it is around you.

• 25:12Lewis Howes?

  When you're obsessing about something else, you realize it's...

• 25:15Speaker 02

  It's around you.

• 25:16Lewis Howes?

  It's still around you. Still you obsessing over something.

• 25:18Speaker 02

  Yes. Yeah, it is still an engrossment with you.

• 25:23Lewis Howes?

  Interesting.

• 25:25Speaker 02

  If not for that, we wouldn't be suffering.

• 25:28Speaker 02

  And there is so many other ideas, like suffering is good for you, suffering is great for you.

• 25:34Lewis Howes?

  Is it?

• 25:35Speaker 02

  Yes, I mean, I've seen many people ask me, I have not suffered enough to achieve.

• 25:40Lewis Howes?

  You need to suffer?

• 25:41Speaker 02

  Not at all, not necessarily. If you look at suffering deeper, it is disconnecting you from life. If you look at suffering deeper, it is separating you from your people. You need, what this world needs is you being an individual who's able to share a lot of joy, share a lot of happiness to the other. And then the ripples of what you are shedding is continuing, not only now, but will continue for several generations to come.

• 26:12Speaker 02

  And when you asked me the question, what happens when you are suffering? There is this data which says we have around 12,000 to around 60,000 thoughts a day.

• 26:23Speaker 02

  Every one of us.

• 26:23Lewis Howes?

  12,000 to 60,000 thoughts.

• 26:25Speaker 02

  Yes, and out of which 80% is old.

• 26:28Lewis Howes?

  80% of thoughts

• 26:30Speaker 02

  Are old.

• 26:31Lewis Howes?

  are thinking about something in the past. Is that what you mean?

• 26:33Speaker 02

  It's the same thought that's coming back.

• 26:35Lewis Howes?

  Oh, okay, it's the same thought. You're thinking about it over and over again.

• 26:38Speaker 02

  And out of that, 80% is negative in nature.

• 26:43Speaker 02

  So, what is it that we are doing with our lives? We are very, very busy. We do not have time. We rush from one to the other, believing that we are moving towards achievement, moving our life towards growth. But the truth is, we are doing this to ourselves.

• 27:03Speaker 02

  And from this state was, how can there be creativity?

• 27:07Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 27:08Speaker 02

  How can there be intelligence that is needed for us to solve the problems that we are currently facing?

• 27:15Lewis Howes?

  If we're always thinking, obsessing about something and doing, and doing, and doing, and never taking space or time to reflect or just be, right?

• 27:22Speaker 02

  To be. You've become a mechanical software.

• 27:26Lewis Howes?

  A machine.

• 27:27Speaker 02

  A machine.

• 27:29Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 27:30Speaker 02

  Loneliness is because of that. Anxiety is because of that. You are habituated into being in those places.

• 27:38Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 27:38Speaker 02

  Like you, you could, they could be renowned YouTubers, Instagrammers, even great celebrities with millions of followers, still feeling very lonely.

• 27:48Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 27:50Lewis Howes?

  Because we're disconnected.

• 27:51Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 27:51Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 27:52Speaker 02

  And anxiety as an epidemic, it's, it's spreading amongst men, women, young, old, everywhere, any nation.

• 28:01Speaker 02

  It feels like we're destroying this planet, we're destroying ourselves.

• 28:06Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 28:06Speaker 02

  We're destroying our families.

• 28:08Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 28:09Speaker 02

  It is time that we awaken.

• 28:12Speaker 02

  It is time that we learn to live in a beautiful state. It is time that we nurture a beautiful state in consciousness. Achievement is great. Um, having a great family is wonderful.

• 28:26Speaker 02

  But let us do it from a beautiful state.

• 28:28Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 28:30Lewis Howes?

  How do we, how do we get there? What's the quickest way to get out of suffering into a beautiful state?

• 28:37Speaker 02

  How quick? It depends upon an individual.

• 28:41Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 28:41Speaker 02

  But there are practices, which is there online, the soul sync practice, the serene mind practice, which is there. Even if you can, if you can take a couple of minutes to nurture a beautiful state in consciousness, to feel that expansion, those few minutes will set a tone.

• 28:58Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 28:59Speaker 02

  Will set a tone for everything that you do the rest of the day.

• 29:02Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 29:02Speaker 02

  It is important that you take up a practice. It is important that you do it sincerely, knowing that your state has a direct impact on your life. Your state has an impact on your children, your state has an impact on your partner.

• 29:19Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 29:20Speaker 02

  We are, we are like the aspen trees.

• 29:25Speaker 02

  If you look at the aspen tree, you've been to Aspen?

• 29:27Lewis Howes?

  I've been to Colorado, but not Aspen.

• 29:28Speaker 02

  Aspen, if you look at the aspen tree, they look as individual trees. But they're all connected in the roots.

• 29:35Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 29:36Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 29:36Lewis Howes?

  Huh.

• 29:36Speaker 02

  It's actually one, one organism.

• 29:39Lewis Howes?

  Really?

• 29:39Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 29:40Lewis Howes?

  Wow. That's cool.

• 29:42Speaker 02

  We believe that we are separate individuals, but we are, of course, we are connected to the entire universe. We are connected to every person or every, everything that is, every matter in this entire universe. But there is our soul circle.

• 29:59Speaker 02

  Whom you're directly impacting.

• 30:00Lewis Howes?

  Hmm, wow.

• 30:02Speaker 02

  And for the sake of the soul circle, in order to create a beautiful life for your soul circle, it is important that you nurture a beautiful state. And it takes, it takes a while because we have been carrying the baggage of, not only our lives, we are carrying the baggage of our parents, our grandparents, and probably the entire humanity at one.

• 30:24Lewis Howes?

  Right. Our culture, society, anything, yeah. And we have a lot of shedding to do of our skin, over and over again. Every week, every few months, and just shedding it, getting clearer and clearer, allowing us to see. I do a, when I learned about Soul Sync in India with you guys, it's funny because every time I do Soul Sync now, you're a part of it.

• 30:47Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 30:48Lewis Howes?

  I think I told you years ago that like, there's a process in Soul Sync where it's kind of like the second half of the meditation. It's about a fifteen minute meditation roughly, right? Fifteen, seventeen minutes, twelve minutes?

• 31:00Speaker 02

  It's even less actually, nine to twelve, yeah.

• 31:02Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, twelve minutes. And about halfway through, you know, you go through this practice of breathing. And then there's kind of like this visualization experience. And every time I do the visualization, I see myself in the room with you because you were leading it. And we, we levitate into the clouds and we're dancing together. I think I told you this once that we're like having a dance party. And everyone's coming up, but we're all dancing. So every time I meditate, I think about you, which is beautiful. I want to go into these four secrets because I think this would be, this would be a good next step for, for people to understand.

• 31:40Speaker 02

  Absolutely. And this book, what Krishnashe and I have, we have done is make it a journey. It is just not another book for information to fill your head. We have, we have already a lot of it.

• 31:52Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 31:53Speaker 02

  And this is for you to experience a journey.

• 31:57Lewis Howes?

  A journey.

• 31:58Speaker 02

  A journey.

• 31:58Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 32:01Lewis Howes?

  A journey and the first thing you guys talk about is spiritual vision.

• 32:04Speaker 02

  Yes, there are four sacred secrets. The first one is a spiritual vision. A spiritual vision for your inner state of being. We have vision for our external world. We have a vision for having a great wealth. A vision for our achievement and success in life. And a few of us for a great family. But it begins with a beautiful state. So the first sacred secret is spiritual vision, which would help you expedite redefining your purpose in life. And allows you to have great clarity into everything that you're doing in life.

• 32:47Lewis Howes?

  Why you're here, why you're doing everything.

• 32:49Speaker 02

  Why you are in a relationship, why you're having your children, why you're doing what you're doing. What is... So purpose is not limited only to careers. We believe it is only for careers, but it is for everything in life. Or what you're doing with your life, what you're doing with your career. So it gives a clarity into your life itself and redefines your purpose. That's the first sacred secret. The second sacred secret is inner truth. This allows you, this secret allows you to move out of stressful states as and when they arise. And nurture a beautiful state in consciousness.

• 33:34Speaker 02

  The third sacred secret is accessing the universal intelligence.

• 33:39Lewis Howes?

  Universal intelligence.

• 33:42Speaker 02

  Few cultures call it divine, few cultures call it god. Few cultures call it a field of energy.

• 33:49Lewis Howes?

  Source, yeah.

• 33:50Speaker 02

  We are calling it the universal intelligence. We are much more than what we see we are. There is this immense pervasive intelligence that is there around us. And there is a particular way to access this universal intelligence. So the third sacred secret teaches you to access this universal intelligence. You need a particular state. You need to let go of your suffering to access it.

• 34:17Lewis Howes?

  You can't access the universal.

• 34:19Speaker 02

  Many cultures, many religions eulogize suffering. And they always talk about feeling helpless, feeling desperate to access God or to get a response. But it's like having a cellphone which does not have any tower. And then trying to reach, you're never heard, nor can you hear anything.

• 34:41Lewis Howes?

  When you're suffering.

• 34:42Speaker 02

  When you're suffering. It is like a cellphone without network.

• 34:45Lewis Howes?

  And when in a beautiful state, it's like the biggest cellphone tower in the world. It's just like easy to access.

• 34:52Speaker 02

  Absolutely. So there is a way to access this universal intelligence and to manifest what you want to manifest in your life. And that is the third sacred secret.

• 35:01Lewis Howes?

  Okay.

• 35:02Speaker 02

  And the fourth sacred secret is spiritual right action.

• 35:06Lewis Howes?

  Spiritual right action.

• 35:10Speaker 02

  It gives you a blueprint for the ongoing dilemmas of life.

• 35:15Lewis Howes?

  What actions to take.

• 35:16Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 35:17Lewis Howes?

  When they come up in your life.

• 35:19Speaker 02

  Whether to say yes or no, whether to be together or to separate, whether to quit or to stay, whether to push or pull, and we are confused.

• 35:28Lewis Howes?

  How do we know that? And what's the, what's the right actions to take?

• 35:32Speaker 02

  What we have always done is take a rule that has been set by somebody else. Take a rule that has been set thousands of years ago and try to apply it. And not that any of us adhere to those rules. We break those rules and we feel guilty about breaking those rules.

• 35:50Lewis Howes?

  And we suffer more.

• 35:51Speaker 02

  We suffer more. So this gives you a blueprint. What you need to do in any particular situation. It is important that we dissolve our suffering states. It is important that we do not act.

• 36:09Speaker 02

  Driven by an ideal or a moral. But drive your actions from a beautiful state of connection.

• 36:16Lewis Howes?

  So not have ideals.

• 36:18Speaker 02

  How many of us follow ideals?

• 36:20Lewis Howes?

  Some, yeah.

• 36:21Speaker 02

  We try very hard.

• 36:22Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, we try, but then we break them or and then we suffer.

• 36:26Speaker 02

  We suffer and please understand when we are suffering, we are of no use to the other.

• 36:31Lewis Howes?

  Hmm, wow.

• 36:34Speaker 02

  When we are suffering, we are equal to being non-existent. Others are non-existent for us, we are non-existent from them.

• 36:39Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 36:40Speaker 02

  Actually, we are existing for them because we kind of create more problems.

• 36:44Lewis Howes?

  Right, we might be next to them but not be connected in any way. Okay, spiritual right action.

• 36:50Speaker 02

  So these are the four sacred secrets. And it leads you into four life journeys.

• 36:57Speaker 02

  The book. The first life journey is you become a happy child, you're free of your past. The second life journey is you're free of your inner critic and experience a beautiful self.

• 37:13Speaker 02

  Third life journey is

• 37:16Speaker 02

  you move away from being a heartbroken lover to being a heartful partner.

• 37:23Speaker 02

  And the fourth life journey is you move away from being a struggling wealth creator to being a conscious wealth creator who knows to access the power of the universe to create abundance.

• 37:38Lewis Howes?

  Wow.

• 37:40Lewis Howes?

  Move away from being a heartbroken to heartful, is that what you said?

• 37:43Speaker 02

  Yeah, heartbroken to a heartful.

• 37:46Lewis Howes?

  Heartful, not hurtful, heartful.

• 37:47Speaker 02

  Heartful.

• 37:48Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, yeah, heartful.

• 37:51Lewis Howes?

  Why do so many people feel heartbroken from past relationships and hold on to it? Like this, you know.

• 38:01Speaker 02

  My life's mission is to teach the other person a lesson or my life's mission is to make sure that I'm taking revenge for what I have suffered.

• 38:09Lewis Howes?

  Why is that?

• 38:11Speaker 02

  I would again say, we are not being taught how to live in a beautiful state. We are not taught, we are not being taught that it's important to live in this beautiful state. And your state is impacting, continuing to impact your life. See, you have to forgive, not because you're superior, not because you're great. Because when you forgive, you are free. You experience great freedom, you experience life, you come alive. But when you're holding on to hurt, when you're holding on to anger and revenge, there is this inner feeling that I am, I'm not accepting the unfairness of what has happened to me. And I'm going to teach the other person this and I don't know whether you're going to teach the other person a lesson.

• 38:56Speaker 02

  Inverted, that's how you're feeling.

• 38:58Lewis Howes?

  Try to make them feel something, yeah.

• 38:59Speaker 02

  But you're destroying yourself in the entire process.

• 39:01Lewis Howes?

  Wow. So when something unfair happens to us.

• 39:05Speaker 02

  It is important that you are able to step out of that feeling that you're a victim.

• 39:11Lewis Howes?

  How do we do that?

• 39:14Speaker 02

  You can take this book.

• 39:17Speaker 02

  It's, first, the whole thing is a journey, Lewis. It's like not one idea that is going to help you. It is this whole journey that we lead in India and this book will also help you is, it'll help you get out of those suffering states. And the more you nurture a beautiful state, it's like you're having a consciousness which cannot tolerate a weed. When I said, when you ask me, what do I do, how do I shed? It's like when a suffering state is there, I can't tolerate it. But right now, many of us, what happens is, we're used to it.

• 39:56Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 39:57Speaker 02

  We're used to it, we have been living with it, we have been living with it for years, decades and it's your home.

• 40:03Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 40:03Speaker 02

  It's your home, you're comfortable with it. So it is to change the entire ecosystem. It is to change the entire consciousness, to remove all, to shed old.

• 40:17Speaker 02

  To free oneself from suffering and then a suffering arises. You take it out, you take it out. That's why a journey is so important.

• 40:25Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 40:25Speaker 02

  Every ancient culture talks about a journey.

• 40:27Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 40:28Speaker 02

  Unfortunately, we with all our progress, we have lost there.

• 40:33Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 40:34Speaker 02

  We, we, in India it's called Dvija or twice born.

• 40:39Lewis Howes?

  Twice born.

• 40:40Speaker 02

  Yeah. It is important to go through the journey. And every ancient civilization, the Chinese speak about entering and entering as a snake and becoming a dragon.

• 40:52Lewis Howes?

  Ah.

• 40:53Speaker 02

  And in the, even in the Bible, entering into the Jonas, entering into the belly of the whale and coming out. Everything is a process, it is a journey.

• 41:03Lewis Howes?

  Like a death of the ego and an awakening of consciousness.

• 41:07Speaker 02

  Yes, to, to shed of all that is hurting you, just like a snake. We need to shed of all that is hurting. The, the snake is very clear, it becomes uncomfortable in its own skin and it moves into seclusion, isolation and then it comes out. We need to do it. Not a seclusion, you need to, you need to go through a journey where you're able to shed yourself of everything that is hurting you, all the suffering and the pain that you're carrying in your consciousness. Because we are not ending it with us.

• 41:36Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 41:37Speaker 02

  Okay, ending with oneself, then also it is not good. But what you're doing it is taking it to our children. Meeting people, meeting families. It'll be like, it'll be the same suffering that is going through generations. We call it the family karma. But what is happening is something unconscious that your great grandfather has allowed to grow, is continuing in several generations. That's not nice for our children.

• 42:07Lewis Howes?

  Hmm, no, it's not.

• 42:09Speaker 02

  It's, it's sad.

• 42:10Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 42:12Lewis Howes?

  So I want to go through a little bit of each one of these. I know that people are going to go through the book and come to the course, hopefully. But let's say someone is, they're just not happy with their life. Maybe it's, some things are good, some things are bad. But it's kind of like, it's not extreme suffering all the time. But they're just living a life that they're not fulfilled by. And they know there could be more, but they've accepted what is. You talk about spiritual vision. What's something someone could do who's listening or watching this right now to just get a little taste of getting started on a spiritual vision for their life?

• 42:50Speaker 02

  What is the state you've been living in? What is the state that you've been fueling constantly? A few of us fuel anger. We get back to anger every time. Every time there's a slight change in the external environment or situation. Sometimes even there's no change, you get back into feeling anger. A few of us get back into feeling sad. A few of us get back into feeling fear. What is the state you're nurturing?

• 43:13Lewis Howes?

  That's suffering.

• 43:15Speaker 02

  Is this the state you want to live your life from? Now knowing very clearly it is impacting your life. It is impacting your children. It is impacting the prosperity and abundance that you can acquire in life. It is impacting your health. It is impacting your intelligence. Do you want to live there?

• 43:33Lewis Howes?

  No.

• 43:34Speaker 02

  So that has to be... Yeah. And it is important to have a vision for one's inner state.

• 43:42Lewis Howes?

  Okay.

• 43:43Speaker 02

  That I am going to nurture a beautiful state. And it is, it's not going to happen overnight. Please understand what you've accumulated.

• 43:50Lewis Howes?

  Practice.

• 43:51Speaker 02

  Yes, it is a practice and it is a lifelong practice. I would say it is very important that we nurture a beautiful state throughout our life. Because any state of suffering separates and it is going to cause more chaos into our lives.

• 44:07Lewis Howes?

  So start to reflect on the emotions.

• 44:09Speaker 02

  And just as you hold a vision. Everybody teaches you to hold a vision that I'm going to achieve so much when I'm this, how many, this years old.

• 44:16Lewis Howes?

  I'm going to achieve this much money or wealth or whatever, marriage.

• 44:21Speaker 02

  Let us hold a vision for our inner state.

• 44:24Lewis Howes?

  I like that.

• 44:24Speaker 02

  This vision, this spiritual vision would be the mother of all visions.

• 44:31Lewis Howes?

  The mother vision.

• 44:32Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 44:32Lewis Howes?

  That's good.

• 44:33Speaker 02

  This is what is lacking in our education. We have kind of...

• 44:39Speaker 02

  Made so important the external life. I don't say it is wrong that we need to have a very good external life too.

• 44:49Speaker 02

  But achievement does not give you happiness after a point.

• 44:52Lewis Howes?

  Isn't it fascinating, it just came to me, is like we create our environment around us with the, you know, the tables we buy, the homes we're in, the cars, the possessions. We, we, we create a vision of an environment physically around us, but a lot of us lack the ability to create a vision of the environment within us.

• 45:10Speaker 02

  Yes, because you don't realize it is important. You don't realize it is impacting your life. You don't realize that you're acting in a particular way because something that is brewing in your consciousness. You would say, I'm acting like this because my wife was that.

• 45:30Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 45:30Speaker 02

  Or I'm acting like this because my boss was this.

• 45:36Speaker 02

  But the truth is, there is something that is brewing in your consciousness, which is making you act one particular way. We have to get, go beyond this idea that we are logical beings.

• 45:46Lewis Howes?

  We're not logical.

• 45:47Speaker 02

  We're not.

• 45:48Lewis Howes?

  What are we?

• 45:49Speaker 02

  If, I've, I've seen lives, right? It is like a past, it'll be like a five-year-old's experience is what is resulting in a divorce right now.

• 46:04Speaker 02

  Not able to accept oneself.

• 46:09Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 46:10Speaker 02

  Feeling low about oneself and then becoming aggressive.

• 46:17Speaker 02

  And that aggression pours into your relationships or pours into your business partnership or pours into your work experience. You might say you did that because of the work experience, but it goes back to something that has happened and something that is fueling and brewing in your consciousness.

• 46:39Speaker 02

  We need to do what the snake does.

• 46:42Lewis Howes?

  Shed.

• 46:43Speaker 02

  Shed. We need to shed and we need to nurture this beautiful state.

• 46:50Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 46:51Speaker 02

  Then we will create an environment in our brain where we are experiencing beautiful states and then we get back into feeling those beautiful states again and again.

• 47:00Lewis Howes?

  And what happens when we, our outer world is thriving? Financially, possessions, accomplishments, but our inner world is dying or suffering? What happens to us?

• 47:15Speaker 02

  When the outer world, you are successful.

• 47:17Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, things are thriving.

• 47:18Speaker 02

  You would not experience any fulfillment.

• 47:20Lewis Howes?

  You want to have fulfillment.

• 47:21Speaker 02

  You do not have any fulfillment. Again, you'll be asking the same question. What am I doing with my life? You can experience a lot of wealth, but when you are disconnected, you would not have a clear purpose in life.

• 47:34Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 47:35Speaker 02

  When you are suffering, you're disconnected.

• 47:39Lewis Howes?

  Yeah, wow, okay. All right, so that's spiritual vision and getting clear on the environment you want to create on your inner world.

• 47:48Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 47:49Lewis Howes?

  And it takes a practice. The practice that I use is Soul Sync, which you guys teach.

• 47:53Speaker 02

  Absolutely.

• 47:53Lewis Howes?

  There's lots of different practices you could take, but that's something that I use. The next thing we talk about is inner truth. What is inner truth and how do we discover our own truth?

• 48:06Speaker 02

  When we suffer or when we experience inner discomfort, we do not want to look at it.

• 48:16Speaker 02

  What we do is go out, entertain ourselves, have a dopamine high, do something else. Or at most, what we try to do is try to change the meaning.

• 48:29Speaker 02

  Try to change the meaning of that experience. And you feel by changing the meaning, you will be able to cope with it.

• 48:37Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 48:38Speaker 02

  When you're trying to change something, change and look at it in one particular way. What happens is the old way of old meaning is more powerful. It comes back again. Inner truth is observing your suffering as and when it arises. And to see very clearly that suffering is an engrossment with oneself. And if you're able to see it very clearly, it is like a house of cards. It falls apart.

• 49:08Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 49:08Speaker 02

  And then you'll be able to dissolve that suffering and awaken to a beautiful state.

• 49:15Lewis Howes?

  That's it.

• 49:15Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 49:16Lewis Howes?

  It's just the awareness of what you're doing.

• 49:18Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 49:19Lewis Howes?

  Being aware, okay, I'm getting angry, I'm coming from a place of lack or frustration or resentment. And that's me obsessing.

• 49:28Speaker 02

  Over myself.

• 49:28Lewis Howes?

  Over myself and knowing the truth.

• 49:34Speaker 02

  I would first say it is important to go through a journey and shed the past.

• 49:41Speaker 02

  But for those who are not able to come to any of those journeys, you can do the serene mind practice.

• 49:45Lewis Howes?

  The what practice?

• 49:46Speaker 02

  The serene mind practice, the three minute practice.

• 49:48Lewis Howes?

  Three minute practice. It's online or?

• 49:50Speaker 02

  It is online.

• 49:51Lewis Howes?

  Okay.

• 49:52Speaker 02

  Yes, I can send you all the links.

• 49:53Lewis Howes?

  I'll link it up for people in the show notes. Okay, so that's the inner truth and the universal intelligence. You talked about how to access it. You talked about how to access it from here. But what it, the universal intelligence is the consciousness of humanity, the world, everything?

• 50:08Speaker 02

  Everything.

• 50:10Lewis Howes?

  The universe, everything?

• 50:12Speaker 02

  It is, there is an intelligence. There is intelligence in a mushroom, there is intelligence in the piece of rock. There is intelligence in everything. And there is a way to access that universal intelligence. A few cultures make it very personal. They have their personal deities, their personal god, their divine. For a few cultures, it is just a field of energy.

• 50:42Speaker 02

  In suffering, we are actually disconnecting ourselves from this field,

• 50:48Speaker 02

  from this universal intelligence. So it is important to let go of suffering, to let go of the inner disturbing state. And from that state of letting go, ask. Ask the universal intelligence what you want in your life.

• 51:04Lewis Howes?

  Hmm, it's as simple as asking?

• 51:06Speaker 02

  It is simple as asking, but from...

• 51:09Lewis Howes?

  A beautiful state.

• 51:10Speaker 02

  A beautiful state.

• 51:10Lewis Howes?

  If you're suffering and say, "I need help, get me out of this state."

• 51:14Speaker 02

  It's like a cellphone without tower.

• 51:16Lewis Howes?

  Right, no one's gonna listen. "Where are you, God? Where are you, intelligence? You know, why is no one helping me? I'm suffering, why aren't you helping me?" So that's not gonna solve your problem.

• 51:26Speaker 02

  In a suffering state, we are disconnected.

• 51:31Speaker 02

  Let us make a very clear distinction between suffering and challenge. Everyone experiences challenges in life. Even a plant experiences, animal experiences. But a suffering is an inner dialogue that is continuing after a painful situation is over. It's like Nomi. Nomi is continuing with an inner dialogue, which pours out later. Yes, so there is a continuing inner dialogue that happens within oneself. That is a total waste of time.

• 52:03Lewis Howes?

  Waste of time.

• 52:04Speaker 02

  That separates, that disconnects. We feel lonely because we are engrossed with ourselves, not because we don't have people around us.

• 52:12Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 52:13Speaker 02

  Because we are suffering, we are disconnecting, and we feel very lonely.

• 52:20Speaker 02

  I think I missed a line. Yeah, so it is important that we let go of that suffering. The suffering is not going to help anybody. And after letting go, in that state of letting go, asking the universal intelligence, and then clearly seeing what you really want. See it, feel it, or deeply think about it happening in your life.

• 52:43Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. Wow, I love it. Universal intelligence, that's how you access it. And the spiritual right action.

• 52:51Speaker 02

  We went into it. Spiritual right action is not a model-driven action. It is not an ideal-driven action. I have questions coming from when I teach.

• 53:03Speaker 02

  Because all that we teach our children and all that we have been taught is to live life a particular way.

• 53:10Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 53:11Speaker 02

  Follow these ideas. Here are the rules. I still feel it is like fast food.

• 53:16Lewis Howes?

  Fast food.

• 53:18Speaker 02

  Because.

• 53:18Lewis Howes?

  It feeds you, but it doesn't nourish you.

• 53:20Speaker 02

  It doesn't.

• 53:21Lewis Howes?

  Makes you sick probably a lot.

• 53:22Speaker 02

  Yeah. Because we do not have time to nurture a beautiful state within ourselves. We do not have time to nurture a beautiful state in our children. We do not have time to actually feel one and connect. We have, the society has developed a set of rules and codes of conduct. And the sad part is, none of them are able to adhere to it.

• 53:47Lewis Howes?

  Right, even the ones giving, making the rules, don't follow the rules.

• 53:51Speaker 02

  Probably it is set thousands of years ago.

• 53:53Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 53:54Speaker 02

  Probably it is an experience of one great man.

• 53:59Speaker 02

  And then we are enforcing it on our children with, with the social media, with. It's a changing world, but what definitely can guide in terms of action is a state of connection.

• 54:14Lewis Howes?

  So do you have no rules?

• 54:16Speaker 02

  For Loka?

• 54:17Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 54:17Speaker 02

  No.

• 54:18Lewis Howes?

  No rules.

• 54:19Speaker 02

  I haven't disciplined her like, Loka is my fifteen year old.

• 54:21Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 54:22Speaker 02

  She's fifteen now. So I do not have a discipline in terms of this is the way you have to be. I have never done it.

• 54:28Lewis Howes?

  So how can a parent?

• 54:30Speaker 02

  She feels us.

• 54:31Lewis Howes?

  Ah.

• 54:32Speaker 02

  She feels us.

• 54:33Lewis Howes?

  And she lives kind of by that way of being?

• 54:35Speaker 02

  Being, yeah.

• 54:36Lewis Howes?

  It's not, it's like a code of being almost, not a code of rules.

• 54:40Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 54:41Lewis Howes?

  It's like I see my parents modeling this experience and therefore I'm going to become more of that.

• 54:47Speaker 02

  I wouldn't say we're a role model, but I would say the experience of connection is the feeling that, feeling. It's one family.

• 54:56Lewis Howes?

  Sure, sure. What if she ever does something that you don't like?

• 55:01Speaker 02

  I would tell her, but I would tell her from a place of knowing her fully. I would tell her from the no, from a place of feeling her fully. Not from a place of authority, not from a place of saying. Not from a place of like, you know, this is right and this is wrong. Not from a place of wanting to control.

• 55:24Speaker 02

  But just from connection and I I see it working. I s- I see it working still.

• 55:29Lewis Howes?

  What happens if some, what happens if a child breaks the law? Or something, you know, whether it's right or good or bad, right or wrong, but it seems really bad. You know? Not talking about like coming back late after curfew, but something that would be society.

• 55:45Speaker 02

  Correction is needed. Connection is needed. Correction is needed.

• 55:48Lewis Howes?

  Correction is needed.

• 55:50Speaker 02

  But let it happen from a place of connection.

• 55:52Lewis Howes?

  Hmm, correct? From connection?

• 55:55Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 55:55Lewis Howes?

  So not from like getting angry or pointing a finger?

• 55:58Speaker 02

  Not from anger, not from your own past, not from guilt, not from fear. It will be mostly fear when it comes to a child. What would this child become?

• 56:08Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 56:09Speaker 02

  But come from a place of connection, you'll be able to change. You'll be able to transform that child if something is really wrong, really bad. But everything else doesn't work.

• 56:19Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. Might be a Band-Aid, right?

• 56:22Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 56:23Lewis Howes?

  Go to your, go to your room. Yeah, yeah. You're grounded. Yeah.

• 56:27Speaker 02

  Band-Aid to get out.

• 56:29Lewis Howes?

  Right.

• 56:31Speaker 02

  Time out to get, to make things worse.

• 56:35Lewis Howes?

  Yeah. What happens to a kid when you put them in a time out or ground them?

• 56:39Speaker 02

  I don't know, I mean, be very clearly, uh, what, what is the guiding principle for bringing up Loka is to get her out of pain whenever she is suffering. Because I know very clearly when she is a happy person, when she is a joyful person, she would be intelligent, she would be smart, she would be doing those right actions that is needed. She'll have deep clarity, she's not going to mess around with life. I, I know that.

• 57:06Lewis Howes?

  Hmm.

• 57:07Speaker 02

  So when you are giving a time out for your little one, if somebody does it to you, how would you feel?

• 57:14Lewis Howes?

  I feel bad.

• 57:15Speaker 02

  You feel terrible.

• 57:16Lewis Howes?

  I feel disconnected.

• 57:17Speaker 02

  You feel horrible, yes, and we are making our children feel horrible.

• 57:21Lewis Howes?

  Yeah.

• 57:22Speaker 02

  And that's where it starts. You know, it starts like those neural connections for suffering. It's getting strengthened. Oh, I do not have anybody in my life. My mom does not love me. Nobody cares for me. The engrossment starts, suffering starts.

• 57:39Lewis Howes?

  Hmm, the story we keep telling ourselves, right? From the past or, yeah.

• 57:43Speaker 02

  And we are strengthening it. We're making it so strong. Probably this child would grow up and you'll have somebody, a partner, who can really love and appreciate. But the neural connections of not being loved, not being cared, which this person has revisited again so many, so many, so many times, is not helping to receive that love, to receive that connection, to receive that appreciation. The child becomes dead to it. Time out is easy to manage.

• 58:18Speaker 02

  But it is not good for one's consciousness, one's life.

• 58:24Speaker 02

  We need more time, actually. For a parent, it needs a longer time. For as an individual, we need more time for ourselves, to help ourselves, to nurture that beautiful state. And it comes, I would, I see it coming. People are tired. People are tired, tired with the way they've been living lives, tired with the stress that they have to continuously face in life. They are really tired. They are looking for solutions. They are looking at bettering their lives.

• 58:57Lewis Howes?

  This book is a good place to start.

• 59:00Speaker 02

  Absolutely, yes.

• 59:01Lewis Howes?

  Make sure you guys get this book, The Four Sacred Secrets for Love and Prosperity, A Guide to Living in a Beautiful State. It's something that I made them commit to doing three years ago. So it's now finally out. You've got to get this. Highly recommended if you want the answers on how to live in a beautiful state. You've got workshops over the world.

• 59:22Speaker 02

  The Field of Abundance?

• 59:24Lewis Howes?

  The Field of Abundance.

• 59:25Speaker 02

  It's a four-day workshop. It's happening in...

• 59:28Lewis Howes?

  Game changer.

• 59:29Speaker 02

  It is.

• 59:30Lewis Howes?

  It's amazing. You have them in L.A., in Miami, in New York.

• 59:32Speaker 02

  The next one is in Omega in September.

• 59:35Lewis Howes?

  Okay. And they can go out, where can they go to the website to learn about the workshops? What website is that?

• 59:42Speaker 02

  PKConsciousness.com

• 59:44Lewis Howes?

  P K Consciousness.com The letter P, the letter K, Consciousness.com We'll have it all linked up as well. The book is there. PKConsciousness.com It's on Amazon, it's in bookstores in America.

• 59:58Speaker 02

  Yes, it is on.

• 59:59Lewis Howes?

  Or on Amazon, you guys can get it there. You've got the Peace Festival, what is it?

• 1:00:04Speaker 02

  AICAM World Peace Festival.

• 1:00:06Lewis Howes?

  AICAM World Peace Festival, which is happening September 11th.

• 1:00:11Speaker 02

  To the 22nd.

• 1:00:12Lewis Howes?

  To the 22nd. Every single day.

• 1:00:14Speaker 02

  Yes.

• 1:00:15Lewis Howes?

  You're creating peaceful experiences for people. Online, in person. People can join and host their own meditation experiences.

• 1:00:25Speaker 02

  Yes. Last year, we had over a million people. And it is happening in AICAM, the Mystic Powerhouse. And.

• 1:00:37Lewis Howes?

  In India.

• 1:00:38Speaker 02

  In India. And it is people from across the globe connecting to the experiences at AICAM. For creating an impact in human consciousness for peace.

• 1:00:55Speaker 02

  And it is not another peace movement where we are angry activists on the road. Or marching on the road. But it is a movement in consciousness where everyone who is wanting to create a more peaceful world should join it.

• 1:01:11Lewis Howes?

  Hmm. And it's all day long, as you can come in for 20 minutes?

• 1:01:16Speaker 02

  We're doing it for 20 minutes for those who are streaming from across the world.

• 1:01:18Lewis Howes?

  Okay, perfect. On any of those days. 20 minutes, there you go. PKConsciousness.

• 1:01:25Speaker 02

  Dot com.

• 1:01:26Lewis Howes?

  Dot com. Is there anything else we should know about? Anything else we should get connected to, or besides getting the book? Get a couple of copies for your friends.

• 1:01:37Lewis Howes?

  Go to the website. I mean, for me, when I went to India, it was just like, it was so transformational. I've sent a bunch of people there, they continue to say the same thing. So I highly recommend, if you guys have a chance, go look at the website. It'll give you more information about the workshops. And if you can't go to India, then they're in the US and other places around the world at different times. So it's amazing. And if you want to have an incredible.

• 1:02:03Lewis Howes?

  Dance party like I do with Pritha G every day, every morning. Make sure you check it out. I don't know why I laugh every time I think about it.

• 1:02:11Speaker 02

  You always laugh about it.

• 1:02:12Lewis Howes?

  It's so much fun. We just dance up there.

• 1:02:18Lewis Howes?

  Okay, so I don't know if I asked you this question last time, but it's called the three truths. I'm gonna ask you again and see. We can reflect to see if it's the same answer for you. So imagine, imagine you get to have one final peace meditation experience, but the whole world is listening. So imagine you're doing the festival, but the whole world is tuned in. And you've given your 20-minute facilitation of meditation. But at the end, you get to share a final message with people. Three things you know to be true about your life, or the lessons you would share behind. Maybe these aren't rules, because you don't have rules. But three lessons or three truths that you would share behind.

• 1:03:04Speaker 02

  I would say suffering state destroys you.

• 1:03:11Speaker 02

  A state of connection nurtures you,

• 1:03:15Speaker 02

  allowing you to fulfill your life's dreams.

• 1:03:21Speaker 02

  And when we're nurturing this beautiful state of connection, we are impacting life not only for now, but we are impacting life for many, many, many generations. Suffering is a disease that is being carried

• 1:03:39Speaker 02

  from generation to generation. So if you want to see your children, your grandchildren, to live in a more peaceful world, I want my daughter, I want my grandchild to live in a more beautiful world,

• 1:03:54Speaker 02

  which feels safe, which feels loving, which feels caring. Let us create it.

• 1:04:02Lewis Howes?

  Pritha G, make sure you guys check out the book, The Four Sacred Secrets. Get it now. Game changer. Thank you so much.

• 1:04:09Speaker 02

  Thank you so much.

• 1:04:10Lewis Howes?

  Namaste. Namaste.

• 1:04:15Lewis Howes?

  There you have it, my friend. I hope you enjoyed this episode with Priti G. Super excited about this. Make sure to check out the new book. Going to be a game changer for you. If you haven't gone to one of their weekend retreats, or if you don't have the ability to go to India, then I recommend getting the Four Sacred Secrets. It's going to really inspire you to master cultivating inner peace and end the suffering that you have in your life. Very powerful. Share this with a friend that might be struggling, that you know could use some support. Pay it forward. Just spread the message of greatness. LewisHowes.com/830. Text them this link, or just copy and paste the link on your podcast

• 1:04:57Lewis Howes?

  app and post it on your social media accounts and share it with a friend in a text group or just one-on-one. I know they will appreciate listening to this wisdom. Again, LewisHowes.com/830. Again, Herman Melville said, "We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men. And among those fibers, as sympathetic threads, our actions run as causes, and they come back to us as effects." I hope you enjoyed this one. I hope it brings you peace. I hope it helps end some pain and suffering that you have in your life. And is a tool for you to constantly use whenever you feel like you want to react, or whenever you feel like you're in pain, or whenever you feel like you're suffering

• 1:05:42Lewis Howes?

  and you can't get out. Come back to this episode. Come back to this tool. Start applying it in your life and start taking your life to the next level. I love you so very much, and you know what time it is. It's time to go out there and do something great.