366 Failure Is Your Friend with Tony Robbins

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• 0:00Speaker 00

  This is Five Minute Friday.

• 0:10Tony Robbins?

  Failure is part of life. I mean, the difference for me, though, is I look at failure as a stepping stone to success. It's a speed bump. I know I'm gonna fail, but it's not failure if you learn something. And so, gosh, I've made so many mistakes. I've screwed so many things up, but every time I do, it just becomes, it becomes a way for me to explain to someone else what it takes. You know, it's like, here's what I've done. I think I have the ability to influence people because I talk about my failures. I talk about all the things that mess me up, but I show people that didn't let it stop me, and you don't let it stop you. And I think, I think that's really the secret there.

• 0:45Speaker 00

  And if everything you touched was successful, you probably wouldn't be able to relate to people as much.

• 0:48Tony Robbins?

  No, you wouldn't be able to relate, and also, it'd be total bullshit, and everyone would know it's bullshit. And also, you'd be bored silly. I mean, think about it. If you just said, "I want this to happen. I want this to happen," you know, people don't value what they don't fight for. You know, it's like, you see kids sometimes, you know, your parents will say, "You're not gonna value this if you don't work for it." And your kid will be going, "Oh, I'll value it. Just give it to me." But it's true. You know, the things we've worked the hardest for, we value the most. So I think, you know, the purpose of the goal is not getting it anyway. The purpose of the goal, you know, is who you become. Who you become is gonna make you happier, it's gonna make you sad. So I'm not looking for an effortless approach. There's no such thing. The most important decision of your life is deciding whether you're truly committed

• 1:31Tony Robbins?

  to being happy no matter what. Because life is gonna throw all kinds of curveballs at all of us. There's the one thing that's in common in this lifetime is extreme stress. You're gonna experience it if you haven't already, and even if you have, you will in the future. I like this positive thinking. But it's just true. Someone you're gonna care about's gonna die. Someone's gonna take advantage financially if you're not careful. You're gonna find yourself in a position, the government might change the rules, and you can't do what you're doing before. Somebody call, like I've gotten a call saying, "You got a tumor in your brain." Those days alter you. And if you decide that you're gonna live in a beautiful state of mind, that doesn't just mean happy. It means... Uh, people say, oh, you know, I'm committed to be happy, but my wife left me. Well, then you're not committed to being happy. You're committed to be happy unless your wife leaves you.

• 2:15Tony Robbins?

  And you can't control that. You can certainly influence it, but you can't control it. Or I'm gonna be happy, except my friend died. Your friends are gonna die. Your family gonna die. So the greatest gift you could give yourself besides making this life about love and making this life about giving, because to give, you have to keep growing, is, I believe, to make that decision and say, life is too short to suffer. And most achievers, like you and I, we never use the word suffering, but we get stressed, we get pissed, we get overwhelmed. Some people get sad or depressed, and those are all forms of suffering. And all, your entire life, you live in one of two states, states of suffering or beautiful states of being. In beautiful states of being, it doesn't matter what happens, um, you're gonna find something to enjoy and appreciate.

• 3:00Tony Robbins?

  And, you know, you know, I've interviewed people, I'm sure, I'm sure you have, that are born with no arms or legs, or they've been, they've lost their sight, and they're happy. Yes. And then you meet billionaires, or people, families, they got beautiful kids, beautiful husband, beautiful wife, and they get miserable over anything. I really believe you have to make, that's the most important decision of your life, is that no matter what happens, I'm gonna live in that state. And then, you have to do the work, which is, I got a 90-second rule. They get pissed off or frustrated, suffering comes up, it always shows up. But what I decide is, within 90 seconds, I kill it. Because in that suffering state, I'm not gonna be there for my wife or my kids. In that suffering state, if I solve it, I'm gonna be miserable even though I solve it, right?

• 3:42Tony Robbins?

  I, um, I realized I would give away my happiness so easily, because, look, I got 1,200 employees plus, in 18 companies, on multiple continents, in multiple industries. What are the chances that today, somebody's gonna screw up something? Yeah, a big chance. It's 100%. And so, I would be like, oh, I was so happy, and then John did this, or this person, what were they thinking? Or, he opened the door in the middle of the interview, or whatever, there's always something, right? And so, I decided, that's the shit that's gonna happen. That's part of, you know, having multi-billion dollar companies in lots of industries. So, I'm gonna enjoy it. And when something doesn't work out, we'll learn from it, we'll grow. It's all small stuff, right? You don't sweat the small stuff, it's all small stuff.

• 4:26Tony Robbins?

  So, whenever we have our highest experiences of life. Two things are involved. Some form of growth within ourself and some form of contribution beyond ourself.