265 Let Go of Attachment

"When we are fully present, we cannot be attached to the future outcome or the past reality." - Lewis Howes If you enjoyed this episode, check out show notes and more at http://lewishowes.com/265 Get more from Lewis! Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on SpotifyText Lewis AIYouTubeInstagramWebsiteTiktokFacebookX

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  This is Five Minute Friday, episode number 265, and it's time to let go of attachment.

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  Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on. Eckhart Tolle. Letting go is a courageous act of surrender. No matter who you are, you can lose your home, your job, your business, your family, your investments, your spouse, children, your health. Everything and anything can be lost by anyone in any moment. Human life has a lowest common denominator, and we are all subject to it. The greatest equalizer on earth is the fact that our time here in this body is limited. We go about most of our days with a schedule and a plan, and the rhythm of our life is steady, predictable.

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  Most of us seek stability in our relationships, finances, and other foundations of our existence. Sometimes life is so steady that we may start to believe we have it all together and that other people don't. But then something happens to disrupt our illusion of security and privilege, and are once again reminded of the great mystery that this life is. This is why I'm such a huge fan of practicing gratitude, so that I may never take any of this for granted. When you let go of something you're holding on to, you make room for your destiny to move in. When you let go, you must have faith. Have faith in the process.

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  Trust that you're going to a place you are meant for. A place that might not make sense now, but will make plenty of sense later. You will see that because this happened, that happened. And the order of it all, no matter how painful or beautiful, was exactly what it needed to be. The opposite of letting go is holding on, also known as attachment. Many of us get love confused with attachment. Yasmin Mogahed said, "Love without attachment is the purest love, because it isn't about what others can give you because you're empty. It is about what you can give others because you're already full." Love and fear cannot coexist.

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  When we are fully present, we cannot be attached to the future outcome or the past reality. Full presence is true love. Attachment has to do with thinking in the future and the past. Love is in the here and the now. Attachment is having expectations. Love is gratitude for this moment together. We attach to people because we fear that they are going to leave, that they will get sick and die one day, that we will be left alone. We are attached to our job because we fear that if we lose it, we won't be able to support ourselves and our family. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to have your family healthy and alive. There is nothing wrong in wanting to keep your job in order to support your family.

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  But the key is to accept that it can all come to an end at any time. There is a difference between love and attachment. Love your friends, love your family, love your job, your house, your life, but don't get attached. Love and let go simultaneously. Cherish what you have in every moment. Pain is temporary and suffering is optional. Suffering comes from the story that you make up about the pain. The old Zen parable retold in the children's book Zen Shorts by John Muth speaks to the ways that we hold on to our attachments. Two traveling monks reached a town where there was a young woman waiting to step out of her sedan chair.

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  The rains had made deep puddles and she couldn't step across without spoiling her silken robes. She stood there, looking very cross and impatient. She was scolding her attendants. They had nowhere to place the packages they held for her, so they couldn't help her across the puddle. The younger monk noticed the woman, said nothing, and walked by. The older monk quickly picked her up and put her on his back, transported her across the water, and put her down on the other side. She didn't thank the older monk, she just shoved him out of the way and departed. As they continued on their way, the young monk was brooding and preoccupied. After several hours, unable to hold his silence, he spoke out. "That woman back there was very selfish and rude,

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  but you picked her up on your back and carried her, then she didn't even thank you." The older monk said, "I set the woman down hours ago. Why are you still carrying her? What are you carrying that you could have let down long ago? When will you decide to let go and truly live in the moment? Let go and let good things flow to you and through you. As Buddha said, "In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you." This is Five Minute Friday, episode number 265, all about letting go of attachment.

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  I hope you guys enjoyed this episode, for me, this was a special one. To let go of the things that don't serve me or support me from past pains or future fears. Let go of these things. These things aren't going to support you in your mission of living an amazing life right now. This may not be that easy for some of us, as I know it's challenging for me from time to time, but it's not worth holding on to, the pain or the fear. Let it go. You deserve much better than holding on to that yourself. I hope you guys enjoyed this episode. If you did, please share it with a friend who you may think could use this information, could use this message in inspiration.

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  LewisHowes.com/265. Thank you all so very much. And you guys know what time it is. It's time to go out there and do something great.