882. Q&AF: Finding Like Minded People, Success Without Shame & Overcoming Paralyzing Fear

On today’s episode, Andy answers live call-in questions on how to find like-minded driven people in your success journey, how to feel proud of your progress without feeling guilty, and how to face the fear of rejection, especially when you know it’s the next important step you need to take to win.

Speaker names marked ? are inferred from speaking time and the show’s known hosts — they are not voice-verified.

• 0:16Andy Frisella?

  What is up guys? It's Andy Frisella and this is the show for the realist sake of lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and uh, welcome to motherfucking reality. That's what we're doing. Alright, it is what it is. Fuck you, Madat. No, we can't add more.

• 0:36Andy Frisella?

  You're gonna ruin the show. Sorry. Alright, anyway, today, we have Q and A F. That's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers. Alright, uh, you can submit your questions a couple of different ways. The first way is- Guys, email these questions into [email protected]. Or you go on YouTube in the comments section, ask your question in the comments, or if you want to call in on the show, go to the link right underneath the YouTube video, click that link, fill out your question and uh, you could talk to us live on the show. Maybe, maybe if you don't ask some dumb shit. Alright, but that's how we do it. Now, if you're new, which we're getting a lot of new people right now, welcome. Uh, this isn't the only format of the show. We have shows within the show. Alright, we have

• 1:21Andy Frisella?

  uh, today we have Q and A F. Tomorrow, we have C T I. It stands for Cruz the Internet. That means we're gonna put topics on the screen, we're gonna speculate on what's true, what's not true, and then we're gonna talk about how we the people have to solve these problems going on in the world. Um, it's half comedy, half real stuff, um, all smoke, alright. Then we got real talk, which is a hundred percent all smoke. Uh, and then we have seventy-five hard verses. Seventy-five hard verses where somebody who's completed the seventy-five hard program comes on the show. We talk about how they were a dumpy turd and how they use the 75 hard program to not be so dumpy. All right. They get their stuff together. You get the whole 75 hard live hard program at

• 2:02Andy Frisella?

  episode 208. If you're unfamiliar with live hard, it is the entire year long mental toughness program. It is the most popular mental toughness program ever in history and it's free. You can get the whole thing at episode 208. All right. There's also a book available. The book is called the book on mental toughness. You can get that at andyversella.com. And I also have a big, big drop coming on, I don't know, we'll say right around July 4th, just right around there. So

• 2:33Andy Frisella?

  if you know, you know, right? Now, we don't run ads on the show. Now I know some people in YouTube that are not very smart, say, well, YouTube runs ads in your show. No shit. I can't help that. We don't run ads on the show. I don't pick up products and say, hey, 14 times a show. Okay, we finance the show ourselves. I don't want to answer to anybody. So I ask very simply to help us share the show. All right. We put a lot of time, a lot of effort, a lot of money into delivering these messages. And we would like your help sharing the show. So we got a little thing that we say here. It goes like this. Don't be a hoe.

• 3:10Speaker 01

  Share the show.

• 3:12Andy Frisella?

  So let's, uh, let's do what we gotta do here, man. You know, we make people better on Mondays.

• 3:16Speaker 01

  I was better today.

• 3:18Andy Frisella?

  Huh?

• 3:18Speaker 01

  I got, I got better today. I got to drive a pretty sweet car.

• 3:21Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 3:22Speaker 01

  10 feet.

• 3:22Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. Bro, that's all I trust you to drive it.

• 3:27Speaker 01

  Dude, that fucking car is sick.

• 3:28Andy Frisella?

  You didn't wreck it, did you?

• 3:29Speaker 01

  Fuck no. Come on, man. Come on. I can drive.

• 3:31Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 3:31Speaker 01

  Fuck, that thing is like, it was like DJ go. Like, that's what it was saying.

• 3:35Andy Frisella?

  Oh, yeah.

• 3:35Speaker 01

  Like, I started it up. It was like, let's go.

• 3:37Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, that's what it says.

• 3:38Speaker 01

  Fuck.

• 3:39Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. It's a GT black series. The AMG GT black series.

• 3:43Speaker 01

  It's so sick. It's so sick.

• 3:45Andy Frisella?

  Dude, I love that car too, man.

• 3:46Speaker 01

  Yeah. It's just, dude, I was holding the brake more than a guy.

• 3:49Andy Frisella?

  I've almost sold it. I've almost sold it a couple of times and traded in for the new 3RS. But.

• 3:56Andy Frisella?

  I think it's, I don't know, man. Like, I like it better.

• 3:58Speaker 01

  Dude, it's nasty.

• 3:59Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 3:59Speaker 01

  It's nasty. That's a, that's a beast.

• 4:01Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 4:01Speaker 01

  That is a beast. But yeah, man, let's get to, uh, let's get to making some other people the better, better today. Uh, we got some good ones for you guys, as always.

• 4:08Andy Frisella?

  We starting off with a call in or a right here?

• 4:10Speaker 01

  Do a call first, man. I got, uh, got my man Jeremy waiting. Uh, so let's, uh, let's give Jeremy a call.

• 4:29Speaker 02

  Hello?

• 4:30Speaker 01

  Jeremy, what's up, dude?

• 4:32Speaker 02

  Hey, how's it going?

• 4:34Speaker 01

  What's going on, man? What's up, Jeremy? How you doing, bro?

• 4:38Speaker 02

  Doing good, doing good. We're, uh, getting some cars ready for the local car show tonight.

• 4:44Speaker 01

  Where at?

• 4:45Speaker 02

  Uh, we're in Oregon, Fio, little tiny town.

• 4:49Speaker 01

  There we go.

• 4:49Speaker 02

  Um, they shut down the main street and, yeah, so I ain't got nothing cool like you, but I got some, uh, old Chevy Blazer and a C10 that I'm taking down there.

• 5:00Speaker 01

  Bro, that's, that's cool. I don't know what you're talking about. Yeah.

• 5:05Speaker 01

  So what else could be?

• 5:06Speaker 02

  Yeah, no, uh.

• 5:08Speaker 01

  Go ahead.

• 5:08Speaker 02

  Oh, go ahead. Well, as I say, I just, uh, yeah, I enjoy seeing your cars. That's, uh, inspiration for me. I'm definitely into, uh, the cars and the motivation that way. It definitely helps.

• 5:21Speaker 01

  Yeah, you know, a lot of people don't realize how motivational, um, and aspirational cars are for people that love them, you know?

• 5:28Speaker 02

  Yeah, yeah.

• 5:30Speaker 01

  Sweet, man. With Jeremy, what we got?

• 5:31Speaker 02

  It's always cool seeing your stuff. Um, so I guess, um, my, uh, my struggles per se would be in the, um, making relationships with like-minded people on the same, same path or, or even just finding those people, um.

• 5:53Speaker 02

  I grew up and kinda came really uh independent early on um grew up with divorced parents and my dad was not a great role model so um

• 6:07Speaker 02

  throughout that I had to kinda grow up young and uh got really hard to trust people and to you know give people the chance you know and then getting getting kinda burned a few times and it just made it harder and so I guess looking for input that way.

• 6:26Andy Frisella?

  Alright, so uh it's real simple. That's called fucking life, bro. Like uh you know, I grew up the same way, dude. Like my parents been divorced since I was five years old. Uh I've been fucked over by every single motherfucker I've ever met in my life with the exception of like ten. Okay, uh the world sucks most of the time. That's why it's important that we have to live to a high standard. And here's the thing, uh you don't need anybody to trust or believe in you or support you to do what it is you're you're wanting you're wanting to do. So uh and the quicker that you build yourself into a person who is doing things,

• 7:09Andy Frisella?

  the the quicker you're gonna find other people that are aligned with that, right? Nobody that's actually doing things out there at a high level wants to waste their energy or time with someone who's not. So this is a common struggle with a a a lot of people who are trying to level up their their networks and when you're trying to level up your networks, it's important that it's very clear. You may not have the result, but you're doing everything you can to live at that standard, you know, behave like them, act like them, be ambitious, be somebody who attacks, be somebody who's aggressive, be somebody who is looking to provide value to the people around them, not just take value.

• 7:54Andy Frisella?

  And those efforts are recognized by friend circles and peer circles that we would say are more down the road of the success journey that you might be right now. So I'm not saying you have to go out and produce the result, uh that always helps. But what I've found, and I've had this happen to me many times, is that people who were above me In the, in the success journey, we're able to recognize that, man, this guy's hustling. He's doing everything he can. He's working hard. He cares. Let me see how I can help this kid out. And, you know, I've had a number of those people along the way, uh, you know, come in and then, you know, out of my life as I outgrew those people. So we have to understand, dude,

• 8:39Andy Frisella?

  that like, very few friendships are permanent. Uh, many of them serve a point in our lives, and then when they no longer serve either party, people grow apart. Uh, this happens in, in friendships. This happens in relationships. Uh, that's a normal part of life. A lot of people are wired to think about what they can get, not what they can give, and those people never win long-term. And I know that it's difficult, and I know it feels lonely, but the reason it feels lonely is because it's rare. And you have ambition, you have drive, you have the want and the will to do bigger things, and not everybody has that, man. So when you have that, it's going to make you feel like you're alone. It's going to make you feel

• 9:22Andy Frisella?

  like you're the only one. But you're not the only one. There's lots of people like that. And the quickest way for you to become surrounded by that, you know, is basically twofold. One, make sure that you're putting the effort in, uh, and living the lifestyle of a person that would be at that level. And two, make an intentional effort to be around those people. You know, this is one of the reasons that Arate is such a successful program, uh, for entrepreneurs, is because people have a hard time connecting with other people that are ambitious, have drive, have focus, don't want to live the average Joe life. And so they join groups, you know, and there's other ones too. This isn't a pitch

• 10:06Andy Frisella?

  for Arate. It makes no difference to me. Um, but they join these groups intentionally so that they can be surrounded by people like that. But I will tell you that even in those groups where people pay to be a part, you are still going to have people that want to take. You are still going to have people who are there for them not to, to contribute. And so you just have to have, you have to develop more of a filter for understanding what someone's real, actual motivation is, uh, very quickly. And that will reduce the amount of heartbreak that you have, you know, because when you're a good person and you give people the benefit of the doubt. And then they end up burning you, you know, and that happens dozens of times, man. It does start to wear you out, you know, and uh,

• 10:52Andy Frisella?

  I've struggled with this myself because like dude, I try to help everybody around me. I try to help everybody be successful. I tend to take everybody's problems and put them on my fucking back, which is very difficult and uh, it's why I think I'm a, I'm a, I've been an effective leader. I won't even say a good leader because I'm in a, I'm in the process of becoming a better leader every single day. But uh, you know, bro, it's just a hard thing and you know, good comes with the bad. So when you have this want and this will and this desire to help people and you put their problems on your back to fix, a lot of times those people won't reciprocate and that's just reality.

• 11:37Andy Frisella?

  So we have to become more finely tuned, but here's what I'll say. Out of all the times that I've been fucked over,

• 11:45Andy Frisella?

  there's been way more times where I've developed great relationships and done good things and had great times and built, uh, you know, good friendships. And it's worth being that way. It's worth being that way, even with the, the times you're going to get fucked with. So um, bro, I, I just, you know, you gotta understand the nature of the world, you know, the, the, the world isn't what we want it to be. It's what it is. And uh, we have to, we have to realize that being a good person, trying to contribute, trying to do the right thing is not always reciprocated, man. And that's just called fucking human nature. You know what I'm saying?

• 12:25Speaker 02

  Yeah, and I think, I mean, that's, I mean, I, I've been listening to you for five years now. A buddy of mine turned me on to you and it, it really validated a lot of honestly how I felt for a long time. But you know, just feeling kind of like held down, you know, from people around me in a sense. And um, since then, you know, I have had a big change and I, you know, during COVID, I left my job that I was at. I started getting told to put a mask on and got my construction license and just been doing my own thing. And it's been, it's been good, but it's been very challenging because I feel like it's, you know, the higher standards you start putting yourself to, the more like, it seems like you have a target on your back because everyone's like now, oh, you think you're better than us or this or that and the other. And um, honestly been dealing it mostly in, in family and wow.

• 13:10Andy Frisella?

  Well, brother, you are better.

• 13:14Andy Frisella?

  Just own it. Like, the quickest way to get over that shit is when they say, "Oh, you think you're better?" Just fucking be like, "Yeah." Yeah, like, that's, that's what I do.

• 13:25Speaker 02

  It's pretty quick.

• 13:26Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, and then I, and then I don't deal with the shit anymore because they can't say it again. And whether I believe it or not, they perceive me to think that I'm better. And no matter what I say, no matter how I argue, no matter how I try to convey to them, like, "Hey, motherfucker, I don't think I'm better than you. I've just chosen a different path." I would just say, "Yeah," because I don't want to waste the time, you know, yes, you're correct. Because I know from my experience that there is, there is no convincing them otherwise. And that is not a problem with you, bro. That's a problem with them, their own limitations, their own regrets about how they gave up on themselves. And we have to accept that. And I know it's frustrating, but, bro, that shit is only going to get worse and worse and worse.

• 14:11Andy Frisella?

  And then, once you cross a certain line, once you cross over into, like, undeniable success, those same people are going to be saying, "Man, dude, I knew Jeremy when he was just a young buck and he was getting started." I always believed in him, right? And like, you're gonna fucking laugh and roll your eyes and, you know, it's all gonna come full circle, bro. Like, you just can't, you can't let that weigh you down, dude. Like, like, look, you know, I see this problem all the time, man. I see all these people who let, people who are close to them, or even random strangers on the internet, who aren't doing shit, who are sitting at home with their fucking Cheeto fingers, you know, eating their hot packets in the basement.

• 14:57Andy Frisella?

  They've never built anything, you know, they, the fucking only thing they've ever built is a, is a good set of man titties. Like, these motherfuckers are losers, dude, and they're always gonna be. And it's unfortunate, and I hate to say it that way, but it's just the truth. And winners don't like losers, and losers don't like winners. That's just the nature. That's the nature of human beings. All right, so you're on the path of... Go ahead.

• 15:24Speaker 02

  Well, I was gonna say, like, honestly, I mean, correct, I mean, we've been having some... Just ridiculous family stuff going on and and it's like the people, nobody will be accountable for the truth. Like your choices you make, the actions you do, you know, the choices, like you literally choose to make your own truth. And so many people just won't even, won't even accept their own choices and truth. And then it's like, you're the bad guy.

• 15:46Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, no shit. But that's because you did and they they didn't. And that's always going to be the case, bro. If you want to be like them, fucking go hang out with them and and and listen to their shit. Because that's what the fuck they want. Because then you're not a reminder every single day, every single time, they got to think about somebody from their family who's actually doing something. It reminds them that they haven't done shit with their life, bro. And you're exactly right. The result of one's life is a choice, whether it's a voluntary choice or involuntary choice. Most people think that the only time that life is a result of their actions is when they do the right things. And they fail to recognize that the passive choices they make, when they're not engaged in trying to

• 16:29Andy Frisella?

  be better, they create the opposite result. And so you are correct. They do choose it. But they will never admit that, bro. And you will spend your entire life trying to get those people to see it. And they will never see it. So my advice to you, brother, is to understand, you are on a different fucking path. They will never get it. They will never clap. They will never cheer until it's so undeniable that you are winning. And then they'll come back around. But they'll only come back around because they think they can get something from you. Okay, or they think, or, or they think they can like get clout by saying, oh, yeah, Jeremy's my homie.

• 17:12Speaker 01

  That's my nephew.

• 17:12Andy Frisella?

  Right, exactly. So like, bro, listen, just because someone's related to you doesn't make them your people. And that's the point. All right. That's right. That fucking sucks. Like, I know it sucks, bro. It hurts. It's not fun. But it's reality.

• 17:30Speaker 02

  Yeah, no, I got told I was a horrible person and that my kids were gonna hate me and all this stuff. Literally yesterday, I had to kick my mother-in-law and her husband out of my house because they were just completely disrespecting my wife and tearing her down and seeing what she was, you know, what was happening to my wife. I was like, you need, you need to leave. Like, I'm not, I'm not gonna sit here and let this happen, you know. And then, of course, it's just like, you're such a horrible person and...

• 17:51Andy Frisella?

  Hey, that's, that's the right fucking thing to do, bro. You don't want that negative influence around your kids. You don't need to hear it. Your kids are not gonna fucking hate you. They're gonna be proud of you for doing what's required, as long as you explain to them along the way, like, hey, guys, I'm doing this because of this and this and this. And yes, I might miss, I might miss baseball one time. I might miss soccer one time, but I'm trying to create a life so that you guys can have, you know, can play soccer and, you know, like these, as long as you explain it along the way, they're gonna fucking respect you for it. And good for you for being man enough to kick those motherfuckers out of your house, bro, because most people will just eat it.

• 18:32Speaker 02

  Oh, man, it was, yeah, I mean, between trying not to explode and just become part of the problem and just like, no, we're just not doing this, you know, and...

• 18:43Speaker 02

  But yeah, being, you know,

• 18:44Andy Frisella?

  Jeremy.

• 18:45Speaker 02

  Being a dad, it's, it's tough.

• 18:47Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, well, listen, that's the toughest path you could ever pick, uh, take in your life, is being an entrepreneur. And I'm sure being a dad on top of it makes it even that harder. So, uh, it's gonna be tough. That's it.

• 19:01Speaker 02

  No, it's tough, but it's so rewarding, you know, I mean, that's what I always tell people, like, you know, like, for me, like, we've got friends that, you know, I've turned them on to listening to you and, you know, got them going to church and stuff that just, you know, it's better in their lives than watching, watching things change. And it's, it's awesome. And then it's just like, when you get the people to come and they just wanna kick you all, you know, all they can and try to make life hell. And it's just like, I don't have time for that. But, you know,

• 19:24Andy Frisella?

  You don't.

• 19:24Speaker 02

  When it's family and trying to explain that, you know, it's like, my kids understand, like, we're, I told my wife, the only thing we can do is just give them as much of the truth as, as we can really give them without, you know, making it more than it needs to be to them.

• 19:37Andy Frisella?

  Right.

• 19:37Speaker 02

  But, you know, they're, they're pretty receptive. I mean, our kid, well, it's my middle daughter's birthday today. She just turned eight today. So, we're, uh, celebrating that too. But yeah, no, it's, uh...

• 19:49Speaker 02

  A tough one. I, you know, I always told people like not really having the parents, you know, that I would have hoped when I grew up, but trying to be that person now.

• 19:58Andy Frisella?

  That's your job. Your job is to give them the life that you didn't have that you needed. Okay. Not, there's not a motherfucker in this room that grew up with a fucking perfect family. Sitting, I'm sitting with five other guys.

• 20:10Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 20:11Andy Frisella?

  I could tell you a fucking story about every single one of them and myself and probably 98% of the people that work in this building. So don't fucking feel sorry for yourself. That white picket fence.

• 20:23Speaker 02

  No, no.

• 20:23Andy Frisella?

  Listen to me. That white picket fence, fucking perfect family shit. That's a lie. Very few people have it. So you can't say, oh, well, I had, didn't have this or that. Yeah, you and everybody else, bro. Like, it, you know, like, it's your, you have an opportunity to fucking do the right thing. You learn your lesson. It's like what they say about people who, you know, are close to like a drug addict. Like, I got a, I got a cousin.

• 20:51Andy Frisella?

  A distant cousin who his dad is a fucking alcoholic and he's never drank before. And, you know, that, it's like they say, like, when you have an example.

• 21:03Speaker 02

  You choose to be like them or against them.

• 21:05Andy Frisella?

  That's right. And you're choosing the right path, man. And you should be proud of that.

• 21:10Speaker 02

  Yeah. No, and I, you know, I think, honestly, talking to you, I mean, I'm super thankful to get to talk to you. It's a, like, kind of helps validate your feelings when you feel like you're just fighting against the world that you don't have many people sitting behind you at this time, you know, because I'm, I'm early on into all this and, and being that we're obviously on a different path than most of our family. And it's just, like you said, it feels lonely at times and, you know, getting to talk to like, I've looked up to you like as a mentor, you know, it's like,

• 21:38Speaker 02

  I told my wife, I was like, yo, Angie and DJ are doing a, a call-ins now. And she's like, oh my gosh, I don't think I could ever do that. And I was like, well, I sent in a question. And so getting to talk to you, I mean, it's just awesome. You know, like, like I said, I really appreciate it. Like, it helps, helps understand that I'm, you know, if I'm not just losing my mind, you know, like, why is this, why is this so hard, you know?

• 21:58Andy Frisella?

  You're not, bro. You're not. You're on the right path, brother. For real.

• 22:03Speaker 02

  Yeah, and that, you know, that's just what like you get people and they oh, you know, you just you think you're better than us or you're this or that and it's like, well, I have I've put in a lot of work to do what I've got, you know, I'm thirty two and this is our fourth house. We've got forty three acres and cows and horses and, you know, giving our kids everything we can give them, you know, and it's like, wow, why can't you get happy for us, you know?

• 22:24Andy Frisella?

  Well, because they're not happy for themselves, bro.

• 22:27Speaker 02

  Right. Yeah. No, and that thing, you know, like I said, that's kind of the validation thing. I've been listening to you and you hear it, you know, and it's like, ah, but then, you know, it's like crazy in the same sense to even just be talking to you. It's like, I feel like, you know, we're worlds away. There's no way I'm ever gonna talk to Andy, but like this, I mean, it's awesome.

• 22:44Andy Frisella?

  Listen, man, I listen, I appreciate you calling in, dude. Uh, you know, I'm just another dude out here trying to do it, too. So I'm a little further down the road. I'm just trying to help you, you younger guys figure it out. I've been through all the shit you're talking about and I'm telling you, bro, I understand and I understand that it sucks, but I promise you it's fucking worth it.

• 23:06Speaker 02

  Yeah.

• 23:06Andy Frisella?

  All right.

• 23:07Speaker 02

  And I appreciate, you know, I appreciate that and, you know, I hope to keep, hopefully I can pass it on to, on to the next generation and keep, keep bettering others and myself, you know, but should be everybody's boy, I hope.

• 23:18Andy Frisella?

  You're already doing that. You're already doing that. Okay. You gotta remember that. You're already doing that. So keep doing it.

• 23:28Speaker 02

  I appreciate it. Appreciate it.

• 23:30Speaker 01

  All right, Jeremy, we'll see you, brother. Appreciate you.

• 23:33Speaker 02

  Yeah, thank you, guys.

• 23:35Andy Frisella?

  You're welcome, bro. Thank you.

• 23:37Speaker 02

  All right, have a good one.

• 23:38Andy Frisella?

  You, too.

• 23:40Speaker 01

  I love that, dude.

• 23:41Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. I mean, look, dude, that's a common trait that like, it's a common problem that anybody that chooses a different path outside the norm is gonna deal with.

• 23:51Speaker 01

  Which is most people.

• 23:52Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, of course, bro. Like, no, most people just choose to do like everybody else. And anytime you choose differently, you're gonna get that shit. Like, that's just normal. And the other thing, like, you guys listening. You know, I hear this all the time, man. My parents got divorced, or my dad was this, or my mom was this, or this or that. Yeah, bro, like fucking everybody.

• 24:14Speaker 01

  Most people?

• 24:15Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. Like, fuck dude, everybody's got shit. Like, what are you gonna do to correct? So like, your kids and other people don't have to deal with the same shit? Like?

• 24:25Speaker 01

  You know, you know what I thought about too, bro? Cause like, you know, I look at it this way too.

• 24:29Andy Frisella?

  And like, well, hold on. By the way, that shit is the reason that you're on the path you're on. Like, it's nobody, I've never met someone who's self-made that comes from a cush situation. The reason that they are fucking doing what they do is because they've had to crawl out of fucking darkness in some way, shape, or form. It might not be the same as yours, but there's something there that they had to fucking crawl the fuck out of. And they, they hated it so fucking much that they were willing to do anything to get as far away from it as possible. And that's just, so we can't sit here and look at people who have these cush upbringings

• 25:09Andy Frisella?

  and all these advantages and all this shit and say, oh, well, they got lucky. No, motherfucker, you got lucky. Because those motherfuckers never had to learn how to fight. They never had to learn how to crawl through the shit. They never had to learn how to fucking take blows and get the fuck back up. You did. And that's an advantage. You got lucky. They didn't get fucking lucky. Like dude.

• 25:29Speaker 01

  That's real, bro.

• 25:30Andy Frisella?

  It is real. And it's, it is real. And dude, people think like, oh, man, that guy had everything. He got lucky. No, dude, he's handicapped for life now. You learned all these skills. You learned all these, these, these character traits. You built all this shit inside of you, this grit, this fortitude. All the things that make people successful, you had to have. They didn't. And that's a huge advantage. When you meet someone like that in the battlefield, bro, you fucking destroy them because they don't have those skills. They never had to develop them.

• 26:02Speaker 01

  Yeah. I look at it like this too. It's like, you know, all the negative shit people will say when you're trying to go down that path and do good shit, just wait to, wait, wait to hear what they say when you don't do shit with your life.

• 26:13Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 26:14Speaker 01

  See what they say then.

• 26:15Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, that's right.

• 26:16Speaker 01

  You know what I'm saying?

• 26:16Andy Frisella?

  That's right.

• 26:18Speaker 01

  You be 40 years old, you ain't did shit.

• 26:19Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, that's right, bro.

• 26:20Speaker 01

  They go talk shit on that too.

• 26:21Andy Frisella?

  And more importantly, what are you gonna think?

• 26:23Speaker 01

  Right.

• 26:24Andy Frisella?

  At 40 years old?

• 26:24Speaker 01

  Right.

• 26:25Andy Frisella?

  If you don't do shit, and you're gonna think, God, dude, I listened to all these fucking losers and now look what I got to show for it.

• 26:33Speaker 01

  It's real shit.

• 26:33Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 26:34Speaker 01

  That's real, man. Guys, let's uh, let's get our next, uh, next question. This is a write-in question. Let's talk about it, guys. Andy, question number two. Andy,

• 26:44Speaker 01

  even when I achieve something, I instantly look for the next mountain. I dismiss compliments, downplay success, and hold myself to standards I'd never apply to anyone else. I don't know if I was raised this way or just became this way, but I want to feel pride without shame. How do I allow myself to be proud without feeling like I'm being arrogant or weak?

• 27:10Andy Frisella?

  What do you mean?

• 27:10Speaker 01

  A little gratitude, I guess.

• 27:12Andy Frisella?

  I, I don't understand. You did the work. You built the shit. Be proud of it. What are you talking about? It's very fucking simple. Why the fuck do you give a shit what that person over there thinks about what you did? Were they there when you were grinding it out? Were they there when you were? You know, everybody likes to talk about how lucky someone got, you know? Like I just said a minute ago, that's the, that's the wrong perspective. None of these motherfuckers that ever criticized me spent a day in the fucking store with me my entire life. I spent fucking years. None of them ever came and helped me do anything. None of them were there when I was struggling. None of them were there when I wanted to kill myself because shit was so hard.

• 27:55Andy Frisella?

  None of them. So I don't fucking care what they think about me driving a fucking Bugatti to work. Or my other one to work. I don't fucking care. I don't care.

• 28:05Speaker 01

  Yeah, bro.

• 28:06Andy Frisella?

  I don't care. You weren't there during the hard times. You have nothing to say to me that can take me away or, or make me feel less proud of what I've done. I've changed, fuck dude, I don't even know how many lives with 75 hard and what we do with our companies. And I have things to be proud of and no one can take that from me. No one's gonna shame me out of it. No one's gonna make me feel bad about it. I did what they chose not to do. They could have came and done something similar with me. They didn't. So I don't give a shit. And you need to get, you need to get a little more of that energy, bro. Were, were they there to help you do any of this? Were they there to help you pull through the mud? Were they there to, you know, console you when you didn't have anybody? Clearly not.

• 28:50Andy Frisella?

  So why do you care what they say now that you're doing better?

• 28:55Andy Frisella?

  I don't.

• 28:56Speaker 01

  Yeah, for sure. I mean, well, I mean, you also talk about this too. It's like, because I feel like there's a little nuance in the sense of like, I guess, just being hard on yourself, not allowing yourself to be proud of the shit that you did. You know what I'm saying? When you're always moving that goalpost, setting the next fucking, that milestone that you're, you're, you're reaching, and when your goals are so fucking big, how do you make sure that, like, to, to be proud in those moments when you do get those wins?

• 29:18Andy Frisella?

  Well, I mean, dude, you have to acknowledge how far you came. Yeah, I mean, you said it. It's gratitude. You take inventory. Look, man, it's, you can take inventory and acknowledge how far you've come, and still be hungry for much more. You know, like, and that's why you want to take a dedicated amount of time to, like, every day to say, hey, man, you know, it's a tough day, didn't do what I wanted to do, but look, I've come pretty far so far, you know, and, yeah, it's very simple, man.

• 29:48Speaker 01

  People get caught up in fucking spending too much time in that reflection, the reflection zone. You know what I'm saying? All the shit that they did. Do you see that?

• 29:56Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, man, because that's like the victim therapy culture we deal with now. You know, they got all this shit pumping out in everybody's brain, telling them they're broken and they need therapy and they have trauma, and they fucking need to journal seven hours a day and have this morning routine and do all this shit. And like, it makes everybody think they're fucked up, you know, like, when you're an entrepreneur and you're trying to build shit, it's just fucking hard. Yeah, and you know what? You kind of have to be fucked up to be any good at it. You know what I mean? You kind of have to be, have something to prove. You kind of have to be a little insecure. You kind of have to have those things. Those are the fuels that drive people, okay? And the reality is, is the world benefits from that. So how can you say that's bad? You know what I mean? Like, we have to-

• 30:39Speaker 01

  People are eating because of that.

• 30:40Andy Frisella?

  Yes, we have to understand that the shit that's written for everybody else is not written for entrepreneurs. All these things, you know, the mental health and this and that and fucking this. Bro, that's written for people who-

• 30:55Andy Frisella?

  They don't have the fucking darkness and they don't know how to fucking leverage it to be better. You know, they they're they're feeling sorry for themselves. They're making excuses. They know they haven't done what they're supposed to do, but then they make, you know, uh, some sort of justification or philosophy that is really just a, you know, I didn't do it excuse, dressed up in a nice outfit, you know, and a comfy little bed and some frills and shit like it's, it's bullshit. Okay. Like motherfucker entrepreneurship and building success is hard as fuck. It's hard. It's hard. It's never gonna be easy. You're always gonna feel like you're fucked up. You're always gonna feel like you're behind. You're always gonna feel like, you know,

• 31:36Andy Frisella?

  maybe I'm not any good at this, but dude, if you keep showing up and you keep executing, you keep doing what you're supposed to do, the results will sprout and you will gain a little bit more confidence. But dude, even when you gain more confidence, you'll be at a new level. And when you're at a new level, guess what happens? All the same shit happens again. You doubt, you question, you're insecure, you push harder, you go to the next, just a repetitive cycle, dude. It's a hard life, but many, many, many people benefit from it. So it's something to be proud of. It doesn't mean you're fucked up. It doesn't mean you have to rid yourself of that. When you rid yourself of all that shit, you rid yourself of your fuel. All right. And when you rid yourself of your fuel, the growth stops. When the growth stops, people starve. What's worse? You being a little crazy or motherfuckers starving?

• 32:18Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 32:19Andy Frisella?

  You know what I'm saying? Like,

• 32:20Speaker 01

  Well, you put it like that.

• 32:21Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. Like shit, man.

• 32:24Speaker 01

  Yeah, man.

• 32:25Andy Frisella?

  I do. We've like, we've grown. This culture has changed from, you know, like when I'm just glad I grew up when I did because the culture is so different, like entrepreneurs, successful people, people with drive hustle, grit, fortitude, tough motherfuckers that refuse to quit were celebrated. They were, you were told this is how you should be.

• 32:47Speaker 01

  Noble.

• 32:48Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. Now we have the opposite. Those people are fucked up. Well, who's telling you you're fucked up? A bunch of nerds with a fucking four-letter degree that haven't done shit and sit in their living room with fucking house slippers on and take notes about what fuck they think is wrong with you. The fuck out of here. Go build some shit. You'll be happy.

• 33:08Speaker 01

  I love it, man. I love it. Let's get another call in. Yeah, man. Let's get another caller. We got, uh, we got Josh.

• 33:16Andy Frisella?

  I like these names. Josh. Yeah, Josh. Josh sounds like a cool guy. Yeah. I know a few cool Josh's. Yeah, I do too. Yeah, just joshing around. Yeah. Alright, let's go. Let's go.

• 33:28Andy Frisella?

  Here we go, Josh. Let's keep the comedy to the CTIs, brother.

• 33:35Speaker 02

  Hello?

• 33:36Andy Frisella?

  Hey, is this Josh?

• 33:39Speaker 02

  Yes, sir. What's up, DJ?

• 33:40Andy Frisella?

  Oh damn, how'd you know it was me? Because you sound like DJ. Josh, what's up, bro?

• 33:47Speaker 02

  I'm blessed, brother. How are you?

• 33:48Andy Frisella?

  I'm doing great, man. I'm, uh, just sitting here with the boys, taking some calls, trying to help some people, you know, maybe, uh, you know, listening to a few DJ shitty jokes. I'll try. You know, and, uh...

• 34:03Andy Frisella?

  What's up with you, brother? Where you at?

• 34:06Speaker 02

  I'm in, uh, SoCal.

• 34:08Andy Frisella?

  Okay, cool, cool. What business are you in?

• 34:11Speaker 02

  Uh, the gym business. I own, I own two gyms.

• 34:14Andy Frisella?

  Okay, cool, man. How long you been doing it?

• 34:18Speaker 02

  Uh, I got into the business at eighteen years old, fresh out of high school. Um, as an employee and quickly became manager and then, uh, took over ownership, uh, about three years in it at twenty-one. I'm twenty-five now.

• 34:30Andy Frisella?

  That's amazing, dude. Damn. That's awesome. So, uh, what, what, what do you think I can help you with, man?

• 34:37Speaker 02

  Yeah, so, honestly, brother, I gotta, I got a lot on my chest, but I'll start off by, uh, reading you the question I submitted in two-hundred-and-fifty characters and then I guess we'll go from there. So, um, uh, my question says that I typed in and submitted, it says, "Twenty-five years old, I own two gyms. After three and a half years," it's really four, "but after four years of working for free, I am now profitable. I need to pass out flyers, but I fear rejection outside of my own gym doors. How do I overcome this paralyzing fear?"

• 35:14Andy Frisella?

  Well, look, man, let me ask you this.

• 35:18Andy Frisella?

  Do you actually make people better at your gym?

• 35:22Speaker 03

  Yes, yes. The growth has been all referral based stuff of the incredible transformations and and service and throughout the years of being unprofitable, I had, you know, in my spurts where I'd have to let a couple of people go and be there seven days a week for a year and a half and then bring trainers on and I I'm there six to seven days a week and I treat everybody amazing and the transformations and the results are there and that's why I get so many referrals. But at the end of the day with my overhead and my rent and all my expenses, that's not enough and I've known that's not enough since day one to actually profit and live the life that I want to live.

• 35:57Andy Frisella?

  Hold on. We're gonna get to that in a second. But you believe that Josh cares enough to actually help people get results? Yes?

• 36:08Speaker 03

  Yes, 100%.

• 36:09Andy Frisella?

  Okay. If you

• 36:11Speaker 03

  I'm very passionate about what I do.

• 36:12Andy Frisella?

  Okay, so if that's the case, then you should have zero discomfort trying to help people out on the street and talking to them and offering them your services or at least making them aware because you actually do care and you're not just trying to sell them some bullshit and you actually are gonna help them get results. And if they do reject you, which lots of people will, that's okay because the the 20%, the the two out of 10 that are gonna talk to you, you're gonna build relationships with them and you're gonna change their motherfucking lives. Okay, so you can't puss out because the eight people are not gonna fucking want to hear it. You gotta show up

• 36:54Andy Frisella?

  for the two that are gonna change their fucking lives. Alright, so that's the first thing. Now let's let's get into this other thing about the profitability. Go ahead and talk about that.

• 37:04Speaker 03

  Well, on that note, when it comes to, when it comes to that, like, I I I agree. I agree. There's there's something in my brain where where I'm like, alright, I have, I run both locations, all their operations by myself. All the employees are the trainers. I have eight employees right now, but I'm running the operations and I look at myself and I say, what would be the best thing to do right now to grow and generate revenue? And the answer is walk out because I chose the location next to a big retailer for this purpose. And walk out and and bring clients in and sign them up and change their lives so they bring in referrals and we grow. But my brain, I fucking do other shit. I grabbed the flyers and I walked to the door and then and then I end up doing something else. I have something

• 37:45Speaker 03

  deep down that keeps holding me back. And I know the answer is because I've listened to you since 2017. You've said this shit a hundred times.

• 37:52Andy Frisella?

  What's the answer?

• 37:53Speaker 03

  Go fucking do it. Don't be a pussy. Go to the grocery store and talk to every, go, go to the grocery store and talk to every person in there. And don't leave till you talk to every person in there. And I know these things. I've been listening to you since I was 16 years old. But my fucking brain, I, I puss out and, and I know the answer. That's the problem is you could have cut off the MFCEO project six episodes in. You already said everything that needed to be said. The problem with, with the un- on purpose, we don't listen.

• 38:15Andy Frisella?

  You want me to come out there, kick you out the fucking door, bro? Like I will come out there and I will kick your ass out the door and I will not let you back in your own fucking gym until you bring at least two more people. Like, bro, listen to me. You have to do this and, and here's an important thing. It's not just about growing your gym. It's about growing your skill set. Okay? People are going to reject you up and down the path. It's going to happen for the next 25 years until you're so big that everybody's coming to you and you get to pick and choose. All right? That's where I'm at now. There's nobody that brings me anything where I don't pick and choose. I'm not asking for anything. Um, and it's very, it's really fucking nice. It's really nice.

• 38:58Andy Frisella?

  But it didn't get that way until I was willing to go down the path for, you know, 15 years of getting told to eat shit. And learning how to handle people telling you to eat shit is a massive skill set because most people can't do it. So this is, yeah, bro. So like, look, man. You're building this up to be worse than it's going to be. All right? There's lots of things that can help you.

• 39:23Speaker 03

  I agree.

• 39:23Andy Frisella?

  If people are going to be rude. Be nice back. You know what I'm saying? Well, I hope you have a great day, brother. Like, sorry to bother you. You know, just be polite back when they're rude. And a lot of times, you know, just like when they walk in your gym or, you know, you go in somewhere. Like you've had a bad day, your fucking dog died or some shit happened. You, you, there, there's a book called The Four Agreements and one of the main four agreements is don't take anything personally. And that really helped me realize, like, their reactions are not my control. I, if I go at it with the right intent and my intent is to actually help them, then I'm doing what I can do and maybe I present it wrong at first,

• 40:04Andy Frisella?

  but eventually I learn how to present it better so that it converts higher and it produces a better result. But ultimately, dude, this isn't about you just bringing people in the gym. This is more about you building the, the, the tenacious relentless ability to talk to people because dude, I'm going to tell you this and this is very important. The more, and this is really important for the business that you're in, because people are never going to stop working out. But the more that technology infiltrates our society, the more valuable intercommunication skills are going to be. All right? And you're 25 years old, dude. You grew up on a fucking phone. You grew up with technology.

• 40:50Andy Frisella?

  So it is a little bit harder for you because it's abnormal for someone of your age to do what I'm telling you to go do. But I'm going to tell you, dude, and this is real shit. That skill is going to become so rare that it becomes extremely valuable. And why it's going to be valuable to you is going to be because the way that your gym is going to scale and grow is going to be by you building community around your gym. And you could only build community with other human beings if you are great at dealing with other human beings. So when you tie all of this together, this is practice for you, bro. This is, this is reps. This is what you have to do. And if you don't do it, you're just not going to be a successful.

• 41:35Andy Frisella?

  You could be not even close.

• 41:37Speaker 03

  I agree.

• 41:38Andy Frisella?

  So you know, I know you know this, but dude, you know, when you're getting ready to walk out that door and you start to get that fucking, you know, like that, that bitch voice is in your head. It's like, fuck, like, bro, just walk right through it. Just keep walking and just go do it. And you're going to find out, bro, after the first time or third time you get rejected, it's not even a big deal. It's not a big deal.

• 42:00Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 42:00Andy Frisella?

  And let me tell you something else. Do you, do you, are you married?

• 42:05Speaker 03

  Brother, I've been with my girl since I was 16. I've done a lot of things right in my life. This is the only one thing that fucking eats me alive every day.

• 42:12Andy Frisella?

  Okay.

• 42:13Speaker 03

  Yeah, we're married. I'm married. My first, one for one, bro. Since we were 16.

• 42:17Andy Frisella?

  Okay. Well, I was gonna say, for most men in your situation, they, they usually aren't married. And your ability to talk to people is going to dictate the quality of the, of the, of the mate that you attract. So this is, this, this, this translates into, in all areas of life. So, uh, while that doesn't apply to you, it's important for the other young men and young people to hear. So dude, you, you've just got to force your way through it, man. And once you go through it once or twice, it, it's gonna, it's like the first time you walked into a gym, bro. The first time you walked into a gym, you were shitting your pants. I know you were because I was too. And so was everybody else. It's very uncomfortable. But, once you've done it, you're like, what the fuck was I worried

• 42:59Andy Frisella?

  about? What was I nervous about? And dude, that's, this is just a mental block. And it's gonna take force the first two or three times. And you know why it's eating you, bro? It's because you're letting it linger. If you go take this action fucking today, and you go out there and give out five fucking flyers, even if it's just five, and they all say fuck off, you're gonna realize, holy shit, I've been letting myself get eat up over, over nothing. And it's gonna free you.

• 43:29Speaker 03

  I know that.

• 43:29Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, then go do it.

• 43:31Speaker 03

  I know. I know. That's why I fucking trust you, brother. You've been telling me this for seven years over my phone.

• 43:37Andy Frisella?

  Listen to me. Hang up the fucking phone and go fucking do it. Cause it's gonna make you feel better.

• 43:44Speaker 03

  I agree. I agree. And then at the end of the

• 43:46Andy Frisella?

  Go ahead.

• 43:49Speaker 03

  Um, and, and the part, Andy, if I can just be extra clear, the part that, that I've been torturing myself with is the fact that like, who the, I don't know one person in my fucking life that will work four years for free, seven days a week and, and go through the stress and I've done all the other shit that's so much fucking harder than this.

• 44:07Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 44:07Speaker 03

  But this is the one thing I've let eat me alive. I worked for free for four years and I had chest pains for six months. I thought I was gonna fucking die last year from, oh, from stress, but that one thing that I haven't been doing is the solution to all of my issues, which is why it eats me alive, because it's the obvious answer that I know.

• 44:23Andy Frisella?

  All right, bro. Well, do you want to feel better today? Or do you want this to keep going?

• 44:27Speaker 03

  Yeah, I agree. I agree.

• 44:29Andy Frisella?

  You agree with what? If you already know, what the fuck, man?

• 44:34Andy Frisella?

  Go fucking do it.

• 44:34Speaker 03

  Yeah, well.

• 44:35Andy Frisella?

  Listen, dude.

• 44:36Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 44:36Andy Frisella?

  Dude. Go do it. You're, you've already, like you said, you've already done all this shit. What's the worst that's gonna happen? Some fucking fat fucks gonna tell you? I don't wanna work out today. Yeah, tell them to go eat a fucking hot dog, bro. I don't, like, it doesn't matter. Like, dude, just do it. You're gonna, you're, you're gonna go home and you're gonna be like, fuck, that wasn't that bad. What the fuck? And you're gonna feel lighter, you're gonna feel better, and you're gonna be proud of yourself. You're gonna, and you're probably gonna make fun of yourself. You're gonna be like, what the fuck was I doing? You know, so dude, you got this, bro. Like, you got it, dude. Just go do it. You, you, listen. Just go do it. It'll fix all your shit.

• 45:17Speaker 03

  Yeah, I agree. Yeah, 100%. Well, thank you, man. It sounds like, uh, that, that's all that you need, that, that you need to say, and there's nothing else for me to say at that point, then.

• 45:26Andy Frisella?

  Listen, brother, this will, this will build your courage. Listen, you can't win in business without courage. It's impossible. You can't win without courage. The reason that, you know, all this stuff happened the last four to six years is because most people don't have it. If you want to win in real life, in business, you gotta have courage. And what you need to do is you need to understand that this is an investment in your courage.

• 45:53Andy Frisella?

  That is going to be required for you to level up. It just is. There's gonna be much, much, much harder things than this down the road. I'll give you an example, dude. Like, this isn't the same thing, but it's, it's a similar block that I dealt with. When, when I had my first retail store, I was so scared to open the second store. I was so scared to open the second store. I thought, I knew, I thought people were gonna cheat me. I thought, I thought it wasn't, you know, gonna work. I, I, I had all these things that would go wrong in my head. And guess what? They all happened. Every fucking one of them. But had I not went ahead and did it, even though I was scared, I wouldn't

• 46:37Andy Frisella?

  have, you know, I don't know, we got like 40 stores now. We're opening more, like literally all the time. First form wouldn't exist. None of this shit would have happened, man. You wouldn't even be talking to me. You, you need to pull the trigger, dude, because what it's gonna do is it's gonna free you up and build your courage and allow you to realize you don't have anything to be scared of, dude. You don't have anything to be scared of. Like, it's, it's 100% mental.

• 47:04Andy Frisella?

  And if you don't do it, bro, if you don't do it, you're probably gonna fucking lose in business. That's the truth. And you need to understand that.

• 47:10Speaker 03

  Yeah. Yeah. And keep in mind, when I submitted this question, I went in here knowing that I'm gonna sound fucking retarded. Like, I already knew that. No, no, I knew that. Because, bro, I've been listening to you for seven years. I sound stupid, but I already knew the answer. But I wanted you to shit on me.

• 47:26Andy Frisella?

  Bro, I'm not shitting on you, dude. I'm making you understand. Listen, that, first of all, that's not stupid. That's a real concern. It's a really good question because a lot of people struggle with it.

• 47:39Speaker 01

  Stupid ones are the people that don't ask the shit.

• 47:40Andy Frisella?

  The stupid ones are the people that don't do it and think that they can get around doing that and that they're just gonna be able to ignore that part of their life. Joshua understands this is a big fucking deal. This isn't about the flyers working. This is about overcoming something he's afraid of. That's a big deal. Okay? Like, I know a lot of people are listening. They're like, well, tell them to do this or that or this. Motherfucker, we're not talking about that. We're talking about him getting over a mental block. And you have to learn how to do this because there's gonna be more down the road. All right? So, dude, this is not stupid. You're not stupid. I, I'm not shitting on you. But it's very important because- If you don't learn how to overcome the mental blocks, bro, there's gonna be more of them and you

• 48:21Andy Frisella?

  won't be able to overcome those and it's gonna limit your success for you, your girl, your future family and everything you got going on, bro, and I'm not gonna allow that to happen.

• 48:31Speaker 03

  Yeah, I absolutely, yes, thank you.

• 48:34Andy Frisella?

  You're welcome.

• 48:35Speaker 03

  100% and the, the, the, the part that, that makes it, that really made me realize that I have to address this now, which I have, I've always known is as of January, started making a chunk of cash every month, both locations are profiting great and I still feel empty and dead and unfulfilled because the profits and being in the green, it doesn't mean anything to me because I'm still ignoring literally what's in front of my fucking face.

• 48:59Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 49:00Speaker 03

  So until this is addressed, no matter how much money I make, I'm ignoring, uh, something that's in front of my face is gonna fucking keep me up at night like it has for, for four years.

• 49:09Andy Frisella?

  Bro, the fact that it keeps you up at night is a great thing because it means you're aware that it's something that you need to overcome, okay? But this is so simple, you could overcome it today. Real, real talk, you could overcome it today.

• 49:25Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 49:26Andy Frisella?

  And you should.

• 49:27Speaker 03

  And I will.

• 49:27Andy Frisella?

  All right, good.

• 49:28Speaker 03

  Yeah.

• 49:29Andy Frisella?

  All right, brother, listen, man.

• 49:30Speaker 03

  I really.

• 49:31Andy Frisella?

  You're in a good spot, just fucking, you know, follow through. You said you're gonna do it today, go fucking do it.

• 49:38Andy Frisella?

  I'm gonna text you to find out too. Yeah, DJ's gonna follow up.

• 49:42Speaker 03

  Was that your number you were texting me on, DJ?

• 49:45Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. Well, this is the show.

• 49:46Speaker 03

  All right, I'm gonna hit you up, I'm gonna text you like 10 times a day, bro, okay? I'm gonna see what you're eating for breakfast, I'm gonna check in. And if you don't text me back, I'm gonna be pissed, bro. I thought we were friends.

• 49:57Andy Frisella?

  Sweet, man. All right, Jaz, go get it, bro.

• 50:00Speaker 03

  Yes, sir. Appreciate you guys, thank you for everything.

• 50:03Andy Frisella?

  Thank you, bro, go do it, you got this.

• 50:05Speaker 03

  Yes, sir.

• 50:06Andy Frisella?

  All right.

• 50:06Speaker 03

  All right, bye.

• 50:09Speaker 01

  Love it, man.

• 50:09Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, man. Look, dude, that's not, it's not about the flyers. It's not about, it's about overcoming the mental block.

• 50:16Speaker 01

  Yeah, I was thinking about it too, because he says he's been with his girls since they were like 16. So the reality of it too, he's never had to really face rejection at all.

• 50:24Andy Frisella?

  Well.

• 50:24Speaker 01

  You know what I'm saying?

• 50:25Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 50:26Speaker 01

  Like, I mean, I mean.

• 50:28Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, I mean, when you like girls and, you know, you're young and you don't have the luxury of having one since you're 16, you're gonna get used to be told to fuck off.

• 50:35Speaker 01

  Yeah, right.

• 50:36Andy Frisella?

  Kind of comes with the territory, so.

• 50:39Speaker 01

  I love it, man.

• 50:40Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 50:40Speaker 01

  Well, guys, Andy, that was three.

• 50:43Andy Frisella?

  All right, guys. Hey, let's go out, let's get it, let's make it a good week, and we'll see you tomorrow.