1056. Q&AF: Handling Multiple Businesses, Using Passion For Skill & Finding Meaningful Purpose

On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to use your focus when you are running multiple businesses, how to channel your intensity and passion to develop skills to succeed in life, and how to find meaningful purpose when nothing feels fulfilling.

• 0:16Speaker 00

  What is up guys, it's Andy Frisella and this is the show for the realist say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys. Today we have Q and A F. That's where you submit questions and we give you the answers. DJ is going to tell you how you can submit your questions.

• 0:32Speaker 01

  Yeah guys, you can email these questions into [email protected]. You can also click the link in the description below and submit either one of those links for your questions to be asked, or just drop them in the comments section of the Q and A F videos right here on YouTube.

• 0:47Speaker 00

  Is that where they do the videos?

• 0:49Speaker 01

  It's in the link in the description.

• 0:50Speaker 00

  Okay, cool. Alright, just making sure, man. Alright, other times you're gonna hear CTI, that stands for Cruise the Internet. That's our cultural show, okay? We put the topics of the day on the screen, we talk about them, we speculate on what's going on, and then we talk about how we, the people, have to solve these problems going on in the world. Other times, we're gonna have real talk, that's just five, 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk, and then we have what's called 75 Hard Verses. That's where people who come on the show, who've completed the 75 Hard Program, talk about how they were before, how they are now, and how they use 75 Hard to regain their life. If you're unfamiliar with 75 Hard, it is the initial phase of the Live Hard Program, which is the world's most popular, famous, relevant, successful, mental transformation program in history, and it's free, and you can get the entire program for free at episode 208, and I highly recommend it.

• 1:45Speaker 00

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• 2:38Speaker 01

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• 2:41Speaker 00

  Yeah, yeah, we can just do ads.

• 2:44Speaker 01

  What's going on, dog?

• 2:45Speaker 00

  Sometimes I feel stupid for not doing it.

• 2:47Speaker 01

  Yeah, yeah, it's a lot, it's a lot of shekels out there for that, bro. Wrong word. A lot of coin out there.

• 2:53Speaker 00

  Unfortunately, I don't like listening to people. Tell me what the fuck to say or not say. Which is not in my DNA.

• 3:00Speaker 01

  Yeah, no, I feel that, dude. I feel that, man. Uh, let's see, shit's good, man. A question. Like, what's something you would change about you, like besides the obvious? Like, what would you change?

• 3:10Speaker 00

  What's the obvious?

• 3:14Speaker 00

  What the fuck? That sounded kinda fucked up. Is there something wrong with me I'm not aware of?

• 3:21Speaker 01

  Oh shit, no, I just wanted to try to see if I get that over with you. Yeah, dog. Um, fuck dude, I mean, let's talk about that real quick, guys. I mean, like, like, on the real side, you know what I'm saying? How much has Andy changed between who you are now, who sits here now, versus that 19-year-old you? What's different?

• 3:38Speaker 00

  I don't think a lot, man. You know, um, you know, I think in the beginning, you know, I don't know, you don't know what the fuck you're doing, and there's a level of like fear and uncertainty and anxiousness that comes with being an entrepreneur. Uh, and I think as you get older and you start to understand what it's really all about, that subsides quite a bit, or you acclimate to it. Um, I think there's a level of, you know, confidence that I have now that I didn't have then, but I mean, I think that's natural when you've done something for as long as I have.

• 4:13Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 4:16Speaker 00

  You know, I think I'm a little more patient, um, but, you know, pretty much the same, dude. Like, I've kinda always been that way, dude. You know what I'm saying? Like, I've always, I've never, like, I don't know if that's good or bad, but I've always been the same. You know what I mean?

• 4:32Speaker 01

  Yeah. Well, you like staying authentically, staying true to who you are. Yeah.

• 4:37Speaker 00

  Yeah, I feel, I feel like that, you know, like, I don't know, I feel like, and sometimes it's weird because I see like all these other people trying to like, it's like they like reinvent themselves over and over and over and over again, and it's every time I watch them reinvent themselves, it's, it's like, well, why would you need to reinvent yourself if you were an authentic person?

• 5:03Speaker 01

  Right.

• 5:03Speaker 00

  You know what I'm saying? Like, what is, what do you, like, I think you're so afraid, I think people are so afraid of being who they actually are, that they create these masks or avatars to present to the world that they call reinvention and growth, when in reality, it's just another thing that allows them to hide behind it.

• 5:23Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 5:23Speaker 00

  And I think we lack people who are willing to be cool with who the fuck they are. You know what I mean?

• 5:33Speaker 01

  And it's funny, each, each time they reinvent themselves, they actually get further away from their authentic self. Isn't that weird?

• 5:38Speaker 00

  Yeah, you know, and

• 5:39Speaker 01

  It's supposed to be getting closer to it.

• 5:40Speaker 00

  Yeah, man, and, and, uh, you know, and then I think there's a lot of people who are just massive manipulators, dude, you know, they, they manipulate people over and over and over again, like, you know, they, they start off one way, then they kinda get found out that that's bullshit, then they do something else, and they kinda get discovered that that's bullshit, and then, you know, they ultimately end up where all these people end up, which is

• 6:05Speaker 01

  Found Jesus!

• 6:06Speaker 00

  That's right. Yes. That's exactly right.

• 6:09Speaker 01

  Hallelujah!

• 6:10Speaker 00

  Because people won't criticize that.

• 6:11Speaker 01

  Yeah, you can't, yeah, it's hard to

• 6:13Speaker 00

  You know what I'm saying? So like, you have, and that's why organized religion attracts so many fucking snake oil people, because nobody's willing to criticize someone who's claiming that they have found Jesus.

• 6:24Speaker 01

  That's right. That's right, bro. Fuck, that's so crazy.

• 6:27Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 6:27Speaker 01

  That's how that works.

• 6:28Speaker 00

  It is how it works, you know, like, you'll see dudes, you know, they'll do this, they'll do that, they'll do this, they'll do that, and then they'll be like, I am redeemed and I'm a new person, and then they're just trying to like fuck with people under that guy.

• 6:39Speaker 01

  That's right.

• 6:40Speaker 00

  You know?

• 6:40Speaker 01

  That's right.

• 6:41Speaker 00

  So, you know, I, I don't know, man. Like, I've, I've always felt like the same person. I feel like the same person that I was when I was 16 years old. You know, I just look in the mirror and I see gray shit now.

• 6:53Speaker 01

  A little bit more gray. Yeah. Hell yeah, man. Well, guys, it's Q and A F. Let's make some people better. Again, we got these video submissions, guys. Click the link in the description. Uh, submit yours. Ask the questions. Uh, let's get to the first one. We got a video submission here. Let's check it out.

• 7:09Speaker 02

  Hi, Andy. DJ. Much love for the show. Um, I'm 22 and I'm currently running four ventures. One is more or less a show, like the School of Hard Knocks, where I help entrepreneurs share their story. I've got two businesses that work as SaaS, where we're selling tools to do different stuff, and the last venture is a kind of consultancy for automation. Now, my question is, with the four ventures I'm running, it kinda feels like I'm doing a bit too much, and there's not really an avenue for me to push one directly without affecting the others, and I've seen videos online saying you have to focus on one and try to grow as much as you can, and others also say you can diversify and try to build multiple things at the same time. Now, I wanna be that guy who says, you know what, I don't care, I'm just gonna try and push all four together and see where it takes me, but at the same time, I don't know if that's the right call to make, because people like yourself and other people who start off with one and push that, then they can go into different things, um, work better.

• 8:09Speaker 02

  So I was gonna ask you, what part of the thing should I take? Should I take the running four ventures together and seeing how that goes, and seeing if it's gonna be successful, or should I just take one and push that as much as I can, and then the others will then come after? So, um, just for context, I'm just about six months-ish in, into the entrepreneurial journey, so I don't really have that much experience, I'm just starting out, so any advice you have would be appreciated. Thanks so much again for the show and hope this makes sense.

• 8:41Speaker 00

  Ah, it makes total sense. A lot of people, a lot of people do this, you know, they read all of these things, they hear all of these people online say all of this stuff about, you know, the average millionaire has seven streams of income, you see all these young people that say, I own 19 companies, and dude, it's all bullshit. It's all bullshit. Because let me tell you something.

• 9:04Speaker 00

  You said it. You don't have the experience yet.

• 9:07Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 9:07Speaker 00

  Okay, so how can your inexperienced, no matter how hard you work, how can your inexperienced effort compete with the person who has experience? Who is choosing to do just one of those things? And the answer is you cannot. It's a fucking impossible. Okay? Building one thing is extremely difficult. And people that think that they can spread out amongst all of these things. Yes, you can when you're 40 fucking years old and you're worth $500 million. Okay, now you have the ability to hire other executives, people who have built things, experienced operators, and then you can have one meeting and you say, hey,

• 9:52Speaker 00

  this guy, this guy, this guy, what's up? And you can direct traffic that way. But where you are in the journey, you will lose if you try to spread yourself as thin as you are. I promise you, dude. And I'm not saying that because, you know, I think you're lack of skill. I'm saying this for anybody. This goes for anybody.

• 10:10Speaker 01

  It's math.

• 10:10Speaker 00

  It's real shit. Okay, if you have a guy who runs X and you are also running a competitor to X, and he's putting in 100% of his effort. Okay, and you're putting in 33.333% of your effort because you have two other things that you're running.

• 10:27Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 10:28Speaker 00

  It's impossible to win. It doesn't matter if they're even, if they could be worse than you. And they're still gonna beat you. They're gonna move faster than you. They're gonna learn faster than you. They're gonna be more committed than you. And that's the, that's the game, especially in the beginning. Um, a couple of things you said that were interesting. You said you have four things. You actually have three things, and then you have a funnel. Okay, you have a show to create awareness that gets you in contact with these SaaS companies that you're building that allow you to sell to those people or get to know those people or create awareness for those companies. That is part of what you're going to need to do. That is part of your marketing. That is part of your brand.

• 11:09Speaker 00

  So I wouldn't count that as one of your things. Okay, so now you have three other things.

• 11:17Speaker 00

  Are these three things somewhat related? Are they verticals of each other? Uh, can you bring these three different things into one thing? Can, you know, you have the main thing that's X, and then you have X plus one, X plus two. Can you take one aspect of X plus two, one aspect of X plus one, and then add it to X and create just one thing that has to be managed? Okay? The proper way to do this, the way that's going to find you the most success. And I know this, this isn't me guessing. I know this for sure. And anybody who disagrees, they're fucking wrong. And I'm happy to fucking open up my fucking financial statements and compare them against theirs. I promise you, I'm right. They're fucking wrong.

• 12:03Speaker 00

  If you try to spread your shit to three different things, and then also have the funnel, you're gonna fucking lose. So how can we, how can we get this into one thing? Okay, and then use the funnel to drive the one thing. Once the one thing is rolling, you know, I don't know what rolling would consist of for what you're trying to do, but it's gonna be eight figures.

• 12:28Speaker 01

  It's more than a million bucks.

• 12:30Speaker 00

  It's more than 10 million bucks. Once you get to a $10 million thing, now to even get to 10 million, you've got to learn all these lessons. You've got to learn all these things. You've got to do all these things. You've got to make all these mistakes. You're gonna fuck. Now you have the experience to branch off and vertical out into other things. Okay? This is the proper way for a young man who's six months in to view this.

• 12:53Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 12:53Speaker 00

  Okay, so what is it? Take away your show, continue with that. That might need to evolve or do something else. That's its own thing because you need to have awareness. All right, you need to have a personal brand, especially in this era. That's its own thing.

• 13:11Speaker 00

  Now, how can you take the one main thing?

• 13:16Speaker 00

  And make that successful so that these other things can then materialize off of that?

• 13:22Speaker 01

  Dude, can we talk a little bit? Because you know, it's funny, like, you know, you see a lot of these young guys getting in, you know, saying they're entrepreneurs, right? But the part that he said, you know, he's aware that he's inexperienced.

• 13:33Speaker 00

  Yeah, I like that a lot.

• 13:34Speaker 01

  Yeah, can we?

• 13:34Speaker 00

  I would have went a lot harder had he not said that.

• 13:36Speaker 01

  No shit?

• 13:37Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 13:37Speaker 01

  I mean, like, how important is having that humility, your definition?

• 13:40Speaker 00

  It's the most important thing.

• 13:42Speaker 01

  Especially.

• 13:42Speaker 00

  Because if you're not humble and you think you're fucking good, then you can't get better. The minute you think you know shit, how can you learn shit? So the fact that he says, "I'm very inexperienced," is a massive, massive, massive indicator that this man's probably gonna go out and be successful. Okay, the fact that he's even asking the question. Most men at his age, he's a young guy, are going to say, "Well, I could fucking do this. And if Steve over there on the internet's doing six, I could do seven." Right? Dude, you gotta realize, 99% of these people online are full of shit. They are full of shit. This is why you can't see their businesses. This is why when they talk about their, you know, "Oh, I own 22 companies." Well, what the fuck are they? And where can I see them? And where can I order the product?

• 14:27Speaker 00

  And what do they do? Right? And then they consider things like, "Oh, I invested $10,000 in this company that I don't even have any operational say in, and that's my company."

• 14:37Speaker 01

  Right.

• 14:37Speaker 00

  So there's all kinds of like razzle-dazzle fucking bullshit that's happening. That's a shell game to make people appear more credible. That really hurts people. Because it shows people like him, "Well, this must be what I have to do to get to that level." When in reality, it's the opposite of what they're doing. So.

• 14:56Speaker 01

  Where did that idea come from? I guess, because I mean, there's no like words you'll get for like how many companies you have, right? There's no like entrepreneur fucking medal for that, right? Like, where did that idea come from?

• 15:06Speaker 00

  Um, well, there's that saying, you know, "The average millionaire has seven streams of income." And that's been like a meme on the internet since the dawn of time.

• 15:14Speaker 01

  Whoever made that is an asshole.

• 15:15Speaker 00

  I don't think it's that. It's, it's that, look dude, that's not what it is. That might be true for someone who's 20 years in the game.

• 15:24Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 15:25Speaker 00

  Okay, that might be true for someone who's 30 years in. It might be true for someone who's 15 years in. But it's not true in the beginning. Okay, you don't just say, "Okay, well, I want to be a millionaire, so I'm gonna open up seven fucking things." Like, that's not, that's not how you're gonna do it. What people think it takes and what it actually takes are two different things. And what people think it takes from online is not the reality of what it takes. Not just from an effort standpoint, but from a tactical, structural, strategic standpoint. And so when you ask where it comes from, I think it comes from the overzealous, uh, and, you know, sometimes, a lot of times unethical marketing practices of people who are just honestly full of shit. So.

• 16:10Speaker 01

  That's real, man.

• 16:11Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 16:11Speaker 01

  That's real. Well, hell yeah, man. Let's get our, uh, let's get our next question in. Uh, let's do it right in. Uh, this question is, uh, "Andy, thank you for indirectly helping sharpen my skills. I've learned that passion can sometimes be mistaken for ego or aggression. As someone who's naturally intense, what are some ways I can channel that intensity into a high-value skillset?"

• 16:41Speaker 00

  I mean, dude, the good thing about passion is that it creates obsessiveness. All right, and to get good at something, to get great at something, it requires obsessiveness that is niched down into that skillset. And being an entrepreneur, you have to have many different skillsets. And that intensity, that urgency, that obsessiveness allows you to learn those skillsets at a much more rapid pace than someone who's a passive type person or who's like a, you know, "Well, you know, uh, shit'll work out the way it works out, and I'll learn what I need to learn." No, that person.

• 17:16Speaker 01

  Smell some roses.

• 17:17Speaker 00

  Yeah, that person's gonna get killed by the obsessive person. Okay, so, you know, what are some tactical ways to do that? Bro, just pour your will to win and your urgency into actually learning new skillsets. As much as you can, like be a sponge, bro. I will say this with a caveat.

• 17:39Speaker 00

  You gotta be careful what information you're sponging up. Because just like the question we just answered, there's so much misinformation that you could sponge the wrong shit up, and it can have you in a really bad spot. So.

• 17:53Speaker 00

  You gotta be, you gotta lack the awareness to understand how to vet someone as real or as just a good marketer. There's two different things, dude. So, let me, let me, let me explain something to you.

• 18:09Speaker 00

  All these people that are online and they, they, you know, they market that they know all of these things about business. If they really knew those things about business, instead of actually just selling coaching or selling programs for, you know, uh, you know, a couple hundred thousand dollars or whatever a month, or maybe, you know, a million dollars a month. Okay. Maybe. Don't you think that they would use those skillsets to build something that had billions of dollars of, of equitable value on the backside? Don't you think they would do that? If they could do that, wouldn't they do that?

• 18:44Speaker 01

  It wouldn't mean needing your money.

• 18:45Speaker 00

  That's right. That's right. Okay. So, so like, if, if they're out there saying they know what to do, it's like, how many of these people are out here like trying to coach people on their social media, personal brand? That don't have a fucking personal brand.

• 19:00Speaker 01

  Got 300 followers.

• 19:01Speaker 00

  Yeah. And their, their, their, their views on their fucking stories get a couple thousand views, 10, 15,000 views, whatever, dude. You don't have a personal brand either. You know what I'm saying? So like, there's all talking heads, bro. There's millions of talking heads and there's very few reels. All right. Real entrepreneurs that know the motherfucking game, you know what they do? They build fucking companies.

• 19:20Speaker 01

  Playing the game.

• 19:21Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 19:23Speaker 01

  Let me ask you this, dude, because I know you, you have a talk, uh, or a point that you make about, you know, turning, you know, like negativity.

• 19:30Speaker 00

  Now, now to that, to that point, there are people that coach, that, that take their coaching business. And then they use that money to build real companies. Okay. But they're doing it backwards. They didn't learn the shit.

• 19:43Speaker 01

  That's right.

• 19:43Speaker 00

  You know what I'm saying? So.

• 19:45Speaker 01

  Well, I just love this. I'll apply this now.

• 19:47Speaker 00

  Now, now, look, there's all kinds of funnels and there are all kinds of systems and there's all, I'm not shitting on coaching dude at all because if you do have a skillset, we live in an era where you can sell coaching about something that you actually know.

• 20:02Speaker 00

  But most people don't do it the right way. Like if you, like, let's say I knew how to play the guitar really fucking well. Okay. And I said, okay, I'm going to fucking sell guitar lessons digitally some, somehow, right? I'm going to teach you how to play the guitar. And I come up with this unique way to coach people to play guitar. I'm going to take that money and I'm going to fucking reinvest that cash into, uh, something that has enterprise value on the backside. Right? So I'm gonna take that money that I'm cash flowing here and I'm not going to go buy a fucking Huracan. And I'm not going to go, you know, spend all my money on trying to go on fake vacations to Mykonos and shit, right? I'm going to take that money and I'm going to come up with my own guitar string company.

• 20:46Speaker 00

  And I'm going to market that with the cash that's coming here. And then one day I'm going to sell my guitar string company to Gibson for fucking $500 million. Okay. That is the proper way to think about what's happening right now. And there's, you know, we've seen this dude, how many people have we seen come around? And they're, they're coaching this and then they're doing that and then they're doing this. And then they start these businesses. And then the businesses never go. Like I, I, I could think of, I could think of 10 people off the top of my head that run coaching programs that keep saying, well, we, we started this business, we started that business, started. And those businesses never go anywhere. Do you know why? Cause they don't know how to run a fucking business.

• 21:24Speaker 01

  Well, you notice too, that they never say, I'm going to teach you how to run a business like me.

• 21:28Speaker 00

  Yeah.

• 21:28Speaker 01

  I'm just going to teach you how to run it. Yeah. It's whatever.

• 21:30Speaker 00

  Well, dude, and, and it plays into people's egos, right? Like people, people want things fast. They want things easy. And, and you know, that is one of the pillars of marketing, right?

• 21:41Speaker 01

  Somebody saying they got the secret sauce.

• 21:42Speaker 00

  That's right. It's just not true. It's just not true, dude. I've yet to meet someone who knows how to really build a company that's worth something on the backside that decides not to, so that they could sell fucking, do content on the internet.

• 21:58Speaker 01

  Yeah. I want to ask you this on this question, uh, because I know you, you talk about this in reference to like taking negative energy and turning that into productive action, applying that to, to bettering yourself. So are you, are you saying that you could do the exact same thing with this, you know, um, obsessed, passionate mentality also? It's, it's kind of the same system there, right?

• 22:21Speaker 00

  Well, I mean, dude, when you're fucking passionate, obsessed, I mean, it's just the way you are. Like it doesn't come on in waves.

• 22:27Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 22:28Speaker 00

  Like I'm fucking intense about everything I do. Like everything. I drive fast, I ride fast, I talk fast, I fucking do shit fast. I train hard. Everything I fucking do. I talk fucking direct. Everything I do is that. So learn that way. You know what I mean? Like when I was, you know.

• 22:46Speaker 01

  Learning the right shit.

• 22:47Speaker 00

  Dude, I was reading, I was obsessed with reading books before, you know, the online influencer thing, which I think this is the biggest mistake that people make. I think that they should take their effort that they do consuming other people's content on the internet and go read fucking books from people that actually did shit. Okay. I was obsessed with that. I would read book after book after book after book relentlessly. Because I wanted to know more and more and more and more and more, because I knew it was going to help me win. So like, it wasn't like the negative energy where like, you know, someone does or says something and then I'm kind of like fucking pissed off in the moment.

• 23:26Speaker 00

  It's just how you do shit. You know, like you're either urgent or you're not, you're either intense or you're not, you're either passionate or you're not. And when you're a passionate person and you're intense and you're urgent, when things aren't moving fast, you actually feel really fucked up. Like it's a hard thing. Like my hardest days are the weekends. That's it. Like most people live for the weekends.

• 23:50Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 23:50Speaker 00

  My hardest days of the week, the, the, the days I look forward to the least are Saturday and Sunday. Because it's, it's slow and it's hard for me to deal with slow. Like I feel like I gotta solve some problems. I gotta fucking go. And people will hear that and they'll say, well, you're fucked up because, yeah, you know what, dude? You kind of gotta be fucked up to choose the path that I've chosen. You know what I'm saying? Like it's a different path. You don't get, you don't get, you don't get to the level I'm at being a normal fucking human being. Okay. There's going to be trade offs. Being in a great entrepreneur, being an effective entrepreneur, you're going to have trades that, there's no balance, dude.

• 24:34Speaker 00

  It's obsessiveness. And you know, it's a different kind of life. It's just a different kind of life. And this is why I tell people, it's not for everyone, man. You know, everyone thinks that they want to own a business or that they want to be an entrepreneur. And a lot of people get into it because it's so popular. And they're like, God, dude, this, this is fucking terrible.

• 25:02Speaker 00

  And I get that because it is terrible. Okay. You kind of get a little sick, right? You kind of be like a guy who like enjoys the fucking fight, you know? And that's not everybody. And that's okay. That's okay. It's okay to be a great entrepreneur. It's okay. And in fact, I think there's a massive benefit for a lot of people

• 25:25Speaker 00

  to just be a great contributor to the team. Because they don't have to take the fuck, dude, you have an average, dude, and I don't say this to like Brad. And I'm not saying this as even a good thing.

• 25:39Speaker 00

  And it'll probably kill me one day. That's the truth. But if I took an average person, you know, everybody looks at people like me and they're like, oh, I bet he doesn't do shit and he gets to fuck off all day. Dude, if I took an average person and I put them in my chair for three days, they'd be in the fucking psych ward. With the amount of problems and the amount of stress and the amount of shit coming their way, it would break them in three fucking days. Real shit. It's just not for everybody, dude. It's just not. And that's, that's not a, that's not a bad thing. You know what I mean? Like your life should be something that you enjoy as much as you work hard to have the life that you want. You should also enjoy that life.

• 26:24Speaker 00

  What people don't understand about, you know, like true builder warrior fucking killer entrepreneurs is that is what they enjoy.

• 26:32Speaker 01

  Enjoy it.

• 26:32Speaker 00

  Yeah. And so it's like a, it's like all that shit that you perceive as, as like, you know, oh my God, this is so fucking hard.

• 26:42Speaker 00

  I perceive it as hard too, but I also perceive it as fuck, I fucking, this, this is what I'm built for.

• 26:47Speaker 01

  Well, now was there a flip in that though? Or was it always like, did you always enjoy that or did you?

• 26:52Speaker 00

  No, no. Actually, you know what I'm saying? Actually, for a long time I was unaware that I actually liked it. So like I, I would listen to what other people say and they'd be like, oh, this is so fucking hard. It's fucking killing me. And I'm like, fuck me too. This fuck killing me. And then I had a friend of mine pointed out to me. And he was like, hey dude, warriors need a fucking war. Certain people are built for that. Certain people are those kinds of people and the world needs those kinds of people. And you're one of those people. That's why you don't do good well with like being on the lake, drinking a beer. That's not your fucking thing, dude. That's okay. You see what I'm saying? And so, once I was aware of it,

• 27:34Speaker 00

  that allowed me to stop feeling bad about it. And that was like a big relief for me. You know what I mean?

• 27:40Speaker 01

  Yeah, absolutely.

• 27:41Speaker 00

  So now I don't think, now I don't think anymore like, oh man, I'm just fucked up. Now I think I'm just different. Just a different kind of dude, you know, and that's okay. Most people aren't going to understand that, dude. I don't expect them to anymore. I don't expect it. I don't expect other people to understand how I tick or what makes me the way I am or anything like that. Um, but I will tell you that every single entrepreneur that's, that you know, that's like famous, that's built something big, that is like household name big, they're all built like that. Fucking all of them.

• 28:18Speaker 01

  No matter what they appear on the outside.

• 28:19Speaker 00

  They might be the sweetest guy. They might be the nicest guy. They might have their PR down to a fucking science. And they come across, bro, that motherfucker will eat your fucking dinner off of your plate. You know what I'm saying?

• 28:32Speaker 01

  Absolutely.

• 28:32Speaker 00

  Yeah. And, and, uh, and like, you know, it like,

• 28:39Speaker 00

  it, it's just, you know, I, I used to think that I was fucked up because I was, uh, I was like that and nobody I knew was like that. Cause I was at a level where like I wasn't connected to these guys who had done these bigger things. And the first thing that really allowed me to realize that, that there were more people like me was reading Tim Grover's book, Relentless. And, um, and then I was like, oh, okay. Well, maybe I'm not totally messed up, right?

• 29:07Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 29:08Speaker 00

  But then as I've gotten, you know, as I've gotten more successful and I'm involved in more things I've connected with other entrepreneurs who are older than me and further down the path. I've come to understand that they're all that way. All of them. They're all that way.

• 29:23Speaker 01

  Yeah, yeah.

• 29:24Speaker 00

  They fucking love it. They love it. They like, I don't even, I can't, you know how like a little kid loves the ice cream truck?

• 29:32Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 29:33Speaker 00

  That's how those entrepreneurs like problems. They're like, oh, that's fucking problem. We could do this. We do that. And it gets their creativity spinning. And that's what they love.

• 29:42Speaker 01

  I love it. So I love it. Hell, yeah, man. Let's get to our next one. We've got another, uh, another video here. Check this one out.

• 29:50Speaker 03

  What's up, Andy? I'm 25 years old. My name's John. I'm a husband. I'm a father of two boys and I'm at a point where I don't like where I'm at in my life. I feel like I'm lacking a purpose. I feel like I don't know where to go. I wake up with all these ideas of all these business ideas and stuff that I want to do. And I don't act on them. I've completed 75 hard two times, never the full program, but I know what it feels like to develop these skillsets. And a lot of them, like you say, are perishable. And I feel like I'm at a point where I'm experiencing that I'm undisciplined. I'm not a man of my word. And but I want a bigger life for myself. I feel that feeling where I'm gonna fucking make a huge impact. I'm gonna build a massive wealth for my family and all this stuff. My heart is helping men, helping them become the best versions of themselves.

• 30:32Speaker 03

  And being better husbands, better fathers, making more money, getting in shape, all this shit, doing what no one said they can do. But I feel like I'm not qualified. And I know you're probably gonna say, no one's fucking qualified. But I'm just at a point where I feel like I'm lacking a purpose. I want to serve people. I like speaking. I like doing all this stuff, man, but I'm struggling right now. I'm struggling to just find something and get after and just fucking go full steam ahead, knowing that this is for me. So if you can just give me some advice that would help me develop into the man that I, I want to become. Thank you.

• 31:03Speaker 00

  Oh, man, I feel that. That's, um, you know, I, I, I think even when you choose something, there's always gonna be that question of should I have chose something else? And I think that with maturity, you have to come to terms with the idea that you chose this and not those things and be okay with the choices that you made and be the best at that thing. Um, even at my age and my experience, I still struggle with what he's struggling with, with these like ideas and these things that I could do, but I haven't done. And, um, so I, I totally feel that, dude. And I think that's a, I think that's the sign

• 31:48Speaker 00

  of someone who knows internally that they are called to something greater that is not acting on it. And when you say you're not a man of your word, I think the reason that you feel that way is probably because you're not a man of your word to yourself. And the first thing I would recommend to you, dude, is if you know that it's perishable, like I've taught you, and you know that you've slipped.

• 32:13Speaker 01

  They've perished.

• 32:13Speaker 00

  Let's get back on the program. Okay. Okay. Let, let's start today. The minute you hear this answer, let's start 75 hard. And let's start fucking rebuilding those skillsets.

• 32:25Speaker 00

  That's the first step. But the other step, there's, there's, there's three things that you gotta realize here. No one's gonna listen to you if you're not credible. Okay. And I can understand you wanting to help and speak and do all these things. But remember, that didn't come from me until I was 15, 16 years into my thing. So what are you going to build that's going to create that credibility to where people are gonna want to hear your story? See, we live in an age where everybody gets on the internet and yaps away. But the reason that most people are ignored is because they have nothing credible to attach to. All right. So what's that thing? What's, what's that?

• 33:05Speaker 00

  What's that thing? It doesn't even have to be a business. What is this thing that you're gonna do that is so great and so cool? And so impactful and so inspiring that you're gonna be able to gain an audience that's gonna want to hear about that. All right. Don't put the cart before the horse. All right. You're 25, dude. You're allowed to change your fucking mind. You, you could change your mind, dude. You could change your mind. You could be 50 and you could change your fucking mind. Where you are in life is not a life sentence, dude. You have the ability to change your mind. And I'm not saying go get a divorce and fucking fuck your kids. I'm saying you could do that with that. Okay?

• 33:48Speaker 00

  But you don't have to sit there and suffer knowing that you could be great. And then I can tell you what's going to, to cause your, your, your life to, to, to be wasted.

• 34:01Speaker 00

  Is you sitting there being aware of what it is that you crave to do? And you have that internal voice that's telling you, you should do this or that or be this. And you ignore that voice. That's where most people waste their lives. Because that vision of yourself that is put inside of you, that is put there by God, you are built to take that internal vision and make it an external reality that benefits not only you, but everybody around you. And if you ignore that, you are going to feel like you don't have a purpose and that you live for no purpose. And the last thing you want to do as a 25 year old man is to waste the opportunity of your youth

• 34:47Speaker 00

  till you're 50 and then be like, man, I could have done this and that and this. And the hard answer to this, guys, is that you have to make a choice. Okay. And in a, in a, in a time and place where we see so many people on the internet doing so many different things, the choices seem like they're infinite. And it makes it very hard to make a choice. It's a paradox of choice. When there's too many choices, people choose none. And so it paralyzes people. And most people don't lose in life because they're lazy or they're bad people or they're, they're this or they're that. They, they don't ever choose because they can't.

• 35:29Speaker 00

  And so you have to make a choice, man. And if I were to give you any advice, I would say for you to get back on the program, get your mind right, get your confidence starting to go the right way. And then be thinking like, what is the thing that I can do? And narrow it down, niche it down, make a decision, and then fucking go do it.

• 35:51Speaker 00

  Other good things will come from that, man. I feel that, dude. Like, that's, that's a real struggle. I think for most, I think if you ask most men

• 36:02Speaker 00

  who were raised the way of like, I need to be the provider, I need to build things. I have to take care of people, you know, like these people will say like, yeah, men only care about one thing, bro. Most people have no idea what men deal with. They have no idea of the pressures of society. They have no idea of the pressure of, you know, the obligations that they have, you know, to provide, protect, be a good man, do the right things. And it's a constant struggle, dude. And you know, I think if you were to, I think, you know, if, if this guy were to ask any man that was honest with them, they would say that they struggle with those things.

• 36:45Speaker 00

  And I think that's just a part of developing as a man. Um, but the fact, I would say, here's the good news. The good news is that most people your age aren't even fucking thinking like you're thinking. They're thinking like, oh, man, you know, I want to, this weekend, I'm gonna do this and this, I'm gonna do that. And you're talking about like, how aware you are of like,

• 37:08Speaker 00

  the kind of man that you're becoming. And that's a, dude, at 25 years old, that's really fucking good shit, man.

• 37:13Speaker 01

  I wasn't thinking that.

• 37:14Speaker 00

  Oh, no, dude, I wasn't either. I wasn't either. So I, I think you're in a good spot, man, a lot better than what you think. And I know that when you're 25, you have the perspective of only being 25. So you feel like you're old because you're the oldest you've ever been. But 25 is fucking young, dude.

• 37:31Speaker 01

  The youngest you're ever gonna be.

• 37:32Speaker 00

  Yeah. And it's, it's young and it's a real young. Like people will say, oh, well, 40 is young. No. 40 is still kind of young. Okay? 25 is, is legitimately, unarguably young. And, um, if you don't make a choice, bro, it's gonna be another year and then another year and then another year. And then it's gonna be 10 and then it's gonna be 15. And then it's gonna be like, oh, I wish I should have, could have, would have. And then you're gonna really feel bad. So I think making that choice is just one of the hardest things for people to do, especially when we are constantly observing so many people and their highlight reels of what it is that they do.

• 38:11Speaker 01

  Yeah, but their seven streams of income.

• 38:13Speaker 00

  Right. Yeah.

• 38:14Speaker 01

  That's real. So I mean, so, so your, your, your, your advice is he needs to do 75 hard today. When he hears this, he needs to start on that. And then figure something out and do it today.

• 38:25Speaker 00

  Yeah. And then realize that that thing that you're gonna build, create, become is in five years, gonna give you the opportunity to talk about it, to help other people. Right? Like people wouldn't listen to me if I didn't have the entrepreneurial success that I've had.

• 38:43Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 38:43Speaker 00

  They wouldn't listen to me. I'd just be another talking head. And I think this is the problem with a lot of people. A lot of people decide that they want to make content about success, but they haven't had any real success in their life. And I can see this very clearly, but, but some people can't. Because I'm on the other side of the perspective. You can't know about success if you haven't experienced it. So most of these people that write these things and say these things, and they don't have anything attached to them, they're just borrowing this language or stealing it from someone who's actually done it and rewording it. So like, it's not, there's no substance there. And if you were to get that person on a stage and then like,

• 39:26Speaker 00

  hit, hit them with some real shit, they'd be frozen. They wouldn't know what to say.

• 39:30Speaker 01

  Couldn't do it. That's real, man.

• 39:32Speaker 00

  So, you know, what is it that you're gonna build that's gonna allow people to want to hear the story? That's, that's the decision that you need to make.

• 39:40Speaker 01

  Love it, man. Well, guys, Andy, that was three.

• 39:43Speaker 00

  All right, guys. Let's go out and get better this week. Don't be a hoe.

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