1017. Q&AF: Passed Up For Promotion, Optimizing Business Output & Staying True To Your Word

On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on what to do when you get passed up for a promotion at your job, how to identify the critical tasks that actually grow your business, and how to build the habit of keeping the promises you make to yourself.

Speaker names marked ? are inferred from speaking time and the show’s known hosts — they are not voice-verified.

• 0:16Andy Frisella?

  What is up guys? It's Andy Frisella and this is the show for the realists. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality. Guys, today we have Q and A F. That's where you submit questions and we give you the answers. You could submit your questions a few different ways. DJ, tell them how they can submit their questions.

• 0:36Speaker 01

  Guys, email your questions in to [email protected] or you can drop them in the comment section of the Q and A F videos or click the link in the description to submit them there for a chance to be answered on the show.

• 0:51Andy Frisella?

  If this is your first time listening, we have shows within the show. Tonight, you're going to see CTI live. That is live on X and YouTube at 7:00 PM Central Time. This is where we cruise the internet. We talk about things that are going on in the world. We speculate. We have a couple laughs. We joke around. We talk about how we, the people, have to solve these problems going on in the world. Other times, we have real talk. Real talk is just five, 20 minutes and be giving you some real talk. And then sometimes we have 75 Hard Versus. That's where people who come on the show, who have completed 75 Hard, come on and they talk about how they were before, how they are now, and how they use the 75 Hard program to get their life in order. If you're unfamiliar with 75 Hard, it is the initial phase of the Live Hard program, which is available in its entirety

• 1:34Andy Frisella?

  for free at episode 208 on the audio feed. Again, that's 208 on the audio feed. It's on the audio feed only. It's not on YouTube. There's also a book, the book on mental toughness. It goes over the entire Live Hard program and it is not free. There's also a whole bunch of chapters on mental toughness, why it's important and how to cultivate it in your life. You get that at andyfrisella.com. And yeah, that's pretty much it. One of the things we do here that's different than everybody else, we're the biggest show in the world, doesn't run ads. So we make a little deal with you guys. It's very simple. If you get

• 2:11Speaker 01

  Value out of the show, if it makes you think, if it makes you laugh, it gives you new perspective, it's something you need to, you know, you think needs to be heard, or something that helps you out, do us a favor and share that show. Okay, sharing the show one time a year does not count as sharing the show, alright. Real talk, this cost me a couple million bucks to fucking do every year. I don't take a single dollar for it, and I ask very simply that all you guys do is to help us grow the show. Alright, so don't be a hoe. Share the show. Alright.

• 2:40Andy Frisella?

  What's up?

• 2:41Speaker 01

  Good morning. How are you?

• 2:43Andy Frisella?

  Good.

• 2:44Speaker 01

  Good to see you.

• 2:45Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 2:45Speaker 01

  Yeah. Dude, we were trying to, we were fucking with the lights earlier, Phil. Couldn't figure out where the setting was. I don't remember it being this dark. Dude, I don't remember it being this dark.

• 2:52Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, we had two week hiatus.

• 2:54Speaker 01

  A little hiatus, man. It was good though, man. How are you doing?

• 2:56Andy Frisella?

  Good.

• 2:57Speaker 01

  Yeah?

• 2:57Andy Frisella?

  Good.

• 2:58Speaker 01

  Back in the saddle?

• 2:59Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, man. Feeling good?

• 3:01Speaker 01

  Looking good.

• 3:01Andy Frisella?

  Looking good?

• 3:02Speaker 01

  Yeah, you are.

• 3:03Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, that's right. I'm excited to get back on CTI.

• 3:07Speaker 01

  Yeah, well, that's gonna be fun.

• 3:08Andy Frisella?

  There's some things I wanted to say, last couple of weeks I didn't get to say.

• 3:11Speaker 01

  Hmm.

• 3:12Andy Frisella?

  I probably won't say them anyway, because it's old, but we'll talk about that later.

• 3:16Speaker 01

  Yeah, we'll get to it, man. We get to it. This is, this is, uh, this is the episode where people get better.

• 3:21Andy Frisella?

  That's right.

• 3:22Speaker 01

  I mean, they get better on a CTI also.

• 3:23Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, but this is the main thing.

• 3:24Speaker 01

  This is getting better, better. Yeah, so let's do that. I got three good ones for you. Guys, Andy, question number one. Andy, I work for a trucking company. I recently got passed up twice for promotions in the last eight months for a management position for my shift that I currently have been operating for eight years. Now, I realize that time doesn't mean shit. It's the impact you make within that time. Uh, the first promotion, the person that got it was the favorite to get it, but never worked nighttime operations. The problem is that she never started that position because she just needed the manager title for another promotion. The second time I got passed up was a person that worked under her in a different

• 4:05Speaker 01

  department, and she had a big influence on his promotion. Everyone in management is realizing this is not based on work performance. It's a lot of favoritism. How do I handle loss moving forward, knowing that that position is handed to someone else rather than earning it? I guess, how do you, how do you?

• 4:22Andy Frisella?

  Are we fucking serious here? Like, are we fucking ser- bro, you suck! You suck at your job. If you were that great at your fucking job, you would have got the promotion. Okay, let's be fucking real. Businesses don't exist to fucking piss money away. They don't exist to give cousins jobs. They don't exist to fuck you over. They exist to fucking win. Alright, so while you may think this, and you may think, oh man, I'm getting passed over and blah, blah, blah. No, you're getting passed over for a fucking reason that you're unwilling to admit. Okay, and it's probably that you got a bad attitude, or you lack the capacity to lead, or you bitch a lot, or you cry a lot. Or, I don't know, maybe you wrecked three trucks. I don't know. I don't know what it is.

• 5:07Andy Frisella?

  But something you're doing is not resonating with the leadership of the company, and while they hold your balls in their hand, you should probably figure out how to fucking make them like you. Okay, so how old did he say he was? Didn't say. Okay, well, you're old enough to fucking know, if you're old enough to drive a truck, that the reason that you got passed by is because you fucking suck. So get better. Dude. Like, real talk. I'm sick of this shit. You guys all fucking whine about, oh, get passed over. If it's even a question, is someone even close to as good as you? It's too close. That's the thing that you gotta understand. When we talk about being undeniable, we talk about truly possessing what it takes to win.

• 5:51Andy Frisella?

  You have to be so much better than the person next to you, that if the conversation comes up, who's better, this or that? It's laughable. That's the gap we're fucking talking about here. We're not talking about splitting hairs. Oh, well, you know, they're, I don't know, you know, there should not be a discussion. You should be that much better than everybody else. And that is what the fuck undeniable means. So get your bitch ass shit out of here with this. I got passed over, you got, okay, if you really got passed over because of these reasons, find a new place to work, alright, but I'm going to bet that that same exact shit is gonna happen to you again.

• 6:31Andy Frisella?

  And I bet it's happened to you before. How many jobs have you had before where you got passed over? And it was everybody else and it wasn't you. I bet you have this problem in your fucking relationship. I bet you have this problem with your friends. I bet you have this problem in your career. I bet nothing is your fault, and I bet you will go to the grave thinking nothing is your fault, and that the whole world conspires against you. Whenever you would just, if you would just figure out very simply, that what it takes to win is greatness. It does not take almost greatness. It doesn't take kinda good. It doesn't take, I work hard. Working hard is the price of admission.

• 7:13Andy Frisella?

  You have to be skilled. You have to be good. You have to contribute. You have to earn the confidence of your leadership. Yeah, if you're a leader, you have to earn the confidence of your team. This comes through undeniable winning effort and skillset. And right now, you don't fucking have it. Okay, I don't know what, if I was your friend, this is what the fuck I'd be telling you. You probably ruined a whole bunch of your life being like this. Oh, it's fucking, you know.

• 7:40Speaker 01

  Favoritism.

• 7:40Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, right. Oh, it's their favorite. Well, you know what? You know who my fucking favorites are? You know who my favorites are? The ones that fucking win!

• 7:47Speaker 01

  My fuck is a win.

• 7:48Andy Frisella?

  Fuck dude, you wanna know who I like the best? The ones who do their fucking job the best. You know why? Cause it makes my life easier, and we win more, and it's better for everybody. Okay, those are my fucking favorites. Shoot me. Okay, oh, he's got favorites. You're fucking right, I got fucking favorites. A hundred percent. Every fucking leader has favorites. And you know who the favorites are? The ones who do their fucking job without having to be harassed to do their fucking job, and they do it great. And they do it without fucking needing a whole bunch of, uh, handholding and coddling and ass padding, which is sounds like you fucking need. So, grow the fuck up. That's my answer.

• 8:24Speaker 01

  Dude, I fucking love it, man. I love, dude, it makes me think too, it's like, you know, like, and I've heard you say this to, to employees, right, like?

• 8:33Andy Frisella?

  Nobody knows your name. It's not their job to know your name. It's your job to make your name known. That's what I'm saying. Oh, man.

• 8:42Andy Frisella?

  Why is that such a big lack? Because everybody's got inflated egos, bro. No, everybody's done nothing and they expect everything. Everybody's, uh, you know, thinks that they've accomplished the greatest thing in the world by breathing the fucking air and blessing them with their fucking presence. I hate to tell you this, dude, but your parents were wrong. Your teachers were wrong. Your aunts and uncles, they were wrong fucking too. Everybody that told you that you were special for breathing the fucking air and that that was gonna be enough for you to get respect and enough for you to be able to survive in this world was wrong. You need to wake the fuck up and understand what the truth is. And the truth is simple. If

• 9:20Andy Frisella?

  you want to win, you have to be undeniably great. Undeniably great is not close to the next guy. It's, there's such a gap that it's not even a fucking question. Okay? It's like,

• 9:37Andy Frisella?

  it's like, is Shohei Ohtani, should we have Shohei Ohtani play for us or should we have this triple A guy that's never played a fucking game in his life? Yeah, right. Like, it's not a discussion. Right. You need to be Ohtani, bro. And if you can't be Ohtani, what the fuck you do? You ain't gonna get paid like Ohtani. Okay? You understand? Yeah. This is very, very simple. The problem is, all you motherfuckers try to look for the fucking cut around. You try to find the cheat code. You try to, and you waste your whole life doing it. You waste your whole life doing it. You end up bitter, frustrated, broke, angry, feeling like the world fucked you over, when in reality, dude, you fucked you over. That's it. So get the fuck

• 10:20Andy Frisella?

  out of here with your, "Oh, get passed over." You got passed over because you're not fucking good enough. And that's it. Fucking love it, dude. Oh, man, I love it. Bro, I'm tired of it. I love it. I'm tired of it. You guys are fucking delusional sometimes, man. Not all of you, obviously, but like... The fuck out of here dude. Oh, I, you know what? I'm in the NFL. I got fucking, um, you know, the number one draft pick. I think I'll go ahead and play this undrafted guy and, you know, who's better?

• 10:47Speaker 01

  I'm sure that'll work out, yeah.

• 10:48Andy Frisella?

  Dude, the fuck dude?

• 10:50Speaker 01

  Did you know what? You know the craziest thing about this too, man, is that like the true winners, if they got passed up, they still will look internally for something they didn't do well enough. You know what I'm saying? Like, like if they got passed up, it will fuck, I must not did this good enough.

• 11:03Andy Frisella?

  Well, no shit.

• 11:03Speaker 01

  Not, it's everybody else's fault.

• 11:05Andy Frisella?

  No shit.

• 11:05Speaker 01

  All his favorites, like that's, it's a mindset thing.

• 11:07Andy Frisella?

  It's a victim mindset, bitch ass attitude that's infected people from the last 20 years of failed social strategy in, in, in the system. It's propaganda. Okay. If you want to win, you gotta be great. If you want to win the race, you gotta be the fastest. If you want to lift the most, you gotta be the strongest. If you want to earn the most money, you gotta be willing to do shit that other people aren't willing to do. You gotta be willing to do it longer and you gotta be willing to do it better. And you gotta be willing to do it when you're tired and when you're sick and when you don't feel good and when fucking you'd rather do anything else, uh, even die than take another fucking step forward. Those are the motherfuckers that win. Okay. Everybody else loses. Not, not kind of loses. Everybody else loses. Okay. This is a show about winning. If you want to win, get good at what the fuck you do.

• 11:52Andy Frisella?

  So good that it's not even a discussion of who's second best. It's really simple, dude. It's just hard.

• 12:01Speaker 01

  I fucking love it, dude. I love it. Guys, Andy, question number two. Andy, there's so much noise in business right now. Try this marketing strategy. Do this for social media. Put these systems in, automate this. It feels like you could spend all day doing things that look productive, but don't actually move the business forward. How do you figure out what really matters versus what's just busy work? I mean, 27 years and I'm sure you've tried fucking everything, right? How'd you figure it out?

• 12:38Andy Frisella?

  All right, look, first off, you gotta learn how to, all right. I'm gonna answer this as if I don't know anything. Okay.

• 12:48Andy Frisella?

  Sometimes I forget that there's people that don't know. Yeah. Okay, the first thing you gotta understand is that most of these people on the internet are full of shit. That is their brand. That's their product. What they're saying is their product that they're trying to sell. These people who claim to be marketing geniuses on the internet, what have they done? What have they built? If they were that good at marketing, wouldn't they have their own company that was just totally fucking whooping ass on everybody else? Do your due diligence. All right, that's the first thing. The second thing. You have to understand how to filter through the

• 13:27Andy Frisella?

  minutia and the bullshit and figure out what the critical things that are gonna move you forward are on a daily basis. If you lack the ability to define critical tasks, or you lack the honesty because you're lazy and you say, oh, these are critical tasks when they're not really, you won't get anywhere, bro. You won't get anywhere. You have to be able to identify, and by the way, you have to be able to identify what that is. How did I do that? I've been doing this for 20 fucking seven years, bro. It's trial and error, but it shouldn't be that hard for you to figure out what's gonna get you further. Watching a video on, uh, listening to a podcast on branding, or actually, uh,

• 14:12Andy Frisella?

  you know, making some phone calls, uh, to actually build your brand out, right? And like, doing some things with some real people, like what, what? Watching a video on cold calling versus just fuck calling. Yeah, like, dude, as an entrepreneur, you learn everything on the job. And if you're, if we're being real, every job, you learn everything on the job. There's no difference in that sense. There's no job out there that you don't learn, like, you can read the training manual at Chick-fil-A. You don't know how to make a fucking chicken sandwich yet. No. You're gonna know how to make it once you make a couple. Yeah. Right? That's right. Like, that's, that's what you gotta do. So,

• 14:45Andy Frisella?

  critical tasks, do they move your business forward? Is this a, a task that moves my business forward? Ancillary tasks.

• 14:56Andy Frisella?

  This is the shit I gotta do today to live my life. I gotta pick up the kids from school. I gotta go to the grocery store. That's to do list. Yeah. Critical list gets done first. Ancillary gets done second. Critical is the things that are gonna move you forward. Ancillary are the things that you have to do in day to day. It's really simple. Yeah. Critical tasks are things that you are actively doing to move forward. For me, that would, that looks mostly like making contact with people and having conversations with people. For you, that might be, you know, today is, uh, is tax day, right? That might be, okay, making sure that my taxes are filed today. Right? Or it might be something else. But the point is, it's, it doesn't move you forward.

• 15:41Andy Frisella?

  Is this something that has to be done in your business? Does it get you, uh, down the, the pipe further, right? It's, it's really simple, dude. Yeah.

• 15:49Speaker 02

  I think it also brings up a topic of success zombies that you talk about all the time. People think they, if they're reading and consuming content, they're progressing. But like you said, if they don't take action towards their businesses or whatever, they, they're not.

• 16:02Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 16:03Speaker 02

  That's a big problem.

• 16:04Andy Frisella?

  It's a huge problem, especially with the inundation of all the experts, right? And then you got, you get frozen because, you know, you get paralysis by analysis because you're getting so much information from so many people. Most of the people are not credible and you're getting confused and you get paralyzed and you don't take action. Okay, you gotta make a choice and you gotta move forward. And if you're having trouble moving forward and you're having trouble with the confusion, then tune out the confusion. Cut the noise out. Do what you think you need to do to move the business forward and you will learn. Study people who have done what you've done. Figure out what they did. Like to me, and maybe I'm wrong, but this is basic shit. Like if I didn't know anything, and this is what I did when I didn't know anything.

• 16:47Andy Frisella?

  I picked people who did what I did and I watched them and I figured out what they did right. And I thought about what they do wrong. And sometimes because I didn't have experience, I thought what they did wrong was wrong, but it was actually right. And I just become a student of the process and that's what you have to do. And it's not, it's not listening to everybody. It's paying attention to everybody. It's a different thing.

• 17:09Speaker 02

  Observation.

• 17:10Andy Frisella?

  Bro, there's so much free shit out there. Like there's so much free information out there, like.

• 17:18Andy Frisella?

  From credible people, it's just like, what, what are you guys doing? You know what I'm saying? But, I mean, look, here's the reality. If you're not smart enough to be able to determine who's credible and who's not, and you're not smart enough to determine what your critical tasks are, you're not smart enough to win.

• 17:37Andy Frisella?

  I don't know, you should do something else. Like, these are basic things. You should be able to fucking look into someone and figure out if they've actually done the things that they say they do. If you can't do that, you're not very smart. If you can't figure out what tasks are going to move your business forward,

• 17:56Andy Frisella?

  you're not very smart.

• 17:58Andy Frisella?

  Entrepreneurs, you gotta be somewhat smart. You don't have to be the smartest, you gotta be somewhat smart. Be smart enough to do that.

• 18:03Speaker 01

  Yeah. That's good.

• 18:05Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 18:05Speaker 01

  That's good. I love it, man. I love it. Guys, Andy, let's get to our third and final question. Uh, question number three. Uh, and I'm fairly new to you, uh, and you have me in complete reprogram mode. I'm 22 years old from Idaho. Uh, since listening to your content, I've noticed something about myself that's kind of frustrating. If I tell someone else I'm going to do something, or show up, or finish a task, be somewhere, I'll do it, no matter what. But when it comes to stuff I set for myself, like going to the gym, or chores around the house, or working on something I said I cared about, I'll find a way out of it. It's not like I don't know what to do. I just don't follow through the same way I do for other people.

• 18:50Speaker 01

  After a while, it starts to mess with your confidence because you don't even fully trust yourself no more. How do you fix that? Like, how do you get to the point where your word to yourself actually means something? Ooh.

• 19:03Speaker 01

  Young buck.

• 19:03Andy Frisella?

  Well, I mean, look, this is why Live Hard and 75 Hard's been created, okay? Um, the skill that you're talking about is adherence and, and discipline. And when you don't have the ability to adhere, it doesn't matter how good the plan is. All right? So, your job, which at 22 years old, I think it's pretty interesting that you've already identified this, because you have. Your job is to cultivate that ability to adhere. And the way that you do that is by training yourself in the skill set of mental toughness, which encompasses grit, fortitude, perseverance, the ability to endure.

• 19:44Andy Frisella?

  Confidence, self-esteem, mental toughness, these, it's a, it's a concept of many different small skill sets. And when I say skill sets, I mean, skill sets because they are not traits. A lot of people look at these highly disciplined people and they think, oh, man, he's got what I don't, or he has something I don't. No, he doesn't have something you don't. He has cultivated the ability to be disciplined in that one area that you think is magical, when in reality, you haven't cultivated that same discipline. So what you have to do is you have to become aware of where your weak points are, which you are already aware of. And then you have to practice executing at those points. I, as always, would highly recommend 75 Hard and the Live Hard program, which is a repeatable program. It's a one-year program. You're not

• 20:29Andy Frisella?

  on it the whole year. It accounts for like 40% of your year. But you want to win, you want to fucking really put your life in overdrive, live the Live Hard lifestyle, because it'll keep your mental toughness sharpened, it'll keep your ability to adhere sharpened, it'll give you the confidence and the belief in yourself that you're looking for, because you are following through on the things that you've told yourself you're going to do. And this is the magic of the program. All right. The magic of the program is that it takes something that most people think are traits and teaches them that their skills, that they have to understand are perishable, and have to brush up and sharpen on a regular basis. Okay. So like, once you learn these

• 21:11Andy Frisella?

  skill sets, and once you get them sharp, they can easily go away if you don't practice them. All right. So, first thing to understand is that these are skills that you could cultivate. Second thing to understand is that they're perishable, and you have to practice them over and over again. And the third thing you have to understand is that once you have these skill sets sharpened, and if you keep them sharp, there's actually no limits to what you can do, because if you have the ability to adhere to a plan, it doesn't matter what plan is put in front of you, you have the ability to adhere to it. Okay. So, that solves the, the, the problem of success for like 99.99999% of the people. We don't lack information, we don't lack plans, we don't lack ideas, we don't lack successful, uh, business plans. We lack the ability to do

• 21:54Andy Frisella?

  it. That's where people lose. Okay. And that's why 75 Hard is a program that's continued to grow for six years now. When everybody's like, oh, it's a fucking fad. It's not a fucking fad. It's not a fucking weight loss program. It's a success program for your brain that allows you to achieve things that you otherwise couldn't. Okay. And if you keep that sharp, if you keep that ability to adhere sharp, you won't have a problem with the things that you're talking about, nor will you have a problem doing anything else you want to do because the reality is success in life is not that much different than success in baking or cooking. Okay, there's a set of directions and you gotta fucking follow them. How hard is it to be a really good cook? It's really not that hard. Is it hard to do off the top of your head? Sure, that takes years and years and years and years and years.

• 22:37Andy Frisella?

  You're gonna be Gordon Ramsay, you're gonna do it for 30 fucking years. But I can make a fucking Michelin star meal in my house by following motherfucking directions. Okay, and so can you, and so can everybody in this fucking room. And success is no different. So if I don't have the ability to follow the directions, it doesn't matter what directions I have. And the cake's gonna suck.

• 22:56Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 22:56Andy Frisella?

  The food's gonna suck. Your life's gonna suck. Alright, so you gotta realize that the number one skill at 22 years old that you can give yourself, the biggest gift you can give yourself is the understanding that mental toughness, grit, fortitude, perseverance, self-confidence, self-esteem, the ability to endure, all of these things are skills that you have to keep sharp, you have to practice. And if you do that over the next 15 years, bro, you're gonna be so far ahead of everybody else, it's gonna be ridiculous.

• 23:23Speaker 01

  Dude, I got a couple of things on this I want to ask you about. Uh, the first thing being, you know, I'm curious to what you think or how you think about this. But it's like, I look at things like consistency, for example, right? And like you see people who are out of shape or something like that, right? It's like, oh man, they don't, they're not consistent, they're not disciplined. But it's like, if they're going to McDonald's every single Thursday and Friday, like that's, that's consistency. They're just consistently being shit.

• 23:50Andy Frisella?

  Correct.

• 23:50Speaker 01

  Right, and so like, I mean, what's your thoughts on that, right? Like, people have it, they're just not.

• 23:54Andy Frisella?

  You mean like when people say things like,

• 23:58Andy Frisella?

  all you gotta do to be successful is be consistent? Motherfucker, you're already consistent.

• 24:02Speaker 01

  That's right.

• 24:02Andy Frisella?

  You're consistently bad.

• 24:03Speaker 01

  That's right, that's right.

• 24:04Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 24:05Speaker 01

  Right.

• 24:05Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. Consistency is not the key to success.

• 24:08Speaker 01

  Hmm.

• 24:08Andy Frisella?

  Okay? The right execution consistently is the key to success.

• 24:13Speaker 01

  Right.

• 24:13Andy Frisella?

  Alright? Everybody's consistent. Everybody is, you're consistent, you, you, you probably do the same. If we recorded your life for the last 10 years, I bet you do. Almost everything exactly the same. Okay.

• 24:29Speaker 01

  That's consistent.

• 24:29Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, that's consistent. And it's consistently producing the same result that you have, the one that you don't like. So if you want to change, you gotta be consistent in other things. And that, that is, that is very basic. But most people like, I have a trouble being consistent. Not really, dude. I see you go into that gas station, get those taquitos and those chips and that pizza and that fucking Big Gulp and all that shit you get every, you do that consistently. You know what I mean? You just will move your fat ass down the road consistently.

• 24:56Speaker 01

  That's right.

• 24:57Andy Frisella?

  You know?

• 24:58Speaker 01

  That's so real, man.

• 24:59Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, I know it is. Problem with consistency, bro.

• 25:03Speaker 01

  It's application.

• 25:04Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 25:04Speaker 01

  Yeah. And then, and then the second thing I want to hit on too, cause I like, cause I was, as I was like, like reading this question, this dude sounds like he has a good heart, right? And I think this also messes up a lot of people too, where like, okay, you're saying you show up for everybody else. You're just not showing up for yourself. Is this the time for him to like, maybe, maybe just cut that off?

• 25:22Andy Frisella?

  Well, I think you need to understand. So you gotta, this is another thing as a young person, it's easy, you gotta understand this upfront. You gotta be selfish before you could be selfless. You can't really serve other people the way that you could unless you have taken care of your own life and your own business, your own health and your own finances and all of your own. Then you can actually take care of people. But when you, when you don't have any of those things and you're trying to give, give, give, give, give, and you don't have much to give, not only do you not have much to give, but you, you lack, it takes away from the ability to grow the thing that's going to allow you to give what you want to give.

• 26:06Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 26:06Andy Frisella?

  So it's, you know, it sounds counterintuitive, but you have to be selfish, dude. You gotta take care of yourself. You gotta take care of your own shit. You gotta make sure all that shit's right. And then that equips you to do more good for more people in a more impactful way.

• 26:22Speaker 01

  Yeah, dude, absolutely.

• 26:24Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 26:24Speaker 01

  I think too, like especially for being 22, it's like prime time to fucking, if you're, if you're gonna be selfish in that sense.

• 26:30Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 26:31Speaker 01

  This is a great time to fucking do it.

• 26:32Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, dude, look, look, you got two schools of thought, you know? You've got one school of thought where like, oh, you're in your twenties, you should go. You know, fucking travel the world and be in Africa and fucking whatever, right? Cool. All right. Well, that's 10 years you lost to people that are fucking giving it. And then at 30, you're going to be like, well, fuck, I'm way behind. Well, yeah, you are behind. You, you are behind. Now, people would like to say, oh, you know, you're still young. True. But you're behind the guy who started when he was 20. Okay. And I'm going to tell you this. I started when I was 19. There's no regrets that I started when I was 19. In fact, it's probably the one thing that I'm most grateful for. I'm most grateful that I started at 19 and I'm still a fairly young man.

• 27:16Andy Frisella?

  And I'm very successful because I started so young. It gives me a totally different quality of life. When I, dude, but, but I've been, I've been living the quality of life I have. Since I was 33, 32. Yeah. Okay. So that's. Most people are getting started then. That's what I'm saying. Okay. So what's the quality of my 30s versus the quality of the 30s of the guy that started when he was 30? Big difference. Okay. And what did I really give up? I didn't really give up that much. I just worked hard in my twenties. I still fucking went out with my friends. I still fucked around. Yeah. You know, could I have went harder? Yeah. But I mean, I went hard enough to get me where I'm at. Right. You see what I'm saying? So you guys who are young, dude, you need to ignore this. That like real talk.

• 28:01Andy Frisella?

  I think some of the worst advice on the internet is, you know, just fuck your twenties away. I think your twenties are built for building. And I think when you could commit, you'll never find someone who's committed to building in their twenties, say they wish they hadn't. It just, it just doesn't. Yeah. You don't hear it. That's real. You don't hear it. Yeah. Okay. You don't hear people who like started when they're 20 years old, say, oh, man, I wish I had started at 30. Wasted my life. That's not what the fuck they say. They say the opposite. And you should pay attention to that. Cause they have perspective. They know what it's like to watch some of their friends and wait till they're 35 or 40. And by the way, if that's what you have to do, that's what you have to do. And the good news is technology makes it a lot faster than it used to be. So it's not like it was in the old days, like when I started, where you had to put in fucking 12 years to even get paid. All right.

• 28:47Andy Frisella?

  So I'm not trying to shit on people that are older. I'm not trying to moralize you. But if you have the choice and you have the option, I would start as young as possible.

• 28:58Speaker 01

  I think the other final piece on this too, I feel like another misconception with the young crowd on this specific topic is that it's almost presented as like a all or nothing. I'm glad you said that. Like you still have, you had, you had fun. You went out, you know, you had your things.

• 29:11Andy Frisella?

  But I did some wild shit.

• 29:13Speaker 01

  That's right.

• 29:13Andy Frisella?

  You know what I'm saying? Like I had a fucking great time.

• 29:16Speaker 01

  Yeah. But this is like, I feel like it's presented now as is like, it's just all or nothing. You either gotta be this fucking recluse that's fucking working 48 hours out of the 24.

• 29:25Andy Frisella?

  Fucking powerless system that I use is so perfect, dude. Okay. It's the only guaranteed system for success. All right. If you follow it the way that I designed it, you cannot fucking lose. It's impossible. It's impossible. It's literally impossible to fucking lose if you do it the way that it's lined out.

• 29:45Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 29:46Andy Frisella?

  Now, if you do it the way that you want to do it, by putting in, you know, weak ass tasks and, you know, to do lists and

• 29:52Speaker 01

  I'm gonna do 10.

• 29:53Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, uh, you're gonna lose.

• 29:55Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 29:55Andy Frisella?

  Okay. But if you do it the way it's designed, you can't lose. Okay. And the greatest part about it is that it's five critical tasks per day. And once those five critical tasks are done, you have the rest of the day to do anything you want. Anything. What do you want to do? You want to go to the park? You want to cut the grass? You want to hang out with your kids? You want to fucking smoke a bowl? I, I don't know. Whatever you want to do. Fucking, you, you got it to do.

• 30:20Speaker 01

  But you got your shit done.

• 30:21Andy Frisella?

  Yeah, your shit gets done and you get a life.

• 30:24Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 30:24Andy Frisella?

  Okay. So this idea, there's a, also dude, there is a point of diminishing returns in a single workday.

• 30:33Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 30:33Andy Frisella?

  All right. So like, once you go past five, all right, and you've get the five critical tasks and let's say, oh, I'm gonna be, I'm gonna fucking do 10 or I'm gonna do 15. You can't keep that up. Okay. And the reason that it's hurtful is because that means you're gonna learn that you're failing the days over and over. You're gonna say, oh, you know, yeah, I got seven done, but there's four that didn't get done. And that's gonna compound into that feeling of not being effective. So it's gonna take away from your confidence. It's gonna take away from your belief. So it's very important that you stick to the way that it's designed. You do the five tasks and then you get to live your life. And dude, I'm telling you as someone who's built shit with this system.

• 31:16Andy Frisella?

  It works and you don't have to work forty hours a fucking day. Yeah, right. You know, like. It's not sustainable. By the way, do you ever hear like real, real talk? I mean, there's people say that. Oh, man, I'm fucking working, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. None of the people saying that have the life to show for it. Oh, man. Where is it at? Where is it? Yeah. Where is it? Yeah, I'm working my balls off, are you? Yeah, rent a fucking, listen dude, here's the guru play.

• 31:50Andy Frisella?

  Talking head reels over someone else's shit. Get enough people to pay you to buy a fucking exotic car. Stand in front of the exotic car, talk about how much you know. And hustle it. That's the play. Yeah. And I, it's, it's beyond me that people can't look past that and understand. Like, bro, if you were that good at what you say you're good at, then why the fuck aren't you doing it? And by the way, if your coach isn't in business currently with an actual business. How do they keep up on what's actually going on in real business and not just the theory of what they think is going on? Dude, your shit changes every day. That's right. Fuck. That's right. Yeah. That's why our syndicate is such a valuable thing that Ed and I do because we're both in the fucking game.

• 32:35Andy Frisella?

  Like for real, getting the game. Still in the game, yeah. Yeah, like not, you know, oh yeah, this is what everybody's doing that's winning. Look at this brand and look at that brand and look at this guys and look at that guy. That's not what the fuck they're doing. Hey, we just tried this shit. I just tried this shit yesterday. A totally different thing. Yeah, bro. Totally different thing. It's real easy to break down everybody's shit on the internet and say they're doing shit right and wrong. Uh, except for, you know.

• 32:59Andy Frisella?

  They're winning and you're not. So. Oh, man. You get what I'm saying? Dude, that's so real. That's so real. Like you see how many fucking people breaking down brands that just kick ass? Yeah. Talking about all their marketing's bad or this is bad or. Okay.

• 33:17Andy Frisella?

  Alright. I just don't listen, man. It's predatory at this point. And you have to discern and you have to understand and you have to do due diligence. Are there people that can help you? For sure. They are, it's 2% of the people that say they can. If they're not in the game, or they haven't been in the game, the exact game that you shouldn't listen to them. Shouldn't. They don't, it's theory, it's not, it's not reality. There are lots of things that people talk about in theory that don't work in reality. But they don't know that because they don't fucking run a company. Okay, I run a whole bunch of companies. Alright, I know what the fuck's working and what's not working. That's right. Alright, like I know, no, I don't kinda know, I fucking know.

• 33:58Andy Frisella?

  You know, and like, it's funny because sometimes, you know, you get in like, you know, you'll see some of these videos that people post and I wanna like comment on them and be like, "Bro, you sound like the biggest fucking moron I've ever heard in my life." That does not work. Yes, but I can't, but I'm not gonna do that because I don't wanna be a dickhead. That's right. You know, but I think it every time. Well, that would've worked three years ago. The other thing I fucking can't get, that I get tired of is this fucking hocus pocus fucking frou frou shit. You know, like, "Oh, you gotta be in a place to receive the gifts if you're gonna..." Shut the fuck up. Okay, success is real simple. It's inputs and outputs. Did you do the fucking work and did you do it at the right level and what was the result? It's that simple. You don't have to be in a place to fucking receive it.

• 34:43Andy Frisella?

  You don't have to fucking kumbaya. You don't gotta rub together sage, stick it up your butthole. You don't have to fucking do any of that shit. You gotta do, you gotta work, you gotta execute, your execute has to be effective and it produces a result. And that's fucking it. There's nothing else to it. Okay, so get the fuck out of here with your, "Oh, gotta kumbaya." Shut the fuck up, dude. Shut up. Yeah. It's all bullshit. It makes people think they can be successful by rubbing their fucking thumbs together and humming in the corner of their fucking bedroom. I can get it. Yeah, it doesn't, dude, no. Anything to, anything to avoid doing the shit that it actually takes. It's like.

• 35:20Speaker 01

  I haven't tried the same.

• 35:21Andy Frisella?

  And then you have, and then you have these coaches like promoting this shit. And you know why they promote it? Because it's an easy sell to people. It's an easy sell to people. They know that most people aren't gonna do it. So what do they tell them? They tell them all this shit that seems real easy. Instead of the shit they need to hear, which is, bro, you suck. You gotta get good. Or you're not working hard enough. You gotta put in more time. Or both. And that's dude, it's, it's inputs and outputs. It's fucking math. It's one plus one equals motherfucking two. That's what the fuck it is. And anybody tells you any different is full of shit.

• 36:01Speaker 01

  Amen. Amen, man.

• 36:03Andy Frisella?

  Now, if you wanna do all that shit and you wanna hum in the corner and get some little symbols and fucking rub some bowls or whatever the fuck you wanna do, cool.

• 36:10Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 36:11Andy Frisella?

  It ain't gonna make you, it ain't gonna make you money.

• 36:13Speaker 01

  Now, if you get your five critical tasks done.

• 36:15Andy Frisella?

  Yeah. And then you wanna go, you wanna go rub mud all over your body and fucking sun your butthole or whatever it is the fuck you guys do. Like, do it.

• 36:23Speaker 01

  Yeah, crew.

• 36:24Andy Frisella?

  But that ain't gonna make, that ain't gonna fix your bank account, bro. It ain't gonna fix your business. Okay?

• 36:28Speaker 01

  Oh, man. I love it, dude.

• 36:30Andy Frisella?

  It's the truth.

• 36:31Speaker 01

  I love it.

• 36:32Andy Frisella?

  Bro, how much retarded shit do we hear on the internet?

• 36:34Speaker 01

  It's so, it's, that's, there's so much out there.

• 36:36Andy Frisella?

  Like, that was the thing that I can't stand when people act like, what's your fucking morning routine? What difference does it make? What difference does it make? What difference does it make? My morning routine probably wouldn't work for you. Difference does it make? All that matters is did you do your shit and did you do it well? And did you do it in a way that's undeniably better than anybody else? And did you do it long enough? And if you do those things, you're gonna fucking win.

• 36:58Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 36:58Andy Frisella?

  If you don't, you can hum in the corner and rub the bowls and put the mud all over ya and fucking sit in the ice bath with 15 other dudes and cry. You can do all this shit. And you're still gonna fucking lose. I don't know what to tell you.

• 37:10Speaker 01

  Oh, man.

• 37:11Andy Frisella?

  So.

• 37:12Speaker 01

  This is great. This is good. I like this, man. Guys. That's a hell of a Monday, man.

• 37:16Andy Frisella?

  That's right.

• 37:17Speaker 01

  That's right, dude.

• 37:19Andy Frisella?

  We know what time it is.

• 37:20Speaker 01

  We know what time it is.

• 37:21Andy Frisella?

  Yeah.

• 37:21Speaker 01

  We got CTI tonight.

• 37:22Andy Frisella?

  Listen, man, this ain't a show for bitches.

• 37:24Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 37:25Andy Frisella?

  Okay, this ain't, this is for people that want to fucking win.

• 37:27Speaker 01

  Really want to win.

• 37:28Andy Frisella?

  That really want to win.

• 37:29Speaker 01

  Yeah.

• 37:29Andy Frisella?

  I'm not going to fluff you. I'm not going to tell you all this stupid shit. I don't care what you do in the morning. I don't care what you do at night. I don't fucking care. But I'm telling you what it takes to win, and that's what it takes to win. Real talk. And that's it.

• 37:43Speaker 01

  That's it, man. I love it, dude. You got CTI tonight, man.

• 37:47Andy Frisella?

  That's right.

• 37:47Speaker 01

  7:00 PM Central.

• 37:48Andy Frisella?

  Yep.

• 37:49Speaker 01

  On the Tube and X.

• 37:50Andy Frisella?

  I'm feeling chippy.

• 37:51Speaker 01

  Yeah, hell yeah. See you guys in a minute, man. Guys, Andy, that was three.

• 37:56Andy Frisella?

  All right, guys, don't be a hoe.

• 37:57Speaker 01

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